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Speaker 1: Hey, what's up, guys. It's Rachel and back here. Now listen.

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Speaker 1: Before we get started with the podcast today, we just

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Speaker 1: our bachelor happy our audience, now listen. First off, we

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Speaker 1: know that this is just a really incredibly scary time,

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Speaker 1: that you're staying at home, you are practicing social distancing.

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Speaker 1: It's what's cool, it's what's on trend. It's all about

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Speaker 1: you taking care of yourself but then also taking care

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Speaker 1: of other people by doing this, and we just hope

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Speaker 1: you're safe and you're healthy right now. Yeah, Rachel, and

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Speaker 1: you know, in this day and age, it's it's hard

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Speaker 1: for us to social distance. We as human beings, like

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Speaker 1: want to share our podcasts with you today. Now. It's

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Speaker 1: one that we actually recorded a couple of weeks to

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Speaker 1: everything very very seriously, but of course, we still wanted

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Speaker 1: to share some normalcy and our conversation with you, guys,

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Speaker 1: podcast even though it was recorded a while ago. Yes,

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Speaker 1: and we wish we could hang out with each other,

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Speaker 1: but we're doing it virtually because Becca and I are

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Speaker 1: also practicing social distancing. But we just wanted to make

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Speaker 1: Becca said, we want to give you some normalcy, and

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Speaker 1: we want to do this with the hopes of giving

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Speaker 1: use it as a small break or even an escape,

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Speaker 1: and then you get right back to doing your part

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Speaker 1: and helping to make a difference. Yes, Rachel, thank you

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Speaker 1: for all of that. Now, Bachelor Happy Hour listeners, without

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Speaker 1: further ado, here is our conversation that we had with Ashley,

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Speaker 1: I and Jared. Good morning, Vachination, or good afternoon, depending

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Speaker 1: on where you are listening, and welcome back to another

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Speaker 1: wonderful Happy Hour podcast with both me and Rachel. Now,

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Speaker 1: we're so excited for today because we have some very

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Speaker 1: special guests in the house that we will get around

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Speaker 1: up on all of the lather gossip in the bachelor world. Yeah, Becca,

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Speaker 1: why wait, let's just tell them who we have in here.

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Speaker 1: well now you should definitely give them. I wish we

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Speaker 1: had a voice your voices. They do podcasts, they're married now,

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Speaker 1: they're a Bachelor's success couple. You know who we're talking about.

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Speaker 1: You love them? You know it's Ashley and Jared. Okay,

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Speaker 1: they're holding hands as we announced them. That is says

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Speaker 1: is not over. Okay, let's just let me just start

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Speaker 1: right through that. Do you get tired of people saying, oh,

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Speaker 1: But change? And we were like, nothing changed. You're like

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Speaker 1: So they did a very sly move and then Geiss

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Speaker 1: the day of my wedding, I was like chilling, Like

426
00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:05,720
Speaker 1: I remember we were listening to Lizzo, drinking and eating breakfast.

427
00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:08,520
Speaker 1: I was because I guess I just already felt so

428
00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:12,240
Speaker 1: married and it was just more of like it's a thing.

429
00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:14,680
Speaker 1: And I personally wanted to get married at the courthouse,

430
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:16,680
Speaker 1: so I never thought I was going to have this

431
00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:21,080
Speaker 1: big day, so I wasn't as into having all the flair.

432
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,600
Speaker 1: I just really wanted a big family reunion of our

433
00:21:24,600 --> 00:21:26,800
Speaker 1: families coming together for the first time, so I just

434
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:30,080
Speaker 1: didn't care about the details. In hindsight, we were the

435
00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:33,400
Speaker 1: most detail oriented humans that anybody, and I hear amazing

436
00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:36,040
Speaker 1: things about your wedding. I wish I followed like the

437
00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:38,840
Speaker 1: whole thing on Instagram. I wish I'd been a little

438
00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:43,040
Speaker 1: bit more particular about certain things, you know, in hindsight,

439
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:45,600
Speaker 1: but honestly, what would what would they be? Because my

440
00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 1: sister is very particular about like her invites and what

441
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:51,320
Speaker 1: the paper products that didn't I didn't care about that,

442
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 1: which yeah, see My thing is like people throw them

443
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:58,960
Speaker 1: away right away that they put them on the fridge,

444
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:02,919
Speaker 1: they keep CC. I used CC in New York and

445
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:05,680
Speaker 1: she's amazing. I'm sorry we used just Minted. Shout out

446
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:09,719
Speaker 1: to Minted. But they worked with us very carefully in

447
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,800
Speaker 1: order to like we had Easter eggs like in our

448
00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 1: you know, Easter eggs as and like little hidden things

449
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 1: that we loved, Like there was the Superman logo was

450
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,359
Speaker 1: like a shield and then it had our initials in

451
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:26,679
Speaker 1: it for him, and then there was UM the Titanic clock.

452
00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:28,280
Speaker 1: It was like meet me at the clock, and then

453
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:33,520
Speaker 1: in the clock it had UM like yeah, yeah, I mean,

454
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:35,440
Speaker 1: we just had fun with it. But honestly, that's why

455
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:37,640
Speaker 1: we found it so cool because it meant so much

456
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 1: to us. If people got it, great, but just us

457
00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 1: sending it out to people who were like, this makes

458
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,159
Speaker 1: us feel good, and it's like you guys, yeah, we

459
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,400
Speaker 1: just put a lot of thought, like literally, and it

460
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:50,959
Speaker 1: was worth every second of it because that day of

461
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 1: not only did we get to experience it, but you

462
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:56,240
Speaker 1: got to we got to experience it with the people

463
00:22:56,359 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 1: we wanted to experience it more than anybody in the world,

464
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 1: you know, like we had, you know, our friends and family.

465
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 1: There are people we love, like people I will never

466
00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 1: come together. I'll never forget. The morning after the wedding,

467
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,920
Speaker 1: I kind of had like this epiphany because I woke

468
00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 1: up going downstairs at the hotel and it was my dad,

469
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:16,119
Speaker 1: Ben Haigen's Nick Viral, Dean Angler, and one of my

470
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 1: childhood friends, Jimmy, and I was like, this is insane

471
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:23,359
Speaker 1: because these people are so I'm so close with and

472
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,879
Speaker 1: this is the first time they've ever met, like they

473
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 1: have no idea who they are. It is a beautiful

474
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:31,439
Speaker 1: I will I will tag along with that because we

475
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:35,640
Speaker 1: left the day after Cancoon to go to Greece, and

476
00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 1: I remember we were walking through the lobby and I'm

477
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:41,639
Speaker 1: watching my friends, my childhood friends, with some of my

478
00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,359
Speaker 1: bachelor friends, with my family members all getting ready to

479
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 1: go to the pool because they've been hanging out together

480
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,880
Speaker 1: since Friday, So it's you're and you're right, you're never

481
00:23:48,920 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 1: going to see that again. Like those people will never

482
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 1: be in that room together again. And I remember thinking

483
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 1: about it that night, her and I sitting at the

484
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:58,520
Speaker 1: table kind of soaking in and trying to really appreciate

485
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:03,120
Speaker 1: every second and think nobody like this collection of people

486
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,640
Speaker 1: will never come together again, And it's really sad to

487
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 1: think about it that way, but also kind of beautiful. Well,

488
00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,480
Speaker 1: they came together for you, and that's what it was

489
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:14,719
Speaker 1: like to think that people came from so far away.

490
00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,679
Speaker 1: And the weird detail I have to just share this. Well, like,

491
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,639
Speaker 1: I think the most detailed thing that we had was

492
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:23,640
Speaker 1: probably the music. Like of the four hours of our

493
00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:27,160
Speaker 1: cocktail party and reception, we picked every single song. Well,

494
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,639
Speaker 1: we were very we were very, very lucky because we

495
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: didn't want a band. But then this band, the Jordan

496
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 1: con Orchestra, was friends with Troy and they kind of

497
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:40,960
Speaker 1: knew The Bachelor and they wanted to really do it,

498
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 1: and so we talked to them. We said, listen, you know,

499
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 1: we gave him a list of songs. We're like, is

500
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,120
Speaker 1: it possible for you to play these songs. They're like, yeah,

501
00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 1: no problem, and it was just like okay, are you sure?

502
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 1: And it was Disney songs they played. They learned how

503
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 1: to play Shallow for us, which was the best moment

504
00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 1: of the wedding every see this is what I mean

505
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 1: totally different. We gave a list of songs. We were

506
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:03,399
Speaker 1: just like mixed Latin music with like hip hop pop

507
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:07,360
Speaker 1: and let's just go there. Yeah, my biggest complaint about weddings,

508
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 1: Having like gone with him for so many over the

509
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:12,200
Speaker 1: past year, we were like, oh, like, I want a song,

510
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 1: it's gonna get us hyper. I want a song it's

511
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:15,439
Speaker 1: gonna make me feel like romantic with you and make

512
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 1: it feel like date night. So we just kind of

513
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 1: like curated it in plus throughout my like romantic childhood,

514
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 1: I was like, I want this song played by what

515
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 1: I want this song? Well, I went through my iTunes

516
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,399
Speaker 1: library and it took quite a few hours to like, oh,

517
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 1: this woman is the most meticulous, hard working, detail oriented person.

518
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 1: It's true though, you spent I mean hours days on

519
00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 1: just small things going through every single one of them.

520
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,719
Speaker 1: I can tell um. And but honestly, it was a

521
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,639
Speaker 1: lot of fun doing it because I think both of

522
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 1: us had the mindset of if we're gonna do it,

523
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 1: let's do it, and let's have fun with it. All.

524
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,439
Speaker 1: It's great advice for you because I'm like, we just

525
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:57,080
Speaker 1: told people go up to the DJ and request the

526
00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:59,280
Speaker 1: song you want to go right, That's so, this is good.

527
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 1: You wanted to personalize it in every single way because

528
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 1: Jared and I are just really into personalizing. And I

529
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:08,200
Speaker 1: think the biggest thing the reason I wanted to really

530
00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 1: start personalizing it. Uh, it started when we decided to

531
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,399
Speaker 1: have the wedding in Rhode Island because it's just my

532
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:16,879
Speaker 1: home state and I have a lot of pride for

533
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:22,640
Speaker 1: nobody has. So once Ashley was like, I would love

534
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 1: to you know, all I need is a waterfront, you know,

535
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 1: water and I'm fine and uh and so once we

536
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:30,320
Speaker 1: had I was like, I want to do this right.

537
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 1: You know, it's in Rhode Island. I have a lot

538
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:33,640
Speaker 1: of pride, and I want to make sure that like

539
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 1: people who come here are like, wow, Rhode Island. I

540
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 1: never thought people did. That's one state I have not

541
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 1: been too, and I really want to. It looks beautiful,

542
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: thank you. So when I go I'm going to hit

543
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 1: you guys for all the recommendations. What was the hardest

544
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 1: decision that you guys had to come to in the

545
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 1: entire planning process? Guest list? Not even question. Yeah, Jared

546
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 1: was like really stressed about the guest list, but it

547
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 1: became a topic on the podcast. It was the hardest

548
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 1: thing because it just we had we had a cap,

549
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 1: We picked a venue back how many people? One hundred

550
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 1: and seventy five? If you're pushing it, we had a

551
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: cap too. It's tough. Did you okay? This is because

552
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: did you argue over the guest list? Because this is

553
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:15,439
Speaker 1: where I would say our only argument came, did you

554
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:20,199
Speaker 1: split the guest list evenly? We probably shouldn't have done that.

