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Speaker 1: This is Cowboy Sam and this is yeh John.

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Speaker 2: And we've last owed.

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Speaker 1: In some amazing stories for you all the Okay Storytime podcasts.

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Speaker 2: But before that we got.

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Speaker 1: A wrangle, a quick little tomb minute outbreak from those

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Speaker 3: Are they're paying us the bucks to help this show

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Speaker 3: stay alive.

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Speaker 1: I discovered my boyfriend's blog mocking my business.

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Speaker 3: That's a terrible blog.

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Speaker 1: Was your business really funny? Are you like a clown emporium?

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Speaker 1: When my abuela passed away, I twenty nine female inherited

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Speaker 1: the keys to her long standing Botanica. For anyone who

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Speaker 1: doesn't know, this is a shop run by latinos whose

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Speaker 1: purpose is to sell religious esoterica things. We sell the

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Speaker 1: seven day candles you'll see at memorial sites, herbs, oil statues, books, services,

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Speaker 1: et cetera. These are all things I grew up surrounded

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Speaker 1: by and things that mean the world to me. I

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Speaker 1: love them to me. The scent of Florida water and

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Speaker 1: Hoits cologne our home. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 1: user Botanica owner Girl. And if you want to submit

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Speaker 1: your own stories, go to the ur slash Showkey Storytime

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Speaker 1: So I'm Dakota.

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we're here.

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Speaker 1: I gave you some good advice, goofily, because we don't

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Speaker 1: know all the things. We just know some of the things.

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Speaker 1: So tell us the things you know.

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Speaker 3: Down in the comments and things aren't people, as Op says.

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Speaker 1: I took business classes to run the shop properly, and

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Speaker 1: it is a successful business. We profit off it nicely,

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Speaker 1: and we made some changes over the years, including services

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Speaker 1: that you can't get at shops around us. We care

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Speaker 1: deeply for all of our customers. I spend about eight

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Speaker 1: am to four pm there every day, and it's like

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Speaker 1: going to my other home. My boyfriend, Thomas, thirty two male,

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Speaker 3: I know he used to work from home.

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Speaker 1: He's always been a huge supporter of my business because

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Speaker 1: he knows how much it means to me. He knows

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Speaker 1: it's a part of my cultural heritage, my life, and

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Speaker 2: I thought it was like, I don't believe in going

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Speaker 3: They I don't know, and cultural belief.

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Speaker 3: You know the old saying goose feathers on the tombstone

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Speaker 1: Anyway, that's enough backstory. The other day I made us

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Speaker 3: I have to eat breakfast before I do any sort

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Speaker 1: It sounds like weakness of the flesh.

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Speaker 3: Yeah it is.

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Speaker 1: I asked him if I could use his computer to

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Speaker 1: But when I opened his browser, several tabs were open,

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Speaker 3: That's such a stupid blog idea. Does he have any readers?

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Speaker 3: Like my girlfriend has this stupid shop? I hate it?

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Speaker 2: Imagine like going I don't know on like Reddit and

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Speaker 3: Oh? I see what Ope's boyfriend doing versus.

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Speaker 2: Because Ope's boyfriend I might not get any viewers, but

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Speaker 3: That is an excellent point.

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Speaker 3: I think he's worse because he's making fun of her.

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Speaker 2: What I want to know what it says?

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Speaker 3: Is it like dog with a blot?

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Speaker 1: My heart shattered. He made fun of some of the

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Speaker 1: What broke my heart the most is that he made

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Speaker 1: how I'm absolutely nuts and he should run away. Who

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Speaker 2: It's paying for your rent.

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Speaker 1: I don't imagine that that's what he's been doing your rent.

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Speaker 3: So so in this scenario, it's basically if I had

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Speaker 3: But it's paying yeah rent, Ask her if she would

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Speaker 2: What about you? What would you do if I.

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Speaker 3: Literally I'm breaking up.

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Speaker 1: Not even like it doesn't even make it your job,

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Speaker 1: I was so stunned and absolutely hurt that I had

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Speaker 3: Harriet Spaghetti says, Riley's only core value is cold, hard cash.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how to address this with him. He's

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Speaker 3: He is mocking those directly. He has a whole blog

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I would go to him and be like,

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Speaker 3: It sounds like someone we know who's is someone out

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Speaker 3: We're like actively kind of belittling you for believing in

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Speaker 2: You enjoy like climbing ninety degree mountains. In relationships, you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is pretty pretty pretty shattering. Now. It's like,

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Speaker 3: Kim find says, wait, totally forgot. A doctor in Seattle

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Speaker 1: Wow, that one.

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Speaker 3: A little fair.

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Speaker 1: Accuse my cousin of being a prosty under the guise

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Speaker 1: That's pretty wild.

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Speaker 3: Dang.

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Speaker 1: He also he gave the whole calendar is featuring picks

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Speaker 1: something like this before. A commenter, sleep Fight replies, so

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Speaker 1: I found your blog. That's literally all you need to say.

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Speaker 2: I counted ten, Yes, I counted, But.

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Speaker 3: It would have affected nothing had you continued.

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Speaker 3: You liar, You liar.

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Speaker 1: I actually agree with who that's on me to say

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Speaker 2: Who me or Sophia go agree can't do that?

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Speaker 1: Do you need the closure? Because unless this is something

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah you could. Wait. No, so okay, send out

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Speaker 3: a thing in the paper, like looking for a boyfriend

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Speaker 3: And then you're like and then you show up and

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Speaker 1: Ah twist commenter, what is your boyfriend in regards to

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Speaker 1: Is it an anonymous blog or is his ownership of

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to excuse the actions that he had.

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Speaker 3: Someone switching to Riley someone switching to Riley, he was

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Speaker 2: No, he's texting is sho was okay?

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Speaker 1: Fine? This is the Shrek movie. But it's only when

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Speaker 1: Could this blog be his only reprieve? I guess from

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Speaker 3: Worked for, your family stores, so you must be crazy.

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Speaker 3: This is your boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: This commenter is like, I'm not trying to say he

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Speaker 3: I think you deserved it.

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Speaker 1: With the limited info here, that's my two cents.

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Speaker 3: I don't want it.

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Speaker 1: You remember the part of the story where like the

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Speaker 3: that's like saying, oh, you know, you have a husband

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Speaker 3: She's always nagging. I wish I could divorce sir. She's

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Speaker 1: No, it's like it's just crazy that it's like somebody

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Speaker 3: And we have an update That commenter was jupido Pe,

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Speaker 3: don't worry.

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Speaker 1: I'm an atheist and you're probably annoying.

