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Speaker 1: Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington,

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Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello Call It crew, and welcome to

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Speaker 2: another episode.

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Speaker 3: Of Call It What It Is.

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Speaker 4: For this one a little juiced.

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Speaker 3: Really juice, because why who are we sitting across from

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Speaker 3: right now?

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Speaker 2: I love that you're like the last name. Let's not

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Speaker 2: say the last name? Are we saying it's a neat autumn?

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Speaker 1: Normally to totally be like no, obviously, Safania, I've got it.

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Speaker 3: I know, but you caught me. I was like, Stefani,

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Speaker 3: I know it's the last This is a common last

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Speaker 3: name in Italy, in the South.

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Speaker 2: I have a funny Starbucks name spelling story. Sorry, I

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Speaker 2: was in line with Starbucks and Steven Spielberg.

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Speaker 1: How is this by the way, in the d said

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Speaker 1: what please have Stefania tell her.

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Speaker 3: Story two stories?

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Speaker 2: Doesn't like the story with Steven Spielberg. When I realized

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Speaker 2: that you guys were to yes, so we were already

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Speaker 2: together exactly. I just like a couple of first couple

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Speaker 2: of episodes. I was meeting a producer there and he

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Speaker 2: was like, oh, come, Stefania, let's go say hi to Stephen.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, who's Steven. It was like literally

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Speaker 2: the first words that came out of my mouth were like, Hi,

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Speaker 2: I always make out with your daughter.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I've never heard that story. What did

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Speaker 3: he say? I was like, FROs and I was like

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Speaker 3: he was like, that is so funny.

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Speaker 2: And then it was like, let's do a video for

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Speaker 2: her stories that I had made a short film with Steven.

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Speaker 3: A short film with Steven Spielberg.

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Speaker 1: And by the way, just for the record, I think

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Speaker 1: people are always surprised by this. I'm leading the witness.

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Speaker 1: Just how fantastic and nice is he?

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Speaker 2: Come on? I mean, come on.

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Speaker 3: Warmer and kinder and less assuming.

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Speaker 1: And I've watched it my whole life obviously, but the

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Speaker 1: way that he, you know, is in the world and

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Speaker 1: and just treats the people around him, and it's just

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Speaker 1: he's he's pretty special.

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Speaker 2: Even after the third time the guy asked to spell

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Speaker 2: to tell him his name, he was like, fully like

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Speaker 2: zero ego and face.

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Speaker 1: Well, as long as we're on the story of Starbucks

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Speaker 1: and Steven Spielberg, He's there a lot.

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying, there is a morning thing. Yeah, it's

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Speaker 4: a morning thing.

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Speaker 1: There was a tipping point where obviously our entire lives.

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Speaker 1: If people came up to talk to us when many

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Speaker 1: of us were out, they were clearly going to talk

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Speaker 1: to him, right, And then there was this tipping point

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Speaker 1: where all of a sudden, it was like, everyone's to.

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Speaker 4: Talk to me.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know, it's maybe a couple of months ago,

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Speaker 1: and we're in New York City and we actually were

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Speaker 1: not We hadn't even we weren't going to start works together.

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Speaker 4: I had gone somewhere else.

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Speaker 1: He was at the Starbucks and I came in and

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Speaker 1: he didn't know that I was there, and then I.

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Speaker 4: Run into him, which I love running into your family.

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Speaker 3: So I was like, oh Jesus. So we're hanging in.

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Speaker 1: And this woman comes over and then she joins in.

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Speaker 4: The and he's like, oh gosh, what's happening.

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Speaker 1: She was like just like a really big fan, and

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Speaker 1: he got just sort of just stand there and be

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Speaker 3: He didn't get.

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Speaker 4: Even look at him.

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Speaker 3: Listens exactly.

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Speaker 4: What can I say, come on.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm so happy that you're here.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like we just could could start off

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Speaker 1: with the fact that.

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Speaker 3: I mean, it.

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Speaker 4: Seems like a long time ago, but it wasn't that

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Speaker 4: long ago.

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Speaker 1: When when we last Seffania came into our lives.

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Speaker 3: Well, what's funny is that we did a rewatch up,

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Speaker 3: but we did our first rewatch of Grey's Anatomy and

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Speaker 3: you you guys, it's a weird cookie episode, you guys.

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Speaker 3: So we just talked about her first impression of you,

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Speaker 3: because I was like, if you have a love interest

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Speaker 3: and Stefania walks in, you're.

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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, you're like when you're like when, So, how

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Speaker 1: long ago.

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Speaker 3: Was it that you start on Grace.

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Speaker 2: I think it was seven years eight years ago, eight

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Speaker 3: It's like this weird time where that people don't understand

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Speaker 3: it just goes so fast.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So.

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Speaker 1: This is what we were saying, was that when okay,

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Speaker 1: so eight years ago, I had just had Josie. Because

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Speaker 1: so we were saying that we started a new season

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Speaker 1: and Christa came and said, you know, the love interest

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Speaker 1: from last season is not coming back.

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Speaker 4: You're going to have a new love interest.

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Speaker 1: We're going to figure it out. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: the meantime, it had been positioned. Stefani was going to

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Speaker 1: we didn't really get to have like a chemistry read

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Speaker 1: like hey.

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Speaker 3: Where do you like where do you see like what

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Speaker 4: What are your hidden talents?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 3: How do you see this going?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: We got nothing? We were like thrown into the deep end. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and yeah I just had a baby. We had this

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Speaker 1: and that was the.

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Speaker 3: Best makeout that this is where de Luca walks in

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Speaker 4: Yes, this was pre intimacy coordinator.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and Stefani was saying brand new first like puppy energy.

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Speaker 2: I was like, yes, sure, jump from the window.

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Speaker 3: I though it, yeah, like you're off and she was.

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Speaker 1: Puppy energy and I was postpartim entergy and I was like,

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Speaker 1: so you know what do you what do you want

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Speaker 1: Because all those scenes are so much better. Clothing comes off,

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Speaker 3: On my nothing or you make it so there's twenty layers,

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Speaker 3: so you're like, you just can't.

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Speaker 2: Yes, the episode of.

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Speaker 3: Joey and Friends when he's in all the clothes, you'll

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Speaker 1: I never landed on a boost a type thing, yeah,

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Speaker 4: Oh, I don't think I ever saw that stuff. I

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Speaker 3: Guys, it's like, and I've seen that, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: And then so then, but you were fantastic and you

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Speaker 1: honestly you were saying you had puppy energy.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I've been.

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Speaker 1: There for a whole lot longer, and I was a

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Speaker 4: Okay crag And she was so fantastic.

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Speaker 3: Was that the first thing you show?

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Speaker 3: Shitting myself, I was like, oh my god, she's.

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Speaker 2: Like but the thing they gave me make me like

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Speaker 1: And then that was most saf because I was in

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Speaker 2: I also come from the dance world, and in Italy,

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Speaker 4: Only in Italy you dance in biginnis pretty much pretty much.

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Speaker 2: I have a funny story actually, so my dancing career

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Speaker 2: started in Italy and we literally go to auditions with

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Speaker 2: And I literally show up at the audition room wearing

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Speaker 2: in Italy, but everybody else was like super hip hop.

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Speaker 2: I looked like a stripper, like everybody was like down.

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Speaker 1: The Halliday were like yes, you were like oh maybe no, no, but.

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Speaker 2: I did it. I actually booked a job because stood

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Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, that was great, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's so you felt that was honestly

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Speaker 3: knew that. That's amazing. What did you think of, Jessica,

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Speaker 3: What was first impression?

