WEBVTT - Let's Interview our Kids 0:00:07.840 --> 0:00:17.160 Here the sly hear it s gar it sheepd. 0:00:19.920 --> 0:00:30.240 That's not one name. I making one as able. 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:43.400 But here it shitly gar the sheepert. 0:00:44.520 --> 0:00:48.160 This welcome back, Let's go back. 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:50.080 Welcome back. 0:00:50.440 --> 0:00:53.840 Good mama, bad choice, Let's give choice. 0:00:54.880 --> 0:00:59.160 I'm a cake, I'm I mean, I'm Lenna, I'm Mila. 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:01.279 No, and I'm I. 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:07.039 And I'm Erica and today episode. 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:15.399 And me and Jamila and okay, let's let's just clear 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:15.840 something up. 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:20.480 Okay, we host the show. We ask you questions. You 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:23.880 don't repeat what we're saying. When you wait your turn 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:26.080 to speak. Can you tell us your aunt? Then you 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:29.280 tell us what you think or what you feel? Okay, cool, 0:01:29.440 --> 0:01:35.800 so we plan. Okay, how is everybody's weekend? How did 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:37.200 did you? Did you have a good weekend? 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:37.520 Guys? 0:01:37.520 --> 0:01:41.560 What'd you do this weekend? What else did we do? 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:45.120 And we could you go on a hike or something? 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:45.759 Yeah? 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:52.160 Hi, you want to hike? But who let's. 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:56.640 All friend either West or else or friends? 0:01:57.960 --> 0:02:00.640 Yeah, I'm doing anything on the hype? Like, was it 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:04.680 pretty cool? What would you do it? Did you see 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:07.040 any lizards? 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:14.480 Reptiles of any sort of what's a reptile? 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:22.520 It's like a reptiles and a family. It's amphibian. 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:25.480 No, I kind of seeing amphibian, But I think that's wrong, right, 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:30.480 is it? Amphibian amphibians? Like this is when when parenting 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:33.320 gets real tricky. I started asking you questions that you 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:35.359 you should know the answers to, and you're like, am 0:02:35.360 --> 0:02:38.880 I dumb? Reptiles are like a sort of hey, don't 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:42.000 hit me. A group of animals that fall in the 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:47.560 same category snakes, lizards, iguanas, those are reptiles. 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:50.520 Anyway, did you see any Did you se any reptiles 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:53.040 on this hike? You didn't see a reptile. You didn't 0:02:53.040 --> 0:02:57.680 see any lizards. Did you see lizard? No, you didn't 0:02:57.680 --> 0:02:58.560 see lizard on the hike. 0:02:59.480 --> 0:02:59.840 I saw. 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:03.960 I couldn't see it, but I saw. I didn't want 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:06.920 the highest rock me too? 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:10.680 M hmm. What else did you do this weekend? 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:15.440 Yeah? 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:16.519 What did you do this weekend? 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:16.720 Called? 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.000 Too much? I did too much? 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:26.040 What I did? I lost my mind? 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:27.079 Yeah? 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:28.720 I don't know what's wrong with you? Who I think 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:33.720 I am? I before? 0:03:33.919 --> 0:03:37.320 So we had a good mom's hike meetup For those 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:42.560 on the newsletter, Yes, if. 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:44.600 You guys subscribe to our newsletter, then you would have 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:48.480 known about our secret meet up. It was very very 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:53.160 exclusive and very secret, very exclusive meetup at Griffith. 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:57.720 Park and i'mre's also very like many exclusive drops and 0:03:57.800 --> 0:03:59.760 personals to the newsletters. 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:01.640 And if you did come then you got a pin. 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:04.320 You got a good mom's bad choices pen. So never know, 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:06.160 you could come up on we want to meet up. 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:10.440 You know, no guarantees, no guarantees. But it was a good. 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:12.400 Time, except that the hike. 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:15.040 I don't know if Erica knew was aware when she 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:17.120 made these glance at the hike is like three and 0:04:17.160 --> 0:04:17.680 a half mine. 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.160 But first of all, you took the hike with me before, 0:04:20.360 --> 0:04:26.520 so what do you mean? I know? So it was like, sure, 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:27.920 this is okay with kids. 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:31.239 But anyway, we like a bunch of moms. Some people 0:04:31.240 --> 0:04:34.080 did bring their kids, some people have kids, but everyone. 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:35.760 On three and a half mile. It was not three 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:36.320 and a half mile. 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:39.880 We we checked, you googled it, we checked the our 0:04:39.960 --> 0:04:40.760 walking distance. 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:42.960 It was three miles. It was like three miles. 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:45.719 I wonder I really wanted me to carry her. I 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:50.000 literally carried Iri on my back for like the last 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:53.960 hour of the hike. Felt like I wasn't having it. 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:55.719 It was either bad or meltdown. I didn't know what 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:57.599 to do. I didn't want to deal with either one, 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:00.120 so I just did it. 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:01.359 It was actually really nice. 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:05.919 But the night before that, I my friend was in town. 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:07.039 She wanted to go out. 0:05:06.960 --> 0:05:09.560 The Afro was the Afro go go party when Yoursion 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:10.760 reunion was happening. 0:05:10.920 --> 0:05:14.240 Oh wow, just Mela is like really invested in this 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:17.400 Afro afro What is it? 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:20.640 Well, it's an afric go go parties, Affro situation, but 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:22.800 all the Afro parties, the Afro parties. 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:24.520 Well, I just feel like this is discovered new and 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:25.680 I discover people. 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:25.840 Dan. 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:28.200 Yeah, music is good, people dance, There's. 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:33.320 So many like brown black faces. It's just refreshing. It's 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:34.120 not Hollywood. 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:37.960 It's just normal, regular good times. You know you waited 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:41.839 line you look, we don't. We gotta go, So let's 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:42.200 get this. 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:45.640 Let's just get to the kids, you know, because Okay, 0:05:47.160 --> 0:05:50.640 we's tired, and so he's tired, and it's Mother's Day almost, 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:51.440 and we. 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:56.120 Need to make it easy, make it easy on ourselves. Okay, 0:05:57.040 --> 0:05:58.679 what do you guys know what mother's days? 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:01.000 Do you know what Mother's days? 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:02.440 Yeah? 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:03.000 What is it? 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:05.320 Et? 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:07.479 Your Mother's Day what do we? What do? 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:11.559 What do you do for mom's on Mother's Day? 0:06:12.800 --> 0:06:16.160 Work? Oh? You work? Do you give mommies lots of 0:06:16.240 --> 0:06:20.680 kisses on Mother's Day? Yes? And lots of hugs make 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:22.640 them feel special like it's their birthday? 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:27.279 Yeah? Yeah, yeah, remember them? What's your favorite thing about 0:06:27.680 --> 0:06:28.200 your mama? 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:31.160 Play like them? 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:31.840 What about you? 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:33.680 I play your ground there? 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:37.160 That's your favorite thing about your mom? 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:37.440 Yeah? 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:44.080 What else do you think? What's your favorite? Do you 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:47.479 know your mommy's favorite color? Green? True? 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:56.560 It is true my favorite? That's like you like pik too. 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.400 You're what you're wearing green? 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:02.719 You know what? My favorite thing doing? 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:02.200 Was? 0:07:02.920 --> 0:07:03.960 Like dancing? 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:05.360 You have? 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:12.200 She's like, I don't care anyway, that's cool. What do 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:13.760 you How do you think you got here? 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:16.400 What you drive here? 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:20.040 So you drove to your mommy's stomach? No? 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:26.280 Mmm, I live in dancing? 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:30.760 I swim there were you and mommy's tummy? 0:07:31.080 --> 0:07:31.280 Yes? 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:35.560 Were you in there? Since you were swimming around? What 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:37.800 kind of swimming were you doing? Were doing like flips 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:38.240 and stuff? 0:07:38.480 --> 0:07:38.800 Yes? 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:42.800 Really? Do you remember that? What? What was it? What 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:43.840 did it look like in there? 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:46.080 I don't know? 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:49.000 Yeah? Do you remember where you were before you came 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:51.920 to see us. You know what color was it inside 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:53.440 mommy's tummy? 0:07:53.760 --> 0:08:00.480 Mm oh, do you remember what color it was inside before. 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:00.720 You got here? 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:03.360 I mean pink? 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:06.800 Which one was it? Read or pink? Pink? I thought 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:11.680 you said it was red. Interesting? Were you scared like 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:15.760 coming coming out coming through? Yeah? You were? 0:08:16.520 --> 0:08:18.720 But then do you remember like touching me for the 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:19.960 first time, like on my chest? 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:33.800 You remember coming out and crying? You don't crying really, 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:36.440 but have a video and she watches it. 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:40.360 I'm not planing it I come out. 