555
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: That's that's really yeah, that's what that was an issue

556
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:26,119
Speaker 1: for us. So we were capped at one eighty and

557
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: that was still play ours is was technically the occupancy

558
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:32,439
Speaker 1: max was one eighty. Yeah, and it was still like

559
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: people still could It was just it wasn't the reception.

560
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 1: It's where the actual ceremony was and it was already hot.

561
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,160
Speaker 1: It's August in camcoun It was it was a lot.

562
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:45,160
Speaker 1: But we split the list down the middle and I

563
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 1: did not want that, and it was because I, well,

564
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 1: technically I still had more people than him. I don't

565
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 1: know if you have, but it we were. We split

566
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:57,199
Speaker 1: our costs down the middle too. Oh but then what

567
00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 1: about like people who are common people like production and Bachelor.

568
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: I put them on his list. It was very like,

569
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: if there were twelve common people, six win on my

570
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 1: list and six did it? How did that create so

571
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 1: much argument that it seems so fair. I don't know

572
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 1: if I'm sharing too much because because my parents were

573
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 1: very big on like it's your wedding, they gave some money,

574
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:26,679
Speaker 1: but they were just very much like my parents were

575
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 1: very religious, and they didn't like the fact that we

576
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 1: lived together before we were married. And my dad said,

577
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,440
Speaker 1: if you live with someone before you're married, I'm not

578
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,359
Speaker 1: going to pay for the wedding. And I knew that

579
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 1: going in. I also felt like I was thirty four. Yeah,

580
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 1: I was thirty four, and I just kind of was like,

581
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,200
Speaker 1: I can afford to pay for this myself at this point,

582
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,760
Speaker 1: so it really didn't bother me anyways. But they ended

583
00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 1: up giving something. I think maybe because I talked about

584
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: it too much publicly, but they were like, okay, we

585
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: kind of feel bad. My parents were kind of like,

586
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 1: since we're not with my sister. When they paid for it,

587
00:28:57,920 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: they invited all their friends because they paid for it,

588
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 1: they didn't feel they needed to do that for me.

589
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,960
Speaker 1: That's not how Brian's mom was. She was like, I

590
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: have thirty couples that I want to invite, and we

591
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,920
Speaker 1: had ninety and ninety. So that's kind of what became

592
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 1: the issue of my parents. My parents aren't saying their

593
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 1: friends can come because they realized they're not contributing towards it.

594
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: That wasn't the same sentiment wasn't shared on that side.

595
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: So it just kind of became where do we draw

596
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 1: the line? Yeah, then I couldn't invite. We both have

597
00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 1: big families, big big families, so it's really hard to

598
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,560
Speaker 1: draw the line with like cousins and aunts and uncles

599
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:34,360
Speaker 1: and wine. And I had a friend who got married

600
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,560
Speaker 1: and her parents paid I think the front of like

601
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 1: thirty five percent of it, and then his head of

602
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: the family contributed the rest, and so they wanted to

603
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 1: split the guest list up that way. H seems so yeah,

604
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 1: and it costs so much stress up front, and I'm like,

605
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:53,600
Speaker 1: so I hear all these different things, and and for me,

606
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 1: like Garrett's family, they're so amazing. There's just so welcoming

607
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: that they wanted to invite literally everyone, like their accountant

608
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 1: and like all these random people to just celebrate where

609
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, we also have a budget. So that's

610
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 1: that is the one part that whenever Garrett and I

611
00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 1: start wedding planning, that is going to scare me out

612
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 1: the window. Did your budget go out there? But we

613
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 1: I mean compared to what people pay for weddings, we

614
00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: didn't pay that at all. Do you get a Nordon

615
00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 1: and people are like, oh, you got your wedding for free,

616
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, I did, well my wedding. Absolutely,

617
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 1: it wasn't anywhere close to it. It wasn't. But we

618
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: didn't pay that much compared to what people pay, but

619
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 1: we still went over the budget. I think, I say

620
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:33,719
Speaker 1: it was only gonna be it was gonna cost us

621
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 1: twenty out of pocket, and you didn't I think, I

622
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 1: think I don't even care. I think I paid like

623
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: fifty pay fifteen. If you guys could change anything, would

624
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 1: you know and what would be? No? Yeah, well what, well?

625
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: I would be more detailed about certain things. I just

626
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 1: was kind of like, oh, it's a free for all.

627
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,520
Speaker 1: I wish I had. I didn't want to make people wait.

628
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: I wanted there to be a transition everything. It's like

629
00:30:56,880 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 1: you didn't you wedding eat party that I didn't focus

630
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 1: on getting everybody for pictures, so we don't have and

631
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 1: we had to get pictures like for people in all,

632
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 1: we don't have a picture of all of our family together.

633
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 1: We don't have an empire. Yeah, because we did pictures

634
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 1: before and I did not want Brian to see me before.

635
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 1: I was a big thing. Yeah, that's why, like our

636
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: first picture, people were like, it's so awkward, and I'm like,

637
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 1: because we really didn't want to see each other. So

638
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 1: that was like my one thing. And I have my

639
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 1: family altogether, He has his family altogether, but we did

640
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 1: not take them all together. That's my biggest recD. That stinks.

641
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: We made sure because that was a fear, you know,

642
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:37,520
Speaker 1: and you want the family together, so we'd spent We

643
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: took pictures for like an hour and a half after

644
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 1: the ceremony, before um, the you know, reception started up.

645
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 1: We ended up actually having to pay for an extra hour.

646
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 1: Ya took up too much time. That was unexpected, but

647
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 1: but I don't think, uh, you know, I'm not trying

648
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 1: to sound obnoxious. I don't think I would change a

649
00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: thing because we worked so hard on it, and I

650
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,000
Speaker 1: think the biggest thing people say is that they wish

651
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:05,000
Speaker 1: they didn't spend so much money on it, But everything

652
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 1: that we did it just had such a it meant something,

653
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,959
Speaker 1: Like everything meant something, and that would be my And

654
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 1: while it was time sure, stressful and time consuming, that

655
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:19,320
Speaker 1: day of being able to, like I said, just like

656
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: picture it in your head and then experience it and

657
00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:24,120
Speaker 1: then it's kind of like this is going to sound

658
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 1: really weird, but seeing other people experience it through their

659
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 1: eyes as well, because let's be honest, like we're we're

660
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 1: very we're all very lucky to be the positions that

661
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:34,960
Speaker 1: we are, you know, from just being selected to be

662
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 1: on the show, and we get to have experiences that

663
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't get to go through. And

664
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: so the day of the wedding, I think, you know,

665
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 1: we wanted to give everybody, like especially our families, like

666
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 1: be like, hey, you know, like this again, o'bnoxious, But

667
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 1: we were able to We're kind of friendly with David Cook,

668
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 1: and we got David cooked to performed who was an

669
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 1: American now and people are like, oh my god, David

670
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 1: cook Wow. Insane, Like seeing like my mom, you know,

671
00:32:57,360 --> 00:33:01,719
Speaker 1: seeing David Cooks saying O our them and groom dance

672
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 1: and then see my mom's reaction to it. It It was

673
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: something I'm there forget right, you know, and it was

674
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 1: like that's worth every pen, everything we did. Yeah. So

675
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 1: that's usually our advice to people is like, throughout the

676
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:16,719
Speaker 1: entire year, you're going to be like is this worth it?

677
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 1: Is? Is Is worth it? Are we going to have the day?

678
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 1: And then we're gonna feel bad about spending so much money.

679
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:23,640
Speaker 1: And then like four days before they'll be like, by

680
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 1: the way, it's uh, we need two thousand dollars for

681
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 1: this lighting in the corner. That's not going to matter.

682
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: And it's like, well why do you need to do that, Well,

683
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 1: we need to do it for this reason, blah blah

684
00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 1: blah blah. And then they're like, well if you went

685
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: all out, like just just do it. Oh so it's

686
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 1: just stopped. Now you have no idea how much lighting

687
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: and chords and power, and it's just like, why is

688
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 1: the venue not paying for this? We paid for the venue? Yeah,

689
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 1: I feel like you're going to be somewhere in between. Yeah,

690
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 1: what we did. Yeah, And I told you. I was like,

691
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 1: our venue comes bare bones. That was the one thing.

692
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:55,800
Speaker 1: That's why our venue seemed cheap when we first signed

693
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: up for that's because you're not paying We got to

694
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:00,239
Speaker 1: quote the first time. Get ready for it we got

695
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:03,240
Speaker 1: because especially in Newport, Rhode Island, is very the flowers

696
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 1: were saying. But just like the first quote we got

697
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 1: for a venue, we looked at at Ashley and I

698
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,720
Speaker 1: should like my stomach d though it was six figures

699
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 1: only said that and it was came with everything. Oh

700
00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 1: so the venue came with food and flowers and like

701
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: open bar and all that stuff. It was like one

702
00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 1: hundred and ten thousand was the first number that we

703
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:27,800
Speaker 1: ever saw for our Newport Rhode Island wedding. And Ashley

704
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: and I were like, should we elope drive through and

705
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:35,040
Speaker 1: just like have someone toficiate there, It'll be great. I

706
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 1: am so frugal that spending a huge amount of money

707
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 1: in one night makes me very nervous. We're pretty frugal too,

708
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,319
Speaker 1: Like you would be surprised by the way that our

709
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 1: wedding looked and versus like how we are on our

710
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 1: day to day you will be surprised. What I mean,

711
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 1: I went from eloping to having like a full out wedding, right,

712
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,839
Speaker 1: But it's different because of what they're saying about how

713
00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 1: when you see it through your family members eyes and

714
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 1: bringing all these people together that are there too, celebrate

715
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:05,400
Speaker 1: life and love for you and Garrett one time and

716
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 1: it's it's not going to happen that way again. It'll

717
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 1: change your mind. And I am like the anti wedding,

718
00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 1: Like I'm not a hopeless I am a hopeless romantic

719
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 1: obviously went on the show, but not like to the

720
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 1: extreme with some people. But there is something exciting about

721
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 1: getting started planning your wedding. I only tried it on

722
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 1: like four dresses. I knew kind of what I wanted

723
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 1: for my invitations. But you're doing it and you have

724
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:30,800
Speaker 1: your mom and your mother in law and your sister

725
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 1: and it's just there's something the energy. I can't explain it.

726
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 1: You'll get cried in, like that's the price of admission

727
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:41,319
Speaker 1: right there. I want to actually between the two of you,

728
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:45,320
Speaker 1: who cried more, um well during the ceremony probably Jared

729
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:49,319
Speaker 1: well actually more like tied because like I didn't start

730
00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:53,720
Speaker 1: crying until I started reading my vows. He cried like, yeah,

731
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:57,399
Speaker 1: can I tell y'all something. Brian saw the video of

732
00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 1: you reading vows and that y'all had booklets. Yeah. He

733
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:04,360
Speaker 1: didn't have input on a thing the entire wedding. Saw

734
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:08,840
Speaker 1: the booklets and was like, I want the booklet. I

735
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: want to have something pretty to read out of. Noh,

736
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 1: it gets better. And so I was like, well, that

737
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:15,680
Speaker 1: means we got to write him before. Like I was

738
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 1: going to write him the day the morning of, just

739
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 1: kind of based on what I was feeling or the

740
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 1: night before. Yeah, half as I well know, Like for me,

741
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: it was like, how am I going to feel? I

742
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: want to speak from that feeling? That was like my thought.

