WEBVTT - EP 442: Roses & Break-Ups (ft. Serayah) 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.760 Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say 0:00:02.800 --> 0:00:06.040 decision decisions. It sounded like you was talking to did Kirsten? 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:09.400 You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast. 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:15.600 Oh wait, you want to say together Decisions Decisions. 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:17.960 Today on Decisions Decisions ladies. 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:19.959 Oh, there we go. That's all we needed. That's all 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:21.760 we needed. Welcome, y'all to. 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:24.320 Another episode of Decisions Decisions. I'm your girl, Mandy b 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:28.440 aka Peg Decillion aka Peg and Marco aka Peggy Bundy 0:00:28.440 --> 0:00:29.720 aka Dead Bitch. 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:32.400 Hey, y'all, I'm Weezy, and we have a guest in 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:34.200 the villa, Danne. Don't know if you've ever heard of Ruth. 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:36.640 We can call her Babe Ruth, or. 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:40.440 We can her as Soreya y'all. She is a singer, actress, 0:00:40.440 --> 0:00:43.920 and all around creative powerhouse. You may have first fell 0:00:43.960 --> 0:00:46.000 in love with her as Tiana Brown on Fox's hit 0:00:46.080 --> 0:00:49.080 series Empire, and since then she's lit up the screen 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.680 in films like Burning Sands and Favorite Son, but also, 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:56.640 most recently, because we all Got Netflix, Ruth and Boaz. 0:00:56.960 --> 0:01:00.120 She also has her own land in music with her 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:04.000 R and B infused sound. Welcome to the goddamn podcast. 0:01:04.480 --> 0:01:05.560 Thank you for having me. 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:07.560 I it just hit me when you said R and 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:10.880 B and the cow pants? Is this for the country girl? 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:12.320 For the songs for the country theme? 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:14.560 And then, by the way, the movie theme them was 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:15.399 some country songs. 0:01:15.760 --> 0:01:18.800 They were and that was actually the part for me 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:19.959 that was so different. 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.080 But I loved it. I love that you ain't putting 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:24.320 no accent on it. No, no, no no, because he 0:01:24.400 --> 0:01:24.640 was like. 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:29.440 Yeah, no, no, no, no for sure. But I definitely when I 0:01:29.480 --> 0:01:31.720 heard the songs that Babyface wrote, I was like, oh wow, 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:33.720 and I started saying, I'm like, these do feel like 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:34.440 low key country? 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:36.280 What is when I say so, that wasn't acting. He 0:01:36.280 --> 0:01:39.119 wrote them songs. No, he really wrote the song so love. 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:40.959 Me tell you some tea, just so that you know 0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:43.000 who you're sitting with your in the Presence of Greatness 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:49.120 during Essence Fest, we actually girl followed Babyface on stage 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:50.120 and introduced Maxwell. 0:01:50.280 --> 0:01:52.600 I have to tell everyone that was a highlight of 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:53.080 the year. 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:56.840 Really literally, Babyface sung all his tunes, all his things, 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.440 so I got your excitement in the show. Baby I 0:01:59.520 --> 0:02:01.040 was like, my god, I know all his music and 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:02.520 I was like, this thing, I gotta be rich. 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:04.680 Because this is the Jams, you know what I mean. 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:08.480 And so literally baby Face is coming off stage and 0:02:08.520 --> 0:02:11.160 we're like prepping our little. 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:14.840 We had to yeah we was on stage. 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:18.200 No no, we literally didn't say anything. We just saw 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:21.800 his greatness walk down the stairs. Okay, you where our 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:22.519 que cars at? 0:02:23.320 --> 0:02:28.000 Have I told you that my baby face story about Thanksgiving? No? Oh, y'all. 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:32.280 So I had an opportunity to know before. When I 0:02:32.280 --> 0:02:36.919 said y'all, I'm thinking like listeners, Mandy, Okay, so oh, 0:02:36.960 --> 0:02:38.600 I hate didn't make it a dark. So I don't 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:41.320 really spend Thanksgiving with my parents anywhere because my dad 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:43.840 he's just kind of been, you know, not the greatest health. 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:46.840 So my mom and I has been spending Thanksgivings with Quesla, 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:49.400 which is a flex in its own, so you would 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:53.600 think like, oh, you're gonna be with the family. We 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:56.720 pull up to Thanksgiving and the first person we see 0:02:57.240 --> 0:02:59.840 his baby Face, and I grabbed my mom's hand and 0:02:59.840 --> 0:03:03.000 I said, please, don't say anything. Why would I say anything. 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:07.079 I'm cool, I'm playing it cool. She has three cocktails. 