WEBVTT - Call It with Stefania Spampinato 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:04.800 Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington, 0:00:05.240 --> 0:00:06.720 an iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:19.920 Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello Call It crew, and welcome to 0:00:19.960 --> 0:00:21.239 another episode. 0:00:20.880 --> 0:00:21.799 Of Call It What It Is. 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:24.759 For this one a little juiced. 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:28.440 Really juice, because why who are we sitting across from 0:00:28.640 --> 0:00:29.960 right now? 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:36.239 I love that you're like the last name. Let's not 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:43.320 say the last name? Are we saying it's a neat autumn? 0:00:43.520 --> 0:00:48.080 Normally to totally be like no, obviously, Safania, I've got it. 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:51.199 I know, but you caught me. I was like, Stefani, 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:57.200 I know it's the last This is a common last 0:00:57.240 --> 0:00:59.640 name in Italy, in the South. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:04.959 I have a funny Starbucks name spelling story. Sorry, I 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.200 was in line with Starbucks and Steven Spielberg. 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.040 How is this by the way, in the d said 0:01:13.080 --> 0:01:15.200 what please have Stefania tell her. 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:16.840 Story two stories? 0:01:18.160 --> 0:01:21.200 Doesn't like the story with Steven Spielberg. When I realized 0:01:21.240 --> 0:01:25.560 that you guys were to yes, so we were already 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:29.280 together exactly. I just like a couple of first couple 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:32.240 of episodes. I was meeting a producer there and he 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:34.760 was like, oh, come, Stefania, let's go say hi to Stephen. 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:37.440 And I was like, who's Steven. It was like literally 0:01:37.440 --> 0:01:40.040 the first words that came out of my mouth were like, Hi, 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:42.160 I always make out with your daughter. 0:01:42.480 --> 0:01:48.160 Yeah, that's what I've never heard that story. What did 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:51.120 he say? I was like, FROs and I was like 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:55.280 he was like, that is so funny. 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:56.920 And then it was like, let's do a video for 0:01:57.000 --> 0:02:01.480 her stories that I had made a short film with Steven. 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:05.680 A short film with Steven Spielberg. 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:11.440 And by the way, just for the record, I think 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:15.440 people are always surprised by this. I'm leading the witness. 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:17.480 Just how fantastic and nice is he? 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:20.240 Come on? I mean, come on. 0:02:22.639 --> 0:02:25.760 Warmer and kinder and less assuming. 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:28.880 And I've watched it my whole life obviously, but the 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:32.919 way that he, you know, is in the world and 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:36.160 and just treats the people around him, and it's just 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:38.160 he's he's pretty special. 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:42.280 Even after the third time the guy asked to spell 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:45.320 to tell him his name, he was like, fully like 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:46.639 zero ego and face. 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:53.120 Well, as long as we're on the story of Starbucks 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:55.160 and Steven Spielberg, He's there a lot. 0:02:55.560 --> 0:03:00.720 I'm just saying, there is a morning thing. Yeah, it's 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:01.240 a morning thing. 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:04.680 There was a tipping point where obviously our entire lives. 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:06.960 If people came up to talk to us when many 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:09.000 of us were out, they were clearly going to talk 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:10.919 to him, right, And then there was this tipping point 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:14.120 where all of a sudden, it was like, everyone's to. 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:14.040 Talk to me. 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:17.560 So I don't know, it's maybe a couple of months ago, 0:03:17.600 --> 0:03:21.000 and we're in New York City and we actually were 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:23.440 not We hadn't even we weren't going to start works together. 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:24.400 I had gone somewhere else. 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:28.600 He was at the Starbucks and I came in and 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:30.960 he didn't know that I was there, and then I. 0:03:30.919 --> 0:03:33.240 Run into him, which I love running into your family. 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:36.920 So I was like, oh Jesus. So we're hanging in. 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:42.160 And this woman comes over and then she joins in. 0:03:42.040 --> 0:03:44.800 The and he's like, oh gosh, what's happening. 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:47.720 She was like just like a really big fan, and 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:49.400 he got just sort of just stand there and be 0:03:49.520 --> 0:03:51.160 like just a guy. 0:03:51.800 --> 0:03:52.360 He didn't get. 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:57.760 Even look at him. 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:01.960 Listens exactly. 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:03.800 What can I say, come on. 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:06.520 Okay, I'm so happy that you're here. 0:04:07.080 --> 0:04:10.040 And I feel like we just could could start off 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:11.000 with the fact that. 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:14.520 I mean, it. 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.200 Seems like a long time ago, but it wasn't that 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:18.160 long ago. 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:21.880 When when we last Seffania came into our lives. 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:24.760 Well, what's funny is that we did a rewatch up, 0:04:24.800 --> 0:04:27.480 but we did our first rewatch of Grey's Anatomy and 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.960 you you guys, it's a weird cookie episode, you guys. 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:35.000 So we just talked about her first impression of you, 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:37.240 because I was like, if you have a love interest 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:39.800 and Stefania walks in, you're. 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:46.159 Like, yeah, you're like when you're like when, So, how 0:04:46.200 --> 0:04:46.760 long ago. 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:47.840 Was it that you start on Grace. 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:52.320 I think it was seven years eight years ago, eight 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:55.440 years ago, and I was like, that's that long it was. 0:04:57.080 --> 0:04:59.479 It's like this weird time where that people don't understand 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:01.760 it just goes so fast. 0:05:02.640 --> 0:05:03.760 Yeah, okay, So. 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:05.839 This is what we were saying, was that when okay, 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:08.920 so eight years ago, I had just had Josie. Because 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:12.680 so we were saying that we started a new season 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:16.799 and Christa came and said, you know, the love interest 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:18.400 from last season is not coming back. 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:19.680 You're going to have a new love interest. 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:21.279 We're going to figure it out. I don't know what 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:23.880 it's gonna be, we're gonna figure it out. And in 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:28.080 the meantime, it had been positioned. Stefani was going to 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:32.719 be a tweeny like and in between me, like you know, 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:36.000 passion relationship whatever, and I was like okay, great, So 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:39.720 we didn't really get to have like a chemistry read 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:41.440 like hey. 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:43.320 Where do you like where do you see like what 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:44.680 do you both like? 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:46.120 What are your hidden talents? 0:05:46.120 --> 0:05:46.200 Like? 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:47.200 How do you see this going? 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:47.320 Like? 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:49.679 We got nothing? We were like thrown into the deep end. Yeah, 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:52.640 and yeah I just had a baby. We had this 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:55.279 like makeout scene because my character was like going back 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:55.960 and that was the. 0:05:55.920 --> 0:05:58.200 Best makeout that this is where de Luca walks in 0:05:58.279 --> 0:05:58.400 on you. 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:02.280 Yes, this was pre intimacy coordinator. 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:02.760 Yeah. 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:08.080 Yeah, and Stefani was saying brand new first like puppy energy. 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:11.239 I was like, yes, sure, jump from the window. 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.839 I though it, yeah, like you're off and she was. 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:17.440 Puppy energy and I was postpartim entergy and I was like, 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:20.000 you know, you have your wordroom meeting where they're like okay, 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:21.520 so you know what do you what do you want 0:06:21.560 --> 0:06:23.159 to wear? And then what do you want to take off? 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:25.800 Because all those scenes are so much better. Clothing comes off, 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:28.280 you know, around and they're like what do you want 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:28.640 to take off? 