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Speaker 3: Probably annoying when you're talking about your religion. Y, you're

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Speaker 2: You're deserving.

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Speaker 1: You annoying them a lot, and you should be able

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Speaker 3: I don't want to assume many things, but I assume

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Speaker 1: Hello. Oh, that's the update, calling hello. I had my

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Speaker 1: So when I got home two days after I made

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Speaker 3: Like, I've written something I really want to read to you.

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Speaker 1: I found some literature online. I found it quite tittillated.

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Speaker 3: Today, my stupid girlfriend kept showing me candles. I hate candles.

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Speaker 4: Light bulbs were invented for a reason, these stupid idiot

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Speaker 1: Why don't you use lights?

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Speaker 3: Candles are not safe. I fear that they might burn

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Speaker 4: I fear candles and my wife. I'm candlefolk girlfriend candelobic Kendobic,

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Speaker 4: David Kendobic. He asked me how I found out, and

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Speaker 4: that that stuff is fake and everything. What I let

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Speaker 4: him say what he needed to say. So he he

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Speaker 4: what he's trying to say is.

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Speaker 1: That you're a crook. Yeah, he's like, you're shot money

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Speaker 1: from people who believe in this religious stuff.

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Speaker 3: That you also believe in. That that's the crazy thing,

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Speaker 1: I asked him, is that really how you feel? And

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's it. I mean he literally just said, Oh,

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think you and your whole family are kooks.

443
00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:10,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, and feeding it. That's it.

444
00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:11,800
Speaker 1: Who steal from other kooks?

445
00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:14,600
Speaker 3: That, in fact, is the end of the relationship. Yeah,

446
00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:18,360
Speaker 3: it's very logical, very logical at your face, isn't logical,

447
00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:19,440
Speaker 3: And yet here you are.

448
00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:22,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, where's the logic of making a blog bashing your

449
00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:23,879
Speaker 1: partner for two years.

450
00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:26,840
Speaker 3: Where's the logic in staying with the partner that you

451
00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:30,000
Speaker 3: think is like a crook and stupid? Hey?

452
00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:32,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah ya. I told him if that's how

453
00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:35,439
Speaker 1: he feels, he needs to leave. The place we live

454
00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:37,760
Speaker 1: in was mine originally. He just moved in after we

455
00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:39,680
Speaker 1: were dating for a while because it was easier. I

456
00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:41,960
Speaker 1: didn't want to have to stoop that low, which is

457
00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:44,360
Speaker 1: not what I would call that. But living with someone

458
00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:47,040
Speaker 1: who thinks that little of what I do in my business,

459
00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:50,480
Speaker 1: the business that supported are very comfortable lives all this time,

460
00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:52,879
Speaker 1: isn't something I can compromise on. He asked me if

461
00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:54,800
Speaker 1: I was breaking up with him because of this, that

462
00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:57,679
Speaker 1: it was his right as an American with free speech

463
00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:00,120
Speaker 1: to do what he's doing, and then I'm trying to

464
00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:02,919
Speaker 1: censor him like all religious nuts due that is.

465
00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:07,760
Speaker 3: That's a crazy thing to say. To be like, you

466
00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:09,720
Speaker 3: can't tell me what to say.

467
00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:13,280
Speaker 1: I'm an American sounds like a grade A do fist.

468
00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:16,960
Speaker 1: I'm an American, real real quick. For all my Americans.

469
00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:20,800
Speaker 1: The First Amendment is the freedom to speech, not the

470
00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 1: freedom of consequences from your speech.

471
00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:27,840
Speaker 3: So dumb. That's so dumb. Were like, you can't break

472
00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:29,600
Speaker 3: up with me because I'm an American.

473
00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:33,439
Speaker 1: I have a I have a fun social experiment for

474
00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:37,160
Speaker 1: anyone who thinks they can say whatever they want. Go

475
00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:41,000
Speaker 1: go shout fire somewhere and see what happens when there's

476
00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:45,320
Speaker 1: no fire. You go to jail because you incited a panic,

477
00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:48,040
Speaker 1: but you're allowed to do it. I hate this guy.

478
00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,720
Speaker 2: Dude, Wait till we get the brain chips in our

479
00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,879
Speaker 2: brains and then it like prohibits us from saying certain words.

480
00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:56,600
Speaker 1: What yeah, brains, and.

481
00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:58,800
Speaker 3: We try to get no chip in my brain.

482
00:20:58,880 --> 00:20:59,400
Speaker 2: Earth is.

483
00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:08,800
Speaker 1: Round a spear, a spear, spearheaded, just.

484
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:12,200
Speaker 3: Traveling around the sun going someone threw it.

485
00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:13,879
Speaker 1: Yes, the turtle threw it.

486
00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:14,840
Speaker 3: Turtles all the way down.

487
00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:17,119
Speaker 1: Anyway, Let's get it. Let's we're almost done here. This

488
00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:20,040
Speaker 1: freaking this guy is the dumbest guy of.

489
00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:23,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's not saying a lot of logical things right now.

490
00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:25,520
Speaker 1: I could not believe what I was hearing, so I

491
00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:28,200
Speaker 1: just asked him to leave. Over the next few days,

492
00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:30,280
Speaker 1: he collected his things, and when he got out his

493
00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,680
Speaker 1: last box, he told me that he would not come back,

494
00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:34,920
Speaker 1: but that I could bet he would still be posting

495
00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:38,600
Speaker 1: on his blog about my shop, and to that, I'd say, rent.

496
00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 3: Free freaking promotions, promotional activity. Don't even have to pay

497
00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:45,919
Speaker 3: you for that.

498
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:48,040
Speaker 1: I think the last thing I said to him was

499
00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 1: to have fun with fifteen blog readers. I am really

500
00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 1: heartbroken over this and very sad it came to this.

501
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 1: It's going to be a long time before I tried

502
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:57,159
Speaker 1: dating again. Oh no, that.

503
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:01,720
Speaker 3: Story he was cooah, he was cuckoo.

504
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, it probably really easily.

505
00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:05,480
Speaker 3: Finds something yeah, better than that guy.

506
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 2: And they deleted everything, so we don't know what happens.

507
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 1: It was a little bit of a not a red flag,

508
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,920
Speaker 1: but it's like my eyebrow raises when it's like, yeah,

509
00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:17,440
Speaker 1: we just moved together in together because it was like easy.

510
00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:19,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, it should be. I feel like it needs to

511
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 3: be like this the next step in our relationship. We

512
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 3: are progressing forward. It's not because it's the easiest thing

513
00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:29,240
Speaker 3: to do. It's because I mean, you know, it can

514
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:31,880
Speaker 3: be more convenient for you, But it should also be like.

