1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:01,960 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for cutting off my cousin 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 1: and her mom after they accused me indirectly of stealing 3 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: at her wedding? 4 00:00:06,920 --> 00:00:09,800 Speaker 2: Those episode is all about what do we allow family 5 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 2: to get away with stealing? I guess yeah and murder yay. 6 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 1: This comes from annoyed cousin throw and they say, Hey, Reddit, 7 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:19,599 Speaker 1: I'm in a tough spot and could really use some 8 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:23,440 Speaker 1: outside perspective on the situation. So my cousin Emma and 9 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:28,200 Speaker 1: I have never been particularly close, but we've always been civil. 10 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: When she got engaged in December twenty twenty two, I 11 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 1: sent her a thoughtful present, which she thanked me for repeatedly. 12 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 1: Fast forward to February and Emma invited me. 13 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 2: To her wedding. 14 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:41,960 Speaker 1: In April twenty twenty four, living abroad and starting a 15 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:44,400 Speaker 1: new job, I made it clear that I needed advance 16 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: notice to attend, and thankfully I managed to make it. 17 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 1: Emma asked me to be a part of her wedding entry, 18 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 1: and despite not being very close, I agreed, hoping it 19 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: would help us build a better relationship. Just a week 20 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: before the wedding, I found out she'd been talking negatively 21 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 1: about me and my career as a project manager. It stung, 22 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:08,320 Speaker 1: but I didn't want to cause drama before her big day, 23 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: so I kept quiet. Also, project manager is kind of 24 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: like a like a coveted job. 25 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:17,480 Speaker 3: It's such a respected and also like neutral career. It's 26 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:20,680 Speaker 3: both like you're like very successful and it's like, what 27 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 3: are you gonna say, You're you're too organized? 28 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:25,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's make any sense. 29 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 1: During the wedding weekend, I helped Emma get dressed for 30 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: her Hindu ceremony and her mom told me to leave 31 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: the jewelry as she would handle it later, so I 32 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 1: only packed away the Bengals. The entry went smoothly and 33 00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 1: I attended the reception without any complaints. However, after the wedding, 34 00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 1: I chose not to leave a gift, intending to address 35 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: the hurtful comments privately after the festivities. Days later, Emma 36 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: asked me about the missing jewelry and I told her 37 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: I hadn't touched it beyond what her mom instructed. Later 38 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: that day, I saw Emma Poe staying on Facebook about 39 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:06,440 Speaker 1: missing jewelry and implying that someone in the family may 40 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: have taken it, and I felt uneasy, especially since her 41 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:13,519 Speaker 1: mom and I were the only family members helping her 42 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: get dressed. Then things escalated when her sister made comments 43 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: on the post saying we didn't like her anyway. Her 44 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: mom reached out to me asking about the Bengals, which 45 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,239 Speaker 1: made me feel like they were singling me out. Even 46 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: the grandmother called further, cementing that they may have discussed 47 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:37,959 Speaker 1: me as a suspect. Finally, another cussin messaged me saying 48 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 1: the jewelry was found boxed up in a car. No 49 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:43,919 Speaker 1: one actually stole it, they just misplaced it. But Emma 50 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: refuses to retract her accusations online because she's embarrassed feeling betrayed, 51 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: I chose to cut Emma and her mom out of 52 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 1: my life. I deleted them from my socials and blocked 53 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:58,240 Speaker 1: their numbers. Now my Grandma's upset, saying I was unfair 54 00:02:58,320 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: for not explaining myself so read it. Am I the 55 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:04,080 Speaker 1: jerk for cutting them off without explanation? Should I've handled 56 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: the situation differently? Thanks for your insights and there are 57 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:11,120 Speaker 1: some relevant comments and an update. But John is ope 58 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: the a hole for cutting out their cousin like this. 59 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:18,239 Speaker 3: I'm wondering, like it gets a little tricky with family? 