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:43.800 I was, but I was crying before you. I have 0:08:43.880 --> 0:08:49.000 the video too. But what is it Daddy has on 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:52.560 his phone somewhere? Say you have it? I have it somewhere. 0:08:52.559 --> 0:08:53.760 I think it's on my old computer. 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:58.520 Can you show me one day? Yeah, I'll show you. 0:08:58.920 --> 0:08:59.200 I don't. 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.120 I mean, I don't have it handy at this very moment. 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:03.920 You don't have your old your old chimp. 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:06.000 You do. 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:13.640 We have some other questions for you. Tonight is the 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:18.040 Matt Gala, which is like this big just fancy party 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:20.920 and like celebrities get really dressed up. 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:22.160 They dressed up. 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:25.280 It's this big party where they were they're they're the 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:28.320 best outfits they can find yes. 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:30.679 So tell us what you think about some of these outfits. 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:38.839 Okay, okay, so this is this is Lala Anthony that one? 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:41.600 Do you like that one? What does it look like? 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:45.079 They a shiny ring silvery? 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:46.719 Does it remind you of anything else? 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:47.200 Yes? 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:50.800 What is its. 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.400 Dress? What do you think about her hair? Is that 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:57.680 like gold? Like? That's really corn? 0:09:59.320 --> 0:10:01.080 I see now read that was a dollar about because 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:05.719 the hundred is an adult A hundred I'm really personally 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:08.680 not feeling Okay, let's move on. 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:13.760 Okay's look at the pizza. The pizza one. 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:18.240 I like the rainbow, which I like the I think 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:23.120 it's the hand I like, I like the wing and 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:25.200 I like the. 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:28.400 Like their Yeah, this is this one's pretty hot. I agree. 0:10:28.400 --> 0:10:29.360 I'm into the colors. 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:36.960 Hi die seventies retro friend Mary's when that Egyptian queen? 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:40.160 And this is that a fan? Is it a hand fan? 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:41.719 Fan? 0:10:41.920 --> 0:10:44.640 Even better? And the fro and the picts. I really 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:51.320 like the piza. This you think about that? This is? Okay? 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:54.960 So that's the Atrius album and that's his wife. 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:06.960 I want pink hair? Is like, I me too? 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:11.000 Is there anything you don't like about anything in the hair? 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:17.440 But what do you think, and it's beautiful. You look 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:18.440 like a mermaid. 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:19.400 I know. 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:20.760 Yeah, actually that's true. 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:26.320 Okay, And how about this one. 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:30.720 This isn't like a Cinderella. It looks like very much 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:31.800 like Cinderella. 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:31.840 And is. 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:35.959 A Cinderella? 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:36.200 Mom? 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:37.439 Do you think you wear that dress? 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:38.959 I dress? 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.160 I mean too, it's like it's like lighting up. 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:45.240 Yeah, I want that dress and I want the hair, 0:11:45.440 --> 0:11:47.719 like I want the hair and the dress, and I 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:48.960 want the hair and the dress. 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:50.520 Could you do your hair like that? Yes? 0:11:51.040 --> 0:12:00.000 I cannot hurt. Okay, yeah I cannot. I get I'm 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:07.480 maybe a witch, I know, and that I know that 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:13.240 like a witch. No, I know, be that girl for Hamoween. 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:17.000 I read this girl, I get this. 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:25.000 Get it's really not compl I mean, I do like 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:28.920 the shoes. She looks like, I don't know, TuS vulnerable. 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:34.160 It's not want to dress those breasts. 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:37.040 That bra doesn't fit her booth. It's like literally just 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:42.520 over the doesn't. It's just not Sorry, Nikki, you gotta 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:43.040 try again. 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:48.280 The train, I like trains. Stop look at the back 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:48.800 of the dress. 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:52.000 But you know it's just just because you have a 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:53.319 train doesn't mean it's a good dress. 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:56.280 Won't saved her a little. Okay, what do you guys 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:57.800 say about this Naomi Campbell? 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:03.079 Like, yeah, I don't the hair. 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:08.080 That's Nami Campbell. It's not even looking. What are you doing? 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:09.880 I why why do you want her hair? 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:15.440 Because he's so beautiful and hate and why do you 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:21.000 like that hair? Because he's so beautiful and she see looks, 0:13:21.040 --> 0:13:23.960 see see she's so beautiful. 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.240 Okay, you love her hair better than you like La 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:32.880 Pizza's hair. Yeah, this one, this is. 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:35.480 I like more. 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:42.840 Pita pizza, Pizza. 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:44.319 Pizza, Lou Pita. 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:46.679 I like the poo pizza. 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:50.800 What about this? What do you think about that? 0:13:50.800 --> 0:13:52.319 That one me too? 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:57.800 Us two hats three? It looks like three. 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:04.400 She has three. And your eye on her dress. 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:07.640 And even her bra was winking. What's that? 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:11.120 What do you think that is lips? 0:14:11.120 --> 0:14:12.800 But do you see the whole face? It's like an 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:15.040 eye an eye? You got two eyes? 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:20.040 My mouth? Those are eyes right there? Who styles her? 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:22.480 This is bad? It's like who this is? 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:22.760 Mom? 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:25.200 It's literally art? 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:27.760 Does he have a lie of hat on her? 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:32.200 It's literally abstract art walking the time, like with the 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:39.040 Mad Hatter. Crazy. Okay, you look at somebody else, Oh 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:48.760 our girl party, it's not Cardi Boo. That is Kylie Jenner. No, 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:51.640 my god, I knew that one. Oh my god, she's 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:56.440 black fishing. That's why she looks. She looks like a 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:57.120 little kim there. 0:14:57.160 --> 0:14:59.880 I'm so used to seeing black fishing looks like a 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:02.760 it is, no, is she because she's reminding you of. 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:12.360 What what do you mean? Oh my god? All right, okay, 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:15.239 if you don't want to come back, it's fine. 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:21.920 So yeah, our kids are I love everything they have. 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:23.960 Yet they're not cynical yet. Something that's a good thing. 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:27.880 That she's beautiful and like us, I was a idiot. 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:31.040 That's horrible. That train didn't save her. 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:32.960 Looks a little bloated. 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.840 Yeah, I was just here. 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:38.680 Oh wow, oh wait, but did you see her do 0:15:39.240 --> 0:15:43.240 her turkey? What she's working on the the met gala? 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:46.320 Like stairs? Yeah, it's the first time ever, it's ever. 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:50.200 Oh god, shut up? Is that a thing though? The 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:51.840 first time ever? Someone? 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:58.640 Okay, afro puffs, afro puffs. 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:04.800 Baby. They came there before that. It was open. I 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:06.480 don't know how they got this. I was wondering the 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:09.240 same thing personally. Yeah, I wasn't open yet. It was 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:16.280 in the morning. Well, if it's not done what people 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:19.000 are there. I don't know. I don't really care. I 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:21.200 like those ap puffs. I do like those oper puffs 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:25.600 and baby hairs are popping. What are you doing it 0:16:25.640 --> 0:16:27.240 for Mother's Day? I don't know. 0:16:27.480 --> 0:16:31.600 I don't really have any plans, hopefully, like getting is 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:35.560 treated so special and like eating bomb meals three times? 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:38.160 Do you expect your baby daddy to do something for 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:38.800 your Mother's Day? 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:42.080 I was just thinking that in the car, and I 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.120 don't know. I'm not really I don't know, not really. 0:16:44.240 --> 0:16:44.840 I feel like. 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:49.400 He may or he may not, but or he'll just 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:52.360 be like, Okay, well it's your weekend. 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:56.360 I feel like this might be the first Mother's Day 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:59.720 where he's like, you won't because he's realized it's. 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:04.520 Not going down. And last year we've had like the 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:06.280 two Mother's Days so far where I feel like he 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:10.399 takes me to like a nice restaurant and you know, 0:17:10.440 --> 0:17:12.719 it's cool. We don't talk about anything. We're just like silent. 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:15.160 Yeah, that's the thing that it's like why we don't know, 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:16.000 we don't really talk. 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:19.800 We have nothing to say, literally us interacting with with Lina. 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:23.320 Did I do something with him last Mother's Day? 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:27.199 No? I don't think I think guys had an argument. 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:31.840 If I remember correctly, really happened like I mean, it's 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:33.760 it's highly likely I can't remember. 