515
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 1: That shouldn't be the only element.

516
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:36,560
Speaker 2: It's like, well, we have we pay us rent.

517
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:38,400
Speaker 3: It's like no, no, no, we are at the point

518
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:40,919
Speaker 3: in a relationship where we feel like it's time to

519
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:41,920
Speaker 3: take that next step.

520
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, imagine a world where all the founding fathers were

521
00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:47,320
Speaker 1: farm animals.

522
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:49,720
Speaker 3: Isn't that just an animal farm the.

523
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 1: Founding farmers, and instead instead they're the farmers, and then

524
00:22:54,520 --> 00:22:55,000
Speaker 1: we're the.

525
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,440
Speaker 3: Live song whoa animal farm?

526
00:22:57,560 --> 00:23:00,119
Speaker 1: And then Planet of the Apes happens, But instead it's

527
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,800
Speaker 1: just we're just we're just like, wait, all these animals

528
00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 1: should be doing taxes.

529
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 3: My boyfriend pranked my proposal for YouTube.

530
00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 1: Bow you just got pranked.

531
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 3: Me twenty four female and Mike twenty eight mal have

532
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,159
Speaker 3: been dating for six years now. I love him with

533
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:17,120
Speaker 3: all my heart and he knows that I really really

534
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 3: want to be married to him. I've always felt like

535
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 3: he's the one. We have a very similar sense of humor.

536
00:23:22,240 --> 00:23:24,959
Speaker 3: We've been living together for three years and everything just

537
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 3: feels right. By the way, this comes from Breaking Point

538
00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:29,479
Speaker 3: two thirty four, And if you want to submit your

539
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 3: own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime suparate

540
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 3: it and we're here to give good advice. Goofley, But

541
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 3: we don't have all the answers. We only know what

542
00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:37,919
Speaker 3: we'd do, So let us know what you would do

543
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 3: in the comments and ohp says. My birthday was last weekend,

544
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 3: and Mike kept dropping little hints about possibly proposing, like

545
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,440
Speaker 3: buying me a SPA day to give me extra pampering,

546
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:51,480
Speaker 3: insisting I get my nails done. I told him before

547
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 3: that when he proposed, I'd like my nails done because

548
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 3: my pet peeve is really bad nails with a really

549
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 3: fancy ring. Shallo. I know, but it is what it is.

550
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:03,200
Speaker 3: No super fair point side note. I feel like I'm

551
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 3: always gonna know, like if I was being proposed to,

552
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,520
Speaker 3: because if anyone went mentioned like, oh let's go get Soephia,

553
00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:11,840
Speaker 3: you want to go get your nails, Like I never

554
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 3: do that. Why do you want to do it now?

555
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:15,800
Speaker 1: Because you're gonna have a ring.

556
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,639
Speaker 5: They got us started up like months before.

557
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:20,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're like, hey we should do this cute thing.

558
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 5: We're like, keep you on your toes.

559
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 1: You get Jennifer Coolidge to get to get you or

560
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:26,400
Speaker 1: a friend.

561
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 3: Just like, oh my god, Like if one of my

562
00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:29,160
Speaker 3: friends did it, that would work.

563
00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 5: My friend nearby with press.

564
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: Ons, Sofia, I signed you up for the Sweepsteakes to

565
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 1: get your nails done with Jennifer Coolidge and no one

566
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 1: told you about it, and she's.

567
00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:43,480
Speaker 3: Here now, Jennifer. Yeah, should in this scenario, actually Jennifer

568
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 3: done together, Jennifer Collage, what are you doing here? And

569
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 3: telling me that the night was going to be huge

570
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 3: and he had an amazing gift for me.

571
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:56,479
Speaker 1: Wink wink.

572
00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 3: He just goes wink wink because he can't wink, because

573
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 3: he's stupid. I can't wink either. It's not a measure of.

574
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 1: Sophia thinks everyone who can't wink is a freaking idiot.

575
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:06,200
Speaker 3: I can't wink either.

576
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 1: Self deprecating humor at its finest.

577
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:11,359
Speaker 5: Was that you actually trying to go.

578
00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:13,360
Speaker 3: I could do like a like a I just can't

579
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:15,399
Speaker 3: do like a subtle wink. You know, it's like the

580
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 3: best I could do?

581
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 5: Yes, exactly, Yeah, just like that.

582
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:20,920
Speaker 3: We went to dinner with our friends that night, and

583
00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 3: in front of everyone, he made a big show of

584
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 3: getting down on one knee and saying the words I've

585
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,239
Speaker 3: always wanted to hear, how much he loved me, how

586
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,280
Speaker 3: much he truly wanted to spend his life with me,

587
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 3: and then asked me to marry him. Okay, Dakota, right now,

588
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,280
Speaker 3: get on one knee, as if you were proposing the camera.

589
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 3: We're to judge it. Why why He's.

590
00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 5: Honestly though, good good Neil form.

591
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 3: Yeah great, now that's what we were looking for.

592
00:25:54,280 --> 00:26:00,720
Speaker 1: My middle name Neil Neil, I'd just be lying middle.

593
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 3: Name you started, I got it.

594
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 1: Snippled around.

595
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 3: We use it. Of course. I started crying and said yes.

596
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 3: That's when he chopped up and screamed just his friend

597
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,679
Speaker 3: had been filming the entire thing as some sort of

598
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,000
Speaker 3: twisted prank video for his YouTube channel.

599
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,600
Speaker 1: I can't think of like a brainers prank.

600
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 3: I'm just breaking up immediately, immediately I ran out of there.

601
00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 3: I couldn't handle it, and I couldn't stop crying. I

602
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 3: feel so disrespected, And the worst part is he doesn't

603
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:40,159
Speaker 3: even understand why. He says that he gave me a

604
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:42,439
Speaker 3: nice party and bought me a great gift, so I

605
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 3: should lighten up over one little prank. I told him

606
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 3: that if he published that video, I'd give him the

607
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 3: old one too, and in no uncertain terms, told him

608
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:55,919
Speaker 3: that I felt disrespected, humiliated, and devastated by what he

609
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:57,639
Speaker 3: did to me. He told me to stop being a

610
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 3: drama queen. And that's the really jib is already over,

611
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 3: but it's double over now, double or nothing. That relationship is.

612
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 1: Done if at twenty age, if at twenty eight you

613
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 1: don't have the wherewithal to know, this is a horrible idea.