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:11.280 We sit down, mother sitting next to me. Kenneth, it's 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:14.560 sitting across from my mother, right on the third step 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:18.360 of that third cocktail, she goes, I just gotta say, Babyface, 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:23.079 this is a great Thanksgiving. I mean, did anybody think 0:03:23.080 --> 0:03:26.200 they need even with baby Face? And everybody's really looking like, yeah, 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:30.600 we did. So here's I'm not going to ask you 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:36.040 to see. He goes great, I'm not gonna I'm not 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:41.000 gonna ask you. Then, few SIPs later, couest love. Everyone's 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:43.840 calling him a mirror. Do you think we could get 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:47.600 tickets to your show? And he's looking like, what show? 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:51.920 I have eighteen upcoming shows, Mama, the one with Jimmy Kimmel. 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:55.840 He's not on Jimmy Kimmel, He's on Jimmy Fallon. And 0:03:55.880 --> 0:03:58.480 then she knows Jimmy zoo. I mean it's the Gym's Yes, 0:03:58.520 --> 0:03:59.680 a lot of Jimmy. You know, there's a lot of 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:03.760 jim then decides after the fourth cocktail to move over 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:07.320 Babyface's girlfriend and sit by him to say, I say, 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:11.400 we go to the Jimmy Gimmel. Oh girl, I wanted 0:04:11.440 --> 0:04:14.760 to die anyway. Every time I see this man, my 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:17.080 head goes down. I have nothing to say of it. 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:21.160 My mother moved over his girlfriend Thanksgiving different, come move 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:24.240 I'm not gonna lie her mom is wild. 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:27.200 We now have things in common. I was told not 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:29.159 to talk to Dojia Cat, and I sure did, bitch. 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:33.000 Because oh, okay, you tell the story. And then we 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:34.440 got to hear your celebrity story. 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:36.960 To know your celebrity story of word, lo, you have 0:04:37.080 --> 0:04:39.240 to you have it. We're now sharing story. This is 0:04:39.279 --> 0:04:43.080 like a little bit of an icebreaker. So anyways went on. 0:04:43.120 --> 0:04:44.560 I'm not gonna tell y'all who told me not to 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:47.680 do it, but it was like a spoken word in 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:50.440 the vehicle. We knew the Doja Cat was gonna be 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:54.679 around us that night, and clearly, bitch Almala is my girl. 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:58.240 So wait, bit you couldn't speak literally because clearly I'm 0:04:58.279 --> 0:04:59.760 a fan. And yeah, like it was on. 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:02.880 So I'm like, don't really like make it awkward, don't 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:04.039 let her know you're a fan on it. 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:05.880 I was like, bitch, I'm. 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:11.080 Also well, So anyways, I end up at h we 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:14.559 end up at this rooftop in La. It's gorgeous. She's 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:18.080 there sitting right across from us. Oh my god, mom, 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:21.080 and I'm like and I'm like, so mind you, I'm like, 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:23.800 na gonna speak nothing. She's sitting there with this little 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:27.200 long ass like cigarette, maybe getting ready for her eighties era. 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:28.039 I wasn't ready. 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:32.880 So literally just sitting there freaking. I looked to the 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:34.680 side of me and there's a whole phone by me, 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:37.159 and I'm like, oh shit, somebody left their phone. Minus 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:38.880 this is a big ass fucking party, so I'm like, 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:41.680 oh shit, somebody left their phone. So I'm sitting here 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:44.680 and I'm just holding holding this phone. There's cards in 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:47.200 the back. So I look through the cards in the back. 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:52.200 It's not her, bitch, it's Joseph Quinny bitch, her boyfriend, 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:54.880 the white one bitch, the one for motherfucking stranger things. 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:59.000 So I said, oh, I got this that, so mind you. 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:03.280 I'm like, well, bitch, now our boyfriends, this is gonna 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:05.280 be gonna be organic, you know what I mean. It's 0:06:05.279 --> 0:06:07.960 gonna be organic, because what's doing you know what I mean? 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:09.160 Well, no, I don't know. 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:11.479 Where he put it down in the but somehow his 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:15.920 phone landed in my hand. So I go to Joseph 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:17.680 and I and I'm like, uh, so I think you 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:21.480 lost something. He's like, oh my god, because you know, 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:24.200 oh my god, thank you so much. Didn't even now 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:27.800 listen like he's like, what do you want? 