1 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: Welcome to more Anita, a deep dive into the Latin 2 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:11,320 Speaker 1: X experience. With more Anita, we want to create a 3 00:00:11,360 --> 00:00:14,720 Speaker 1: community and a shared space with you while sharing knowledge 4 00:00:14,720 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: and inspiration. This show is about celebrating our culture with 5 00:00:18,640 --> 00:00:22,600 Speaker 1: guests who exemplify the best of us. I'm Darrylene Gastillo, 6 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: Ethane Vito me hand. Today you are going to hear 7 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: something a bit different this week. I'm the one in 8 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 1: the hot seat. That's right, I am the one getting 9 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: interviewed and the one getting asked all the questions. I 10 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 1: had the honor of being on Amiga's Get Money podcasts 11 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:49,560 Speaker 1: that was led by my girl and fellow Latina, Danielle 12 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: Romo LaRue. On Amiga's Get Money, we are talking about 13 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: the money, honey. If you ever wanted to know more 14 00:00:57,320 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: about me, here is your chance. And if you ever 15 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 1: wanted to know how I keep much money together, you 16 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 1: definitely need to continue listening to this one now. Look, 17 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 1: I get it. Conversations about money can also be a 18 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:15,919 Speaker 1: bit daunting, a bit nerve wracking, and a bit vulnerable. 19 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: But that's exactly why I think this conversation is so necessary. 20 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: We need to learn so we can continue teaching others 21 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:29,320 Speaker 1: in our community so we can become knowledgeable and stronger together. 22 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: You're gonna get an inside look of my day to 23 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 1: day life, how I juggle all of the pots on 24 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 1: my stove, and how I've been learning about finances and 25 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:42,560 Speaker 1: handling my multiple sources of income. Coming from a household 26 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:45,200 Speaker 1: of a hard working mother who pulled herself up throughout 27 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:48,280 Speaker 1: her career has been the example that I had around 28 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: me and still have around me. I believe that when 29 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: we are confronted with extremely difficult situations, it's all about 30 00:01:55,880 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 1: how we process the situation and find the solution. It's 31 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,559 Speaker 1: how do you get yourself back on your own two 32 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: feet and how do you put one foot in front 33 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: of the other. Well, keep listening to find out how 34 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: I did it and how I am still doing it, 35 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:18,959 Speaker 1: saying vital Thank you so much Daryln for being on 36 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: the podcast. If somebody were to ask you, where to 37 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: like wonder, like what does a typical day for you 38 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 1: look like? Because I hear singer, actress, podcaster, educator, student, 39 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: I feel like they're like seasons of different things that 40 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:35,959 Speaker 1: you focus on, But like, what does a typical day 41 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:38,920 Speaker 1: look like for you? Yeah? I mean it's like it's 42 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:41,480 Speaker 1: a weird answer. But it's like, I don't know, because 43 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 1: it's so different, Like every day is different. There's like, 44 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: you know, Mondays are usually the days that I would 45 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 1: want to do my podcasting interviews. Um I have my 46 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:53,200 Speaker 1: team like schedule my interviews like back to back, and 47 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: I love having. I love doing the podcast interviews like 48 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 1: in one sitting because I just love once I have 49 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,079 Speaker 1: one conversation on flow and I'm like, cool, I'm ready 50 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: for the next one. I'm ready to flow it out. 51 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 1: Um So I love having That's something that I'm learning 52 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 1: about myself. Um So, like that's my Mondays. But you know, 53 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:13,280 Speaker 1: it's it's really crazy because I'll get I mean, it's 54 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 1: just been so weird after COVID as well, because prior 55 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: to COVID, I was on tour with Hambleton's so um 56 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: I was doing I was playing Peggy Skyler Marii Reynolds 57 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:26,799 Speaker 1: in Hamilton's The Phillip Company, and um, when I'm in 58 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: a show, it's just more structured, you know. I'm like, 59 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 1: you know, we have rehearsal or we have our shows 60 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 1: at night. I don't have to wear like so many hats, 61 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: you know. Because also it's like I get a little 62 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 1: comfortable in the role, and I get a little comfortable 63 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 1: in the place and of everything. And obviously, you know, 64 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: when you're in a number one show in the world, 65 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: you're getting paid really nice too. So um, you know. 66 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 1: But even when I was in Hambleton's, I was I was. 67 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:55,120 Speaker 1: I mean, I I was kind of crazy. Actually, I 68 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: would all my vacations. I used to travel back to 69 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 1: New York. Um how some shows at Rockwood, which is 70 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: like a really cool concert venue, and you know, I 71 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:08,720 Speaker 1: would use all my vacation days to go do something else, 72 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: like shoot my music video, go to the studio in 73 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: l A or you know, things like that. So I 74 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 1: just don't know how to sit down. I guess I 75 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,440 Speaker 1: can't wait. I just I just I've always felt, you know, 76 00:04:21,480 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: I've always been really independent and like you know, my 77 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: mom and my father and my stepsof father, they really 78 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:31,000 Speaker 1: raised me to