1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: My wife had a medical emergency and I abandoned her 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:05,680 Speaker 1: when she needed me. But I have an explanation. 3 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 2: That explanation better be bulletproof or you're gonna get a 4 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:10,640 Speaker 2: bullet between those eyes. 5 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: He can't explain, Samuel, Really. 6 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 2: How do you explain this? I honestly, I would love 7 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 2: to know, because that sounds like I get out of 8 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 2: jail free card. If you're ever in trouble in your relationship. 9 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. You should never lie, so don't do it. 10 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 1: Sam There's only one way to find out. 11 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:27,600 Speaker 2: Please indulge me, Johnny Boy. 12 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 1: Let's see what they got. So my best friend thirty 13 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:32,559 Speaker 1: one Mail and I twenty seven Mail, have a tradition 14 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 1: of taking a yearly weekend trip together that is phone 15 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:40,239 Speaker 1: free boys trip. But bye boys, no phones, no phones, 16 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 1: no ladies, no problem. We've been doing this for a 17 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: decade now. These weekend trips consist of us staying in 18 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 1: a suite and exploring the city, not traversing the wilderness, 19 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:53,600 Speaker 1: so it's not like we're completely disconnected. Still, we like 20 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: to keep one on hand for navigation. Still, we do 21 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 1: like to have a phone on hand for navigation and 22 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: emergency purpose, and it would usually be a friends phne 23 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 1: that we brought along with us. 24 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:05,759 Speaker 2: Oh so they don't bring their own phones, they bring 25 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 2: a friend. That's how disconnected they want to be. 26 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:09,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, they literally just grab grab one of their friends, 27 00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: like you're our phone, You're our phone, lackey. 28 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 2: I feel like they share instad a phone specifically for 29 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:20,120 Speaker 2: this trip. And also, this is a deep bronze. I 30 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 2: love it. I love it. I'm here for it. Oh yeah, 31 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 2: maybe it's Broke Back Mountain Part two. Uh phones Edition, 32 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 2: No calls allowed, No calls to the wives at home 33 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 2: because we're doing dirty business of those mountains. 34 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: Now. My friend and I left for our trip this 35 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:40,040 Speaker 1: year two fridays ago to make use of the longer weekend. 36 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: This was the first time that I've gone on one 37 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 1: of these trips since my wife and I moved in together, 38 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:48,639 Speaker 1: got engaged, and got married. However, we have been dating 39 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: for the last two years worth of trips twenty twenty 40 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: one and twenty twenty two, and she seemed just fine 41 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:55,600 Speaker 1: during those trips. 42 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 2: She was fine, you know, and the boys we got 43 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 2: our decade launch and of just turning off and getting 44 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 2: turned on in the mountains. 45 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 1: Disturb all over me. Now I understand that there are 46 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: different expectations once you get married, but I didn't expect 47 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: for a complete one eighty in behavior, you have to. 48 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: Like prep your significant other if you're going like no contact, 49 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:22,119 Speaker 2: like I went like somewhat no contact for two weeks 50 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:25,080 Speaker 2: in Patagonia, but like I prepped Ariana and I was like, hey, 51 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 2: you know I'm gonna be going on this trip, like, 52 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 2: don't worry about me. I'm not dying. I still love you. 53 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 2: And then you could even use Apple shortcuts to schedule 54 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 2: text throughout your time. 55 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 1: So like as an auto response or you know. 56 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:43,239 Speaker 2: How you schedule about you Like yeah, it's almost like 57 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 2: you're setting virtual letters. 58 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: That's that's such a life act until we get chat 59 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,239 Speaker 1: GPT to just completely answer everything. 60 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, chat GVT. Can you be my girlfriend's virtual boyfriend? 61 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 1: Yeah? Can you? Can you be the boyfriend that I 62 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:55,520 Speaker 1: could never be? 63 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 2: Yeah? 64 00:02:56,919 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: So my wife all but demanded I take my phone 65 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: as well in case she needed to get a hold 66 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: of me, despite her having the friend's number, who's coming 67 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: along with? I let her know that I had arrived, 68 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:12,640 Speaker 1: and immediately after that she was texting me asking me, 69 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 1: what's it going? What's going on over there? 