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:29.359 Do you want to drink? Bitch? Is open bar? What 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:31.120 are you gonna give me? Sir? This is an open 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:32.960 bar event. So it's so funny. 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:34.640 So I give him his phone and he's like, oh 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:35.640 my god, thank you, whatever you need. 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:37.200 I was like, no, it's cool, it's cool. It's cool. 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:41.240 So literally, uh, she's coming back now from the bathroom 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:43.920 as we're talking, and I go to walk away and 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:46.960 I never want anyone to say that I'm a white woman. 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:51.600 She said, girl, your hair is giving Sharon Stone And 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:54.000 I said, bitch, isn't it? 0:06:55.279 --> 0:06:55.520 Mind? 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:57.240 You were like probably the only black people in the 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:58.920 whole party. Mind you were only half. So there's only 0:06:58.920 --> 0:07:00.920 about two and a half of us in the whole room. 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:02.560 The two and a half of us in the whole room, 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:05.080 and literally the whole night. She's just like she just 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:08.040 keeps talking and chatting. We end up going down by 0:07:08.080 --> 0:07:11.880 this pool, bro no lie because la weather sucks and 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:15.559 I got my shoulders out and I'm looking cute. She's like, baby, 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:17.960 you look cold. She takes off her blazer and gives it. 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:20.840 To me, And at this point we're fucking friends. So 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:22.560 we go to fucking we're talking. 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:25.800 She's talking about how I think the cigarette is called 0:07:25.800 --> 0:07:27.920 the F word out in London and we're talking about 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:28.440 this word and. 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:30.120 How she loves the word, but how she's just that 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:32.200 bitch and how she you know, she love crazy words. 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:34.040 We've seen it on the streets. Well there's this. 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:36.400 Guy smoking the cigarette and we're talking about just how 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:38.080 he looks so possible, but it looks better in a 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:41.240 woman's mouth. She's just one of the coolest bitchest fucking ever. 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:43.720 Shout out to her album Go Get It Now, vias out. 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:46.800 This is not an ad, And so literally as we 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:48.520 go Manyie, she's been talking to me you the whole night, 0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:49.360 and I say. 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:51.000 At the end, I just have to tell you how 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:51.720 much I love it. 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:53.520 And my friend who told me that I wasn't supposed 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:56.520 to say anything to her, really kind of had to 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:56.920 say something. 0:07:57.000 --> 0:08:00.440 I know, no, we're friends, just you know, but not 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:03.880 following up. No we didn't exchange or anything like that. 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:05.120 But literally that. 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:07.080 Night I was told not to say something, and at 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:08.120 the end I was like, oh. 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.520 No, air and I was like, bro. When we were 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.160 hanging out that weekend in Paris and it was like 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:12.520 that you. 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:14.400 Saw for a ticket now I need to know because 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:18.080 you you've been around not not like that. Would you 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:21.960 be around like the slips? Yes, oh thank you? 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:25.960 Yes. I No, I'm gonna say something I don't get. 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:29.880 Okay, I would say babyface because obviously we're working and 0:08:29.920 --> 0:08:32.920 I'm just like so nervous. First of all, well to 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:36.080 be in his presence. Secondly, to work with him in 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:36.880 the studio. 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:38.240 I'm just like, oh my god, now this is for 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:39.840 the scene we saw in the movie. 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:44.000 Yeah, like, well, well, okay, so all of the songs 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:46.880 recorded he wrote. So I flew to La to record 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:48.319 with him at his studio. 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:51.960 Was losing in his house? No, not in his house 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:54.400 at his studio because they don't start. I'd be like, 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:57.280 let me go to the bathroom. Now I'm gonna look around. No, no, no, 0:08:57.640 --> 0:08:58.720 I was not at his house. 