like be a hustler. I guess, um, 79 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 1: you know, so I very much. I had that mentality 80 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,040 Speaker 1: and that vibe around me. You know, while growing up, 81 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 1: I really hate people like always think like, oh, actors 82 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: are poor, Like you know that if you're not if 83 00:04:44,240 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 1: you're not actor, Yeah, yeah, and I'm like actually, like 84 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:52,160 Speaker 1: I'm okay, Like, um, I have a nice car, you know, 85 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:54,840 Speaker 1: like I got a ben for my first car, like 86 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 1: you know, girls keeping her receipts. Girl is learning how 87 00:04:57,240 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: to invest, girl is learning how to keep it together 88 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:03,039 Speaker 1: there um and also like you have to in this 89 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:05,520 Speaker 1: in this industry, you can't just do one thing. You 90 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 1: have to be multifaceteds or multifaceted. Yeah yeah, multifaceted. Yes. 91 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:13,920 Speaker 1: I think it's actually the words on my website and 92 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: I did not know how to pronounce it. Um. You 93 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:19,840 Speaker 1: can totally use this dandy alf you want to? Um? 94 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:22,600 Speaker 1: So yeah, I you know you have to be like 95 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: because if you aren't, then you might be a starving actor, 96 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: you know. And you said a lot, So I kind 97 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 1: of want to I want to break it up because 98 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: I want to talk about being on a show, being 99 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 1: on like Hamilton's. But I also kind of want to 100 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 1: go back to childhood. You So you said you were 101 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: raised with this, like you need to be a hustler 102 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: like this, there is no other way. So what how 103 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:50,200 Speaker 1: like what influences, like were your parents like you know, 104 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 1: hustling themselves? Did you see that? Did you witness it? 105 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 1: Are you an only child, Like, what was that dynamic 106 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,560 Speaker 1: for you? So? Um, I am an only child with 107 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: my mom and my father. I have two other half brothers. Um. 108 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:05,840 Speaker 1: I have an older one and not like too close 109 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:08,200 Speaker 1: with him. Um. I think he lives in Florida, and 110 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: my younger half brother he lives just really like near me. 111 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:15,480 Speaker 1: So I've always wanted to keep a relationship with him 112 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: because I didn't have that, you know with my older 113 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 1: half brothers. So I kind of want to like keep 114 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 1: that big sister vibe for him. Um. But yeah, I 115 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: mean when I was an only child, I mean I 116 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:28,360 Speaker 1: didn't grow up you know with them around and things 117 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 1: like that. So, yes, I'm an only child. And um, 118 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:34,719 Speaker 1: I mean my parents came to this country when they 119 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 1: were like young, you know. So my mom came from 120 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:40,840 Speaker 1: the Dominican Republic when she was fourteen. Um. She has 121 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 1: a book out about her life. Actually, it's called Dominican 122 00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:48,680 Speaker 1: Dream American Realities. My mom's a writer. Yeah, so my mom. 123 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:52,200 Speaker 1: My mom is a is a writer. She's a she 124 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: just retired from the d OE. Um, she used to 125 00:06:55,120 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: be one of the big wigs over there. Um, but 126 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 1: you know my mom, Mom, let's talk about my mom. 127 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: Let's talk about moms first, because I feel like they're 128 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: the glue, They're the stick um for everything. You know. 129 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: She came here when she was fourteen, didn't know much English, 130 00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 1: but went and got her her doctor in English, her 131 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: PhD in English. So it's just like such a metaphorical 132 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:21,480 Speaker 1: like every time I say that about my mom, I like, 133 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 1: that's the best way to describe her. You know, She's like, 134 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: I can't speak English, so I'm going to go and 135 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: get the highest level something and something that I couldn't 136 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 1: speak very well, um, which is what she did. She 137 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: got her doctor from n y u UM in English, 138 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: and you know she went on to work with the 139 00:07:38,520 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: d OE and and work her butt off. You know, 140 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: she's a principal. Start off as a teacher, a principal, 141 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: and you know worked her way up to like working 142 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: with the chancellor and everything like that. So you know, 143 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 1: she I've I've never seen my mom like take a 144 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: back seat, you know what I mean. She's always driving, 145 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: She's always like So that's the first you know, example 146 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: of female you know, in my life. And I'm like, 147 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: she's like a goddess. You know that is amazing, Like that, 148 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 1: I think are the influences that our mothers our grandmothers 149 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: have on ours are huge. And so the fact that 150 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: like you saw your mom go out and like get 151 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: a PhD and like she was fourteen when she moved 152 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:23,760 Speaker 1: to this country, You're like, well, I can do whatever 153 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 1: the hell I want to, Like I'm going to take 154 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 1: that energy and like quadruple it because like there is 155 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 1: no excuse for me exactly, and I think my mom's 156 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:35,719 Speaker 1: always and also like it's really great. I've had a 157 