60 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 3: Is this a there's like no contact, low contact and 61 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 3: they're like no contact light oh yeah, yeah, where it's like, hey, 62 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,640 Speaker 3: maybe I block you, but like, okay, we go to 63 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,360 Speaker 3: family events and I'm like cordial. If you say hi, 64 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 3: I'll say hi back whatever, But I'm not like actively 65 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:39,119 Speaker 3: trying to engage. That injures a gray area where you're 66 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 3: maybe pausing issues for the other family members who are 67 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 3: not involved in neutral. 68 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I feel like the fact that Emma 69 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 1: the cousin didn't retract what she said on Facebook red 70 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 1: flag that's like totally terrible and basically she's afraid of 71 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:57,560 Speaker 1: looking bad for making Ope look bad. I think that's 72 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: full license for Ope to distance her self from them. 73 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: So I don't think Ops a hole for blocking them, 74 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,600 Speaker 1: but just be I mean, just be cordial around. Yeah, 75 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 1: in like in groups, I think if OP wanted to 76 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 1: do the thing that accomplishes what she wants without the drama, 77 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:22,160 Speaker 1: all she maybe needs to do is just stop talking 78 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: to them and not reach out. 79 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 2: Which it sounds like it's kind of what that's the 80 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 2: vibe that I'm getting. 81 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like maybe blocking them is what they were upset with. 82 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:33,719 Speaker 1: All she did was she cut them out of her life, 83 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 1: and I deleted them from my socials and block their numbers, 84 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: and the grandma is saying is upset, saying I was 85 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:44,360 Speaker 1: unfair for not explaining myself, like explaining why she blocked them. 86 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: So maybe you could say, like, hey, I really don't 87 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 1: think I want you in my life to the same degree, 88 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: so I'm going to take a step back. 89 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 3: I think you could say, like, hey, I thought it 90 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 3: was like pretty unfair that you like accused me of 91 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 3: this thing, and you ever really pick it back or 92 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 3: like apologize to me. I just I thought that was 93 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:05,719 Speaker 3: really not okay. 94 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 1: And I think if this was me, I would have 95 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: a conversation and say why I'm distancing. 96 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 2: Myself and then distance myself. 97 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, without blocking, but not like not reaching out. 98 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 3: It's almost sounds like also OP like told other family 99 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 3: members or the grandma specifically that they blocked them. 100 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:26,679 Speaker 2: The potential for it to cause more drama is higher 101 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 2: when you say that. 102 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: Yes, but there are some relevant comments in an update, 103 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 1: so additional information from OP. I would like to add 104 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: that Emma and I are first cousins. Jessica, who told 105 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 1: me about the update, is a second cousin who is 106 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: distant from Emma, so it sounds like this was being 107 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 1: discussed with everyone but me. Thankful that Jessica heard it 108 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: and decided to let me know immediately, and everyone decided 109 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 1: op is not the A hole, which I think we 110 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 1: agree with OP. If she received an apology regarding the 111 00:05:51,839 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: missing jewelry, Opie said no, no apologies from their end. 112 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:59,600 Speaker 1: All I've heard since was she's embarrassed to pull her 113 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:04,000 Speaker 1: posts and say she found it not even pulling the posts. Yeah, 114 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:06,760 Speaker 1: that's crazy, like like, at least delete the posts. But 115 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: she's so worried about herself and she's like, I would 116 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: I would rather, you know, double down on a lie 117 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 1: than make myself look bad. But it's like this wouldn't 118 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 1: even make her look that bad, just deleting the post, 119 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: So why not do it? 120 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 2: Not at all? Yeah? 121 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:23,919 Speaker 3: It it almost feels vindictive, man and love Bubble says, 122 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 3: So can we block the grandmother? 