614
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 1: This is not someone you want to sign up to

615
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,680
Speaker 1: spend the rest of your life with. Yeah, you maybe

616
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 1: get away with this at like eighteen. Yeah, and not

617
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 1: even in terms of like we stay together, in terms

618
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 1: of like, well, maybe they can like grow and change

619
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,600
Speaker 1: and realize they've done something wrong. But it is not

620
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 1: growing if this guy doesn't know after his frontal lobe

621
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 1: is fully there. This is not like something you could

622
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:31,879
Speaker 1: just be like, ah, get out of it.

623
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,919
Speaker 3: We've barely spoken to each other since that day. A

624
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,959
Speaker 3: couple hours ago you sent me a text asking if

625
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 3: you should stay somewhere else that weekend. You know, just

626
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 3: quick pause, Yeah, you committed.

627
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:44,360
Speaker 1: You could have executed this and it could have been good,

628
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 1: but you went through the whole thing, and we're like,

629
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:48,639
Speaker 1: marry me. And then she said, you gotta make the prank,

630
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:51,159
Speaker 1: Like before you say all that stuff, you gotta make

631
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:52,639
Speaker 1: the prank, Like you get down on one knee and

632
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,199
Speaker 1: then you like open the box and you're like, I

633
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:56,120
Speaker 1: think the Dolphins are gonna win the Super Bowl. This year,

634
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 1: So I just want to get you something whatever.

635
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,640
Speaker 3: Oh that's even that is like, that's that's hard.

636
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 1: It's terrible. But it's like you didn't give her the

637
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: false yeah, like satisfaction that she oh my god, like

638
00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 1: it happened, and then be like E got you.

639
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 3: It's like like maybe you could come back from that,

640
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:12,359
Speaker 3: maybe still be bad.

641
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:14,879
Speaker 5: I feel like the extent of fake proposals is the

642
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:19,160
Speaker 5: gym from the office one where you, yeah, I were

643
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:22,159
Speaker 5: doing anything, where we start talking about how much we

644
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 5: love the person.

645
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:26,120
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do. I'm honestly thinking about

646
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 3: leaving because he seriously thinks what he did to me

647
00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 3: is funny instead of insulting and disrespectful. I can't think straight.

648
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:35,280
Speaker 3: I just, oh, my gosh. The day that my boyfriend

649
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 3: asked me to be his girlfriend, there were multiple times

650
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 3: throughout that day where like I thought he was gonna

651
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 3: do it and then didn't, and I was like, I

652
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 3: was so disappointed and he didn't do it later it

653
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 3: was just like a lead up. If I was that

654
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 3: disappointed just about that, I can't imagine. I can't imagine this.

655
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 3: This is terrible.

656
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be like selling his stuff. They sold your

657
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 1: stuff pranked you be like, what do you mean that's

658
00:28:58,160 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 1: not a prank?

659
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 3: Pranked you? I called the cop on you.

660
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:03,000
Speaker 1: Get over it, baby, You go buy some more stuff

661
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 1: than I got the money.

662
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 2: Here's the money.

663
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, you can go buy it again.

664
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 3: Subscription is stupid relevant comments. I'm so groovy. You should

665
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 3: dump him. He doesn't even comprehend what he did. He

666
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 3: doesn't give a crap about your feelings, and he intentionally

667
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 3: humiliated you in public for a laugh. Also, wasn't the

668
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 3: family there?

669
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 1: Who would like think that's funny? When it was everyone

670
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 1: was there? Sorry, what did you say? I think who

671
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 1: would think that's even funny? If that happened?

672
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 5: Like, did the whole crowd not go silent?

673
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:34,360
Speaker 1: Like? The funnier thing to do would probably be to

674
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,719
Speaker 1: like do a fake proposal, like way too early, and

675
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 1: then it's like just kidding dude, like, oh my god,

676
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 1: we've been an ever like three months, Like that's that

677
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 1: would be insane, right, ha ha da.

678
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:45,120
Speaker 3: That one also is a little bit.

679
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 5: I think we just need to not do the fake proposals.

680
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: Still weird and not good. I'm just saying, like you can't.

681
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, the only way that we can do fake proposal

682
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 3: is if it is if it leads into real proposal.

683
00:29:57,920 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 3: There's some sort of joke, but it's actually a real propose.

684
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 3: I don't see how you could possibly forgive him or

685
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 3: ever trust him after this. Oh, he says, I don't

686
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 3: think I'll ever be able to trust him. I'm too

687
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 3: hurt and so angry. I just can't mister Julius or

688
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 3: Jules says you sure he's twenty eight because he's an

689
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 3: effing moron For a twenty eight year old green Field,

690
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 3: We says, six years is a long time, long enough

691
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 3: for this guy to have more respect for you. That

692
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 3: respect doesn't seem to be there based on what he did.

693
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 3: How long will you wait for a proposal? Would you

694
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 3: be happy without? For me, though I am admittedly vindictive,

695
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 3: I'd be gone. It's not even about being vindictive. This

696
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:37,479
Speaker 3: is just like blazing red flag that we need to say, Oh,

697
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 3: this relationship is over.

698
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 1: So what if? Yeah, hypothetically, this guy has a wildly

699
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 1: successful prank based YouTube channel. This video gets two hundred

700
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 1: million hits. So this is the Riley, This is the

701
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 1: ends up. He buys the real ring with the money

702
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 1: he made.

703
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 3: From this is This is Riley's this is yes y

704
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 3: law if it pays for money.

705
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, so millions of people will watch me be humiliated.

706
00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 1: Two hundred million people watch and that bread dud dude,

707
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 1: did you side note?

708
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 3: But that is slightly related. You know the woman who

709
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 3: got caught in the kiss cam with that guy?

710
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and now she has a New York Times.

711
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 3: Yes, she's got a whole New York Times article, being

712
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:18,960
Speaker 3: like I was completely harassed and no one actually knew

713
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 3: the whole story. Yes, so p we could. I mean,

714
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,960
Speaker 3: you'd have to go through some unmadginable awful stuff, but get.

715
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 5: The ring and sell it.

716
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,200
Speaker 1: He could get a New York Times article.

717
00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 3: Op says, I don't think I even want a proposal anymore.

718
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 3: Paper put says text and back. Yes, you need to

719
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 3: find another place to stay permanently. Let him sweat, wondering

720
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,240
Speaker 3: if that's a prank for a while. That text message

721
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 3: he sent you is a passive aggressive way to force

722
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 3: you to apologize for overreacting. It's time to teach this

723
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 3: little crap that there are major consequences for being a

724
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:53,280
Speaker 3: total leaner. And Op says, I texted him to tell

725
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:56,960
Speaker 3: him he isn't welcome at the house. He responded with seriously,

726
00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 3: and I haven't answered. OPI adds more about her boyfriend.