743
00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:31,319
Speaker 1: We ended up doing it a week before because he

744
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:34,760
Speaker 1: wanted the booklets. Got it done. He gets to the wedding,

745
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 1: I have my booklet. His mom was supposed to bring

746
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 1: his booklet, and he's as I'm getting ready to walk,

747
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, what is he looking for? I can see him,

748
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: Oh no, And he was looking for his booklet. One

749
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: thing he where his mom left it in the room.

750
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 1: I was already walking down the aisle. His brother like

751
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 1: he emailed it somehow I got emails his brother and

752
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 1: so he had to read it from his phone, and

753
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 1: I had the booklet. Oh h, but you're the bride.

754
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 1: You look beautiful. At least you have the booklet. Like

755
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 1: I mean, he looks great. That's what we took from

756
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 1: your the phone in your booklet, just to cover it up,

757
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 1: work to make it. To be fair, I didn't. To

758
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:23,000
Speaker 1: be fair, I didn't finish my vows to the morning. Yeah,

759
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 1: it was crazy. I've heard a lot that most people

760
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 1: don't do it until the day of. Our wedding planner

761
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 1: also didn't write his till the day off. I heard

762
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 1: from multiple people not until the day of. I was like,

763
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,320
Speaker 1: we got me are on Sunday. I wrote it on Friday,

764
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 1: and I can't believe that I waited to that Friday.

765
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:40,480
Speaker 1: So yeah, it again, like I'm very excited for you

766
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:44,520
Speaker 1: Becca for that moment walking down the aisle, because it's

767
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:49,399
Speaker 1: really unlike it. It just puts smile on It would

768
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 1: always put with a smile on my face, just like

769
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,840
Speaker 1: that that that twenty minutes right where like I was

770
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 1: in there was like a side room for all the

771
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 1: groundsmen and like literally seconds before they go into the church,

772
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: and I have to wait there. We had like a

773
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: toast and it was just like it was a moment,

774
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:05,439
Speaker 1: you know, and it's just like it is like Rachel said,

775
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 1: everybody is there for you, Like everybody's dressed up for you.

776
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 1: You know, it's just And then walking down the aisle

777
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:15,239
Speaker 1: and people like gased, like and you're like, oh, this

778
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:20,359
Speaker 1: is yeah, it's just it's and then being up there

779
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 1: and then seeing everybody you love, you know, walk down

780
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: the aisle. Uh, it was just like God and they

781
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: there and it's yeah, was it intimidating. It was so

782
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: I knew I was either going to show out or

783
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 1: be really nervous walking down the aisle. What do you

784
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:38,280
Speaker 1: mean show out? I'd be like like, I got it, Yeah,

785
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: I see you, I think. And I wasn't like that.

786
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,240
Speaker 1: I was fixated on Brian. We'd neither one of us cried.

787
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:47,480
Speaker 1: But I remember standing up there and I looked out

788
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: and I saw everybody and then I had to come

789
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:52,359
Speaker 1: turn away. It made me very nervous. I don't know

790
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,840
Speaker 1: what it was. I like, you didn't see people, Yeah,

791
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 1: Like it was like being on stage and not being

792
00:38:57,680 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 1: able to like see like a real face. And then

793
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I can't find so and so

794
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: I can't find so that. I was like, no focus.

795
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 1: I think it's different because on stage you're putting on

796
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 1: a show like, oh I'm on stage. I'm like I'm

797
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:11,400
Speaker 1: playing into all of this, but that all that is

798
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 1: stripped away when you're standing up there being so vulnerable

799
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: and the most of your life from Dallas. Yeah, I'm

800
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 1: standing at my about to be my husband. Your family's

801
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 1: in the front row. It just like I couldn't cry,

802
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 1: but I was very overwhelmed by that. A lot of

803
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:31,720
Speaker 1: people don't cry because they're so overwhelmed by the moment

804
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: that they just can't. Yeah, I was gonna say that

805
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 1: was My question to you, was like, was it a

806
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 1: blur to you with you and your dad? Like I

807
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 1: remember my dad next to you, but like I don't

808
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 1: remember like anybody's face walking down. I just remember it

809
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 1: from video now, Like no, I see in the video, Rachel,

810
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:51,600
Speaker 1: you were a beautiful bride. Brian was very handsome groom too,

811
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 1: same handsome man. I feel like between the four of

812
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:59,279
Speaker 1: you guys, Vatch Nation had a lovely I feel this

813
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: does that make I feel? I can't even We've been,

814
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: we've been, We've been podcasting, so we can't figure had

815
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 1: something to look at this year. Four weddings this year. Yeah,

816
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: so your Lauren and well she was nineteen. There was

817
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 1: Lauren Lauren and that Christmas Crystal s Crystal and christ

818
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 1: Christa Crystal, I say, Chris, and I said Crystal isaih

819
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 1: christ and Crystal usually Yeah, I don't even know. I

820
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 1: want to know. So well, I talked to you a

821
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:33,360
Speaker 1: while ago. Actually you're the little bridle shower that we

822
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 1: had for you. How you got your grown from Randy

823
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 1: Ram It was beautiful. Now, Ashley, you had two stunning gowns, saying,

824
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 1: how did you did you know you wanted an outfit change? No,

825
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: I didn't think I wanted an outfit change. Okay. I

826
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 1: was actually one of those brides that was like, I

827
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:49,759
Speaker 1: want to love my first dress so much that I

828
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:53,279
Speaker 1: don't want a second one. But I'm so glad that

829
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 1: I did have an alpha change because I could not

830
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 1: walk around the reception hall in my in my dress

831
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:01,719
Speaker 1: the first one, and like, well, yes, I love my

832
00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 1: first dress more than my second one. It just I

833
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 1: felt sexier, and my second one it was just more

834
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:13,320
Speaker 1: fun and flirty. A guy a George R. Second, thank you.

835
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:18,320
Speaker 1: I thought it was like simple but set. It was

836
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:21,240
Speaker 1: so I loved it. I said yes to that one first,

837
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: and then when I came home that night, I was like,

838
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:25,880
Speaker 1: I love my dress, but I'm not sure like that

839
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:29,239
Speaker 1: was like the dress I always envisioned. It certainly wasn't

840
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:31,399
Speaker 1: the one that I envisioned my whole life. So then

841
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:33,960
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I'll go for fun. Oh I know.

842
00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 1: I got a call from the one from the other

843
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 1: bridal store that had the ceremony gown and they're like,

844
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: we can give you a little bit of a break,

845
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, okay, casting it changes a

846
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: little bit. I kind of liked that. I like the outfit,

847
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 1: change it. It makes it fun. Yeah, I think, yeah,

848
00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 1: oh I love that. I love and you were in Mexico,

849
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 1: so yeah, y'all, don't do that. I had to do

850
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 1: in August. Don't do it in August. I had to

851
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 1: do it before football season. It was it was strategic

852
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 1: because I hate when people playing weddings. No offense if

853
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 1: anybody does it during football because I have to work

854
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 1: and it's just it's just a lot. So we wouldn't

855
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 1: get Well, you understand, we're from a football fan. You

856
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 1: a Cowboys fan? Of course, this one gave me a

857
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 1: Cowboy shirt. Actually she sent it to me. Somebody sent

858
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 1: it to her and she's like, what's your address that

859
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 1: they gave me a cowboy shirt? Yeah? All right, yeah

860
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: yeah ja yeah. Um. I do want to ask you

861
00:42:39,600 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 1: guys about like the next phase, because I feel like

862
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 1: once you get married, once you come back from your honeymoon,

863
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:47,319
Speaker 1: everyone's like, when are you having babies? Now, we all

864
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:49,359
Speaker 1: know we have dog children, all of us in the room.

865
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:53,760
Speaker 1: We take that role very fastly. Little do you feel

866
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 1: the pressure to talk about having children or you just

867
00:42:57,760 --> 00:42:59,200
Speaker 1: kind of like we'll do it, you know, like I

868
00:42:59,239 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know. You guys answer it. We're

869
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:04,120
Speaker 1: just like, yeah, there's pressure, but it's annoying. I'll say

870
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:06,800
Speaker 1: that the question like on the red carpet is usually

871
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:11,520
Speaker 1: annoying because like you feel like and then you get

872
00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:13,799
Speaker 1: an ask on Instagram too all the time. Like if

873
00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:16,719
Speaker 1: I do like the questions like ask me a question, yeah,

874
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 1: I say, like, don't ask me about being Yeah, but

875
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:22,800
Speaker 1: you also kind of like sure, there's a lot of

876
00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 1: pressure about the same time where we have to be

877
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 1: self aware of where we came from and kind of

878
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:29,320
Speaker 1: the show that we were on, Like, that's kind of

879
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: just what people are going to ask, you know. That'd

880
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 1: be like, you know, a football player just being like,

881
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 1: don't ask me about football, and it's like, well, I mean, yeah,

882
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: I get that, but you know, at least one of

883
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 1: the questions have to be about football. Like I get it.

884
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 1: Like we got married and then people are gonna be like,

885
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:44,719
Speaker 1: when you having kids? I guess, But I feel like

886
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:47,399
Speaker 1: couples who aren't on TV also get that immediately after

887
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:49,040
Speaker 1: they're get married. Well that's what I mean. Just I

888
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: guess couples are always pushing the next chapter. Oh yeah,

889
00:43:52,040 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 1: and I mean like, what what are you planning right now?

890
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:57,960
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask you to always just say, oh,

891
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:01,320
Speaker 1: within the year. Yeah, But like it's and this is

892
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 1: kind of like a segue and we said that every year,

893
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 1: but this guy is segue into my next question. Because

894
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 1: we live in Miami and work for me is out

895
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 1: here in La. All wait, you're all over. You're like

896
00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:15,839
Speaker 1: in Brtuil, Connecticut. You're a Miami here. But now it's

897
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: it's more like La. It's becoming a thing. And so

898
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:21,279
Speaker 1: we moved. We moved to Miami because Brian opened up

899
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 1: a practice there, so he moved to Dallas for me

900
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 1: for two years. I'm I said I would support what

901
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 1: he was doing for two years in Miami and we'd

902
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:28,759
Speaker 1: reevaluate it and see where we are. How long you

903
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 1: guys been in Miami for since April? Oh? Okay, so

904
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 1: almost a here? Wow? Yeah? Wait? How long have you

905
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:38,719
Speaker 1: guys been together? Three? Well three years? In May? It's

906
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 1: been holy crab time flies by? Yeah wow. Yeah, we

907
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 1: got engaged May twenty seventeen. It's like there's been so

908
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 1: many seasons, you know, it's I know, it's crazy to

909
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 1: even so yeah, but the kids like, we're yeah. And

910
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:58,640
Speaker 1: and the reason I also bring this up is because

911
00:44:58,880 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 1: we recently just saw the breakup of joking and it's

912
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:04,840
Speaker 1: where they want to live all about that's an issue.

913
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 1: And I hear you say you love Rhode Island. Literally,

914
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 1: do y'all talk about this? Do you have like a plan?

915
00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:12,800
Speaker 1: A light at the end of the tunnel? In my vows?

916
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 1: I even said that I would move back to New

917
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:18,600
Speaker 1: England because that's how big of a deal it is

918
00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 1: to him. I always said so when I've so I

919
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 1: moved out here in late twenty seventeen with with Nick

920
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 1: and he had like an extra room and and so

921
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 1: he's like, just come out here. You never moved out

922
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 1: of a Hod Island. Just stay with me and then

923
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:34,960
Speaker 1: see if you like it. Right, So came out here

924
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 1: November December, didn't really like it. And then that's when

925
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 1: Winter Games happened. And then I was like, I'm an idiot.