123 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 2: Now? 124 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you could consider it, but at this 125 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: point I don't think I would blush wait to another 126 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:32,280 Speaker 1: in my way too early severe add seven to seven 127 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 1: six one says, not the A hole, probably way off. 128 00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: This was probably a setup. If she doesn't like you 129 00:06:38,480 --> 00:06:41,160 Speaker 1: and y'all aren't that close, then why ask you along 130 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:44,039 Speaker 1: with her mother to help her get ready. Why not 131 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:47,200 Speaker 1: her sister that last minute invite? It was either a 132 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 1: happy coincidence to be able to accuse you, or she 133 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:53,800 Speaker 1: set you up. But someone else discovered Slash found the 134 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:57,240 Speaker 1: jewelry where they weren't supposed to be looking a box 135 00:06:57,279 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 1: in a car that you would think would have already 136 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:01,279 Speaker 1: been taken out by now. 137 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:05,040 Speaker 3: So are they saying that this was maybe an elaborate 138 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 3: conspiracy set up? 139 00:07:06,279 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 2: Yah, it was a setup which, honestly I could believe 140 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 2: that would be crazy and definitely grounds to block them. 141 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 1: Opie responds, did not think about it this way. Her 142 00:07:15,280 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 1: sister was popping in and out of the changing room. 143 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 1: I did not think anything of it at the time. 144 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 1: It stick if they truly wanted to use this against 145 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:26,280 Speaker 1: me and not speak up, even if they post a retraction, 146 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: I want nothing to do with them accusing me and 147 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: finding it just recently in your car is unacceptable. And 148 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 1: on if her grandma is a has a favorite grandchild 149 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: because of what happened, Opie responds, Emma is Grandma's favorite. 150 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: By the way, if you couldn't tell if. 151 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 3: You're gonna have a favorite, at least let them not 152 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 3: be like stupid and evil. Maybe the grandpa grandma kind 153 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 3: of knows that they did plan this and she doesn't 154 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 3: really care. 155 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:55,160 Speaker 4: Okay, why the cousin said something bad about Ope before 156 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 4: the wedding, about her job, and so I think their 157 00:07:57,440 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 4: grandma's Oh do. 158 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 2: You think the grandma is the astermind? 159 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 3: Yo, dude, we are we are popping off with conspiracy theories. 160 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 3: Ye right, I think so the grandma goes to op 161 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:11,800 Speaker 3: and was like, hey, like, don't block like, don't block them, 162 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:14,080 Speaker 3: don't worry about it. She's like trying to be the 163 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 3: one pulling the strings here, you know what I mean. 164 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 3: And the it seems like the cousin is kind of 165 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 3: just being quiet and silent and not trying to be 166 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 3: the like the manipulators try. 167 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 2: To pull all the strings. 168 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 3: Right, So if it was the bride, would the bride 169 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 3: be like, hey, let me keep trying to pull the strings, like, 170 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:33,960 Speaker 3: let me instead of not just like ignoring it and 171 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 3: not taking countdown the post, let me double down and 172 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 3: do another post. 173 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 1: All right, so update, let's do what I read through 174 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:44,040 Speaker 1: the majority of messages received, and I agree I should 175 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:45,000 Speaker 1: have confronted it. 176 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 2: Last night. 177 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: I called Grandma and Emma on a three way asking 178 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: about the jewelry that was conveniently found in the car. 179 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 1: Emma said that wasn't for me to find out, as 180 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:01,559 Speaker 1: she only told her mother and grandma because Jessica heard 181 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 1: and pass it to me. She also lives abroad and 182 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: isn't close to Emma. Grandma then said, well, it's material 183 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: and it's found. We don't have a long time here. 184 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:12,040 Speaker 1: Let's all get along. 185 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 2: Oh, she's trying to sweep it out of the rug, 186 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 2: going to sweep it out of the rud. Why you 187 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:18,680 Speaker 2: won't want me looking into it, Grandma? What else do 188 00:09:18,679 --> 00:09:19,599 Speaker 2: you had in Grandma? 