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Speaker 2: I loved everybody. I felt like I was super nervous.

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Speaker 3: I feel like it was excited, but I.

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Speaker 2: Had read so many horror stories about me people getting

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Speaker 2: specifically her. I really put one out there dress no

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Speaker 2: reader was actually very very nervous because I was like,

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Speaker 1: Had it happen in a sitcom where I was how

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Speaker 3: Be fun and you got yeah.

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Speaker 2: But I was definitely super intimidated. I mean, I also

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Speaker 2: and she's in a gay relationship. They have just adopt

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Speaker 2: the two kids by the way, and and like Calli

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Speaker 3: Was like, so now you're coming in to pressure. Oh wow.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And so I was like, oh my god, oh

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Speaker 4: my gosh, so crazy. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I just think that there there is this pressure to

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Speaker 1: be exactly as you were before you had a baby

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Speaker 1: and just come back and hit the ground running and

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Speaker 1: just like that. There's only like a physical act of

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Speaker 1: having a baby or delivering a baby, but right if

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Speaker 1: you have a baby, there's so many other things going

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Speaker 1: on and you're in your brain and your mind and

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Speaker 4: Your security and everything is kind of like wild. So

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Speaker 4: you got that part of me.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I apologies didn't feel that. But a party

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Speaker 2: takes a woman's body two years to fully recover from

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Speaker 2: a delivery.

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Speaker 4: I believe that.

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Speaker 2: What.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love the I'm ob on the show and

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm sorry, why there it is two years.

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Speaker 2: Years to fully recover.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Well you came on honestly everybody. I remember everybody loving you.

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Speaker 1: You were just so kind and so fun and you

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Speaker 1: always brought energy. I remember you telling me a story.

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Speaker 3: What's how the kids? And that's what happened, and we

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: I don't make eye contact. That don't provoke the like.

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Speaker 1: Right, you have to like the first step in the

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Speaker 2: How many don't I can't? Right? Right? Right?

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Speaker 2: Like? When is it? Okay?

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Speaker 3: I guess what can I say?

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Speaker 4: I've got moves.

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Speaker 2: Why I'm gonna try to Okay, Okay, So we're talking

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Speaker 3: Friend I was in I was ready to leave that.

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Speaker 4: I was you nicer. Guess.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just saying, maybe the reason why these people

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Speaker 3: Part of sex.

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Speaker 1: And I think that what's happening is that there's so

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Speaker 1: That's like there's no real foreplay. There's no there's no look,

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Speaker 3: You get on in there.

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Speaker 4: And then and then you brush by, and then you and.

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Speaker 1: And I think for play is probably happening less and

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Speaker 1: so people are missing out on the banging, the real banging.

450
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Speaker 2: I think there is definitely true. I think there is

451
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Speaker 2: multiple reasons today they feel less pressure to have a relationship,

452
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Speaker 2: Like they're more focused on their career, they're more ambitious,

453
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:04,000
Speaker 2: that they just give less attention to having a relationship

454
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Speaker 2: with boys or.

455
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Speaker 3: Girls or yeah, or making a family right exactly exactly exactly.

456
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Speaker 1: But then you always hear what what ends up happening,

457
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Speaker 1: which is that they bump up against the thing that's

458
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Speaker 1: harder to control, which is like the timeline of you know.

459
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Speaker 4: Liability, right if they want to you know what.

460
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Speaker 3: I think that we used to think that like it

461
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Speaker 3: had to be done in twenties, early thirties.

462
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Speaker 2: It's not true, not anymore. Yeah.

463
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Speaker 1: No, but well no, but sometimes if you that's a

464
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Speaker 1: privilege on some level because you might need medical and

465
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Speaker 1: that's expensive.

466
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Speaker 3: So I think the generation is willing to take the risk. Yeah,

467
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Speaker 3: I think that, you know, and they're willing to be like,

468
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Speaker 3: you know what, it's still not right right now, and

469
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Speaker 3: whatever happens will happen. Yeah, and they're not feeling that

470
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Speaker 3: pressure just to get it done so that they can.

471
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's very specific.

472
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Speaker 1: So this this generation thing, you know, I mean, yeah,

473
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Speaker 1: they did go through COVID and everything else, but I

474
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Speaker 1: don't know.

475
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Speaker 2: I mean, I have two nieces. They're like twenty nineteen

476
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Speaker 2: and twenty three. And I was talking to one of

477
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Speaker 2: them and she was like I met somebody, and I

478
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,320
Speaker 2: was like, okay, and then what now? And she was like, well,

479
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna see them for a few weeks to see

480
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Speaker 2: if I even like them as a person. And then

481
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Speaker 2: I'll take it from there. And I was like, I'm sorry, Yes.

482
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Speaker 4: They're gonna get banged. They banging party there st.

483
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Speaker 2: I was like, wow, this is so machure, so so

484
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Speaker 2: and I was like, I am a disaster. I got

485
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Speaker 2: into like a bomb. But then there's fires and ashes

486
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Speaker 2: and you're like, no waits as a person. Yeah.

487
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Speaker 3: I text my nieces for gen z yeah, and I said,

488
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Speaker 3: why do you think you guys are having less sex

489
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Speaker 3: and as a generation with you? And they were like,

490
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Speaker 3: no one we know goes out.

491
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Speaker 2: Wow, that's no good, Like we don't go out anymore, right.

492
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Speaker 3: Phone, And so I think it's the same. I think

493
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Speaker 3: even just like socially, there's not you know, everyone's sort

494
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Speaker 3: of content because they have social access on their phones, right,

495
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:06,720
Speaker 3: so they're feeling like they're being social. We would sit

496
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Speaker 3: and be like, we haven't talked to anybody. We got

497
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Speaker 3: to go get out. We would get bored.

498
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Speaker 2: There is it's so important to get bored because then

499
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Speaker 2: you come up with things to do and say and

500
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Speaker 2: to I get out of the border and I feel

501
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Speaker 2: like they don't get bored anymore.

502
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Speaker 3: Did you grow.

503
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Speaker 4: Up feeling comfortable talking about sex?

504
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Speaker 5: Oh?

505
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Speaker 2: Not at all.

506
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Speaker 4: I mean it's like massive taboo. Yeah you too, Oh.

507
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Speaker 1: God, I have said, I don't think I put all

508
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Speaker 1: the letters that are in masturbation together to form masturbation.

509
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Speaker 4: Until I was in my thirties, it just was not.

510
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Speaker 4: It was There were so many reasons.

511
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Speaker 2: Why I was just no what dance for me was

512
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Speaker 2: my outlet or my sensuality because I felt like I

513
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:47,880
Speaker 2: was on stage, I was playing a.

514
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Speaker 4: Character so could be very centraal.

515
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Speaker 2: So I loved it because I could express a part

516
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Speaker 2: of me that I wasn't really allowed to express at

517
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Speaker 2: home obviously or like amongst.

518
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Speaker 1: People there, and also respected for it exactly and seen

519
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Speaker 1: as doing something wonderful exactly.

520
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Speaker 3: How do your family feel that you're on a show

521
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Speaker 3: that talks about also your O B. Yeah, we're talking

522
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Speaker 3: about sex, toys and like all of it.

523
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Speaker 2: I don't think I've had a lot of conversations with

524
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Speaker 2: them about I feel like I have an older aunt

525
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 2: that is very conservative. She was like, would you know

526
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Speaker 2: I have picked a different role? I was like, if

527
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Speaker 2: you only knew how hard was to get this one.

528
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Speaker 4: When you arrive in Los Angeles.