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:41.000 What it was. I'm accepting all Mother's Day meals. 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:45.280 Yeah, if anyone wants to, you know, celebrate me that day. 0:17:45.480 --> 0:17:48.119 You know I did bring in like everyone's favorite child, 0:17:48.920 --> 0:17:50.280 everyone's favorite children. 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:54.760 So you know, if you want to throw me assert 0:17:55.080 --> 0:18:00.440 cupcake donut. So the kids are bactually said the kids 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:03.080 coming back? I mean, I guess, so here they are. 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:18.560 What's happening? Oh? Okay, card where is Carty? For Cardi hair? 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:21.120 Get in a hip? 0:18:23.000 --> 0:18:26.480 You know I would never endorse, say, but you know 0:18:26.640 --> 0:18:28.240 if I get popping, then I give you a little 0:18:28.240 --> 0:18:29.000 fillers to the hips. 0:18:30.600 --> 0:18:35.119 Kylie has built full six eyes like a pretty woman 0:18:35.160 --> 0:18:44.120 of also whatever she wants. Now, I don't know she's 0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:48.760 built that way. Okay, we talked. 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:53.040 They need Actually Kylie Kendall looks bomb. 0:18:53.840 --> 0:18:59.680 Looks like a flamingo girl. Girl. Where is. 0:19:01.440 --> 0:19:01.920 Oh? 0:19:04.440 --> 0:19:05.240 Where is Cardi? 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:11.440 She's wearing red ID Maybe I can't hide if you're 0:19:11.480 --> 0:19:12.920 gonna be doing this. 0:19:13.680 --> 0:19:14.560 Oh my god. 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:20.000 I think Nikki said, film me, but don't post. Don't post, 0:19:20.520 --> 0:19:23.160 uh Cardi? Because I don't see any cardy photos yet. 0:19:23.560 --> 0:19:30.800 Oh maybe that's them? My god, sure because I don't 0:19:30.800 --> 0:19:31.359 see one. 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:34.240 No, oh my god. 0:19:34.359 --> 0:19:36.720 So we think we because we started looking at this 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:39.560 met gala photos and it was like these weird videos 0:19:39.560 --> 0:19:41.800 of Nikki getting ready and all stuff, and it seemed 0:19:41.920 --> 0:19:44.080 very much like Nicki Minaj for sure. It was like, Yo, 0:19:44.240 --> 0:19:47.800 shade room feature me on. She featured me getting. 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:50.000 Ready at the met gala. That definitely happens. 0:19:50.080 --> 0:19:53.240 It definitely happened. Oh it's confirmed now. Oh see this 0:19:53.359 --> 0:19:54.640 is Angela Brinks. 0:19:55.320 --> 0:20:01.520 Angel Breaks? Whatever? What do you have that's cardis? What 0:20:01.560 --> 0:20:03.480 do you guys thinking about the angel Breaks? Make that? 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:13.240 I was like, the hell are you crazy? Who is that? 0:20:14.880 --> 0:20:15.200 Who? 0:20:15.680 --> 0:20:16.240 Lady b? 0:20:17.359 --> 0:20:21.119 Who? Oh yeah? What did she saying? 0:20:21.920 --> 0:20:25.480 Car cartie? 0:20:28.040 --> 0:20:32.280 Okay, we have some more questions for you, not regarding fashions, okay, okay, 0:20:32.320 --> 0:20:33.280 like what if. 0:20:33.119 --> 0:20:36.520 Your mom started having a boyfriend? How would you feel 0:20:36.560 --> 0:20:37.040 about that? 0:20:38.000 --> 0:20:38.280 Yes? 0:20:38.560 --> 0:20:42.720 Yes, oh do you know what a boyfriend is? What 0:20:43.000 --> 0:20:44.240 is it? Come home, comes to town? 0:20:44.280 --> 0:20:44.560 Please? 0:20:44.680 --> 0:20:48.000 Boy a boyfriend? A boyfriend? 0:20:48.640 --> 0:20:51.159 Stop repeating each other. What do you think the boyfriend is? 0:20:51.920 --> 0:20:53.640 You have to be a husband. 0:20:54.280 --> 0:20:57.280 You have to be a husband. So like okay, is 0:20:57.280 --> 0:21:01.000 it okay? Yeah? Like a boy closer husband? Boyfriend? Would 0:21:01.000 --> 0:21:01.800 you would you be? 0:21:02.200 --> 0:21:02.360 Like? 0:21:03.080 --> 0:21:04.600 Do you want mommy to have a husband? 0:21:05.520 --> 0:21:05.760 Yes? 0:21:06.240 --> 0:21:11.159 You do? Why because mommy's so beautiful? 0:21:11.680 --> 0:21:14.880 Thank you? Baby? So I need a husband because I'm beautiful? 0:21:16.800 --> 0:21:17.480 What kind of guy? 0:21:17.560 --> 0:21:17.600 Like? 0:21:17.600 --> 0:21:20.240 What kind of a husband do you see your mom's having? 0:21:24.440 --> 0:21:27.840 Bobby? Bobby? 0:21:27.960 --> 0:21:28.160 Wait? 0:21:28.200 --> 0:21:29.240 What kind of husband you take? 0:21:29.280 --> 0:21:29.359 Me? 0:21:29.600 --> 0:21:30.919 Have me have Bobby? 0:21:31.080 --> 0:21:31.280 No? 0:21:32.760 --> 0:21:36.760 Irine, you need to think your own thoughts? What what 0:21:36.800 --> 0:21:37.320 do you think? 0:21:37.400 --> 0:21:37.640 Mom? 0:21:37.800 --> 0:21:39.640 You're not Bobby? Who's Bobby? Do you even know who 0:21:39.640 --> 0:21:40.040 Bobby is? 0:21:40.800 --> 0:21:42.280 It's my dad? I know? 0:21:42.400 --> 0:21:44.760 So why would I have Bobby? Why would Bobby be 0:21:44.760 --> 0:21:45.200 my husband? 0:21:45.280 --> 0:21:52.040 Irin? You don't know what Bobby outside of your dad? 0:21:52.160 --> 0:21:53.320 Who? What kind of guy would be? 0:21:53.359 --> 0:21:53.399 Like? 0:21:53.440 --> 0:21:53.760 A nice? 0:21:54.119 --> 0:21:54.159 Like? 0:21:54.240 --> 0:21:54.880 Qualities? 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:55.160 Like? 0:21:55.880 --> 0:21:57.680 What what do you think of? What do you think 0:21:57.680 --> 0:22:02.560 a husband is supposed to do? Do? What kind of work? 0:22:03.720 --> 0:22:06.200 Mom? 0:22:06.520 --> 0:22:07.160 What kind of work? 0:22:08.160 --> 0:22:08.360 Mom? 0:22:09.440 --> 0:22:09.680 Mom? 0:22:09.800 --> 0:22:11.119 Boor mom? 0:22:11.440 --> 0:22:12.399 That's what husbands do? 0:22:12.680 --> 0:22:12.960 Yes? 0:22:13.640 --> 0:22:14.320 So what's mom? 0:22:14.400 --> 0:22:19.280 Work? Mom? Work? You're doing? 0:22:19.600 --> 0:22:23.040 Like that's right now? What else do moms do for work? 0:22:24.240 --> 0:22:24.440 Good? 0:22:25.720 --> 0:22:25.920 Yeah? 0:22:26.920 --> 0:22:31.240 And they work my phone and then. 0:22:32.840 --> 0:22:39.320 Yes, our phones and we just talk. 0:22:39.480 --> 0:22:42.680 What do you want to be when you grow up, mate, 0:22:42.960 --> 0:22:46.399 I will be doctor doctor. 0:22:46.560 --> 0:22:48.240 I want to be adopted to and I want to 0:22:48.240 --> 0:22:51.920 be unnursed and I can be my helper, right, Yes, 0:22:54.080 --> 0:22:54.640 what kind of. 0:22:54.560 --> 0:22:57.119 Doctor work are you gonna do? You're gonna deliver babies. 0:22:57.160 --> 0:22:58.159 You're gonna be I. 0:22:59.840 --> 0:23:04.240 Mean, no little babies, and then you gonna take care 0:23:04.280 --> 0:23:06.159 of the gods when you're sick. 0:23:06.240 --> 0:23:13.879 Take care of dogs. Come sit over here, Luna, please, 0:23:14.280 --> 0:23:16.040 I rene, come sit here. But they can't hear you 0:23:16.160 --> 0:23:18.040 when you're chopping around. Don't you want them to hear 0:23:18.040 --> 0:23:18.840 you on the microphone? 0:23:18.840 --> 0:23:20.879 What do you guys? Do you want to be your 0:23:20.920 --> 0:23:23.840 mom when you get older? You want to have no kids? 0:23:24.040 --> 0:23:24.440 You do? 0:23:24.640 --> 0:23:25.840 I want to have kids? 0:23:26.920 --> 0:23:31.640 You don't many kids? You want to have five kids? 0:23:32.280 --> 0:23:34.240 Do you want girls? Boys both? 0:23:34.880 --> 0:23:38.199 I mean I just want a girl and a bully 0:23:38.359 --> 0:23:40.159 and a girl and a boy. 0:23:40.520 --> 0:23:44.120 So so two girls and two boys? 0:23:44.320 --> 0:23:46.480 What about you, Luna? 0:23:47.240 --> 0:23:52.200 I want to be a mom. 0:23:53.400 --> 0:23:55.160 I don't want You don't want kids? 0:23:55.960 --> 0:23:59.000 Know why? 0:23:59.160 --> 0:24:00.600 Because she does? Don't listen. 0:24:02.080 --> 0:24:05.480 Can you just have to put them in their room 0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:07.800 and put them in and time out? Yeah? 0:24:07.840 --> 0:24:09.760 And they cost a lot of money too. 0:24:10.280 --> 0:24:14.120 Yeah, okay, then you get out. Why do you drive. 0:24:20.280 --> 0:24:20.960 The time out. 0:24:21.040 --> 0:24:22.199 Why why do you need to put them in the 0:24:22.240 --> 0:24:22.640 time out? 0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:23.840 They don't listen? 0:24:24.400 --> 0:24:28.920 Oh but please stop doing that. I get to help. Okay, 0:24:29.040 --> 0:24:30.399 So what do you want to be married? Do you 0:24:30.440 --> 0:24:35.240 think or you want no kids? No marriage? Huh? You're 0:24:35.320 --> 0:24:38.760 you're rolling aldo married? You do you want a husband? 0:24:41.320 --> 0:24:43.000 No way, no way, no. 0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:44.720 Way. 0:24:45.359 --> 0:24:47.439 Do you want mommy to have a husband? H you 0:24:47.440 --> 0:24:48.600 want mommy to have a husband? 0:24:48.800 --> 0:24:51.400 Yes? I do. Yes, who's gonna. 0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:51.760 Be my husband? 0:24:54.040 --> 0:25:02.000 Ah? 0:25:02.359 --> 0:25:03.359 Oh my god? 0:25:05.080 --> 0:25:05.359 Wow? 0:25:05.440 --> 0:25:06.520 Okay, well. 0:25:07.840 --> 0:25:10.160 We'll believe that one out because it is stealing all 0:25:10.320 --> 0:25:11.120 the governments. 0:25:12.400 --> 0:25:18.400 You mean happy day? You mean happy? Interesting? Does anybody 0:25:18.400 --> 0:25:20.480 at your school? I read? Does anyone at your school 0:25:20.520 --> 0:25:21.840 have boyfriends? 0:25:24.640 --> 0:25:24.840 Yes? 0:25:25.680 --> 0:25:26.320 Boyfriend? 0:25:26.720 --> 0:25:37.639 Really? I am who's your boyfriend? Boyfriend? Who's your boyfriend? 0:25:35.480 --> 0:25:43.880 Who's your boyfriend? 0:25:44.600 --> 0:25:45.199 Jackson? 0:25:46.160 --> 0:25:46.240 What? 0:25:48.240 --> 0:25:51.280 Jackson? Who's Jackson's? Yes? 0:25:51.520 --> 0:25:52.120 What do you mean? 0:25:52.200 --> 0:25:54.240 This is your boyfriend? Is nice? 0:25:54.400 --> 0:25:54.600 Now? 0:25:54.760 --> 0:25:58.119 Are you sure the speakers are coming out? What does 0:25:58.240 --> 0:26:01.879 Jackson do is be nice to? Does he play with you? 0:26:02.240 --> 0:26:02.560 Yes? 0:26:02.920 --> 0:26:05.040 Does he ever push you or anything like that? No? 0:26:05.280 --> 0:26:07.560 Oh that's great. What kind of games do you and 0:26:07.640 --> 0:26:11.520 Jackson play? I would like hide and go seek. 0:26:11.280 --> 0:26:20.199 Or like we have puddles, we play. 0:26:18.200 --> 0:26:25.879 Hide to go seeks. Okay, down place? That's cool. 0:26:27.480 --> 0:26:32.439 So how do you feel about your dad's getting me 0:26:32.440 --> 0:26:33.040 a girlfriend? 0:26:33.480 --> 0:26:35.240 And get out? 0:26:36.080 --> 0:26:41.520 They have know what if? What if? Your what if 0:26:41.560 --> 0:26:42.679 daddy had a girlfriend? 0:26:43.640 --> 0:26:44.240 My mom? 0:26:45.800 --> 0:26:47.680 But do you want your daddy to have a girlfriend too? 0:26:47.920 --> 0:26:48.840 I love my mom. 0:26:49.160 --> 0:26:52.280 Have a girl, my dad has? 0:26:52.520 --> 0:26:53.800 Your dad already has a girlfriend. 0:26:53.840 --> 0:27:00.800 I want you to have a boyfriend. You you have 0:27:00.800 --> 0:27:05.760 a boyfriend? Joke and you have you don't have don't? 0:27:07.200 --> 0:27:08.760 I do not have some. 0:27:11.640 --> 0:27:15.000 And I don't have one done dundu and you don't 0:27:15.000 --> 0:27:24.920 have one? Suspenseful music like is it gonna happen? Well, 0:27:25.119 --> 0:27:28.320 we really really love you guys, and I'm really really 0:27:28.359 --> 0:27:32.040 happy that you made us moms and that it was 0:27:32.080 --> 0:27:35.880 you that came through, because you guys are pretty cool. 0:27:36.480 --> 0:27:43.760 By yelling, my mom is yelling when I came. 0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:46.480 Out, because it was like very intense. 0:27:46.520 --> 0:27:46.920 It hurt. 0:27:47.000 --> 0:27:50.080 You know, you know you've seen births on on your jube. 0:27:52.320 --> 0:27:54.280 I mean I like to watch home birds on your 0:27:54.760 --> 0:27:55.280 well aware? 0:27:56.600 --> 0:28:00.400 Also, doctor, is my mom yelling when I came I 0:28:00.440 --> 0:28:03.480 wasn't yelling because mommy was had an epidural? 0:28:03.840 --> 0:28:04.840 What are you doing? 0:28:05.359 --> 0:28:10.640 I was laying there and well, I guess hyperventilating, are you? 0:28:10.720 --> 0:28:14.119 And Daddy was actually Daddy was yelling. Daddy was yelling 0:28:14.160 --> 0:28:17.960 and crying. He was kind of yell oh my god, 0:28:18.320 --> 0:28:22.240 oh my god, oh my like over and over to 0:28:22.240 --> 0:28:24.119 the point where I was like, is everything okay? Like 0:28:24.119 --> 0:28:27.159 does she have ten fingers? Like she is her two heads? 0:28:27.200 --> 0:28:28.040 Like what's going on? 0:28:28.440 --> 0:28:29.080 Oh my god? 0:28:29.840 --> 0:28:31.920 Like I was like, for sure everyone in the hospitals, 0:28:32.000 --> 0:28:35.879 like sink thinks there's a problem seeing her. 0:28:35.960 --> 0:28:39.440 Dad just like shook the entire time. Oh my god, 0:28:39.440 --> 0:28:41.480 this sh was happening, like like you saw a ghost 0:28:41.960 --> 0:28:45.280 the whole time, right, you can't take this back? 0:28:45.480 --> 0:28:45.680 Yeah? 0:28:45.760 --> 0:28:46.000 Yeah. 0:28:46.120 --> 0:28:48.040 He just looks so overwhelmed. 0:28:48.800 --> 0:28:52.040 And then he just looked nervous to cut the cord, 0:28:52.120 --> 0:28:53.480 like he's shaking. 0:28:53.680 --> 0:28:57.840 Where do you think babies come from? Answer? They do? 0:28:59.000 --> 0:29:06.440 How do they get in there? How do babies getting 0:29:06.560 --> 0:29:07.280 mommy's chimmies? 0:29:09.480 --> 0:29:09.640 Are? 0:29:09.680 --> 0:29:09.760 We? 0:29:09.920 --> 0:29:09.960 Like? 0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:13.480 Who are your best friends? I? Who's your best friend? 0:29:14.400 --> 0:29:14.800 Luna? 0:29:16.040 --> 0:29:21.400 Anyone else? Chessie, Chessie, you don't even know what Chessie? 