189 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:24,559 Speaker 1: Am I even your real granddaughter dynast my grandpa? 190 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:26,679 Speaker 2: Yeah? I responded, no, thank you. 191 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 1: I needed a public apology because I blindly believed Emma 192 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:34,079 Speaker 1: and I had a good relationship. I even heard she 193 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:37,320 Speaker 1: made comments about my job, which I wanted to address 194 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:41,560 Speaker 1: after the wedding. Emma confirmed the comments and the talking 195 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 1: crap read my job and her sister's comment, but is 196 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:47,320 Speaker 1: sticking to her guns about the jewelry. I mentioned to her, 197 00:09:47,440 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 1: I was posting on Facebook about the jewelry and will 198 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:53,840 Speaker 1: attach screenshots to it, and that I want nothing further 199 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:56,920 Speaker 1: to do with Emma since she was not remorseful and 200 00:09:57,080 --> 00:10:00,959 Speaker 1: is proud of disliking me for whatever reason. Lesson learned. 201 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:02,880 Speaker 2: Thank you everyone. 202 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 1: Rovin comments Flenders and Trim says, sorry that so many 203 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:08,679 Speaker 1: people in your family are horrible. Ope, you deserve better. 204 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: I could see how much you cared by willing to 205 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 1: travel for a cousin you weren't even close with you 206 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:16,160 Speaker 1: hope to get closer to, and how you reacted to 207 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: their bullying. You're better off without them. Do make sure 208 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:21,320 Speaker 1: to get your side of the story to others in 209 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:24,440 Speaker 1: the extended family, because you can bet that everyone involved, 210 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 1: possibly with your grandmother seeing and not actively shutting down, 211 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:31,839 Speaker 1: will be telling a story to them where you are 212 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: the bad guy. And Op does have a response to Riley, what's. 213 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:36,120 Speaker 2: Up holds the grandma? 214 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:39,480 Speaker 4: Because if the grandma's a little older, inheritance inherent is 215 00:10:39,520 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 4: and if she frames Op for still in the jewelry, 216 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:44,239 Speaker 4: she would get more of the inheritance. 217 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, but these are not aunts. If it was 218 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 1: like OPI's mom, then they would stand to inherit. So 219 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 1: it's like one degree. 220 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 4: Yeah moved, well, I think she would still give stuff 221 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:57,640 Speaker 4: to Op the granddaughters. 222 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, the granddaughters might receive something, but probably the parents 223 00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 3: are apparent. Yeah, okay, I got no inheritance from my grandparents. 224 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 3: They just left it to their direct children. 225 00:11:09,640 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: But Opie responds, that's what really hurt. I was hoping 226 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:15,600 Speaker 1: she was sincere about inviting me and asking me to 227 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 1: participate when she got engaged. I even sent her a 228 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:21,680 Speaker 1: present incorporating her interest, and she was so appreciative, or 229 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 1: so she seemed. It sucks knowing I meant basically nothing. 230 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: I was hurt that they never really liked me anyway, 231 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 1: and made fun of my job as a project manager 232 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 1: at an engineering firm. Weird job to make fun of, Like, 233 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:37,840 Speaker 1: what are you doing truly married? 234 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:39,840 Speaker 2: Yeah? Jealous, jealous jealous. 235 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:42,559 Speaker 1: Have never done anything to them to warrant this. It's 236 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 1: just confusing and hurtful. However, the band aid is off 237 00:11:45,880 --> 00:11:47,520 Speaker 1: and life will continue without them. 238 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:48,320 Speaker 2: OPI. 239 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: On sharing her information with the extended family on social 240 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:54,640 Speaker 1: media about what really happened at the wedding, Opie responds, 241 00:11:55,000 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 1: I'm posting it this evening, regardless if she takes it 242 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:01,040 Speaker 1: down or not. Jessica gave her blessings for me to 243 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 1: use her messages as proof, so I'm not playing around. 244 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:06,080 Speaker 1: I am not a thief. I don't care if you 245 00:12:06,240 --> 00:12:08,920 Speaker 1: like me or not. You're not going to get away 246 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 1: with that boom. Opie proceeding on how she dealt with 247 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: the family talking badly behind her back and Emma's background 248 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: on saying bad things about her, Opie responds, that's my thing. 