926
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:44,080
Speaker 1: And that's when I had to kind of like really

927
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 1: step up and and take some action with Ashley. And

928
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: and then in the back of my head, I was like, well,

929
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:52,319
Speaker 1: if it doesn't work out with Ashley, also moved back

930
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 1: to Rhoe Island, that's not bad plan B. And so

931
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 1: of course it did, and we're staying out here. It's

932
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 1: like second girlfriend. Well, no, it's not that. It's just

933
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:01,240
Speaker 1: more like I'm sure Brian can to this, and probably

934
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:04,440
Speaker 1: Garrett that, and all of you guys like just you

935
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 1: know where your family is and where you where your

936
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:08,759
Speaker 1: heart is. That's it's hard to stay away from that,

937
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:10,719
Speaker 1: especially when you're living in an l LA, which is

938
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 1: a very um can be a difficult place to live,

939
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:16,440
Speaker 1: can be a lonely place. It's just there's you know,

940
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 1: and I hate the stereotypical things to complain about, but

941
00:46:20,120 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 1: like traffic is very bad. You want to go six miles,

942
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,320
Speaker 1: get ready to take forty five minutes, and then it is.

943
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 1: There's just it's a big city with a lot of uh.

944
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 1: You know, it's hard to explain, but you gotta like

945
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:33,399
Speaker 1: kiss ass and just like you know, if somebody needs

946
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:34,880
Speaker 1: you there, you got to be there right now. And

947
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:36,879
Speaker 1: the weather is nice. But I also think that it's

948
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: nice weather year rounds of us overrated thing I do.

949
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 1: I think it's moved to Minnesota, and you won't be

950
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 1: saying that I did not. I mean that much different.

951
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 1: Actually it could be no Minnesota. So I guess for

952
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:57,279
Speaker 1: like my my winter, I just need I need bad

953
00:46:57,360 --> 00:46:59,480
Speaker 1: weather to appreciate good with her. It was eighty all

954
00:46:59,520 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 1: week and I nothing outside. I know I wanted to,

955
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,399
Speaker 1: but you just forget that it's nice out because it's

956
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 1: nice every day. Say, like I we were talking about

957
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: Joe and Kendall before on this podcast, and you know

958
00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:13,759
Speaker 1: they probably always knew one love Chicago, one loved La

959
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 1: and you probably think, oh, one will bend. But I

960
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 1: think it's so great that you said it in your

961
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 1: vows and you have these important conversations of Listen, this

962
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:25,040
Speaker 1: is realistically where I want to settle down and where

963
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 1: I want to raise a family, and you have to

964
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 1: address these things otherwise, honestly you're really not having a

965
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:33,120
Speaker 1: successful relationship. And it's a it's a constant conversation with

966
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 1: Brian and I where like I said, he supported me,

967
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 1: I support him, and then we'll reevaluate where we are

968
00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 1: and just move see where our lives are and then

969
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 1: figure it out from there. See, Like, what we talk

970
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:47,439
Speaker 1: about realistically is like Ashley says, like, like you said,

971
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 1: the work out here is in La right now. I

972
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:51,840
Speaker 1: think Ashley and I are always get nervous that the

973
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: work always won't be there, which is why we're here always.

974
00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 1: Do you think that the work, Yeah, I guess you're right.

975
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:00,320
Speaker 1: But for what I've always wanted to do, I know

976
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,440
Speaker 1: why we have to be out here, But yeah, it sucks,

977
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 1: Like I just miss home, missed my family. I miss

978
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:06,359
Speaker 1: like the routine of things, I miss the convenience of things.

979
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 1: I miss being able to just uh, there's there's also

980
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:11,640
Speaker 1: like a different dynamic being on the East Coast and

981
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:13,640
Speaker 1: there is the West coast. There's just the truth of

982
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 1: the matter, like it's so different it you know, just yeah,

983
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 1: you're day to day, the way of life, the conversations

984
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:20,880
Speaker 1: you have with people. I feel like, I don't know,

985
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:24,360
Speaker 1: it's just different. I miss Green, I miss like I honestly,

986
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 1: I was driving Burming today and there was grass and

987
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:28,759
Speaker 1: I was like, man, it feels good just to have

988
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 1: fresh air. It's executed about parking lots too. So do

989
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:35,439
Speaker 1: you guys have a time frame of when that would happen? Yeah,

990
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 1: I mean, like that's it's it's it's creeping up, it's creeping.

991
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:45,160
Speaker 1: I mean, well, we initially said chairs like she's like,

992
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 1: oh god, when we first got together, which is like

993
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 1: two years ago, we said five years, which you would

994
00:48:49,560 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 1: give us another three years here, but I think it'll

995
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 1: be more like two years um. And I think that's

996
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 1: just because like the kid thing, because I don't think

997
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 1: I want to have like a new aren't and then

998
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:03,359
Speaker 1: have to and then not have family in the area

999
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 1: and away. Yeah, right, where where are you from? I'm

1000
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 1: from Northern Virginia, So like the hour, it's an hour

1001
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:14,399
Speaker 1: flight between Rhode Island and in Virginia, And I feel

1002
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 1: like my parents would probably come one weekend and like alternate,

1003
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:19,680
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like not alternate, Like I'd

1004
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 1: go to Virginia one weekend out of the month and

1005
00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: then they come up there one weekend of the month,

1006
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: and yeah, it's just like, yeah, but I don't know

1007
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:30,320
Speaker 1: if we can really have a kid without a family

1008
00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:32,120
Speaker 1: member here. You guys feel like you could have a

1009
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 1: kid without a family member. Yeah, but I but I

1010
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:39,120
Speaker 1: would prefer family around, Yeah, I really do. But I

1011
00:49:39,160 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 1: think about that. I'm like, if we have children in

1012
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:43,919
Speaker 1: La I do, I wouldn't be alone, like there would

1013
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 1: be people out here, but preferably Dallas or Miami is ideal.

1014
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:50,479
Speaker 1: But then I'm just thinking of like in the grand

1015
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 1: scheme of things, it really just depends where we are. Yeah,

1016
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:56,799
Speaker 1: Like I'm very big about let's reevaluate and see where

1017
00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 1: we are in another year. Maybe I don't even want

1018
00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: to do what I'm doing anymore. Who knows. Well that

1019
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:04,279
Speaker 1: changes with me all the time, Like I used to.

1020
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: I came out here wanting to be like an entertainment host,

1021
00:50:06,960 --> 00:50:09,200
Speaker 1: and now I'm like, and I'm not feeling fulfilled by

1022
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:11,839
Speaker 1: like just talking about pop culture. So like I feel

1023
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,759
Speaker 1: like if I am evolving in that way, now, let's

1024
00:50:14,760 --> 00:50:16,440
Speaker 1: see where we are in two years, because then I

1025
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:19,359
Speaker 1: feel like anything, I feel like what I could want

1026
00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:21,200
Speaker 1: to do could be more New York based and lass

1027
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:24,360
Speaker 1: La based. So we'll see. But it's really a decision

1028
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:25,480
Speaker 1: that I don't even think I could be able to

1029
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:28,600
Speaker 1: make for at least another year or at least year

1030
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:30,960
Speaker 1: yeah time, And I feel like that's a testament to like,

1031
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:34,479
Speaker 1: you know, everyone who's listening, you just these conversations change,

1032
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:37,240
Speaker 1: we change, we evolve, so you just have to constantly

1033
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:39,480
Speaker 1: keep having them. And if you're not, and you're ignoring

1034
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 1: them and not talking about the elephant in the room,

1035
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:44,839
Speaker 1: then honestly, the relationship is doomed. At the end, it's

1036
00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 1: going to be a snowball effect and it's just going

1037
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:48,920
Speaker 1: to grow, grow, grow, until it becomes this huge thing

1038
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 1: where it overcomes the relationship and really might be, you know,

1039
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:56,960
Speaker 1: a big deterrent to get over. Yeah, my relationship before Brian,

1040
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 1: before the show. We were together for five years and

1041
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:04,640
Speaker 1: there were issues, but the biggest one is that neither

1042
00:51:04,719 --> 00:51:06,640
Speaker 1: one of us were willing to make the sacrifice to

1043
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:09,719
Speaker 1: move towards each other. Where was he living. He was

1044
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:11,800
Speaker 1: still in Texas, I mean he was, but I meant

1045
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:14,320
Speaker 1: Texas is big. Texas is big. But I was in

1046
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 1: Dallas and he was in Austin at first and then

1047
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:19,920
Speaker 1: outside of Houston, and he had a child. So it

1048
00:51:20,040 --> 00:51:23,360
Speaker 1: is I was that we heard about your ghosting story. No, no, no,

1049
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 1: that's not him, not the motivation for me getting to

1050
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:29,359
Speaker 1: do the show. I think I thanked him by the way.

1051
00:51:29,400 --> 00:51:30,800
Speaker 1: I was like, thank you. I talked about you and

1052
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 1: my audition and that got me the show. No, no, no,

1053
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:37,360
Speaker 1: this was like a the guy. I thought like this

1054
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: was it, But it really wasn't a mature relationship when

1055
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 1: I think about it in hindsight, like some of the

1056
00:51:42,080 --> 00:51:44,120
Speaker 1: stuff we're talking about right now. But the biggest thing

1057
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 1: is we would we wouldn't sacrifice. Neither one of us

1058
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:49,719
Speaker 1: wanted to bend for the relationship in each other. Yeah,

1059
00:51:50,040 --> 00:51:54,799
Speaker 1: and that's like a common true Yeah. Well, and that's

1060
00:51:54,800 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 1: the thing, especially even coming from the show, when you're

1061
00:51:58,080 --> 00:52:01,239
Speaker 1: lucky like us and in a relationship for the most heart,

1062
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:02,759
Speaker 1: no one ends up or no one is from the

1063
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:05,360
Speaker 1: same city. So I mean, I obviously it was from Minnesota.

1064
00:52:05,400 --> 00:52:09,279
Speaker 1: Garrett was living in Reno. It took us for I'm

1065
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: trying to think, like six months about before we could

1066
00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:14,279
Speaker 1: agree on where we wanted to move, because I of

1067
00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:16,920
Speaker 1: course was pushing for my home state, he was pushing

1068
00:52:16,960 --> 00:52:20,480
Speaker 1: for Nevada. And finally we got to the point where like, look,

1069
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:22,480
Speaker 1: we're back and forth swaften, we just need to We

1070
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:24,400
Speaker 1: came to the conclusion of, like, let's just go to

1071
00:52:24,520 --> 00:52:27,120
Speaker 1: neutral ground. We'll go to San Diego, we have some

1072
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:30,399
Speaker 1: family nearby. Do that. We said for two or three years,

1073
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:32,720
Speaker 1: so that's where we're at now. But yeah, it's always

1074
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:35,359
Speaker 1: a constant conversation of Okay, like one day maybe we'll

1075
00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:38,719
Speaker 1: buy property and go to Reno or I think minnesota'st

1076
00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:40,560
Speaker 1: of the picture now. But yeah, it's a struggle. And

1077
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:43,279
Speaker 1: especially I think for people on the show when they're

1078
00:52:43,320 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 1: like house life afterwards it must be so easy and great,

1079
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 1: it's like you still have to deal with these struggles

1080
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:53,080
Speaker 1: and tough conversations and changes. Like any relationship does ye

1081
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:56,200
Speaker 1: just compromise. I feel like, I mean, Ashley and I

1082
00:52:56,280 --> 00:52:59,720
Speaker 1: didn't really go through this, but you really start dating.