0:29:22.120 --> 0:29:22.560 Who else? 0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:24.760 Crazy? 0:29:25.480 --> 0:29:28.320 Okay? Do you have any adult best friends? 0:29:28.800 --> 0:29:29.560 No yet? 0:29:30.040 --> 0:29:33.640 My mommy, yes, my mommy. 0:29:33.360 --> 0:29:36.360 That's what I like. Ye, we are your best friends. 0:29:36.920 --> 0:29:37.680 We're the real one. 0:29:38.080 --> 0:29:41.560 We're gonna always be real with you. 0:29:41.600 --> 0:29:48.320 What's Luna? What's your favorite food? Shrimp and rice? I 0:29:48.360 --> 0:29:51.680 don't know what's your favorite food? Chicken and what else? 0:29:52.400 --> 0:29:52.760 Fruit? 0:29:53.120 --> 0:29:55.600 Chicken and fruit. That's it. Do you think you'll ever 0:29:55.600 --> 0:30:02.840 eat vegetables? Do you think you'll ever eat vegetables? Hello, 0:30:04.080 --> 0:30:06.000 we're still interviewing you. Are you just checked out? 0:30:06.080 --> 0:30:06.240 Y'all? 0:30:06.280 --> 0:30:12.840 Are I eat this Monday? I eat? You eat carrots? Yes, 0:30:13.120 --> 0:30:15.800 I know that. I'm about to call you. 0:30:15.920 --> 0:30:19.520 Let's tell her what you eat carrots? 0:30:20.080 --> 0:30:20.240 Oh? 0:30:20.280 --> 0:30:24.280 Yeah, it's delicious. Shouldn't I eat some of that stuff? Right? 0:30:25.200 --> 0:30:26.160 What do you want for? 0:30:26.400 --> 0:30:26.480 Like? 0:30:26.800 --> 0:30:30.240 What would be ideal for you for Mother's Day? Maybe? 0:30:30.280 --> 0:30:30.440 Oh? 0:30:30.480 --> 0:30:32.440 You so you probably will do something with beady? I 0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:32.880 don't know. 0:30:33.680 --> 0:30:43.600 I read a rock like a pink. 0:30:40.400 --> 0:30:42.160 Happy Bay asked me if i'd be weird if he 0:30:42.400 --> 0:30:43.680 bought me a Mother's Day present? 0:30:44.200 --> 0:30:47.080 Why would be weird? I said no? I said, I 0:30:47.080 --> 0:30:51.360 don't know the rules of this. There's no rules. She's like, 0:30:51.400 --> 0:30:52.320 I've never dated a mom. 0:30:52.360 --> 0:30:54.160 I'm like, well, I've never dated as a mom, so 0:30:54.440 --> 0:30:57.040 I don't really know how to answer that just either 0:30:57.280 --> 0:30:57.960 I guess I. 0:30:57.920 --> 0:30:59.960 Said, I've never had a guy. I don't think outside. 0:31:00.000 --> 0:31:02.240 I see that's because that's what probably want that because 0:31:02.240 --> 0:31:07.000 I amateur guys. I'm not happy father's say text but 0:31:07.240 --> 0:31:10.400 not like something special. Maybe they feel like that's like 0:31:11.000 --> 0:31:13.360 it's like overstepping there. That's ridiculous. 0:31:13.400 --> 0:31:15.680 You better get me something because maybe they're like, maybe 0:31:15.840 --> 0:31:17.520 it's overstepping my boundaries. 0:31:17.640 --> 0:31:19.640 I'm not celebrate me. 0:31:21.080 --> 0:31:28.840 I've raised a child I'm raising I contributed to society. Yeah, hello, 0:31:29.880 --> 0:31:31.479 do you think that it's like do you think that 0:31:31.520 --> 0:31:33.840 like once you're in a relationship going to like if 0:31:33.880 --> 0:31:36.360 your baby daddy asked you to go to like dinner 0:31:37.160 --> 0:31:38.760 or that's inappropriate? 0:31:40.440 --> 0:31:42.200 I don't, but you know, I'm a free thinker. 0:31:49.760 --> 0:31:52.280 I don't know where I got that ur but I 0:31:52.320 --> 0:31:54.920 know I think, like I just feel like my ideal 0:31:55.000 --> 0:31:58.640 relationship would be so fucking solid that it wasn't even 0:31:58.680 --> 0:32:01.920 mad at there was this vice versa which you care No, 0:32:02.360 --> 0:32:06.040 I would respect it like I'm glad and then. 0:32:07.440 --> 0:32:10.000 Take it to breakfast. But me, I get dinner and lunch. 0:32:11.800 --> 0:32:13.440 Well, if you didn't have kids with that person, was 0:32:13.440 --> 0:32:15.560 what I mean, Like, if you were dating someone. 0:32:16.000 --> 0:32:18.479 And if he had kids and he took kids and 0:32:18.480 --> 0:32:20.320 his baby brother to breakfast or. 0:32:20.520 --> 0:32:22.960 I would think that's great, you guys. 0:32:23.320 --> 0:32:25.200 But being so I'm a mom too, we'd have you 0:32:25.240 --> 0:32:26.960 to have some time for me too. But I think 0:32:26.960 --> 0:32:28.040 that's I think that's healthy. 0:32:28.120 --> 0:32:28.560 I think that. 0:32:28.680 --> 0:32:31.000 I mean, maybe because I'm a baby mom, I think 0:32:31.040 --> 0:32:33.840 that to respect your baby mom and have a healthy. 0:32:33.560 --> 0:32:36.040 Relationship with her is ideal, you know. 0:32:36.080 --> 0:32:39.240 And sometimes yeah, we'll all go together, honestly, and sometimes not, 0:32:39.320 --> 0:32:42.080 And I'm cool with that. I understand the importance of 0:32:42.160 --> 0:32:45.920 a child having time together with both of their parents. 0:32:45.960 --> 0:32:47.800 I see it because I see it makes her happy. 0:32:47.920 --> 0:32:50.280 I see that, you know, she just genuinely enjoyed spending 0:32:50.280 --> 0:32:51.000 time with us together. 0:32:51.080 --> 0:32:52.840 And I get it. And I just think that you 0:32:52.880 --> 0:32:53.240 should be. 0:32:53.440 --> 0:32:56.280 Your relationship, be mature enough for the trust, and I 0:32:56.320 --> 0:32:58.520 mean you should want the same for your partner and 0:32:58.800 --> 0:33:00.640 want him to be that president because I mean, I 0:33:00.640 --> 0:33:02.280 feel like that makes me know you're a good dad. 0:33:03.160 --> 0:33:06.000 I maybe wanna, I maybe you want to have kids 0:33:06.000 --> 0:33:09.200 with you. You're never going to be on some immature, shady, 0:33:09.240 --> 0:33:11.600 weird shit, you know. I just think it should be 0:33:11.680 --> 0:33:17.719 that much, honestly, like friendship, you know, but that's very 0:33:18.520 --> 0:33:23.080 apparently it's very very rarely found because nobody is mature. 0:33:23.600 --> 0:33:27.560 What do you think would you allow her? I agree 0:33:27.600 --> 0:33:30.040 with you. Okay, you guys should go. Yeah, you guys leep, 0:33:30.280 --> 0:33:33.760 Go go go in there, imply please go on. Thank 0:33:33.800 --> 0:33:36.400 you so much for helping. Thank you for your contributions 0:33:36.400 --> 0:33:39.240 to this episode. Yeah, we're all done. We're gonna try again. 0:33:39.440 --> 0:33:41.320 I'm almost done. We're gonna try it. You're five and 0:33:41.360 --> 0:33:41.680 a half. 0:33:42.360 --> 0:33:45.720 Why what why we are. 0:33:47.600 --> 0:33:47.760 Here? 0:33:48.520 --> 0:33:48.800 Okay? 0:33:48.840 --> 0:33:50.520 So what were you saying if you were dating a 0:33:50.560 --> 0:33:54.760 guy and he took his baby mom to I don't. 0:33:54.600 --> 0:33:55.880 Know, I don't I don't think I would care. 0:33:55.880 --> 0:33:58.760 I think it was just Also, it all depends on 0:33:58.840 --> 0:34:01.560 how where, how solid we. 0:34:01.520 --> 0:34:02.880 Are as the interval. 0:34:03.000 --> 0:34:06.560 Yeah, I would like to be in a relationship that's solid. 0:34:06.560 --> 0:34:08.200 That's the type of relationship I long for. 0:34:08.800 --> 0:34:11.200 You know something, me too, Yeah, because I want the 0:34:11.280 --> 0:34:13.520 freedom I want to have a relationship because I want 0:34:13.520 --> 0:34:15.560 the same I want to be afforded the same respect 0:34:15.760 --> 0:34:18.759 and space as well. Because and not to say like 0:34:19.960 --> 0:34:21.399 I don't do I think there's like do I think 0:34:21.400 --> 0:34:23.239 like I need to like go on like a romantical 0:34:23.320 --> 0:34:23.960 dinner with my. 0:34:23.920 --> 0:34:26.080 Baby daddy for Mother's Day. No, we could go to 0:34:26.160 --> 0:34:28.040 like breakfast one. 0:34:28.239 --> 0:34:30.719 I think there's still like boundaries to it, you know 0:34:30.719 --> 0:34:32.239 what I mean, Like I'm not gonna be like. 0:34:32.320 --> 0:34:35.719 Yeah, go ahead, go to candle at dinner. No, because 0:34:35.760 --> 0:34:37.360 I think that's even confusing for the kids. And I 0:34:37.360 --> 0:34:42.960 feel also taking taking Mother's Day out of the equation. 0:34:43.920 --> 0:34:46.719 If once a week we go have dinner with Like, 0:34:46.920 --> 0:34:49.600 I'm not opposed to dinner, it's not dinner. It's like 0:34:49.920 --> 0:34:52.359 if it's for mothers, who what is it for? Who 0:34:52.400 --> 0:34:53.240 are you both? 0:34:53.840 --> 0:34:54.000 What? 0:34:54.160 --> 0:34:54.279 Like? 0:34:54.360 --> 0:34:56.520 What is his what are his or her intentions? 0:34:56.520 --> 0:35:00.640 Well, I'm assuming that, yeah, these people have met, you know, 0:35:00.760 --> 0:35:06.239 this is long term and my person knows like I'm 0:35:06.320 --> 0:35:07.840 not even thinking about this mega. 0:35:09.120 --> 0:35:11.480 You know, but I like, again, I get it. 0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:14.080 I'm not saying it would be like so easy for 0:35:14.160 --> 0:35:19.040 me either, but ultimately speaking that it's rare. But I 0:35:19.080 --> 0:35:22.160 feel like it exists and I don't want to like settle. 0:35:22.320 --> 0:35:24.799 I mean, I know, if you compromise, that's the thing. 0:35:25.360 --> 0:35:30.759 Compromising and feeling like you're you're settling from something less 0:35:30.800 --> 0:35:33.319 than what you want is hard. But because I'm not 0:35:33.360 --> 0:35:38.640 a good compromiser, and I'm not like, historically you haven't 0:35:38.640 --> 0:35:38.960 been like. 0:35:38.880 --> 0:35:41.080 A committed person either, So maybe it's that. 0:35:41.120 --> 0:35:43.160 I don't know if it's something like I'm running, but 0:35:43.239 --> 0:35:46.240 I just ultimately that's what I think it's fair. 0:35:47.440 --> 0:35:49.520 I don't think to do with the running. 0:35:49.360 --> 0:35:52.920 Right, Yeah, right, I'm like, should I be like, Okay, no, 0:35:53.040 --> 0:35:53.960 this is inappropriate? 0:35:54.040 --> 0:35:55.799 No, But I do think there's boundaries to it. 0:35:55.880 --> 0:35:57.719 Yeah, I could be hanging out all the time every 0:35:57.760 --> 0:36:00.799 day at his crib and shit, and even if it is, 0:36:00.840 --> 0:36:02.880 I just mean, like the boundaries that need to be 0:36:03.040 --> 0:36:06.120 pad are based on what people's true feelings are for 0:36:06.160 --> 0:36:06.520 each other. 0:36:06.640 --> 0:36:08.400 Yes, there's always gonna be a love for one another. 0:36:09.320 --> 0:36:12.800 There is, like if there's like one like the dude 0:36:12.840 --> 0:36:15.480 is low key trying to like yeah, you know, like 0:36:15.600 --> 0:36:20.759 romantic romantical romantical romance roman like that. 0:36:21.680 --> 0:36:22.239 You know what I mean. 0:36:22.320 --> 0:36:25.920 I guess there's always that chance, but you can't control everything. 0:36:26.000 --> 0:36:28.640 But I just feel like you just have to be 0:36:28.680 --> 0:36:30.040 solid with your partner period. 0:36:30.040 --> 0:36:31.960 You gotta be solid with yourself, Like what's the point 0:36:32.000 --> 0:36:33.759 in lying, like, don't waste my time if you want 0:36:33.800 --> 0:36:37.480 to be with somebody else, your mother baby, Mountain included. 0:36:37.600 --> 0:36:38.480 Let's talk about it. 0:36:38.840 --> 0:36:41.839 You know, like, I'm not here to a fucking I'm 0:36:41.840 --> 0:36:43.200 not into I'm not into any of that. 0:36:43.760 --> 0:36:45.439 It's just like you're gonna do it, We'll do it. 0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:51.000 But it's not you should have just said that. It's fine. 0:36:51.640 --> 0:36:53.600 Yeah, So I don't to answer your question. I don't 0:36:53.600 --> 0:36:55.200 know what I'm doing on Mother's Day. I don't know 0:36:55.239 --> 0:36:58.799 if the bd is want to take me somewhere or 0:36:59.280 --> 0:37:02.320 ask me to eat. 0:37:02.160 --> 0:37:08.120 Dinner or whatever. But who else. It's a mystery. It's 0:37:08.160 --> 0:37:08.720 a mystery. 0:37:09.680 --> 0:37:12.080 I actually don't want to do anything, but to be honest, 0:37:12.160 --> 0:37:14.920 because I have like the longest week ahead of me 0:37:15.160 --> 0:37:16.400 starting tomorrow. 0:37:16.280 --> 0:37:19.080 And Sunday's like the day I don't have to actually 0:37:19.160 --> 0:37:21.360 do anything. Maybe you could post it. It's get a 0:37:21.440 --> 0:37:23.799 post and I would just like to sit here and 0:37:23.960 --> 0:37:28.080 just eat and watch TV. Yeah. I told my mom 0:37:28.120 --> 0:37:29.239 that too. She was like, what do you want? I 0:37:29.239 --> 0:37:31.359 was like, nothing, I don't want to do anything. 0:37:31.239 --> 0:37:36.680 Right, But yeah, I mean Mother's Day's cool. But and 0:37:36.719 --> 0:37:40.640 it's a nice reminder of like, you know, remember where 0:37:40.640 --> 0:37:45.279 you came from, remember the life source. But and it 0:37:45.560 --> 0:37:47.520 also is a reminder for me that like, wow, I'm. 0:37:47.400 --> 0:37:53.319 A fucking mother. Fuck I know, like I'm someone's mom. 0:37:53.719 --> 0:37:57.160 So it's so real sudedly, it's like, yeah, I mean 0:37:57.200 --> 0:38:00.120 I've definitely like the shock. 0:37:59.840 --> 0:38:01.040 Of it is over for me. 0:38:01.200 --> 0:38:03.239 But like sometimes I do have moments where I'm like, 0:38:03.280 --> 0:38:05.960 oh shit, because like for the first two years, I'd 0:38:06.000 --> 0:38:07.360 be like, I'm a mom. 0:38:07.760 --> 0:38:12.840 How the fuck am i am? Mother? Yeah, it's pretty, 0:38:13.000 --> 0:38:17.960 it's pretty like I'm not ironic, but like out of 0:38:18.000 --> 0:38:18.520 this world. 0:38:18.880 --> 0:38:21.080 Sometimes I think about like my mom and like because 0:38:21.120 --> 0:38:23.239 I raise four and I stared running around, I'm like, 0:38:24.040 --> 0:38:27.240 it's so crazy, like you forget that your parents not forget, 0:38:27.280 --> 0:38:29.640 but like you don't put yourself in their shoes that 0:38:29.760 --> 0:38:32.720 often where you're like, shit, i was four running around 0:38:32.840 --> 0:38:36.040 and they were just like having a conversation with their girlfriends, 0:38:36.560 --> 0:38:39.000 maybe not recording it, but just in the living room. 0:38:39.080 --> 0:38:43.160 You know, it's just and now here I am growing 0:38:43.200 --> 0:38:44.239 as fun, right, you know. 0:38:44.360 --> 0:38:48.480 Which experience having living in this experience and yeah, like 0:38:48.560 --> 0:38:50.239 to imagine where were you at that. 0:38:50.280 --> 0:38:55.480 Time, m Did you feel like it was crazy? Did 0:38:55.480 --> 0:38:56.720 you feel like you had it all together? 