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.640 But you got to I have to actually work with him, 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:05.320 like really work with him, which was crazy. So it's 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:07.400 like pinch me moment. But I would say another moment 0:09:07.440 --> 0:09:10.240 for me. I mean, I don't even know. It's probably 0:09:10.280 --> 0:09:14.640 like twenty seventeeneen, I don't even know, sixteen seventeen, maybe. 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:18.080 Twenty seventeen Beyonce. Okay, Okay, where were you. 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:19.079 Set the scene? What she smilling? 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:26.720 So v Mas, I was with Taylor Swift and the 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:28.080 squad at that time. 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.400 Oh my god, I was at that time. You know. 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:34.440 It was it was it was giving that, you know, right, 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:35.960 I was a black girl in the gang. 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:39.080 And well there was two and a half of us, 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:44.400 I guess and and yeah, so we're backstage and we're like, 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:46.880 oh my gosh, congrats, I think it's me. Look another 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:51.000 set of things, me Selena and Gomez and Taylor. Look 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:58.080 we know it was the other Selena. So listen these 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:00.880 by the way, these girls are just they're so sweet. 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:03.200 I haven't seen or talked to them in years, but 0:10:03.400 --> 0:10:07.920 so sweet. So this moment, Taylor got the award and 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:11.040 Beyonce is just like walking backstage, right and this is 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:15.040 like Primetime Empire, like people are doing watch parties like 0:10:15.120 --> 0:10:17.280 this is like Empires, like the. 0:10:19.679 --> 0:10:21.520 Yeah, like I'm just Siana, like I don't have a 0:10:21.600 --> 0:10:22.080 name yet. 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:27.920 So so so she's walking and literally I kind of 0:10:27.920 --> 0:10:29.319 see her out the corner of my eye, but I'm 0:10:29.320 --> 0:10:34.920 like okay, like I'm like congratulations, you know with Taylor, 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:37.800 and literally walks by and she like comes to me 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:40.760 and she's like you're doing amazing. Oh bit she spoke 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:44.040 to you, yes, and I was like, and I was like, 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:45.120 she was like leaving. 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.200 She just like drops that and like and I'm like, 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:50.160 oh my god, I live with the watching TV. 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:54.240 Ya watching the thing. You know what's going on. She 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:56.360 don't talk to us, but she knows what's going on. 0:10:56.800 --> 0:10:58.280 So she was watching Empire and. 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:04.360 She's say exactly, and I was like, I was trying 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.600 to like say thank you, but also like. 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:07.439 You didn't say nothing back. 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:09.440 Yes I did. I was trying to say, like, oh 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.120 my god, I love you like I was doing that 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:13.079 because I was like, I don't care, Like when when 0:11:13.080 --> 0:11:14.000 am I going to Beyonce? 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:17.280 What are you going to see Beyonce again? Like you 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:22.400 have to? Did you ever see her again? No? No, 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:24.960 I'm not going to be in a relationship. I'm famous 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:26.240 and you famous, nigga, and. 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:28.600 We ain't never get no more beyond you don't even 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:32.160 know mind you. Year one, we talk a little rowdy 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:36.439 on here, literally weezy and I'll never forget it said 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:39.760 that she would, oh my god, fart out of Beyonce's 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:40.720 ass after Taco Bell. 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:43.640 That was how much it was the year you saw 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:47.320 how much yeah that I have to talk about it already, 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:48.320 crazy Taco Bell. 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:49.719 That's how much she. 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:52.839 Now. 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:56.520 I what's even crazier is all that big bold bad ship. 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.720 So my business partner and I got to be at 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:02.120 a you know, the Foundation le Vton show. 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:04.040 This is how you urged them to go to Patreon 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:04.960 because you share the whole story. 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:06.840 Oh no, I was gonna say. We got to be 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:08.800 around them at an after party and the whole time, 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:12.240 who's them Beyonce and Jay and part well maybe less 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:14.120 than fifty people, And the whole time all we could 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:16.400 do is just sit there and do this to each other. 