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Speaker 1: Black Effect Podcast Network. I am your host, Teslin figure Row,

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Speaker 1: and we are doing something a little bit different today.

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Speaker 1: Many of you may have saw the viral clip that

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Speaker 5: A younger asked me would I date a bus driver?

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Speaker 5: And I believe was some people heard when I so

435
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Speaker 5: to be clear, I said no, I would not. Actually

436
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Speaker 5: what I said was because if he owns the bus

437
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:51,880
Speaker 5: bus But then that was no, I would not date

438
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 5: a bus driver, but I would date a gentleman who

439
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 5: owned the bus.

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Speaker 4: Uh.

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Speaker 5: And I want to get to the details of that

442
00:24:58,400 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 5: in the sectord. But put a pin in it, because

443
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 5: here's on a breakdown test. When I said, if he

444
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:05,359
Speaker 5: date if he owns the bus, but buck for him

445
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 5: owning the bus.

446
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:07,120
Speaker 3: I would not date a bus dripper.

447
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 5: That's what I'm said, right, Test let me, but let

448
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 5: me tell you what I know people heard based on

449
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 5: the comments. Some people heard some people heard a bus

450
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 5: drivering shit. Some people heard a bus driver is beneath me.

451
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:28,760
Speaker 5: Other people heard a bus driver is broke. None of

452
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 5: that was said, though none of that was said. Test them,

453
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 5: because none of that is believed what I was saying,

454
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:36,760
Speaker 5: And I'm gon back it up and let y'all know

455
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 5: some history, because people were very much in their feelings

456
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:39,480
Speaker 5: about that.

457
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,959
Speaker 3: First of all, my mother drove a bus for many years.

458
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Speaker 3: My mother, Gloria J.

459
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Speaker 5: Williams, she drove a bus, and she drove a public

460
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 5: school bus for many years. And if you've read any

461
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 5: of my work Pretty Powerful or bet on Black, you

462
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 5: know this. And you know what my mother did with

463
00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 5: that bus driving occupation is she saved her money and

464
00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 5: then she's by daycare. She saved that money and she

465
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 5: ultimately bought a fleet, a fleet of eighteen Willis, becoming

466
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:08,119
Speaker 5: one of the first black women to own a tractor

467
00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,439
Speaker 5: trailer company in Charlotte North Carolina. So part of this

468
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:15,359
Speaker 5: is that I come from a legacy, Tesla figurea of entrepreneurship,

469
00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,439
Speaker 5: and you and I both know that we talk often

470
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 5: about the.

471
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 3: Importance of black ownership.

472
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Speaker 5: So I want to be very clear that when I

473
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 5: retorted to Ayana would say if he owned the bus,

474
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 5: that was not an income statement. It was never about

475
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 5: an income. That was about a mentality, and that was

476
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 5: about a positioning of black ownership. And so sadly, tes

477
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 5: what I was said to see, I understanding critique and

478
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,680
Speaker 5: as public figures, when we put ourselves out there for

479
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 5: commentary and perspective, it's gonna get pushed back.

480
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,120
Speaker 3: I invited, you know, it's really the point of what

481
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:49,560
Speaker 3: we do.

482
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:53,639
Speaker 5: However, what I was sad to see my sister was

483
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 5: not one person said, damn, that's a good idea to

484
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,560
Speaker 5: own the bus, you know what I mean. Now, one

485
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:04,639
Speaker 5: person of any ginger said, my goodness, well, you know

486
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,879
Speaker 5: that's interesting that she proposed it that way, not rejecting

487
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:13,160
Speaker 5: the bus driving as an occupation, but even the consideration, Teslin,

488
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:17,160
Speaker 5: of what it would look like to step into ownership

489
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 5: of the bus. And now I'll say this and be

490
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 5: done with this question. You know, I just got back

491
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 5: from DC White House Correspondence Center in Pakistani man.

492
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: And he owned the sprinter, and he took me to

493
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:36,719
Speaker 1: the the Urban League panel that I moderated, and it

494
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 1: was a nice sprinted tess, you know, real nice, and

495
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 1: the insign new you can tell that she was new.

496
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 5: And I said, this is a nice printer. I said,

497
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,879
Speaker 5: who do you work for? That man said, oh, I

498
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 5: owned this. I said that's real nice because he said

499
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 5: I owned this, and I own a Cadillac GT whatever

500
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,439
Speaker 5: the fuck. So he owns just two vehicles and he

501
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 5: drives them all day on his own accord.

502
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 1: And I just was really impressed with this.

503
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 5: Yes, Isaac i Ama Virgo, I was very His brother

504
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 5: Isaac Hayes the third shout out to Isaac, I was

505
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 5: very impressed testing by this man, this immigrants who has

506
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,159
Speaker 5: come to the United States of America and for whatever reason,

507
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 5: knew off the bat that his best way to liberation,

508
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 5: to economic freedom, and probably to some level of cultural

509
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 5: positioning tesla was to not drive someone else's sprinter, but

510
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 5: to own one for himself.