727
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 1: It's just his absolute also lack of hearing you be

728
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:07,239
Speaker 1: upset about this, where he's just like, what do you

729
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 1: mean seriously? You're not going let me be back?

730
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 5: Oh? What?

731
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 3: Like what? It was just a joke. He's always been

732
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,680
Speaker 3: bullish and headstrong, and he doesn't know when he's gone

733
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 3: too far. He never says sorry even when he's wrong. Honestly,

734
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 3: we don't fight often, but when we do it's almost

735
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 3: never resolved because we just don't talk about it anymore.

736
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 3: I always thought that when you love someone you accept

737
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 3: their bad parts and their flaws too, But when it's

738
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 3: so mean and nasty like this, I can't. And there

739
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 3: is an update four days.

740
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:34,880
Speaker 1: Later they breaking up.

741
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 3: They're breaking up, they better be That's it. I'man like,

742
00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 3: how do you come back from that?

743
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 1: Not even like if you propose again and make it real,

744
00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 1: It's like, no, when you taking it away? The classic

745
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 1: I married my partner for ninety days and ask for

746
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 1: divorce prank, classic.

747
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 3: Prank I used to watch. I had to watch a

748
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 3: lot of prank videos like that, like the cheating prank

749
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 3: and all of those things for the when I used

750
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 3: to make the thumbnail, and it was all of them

751
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 3: made me so mad.

752
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,120
Speaker 1: They made me so mad. Anger Sam.

753
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 3: Here, we're gonna get back to the stories, but here's

754
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 3: three of us bads from our sponsors four days later.

755
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 3: To start off, I just want to say thank you.

756
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 3: I've gotten so many messages and comments offering me not

757
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 3: only support, but advice, offering a shoulder to cry on,

758
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 3: offering me a person to vent to, you name it.

759
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 3: It's seriously awesome. Thank you, guys, sincerely. I never did

760
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:28,160
Speaker 3: return Mike's seriously text, and he didn't come home, which

761
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 3: made me think he stayed over at his friend's house.

762
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 3: After sleeping on it for a couple of days. I'd

763
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 3: already kind of come to the decision to break up.

764
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,680
Speaker 3: I just couldn't get over what he did, and I

765
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 3: didn't think he could get over what he did and

766
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 3: how he didn't care about how what he did to

767
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 3: me affected me. My mind was made up. His name

768
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 3: is on the lease. So I called my mom and

769
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 3: dad to explain the situation and told them I wanted

770
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:52,280
Speaker 3: to come home, which of course they said yes right away.

771
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 3: My parents are one hundred and fifty percent furious at him.

772
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 3: I texted his best friend to tell him to tell

773
00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 3: Mike that I was moving out and lo and old.

774
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 3: He tells me that Mike hasn't been staying with him.

775
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 3: He's a cheater too.

776
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's cheating.

777
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:09,080
Speaker 3: He's cheating and Prankin asked him if he knew where

778
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:11,879
Speaker 3: Mike was, and he says he's not sure, but he'll

779
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:13,919
Speaker 3: find out and get back to me. I reached out

780
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 3: to a couple of our mutual friends and one that's

781
00:34:16,719 --> 00:34:19,280
Speaker 3: more of my friend than his. They did some asking

782
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 3: around and found out the truth. Turns out, Mike has

783
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 3: been shacking up with a girl he's been cheating on

784
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 3: me with for months. Yeah, so you were just his

785
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 3: like YouTube content?

786
00:34:29,680 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 1: That makes so much sense. Yeah, that he'd be so

787
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 1: willing to do that too. He doesn't care.

788
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:36,799
Speaker 3: There's so many things I could say about this, but

789
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 3: sometimes I think silence speaks louder than words. He's been

790
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,360
Speaker 3: texting and calling me like crazy since he heard I

791
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 3: found out I'm ignoring him. I grabbed my essentials and

792
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:49,320
Speaker 3: left back to my parents' house. They're over there today

793
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,320
Speaker 3: with the movers to remove all my stuff.

794
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 1: I wonder what the psychological like impulses for that, Like

795
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: you get caught cheating and then it's like you want

796
00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 1: to go wait, wait, wait, no, no no no, it's

797
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 1: like you just be like, oh, well, well that's I

798
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,400
Speaker 1: guess I'll never talk to that person again.

799
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,919
Speaker 3: My dad is a lawyer, and he promised to put

800
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,840
Speaker 3: the screws to Mike about uploading the video. I hope

801
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 3: that and any decency has left in his crap bag

802
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 3: heart will stop him from putting the video online. But

803
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 3: there is a little bit left to the story. Any

804
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:19,120
Speaker 3: final thoughts.

805
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 1: Throw this man in the pit, Throw the man that

806
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:24,760
Speaker 1: we put in the pit, throw in the pit.

807
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 5: I feel like if they did upload this though, he's

808
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,120
Speaker 5: just gonna get destroyed.

809
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 3: Still.

810
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, No, one's gonna see that and be like

811
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 5: a great video, dude, you really would.

812
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but he could get two hundred million hate watches.

813
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,600
Speaker 3: Yeah that's the thing. Ye hate watch is still a watch.

814
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 3: I'm so numb right now. I feel like the world's

815
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 3: biggest idiot for loving him and trusting him for six years.

816
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 3: I probably am an idiot, but I think I'm gonna

817
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:51,840
Speaker 3: be okay. Thanks again, everyone, Also for everyone that asked

818
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 3: most of the girls were mutual friends with are now

819
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 3: treating him like crap for what he did. The waitress

820
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,080
Speaker 3: that night was also horrified and ripped into him and

821
00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 3: his friend after I left about how effed up what

822
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:05,280
Speaker 3: they did was. I'll take the small victories and final comments.