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:33.160 On my nothing or you make it so there's twenty layers, 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:34.440 so you're like, you just can't. 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:37.680 Yes, the episode of. 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:42.400 Joey and Friends when he's in all the clothes, you'll 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:43.400 never get to skin. 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:48.640 I never landed on a boost a type thing, yeah, 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:49.640 which was so cute. 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:51.280 Oh, I don't think I ever saw that stuff. I 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:52.520 was just way too hard on myself. 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:55.360 Guys, it's like, and I've seen that, yeah, yeah. 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:58.000 And then so then, but you were fantastic and you 0:06:58.120 --> 0:06:59.960 honestly you were saying you had puppy energy. 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:01.560 I mean, I've been. 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:03.840 There for a whole lot longer, and I was a 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:06.440 whole lot less comfortable, Like I just was like, what. 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:06.640 What are we doing? 0:07:06.680 --> 0:07:08.440 Okay crag And she was so fantastic. 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:09.720 Was that the first thing you show? 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:11.960 Yeah, and with Willen directing, so. 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:15.560 Shitting myself, I was like, oh my god, she's. 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:18.280 Like but the thing they gave me make me like 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:21.160 grounded is that we're speaking Italian. So I was like, 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:24.720 she doesn't know, nobody knows. I'm fine. 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:27.280 And then that was most saf because I was in 0:07:27.320 --> 0:07:28.800 between you and I was looking at him, and then 0:07:28.840 --> 0:07:30.160 I was looking at you, and I was like, yeah, 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:31.120 that was really exactly. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.600 I also come from the dance world, and in Italy, 0:07:33.640 --> 0:07:35.880 when you dance, you're half like in a bikini all 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:37.800 the time, so it was very comfortable. 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:41.920 Only in Italy you dance in biginnis pretty much pretty much. 0:07:42.000 --> 0:07:44.560 I have a funny story actually, so my dancing career 0:07:44.600 --> 0:07:47.720 started in Italy and we literally go to auditions with 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:51.040 bikinis and high heels, and then I moved to London. 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:53.920 I mean, I go to London for a week to 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:55.880 check it out and see if I can work there. 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:58.760 And I literally show up at the audition room wearing 0:07:58.880 --> 0:08:00.680 the same thing that I will wear at an audition 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:04.040 in Italy, but everybody else was like super hip hop. 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:12.240 I looked like a stripper, like everybody was like down. 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:16.480 The Halliday were like yes, you were like oh maybe no, no, but. 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:20.440 I did it. I actually booked a job because stood 0:08:20.480 --> 0:08:21.440 out like a sore thumb. 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:23.800 I was like, yeah, that was great, Yeah. 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:25.920 Oh my god, that's so you felt that was honestly 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:27.960 your first scene that you shot. I don't think I 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:30.720 knew that. That's amazing. What did you think of, Jessica, 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:31.760 What was first impression? 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:35.960 I loved everybody. I felt like I was super nervous. 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:39.720 I and everybody was so welcoming and warm. Everybody came 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:43.200 like like came to introduce themselves, and she was super 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:45.560 sweet and like we were reading next to each other, 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:46.200 and I was like. 0:08:46.559 --> 0:08:49.320 I feel like it was excited, but I. 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:52.200 Had read so many horror stories about me people getting 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:57.960 specifically her. I really put one out there dress no 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:01.199 people getting fired after table reads. So at the table 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:03.440 reader was actually very very nervous because I was like, 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:05.439 oh my god, if they don't like me, this is 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:08.920 not going to happen. So I was like, again, yeah, I've. 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:10.840 Had it happen in a sitcom where I was how 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:13.800 it happens more in sitcoms, I guess people to. 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:17.199 Be fun and you got yeah. 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.559 But I was definitely super intimidated. I mean, I also 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:24.880 my best friend. My best friend's favorite show was Crazy Anatomy, 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:27.760 and she's in a gay relationship. They have just adopt 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:29.960 the two kids by the way, and and like Calli 0:09:30.080 --> 0:09:33.800 and Arizona were like their favor So I. 0:09:33.800 --> 0:09:37.080 Was like, so now you're coming in to pressure. Oh wow. 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.400 Yeah, And so I was like, oh my god, oh 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:42.760 my gosh, so crazy. Yeah. 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:45.880 I just think that there there is this pressure to 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:48.520 be exactly as you were before you had a baby 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:51.080 and just come back and hit the ground running and 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:53.760 just like that. There's only like a physical act of 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.680 having a baby or delivering a baby, but right if 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:58.720 you have a baby, there's so many other things going 0:09:58.760 --> 0:10:01.880 on and you're in your brain and your mind and 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:03.880 your function and your sense of self and. 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:07.400 Your security and everything is kind of like wild. So 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:08.600 you got that part of me. 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:12.320 I mean, I apologies didn't feel that. But a party 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:15.920 takes a woman's body two years to fully recover from 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:16.560 a delivery. 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:17.240 I believe that. 0:10:17.440 --> 0:10:17.520 What. 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:20.680 Yeah, I love the I'm ob on the show and 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:25.000 I'm like, I'm sorry, why there it is two years. 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:26.160 Years to fully recover. 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:28.400 Yeah, that's crazy. 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:32.040 Well you came on honestly everybody. I remember everybody loving you. 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:35.000 You were just so kind and so fun and you 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:38.800 always brought energy. I remember you telling me a story. 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:40.400 I remember because I also that was the other thing 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:41.880 I was going to say, is that that was my 0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:44.920 fourth baby. And I do remember being super preoccupied, Like 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:46.520 I remember being like I was at work and then 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:48.520 I was like as soon as I was out of work, 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:48.800 I was. 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:50.319 In the car and like speeding home. 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:53.880 So I was definitely in that part of my life, 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:57.880 the vulnerability and like just the because, like you said. 0:10:57.720 --> 0:11:00.280 When you you came with such excitement. 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:02.880 But then when you when you get to work together 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.240 for a while and you have this time sat at 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:07.680 the chairs or whatever, you actually do get to know people, 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:09.360 and then all of a sudden you do hear these 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:11.679 you hear these stories and you get a different sense 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:14.440 of them and it's not all just you know, one thing, 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:19.360 like we're all going through something or have been through 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:21.120 something and how we deal with it and sharing that 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:23.679 is actually I do think very much contributes to our 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:25.240 chemistry together on shows. 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:28.120 Yeah, it's funny because when we were watched during the 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.240 rewatch back, you guys have a couple of scenes together 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:32.720 and I was like, damn your chemistry, Like if you 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:37.199 had stayed on our show, like this could have worked. 0:11:37.559 --> 0:11:39.440 Yeah, why was it that? 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:43.080 Do you remember? Creatively? Why why that did not end 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:46.400 up happening? What was the conversation of you going from 0:11:46.440 --> 0:11:47.240 one show to the other. 