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Speaker 2: That's not one name. I making one as able.
Speaker 1: But here it shitly gar the sheepert.
Speaker 3: This welcome back, Let's go back.
Speaker 4: Welcome back.
Speaker 3: Good mama, bad choice, Let's give choice.
Speaker 5: I'm a cake, I'm I mean, I'm Lenna, I'm Mila.
Speaker 4: No, and I'm I.
Speaker 3: And I'm Erica and today episode.
Speaker 4: And me and Jamila and okay, let's let's just clear
Speaker 4: something up.
Speaker 3: Okay, we host the show. We ask you questions. You
Speaker 3: don't repeat what we're saying. When you wait your turn
Speaker 3: to speak. Can you tell us your aunt? Then you
Speaker 3: tell us what you think or what you feel? Okay, cool,
Speaker 3: so we plan. Okay, how is everybody's weekend? How did
Speaker 3: did you? Did you have a good weekend?
Speaker 2: Guys?
Speaker 6: What'd you do this weekend? What else did we do?
Speaker 6: And we could you go on a hike or something?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Hi, you want to hike? But who let's.
Speaker 4: All friend either West or else or friends?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm doing anything on the hype? Like, was it
Speaker 3: pretty cool? What would you do it? Did you see
Speaker 3: any lizards?
Speaker 6: Reptiles of any sort of what's a reptile?
Speaker 3: It's like a reptiles and a family. It's amphibian.
Speaker 5: No, I kind of seeing amphibian, But I think that's wrong, right,
Speaker 5: is it? Amphibian amphibians? Like this is when when parenting
Speaker 5: gets real tricky. I started asking you questions that you
Speaker 5: you should know the answers to, and you're like, am
Speaker 5: I dumb? Reptiles are like a sort of hey, don't
Speaker 5: hit me. A group of animals that fall in the
Speaker 5: same category snakes, lizards, iguanas, those are reptiles.
Speaker 3: Anyway, did you see any Did you se any reptiles
Speaker 3: on this hike? You didn't see a reptile. You didn't
Speaker 3: see any lizards. Did you see lizard? No, you didn't
Speaker 3: see lizard on the hike.
Speaker 4: I saw.
Speaker 8: I couldn't see it, but I saw. I didn't want
Speaker 8: the highest rock me too?
Speaker 3: M hmm. What else did you do this weekend?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 3: What did you do this weekend?
Speaker 6: Called?
Speaker 3: Too much? I did too much?
Speaker 5: What I did? I lost my mind?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I don't know what's wrong with you? Who I think
Speaker 3: I am? I before?
Speaker 5: So we had a good mom's hike meetup For those
Speaker 5: on the newsletter, Yes, if.
Speaker 6: You guys subscribe to our newsletter, then you would have
Speaker 6: known about our secret meet up. It was very very
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Speaker 6: And if you did come then you got a pin.
Speaker 6: You got a good mom's bad choices pen. So never know,
Speaker 6: you could come up on we want to meet up.
Speaker 6: You know, no guarantees, no guarantees. But it was a good.
Speaker 3: Time, except that the hike.
Speaker 5: I don't know if Erica knew was aware when she
Speaker 5: made these glance at the hike is like three and
Speaker 5: a half mine.
Speaker 3: But first of all, you took the hike with me before,
Speaker 3: so what do you mean? I know? So it was like, sure,
Speaker 3: this is okay with kids.
Speaker 5: But anyway, we like a bunch of moms. Some people
Speaker 5: did bring their kids, some people have kids, but everyone.
Speaker 3: On three and a half mile. It was not three
Speaker 3: and a half mile.
Speaker 5: We we checked, you googled it, we checked the our
Speaker 5: walking distance.
Speaker 3: It was three miles. It was like three miles.
Speaker 6: I wonder I really wanted me to carry her. I
Speaker 6: literally carried Iri on my back for like the last
Speaker 6: hour of the hike. Felt like I wasn't having it.
Speaker 6: It was either bad or meltdown. I didn't know what
Speaker 6: to do. I didn't want to deal with either one,
Speaker 6: so I just did it.
Speaker 3: It was actually really nice.
Speaker 5: But the night before that, I my friend was in town.
Speaker 3: She wanted to go out.
Speaker 5: The Afro was the Afro go go party when Yoursion
Speaker 5: reunion was happening.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, just Mela is like really invested in this
Speaker 3: Afro afro What is it?
Speaker 6: Well, it's an afric go go parties, Affro situation, but
Speaker 6: all the Afro parties, the Afro parties.
Speaker 3: Well, I just feel like this is discovered new and
Speaker 3: I discover people.
Speaker 4: Dan.
Speaker 3: Yeah, music is good, people dance, There's.
Speaker 5: So many like brown black faces. It's just refreshing. It's
Speaker 5: not Hollywood.
Speaker 3: It's just normal, regular good times. You know you waited
Speaker 3: line you look, we don't. We gotta go, So let's
Speaker 3: get this.
Speaker 6: Let's just get to the kids, you know, because Okay,
Speaker 6: we's tired, and so he's tired, and it's Mother's Day almost,
Speaker 6: and we.
Speaker 5: Need to make it easy, make it easy on ourselves. Okay,
Speaker 5: what do you guys know what mother's days?
Speaker 3: Do you know what Mother's days?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: What is it?
Speaker 4: Et?
Speaker 3: Your Mother's Day what do we? What do?
Speaker 6: What do you do for mom's on Mother's Day?
Speaker 3: Work? Oh? You work? Do you give mommies lots of
Speaker 3: kisses on Mother's Day? Yes? And lots of hugs make
Speaker 3: them feel special like it's their birthday?
Speaker 6: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, remember them? What's your favorite thing about
Speaker 6: your mama?
Speaker 4: Play like them?
Speaker 3: What about you?
Speaker 4: I play your ground there?
Speaker 6: That's your favorite thing about your mom?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: What else do you think? What's your favorite? Do you
Speaker 3: know your mommy's favorite color? Green? True?
Speaker 6: It is true my favorite? That's like you like pik too.
Speaker 4: You're what you're wearing green?
Speaker 3: You know what? My favorite thing doing?
Speaker 6: Was?
Speaker 3: Like dancing?
Speaker 6: You have?
Speaker 5: She's like, I don't care anyway, that's cool. What do
Speaker 5: you How do you think you got here?
Speaker 4: What you drive here?
Speaker 3: So you drove to your mommy's stomach? No?
Speaker 4: Mmm, I live in dancing?
Speaker 3: I swim there were you and mommy's tummy?
Speaker 7: Yes?
Speaker 3: Were you in there? Since you were swimming around? What
Speaker 3: kind of swimming were you doing? Were doing like flips
Speaker 3: and stuff?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 3: Really? Do you remember that? What? What was it? What
Speaker 3: did it look like in there?
Speaker 4: I don't know?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Do you remember where you were before you came
Speaker 3: to see us. You know what color was it inside
Speaker 3: mommy's tummy?
Speaker 10: Mm oh, do you remember what color it was inside before.
Speaker 3: You got here?
Speaker 4: I mean pink?
Speaker 3: Which one was it? Read or pink? Pink? I thought
Speaker 3: you said it was red. Interesting? Were you scared like
Speaker 3: coming coming out coming through? Yeah? You were?
Speaker 5: But then do you remember like touching me for the
Speaker 5: first time, like on my chest?
Speaker 3: You remember coming out and crying? You don't crying really,
Speaker 3: but have a video and she watches it.
Speaker 6: I'm not planing it I come out.
Speaker 3: I was, but I was crying before you. I have
Speaker 3: the video too. But what is it Daddy has on
Speaker 3: his phone somewhere? Say you have it? I have it somewhere.
Speaker 3: I think it's on my old computer.
Speaker 4: Can you show me one day? Yeah, I'll show you.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't have it handy at this very moment.
Speaker 4: You don't have your old your old chimp.
Speaker 3: You do.
Speaker 5: We have some other questions for you. Tonight is the
Speaker 5: Matt Gala, which is like this big just fancy party
Speaker 5: and like celebrities get really dressed up.
Speaker 3: They dressed up.
Speaker 6: It's this big party where they were they're they're the
Speaker 6: best outfits they can find yes.
Speaker 5: So tell us what you think about some of these outfits.
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, so this is this is Lala Anthony that one?
Speaker 3: Do you like that one? What does it look like?
Speaker 4: They a shiny ring silvery?
Speaker 3: Does it remind you of anything else?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 4: What is its.
Speaker 3: Dress? What do you think about her hair? Is that
Speaker 3: like gold? Like? That's really corn?
Speaker 5: I see now read that was a dollar about because
Speaker 5: the hundred is an adult A hundred I'm really personally
Speaker 5: not feeling Okay, let's move on.
Speaker 3: Okay's look at the pizza. The pizza one.
Speaker 8: I like the rainbow, which I like the I think
Speaker 8: it's the hand I like, I like the wing and
Speaker 8: I like the.
Speaker 3: Like their Yeah, this is this one's pretty hot. I agree.
Speaker 3: I'm into the colors.
Speaker 6: Hi die seventies retro friend Mary's when that Egyptian queen?
Speaker 3: And this is that a fan? Is it a hand fan?
Speaker 4: Fan?
Speaker 3: Even better? And the fro and the picts. I really
Speaker 3: like the piza. This you think about that? This is? Okay?
Speaker 6: So that's the Atrius album and that's his wife.
Speaker 4: I want pink hair? Is like, I me too?
Speaker 10: Is there anything you don't like about anything in the hair?
Speaker 10: But what do you think, and it's beautiful. You look
Speaker 10: like a mermaid.
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, actually that's true.
Speaker 5: Okay, And how about this one.
Speaker 3: This isn't like a Cinderella. It looks like very much
Speaker 3: like Cinderella.
Speaker 4: And is.
Speaker 7: A Cinderella?
Speaker 11: Mom?
Speaker 3: Do you think you wear that dress?