70 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 2: In the first two boys trips, she was totally fine. 71 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 1: It seemed like there was no issues. 72 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 2: I feel like something changed in the relationship. I don't know, 73 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 2: maybe she's suspecially that, maybe she's suspecial. 74 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:30,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, there's definitely more than what's I think being revealed 75 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:30,639 Speaker 1: at this. 76 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 2: Point, As is usually the case with any one sided 77 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 2: Reddit story. 78 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 1: Now, I eventually muted our text conversation because I was 79 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 1: so sick of the phone buzzing all the time. 80 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 2: You can't mute the girlfriend. 81 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: Oh man, I had to mute those pesky peesky notifications. 82 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 1: They were blocking my bro time. 83 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 2: Bro. Yeah, yeah, my wife is being such or my 84 00:03:53,840 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 2: girlfriend is being such a major cock block. Right now, 85 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 2: I'm trying to slob my friend's knob right here in 86 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 2: the wilderness. Try to pitch attend. You know what I'm 87 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 2: talking about, friendship? Yeah, yeah, detent of friendship. 88 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: Then she called me a few hours later and asked 89 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: why I wasn't responding to her text. I reiterated that 90 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 1: this was supposed to be a no phone weekend, and 91 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: I kept the call short despite her trying to drag 92 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:20,000 Speaker 1: out the conversation. 93 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 2: Oh man, the guy's making a fatal flaw. You have 94 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 2: to do the pre trip girlfriend pregame where it's like, yes, baby, 95 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 2: I love you, like you gotta do it if you Hey, 96 00:04:30,279 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 2: it's fine to go no contact, but you kind of 97 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 2: like just have to communicate to your partner a little 98 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 2: bit more maybe than this guy is doing. And don't 99 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 2: put it on you man, Oh god. 100 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 1: You know, just just just hit her with the minute 101 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:44,840 Speaker 1: before you turn off your phone for ten days. You're 102 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:45,480 Speaker 1: just like, be. 103 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:49,920 Speaker 2: Gone with either today, k by we need to talk. Yeah, Hey, Sorr, 104 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:52,159 Speaker 2: I gotta turn off on time. We need to talk 105 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:53,719 Speaker 2: when I come back. 106 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:56,600 Speaker 1: Yeah. What's even better is like, don't don't be like 107 00:04:56,720 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: we gotta talk. Phone's gonna be off for ten days, 108 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:01,039 Speaker 1: just like we gotta talk dot dot and the phone 109 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: is just does that turn is gone? 110 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:06,800 Speaker 2: Man? Yehude, we're giving the best relationship advice right now, dude. 111 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:09,479 Speaker 1: We are we are, we are advising all these toxic. 112 00:05:09,279 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 2: You're welcome, yeah, ye stay toxic. 113 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:16,119 Speaker 1: Now. She had the audacity to call me another time 114 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:16,800 Speaker 1: after this. 115 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 2: The ad doesn't she know is on a boy's trip. 116 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 1: So when I answered and found out it wasn't an emergency, 117 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:25,960 Speaker 1: I simply turned off my phone. 118 00:05:26,240 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 2: B He's going to the doghouse. 119 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:31,840 Speaker 1: The calls then started coming in from my friend and 120 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:34,239 Speaker 1: he followed suit. We spent the rest of the weekend 121 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 1: with our phones off until we all drove back on Monday. 122 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 1: Even the boys are like, yeah, we gotta we gotta 123 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:42,440 Speaker 1: mute this pisky girlfriend over here. 124 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:46,039 Speaker 2: Oh good gravy, you could do you But I don't 125 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:47,719 Speaker 2: know if we're gonna have a girlfriend we come back, 126 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 2: or yeah, yeah, oh there's a wedding. 127 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 1: Yikes, No, no they're married. 128 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 2: Then sorry, oh they're married, So they there married, they're divorced. 129 00:05:56,520 --> 00:05:58,479 Speaker 1: I called my wife and informed her when we were 130 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: about thirty minutes away from my play, and she was furious. 