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:49.360 Oh, there was no conversation at first. That was just 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:53.480 like no, it was like going from episode to episode 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:56.720 to episode and again because it was so new, I 0:11:56.800 --> 0:12:00.679 was like any every epis it was like yeah, yes. 0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:05.200 And it wasn't until season three, my third season, so 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:09.840 season sixteen of Grade that I started going to station 0:12:10.160 --> 0:12:13.040 and then it was like kind of a random pitch 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:15.960 from Christa and then at the table read, the chemistry 0:12:15.960 --> 0:12:20.000 between THEO and I was so good that they were like, yeah, okay, 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:21.000 let's keep it going. 0:12:21.120 --> 0:12:26.439 Yes, okay, let's talk about the chemistry. Yes, you felt 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:28.160 that instantly even at the table read. 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:31.640 Yes, wow, yeah, wow? 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:36.319 Is there okay? So your characters, because it's just sometimes 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:39.080 this happens on shows, and it happened on Station nineteen 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:42.800 where you have all that, you have an ensemble cast, 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:44.640 and you have all these different couples and then just 0:12:44.800 --> 0:12:50.080 one couple ends up just being explosive, like the fans 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:54.880 just blow up. Oh and that happened for you guys, 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.640 It did for sure. Did you know that the fan 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:02.600 reaction to you guys? Did you feel that very early 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:06.319 on or did it take time? I felt like. 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:11.520 That's a good question. I feel like we felt that 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:14.559 it was easy, but it was effortless. It was easy. 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:17.600 It wasn't like, let's make this work, let's make this special. 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:19.560 It was just like it was easy to show up 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:21.480 and yeah, but I feel like it was a similar 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:24.439 thing between Arizona and Karina, Like I was supposed to 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:26.120 be there for two episodes and then it was just 0:13:26.200 --> 0:13:30.960 easy and worked and from two episodes, and like it 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:33.480 was supposed to be like a quick love, like yes, 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:37.080 the passionate thing, it just ended up becoming more like 0:13:37.600 --> 0:13:38.640 a love story. Yeah. 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:42.520 Did the fandom embrace this station intin relationship instantly? 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:43.200 Yeah? 0:13:43.920 --> 0:13:49.079 Yeah, because I think also the way the Karina in 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:53.439 Arizona broke up was very like definite. She went to 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:55.120 Cali and nobody was mad at that. 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:56.640 They were like sure like. 0:13:56.760 --> 0:14:01.080 Arizona when I left on season fourteen. Yeah, yeah, I'm 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:06.040 imagining or I'm making up that Meg Meg bringing Arizona. 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:08.640 She had to like come up with whether or not 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:12.680 she was going to address where Arizona was and she 0:14:12.840 --> 0:14:13.559 was CALLI. 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:16.360 Or wasn't And so we didn't. They didn't, they did. 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:16.960 They left it. 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:19.240 So I you know, there was like a little bit 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:23.720 of a moment at the at your wedding that was 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:26.560 it teased it. 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:26.400 But it never said it. 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:29.320 Yeah, Okay, I think it's smart to leave that money. Yeah, 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:32.720 because I feel like it's potential for story. Yeah, yeah, 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.240 you're not locking yourself into anything in one episode that 0:14:35.240 --> 0:14:35.760 you're back for. 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:37.800 Yeah, that's true. I think Arizona. 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:40.480 I mean I feel like what we probably needed that 0:14:40.520 --> 0:14:43.920 would have like sealed deal sealed the deal is if 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:47.320 we'd had some kind of obstacle. We needed an obstacle. 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:50.160 We didn't get like a fule like you can't be 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:53.200 together because right something. 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:56.040 Yeah, and so then because then if we could have 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:58.720 overcome it, then people would have championed it. 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:02.960 Okay, So then was there any storyline that you guys 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:06.960 had on the show that you were not into that 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:09.080 you kind of have wished had played a different way. 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:13.360 I mean, everybody knows that, the zion Art fans know that. 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:14.720 But I feel like at the end, I was a 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:19.520 little sick of talking about IVF. I was like, yeah, 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:22.480 I was like, okay, well, she's almost being pregnant for 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:25.360 three years for three seasons. But because I feel like 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:29.600 we were tied to Gray's anatomy and the interns thing 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:33.120 was that it three seasons was one year, So three 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:36.360 seasons of trying one year of trying to be pregnant 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:41.640 became a little bit like yeah, yeah, but that's the 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:44.680 only thing. And also I love that storyline. When we 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:46.120 first started, it's just that we. 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:52.760 Because we screwed up the grace. Yeah did, Yeah, we did. 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:56.880 It's true. Is there a storyline that or a moment 0:15:58.000 --> 0:15:59.040 that was your favorite moment? 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:05.400 There was like a couple. There was one episode that 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:08.040 was a stand alone and we all shot it in 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.560 the apartment with Peter Page. It was the first episode 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:13.320 Peter Page directed, and it was so much fun because 0:16:13.320 --> 0:16:15.840 he felt like a play. We had like ten pages 0:16:15.880 --> 0:16:18.960 of intense dialog. We shot it all as a one, 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:22.040 like one scene, and so there was as an actor 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:22.560 was so. 0:16:22.840 --> 0:16:23.880 That's really fun. 0:16:24.080 --> 0:16:27.680 Yeah, we got to meet Peter we did. Yeah, and 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:31.520 he was so fantastic. Yeah, he's so God's so smart. 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:33.680 Yes, yeah, man. 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:34.720 He's super passionate. 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:37.280 Love that show too, You can love the show. He 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:37.920 love the characters. 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:38.640 He really cared. 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:54.120 Yeah, Hey, does anyone care if we talk about sex? 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:57.600 Because why because it's it's it's a love Okay, it's 0:16:57.680 --> 0:17:00.800 love month. It's Valentine's Day month. And we teased you 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:04.920 out to the to the the whole fandom of the universe, 0:17:05.280 --> 0:17:08.240 the Raised Sage nineteen universe. They went crazy. The fact 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:09.720 that we said we're going to talk about. 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:10.000 Sex with her. 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:13.600 We made them even crazier, made them, yeah, out of 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:16.480 their minds, let's do it. And this started from a 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:19.560 conver It's not just out of nowhere. This started from 0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:21.560 a conversation. We saw Stefania. 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:25.840 When was it that Chicago. We're just sit around talking 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:28.440 about sex either. Yeah, you want to know what we do? 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:32.720 Yeah, we were at convention and we're talking about Well, 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:34.800 we got to go to dinner together and then we 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:37.040 got to see each other at the convention. And what 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:38.840 happens it is when we haven't seen each other for 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:41.600 a while, there's a download, right, there's like, what is 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:41.920 going on? 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:42.600 Are you? 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:46.560 What's how the kids? And that's what happened, and we 0:17:46.600 --> 0:17:49.400 got on the subject of sex. We got we talked 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:50.960 about sex, and so we're going to get into it. 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:54.399 But first I found it very interesting and I wanted 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:59.240 to start with this. Gen Z is not having. 0:17:59.280 --> 0:18:03.000 Or gen Z gen Z is between thirteen and twenty. 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:06.960 Eight years old. They're having less sex and previous generations. 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:11.200 Many people tightened their social circles when the pandemic. Search 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:13.439 In general, people coming of age in an era of 0:18:13.480 --> 0:18:16.080 dating apps say the notion of starting a relationship with 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:21.000 someone they meet in person seems like a piece of nostalgia. 