Speaker 6: I dress?
Speaker 3: I mean too, it's like it's like lighting up.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I want that dress and I want the hair,
Speaker 8: like I want the hair and the dress, and I
Speaker 8: want the hair and the dress.
Speaker 3: Could you do your hair like that? Yes?
Speaker 8: I cannot hurt. Okay, yeah I cannot. I get I'm
Speaker 8: maybe a witch, I know, and that I know that
Speaker 8: like a witch. No, I know, be that girl for Hamoween.
Speaker 8: I read this girl, I get this.
Speaker 3: Get it's really not compl I mean, I do like
Speaker 3: the shoes. She looks like, I don't know, TuS vulnerable.
Speaker 5: It's not want to dress those breasts.
Speaker 6: That bra doesn't fit her booth. It's like literally just
Speaker 6: over the doesn't. It's just not Sorry, Nikki, you gotta
Speaker 6: try again.
Speaker 3: The train, I like trains. Stop look at the back
Speaker 3: of the dress.
Speaker 6: But you know it's just just because you have a
Speaker 6: train doesn't mean it's a good dress.
Speaker 5: Won't saved her a little. Okay, what do you guys
Speaker 5: say about this Naomi Campbell?
Speaker 4: Like, yeah, I don't the hair.
Speaker 3: That's Nami Campbell. It's not even looking. What are you doing?
Speaker 3: I why why do you want her hair?
Speaker 8: Because he's so beautiful and hate and why do you
Speaker 8: like that hair? Because he's so beautiful and she see looks,
Speaker 8: see see she's so beautiful.
Speaker 5: Okay, you love her hair better than you like La
Speaker 5: Pizza's hair. Yeah, this one, this is.
Speaker 3: I like more.
Speaker 4: Pita pizza, Pizza.
Speaker 3: Pizza, Lou Pita.
Speaker 4: I like the poo pizza.
Speaker 3: What about this? What do you think about that?
Speaker 4: That one me too?
Speaker 3: Us two hats three? It looks like three.
Speaker 4: She has three. And your eye on her dress.
Speaker 3: And even her bra was winking. What's that?
Speaker 4: What do you think that is lips?
Speaker 5: But do you see the whole face? It's like an
Speaker 5: eye an eye? You got two eyes?
Speaker 3: My mouth? Those are eyes right there? Who styles her?
Speaker 3: This is bad? It's like who this is?
Speaker 5: Mom?
Speaker 3: It's literally art?
Speaker 4: Does he have a lie of hat on her?
Speaker 3: It's literally abstract art walking the time, like with the
Speaker 3: Mad Hatter. Crazy. Okay, you look at somebody else, Oh
Speaker 3: our girl party, it's not Cardi Boo. That is Kylie Jenner. No,
Speaker 3: my god, I knew that one. Oh my god, she's
Speaker 3: black fishing. That's why she looks. She looks like a
Speaker 3: little kim there.
Speaker 6: I'm so used to seeing black fishing looks like a
Speaker 6: it is, no, is she because she's reminding you of.
Speaker 3: What what do you mean? Oh my god? All right, okay,
Speaker 3: if you don't want to come back, it's fine.
Speaker 6: So yeah, our kids are I love everything they have.
Speaker 6: Yet they're not cynical yet. Something that's a good thing.
Speaker 3: That she's beautiful and like us, I was a idiot.
Speaker 3: That's horrible. That train didn't save her.
Speaker 4: Looks a little bloated.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was just here.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, oh wait, but did you see her do
Speaker 5: her turkey? What she's working on the the met gala?
Speaker 3: Like stairs? Yeah, it's the first time ever, it's ever.
Speaker 6: Oh god, shut up? Is that a thing though? The
Speaker 6: first time ever? Someone?
Speaker 5: Okay, afro puffs, afro puffs.
Speaker 3: Baby. They came there before that. It was open. I
Speaker 3: don't know how they got this. I was wondering the
Speaker 3: same thing personally. Yeah, I wasn't open yet. It was
Speaker 3: in the morning. Well, if it's not done what people
Speaker 3: are there. I don't know. I don't really care. I
Speaker 3: like those ap puffs. I do like those oper puffs
Speaker 3: and baby hairs are popping. What are you doing it
Speaker 3: for Mother's Day? I don't know.
Speaker 5: I don't really have any plans, hopefully, like getting is
Speaker 5: treated so special and like eating bomb meals three times?
Speaker 3: Do you expect your baby daddy to do something for
Speaker 3: your Mother's Day?
Speaker 5: I was just thinking that in the car, and I
Speaker 5: don't know. I'm not really I don't know, not really.
Speaker 3: I feel like.
Speaker 5: He may or he may not, but or he'll just
Speaker 5: be like, Okay, well it's your weekend.
Speaker 6: I feel like this might be the first Mother's Day
Speaker 6: where he's like, you won't because he's realized it's.
Speaker 3: Not going down. And last year we've had like the
Speaker 3: two Mother's Days so far where I feel like he
Speaker 3: takes me to like a nice restaurant and you know,
Speaker 3: it's cool. We don't talk about anything. We're just like silent.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's the thing that it's like why we don't know,
Speaker 6: we don't really talk.
Speaker 3: We have nothing to say, literally us interacting with with Lina.
Speaker 3: Did I do something with him last Mother's Day?
Speaker 6: No? I don't think I think guys had an argument.
Speaker 6: If I remember correctly, really happened like I mean, it's
Speaker 6: it's highly likely I can't remember.
Speaker 3: What it was. I'm accepting all Mother's Day meals.
Speaker 6: Yeah, if anyone wants to, you know, celebrate me that day.
Speaker 6: You know I did bring in like everyone's favorite child,
Speaker 6: everyone's favorite children.
Speaker 3: So you know, if you want to throw me assert
Speaker 3: cupcake donut. So the kids are bactually said the kids
Speaker 3: coming back? I mean, I guess, so here they are.
Speaker 3: What's happening? Oh? Okay, card where is Carty? For Cardi hair?
Speaker 3: Get in a hip?
Speaker 5: You know I would never endorse, say, but you know
Speaker 5: if I get popping, then I give you a little
Speaker 5: fillers to the hips.
Speaker 3: Kylie has built full six eyes like a pretty woman
Speaker 3: of also whatever she wants. Now, I don't know she's
Speaker 3: built that way. Okay, we talked.
Speaker 5: They need Actually Kylie Kendall looks bomb.
Speaker 3: Looks like a flamingo girl. Girl. Where is.
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: Where is Cardi?
Speaker 12: She's wearing red ID Maybe I can't hide if you're
Speaker 12: gonna be doing this.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 5: I think Nikki said, film me, but don't post. Don't post,
Speaker 5: uh Cardi? Because I don't see any cardy photos yet.
Speaker 6: Oh maybe that's them? My god, sure because I don't
Speaker 6: see one.
Speaker 3: No, oh my god.
Speaker 6: So we think we because we started looking at this
Speaker 6: met gala photos and it was like these weird videos
Speaker 6: of Nikki getting ready and all stuff, and it seemed
Speaker 6: very much like Nicki Minaj for sure. It was like, Yo,
Speaker 6: shade room feature me on. She featured me getting.
Speaker 3: Ready at the met gala. That definitely happens.
Speaker 6: It definitely happened. Oh it's confirmed now. Oh see this
Speaker 6: is Angela Brinks.
Speaker 3: Angel Breaks? Whatever? What do you have that's cardis? What
Speaker 3: do you guys thinking about the angel Breaks? Make that?
Speaker 3: I was like, the hell are you crazy? Who is that?
Speaker 4: Who?
Speaker 2: Lady b?
Speaker 3: Who? Oh yeah? What did she saying?
Speaker 4: Car cartie?
Speaker 5: Okay, we have some more questions for you, not regarding fashions, okay, okay,
Speaker 5: like what if.
Speaker 3: Your mom started having a boyfriend? How would you feel
Speaker 3: about that?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 3: Yes, oh do you know what a boyfriend is? What
Speaker 3: is it? Come home, comes to town?
Speaker 5: Please?
Speaker 4: Boy a boyfriend? A boyfriend?
Speaker 3: Stop repeating each other. What do you think the boyfriend is?
Speaker 4: You have to be a husband.
Speaker 3: You have to be a husband. So like okay, is
Speaker 3: it okay? Yeah? Like a boy closer husband? Boyfriend? Would
Speaker 3: you would you be?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 3: Do you want mommy to have a husband?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 4: You do? Why because mommy's so beautiful?
Speaker 3: Thank you? Baby? So I need a husband because I'm beautiful?
Speaker 3: What kind of guy?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 3: What kind of a husband do you see your mom's having?
Speaker 8: Bobby? Bobby?
Speaker 1: Wait?
Speaker 3: What kind of husband you take?
Speaker 9: Me?
Speaker 4: Have me have Bobby?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 3: Irine, you need to think your own thoughts? What what
Speaker 3: do you think?
Speaker 4: Mom?
Speaker 3: You're not Bobby? Who's Bobby? Do you even know who
Speaker 3: Bobby is?
Speaker 4: It's my dad? I know?
Speaker 3: So why would I have Bobby? Why would Bobby be
Speaker 3: my husband?
Speaker 5: Irin? You don't know what Bobby outside of your dad?
Speaker 3: Who? What kind of guy would be?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 3: A nice?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 3: Qualities?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 3: What what do you think of? What do you think
Speaker 3: a husband is supposed to do? Do? What kind of work?
Speaker 7: Mom?
Speaker 3: What kind of work?
Speaker 13: Mom?
Speaker 3: Mom?
Speaker 13: Boor mom?
Speaker 3: That's what husbands do?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: So what's mom?
Speaker 4: Work? Mom? Work? You're doing?
Speaker 3: Like that's right now? What else do moms do for work?
Speaker 2: Good?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 4: And they work my phone and then.
Speaker 8: Yes, our phones and we just talk.