249 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:21,439 Speaker 2: Why are you embarrassed? 250 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:25,439 Speaker 1: You were emboldened to post about it and clearly discuss 251 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 1: it offline with my name in it, which is how 252 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 1: it got back to me. Emma does not have very 253 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 1: many friends. She's one of those very religious conservative girls, 254 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 1: does not drink, smoke, party, have multiple partners. But if 255 00:12:36,040 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 1: the same person for ten years, has good grades, etc. 256 00:12:38,679 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 1: According to other cousins, is very much about optics and 257 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: very judgmental. Life will be perfectly fine without her, and 258 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:50,120 Speaker 1: I am looking forward too, responses on my post clearing 259 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 1: my name, and Ope responds on how her grandma was 260 00:12:53,360 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 1: upset with her cutting off the family and accusing her 261 00:12:56,120 --> 00:13:00,599 Speaker 1: for ruining Emma's day. Opie responds, correct, was one of 262 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 1: the people questioning me even though I gave the same answers, 263 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 1: and wants me to explain why I'm cutting off my 264 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:08,720 Speaker 1: cousin and to dismiss it because it was found. How 265 00:13:08,840 --> 00:13:11,440 Speaker 1: is that fair to me after I've been accused and 266 00:13:11,520 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 1: had my name ragged through the mud. 267 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:18,680 Speaker 3: I mean, I guess one question that comes to mind 268 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 3: is like, how many people have seen the cousins like 269 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 3: Facebook posts and actually believe that it could It totally 270 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:33,840 Speaker 3: could be a lot. Given Opie's visceral reaction. I was 271 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:35,840 Speaker 3: gonna say, it could be a situation where it's like 272 00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:37,600 Speaker 3: she made the post, but no one really cared, nobody 273 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:39,680 Speaker 3: really thought about it, and then it's like, Okay, I 274 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 3: don't know if it's worth giving it that energy, but 275 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:45,960 Speaker 3: if it is that way, then it's like, Okay, I 276 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:48,040 Speaker 3: think it is good to clear your name, and you do. 277 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 2: It's your reputation. 278 00:13:49,559 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 1: It's your reputation, and I think it I think it 279 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:54,960 Speaker 1: is I think it is important to clear your name. Yeah, 280 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:58,320 Speaker 1: and I think we might be getting into some of 281 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:02,880 Speaker 1: that right now. So final update, which is a lie. 282 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:06,520 Speaker 1: There's one more update after this. After consulting with an 283 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:12,040 Speaker 1: attorney friend and compiling all relevant evidence, including screenshots and messages, 284 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:15,440 Speaker 1: we took the step of sending a legal letter to 285 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 1: my cousin. Additionally, I made a post on Facebook tagging 286 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 1: my family member's family, friends who attended the event, the 287 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 1: priest who officiated, and even her neighbors. Yep, my petty 288 00:14:27,280 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 1: booty went the extra mile to bring awareness of the situation. 289 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:35,440 Speaker 1: So now we are getting through the actual email. 290 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:38,760 Speaker 3: I think I was not understanding how much of an 291 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:39,800 Speaker 3: impact was happening. 292 00:14:40,440 --> 00:14:40,960 Speaker 2: Reputation. 293 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 1: Everyone in their family is like this person's terrible yes, 294 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:48,520 Speaker 1: and and Op was like, hey, you have an opportunity 295 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 1: to do this yourself. 296 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 2: All right, you're not gonna do it. 297 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:57,680 Speaker 1: I'm stepping in so important announcement regarding Emma's wedding. Hello, 298 00:14:57,760 --> 00:15:00,720 Speaker 1: everyone in the Brown family. I hope this messa finds 299 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:04,680 Speaker 1: you well. I feel compelled to address a matter that 300 00:15:04,720 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 1: has been weighing on my mind since Emby's wedding last April. Firstly, 301 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:12,480 Speaker 1: I want to express my gratitude to Emma for inviting 302 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: me to be part of her special day. It was 303 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 1: an honor to participate and I genuinely was touched by 304 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 1: the opportunity. However, recent events have left me deeply disheartened. 