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:26.680 That's sad, funny sad though, like a piece of nostalgia, 0:18:26.800 --> 0:18:29.840 like a relic from the oldie days, like a relationship. 0:18:30.960 --> 0:18:32.320 What are you talking about? 0:18:32.960 --> 0:18:33.320 That's it? 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:36.800 No more relationships people than do that because it's nostalgic. 0:18:37.520 --> 0:18:39.560 By the way, I've told this story before, I did 0:18:39.600 --> 0:18:41.639 talk to someone who's probably in the twenty eight year 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:43.359 old category and they were like, oh my gosh, I 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:45.720 would never talk to someone in real life. I'd never 0:18:45.720 --> 0:18:47.320 say hi to someone I thought was cute at a bar, 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:47.800 and I was. 0:18:47.720 --> 0:18:50.399 Like, wow, there's no meat cutes out in the world. 0:18:50.520 --> 0:18:52.360 They call to meet you, right, like when you're out 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:55.720 a meet cutes. When you meet someone in the real 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:59.880 world and you have that like sitcoming like cute, you're 0:18:59.880 --> 0:19:02.800 like you had that, like hey often, so the meet 0:19:02.840 --> 0:19:03.840 c isn't happening. 0:19:04.160 --> 0:19:06.200 I've never had that before. By the way, in my life, 0:19:06.240 --> 0:19:09.159 nobody I'm talking to me at a bar never. But 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:11.560 I also am a weird like when I see somebody 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:12.920 you never. 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:16.719 Sat at a bar and someone's like a bar if 0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:19.080 no one's ever connected. While happened. 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:20.920 So he sat at bars and no one's come. 0:19:20.960 --> 0:19:23.879 No one, No one has come, never to me with friends, 0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:26.760 with friends or alone. No, I've never gone alone with friends. 0:19:26.800 --> 0:19:30.560 But like male, I doesn't have to term people. 0:19:32.400 --> 0:19:34.280 But this is one thing that I have to disclose 0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:38.880 by myself. Like if I like somebody, I'm like, where 0:19:38.880 --> 0:19:39.400 do I hide? 0:19:39.640 --> 0:19:39.800 Oh? 0:19:41.240 --> 0:19:45.600 I don't make eye contact. That don't provoke the like. 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:51.000 Little nudge nudge, way I die. 0:19:49.880 --> 0:19:51.800 Is very I was just talking with the iconac is 0:19:51.920 --> 0:19:52.840 very important. 0:19:53.600 --> 0:19:56.359 Right, you have to like the first step in the 0:19:57.119 --> 0:19:58.600 how much in that nostalgia? 0:19:59.480 --> 0:20:01.760 How many don't I can't? Right? Right? Right? 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:03.040 When does he get creepy? 0:20:03.359 --> 0:20:04.560 Like? When is it? Okay? 0:20:04.760 --> 0:20:04.840 Like? 0:20:04.920 --> 0:20:05.760 How many seconds? Oh? 0:20:05.800 --> 0:20:09.560 I think I'm talking to my friend her and I'm like. 0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:14.240 Oh my gosh, she's so cute. Oh no, it could 0:20:14.280 --> 0:20:17.600 have been two seconds last. 0:20:16.520 --> 0:20:24.000 But five seconds worked because. 0:20:26.000 --> 0:20:27.480 I guess what can I say? 0:20:27.680 --> 0:20:28.960 I've got moves. 0:20:28.920 --> 0:20:35.760 Why I'm gonna try to Okay, Okay, So we're talking 0:20:35.960 --> 0:20:39.800 at the bar again. Yeah, I like you, my. 0:20:39.840 --> 0:20:48.199 Friend I was in I was ready to leave that. 0:20:49.760 --> 0:20:52.440 I was you nicer. Guess. 0:20:55.720 --> 0:20:57.800 Yeah, I'm just saying, maybe the reason why these people 0:20:57.800 --> 0:20:59.760 are not having sex is they're not from my generation. 0:20:59.800 --> 0:21:03.239 We're I Banging was the first step of foreplay, and 0:21:03.400 --> 0:21:05.480 for play is a very important. 0:21:05.000 --> 0:21:05.959 Part of sex. 0:21:06.080 --> 0:21:06.960 That's a point. 0:21:07.160 --> 0:21:09.199 And I think that what's happening is that there's so 0:21:09.280 --> 0:21:10.719 much digital. 0:21:12.720 --> 0:21:13.160 Diddling. 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:18.120 That's like there's no real foreplay. There's no there's no look, 0:21:18.200 --> 0:21:22.520 there's no brush by, there's no like skin Grays made 0:21:22.560 --> 0:21:25.440 an entire meal and they got me every time when 0:21:25.480 --> 0:21:28.600 they'd have Meredith and Derek and then elevator together, and. 0:21:33.080 --> 0:21:34.200 They don't have that anymore. 0:21:34.240 --> 0:21:36.040 So, yes, it starts with the eyes. 0:21:36.920 --> 0:21:38.080 You get on in there. 0:21:38.520 --> 0:21:41.399 And then and then you brush by, and then you and. 0:21:41.400 --> 0:21:42.400 Then there's the foreplay. 0:21:42.440 --> 0:21:45.440 And I think for play is probably happening less and 0:21:46.320 --> 0:21:48.600 so people are missing out on the banging, the real banging. 0:21:51.200 --> 0:21:52.800 I think there is definitely true. I think there is 0:21:52.960 --> 0:21:58.000 multiple reasons today they feel less pressure to have a relationship, 0:21:58.119 --> 0:22:01.160 Like they're more focused on their career, they're more ambitious, 0:22:01.200 --> 0:22:04.000 that they just give less attention to having a relationship 0:22:04.040 --> 0:22:04.800 with boys or. 0:22:04.760 --> 0:22:09.120 Girls or yeah, or making a family right exactly exactly exactly. 0:22:08.800 --> 0:22:11.560 But then you always hear what what ends up happening, 0:22:11.600 --> 0:22:13.840 which is that they bump up against the thing that's 0:22:13.880 --> 0:22:18.280 harder to control, which is like the timeline of you know. 0:22:20.200 --> 0:22:23.640 Liability, right if they want to you know what. 0:22:23.720 --> 0:22:25.679 I think that we used to think that like it 0:22:25.720 --> 0:22:27.320 had to be done in twenties, early thirties. 0:22:27.359 --> 0:22:28.840 It's not true, not anymore. Yeah. 0:22:29.040 --> 0:22:32.520 No, but well no, but sometimes if you that's a 0:22:32.560 --> 0:22:35.200 privilege on some level because you might need medical and 0:22:36.080 --> 0:22:36.919 that's expensive. 0:22:37.280 --> 0:22:40.840 So I think the generation is willing to take the risk. Yeah, 0:22:40.880 --> 0:22:42.840 I think that, you know, and they're willing to be like, 0:22:42.920 --> 0:22:45.000 you know what, it's still not right right now, and 0:22:45.119 --> 0:22:48.000 whatever happens will happen. Yeah, and they're not feeling that 0:22:48.080 --> 0:22:50.640 pressure just to get it done so that they can. 0:22:50.960 --> 0:22:53.160 Yeah, it's very specific. 0:22:53.240 --> 0:22:57.520 So this this generation thing, you know, I mean, yeah, 0:22:57.520 --> 0:22:59.560 they did go through COVID and everything else, but I 0:22:59.560 --> 0:23:00.280 don't know. 0:23:00.560 --> 0:23:03.800 I mean, I have two nieces. They're like twenty nineteen 0:23:03.800 --> 0:23:05.760 and twenty three. And I was talking to one of 0:23:05.800 --> 0:23:07.840 them and she was like I met somebody, and I 0:23:07.880 --> 0:23:10.320 was like, okay, and then what now? And she was like, well, 0:23:10.560 --> 0:23:12.840 I'm gonna see them for a few weeks to see 0:23:12.840 --> 0:23:15.440 if I even like them as a person. And then 0:23:15.520 --> 0:23:17.520 I'll take it from there. And I was like, I'm sorry, Yes. 0:23:18.640 --> 0:23:23.720 They're gonna get banged. They banging party there st. 0:23:24.800 --> 0:23:26.680 I was like, wow, this is so machure, so so 0:23:27.640 --> 0:23:30.200 and I was like, I am a disaster. I got 0:23:30.240 --> 0:23:34.000 into like a bomb. But then there's fires and ashes 0:23:34.080 --> 0:23:38.679 and you're like, no waits as a person. Yeah. 0:23:39.200 --> 0:23:42.560 I text my nieces for gen z yeah, and I said, 0:23:42.720 --> 0:23:45.080 why do you think you guys are having less sex 0:23:45.720 --> 0:23:48.399 and as a generation with you? And they were like, 0:23:48.720 --> 0:23:50.320 no one we know goes out. 0:23:50.640 --> 0:23:54.560 Wow, that's no good, Like we don't go out anymore, right. 0:23:54.560 --> 0:23:57.080 Phone, And so I think it's the same. I think 0:23:57.119 --> 0:24:00.600 even just like socially, there's not you know, everyone's sort 0:24:00.600 --> 0:24:03.159 of content because they have social access on their phones, right, 0:24:03.200 --> 0:24:06.720 so they're feeling like they're being social. We would sit 0:24:06.800 --> 0:24:08.959 and be like, we haven't talked to anybody. We got 0:24:09.000 --> 0:24:10.520 to go get out. We would get bored. 0:24:10.880 --> 0:24:13.359 There is it's so important to get bored because then 0:24:13.359 --> 0:24:15.879 you come up with things to do and say and 0:24:16.119 --> 0:24:18.240 to I get out of the border and I feel 0:24:18.240 --> 0:24:19.440 like they don't get bored anymore. 0:24:19.680 --> 0:24:20.760 Did you grow. 0:24:20.640 --> 0:24:22.640 Up feeling comfortable talking about sex? 0:24:22.680 --> 0:24:22.840 Oh? 0:24:22.880 --> 0:24:23.280 Not at all. 0:24:23.480 --> 0:24:26.960 I mean it's like massive taboo. Yeah you too, Oh. 0:24:26.840 --> 0:24:31.480 God, I have said, I don't think I put all 0:24:31.480 --> 0:24:34.280 the letters that are in masturbation together to form masturbation. 0:24:34.400 --> 0:24:38.239 Until I was in my thirties, it just was not. 0:24:38.960 --> 0:24:40.639 It was There were so many reasons. 0:24:40.359 --> 0:24:43.679 Why I was just no what dance for me was 0:24:43.720 --> 0:24:46.639 my outlet or my sensuality because I felt like I 0:24:46.680 --> 0:24:47.880 was on stage, I was playing a. 0:24:47.880 --> 0:24:49.320 Character so could be very centraal. 0:24:49.440 --> 0:24:51.680 So I loved it because I could express a part 0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:54.240 of me that I wasn't really allowed to express at 0:24:54.240 --> 0:24:56.720 home obviously or like amongst. 0:24:56.280 --> 0:25:00.840 People there, and also respected for it exactly and seen 0:25:00.920 --> 0:25:02.920 as doing something wonderful exactly. 0:25:03.080 --> 0:25:05.120 How do your family feel that you're on a show 0:25:05.160 --> 0:25:08.280 that talks about also your O B. Yeah, we're talking 0:25:08.280 --> 0:25:11.520 about sex, toys and like all of it. 0:25:12.240 --> 0:25:14.520 I don't think I've had a lot of conversations with 0:25:14.560 --> 0:25:20.119 them about I feel like I have an older aunt 0:25:20.160 --> 0:25:21.840 that is very conservative. She was like, would you know 0:25:21.880 --> 0:25:23.840 I have picked a different role? I was like, if 0:25:23.840 --> 0:25:28.760 you only knew how hard was to get this one. 0:25:29.880 --> 0:25:31.600 When you arrive in Los Angeles. 0:25:32.240 --> 0:25:34.800 But I was like, that's Funny's just so lets you 0:25:34.840 --> 0:25:37.280 know how a little perspective they have, and I was like, 0:25:37.680 --> 0:25:39.879 you know, you were all the products around, not bringing 0:25:40.040 --> 0:25:43.240 She was also brought up in a Catholic environment, very conservative, 0:25:43.800 --> 0:25:46.840 but I was like liberation. It felt so good to 0:25:46.960 --> 0:25:47.919 just talk about. 0:25:47.640 --> 0:25:48.120 All of that. 0:25:48.440 --> 0:25:51.840 Yeah, but for me it was a late awakening as well. 0:25:51.880 --> 0:25:54.240 Like I got my first vibrator five years ago, and 0:25:54.280 --> 0:25:56.520 I was like, what. 0:25:55.640 --> 0:25:56.080 Was I. 0:25:57.800 --> 0:25:59.040 Vibrator five years ago? 0:25:59.080 --> 0:25:59.720 Seven years ago? 0:25:59.800 --> 0:26:00.840 Yes, seven years ago? 0:26:01.320 --> 0:26:01.680 Years ago? 0:26:02.080 --> 0:26:03.800 Can we ask which one? Because we had a whole 0:26:03.840 --> 0:26:06.360 sex toy episode, you know, Yeah, I. 0:26:06.440 --> 0:26:08.800 Tried a few, and I feel like I've settled on 0:26:08.880 --> 0:26:10.760 the little what is it. 0:26:11.040 --> 0:26:13.600 The little curve. That's when we got lifted right, the 0:26:13.640 --> 0:26:14.600 little kurvy curve. 