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:39,240 Speaker 1: tremendous support like my entire career, my entire life. Yeah, 158 00:08:39,280 --> 00:08:40,959 Speaker 1: that's what I was going to ask you. Like, I 159 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: guess your parents were like what did they say when 160 00:08:44,320 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: you chose like this creative route for yourself? So I remember, well, 161 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: I don't remember much of this night, but my mom does. 162 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:04,839 Speaker 1: She tells the story all the time. But I was 163 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:06,839 Speaker 1: five years old and I got to open up for 164 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:10,520 Speaker 1: Yolanda Adams, which is a famous gospel singer. Um I 165 00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:12,960 Speaker 1: went to this like Christian private school like my pre 166 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: case and things like that, and I guess it went 167 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,559 Speaker 1: really well, and they were like I just remember like 168 00:09:18,679 --> 00:09:21,559 Speaker 1: swarms of people coming towards me, and my mom kind 169 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:23,199 Speaker 1: of said, you know, I looked over at her and 170 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: I was like, I want to do this for the 171 00:09:24,280 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 1: rest of my life. And my mom was like, okay, 172 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 1: like that's nice. But then you know, she was plugging 173 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:34,559 Speaker 1: me into I've always wanted to do some dancing, gymnastics. 174 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:37,760 Speaker 1: I was. I was trying everything as a child. Um, 175 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:41,439 Speaker 1: and I was really fortunate to because we it's like 176 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:44,280 Speaker 1: a weird thing. My my mom and my father got divorced, 177 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 1: and especially in the Latin culture, like you know, there's 178 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: some stereotypes of like, oh, the men leaves and the 179 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: women single and raising all the kids and this and that. 180 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 1: That wasn't really the case. I mean, my my dad 181 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:59,120 Speaker 1: is like my best friend to this day also, um, 182 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,280 Speaker 1: and my stepdad my best friend to this day as well. 183 00:10:01,360 --> 00:10:03,199 Speaker 1: So I kind of lucked out and I have a 184 00:10:03,720 --> 00:10:06,960 Speaker 1: two dads and my mom, you know. UM. And also 185 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:09,199 Speaker 1: my dad remarried, you know, so his wife is lovely 186 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:11,839 Speaker 1: and that's another person that supports me and is and 187 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:16,079 Speaker 1: cares so much. So um. You know, at one point though, 188 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:18,959 Speaker 1: my mom was a single mom in that mindset, and 189 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 1: you know, obviously divorces can be messy in the beginning, 190 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 1: you know, like we there was a year or two. 191 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:27,920 Speaker 1: I think it was more a year where you know, 192 00:10:28,320 --> 00:10:31,160 Speaker 1: she couldn't buy me like my favorite popcorn, or she 193 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 1: couldn't buy me like snacks and things like that. We 194 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 1: would go to the grocery store and and I realized, 195 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:38,480 Speaker 1: like we didn't go school shopping that year. You know, 196 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:40,959 Speaker 1: like I was like, what am I going to run 197 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 1: on the first day of school? And she's like what 198 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:47,800 Speaker 1: she wore on the last day? I don't know, figure 199 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,280 Speaker 1: it out? Which is a weird year. That was a weird, 200 00:10:50,400 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 1: weird year. And like, you know, my my aunt would 201 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:56,640 Speaker 1: watched me and help my mom with her schedule because 202 00:10:56,679 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: she was just working for the d o E like 203 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:02,719 Speaker 1: running things and then running things at home. Um, so 204 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:06,800 Speaker 1: that was a weird year. Uh. And I was so young, 205 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 1: I didn't know like what was happening or anything. Um. 206 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:11,559 Speaker 1: But my stepdad then enter our lives and you know, 207 00:11:11,679 --> 00:11:14,920 Speaker 1: the divorce is kind of more settled and they're adults. 208 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 1: They have to work through their own their own ship. 209 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:20,839 Speaker 1: So um, she did. And you know we all we 210 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 1: all were a collective family. Yes, are you gonna say happy? 211 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:30,480 Speaker 1: Like collective family. Everyone still can come together and watch 212 00:11:30,559 --> 00:11:33,679 Speaker 1: me in a show and smile and all those things. So, um, 213 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 1: that's always that's always that's that's always been me, like 214 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 1: ever since I was younger, Like I was always like that, 215 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: Like that's how they would that's how they would find peace. 216 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 1: They would come to the shows because I'm like, we 217 00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: have to go to dinner now, all of us. Oh 218 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: my god, little peacemaker here try I'm a libra so 219 00:11:52,280 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 1: alas and so now like switching over to you and 220 00:11:57,360 --> 00:12:00,280 Speaker 1: like your roles that you've played and especial say with 221 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:02,959 Speaker 1: getting Hamilton's, Like somebody who sees that, they're like, how 222 00:12:03,480 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 1: how is that like possible? How does one find those opportunities? 223 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,559 Speaker 1: But you clearly like this didn't happen overnight for you, 224 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:13,000 Speaker 1: Like since you were a child. You've been you know, 225 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:16,959 Speaker 1: whether it was different classes or just your mom like 226 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:20,079 Speaker 1: taking you to different shows in plays. You've been doing this. 227 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: But I guess what moment do you say, Okay, I'm 228 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: ready to like get found or to audition for something 229 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,480 Speaker 1: so big like that, especially because like I know for 230 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:35,120 Speaker 1: for that, Um, I guess what do you is it? 231 00:12:35,240 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: Like the that segment of Hamilton's or that play in 232 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,480 Speaker 1: Puerto Rico was a big deal, Like a lot of 233 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 1: people were talking about it. So how does that opportunity 234 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 1: like come to the table. You kind of have to 235 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:48,600 Speaker 1: come to a point in your life. I think when 236 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 1: you put like those blindfolds on. Is it called blindfolds? No, 237 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 1: it's like the blindsiders, you know, Yeah, I know, yeah, 238 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 1: where you're just like, okay, focus on nothing else but 239 00:12:57,360 --> 00:13:00,920 Speaker 1: that zone in. Yeah, that zoning in feeling. And I 240 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:04,559 Speaker 1: grew up in I mentioned I'm a New Yorker and 241 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:06,880 Speaker 1: born in Brendon, and I was born in the Bronx. 