131 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 2: No, an idiot, what I was blind sided? Wait did 132 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 2: he actually say he was blind side? 133 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 3: No? 134 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:13,159 Speaker 2: No, no, no, there's no way, there's no way. He like 135 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 2: didn't know he was in a world of trouble when 136 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:19,839 Speaker 2: he came back, like deliberately not talking to your wife. 137 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 1: Your wife, absolutely, bro, bad bad move. She said that 138 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 1: there ended up being an emergency. Her sister got into 139 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:31,440 Speaker 1: a car accident that won't affect her long term. I 140 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 1: love how he throws that in but still resulted in 141 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: broken bones. Bro, that's pretty serious. Serious. 142 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 2: I'm like, now I'm like almost like to like prove 143 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:42,640 Speaker 2: her point. Did she did she do the setup of 144 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:45,360 Speaker 2: the car accident that Jersey. 145 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:47,279 Speaker 1: Or she got her sister in on it, like just 146 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:51,280 Speaker 1: wear it like in SpongeBob where body cast like just 147 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:53,359 Speaker 1: like just straight up in the hospital. And I'm like, 148 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 1: oh God, if only had your phone turned on. 149 00:06:56,839 --> 00:07:01,279 Speaker 2: But I'm not I'm not excusing this dude's awful behavior. 150 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 2: He's a dick bag, I think, you know, I don't 151 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 2: think he's act acting in the most considerate way possible, 152 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 2: for sure, But like, on the other hand, he's gone, 153 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 2: what is he supposed to do? What is like, what 154 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 2: is he supposed to do? Like he's in the fucking mountains? 155 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 1: Thing you could really do about the car accident. But 156 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:24,560 Speaker 1: it's like like like I could see her wanting to 157 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:26,600 Speaker 1: at least talk to him, you know what I mean. 158 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 2: I think she's looking for emotional support for sure of 159 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 2: the thing. Sendit emotional support for that. I think that's 160 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 2: pretty valid. Sucks that it happened on the boys trip. 161 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: And then she said that I just ignored her the 162 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: entire time that she quote unquote needed me. 163 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 2: Oh wow, you put the quotes. 164 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 1: Wow wow. I told her that I was very sorry 165 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: to hear about her sister, but it wasn't my fault 166 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:51,920 Speaker 1: that she had essentially forced my hand into cutting off 167 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: all means of communication. You made me do it, babe, 168 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:58,720 Speaker 1: You made me we weren't so needy. 169 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 2: Always check it up on me. Maybe it wouldn't have 170 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 2: to block yours. Like, I don't know how this guy, 171 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 2: you know lock this down? This is like boyfriend one 172 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 2: oh one right here? Like what do we always say? 173 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 2: I have to be red flags before I'm just like, 174 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 2: I'm just baffled. I'm just baffled. 175 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know she decided to stay with a friend 176 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: before I arrived home that night and has since come home, 177 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: but she's still fuming. Am I the ale? 178 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 2: All right, let's get into the breakdown, the breakdown before 179 00:08:29,960 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 2: we give our breakdown of this whole situation, put in 180 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 2: the comments, who do you think is the angel? Who 181 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 2: do you think is the A hole? So you're not 182 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:38,600 Speaker 2: biased by us, and we're gonna give our take in 183 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:41,079 Speaker 2: three two one? All right, John, what do you think? 184 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: Angels? 185 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 2: What do we got? 186 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:47,280 Speaker 1: I think Op is the greatest angel. I mean, he's 187 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 1: truly Gabriel. That has just the clouds have parted, the 188 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 1: phones have turned on, and he has dissented to bless 189 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 1: us all. 190 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:59,719 Speaker 2: And best boyfriend award for sure? Okay in reality, bro 191 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:03,960 Speaker 2: in reality, I think, oh, he definitely not winning any 192 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 2: best boyfriend awards. I would say, for sure, a bit 193 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:09,880 Speaker 2: of an a hole for like just turning off his phone. Also, 194 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 2: I feel like he didn't properly mentally like prepare his 195 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 2: girlfriend for like the trip. 196 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: That's almost the biggest A hole part. 197 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 2: I feel, yeah, and like she probably might have just 198 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 2: gotten like a little like from the first two times, 199 00:09:23,280 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 2: like got a little