0:26:15.320 --> 0:26:16.320 I don't remember the curvy curve. 0:26:16.400 --> 0:26:17.359 The curvy curve is good. 0:26:18.440 --> 0:26:20.520 We really reach all the story that Pop had a 0:26:20.560 --> 0:26:23.160 really funny story about Jessica going and buying her very 0:26:23.160 --> 0:26:24.640 first vibrator because she was. 0:26:24.800 --> 0:26:27.600 It wasn't my first, wasn't one of them. 0:26:27.400 --> 0:26:32.359 One of many collection, And she pretended in the store 0:26:32.400 --> 0:26:35.840 that it was like a gift to somebody else, like gift, 0:26:36.080 --> 0:26:39.000 but when you went in to buy your first vibrator 0:26:39.359 --> 0:26:40.440 seven years ago. 0:26:40.440 --> 0:26:42.920 Oh oh, no, no, no, I couldn't. 0:26:42.720 --> 0:26:44.320 Or did you were like a sampling? 0:26:44.600 --> 0:26:47.000 I did, and then I figured out and returned then 0:26:47.080 --> 0:26:54.160 because obviously, again vibrators, I don't know a lot too many. 0:26:54.320 --> 0:26:57.000 I love that. I love that you did that for yourself, though. 0:26:57.040 --> 0:26:58.080 Are you seeing someone now? 0:26:58.480 --> 0:26:58.600 No? 0:26:59.600 --> 0:27:18.600 You are single? Oh my god. Okay, so we talked 0:27:18.600 --> 0:27:21.680 about sex in Chicago, Yes, we did. And you had 0:27:21.880 --> 0:27:25.080 read a book or many books about sex. 0:27:25.040 --> 0:27:29.200 Several seven. Yeah, and I my sex revolution era? 0:27:29.359 --> 0:27:35.159 Right about the sex revolution? Okay, yeah, what started the 0:27:35.200 --> 0:27:36.160 sex revolution era? 0:27:37.080 --> 0:27:40.600 I feel like there was so much I didn't know, 0:27:40.720 --> 0:27:42.960 and I was like, I'm having a like a great 0:27:43.000 --> 0:27:46.440 time having sex on my own, like being sexual on 0:27:46.480 --> 0:27:48.919 my own, and when there is a partner involved, it's 0:27:48.960 --> 0:27:51.280 always so hard. There's like so much people pleasing you 0:27:51.320 --> 0:27:53.720 don't want. I feel like we don't get told how 0:27:53.760 --> 0:27:56.840 to communicate our needs. We don't get we don't get 0:27:57.040 --> 0:28:01.560 taught how to prioritize ourselves and our measure. It always like, 0:28:02.320 --> 0:28:04.679 you know, it's always like the other person and you're like, 0:28:04.720 --> 0:28:06.800 I want to make sure that they're comfortable. I'm I'm 0:28:06.800 --> 0:28:09.680 sure that they orgasm, and you want to sure and 0:28:09.720 --> 0:28:12.800 in doing that, I feel like we I was fully 0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:16.280 neglecting myself and I was like, hang on a second, 0:28:16.720 --> 0:28:19.280 let me read more about it. And it's also there's 0:28:19.359 --> 0:28:21.800 like I think porn messed us up because it is 0:28:21.840 --> 0:28:26.280 like this perception that sex is vaginal intercourse when eighty 0:28:26.280 --> 0:28:30.440 percent of women statistics again, do not reach orgasm through 0:28:30.520 --> 0:28:34.679 vaginal intercourse alone. They need Every time I say this, 0:28:34.760 --> 0:28:36.560 I think about careinga because she said it in one 0:28:36.600 --> 0:28:37.200 of the first. 0:28:37.240 --> 0:28:39.240 Yes, a perfect little bundle. 0:28:39.000 --> 0:28:42.480 On the outside outside simulation. 0:28:42.640 --> 0:28:42.840 Yeah. 0:28:42.880 --> 0:28:45.800 So I was like, there's a beautiful book called Come 0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:46.280 as You Are. 0:28:46.600 --> 0:28:48.320 Yes, Okay, it's like people read it. 0:28:48.400 --> 0:28:51.000 I'm not I have it. I might even have as 0:28:51.000 --> 0:28:52.200 an audiobook, but. 0:28:52.160 --> 0:28:55.560 I've heard of it and people reade about it. 0:28:55.680 --> 0:28:57.280 Tell me, I don't know what that is. 0:28:57.760 --> 0:29:01.240 We're all different, and I feel like raising our differences 0:29:01.400 --> 0:29:04.280 is such an important part of our own sexuality and 0:29:04.320 --> 0:29:06.000 figuring out what is it that we like, what is 0:29:06.040 --> 0:29:08.080 it that we don't like, and learning how to communicate 0:29:08.120 --> 0:29:12.040 that to our partner, like listen, I need, yeah this, 0:29:12.240 --> 0:29:14.360 I need that. I am not comfortable with this, and 0:29:14.400 --> 0:29:17.120 I feel like I feel like I've always felt bad 0:29:17.640 --> 0:29:20.720 saying I don't like this. It's so funny because I 0:29:20.720 --> 0:29:22.840 feel like I'm a pretty confident person in real life, 0:29:22.880 --> 0:29:25.120 but then in the intimate settings it's like this, like 0:29:25.240 --> 0:29:27.840 weird old school, like the woman has to please. 0:29:28.560 --> 0:29:31.560 Yeah, but also don't you remember, like I can't reaching 0:29:31.600 --> 0:29:34.280 way back in my memory, but you would do the 0:29:34.440 --> 0:29:36.920 like you do the scoot or the like you like 0:29:37.040 --> 0:29:40.720 move like if something was happening sexual. Yeah, you would 0:29:40.720 --> 0:29:43.960 be like you would like you wouldn't want to say 0:29:44.040 --> 0:29:46.560 like you're not there, or like you go to the 0:29:46.640 --> 0:29:47.280 left or the right. 0:29:48.480 --> 0:29:50.440 I agree, like no one it didn't. 0:29:50.560 --> 0:29:53.720 No one made it like a thing that instruct instruct 0:29:53.800 --> 0:29:56.120 or even like it would feel like construction as opposed to. 0:29:58.560 --> 0:30:01.120 So you would feel wrong, like you'd be like you 0:30:01.400 --> 0:30:02.920 would feel like you're a moment. 0:30:03.800 --> 0:30:05.880 You also feel like there's something wrong with you because 0:30:06.400 --> 0:30:08.360 shows you that women do it like that and they're 0:30:08.400 --> 0:30:10.960 totally happy with that, but I'm not, So there's something 0:30:11.000 --> 0:30:13.040 wrong with me. And so reading that book kind of 0:30:13.040 --> 0:30:15.680 makes you understand that there's nothing wrong with each and 0:30:15.720 --> 0:30:17.200 every one of us, and it's okay. 0:30:17.200 --> 0:30:18.920 But you have to have both partners. 0:30:19.640 --> 0:30:20.680 You have to have somebody. 0:30:20.880 --> 0:30:24.640 You have one partner, Yes, that and also it's like, 0:30:24.640 --> 0:30:26.520 if you've seen one virginia, you've seen one vagina. And 0:30:26.560 --> 0:30:30.040 also I was like, only like, you know, yesterday years old, 0:30:30.640 --> 0:30:36.040 not quite close to when. Literally, I didn't even know 0:30:36.720 --> 0:30:40.040 that vaginas looked as different as they do. 0:30:40.680 --> 0:30:43.560 Literally just had this conversation. I had no giants know 0:30:43.600 --> 0:30:45.040 the vaginas could look so different. 0:30:45.400 --> 0:30:47.840 I have no idea so different. Phoenis has come in 0:30:47.840 --> 0:30:50.680 lots of different shapes, sizes, vaginas do to. 0:30:51.200 --> 0:30:52.840 Okay, going back to sex, I feel like this is 0:30:52.840 --> 0:30:55.720 one thing that pisses me off about penis vagina that 0:30:56.040 --> 0:30:58.800 we women. For us is so much harder to have 0:30:58.840 --> 0:31:00.880 casual sex. I've never been able to have a one 0:31:00.920 --> 0:31:03.280 eight stand. I think they're so overrated. I think I 0:31:03.320 --> 0:31:04.240 was like, so you never. 0:31:04.120 --> 0:31:06.400 Have I've never had a one I never had a 0:31:06.400 --> 0:31:07.000 one eight stent. 0:31:07.120 --> 0:31:09.880 I tried the casual sex, but I think I'm doing 0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:17.320 it wrong because there's nothing casual but no, because my 0:31:17.440 --> 0:31:20.200 freaking oxydosin kicks in. And even though the person, I 0:31:20.240 --> 0:31:21.760 was like, I'm not into this person, but I was like, 0:31:21.800 --> 0:31:23.840 I'll reach out just you know, because to be nice, 0:31:23.880 --> 0:31:25.880 thank you, And then I ended up getting freaking ghosted 0:31:25.920 --> 0:31:27.840 by people that I didn't care about in the first place, 0:31:27.880 --> 0:31:28.280 and then. 0:31:28.160 --> 0:31:29.480 My ego is that fair? 0:31:29.840 --> 0:31:30.040 Yeah? 0:31:31.880 --> 0:31:36.080 Yeah, we didn't do it right. Wait, this is the 0:31:36.120 --> 0:31:39.480 conversation that we had in Chicago. I found really fascinating. 0:31:39.560 --> 0:31:44.360 And you were telling me about that oxytocin. Yes, and 0:31:44.400 --> 0:31:46.640 so can you tell it to our listeners right now, 0:31:46.640 --> 0:31:47.800 because I was like, whoa. 0:31:48.200 --> 0:31:51.920 Apparently when women have sex for the first time, they 0:31:52.040 --> 0:31:56.120 immediately release oxytocin, which is the hormone of love. They 0:31:56.120 --> 0:31:58.200 call it now it makes you feel happy and in love, 0:31:58.320 --> 0:32:02.120 and men only released stosterone. So if you happen to 0:32:02.200 --> 0:32:05.280 have a one night stand with a man, the woman 0:32:05.400 --> 0:32:07.840 walks away from it feeling like, oh my god, I 0:32:07.880 --> 0:32:11.560 love it, and the guys like, I go Starbucks, I 0:32:11.600 --> 0:32:14.040 go do something else, and they even if it. 0:32:14.000 --> 0:32:18.160 Was bad sex, Yes, it was bad sex. 0:32:18.200 --> 0:32:22.160 And and men only released oxytocin when they start developing 0:32:22.280 --> 0:32:24.280 feeling for the other person. 0:32:25.400 --> 0:32:31.000 So there really is no emotional almost casual sex for 0:32:31.360 --> 0:32:32.800 a lot of women. I feel like. 0:32:32.920 --> 0:32:33.760 Maybe there is. 0:32:33.920 --> 0:32:37.800 Well, go back to that, and do you know women 0:32:37.800 --> 0:32:38.480 that are good at it? 0:32:38.840 --> 0:32:39.920 Do you casual sex? 0:32:40.080 --> 0:32:42.880 I wish? I mean, what's their secret? Are they just 0:32:43.120 --> 0:32:48.320 very secure, maybe emotional. 0:32:45.400 --> 0:32:47.360 Because it's not me. 0:32:47.480 --> 0:32:48.840 So I don't know what I'm trying to think of 0:32:48.880 --> 0:32:51.800 what they reported expectations. 0:32:52.000 --> 0:32:53.520 I think one thing I say. 0:32:54.000 --> 0:32:55.640 Like when they when they like. 0:32:57.400 --> 0:33:01.840 When they went into it, it was specifically for that. 0:33:02.160 --> 0:33:05.520 Yeah, I'm going to my first. 0:33:05.280 --> 0:33:08.720 Time always sucks because I'm not comfortable. I don't feel safe, 0:33:08.760 --> 0:33:10.360 I don't feel secure. So I'm like, why am I 0:33:10.400 --> 0:33:13.080 even doing this? Yeah? Yeah, so what's the point? And 0:33:13.120 --> 0:33:17.320 so I've stopped and the casual sex is not for me, 0:33:17.680 --> 0:33:20.120 But I feel like, yeah, is. 0:33:20.040 --> 0:33:22.280 There have you set like a new rule for yourself 0:33:22.280 --> 0:33:23.320 where you're like you have you? 0:33:23.520 --> 0:33:25.800 You gave me a rule? It was like five dates? 0:33:25.840 --> 0:33:28.640 Well I had I had back that day. I was 0:33:28.680 --> 0:33:31.240 a five date rule. You had to take me out 0:33:31.320 --> 0:33:32.240 on five dates. 0:33:32.400 --> 0:33:32.880 Yeah. 0:33:33.040 --> 0:33:34.920 I felt like by five dates where I would be 0:33:34.920 --> 0:33:38.040 able to have a vibe and I would sort of 0:33:38.120 --> 0:33:40.920 know like what are you maybe looking for a little bit, 0:33:41.040 --> 0:33:43.440 and then I could make the decision myself but also 0:33:43.480 --> 0:33:44.880 make them wait, Okay, So. 0:33:44.880 --> 0:33:47.760 This is my problems that I meet somebody and I 0:33:47.840 --> 0:33:50.640 see and I have a very objective perception of who 0:33:50.680 --> 0:33:54.040 they are, red flags everything. The minute I get intimate 0:33:54.080 --> 0:33:56.360 with them, the red flags disappear and I only see 0:33:56.360 --> 0:34:00.960 the good things. And so I'm going to start adopting 0:34:01.000 --> 0:34:04.840 my niece's thing a few weeks. If I like you 0:34:04.880 --> 0:34:07.640 as a person, yeah, and like, also listen to my 0:34:07.800 --> 0:34:09.080 first instinct. 