511
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 1: Press it. Well, let's get to it, though, you know,

512
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 1: because this is important, you know, to say as well,

513
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 1: you know, I look at the comments that I've heard

514
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 1: this several times in the Commons section on what about

515
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 1: if he owns the bus one day? So let's deal

516
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 1: with the one day first of all, every woman, and

517
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 1: oh of course, because I want to make sure, including

518
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: my brothers, have different points that they're in their life,

519
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: different points what somebody did at twenty one and twenty

520
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:12,520
Speaker 1: five when I got married, by the way to a mechanic.

521
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 1: At twenty three, we were building together. You were starting

522
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 1: out together. You were I remember, we didn't have any money.

523
00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 1: We bought our first home. We didn't have any furniture.

524
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 1: We had, you know, one couch we could buy. We

525
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 1: did the air mattress thing until we built up. Two

526
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 1: years after that we got a house built from the ground.

527
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 1: We did all of that. But that was what I

528
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: was twenty three. So can we talk a little bit

529
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 1: about what does it mean? Because I know you've said

530
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: this many times, and I want people to put this

531
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 1: in different you know, different phases of life. Where you

532
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: are in life now, what somebody may be willing to

533
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,239
Speaker 1: build with when you were building and starting out and

534
00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 1: being young and starting with a man versus somebody thirty

535
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: five and older, or even forty. That is now saying, hey,

536
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 1: I want to be with somebody to build. What does

537
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 1: that look like when a woman or a man goes

538
00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 1: into a situation and you've already built certain things. So,

539
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 1: for example, I may be a little bit more understanding

540
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: of and I'm just using this as example, a understanding

541
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 1: of somebody that has bad credit at twenty one, because

542
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 1: everybody does, or twenty three or whatever. But when you

543
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: start getting into certain seasons that are like thirty five

544
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 1: and older, let's just say that, and you have done

545
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 1: the work to have a house for yourself like you do,

546
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 1: like I do, rental properties, like we do, certain income,

547
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 1: what all of those things, and you've done the hard

548
00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 1: work by yourself. Is it asking too much for a

549
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 1: man to at least meet or exceed what you've been

550
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:56,840
Speaker 1: able to accomplish or should I be a builder Bear?

551
00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 1: And I'm just speaking this, you know, in general, a

552
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 1: build of Bear factory and say that I And just

553
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 1: just for clarity before y'all get mad at me, I'm

554
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 1: d hey, baby, I do blue collarhood. But the point

555
00:31:09,560 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 1: is I'm just trying to give some context of this

556
00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 1: that everybody starts at. Everybody looks at life differently in

557
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 1: different phases. So is it fair to say that you

558
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 1: have accomplished certain things and is it unfair for you

559
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 1: to look for the same things.

560
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 5: And I'm saying I don't even have to be hypothetical

561
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 5: about it. Test, I'm gonna tell you that the actual

562
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:29,959
Speaker 5: story when I first came out as a baby lawyer

563
00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:32,480
Speaker 5: twenty three years old practice at law Shaw on North Carolina,

564
00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 5: my then husband, not.

565
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 1: Before, because you were married before. That's very important to people.

566
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:46,400
Speaker 1: It's very important, is very important. I'm very important.

567
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 5: I decided I didn't like it, it didn't work for me,

568
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 5: so I got a divorce. So that's the facts on

569
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 5: that anyway.

570
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:55,120
Speaker 1: And my recentil relationship, well, I'm decided that that wasn't

571
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 1: aligned with my goals. I ended that that engagement as well,

572
00:31:58,040 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 1: So that those are the facts on that for those

573
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:03,240
Speaker 1: that are key scored of my relationship status. So back

574
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 1: to my first marriage, my first marriage, Teslaan, I was

575
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 1: a whole lawyer. I was making in Charlotte, North Carolina

576
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 1: in two thousand and eight, like one hundred and twenty

577
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 1: thousand dollars, which.

578
00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 5: At that time for that market. And we got to

579
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 5: talk about market too, We're gonna get to that that

580
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:25,800
Speaker 5: was considered a very good living, right, Okay, that's what

581
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 5: I was bringing to the door. My then fiance became husband,

582
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 5: was bringing up and come to the door at the

583
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 5: time because he was a graduate student. He had just graduated,

584
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 5: and he was looking for his employment opportunity. So the

585
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 5: point of that, Teslain, is I have been the whole

586
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 5: breadwinner in a marriage. So I'm really not going to

587
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 5: entertain too much commentary about my lack of grace, my

588
00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 5: lack of willingness as an individual black woman to participate

589
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 5: in building with someone. There's no med scenario to build

590
00:32:57,120 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 5: that when you are essentially an angel, and that when

591
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 5: you essentially are the one laying the foundational framework, or

592
00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:08,920
Speaker 5: the one with the credit, the one with the income,

593
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 5: the one with the first and last month's rent deposit.

594
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 5: I've done that, Tesla, and I had no problem doing it.

595
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 5: What I am saying is that at this point, at

596
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 5: thirty nine, almost forty, I'll be forty in September. And

597
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 5: I loved the comments, Tesla that both y'all, y'all really

598
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 5: can't decide what y'all want to do with me. Am

599
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 5: I a little girl who doesn't understand the ways of life,

600
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 5: or am I old bitch or.

601
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 1: B that's older that nobody wants.