1083
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:03,919
Speaker 1: I remember Caitlin was talking about Sean when she first

1084
00:53:03,920 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 1: got off the show, obviously before Jason, but she was

1085
00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:08,840
Speaker 1: said something along the lines of like I felt like

1086
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 1: we didn't start dating until the show ended. You know,

1087
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:13,279
Speaker 1: we fell in love on the show and we got gaged,

1088
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 1: but then we left and that's when we really started

1089
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 1: dating in real life. Yeah. I don't know if you

1090
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:22,480
Speaker 1: guys would agree or not. Yeah, I have a thing

1091
00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:24,320
Speaker 1: to say about the distance though. I think, like in

1092
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 1: Joe and Kendall's situation, like she knew that she wouldn't

1093
00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 1: be her full, happiest self if she wasn't in LA,

1094
00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 1: and he also felt like he wouldn't be his best

1095
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:38,239
Speaker 1: self if he wasn't in Chicago. So then it's like

1096
00:53:38,400 --> 00:53:40,839
Speaker 1: weird when it gets to like that I didn't shoot,

1097
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 1: I chose a state over you. I'm working towards each

1098
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:47,839
Speaker 1: other because Jared doesn't feel like he is his best

1099
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:50,480
Speaker 1: self in LA. And actually I don't have to say

1100
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 1: to say Jared say that Jared isn't his best self

1101
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 1: when he is at LA. I think that's hard. I

1102
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:57,239
Speaker 1: think that's what you battle, and I battle that I

1103
00:53:57,320 --> 00:54:00,080
Speaker 1: am not my best self in Miami. I'm not like

1104
00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 1: there's no work. I thrive off of working, like I've

1105
00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 1: worked since I was eleven years old, playing piano in church.

1106
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 1: And I just I love that I feel my best

1107
00:54:10,760 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 1: self when I'm doing that. So it's hard because when

1108
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 1: you make those sacrifices, how do you at the same

1109
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 1: time maintain your independence? How do you find that? And

1110
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:21,319
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's a question that you can

1111
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:24,040
Speaker 1: even answer, but I think that that's what you struggle

1112
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:25,719
Speaker 1: when you have to make those sacrifices to move to

1113
00:54:25,800 --> 00:54:28,800
Speaker 1: another city, another state. You know, I don't know the

1114
00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 1: answer to that. It's almost like the work life balance.

1115
00:54:31,239 --> 00:54:34,080
Speaker 1: It's a myth, you know, it just like doesn't absolutely

1116
00:54:34,239 --> 00:54:36,720
Speaker 1: no I've said this week, I tweeted it. I'm a guest,

1117
00:54:36,719 --> 00:54:40,759
Speaker 1: so like, oh, being an adult. Being an adult is

1118
00:54:40,840 --> 00:54:46,280
Speaker 1: definitely when you you're not at work, you've actually cleaned

1119
00:54:46,360 --> 00:54:48,759
Speaker 1: your work to do list, and yet you know that

1120
00:54:48,880 --> 00:54:51,560
Speaker 1: there's something you should be doing other than sitting on

1121
00:54:51,600 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 1: the couch. Yeah, yeah, I think I saw that one.

1122
00:54:54,200 --> 00:54:58,239
Speaker 1: I think that might. Yeah. When we first gotten engaged,

1123
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: I think I was going through a tough time because

1124
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:04,279
Speaker 1: especially as you guys know, just women who come off

1125
00:55:04,320 --> 00:55:06,840
Speaker 1: the show are just more like than men. I remember

1126
00:55:06,880 --> 00:55:08,799
Speaker 1: Tanner gave me advice. He's like just as a heads off,

1127
00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:11,960
Speaker 1: like you know, you should factor this in, Like they're

1128
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:15,080
Speaker 1: gonna like Ashley more than you, especially with you denying

1129
00:55:15,120 --> 00:55:17,280
Speaker 1: her for two years and then now you guys are engaged,

1130
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:20,520
Speaker 1: and so being in lay and kind of not feeling

1131
00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 1: my best self and then having that on top of

1132
00:55:23,960 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 1: it was a little was a little tough time because

1133
00:55:26,000 --> 00:55:28,319
Speaker 1: then like people would come up. I'm not even joking.

1134
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:30,840
Speaker 1: There would be times where people would come up and

1135
00:55:30,960 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 1: then be like, you know, Jared, I hated you for

1136
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 1: a while, but you're there now, so I kind of

1137
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:36,879
Speaker 1: like you. And it's like, yeah, well I can't swear

1138
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 1: on this podcast, right, you know what, go fuck yourself.

1139
00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: The more I'm out of the show, and like, the

1140
00:55:47,640 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 1: more that social media becomes so much more prevalent, I

1141
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:55,080
Speaker 1: realized that common sense is not common to people. Like

1142
00:55:55,200 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 1: the stuff that you hear and that people say and

1143
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:00,800
Speaker 1: that they ask you, I'm like, really, I have a

1144
00:56:00,840 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 1: story that pertains to you, Rachel. Um you said that

1145
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:10,840
Speaker 1: as if it was the show you You're like you, Rachel, Rachel,

1146
00:56:12,239 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 1: and so it was your season. And before obviously well

1147
00:56:17,520 --> 00:56:19,440
Speaker 1: before Rashly and I started dating, I went on a

1148
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 1: couple dates with this one girl. Never went anywhere, and

1149
00:56:22,320 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: but like we followed each other on Instagram and the

1150
00:56:26,440 --> 00:56:29,480
Speaker 1: day of your announcement with Brian, obviously there was a

1151
00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:35,279
Speaker 1: lot of uh you know uh and that girl who

1152
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:38,239
Speaker 1: I had been on dates with, very normal, very uh,

1153
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 1: very normal uh, commented under your post and I saw

1154
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 1: it because it was obviously a photog I follower, and

1155
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:51,800
Speaker 1: she goes, good luck with your shitty husband. So I

1156
00:56:52,000 --> 00:56:55,000
Speaker 1: messaged her and I said, why did you say that?

1157
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:57,799
Speaker 1: Because it was the first time I ever saw because well,

1158
00:56:57,840 --> 00:57:00,600
Speaker 1: because well, anytime we see comments like that, I feel

1159
00:57:00,640 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 1: like all our thoughts goes to that, like they they're faceless,

1160
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:06,880
Speaker 1: they're nameless, they're trolls who cares. But this is somebody

1161
00:57:06,960 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 1: that I well, I just like when I was truly

1162
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:13,840
Speaker 1: like a kind of a friendship thing, but still like

1163
00:57:14,200 --> 00:57:15,920
Speaker 1: it was crazy. So I messaged her and I said,

1164
00:57:15,960 --> 00:57:18,720
Speaker 1: why did you say that? And she immediately responded saying,

1165
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:20,720
Speaker 1: I have no idea. I was. I don't know why

1166
00:57:20,760 --> 00:57:22,400
Speaker 1: I said that. I'm such an eighty gase she got

1167
00:57:22,440 --> 00:57:24,680
Speaker 1: called out, yeah, and she you know, she's just like

1168
00:57:24,720 --> 00:57:26,439
Speaker 1: I deleted it. I don't know. I was just caught

1169
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 1: up in the moment and it occurred to me like wow,

1170
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:31,640
Speaker 1: just I guess you know what It is people like

1171
00:57:32,320 --> 00:57:35,160
Speaker 1: who have these initial reactions in the living room, you know,

1172
00:57:35,200 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: when they're watching a show and they're like, oh whatever.

1173
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 1: Instead of just saying it, they literally go on their

1174
00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:45,439
Speaker 1: phone and comment on it. Yeah, and it's like living

1175
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,080
Speaker 1: room thoughts were not meant to be on Twitter, guys,

1176
00:57:48,560 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 1: you know when you don't. I say this all the time,

1177
00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:53,120
Speaker 1: Like Chris Jenner said this to me. I don't know

1178
00:57:53,160 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 1: what you're talking about. That's cool that I've known her

1179
00:58:00,880 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 1: boyfriend for like twenty years. Oh so, and I was

1180
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:07,640
Speaker 1: talking about trolls or something, and she was like basically saying,

1181
00:58:07,720 --> 00:58:10,600
Speaker 1: don't worry about that. That's just some lonely person sitting

1182
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 1: on their couch, you know in Iowa, who doesn't have

1183
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 1: a sense of community and is looking for you know,

1184
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 1: like kind of how read it can be. You have

1185
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 1: a community, you have these online friends, and so you

1186
00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 1: talk shit and do whatever else in this community not

1187
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,040
Speaker 1: realizing It's almost like they don't realize we're human and

1188
00:58:26,120 --> 00:58:28,040
Speaker 1: that it can affect us. But have you ever speaking

1189
00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:30,640
Speaker 1: of that calling her out? Have you ever I used

1190
00:58:30,640 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 1: to climb back at everybody. I have since calmed down.

1191
00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:37,760
Speaker 1: I have calmed down, But have you ever responded to

1192
00:58:37,880 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 1: a troll in your DMS or something and then they

1193
00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:43,960
Speaker 1: completely take it back. Oh girl, oh yeah, oh my god,

1194
00:58:44,040 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 1: that was my friend she didn't take her medicine, or

1195
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:48,080
Speaker 1: oh my god, that was my niece or my cut.

1196
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:49,920
Speaker 1: It happens every single all the time. You have you

1197
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:52,840
Speaker 1: read it. I'm I'm just like, did you need to

1198
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 1: What was the point like thinking, like, what is the

1199
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:58,560
Speaker 1: point to actually physically take your time out of your

1200
00:58:58,640 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 1: day and mine to type this out? And then yeah,

1201
00:59:01,760 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 1: and they're like, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. I

1202
00:59:03,280 --> 00:59:05,960
Speaker 1: didn't think you would see it, or it's like crazy

1203
00:59:06,040 --> 00:59:08,480
Speaker 1: I can read I Like, I go on my phone

1204
00:59:08,560 --> 00:59:11,760
Speaker 1: and it's amazing when you comment back to someone who

1205
00:59:11,800 --> 00:59:13,840
Speaker 1: comments under your photo and they're like, oh my god,

1206
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 1: I never thought you could read that. And it was

1207
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:21,240
Speaker 1: like I only had sixty seven comments like it, andoos

1208
00:59:21,280 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 1: like there's only like fifteen comments sometimes and it's like,

1209
00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:26,920
Speaker 1: of course I'm gonna see it, Guys like I It's

1210
00:59:26,960 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 1: not like I'm I'm gonna like an A list celeberty

1211
00:59:28,800 --> 00:59:32,120
Speaker 1: with literally fifteen thousand comments, right, It's just that that

1212
00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:35,520
Speaker 1: excuse never it's really funny to me, Like there's seven

1213
00:59:35,560 --> 00:59:38,600
Speaker 1: other comments besides yours. I will never understand people's thought

1214
00:59:38,640 --> 00:59:41,760
Speaker 1: process and why do you feel the need? I think

1215
00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:45,080
Speaker 1: two things. One, I think they see the show almost

1216
00:59:45,200 --> 00:59:47,440
Speaker 1: as if it's scripted, like we are TV compts. They

1217
00:59:47,560 --> 00:59:50,479
Speaker 1: definitely think it's more scripted. And then two, I also

1218
00:59:50,520 --> 00:59:53,320
Speaker 1: think it's the barrier of phone computer like, so it's

1219
00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 1: not a face too base interaction to it. You people

1220
00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 1: in bat nation of comment on articles I have nothing

1221
00:59:58,080 --> 01:00:01,040
Speaker 1: to do with them from at different accounts. And do

1222
01:00:01,120 --> 01:00:03,840
Speaker 1: you defend a lot of our followers, because obviously we're

1223
01:00:03,880 --> 01:00:08,400
Speaker 1: very grateful for them, and two ninety eight percent of

1224
01:00:08,400 --> 01:00:10,880
Speaker 1: the comments are positively and for some reason, the two

1225
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:13,040
Speaker 1: percent are the loudest to all of us. And that's

1226
01:00:13,040 --> 01:00:15,120
Speaker 1: what I try to recognize too, because it's always like,

1227
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 1: you know, so many good comments and they're so supportive

1228
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:20,360
Speaker 1: and so sweet, and then there's that one bagged one

1229
01:00:20,400 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 1: and I'm like, this, son of a bitch, Wait time

1230
01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:24,840
Speaker 1: about Jared? Do you get this? So this happens to

1231
01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:27,800
Speaker 1: Garrett all the time. He'll post a photo and people

1232
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:30,440
Speaker 1: all the time, we'll think that it's on my account,

1233
01:00:30,800 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 1: and so they'll comment like they're talking to me and

1234
01:00:32,840 --> 01:00:34,760
Speaker 1: Garrett's like, I don't know where your shirt is from.