0:38:56.920 --> 0:38:58.440 I mean, because that's the thing too, It's like as 0:38:58.520 --> 0:39:00.000 kids would look at our parents and we think they're 0:39:00.040 --> 0:39:00.760 happened all together. 0:39:01.520 --> 0:39:01.600 No. 0:39:01.760 --> 0:39:05.600 I mean I remember like being I guess three or four, 0:39:05.880 --> 0:39:08.200 moving here, and my parents didn't have it all together. 0:39:09.080 --> 0:39:11.160 Like I kind of remember that, you. 0:39:11.120 --> 0:39:13.879 Know, like I remember we but I also remember as 0:39:13.880 --> 0:39:15.680 a child not thinking anything of it. 0:39:15.760 --> 0:39:17.240 That's what I mean though, Yeah. 0:39:17.680 --> 0:39:19.799 This is like you don't know any different really, so 0:39:19.840 --> 0:39:21.680 it's like, okay, remember cool, as long as I'm with 0:39:21.680 --> 0:39:22.800 my mom and my dad whatever. 0:39:24.920 --> 0:39:27.080 My dad had moved here like ahead of us, to 0:39:27.320 --> 0:39:30.080 California because he started writing on fresh friends because we're 0:39:30.120 --> 0:39:33.360 from Philly and they like grew up together. And I 0:39:33.360 --> 0:39:35.920 remember finally like like when are you coming back? And 0:39:36.000 --> 0:39:39.680 finally coming and like he had a roommate, so me 0:39:39.800 --> 0:39:41.600 and me and my mom and him just stayed in 0:39:41.680 --> 0:39:44.560 the other room and like eventually we got a house 0:39:44.600 --> 0:39:46.799 and stuff. I just around this little like bovo we had, 0:39:47.280 --> 0:39:51.000 but I just doubt absolutely nothing of Like it wasn't 0:39:51.040 --> 0:39:56.879 that strange, but it is interesting to compare. I feel 0:39:56.880 --> 0:40:00.799 I should ask my mom about that more. But what 0:40:00.920 --> 0:40:03.000 was going you know, like, how was it for you? 0:40:03.840 --> 0:40:04.120 I know? 0:40:04.560 --> 0:40:06.800 I mean, well, I know that my mom was constantly stressed. 0:40:06.800 --> 0:40:08.960 I know she was like really sad, and she was 0:40:08.600 --> 0:40:11.000 and she was nursing a broken heart for years. 0:40:11.719 --> 0:40:16.120 And yeah, my dad was so evil. So I remember 0:40:16.160 --> 0:40:20.799 like her crying a lot, like and but also like 0:40:23.600 --> 0:40:27.400 she was fun. You know, we had fun and. 0:40:30.480 --> 0:40:33.680 I never was worried about like my like I always 0:40:34.120 --> 0:40:35.880 like I knew we didn't. Like when I was growing up, 0:40:35.880 --> 0:40:38.120 we always lived in like small apartments and stuff. And 0:40:38.160 --> 0:40:41.719 then like I like, as her career grew, you know, 0:40:41.800 --> 0:40:44.840 obviously our living situations would grow from like a like 0:40:44.920 --> 0:40:47.239 a one bedroom apartment to a two bedroom apartment to 0:40:47.320 --> 0:40:49.880 a condo. So now we're renting a house and now 0:40:49.880 --> 0:40:52.440 we're going to rent another house and eventually we're going 0:40:52.520 --> 0:40:56.640 to buy a house. And you know, but there, I 0:40:56.719 --> 0:40:59.320 know there were times where she was really scared and nervous, 0:40:59.400 --> 0:41:01.480 but like I I could sense it, but I was 0:41:01.520 --> 0:41:03.400 always never she always kept it away from me. 0:41:03.600 --> 0:41:05.360 You're aware, Yeah, yeah, you know. 0:41:06.200 --> 0:41:11.520 It's yeah, it's so interesting like perception when you're that young, 0:41:11.680 --> 0:41:14.839 because everything is so you're always surprised, Like now as 0:41:14.880 --> 0:41:17.200 a parent, like I'm so surprised the things that she 0:41:17.400 --> 0:41:20.319 like understands, and then I'm so also surprised that thinks 0:41:20.320 --> 0:41:21.920 that I forget that she's also. 0:41:21.760 --> 0:41:24.600 For doesn't understand certain things that I think are like 0:41:24.880 --> 0:41:27.839 very simple to understand, like don't you get why this 0:41:27.920 --> 0:41:31.080 is yes or no? Black and white or other things 0:41:31.080 --> 0:41:33.560 that are more like I don't know, just a little 0:41:33.640 --> 0:41:37.200 more complicated. Sometimes I'm like, wall you understand that even 0:41:37.239 --> 0:41:40.960 asking of these questions right now, like like I don't. 0:41:40.760 --> 0:41:43.640 Know if I even understands what a boyfriend is, but she. 0:41:43.640 --> 0:41:46.879 Still said that, you're I think when and what they 0:41:46.880 --> 0:41:51.120 explained like a husband, maybe she understands what husband is, yeah, 0:41:51.239 --> 0:41:53.120 or maybe she I think she maybe does, but she's 0:41:53.160 --> 0:41:55.160 like scared to tell me that she knows, like she 0:41:55.239 --> 0:41:56.000 thinks it's like a. 0:41:55.920 --> 0:41:57.239 Secret, right, I don't know. 0:41:57.440 --> 0:41:59.399 It is interesting because I used to think things were 0:41:59.520 --> 0:42:01.800 like not like I shouldn't know what that means, like pregnant. 0:42:01.840 --> 0:42:04.799 The word pregnant, literally the word pregnant I thought was 0:42:04.840 --> 0:42:05.480 a bad word. 0:42:05.760 --> 0:42:07.200 Anytime anyone's saying I could. 0:42:07.040 --> 0:42:11.719 Be like giggle because like their age probably like I 0:42:11.800 --> 0:42:15.680 remember specifically, like I think I was like five my 0:42:15.760 --> 0:42:18.799 friend was like if my friend was like I want 0:42:18.800 --> 0:42:20.879 to be pregnant, and I was like, oh, I don't 0:42:20.960 --> 0:42:21.440 say that. 0:42:22.400 --> 0:42:23.719 I don't say that you know. 0:42:23.800 --> 0:42:25.640 That's funny is even asking I'm like, do you want 0:42:25.640 --> 0:42:27.520 to have kids? I'm like, is that an appropriate question? 0:42:27.600 --> 0:42:30.560 But it's like, all, well, it's also a question that 0:42:30.640 --> 0:42:33.200 I think is obviously asked by women. 0:42:33.200 --> 0:42:35.440 It's like the first thing people ask women. No, I 0:42:35.480 --> 0:42:37.960 don't think I think kids. I don't. I don't think 0:42:37.960 --> 0:42:41.279 people ask children. They're not children, but they're but they're women. 0:42:41.480 --> 0:42:42.560 They're they're going to be women. 0:42:42.600 --> 0:42:44.680 They don't ask if we're not going to ask when 0:42:44.760 --> 0:42:46.040 we ask a little boy that. 0:42:46.480 --> 0:42:48.280 Well, I mean, I just think it's I think it's 0:42:48.560 --> 0:42:49.840 I think it's sexualizing. 0:42:51.040 --> 0:42:52.040 It's not about sex. 0:42:52.160 --> 0:42:54.160 I just mean that I'm saying when people are I'm 0:42:54.200 --> 0:42:56.480 not even referring to it as sex. I'm saying, like, 0:42:56.560 --> 0:43:02.560 but we we think it's society that little girls grow 0:43:02.560 --> 0:43:04.080 into women that want. 0:43:03.920 --> 0:43:06.239 You to have kids? Do you want to? 0:43:06.520 --> 0:43:09.759 But that's just like the that's to do, right, you know, 0:43:09.840 --> 0:43:11.239 if all things you're gonna do, you're gonna do this 0:43:11.320 --> 0:43:13.840 for for sure, right, that's just supposed to do. 0:43:13.960 --> 0:43:19.200 That's true. We're like machines make more. 0:43:19.560 --> 0:43:22.120 I thought it was interesting that, especially because maybe Luna 0:43:22.160 --> 0:43:24.160 doesn't want to have kids because she watches those birthing 0:43:24.239 --> 0:43:28.480 videos like because then she said she wants to deliver babies, right, 0:43:28.560 --> 0:43:29.799 but like she doesn't want to go through that. 0:43:30.000 --> 0:43:32.279 Oh you know what I mean. But that of the 0:43:32.560 --> 0:43:35.839 tube videos are peaceful. I'm not saying she's traumatized or anything. 0:43:35.880 --> 0:43:38.719 I'm just saying, but like she's she's like I'm good, Yeah, 0:43:38.760 --> 0:43:40.560 I'm good. Dog. She does how goes down? 0:43:40.800 --> 0:43:42.879 Whereas I Because you know, Irie asked me one time, 0:43:42.960 --> 0:43:45.280 she was like what did she asked hers, like, Mommy, 0:43:45.320 --> 0:43:47.200 how did daddy? I think I talked about it was like, 0:43:47.239 --> 0:43:50.960 how did daddy put you in my stomach? I mean 0:43:51.160 --> 0:43:53.319 put you put me in your stomach? And I was 0:43:53.440 --> 0:43:56.160 like and she was like, no secrets. 0:43:56.280 --> 0:43:59.440 I was like, oh shit, what I was like, yeah, yeah, 0:43:59.480 --> 0:44:02.879 you wrapped up my stomach. Alt we kissed and then 0:44:02.920 --> 0:44:06.080 you appeared and then I started to grab Then you 0:44:06.160 --> 0:44:09.200 grew inside. We planted a seed. We prayed for you. 0:44:13.960 --> 0:44:20.520 Definitely was praying like please don't be pregnant, please God. 0:44:20.600 --> 0:44:24.200 I mean right, suddenly when they gets a pregnant, she's like, 0:44:24.200 --> 0:44:25.840 what the fuck was I do? 0:44:26.280 --> 0:44:30.000 Everything comes coming to like crashing, how did this happen? 0:44:30.239 --> 0:44:30.399 Right? 0:44:30.520 --> 0:44:33.040 Like what what do you mean I'm pregnant. God doesn't 0:44:33.040 --> 0:44:33.319 love me? 0:44:33.400 --> 0:44:36.319 How How what do you mean you get pregnant when 0:44:36.880 --> 0:44:37.719 you don't put a condom on? 0:44:37.960 --> 0:44:41.000 Curs? Ludicrous? 0:44:43.600 --> 0:44:47.040 Yeah, it's nothing to play with. I guess the only 0:44:47.080 --> 0:44:49.080 reality of that is having a baby. 0:44:49.480 --> 0:44:51.680 Yeah, I mean, it's like the best thing that's it's 0:44:51.680 --> 0:44:53.600 probably the best thing that's ever happened to me. It's 0:44:53.640 --> 0:44:55.560 like made me have to figure my shit out, like 0:44:55.600 --> 0:45:01.200 I've had to like, you know, just focus on something, 0:45:01.560 --> 0:45:05.600 you know, and like I think because I was so 0:45:05.800 --> 0:45:08.280 unfocused really and that's why I like, when I got pregnant, 0:45:08.320 --> 0:45:10.839 I was so scared. I was like, how can I mean, 0:45:10.920 --> 0:45:14.440 you raise a child? Like I don't even know what 0:45:14.480 --> 0:45:17.080 I'm doing. Really, I kind of just really depended. I 0:45:17.120 --> 0:45:19.279 was like, you know what, we'll just figure it out, 0:45:19.440 --> 0:45:20.799 me and him, we'll figure it out. 0:45:21.640 --> 0:45:24.360 We'll be fine. Yeah, yeah, we'll be fine. 0:45:25.160 --> 0:45:28.400 I was like, if if we're not fine, I'll be fine. 0:45:29.000 --> 0:45:29.719 I'll figure it out. 0:45:29.719 --> 0:45:31.840 Well, I think because I had, you know, an example, 0:45:31.880 --> 0:45:34.000 my mom was a single parent and that's all I really, 0:45:34.160 --> 0:45:35.240 that's all I ever knew. 0:45:35.640 --> 0:45:37.080 And she figured it out, and I was like, if 0:45:37.160 --> 0:45:38.759 she can do it, we'll figure it out. 0:45:38.760 --> 0:45:40.200 But I didn't even think about it in that way. 0:45:40.239 --> 0:45:43.480 I never thought I was like, I really didn't think 0:45:43.480 --> 0:45:45.279 about it in the way that like what it looked 0:45:45.320 --> 0:45:49.760 like without him, honestly, like, yeah, that's not ideal, because 0:45:49.760 --> 0:45:52.960 I felt like, no matter what, we're going to be together, right, 0:45:53.120 --> 0:45:57.520 you know, but that's my soulmate. So crazy what time 0:45:57.640 --> 0:46:01.520 does and kids, even because you have them, then suddenly 0:46:01.520 --> 0:46:04.520 you're like, I'm not putting up your bullshit because I 0:46:04.560 --> 0:46:06.200 love this little motherfucker more than you. 0:46:06.360 --> 0:46:09.080 Right right, And I'm not this shit. Right. 0:46:09.160 --> 0:46:10.520 I don't even want to be in this environment, so 0:46:10.560 --> 0:46:12.720 I'm not gonna put like put it on her. 0:46:13.120 --> 0:46:14.520 That was a lot for me too. I mean, even 0:46:14.560 --> 0:46:17.920 when I got pregnant, I remember. 0:46:17.760 --> 0:46:21.920 Calling certain friends and they're like, bitch, you already know 0:46:21.960 --> 0:46:22.799 who you're dealing with. 0:46:23.040 --> 0:46:24.719 And I remember being like, yeah, I do. 0:46:24.920 --> 0:46:28.719 So I'm consciously making the decision whether it works out 0:46:28.800 --> 0:46:29.000 or not. 0:46:29.960 --> 0:46:31.240 I'm cool with having a baby. 0:46:31.960 --> 0:46:34.040 But I guess I also felt guilt because I've had 0:46:34.120 --> 0:46:40.200 like two other abortions and I and I was twenty six, yeah, 0:46:40.200 --> 0:46:42.279 and I'm like, that's old. That's old to be having 0:46:42.280 --> 0:46:45.600 an abortion. I'm never gonna I'm never gonna be able 0:46:45.600 --> 0:46:48.799 to be fertile again. So there was that too, and 0:46:48.840 --> 0:46:52.360 then also the card reading that said that I should 0:46:52.400 --> 0:46:54.240 do it, which. 0:46:54.080 --> 0:46:58.040 Was the overall, that was the confirming. That's confirming. I 0:46:58.120 --> 0:46:59.120 knew immediately I was. 0:46:59.040 --> 0:47:01.920 Gonna When I found out, I was kind of excited 0:47:01.960 --> 0:47:02.920 and I was also scared. 0:47:03.120 --> 0:47:06.920 Yeah, there was more scared than there was excited. And 0:47:06.960 --> 0:47:10.560 then this excited came in when like I saw my 0:47:10.640 --> 0:47:13.040 belly girl. I think it took me a minute to 0:47:13.080 --> 0:47:18.080 connect to the belly too, like sometimes I feel weird 0:47:18.160 --> 0:47:21.880 talking to it alone. I had to like really realize 0:47:21.920 --> 0:47:26.600 what was happening, and I think I really like really clicked, 0:47:26.640 --> 0:47:29.040 Like that moment at the hospital where she hit my chest, 0:47:29.080 --> 0:47:29.520 I was like. 0:47:29.440 --> 0:47:33.600 Oh my god, like bam, yeah here she is. 0:47:33.680 --> 0:47:36.640 Yeah, I said, good luck. Oh man. Yeah, that's literally 0:47:36.640 --> 0:47:38.719 how I felt like when I left. I left the hospital. 0:47:38.719 --> 0:47:41.239 I just remember like getting home, like like I wasn't 0:47:41.239 --> 0:47:42.080 expecting her to come. 0:47:42.080 --> 0:47:43.400 When I left the house that day, it is like 0:47:43.440 --> 0:47:45.680 my house wasn't prepared. I was just like I don't 0:47:45.719 --> 0:47:47.640 know anything. I didn't watch any of those videos. 0:47:47.760 --> 0:47:48.479 What am I doing? 0:47:49.920 --> 0:47:51.880 Did they fit in? Home of the brochure of some sorts. 