529
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Speaker 2: But I was like, that's Funny's just so lets you

530
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Speaker 2: know how a little perspective they have, and I was like,

531
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Speaker 2: you know, you were all the products around, not bringing

532
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Speaker 2: She was also brought up in a Catholic environment, very conservative,

533
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Speaker 2: but I was like liberation. It felt so good to

534
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Speaker 2: just talk about.

535
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Speaker 4: All of that.

536
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but for me it was a late awakening as well.

537
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Speaker 2: Like I got my first vibrator five years ago, and

538
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Speaker 2: I was like, what.

539
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Speaker 1: Was I.

540
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Speaker 3: Vibrator five years ago?

541
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Speaker 2: Seven years ago?

542
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Speaker 3: Yes, seven years ago?

543
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Speaker 2: Years ago?

544
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Speaker 3: Can we ask which one? Because we had a whole

545
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 3: sex toy episode, you know, Yeah, I.

546
00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 2: Tried a few, and I feel like I've settled on

547
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 2: the little what is it.

548
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 3: The little curve. That's when we got lifted right, the

549
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Speaker 3: little kurvy curve.

550
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Speaker 4: I don't remember the curvy curve.

551
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 2: The curvy curve is good.

552
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 3: We really reach all the story that Pop had a

553
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:23,160
Speaker 3: really funny story about Jessica going and buying her very

554
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Speaker 3: first vibrator because she was.

555
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Speaker 4: It wasn't my first, wasn't one of them.

556
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Speaker 3: One of many collection, And she pretended in the store

557
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Speaker 3: that it was like a gift to somebody else, like gift,

558
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Speaker 3: but when you went in to buy your first vibrator

559
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Speaker 3: seven years ago.

560
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Speaker 2: Oh oh, no, no, no, I couldn't.

561
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Speaker 4: Or did you were like a sampling?

562
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Speaker 2: I did, and then I figured out and returned then

563
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Speaker 2: because obviously, again vibrators, I don't know a lot too many.

564
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Speaker 3: I love that. I love that you did that for yourself, though.

565
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Speaker 3: Are you seeing someone now?

566
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Speaker 2: No?

567
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Speaker 3: You are single? Oh my god. Okay, so we talked

568
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 3: about sex in Chicago, Yes, we did. And you had

569
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Speaker 3: read a book or many books about sex.

570
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Speaker 2: Several seven. Yeah, and I my sex revolution era?

571
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 3: Right about the sex revolution? Okay, yeah, what started the

572
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 3: sex revolution era?

573
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Speaker 2: I feel like there was so much I didn't know,

574
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 2: and I was like, I'm having a like a great

575
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 2: time having sex on my own, like being sexual on

576
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 2: my own, and when there is a partner involved, it's

577
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 2: always so hard. There's like so much people pleasing you

578
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 2: don't want. I feel like we don't get told how

579
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 2: to communicate our needs. We don't get we don't get

580
00:27:57,040 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 2: taught how to prioritize ourselves and our measure. It always like,

581
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:04,679
Speaker 2: you know, it's always like the other person and you're like,

582
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 2: I want to make sure that they're comfortable. I'm I'm

583
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 2: sure that they orgasm, and you want to sure and

584
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Speaker 2: in doing that, I feel like we I was fully

585
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 2: neglecting myself and I was like, hang on a second,

586
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 2: let me read more about it. And it's also there's

587
00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 2: like I think porn messed us up because it is

588
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 2: like this perception that sex is vaginal intercourse when eighty

589
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:30,440
Speaker 2: percent of women statistics again, do not reach orgasm through

590
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:34,679
Speaker 2: vaginal intercourse alone. They need Every time I say this,

591
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 2: I think about careinga because she said it in one

592
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Speaker 2: of the first.

593
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Speaker 3: Yes, a perfect little bundle.

594
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Speaker 2: On the outside outside simulation.

595
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

596
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Speaker 2: So I was like, there's a beautiful book called Come

597
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Speaker 2: as You Are.

598
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 3: Yes, Okay, it's like people read it.

599
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Speaker 4: I'm not I have it. I might even have as

600
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Speaker 4: an audiobook, but.

601
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Speaker 1: I've heard of it and people reade about it.

602
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 3: Tell me, I don't know what that is.

603
00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 2: We're all different, and I feel like raising our differences

604
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 2: is such an important part of our own sexuality and

605
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 2: figuring out what is it that we like, what is

606
00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 2: it that we don't like, and learning how to communicate

607
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 2: that to our partner, like listen, I need, yeah this,

608
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 2: I need that. I am not comfortable with this, and

609
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 2: I feel like I feel like I've always felt bad

610
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 2: saying I don't like this. It's so funny because I

611
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 2: feel like I'm a pretty confident person in real life,

612
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 2: but then in the intimate settings it's like this, like

613
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 2: weird old school, like the woman has to please.

614
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, but also don't you remember, like I can't reaching

615
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 1: way back in my memory, but you would do the

616
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 1: like you do the scoot or the like you like

617
00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 1: move like if something was happening sexual. Yeah, you would

618
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Speaker 1: be like you would like you wouldn't want to say

619
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Speaker 1: like you're not there, or like you go to the

620
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Speaker 1: left or the right.

621
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Speaker 4: I agree, like no one it didn't.

622
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Speaker 1: No one made it like a thing that instruct instruct

623
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Speaker 1: or even like it would feel like construction as opposed to.

624
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Speaker 3: So you would feel wrong, like you'd be like you

625
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 3: would feel like you're a moment.

626
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 2: You also feel like there's something wrong with you because

627
00:30:06,400 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 2: shows you that women do it like that and they're

628
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 2: totally happy with that, but I'm not, So there's something

629
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Speaker 2: wrong with me. And so reading that book kind of

630
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 2: makes you understand that there's nothing wrong with each and

631
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Speaker 2: every one of us, and it's okay.

632
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Speaker 3: But you have to have both partners.

633
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 2: You have to have somebody.

634
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Speaker 1: You have one partner, Yes, that and also it's like,

635
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Speaker 1: if you've seen one virginia, you've seen one vagina. And

636
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Speaker 1: also I was like, only like, you know, yesterday years old,

637
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Speaker 1: not quite close to when. Literally, I didn't even know

638
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Speaker 1: that vaginas looked as different as they do.

639
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Speaker 3: Literally just had this conversation. I had no giants know

640
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Speaker 3: the vaginas could look so different.

641
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Speaker 4: I have no idea so different. Phoenis has come in

642
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 4: lots of different shapes, sizes, vaginas do to.

643
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Speaker 2: Okay, going back to sex, I feel like this is

644
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Speaker 2: one thing that pisses me off about penis vagina that

645
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Speaker 2: we women. For us is so much harder to have

646
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Speaker 2: casual sex. I've never been able to have a one

647
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 2: eight stand. I think they're so overrated. I think I

648
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 2: was like, so you never.

649
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Speaker 3: Have I've never had a one I never had a

650
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Speaker 3: one eight stent.

651
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 2: I tried the casual sex, but I think I'm doing

652
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 2: it wrong because there's nothing casual but no, because my

653
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 2: freaking oxydosin kicks in. And even though the person, I

654
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 2: was like, I'm not into this person, but I was like,

655
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 2: I'll reach out just you know, because to be nice,

656
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 2: thank you, And then I ended up getting freaking ghosted

657
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 2: by people that I didn't care about in the first place,

658
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 2: and then.

659
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Speaker 3: My ego is that fair?

660
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Speaker 2: Yeah?

661
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, we didn't do it right. Wait, this is the

662
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 3: conversation that we had in Chicago. I found really fascinating.