823
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 3: I should make an account, says, good for you. Op,

824
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 3: cut contact forever and keep moving forward. The ultimate prank

825
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 3: on him is that he has to deal with being

826
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 3: a crappy person, and OP says, I hope he realizes

827
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,840
Speaker 3: what that prank cost him one day. That and the

828
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:23,200
Speaker 3: cheating just I really can't. I'll always wonder why he

829
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:25,160
Speaker 3: couldn't be a man and come to me if he

830
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 3: was unhappy with our relationship. But I don't care enough

831
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:31,919
Speaker 3: anymore to talk to him and ask Bill Pullman. Trucker says, curious, OP,

832
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,839
Speaker 3: you dated this guy for six years. In hindsight, are

833
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 3: there any red flags that show how terrible of a

834
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 3: person he truly seems to be? Op says, the more

835
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 3: I think about it, Yeah, in hindsight, he was a

836
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:46,319
Speaker 3: very selfish person. Every nice thing he did for me

837
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:49,319
Speaker 3: was a benefit to himself. I don't remember him ever

838
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 3: being selfless, especially in the last year of us dating,

839
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 3: even though he had no problems criticizing me in my

840
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:58,720
Speaker 3: appearance if I didn't take advantage of presents. He offered

841
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 3: me stuff like getting my hair doning frop like that.

842
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 3: And that is the end of that story. Thank goodness,

843
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:05,800
Speaker 3: that guy is gone.

844
00:37:05,920 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 1: All his gifts to you are like hair extensions and

845
00:37:08,239 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 1: sales and makeup. Okay, it's like, yeah, bib no, this

846
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:12,239
Speaker 1: will help you look better.

847
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 3: And say, oh, oh, thanks, appreciate that.

848
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, it look better for me. Don't you want to

849
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 1: look better for me?

850
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:18,919
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story, folks, And we've

851
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:20,319
Speaker 3: got another one coming right up.

852
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: My husband ignores all the house rules while I do everything.

853
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 3: You can't do that.

854
00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 1: I am thirty three years old and have been with

855
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 1: my partner for eight years. We got together when I

856
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 1: was twenty and he was eighteen, and now we are

857
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 1: twenty eight and twenty six. Over the years, we have

858
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 1: gone through many changes, both as individuals and as a couple.

859
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: We've grown, laughed and cried together during this time. We've

860
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 1: had four children and got engaged five years ago. No

861
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 1: wedding yet, but that's a whole other story. And by

862
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,719
Speaker 1: the way, this comes from user moving in Shadows five

863
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:54,240
Speaker 1: thousand direct from the r slash Okay story time subreddit,

864
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: and if you want to submit your own stories, go there,

865
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 1: and we're here to give good advice goofly, but we

866
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 1: don't have all the answers because we're just bunch of goofballs.

867
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 1: We just know what we do, so tell us what

868
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:05,800
Speaker 1: you would do in the comments and op says. Although

869
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 1: we've both evolved, one thing that seems to have stayed

870
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 1: relatively the same as our respect for each other. In

871
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 1: many ways, it has grown and we have gained mutual

872
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:17,359
Speaker 1: respect for different aspects of each other's lives. However, at

873
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 1: the end of the day, I feel as though I'm

874
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 1: not respected in my beliefs or wishes. I'm starting to

875
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:26,320
Speaker 1: question if he ever has respected me orrever will. Some background,

876
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: I am a stay at home mom to four children,

877
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:32,319
Speaker 1: ages six, five, two, and six months. It is a

878
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:35,320
Speaker 1: lot of work and sometimes I fail to keep the

879
00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:37,799
Speaker 1: house looking nice or have a proper dinner ready when

880
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:39,759
Speaker 1: he comes home. I am not perfect. I have a

881
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 1: lot of growing to do, but I am trying. I've

882
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 1: always struggled with depression, and I experienced severe postpartum depression

883
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 1: after some of my children. I am trying. He sees

884
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:52,120
Speaker 1: this and is generally kind and understanding and quick to

885
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 1: help in his own way. What does that mean mean

886
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:56,520
Speaker 1: help in his own way? Is that by being like,

887
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 1: do this, I'm helping. I'm telling you what to do

888
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:00,359
Speaker 1: so you don't have to think of it.

889
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:01,360
Speaker 3: It's called delegation.

890
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 1: Sometimes his frustration shows, which puts me in a weird mood.

891
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: I can't blame him, but it does hurt, and I

892
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:10,839
Speaker 1: wish I could be and do better now for how

893
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 1: I feel he doesn't respect me and my wishes. A

894
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 1: few examples that frustrate me the most. He doesn't follow

895
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 1: the rules I've tried to set in our house for

896
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 1: six years. These rules are not extreme, they are simple

897
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:24,799
Speaker 1: household standards that I imagine most families would follow. His

898
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:27,800
Speaker 1: disregard shows our children that they don't have to respect

899
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 1: rules and can do whatever they want. This feels extremely

900
00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 1: disrespectful to our home and to me. A major rule

901
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:36,279
Speaker 1: he constantly bends is that food should be eaten at

902
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: the table. He refuses to practice this, and anytime he

903
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,399
Speaker 1: feeds the kids, he allows them to eat wherever they want,

904
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,320
Speaker 1: whether on the couch or other areas.

905
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,320
Speaker 3: So it doesn't seem like it's his rule. Seems like

906
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 3: it's just a thing that he thinks would be nice. Yeah,

907
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 3: but he doesn't actually follow. No, he doesn't make the

908
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 3: a rule.

909
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:57,360
Speaker 1: Opis like we should eat at the table. He was like, man, no,

910
00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:58,879
Speaker 1: He's like, okay, I don't care.

911
00:39:59,160 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's rude.

912
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:02,759
Speaker 1: I might eat on at the couch, which I'm a

913
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: fan of, but whatever. He also does not wipe them

914
00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:09,439
Speaker 1: down or clean the surfaces they eat on. The kids

915
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: are allowed to roam with dirty hands, and I'm left

916
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 1: to clean up the mess on the table, couches, and

917
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: around the house. Oh so it's not even like you

918
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 1: guys are all eating in this. They're all eating eating

919
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 1: in their bedroom, one person on the couch.

920
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:23,240
Speaker 3: Even a mess.

921
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 1: That's weird.

922
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 2: That's just weird.

923
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:29,480
Speaker 1: Another ongoing issue is garbage. I remind him that garbage

924
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:33,359
Speaker 1: goes in the garbage and recycling in the recycling bit

925
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 1: pretty standard. He constantly mixes them, even throwing bottles and

926
00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 1: cans in the garbage instead of recycling.

927
00:40:39,560 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 3: See that's my pet, Peeve. I know that a lot

928
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 3: of recycling isn't actually recycled, but just let's just recycle.

929
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 1: Let's just try. Might as well got two bins. They've

930
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 1: got two bins.

931
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:52,040
Speaker 3: We might as well.

932
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 1: I say, save all of your plastic bottles and containers

933
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 1: and make a house out of it.

934
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,319
Speaker 3: You could do that. Actually, they are doing that.

935
00:40:58,360 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: You should do that.

