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Speaker 1: is time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friends

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Speaker 1: Shirley straw Berry. All right, thank you, junior. The subject

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Speaker 1: is is he really a loser? Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm

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Speaker 1: thirty eight years old and I've been on a few

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Speaker 1: a many of her golf place and his sister dropped

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Speaker 1: him off. He lied and said it was an uber,

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Speaker 1: but when I offered to take him home after the date,

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Speaker 1: knew I would see that car at his house for

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Speaker 1: our second and third dates, I picked him up. He

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Speaker 1: to the waitresses. I enjoy his company and he makes

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Speaker 1: me laugh. Since we met, he's been talking about moving

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Speaker 1: the two years he's been living there, so I knew

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Speaker 1: the whole moving out thing was yet another live I

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Speaker 1: have a friend that owns a soul food restaurant, and

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Speaker 1: she could meet him. So that's where we had our

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Speaker 1: fourth date. We ate good and danced a little after dinner.

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Speaker 1: When the check came, he did not touch it. After

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Speaker 1: my friend insisted that we come there to eat, so

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Speaker 1: she should take care of our meals and drinks. I

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Speaker 1: so I gave the waitress my card. My girlfriend came

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Speaker 1: and gave my card back and said my meal was free,

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Speaker 1: but the loser that I'm sitting with has to pay.

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Speaker 1: They got into a big argument and she kept calling

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Speaker 1: him a loser. I hate she did that because he

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Speaker 1: just yet. Does he deserve a do over or another chance?

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Speaker 1: Or is he really a loser? You know? Is he

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Speaker 1: really a loser? You ask? And the first thing I

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Speaker 1: could be some truth to it. But let's just go

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Speaker 1: on and get to these other red flags that are

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Speaker 1: all over this letter. You're dating a man who lives

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Speaker 1: your friend's restaurant, And they got into a big argument

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Speaker 1: you in front of your friend. You say you enjoy

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Speaker 1: his company and that he makes you laugh, but that's

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Speaker 1: certainly not enough in which to build a relationship. And

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Speaker 1: I know you have to know that I don't know

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Speaker 1: what he's going through, meaning I don't know why he's

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Speaker 1: been living with his sister for the last two years.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he's going through a divorce or something like that,

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Speaker 1: or why he doesn't have a car. But I do

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Speaker 1: know he's not ready to date yet, because these are

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Speaker 1: And this is not gonna work. It's not gonna last

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Speaker 1: because if you're gonna you're gonna get tired of picking

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Speaker 1: I don't think this is a good look for you.

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Speaker 1: I don't think this is a good look for trying

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Speaker 1: you should let this go, Steve. Surely, great answer. I

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Speaker 1: this is I'm gonna read yo letter back to you verbatal,

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Speaker 1: and every time I see loser, I'm gonna give the

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Speaker 1: loser signal. Let us begin, did Stephen Shelly, I'm a

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Speaker 1: thirty eight year old and I've been on a few

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Speaker 1: his sister. War War Poor war is at the loser signal.

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Speaker 1: Let's right down. I think party old man that lives

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Speaker 1: place and his sister dropped him off or excusally, it's

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Speaker 1: two of them. I started the warf at the first

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Speaker 1: week we met at a miniature golf place, War War WARF.

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Speaker 1: His sister dropped him off. You farty? Next line, he

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Speaker 1: lied and said it was a who. So far we

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Speaker 1: ain't finished the first paragraph, and we've been warning signals

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Speaker 1: at every damn sentence. When we come back, I will

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Speaker 1: you with the warning signal. All right, We'll have part

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's response coming up in twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Today's strawberry letter? Subject is he really

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Speaker 1: a loser? Come on, Steve? Who who war back after this?

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Speaker 1: You're listening to show? All right? Come on, Steve, Let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is is he really

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Speaker 1: a loser? Very quickly? Simply put you asking me and Sherley,

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Speaker 1: is he a loser? I'm gonna read your letter back

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Speaker 1: to you with warning signals that I think he is

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Speaker 1: a loser. Let us begin then, Stephen Shelley, I'm thirty

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Speaker 1: up in miniature golf place. His sister dropped him off wharf.

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Speaker 1: He lied and said it was an uber, but when

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Speaker 1: I picked him up. Why we just got a call

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Speaker 1: to damn police now because the second and third days

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Speaker 1: you had to pick his ass up. Why that's what

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Speaker 1: it is. That's a baby crying. I'm don't bringing out.

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Speaker 1: He paid the bill all three times and was nice

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Speaker 1: how he not gonna be nice you picking him up? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he gonna pay. You know why he got to pay?

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Speaker 1: He he ain't got no card, nough right, he ain't

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Speaker 1: got by, no gas, no wow. And then you say

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Speaker 1: So now he didn't paid. It was nice to the waitress.

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Speaker 1: I enjoy his company and he makes me laugh. Who who?

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Speaker 1: I know a lot of funny ass broke people. Hell,

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Speaker 1: I was one of them. Yeah, I know a lot

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Speaker 1: Homeless says hell. Funny is all outdoors? Who whoop? He

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Speaker 1: made me laugh? So damn what Since we met, he's

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Speaker 1: been talking about moving to his own place. I met

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Speaker 1: his sister when I picked him up for the fourth date,

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Speaker 1: your brother ain't never bought a woman at home. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so you're the only one that can't see here losing.

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Speaker 1: That's why ain't no woman been over the house in

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Speaker 1: two years? Because nobody believed the stories. So I knew

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Speaker 1: the whole moving thing out was yet another lie. I

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Speaker 1: have a friend that owns it. Now this is a

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Speaker 1: and God loves you, and he used her to give

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Speaker 1: She even said the loser has to pay. They got

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Speaker 1: into a big argument that she can calling him a

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Speaker 1: in your letter. I hate that she did that? Or

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Speaker 1: oh hold on, wait now, I gotta get a different

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Speaker 1: sound for this. Another one dot got dot got dot

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Speaker 1: jumped off. I hate she did that. Come on, man,

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Speaker 1: he was very ashamed and I'm not ready to dump

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Speaker 1: him yet. Dot dot dot dot dot dot dot dot

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Speaker 1: Does he deserve a do over or another chance? Is

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Speaker 1: he really a loser? Lady? What's wrong with you? How

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Speaker 1: much info? You obviously don't like God or nobody else

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Speaker 1: telling you what to do because your friend had explained

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Speaker 1: it to and it's clear as a bell. Shelly explained

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Speaker 1: it to you. It's as clear as a bell. It's

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Speaker 1: clear to everybody. But shoot, what is wrong with you?

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Speaker 1: Do he deserve it? Man? Stop collecting red flags? Shelley

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Speaker 1: told you. His red flags are over the place. Stop

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Speaker 1: collecting them. How many do you need? He ain't got

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Speaker 1: no call, he ain't got no job, he ain't got

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Speaker 1: no manners, he ain't got no places stay. His sister

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Speaker 1: gave him the money for the three days, and she

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Speaker 1: so he couldn't get the money to take you out.

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