602
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 5: I want you all to figure that come back to

603
00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 5: me anyway, anyway at almost forty years old, test as

604
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:47,160
Speaker 5: you know, I have worked.

605
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 3: We have worked, and not just myself.

606
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 1: When I look to my left and I see women

607
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 1: like yourself, I look to my right, I see women

608
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 1: like yourself films, I see women like Natalie Robinson. I

609
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 1: see women like people that we all know and love,

610
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 1: who are who have not just started the talk, who

611
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:08,319
Speaker 1: have established businesses and not just anybody's mind the pok LLC, no.

612
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 3: No disrespect to that.

613
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 1: I'm talking about women who have as corporations see corporations

614
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:20,319
Speaker 1: for you million. I know you're not gonna say yeah,

615
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: I mean because that's important, because because that's important and

616
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 1: I and I'm not saying that to this anybody, but

617
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: I do. I know there's these you know, these conversations.

618
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,799
Speaker 1: He's coming six figures, six figgas, six figures. So I

619
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 1: just want to put on the table for you, because

620
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 1: I know you're not gonna put on the table with

621
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 1: and your humble self, But I'm just gonna go ahead

622
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 1: and say so Evan, he's a millionaire. Guys. So when

623
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 1: you're asking a millionaire to you know what, I understand, ladies,

624
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 1: when you're saying, hey, you know such and such makes

625
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 1: fifty thousand a year, when you're talking to people that have,

626
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 1: you know, advanced to millionaire status, the income is different

627
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: according to your your.

628
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 5: Status, like you have the particular level that you're doing it,

629
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 5: and all of that is, let's be clear, test all

630
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 5: of that's not burking bags and trips to uh, you know,

631
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 5: Costa Rica and Turks at my.

632
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:04,800
Speaker 1: Tax liability alone.

633
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 5: My tax liability tests as a business owner and as

634
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 5: a personal income recipient in the United States of America

635
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 5: is we're just coming out of April, y'all, know, the

636
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:18,799
Speaker 5: tax season. So you're talking to me about a good

637
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 5: living being one hundred and thirty thousand, one hundred and

638
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:24,280
Speaker 5: sixty thousand dollars a year, I personally, and that's.

639
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 1: Why when a Yama asked me, I had to answer

640
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 1: for myself. It can't touch my tax liability, y'all.

641
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 5: So what do you want me to do with it

642
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 5: other than say it's an exceptional living for those that

643
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:39,839
Speaker 5: live that lifestyle, and it is. I really want people test.

644
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:41,360
Speaker 5: And one of the reasons I reached out to you

645
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 5: and let's be clever, yow to you to have this

646
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 5: dollargue this evening. I want people to stop internalizing lifestyle

647
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:53,360
Speaker 5: choices and circum state that applied to the individuals that

648
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 5: you see in the public sphere, the public sphere, and

649
00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:00,160
Speaker 5: then you internalize it and you reduce it there and

650
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 5: you apply it to yourself and then you end up

651
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:05,760
Speaker 5: feeling a way that it's unnecessary.

652
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:06,359
Speaker 1: Y'all.

653
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 3: It's called fortune telling.

654
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 5: It's a cognitive eraror to those of you that are

655
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 5: in therapy and do the work, that's what that looks like.

656
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 5: You hear a public figure say something like in New

657
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 5: York City and google it. Don't take everan he's paying

658
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 5: for it, because every you know whatever, google it. The

659
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 5: average cost to live a comfortable lifestyle in New York City,

660
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,280
Speaker 5: per the data, is three point fifty a year plus.

661
00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 1: That's the data.

662
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 3: You know.

663
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 5: I need y'all to look at that before you start

664
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 5: talking to me about what a good income is or

665
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 5: what a lot of money looks like.

666
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:44,760
Speaker 1: And again, it's not because of.

667
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:46,280
Speaker 5: Of materialism and just wanting to walk into my closet,

668
00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 5: which It is a nice closet.

669
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 3: Let's be clear.

670
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 5: Y'all saw it in the New York Times on act

671
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,879
Speaker 5: like you didn't, y'all. It just had to put that out,

672
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. It's a nice but it's

673
00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:58,400
Speaker 5: not talking about more Brugns than Lupton's. I'm now talking

674
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:01,600
Speaker 5: about when I want to go into a French situation

675
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 5: and I need a partner to help meet me halfway.

676
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 1: Not all the way, Tesla, but just halfway.

677
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 5: It takes oh one point five liquid and three point

678
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 5: net to get into consideration of the financial qualification.

679
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 1: For the franchise expansion. That is the life that I live.

680
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:29,080
Speaker 5: That I live, not that you live, Not that Joe

681
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 5: Schmoe and most Black Americans, and frankly, let's get race

682
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 5: off the table for one second.

683
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna come back to race because it's very important.

684
00:37:35,760 --> 00:37:37,920
Speaker 5: But even when you look at the average white income

685
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 5: in America, Tesla, they're not talking about what we're talking

686
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 5: about in this conversation. And I would say this because

687
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:45,879
Speaker 5: some of y'all we don't really want to talk about

688
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:48,440
Speaker 5: the real real When y'all start talking about how black

689
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 5: women need to stop being so.

690
00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:54,359
Speaker 1: On our high ars, so extra so oh, I.