936
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:02,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're doing making houses out of like it's kind

937
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 3: of like the Wally houses where they like compact all

938
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 3: the plastics.

939
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:07,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, plastic house.

940
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 3: It's pretty cool.

941
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:11,200
Speaker 1: Bedtime is another area of tension. He will spend hours

942
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:13,600
Speaker 1: on his computer almost every night and on days off,

943
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:15,960
Speaker 1: much of the day, leaving me to handle bedtime for

944
00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 1: all four children alone. Bedtime can take me two to

945
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:21,360
Speaker 1: three hours, depending on the children's behavior. Even when I

946
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:24,720
Speaker 1: ask for help, he continues with his activities on the computer.

947
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:27,279
Speaker 1: A recent incident pushed me to write this post. We

948
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:30,880
Speaker 1: both go out occasionally. My outings typically last one to

949
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:33,720
Speaker 1: three hours, but I often return early to handle the kids.

950
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 1: These outings are a mix of errands and personal times,

951
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: such as grabbing coffee while shopping. During these times, I

952
00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:42,080
Speaker 1: keep in contact via text or phone with him. His

953
00:41:42,160 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 1: outings can last one to seven hours, and he usually

954
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,439
Speaker 1: does not communicate much with me. Why are you doing

955
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 1: outings together? Yeah, what's going on there.

956
00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 3: It just feels like it's all very separate, Like they

957
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:54,399
Speaker 3: don't eat together because he doesn't really care. He doesn't

958
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 3: try and help, like get the kids down, which can

959
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:01,280
Speaker 3: be you know, if you actually work together a more

960
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:04,799
Speaker 3: enjoyable process, like you read to the kids or like

961
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 3: you know, have a little fun at bath time. It

962
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:09,360
Speaker 3: doesn't have to be a stressful thing if we're working together.

963
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 3: But it doesn't seem like he really wants to.

964
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 1: Be partners, it really does. It feels like he's just

965
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 1: clocking in. I understand he doesn't have to communicate, but

966
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 1: I like knowing where he is and what he's doing,

967
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 1: especially in case something happens at home. This helps me

968
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 1: plan my day. Today he was gone for seven hours

969
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: with our eldest child, who was also at a friend's house.

970
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: This is fine, and I support their time together. What

971
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: frustrates me is that he knew I had errands to

972
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,279
Speaker 1: run today. I had asked our eldest if she wanted

973
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:39,319
Speaker 1: to join me for a little date day. He then

974
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: invited her skateboarding, which she wanted to do but could

975
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 1: not fully enjoy because of her prior plans. They returned

976
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 1: at seven forty PM close to bedtime, leaving me to

977
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 1: handle the evening routine alone. A side note, I dislike

978
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:54,760
Speaker 1: running errands at night, and he is aware pet stores

979
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: close at nine and I still needed to buy cat

980
00:42:57,239 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 1: food you can buy at other stores. But that's not

981
00:42:59,680 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 1: the point.

982
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 3: Just feels like this guy is inconsiderate.

983
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:06,320
Speaker 1: I think a good challenge would be like, Okay, clearly

984
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:09,839
Speaker 1: there's no respect going both ways here. Let's see how

985
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:12,359
Speaker 1: you handle the kids. Yeah, I just want to see

986
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 1: how you would handle it. And if you can't, guess what,

987
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 1: you start showing me way more respect. Because you can't

988
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 1: do what I do. You should also work on that.

989
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 3: You s start figuring out how to be a dad.

990
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 1: Parenting for both parents. Maybe time to lock in a

991
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 1: little bit on that agreed buccaroo basinga. At the end

992
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,760
Speaker 1: of the day, I love my husband, but his actions

993
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 1: drive me bananas. I want our relationship to succeed, but

994
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:41,279
Speaker 1: I often feel unheard and disrespected. I do not know

995
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 1: how to communicate with him effectively because it feels like

996
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:46,239
Speaker 1: our conversations never stick. And he advised on how to

997
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:51,279
Speaker 1: navigate these conflicts while maintaining our relationship would be greatly appreciated.

998
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 1: Thank you for reading and being my shoulder to cry on.

999
00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 1: And there are some comments here. Yeah, I think honestly,

1000
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:58,799
Speaker 1: just be like, I want to see how you could

1001
00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 1: take how you handle this.

1002
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, you sit down, you say, hey, I'm going away

1003
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:06,319
Speaker 3: for a weekend. And I know right now you have

1004
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 3: not been stepping up, and I want this moment to

1005
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:11,879
Speaker 3: be a chance for you to do that, because it's

1006
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:12,839
Speaker 3: just getting out of hand.

1007
00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, even just the notion of like, I feel like

1008
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 1: I can't go away for a weekend, Yeah, because I

1009
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:19,360
Speaker 1: don't know if I could even like trust you to

1010
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 1: do it, Yeah, trust you to take care of the

1011
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 1: kids in the house and all this stuff.

1012
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:27,399
Speaker 3: It's like that Doctor Who episode where James Corden.

1013
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 5: Is a an episode with James Gordon.

1014
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 3: Two of the best episodes in Doctor two are with

1015
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 3: James Cordon, and that is not a joke. James Gordon

1016
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 3: was one of my favorite characters in Doctor Hill. He

1017
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:42,279
Speaker 3: literally is in two episodes. They're saying they are stellar episodes.

1018
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:45,760
Speaker 3: This is like early early James James Cordon.

1019
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 1: James Cordon before everyone hated him.

1020
00:44:47,400 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, he is so funny in those episodes. But he

1021
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 3: has a baby in the second episode that he appears

1022
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 3: in and his wife goes away for the weekend, basically

1023
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:58,400
Speaker 3: like leaves him in charge. He's like, I know, she

1024
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 3: just wants to see if I can handle it. And

1025
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 3: then there's there's cybermen, and he's like, I can't handle it.

1026
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:07,319
Speaker 3: But then he shows up. I can't handle it.

1027
00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 5: There's an alien invasion.

1028
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:10,920
Speaker 3: I can't handle it, like I don't know how to

1029
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 3: do it.

1030
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 5: But then he shows up for his kid, Alfie, even

1031
00:45:14,160 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 5: during an alien invasion. Yeah, and this guy can't do

1032
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 5: a regular weekend.

1033
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:19,360
Speaker 3: I can't even do a regular weekend.

1034
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:22,880
Speaker 1: We got some comments. Your expectations are not too high.