242 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:08,719 Speaker 1: But we my mom didn't want me to go to 243 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: school in the city because she worked for the d 244 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 1: OE of New York City and she was like, We're 245 00:13:14,920 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 1: not going to do that. Isn't that funny? Um? So 246 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 1: you know, we moved to Rockland County, which is like 247 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:23,840 Speaker 1: about forty five minutes up north from you know, the city, 248 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: forty five minutes an hour, and my parents got divorced 249 00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:29,319 Speaker 1: and my families in the city. So you know, I 250 00:13:29,679 --> 00:13:31,439 Speaker 1: feel like I also was raised in wood in the 251 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 1: in Washington Heights because that's where my family is all there. 252 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:36,520 Speaker 1: And I would come out there a week and go 253 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:38,439 Speaker 1: back to Rockland for a week and go back, you know, 254 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 1: do the back and forth kind of thing. Um, but 255 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:43,439 Speaker 1: just to get right to your question, Um, I think 256 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 1: because I grew up, I grew up very like well rounded, 257 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:51,719 Speaker 1: like maybe not round, maybe rounded off the right world like, 258 00:13:51,760 --> 00:13:57,320 Speaker 1: well cultured. My mom like made sure too to expose 259 00:13:57,400 --> 00:14:00,959 Speaker 1: me to as much as she could. So yeah, I 260 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 1: went to school in Rockland County. I was like the 261 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 1: only Dominican. I was the only brown like Latina, Like, 262 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:09,360 Speaker 1: you were either Mexican, white or black, like. And then 263 00:14:09,400 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 1: I came in and they were like, she's black, but 264 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: she speaks Spanish. They're like, wait a second, what's going 265 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 1: on here? So I was exposed to racism like at 266 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: a very early age. And I was not only that, 267 00:14:22,000 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 1: but I was exposed to racism like and my talent 268 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: and things like that were taken away from me. For example. Um, 269 00:14:33,480 --> 00:14:37,000 Speaker 1: there's a tradition, you know, And I couldn't put my 270 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:40,200 Speaker 1: my school on blast Stuffer. I went to Stuffer in 271 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:42,760 Speaker 1: high school and Stuffer in middle school. And I'll never 272 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:44,960 Speaker 1: forget this moment because it was such a pivotal moment 273 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 1: of my life. There's a tradition where the understudies get 274 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 1: the main role the next year for their final year. 275 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:55,640 Speaker 1: Like it's very high school musical, but that was the trajectory, 276 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 1: that was the vibe. That's that's everybody's like an unspoken rule. Right. 277 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: So I get the understudy the year before and you know, 278 00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: obviously looking forward to that next year, and they gave 279 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:09,080 Speaker 1: me that one liner you know, this one liner role, 280 00:15:09,360 --> 00:15:13,360 Speaker 1: and I was like, I was embarrassed. It was like this. 281 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:15,600 Speaker 1: We like everybody looked at the list and they were 282 00:15:15,640 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 1: like wait, like that's not supposed to be. Yeah, so 283 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: it was like this and you know, obviously it was 284 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 1: like a scandal, the high school musical theater scandal at 285 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:27,080 Speaker 1: the time. And I remember I got home and I 286 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:29,920 Speaker 1: told my mom and my mom was like absolutely not. 287 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 1: She like the school She got her like big mama 288 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: pants on, and she was like, what is going on? 289 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 1: They literally told my mom they were like, oh, she 290 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:42,720 Speaker 1: just talks too much, like she's just she's sometimes she's 291 00:15:42,720 --> 00:15:47,760 Speaker 1: a disruption, okay. And my mom was like, I'm not 292 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:51,720 Speaker 1: talking about that. We're talking about how this works usually 293 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:55,200 Speaker 1: and why is this just so different this year? And 294 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:58,360 Speaker 1: they were just like, oh, well, so it's not always 295 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:00,240 Speaker 1: the case. You know. It was that kind of thing, 296 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 1: and I remember my mom being like, you know, obviously 297 00:16:02,920 --> 00:16:06,080 Speaker 1: feeling defeated because there was no real answer she could 298 00:16:06,120 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 1: give her little brown daughter, like besides, it was the 299 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 1: first moment where I was like, that's the world and 300 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:15,040 Speaker 1: my mom is like, you don't have to do the show, 301 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 1: like you really don't. And I was like, oh, I'm 302 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 1: going to fucking do the show, like oh, I'm doing it, 303 00:16:22,200 --> 00:16:24,600 Speaker 1: and I'll do it with a smile and I'll do 304 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:27,280 Speaker 1: my job. And I mean, you know, now I'm an 305 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: adult and I'm like, no, that wouldn't happen the same way. 306 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 1: But it was a really like pivotal moment for me 307 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 1: when I was little, because I was like, Okay, it 308 00:16:35,880 --> 00:16:37,960 Speaker 1: was like this is the real world. This could happen, 309 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:43,320 Speaker 1: Like things sometimes don't go as planned, right, how can 310 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:46,800 Speaker 1: I adjust and like have the best the best year 311 00:16:46,880 --> 00:16:48,320 Speaker 1: that I can have with my friends? You know, Like 312 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 1: it was kind of that, but that really transfer transferred 313 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:55,040 Speaker 1: into my life. Like you know, I don't want to 314 00:16:55,080 --> 00:16:58,000 Speaker 1: say like my expectations and things like that, how I've 315 00:16:58,040 --> 00:17:00,960 Speaker 1: limited them, but it's just like I I can't get 316 00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 1: tied up like in the negative, Like I've never been 317 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 1: that kind of person. So if something doesn't work out, 318 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:11,879 Speaker 1: I'm about like solutions, find a solution, a solution. I 319 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:16,639 Speaker 1: don't sit and ponder about the problem. I literally am like, 320 00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:20,280 Speaker 1: how do I get to the too closer to that solution. 