0:34:09.520 --> 0:34:09.759 See. 0:34:09.760 --> 0:34:12.160 I don't know any thing about anything in the dating world, 0:34:12.160 --> 0:34:15.440 but I feel like now with all this optionality that 0:34:15.520 --> 0:34:18.000 I hear about happening in the app. 0:34:17.760 --> 0:34:18.960 World, that. 0:34:21.000 --> 0:34:23.000 Because I mean, let's face, it's not like every time 0:34:23.040 --> 0:34:24.799 you meet someone or the first time you meet someone 0:34:24.800 --> 0:34:25.160 it's like. 0:34:25.680 --> 0:34:27.080 Giant fireworks going off. 0:34:27.160 --> 0:34:27.279 Right. 0:34:27.280 --> 0:34:28.799 So let's say you like someone but you're still trying 0:34:28.800 --> 0:34:31.160 to figure out if you really like them. Then if 0:34:31.200 --> 0:34:34.359 you're waiting all this time, is there this moment where 0:34:34.360 --> 0:34:37.839 the other person is like, Okay, great, I'm waiting. So 0:34:37.960 --> 0:34:40.239 I guess if I'm waiting, this is casual. And so 0:34:40.280 --> 0:34:42.799 if this is casual, then I'm still this is what 0:34:42.840 --> 0:34:44.759 I'm imagining again, I don't have to wait. 0:34:45.480 --> 0:34:47.560 Queen of Blue Balls, When I was younger, what did 0:34:47.560 --> 0:34:52.440 they tell us? 0:34:52.440 --> 0:34:52.920 Came up? 0:34:52.960 --> 0:34:56.000 And I felt bad, Oh my god, I gave you love? 0:34:56.239 --> 0:34:59.080 I love it? How can I am possibly give you 0:34:59.200 --> 0:34:59.960 love it? I love it? 0:35:00.719 --> 0:35:04.640 Power because I lose the power I was. 0:35:04.719 --> 0:35:06.439 I clearly have just established myself as. 0:35:06.360 --> 0:35:11.120 More of a people. Oh no, you have blue balls? 0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:12.799 Okay, can we fix it? 0:35:15.000 --> 0:35:18.359 Sorry about I didn't give it a blue balls either. 0:35:20.600 --> 0:35:26.720 Right now, you're on the sexual revolutionary journey for yourself. 0:35:26.800 --> 0:35:27.000 Yeah. 0:35:27.040 --> 0:35:29.200 I tried that, like I'm going to have sex like 0:35:29.239 --> 0:35:30.759 a man thing. It didn't work out for me. 0:35:30.840 --> 0:35:32.439 Okay, so I don't work out for you. That's okay. 0:35:32.480 --> 0:35:34.440 You know what, you have a basis now, you have 0:35:34.480 --> 0:35:36.920 a starting point exactly, and maybe you're just not good 0:35:36.920 --> 0:35:37.759 at it yet. 0:35:38.000 --> 0:35:41.640 No, I think I'm going back to my twenties how 0:35:41.680 --> 0:35:44.960 I used to handle relationships in my twenties. 0:35:44.960 --> 0:35:46.880 Just time, be easy. Yes. 0:35:48.120 --> 0:35:50.359 Do you feel more confident now that if you were 0:35:50.560 --> 0:35:53.600 to get into a relationship and become intimate, that you 0:35:53.640 --> 0:35:55.320 can vocalize what you need? 0:35:55.480 --> 0:35:58.200 Yeah, definitely, that's awesome. 0:35:58.320 --> 0:36:01.120 She couldn't handle my five sec and stare a second ago. 0:36:03.280 --> 0:36:10.040 Believe she loved it. I said, calm it down, I'm sweating. 0:36:11.000 --> 0:36:11.239 See. 0:36:11.280 --> 0:36:15.520 I think that that's sort of a magical, wonderful thing. 0:36:15.719 --> 0:36:19.080 And I think it's got to do with mindset and also, 0:36:19.239 --> 0:36:22.239 you know how your life unfolds but looking at your 0:36:22.280 --> 0:36:24.799 life and saying, I'm going to go back to where 0:36:24.800 --> 0:36:26.120 I was in my twenties. 0:36:26.239 --> 0:36:26.719 And be. 0:36:28.719 --> 0:36:31.720 Clearly so much more grown. 0:36:32.120 --> 0:36:33.480 The other thing that I thought of when I was 0:36:33.520 --> 0:36:36.600 thinking about you and sitting here with you today was 0:36:37.440 --> 0:36:41.400 that you I see you with the fans, and I 0:36:41.440 --> 0:36:43.840 see the way that Station nineteen has rolled out for you, 0:36:43.920 --> 0:36:46.920 and just this incredible presence and relationship that you created 0:36:47.000 --> 0:36:51.120 on television for people to see and to experience and 0:36:51.160 --> 0:36:53.959 to again I see people with you, I see people 0:36:53.960 --> 0:36:58.640 interact and like, they're so grateful to you for having 0:36:58.680 --> 0:37:01.480 brought this role, because it allowed for them to see 0:37:01.520 --> 0:37:06.040 themselves in a show there was mainstream and wonderful and 0:37:06.400 --> 0:37:09.040 accepted and whole and all these things. 0:37:09.080 --> 0:37:11.800 So you have done that, and that is so beautiful 0:37:11.800 --> 0:37:12.880 to watch. And I. 0:37:15.000 --> 0:37:18.280 Think that it made me also think of when I started, 0:37:18.960 --> 0:37:23.040 And it wasn't so much more or so much before you, 0:37:23.520 --> 0:37:28.680 but when I came to Grays and it was revealed 0:37:28.680 --> 0:37:31.680 in episode three that my character was gay, there were 0:37:31.800 --> 0:37:37.640 no other gay series regular characters on television. We were 0:37:37.719 --> 0:37:40.920 doing something that other it just hadn't kind of hadn't 0:37:41.040 --> 0:37:44.960 been done, and it was paired with the fact that 0:37:45.160 --> 0:37:48.920 I had spent my entire career up until then doing 0:37:48.960 --> 0:37:51.520 half hour sitcoms where it wasn't. 0:37:51.280 --> 0:37:52.239 A lot of sexy time. 0:37:52.560 --> 0:37:54.799 Wow, And then I was on you know, a. 0:37:54.800 --> 0:37:57.719 Legal show a lot of sexy time, and then here 0:37:57.760 --> 0:38:01.680 I was in this show than a character and then 0:38:01.719 --> 0:38:03.799 having all this sexy time, and I'd sort of seen 0:38:03.800 --> 0:38:06.239 myself as this psch you know, I'm just gonna be 0:38:06.400 --> 0:38:08.279 you know, I don't I don't even know what I'd 0:38:08.320 --> 0:38:11.000 pegged myself as. But I hadn't seen myself as sexy. 0:38:11.160 --> 0:38:11.760 I just didn't. 0:38:11.840 --> 0:38:16.120 I didn't own myself as a sexy person. And so 0:38:16.200 --> 0:38:18.239 I look at the time that you know, we were 0:38:18.280 --> 0:38:20.640 telling all those stories, and I'm really proud that that 0:38:20.800 --> 0:38:23.760 Sata and I were able to bring these scenes to life, 0:38:24.239 --> 0:38:28.360 given that I kind of wasn't so confident, and then 0:38:28.520 --> 0:38:30.399 you know, you and I getting to play and being 0:38:30.440 --> 0:38:31.400 a little bit more confident. 0:38:31.440 --> 0:38:33.200 But again, what was the first thing I said? I 0:38:33.280 --> 0:38:34.040 just had a baby. 0:38:34.320 --> 0:38:35.200 And like, I do. 0:38:35.120 --> 0:38:37.000 Think that when you talk about sex, this is all 0:38:37.040 --> 0:38:38.680 going back to whether you're having it or or not. 0:38:39.400 --> 0:38:44.800 I think that having a vibrant, healthy and robust sex 0:38:44.840 --> 0:38:47.160 life does maybe come. 0:38:47.120 --> 0:38:49.920 Side saddle or at least there's a sidecar. 0:38:49.640 --> 0:38:52.960 Of confidence for you know, being knowing who you are 0:38:53.120 --> 0:38:55.600 coming into a relationship and being like this is not 0:38:55.640 --> 0:38:57.040 like this is how I like it, take it or 0:38:57.120 --> 0:38:58.919 leave it, but like this is how I like it, 0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:00.880 you know, like I like, I like a little of 0:39:00.920 --> 0:39:03.839 this first and again the foreplay. 0:39:03.800 --> 0:39:06.960 Like and maybe you know, I don't, I don't know. 0:39:07.160 --> 0:39:10.200 Just having having role models that are showing you like, yeah, 0:39:10.280 --> 0:39:14.680 that that the that the dance is fun. It makes 0:39:14.880 --> 0:39:18.920 like coming a lot more fun and feel a lot better. 0:39:18.840 --> 0:39:21.000 When you have that, even if it's going to be casual. 0:39:21.000 --> 0:39:22.200 I guess I'm making this up. 0:39:22.239 --> 0:39:24.920 I don't know, but like you've gotten some sort of 0:39:24.960 --> 0:39:27.439 like lead up. It's not just like you know, you're 0:39:27.480 --> 0:39:31.480 straight into it because I don't think I'm not a doctor, 0:39:31.600 --> 0:39:35.120 but I don't think that that's how you know, a 0:39:35.160 --> 0:39:37.399 lot of people feel about it. I just don't think 0:39:37.400 --> 0:39:41.319 that they can go straight into like banging and not. 0:39:41.440 --> 0:39:44.160 At least women, mostly women, I think for us is 0:39:44.200 --> 0:39:49.759 a lot more. Yeah, but yeah, like I think even men, 0:39:50.120 --> 0:39:53.359 like in general, like we need a little bit more 0:39:53.400 --> 0:39:55.000 than just hey you want to hook up? 0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:59.480 Yeah, yeah, exactly, Yeah, yeah, definitely all right. Basically I 0:39:59.520 --> 0:40:02.000 think that it's a funny and nice characters need to 0:40:02.000 --> 0:40:04.719 come back to take two. 0:40:05.080 --> 0:40:06.680 I would love that, honest. 0:40:07.239 --> 0:40:13.360 Oh my god, you know what, you know what, I 0:40:13.600 --> 0:40:17.680 can pitch this, let's pitch this, and there is the chemistry, 0:40:17.760 --> 0:40:20.360 but they're never doing anything because. 0:40:20.440 --> 0:40:25.279 Which is so there's attention where these two characters you 0:40:25.360 --> 0:40:29.040 can feel the tension, but they I'm like kids and 0:40:29.080 --> 0:40:31.560 they never do so amazing. 0:40:46.320 --> 0:40:50.279 Okay, ready for this questions? Okay, you go, you got 0:40:50.360 --> 0:40:58.840 to ask ask what is your biggest turn on on? Yeah? 0:40:59.400 --> 0:40:59.840 Patient? 0:41:00.560 --> 0:41:01.360 Oh wow? 0:41:02.920 --> 0:41:05.160 Yeah, tolerance, patience. 0:41:04.800 --> 0:41:06.760 Because I got that's very sexy. 0:41:07.680 --> 0:41:09.759 Somebody's patient. It means it's gonna say they're going to 0:41:09.800 --> 0:41:10.319 take their tongue. 0:41:11.239 --> 0:41:11.920 That's a great. 0:41:13.160 --> 0:41:13.399 Yeah. 0:41:14.120 --> 0:41:16.839 Lena says, what is your favorite possession in bed? 0:41:18.080 --> 0:41:22.920 Wow? What the I was just so you know you 0:41:23.560 --> 0:41:26.520 considering you kissing part of it? 0:41:27.000 --> 0:41:28.560 Kissing is your favorite part? Yeah? 0:41:28.800 --> 0:41:31.400 Kissing, y'all like I can make out forever? 0:41:32.280 --> 0:41:32.600 Yeah? 0:41:32.719 --> 0:41:33.840 I know why kissing? 0:41:34.280 --> 0:41:34.560 I know? 0:41:34.920 --> 0:41:37.600 Yeah, I love a makeout sash. 0:41:37.719 --> 0:41:37.959 Yeah. 0:41:38.200 --> 0:41:40.040 Okay, as Stella. 0:41:40.400 --> 0:41:42.880 This happens more than you would think. Estella wrote in 0:41:42.960 --> 0:41:44.799 and said, I am twenty and have never had an 0:41:44.880 --> 0:41:47.520 orgasm in my life. I have tried toys and I 0:41:47.560 --> 0:41:50.080 feel like nothing works. Do you have any advice? 0:41:52.400 --> 0:41:54.200 And I feel like you're not alone in I'd like 0:41:54.239 --> 0:41:56.200 to sell you alone in that does. I feel like 0:41:56.280 --> 0:41:58.440 it's super important thing. I feel like there's a lot 0:41:58.440 --> 0:42:01.279 of resources resources there. I feel like come as you 0:42:01.280 --> 0:42:03.239 are as a great resource. There's also a lot of 0:42:03.640 --> 0:42:07.840 sex therapists that actually do physical manipulation that can help 0:42:08.080 --> 0:42:11.560 with like figuring out what some blocks can be. It's 0:42:11.640 --> 0:42:14.600 mostly it's usually it's mental, it's psychological. It's like you 0:42:14.680 --> 0:42:17.440 decide that you can't and it's like, yeah, you make 0:42:17.560 --> 0:42:20.279 yourself not able to. But I feel like comas you're 0:42:20.280 --> 0:42:23.440 as a great resource. And I feel like there's actually 0:42:23.600 --> 0:42:30.360 a great TV series on Netflix about sex specifically, and 0:42:30.400 --> 0:42:33.120 there's a few therapists that can be I mean, and 0:42:33.200 --> 0:42:36.879 you know what it's called I can't, I can't sex life. 0:42:36.920 --> 0:42:39.120 It could be that possibly called sex life. 0:42:38.920 --> 0:42:41.160 Possibly called sex life. I think I'll get back, maybe 0:42:41.160 --> 0:42:43.440 I'll comment on your guys on the podcast once it 0:42:43.480 --> 0:42:47.040 comes out with like specific resources. Yeah, I love that. 0:42:47.239 --> 0:42:48.200 Yeah absolutely. 