691
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 5: Love this one test unrealistic with our expectations and standards.

692
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:01,480
Speaker 5: I want you to know that you're doing the work

693
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 5: of white supremacy. You need to know that you need.

694
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:06,960
Speaker 1: To know when you start talking to black people of

695
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 1: any gender, male, female or non binari.

696
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:11,760
Speaker 3: Let's be very inclusive.

697
00:38:11,320 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 1: Here, and you start aggressively and because these comments have

698
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: been a little aggressive, when you start aggressively enforcing a

699
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: narrative that says that black women and black people need

700
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:33,760
Speaker 1: to be extremely happy and complacent and welcoming of averageness,

701
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:35,920
Speaker 1: which another word for average testl and is we know

702
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:40,480
Speaker 1: is what mediocrity. That's the work of white supremacy, because

703
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 1: only white supremacy wins when black folks continue to have

704
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:45,520
Speaker 1: a belief system.

705
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 5: And again I'm on reference something. I just came back

706
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:49,359
Speaker 5: from India. They have something over there and they Hindu

707
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:52,400
Speaker 5: religion tis as you know, called karma. And it's not

708
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:54,920
Speaker 5: exactly what we think of in Western perspective. In karma,

709
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 5: we think of what you do in the world comes

710
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 5: back to you. And that's a part of common But

711
00:38:58,000 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 5: let's say another part of army that we don't know

712
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 5: so much about out karma is also the position that

713
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 5: you are born into in this life is the position

714
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:08,760
Speaker 5: that you need to stay in.

715
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 1: Indefinitely in this life.

716
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 5: And your karma is that you were born in the

717
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 5: position subordinate or mediocre, or even lesser than what they

718
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 5: call even the undesirables. So now we're talking cast system.

719
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 5: And the reason you're born into that position in life,

720
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 5: which is not wealthy or elite, is because of something

721
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 5: you did bad in a previous life. And so thus

722
00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 5: your karma requires you to sit complicitly and quote happily

723
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:40,719
Speaker 5: in your subordinate, mediocre, average position in this lifetime. And

724
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:42,920
Speaker 5: if you do real good and you're real happy about

725
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 5: that life, maybe in your next life you'll live a

726
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:45,879
Speaker 5: better life.

727
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 1: That's karma.

728
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:49,919
Speaker 5: So I fink did very interesting tesla, and that that

729
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 5: white supremacy has done a very very good job of

730
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 5: selling Black Americans, especially those of us that are the

731
00:39:56,600 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 5: descendants of enslaved Africans, property on this plan of African bodies,

732
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,879
Speaker 5: of saying you negroes need to accept that your lot

733
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 5: in life is average and mediocre, and do good and

734
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:17,279
Speaker 5: your obedience and your good stewards, and you do the

735
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 5: work to our benefit, and you send your whiteness, and

736
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 5: you drive that bus good, and you cook that food good,

737
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:27,280
Speaker 5: and you let our children nurse off your teeth real good.

738
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 5: Maybe in the next life you'll be rewarded. And so

739
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:34,920
Speaker 5: what I need y'all to understand is that I have

740
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 5: divorced myself personally because of y'all.

741
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:38,320
Speaker 3: Like he she asked Evan K.

742
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 5: Williams, I've divorced myself from white comfort and white subordination.

743
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 5: And so therefore I will reject every time test one

744
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:50,320
Speaker 5: a narrative that tries to convince me with a smile

745
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:53,360
Speaker 5: and a nod that my lot in life is to

746
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:56,920
Speaker 5: be averaged, my darling. No, my father God put something

747
00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 5: above me. My God gave me spiritual gifts that we

748
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 5: talked about this.

749
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:01,960
Speaker 1: This is not.

750
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:06,000
Speaker 5: About me wanting to be rich and famous and look good,

751
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:08,240
Speaker 5: to have the bag and the floss and the fucking

752
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 5: drip and whatever the kids hung about.

753
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:12,400
Speaker 1: That's just that just comes with the fucking job that

754
00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 1: we do this.

755
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 3: But you know, and and we first connected on.

756
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 5: This because of the work that we were doing specifically

757
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 5: in the in the Lions den.

758
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: Over at Fox News.

759
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:24,280
Speaker 5: Not anybody can do what we do, Tesla, not a

760
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:27,880
Speaker 5: black person not every black person, not every person period

761
00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:32,760
Speaker 5: has the still set, the intelligence, the temperament, the verbiage,

762
00:41:33,160 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 5: the physical presence to occupy space and work on behalf

763
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 5: of black liberation and these terranes. And if it just

764
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 5: so happened to come with six figure checks attached, so

765
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 5: be it. But I think from the positioning my God

766
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:50,759
Speaker 5: has gifted me with for the sake of mediocrity, so

767
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 5: that those in which men, women and above can feel

768
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:59,880
Speaker 5: all comforted by the collective nature of black average.

769
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 3: If you look it over here for that task.

770
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 5: You're gonna you're gonna be fucked up because I don't

771
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 5: have it for you.

772
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:06,880
Speaker 3: That's it, m M.