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:18.680 You say, so, you say no, I'm gonna say okay. 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:21.040 So then he pulls out his phone. I'm like, what 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:23.920 are you doing figuring out what I'm gonna say? Writing 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:26.720 it in the notes? But oh, I one time a 0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:29.679 gold party? Look at yourself? You did? You did? Oh 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:30.000 my god? 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:33.200 I heard that was also everyone did, by the way, 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:34.000 it was one of the best. 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:35.000 Which gold party? 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:35.319 Was it? 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:37.280 Oh? It was years ago. It had to be when 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:38.679 the Black Panther. 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:43.520 Oh yeah, yeah, he was there, like it was like 0:12:43.600 --> 0:12:45.839 when that movie first was like, that's right. 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:54.720 So but all the all the black excellent. I know 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.080 we're supposed to talk about your movie. 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:57.040 I'm like, we gonna get there. 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:58.839 We're gonna get there. This is so much more. 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:02.280 Actually, know what, let's we kind of broke the ice 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:04.400 with Beyonce, but we're gonna break the ice with a 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:07.120 little truth in there. I don't like people choosing because 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:08.720 you give people truth or there, they want to be 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:12.400 boring into the truth. So technically I make people do both. 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:15.360 You actually have no choice. Okay, So the first one 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:16.600 we're gonna do is truth. 0:13:17.120 --> 0:13:17.920 And this does lean. 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:22.439 Into the new Netflix film so and it actually leans 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:25.360 into your personal life. So in Ruth and Bo as 0:13:25.800 --> 0:13:29.959 Ruth prefers to herself as a liar at the end 0:13:29.960 --> 0:13:34.000 of the movie, and it's corrected by Bo with him saying, well, 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:35.559 you omitted information. 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:37.320 And we talk about this all the time. 0:13:37.320 --> 0:13:40.079 What's the difference between lying and just not telling somebody 0:13:40.200 --> 0:13:43.320 like white lies, fibbing all the things? So, was there 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:46.360 anything that you have purposely kept from a potential partner, 0:13:47.400 --> 0:13:51.000 a potential partner out of shame or trauma or fear 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.360 that they would judge you if they knew this to 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:55.679 be true about you? For sure, Now you got to 0:13:55.720 --> 0:13:56.400 tell us what it was. 0:13:56.520 --> 0:14:00.839 Oh no, oh yes you're shot? You thought? No, the same. 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:03.760 I mean, honestly, I mean not to be boring, but 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:07.400 I just feel like for I feel like it's past 0:14:07.440 --> 0:14:10.760 partners because it's because it's I don't know where this 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:13.800 is going. I want to see where this is going first. 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.680 Maybe should I say something? Maybe I shouldn't. And I 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:19.040 think that it's a I feel like it's a normal 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:22.240 thing to do, and I think both parties do it 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:25.040 if you're to a certain extent right Obviously, if it's 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:27.960 someone that's in your circle or that we like, are around, 0:14:28.040 --> 0:14:28.480 like you. 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:29.520 Have to say those things. 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:33.200 But if it's something before, I feel like it's natural 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:35.000 if you're in a new situation to kind of just 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:37.880 like reserve. So let me ask you then, what would 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:40.480 be like the top two things if you're newly dating 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:44.440 and in previous experiences for you, what two things about 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:45.680 previous relationships for you? 0:14:45.800 --> 0:14:47.800 Like, I ain't bring it up? Was it like if 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:48.720 your partner cheated? 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:50.040 Was it if you cheated? 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.040 Was it the dynamic of that? 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:52.320 Like? 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.200 What things do you make sure not to bring up 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:58.479 in new blossoming relationships about your past relationships? 0:14:58.520 --> 0:14:59.920 Well, if somebody cheated. 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:03.200 I'm gonna say that, like I have no problem saying 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:06.200 that the person cheated, or I have no problem saying 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:10.080 if I did that as well, but have not have not. 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:15.880 You haven't, okay, but you are. But I have no 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:17.920 problem because here's the thing. I mean. 