0:42:48.640 --> 0:42:54.640 Shannas asked did you learn anything about sex from Korena well, I. 0:42:54.640 --> 0:42:57.920 Feel like my sex reinvolution started with her, Like because 0:42:57.960 --> 0:43:01.160 of her study, I started research and looking into it, 0:43:01.200 --> 0:43:04.719 and you know, like a Sarah Parell was amazing inspiration 0:43:05.800 --> 0:43:07.920 and I feel like all this filled those I love 0:43:08.000 --> 0:43:10.759 how free and willing to. 0:43:10.880 --> 0:43:12.600 I want to have ask her on this show. So 0:43:12.600 --> 0:43:13.799 maybe you need to come back for that. 0:43:13.920 --> 0:43:16.080 Oh my god, would you come back on for it? 0:43:16.239 --> 0:43:17.720 Oh my god, It's okay. 0:43:19.400 --> 0:43:23.080 She's amazing because she's also what I think is so 0:43:23.160 --> 0:43:26.640 magical about her is that she really is talking about 0:43:26.719 --> 0:43:28.120 the mind and the body. 0:43:28.040 --> 0:43:30.520 Exact and the relationships because. 0:43:31.560 --> 0:43:35.360 And she just makes everything okay, everything exactly, have a judgment, 0:43:35.760 --> 0:43:39.360 just whatever it is, It's okay. Mating and Captivity is 0:43:39.400 --> 0:43:40.240 such a good book. 0:43:41.840 --> 0:43:45.120 Mating and Captivity book. Why did you skip over the 0:43:45.160 --> 0:43:47.959 first question? Why don't you read that it last? 0:43:49.200 --> 0:43:51.240 Jessica Capshaw would like me to read leases? 0:43:51.400 --> 0:43:51.880 What is it? 0:43:52.239 --> 0:43:54.960 What was it like to kiss the Queen? Jessica Capshaw 0:43:55.920 --> 0:44:03.360 Queen the Queen's typo obviously, but what was hot? 0:44:03.680 --> 0:44:04.120 Hot? 0:44:05.560 --> 0:44:07.760 It was? 0:44:08.960 --> 0:44:13.800 It made up like a fair mom actually, But I 0:44:13.840 --> 0:44:18.520 think one of the sexiest things that that Karina and Arizona. 0:44:18.160 --> 0:44:20.160 Was a little bit the dance of like I feel 0:44:20.200 --> 0:44:22.160 like Arizona was always like trying to be at work. 0:44:23.600 --> 0:44:24.879 Karina was always just like right. 0:44:24.840 --> 0:44:25.600 Over her shoulder. 0:44:25.800 --> 0:44:27.680 Yeah, I think I can like. 0:44:27.920 --> 0:44:29.279 Yes, And I was always like. 0:44:31.080 --> 0:44:37.240 Work, Mike. I just had a total memory. 0:44:37.480 --> 0:44:39.120 What do you remember the original scene? 0:44:40.360 --> 0:44:40.919 Please sell? 0:44:41.160 --> 0:44:42.319 Please do? 0:44:43.200 --> 0:44:44.520 I just thought about that too. 0:44:44.760 --> 0:44:50.879 I well, I'm actually so happy that I'm you never 0:44:50.960 --> 0:44:55.280 remember anything. I never God, this is not self serving, 0:44:55.280 --> 0:44:57.319 but this is so amazing that I just talked about 0:44:57.320 --> 0:44:58.120 what I talked about. 0:44:57.920 --> 0:44:59.640 Because it makes this makes sense. 0:45:00.480 --> 0:45:04.440 Okay, so again everything I've already said, I'm back. I 0:45:04.520 --> 0:45:05.880 just have a baby. I didn't. 0:45:05.960 --> 0:45:09.719 I really didn't consider myself super like sexual. 0:45:09.800 --> 0:45:12.160 I didn't have that like confidence in coming to these scenes. 0:45:12.200 --> 0:45:14.920 And and so the scene gets written and I read 0:45:14.960 --> 0:45:17.839 it probably before the table read, and the table read. 0:45:17.880 --> 0:45:19.480 That's what we write, that's. 0:45:19.320 --> 0:45:24.080 What we talk about, making me red sweaty and like, Okay, 0:45:24.120 --> 0:45:26.320 this is what I remember, but this could be different. 0:45:27.440 --> 0:45:32.080 Essentially, it was that she comes in while I'm working, yes, 0:45:32.560 --> 0:45:34.280 and has the over the shoulder. 0:45:33.960 --> 0:45:41.560 Moment, but is under the table with a hand fully like. 0:45:41.880 --> 0:45:42.279 Full in. 0:45:44.000 --> 0:45:50.400 Stimulation, and you're using your hand to sort of she 0:45:50.680 --> 0:45:59.759 down there, yes, and I I turned every ship read 0:46:00.080 --> 0:46:04.560 like red and was like did you shoot? 0:46:05.600 --> 0:46:10.160 Because ABC was like you crazy? Read the table like, 0:46:10.400 --> 0:46:14.720 what is it so hot? 0:46:13.520 --> 0:46:16.480 I start like beating faster than normal. 0:46:16.600 --> 0:46:19.200 I was like, oh my god, because I forgot about it. 0:46:19.760 --> 0:46:24.680 Oh, I just remember it, that's crazy. 0:46:25.000 --> 0:46:25.920 It was a student. 0:46:27.960 --> 0:46:30.240 Well you know what, I think you stimulated that memory 0:46:30.280 --> 0:46:32.600 by saying kiss the Queen Jessica. 0:46:33.520 --> 0:46:34.520 When you said those. 0:46:34.440 --> 0:46:37.600 Lies, I can't really read it. Did you want to 0:46:37.640 --> 0:46:38.480 borrow my glasses? 0:46:38.680 --> 0:46:46.600 And I said, okay, enough of that anyway, okay, okay. 0:46:46.640 --> 0:46:49.319 Hannah asks and we started this. I want to answer 0:46:49.400 --> 0:46:53.799 this too. What are your X doing sex? What can 0:46:53.880 --> 0:46:54.560 I go first? 0:46:55.560 --> 0:46:56.759 Which did you answer? I did? 0:46:57.440 --> 0:47:00.719 Let you smell? Smell wait, like natural. 0:47:03.080 --> 0:47:07.160 Smell. Ever have you ever had a Oh you've had 0:47:07.160 --> 0:47:11.040 a stinky hasn't everyone. I'm trying to think. No, I 0:47:11.040 --> 0:47:13.680 don't think I got a steak full on. They left. 0:47:13.880 --> 0:47:17.080 I had to change the sheets, like the morning, take. 0:47:17.280 --> 0:47:24.520 Shanley steamers, next morning, Steely, that's garbe it's cleaner. 0:47:25.120 --> 0:47:30.360 Yeah, that's my Stanley Steamers. At three o'clock in the morning, shower, 0:47:30.719 --> 0:47:34.480 wash the hair, like everything. I was like, smell Yeah, 0:47:35.200 --> 0:47:39.520 just wrong, body, just so wrong. 0:47:39.680 --> 0:47:42.840 I was like, it was like body, I think it 0:47:43.000 --> 0:47:44.760 was like natural fair. 0:47:46.880 --> 0:47:47.520 Not agreed. 0:47:47.760 --> 0:47:53.480 Did you smell it before the clothes came off? God? 0:47:54.000 --> 0:47:57.279 Yeah, I think that's actually might be the best that 0:47:57.320 --> 0:47:58.000 I've ever heard. 0:48:00.120 --> 0:48:03.560 What's I was gonna say? I really can't stand it 0:48:03.600 --> 0:48:05.200 when guys keep their socks on. 0:48:07.080 --> 0:48:12.440 That alkay's funny they keep their socks. 0:48:12.360 --> 0:48:25.719 Specifically talking about that business business, just the s I 0:48:25.719 --> 0:48:28.520 have and I have girlfriends who have had the experience 0:48:28.600 --> 0:48:30.759 where a guys decided to keep their socks on. 0:48:32.239 --> 0:48:32.520 Naked. 0:48:36.080 --> 0:48:39.359 There may be a real good reason there may be well, 0:48:39.400 --> 0:48:40.920 because that could be an that would. 0:48:40.680 --> 0:48:41.239 Be anick for me. 0:48:41.440 --> 0:48:44.000 Have you ever seen some of the nasty, nasty toes 0:48:44.120 --> 0:48:45.239 some men are walking around with. 0:48:45.640 --> 0:48:47.279 Yeah, well, maybe the socks should be on. 0:48:47.320 --> 0:48:49.360 That's maybe they're doing you a favor. 0:48:49.480 --> 0:48:51.320 Could you date them long term. 0:48:51.520 --> 0:48:52.680 If they kept their socks on all the time? 0:48:52.800 --> 0:48:57.200 Yeah, they had disgusting I think we would just to 0:48:57.200 --> 0:48:59.440 get a little pedicure, Yeah, and then feel. 0:48:59.280 --> 0:49:03.400 Really bad for the person that was Yeah, a little 0:49:03.880 --> 0:49:07.120 Valentine Valentine. Maybe pad of cures are going to be 0:49:07.160 --> 0:49:09.200 the gift yea, yeah. 0:49:09.080 --> 0:49:10.680 Yeah, yeah, yeah, what is your turn off? 0:49:11.520 --> 0:49:11.640 Uh? 0:49:13.360 --> 0:49:17.239 We got to dig back into no good, dig back 0:49:17.320 --> 0:49:20.760 into you know, dating days. 0:49:21.040 --> 0:49:26.080 I oh, I mean remember when you had this problem before. 0:49:26.120 --> 0:49:28.000 I mean because you basically you said that all my 0:49:28.200 --> 0:49:30.880 all my ex were just really actually like knows like 0:49:30.920 --> 0:49:34.560 you just could not do that. I think this one 0:49:34.600 --> 0:49:36.799 guy smell is such a good one, and I really 0:49:36.920 --> 0:49:39.480 because it's actually instantly repellent. But I definitely like kissed 0:49:39.480 --> 0:49:42.480 a boy who man he was man. I kissed a 0:49:42.520 --> 0:49:43.520 man who. 0:49:43.560 --> 0:49:47.200 Had breath like he smelled like hot dogs, and I 0:49:47.239 --> 0:49:48.839 was like, this can't I don't even think I can 0:49:48.880 --> 0:49:49.680 do the hot dog. 0:49:49.880 --> 0:49:50.120 Yeah. 0:49:50.160 --> 0:49:51.319 I actually tried a second time. 0:49:51.360 --> 0:49:54.160 I was like, maybe this is a fluke and then seconds. 0:49:53.640 --> 0:49:56.360 Not the worst, but it's not great either. No, I 0:49:56.400 --> 0:49:58.360 don't know about cigarette smell. I kind of love it. 0:49:58.880 --> 0:50:02.120 Well that's because you're like a yeah, yeah, my and 0:50:02.160 --> 0:50:05.160 also my advocate, my my, my, My. Funny part of 0:50:05.200 --> 0:50:07.719 the hot dog smell guy was that it happened like 0:50:07.760 --> 0:50:11.480 super early in my twenties, like New York, like makeout sash, 0:50:11.520 --> 0:50:15.200 and then he went on to become very famous and 0:50:15.239 --> 0:50:17.160 then when I saw him, whenever I saw him, I 0:50:17.200 --> 0:50:20.520 was like, you maybe your breath smells like hot dogs. 0:50:20.800 --> 0:50:24.960 We want the name, we want the name. Initial issues. 0:50:25.600 --> 0:50:28.000 Absolutely, this is one of those af these conversations. 0:50:28.080 --> 0:50:43.319 Yeah, yeah, yeah, Isabelle, how important is sexual compatibility for 0:50:43.440 --> 0:50:44.640 you in a relationship? 0:50:45.040 --> 0:50:46.719 Everything? Yeah that was your friends. 0:50:47.120 --> 0:50:50.680 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I agreed. This is my question. 0:50:50.719 --> 0:50:53.239 It's not from anyone, but it's an old question and 0:50:53.280 --> 0:50:55.440 we've been debating it for a while. Because it happened. 0:50:55.680 --> 0:50:58.280 We probably introduced it to the crew in the summer. 0:50:58.920 --> 0:51:02.240 Do you feel m oh, yeah, it is possible. 0:51:02.760 --> 0:51:08.840 For a man and a woman, uh huh to truly 0:51:09.280 --> 0:51:10.440 just be friends. 0:51:12.200 --> 0:51:18.920 Yes, no, yes, we have different opinions on it, she says, yes, 0:51:19.000 --> 0:51:20.640 I think, I think. 0:51:21.920 --> 0:51:26.080 No, but I I have some some of my closest 0:51:26.120 --> 0:51:29.480 friends are men. Yes, a lot of them are women, 0:51:30.120 --> 0:51:35.279 but I am so I have friends which when I'm 0:51:35.360 --> 0:51:38.840 we met, we had a lot of chemistry, but we 0:51:39.080 --> 0:51:42.640 never went for it, and so the chemistry is always 0:51:42.719 --> 0:51:46.640 kind of somewhere that they're saying, but we've never we've 0:51:46.640 --> 0:51:49.080 made the choice. And now the thought of having sex 0:51:49.120 --> 0:51:51.439 with them it makes me giggle. I'm like, yeah, never 0:51:51.520 --> 0:51:52.840 because we're like past that. 0:51:53.200 --> 0:51:55.320 Yeah, or you're in a relationship there in a relationship 0:51:55.360 --> 0:51:55.800 and you wouldn't. 0:51:55.960 --> 0:51:58.320 Yeah, but I feel like we've just been so long. 0:51:59.160 --> 0:52:01.960 I mean I have to say, I say, it's not possible. 0:52:02.680 --> 0:52:05.520 Of course it's possible. My very very best guy friend, 0:52:05.680 --> 0:52:08.440 my very very best friend, is a guy and. 0:52:09.160 --> 0:52:09.879 He married us. 0:52:09.960 --> 0:52:12.040 He married me and Matt, and we can totally like 0:52:12.160 --> 0:52:13.359 I was there, you were. 0:52:13.280 --> 0:52:13.640 There for it. 0:52:13.680 --> 0:52:15.799 We could go and we could go to the movie 0:52:15.880 --> 0:52:18.520 theater and we could have dinner. However, I do think 0:52:18.600 --> 0:52:25.520 it's extremely rare. I think that, like, could you if 0:52:25.560 --> 0:52:28.719 you were both single, could you go have dinner and 0:52:29.400 --> 0:52:31.759 get drunk and it not even be like a little 0:52:31.840 --> 0:52:33.160 like that. 0:52:33.200 --> 0:52:38.319 It's always that, but it is never acted. Okay, I 0:52:38.400 --> 0:52:40.879 have a lot of guy friends that are single and 0:52:41.400 --> 0:52:46.600 we've been drunk and I feel like we're at home. Yeah, 0:52:46.760 --> 0:52:49.040 but nothing has ever happened, but it's kind of fun. 0:52:49.320 --> 0:52:49.960 Yeah. 0:52:49.680 --> 0:52:53.120 I add to this though, that I feel like, if 0:52:53.160 --> 0:52:56.719 you are friends and there is anything that could make 0:52:56.760 --> 0:53:00.080 it tip away or whatever, but once you do, you 0:53:01.520 --> 0:53:03.080 can never go back to me exactly. 