773
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 1: Right now, I want to deal with it because this

774
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 1: person keeps putting this comment in here, and I was

775
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 1: gonna get to it, and I you know, again, it

776
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:18,800
Speaker 1: just shows me that there's a real lack of understanding

777
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: between you know, male and the female position. And so

778
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 1: this person keeps obsessively commenting saying, you know, millionaire men

779
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 1: do it all the time, So let's talk about men

780
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:33,919
Speaker 1: and women, men and women. And he is absolutely right.

781
00:42:34,600 --> 00:42:39,799
Speaker 1: Men date and mary women who may not have the

782
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:43,959
Speaker 1: skill set or the income, or the status or any

783
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:48,280
Speaker 1: of those things because women traditionally, traditionally in our society

784
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:53,800
Speaker 1: have been conditioned to uh be the housewife or provide

785
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:55,239
Speaker 1: for the man. In fact, I was gonna have to

786
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:58,880
Speaker 1: study today that was talking about how widows once a

787
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:02,239
Speaker 1: man dies, or saying anybody should die. But men, men

788
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 1: benefit from marriage far more than women because if you

789
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:07,880
Speaker 1: are a good wife, there's nothing wrong with being a

790
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 1: good wife, a virtuous woman. You are consistently putting your

791
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 1: husband and your children. You should as a wife, and

792
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 1: when you're at you should as you should. That is

793
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: what a wife is supposed to do. If your wife

794
00:43:21,640 --> 00:43:24,959
Speaker 1: is not putting your husband and children first, then she's

795
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:28,240
Speaker 1: probably lacking when we look at what is a virtuous woman,

796
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:32,319
Speaker 1: because that scripture, line by line is talking about what

797
00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 1: she does for her husband, how he even presents himself

798
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:38,239
Speaker 1: in the world, what she does for her children. It

799
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 1: is all about the virtuous woman. Which is why you

800
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: usually see men advocating. They're usually the ones in the

801
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:44,799
Speaker 1: communey saying that's why you're gonna be by yourself, that's

802
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 1: why you need a marriage. Is white because men benefit

803
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: from marriage more so than women. It's better on their health,

804
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 1: it's better when the women are able to do most

805
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 1: of the child rearing, it's better for him to be

806
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 1: able to go out and and hunt and bring the

807
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 1: meat back. The woman is the spiritual backbone of the house.

808
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:07,760
Speaker 1: So I understand why men tend to advocate for marriage.

809
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 1: My thing is, though they're advocating for it by insulting you,

810
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,359
Speaker 1: you know, by saying that's why you're this, and that's

811
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 1: why you're that. And what I want these men to

812
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 1: know is when you're doing that to women, it's not

813
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 1: making them want to be married. It just simply explains

814
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: to them why all of their married girlfriends are some

815
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:31,000
Speaker 1: of their married girlfriends are in therapy and on depression pills,

816
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:34,359
Speaker 1: because you and the emotional whatever emotional abuse that you're

817
00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 1: trying to put on a woman that you don't even know,

818
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: that you don't even know, they don't know you from Adam,

819
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 1: that is somehow internalized your choice. They did nothing but

820
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:47,759
Speaker 1: in married too, nothing but blue collar men. And I

821
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 1: find it so interesting that this sometimes every just comes

822
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 1: down just to the basic of men just feeling rejected.

823
00:44:54,719 --> 00:44:57,400
Speaker 1: Because on my posts and people go look at my posts.

824
00:44:57,600 --> 00:45:00,439
Speaker 1: When one guy started generalizing all women, I say, don't

825
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:02,960
Speaker 1: generalize all black women. That's just like me generalizing all

826
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 1: black men and saying all black men go to prison

827
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 1: or criminals or you know x y Z. He said,

828
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:10,279
Speaker 1: I'm not one of those men. I am. You know,

829
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: that's the bottom of the barrel. And then he tried

830
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 1: to say, you know, just like Kevin Samuel said. And

831
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 1: I said, I'm so glad you brought up Kevin Samuels

832
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:20,520
Speaker 1: because my day one is Kevin Samuel's nephew that has

833
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 1: been loving me since ten and he went to prison

834
00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 1: and he got a fellow me and now he owns

835
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 1: a business and he's a barber, and he's all of

836
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 1: that and more, and you have called him the bottom

837
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 1: of the barrel. So what I find very interesting about

838
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 1: this conversation is I look at my educated brothers that

839
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:38,279
Speaker 1: put down blue collar men. I look at a white

840
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 1: collar man that put down blue collar I look at

841
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 1: blue collar man that that talk about men that are

842
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 1: in the halfway house. So to me, it seems that

843
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:50,120
Speaker 1: a lot of this is driven from internalizing feeling rejected,

844
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 1: not feeling as good. So let's get back to the

845
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 1: millionaire man situation so that we can they can just

846
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: have about.

847
00:45:56,920 --> 00:46:00,520
Speaker 3: Kevin samuels all the women and it's a bad thing.