321 00:17:20,760 --> 00:17:24,080 Speaker 1: And and that's really like with Hambleton's. I mean I 322 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 1: was going in for that show for a very long time. 323 00:17:27,080 --> 00:17:29,840 Speaker 1: I actually was about to leave the industry. I was like, 324 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:32,919 Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to do this anymore. Um. 325 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:36,639 Speaker 1: I got to do the show Lion King, um, and 326 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:40,080 Speaker 1: that was my first like big show, um. And I 327 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 1: learned a lot, you know. Um. I also learned that, 328 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:46,120 Speaker 1: like you know, working for Disney's not like the happiest 329 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:49,840 Speaker 1: place on Earth, um, but I learned a lot. And 330 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:52,280 Speaker 1: it's it's a it was an epic show, Lion King. 331 00:17:52,440 --> 00:17:54,640 Speaker 1: And it was crazy to talk about Lyon King because 332 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 1: I was in finals for Hamilton. I was in finals 333 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:57,639 Speaker 1: for so many shows at the same time, and then 334 00:17:57,640 --> 00:17:59,240 Speaker 1: I ended up booking Lion King. And that's kind of 335 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:01,440 Speaker 1: how our industry works. When you get to that point, 336 00:18:01,520 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 1: you know, you find yourself like a right, like I 337 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:07,000 Speaker 1: went in for six Broadway shows, which one did I 338 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:11,399 Speaker 1: get one or none? Is usually the answer. Um, but 339 00:18:11,480 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 1: I was in finals for all these amazing shows, and 340 00:18:13,359 --> 00:18:16,360 Speaker 1: Lion King happened, and I had a really hard time. 341 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:17,680 Speaker 1: Like it was you know, I was really young. It 342 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:20,920 Speaker 1: was my first time like like fully going away and 343 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:24,879 Speaker 1: like financially like everything just all of that and me 344 00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:27,880 Speaker 1: find like finally making like six figures, you know, at 345 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 1: this young age, and I didn't know what I was doing. 346 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,399 Speaker 1: I did not know what I was doing. I felt 347 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 1: so lost. And I always say this, like they don't 348 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:43,359 Speaker 1: prepare actors on the business side of things, and they 349 00:18:43,400 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 1: don't prepare us for the reality and the truths of 350 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:49,880 Speaker 1: the industry, and especially when you're a person of color, 351 00:18:49,880 --> 00:19:04,280 Speaker 1: it's a completely different scenario. And so how did you 352 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,480 Speaker 1: finally like either teach yourself for like did you have 353 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:09,960 Speaker 1: a mentor at what point were you like, Okay, I 354 00:19:10,119 --> 00:19:12,600 Speaker 1: know I'm making six figures and I need to do 355 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:15,639 Speaker 1: something with that money. Um. I hate to say it, 356 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:20,200 Speaker 1: but I mean I got the smartest about my money 357 00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 1: right before COVID, which is a blessing because it helped 358 00:19:23,160 --> 00:19:27,120 Speaker 1: me tremendously through COVID. But you know, like my first 359 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:29,679 Speaker 1: year Hamilton's, I was living in San Francisco, it's very 360 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:33,320 Speaker 1: expensive out there, and um, I was enjoying the fruits 361 00:19:33,359 --> 00:19:37,119 Speaker 1: of my labor. I was like, finally, like we're not working, 362 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:41,920 Speaker 1: you know, uh, babysitting jobs and hustling in the city 363 00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:44,520 Speaker 1: and auditioning and left and right, like now I'm getting 364 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:47,560 Speaker 1: like a massage before the show and things like that 365 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,680 Speaker 1: and running around you know, still obviously in a certain when, 366 00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:52,920 Speaker 1: a certain whatever the capacity that I could do while 367 00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 1: do the show. But um, it was that second year 368 00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 1: of doing Hamilton's that's when I really was like, after 369 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:03,399 Speaker 1: looking my finances, I was like, mm hmm, I should 370 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:07,240 Speaker 1: have more money, you should be more in here. And 371 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:11,040 Speaker 1: I'll never forget how mad I was like three months 372 00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,080 Speaker 1: because I was in for three months and then COVID 373 00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:16,920 Speaker 1: hit that March, so there was three months where I 374 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:18,840 Speaker 1: was on the new tour and I was like living 375 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,480 Speaker 1: this whole new, different life. I would still treat myself 376 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:23,600 Speaker 1: like I would still go out after the show, you know, 377 00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:25,760 Speaker 1: get wings, have a glass of wine, Like I would 378 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:29,960 Speaker 1: still do that, but I kind of changed my daily schedule. 379 00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 1: I mean I was cooking at home and eating at 380 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:37,760 Speaker 1: home more, which is such a huge, such a huge help. Um, 381 00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:41,200 Speaker 1: And I was starting to like read some books about investing, 382 00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 1: and which I've always had like an interest in, it 383 00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:48,720 Speaker 1: just seemed so foreign and so scary because we just 384 00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:52,879 Speaker 1: don't I don't know, we don't learn that in school. 