fed up maybe, and like this 200 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 2: it's her like this is this is her kind of 201 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 2: voicing her discomfort with this, like what he's doing. And 202 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 2: just as an example, So I did this this two 203 00:09:33,880 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 2: week trip to Patagonia like recently, right, and this is 204 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:39,440 Speaker 2: the longest I've ever been away from Arion and my 205 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:42,680 Speaker 2: current girlfriend. And before the trip, I'm like, Hey, I'm 206 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:44,480 Speaker 2: going away from two weeks. Are you gonna be okay 207 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:47,080 Speaker 2: with this? I still love you literally like all the 208 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:49,440 Speaker 2: prep and stuff. I'm also saying, like I'm really not 209 00:09:49,480 --> 00:09:52,040 Speaker 2: gonna be able to talk almost at all on the trip. 210 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 2: But then my little sneakiness. I'm like, I actually texted 211 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:57,440 Speaker 2: her and called her a little bit while I was there. 212 00:09:57,679 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 2: But the prep was I will be not be able 213 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 2: to be contacted at all, right, and I think assume, 214 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 2: assume the worst, and then deliver more. It's like with 215 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 2: that a thing, you know, like deliver more than you promise. 216 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 2: And it was perfect. She ended up being like really 217 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:16,080 Speaker 2: busy with work stuff and was like hanging out with friends, 218 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 2: and she still felt like the most important thing is 219 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 2: she still felt secure in the relationship because of the 220 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:26,280 Speaker 2: conversations we had leading up to this, Right, it seems 221 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 2: like this guy op did not have that level of 222 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:33,720 Speaker 2: communication with his girlfriend or his wife. His wife his 223 00:10:33,840 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 2: wife god, yeah, yeah, so like you have to have 224 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 2: that level of conversation and communication with your partner, especially 225 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:43,440 Speaker 2: if you're gonna be leaving for a while. 226 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I just I don't. 227 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 2: I didn't see this from this guy. 228 00:10:45,440 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: Also, remember when he said like, oh, it was fine 229 00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:51,319 Speaker 1: the years prior, but then this year she like maybe 230 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 1: she just like just finally got fed up with it 231 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 1: after Yeah, that's. 232 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:57,440 Speaker 2: What I was thinking too. I was thinking that too. 233 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 2: It's like, bro, uh, this is maybe the first time 234 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:03,720 Speaker 2: she's voicing it. She probably wasn't applied before. 235 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:06,440 Speaker 1: Also, do you think there's a little bit of maybe 236 00:11:06,600 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 1: a whole four Op's wife for being mad about specifically 237 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 1: the not being able to contact for the car accident. 238 00:11:14,640 --> 00:11:17,240 Speaker 2: I think yes. I think, like, like, I think there's 239 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 2: a little bit of a holyness from the wife just 240 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:22,920 Speaker 2: because like I mean, he yeah, he maybe he didn't 241 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 2: have like in depth conversations and all that, but he 242 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 2: did tell her he was gonna be like off grid 243 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:33,480 Speaker 2: and yeh, it seems like she didn't quite respect that. 244 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:35,440 Speaker 2: That being said, he could have been much better at 245 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 2: like communicating, yeah, and supporting her through that because she 246 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 2: probably just doesn't feel She probably feels like anxious a 247 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 2: little bit maybe without him, And that's like, you know, 248 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:44,800 Speaker 2: I think that's that's normal for relationships. I think he's 249 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:47,960 Speaker 2: being inconsiderate to how she's feeling, and she's doing the 250 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 2: same back to him, and it's just manifesting in different ways. 251 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 2: It's like it's almost you're all basically seeing the different 252 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 2: attachment styles at play, right, Like she's probably anxiously attached 253 00:11:57,000 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 2: and he's like he's probably avoidant attachment style. Yeah, and 254 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:04,880 Speaker 2: so you're seeing this this dynamic play out right here. 255 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:08,200 Speaker 2: So yeah, I think a little bit of a hole 256 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:12,200 Speaker 2: from the wife, way more on the husband's side, Like 257 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:14,800 Speaker 2: if she was acting in the best way you know possible, 258 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:18,760 Speaker 2: it would be like you know, respecting the boy's trip 259 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 2: and realizing, you know, the relationship is still okay. But actually, 260 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 2: in this case, I don't know if it is. He 261 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 2: doesn't seem to really care as much as he should 262 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 2: about her. 263 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: Also, maybe we have you know, we have who's the 264 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 1: a hole, who's the angel, and maybe there's it's a 265 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:35,800 Speaker 1: whole mess where it's kind of like I don't I 266 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:38,320 Speaker 1: don't I wouldn't necessarily categorize this one, but there are 267 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:41,719 Speaker 1: situations where it's like like everyone's the A hole. Yeah, 268 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:45,720 Speaker 1: I don't think this this is quite up there, but 269 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,479 Speaker 1: it's you know, it's a little MESSI. 