848
00:46:01,040 --> 00:46:04,720
Speaker 5: It's only this because I was actually before he dearly

849
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 5: departed us, was actually entertaining. Kevin and I were in

850
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:12,800
Speaker 5: conversation about having this conversation in a similar way, because again,

851
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 5: I'm so tethered Tesla to working on the reparation and

852
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,799
Speaker 5: the restoration of black men and black women relationships. But

853
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 5: I have to say that it was very It was

854
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 5: not lost on me that in this whole outpour of

855
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:28,280
Speaker 5: commentary when someone said to me, oh, I wish Kevin

856
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:30,879
Speaker 5: was alive to school evity now, I said that that's

857
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:34,399
Speaker 5: interesting because let's let's say, y' y'all, y'all's wet dream

858
00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:37,759
Speaker 5: comes true and Ebony dies alone and by herself in

859
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:41,719
Speaker 5: the old books home, I would still personally choose that

860
00:46:41,800 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 5: over how brother Kevin left us, which was having sex

861
00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:47,720
Speaker 5: with a prostitute at the young age of forty something.

862
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 5: So I just want to say, I just want to say,

863
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 5: we hold that as our standard of life's success. We

864
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 5: need to be real careful with looking at the contextual

865
00:46:56,960 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 5: nature of that. I'm gonna go ahead and say I'd

866
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 5: rather do it by myself, build by build my empire,

867
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 5: live my life, have my help and my old agent.

868
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:07,919
Speaker 1: By myself. I'll take it in it every week over.

869
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 5: The brother Kevin had to leave this earth, which I

870
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 5: don't think anybody deserves, but that was that was the circumstance.

871
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,319
Speaker 3: Brother Jabuels left uh with a.

872
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 5: Heart attack, with poor, poor health care, in the arms

873
00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:22,720
Speaker 5: of a prostitute. And it's not a good threshold, brothers

874
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:24,839
Speaker 5: to hold yourselves too. Now go ahead and continue.

875
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:31,839
Speaker 1: That house wife. Now, let me get to the data

876
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 1: on this too, this dialog concept there and then and

877
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 1: then I want to get back to the marriage with men.

878
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: Things bigger than men do it all the time. First

879
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:44,239
Speaker 1: of all, everybody die along. Can we get that? Everybody

880
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 1: dies alone? Unless you're doing a murdered suicide, You're going

881
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 1: to die by yourself. That's just the reality. Now, I

882
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 1: think what people are saying is there's not going to

883
00:47:52,560 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 1: be anybody there to uh, you know, change joy to

884
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 1: high and.

885
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:58,960
Speaker 3: Else let's just get be who you hired.

886
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:02,800
Speaker 1: Now. The truth though, that according to the data, women

887
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 1: outlive their husbands. So my grandmother's minds should be ninety

888
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:11,560
Speaker 1: three next month. She was married forty plus years. My

889
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 1: grandfather's been deceased about ten or fifteen. So according to

890
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:18,920
Speaker 1: the data, I just want to talk about the data

891
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: for a minute. Yeah, even women who are married for

892
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:27,080
Speaker 1: long periods of time, ultimately based upon the health of

893
00:48:27,120 --> 00:48:32,319
Speaker 1: black men, still most cases outlive their husbands. So when

894
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: I see men pushing this marriative dialogue, dialogue dialog, I

895
00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:39,960
Speaker 1: wonder is it because your concerned is you need a

896
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 1: woman there to continue to take care of you when ultimately,

897
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 1: when you pass away, she will be there alone. And

898
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:48,719
Speaker 1: so I just want people. I know they think that's

899
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:52,239
Speaker 1: a major threat when actionality, widows live longer. Just as

900
00:48:52,280 --> 00:48:54,759
Speaker 1: a point, this is just the data live longer because

901
00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 1: of the lack of stress. So I know you guys

902
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:58,399
Speaker 1: keep typing in the comments over and over and over,

903
00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 1: and I'm just telling you doesn't let you.

904
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, I really do watch out to know most people

905
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 5: in this conversation, I'm seeing Tesla know who we are.

906
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 5: They know our value in this conversation. What Tesla did

907
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 5: I know are the numbers.

908
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:11,840
Speaker 1: We are never going.

909
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:13,839
Speaker 5: To participate in a conversation like this without doing our

910
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:15,960
Speaker 5: research and coming to the table with the information.

911
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 1: So now let's also deal with this quick man before

912
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 1: I go back to me and their husbands. When people

913
00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 1: say that's the problem with black women, they don't marry

914
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:35,240
Speaker 1: those kind of men. Whether the data shows that thirty

915
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 1: six percent almost forty percent of black men are blue

916
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:43,160
Speaker 1: collar workers, and since black women they marry partner with

917
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 1: because remember everybody doesn't get married, so mary partner with

918
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 1: black men more than any other group. Doesn't mean that

919
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:52,760
Speaker 1: black women don't stay outside the race. But as whole

920
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 1: as a collective, black women they mary partner with black

921
00:49:56,520 --> 00:49:59,200
Speaker 1: men more than any of the group. So let's stop

922
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: the narrative, becau as you heard one woman's answer to

923
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:05,799
Speaker 1: apply to all black women, because the narrative shows that

924
00:50:05,920 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 1: black women they married black men more than any other group,

925
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:13,160
Speaker 1: and almost fifty percent of those men are in blue

926
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 1: collar And if we rarely get down to it, we

927
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 1: can start talking about the numbers that are in debt.