1235
01:00:34,800 --> 01:00:39,240
Speaker 1: Why are they asking because this is my account? Like, well,

1236
01:00:39,720 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 1: sometimes it's like, please ask Ashley where she got this. Yeah,

1237
01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:48,840
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know. All right. I feel

1238
01:00:48,880 --> 01:00:51,960
Speaker 1: like we like there should be like a fireside chat here.

1239
01:00:52,080 --> 01:00:54,640
Speaker 1: We should all be well. I am drinking champagne and

1240
01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 1: so I literally could sit here and talk to you

1241
01:00:57,760 --> 01:01:01,800
Speaker 1: guys forever, Like just because we have so many shared experiences,

1242
01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:04,120
Speaker 1: we've been different at the same time. This has just

1243
01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:06,760
Speaker 1: been really refreshing. But we typically like to play a game.

1244
01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 1: I love ending games with our guests, and of course

1245
01:01:11,080 --> 01:01:14,480
Speaker 1: since you are newlyweds, so the newly game, I'll take it.

1246
01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 1: We're play I love the newly game. So we're gonna

1247
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:20,360
Speaker 1: ask you questions very competitive and you're gonna say it's

1248
01:01:20,400 --> 01:01:22,320
Speaker 1: great you should have like you should have a competitive

1249
01:01:22,360 --> 01:01:27,320
Speaker 1: spirit in your relationships and stuff. No, no, not even

1250
01:01:27,720 --> 01:01:30,040
Speaker 1: you're both football families anything. Yeah, but we usually agree

1251
01:01:30,040 --> 01:01:32,480
Speaker 1: with how it's going to happen. See, you're not a

1252
01:01:32,520 --> 01:01:37,400
Speaker 1: Patriots fan. I've converted its like you under fan, but

1253
01:01:37,560 --> 01:01:40,720
Speaker 1: like Eli Manning is the backing of my well, my

1254
01:01:40,880 --> 01:01:44,440
Speaker 1: dad is the backing of my fan. But Eli Manning

1255
01:01:44,640 --> 01:01:47,600
Speaker 1: was like what really got me into it? So this year,

1256
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:50,240
Speaker 1: I I'm not phasing out or by any means, just

1257
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:52,720
Speaker 1: a lot less interesting. I believe in Danny Dimes. Oh,

1258
01:01:52,760 --> 01:01:55,040
Speaker 1: I believe in him. He's gonna be fine. He might

1259
01:01:55,080 --> 01:01:56,600
Speaker 1: be he might be really good. Just give me a

1260
01:01:56,680 --> 01:01:59,440
Speaker 1: couple of years to get like, you know, reacquainted over there.

1261
01:01:59,560 --> 01:02:02,080
Speaker 1: If anybody is going to remind me of Eli, it's him,

1262
01:02:02,480 --> 01:02:04,840
Speaker 1: So like, I am thankful for them bringing me a

1263
01:02:04,880 --> 01:02:07,680
Speaker 1: whole maybe ten plus years with somebody who reminds me

1264
01:02:07,800 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 1: very much of of course, they draft the goofy quarterback

1265
01:02:09,840 --> 01:02:17,440
Speaker 1: right after they did it, they see when he got drafted,

1266
01:02:18,560 --> 01:02:20,640
Speaker 1: but then we got to know him a little bit more,

1267
01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 1: and like you realize how goofy and Eli ask he is.

1268
01:02:23,680 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 1: But yes, this is far off topic for anyone listening

1269
01:02:26,400 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 1: who might not be a sports fan. I'm with you there,

1270
01:02:29,360 --> 01:02:32,640
Speaker 1: I'm cheersing you right now. I just know nothing about sports. Okay,

1271
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:34,160
Speaker 1: so you guys don't bet over sports, but what else

1272
01:02:34,160 --> 01:02:36,160
Speaker 1: would you better? No, we'll just bet over certain things,

1273
01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:38,720
Speaker 1: like stupid things like what is one we just we'll

1274
01:02:38,800 --> 01:02:42,960
Speaker 1: bet like massages or something I would like to do that. Yeah,

1275
01:02:42,960 --> 01:02:44,920
Speaker 1: but babe out one every time. So like you're just

1276
01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:47,800
Speaker 1: your hands are gonna get start with this game, We'll

1277
01:02:47,880 --> 01:02:52,960
Speaker 1: start out. Whoever wins this game, are you gonna win? Um? Well,

1278
01:02:53,000 --> 01:02:55,280
Speaker 1: I don't know. This time we play this game, and

1279
01:02:55,440 --> 01:02:57,880
Speaker 1: he forgot what my favorite movie was. I just I

1280
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:01,760
Speaker 1: that's not on brand with your relationship. It was just

1281
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:05,200
Speaker 1: like a moment of weakness. No, I knew it's her

1282
01:03:05,200 --> 01:03:08,360
Speaker 1: favorite movie. It's Titanic. I just was thinking romantic comedies,

1283
01:03:08,400 --> 01:03:12,720
Speaker 1: that's why. And so wedding planner. Oh, Ashley, I am

1284
01:03:12,800 --> 01:03:14,800
Speaker 1: not a rom com person, even though that's not a

1285
01:03:14,840 --> 01:03:16,880
Speaker 1: wrong com. I'm just like not in the romantic movies.

1286
01:03:17,320 --> 01:03:22,640
Speaker 1: But I'm obsessed with the Titanic yet. And yes I'm

1287
01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:24,280
Speaker 1: saying I just tell you my favorite part in the

1288
01:03:24,440 --> 01:03:26,280
Speaker 1: entire movie. Yeah, I just want to know if you

1289
01:03:26,360 --> 01:03:28,320
Speaker 1: know this because I feel like this. I don't know

1290
01:03:28,360 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 1: if I can share this with any other movie with you.

1291
01:03:32,360 --> 01:03:36,160
Speaker 1: When Rose is being lowered into the water, yeah, and

1292
01:03:36,760 --> 01:03:38,880
Speaker 1: he's standing there the way he looks at her, and

1293
01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:40,920
Speaker 1: he and you know, the music starts playing like for

1294
01:03:41,040 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 1: the track time and she just jumps and they run

1295
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 1: towards each other and they're back at the stairwell and

1296
01:03:47,880 --> 01:03:51,040
Speaker 1: he grabs her and he's like, you're so stupid, why

1297
01:03:51,080 --> 01:03:52,680
Speaker 1: did you do that? I cry from mental the end

1298
01:03:52,720 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 1: of the moment. It is my favorite. I cry. I

1299
01:03:55,800 --> 01:03:57,880
Speaker 1: still cry watching that movie. That in the Notebook gets

1300
01:03:57,920 --> 01:04:00,840
Speaker 1: me every single time. Can I say, no things go ahead?

1301
01:04:00,840 --> 01:04:02,960
Speaker 1: I was gonna say the Notebook gets like you are

1302
01:04:03,040 --> 01:04:05,520
Speaker 1: not a human being if you haven't cried during the Notebook. Yeah,

1303
01:04:05,520 --> 01:04:07,600
Speaker 1: but I don't cry anymore when I watch it. Garrett

1304
01:04:07,600 --> 01:04:10,760
Speaker 1: has not been notebooked yet. That's weird. I know it.

1305
01:04:11,720 --> 01:04:15,240
Speaker 1: Jared's really into anything gossling, so he's like, we've done

1306
01:04:15,280 --> 01:04:21,439
Speaker 1: regret that hair. Okay wait, yeah, bro that that guy's

1307
01:04:21,440 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 1: a man right there. I must share this about Titanic though.

1308
01:04:24,640 --> 01:04:27,280
Speaker 1: Um the first so I watched it like I used

1309
01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:29,120
Speaker 1: to watch it. I'm just so glad that we grew

1310
01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 1: up with Leo mania, Like were you a little too young? No?

1311
01:04:33,040 --> 01:04:34,680
Speaker 1: So I was like, okay, so, like you may have

1312
01:04:34,760 --> 01:04:36,680
Speaker 1: been on in the under tail of it, but you

1313
01:04:36,760 --> 01:04:41,640
Speaker 1: still got it. I couldn't watch it at first. Let

1314
01:04:41,680 --> 01:04:43,960
Speaker 1: me watch it once once they were able to, like,

1315
01:04:44,200 --> 01:04:46,120
Speaker 1: you know how like the VCR ward work where you

1316
01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:48,240
Speaker 1: can like stop taping it for a second and then

1317
01:04:48,280 --> 01:04:51,240
Speaker 1: you can press record again. They cut out the sex

1318
01:04:51,320 --> 01:04:53,600
Speaker 1: scene in the car, and my friends were like, actually,

1319
01:04:53,640 --> 01:04:55,880
Speaker 1: there's a sex scene and I was like, no, there's not,

1320
01:04:56,440 --> 01:04:58,600
Speaker 1: and like I just didn't catch the fact that they

1321
01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:03,240
Speaker 1: edited that out. My parents self edited. Okay, But about Titanic,

1322
01:05:03,600 --> 01:05:07,120
Speaker 1: I watched it every day for like a good couple

1323
01:05:07,160 --> 01:05:10,080
Speaker 1: of months, like every day, you know, in elementary school.

1324
01:05:10,400 --> 01:05:13,160
Speaker 1: And I think I've probably saw a total of if

1325
01:05:13,200 --> 01:05:17,560
Speaker 1: I'm not exaggerating, sixty times before for the twentieth anniversary

1326
01:05:18,280 --> 01:05:22,960
Speaker 1: twentieth right, sixteen, Yeah, it would have been the twenties, yes, yes,

1327
01:05:26,960 --> 01:05:29,160
Speaker 1: or maybe it was the oh it was the sinking.

1328
01:05:29,360 --> 01:05:31,920
Speaker 1: It's the one hundredth anniversary of sinking. That would have

1329
01:05:31,960 --> 01:05:34,920
Speaker 1: been twelve. Yeah. So in twenty and twelve they re

1330
01:05:35,040 --> 01:05:37,240
Speaker 1: released it to theaters and my sister and I watched

1331
01:05:37,280 --> 01:05:39,240
Speaker 1: it from beginning at the end, the first time that

1332
01:05:39,320 --> 01:05:41,000
Speaker 1: we ever saw in the theater, and it was the

1333
01:05:41,080 --> 01:05:42,800
Speaker 1: first time I ever cried during it, and I was

1334
01:05:43,040 --> 01:05:47,120
Speaker 1: really controllably like just like almost like scream crying, sobbing,

1335
01:05:47,360 --> 01:05:49,400
Speaker 1: and it was really weird because it was the first time.