270 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 2: Also the friend is also kind of like complicit in 271 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 2: this because he just starts to big too. H. I 272 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:57,520 Speaker 2: think I think everyone's a little bit of the A hole, 273 00:12:57,840 --> 00:13:00,440 Speaker 2: But I think it goes like like O P then 274 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:02,199 Speaker 2: friend than wife. That's my opinion. 275 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: And you know what, I actually don't think the wife 276 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:09,080 Speaker 1: is just because like I could, I don't think frustration 277 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 1: just because of the frustration, Like I I don't know, 278 00:13:13,320 --> 00:13:15,800 Speaker 1: for me personally, I kind of like get where she's 279 00:13:15,840 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 1: coming from. 280 00:13:16,640 --> 00:13:20,680 Speaker 2: Especially since there was an accident. I totally forgot about that, Like, especially. 281 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 1: There's an accident. Yeah, she's probably just so distraught, like 282 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:26,680 Speaker 1: I I I would imagine any most people would be 283 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:29,080 Speaker 1: would be like, yeah, so distraught that. 284 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:34,360 Speaker 2: You're you're You're right. I was totally forgetting about the accident, 285 00:13:34,400 --> 00:13:37,040 Speaker 2: like if he like maybe she would have been like 286 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:40,080 Speaker 2: a little and like in the tiniest fraction of a 287 00:13:40,200 --> 00:13:43,560 Speaker 2: hole for for like like maybe like talking throughout the 288 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:45,640 Speaker 2: trip even though he said he wanted to disconnect or whatever. 289 00:13:45,720 --> 00:13:48,440 Speaker 2: But because there was actually like like a pretty severe 290 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:51,440 Speaker 2: car crash, like I think that absolves her of everything. 291 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:54,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's kind of like what what can you do? 292 00:13:55,200 --> 00:13:58,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, And and I understand his point about like you know, 293 00:13:58,840 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 2: like I'm not even like what would I be able 294 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:02,679 Speaker 2: to do? But I also don't think that's a very 295 00:14:02,679 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 2: empathetic response either, right. 296 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:07,840 Speaker 1: No, not at all, after like off of like shutting 297 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:09,680 Speaker 1: down the wall of communication, Like. 298 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:13,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's pretty picked up to ye. So I think 299 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:17,160 Speaker 2: there's like there's also a difference between what what is 300 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 2: okay to do? And what would be like the most 301 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:25,880 Speaker 2: empathetic like Gandhi Buddha like response that you could do, 302 00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 2: and so like if you if they were perfect people, 303 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 2: right like the guy would be more computative, communicative about 304 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:36,880 Speaker 2: where he's going, what he's doing. The girl would be 305 00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 2: would allow the guy a little bit more space, right 306 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:42,320 Speaker 2: like in the if you if they were the best 307 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:46,440 Speaker 2: possible people. But I think you know, humans are flawed 308 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 2: and you we need an insecure and like we we 309 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:55,040 Speaker 2: need to meet people in the middle, often times in 310 00:14:55,080 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 2: the middle of their their flaws. So uh, I think 311 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 2: this is one of those cases where the guy needed 312 00:15:02,960 --> 00:15:06,480 Speaker 2: to move a little bit more, be a little bit 313 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 2: more empathetic to to his wife. 314 00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 1: Well, I only demand perfection, so half not having perfection everyone, 315 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 1: Why I live in paradise? 316 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:18,920 Speaker 2: All right, Well what do you guys think? I mean, 317 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 2: that's our decision, our breakdown. But hey, where we could 318 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 2: be totally wrong, and you know we have our own 319 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 2: biases to deal with, So chew us out if we're wrong, 320 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 2: and please celebrate us if we're right. 321 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 1: Let us know, baby, my husband was disgusted by my 322 00:15:37,200 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 1: unborn baby, but now he loves it. 323 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:44,080 Speaker 2: Okayop, this is OKAYOP. I'm Samuel Daughner and I'm John Fry. 324 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:46,960 Speaker 2: We tell the funniest stories on the Internet. And before 325 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 2: we get into the stories, we have a little announcement 326 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 2: that you might be able to guess by what we 327 00:15:51,480 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 2: are wearing. 