1 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: What's shaken Emily. Here, you're listening to five Minute Friday 2 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 1: from Hurdle, the last episode in what may have seemed 3 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 1: at one point to be a never ending season nineteen. 4 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:35,560 Speaker 1: I started taking season breaks. God, I think I did 5 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: the show regularly for maybe three or four years until 6 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:41,760 Speaker 1: I finally got to a point where I was like, Okay, 7 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 1: I need to take some time every now and again. 8 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: So this season went on much longer than anticipated. A 9 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: lot of irons in the fire, a lot of things happening. 10 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: But what happens now is that Hurdle will be offline 11 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: for two weeks. I may launch a special episode in 12 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: there to be determined, but I will be launching season 13 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: twenty and some changes for the show and coming back 14 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 1: with some exciting news to say the least, on November eleventh. 15 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: So for those of you that are longtime hurdlers, maybe 16 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: you're a new hurdler either or I'm grateful that you're here. 17 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:18,120 Speaker 1: I'm excited to take you on this journey with me, 18 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:24,479 Speaker 1: and I cannot wait to share more. I am also 19 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: leading into my favorite time of the year here in 20 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 1: New York. It is New York City Marathon Week. Next week, 21 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: the New York Marathon is next Sunday, November second, and 22 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,040 Speaker 1: it is my favorite day to be a New Yorker. 23 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:40,039 Speaker 1: Everyone comes together and is so happy and the vibes 24 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: are high, and I'm praying like many of you, for 25 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:47,119 Speaker 1: good weather. And I also have many events happening throughout 26 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: the next week, So if you are local and you 27 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: wanna come hang out, make sure you're following along with 28 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: me over on Instagram where you can get all of 29 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: that information. Again, my handle just my name over at 30 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: Emily a Body and Hurdle as always is over at 31 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast for five Minute Friday this week, I want 32 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: to talk about being malleable and adaptable. I will never 33 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:14,239 Speaker 1: forget choosing a major in college and thinking to myself, genuinely, 34 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: at age seventeen, how am I supposed to know what 35 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: I want to do with the rest of my life? 36 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 1: And luckily for me, I always wanted to be a writer. 37 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 1: I got into the field of journalism quite young, working 38 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 1: at the school paper and then the college paper, and 39 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: then pursuing internships and magazines and newspapers and digital and whatnot, 40 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:37,680 Speaker 1: and it all kind of worked out for me. But 41 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: I think and know so many people right now, especially 42 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: that are similar in age to me in their thirties, 43 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 1: that are having this reckoning of sorts of maybe I 44 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: want to do something else, maybe there's more out for 45 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: me than what I started in And oftentimes that reckoning, 46 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 1: that thought process can be really scary, understandably so, But 47 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 1: you know what else is really scary doing something just 48 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:11,919 Speaker 1: because you're afraid of starting over, sticking in the same lane, 49 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: on the same path, just because you're scared of the unknown. 50 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:19,919 Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, Clarity is always a good thing, 51 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 1: even if the clarity doesn't give you what it is 52 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 1: that you want. Learning what it is that you need 53 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 1: to know so that you can then make the choices 54 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 1: you need to make to move forward is so valuable period. 55 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: And so I bring up the topic of flexibility and 56 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: being malleable today because that is an opportunity. It is 57 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: an opportunity to do things differently. It is an opportunity 58 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 1: to try new things. It is an opportunity to start 59 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: over and in that process get to know yourself better. 60 00:03:56,400 --> 00:03:58,840 Speaker 1: When I started podcasting, I mean I didn't know the 61 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: first thing about podcasts. I asked as many people as 62 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: I could a series of questions until I knew enough 63 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: to just begin. And something that's really resonating with me 64 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: here is that if you do nothing, you have nothing 65 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:18,240 Speaker 1: to work with. Yeah, so there is the paralysis that 66 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:21,599 Speaker 1: comes with starting over and starting fresh, whether that be 67 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 1: in your work or perhaps with a new relationship. And 68 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: if you start to build it, then you can adapt 69 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:31,840 Speaker 1: as you move in group. You don't get to where 70 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:36,160 Speaker 1: you want to be by avoiding taking action altogether. You 71 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 1: take action and then you do something with it. And 72 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: if you are just frozen by the idea of starting 73 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: over or beginning again, then you're not doing yourself any favors. 