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:20.840 I feel like I always feel like it's like, what 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:23.560 do you want with the person? Right? And I feel 0:15:23.600 --> 0:15:25.920 like if you want something authentic and real that I 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:27.680 feel like you have to try to put. 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:30.840 Yourself in that that space with them. 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:35.000 But what do you think there are like no, like 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:38.520 I would I would never share like personal life information 0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:41.440 of my past partner, Okay, I feel like that's just 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:44.160 a little messy, okay, like things that we shared in 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:46.960 confidence that was like about him solely. 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:49.680 I think that I just I wouldn't talk about that. 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:51.800 You're you're now in a new relationship. 0:15:51.840 --> 0:15:53.920 I know we share our lives on goddamn podcasts, But 0:15:54.280 --> 0:15:56.520 for a partner who hasn't went through all fucking four 0:15:56.600 --> 0:16:01.640 hundred plus episodes, was there anything special about your past 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:05.480 relationship that you didn't share with your partner now at 0:16:05.480 --> 0:16:07.840 the gate like that it took a while to share. 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:14.120 I would say the harder pain of like hmm. So 0:16:14.200 --> 0:16:16.840 maybe we've all said a guy cheated, but I never 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:20.560 disclosed how bad it was because I didn't want him 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:23.200 to think, oh, well, you stayed with it. You let 0:16:23.240 --> 0:16:25.800 a nigga just run through you. Like I really think 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:29.360 that we kind of need to show up as Hey, 0:16:29.440 --> 0:16:31.800 I've had men treat femail. I've had these good situations. 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:34.600 I've had partners that have honored me, like I've had 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:38.320 good relationships. I think it's really important. Actually, we have 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:41.000 a segment called We Listen and We Judge. I want 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:42.920 to read you really quickly. A text message I got 0:16:43.040 --> 0:16:45.520 but maybe an hour ago. Oh well, we asked for 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:49.120 pre consent with anything that we share, Okay, And this 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:51.680 text message really surprised me. From a friend, he went 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:54.200 out with a really popular model last night Passion week. 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:57.640 Shit they met, I said, how was it? She's beautiful, 0:16:57.720 --> 0:17:01.000 no doubt. Her story is just so sad that it 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:03.200 just feels like she's going to be a generational curse 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:05.800 to me. Honestlyes I said, so a bitch got a 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:08.000 bad past and it's a problem for you, he said, 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.200 just mad issues with men. Her mom's got the issues, 0:17:10.240 --> 0:17:12.280 her sister's got the issues. It's a cycle of trauma 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:15.440 that I'm just not up to heel. Bro. Well, it's 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:18.800 not for you to heal, honey, But I'm like thinking 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:21.879 to myself on a first date, you must have. I mean, 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:25.240 that's a lot, and that's the thing about hiding. You 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:26.520 gotta hold some of that shit. 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:29.919 It's funny though that he referenced it's a lot for 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:33.520 him to hell. I think it's funny because even one 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:35.920 of the things that Cardi B shared during her rollout 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:38.560 was like that Sepon Dicks was going to be there 0:17:38.600 --> 0:17:42.440 to help heal her through her past relationship in trauma. 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:45.320 And it's interesting because whether you want to do it 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:47.720 or whether you sign up to do it, at the 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.239 end of the day, if you're with somebody and you 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:53.239 want to be with them, unfortunately, you do take on 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:55.760 their trauma, You take on some of their baggage, you 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.480 take on whatever they're dealing with mental health wise, you 0:17:58.520 --> 0:18:01.320 deal with their past relationship ships, in terms of children, 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:05.480 you deal with their family. And so where he said that, 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:07.920 I'm not mad at him for that, I was kind 0:18:07.960 --> 0:18:11.159 of mad at that. Like, Bro, there's certain things right now. Bro, 0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:15.440 if you got like very clear diagnosed mental health problems, 0:18:15.720 --> 0:18:17.280 bro I ain't got the patience for Us'm gonna be 0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:20.720 real honest with you, but to say generational curses, I mean, 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:23.359 I mean maybe that was his way of expressing like 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:25.919 how intense it was, but I'm not mad with that. 0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:33.680