663
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:44,360
Speaker 3: And you were telling me about that oxytocin. Yes, and

664
00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 3: so can you tell it to our listeners right now,

665
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 3: because I was like, whoa.

666
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 2: Apparently when women have sex for the first time, they

667
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 2: immediately release oxytocin, which is the hormone of love. They

668
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 2: call it now it makes you feel happy and in love,

669
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Speaker 2: and men only released stosterone. So if you happen to

670
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Speaker 2: have a one night stand with a man, the woman

671
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 2: walks away from it feeling like, oh my god, I

672
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:11,560
Speaker 2: love it, and the guys like, I go Starbucks, I

673
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 2: go do something else, and they even if it.

674
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 3: Was bad sex, Yes, it was bad sex.

675
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 2: And and men only released oxytocin when they start developing

676
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 2: feeling for the other person.

677
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 3: So there really is no emotional almost casual sex for

678
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 3: a lot of women. I feel like.

679
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 4: Maybe there is.

680
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 1: Well, go back to that, and do you know women

681
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 1: that are good at it?

682
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 4: Do you casual sex?

683
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 2: I wish? I mean, what's their secret? Are they just

684
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 2: very secure, maybe emotional.

685
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 4: Because it's not me.

686
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 1: So I don't know what I'm trying to think of

687
00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: what they reported expectations.

688
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 4: I think one thing I say.

689
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 3: Like when they when they like.

690
00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 1: When they went into it, it was specifically for that.

691
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm going to my first.

692
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 2: Time always sucks because I'm not comfortable. I don't feel safe,

693
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 2: I don't feel secure. So I'm like, why am I

694
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 2: even doing this? Yeah? Yeah, so what's the point? And

695
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 2: so I've stopped and the casual sex is not for me,

696
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 2: But I feel like, yeah, is.

697
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 3: There have you set like a new rule for yourself

698
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 3: where you're like you have you?

699
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:25,800
Speaker 2: You gave me a rule? It was like five dates?

700
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 3: Well I had I had back that day. I was

701
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 3: a five date rule. You had to take me out

702
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:32,240
Speaker 3: on five dates.

703
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 2: Yeah.

704
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 3: I felt like by five dates where I would be

705
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 3: able to have a vibe and I would sort of

706
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 3: know like what are you maybe looking for a little bit,

707
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 3: and then I could make the decision myself but also

708
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 3: make them wait, Okay, So.

709
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 2: This is my problems that I meet somebody and I

710
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 2: see and I have a very objective perception of who

711
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 2: they are, red flags everything. The minute I get intimate

712
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 2: with them, the red flags disappear and I only see

713
00:33:56,360 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 2: the good things. And so I'm going to start adopting

714
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 2: my niece's thing a few weeks. If I like you

715
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:07,640
Speaker 2: as a person, yeah, and like, also listen to my

716
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 2: first instinct.

717
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 3: See.

718
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 1: I don't know any thing about anything in the dating world,

719
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: but I feel like now with all this optionality that

720
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 1: I hear about happening in the app.

721
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 3: World, that.

722
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: Because I mean, let's face, it's not like every time

723
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:24,799
Speaker 1: you meet someone or the first time you meet someone

724
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 1: it's like.

725
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 4: Giant fireworks going off.

726
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 2: Right.

727
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 1: So let's say you like someone but you're still trying

728
00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: to figure out if you really like them. Then if

729
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:34,359
Speaker 1: you're waiting all this time, is there this moment where

730
00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 1: the other person is like, Okay, great, I'm waiting. So

731
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 1: I guess if I'm waiting, this is casual. And so

732
00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 1: if this is casual, then I'm still this is what

733
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,759
Speaker 1: I'm imagining again, I don't have to wait.

734
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,560
Speaker 2: Queen of Blue Balls, When I was younger, what did

735
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 2: they tell us?

736
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 5: Came up?

737
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 4: And I felt bad, Oh my god, I gave you love?

738
00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 3: I love it? How can I am possibly give you

739
00:34:59,200 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 3: love it? I love it?

740
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 2: Power because I lose the power I was.

741
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:06,439
Speaker 4: I clearly have just established myself as.

742
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 3: More of a people. Oh no, you have blue balls?

743
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:12,799
Speaker 2: Okay, can we fix it?

744
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:18,359
Speaker 3: Sorry about I didn't give it a blue balls either.

745
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:26,720
Speaker 3: Right now, you're on the sexual revolutionary journey for yourself.

746
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

747
00:35:27,040 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 2: I tried that, like I'm going to have sex like

748
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:30,759
Speaker 2: a man thing. It didn't work out for me.

749
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:32,439
Speaker 3: Okay, so I don't work out for you. That's okay.

750
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,440
Speaker 1: You know what, you have a basis now, you have

751
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 1: a starting point exactly, and maybe you're just not good

752
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 1: at it yet.

753
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 2: No, I think I'm going back to my twenties how

754
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 2: I used to handle relationships in my twenties.

755
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:46,880
Speaker 4: Just time, be easy. Yes.

756
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:50,359
Speaker 3: Do you feel more confident now that if you were

757
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 3: to get into a relationship and become intimate, that you

758
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:55,320
Speaker 3: can vocalize what you need?

759
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely, that's awesome.

760
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 4: She couldn't handle my five sec and stare a second ago.

761
00:36:03,280 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 3: Believe she loved it. I said, calm it down, I'm sweating.

762
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 2: See.

763
00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 1: I think that that's sort of a magical, wonderful thing.

764
00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 1: And I think it's got to do with mindset and also,

765
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:22,239
Speaker 1: you know how your life unfolds but looking at your

766
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 1: life and saying, I'm going to go back to where

767
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 1: I was in my twenties.

768
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 4: And be.

769
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,720
Speaker 3: Clearly so much more grown.

770
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 1: The other thing that I thought of when I was

771
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 1: thinking about you and sitting here with you today was

772
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:41,400
Speaker 1: that you I see you with the fans, and I

773
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 1: see the way that Station nineteen has rolled out for you,

774
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 1: and just this incredible presence and relationship that you created

775
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 1: on television for people to see and to experience and

776
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,959
Speaker 1: to again I see people with you, I see people

777
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 1: interact and like, they're so grateful to you for having

778
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 1: brought this role, because it allowed for them to see

779
00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:06,040
Speaker 1: themselves in a show there was mainstream and wonderful and

780
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 1: accepted and whole and all these things.

781
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 4: So you have done that, and that is so beautiful

782
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:12,880
Speaker 4: to watch. And I.

783
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:18,280
Speaker 1: Think that it made me also think of when I started,

784
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: And it wasn't so much more or so much before you,

785
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 1: but when I came to Grays and it was revealed

786
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 1: in episode three that my character was gay, there were

787
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 1: no other gay series regular characters on television. We were

788
00:37:37,719 --> 00:37:40,920
Speaker 1: doing something that other it just hadn't kind of hadn't

789
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:44,960
Speaker 1: been done, and it was paired with the fact that

790
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 1: I had spent my entire career up until then doing

791
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 1: half hour sitcoms where it wasn't.

792
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 4: A lot of sexy time.

793
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 3: Wow, And then I was on you know, a.

794
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:57,719
Speaker 1: Legal show a lot of sexy time, and then here

795
00:37:57,760 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 1: I was in this show than a character and then

796
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:03,799
Speaker 1: having all this sexy time, and I'd sort of seen

797
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:06,239
Speaker 1: myself as this psch you know, I'm just gonna be

798
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 1: you know, I don't I don't even know what I'd

799
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 1: pegged myself as. But I hadn't seen myself as sexy.