74 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,920 Speaker 1: I'm kind of rambling here a bit, and I think 75 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: that I often say that on five Minute Friday. But 76 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 1: this lesson this like start with what you have and 77 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:58,160 Speaker 1: do the best you can with what you have. It 78 00:04:58,240 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: is so apt, polokable to so many avenues in life. 79 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 1: I'm not just talking about starting fresh in relationships or 80 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 1: with work. I'm also talking about starting fresh with your routines, 81 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:14,839 Speaker 1: your habits, your wellness practices, your movement. Right why not you? 82 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:20,559 Speaker 1: Why not? Today? So I'm asking you, my listener prompt 83 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 1: you this week. Where are you hesitating your fresh start? 84 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:30,359 Speaker 1: Where could you be a little bit more flexible. What 85 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 1: is it that excites you right now? And would it 86 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 1: hurt you if you just began food for thought? And 87 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 1: now a listener question. Hey, Emily Stephanie from Ohio here. 88 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:45,919 Speaker 1: Have been listening to the pod since COVID lockdown and 89 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:48,799 Speaker 1: you've kept me company on many runs, walks and commutes. 90 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 1: Thank you for bringing your perspective to the masses and 91 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: keep it coming. There's always such powerful goodness in the 92 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: hurdle feed. I appreciate you. I wanted to ask a 93 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: listener question about dealing with disappointment after a big effort. 94 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 1: I'm writing you the day after my third marathon, and 95 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 1: while I'm trying to be proud of the accomplishment, all 96 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: I can seem to feel is disappointed and embarrassed in 97 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: the outcome. I set an aggressive time goal and fell 98 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:12,359 Speaker 1: short by significant a measure. In fact, this was my 99 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: worst time of all three races. I recognized there were 100 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:18,000 Speaker 1: hurdles along the way. I trained fresh off of months 101 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 1: and months of downtime and planter fasciaitis. I know, I 102 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,239 Speaker 1: know how that is. We had pouring rain and strong 103 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: wings on Rees Day and so on, but I know 104 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:26,720 Speaker 1: from my training that the goal was in reach, so 105 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:30,359 Speaker 1: that those facts feel like excuses. That brings me to 106 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 1: my question, how do you respond when you pour yourself 107 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: into an audacious goal, speak it to the world and 108 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: fall short. Thank you so much for everything you do, 109 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:41,240 Speaker 1: and hope to keep hearing more from you. Stephanie, Stephanie, Stephanie, Stephanie, 110 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:43,479 Speaker 1: I feel this in my bones. I hope that you 111 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:46,600 Speaker 1: listened to my Chicago marathon recap because I really do 112 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: think that this can bring some perspectives, specifically to what 113 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:53,839 Speaker 1: you are dealing with. I recognize and appreciate that we 114 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 1: don't work hard at something for it not to go 115 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 1: as we'd hoped, but especially when it comes to a 116 00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: goal that requires so much opportunity cost, whether we're talking 117 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: about a marathon or something else. You have to find 118 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 1: joy in the journey and return to that joy and 119 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: understand that the journey is the destination. Now that sentence 120 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 1: that understanding it is not something that you can really 121 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 1: take solace in within the immediate time period after you 122 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 1: fall short of your goal. You have to feel your feelings. 123 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: It is completely understandable that you are feeling this way 124 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 1: one hundred percent, So know that You're not alone in that. 125 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: Feel your feelings, right on those feelings and utilize that 126 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: as your motivation to figure out what's next. I've said 127 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: this before. My dad asks me this question all the time. 128 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: Whenever something doesn't go as I'd hoped, or I'm experiencing 129 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: or really big letdown, he says, what's next? And sometimes 130 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:55,240 Speaker 1: I want to like shove him to the side, and 131 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:57,559 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not ready to answer that question yet. 132 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: But I can promise you that the journey is the 133 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 1: destination and setting your next big goal after a little 134 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 1: bit of downtime, that is going to be the thing 135 00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: that helps you move on, that helps you graduate, that 136 00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: helps you appreciate all of the effort and the good 137 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: things that came from that sixteen to twenty week experience 138 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:24,360 Speaker 1: prepping for this really big day. And kudos to you. 139 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: You're recognizing that a lot of things didn't go as 140 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 1: you had hoped. The weather was hard, you came off 141 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:32,960 Speaker 1: from downtime conquering a marathon after dealing with plantro fasciitis. 142 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: Again that if you know, you know situation, it's not easy. 143 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 1: So I want to commend you for your work. I 144 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: want you to be proud of the journey, and I 145 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 1: hope that moving forward, you can continue to find that 146 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: grace with yourself as you set your next big goal. 147 00:08:48,120 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 1: I'm always here to answer your listener questions and I 148 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 1: want them, so email me them over at Hello at 149 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:56,199 Speaker 1: hurdle dot us. You can also always DM me again 150 00:08:56,559 --> 00:09:00,360 Speaker 1: over at Hurdle Podcast and at Emily a Body, Another 151 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.