328 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, same, you're looking kind of fresh fresh. 329 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:59,240 Speaker 1: Why why if I don't say so myself because. 330 00:15:58,920 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 2: Of my oh oh oh oh yeah. 331 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:09,080 Speaker 1: So those Karen's we don't want them. Get get him. 332 00:16:11,160 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 1: Do you got boxes we're moving? 333 00:16:12,600 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, we're moving boxes. 334 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: L dame up boxes a March order. 335 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:19,000 Speaker 2: Please order, please support us. 336 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,440 Speaker 1: But John, also, you got some merch on Yeah, you know, 337 00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 1: we got the listen for any time people are doing 338 00:16:23,960 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 1: too much. 339 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 2: Look t l d R, the l d R. 340 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:28,520 Speaker 1: People that think you're the a hole, You're. 341 00:16:28,320 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 2: Not not the ale. So we got merch that's canceled. 342 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:33,960 Speaker 2: Karen hats, t L d R hats. We got not 343 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 2: the a Whole shirts and Brah shirts and the shirts 344 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:40,240 Speaker 2: have like van go for the podcast listeners podcast fam. 345 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:43,880 Speaker 2: Their shirts have bra with like van it. 346 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:47,520 Speaker 1: Very classy painting, very classy and the classy painting modern text. 347 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 2: Yes, classy painting, modern tracks and with the shirt John's wearing, 348 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 2: not the a hole. It has a beautiful naked lady, 349 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 2: very sensual, very essential. And I let people know, like, hey, 350 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 2: the good guy right here, not the exactly right. 351 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:04,920 Speaker 1: Cancel Karen. You know you're part of the cancel Caaren crusaders, 352 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:07,679 Speaker 1: Like it's the whole thing. So if you join the movement, 353 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 1: cancel cancel the Karens guys, like we have to. Every 354 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:14,160 Speaker 1: person in America needs to be wearing a cancel Karen hat. 355 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:16,720 Speaker 1: I believe it to effectively cancel him. I mean like 356 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:18,200 Speaker 1: that will send the message. 357 00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:20,720 Speaker 2: To solidarity on solitary Baby. 358 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:23,400 Speaker 1: So if you guys want to buy it podcast or YouTube, 359 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:25,399 Speaker 1: you can check the link in the description you can 360 00:17:25,440 --> 00:17:27,280 Speaker 1: buy this. And we got a lot of new items 361 00:17:27,280 --> 00:17:29,720 Speaker 1: coming soon as well, so we do we do check 362 00:17:29,760 --> 00:17:32,320 Speaker 1: it out. And with that being said, I think. 363 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 2: We got Yeah, give me a juicy one. Oh I got, 364 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 2: I got a juicy through it like a piece of 365 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:40,919 Speaker 2: meat and have the blood dripped down my gums and 366 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:41,520 Speaker 2: my chin. 367 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:46,680 Speaker 1: Wow. Oddly descriptive, like serial killer level descriptive. Right there. 368 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:50,400 Speaker 1: I love it all right. My husband was disgusted by 369 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: my unborn baby, but now he loves it, discuss it, disgust. 370 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:58,680 Speaker 2: It is a bad husband. You need to go to 371 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:02,280 Speaker 2: the clink, go the doghouse. No meals for a week. 372 00:18:02,320 --> 00:18:05,199 Speaker 1: Well, you know, don't don't judge a story by its title, Samuel, 373 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 1: We've I think we've learned that in all of our. 374 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:11,400 Speaker 2: Don't judge an a hole before we've read the story exactly, exactly, 375 00:18:11,480 --> 00:18:12,480 Speaker 2: all right, Opie says. 376 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:15,440 Speaker 1: When we started dating, he male forty eight, was very 377 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 1: clear that he didn't want kids, and I, female twenty five, 378 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 1: knew it because he told me a few times. And also, 379 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:23,640 Speaker 1: just like note the age difference there. 380 00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:25,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a pretty big age gap. Like there are 381 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:29,840 Speaker 2: forty different places in life. One five man's had like 382 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:34,399 Speaker 2: two divorces, and you know, like made his wealth on 383 00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:38,680 Speaker 2: his yacht. He's like drinking wine and eating fancy cheeses. 384 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:39,400 Speaker 2: And like, my. 385 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:42,119 Speaker 1: Girl just got out of college. Hey, good for her, Like, 386 00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 1: you know, lock it down, like sugar daddy, dude, I 387 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 1: don't want to work for my whole life. Op He 388 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,159 Speaker 1: goes on to say, I made a mistake with my 389 00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: birth control and ended up pregnant. He was not happy 390 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:55,240 Speaker 1: at all. 391 00:18:55,480 --> 00:18:57,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, make sure you take the right pills. If you 392 00:18:57,880 --> 00:18:59,200 Speaker 2: don't want to get pregnant. 