Speaker 3: What do you want to be when you grow up, mate,
Speaker 3: I will be doctor doctor.
Speaker 8: I want to be adopted to and I want to
Speaker 8: be unnursed and I can be my helper, right, Yes,
Speaker 8: what kind of.
Speaker 3: Doctor work are you gonna do? You're gonna deliver babies.
Speaker 3: You're gonna be I.
Speaker 8: Mean, no little babies, and then you gonna take care
Speaker 8: of the gods when you're sick.
Speaker 6: Take care of dogs. Come sit over here, Luna, please,
Speaker 6: I rene, come sit here. But they can't hear you
Speaker 6: when you're chopping around. Don't you want them to hear
Speaker 6: you on the microphone?
Speaker 3: What do you guys? Do you want to be your
Speaker 3: mom when you get older? You want to have no kids?
Speaker 3: You do?
Speaker 4: I want to have kids?
Speaker 6: You don't many kids? You want to have five kids?
Speaker 6: Do you want girls? Boys both?
Speaker 8: I mean I just want a girl and a bully
Speaker 8: and a girl and a boy.
Speaker 6: So so two girls and two boys?
Speaker 3: What about you, Luna?
Speaker 4: I want to be a mom.
Speaker 3: I don't want You don't want kids?
Speaker 4: Know why?
Speaker 3: Because she does? Don't listen.
Speaker 4: Can you just have to put them in their room
Speaker 4: and put them in and time out? Yeah?
Speaker 3: And they cost a lot of money too.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, then you get out. Why do you drive.
Speaker 7: The time out.
Speaker 3: Why why do you need to put them in the
Speaker 3: time out?
Speaker 4: They don't listen?
Speaker 3: Oh but please stop doing that. I get to help. Okay,
Speaker 3: So what do you want to be married? Do you
Speaker 3: think or you want no kids? No marriage? Huh? You're
Speaker 3: you're rolling aldo married? You do you want a husband?
Speaker 3: No way, no way, no.
Speaker 13: Way.
Speaker 3: Do you want mommy to have a husband? H you
Speaker 3: want mommy to have a husband?
Speaker 4: Yes? I do. Yes, who's gonna.
Speaker 3: Be my husband?
Speaker 4: Ah?
Speaker 3: Oh my god?
Speaker 6: Wow?
Speaker 3: Okay, well.
Speaker 5: We'll believe that one out because it is stealing all
Speaker 5: the governments.
Speaker 3: You mean happy day? You mean happy? Interesting? Does anybody
Speaker 3: at your school? I read? Does anyone at your school
Speaker 3: have boyfriends?
Speaker 6: Yes?
Speaker 4: Boyfriend?
Speaker 3: Really? I am who's your boyfriend? Boyfriend? Who's your boyfriend?
Speaker 8: Who's your boyfriend?
Speaker 4: Jackson?
Speaker 7: What?
Speaker 3: Jackson? Who's Jackson's? Yes?
Speaker 7: What do you mean?
Speaker 3: This is your boyfriend? Is nice?
Speaker 6: Now?
Speaker 3: Are you sure the speakers are coming out? What does
Speaker 3: Jackson do is be nice to? Does he play with you?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 3: Does he ever push you or anything like that? No?
Speaker 6: Oh that's great. What kind of games do you and
Speaker 6: Jackson play? I would like hide and go seek.
Speaker 8: Or like we have puddles, we play.
Speaker 6: Hide to go seeks. Okay, down place? That's cool.
Speaker 3: So how do you feel about your dad's getting me
Speaker 3: a girlfriend?
Speaker 4: And get out?
Speaker 3: They have know what if? What if? Your what if
Speaker 3: daddy had a girlfriend?
Speaker 2: My mom?
Speaker 3: But do you want your daddy to have a girlfriend too?
Speaker 14: I love my mom.
Speaker 4: Have a girl, my dad has?
Speaker 3: Your dad already has a girlfriend.
Speaker 8: I want you to have a boyfriend. You you have
Speaker 8: a boyfriend? Joke and you have you don't have don't?
Speaker 2: I do not have some.
Speaker 5: And I don't have one done dundu and you don't
Speaker 5: have one? Suspenseful music like is it gonna happen? Well,
Speaker 5: we really really love you guys, and I'm really really
Speaker 5: happy that you made us moms and that it was
Speaker 5: you that came through, because you guys are pretty cool.
Speaker 8: By yelling, my mom is yelling when I came.
Speaker 3: Out, because it was like very intense.
Speaker 6: It hurt.
Speaker 5: You know, you know you've seen births on on your jube.
Speaker 5: I mean I like to watch home birds on your
Speaker 5: well aware?
Speaker 6: Also, doctor, is my mom yelling when I came I
Speaker 6: wasn't yelling because mommy was had an epidural?
Speaker 3: What are you doing?
Speaker 6: I was laying there and well, I guess hyperventilating, are you?
Speaker 6: And Daddy was actually Daddy was yelling. Daddy was yelling
Speaker 6: and crying. He was kind of yell oh my god,
Speaker 6: oh my god, oh my like over and over to
Speaker 6: the point where I was like, is everything okay? Like
Speaker 6: does she have ten fingers? Like she is her two heads?
Speaker 6: Like what's going on?
Speaker 3: Oh my god?
Speaker 6: Like I was like, for sure everyone in the hospitals,
Speaker 6: like sink thinks there's a problem seeing her.
Speaker 3: Dad just like shook the entire time. Oh my god,
Speaker 3: this sh was happening, like like you saw a ghost
Speaker 3: the whole time, right, you can't take this back?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: He just looks so overwhelmed.
Speaker 5: And then he just looked nervous to cut the cord,
Speaker 5: like he's shaking.
Speaker 3: Where do you think babies come from? Answer? They do?
Speaker 3: How do they get in there? How do babies getting
Speaker 3: mommy's chimmies?
Speaker 5: Are?
Speaker 9: We?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 3: Who are your best friends? I? Who's your best friend?
Speaker 2: Luna?
Speaker 3: Anyone else? Chessie, Chessie, you don't even know what Chessie?
Speaker 3: Who else?
Speaker 4: Crazy?
Speaker 3: Okay? Do you have any adult best friends?
Speaker 2: No yet?
Speaker 4: My mommy, yes, my mommy.
Speaker 3: That's what I like. Ye, we are your best friends.
Speaker 3: We're the real one.
Speaker 5: We're gonna always be real with you.
Speaker 3: What's Luna? What's your favorite food? Shrimp and rice? I
Speaker 3: don't know what's your favorite food? Chicken and what else?
Speaker 4: Fruit?
Speaker 3: Chicken and fruit. That's it. Do you think you'll ever
Speaker 3: eat vegetables? Do you think you'll ever eat vegetables? Hello,
Speaker 3: we're still interviewing you. Are you just checked out?
Speaker 6: Y'all?
Speaker 4: Are I eat this Monday? I eat? You eat carrots? Yes,
Speaker 4: I know that. I'm about to call you.
Speaker 6: Let's tell her what you eat carrots?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's delicious. Shouldn't I eat some of that stuff? Right?
Speaker 3: What do you want for?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 3: What would be ideal for you for Mother's Day? Maybe?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 3: You so you probably will do something with beady? I
Speaker 3: don't know.
Speaker 8: I read a rock like a pink.
Speaker 6: Happy Bay asked me if i'd be weird if he
Speaker 6: bought me a Mother's Day present?
Speaker 3: Why would be weird? I said no? I said, I
Speaker 3: don't know the rules of this. There's no rules. She's like,
Speaker 3: I've never dated a mom.
Speaker 6: I'm like, well, I've never dated as a mom, so
Speaker 6: I don't really know how to answer that just either
Speaker 6: I guess I.
Speaker 3: Said, I've never had a guy. I don't think outside.
Speaker 3: I see that's because that's what probably want that because
Speaker 3: I amateur guys. I'm not happy father's say text but
Speaker 3: not like something special. Maybe they feel like that's like
Speaker 3: it's like overstepping there. That's ridiculous.
Speaker 6: You better get me something because maybe they're like, maybe
Speaker 6: it's overstepping my boundaries.
Speaker 3: I'm not celebrate me.
Speaker 15: I've raised a child I'm raising I contributed to society. Yeah, hello,
Speaker 15: do you think that it's like do you think that
Speaker 15: like once you're in a relationship going to like if
Speaker 15: your baby daddy asked you to go to like dinner
Speaker 15: or that's inappropriate?
Speaker 3: I don't, but you know, I'm a free thinker.
Speaker 12: I don't know where I got that ur but I
Speaker 12: know I think, like I just feel like my ideal
Speaker 12: relationship would be so fucking solid that it wasn't even
Speaker 12: mad at there was this vice versa which you care No,
Speaker 12: I would respect it like I'm glad and then.
Speaker 3: Take it to breakfast. But me, I get dinner and lunch.
Speaker 6: Well, if you didn't have kids with that person, was
Speaker 6: what I mean, Like, if you were dating someone.
Speaker 5: And if he had kids and he took kids and
Speaker 5: his baby brother to breakfast or.
Speaker 3: I would think that's great, you guys.
Speaker 5: But being so I'm a mom too, we'd have you
Speaker 5: to have some time for me too. But I think
Speaker 5: that's I think that's healthy.
Speaker 3: I think that.
Speaker 5: I mean, maybe because I'm a baby mom, I think
Speaker 5: that to respect your baby mom and have a healthy.
Speaker 3: Relationship with her is ideal, you know.
Speaker 5: And sometimes yeah, we'll all go together, honestly, and sometimes not,
Speaker 5: And I'm cool with that. I understand the importance of
Speaker 5: a child having time together with both of their parents.
Speaker 5: I see it because I see it makes her happy.
Speaker 5: I see that, you know, she just genuinely enjoyed spending
Speaker 5: time with us together.
Speaker 3: And I get it. And I just think that you
Speaker 3: should be.