1336
01:05:49,520 --> 01:05:51,960
Speaker 1: Not weird, no, it's because I was so focused on

1337
01:05:52,040 --> 01:05:55,320
Speaker 1: it the entire three hours and like, no distractions, just

1338
01:05:55,560 --> 01:05:57,760
Speaker 1: dark theater. I've never cried harder than I saw it

1339
01:05:57,840 --> 01:05:59,720
Speaker 1: in the theater. Yeah, And I had the exact same

1340
01:05:59,760 --> 01:06:02,200
Speaker 1: re action the next time. I think I willed out

1341
01:06:02,240 --> 01:06:06,520
Speaker 1: like that was a star sport. Oh that was me.

1342
01:06:06,760 --> 01:06:09,600
Speaker 1: That was me like a month ago with a Hallwork movie. Really,

1343
01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:12,480
Speaker 1: the stars were like, I was like, I'm gonna leave.

1344
01:06:12,480 --> 01:06:14,160
Speaker 1: I'm gonna leave. I have to leave the theater because

1345
01:06:14,240 --> 01:06:18,400
Speaker 1: if I try to breathe right now, it's gonna go. Well,

1346
01:06:18,440 --> 01:06:20,600
Speaker 1: that's what happened in the movie stopped all of a sudden.

1347
01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:22,720
Speaker 1: I heard as soon as it went, because that where

1348
01:06:22,800 --> 01:06:25,200
Speaker 1: she's singing, and then it cuts to him singing, and

1349
01:06:25,280 --> 01:06:27,200
Speaker 1: then the movie ends all of a sudden. I just

1350
01:06:27,280 --> 01:06:30,800
Speaker 1: heard from right now. I could cry right now. We

1351
01:06:30,840 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 1: were not ready for him to sing that version of

1352
01:06:33,280 --> 01:06:38,960
Speaker 1: the song. I willed It's a moment, a moment. Wait,

1353
01:06:39,040 --> 01:06:42,560
Speaker 1: did anyone cry during the super commercial? The super Bowl commercial,

1354
01:06:45,240 --> 01:06:48,560
Speaker 1: we were all got me so deep, So, like Google,

1355
01:06:48,640 --> 01:06:50,840
Speaker 1: I want the super Bowl to get away from everything.

1356
01:06:50,920 --> 01:06:53,080
Speaker 1: I just tell you that, I like was just doing

1357
01:06:53,120 --> 01:06:55,680
Speaker 1: something at extra with Billy. Yeah, so they do these

1358
01:06:55,720 --> 01:06:57,920
Speaker 1: little vignettes, and so he was showing me what his

1359
01:06:58,040 --> 01:07:02,240
Speaker 1: most emotional, what his most what his emotional game? Game? Shit,

1360
01:07:02,680 --> 01:07:05,320
Speaker 1: what his emotional the commercial and he's showing it to me,

1361
01:07:05,320 --> 01:07:07,240
Speaker 1: and they're filming it and I had seen it, but

1362
01:07:07,280 --> 01:07:08,919
Speaker 1: I had to act like I didn't and I start

1363
01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:12,040
Speaker 1: we all started crying. Billy's crying. I'm crying. You can

1364
01:07:12,120 --> 01:07:14,280
Speaker 1: hear the producer sniffling because I was just telling him like,

1365
01:07:14,280 --> 01:07:17,480
Speaker 1: Alzheimer's runs in my family, so to see it was

1366
01:07:17,800 --> 01:07:20,760
Speaker 1: was tough. But then but then the very next commercial

1367
01:07:20,840 --> 01:07:23,320
Speaker 1: in real time when that played was Rick Flair, Yeah,

1368
01:07:25,200 --> 01:07:30,400
Speaker 1: why would you do this? I was like, what a

1369
01:07:30,720 --> 01:07:37,360
Speaker 1: transition that. I don't know what the hell is going on? Flair? Okay,

1370
01:07:37,440 --> 01:07:41,000
Speaker 1: all hashtag Loretto. Okay, we're gonna play a game with

1371
01:07:41,080 --> 01:07:43,080
Speaker 1: you guys, because I love to play a game with

1372
01:07:43,320 --> 01:07:45,280
Speaker 1: our guests, and we were playing the Newlyway game. Of

1373
01:07:45,360 --> 01:07:48,040
Speaker 1: course it's very fitting. So we're gonna ask you a question,

1374
01:07:48,800 --> 01:07:52,320
Speaker 1: who is blank? And you're gonna say bride or groom. Now,

1375
01:07:52,680 --> 01:07:55,760
Speaker 1: since we're talking about bets, the odds are a full

1376
01:07:55,800 --> 01:07:59,400
Speaker 1: body massage. Whoever wins give someone an one hour full

1377
01:07:59,440 --> 01:08:09,919
Speaker 1: body massag with essential oils. Ye Nicks, shake on it. Yeah, okay,

1378
01:08:11,120 --> 01:08:16,519
Speaker 1: and gentlemen, here we go. First one, who is the

1379
01:08:16,600 --> 01:08:23,559
Speaker 1: better cook? One two three Ride? Sorry, you guys are sorry?

1380
01:08:24,360 --> 01:08:34,280
Speaker 1: Next him, Jared? Okay, who is the better dancer? One

1381
01:08:34,600 --> 01:08:37,680
Speaker 1: two three shared? What do you mean? You guess? I

1382
01:08:37,760 --> 01:08:40,000
Speaker 1: mean like, I'm not good, but he's not good either

1383
01:08:40,479 --> 01:08:44,640
Speaker 1: a decent but at least like he does. Wait, did

1384
01:08:44,680 --> 01:08:47,519
Speaker 1: you guys not have a choreograph dance for your We

1385
01:08:47,680 --> 01:08:50,679
Speaker 1: just we did a good job. Yeah, I could probably

1386
01:08:50,760 --> 01:08:52,960
Speaker 1: do that, like id probably ball room dance because like

1387
01:08:53,200 --> 01:08:56,519
Speaker 1: it's somewhere in like my chick flick blood and just

1388
01:08:56,640 --> 01:08:58,160
Speaker 1: also the guy in that moment, like for me, I

1389
01:08:58,240 --> 01:08:59,640
Speaker 1: was like I just got to take control and like

1390
01:08:59,720 --> 01:09:04,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna looks really better than Pilot Peat. That's a standard,

1391
01:09:04,439 --> 01:09:06,519
Speaker 1: I would say. That's just he's just about Pilot Peat,

1392
01:09:06,840 --> 01:09:09,760
Speaker 1: which is just about Ben Higgins. They're all about the same,

1393
01:09:09,840 --> 01:09:15,439
Speaker 1: well Ben Higgins themselves like those just because it was

1394
01:09:15,520 --> 01:09:28,439
Speaker 1: shady actually better. Okay, who has a larger appetite? Well okay,

1395
01:09:28,520 --> 01:09:30,880
Speaker 1: well you guys agreed, you got the same point. Okay,

1396
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:33,759
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you guys biggest you know, our biggest

1397
01:09:33,880 --> 01:09:36,160
Speaker 1: argument is about is about the fact that he doesn't

1398
01:09:36,200 --> 01:09:38,120
Speaker 1: have a passion for food like I don't. He doesn't

1399
01:09:38,160 --> 01:09:39,760
Speaker 1: think about it as much as I do. I have

1400
01:09:39,840 --> 01:09:41,840
Speaker 1: such a passionate year. It's the same way He's like,

1401
01:09:41,920 --> 01:09:43,640
Speaker 1: I just want to eat to live, and I'm like,

1402
01:09:43,720 --> 01:09:49,640
Speaker 1: I want to same. You alren't eat a survivor. I

1403
01:09:49,680 --> 01:09:52,479
Speaker 1: would have never thought that about you, say, because I

1404
01:09:52,560 --> 01:09:56,000
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm gonna say it's because you're passionate. But

1405
01:09:56,080 --> 01:09:58,879
Speaker 1: then I was like, but very probably picky eater. Interesting.

1406
01:09:58,960 --> 01:10:02,879
Speaker 1: I can't hear you, man. I love a good everything,

1407
01:10:03,439 --> 01:10:06,280
Speaker 1: everything all right? Next one? Who has a cleaner car?

1408
01:10:06,640 --> 01:10:11,920
Speaker 1: One two three? Jared? Okay, we're so good, so good?

1409
01:10:12,000 --> 01:10:15,519
Speaker 1: Yeah you're okay. Nobody's getting a massage tonight? Okay. Who

1410
01:10:15,720 --> 01:10:20,720
Speaker 1: takes longer to get ready? One two three? Okay, Oh,

1411
01:10:20,880 --> 01:10:24,240
Speaker 1: this is a good one. Who is more romantic? One

1412
01:10:24,439 --> 01:10:30,240
Speaker 1: two three. I'm such an asshole and he used to

1413
01:10:31,880 --> 01:10:33,600
Speaker 1: it up. I know I need to step it up.

1414
01:10:34,040 --> 01:10:36,479
Speaker 1: I'm romantic, but you're far more romantic. You really are.

1415
01:10:36,880 --> 01:10:39,679
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I read this sext. Question is so wrong.

1416
01:10:40,800 --> 01:10:43,080
Speaker 1: I can see probably how you said it, okay or

1417
01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:46,160
Speaker 1: thought about it. Who takes up more of the bad

1418
01:10:46,439 --> 01:10:53,479
Speaker 1: one two three naturally precisely the oh shells, I wake

1419
01:10:53,600 --> 01:10:56,479
Speaker 1: up with nothing on me, and I'm like, why am

1420
01:10:56,479 --> 01:10:59,599
Speaker 1: I freezing? Yeah? I just have to like buy Garrett

1421
01:10:59,640 --> 01:11:02,960
Speaker 1: his own comforter and yeah, just like they do that

1422
01:11:03,080 --> 01:11:05,840
Speaker 1: nice they do. That's what my mom me. But you

1423
01:11:05,920 --> 01:11:08,040
Speaker 1: know what's because it's like you want to snuggle underneath

1424
01:11:08,080 --> 01:11:10,120
Speaker 1: that first, and then then you want to be warm

1425
01:11:10,200 --> 01:11:13,919
Speaker 1: when you roll over and steal it get sleep. Snuggling

1426
01:11:14,000 --> 01:11:17,840
Speaker 1: and sleeping just weren't meant to bath a good snuggle session, then,

1427
01:11:17,920 --> 01:11:20,639
Speaker 1: says the man in the room, exactly says the woman,

1428
01:11:20,840 --> 01:11:23,600
Speaker 1: like being a big spoon, it's difficult because you have

1429
01:11:23,760 --> 01:11:25,760
Speaker 1: body weight on top of your arm. Love, how do

1430
01:11:25,800 --> 01:11:27,800
Speaker 1: you feel a little spoon? And if he tries being

1431
01:11:27,800 --> 01:11:30,040
Speaker 1: a little spoon, he's like, this is because it's nice

1432
01:11:30,080 --> 01:11:32,719
Speaker 1: that you're liking your little cocoon and you can sleep

1433
01:11:32,880 --> 01:11:34,920
Speaker 1: because there's nothing on top of you, like when you're big.