385 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:56,000 Speaker 1: And then our parents also you know, being immigrants, don't 386 00:20:56,240 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 1: are also still learning themselves. And so yeah, exact. Um. 387 00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:03,960 Speaker 1: So you know, my stepdad would talk a little bit 388 00:21:03,960 --> 00:21:06,320 Speaker 1: about investing and making sure I put ten percent just 389 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:10,119 Speaker 1: outside and all this stuff. So, UM, I had this 390 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:12,840 Speaker 1: like like every time I heard about it, I would 391 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:18,000 Speaker 1: have like like buzzing feeling like interesting curiosity. Um. And 392 00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:20,920 Speaker 1: it wasn't until like when COVID hit where I was like, okay, 393 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:25,360 Speaker 1: we gotta do something like I have ten thousand dollars 394 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:28,600 Speaker 1: in my savings here, I have this amount of money here, 395 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,480 Speaker 1: like I need to start. I'm worried because now I 396 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:33,440 Speaker 1: really don't know what's going to happen. This is not 397 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,879 Speaker 1: even like I had my friends being like, oh, this 398 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:37,720 Speaker 1: is gonna be like three months, and I was like, no, 399 00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:41,840 Speaker 1: this is gonna be more. And I was trying to 400 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:45,120 Speaker 1: prepare for that, you know. So obviously the first step 401 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 1: of like robin hood and all of those good ones. 402 00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 1: Um and uh. And also I met my boyfriend right 403 00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:56,800 Speaker 1: before COVID and he is a UM. He's a marine 404 00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 1: UM and he's also an investor. So his his um 405 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:10,359 Speaker 1: spiel is he buy his property by marine bases and 406 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 1: he knows he's going to have tenants because the base 407 00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:17,440 Speaker 1: is there and will be marines. So UM. I learned 408 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:21,520 Speaker 1: a lot from him and all of his knowledge and 409 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:24,159 Speaker 1: like how and not to put him on blast like 410 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 1: too much, but like you know, like they don't really 411 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:30,200 Speaker 1: make They're not out here making six figures. So in 412 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:33,520 Speaker 1: my mind, I'm looking at him and I'm like, how 413 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,359 Speaker 1: did you do that? And he's like and you know, 414 00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:39,000 Speaker 1: he actually was like this is the problem with not 415 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:41,480 Speaker 1: only he's like, not only like your your industry, but 416 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:44,119 Speaker 1: also like with the sports industry. That's why these kids 417 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 1: get injured. Right, they make all this money and then 418 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:48,719 Speaker 1: they have nothing to show for it at the end 419 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 1: because they didn't invest it. They didn't invest in property, 420 00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,960 Speaker 1: and then they're like they're working these odd jobs, you know. 421 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,800 Speaker 1: And he's like, well, first, like, you know, we should 422 00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,280 Speaker 1: you know, get maybe like a financial advisor. So I 423 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,280 Speaker 1: you know, did some searching and I talked to some 424 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:05,200 Speaker 1: friends and my friends had financial advisors, and I'm like, 425 00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:09,760 Speaker 1: you never told me that, and They're like, normalize those conversations. 426 00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:12,560 Speaker 1: That's what I'm talking about. That's the other thing, because 427 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,120 Speaker 1: now when somebody's like asking me anything like oh my god, 428 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,280 Speaker 1: you guys gotta your house and like how does do 429 00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,720 Speaker 1: the property thing, I'm like, listen, call him. He would 430 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:23,960 Speaker 1: love to talk to you. You actually should. You should 431 00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:27,480 Speaker 1: actually have him on your podcast, Daniel. He is so informative, 432 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:31,840 Speaker 1: Like I've learned the most about money, this whole this 433 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:38,480 Speaker 1: whole relationship. It's been amazing. Yeah, but that's how I started. 434 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,080 Speaker 1: I started by talking about it with people, right, And 435 00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,960 Speaker 1: I think that's what it's like, normalizing that conversation. We 436 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 1: should be talking. And I had a friend and be 437 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:48,000 Speaker 1: like how do you guys, like how did you get 438 00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:49,719 Speaker 1: your car? And like all that stuff, like it's been 439 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 1: the pandemic, and I'm like, I've been investing, I've been 440 00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,000 Speaker 1: doing Robin Hood, I've been learning, I've been like trying 441 00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:56,920 Speaker 1: to get a vibe of some certain things. And I know, 442 00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:59,359 Speaker 1: Robin Hood, I'm still got step like one. I haven't 443 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:02,800 Speaker 1: really gotten to the deep end of everything. Um, and 444 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,800 Speaker 1: that's just because I just don't have like that. I 445 00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:09,560 Speaker 1: don't have Hamilton's right, Like I don't think consistent check 446 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:13,679 Speaker 1: coming in every Thursday. Um. Now I'm like I'm out here, 447 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,919 Speaker 1: like getting ten checks a week. So I'm working here 448 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:18,520 Speaker 1: and working there and doing that and doing that, and 449 00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 1: it's it's great. It's it's great, you know, Like I'm 450 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:22,639 Speaker 1: about to go do a show, so I get to 451 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:24,200 Speaker 1: go sit down for a little bit for the next 452 00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:29,040 Speaker 1: five months, um in in uh in Atlanta and Long 453 00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,800 Speaker 1: Wharf in Baltimore. So, um, I get to kind of 454 00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:36,520 Speaker 1: have some some consistency, right, So I'm excited for that, 455 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,760 Speaker 1: and like now it's time to shift shift my finances 456 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:43,000 Speaker 1: around because of that, you know. So I think wherever 457 00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:46,760 Speaker 1: you are in you in your life, like financially, like 458 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,680 Speaker 1: it's important to just have these conversations, even if you 459 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:54,880 Speaker 1: even if you have like only you know, like ten 460 00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:58,159 Speaker 1: bucks in your account, Like, eventually the the information is 461 00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:02,320 Speaker 1: going to be valuable. Eventually it's going to be needed, exactly. 