Speaker 5: Your relationship, be mature enough for the trust, and I
Speaker 5: mean you should want the same for your partner and
Speaker 5: want him to be that president because I mean, I
Speaker 5: feel like that makes me know you're a good dad.
Speaker 5: I maybe wanna, I maybe you want to have kids
Speaker 5: with you. You're never going to be on some immature, shady,
Speaker 5: weird shit, you know. I just think it should be
Speaker 5: that much, honestly, like friendship, you know, but that's very
Speaker 5: apparently it's very very rarely found because nobody is mature.
Speaker 3: What do you think would you allow her? I agree
Speaker 3: with you. Okay, you guys should go. Yeah, you guys leep,
Speaker 3: Go go go in there, imply please go on. Thank
Speaker 3: you so much for helping. Thank you for your contributions
Speaker 3: to this episode. Yeah, we're all done. We're gonna try again.
Speaker 3: I'm almost done. We're gonna try it. You're five and
Speaker 3: a half.
Speaker 4: Why what why we are.
Speaker 5: Here?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 5: So what were you saying if you were dating a
Speaker 5: guy and he took his baby mom to I don't.
Speaker 3: Know, I don't I don't think I would care.
Speaker 6: I think it was just Also, it all depends on
Speaker 6: how where, how solid we.
Speaker 3: Are as the interval.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I would like to be in a relationship that's solid.
Speaker 5: That's the type of relationship I long for.
Speaker 6: You know something, me too, Yeah, because I want the
Speaker 6: freedom I want to have a relationship because I want
Speaker 6: the same I want to be afforded the same respect
Speaker 6: and space as well. Because and not to say like
Speaker 6: I don't do I think there's like do I think
Speaker 6: like I need to like go on like a romantical
Speaker 6: dinner with my.
Speaker 3: Baby daddy for Mother's Day. No, we could go to
Speaker 3: like breakfast one.
Speaker 6: I think there's still like boundaries to it, you know
Speaker 6: what I mean, Like I'm not gonna be like.
Speaker 16: Yeah, go ahead, go to candle at dinner. No, because
Speaker 16: I think that's even confusing for the kids. And I
Speaker 16: feel also taking taking Mother's Day out of the equation.
Speaker 16: If once a week we go have dinner with Like,
Speaker 16: I'm not opposed to dinner, it's not dinner. It's like
Speaker 16: if it's for mothers, who what is it for? Who
Speaker 16: are you both?
Speaker 6: What?
Speaker 4: Like?
Speaker 3: What is his what are his or her intentions?
Speaker 5: Well, I'm assuming that, yeah, these people have met, you know,
Speaker 5: this is long term and my person knows like I'm
Speaker 5: not even thinking about this mega.
Speaker 3: You know, but I like, again, I get it.
Speaker 5: I'm not saying it would be like so easy for
Speaker 5: me either, but ultimately speaking that it's rare. But I
Speaker 5: feel like it exists and I don't want to like settle.
Speaker 5: I mean, I know, if you compromise, that's the thing.
Speaker 5: Compromising and feeling like you're you're settling from something less
Speaker 5: than what you want is hard. But because I'm not
Speaker 5: a good compromiser, and I'm not like, historically you haven't
Speaker 5: been like.
Speaker 3: A committed person either, So maybe it's that.
Speaker 5: I don't know if it's something like I'm running, but
Speaker 5: I just ultimately that's what I think it's fair.
Speaker 3: I don't think to do with the running.
Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, right, I'm like, should I be like, Okay, no,
Speaker 5: this is inappropriate?
Speaker 3: No, But I do think there's boundaries to it.
Speaker 9: Yeah, I could be hanging out all the time every
Speaker 9: day at his crib and shit, and even if it is,
Speaker 9: I just mean, like the boundaries that need to be
Speaker 9: pad are based on what people's true feelings are for
Speaker 9: each other.
Speaker 6: Yes, there's always gonna be a love for one another.
Speaker 6: There is, like if there's like one like the dude
Speaker 6: is low key trying to like yeah, you know, like
Speaker 6: romantic romantical romantical romance roman like that.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.
Speaker 6: I guess there's always that chance, but you can't control everything.
Speaker 3: But I just feel like you just have to be
Speaker 3: solid with your partner period.
Speaker 5: You gotta be solid with yourself, Like what's the point
Speaker 5: in lying, like, don't waste my time if you want
Speaker 5: to be with somebody else, your mother baby, Mountain included.
Speaker 3: Let's talk about it.
Speaker 5: You know, like, I'm not here to a fucking I'm
Speaker 5: not into I'm not into any of that.
Speaker 3: It's just like you're gonna do it, We'll do it.
Speaker 3: But it's not you should have just said that. It's fine.
Speaker 6: Yeah, So I don't to answer your question. I don't
Speaker 6: know what I'm doing on Mother's Day. I don't know
Speaker 6: if the bd is want to take me somewhere or
Speaker 6: ask me to eat.
Speaker 3: Dinner or whatever. But who else. It's a mystery. It's
Speaker 3: a mystery.
Speaker 6: I actually don't want to do anything, but to be honest,
Speaker 6: because I have like the longest week ahead of me
Speaker 6: starting tomorrow.
Speaker 3: And Sunday's like the day I don't have to actually
Speaker 3: do anything. Maybe you could post it. It's get a
Speaker 3: post and I would just like to sit here and
Speaker 3: just eat and watch TV. Yeah. I told my mom
Speaker 3: that too. She was like, what do you want? I
Speaker 3: was like, nothing, I don't want to do anything.
Speaker 6: Right, But yeah, I mean Mother's Day's cool. But and
Speaker 6: it's a nice reminder of like, you know, remember where
Speaker 6: you came from, remember the life source. But and it
Speaker 6: also is a reminder for me that like, wow, I'm.
Speaker 3: A fucking mother. Fuck I know, like I'm someone's mom.
Speaker 6: So it's so real sudedly, it's like, yeah, I mean
Speaker 6: I've definitely like the shock.
Speaker 3: Of it is over for me.
Speaker 6: But like sometimes I do have moments where I'm like,
Speaker 6: oh shit, because like for the first two years, I'd
Speaker 6: be like, I'm a mom.
Speaker 3: How the fuck am i am? Mother? Yeah, it's pretty,
Speaker 3: it's pretty like I'm not ironic, but like out of
Speaker 3: this world.
Speaker 6: Sometimes I think about like my mom and like because
Speaker 6: I raise four and I stared running around, I'm like,
Speaker 6: it's so crazy, like you forget that your parents not forget,
Speaker 6: but like you don't put yourself in their shoes that
Speaker 6: often where you're like, shit, i was four running around
Speaker 6: and they were just like having a conversation with their girlfriends,
Speaker 6: maybe not recording it, but just in the living room.
Speaker 6: You know, it's just and now here I am growing
Speaker 6: as fun, right, you know.
Speaker 5: Which experience having living in this experience and yeah, like
Speaker 5: to imagine where were you at that.
Speaker 3: Time, m Did you feel like it was crazy? Did
Speaker 3: you feel like you had it all together?
Speaker 6: I mean, because that's the thing too, It's like as
Speaker 6: kids would look at our parents and we think they're
Speaker 6: happened all together.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 5: I mean I remember like being I guess three or four,
Speaker 5: moving here, and my parents didn't have it all together.
Speaker 3: Like I kind of remember that, you.
Speaker 5: Know, like I remember we but I also remember as
Speaker 5: a child not thinking anything of it.
Speaker 3: That's what I mean though, Yeah.
Speaker 6: This is like you don't know any different really, so
Speaker 6: it's like, okay, remember cool, as long as I'm with
Speaker 6: my mom and my dad whatever.
Speaker 5: My dad had moved here like ahead of us, to
Speaker 5: California because he started writing on fresh friends because we're
Speaker 5: from Philly and they like grew up together. And I
Speaker 5: remember finally like like when are you coming back? And
Speaker 5: finally coming and like he had a roommate, so me
Speaker 5: and me and my mom and him just stayed in
Speaker 5: the other room and like eventually we got a house
Speaker 5: and stuff. I just around this little like bovo we had,
Speaker 5: but I just doubt absolutely nothing of Like it wasn't
Speaker 5: that strange, but it is interesting to compare. I feel
Speaker 5: I should ask my mom about that more. But what
Speaker 5: was going you know, like, how was it for you?
Speaker 3: I know?
Speaker 6: I mean, well, I know that my mom was constantly stressed.
Speaker 6: I know she was like really sad, and she was
Speaker 6: and she was nursing a broken heart for years.
Speaker 3: And yeah, my dad was so evil. So I remember
Speaker 3: like her crying a lot, like and but also like
Speaker 3: she was fun. You know, we had fun and.
Speaker 6: I never was worried about like my like I always
Speaker 6: like I knew we didn't. Like when I was growing up,
Speaker 6: we always lived in like small apartments and stuff. And
Speaker 6: then like I like, as her career grew, you know,
Speaker 6: obviously our living situations would grow from like a like
Speaker 6: a one bedroom apartment to a two bedroom apartment to
Speaker 6: a condo. So now we're renting a house and now
Speaker 6: we're going to rent another house and eventually we're going
Speaker 6: to buy a house. And you know, but there, I
Speaker 6: know there were times where she was really scared and nervous,
Speaker 6: but like I I could sense it, but I was
Speaker 6: always never she always kept it away from me.
Speaker 3: You're aware, Yeah, yeah, you know.
Speaker 17: It's yeah, it's so interesting like perception when you're that young,
Speaker 17: because everything is so you're always surprised, Like now as
Speaker 17: a parent, like I'm so surprised the things that she
Speaker 17: like understands, and then I'm so also surprised that thinks
Speaker 17: that I forget that she's also.