800
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:11,760
Speaker 3: I just didn't.

801
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 1: I didn't own myself as a sexy person. And so

802
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 1: I look at the time that you know, we were

803
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 1: telling all those stories, and I'm really proud that that

804
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:23,760
Speaker 1: Sata and I were able to bring these scenes to life,

805
00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 1: given that I kind of wasn't so confident, and then

806
00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:30,399
Speaker 1: you know, you and I getting to play and being

807
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 1: a little bit more confident.

808
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 4: But again, what was the first thing I said? I

809
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 4: just had a baby.

810
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 3: And like, I do.

811
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 1: Think that when you talk about sex, this is all

812
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 1: going back to whether you're having it or or not.

813
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:44,800
Speaker 1: I think that having a vibrant, healthy and robust sex

814
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 1: life does maybe come.

815
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:49,920
Speaker 3: Side saddle or at least there's a sidecar.

816
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 1: Of confidence for you know, being knowing who you are

817
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:55,600
Speaker 1: coming into a relationship and being like this is not

818
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 1: like this is how I like it, take it or

819
00:38:57,120 --> 00:38:58,919
Speaker 1: leave it, but like this is how I like it,

820
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:00,880
Speaker 1: you know, like I like, I like a little of

821
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 1: this first and again the foreplay.

822
00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 4: Like and maybe you know, I don't, I don't know.

823
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,200
Speaker 1: Just having having role models that are showing you like, yeah,

824
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:14,680
Speaker 1: that that the that the dance is fun. It makes

825
00:39:14,880 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 1: like coming a lot more fun and feel a lot better.

826
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 3: When you have that, even if it's going to be casual.

827
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 4: I guess I'm making this up.

828
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:24,920
Speaker 1: I don't know, but like you've gotten some sort of

829
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:27,439
Speaker 1: like lead up. It's not just like you know, you're

830
00:39:27,480 --> 00:39:31,480
Speaker 1: straight into it because I don't think I'm not a doctor,

831
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: but I don't think that that's how you know, a

832
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,399
Speaker 1: lot of people feel about it. I just don't think

833
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:41,319
Speaker 1: that they can go straight into like banging and not.

834
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 2: At least women, mostly women, I think for us is

835
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 2: a lot more. Yeah, but yeah, like I think even men,

836
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:53,359
Speaker 2: like in general, like we need a little bit more

837
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 2: than just hey you want to hook up?

838
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, exactly, Yeah, yeah, definitely all right. Basically I

839
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 4: think that it's a funny and nice characters need to

840
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:04,719
Speaker 4: come back to take two.

841
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 3: I would love that, honest.

842
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you know what, you know what, I

843
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 2: can pitch this, let's pitch this, and there is the chemistry,

844
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:20,360
Speaker 2: but they're never doing anything because.

845
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 5: Which is so there's attention where these two characters you

846
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 5: can feel the tension, but they I'm like kids and

847
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:31,560
Speaker 5: they never do so amazing.

848
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 3: Okay, ready for this questions? Okay, you go, you got

849
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 3: to ask ask what is your biggest turn on on? Yeah?

850
00:40:59,400 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 2: Patient?

851
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 3: Oh wow?

852
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, tolerance, patience.

853
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:06,760
Speaker 3: Because I got that's very sexy.

854
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:09,759
Speaker 2: Somebody's patient. It means it's gonna say they're going to

855
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:10,319
Speaker 2: take their tongue.

856
00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 3: That's a great.

857
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:13,399
Speaker 4: Yeah.

858
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:16,839
Speaker 3: Lena says, what is your favorite possession in bed?

859
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:22,920
Speaker 1: Wow? What the I was just so you know you

860
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 1: considering you kissing part of it?

861
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 3: Kissing is your favorite part? Yeah?

862
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 4: Kissing, y'all like I can make out forever?

863
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 1: Yeah?

864
00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:33,840
Speaker 3: I know why kissing?

865
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 2: I know?

866
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love a makeout sash.

867
00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:37,959
Speaker 2: Yeah.

868
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 3: Okay, as Stella.

869
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 1: This happens more than you would think. Estella wrote in

870
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 1: and said, I am twenty and have never had an

871
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 1: orgasm in my life. I have tried toys and I

872
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 1: feel like nothing works. Do you have any advice?

873
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 2: And I feel like you're not alone in I'd like

874
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 2: to sell you alone in that does. I feel like

875
00:41:56,280 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 2: it's super important thing. I feel like there's a lot

876
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 2: of resources resources there. I feel like come as you

877
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 2: are as a great resource. There's also a lot of

878
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 2: sex therapists that actually do physical manipulation that can help

879
00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 2: with like figuring out what some blocks can be. It's

880
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 2: mostly it's usually it's mental, it's psychological. It's like you

881
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 2: decide that you can't and it's like, yeah, you make

882
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 2: yourself not able to. But I feel like comas you're

883
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 2: as a great resource. And I feel like there's actually

884
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:30,360
Speaker 2: a great TV series on Netflix about sex specifically, and

885
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,120
Speaker 2: there's a few therapists that can be I mean, and

886
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:36,879
Speaker 2: you know what it's called I can't, I can't sex life.

887
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 3: It could be that possibly called sex life.

888
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 2: Possibly called sex life. I think I'll get back, maybe

889
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:43,440
Speaker 2: I'll comment on your guys on the podcast once it

890
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 2: comes out with like specific resources. Yeah, I love that.

891
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 2: Yeah absolutely.

892
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 1: Shannas asked did you learn anything about sex from Korena well, I.

893
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 2: Feel like my sex reinvolution started with her, Like because

894
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 2: of her study, I started research and looking into it,

895
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 2: and you know, like a Sarah Parell was amazing inspiration

896
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 2: and I feel like all this filled those I love

897
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,759
Speaker 2: how free and willing to.

898
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 1: I want to have ask her on this show. So

899
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:13,799
Speaker 1: maybe you need to come back for that.

900
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 3: Oh my god, would you come back on for it?

901
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:17,720
Speaker 3: Oh my god, It's okay.

902
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 1: She's amazing because she's also what I think is so

903
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 1: magical about her is that she really is talking about

904
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 1: the mind and the body.

905
00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 3: Exact and the relationships because.

906
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:35,360
Speaker 2: And she just makes everything okay, everything exactly, have a judgment,

907
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:39,360
Speaker 2: just whatever it is, It's okay. Mating and Captivity is

908
00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:40,240
Speaker 2: such a good book.

909
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 4: Mating and Captivity book. Why did you skip over the

910
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,959
Speaker 4: first question? Why don't you read that it last?

911
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:51,240
Speaker 3: Jessica Capshaw would like me to read leases?

912
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 2: What is it?

913
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 3: What was it like to kiss the Queen? Jessica Capshaw

914
00:43:55,920 --> 00:44:03,360
Speaker 3: Queen the Queen's typo obviously, but what was hot?

915
00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: Hot?

916
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:07,760
Speaker 3: It was?

917
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:13,800
Speaker 2: It made up like a fair mom actually, But I

918
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 2: think one of the sexiest things that that Karina and Arizona.

919
00:44:18,160 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 1: Was a little bit the dance of like I feel

920
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:22,160
Speaker 1: like Arizona was always like trying to be at work.

921
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:24,879
Speaker 1: Karina was always just like right.

922
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:25,600
Speaker 4: Over her shoulder.

923
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I can like.

924
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 4: Yes, And I was always like.

925
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:37,240
Speaker 3: Work, Mike. I just had a total memory.