0:47:53.640 --> 0:47:56.280 I was emerged fully in it. I was taking baby 0:47:56.320 --> 0:47:58.960 and me classes. I was like, and so is he? 0:47:59.040 --> 0:48:00.880 Like he was super involved, Like he came to like 0:48:01.200 --> 0:48:05.080 like he came to every dog, every single doctor, went 0:48:05.120 --> 0:48:07.920 to all my baby and me classes, like humored my 0:48:07.960 --> 0:48:10.520 all my weird shit, except the home birth. 0:48:12.920 --> 0:48:13.879 He did not support that. 0:48:15.000 --> 0:48:20.440 But yeah, but then when that baby comes, it's like, 0:48:20.560 --> 0:48:22.280 oh wow. 0:48:22.320 --> 0:48:23.239 But you know, I don't know. 0:48:23.960 --> 0:48:26.160 I kind of felt ready after nine months, like I 0:48:26.200 --> 0:48:28.120 did a lot of I was spent a lot of 0:48:28.160 --> 0:48:28.800 time a lot. 0:48:28.680 --> 0:48:29.800 Of my pregnancy alone. 0:48:30.400 --> 0:48:33.759 Unfortunately, you know, my heat wasn't really around that much. 0:48:33.960 --> 0:48:36.160 He was working and. 0:48:36.200 --> 0:48:38.440 Kind of just checked out in general, just because some 0:48:38.480 --> 0:48:42.920 shit had like had gone down, like during my pregnancy, 0:48:43.080 --> 0:48:46.680 Like he almost got killed in like a shooting, and 0:48:46.760 --> 0:48:49.640 so he was just so like traumatized from that and 0:48:49.680 --> 0:48:52.960 wrapped up and always had people around constantly, always had 0:48:53.000 --> 0:48:55.359 people around in our house. At one point they were 0:48:55.400 --> 0:48:57.359 like one of two of his friends were like one 0:48:57.400 --> 0:48:59.200 of sleeping on my couch. Two of them were like 0:48:59.239 --> 0:49:01.040 sleeping on my couch for like weeks, and I was 0:49:01.080 --> 0:49:04.080 like seven months pregnant. I was like these vegans don't 0:49:04.080 --> 0:49:08.080 get out of my fucking house, Gona. And because I 0:49:08.200 --> 0:49:10.200 was like that, he would just leave all the time 0:49:10.239 --> 0:49:13.080 and be out with them. So I think I had 0:49:13.120 --> 0:49:18.479 a lot of time bonding with Iri before, So when 0:49:18.480 --> 0:49:21.600 she came, it was almost like I knew what to do. 0:49:21.760 --> 0:49:23.480 Almost it was weird like. 0:49:23.520 --> 0:49:26.040 Before, they're not not in every sense. I'm just totally 0:49:26.040 --> 0:49:29.000 even still kicking. It does kicking like you just like 0:49:29.080 --> 0:49:30.799 you just do it, Like, yeah, you just grow up 0:49:30.800 --> 0:49:32.320 the punches. You don't really have a choice and you 0:49:32.440 --> 0:49:33.200 learn as you go. 0:49:33.840 --> 0:49:37.440 That's true, Like even if you're not prepared, like somehow 0:49:37.440 --> 0:49:40.440 you're like prepared. Even I'm like all this extra baby 0:49:40.480 --> 0:49:42.360 shit that they're like conue into buying. 0:49:42.400 --> 0:49:45.400 Its like a lot of it's unnecessary, Like it's like 0:49:45.480 --> 0:49:49.799 you just go back to I was, I totally excuse me. 0:49:49.960 --> 0:49:52.920 I totally fell for the con I was buying all 0:49:53.040 --> 0:49:54.319 the unnecessary shit. 0:49:54.480 --> 0:49:56.239 What if I need a what if I need a 0:49:56.280 --> 0:49:58.160 fucking booger sucker? 0:49:58.360 --> 0:49:59.560 What if I can't get her bookers out? I got 0:49:59.640 --> 0:50:02.960 a sucker out myself, right, it's only can that makes sense? 0:50:03.320 --> 0:50:06.359 Bookers like those things. It was like this thing where 0:50:06.400 --> 0:50:09.480 you put a straw, like the straw thing in your 0:50:09.560 --> 0:50:11.759 baby's nose, and then there's like a barrier, so the 0:50:11.760 --> 0:50:14.080 bookers don't fly in your mouth, but you suck with your. 0:50:13.960 --> 0:50:18.200 Own like inhale, but it's not you suck. There's not 0:50:18.480 --> 0:50:20.840 literally out of there, it doesn't go in. Now. 0:50:20.880 --> 0:50:23.880 There's like this like there's like this piece of foam 0:50:24.320 --> 0:50:25.520 that is like in the tube. 0:50:25.560 --> 0:50:27.760 It's supposed to be like the barrier between the snot 0:50:28.000 --> 0:50:28.919 and your mouth. 0:50:28.960 --> 0:50:29.399 Did that come? 0:50:29.520 --> 0:50:32.080 But really you're just like inhaling their germs, they're sick. 0:50:32.080 --> 0:50:36.480 You're like literally in hand it's just a sponge disgusting. 0:50:36.680 --> 0:50:40.399 It's actually just it's really unsanitary. I did it many 0:50:40.440 --> 0:50:42.919 times and actually worked. And I think that's also why 0:50:42.920 --> 0:50:45.759 I really just like blowing her nose now, because she's 0:50:45.760 --> 0:50:48.200 a little traumatized from that, and I did all the sucking. 0:50:50.640 --> 0:50:53.279 Blown say, I don't know how. I don't know how. 0:50:53.200 --> 0:50:55.120 To blow my nose because my mom sucked my booker's 0:50:55.120 --> 0:50:56.719 out of my nose for three years. 0:50:58.640 --> 0:51:00.840 But yeah, I know, I totally for all that ship. 0:51:01.600 --> 0:51:04.640 But it's a big privilege though, to like be. 0:51:04.680 --> 0:51:09.160 Able to develop someone and see them grow and like 0:51:09.960 --> 0:51:12.120 interjects when you feel like it's necessary. 0:51:12.360 --> 0:51:16.319 You know, I'm constantly in awe of her. I look 0:51:16.360 --> 0:51:17.479 back so a lot of times when. 0:51:17.360 --> 0:51:19.960 I'm driving, I'll look back at my room marriage just 0:51:19.960 --> 0:51:21.560 like stare at her to be. 0:51:21.680 --> 0:51:26.920 Like, oh my god, how did I you're so large? 0:51:27.200 --> 0:51:27.279 That? 0:51:27.440 --> 0:51:29.520 And also I just like how do I love you 0:51:29.600 --> 0:51:32.560 so much? I know? Oh my God? Like I just 0:51:32.600 --> 0:51:40.239 want to like literally makes because you know what I mean, like, no, 0:51:41.360 --> 0:51:44.280 love me back? My God. It's crazy. 0:51:44.600 --> 0:51:47.920 Even when she's like, Mama, I want you, I know, 0:51:47.960 --> 0:51:51.080 I think about those when that is no more mamas 0:51:52.080 --> 0:51:53.600 and then that mama voices. 0:51:53.239 --> 0:51:54.200 And mama anymore. 0:51:54.200 --> 0:52:02.640 It's like Mama, mama, mamam mom whatever. 0:52:03.239 --> 0:52:05.480 She's already doing that. That's why I have to nit 0:52:05.560 --> 0:52:05.960 that ship. 0:52:06.320 --> 0:52:09.439 Look, her pattern said that she could be come off egotistical, 0:52:09.480 --> 0:52:10.200 and I see that shit. 0:52:10.239 --> 0:52:13.920 I'm like, stop that crazy. I still have to do 0:52:14.360 --> 0:52:15.240 les pattern. 0:52:15.640 --> 0:52:18.520 Yeah, but you know they say they say that we 0:52:18.680 --> 0:52:22.799 choose our parents. I believe that the comically either we 0:52:22.880 --> 0:52:24.799 have something to offer them or they have something to 0:52:24.840 --> 0:52:25.359 offer us. 0:52:26.200 --> 0:52:29.319 You know, So. 0:52:30.840 --> 0:52:32.839 Even when I don't understand my mom at all, I'm 0:52:32.880 --> 0:52:35.360 always like, what is the reason, God is? 0:52:35.400 --> 0:52:40.239 What am I learning here. What am I supposed to teach? No, 0:52:40.400 --> 0:52:42.120 I know, it's for sure. I mean I believe that. 0:52:42.160 --> 0:52:42.399 I bet. 0:52:42.440 --> 0:52:46.799 I think that's like thus of anything that comes into 0:52:46.840 --> 0:52:51.719 your life, right true, you know about the choosing or 0:52:51.760 --> 0:52:55.480 about the lesson. I mean they it's I don't know 0:52:55.520 --> 0:52:59.000 if it's a choice per se, but it's like that 0:52:59.040 --> 0:52:59.600 has just happened. 0:52:59.640 --> 0:53:04.000 That's me to be happens. I agree, I don't know. 0:53:05.760 --> 0:53:08.040 And then there's been all these babies around lately, and 0:53:08.040 --> 0:53:11.719 I'm like to have my mother baby. Oh my god, 0:53:11.760 --> 0:53:16.040 the hike that little baby, oh maa hike. God, I'm like, 0:53:16.320 --> 0:53:18.839 give her to me right now. I know. I saw 0:53:18.880 --> 0:53:21.280 you hiking up that big steep ass hill. I'm like, Jamila, 0:53:21.400 --> 0:53:22.840 is baby fevering it? 0:53:23.239 --> 0:53:26.280 She's literally climbing up the steepest mountain with a baby 0:53:26.320 --> 0:53:26.759 on her hip. 0:53:26.920 --> 0:53:28.759 Well, because I had Lena and her on me. So 0:53:28.800 --> 0:53:32.000 when Lenda got up, I'm like, this is a breeze and. 0:53:32.000 --> 0:53:37.239 She's so cute. We're all she was just like yeah. 0:53:37.520 --> 0:53:40.960 Like I'm like, oh my god, I love her. What 0:53:41.040 --> 0:53:42.680 do you know what you're talking about? But you're talking 0:53:42.680 --> 0:53:45.720 to met little person. 0:53:45.800 --> 0:53:49.480 She was like one and a half. No, She's like one. 0:53:49.520 --> 0:53:51.759 She just want how to walk. She did not want 0:53:51.800 --> 0:53:56.480 to get picked up. Her mom brought the carrier. She refused. 0:53:56.480 --> 0:53:59.520 She was like, put down, put down, just walking, you 0:53:59.520 --> 0:54:01.040 can I her She wasn't doing it. 0:54:01.160 --> 0:54:03.080 No, she want to go on a little high. She 0:54:03.280 --> 0:54:05.360 was like, I can walk here, mom, I'm good. I 0:54:05.360 --> 0:54:06.879 don't care if what's three miles. 0:54:07.239 --> 0:54:09.239 Even when when I was carrying around then we got 0:54:09.440 --> 0:54:11.800 like one stopping point and the girls were all sitting, 0:54:11.880 --> 0:54:15.120 She's like, good, down she walked over there. I'm like, okay, 0:54:15.160 --> 0:54:15.759 bo all right. 0:54:16.880 --> 0:54:18.560 But that did make me want to have another baby. 0:54:18.640 --> 0:54:21.719 But then I'm like I'm so free. 0:54:22.600 --> 0:54:26.040 Yeah right, Like that's gonna put two years of my 0:54:26.120 --> 0:54:27.600 life on pause. 0:54:28.239 --> 0:54:31.280 Like even like if you tuned into our last episode. 0:54:30.880 --> 0:54:38.320 We we had on a psychic and he had mentioned 0:54:38.400 --> 0:54:42.680 to me he asked me about my feminine health, and 0:54:43.000 --> 0:54:45.319 I was like, my feminine health's fine, Like you know, 0:54:45.400 --> 0:54:49.520 periods are My periods are so on point they're literally 0:54:49.560 --> 0:54:50.399 never ever late. 0:54:51.400 --> 0:54:56.960 And you guys, my periods are so on point they 0:54:57.000 --> 0:54:57.919 were never ever late. 0:54:58.480 --> 0:55:01.279 And he ask me about my feminine health and that 0:55:01.320 --> 0:55:04.360 like I needed to start eating cleaner and really like 0:55:04.400 --> 0:55:06.040 be conscious of what I put in my body because 0:55:06.080 --> 0:55:07.400 I carry everything. 0:55:07.040 --> 0:55:08.520 On my body. 0:55:10.080 --> 0:55:13.160 And like I was like, okay, I guess sure, I 0:55:13.200 --> 0:55:14.840 mean stress on the body. 0:55:14.880 --> 0:55:18.440 That makes sense, that's kind of general. But then like 0:55:18.480 --> 0:55:19.640 the last we. 0:55:19.960 --> 0:55:24.760 Did that episode, God, like before Coachella, so like five 0:55:24.800 --> 0:55:28.200 four weeks ago, maybe longer four weeks ago, four weeks ago, 0:55:28.280 --> 0:55:28.960 hotel a month. 0:55:29.800 --> 0:55:34.680 It was April fourteenth, and it's May seventh. Stop. Yeah, 0:55:34.840 --> 0:55:36.280 I can't even function. 0:55:37.640 --> 0:55:41.000 So but over that time, over that period of time, 0:55:41.080 --> 0:55:42.959 like I've been feeling like my body hurts. 0:55:43.040 --> 0:55:46.120 Everything I eat, it's irritates my body. 0:55:46.160 --> 0:55:49.200 And then like my period didn't come, and I was like, 0:55:49.280 --> 0:55:50.799 oh my god, what was my period not coming? 0:55:51.239 --> 0:55:52.719 Then I was like two days late, and then I 0:55:52.760 --> 0:55:54.040 was like three days late, and then I was like, 0:55:54.120 --> 0:55:56.200 oh my god, I'm pregnant. Fuck, I'm pregnant. Oh my god. 0:55:56.239 --> 0:55:57.279 I was like, you're gonna calm down. 0:55:58.480 --> 0:56:01.040 I'm not pregnant, guys. But the fact that he even 0:56:01.080 --> 0:56:03.279 said mentioned my feminine health and then that happened kind 0:56:03.280 --> 0:56:07.520 of freaked me out. But that just the idea of 0:56:07.520 --> 0:56:10.680 thinking that I could be pregnant. I was like, please God, No, 0:56:10.800 --> 0:56:12.080 I'm not writing to please. 0:56:13.239 --> 0:56:14.560 I don't want to do that. 0:56:15.840 --> 0:56:17.719 I don't what I could do but should have a 0:56:17.719 --> 0:56:21.080 baby right now, I'm telling you that I don't want 0:56:21.120 --> 0:56:21.560 to do that. 0:56:21.760 --> 0:56:23.400 Like it he's so scary. 0:56:23.800 --> 0:56:27.640 I mean, I don't know what IVD says to kick in. 0:56:29.719 --> 0:56:32.960 No, I can't really afford a kid right now, I mean, 0:56:34.440 --> 0:56:34.960 and I don't know. 0:56:35.000 --> 0:56:37.799 I mean, I don't know. This was just too much 0:56:37.840 --> 0:56:38.359 to think about. 0:56:38.400 --> 0:56:40.279 I can't even wrap my head around it fully because 0:56:40.280 --> 0:56:42.719 I mean not even really, Like I'm not even with 0:56:42.840 --> 0:56:46.120 the person that I would be having a baby. So 0:56:46.280 --> 0:56:51.000 the answer is no, The answer is no. But that 0:56:51.120 --> 0:56:53.040 made me so scared. I was like, oh my god, no, 0:56:53.280 --> 0:56:53.560 my god. 0:56:53.600 --> 0:56:55.319 This is like if I had a baby with this person, 0:56:55.600 --> 0:56:57.319 this person is my life forever. So that's the thing 0:56:57.320 --> 0:56:57.960 I want. 0:56:57.800 --> 0:57:01.239 Like in that way, in that way as a friend, yes, 0:57:01.440 --> 0:57:07.000 like I love this person, but like in that way, that's. 0:57:05.560 --> 0:57:08.440 A whole different dynamic, you know, like, oh. 0:57:09.320 --> 0:57:14.439 Yeah, that's when you that's when you're like you start 0:57:14.520 --> 0:57:17.400 to realize I don't know now more than before, Like 0:57:18.800 --> 0:57:24.120 having a baby with someone is a deep, deep tie permanently, 0:57:24.200 --> 0:57:26.520 you know, Like it now makes me rethink do I 0:57:26.560 --> 0:57:27.320 really let people? 0:57:27.480 --> 0:57:29.680 Like can I like you start to just look deeper 0:57:29.720 --> 0:57:32.520 into the things you usually don't want to see and 0:57:32.640 --> 0:57:37.360 there can't be ignored once Like the thought of a baby. 0:57:36.760 --> 0:57:40.760 Is the thing you know, Well, that's not at words true. 0:57:40.760 --> 0:57:42.320 People would be waiting until the baby come. 0:57:42.440 --> 0:57:44.960 People would be making that mistake over and over and 0:57:45.000 --> 0:57:47.960 over again, like they don't have other children, you know 0:57:48.000 --> 0:57:52.080 what I mean, Like like they haven't gone down this 0:57:52.120 --> 0:57:54.920 path before with someone that wasn't they shouldn't have had 0:57:54.960 --> 0:57:56.200 a baby, and shit happens. 