Speaker 6: For doesn't understand certain things that I think are like
Speaker 6: very simple to understand, like don't you get why this
Speaker 6: is yes or no? Black and white or other things
Speaker 6: that are more like I don't know, just a little
Speaker 6: more complicated. Sometimes I'm like, wall you understand that even
Speaker 6: asking of these questions right now, like like I don't.
Speaker 3: Know if I even understands what a boyfriend is, but she.
Speaker 13: Still said that, you're I think when and what they
Speaker 13: explained like a husband, maybe she understands what husband is, yeah,
Speaker 13: or maybe she I think she maybe does, but she's
Speaker 13: like scared to tell me that she knows, like she
Speaker 13: thinks it's like a.
Speaker 3: Secret, right, I don't know.
Speaker 6: It is interesting because I used to think things were
Speaker 6: like not like I shouldn't know what that means, like pregnant.
Speaker 6: The word pregnant, literally the word pregnant I thought was
Speaker 6: a bad word.
Speaker 3: Anytime anyone's saying I could.
Speaker 6: Be like giggle because like their age probably like I
Speaker 6: remember specifically, like I think I was like five my
Speaker 6: friend was like if my friend was like I want
Speaker 6: to be pregnant, and I was like, oh, I don't
Speaker 6: say that.
Speaker 3: I don't say that you know.
Speaker 5: That's funny is even asking I'm like, do you want
Speaker 5: to have kids? I'm like, is that an appropriate question?
Speaker 6: But it's like, all, well, it's also a question that
Speaker 6: I think is obviously asked by women.
Speaker 3: It's like the first thing people ask women. No, I
Speaker 3: don't think I think kids. I don't. I don't think
Speaker 3: people ask children. They're not children, but they're but they're women.
Speaker 3: They're they're going to be women.
Speaker 6: They don't ask if we're not going to ask when
Speaker 6: we ask a little boy that.
Speaker 5: Well, I mean, I just think it's I think it's
Speaker 5: I think it's sexualizing.
Speaker 3: It's not about sex.
Speaker 6: I just mean that I'm saying when people are I'm
Speaker 6: not even referring to it as sex. I'm saying, like,
Speaker 6: but we we think it's society that little girls grow
Speaker 6: into women that want.
Speaker 3: You to have kids? Do you want to?
Speaker 6: But that's just like the that's to do, right, you know,
Speaker 6: if all things you're gonna do, you're gonna do this
Speaker 6: for for sure, right, that's just supposed to do.
Speaker 3: That's true. We're like machines make more.
Speaker 6: I thought it was interesting that, especially because maybe Luna
Speaker 6: doesn't want to have kids because she watches those birthing
Speaker 6: videos like because then she said she wants to deliver babies, right,
Speaker 6: but like she doesn't want to go through that.
Speaker 3: Oh you know what I mean. But that of the
Speaker 3: tube videos are peaceful. I'm not saying she's traumatized or anything.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying, but like she's she's like I'm good, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm good. Dog. She does how goes down?
Speaker 6: Whereas I Because you know, Irie asked me one time,
Speaker 6: she was like what did she asked hers, like, Mommy,
Speaker 6: how did daddy? I think I talked about it was like,
Speaker 6: how did daddy put you in my stomach? I mean
Speaker 6: put you put me in your stomach? And I was
Speaker 6: like and she was like, no secrets.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh shit, what I was like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: you wrapped up my stomach. Alt we kissed and then
Speaker 3: you appeared and then I started to grab Then you
Speaker 3: grew inside. We planted a seed. We prayed for you.
Speaker 5: Definitely was praying like please don't be pregnant, please God.
Speaker 5: I mean right, suddenly when they gets a pregnant, she's like,
Speaker 5: what the fuck was I do?
Speaker 3: Everything comes coming to like crashing, how did this happen?
Speaker 7: Right?
Speaker 3: Like what what do you mean I'm pregnant. God doesn't
Speaker 3: love me?
Speaker 6: How How what do you mean you get pregnant when
Speaker 6: you don't put a condom on?
Speaker 3: Curs? Ludicrous?
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's nothing to play with. I guess the only
Speaker 5: reality of that is having a baby.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, it's like the best thing that's it's
Speaker 6: probably the best thing that's ever happened to me. It's
Speaker 6: like made me have to figure my shit out, like
Speaker 6: I've had to like, you know, just focus on something,
Speaker 6: you know, and like I think because I was so
Speaker 6: unfocused really and that's why I like, when I got pregnant,
Speaker 6: I was so scared. I was like, how can I mean,
Speaker 6: you raise a child? Like I don't even know what
Speaker 6: I'm doing. Really, I kind of just really depended. I
Speaker 6: was like, you know what, we'll just figure it out,
Speaker 6: me and him, we'll figure it out.
Speaker 3: We'll be fine. Yeah, yeah, we'll be fine.
Speaker 5: I was like, if if we're not fine, I'll be fine.
Speaker 3: I'll figure it out.
Speaker 6: Well, I think because I had, you know, an example,
Speaker 6: my mom was a single parent and that's all I really,
Speaker 6: that's all I ever knew.
Speaker 3: And she figured it out, and I was like, if
Speaker 3: she can do it, we'll figure it out.
Speaker 6: But I didn't even think about it in that way.
Speaker 6: I never thought I was like, I really didn't think
Speaker 6: about it in the way that like what it looked
Speaker 6: like without him, honestly, like, yeah, that's not ideal, because
Speaker 6: I felt like, no matter what, we're going to be together, right,
Speaker 6: you know, but that's my soulmate. So crazy what time
Speaker 6: does and kids, even because you have them, then suddenly
Speaker 6: you're like, I'm not putting up your bullshit because I
Speaker 6: love this little motherfucker more than you.
Speaker 3: Right right, And I'm not this shit. Right.
Speaker 5: I don't even want to be in this environment, so
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna put like put it on her.
Speaker 3: That was a lot for me too. I mean, even
Speaker 3: when I got pregnant, I remember.
Speaker 5: Calling certain friends and they're like, bitch, you already know
Speaker 5: who you're dealing with.
Speaker 3: And I remember being like, yeah, I do.
Speaker 5: So I'm consciously making the decision whether it works out
Speaker 5: or not.
Speaker 3: I'm cool with having a baby.
Speaker 5: But I guess I also felt guilt because I've had
Speaker 5: like two other abortions and I and I was twenty six, yeah,
Speaker 5: and I'm like, that's old. That's old to be having
Speaker 5: an abortion. I'm never gonna I'm never gonna be able
Speaker 5: to be fertile again. So there was that too, and
Speaker 5: then also the card reading that said that I should
Speaker 5: do it, which.
Speaker 3: Was the overall, that was the confirming. That's confirming. I
Speaker 3: knew immediately I was.
Speaker 6: Gonna When I found out, I was kind of excited
Speaker 6: and I was also scared.
Speaker 5: Yeah, there was more scared than there was excited. And
Speaker 5: then this excited came in when like I saw my
Speaker 5: belly girl. I think it took me a minute to
Speaker 5: connect to the belly too, like sometimes I feel weird
Speaker 5: talking to it alone. I had to like really realize
Speaker 5: what was happening, and I think I really like really clicked,
Speaker 5: Like that moment at the hospital where she hit my chest,
Speaker 5: I was like.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, like bam, yeah here she is.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I said, good luck. Oh man. Yeah, that's literally
Speaker 3: how I felt like when I left. I left the hospital.
Speaker 5: I just remember like getting home, like like I wasn't
Speaker 5: expecting her to come.
Speaker 3: When I left the house that day, it is like
Speaker 3: my house wasn't prepared. I was just like I don't
Speaker 3: know anything. I didn't watch any of those videos.
Speaker 2: What am I doing?
Speaker 3: Did they fit in? Home of the brochure of some sorts.
Speaker 3: I was emerged fully in it. I was taking baby
Speaker 3: and me classes. I was like, and so is he?
Speaker 6: Like he was super involved, Like he came to like
Speaker 6: like he came to every dog, every single doctor, went
Speaker 6: to all my baby and me classes, like humored my
Speaker 6: all my weird shit, except the home birth.
Speaker 3: He did not support that.
Speaker 6: But yeah, but then when that baby comes, it's like,
Speaker 6: oh wow.
Speaker 3: But you know, I don't know.
Speaker 6: I kind of felt ready after nine months, like I
Speaker 6: did a lot of I was spent a lot of
Speaker 6: time a lot.
Speaker 3: Of my pregnancy alone.
Speaker 6: Unfortunately, you know, my heat wasn't really around that much.
Speaker 3: He was working and.
Speaker 6: Kind of just checked out in general, just because some
Speaker 6: shit had like had gone down, like during my pregnancy,
Speaker 6: Like he almost got killed in like a shooting, and
Speaker 6: so he was just so like traumatized from that and
Speaker 6: wrapped up and always had people around constantly, always had
Speaker 6: people around in our house. At one point they were
Speaker 6: like one of two of his friends were like one
Speaker 6: of sleeping on my couch. Two of them were like
Speaker 6: sleeping on my couch for like weeks, and I was
Speaker 6: like seven months pregnant. I was like these vegans don't
Speaker 6: get out of my fucking house, Gona. And because I
Speaker 6: was like that, he would just leave all the time
Speaker 6: and be out with them. So I think I had
Speaker 6: a lot of time bonding with Iri before, So when
Speaker 6: she came, it was almost like I knew what to do.
Speaker 3: Almost it was weird like.
Speaker 6: Before, they're not not in every sense. I'm just totally
Speaker 6: even still kicking. It does kicking like you just like
Speaker 6: you just do it, Like, yeah, you just grow up
Speaker 6: the punches. You don't really have a choice and you
Speaker 6: learn as you go.
Speaker 5: That's true, Like even if you're not prepared, like somehow
Speaker 5: you're like prepared. Even I'm like all this extra baby
Speaker 5: shit that they're like conue into buying.
Speaker 3: Its like a lot of it's unnecessary, Like it's like
Speaker 3: you just go back to I was, I totally excuse me.