462 00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,160 Speaker 1: And I think also when we have the conversations about 463 00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:07,639 Speaker 1: what we can and cannot do with certain friends, like 464 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 1: we start making it comfortable for them to be like, yeah, 465 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:12,480 Speaker 1: you know what I couldn't also go to dinner for 466 00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:14,480 Speaker 1: that place, like let's do something that's a little cheaper, 467 00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,920 Speaker 1: And so your friends will also start feeling like, okay, 468 00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 1: like let me figure out what's going on with my money. 469 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: And I think there's just one quote that's like you 470 00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 1: are the people that you surround yourself with or like 471 00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 1: the five most people are like your sphere of influence, right, 472 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:34,560 Speaker 1: And so if the people around you are being better 473 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:37,320 Speaker 1: with their money or investing or doing that, like you 474 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:41,480 Speaker 1: will learn from them. You will exactly hear what they're doing. 475 00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:43,720 Speaker 1: And so I think, yeah, we need to not feel 476 00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 1: uncomfortable about saying like I have student loan debt, I 477 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,960 Speaker 1: have X, Y and Z, and like I'm working through it, 478 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:50,920 Speaker 1: but I want to get to this point. So I 479 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,240 Speaker 1: hope you are join me in this journey as I 480 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: do that. I want to ask you one final question 481 00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:59,920 Speaker 1: because I think you are multi passionate. You are somebody 482 00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:03,600 Speaker 1: who loves a lot of different things, and so my 483 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:07,199 Speaker 1: question to you, as another multi passionate person is how 484 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 1: do you keep all of your interest kind of balanced out? 485 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,000 Speaker 1: And how do you make sure that like you are 486 00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:17,680 Speaker 1: always like finding joy and what you're doing because Yeah, 487 00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 1: there's just like a lot of things we want to 488 00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,840 Speaker 1: be doing, maybe all at once, but we can't do 489 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:23,359 Speaker 1: it all at once. So how do you kind of 490 00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:27,040 Speaker 1: manage all of your different passions. I don't I needed assistant. 491 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:31,639 Speaker 1: My email is um no, But for real, that is 492 00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 1: a feeling that I'm having. I'm like, oh my god, 493 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:37,560 Speaker 1: Like I make these jokes with them, with my production team, 494 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,920 Speaker 1: like my friends, and I'm like, remember the good old 495 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:41,800 Speaker 1: days when they don't know if they still do this now, 496 00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,080 Speaker 1: but like they would hire those like college kids, Like 497 00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:46,160 Speaker 1: they paid like the college kids like a hundred dollars 498 00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,320 Speaker 1: a week to like come in intern somewhere and like 499 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: just beat assistant or something. I've been like so on 500 00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:54,000 Speaker 1: edge about putting something out on Craigslist. I don't have 501 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:57,359 Speaker 1: anybody used as Craigslist anymore, but um, I'm really showing 502 00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:01,159 Speaker 1: my age on that one, so you can put it 503 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 1: on your Instagram exactly. Um. You know. I try to 504 00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,879 Speaker 1: like set I feel like many people have said this, 505 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,000 Speaker 1: I try to set like small goals for myself in 506 00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:16,159 Speaker 1: the day, like like Darylyn, like make the bed, like 507 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,520 Speaker 1: let's make make sure you eat okay, Like that's like 508 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:21,600 Speaker 1: literally how I talked to myself like I talked to 509 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 1: myself like a child, Like I'm like, okay, do you 510 00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:27,520 Speaker 1: what do you like? Okay, like are you fasting today? 511 00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,400 Speaker 1: What are we doing today? And okay, what's on the schedule? 512 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,960 Speaker 1: Like you know, I'm a very big calendar person, so um, 513 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,160 Speaker 1: I have also like I'm like my mother, Oh my god, 514 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:41,760 Speaker 1: I just realized I have like seven eight journals around 515 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 1: with like scribbles and things all over in the end 516 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 1: and just notices and things, and so I can be 517 00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:50,440 Speaker 1: like really organized, but I can be extremely disorganized. Um. 518 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,840 Speaker 1: But the one thing I try, like the one thing 519 00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,480 Speaker 1: I'm learning this year is like to really be kind 520 00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:59,800 Speaker 1: to myself, like no, lie, Like I've woken up and 521 00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:04,320 Speaker 1: and like, you know, I just don't feel like I 522 00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 1: want to do something like something that my in my 523 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:08,280 Speaker 1: schedule today. I just don't really feel called for it, 524 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:12,399 Speaker 1: you know what. Let me reschedule and let me like, 525 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:16,679 Speaker 1: let me adjust because I need to. I think being 526 00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:20,320 Speaker 1: aware of yourself and being aware of like your mental health, 527 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:23,840 Speaker 1: being aware of like where your spirit is, like it's 528 00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:28,400 Speaker 1: so important. It's so important. I've been working through that too, 529 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:31,840 Speaker 1: like in therapy and also like with running a business, 530 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:34,119 Speaker 1: like you kind of have to have a presence on 531 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,560 Speaker 1: social media. But I haven't been feeling passionate about posting 532 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:41,000 Speaker 1: every day on my feed and I don't because it's 533 00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:43,959 Speaker 1: not calling me. I feel that. I mean, I if 534 00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,800 Speaker 1: I I think the only reason I got social media 535 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,880 Speaker 1: was because Hamilton's Like before that, I had like eight 536 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,680 Speaker 1: hundred followers and I was perfectly fine with that. I 537 00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 1: was like, that's great. And then Hamilton's was like six thousand. 