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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: do this one right here, right now, and you never know,

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Speaker 1: it could be yours. It could be yours. Buckle up

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Speaker 1: it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. He won't let

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Speaker 1: me lead. Before I get into this letter, let me say,

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Speaker 1: if you have any young kids with you, you don't

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Speaker 1: want them to hear this letter. Okay, that's my disclaimer

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Speaker 1: for this letter. Again. The subject is he won't let

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Speaker 1: me lead. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty something married

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Speaker 1: female and I know that my husband cheated on me

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Speaker 1: for years, and I finally gave him an ultimatum at

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Speaker 1: the end of January. We talked and both said we

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Speaker 1: didn't want to and our marriage, so we decided to

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Speaker 1: do things a little differently so he wouldn't get bored

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Speaker 1: the sex, and she'd been asking to involve me in

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Speaker 1: their sex capades. I was drawn to her sexy lips

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Speaker 1: and cute little hips, so I initiated the first intimate

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Speaker 1: act with her. It was just me and her, and

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Speaker 1: we let my husband watch. After that night, things immediately

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Speaker 1: Two weeks later, we invited her over for the weekend

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Speaker 1: while our children were with my parents. Since it was

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Speaker 1: We started off the weekend like we were at a resort.

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Speaker 1: I got a charcuterie board and caviare and we put

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Speaker 1: to me whispering to each other intimately, and when he

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Speaker 1: she decided to go home, and my husband got upset

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Speaker 1: with me. I've tried calling her to fix things and

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Speaker 1: she's not returning my calls. Have they shut me out?

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Speaker 1: Is he really really mad because I tried to lead

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Speaker 1: or because he wants this other chick? I think all

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Speaker 1: of the above. Yes, he definitely doesn't want you involved.

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Speaker 1: they've shut you out, and I got to ask you,

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Speaker 1: why is this a surprise to you when you said

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Speaker 1: I think by participating, all you do is give him

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Speaker 1: permission to continue cheating and continue with these affairs. Only

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Speaker 1: now he can do it in your face because you

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Speaker 1: gave him permission. You joined in. And while some men

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Speaker 1: would love this gift that you gave your husband, you know,

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Speaker 1: having three sums and all of that, it just seems

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Speaker 1: to irritate him that you were even there. But now

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Speaker 1: to participate. At first, it's like you're getting on her

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Speaker 1: with all that whispering and everything and being mad at you.

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Speaker 1: So I say, put the ultimatum back on the table,

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Speaker 1: That's clear. He doesn't respect you or the marriage, and

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Speaker 1: some decisions involving you, you know, and what you want. Steve,

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Speaker 1: I can't believe this ragged ass letter. I know. It

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Speaker 1: just kept surprising me every time I read some mol

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Speaker 1: but I'm the whole damn. You're forty year old. You

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Speaker 1: you've known this. I finally gave him an ultimatum at

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Speaker 1: this was a weird decision? Oh well, let's go. I'm here.

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Speaker 1: He was he was that. That was a shocker. Here

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Speaker 1: was honest about their relationship right there right? What who

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Speaker 1: are you married to? Who was this got married to?

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Speaker 1: Who's writing this letter? Suddenly? This is not from the

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Speaker 1: people on this morning show. Colin Pharrell, it's a stone

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Speaker 1: cold killer. I can't imagine killer, No, no, don't go killer.

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Speaker 1: When the breaking, sugar gas tank, tire slitting shot, fine

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Speaker 1: ass clipping, don't breaking? When the crashing? When she'll breaking

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Speaker 1: and roll caller from back in the day, carler broker

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Speaker 1: antenna off a dude car one time jest. You're not

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Speaker 1: listen to day ray Hill card used to have antenna's

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Speaker 1: on him. You're not listening to the When I come back,

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you the rest of the shocking things that

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Speaker 1: I discovered. All right, thank you, Steve. We'll have part

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Speaker 1: two of your response coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour today subject he Won't Let Me Lead.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: the subject he Won't Let Me Lead. All right, here

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Speaker 1: we go far. They old woman married to a man

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Speaker 1: that she'd been knowing she'd been she'd been cheating on

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Speaker 1: her for years. They sat down and finally issued an ultimatum.

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Speaker 1: At the end of January. They both decided they didn't

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Speaker 1: Um then the lady out of nowhere, saying I met

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Speaker 1: said it was only for sex, and she'd been asking

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Speaker 1: exciting to you. You say you was drawn to her

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Speaker 1: don't look like fun to me. I don't sitting here

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Speaker 1: watching it. There's no way. That's number one reason I

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Speaker 1: don't like strip clubs. It's all that's watching. See, I

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Speaker 1: don't y'all, y'all see, y'all gonna see nothing about new

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Speaker 1: Steve Harfering. No strip club that ended in my life

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Speaker 1: long long time ago, because even for I was famous good.

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Speaker 1: It's just what we were watching. I don't like watching.

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Speaker 1: But if I ain't, this ain't for me for participation.

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Speaker 1: And you see, once you you can't dance on me,

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Speaker 1: then go dance on him, because now I'm gonna dislike

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Speaker 1: See that's so anyway, that's a long story right here,

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Speaker 1: here we go. After that night, things immediately got better

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Speaker 1: He won't let me leave. I'm for tell you why

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Speaker 1: in the second I wanted to control the positions and

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Speaker 1: We started off the weekend like we were at a resort. Now,

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Speaker 1: hell is the most shocking line in the whole damn

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Speaker 1: letter for me? I got a ratutary. What the hell

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Speaker 1: got a tratutory board and cavea and put three fix

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Speaker 1: stakes on the grilly. This is the most shocking line.

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Speaker 1: And why don't we talking about this fault? This is

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Speaker 1: about a threesome. Nobody give a damn what you eat?

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Speaker 1: How to give a damn They got these tratutory boards

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Speaker 1: at Kroger. You go down there by one of them

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Speaker 1: put three big steaks on the grill. Now here we go,

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Speaker 1: You're blowing it with all these damn instructures. Shut your

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Speaker 1: damn mouth. You're talking too much. That ain't what this is, baby,

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Speaker 1: you're swimming down on your back, backstroke. Now, put your

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Speaker 1: I can't put my knee. Motherly damn instructures. I was stunned.

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Speaker 1: When it was over, she decided to go home, and

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Speaker 1: What the hell? How stupid are you? Lady? Lady? First

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Speaker 1: of all, let me give you some facts. The reason

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Speaker 1: they don't want you to lead is because you can't drive.

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Speaker 1: It's your first threesomes. You passing out instructures. That's not

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Speaker 1: out instructures. Now here's what you don't know. The reason

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Speaker 1: they know you was breaking the rules, It is because

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Speaker 1: they didn't done a threesome before. Why would this lady

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Speaker 1: want to introduce you intoday's sex capage? He said, Now,

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Speaker 1: don't think she gonna go for it right now. So

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Speaker 1: she hadn't bought another chicken. Now, they didn't done it before.

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Speaker 1: Now you're just in that talking all this damn talking.

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Speaker 1: What is you doing? I got this. You can't drive.

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Speaker 1: They've had threesomes before. Yes, he wants the other chick

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Speaker 1: back because they know how to do threesomes in everything else,

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