Speaker 6: I totally fell for the con I was buying all
Speaker 6: the unnecessary shit.
Speaker 3: What if I need a what if I need a
Speaker 3: fucking booger sucker?
Speaker 6: What if I can't get her bookers out? I got
Speaker 6: a sucker out myself, right, it's only can that makes sense?
Speaker 6: Bookers like those things. It was like this thing where
Speaker 6: you put a straw, like the straw thing in your
Speaker 6: baby's nose, and then there's like a barrier, so the
Speaker 6: bookers don't fly in your mouth, but you suck with your.
Speaker 5: Own like inhale, but it's not you suck. There's not
Speaker 5: literally out of there, it doesn't go in. Now.
Speaker 3: There's like this like there's like this piece of foam
Speaker 3: that is like in the tube.
Speaker 6: It's supposed to be like the barrier between the snot
Speaker 6: and your mouth.
Speaker 3: Did that come?
Speaker 6: But really you're just like inhaling their germs, they're sick.
Speaker 6: You're like literally in hand it's just a sponge disgusting.
Speaker 6: It's actually just it's really unsanitary. I did it many
Speaker 6: times and actually worked. And I think that's also why
Speaker 6: I really just like blowing her nose now, because she's
Speaker 6: a little traumatized from that, and I did all the sucking.
Speaker 3: Blown say, I don't know how. I don't know how.
Speaker 6: To blow my nose because my mom sucked my booker's
Speaker 6: out of my nose for three years.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I know, I totally for all that ship.
Speaker 3: But it's a big privilege though, to like be.
Speaker 5: Able to develop someone and see them grow and like
Speaker 5: interjects when you feel like it's necessary.
Speaker 3: You know, I'm constantly in awe of her. I look
Speaker 3: back so a lot of times when.
Speaker 6: I'm driving, I'll look back at my room marriage just
Speaker 6: like stare at her to be.
Speaker 3: Like, oh my god, how did I you're so large?
Speaker 9: That?
Speaker 3: And also I just like how do I love you
Speaker 3: so much? I know? Oh my God? Like I just
Speaker 3: want to like literally makes because you know what I mean, like, no,
Speaker 3: love me back? My God. It's crazy.
Speaker 6: Even when she's like, Mama, I want you, I know,
Speaker 6: I think about those when that is no more mamas
Speaker 6: and then that mama voices.
Speaker 3: And mama anymore.
Speaker 6: It's like Mama, mama, mamam mom whatever.
Speaker 3: She's already doing that. That's why I have to nit
Speaker 3: that ship.
Speaker 6: Look, her pattern said that she could be come off egotistical,
Speaker 6: and I see that shit.
Speaker 3: I'm like, stop that crazy. I still have to do
Speaker 3: les pattern.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but you know they say they say that we
Speaker 5: choose our parents. I believe that the comically either we
Speaker 5: have something to offer them or they have something to
Speaker 5: offer us.
Speaker 3: You know, So.
Speaker 5: Even when I don't understand my mom at all, I'm
Speaker 5: always like, what is the reason, God is?
Speaker 3: What am I learning here. What am I supposed to teach? No,
Speaker 3: I know, it's for sure. I mean I believe that.
Speaker 3: I bet.
Speaker 6: I think that's like thus of anything that comes into
Speaker 6: your life, right true, you know about the choosing or
Speaker 6: about the lesson. I mean they it's I don't know
Speaker 6: if it's a choice per se, but it's like that
Speaker 6: has just happened.
Speaker 3: That's me to be happens. I agree, I don't know.
Speaker 3: And then there's been all these babies around lately, and
Speaker 3: I'm like to have my mother baby. Oh my god,
Speaker 3: the hike that little baby, oh maa hike. God, I'm like,
Speaker 3: give her to me right now. I know. I saw
Speaker 3: you hiking up that big steep ass hill. I'm like, Jamila,
Speaker 3: is baby fevering it?
Speaker 6: She's literally climbing up the steepest mountain with a baby
Speaker 6: on her hip.
Speaker 5: Well, because I had Lena and her on me. So
Speaker 5: when Lenda got up, I'm like, this is a breeze and.
Speaker 3: She's so cute. We're all she was just like yeah.
Speaker 3: Like I'm like, oh my god, I love her. What
Speaker 3: do you know what you're talking about? But you're talking
Speaker 3: to met little person.
Speaker 5: She was like one and a half. No, She's like one.
Speaker 5: She just want how to walk. She did not want
Speaker 5: to get picked up. Her mom brought the carrier. She refused.
Speaker 5: She was like, put down, put down, just walking, you
Speaker 5: can I her She wasn't doing it.
Speaker 3: No, she want to go on a little high. She
Speaker 3: was like, I can walk here, mom, I'm good. I
Speaker 3: don't care if what's three miles.
Speaker 5: Even when when I was carrying around then we got
Speaker 5: like one stopping point and the girls were all sitting,
Speaker 5: She's like, good, down she walked over there. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 5: bo all right.
Speaker 3: But that did make me want to have another baby.
Speaker 3: But then I'm like I'm so free.
Speaker 5: Yeah right, Like that's gonna put two years of my
Speaker 5: life on pause.
Speaker 3: Like even like if you tuned into our last episode.
Speaker 6: We we had on a psychic and he had mentioned
Speaker 6: to me he asked me about my feminine health, and
Speaker 6: I was like, my feminine health's fine, Like you know,
Speaker 6: periods are My periods are so on point they're literally
Speaker 6: never ever late.
Speaker 3: And you guys, my periods are so on point they
Speaker 3: were never ever late.
Speaker 6: And he ask me about my feminine health and that
Speaker 6: like I needed to start eating cleaner and really like
Speaker 6: be conscious of what I put in my body because
Speaker 6: I carry everything.
Speaker 3: On my body.
Speaker 6: And like I was like, okay, I guess sure, I
Speaker 6: mean stress on the body.
Speaker 3: That makes sense, that's kind of general. But then like
Speaker 3: the last we.
Speaker 6: Did that episode, God, like before Coachella, so like five
Speaker 6: four weeks ago, maybe longer four weeks ago, four weeks ago,
Speaker 6: hotel a month.
Speaker 3: It was April fourteenth, and it's May seventh. Stop. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I can't even function.
Speaker 6: So but over that time, over that period of time,
Speaker 6: like I've been feeling like my body hurts.
Speaker 3: Everything I eat, it's irritates my body.
Speaker 6: And then like my period didn't come, and I was like,
Speaker 6: oh my god, what was my period not coming?
Speaker 3: Then I was like two days late, and then I
Speaker 3: was like three days late, and then I was like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, I'm pregnant. Fuck, I'm pregnant. Oh my god.
Speaker 3: I was like, you're gonna calm down.
Speaker 6: I'm not pregnant, guys. But the fact that he even
Speaker 6: said mentioned my feminine health and then that happened kind
Speaker 6: of freaked me out. But that just the idea of
Speaker 6: thinking that I could be pregnant. I was like, please God, No,
Speaker 6: I'm not writing to please.
Speaker 3: I don't want to do that.
Speaker 6: I don't what I could do but should have a
Speaker 6: baby right now, I'm telling you that I don't want
Speaker 6: to do that.
Speaker 3: Like it he's so scary.
Speaker 5: I mean, I don't know what IVD says to kick in.
Speaker 6: No, I can't really afford a kid right now, I mean,
Speaker 6: and I don't know.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know. This was just too much
Speaker 3: to think about.
Speaker 6: I can't even wrap my head around it fully because
Speaker 6: I mean not even really, Like I'm not even with
Speaker 6: the person that I would be having a baby. So
Speaker 6: the answer is no, The answer is no. But that
Speaker 6: made me so scared. I was like, oh my god, no,
Speaker 6: my god.
Speaker 3: This is like if I had a baby with this person,
Speaker 3: this person is my life forever. So that's the thing
Speaker 3: I want.
Speaker 6: Like in that way, in that way as a friend, yes,
Speaker 6: like I love this person, but like in that way, that's.
Speaker 3: A whole different dynamic, you know, like, oh.
Speaker 11: Yeah, that's when you that's when you're like you start
Speaker 11: to realize I don't know now more than before, Like
Speaker 11: having a baby with someone is a deep, deep tie permanently,
Speaker 11: you know, Like it now makes me rethink do I
Speaker 11: really let people?
Speaker 5: Like can I like you start to just look deeper
Speaker 5: into the things you usually don't want to see and
Speaker 5: there can't be ignored once Like the thought of a baby.
Speaker 3: Is the thing you know, Well, that's not at words true.
Speaker 3: People would be waiting until the baby come.
Speaker 6: People would be making that mistake over and over and
Speaker 6: over again, like they don't have other children, you know
Speaker 6: what I mean, Like like they haven't gone down this
Speaker 6: path before with someone that wasn't they shouldn't have had
Speaker 6: a baby, and shit happens.
Speaker 3: I guess it's one of two ways, like I've done.
Speaker 18: It before, fucking or like hell no, And I'm like, eh,
Speaker 18: you know you said what No, You're crazy, You're crazy,
Speaker 18: showponistic slight shammy, asshole.
Speaker 3: It's over. Yeah, do I want to give you my DNA?
Speaker 3: Do you deserve my DNA?
Speaker 9: Right?
Speaker 3: What are your thoughts on deserve these genes? And very interesting?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, okay, so what we're gonna say?
Speaker 5: Uh, I'm just I was gonna say, I'm so happy
Speaker 5: to be a monkst Like the hype reminded me just
Speaker 5: how happy to be a monk's? Like I don't know,
Speaker 5: like normal parents, like normal people parents like have regular
Speaker 5: conversations and like realistic.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know, it just was so it
Speaker 3: was just so nice.
Speaker 5: You know, we're just having open minded fun still you know,
Speaker 5: drinking like it was just good.