0:53:03.120 --> 0:53:05.359 I know that sucks. It changes for sure. 0:53:05.440 --> 0:53:06.959 And also that's why I don't. 0:53:07.280 --> 0:53:08.239 I think that's why you don't. 0:53:08.280 --> 0:53:13.280 Yeahnt especially Yeah, I have one where I wish I didn't. 0:53:13.719 --> 0:53:16.320 I mean, listen, you can't wish that you didn't, because 0:53:16.320 --> 0:53:20.440 I certainly enjoyed that the place of our relationship. But 0:53:20.719 --> 0:53:23.439 it's ultimately it wasn't worth it because. 0:53:23.440 --> 0:53:25.040 You lost your friendships of friendship. 0:53:25.080 --> 0:53:26.080 Yeah, that sucks. 0:53:26.160 --> 0:53:28.520 That's the thing that I hate about relationships that a 0:53:28.520 --> 0:53:30.799 lot of time, when a relationship ends, you're like, where 0:53:30.840 --> 0:53:33.240 does the love go? Five years? 0:53:33.239 --> 0:53:33.680 Eight years? 0:53:33.680 --> 0:53:36.440 So you were everything for one another? Why can you 0:53:36.480 --> 0:53:38.279 not say friends? I hate that. 0:53:38.440 --> 0:53:38.919 I don't think. 0:53:39.120 --> 0:53:41.000 I don't think the love goes away. I think it 0:53:41.080 --> 0:53:42.640 becomes quiet. 0:53:42.880 --> 0:53:45.759 Well, I just think that you can. I just I 0:53:45.800 --> 0:53:47.360 think it would be a very rare. 0:53:47.239 --> 0:53:49.080 All please write in and tell us that it's happened to. 0:53:49.040 --> 0:53:53.279 You were It's it's just so impossible to think that 0:53:53.320 --> 0:53:55.680 these two people that are in relationship that were friends 0:53:55.680 --> 0:53:57.879 the new each air like that are then in relationship 0:53:57.960 --> 0:54:00.400 in a romantic way. They're not going to stop baking 0:54:00.440 --> 0:54:02.640 each other in the exact same moment. And then I 0:54:02.640 --> 0:54:05.160 think our ego comes in and then we go like 0:54:06.640 --> 0:54:08.600 or you feel like on some level, now this. 0:54:08.480 --> 0:54:10.080 Friendship that was always. 0:54:09.800 --> 0:54:14.399 Equal is now not because you had something together and 0:54:14.520 --> 0:54:16.759 now you don't and you know who it. 0:54:16.840 --> 0:54:19.200 Was that was like, true, this is not for us. 0:54:19.320 --> 0:54:20.160 So true. 0:54:20.200 --> 0:54:23.359 It takes a very mature set of people, I think, 0:54:23.400 --> 0:54:25.239 to be able to do that, and it also takes time. 0:54:25.280 --> 0:54:27.200 I feel like you might be able to do that, 0:54:27.320 --> 0:54:30.680 but after like maybe being a part for an extended 0:54:30.880 --> 0:54:31.880 period of agreed. 0:54:32.320 --> 0:54:34.600 Yeah, yeah, yeah, it makes me very sad. 0:54:35.160 --> 0:54:36.840 It's self pleasure important to you. 0:54:37.160 --> 0:54:40.280 Oh, super important. I have a glorious time with myself. 0:54:40.920 --> 0:54:44.160 Amazing. We love that. Yeah, I'm glad, no, because I 0:54:44.200 --> 0:54:46.440 feel like Grace was a great job of this. By 0:54:46.480 --> 0:54:49.800 the way, I feel like for guys for so long, 0:54:50.160 --> 0:54:53.120 they were like masturbation was like, yeah, that's guys do that, 0:54:53.160 --> 0:54:55.360 But for girls it was like, oh yeah, don't you 0:54:55.400 --> 0:54:57.160 feel that? And so like I just feel like that's 0:54:57.200 --> 0:54:59.319 got to change. So I love Oh yeah, we've talked 0:54:59.320 --> 0:55:01.520 about it, but I I love hearing the answer. Okay, 0:55:01.760 --> 0:55:04.880 Helen wants to know in real life, did your sexual 0:55:04.960 --> 0:55:07.799 preferences change at all when you decided to play a 0:55:07.840 --> 0:55:08.840 bisexual woman. 0:55:10.239 --> 0:55:15.080 That's a good question. I definitely, I definitely asked myself questions. Yeah, 0:55:16.920 --> 0:55:21.359 I definitely fantasized over like things that I were not 0:55:21.640 --> 0:55:24.360 really my first kiss was with a girl, Like my 0:55:24.400 --> 0:55:28.279 first ever kiss a kid was like to another girl. 0:55:28.760 --> 0:55:30.040 So I feel like it's always been. 0:55:30.360 --> 0:55:34.040 Everyone or is that like you didn't kiss You don't know, 0:55:34.400 --> 0:55:35.520 I've never kissed a girl. 0:55:35.760 --> 0:55:39.440 Interesting, but like I had full on like wife and 0:55:39.520 --> 0:55:45.040 wife get dates with this little girl, husband and wife. 0:55:45.719 --> 0:55:47.000 Yeah that's cute. 0:55:47.320 --> 0:55:48.320 Yeah, that's really cute. 0:55:48.960 --> 0:55:54.759 Practice, Like I see people doing this. 0:55:54.960 --> 0:55:58.080 Have you seen people doing this thing practice? 0:55:58.280 --> 0:55:58.520 Yeah? 0:55:58.560 --> 0:56:02.880 Apparently, but this is a workship but yeah, yeah, but 0:56:02.920 --> 0:56:05.279 this question is not a workshop question, is. 0:56:05.440 --> 0:56:07.080 Yeah, I feel like definitely, And I feel like again 0:56:07.120 --> 0:56:11.320 my sex revolution face started with like grays and stations. 0:56:11.320 --> 0:56:13.480 I feel like I started like, oh exploring. 0:56:13.600 --> 0:56:16.920 Do you feel more open to sort of like whoever 0:56:17.000 --> 0:56:19.480 you meet, it doesn't matter. 0:56:20.600 --> 0:56:22.680 And men and women all the time. Yeah, I don't know, 0:56:22.800 --> 0:56:25.880 but I'm like right now, I'm like trying to give myself. 0:56:26.040 --> 0:56:28.000 I'm gonna date myself for a bit. I feel like 0:56:28.000 --> 0:56:29.799 that's good that and figure out. 0:56:30.360 --> 0:56:33.600 Yeah, yeah, I think that's I think that's really cool. 0:56:34.040 --> 0:56:35.240 Have you talked about that before? 0:56:35.719 --> 0:56:35.839 No? 0:56:36.480 --> 0:56:39.680 Oh my god, they're going to go crazy. I'm going 0:56:39.760 --> 0:56:41.880 to go crazy. No, I think it's such a beautiful 0:56:41.920 --> 0:56:45.719 thing because I think that a lot of people, like, 0:56:45.760 --> 0:56:47.560 there's a girl here who's written to us saying, I've 0:56:47.600 --> 0:56:50.080 never had an orgasm in life, right, yeah, and she's 0:56:50.160 --> 0:56:53.240 twenty yeah. And to be in our forties and still 0:56:53.320 --> 0:56:56.719 figuring it out and knowing that it's a journey. I 0:56:56.840 --> 0:56:59.920 just think it's very powerful to share with anybody. 0:57:00.120 --> 0:57:02.680 Yeah, I think that that's such an evolved way to 0:57:03.120 --> 0:57:03.799 come at it. 0:57:04.360 --> 0:57:07.640 Yeah. Literally, I feel like lately, like like a few 0:57:07.680 --> 0:57:10.600 weeks ago, I went out and that waitress was super cute, 0:57:10.600 --> 0:57:14.840 like tomboy, short hair, like cute, and we were flirting 0:57:14.840 --> 0:57:16.600 in the whole dinner, and I was like, Wow, I 0:57:16.640 --> 0:57:18.280 think I need to have sex with a woman because 0:57:18.280 --> 0:57:20.000 I think that's the only time that I would be 0:57:20.000 --> 0:57:24.360 able to put all the preconception like having sex with 0:57:24.440 --> 0:57:28.200 the man away and like interesting to be present, because 0:57:28.240 --> 0:57:30.000 I feel like that's what happens sometimes when you have 0:57:30.040 --> 0:57:36.560 sex you're not present. You're like, yeah, you can multitask naturally, ask. 0:57:38.360 --> 0:57:42.000 You know, so you just so I understand you're saying 0:57:42.000 --> 0:57:44.000 that you feel like you might be able to be 0:57:44.320 --> 0:57:45.560 more present with a woman. 0:57:45.720 --> 0:57:48.360 Thinks so interesting, What is it? What is it? 0:57:48.400 --> 0:57:48.920 Though that you. 0:57:49.080 --> 0:57:53.560 I think it's like upbringing this social like baggage that 0:57:53.640 --> 0:57:56.320 we bring with ourselves, Like we have to be a 0:57:56.360 --> 0:57:58.280 certain way with men, we have to be Like I 0:57:58.320 --> 0:58:01.080 feel like I've definitely used sex to manipulate somebody to 0:58:01.320 --> 0:58:06.360 like me more. Yeah, and where does that come from? 0:58:06.560 --> 0:58:09.080 Why do I start like it's definitely another thought that 0:58:09.200 --> 0:58:13.400 came from me? You know, like I'm battling a little 0:58:13.440 --> 0:58:15.919 bit with like what's me and what's stuff that people 0:58:16.000 --> 0:58:18.720 have told me? I've watched people do and I'm. 0:58:19.000 --> 0:58:22.200 Shaking it off. Yes, and so sex with a woman 0:58:22.280 --> 0:58:24.360 maybe wouldn't have all that noise. 0:58:24.200 --> 0:58:27.280 That pressure, would just like exactly exactly, it wouldn't have 0:58:27.400 --> 0:58:29.000 all that noise. That's what it feels like. 0:58:30.000 --> 0:58:30.800 I love this. 0:58:31.200 --> 0:58:32.800 Yeah, it is. 0:58:32.800 --> 0:58:35.400 A fantas Okay, I feel like you are in I 0:58:35.400 --> 0:58:38.640 feel like you're in a Your vibration is very evolved 0:58:38.680 --> 0:58:41.080 right now. Oh yeah, Like I feel like it's all 0:58:41.280 --> 0:58:44.800 very feel journey. Yeah, yeah for sure. 0:58:44.880 --> 0:58:45.080 Yeah. 0:58:45.160 --> 0:58:46.960 I usually I usually get to be older sister in 0:58:47.000 --> 0:58:48.720 this little duo, but I'm feeling. 0:58:48.480 --> 0:58:54.000 Younger, a little bit stid a bit. 0:58:54.600 --> 0:58:58.440 I love this, but I know, I mean, dare I 0:58:58.480 --> 0:59:02.480 say I do thing for those that have their eyes 0:59:02.560 --> 0:59:06.400 and ears open to it. This kind of conversation is happening, 0:59:06.440 --> 0:59:12.080 and I think it's so incredibly important, a great to 0:59:12.560 --> 0:59:15.960 every age, right, I mean reprogramming. We talk about it 0:59:15.960 --> 0:59:18.400 a lot where it's like it's the reset button that 0:59:18.480 --> 0:59:20.080 which has not served you. 0:59:20.160 --> 0:59:21.520 What the do you need it for anymore? 0:59:22.040 --> 0:59:22.240 Yeah? 0:59:22.640 --> 0:59:25.640 Idea, like what's like sub conscious programming? 0:59:26.160 --> 0:59:28.160 The book is because you were talking about Come As 0:59:28.160 --> 0:59:28.400 You Are. 0:59:28.520 --> 0:59:30.720 The other one is she comes first, She comes first. 0:59:30.720 --> 0:59:38.040 I love I So this is so hot hearing somebody. 0:59:38.120 --> 0:59:42.080 I'm listening to it so to somebody explain how they're 0:59:42.080 --> 0:59:42.760 going to go down. 0:59:48.320 --> 0:59:49.760 On the side of the one on one. 0:59:51.920 --> 0:59:53.000 She comes. 0:59:54.240 --> 0:59:55.680 You are, and she comes first. 0:59:56.240 --> 0:59:57.720 Authors of those books, which. 0:59:57.560 --> 1:00:01.280 Are Emily Nagowski. I think it's Come As You Are 1:00:01.400 --> 1:00:05.680 and I and Curner is she comes first, come on? 1:00:06.120 --> 1:00:06.960 Oh my god? 1:00:07.160 --> 1:00:07.400 Yes? 1:00:08.040 --> 1:00:18.200 Then and then yes a third. Yeah, it feels right. 1:00:18.280 --> 1:00:19.800 You can have the look I'll give you. Let's just 1:00:19.800 --> 1:00:22.360 don't give me that look. We just all like, look 1:00:22.400 --> 1:00:28.080 at look at what look? Okay, we have to let 1:00:28.080 --> 1:00:31.480 you go. Thank you for being just so open for 1:00:31.560 --> 1:00:34.400 the podcast and for all our listeners, I mean and 1:00:34.480 --> 1:00:35.200 open in life. 1:00:35.280 --> 1:00:37.920 Truly, every single time I see you, I so enjoy it. 1:00:37.960 --> 1:00:41.240 I love being with you, and thank you, thank you, 1:00:41.280 --> 1:00:41.680 thank you. 1:00:42.000 --> 1:00:44.919 Yeah right, you guys, it's been such a pleasure. Thank 1:00:44.960 --> 1:00:45.520 you so much. 1:00:46.000 --> 1:00:48.000 This is this is the first of many people. This 1:00:48.080 --> 1:00:53.080 is not Stefani's only podcast true moment, but the 1:00:53.240 --> 1:00:54.840 End of the episode