0:57:56.240 --> 0:57:57.960 I guess it's one of two ways, like I've done. 0:57:57.800 --> 0:58:02.160 It before, fucking or like hell no, And I'm like, eh, 0:58:02.920 --> 0:58:05.360 you know you said what No, You're crazy, You're crazy, 0:58:05.360 --> 0:58:08.240 showponistic slight shammy, asshole. 0:58:08.320 --> 0:58:12.000 It's over. Yeah, do I want to give you my DNA? 0:58:12.080 --> 0:58:13.080 Do you deserve my DNA? 0:58:13.240 --> 0:58:13.400 Right? 0:58:14.280 --> 0:58:22.720 What are your thoughts on deserve these genes? And very interesting? 0:58:22.840 --> 0:58:25.880 Oh my god, okay, so what we're gonna say? 0:58:26.200 --> 0:58:29.360 Uh, I'm just I was gonna say, I'm so happy 0:58:29.440 --> 0:58:32.280 to be a monkst Like the hype reminded me just 0:58:32.360 --> 0:58:34.640 how happy to be a monk's? Like I don't know, 0:58:34.760 --> 0:58:39.000 like normal parents, like normal people parents like have regular 0:58:39.160 --> 0:58:41.280 conversations and like realistic. 0:58:41.520 --> 0:58:44.120 I mean, I don't know, it just was so it 0:58:44.240 --> 0:58:46.880 was just so nice. 0:58:47.040 --> 0:58:51.560 You know, we're just having open minded fun still you know, 0:58:51.760 --> 0:58:53.520 drinking like it was just good. 0:58:53.600 --> 0:58:57.000 I'm happy, Like I'm like we really we really like 0:58:58.000 --> 0:59:00.680 attracted our crew. Yeah, you know. 0:59:00.920 --> 0:59:06.440 Yeah, but like building a village like that I did 0:59:06.560 --> 0:59:08.800 was never expected to build. Like you think of village, 0:59:08.800 --> 0:59:10.240 you think of people you already know they're in your 0:59:10.280 --> 0:59:14.400 friends circle, not like essentially strangers that are becoming part 0:59:14.400 --> 0:59:18.560 of friends friends. Yeah, and yeah, it's so true that 0:59:18.760 --> 0:59:19.440 because you know, I. 0:59:19.400 --> 0:59:20.560 Was kind of nervous the meet up. 0:59:20.600 --> 0:59:22.240 I'm like, I don't know, like I don't know, like 0:59:22.280 --> 0:59:24.360 at this point we've done a few but like you 0:59:24.480 --> 0:59:26.800 just never know, you know, And like it was just 0:59:26.840 --> 0:59:28.320 like you never know what like the vibe is going 0:59:28.360 --> 0:59:30.680 to be, especially on like a hike, it's more isolated. 0:59:30.760 --> 0:59:33.200 It's not like a situation where like you know, you're 0:59:33.240 --> 0:59:34.200 in a party situation. 0:59:34.400 --> 0:59:37.840 Music, right, They're always good though, we always have fun. 0:59:38.040 --> 0:59:40.240 Yeah, but yeah, you know what you mean, And like. 0:59:40.480 --> 0:59:42.400 Everyone just kind of meshed together, and so I was 0:59:42.480 --> 0:59:44.640 I was really grateful that I had to spend. 0:59:44.400 --> 0:59:49.920 Time with everyone that came. We're definitely gonna do more. Yeah, 0:59:49.960 --> 0:59:54.640 for sure, they won't all be secrets, but maybe if 0:59:54.640 --> 1:00:01.120 you don't know, you know. Wow. Wow, we have some 1:00:01.160 --> 1:00:02.720 advice questions. We have an. 1:00:02.600 --> 1:00:06.360 Advice question an anonymous. Well, it doesn't say anonymous, but 1:00:06.360 --> 1:00:08.000 we won't keep it. We'll just keep her anonymous just 1:00:08.040 --> 1:00:12.720 because it's unclear. Hey, ladies, just wanted to reach out 1:00:12.720 --> 1:00:14.920 for some advice on dating. I've been separated from the 1:00:14.920 --> 1:00:16.600 father of my two kids for a year and a 1:00:16.680 --> 1:00:19.320 half and being together for ten. After being together for 1:00:19.360 --> 1:00:22.680 ten years, we do not have a set schedule for 1:00:22.720 --> 1:00:24.960 when he has the kids, other than he takes our 1:00:25.000 --> 1:00:27.520 eldest to school and keeps our daughter while I'm at work. 1:00:28.040 --> 1:00:30.720 I pick them up each evening at six pm. Their 1:00:30.800 --> 1:00:33.800 dad does not often keep the kids overnight, which has 1:00:33.840 --> 1:00:36.400 worked out fine as I had not been actively dating. 1:00:36.880 --> 1:00:39.000 Now I'm seeing this guy who does not have kids 1:00:39.000 --> 1:00:41.400 and would like to see him more often. I've been 1:00:41.440 --> 1:00:43.680 starbborn about giving him more time until I felt he 1:00:43.760 --> 1:00:45.880 was worth it. How do you go about dating and 1:00:45.920 --> 1:00:48.080 not feeling the mom guilt? I was meeting up with 1:00:48.120 --> 1:00:50.640 this guy once a week, sometimes twice, but he's expressed 1:00:50.640 --> 1:00:52.959 he would like more time. I don't have a peer 1:00:53.000 --> 1:00:55.280 in the situation or someone who's been in the scenario 1:00:55.360 --> 1:00:59.480 that I can ask for advice, a figure you could relate. 1:01:00.560 --> 1:01:01.000 That's it. 1:01:02.360 --> 1:01:04.160 I think I can't say her name because it says 1:01:04.160 --> 1:01:07.640 a name or anonymous since she got her name Danica. Okay, 1:01:07.680 --> 1:01:10.960 So for Danica, I have the master plan. 1:01:11.560 --> 1:01:17.680 So Danica, Jamila has concocted the perfect co parenting schedule. 1:01:18.240 --> 1:01:21.920 Schedules by Jamila. Schedules are from co Parenting Schedules by Mila. 1:01:22.440 --> 1:01:25.320 You need more details, they'll be nine ninety nine email 1:01:26.280 --> 1:01:28.000 I saw with shit online. 1:01:28.320 --> 1:01:30.560 I can teach you have a parenting package one. There's 1:01:30.600 --> 1:01:34.040 the gold standard we have price. I can skype coach 1:01:34.080 --> 1:01:40.000 you on co parenting. I think that dating while being 1:01:40.000 --> 1:01:43.680 a mom, the mom gilt, literally does it just exists 1:01:43.800 --> 1:01:45.440 the success. You have to just get over it. 1:01:45.680 --> 1:01:47.560 Yeah, you have to like talk yourself out of it 1:01:48.080 --> 1:01:53.200 and also be fair balance. But I'm my go to 1:01:53.320 --> 1:01:59.360 schedule I coach everyone I know is Monday Tuesday. Let's say, 1:01:59.360 --> 1:02:05.000 for instance, you Wednesday, Thursday, baby Daddy, Friday, Saturday. 1:02:04.440 --> 1:02:08.760 Sunday you again, so you get a full weekend again. 1:02:08.840 --> 1:02:13.919 So Monday Tuesday would be baby daddy, Wednesday, Thursday would 1:02:13.960 --> 1:02:14.200 be you. 1:02:14.600 --> 1:02:18.080 Friday, Saturday Sunday baby daddy again. So then you get 1:02:18.080 --> 1:02:18.720 your weekend off. 1:02:18.920 --> 1:02:22.160 Yeah, so everybody gets every day alternate weeks and it's 1:02:22.200 --> 1:02:24.000 exactly split time. 1:02:25.400 --> 1:02:27.080 I mean, it depends how cool you are. 1:02:27.120 --> 1:02:29.400 If there's something here or there, maybe pick them up 1:02:29.400 --> 1:02:31.439 for that, dropping back off. There's a birthday party, maybe 1:02:31.520 --> 1:02:34.480 we swap because it's more convenient we have something. But 1:02:34.520 --> 1:02:37.120 for the most part, I feel like that's fair. And 1:02:37.240 --> 1:02:39.560 sometimes Erica's complaint was that she felt like some week 1:02:39.640 --> 1:02:41.560 she didn't have her at all, only the two days, 1:02:41.920 --> 1:02:44.880 but then the very next week you have, you have, 1:02:45.280 --> 1:02:45.680 you have this. 1:02:45.840 --> 1:02:48.360 I think it's just because I'm so used to having 1:02:48.360 --> 1:02:50.840 her all the time that this suddenly only having her 1:02:50.880 --> 1:02:55.360 fifty percent at the time felt like guilty. Yeah I 1:02:55.360 --> 1:02:57.960 felt guilty. It felt drastic. But that and then I 1:02:57.960 --> 1:03:00.000 also felt like, am I bouncing her around too much? 1:03:00.120 --> 1:03:01.840 She okay? And it's like, well, no, she needs both 1:03:01.880 --> 1:03:02.840 parents and we're not together. 1:03:03.160 --> 1:03:05.360 Yeah, that's that's that's a thing, like I don't want 1:03:05.400 --> 1:03:08.160 to feel like you're I mean, I know, moms, you know, 1:03:08.800 --> 1:03:10.680 and a lot of times honestly, I'll go over there, 1:03:10.760 --> 1:03:13.680 but like if I feel like I haven't, it feels like. 1:03:13.600 --> 1:03:16.760 I miss her. I'm like, I'm coming over. You know, 1:03:16.920 --> 1:03:18.360 I'll play and chill. 1:03:18.480 --> 1:03:22.320 But I think it is fair to think like your 1:03:22.520 --> 1:03:25.280 your other parents should have equal as much time with 1:03:25.320 --> 1:03:27.280 you as I do. You know, I think it's important. 1:03:27.360 --> 1:03:30.640 So men, don't get it fucked up. We did go 1:03:30.720 --> 1:03:33.240 half on this. This is your responsibility. It cannot keep 1:03:33.360 --> 1:03:35.840 just falling on me. And you know that's for time, 1:03:35.920 --> 1:03:38.720 and that's for a routine too, because I see like, oh, 1:03:38.720 --> 1:03:40.560 I always take her to school, always pick her up, Like, no, 1:03:40.680 --> 1:03:42.440 you need to be used to doing the same duties 1:03:42.480 --> 1:03:45.000 I do. It needs to be not even you know. 1:03:46.560 --> 1:03:51.200 So that's my suggestion on the co parenting schedule. Yeah, 1:03:51.280 --> 1:03:53.480 and hopefully he's open to it, you know. 1:03:53.880 --> 1:03:55.920 And honestly, if it's somebody that you like and you 1:03:55.960 --> 1:03:57.960 really feel like it's worth it, then you you know, 1:03:58.160 --> 1:03:58.640 that's the way. 1:03:58.640 --> 1:04:00.480 That's an easier way to make and. 1:04:00.480 --> 1:04:03.200 You have to because it's really it's gonna be. It's 1:04:03.920 --> 1:04:08.640 it's really impossible to like actually explore a relationship in 1:04:08.640 --> 1:04:11.680 a real way without some sort of routine or some 1:04:11.360 --> 1:04:12.520 type of schedule. 1:04:13.120 --> 1:04:15.240 It's like it doesn't have to be the perfect schedule. 1:04:15.320 --> 1:04:17.480 But like, yeah, like how are you really going to 1:04:17.520 --> 1:04:21.880 ever really feelly get to know someone get in that way? 1:04:22.040 --> 1:04:23.720 I mean, of course, now you have a child, and 1:04:23.760 --> 1:04:26.120 so it's different, and eventually you'll be able to know 1:04:26.160 --> 1:04:30.120 how to deal with every dynamic and eventually you'll start incorporating, 1:04:30.400 --> 1:04:38.840 you know, you know, eventually you'll start incorporating. Hopefully, if 1:04:38.840 --> 1:04:40.480 you start dating that guy and becomes serious, you can 1:04:40.520 --> 1:04:42.320 start incorporate him to enter your child's life. So it's 1:04:42.360 --> 1:04:44.640 don't you know you don't have to spend the separate 1:04:44.800 --> 1:04:47.320 times alone, you know what I mean? And I get 1:04:47.360 --> 1:04:49.560 you want your alone time, alone time, but like also 1:04:49.720 --> 1:04:50.480 just everyday life. 1:04:50.480 --> 1:04:53.880 Shit, oh that's another thing that we know, Like that Erica, 1:04:55.000 --> 1:04:57.800 she was feeling with me, like obviously you want to 1:04:58.000 --> 1:05:00.200 have boundaries about who you bring around your kid because 1:05:00.200 --> 1:05:02.720 everybody's not gonna stay and make sure there's sorrow enough. 1:05:02.720 --> 1:05:06.600 But also how long do you wait three months? Six months? 1:05:06.640 --> 1:05:09.040 Because on the other hand, especially for someone who does 1:05:09.080 --> 1:05:12.360 not have kids, maybe not know you get to know 1:05:12.400 --> 1:05:14.000 you as a mom, and that's a huge part of 1:05:14.000 --> 1:05:16.120 who you are. So imagine you get really serious and 1:05:16.160 --> 1:05:18.200 then you start bringing a whole nother person into the 1:05:18.200 --> 1:05:20.560 picture and they're like, oh wait, hold up. 1:05:20.400 --> 1:05:23.000 It's not about me or what you have to this 1:05:23.040 --> 1:05:24.720 is your priority. This you know what I'm saying. It's 1:05:24.720 --> 1:05:26.000 a different dynamic, and these are. 1:05:25.880 --> 1:05:27.760 Things everybody should be well bere ubed, and we know 1:05:27.800 --> 1:05:28.520 what we're getting into. 1:05:30.200 --> 1:05:32.680 It's true. I mean, I know a lot of people 1:05:32.760 --> 1:05:33.800 have different views on that. 1:05:34.160 --> 1:05:36.400 I know, Like I know people that like who will 1:05:36.480 --> 1:05:38.880 never introduce their child to Like we'll date someone for 1:05:38.960 --> 1:05:40.840 like four years, Well they're not gonna get married. 1:05:41.760 --> 1:05:42.680 I don't know, maybe they. 1:05:42.840 --> 1:05:44.320 I mean honestly, at this point in my life, I 1:05:44.360 --> 1:05:46.320 never thought I would be so I feel I don't know, 1:05:46.400 --> 1:05:47.480 maybe I'll come out of. 1:05:47.400 --> 1:05:48.360 It, but I feel like. 1:05:50.320 --> 1:05:54.880 I'm dating for long terminus because I don't want to 1:05:54.880 --> 1:05:58.280 donna awaye energy on shit that's not good enough to 1:05:58.320 --> 1:05:58.840 be long term. 1:05:59.520 --> 1:05:59.680 You know. 1:06:00.280 --> 1:06:03.360 I've seen a lot of years just fucking around, fucking 1:06:03.400 --> 1:06:05.480 around like, don't care what it's gonna. 1:06:05.240 --> 1:06:08.520 Happen, it doesn't matter, let it flow, you know. And 1:06:08.760 --> 1:06:11.480 I get a lot of friends that way. And it's 1:06:11.480 --> 1:06:19.360 not that I'm a you Okay, well we're almost dead. 1:06:19.400 --> 1:06:23.440 We're coming out there, Okay, we're coming out. Yeah, I 1:06:23.520 --> 1:06:25.680 feel you. I still feel like I'm in a space 1:06:25.800 --> 1:06:27.840 now I am. I don't know. I don't I don't 1:06:27.840 --> 1:06:29.880 know if I'm dating for long term yet, Like I I. 1:06:31.880 --> 1:06:35.880 Just of course I want a long term person eventually. 1:06:36.280 --> 1:06:39.320 That's the goal, if I guess, if there's a goal, 1:06:39.440 --> 1:06:45.600 if there is one. But I think I'm just I'm 1:06:45.600 --> 1:06:48.440 trying to fere who I am out who it is 1:06:48.560 --> 1:06:48.800 that I. 1:06:48.880 --> 1:06:49.959 Am, because. 