Speaker 3: I'm happy, Like I'm like we really we really like
Speaker 3: attracted our crew. Yeah, you know.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but like building a village like that I did
Speaker 6: was never expected to build. Like you think of village,
Speaker 6: you think of people you already know they're in your
Speaker 6: friends circle, not like essentially strangers that are becoming part
Speaker 6: of friends friends. Yeah, and yeah, it's so true that
Speaker 6: because you know, I.
Speaker 3: Was kind of nervous the meet up.
Speaker 6: I'm like, I don't know, like I don't know, like
Speaker 6: at this point we've done a few but like you
Speaker 6: just never know, you know, And like it was just
Speaker 6: like you never know what like the vibe is going
Speaker 6: to be, especially on like a hike, it's more isolated.
Speaker 6: It's not like a situation where like you know, you're
Speaker 6: in a party situation.
Speaker 5: Music, right, They're always good though, we always have fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, you know what you mean, And like.
Speaker 6: Everyone just kind of meshed together, and so I was
Speaker 6: I was really grateful that I had to spend.
Speaker 3: Time with everyone that came. We're definitely gonna do more. Yeah,
Speaker 3: for sure, they won't all be secrets, but maybe if
Speaker 3: you don't know, you know. Wow. Wow, we have some
Speaker 3: advice questions. We have an.
Speaker 6: Advice question an anonymous. Well, it doesn't say anonymous, but
Speaker 6: we won't keep it. We'll just keep her anonymous just
Speaker 6: because it's unclear. Hey, ladies, just wanted to reach out
Speaker 6: for some advice on dating. I've been separated from the
Speaker 6: father of my two kids for a year and a
Speaker 6: half and being together for ten. After being together for
Speaker 6: ten years, we do not have a set schedule for
Speaker 6: when he has the kids, other than he takes our
Speaker 6: eldest to school and keeps our daughter while I'm at work.
Speaker 6: I pick them up each evening at six pm. Their
Speaker 6: dad does not often keep the kids overnight, which has
Speaker 6: worked out fine as I had not been actively dating.
Speaker 6: Now I'm seeing this guy who does not have kids
Speaker 6: and would like to see him more often. I've been
Speaker 6: starbborn about giving him more time until I felt he
Speaker 6: was worth it. How do you go about dating and
Speaker 6: not feeling the mom guilt? I was meeting up with
Speaker 6: this guy once a week, sometimes twice, but he's expressed
Speaker 6: he would like more time. I don't have a peer
Speaker 6: in the situation or someone who's been in the scenario
Speaker 6: that I can ask for advice, a figure you could relate.
Speaker 3: That's it.
Speaker 5: I think I can't say her name because it says
Speaker 5: a name or anonymous since she got her name Danica. Okay,
Speaker 5: So for Danica, I have the master plan.
Speaker 6: So Danica, Jamila has concocted the perfect co parenting schedule.
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Speaker 14: I can teach you have a parenting package one. There's
Speaker 14: the gold standard we have price. I can skype coach
Speaker 14: you on co parenting. I think that dating while being
Speaker 14: a mom, the mom gilt, literally does it just exists
Speaker 14: the success. You have to just get over it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you have to like talk yourself out of it
Speaker 5: and also be fair balance. But I'm my go to
Speaker 5: schedule I coach everyone I know is Monday Tuesday. Let's say,
Speaker 5: for instance, you Wednesday, Thursday, baby Daddy, Friday, Saturday.
Speaker 3: Sunday you again, so you get a full weekend again.
Speaker 5: So Monday Tuesday would be baby daddy, Wednesday, Thursday would
Speaker 5: be you.
Speaker 3: Friday, Saturday Sunday baby daddy again. So then you get
Speaker 3: your weekend off.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so everybody gets every day alternate weeks and it's
Speaker 5: exactly split time.
Speaker 3: I mean, it depends how cool you are.
Speaker 5: If there's something here or there, maybe pick them up
Speaker 5: for that, dropping back off. There's a birthday party, maybe
Speaker 5: we swap because it's more convenient we have something. But
Speaker 5: for the most part, I feel like that's fair. And
Speaker 5: sometimes Erica's complaint was that she felt like some week
Speaker 5: she didn't have her at all, only the two days,
Speaker 5: but then the very next week you have, you have,
Speaker 5: you have this.
Speaker 6: I think it's just because I'm so used to having
Speaker 6: her all the time that this suddenly only having her
Speaker 6: fifty percent at the time felt like guilty. Yeah I
Speaker 6: felt guilty. It felt drastic. But that and then I
Speaker 6: also felt like, am I bouncing her around too much?
Speaker 3: She okay? And it's like, well, no, she needs both
Speaker 3: parents and we're not together.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's that's that's a thing, like I don't want
Speaker 5: to feel like you're I mean, I know, moms, you know,
Speaker 5: and a lot of times honestly, I'll go over there,
Speaker 5: but like if I feel like I haven't, it feels like.
Speaker 3: I miss her. I'm like, I'm coming over. You know,
Speaker 3: I'll play and chill.
Speaker 5: But I think it is fair to think like your
Speaker 5: your other parents should have equal as much time with
Speaker 5: you as I do. You know, I think it's important.
Speaker 5: So men, don't get it fucked up. We did go
Speaker 5: half on this. This is your responsibility. It cannot keep
Speaker 5: just falling on me. And you know that's for time,
Speaker 5: and that's for a routine too, because I see like, oh,
Speaker 5: I always take her to school, always pick her up, Like, no,
Speaker 5: you need to be used to doing the same duties
Speaker 5: I do. It needs to be not even you know.
Speaker 3: So that's my suggestion on the co parenting schedule. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and hopefully he's open to it, you know.
Speaker 5: And honestly, if it's somebody that you like and you
Speaker 5: really feel like it's worth it, then you you know,
Speaker 5: that's the way.
Speaker 3: That's an easier way to make and.
Speaker 6: You have to because it's really it's gonna be. It's
Speaker 6: it's really impossible to like actually explore a relationship in
Speaker 6: a real way without some sort of routine or some
Speaker 6: type of schedule.
Speaker 3: It's like it doesn't have to be the perfect schedule.
Speaker 6: But like, yeah, like how are you really going to
Speaker 6: ever really feelly get to know someone get in that way?
Speaker 6: I mean, of course, now you have a child, and
Speaker 6: so it's different, and eventually you'll be able to know
Speaker 6: how to deal with every dynamic and eventually you'll start incorporating,
Speaker 6: you know, you know, eventually you'll start incorporating. Hopefully, if
Speaker 6: you start dating that guy and becomes serious, you can
Speaker 6: start incorporate him to enter your child's life. So it's
Speaker 6: don't you know you don't have to spend the separate
Speaker 6: times alone, you know what I mean? And I get
Speaker 6: you want your alone time, alone time, but like also
Speaker 6: just everyday life.
Speaker 5: Shit, oh that's another thing that we know, Like that Erica,
Speaker 5: she was feeling with me, like obviously you want to
Speaker 5: have boundaries about who you bring around your kid because
Speaker 5: everybody's not gonna stay and make sure there's sorrow enough.
Speaker 3: But also how long do you wait three months? Six months?
Speaker 5: Because on the other hand, especially for someone who does
Speaker 5: not have kids, maybe not know you get to know
Speaker 5: you as a mom, and that's a huge part of
Speaker 5: who you are. So imagine you get really serious and
Speaker 5: then you start bringing a whole nother person into the
Speaker 5: picture and they're like, oh wait, hold up.
Speaker 3: It's not about me or what you have to this
Speaker 3: is your priority. This you know what I'm saying. It's
Speaker 3: a different dynamic, and these are.
Speaker 5: Things everybody should be well bere ubed, and we know
Speaker 5: what we're getting into.
Speaker 3: It's true. I mean, I know a lot of people
Speaker 3: have different views on that.
Speaker 6: I know, Like I know people that like who will
Speaker 6: never introduce their child to Like we'll date someone for
Speaker 6: like four years, Well they're not gonna get married.
Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe they.
Speaker 5: I mean honestly, at this point in my life, I
Speaker 5: never thought I would be so I feel I don't know,
Speaker 5: maybe I'll come out of.
Speaker 3: It, but I feel like.
Speaker 5: I'm dating for long terminus because I don't want to
Speaker 5: donna awaye energy on shit that's not good enough to
Speaker 5: be long term.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 5: I've seen a lot of years just fucking around, fucking
Speaker 5: around like, don't care what it's gonna.
Speaker 3: Happen, it doesn't matter, let it flow, you know. And
Speaker 3: I get a lot of friends that way. And it's
Speaker 3: not that I'm a you Okay, well we're almost dead.
Speaker 3: We're coming out there, Okay, we're coming out. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: feel you. I still feel like I'm in a space
Speaker 3: now I am. I don't know. I don't I don't
Speaker 3: know if I'm dating for long term yet, Like I I.
Speaker 6: Just of course I want a long term person eventually.
Speaker 6: That's the goal, if I guess, if there's a goal,
Speaker 6: if there is one. But I think I'm just I'm
Speaker 6: trying to fere who I am out who it is
Speaker 6: that I.
Speaker 3: Am, because.
Speaker 6: Maybe maybe because of that, because I don't want to
Speaker 6: enter into something else that's just like a waste of
Speaker 6: time because we're both not I'm not I'm not really
Speaker 6: fully I haven't really fully invested in who I am
Speaker 6: and who I am like myself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And there's that, and I'm realizing how much you can't.
Speaker 5: You will never really have a successful relationship if you
Speaker 5: don't really delve into who you.
Speaker 6: Are so that I can check myself. I mean, not
Speaker 6: waste my time because there's so much work that I wish.
Speaker 6: I not wish everything happens for a reason. But like
Speaker 6: the person that I am right now wouldn't have tolerated
Speaker 6: the shit that I tolerated in my last relationship or
Speaker 6: in the relationship before that, but really in that long
Speaker 6: term relationship, it's.