928
00:50:17,640 --> 00:50:19,480
Speaker 1: We can start talking about the number that has fellowmies.

929
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 1: We can just start talking about the ones that went

930
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:25,000
Speaker 1: to prison. So nobody, this is where I got frustrated.

931
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 1: Nobody has held it down for black black men more

932
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:31,439
Speaker 1: than black women. That's the bottom one. Fine, so let's

933
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 1: stop this bullshit on that's the problem with black women

934
00:50:36,480 --> 00:50:40,279
Speaker 1: because nobody, including your mama, your daddy, your greasy head

935
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:43,920
Speaker 1: granny aunts all the way down, nobody has prayed for

936
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:47,799
Speaker 1: you more. Nobody has sacrificed for you more. Nobody has

937
00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 1: put their house up for mortgage more. Nobody has signed

938
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:54,839
Speaker 1: your black ass co sign more. Nobody has been there

939
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:59,319
Speaker 1: for you more than the black woman, period. So regardless

940
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 1: of what you think any YouTube guru seeing or what.

941
00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:05,759
Speaker 1: And again, I don't have a problem with Kevin's commentary

942
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:08,920
Speaker 1: because that was a very isolated group of individuals that

943
00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:11,360
Speaker 1: he was talking to, of people that called in that

944
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:14,760
Speaker 1: had those similar circumstances. But when you look at black

945
00:51:14,760 --> 00:51:18,760
Speaker 1: women as a collective, as a collective, and I'm saying

946
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 1: this as a woman who married a mechanic and did

947
00:51:21,800 --> 00:51:24,040
Speaker 1: time with a man for fifteen years in the pen,

948
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 1: so all of that you're gonna be seeing that shit

949
00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:28,400
Speaker 1: don't land well on me because I've done that, did that,

950
00:51:28,719 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 1: and will continue too because they say better than the

951
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:33,480
Speaker 1: bed bad talk about that later. The point is, I

952
00:51:33,520 --> 00:51:35,480
Speaker 1: don't wipe out for me and get mad when I

953
00:51:35,480 --> 00:51:38,520
Speaker 1: say that. The point is, nobody has been there more

954
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 1: for you than the black woman. So why is it

955
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:44,920
Speaker 1: that they internalize what Ebany says instead of hearing what

956
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 1: may be their mother said, what their grandmother said, what

957
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 1: they aunt said. So if I say something and I

958
00:51:51,120 --> 00:51:53,600
Speaker 1: trigger you more than what your mother planted into you,

959
00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 1: that means you're talking to your mama. You can't be

960
00:51:56,160 --> 00:52:00,719
Speaker 1: talking to me. Now, let's move on find to millionaire

961
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:04,279
Speaker 1: men and why millionaire men I can date women.

962
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:08,080
Speaker 3: So I just want to take a beat for that.

963
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:14,480
Speaker 1: Let's make a beat from it on a lot and anyway,

964
00:52:15,640 --> 00:52:16,840
Speaker 1: So let's talk about currency.

965
00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 3: So we're gonna have this.

966
00:52:19,680 --> 00:52:23,279
Speaker 5: To start talking about. We're gonna have this conversation a test.

967
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:27,080
Speaker 5: We have to talk about the perspective social currencies. And

968
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 5: by currency, I mean the valuation of men and women

969
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 5: in society.

970
00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:34,240
Speaker 3: So here's what we do now, and this comes from.

971
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 1: A primitive calcitualist. Okay, Then are evaluated historically and modernly

972
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 1: on what they can contribute to the household by way

973
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:49,160
Speaker 1: of provision and protection. We need a man, the man

974
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:52,160
Speaker 1: that was most desired in the olden days, and you

975
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:54,239
Speaker 1: could apply that to whatever time period you want to

976
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:58,600
Speaker 1: stone ages nineteen forties, Grandma and grandpa PLoP. The man

977
00:52:58,719 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 1: that can bring home the big piece of chicken and

978
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 1: the man that can make sure no one takes it

979
00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 1: from y'all's household. That is the most desirable man in society,

980
00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:11,400
Speaker 1: period and that controls for race. Talk about women and

981
00:53:11,480 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 1: our currency.

982
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:15,840
Speaker 5: Anybody that thought they were hurting my feelings or that

983
00:53:16,000 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 5: of other rich, wealthy, educated black women by saying that

984
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 5: men don't care about your education and income, I mean

985
00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:23,520
Speaker 5: to tell you, my dear heart, we know this.

986
00:53:24,280 --> 00:53:24,879
Speaker 3: We know this.

987
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:28,440
Speaker 1: No man, and let's suh, you a real broke cobo

988
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 1: motherfucker is out here looking to source women based off

989
00:53:32,600 --> 00:53:36,239
Speaker 1: of our degrees or our bank accounts. Know this.

990
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:40,760
Speaker 5: So thank god, we are not pursuing either of those things.

991
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:45,279
Speaker 5: Neither education impacting the world, nor wealth, neither of any

992
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:48,440
Speaker 5: of the three things for the sake of male approval

993
00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:52,000
Speaker 5: or desire. Those are independent things. So what are women's

994
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:56,480
Speaker 5: What are women's currency, Tesla? It's our beauty and our youth.