926
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 2: What do you remember the original scene?

927
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:40,919
Speaker 3: Please sell?

928
00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:42,319
Speaker 2: Please do?

929
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 3: I just thought about that too.

930
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:50,879
Speaker 1: I well, I'm actually so happy that I'm you never

931
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:55,280
Speaker 1: remember anything. I never God, this is not self serving,

932
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 1: but this is so amazing that I just talked about

933
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 1: what I talked about.

934
00:44:57,920 --> 00:44:59,640
Speaker 3: Because it makes this makes sense.

935
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 4: Okay, so again everything I've already said, I'm back. I

936
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 4: just have a baby. I didn't.

937
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 1: I really didn't consider myself super like sexual.

938
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 4: I didn't have that like confidence in coming to these scenes.

939
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:14,920
Speaker 3: And and so the scene gets written and I read

940
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:17,839
Speaker 3: it probably before the table read, and the table read.

941
00:45:17,880 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 2: That's what we write, that's.

942
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:24,080
Speaker 3: What we talk about, making me red sweaty and like, Okay,

943
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:26,320
Speaker 3: this is what I remember, but this could be different.

944
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 1: Essentially, it was that she comes in while I'm working, yes,

945
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:34,280
Speaker 1: and has the over the shoulder.

946
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 4: Moment, but is under the table with a hand fully like.

947
00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 2: Full in.

948
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:50,400
Speaker 3: Stimulation, and you're using your hand to sort of she

949
00:45:50,680 --> 00:45:59,759
Speaker 3: down there, yes, and I I turned every ship read

950
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 3: like red and was like did you shoot?

951
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 2: Because ABC was like you crazy? Read the table like,

952
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:14,720
Speaker 2: what is it so hot?

953
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 4: I start like beating faster than normal.

954
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, because I forgot about it.

955
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:24,680
Speaker 2: Oh, I just remember it, that's crazy.

956
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 3: It was a student.

957
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:30,240
Speaker 1: Well you know what, I think you stimulated that memory

958
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 1: by saying kiss the Queen Jessica.

959
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:34,520
Speaker 4: When you said those.

960
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 3: Lies, I can't really read it. Did you want to

961
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 3: borrow my glasses?

962
00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 2: And I said, okay, enough of that anyway, okay, okay.

963
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:49,319
Speaker 3: Hannah asks and we started this. I want to answer

964
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 3: this too. What are your X doing sex? What can

965
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 3: I go first?

966
00:46:55,560 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 4: Which did you answer? I did?

967
00:46:57,440 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 2: Let you smell? Smell wait, like natural.

968
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 3: Smell. Ever have you ever had a Oh you've had

969
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 3: a stinky hasn't everyone. I'm trying to think. No, I

970
00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:13,680
Speaker 3: don't think I got a steak full on. They left.

971
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 2: I had to change the sheets, like the morning, take.

972
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 3: Shanley steamers, next morning, Steely, that's garbe it's cleaner.

973
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:30,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my Stanley Steamers. At three o'clock in the morning, shower,

974
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 2: wash the hair, like everything. I was like, smell Yeah,

975
00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 2: just wrong, body, just so wrong.

976
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:42,840
Speaker 3: I was like, it was like body, I think it

977
00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:44,760
Speaker 3: was like natural fair.

978
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:47,520
Speaker 2: Not agreed.

979
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 3: Did you smell it before the clothes came off? God?

980
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's actually might be the best that

981
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 1: I've ever heard.

982
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 3: What's I was gonna say? I really can't stand it

983
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 3: when guys keep their socks on.

984
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 1: That alkay's funny they keep their socks.

985
00:48:12,360 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 3: Specifically talking about that business business, just the s I

986
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 3: have and I have girlfriends who have had the experience

987
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 3: where a guys decided to keep their socks on.

988
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 2: Naked.

989
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:39,359
Speaker 1: There may be a real good reason there may be well,

990
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:40,920
Speaker 1: because that could be an that would.

991
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:41,239
Speaker 4: Be anick for me.

992
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:44,000
Speaker 1: Have you ever seen some of the nasty, nasty toes

993
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: some men are walking around with.

994
00:48:45,640 --> 00:48:47,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, maybe the socks should be on.

995
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 4: That's maybe they're doing you a favor.

996
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:51,320
Speaker 2: Could you date them long term.

997
00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 4: If they kept their socks on all the time?

998
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:57,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, they had disgusting I think we would just to

999
00:48:57,200 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 1: get a little pedicure, Yeah, and then feel.

1000
00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 3: Really bad for the person that was Yeah, a little

1001
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 3: Valentine Valentine. Maybe pad of cures are going to be

1002
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:09,200
Speaker 3: the gift yea, yeah.

1003
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, what is your turn off?

1004
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:11,640
Speaker 2: Uh?

1005
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 3: We got to dig back into no good, dig back

1006
00:49:17,320 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 3: into you know, dating days.

1007
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:26,080
Speaker 1: I oh, I mean remember when you had this problem before.

1008
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 1: I mean because you basically you said that all my

1009
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:30,880
Speaker 1: all my ex were just really actually like knows like

1010
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:34,560
Speaker 1: you just could not do that. I think this one

1011
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:36,799
Speaker 1: guy smell is such a good one, and I really

1012
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 1: because it's actually instantly repellent. But I definitely like kissed

1013
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 1: a boy who man he was man. I kissed a

1014
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: man who.

1015
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 4: Had breath like he smelled like hot dogs, and I

1016
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:48,839
Speaker 4: was like, this can't I don't even think I can

1017
00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 4: do the hot dog.

1018
00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:50,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1019
00:49:50,160 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 4: I actually tried a second time.

1020
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 1: I was like, maybe this is a fluke and then seconds.

1021
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:56,360
Speaker 2: Not the worst, but it's not great either. No, I

1022
00:49:56,400 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 2: don't know about cigarette smell. I kind of love it.

1023
00:49:58,880 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: Well that's because you're like a yeah, yeah, my and

1024
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 1: also my advocate, my my, my, My. Funny part of

1025
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: the hot dog smell guy was that it happened like

1026
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:11,480
Speaker 1: super early in my twenties, like New York, like makeout sash,

1027
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 1: and then he went on to become very famous and

1028
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 1: then when I saw him, whenever I saw him, I

1029
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:20,520
Speaker 1: was like, you maybe your breath smells like hot dogs.

1030
00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 2: We want the name, we want the name. Initial issues.

1031
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:28,000
Speaker 3: Absolutely, this is one of those af these conversations.

1032
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:43,319
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Isabelle, how important is sexual compatibility for

1033
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 6: you in a relationship?

1034
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 2: Everything? Yeah that was your friends.

1035
00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I agreed. This is my question.

1036
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:53,239
Speaker 4: It's not from anyone, but it's an old question and

1037
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:55,440
Speaker 4: we've been debating it for a while. Because it happened.

1038
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:58,280
Speaker 4: We probably introduced it to the crew in the summer.

1039
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:02,240
Speaker 3: Do you feel m oh, yeah, it is possible.

1040
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:08,840
Speaker 4: For a man and a woman, uh huh to truly

1041
00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 4: just be friends.

1042
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:18,920
Speaker 3: Yes, no, yes, we have different opinions on it, she says, yes,

1043
00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 3: I think, I think.