Speaker 3: Really like believing in knowing what you deserve. It's coming
Speaker 3: into that, you know.
Speaker 6: And so I'm just beginning to explore all the things
Speaker 6: that I ignored, and I just want to make sure
Speaker 6: that before I get into another relationship, like I know
Speaker 6: who I am, so that I never will feel like
Speaker 6: I compromise myself.
Speaker 3: Yes, no, yes, compromising myself. That's a liter a lot
Speaker 3: of that.
Speaker 5: Wow, that's a big that's a big one. And you
Speaker 5: have to really be in tune with who you are
Speaker 5: to know when you're being compromised.
Speaker 6: And it's not to say like I know, there's not
Speaker 6: this moment where it's like, Okay, I've finally reached enlightenment.
Speaker 3: Now I'm ready. The shop is open. The work guys,
Speaker 3: I'm ready. Everyone's married.
Speaker 19: I'm only accepting five star restaurants, five star credit right right, Okay, but.
Speaker 3: I forgot the work is heavy. I don't what are
Speaker 3: we talking about. I hate to join two times and
Speaker 3: I'm lost.
Speaker 6: Well, I was just talking about working on myself before
Speaker 6: you get into another relationships.
Speaker 3: You said you were like thinking you're you don't want
Speaker 3: to waste your time. You're looking for something long term.
Speaker 5: You're not why, you know, even the celibacy, I still
Speaker 5: fuck it in so many other ways.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh girl, I get so much work to do.
Speaker 3: You can't have sex, you can't do shit. They just said, like, what,
Speaker 3: don't be hard on yourself if you just take it
Speaker 3: one day at a time.
Speaker 6: You know, like, if you try to like accomplish everything
Speaker 6: at once, you'll always come up short. You'll always feel
Speaker 6: like you fail, you know, because it's not realistic and.
Speaker 3: It's just not Yeah, this is not for some people.
Speaker 6: It is for the people that are just so I
Speaker 6: don't know. It's so disciplined, but maybe not happy. You know,
Speaker 6: like sometimes you have in order to learn, you have
Speaker 6: to take baby steps. So if you do it all
Speaker 6: at once, I feel like it didn't stick.
Speaker 3: I need this shit to stick. Yeah, it's true. You know,
Speaker 3: you might have to learn a few more lessons before
Speaker 3: some certain thingstick. Yeah, Okay, we have another advice question.
Speaker 3: You do you do? Hey, ladies, I'm a bit stuck
Speaker 3: and I don't have any mom friends to turn to.
Speaker 5: I was telling my guy friend how my younger friends
Speaker 5: are outliving life doing coke, and I made a comment
Speaker 5: on how I miss those days. We then went into
Speaker 5: a deep conversation about going out and having fun like
Speaker 5: we used to. I explained to him that I'm not
Speaker 5: in a place where I have someone who is willing
Speaker 5: to watch my daughter without it being a big deal,
Speaker 5: and her dad isn't in a stable environment for me
Speaker 5: to drop her off with him, so I'm kind of
Speaker 5: stuck at home with her. He told me these were
Speaker 5: excuses and I could make a way if I really
Speaker 5: wanted to. I shugged it off because I know he's
Speaker 5: kind of right. Then the conversation kind of turned because
Speaker 5: I expressed that I felt like I've lost myself when
Speaker 5: I became a mother, and he said, no, you gave
Speaker 5: up on yourself.
Speaker 3: Harsh. It hurt and made me second guess myself a bit.
Speaker 3: Is this normal? Is this part of early motherhood?
Speaker 5: Am I just using my daughter as an excuse to
Speaker 5: no longer be involved with people?
Speaker 9: No?
Speaker 3: No, this is motherhood. Yeah, this was called year one,
Speaker 3: it's called her two.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: And as I told him'm like, you're still in an
Speaker 5: early stage. And I said, he's also a man. I
Speaker 5: don't know if he has.
Speaker 3: Kids or not, but he's a man.
Speaker 5: He doesn't really realize like literally the first two years
Speaker 5: as a sacrifice, Like you're like with your baby basically
Speaker 5: twenty for seven for at least the time, it's obviously
Speaker 5: you're pregnant. You can't really do shit, even though I'm
Speaker 5: not saying you have to, like you drawn to do shit.
Speaker 5: But also the until the baby's year, it's almost like
Speaker 5: in two years, you know, and he will never really
Speaker 5: understand that, So he's he's he's not really understanding the
Speaker 5: full picture.
Speaker 3: It gave up on yourself.
Speaker 6: Like first of all, that's that's kind of harsh, like
Speaker 6: you can fall back, calm down. First of all, I
Speaker 6: don't know, like like what he's what you know?
Speaker 3: I don't. I'm sure there's two side survey story, but
Speaker 3: I'm like, are you like wearing a paper bag every day?
Speaker 5: I'm not getting out, not doing shit? What do you
Speaker 5: mean you gave for yourself? But I do think it's
Speaker 5: important that you try and stay like cute some times
Speaker 5: because I did fell off and I like those first
Speaker 5: like that first year, like I'm like, I'm not going
Speaker 5: to just go anywhere.
Speaker 3: But I don't know, I don't think it's just a
Speaker 3: fall off.
Speaker 6: It's like you're literally brought a human into the world,
Speaker 6: like you are after you're like trying to and who needs.
Speaker 2: You, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like you specifically the mom so like I feel and
Speaker 3: then and you and you literally just went through a transformation.
Speaker 6: Your body just like released so many like vitamins and
Speaker 6: so many nutrients all at once, Like you're feeling detached
Speaker 6: from something that just came out of your body.
Speaker 3: You want to spend time. It's so many confusing feelings.
Speaker 3: It's confusion.
Speaker 6: It's almost it's like loss, confusion, joy, like pain, happiness,
Speaker 6: tell like extreme tiredness, regret, joy again, Like it's.
Speaker 3: Just like so many things. But it's like yeah, like
Speaker 3: it's a journey enlightenment.
Speaker 5: Like always getting to know this, Like that's another thing
Speaker 5: people don't realize, Like you're literally getting.
Speaker 3: To know a human that doesn't talk.
Speaker 6: Yeah, like a sorry that I'm like, I'm lost myself.
Speaker 6: I'm over here, just you know, creating you raising a human?
Speaker 3: Right, what are you doing? And I told her like
Speaker 3: when you guys, when you're ready, you'll be ready.
Speaker 5: You'll know, you know, when it's a time for you
Speaker 5: to like you feel comfortable, not give you know, with
Speaker 5: who you have to watch your kid, its plan, everything
Speaker 5: will happen. You know, be conscious of who you are
Speaker 5: before and don't.
Speaker 3: Recite of that.
Speaker 5: But I don't know how old you are, don't know
Speaker 5: how old your friends are. Like I was one of
Speaker 5: the first people with a baby, and you know, it
Speaker 5: is like there is a separation, initially because I have
Speaker 5: shits a different thing than you have to do. But
Speaker 5: also you know, kids can go places, and now I
Speaker 5: think a lot of moms forget that, like that baby
Speaker 5: is small, put a cute after on and let's go.
Speaker 3: Okay, Lena is going everywhere, like to the dinners as.
Speaker 6: I think a lot of moms do think they think
Speaker 6: it's like too much of a burden, or that it's
Speaker 6: gonna the child's gonna be like a nuisance to someone,
Speaker 6: or however you're.
Speaker 3: Gonna look at me.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I literally take a lindit at all the like
Speaker 5: pool parties at hotels because I know they can't really
Speaker 5: say shit because it's a pool.
Speaker 3: You know, like I know we're going. You know, it's
Speaker 3: just a thing, does it? You can you can do both.
Speaker 5: You know, you can spend time with your kid and
Speaker 5: still get out I just think it's finding a balance
Speaker 5: and finding what it feels right for you. And you know,
Speaker 5: you're getting more mature. Sometimes you don't want to deal
Speaker 5: with people. Oh't got time. You kind of get you
Speaker 5: kind of see what's real and what's not too. I
Speaker 5: think there's a bit of that, and there's a question
Speaker 5: sometimes who knows what? I don't know the relationship with
Speaker 5: this with the dad or like you said, he can't
Speaker 5: really he's not really contributing time wise.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 5: How's your relationship. Can you babysit at your house? How
Speaker 5: do you feel about that?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 5: I don't know where your real relationship is at. But
Speaker 5: there's probably a lot of feelings towards that.
Speaker 3: You know, there's so many you're dealing with a lot
Speaker 3: of things.
Speaker 5: Yeah, there's so many things to consider. So yeah, don't
Speaker 5: don't judge yourself so harshly. And definitely that guy doesn't
Speaker 5: know shit?
Speaker 3: Is that to answer? Yeah? That was all right? You guys,
Speaker 3: Well it's late, I'm tired, our kids have gone crazy.
Speaker 3: Oh Benny, are they come?
Speaker 5: And okay, yeah, it's like give you at the him, like, okay,
Speaker 5: this is a rap. Happy Mother's Day. To all the
Speaker 5: moms out there, We hope you have a great day.
Speaker 5: We hope all your baby daddies out. No cash that
Speaker 5: check on you, cash out, cash out, cash out? Where
Speaker 5: the cash gonna hash at you right that? You know,
Speaker 5: that would be so appreciated. That would be like a
Speaker 5: really sweet gesture.
Speaker 3: What should I like plant that seed? Like?
Speaker 5: It would be really great on Modnesday send me a
Speaker 5: cash out. I don't not telling you to do it
Speaker 5: right now on Monday. I'm just I'm not gonna even
Speaker 5: tell you again. I'm just gonna see it too. I'm
Speaker 5: just gonna say it would be nice. It would be
Speaker 5: nice if you're wondering if we wanted to give me
Speaker 5: something cash catch.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, see you guys later, See you guys next.
Speaker 7: Week starting say.
Speaker 2: Where you will see the walls.
Speaker 7: FA you, sir, Ben Buh