305 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 1: It has come to my attention that there have been 306 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 1: discussions both prior to and following the wedding where unkind 307 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: remarks were made about me and my profession. While this 308 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:41,000 Speaker 1: was hurtful, I chose to handle the situation delicately and 309 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:43,560 Speaker 1: intended to discuss it with Emma after the wedding to 310 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: gain clarity. Despite the hurtful comments, I remained committed to 311 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:52,240 Speaker 1: supporting Emma on her wedding day. I assisted her with 312 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 1: changing outfits and took care of her belongings as requested. Regrettably, 313 00:15:57,360 --> 00:16:01,960 Speaker 1: shortly after the wedding, I was unfairly implicated in the 314 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:08,520 Speaker 1: disappearance of some jewelry. Subsequent discussions with Emma revealed that 315 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:12,880 Speaker 1: there were private conversations insinuating my involvement, which left me 316 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:17,800 Speaker 1: feeling unfairly targeted ooh. It was only through the disclosure 317 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:23,280 Speaker 1: from third party that the truth about the jeweleries whereabouts emerged. 318 00:16:23,720 --> 00:16:27,920 Speaker 1: I confronted Emma about these revelations, hoping for resolution and understanding. However, 319 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 1: her response was dismissive and she refused to acknowledge the 320 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:34,800 Speaker 1: hurtful nature of her actions. Instead, she chose to maintain 321 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:39,840 Speaker 1: hurtful social media posts, causing further distress. In light of 322 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:43,359 Speaker 1: these events, I have made the decision to distance myself 323 00:16:43,560 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: from Emma and her immediate family. My conscience is clear, 324 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:52,160 Speaker 1: and I refuse to tolerate such unjust treatment. 325 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:54,360 Speaker 2: Furthermore, hain't over. 326 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:58,440 Speaker 1: Furthermore, I want to assure you all that I am 327 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:00,120 Speaker 1: taking the necessary steps. 328 00:17:02,880 --> 00:17:05,639 Speaker 2: My name. He will die if it means reading this 329 00:17:05,760 --> 00:17:07,720 Speaker 2: letter to the people name. 330 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:10,399 Speaker 1: I am in gone deck with legal counsel to draft 331 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:13,960 Speaker 1: a letter and seek exoneration from these false accusations. I 332 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:17,119 Speaker 1: share this message not out of spite or animosity, but 333 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 1: to set the record straight and reclaim my integrity. 334 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:23,280 Speaker 2: Ps. 335 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:27,600 Speaker 1: The missing jewelry was found by her mother in the car. 336 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:30,840 Speaker 1: For all those interested in the details, I've compiled all 337 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:34,439 Speaker 1: relevant screenshots and supporting information in a Google drive. 338 00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:38,879 Speaker 2: Feel free to click the link. The access sets not 339 00:17:39,080 --> 00:17:41,200 Speaker 2: a good the end. 340 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:43,000 Speaker 1: Thank you to everyone who supported and give advice and 341 00:17:43,040 --> 00:17:46,160 Speaker 1: confolod me looking forward to going on a vacation tomorrow 342 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:49,840 Speaker 1: while Emma spends the next few days dealing with this. 343 00:17:50,160 --> 00:17:52,240 Speaker 2: Love bubble says same, You're gonna get the mic sick. 344 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:56,600 Speaker 2: Good lord, Yeah, I'm okay, I'm not dying. Pray for Sam. 345 00:17:56,840 --> 00:18:01,000 Speaker 1: Relevant comments Opie on the birth or with Emma and 346 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:04,880 Speaker 1: how her grandmother planned to distribute her possessions Opie, that's 347 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 1: the funny part. She's actually four years younger than I am. 348 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:10,399 Speaker 1: I have never been a fan of the fighting for 349 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 1: land and jewelry. I've always told my Grandma I wanted 350 00:18:13,280 --> 00:18:15,680 Speaker 1: one of her sory's and a pair of ear rings 351 00:18:15,960 --> 00:18:18,480 Speaker 1: if she was okay with it. Even if I didn't 352 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 1: get the earrings, the sorry would be enough, just something 353 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:21,840 Speaker 1: to remember her by. 354 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:23,720 Speaker 2: I called, though, called what though? 355 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:26,360 Speaker 3: No, No, it's it's the opposite, because she doesn't care, 356 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:29,480 Speaker 3: because she's like, I'm probably gonna get nothing in the 357 00:18:29,520 --> 00:18:31,960 Speaker 3: inheritance because I asked for a sorry, which is like 358 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 3: a dress and ear rings. 359 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:38,200 Speaker 2: Maybe so new updates big. 360 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 1: As of this morning, Emma has pulled her Facebook. 361 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:46,439 Speaker 2: Posts finally, Finally. 