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Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached

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Speaker 1: here to give you a device on anything and everything

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Speaker 1: you need help with. Whether you're going through a breakup

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Speaker 1: a question about my personal life. Whatever the case is,

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Speaker 2: The beeB, Hi, Cheeky's. I have two questions for you.

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Speaker 2: The first one is from your experience, how was Fernie

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Speaker 2: as a boyfriend to your mom Jenny Like? Did you

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Speaker 2: like him for her as like a partner? Were you

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Speaker 2: sad disappointed that their relationship didn't last in the end

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Speaker 2: and didn't work out and everything that happened. And my

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Speaker 2: second question is would you have him as a guest

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Speaker 2: in your podcast like for an episode? Thank you and

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Speaker 2: sending you lots of love to you and your siblings

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Speaker 2: and always remembering your mom.

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Speaker 1: Oh, Patty, you put me in a hot seat. I

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Speaker 1: love it. You guys, this is what dear Cheekies is

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Speaker 1: all about. You can ask me anything, and most likely

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Speaker 1: ninety eight percent of the time I will answer it.

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Speaker 1: I think it's rare when I'll say I don't want

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Speaker 1: so I'm gonna go ahead and answer them. Fernie, I

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Speaker 1: think was a great partner for my mom in the

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Speaker 1: sense of he brought the best out in her in

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Speaker 1: her music. A lot of people don't know this, but

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Speaker 1: Fernie brought out I guess the hood for the lack

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Speaker 1: of a better word, and got her in touch with

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Speaker 1: that girl from Long Beach. And he also loves music,

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Speaker 1: so he helped her a lot in the studio and

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Speaker 1: he was very involved. And I think when he came

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Speaker 1: So Fernie, definitely, in that aspect, was great and he

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Speaker 1: Fernie, in my mother's words, was her soulmate, the love

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Speaker 1: But Patty, to answer your question, it was like a

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Speaker 1: you know Johnny, my brother, the little one, is very

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Speaker 3: Hellu, Tikis. I just wanted to tell you I love you,

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Speaker 3: your siblings and your mama and all the content that

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Speaker 3: you've done. You really are an inspiration. Just two questions.

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Speaker 3: And second question, what do you do if you and

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Speaker 3: your partner's future long term goals don't align with each other.

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Speaker 1: Oh Joey, I love you too. Thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for listening, thank you for all those beautiful words you

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Speaker 1: So Gina's asking why doesn't Johnny, my little brother, who

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Speaker 1: back to you guys in English. Gina, Johnny gieno porque

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Speaker 1: semso lejosmos? I don't know this? Andilia lista pero el

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Speaker 1: tomola quiero aprendero so yeah, MUCII pero aura loveo movien

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Speaker 1: comino grande and responsably moi moisl casa c canthiavar Milo

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Speaker 1: Control Progress. So anyway, I was telling Gina guys that

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