1044
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 2: No, but I I have some some of my closest

1045
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:29,480
Speaker 2: friends are men. Yes, a lot of them are women,

1046
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 2: but I am so I have friends which when I'm

1047
00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 2: we met, we had a lot of chemistry, but we

1048
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:42,640
Speaker 2: never went for it, and so the chemistry is always

1049
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 2: kind of somewhere that they're saying, but we've never we've

1050
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 2: made the choice. And now the thought of having sex

1051
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:51,439
Speaker 2: with them it makes me giggle. I'm like, yeah, never

1052
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:52,840
Speaker 2: because we're like past that.

1053
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:55,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, or you're in a relationship there in a relationship

1054
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:55,800
Speaker 1: and you wouldn't.

1055
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:58,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I feel like we've just been so long.

1056
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:01,960
Speaker 3: I mean I have to say, I say, it's not possible.

1057
00:52:02,680 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 3: Of course it's possible. My very very best guy friend,

1058
00:52:05,680 --> 00:52:08,440
Speaker 3: my very very best friend, is a guy and.

1059
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:09,879
Speaker 4: He married us.

1060
00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:12,040
Speaker 3: He married me and Matt, and we can totally like

1061
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:13,359
Speaker 3: I was there, you were.

1062
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 4: There for it.

1063
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:15,799
Speaker 3: We could go and we could go to the movie

1064
00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:18,520
Speaker 3: theater and we could have dinner. However, I do think

1065
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 3: it's extremely rare. I think that, like, could you if

1066
00:52:25,560 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 3: you were both single, could you go have dinner and

1067
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:31,759
Speaker 3: get drunk and it not even be like a little

1068
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 3: like that.

1069
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:38,319
Speaker 2: It's always that, but it is never acted. Okay, I

1070
00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:40,879
Speaker 2: have a lot of guy friends that are single and

1071
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:46,600
Speaker 2: we've been drunk and I feel like we're at home. Yeah,

1072
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 2: but nothing has ever happened, but it's kind of fun.

1073
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:49,960
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1074
00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:53,120
Speaker 1: I add to this though, that I feel like, if

1075
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:56,719
Speaker 1: you are friends and there is anything that could make

1076
00:52:56,760 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 1: it tip away or whatever, but once you do, you

1077
00:53:01,520 --> 00:53:03,080
Speaker 1: can never go back to me exactly.

1078
00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:05,359
Speaker 3: I know that sucks. It changes for sure.

1079
00:53:05,440 --> 00:53:06,959
Speaker 2: And also that's why I don't.

1080
00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:08,239
Speaker 4: I think that's why you don't.

1081
00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:13,280
Speaker 1: Yeahnt especially Yeah, I have one where I wish I didn't.

1082
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:16,320
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, you can't wish that you didn't, because

1083
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:20,440
Speaker 1: I certainly enjoyed that the place of our relationship. But

1084
00:53:20,719 --> 00:53:23,439
Speaker 1: it's ultimately it wasn't worth it because.

1085
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:25,040
Speaker 4: You lost your friendships of friendship.

1086
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, that sucks.

1087
00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 2: That's the thing that I hate about relationships that a

1088
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:30,799
Speaker 2: lot of time, when a relationship ends, you're like, where

1089
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:33,240
Speaker 2: does the love go? Five years?

1090
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:33,680
Speaker 4: Eight years?

1091
00:53:33,680 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 2: So you were everything for one another? Why can you

1092
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:38,279
Speaker 2: not say friends? I hate that.

1093
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:38,919
Speaker 3: I don't think.

1094
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 1: I don't think the love goes away. I think it

1095
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:42,640
Speaker 1: becomes quiet.

1096
00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:45,759
Speaker 3: Well, I just think that you can. I just I

1097
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:47,360
Speaker 3: think it would be a very rare.

1098
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 4: All please write in and tell us that it's happened to.

1099
00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 1: You were It's it's just so impossible to think that

1100
00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:55,680
Speaker 1: these two people that are in relationship that were friends

1101
00:53:55,680 --> 00:53:57,879
Speaker 1: the new each air like that are then in relationship

1102
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:00,400
Speaker 1: in a romantic way. They're not going to stop baking

1103
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:02,640
Speaker 1: each other in the exact same moment. And then I

1104
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:05,160
Speaker 1: think our ego comes in and then we go like

1105
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: or you feel like on some level, now this.

1106
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:10,080
Speaker 4: Friendship that was always.

1107
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:14,399
Speaker 1: Equal is now not because you had something together and

1108
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:16,759
Speaker 1: now you don't and you know who it.

1109
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:19,200
Speaker 4: Was that was like, true, this is not for us.

1110
00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:20,160
Speaker 4: So true.

1111
00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:23,359
Speaker 2: It takes a very mature set of people, I think,

1112
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:25,239
Speaker 2: to be able to do that, and it also takes time.

1113
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 2: I feel like you might be able to do that,

1114
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:30,680
Speaker 2: but after like maybe being a part for an extended

1115
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 2: period of agreed.

1116
00:54:32,320 --> 00:54:34,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it makes me very sad.

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Speaker 3: It's self pleasure important to you.

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00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:40,280
Speaker 2: Oh, super important. I have a glorious time with myself.

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00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:44,160
Speaker 3: Amazing. We love that. Yeah, I'm glad, no, because I

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00:54:44,200 --> 00:54:46,440
Speaker 3: feel like Grace was a great job of this. By

1121
00:54:46,480 --> 00:54:49,800
Speaker 3: the way, I feel like for guys for so long,

1122
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:53,120
Speaker 3: they were like masturbation was like, yeah, that's guys do that,

1123
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 3: But for girls it was like, oh yeah, don't you

1124
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 3: feel that? And so like I just feel like that's

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00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:59,319
Speaker 3: got to change. So I love Oh yeah, we've talked

1126
00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 3: about it, but I I love hearing the answer. Okay,

1127
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:04,880
Speaker 3: Helen wants to know in real life, did your sexual

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00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 3: preferences change at all when you decided to play a

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00:55:07,840 --> 00:55:08,840
Speaker 3: bisexual woman.

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Speaker 2: That's a good question. I definitely, I definitely asked myself questions. Yeah,

1131
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:21,359
Speaker 2: I definitely fantasized over like things that I were not

1132
00:55:21,640 --> 00:55:24,360
Speaker 2: really my first kiss was with a girl, Like my

1133
00:55:24,400 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 2: first ever kiss a kid was like to another girl.

1134
00:55:28,760 --> 00:55:30,040
Speaker 2: So I feel like it's always been.

1135
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Speaker 3: Everyone or is that like you didn't kiss You don't know,

1136
00:55:34,400 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 3: I've never kissed a girl.

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00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 2: Interesting, but like I had full on like wife and

1138
00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:45,040
Speaker 2: wife get dates with this little girl, husband and wife.

1139
00:55:45,719 --> 00:55:47,000
Speaker 2: Yeah that's cute.

1140
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:48,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's really cute.

1141
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:54,759
Speaker 4: Practice, Like I see people doing this.

1142
00:55:54,960 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 2: Have you seen people doing this thing practice?

1143
00:55:58,280 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1144
00:55:58,560 --> 00:56:02,880
Speaker 3: Apparently, but this is a workship but yeah, yeah, but

1145
00:56:02,920 --> 00:56:05,279
Speaker 3: this question is not a workshop question, is.

1146
00:56:05,440 --> 00:56:07,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like definitely, And I feel like again

1147
00:56:07,120 --> 00:56:11,320
Speaker 2: my sex revolution face started with like grays and stations.

1148
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 2: I feel like I started like, oh exploring.

1149
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:16,920
Speaker 3: Do you feel more open to sort of like whoever

1150
00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:19,480
Speaker 3: you meet, it doesn't matter.