393 00:18:58,880 --> 00:19:02,160 Speaker 1: You know, the be cautious, you figure it out. 394 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:04,439 Speaker 2: You know, they used to have male birth control. But 395 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:08,359 Speaker 2: then the guys are like, this makes me feel weird. 396 00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:11,879 Speaker 1: Believe to the male birth They're like, let's completely like 397 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:15,119 Speaker 1: modify the woman body that way, I don't have to 398 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:18,840 Speaker 1: do anything. So I like that plan. So did they 399 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 1: just like stop developing it or something. 400 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:23,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, basically like the men had the exact same symptoms 401 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:26,280 Speaker 2: as as women on birth control, and they're like and 402 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 2: they're like, we don't like this, and then they just 403 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:29,960 Speaker 2: continued the study. Nice. 404 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:33,199 Speaker 1: Nice. During the first five months of the pregnancy, he 405 00:19:33,359 --> 00:19:36,359 Speaker 1: acted as if I wasn't pregnant, literally, just not acknowledging. 406 00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:39,199 Speaker 2: How do you not acknowledge that. I don't know, br 407 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:42,640 Speaker 2: you're a dick of a of a significant other if 408 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 2: you're not like massaging feet when they're pregnant. 409 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:47,720 Speaker 1: Given that jar of pickles getting Yeah, the cravings were 410 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:49,119 Speaker 1: creating peoples and ice cream, you know. 411 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:50,240 Speaker 2: And ice cream together. 412 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:52,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, when my husband had to start buying things for 413 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:56,040 Speaker 1: the baby and decorating her room, he actually started to 414 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:58,639 Speaker 1: participate in those things and be engaged. He was in 415 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:01,680 Speaker 1: the delivery room when she was born, and since then 416 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:05,520 Speaker 1: she has become his world. He is an amazing dad, 417 00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:08,560 Speaker 1: and our daughter, who's now six months old, loves him, 418 00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 1: and I thought he loved her too. 419 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:13,640 Speaker 2: Thought, all right, I sense a turn turn, I send 420 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 2: something brilling. 421 00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:18,760 Speaker 1: But a couple of nights ago, his friends they're all 422 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:21,080 Speaker 1: in their forties and fifties. Yeah, because he is old 423 00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:23,840 Speaker 1: as heck, because he's freaking old. Came to her house 424 00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:28,479 Speaker 1: for dinner, and I overheard a conversation that I should 425 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:31,360 Speaker 1: not have heard, and now I wonder if he's honest 426 00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:31,879 Speaker 1: or not. 427 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:35,399 Speaker 2: See, like, those are the conversations that you want to 428 00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:38,760 Speaker 2: hear too, though, It's like conversations that like like this 429 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 2: is real talk, you know. Yeah, yeah, conversations are not 430 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:44,000 Speaker 2: meant to hear. That's when people that's true. 431 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:47,000 Speaker 1: Those are conversations they actually do need to hear. You're 432 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:49,159 Speaker 1: not supposed to hear. One of his friends was making 433 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: fun of him for being a dad at his age, 434 00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:53,719 Speaker 1: and the other one said something like, I thought you 435 00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:55,919 Speaker 1: were smarter. His friends are kind of a whole, Like, 436 00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:57,440 Speaker 1: come on, that's so whack. 437 00:20:57,560 --> 00:20:59,920 Speaker 2: It's like you're having like also like imagine if he 438 00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:03,520 Speaker 2: if he's like he actually wants the kid now, yeah, 439 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,439 Speaker 2: and it is super excited or like you're adobe for 440 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:08,760 Speaker 2: having kids, like also. 441 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 1: Cares like if someone, if an older person was to 442 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,200 Speaker 1: have a kid, like let them live the. 443 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:16,919 Speaker 2: Words of John Lennon, let it be Oh. 444 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,880 Speaker 1: John Lennon, it was so funny. I thought you mixed 445 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:22,280 Speaker 1: up John and Lennon and John Legend, but I mixed. 446 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:27,680 Speaker 2: Up two very different people, John Legend, John Lennon, one glasses. 447 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,000 Speaker 1: The husband's friend goes on to say, I can't believe 448 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 1: she He was talking about me, trapped you, and now 449 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 1: you're changing diapers and preparing bottles at three am. 450 00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:41,919 Speaker 2: This this friend needs to not be a friend, Like 451 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:42,880 Speaker 2: get out of here. 452 00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:44,439 Speaker 1: Get them out, Like what are we doing here? 453 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 2: Get them to the curve. 