1:06:52.160 --> 1:06:54.440 Maybe maybe because of that, because I don't want to 1:06:54.560 --> 1:06:58.240 enter into something else that's just like a waste of 1:06:58.320 --> 1:07:00.840 time because we're both not I'm not I'm not really 1:07:01.200 --> 1:07:03.760 fully I haven't really fully invested in who I am 1:07:03.800 --> 1:07:05.200 and who I am like myself. 1:07:05.360 --> 1:07:08.560 Yeah, And there's that, and I'm realizing how much you can't. 1:07:09.080 --> 1:07:11.720 You will never really have a successful relationship if you 1:07:11.720 --> 1:07:12.920 don't really delve into who you. 1:07:12.960 --> 1:07:14.800 Are so that I can check myself. I mean, not 1:07:14.920 --> 1:07:17.479 waste my time because there's so much work that I wish. 1:07:17.520 --> 1:07:19.840 I not wish everything happens for a reason. But like 1:07:20.200 --> 1:07:24.400 the person that I am right now wouldn't have tolerated 1:07:24.520 --> 1:07:26.920 the shit that I tolerated in my last relationship or 1:07:26.960 --> 1:07:29.200 in the relationship before that, but really in that long 1:07:29.320 --> 1:07:30.840 term relationship, it's. 1:07:30.720 --> 1:07:34.000 Really like believing in knowing what you deserve. It's coming 1:07:34.080 --> 1:07:34.840 into that, you know. 1:07:35.120 --> 1:07:37.720 And so I'm just beginning to explore all the things 1:07:37.760 --> 1:07:40.560 that I ignored, and I just want to make sure 1:07:40.600 --> 1:07:44.160 that before I get into another relationship, like I know 1:07:44.320 --> 1:07:46.720 who I am, so that I never will feel like 1:07:46.960 --> 1:07:48.360 I compromise myself. 1:07:48.640 --> 1:07:51.800 Yes, no, yes, compromising myself. That's a liter a lot 1:07:51.840 --> 1:07:52.000 of that. 1:07:52.640 --> 1:07:56.120 Wow, that's a big that's a big one. And you 1:07:56.240 --> 1:07:57.600 have to really be in tune with who you are 1:07:57.720 --> 1:07:59.160 to know when you're being compromised. 1:07:59.320 --> 1:08:01.040 And it's not to say like I know, there's not 1:08:01.120 --> 1:08:04.040 this moment where it's like, Okay, I've finally reached enlightenment. 1:08:05.080 --> 1:08:11.560 Now I'm ready. The shop is open. The work guys, 1:08:12.240 --> 1:08:14.880 I'm ready. Everyone's married. 1:08:17.400 --> 1:08:32.960 I'm only accepting five star restaurants, five star credit right right, Okay, but. 1:08:35.439 --> 1:08:42.320 I forgot the work is heavy. I don't what are 1:08:42.320 --> 1:08:46.439 we talking about. I hate to join two times and 1:08:46.479 --> 1:08:47.200 I'm lost. 1:08:50.000 --> 1:08:52.000 Well, I was just talking about working on myself before 1:08:52.000 --> 1:08:53.040 you get into another relationships. 1:08:53.040 --> 1:08:54.880 You said you were like thinking you're you don't want 1:08:54.920 --> 1:08:57.280 to waste your time. You're looking for something long term. 1:08:57.240 --> 1:09:01.760 You're not why, you know, even the celibacy, I still 1:09:01.840 --> 1:09:02.960 fuck it in so many other ways. 1:09:03.040 --> 1:09:04.800 I'm like, oh girl, I get so much work to do. 1:09:05.400 --> 1:09:09.400 You can't have sex, you can't do shit. They just said, like, what, 1:09:09.479 --> 1:09:10.920 don't be hard on yourself if you just take it 1:09:11.040 --> 1:09:12.120 one day at a time. 1:09:12.320 --> 1:09:15.040 You know, like, if you try to like accomplish everything 1:09:15.080 --> 1:09:18.200 at once, you'll always come up short. You'll always feel 1:09:18.240 --> 1:09:21.320 like you fail, you know, because it's not realistic and. 1:09:21.360 --> 1:09:25.400 It's just not Yeah, this is not for some people. 1:09:25.479 --> 1:09:27.120 It is for the people that are just so I 1:09:27.160 --> 1:09:31.360 don't know. It's so disciplined, but maybe not happy. You know, 1:09:31.640 --> 1:09:33.840 like sometimes you have in order to learn, you have 1:09:33.960 --> 1:09:35.280 to take baby steps. So if you do it all 1:09:35.320 --> 1:09:36.759 at once, I feel like it didn't stick. 1:09:37.479 --> 1:09:40.680 I need this shit to stick. Yeah, it's true. You know, 1:09:40.760 --> 1:09:42.519 you might have to learn a few more lessons before 1:09:42.600 --> 1:09:47.760 some certain thingstick. Yeah, Okay, we have another advice question. 1:09:47.920 --> 1:09:51.000 You do you do? Hey, ladies, I'm a bit stuck 1:09:51.080 --> 1:09:53.040 and I don't have any mom friends to turn to. 1:09:53.600 --> 1:09:55.880 I was telling my guy friend how my younger friends 1:09:55.960 --> 1:09:58.759 are outliving life doing coke, and I made a comment 1:09:58.800 --> 1:10:01.840 on how I miss those days. We then went into 1:10:01.880 --> 1:10:04.200 a deep conversation about going out and having fun like 1:10:04.280 --> 1:10:06.439 we used to. I explained to him that I'm not 1:10:06.560 --> 1:10:08.400 in a place where I have someone who is willing 1:10:08.439 --> 1:10:10.559 to watch my daughter without it being a big deal, 1:10:10.920 --> 1:10:13.320 and her dad isn't in a stable environment for me 1:10:13.400 --> 1:10:15.439 to drop her off with him, so I'm kind of 1:10:15.520 --> 1:10:17.760 stuck at home with her. He told me these were 1:10:17.840 --> 1:10:20.080 excuses and I could make a way if I really 1:10:20.120 --> 1:10:22.639 wanted to. I shugged it off because I know he's 1:10:22.720 --> 1:10:25.840 kind of right. Then the conversation kind of turned because 1:10:25.840 --> 1:10:28.680 I expressed that I felt like I've lost myself when 1:10:28.680 --> 1:10:30.920 I became a mother, and he said, no, you gave 1:10:31.000 --> 1:10:31.719 up on yourself. 1:10:32.040 --> 1:10:35.280 Harsh. It hurt and made me second guess myself a bit. 1:10:35.439 --> 1:10:37.679 Is this normal? Is this part of early motherhood? 1:10:37.800 --> 1:10:39.680 Am I just using my daughter as an excuse to 1:10:39.800 --> 1:10:41.400 no longer be involved with people? 1:10:43.920 --> 1:10:43.960 No? 1:10:45.120 --> 1:10:49.200 No, this is motherhood. Yeah, this was called year one, 1:10:49.400 --> 1:10:50.160 it's called her two. 1:10:50.320 --> 1:10:50.519 Yeah. 1:10:50.680 --> 1:10:52.880 And as I told him'm like, you're still in an 1:10:52.920 --> 1:10:55.479 early stage. And I said, he's also a man. I 1:10:55.520 --> 1:10:56.080 don't know if he has. 1:10:56.120 --> 1:10:57.320 Kids or not, but he's a man. 1:10:57.680 --> 1:11:01.000 He doesn't really realize like literally the first two years 1:11:01.640 --> 1:11:07.200 as a sacrifice, Like you're like with your baby basically 1:11:07.280 --> 1:11:10.439 twenty for seven for at least the time, it's obviously 1:11:10.479 --> 1:11:12.920 you're pregnant. You can't really do shit, even though I'm 1:11:13.000 --> 1:11:14.599 not saying you have to, like you drawn to do shit. 1:11:14.680 --> 1:11:20.040 But also the until the baby's year, it's almost like 1:11:20.080 --> 1:11:24.479 in two years, you know, and he will never really 1:11:24.600 --> 1:11:27.240 understand that, So he's he's he's not really understanding the 1:11:27.680 --> 1:11:28.320 full picture. 1:11:28.439 --> 1:11:30.200 It gave up on yourself. 1:11:30.439 --> 1:11:32.720 Like first of all, that's that's kind of harsh, like 1:11:32.880 --> 1:11:36.680 you can fall back, calm down. First of all, I 1:11:36.760 --> 1:11:38.960 don't know, like like what he's what you know? 1:11:39.720 --> 1:11:42.280 I don't. I'm sure there's two side survey story, but 1:11:42.720 --> 1:11:46.240 I'm like, are you like wearing a paper bag every day? 1:11:46.560 --> 1:11:49.040 I'm not getting out, not doing shit? What do you 1:11:49.120 --> 1:11:53.160 mean you gave for yourself? But I do think it's 1:11:53.200 --> 1:12:00.439 important that you try and stay like cute some times 1:12:00.680 --> 1:12:03.400 because I did fell off and I like those first 1:12:04.640 --> 1:12:07.640 like that first year, like I'm like, I'm not going 1:12:07.720 --> 1:12:08.439 to just go anywhere. 1:12:09.479 --> 1:12:11.439 But I don't know, I don't think it's just a 1:12:11.520 --> 1:12:12.000 fall off. 1:12:12.040 --> 1:12:14.920 It's like you're literally brought a human into the world, 1:12:15.560 --> 1:12:19.240 like you are after you're like trying to and who needs. 1:12:19.000 --> 1:12:20.200 You, you know what I mean? 1:12:20.920 --> 1:12:26.200 Like you specifically the mom so like I feel and 1:12:26.280 --> 1:12:29.880 then and you and you literally just went through a transformation. 1:12:30.439 --> 1:12:35.960 Your body just like released so many like vitamins and 1:12:36.120 --> 1:12:39.160 so many nutrients all at once, Like you're feeling detached 1:12:39.200 --> 1:12:41.320 from something that just came out of your body. 1:12:41.360 --> 1:12:45.000 You want to spend time. It's so many confusing feelings. 1:12:45.640 --> 1:12:46.480 It's confusion. 1:12:46.560 --> 1:12:51.840 It's almost it's like loss, confusion, joy, like pain, happiness, 1:12:52.800 --> 1:12:57.080 tell like extreme tiredness, regret, joy again, Like it's. 1:12:57.080 --> 1:13:03.320 Just like so many things. But it's like yeah, like 1:13:03.600 --> 1:13:05.680 it's a journey enlightenment. 1:13:05.400 --> 1:13:07.600 Like always getting to know this, Like that's another thing 1:13:07.640 --> 1:13:10.160 people don't realize, Like you're literally getting. 1:13:09.960 --> 1:13:11.760 To know a human that doesn't talk. 1:13:12.160 --> 1:13:15.519 Yeah, like a sorry that I'm like, I'm lost myself. 1:13:15.560 --> 1:13:18.880 I'm over here, just you know, creating you raising a human? 1:13:19.160 --> 1:13:23.160 Right, what are you doing? And I told her like 1:13:23.479 --> 1:13:29.880 when you guys, when you're ready, you'll be ready. 1:13:29.960 --> 1:13:31.760 You'll know, you know, when it's a time for you 1:13:31.840 --> 1:13:35.800 to like you feel comfortable, not give you know, with 1:13:35.880 --> 1:13:38.759 who you have to watch your kid, its plan, everything 1:13:38.840 --> 1:13:41.400 will happen. You know, be conscious of who you are 1:13:41.520 --> 1:13:42.920 before and don't. 1:13:42.760 --> 1:13:43.240 Recite of that. 1:13:43.360 --> 1:13:44.600 But I don't know how old you are, don't know 1:13:44.640 --> 1:13:47.960 how old your friends are. Like I was one of 1:13:48.000 --> 1:13:51.280 the first people with a baby, and you know, it 1:13:51.439 --> 1:13:54.000 is like there is a separation, initially because I have 1:13:54.080 --> 1:13:56.560 shits a different thing than you have to do. But 1:13:56.680 --> 1:13:59.479 also you know, kids can go places, and now I 1:13:59.520 --> 1:14:02.080 think a lot of moms forget that, like that baby 1:14:02.200 --> 1:14:04.160 is small, put a cute after on and let's go. 1:14:04.400 --> 1:14:09.360 Okay, Lena is going everywhere, like to the dinners as. 1:14:10.040 --> 1:14:11.880 I think a lot of moms do think they think 1:14:11.920 --> 1:14:14.680 it's like too much of a burden, or that it's 1:14:14.920 --> 1:14:18.519 gonna the child's gonna be like a nuisance to someone, 1:14:19.080 --> 1:14:19.759 or however you're. 1:14:19.600 --> 1:14:20.200 Gonna look at me. 1:14:20.320 --> 1:14:21.920 Yeah, I literally take a lindit at all the like 1:14:22.160 --> 1:14:24.200 pool parties at hotels because I know they can't really 1:14:24.240 --> 1:14:25.519 say shit because it's a pool. 1:14:25.920 --> 1:14:29.240 You know, like I know we're going. You know, it's 1:14:29.320 --> 1:14:33.960 just a thing, does it? You can you can do both. 1:14:34.040 --> 1:14:36.040 You know, you can spend time with your kid and 1:14:36.160 --> 1:14:40.880 still get out I just think it's finding a balance 1:14:40.920 --> 1:14:43.160 and finding what it feels right for you. And you know, 1:14:43.200 --> 1:14:45.400 you're getting more mature. Sometimes you don't want to deal 1:14:45.439 --> 1:14:48.280 with people. Oh't got time. You kind of get you 1:14:48.360 --> 1:14:50.320 kind of see what's real and what's not too. I 1:14:50.360 --> 1:14:53.320 think there's a bit of that, and there's a question 1:14:53.479 --> 1:14:55.200 sometimes who knows what? I don't know the relationship with 1:14:55.240 --> 1:14:57.599 this with the dad or like you said, he can't 1:14:57.640 --> 1:14:59.599 really he's not really contributing time wise. 1:15:00.000 --> 1:15:00.320 I don't know. 1:15:00.400 --> 1:15:02.479 How's your relationship. Can you babysit at your house? How 1:15:02.479 --> 1:15:03.160 do you feel about that? 1:15:03.360 --> 1:15:03.720 I don't know. 1:15:03.920 --> 1:15:05.600 I don't know where your real relationship is at. But 1:15:06.880 --> 1:15:10.680 there's probably a lot of feelings towards that. 1:15:10.960 --> 1:15:13.360 You know, there's so many you're dealing with a lot 1:15:13.400 --> 1:15:13.679 of things. 1:15:13.760 --> 1:15:16.639 Yeah, there's so many things to consider. So yeah, don't 1:15:16.680 --> 1:15:21.759 don't judge yourself so harshly. And definitely that guy doesn't 1:15:21.840 --> 1:15:22.200 know shit? 1:15:31.400 --> 1:15:35.599 Is that to answer? Yeah? That was all right? You guys, 1:15:35.640 --> 1:15:40.439 Well it's late, I'm tired, our kids have gone crazy. 1:15:40.600 --> 1:15:41.559 Oh Benny, are they come? 1:15:41.840 --> 1:15:46.439 And okay, yeah, it's like give you at the him, like, okay, 1:15:46.640 --> 1:15:49.680 this is a rap. Happy Mother's Day. To all the 1:15:49.800 --> 1:15:52.599 moms out there, We hope you have a great day. 1:15:52.680 --> 1:15:56.040 We hope all your baby daddies out. No cash that 1:15:56.240 --> 1:16:00.599 check on you, cash out, cash out, cash out? Where 1:16:00.680 --> 1:16:03.400 the cash gonna hash at you right that? You know, 1:16:03.720 --> 1:16:06.080 that would be so appreciated. That would be like a 1:16:06.160 --> 1:16:07.360 really sweet gesture. 1:16:07.439 --> 1:16:08.720 What should I like plant that seed? Like? 1:16:08.760 --> 1:16:11.560 It would be really great on Modnesday send me a 1:16:11.640 --> 1:16:13.479 cash out. I don't not telling you to do it 1:16:13.600 --> 1:16:16.120 right now on Monday. I'm just I'm not gonna even 1:16:16.200 --> 1:16:19.599 tell you again. I'm just gonna see it too. I'm 1:16:19.640 --> 1:16:21.040 just gonna say it would be nice. It would be 1:16:21.160 --> 1:16:22.720 nice if you're wondering if we wanted to give me 1:16:22.840 --> 1:16:24.439 something cash catch. 1:16:26.840 --> 1:16:30.759 Okay, Well, see you guys later, See you guys next. 1:16:30.640 --> 1:16:41.760 Week starting say. 1:16:52.680 --> 1:16:55.519 Where you will see the walls. 1:16:56.800 --> 1:17:12.200 FA you, sir, Ben Buh