362 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:50,360 Speaker 1: Grandma is saying that I was unfair to go public, 363 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:54,159 Speaker 1: went just as public before, yes, and she is disappointed 364 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:56,920 Speaker 1: in me. I explained to Grandma that after our three 365 00:18:56,960 --> 00:19:00,400 Speaker 1: way conversation, it was clear I was being accused. It 366 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:03,879 Speaker 1: was not fair to be unjustly accused and not notify 367 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 1: the public that the jewelry was found. Because Emma wanted 368 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,440 Speaker 1: to save face. Emma's mom and sister I have tried 369 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 1: to reach out to me via friend requests. I want 370 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:16,040 Speaker 1: nothing to do with them until Emma issues in earnest 371 00:19:16,240 --> 00:19:20,760 Speaker 1: public and private apology. Since my last update regarding the 372 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:24,119 Speaker 1: Facebook posts, multiple family members and family friends have reached 373 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:27,119 Speaker 1: out to me about what a crappy person Emma is. 374 00:19:27,480 --> 00:19:31,000 Speaker 1: Some express disappointment in her actions to protect her facade 375 00:19:31,280 --> 00:19:33,879 Speaker 1: and her treatment of me when I have been supportive 376 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:36,520 Speaker 1: and sincere to her on her big day. I thought 377 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:39,960 Speaker 1: that that was rather amusing. Edit, since I assumed I'm 378 00:19:39,960 --> 00:19:43,399 Speaker 1: putting up with my grandma's pope. She was cut off 379 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,840 Speaker 1: after that conversation, and we do have some relevant comments 380 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: to close this out. So SLJ seven says, good, I 381 00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 1: remember your original update about this. She deserves for people 382 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 1: to think badly of her. Sometimes that's the only thing 383 00:19:57,880 --> 00:20:00,439 Speaker 1: that will change a person. She could have ended this 384 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: long ago by just posting online to say the jewelry 385 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:03,480 Speaker 1: was found. 386 00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:04,320 Speaker 2: She didn't. 387 00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:07,399 Speaker 1: Here we are and Opie says, I never wanted to 388 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 1: go that route. I wanted to be civil about things. However, 389 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:12,639 Speaker 1: she wanted to let people run with the idea that 390 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:15,640 Speaker 1: I stole the jewelry. No man boom, and then wolf 391 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:19,199 Speaker 1: Water says, what does her husband have to say about all? 392 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,320 Speaker 1: Of this and the type of person that he now 393 00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:26,520 Speaker 1: knows he married. Interesting question, op, he responds, not sure, honestly, 394 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:31,439 Speaker 1: he does not have social media. He's a detective, correct 395 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:32,920 Speaker 1: the case of your wife. 396 00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:33,639 Speaker 2: Being an ale. 397 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:36,240 Speaker 1: Now, I want to know what the other jobs are. 398 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: If everyone's just prapping on the project manager. 399 00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:43,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, bro, project managers get paid way more than detectives. 400 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:44,400 Speaker 2: Oh yeah. 401 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:48,959 Speaker 3: If we're going off of the superficial like monetary hierarchy. 402 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,960 Speaker 2: Project managers get paid BA bank, dude, six figures. 403 00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:55,360 Speaker 1: Six figures, I mean sometimes mid six figures, if you're 404 00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:58,280 Speaker 1: like up there. Not sure, honestly, he does not as 405 00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 1: a detective. I would love to know a stance though. 406 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 1: I wonder if she hid all of it from him. 407 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:07,240 Speaker 1: He seems quite polite and nice until he's pointing with 408 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:12,240 Speaker 1: the law. Good catching those criminals. Anyway, it baffles me 409 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 1: that she managed to lock him down. And that is 410 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:17,480 Speaker 1: where this story ends. 411 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 2: Wowows he wow wows here. 412 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:24,480 Speaker 3: This is kind of like when somebody finds out about 413 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:27,160 Speaker 3: somebody cheating and they're like, you should take down the posts, 414 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:29,760 Speaker 3: you know, I let's have this conversation, help clear my name, 415 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:31,560 Speaker 3: take down the post. At a minimum, she's like she 416 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 3: didn't do it. She's like, all right, fine, I tried 417 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:35,400 Speaker 3: to go to you to resolve it that way. Now 418 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 3: I have to go and publicly resolve it. 419 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:42,480 Speaker 1: And it feels like OPI literally gave them every opportunity. 420 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:45,320 Speaker 2: Totally, so op not the A hole. 421 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,720 Speaker 1: I think, honestly, in this case, I probably would have 422 00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:50,920 Speaker 1: done everything that OPI did. 423 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:53,040 Speaker 2: That's right. You gotta you gotta fight for your honor.