454 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 1: You gotta have good people in your. 455 00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,719 Speaker 2: You gotta have a supportive circle around you. That's at 456 00:21:51,760 --> 00:21:53,240 Speaker 2: all times, at all the times. 457 00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:55,440 Speaker 1: My husband just laughed when he said that and said 458 00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 1: that even if they couldn't believe it, he's enjoying. 459 00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:02,479 Speaker 2: To the husband for actually like sticking up for his 460 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,800 Speaker 2: baby and his his significant o. Like that's like stand 461 00:22:06,880 --> 00:22:09,440 Speaker 2: up move and it's non confrontational too, Like he's not 462 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,360 Speaker 2: he's not being like fu, but I know that first 463 00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:13,240 Speaker 2: response pretty good. 464 00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 1: Also, don't speak to speak too highly of a fee. 465 00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,800 Speaker 1: Then his friend goes on to say that he's only 466 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:23,280 Speaker 1: trying to convince himself because he knows that she's already 467 00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:26,399 Speaker 1: here and he can't change that. But he knows that 468 00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,440 Speaker 1: he never wanted to be a dad. They've known him 469 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:32,719 Speaker 1: since they were teenagers, and that they know he's always 470 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,960 Speaker 1: hated kids, and it's impossible that he suddenly loves it. 471 00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:40,359 Speaker 2: Bruh, just bruh, bruh, by the bruch. But bruh, what 472 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:42,359 Speaker 2: why why are you saying all that? 473 00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:44,760 Speaker 1: Dude? Like literally, it's like they're just trying to have 474 00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:47,520 Speaker 1: a nice casual evening. He drinks, and it's like this 475 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:49,000 Speaker 1: is blowing up his life. 476 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:49,160 Speaker 4: Bro. 477 00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:52,359 Speaker 2: They're at like some like little party and this guy 478 00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:55,919 Speaker 2: is just like, let me be a bringer of sadness 479 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:57,600 Speaker 2: right now, and maybe it's. 480 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 1: Worth like really asking, Like there's there's a time in 481 00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,199 Speaker 1: a place if you really want to, and that's just 482 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 1: not the time, not the way to ask. 483 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:07,640 Speaker 2: It, Like, yeah, ridiculous, honestly ridiculous. I just the bad friend, 484 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,719 Speaker 2: bad friend totally. It also doesn't know when to stop talking, 485 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:14,240 Speaker 2: either like freaking out, like the husband deflects the first time, 486 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 2: and the friend is like, well, let me dive deeper 487 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:22,639 Speaker 2: into this uncomfortable topic and just frick up the. 488 00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:24,680 Speaker 1: Whole night, like my pistol didn't get you. Let me 489 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 1: get my AK forty seven and try and get so. 490 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:32,440 Speaker 1: At this point, my husband kept quiet and didn't say anything, 491 00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 1: and the silence hurt me because I knew they were 492 00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:40,960 Speaker 1: right wus. When I got pregnant, I knew that he 493 00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:43,399 Speaker 1: never wanted to have kids and that keeping the baby 494 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:46,240 Speaker 1: would probably damage our relationship. Then I thought that he 495 00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:49,080 Speaker 1: had changed his mind and now everything was fine. And 496 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,480 Speaker 1: at this point I can't stop thinking about how he 497 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: would probably resent me in the future. How can I 498 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:55,440 Speaker 1: talk to him about it. I don't want to see 499 00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,880 Speaker 1: him insecure or make him feel that he doesn't love 500 00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:58,640 Speaker 1: our daughter enough. 501 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,400 Speaker 2: Well, this show is spot answered by Better Help. We've 502 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:05,680 Speaker 2: seen some wild stories with some crazy relationships, and although 503 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,960 Speaker 2: we love reading these stories, I think sometimes it could 504 00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:12,040 Speaker 2: be helpful to have someone who can really help and 505 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:12,840 Speaker 2: talk through. 506 00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 1: These things exactly. Maybe asking strangers on the internet isn't 507 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:18,639 Speaker 1: the best place to get advice, but it is a 508 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 1: fun place. It's a fun place. But Sam, we've got 509 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:23,880 Speaker 1: a much better place, and that is better help. 510 00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:27,480 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's affordable therapy and it's entirely on line. Oh. 511 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 2: I love things that are affordable and on line. 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