538 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh god, I have to do things now. Um, 539 00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:01,840 Speaker 1: but yeah, I'd like let go of that like burden. 540 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,000 Speaker 1: I'm like, there's times I don't post for like a week, 541 00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:07,760 Speaker 1: you know, and I'm sure, like my production team is 542 00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 1: like post more or this or that, or my managers 543 00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,719 Speaker 1: like did you post that? And like, no, I didn't. 544 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:17,720 Speaker 1: It's fine, don't worry. They'll be more excited when it does. 545 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,280 Speaker 1: When it's like when I do post something. But I 546 00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 1: just listening to yourself. I mean, I have a tattoo 547 00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,400 Speaker 1: my collar bone that says always trust your voice, and 548 00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:29,000 Speaker 1: like that's my mantra. We don't congratulate ourselves on like 549 00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:32,320 Speaker 1: our small victories and our are just our victories period. 550 00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:36,200 Speaker 1: Like there's I remember like before, you know, when I 551 00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,040 Speaker 1: was really going through it after Lion King and like 552 00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:39,920 Speaker 1: really trying to find my place in the industry. I 553 00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 1: just was like I was doing It was almost like 554 00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,280 Speaker 1: I was just doing things. And then like I didn't 555 00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,920 Speaker 1: even like that gap of my life is such a 556 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:52,520 Speaker 1: blur because I was not aware of like of where 557 00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:55,760 Speaker 1: I was, like where my spirit was. Like I, um, 558 00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:57,760 Speaker 1: like I decided to I was like, you know what, 559 00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,880 Speaker 1: I'm going to stop drinking for a little bit, like 560 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,720 Speaker 1: take a step back because I just really want to 561 00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:06,920 Speaker 1: like again zone in, like really be focused. And you know, 562 00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:09,560 Speaker 1: my friends are partying and you know the twenties, the 563 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 1: good old mid twenties, um, and you're figuring things out, 564 00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:18,840 Speaker 1: you know. Um, but I just find like removing the 565 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,000 Speaker 1: things that don't make you feel good in the moment, 566 00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:23,600 Speaker 1: you know. And that could be anything, like I said, 567 00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:25,600 Speaker 1: it could be food, it could be alcohol, it could 568 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,240 Speaker 1: be people. You know. You gotta like you've got to 569 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:32,480 Speaker 1: clear out, clear out the things in your life that 570 00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:34,640 Speaker 1: just don't serve you, and then you have to be 571 00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:37,200 Speaker 1: aware of that, you know exactly. You have to be present. 572 00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,160 Speaker 1: You can't just like go on with the motions of 573 00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:42,800 Speaker 1: things because that's how you've been doing it. Yeah, and 574 00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,440 Speaker 1: I will say my circle is like the smallest it's 575 00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:49,120 Speaker 1: ever been, but like the happiest I've ever been, Like seriously, 576 00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:53,640 Speaker 1: So that whole like mentality of you need to have 577 00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:56,680 Speaker 1: this next y z E like it's so it's phony, 578 00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:59,120 Speaker 1: it's not real. You need to have like what is 579 00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:03,800 Speaker 1: good for you? You know? I love that. Okay, so 580 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,440 Speaker 1: we're gonna close off, but before we do, can you 581 00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:11,680 Speaker 1: please share with everybody where they can follow you, follow 582 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:14,000 Speaker 1: along with your journey, your next show. I know you 583 00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,760 Speaker 1: said sometimes you show up on Instagram, but like, tell 584 00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,320 Speaker 1: us where is the best place? So I'm on Instagram. 585 00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 1: I'm more of an instagrammer. Um. I mean, does anybody 586 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:26,960 Speaker 1: use Facebook anymore? Um? So my Instagram is at Darylyn Melody. 587 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,840 Speaker 1: That's d A r I l y n m E 588 00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:34,600 Speaker 1: l O d y and um my instagram for my podcast. 589 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,360 Speaker 1: I know, I have two Instagrams. It's so hard, you guys. 590 00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:42,080 Speaker 1: Um it's called at Anita podcast. Um So that's mo 591 00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:46,440 Speaker 1: Anita spelled m O r e n I t A podcast. Yes, 592 00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:48,800 Speaker 1: And I will link all of that in the description 593 00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:51,640 Speaker 1: so people can just find it easily. Um, but thank 594 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:54,480 Speaker 1: you so much for being on the past. Thanks for 595 00:31:54,640 --> 00:32:01,840 Speaker 1: having me. This was so much fun. Moranita is a 596 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:05,200 Speaker 1: production of Sonoro in partnership with I Heart Radio's michel 597 00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:08,760 Speaker 1: Ura podcast Network. For more podcasts from I heart Radio, 598 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:12,320 Speaker 1: visit the I heart Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever 599 00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:13,840 Speaker 1: you listen to your favorite shows.