1035
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 1: They may not be high enough. He is not being

1036
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 1: a partner and that is not okay. Being a stay

1037
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 1: at home mom is a full time job and just

1038
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 1: because you have off days doesn't mean you don't deserve

1039
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 1: help or a break. He doesn't even help you with

1040
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: bedtime for your four kids. That's ridiculous. A discussion is

1041
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 1: definitely needed in some boundary set. If he doesn't respect them,

1042
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 1: you should consider your options in leaving as this will

1043
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:48,360
Speaker 1: likely never change. I say this all from a long

1044
00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: relationship of the same and honestly trying so dang hard

1045
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 1: for the smallest changes and getting almost nothing. So I

1046
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: know it's easier said than done, but really ask yourself

1047
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 1: if this is how you want to live hope, He replies.

1048
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,759
Speaker 1: I definitely need to have a sit down about boundaries,

1049
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:06,840
Speaker 1: and the option about leaving has unfortunately crossed my mind

1050
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 1: on many occasions. The only problem I'm having is that

1051
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:12,799
Speaker 1: now we moved fourteen hours away from our families, we

1052
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:14,839
Speaker 1: have no support out here and would be one hundred

1053
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 1: percent on our own raising four kids. And I don't

1054
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 1: want to make a split family if I don't have to.

1055
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 1: But changes need to happen, and that is the end

1056
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:24,400
Speaker 1: of that story. And I agree.

1057
00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 3: I mean, you talk about it with him and you say, hey,

1058
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 3: then I don't want to break up this family, but

1059
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 3: we need a huge change. And if that means we

1060
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:34,279
Speaker 3: got to move back to my family, or I have

1061
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 3: to move back to be with my family so I

1062
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 3: can get some support.

1063
00:46:37,360 --> 00:46:40,439
Speaker 1: I just, uh, yeah. If nothing's getting through and he's

1064
00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 1: just you know, just on the computer, probably playing games,

1065
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:47,719
Speaker 1: probably just playing games on the computer, not being an

1066
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 1: actual parent, oh yeah, yeah, I don't know, Maybe just

1067
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 1: appeal to his feelings. It's like, do you even like

1068
00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:56,920
Speaker 1: consider yourself a dad? Like do you want to be

1069
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:59,719
Speaker 1: a parent? Yeah, you're just like you just you just

1070
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 1: hate out just to hang out, or you just you're

1071
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 1: just a fun hang You're not acting like their dead.

1072
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:08,759
Speaker 3: You play skateboard, you know, you go go skateboard with them.

1073
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 1: You're you're a big fifth child, Holly. Does that sit

1074
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:12,920
Speaker 1: right with you?

1075
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 3: Don't sit right with me. I'll tell you that much

1076
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 3: sits wrong.

1077
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 1: But the internance story and we got some carements.

1078
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:21,239
Speaker 2: Hey, it's sam og host.

1079
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to these delectable stories. But here's

1080
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:25,720
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1081
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:26,040
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1082
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 3: These comments are from the video I hooked up with

1083
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 3: my neighbor and now he's stalking me And this was

1084
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:38,319
Speaker 3: posted October eighteenth, twenty twenty five. And this TLDR is

1085
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 3: for story two. In that video, op kept getting their

1086
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 3: private moments ruined because the neighbor would bang on the

1087
00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 3: walls and doors every time Opie and her boyfriend try

1088
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,760
Speaker 3: to have spicy sleep. The neighbors screamed at them, yelled

1089
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 3: about their dog, and made living there stressful. Opie's boyfriend

1090
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:58,680
Speaker 3: refused to even defend op or talk to the landlord.

1091
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:01,400
Speaker 3: After more incident Dent's, where he still didn't stand up

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Speaker 3: for Ope or their dog, oh Pie realized he never

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Speaker 3: protects her in any situation. Opie finally ended the relationship.

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Speaker 3: The whole story shows how the neighbor wasn't the only problem.

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Speaker 3: Opie's boyfriend was too. If you're curious to know the

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Speaker 3: full story, you can go watch the full video.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you can do either of you remember that one?

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Speaker 1: I do, Yes, I do kind of remember that one.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I remember that one quite well.

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Speaker 5: Comment one from Abigail Oberhauser fourteen twenty.

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Speaker 2: That's so cool.

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Speaker 3: Abigail ober Houser Wousa.

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Speaker 1: Put a Vaughan in front of that. That's Germans Abai

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Speaker 1: from opah Housa on the.

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Speaker 5: Second story, I don't think they should have a dog.

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Speaker 3: Start with one problem at a time. Get rid of

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Speaker 3: the dog.

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Speaker 1: You're read a dag.

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Speaker 5: Comment or two from Renni v one vv time mark

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Speaker 5: twenty five. Well, letting a dog pee on someone's stuff

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Speaker 5: is really effing rude. There's dirty and there's dog pee.

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Speaker 5: The appropriate response is apologizing and now defending a poorly

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Speaker 5: socialized dog. Yeah, no, you're definitely part of the problem.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, so basically there was a part in this

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Speaker 3: story where this neighbor has been rude and aggressive and

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Speaker 3: then OPI is like taking her dog out, and the

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Speaker 3: dog kind of like lunges a little bit at the

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Speaker 3: neighbor and like bart from what I remember, and OPI

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Speaker 3: like pulls it back. Uh, and then the neighbor gets

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Speaker 3: super upset and she's like, well, like, don't go by

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Speaker 3: my dog, blah blah blah. And I do kind of

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Speaker 3: agree with that commenter about.

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Speaker 5: That comment three by Leopold thirty three w Yeah, woman

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Speaker 5: with the dog sounds like she is the problem. Sounds

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Speaker 5: like she wants people to mind read and be understanding

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Speaker 5: of her situation and the dog and is complaining about

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Speaker 5: how other people aren't seeing it from her perspective. And

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Speaker 5: I think she isn't the best narrator where I think

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Speaker 5: covering my mouth during spicy sleep isn't enough because people

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Speaker 5: can be loud even with the mouth covered. I'm getting

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Speaker 5: the vibe that this woman does what she wants and

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Speaker 5: gets upset that people aren't cool with letting her know

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Speaker 5: that she can be a problem. She mentioned that the

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Speaker 5: neighborhoods a baby. Babies are often put to sleep late

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Speaker 5: in the afternoon or still asleep at six am. It

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Speaker 5: sounds like she wants other people to be considerate of her,

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Speaker 5: but she's not considerate of others.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sounds like sounds.

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Speaker 1: Like we might have a little stinky Op in this story.

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Speaker 5: And last comment by melan Nie second story. Dog will

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Speaker 5: stay reactive because Op is.

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Speaker 3: But that's the end of those comments and the end

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Speaker 3: of this episode. So if you love us, make sure

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