1434
01:11:35,160 --> 01:11:37,559
Speaker 1: Do you think I like to be big spoon better

1435
01:11:37,600 --> 01:11:39,400
Speaker 1: because just for that reason, like I don't want to

1436
01:11:39,400 --> 01:11:45,120
Speaker 1: feel like I can't breathe like a cradle, yeah right now.

1437
01:11:45,160 --> 01:11:47,800
Speaker 1: And he's like, oh gosh, I do I love to

1438
01:11:47,880 --> 01:11:52,680
Speaker 1: cradle my my love breaking? All right? Who met the

1439
01:11:52,800 --> 01:11:56,599
Speaker 1: in laws first? One? Two three? Met my parents first? Yeah,

1440
01:11:56,680 --> 01:11:59,680
Speaker 1: Jared met the in law Okay, okay, awesome, we are

1441
01:11:59,720 --> 01:12:02,720
Speaker 1: still tied. Come on, somebody, we're gonna have a tie

1442
01:12:02,760 --> 01:12:05,120
Speaker 1: break group. Why and I would not be tied right now? No,

1443
01:12:05,479 --> 01:12:10,719
Speaker 1: so spends more money one two three, He wants to say, Ashley,

1444
01:12:10,840 --> 01:12:14,920
Speaker 1: but like it's so almost closet just because if your

1445
01:12:14,960 --> 01:12:18,120
Speaker 1: makeup you're I would say that I do spend more money,

1446
01:12:18,240 --> 01:12:21,160
Speaker 1: But honestly, I think it's just like that pink tax

1447
01:12:21,280 --> 01:12:24,280
Speaker 1: type of girl. It's just a little bit more expensive

1448
01:12:24,320 --> 01:12:26,479
Speaker 1: to live. I think we're both an equal level of frugal,

1449
01:12:26,520 --> 01:12:28,680
Speaker 1: but like her makeup and her beauty products cost more

1450
01:12:28,680 --> 01:12:30,800
Speaker 1: than anything I buy. So it's just like, you know,

1451
01:12:31,320 --> 01:12:34,040
Speaker 1: like I paid one hundred dollars or sneakers and it

1452
01:12:34,120 --> 01:12:35,960
Speaker 1: took me like two months. I was like, I can't hurt.

1453
01:12:36,000 --> 01:12:37,960
Speaker 1: I can't spend this money. I can't do it. Yeah,

1454
01:12:38,120 --> 01:12:45,519
Speaker 1: it's her little vials. What all right? You guys? Next?

1455
01:12:46,320 --> 01:12:54,960
Speaker 1: Who is the first to forgive one two three? She should? Why? Well,

1456
01:12:55,000 --> 01:12:57,479
Speaker 1: I always think about the times, where like he usually

1457
01:12:57,600 --> 01:13:00,519
Speaker 1: will like, I mean like maybe I I just don't

1458
01:13:00,560 --> 01:13:03,439
Speaker 1: get as mad as at things. Well, I think we

1459
01:13:03,600 --> 01:13:06,400
Speaker 1: handle it differently. Yeah, Like that's why I think you're

1460
01:13:06,439 --> 01:13:11,160
Speaker 1: easier to forgive, because Ashley literally just is not in

1461
01:13:11,200 --> 01:13:14,840
Speaker 1: a bad mood. She isn't it's insane because she is

1462
01:13:14,880 --> 01:13:16,800
Speaker 1: the person like if something on her mind, she's saying

1463
01:13:16,840 --> 01:13:19,960
Speaker 1: it immediately, it gets out of the universe and it's out.

1464
01:13:20,040 --> 01:13:23,760
Speaker 1: Like me, I just I simmer and I bottle in it.

1465
01:13:23,960 --> 01:13:28,439
Speaker 1: I'm quiet. What's your birthday? November? He's a scorpion scorpio.

1466
01:13:28,479 --> 01:13:30,680
Speaker 1: I thought you're gonna say you're a cancer. Well he's

1467
01:13:30,720 --> 01:13:33,560
Speaker 1: still water sign and so I just kind of and

1468
01:13:33,640 --> 01:13:35,479
Speaker 1: then she's like, what's wrong, what's wrong? I'm like, nothing,

1469
01:13:35,600 --> 01:13:38,840
Speaker 1: nothing's wrong. Nothing is wrong. It's being coming increasingly worse

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01:13:38,880 --> 01:13:40,680
Speaker 1: by you asking me if something is wrong. So I

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01:13:40,760 --> 01:13:43,760
Speaker 1: think that's why you're easier to forgive, because like, once

1472
01:13:43,800 --> 01:13:45,160
Speaker 1: I'm out of it, you're like, no, it's fine, I

1473
01:13:45,240 --> 01:13:46,880
Speaker 1: get it. See. I think the reason I say that

1474
01:13:47,080 --> 01:13:48,800
Speaker 1: is because like he's the one that usually has to

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01:13:48,960 --> 01:13:51,000
Speaker 1: come to forgive, do you know what I mean? Like

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01:13:51,080 --> 01:13:53,200
Speaker 1: he like has more scenes where he's like, well, come

1477
01:13:53,240 --> 01:13:56,360
Speaker 1: over and be like I'm sorry, yeah, yeah, we have

1478
01:13:56,439 --> 01:14:03,080
Speaker 1: the same dynamic. Yeah, yeah, interesting, let's go to dinner. Okay,

1479
01:14:03,320 --> 01:14:09,720
Speaker 1: who snores at night? One two three? Neither anyone? Like?

1480
01:14:09,960 --> 01:14:12,240
Speaker 1: Does anyone give really? Cook every know? And again? Now

1481
01:14:12,520 --> 01:14:16,840
Speaker 1: I had a cold? Anything like that? Oh my gosh,

1482
01:14:16,920 --> 01:14:20,040
Speaker 1: that must be nice. I mean I catch the rhythm

1483
01:14:20,120 --> 01:14:22,920
Speaker 1: of the snoring and go to sleep. Oh Garrett is

1484
01:14:23,000 --> 01:14:27,880
Speaker 1: so incredible. No I have to kick him over or

1485
01:14:28,000 --> 01:14:32,639
Speaker 1: roll him. I just imagine Garrett snoring like the house shaking.

1486
01:14:33,560 --> 01:14:36,960
Speaker 1: Let me tell you he has had one too many drinks.

1487
01:14:37,200 --> 01:14:41,559
Speaker 1: It is ridiculous. Yeah, you need earplugs, like really good ones,

1488
01:14:41,680 --> 01:14:43,240
Speaker 1: not like little ones that they give you on the plane.

1489
01:14:43,280 --> 01:14:45,960
Speaker 1: There's like a brand on Amazon, really the ones that

1490
01:14:46,000 --> 01:14:48,120
Speaker 1: you like. Shove it. Yeah, Garrett, I love you. I

1491
01:14:48,240 --> 01:14:53,560
Speaker 1: promise snoring isn't embarrassing? Okay? Last one? Who is the

1492
01:14:53,640 --> 01:14:58,000
Speaker 1: better driver? One two three? Art you guys? I know

1493
01:14:58,200 --> 01:15:04,000
Speaker 1: I don't even know how to ti yea is thirty minutes.

1494
01:15:05,120 --> 01:15:10,560
Speaker 1: It's crazy to hear you thirty minutes each four a massage.

1495
01:15:10,880 --> 01:15:16,080
Speaker 1: You're welcome both. You should be our therapist. Well um,

1496
01:15:16,200 --> 01:15:18,200
Speaker 1: but anyways, you guys, thank you so much for being

1497
01:15:18,280 --> 01:15:20,680
Speaker 1: so open and honest. On the podcast. It's truly been

1498
01:15:20,720 --> 01:15:22,680
Speaker 1: a pleasure to have you both here. That means you

1499
01:15:22,720 --> 01:15:24,840
Speaker 1: have to come back, right and so far is we

1500
01:15:24,920 --> 01:15:27,200
Speaker 1: have to return the favor and go to their podcast. Yeah,

1501
01:15:27,360 --> 01:15:29,080
Speaker 1: you guys are more than welcome to come on help.

1502
01:15:29,160 --> 01:15:33,760
Speaker 1: I suck at dating myself and Dean angler they have

1503
01:15:35,439 --> 01:15:38,000
Speaker 1: because now you're married and Dean is in right now,

1504
01:15:38,360 --> 01:15:41,800
Speaker 1: we're nice. But you keep saying Dean's last name, and

1505
01:15:41,920 --> 01:15:44,000
Speaker 1: Dean was on my season, and it was like, is

1506
01:15:44,080 --> 01:15:48,120
Speaker 1: that how you say? Yeah, I guess like that recentive

1507
01:15:48,160 --> 01:15:50,720
Speaker 1: it's like every girl wants to marry Dean. No girl

1508
01:15:50,760 --> 01:15:58,040
Speaker 1: wants to take his last name. I'm big on last name. Actually, yeah,

1509
01:15:58,080 --> 01:16:00,439
Speaker 1: it doesn't roll off the tongue. I'll tell you. Miller

1510
01:16:00,560 --> 01:16:02,720
Speaker 1: Keys is so cute. It is cute. And let me

1511
01:16:02,800 --> 01:16:06,759
Speaker 1: say about the suck part. Everybody sucks at dating guys.

1512
01:16:06,920 --> 01:16:10,439
Speaker 1: I actually think I'm married great dater. See, you should

1513
01:16:10,439 --> 01:16:12,320
Speaker 1: come on the podcast. I like that, and then you'll

1514
01:16:12,360 --> 01:16:14,720
Speaker 1: prove that you're a great dater, because then you'll just

1515
01:16:14,880 --> 01:16:17,680
Speaker 1: outsmart I was a serial dater. I enjoy dating and

1516
01:16:17,800 --> 01:16:23,240
Speaker 1: going and meeting new people. Just paid for like, Okay,

1517
01:16:23,400 --> 01:16:25,160
Speaker 1: it's not in the budget. Let me go on this day.

1518
01:16:25,360 --> 01:16:26,640
Speaker 1: Did you do like that? Did you ever do the

1519
01:16:26,720 --> 01:16:29,240
Speaker 1: fake reach like would you or like when you went

1520
01:16:29,280 --> 01:16:31,720
Speaker 1: on date the guy paid? No, I didn't fake you

1521
01:16:31,840 --> 01:16:35,280
Speaker 1: know what to do? No, I didn't think Jared is

1522
01:16:35,360 --> 01:16:37,920
Speaker 1: turned off by the idea that I would not ever

1523
01:16:38,040 --> 01:16:40,320
Speaker 1: fake reach, especially not the first two dates. No, well,

1524
01:16:40,320 --> 01:16:44,559
Speaker 1: the first day, I just I reach. I know we're

1525
01:16:44,600 --> 01:16:47,960
Speaker 1: going way off topic. We could probably send this, I know. Listen. Okay, Yes,

1526
01:16:48,040 --> 01:16:49,800
Speaker 1: people have to go home, people have places to be.

1527
01:16:49,880 --> 01:16:51,800
Speaker 1: But thank you guys for being here. Loved having you.

1528
01:16:52,439 --> 01:16:55,280
Speaker 1: I will return the fam. Yes, thank you guys, and

1529
01:16:55,400 --> 01:16:57,760
Speaker 1: thank you guys for listening. We've got so much more

1530
01:16:57,760 --> 01:17:00,519
Speaker 1: to come, so many great guests. You get this only Han,

1531
01:17:00,720 --> 01:17:01,599
Speaker 1: That's our happy hour.