1151
00:56:20,600 --> 00:56:22,680
Speaker 2: And men and women all the time. Yeah, I don't know,

1152
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,880
Speaker 2: but I'm like right now, I'm like trying to give myself.

1153
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna date myself for a bit. I feel like

1154
00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:29,799
Speaker 2: that's good that and figure out.

1155
00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:33,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think that's I think that's really cool.

1156
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:35,240
Speaker 3: Have you talked about that before?

1157
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:35,839
Speaker 2: No?

1158
00:56:36,480 --> 00:56:39,680
Speaker 3: Oh my god, they're going to go crazy. I'm going

1159
00:56:39,760 --> 00:56:41,880
Speaker 3: to go crazy. No, I think it's such a beautiful

1160
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:45,719
Speaker 3: thing because I think that a lot of people, like,

1161
00:56:45,760 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 3: there's a girl here who's written to us saying, I've

1162
00:56:47,600 --> 00:56:50,080
Speaker 3: never had an orgasm in life, right, yeah, and she's

1163
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:53,240
Speaker 3: twenty yeah. And to be in our forties and still

1164
00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:56,719
Speaker 3: figuring it out and knowing that it's a journey. I

1165
00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 3: just think it's very powerful to share with anybody.

1166
00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:02,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that that's such an evolved way to

1167
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:03,799
Speaker 1: come at it.

1168
00:57:04,360 --> 00:57:07,640
Speaker 2: Yeah. Literally, I feel like lately, like like a few

1169
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:10,600
Speaker 2: weeks ago, I went out and that waitress was super cute,

1170
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:14,840
Speaker 2: like tomboy, short hair, like cute, and we were flirting

1171
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 2: in the whole dinner, and I was like, Wow, I

1172
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:18,280
Speaker 2: think I need to have sex with a woman because

1173
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 2: I think that's the only time that I would be

1174
00:57:20,000 --> 00:57:24,360
Speaker 2: able to put all the preconception like having sex with

1175
00:57:24,440 --> 00:57:28,200
Speaker 2: the man away and like interesting to be present, because

1176
00:57:28,240 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 2: I feel like that's what happens sometimes when you have

1177
00:57:30,040 --> 00:57:36,560
Speaker 2: sex you're not present. You're like, yeah, you can multitask naturally, ask.

1178
00:57:38,360 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 3: You know, so you just so I understand you're saying

1179
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:44,000
Speaker 3: that you feel like you might be able to be

1180
00:57:44,320 --> 00:57:45,560
Speaker 3: more present with a woman.

1181
00:57:45,720 --> 00:57:48,360
Speaker 2: Thinks so interesting, What is it? What is it?

1182
00:57:48,400 --> 00:57:48,920
Speaker 4: Though that you.

1183
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 2: I think it's like upbringing this social like baggage that

1184
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 2: we bring with ourselves, Like we have to be a

1185
00:57:56,360 --> 00:57:58,280
Speaker 2: certain way with men, we have to be Like I

1186
00:57:58,320 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 2: feel like I've definitely used sex to manipulate somebody to

1187
00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:06,360
Speaker 2: like me more. Yeah, and where does that come from?

1188
00:58:06,560 --> 00:58:09,080
Speaker 2: Why do I start like it's definitely another thought that

1189
00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:13,400
Speaker 2: came from me? You know, like I'm battling a little

1190
00:58:13,440 --> 00:58:15,919
Speaker 2: bit with like what's me and what's stuff that people

1191
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:18,720
Speaker 2: have told me? I've watched people do and I'm.

1192
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 3: Shaking it off. Yes, and so sex with a woman

1193
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 3: maybe wouldn't have all that noise.

1194
00:58:24,200 --> 00:58:27,280
Speaker 2: That pressure, would just like exactly exactly, it wouldn't have

1195
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:29,000
Speaker 2: all that noise. That's what it feels like.

1196
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:30,800
Speaker 4: I love this.

1197
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:32,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is.

1198
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 3: A fantas Okay, I feel like you are in I

1199
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:38,640
Speaker 3: feel like you're in a Your vibration is very evolved

1200
00:58:38,680 --> 00:58:41,080
Speaker 3: right now. Oh yeah, Like I feel like it's all

1201
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 3: very feel journey. Yeah, yeah for sure.

1202
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:45,080
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1203
00:58:45,160 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 1: I usually I usually get to be older sister in

1204
00:58:47,000 --> 00:58:48,720
Speaker 1: this little duo, but I'm feeling.

1205
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:54,000
Speaker 3: Younger, a little bit stid a bit.

1206
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Speaker 1: I love this, but I know, I mean, dare I

1207
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:02,480
Speaker 1: say I do thing for those that have their eyes

1208
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:06,400
Speaker 1: and ears open to it. This kind of conversation is happening,

1209
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 1: and I think it's so incredibly important, a great to

1210
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: every age, right, I mean reprogramming. We talk about it

1211
00:59:15,960 --> 00:59:18,400
Speaker 1: a lot where it's like it's the reset button that

1212
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:20,080
Speaker 1: which has not served you.

1213
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:21,520
Speaker 4: What the do you need it for anymore?

1214
00:59:22,040 --> 00:59:22,240
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1215
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 2: Idea, like what's like sub conscious programming?

1216
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 4: The book is because you were talking about Come As

1217
00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:28,400
Speaker 4: You Are.

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00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 3: The other one is she comes first, She comes first.

1219
00:59:30,720 --> 00:59:38,040
Speaker 2: I love I So this is so hot hearing somebody.

1220
00:59:38,120 --> 00:59:42,080
Speaker 2: I'm listening to it so to somebody explain how they're

1221
00:59:42,080 --> 00:59:42,760
Speaker 2: going to go down.

1222
00:59:48,320 --> 00:59:49,760
Speaker 3: On the side of the one on one.

1223
00:59:51,920 --> 00:59:53,000
Speaker 6: She comes.

1224
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:55,680
Speaker 4: You are, and she comes first.

1225
00:59:56,240 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 3: Authors of those books, which.

1226
00:59:57,560 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 2: Are Emily Nagowski. I think it's Come As You Are

1227
01:00:01,400 --> 01:00:05,680
Speaker 2: and I and Curner is she comes first, come on?

1228
01:00:06,120 --> 01:00:06,960
Speaker 3: Oh my god?

1229
01:00:07,160 --> 01:00:07,400
Speaker 2: Yes?

1230
01:00:08,040 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 3: Then and then yes a third. Yeah, it feels right.

1231
01:00:18,280 --> 01:00:19,800
Speaker 3: You can have the look I'll give you. Let's just

1232
01:00:19,800 --> 01:00:22,360
Speaker 3: don't give me that look. We just all like, look

1233
01:00:22,400 --> 01:00:28,080
Speaker 3: at look at what look? Okay, we have to let

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01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:31,480
Speaker 3: you go. Thank you for being just so open for

1235
01:00:31,560 --> 01:00:34,400
Speaker 3: the podcast and for all our listeners, I mean and

1236
01:00:34,480 --> 01:00:35,200
Speaker 3: open in life.

1237
01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:37,920
Speaker 4: Truly, every single time I see you, I so enjoy it.

1238
01:00:37,960 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 4: I love being with you, and thank you, thank you,

1239
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:41,680
Speaker 4: thank you.

1240
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:44,919
Speaker 2: Yeah right, you guys, it's been such a pleasure. Thank

1241
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:45,520
Speaker 2: you so much.

1242
01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:48,000
Speaker 3: This is this is the first of many people. This

1243
01:00:48,080 --> 01:00:53,080
Speaker 3: is not Stefani's only podcast true moment, but the

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Speaker 4: End of the episode