995
00:53:57,080 --> 00:54:00,160
Speaker 5: And this actually correlates to what fertility. This is where

996
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 5: it's primitive. Men are seeking the woman who is most

997
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:11,359
Speaker 5: youthful and most beautiful, inadvertently or consciously because they are

998
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:13,479
Speaker 5: looking to pro create in the.

999
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 1: Most fantastic way possible.

1000
00:54:15,680 --> 00:54:18,560
Speaker 5: So that is why if you see millionaire men of

1001
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:22,880
Speaker 5: all races will talking about black men today that will

1002
00:54:23,120 --> 00:54:25,880
Speaker 5: bring in multiple millions or even billions of dollars and

1003
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 5: date and marry a secretary. That is why they will

1004
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:34,000
Speaker 5: marry and date an unemployable. They married women that work

1005
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:37,839
Speaker 5: in exotic entertainment. They will date and marry women with

1006
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:41,360
Speaker 5: little to new education. And guess what the best part is,

1007
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:44,600
Speaker 5: y'all educated black women aren't mad about it, at least

1008
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:46,240
Speaker 5: I know I'm not, and I know you're not, Tesla,

1009
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:50,359
Speaker 5: because we understand that that is the dynamic in which

1010
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:51,839
Speaker 5: the current that women are.

1011
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:53,960
Speaker 3: Trading on youth and beauty.

1012
00:54:54,520 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 5: So the older we get this is more to the

1013
00:54:57,280 --> 00:54:59,279
Speaker 5: reason for those that are very confused as to why

1014
00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:02,240
Speaker 5: I'm pursuing your motherhood alone by myself at this stage

1015
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:03,759
Speaker 5: of life, because.

1016
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:06,439
Speaker 1: My currency is no longer what it used to be.

1017
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:11,440
Speaker 1: And I was right there and say that again, because

1018
00:55:11,640 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 1: they really think that you don't understand market, that my

1019
00:55:15,600 --> 00:55:20,319
Speaker 1: market value your present thinking they're telling you something about

1020
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 1: saying but so we repeat that breaking news.

1021
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:30,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, I want to be really vulnerable.

1022
00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:34,320
Speaker 5: Actually in this conversation, Tesla, I am most aware, acutely

1023
00:55:34,360 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 5: aware that as I age almost forty, my fertility has decreased.

1024
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 1: One could argue my beauty while still present, because Beach,

1025
00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 1: don't get confused while still present. It's not the same

1026
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:54,880
Speaker 1: duty it was at twenty seven. I'm clear on that.

1027
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:55,720
Speaker 3: Let's be clear.

1028
00:55:56,880 --> 00:56:00,360
Speaker 5: Yet, the other aspects of my life that I have

1029
00:56:00,520 --> 00:56:05,200
Speaker 5: chosen to invest in, my education, my income, my asset building,

1030
00:56:05,560 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 5: really my community liberation standpoints are things that I have

1031
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 5: chosen to employ. So I can't control the youth and

1032
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 5: the beauty part that's going to deteriorate and appreciate regardless.

1033
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:22,680
Speaker 5: So I'm making a choice to invest in the appreciable

1034
00:56:22,960 --> 00:56:25,600
Speaker 5: assets that lie in front of me, which are gonna

1035
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:29,600
Speaker 5: be the things that we just enumerated, buying property, buying assets,

1036
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 5: starting more businesses, getting it, getting out in front of

1037
00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:34,360
Speaker 5: the camera and getting behind it.

1038
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:36,040
Speaker 3: Testla, We've had conversation.

1039
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 5: Y'all gonna be seeing a lot less of epany K

1040
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:40,479
Speaker 5: Williams and your motherfucking cameras, and you're gonna be seeing

1041
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:44,640
Speaker 5: produced by, created by, owned by because that's how serious

1042
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:48,359
Speaker 5: I am about black leadership the ship. So I'm feinding

1043
00:56:48,400 --> 00:56:51,240
Speaker 5: clear of my market value. The problem is when black

1044
00:56:51,360 --> 00:56:56,120
Speaker 5: men may be a men period. Really, because again I have,

1045
00:56:56,160 --> 00:56:57,960
Speaker 5: and I know somebody'll trying to shame me about the

1046
00:56:57,960 --> 00:57:00,040
Speaker 5: statement of I've been there and done.

1047
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:01,440
Speaker 1: That with all of them. Yeah I have.

1048
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 5: But I know y'all want to put a million dollar

1049
00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:05,319
Speaker 5: body count on me that If that makes you feel good,

1050
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:07,839
Speaker 5: that's fine and trusting believe if I wasn't the fuck

1051
00:57:07,840 --> 00:57:08,799
Speaker 5: a million I would have.

1052
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:11,800
Speaker 1: Yes, I would. But but it said.

1053
00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:13,799
Speaker 5: What I mean by that statement is I have been

1054
00:57:13,840 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 5: blessed to date men all across the world, Testla.

1055
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 3: And I dated men in the UK.

1056
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:23,480
Speaker 5: I did it, Nigerian men, Latino men, indigenous men, Jamaican men,

1057
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 5: Haitian men, Jewish men, you name it. And because yeah,

1058
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 5: you know right, And because I've had such a delicious sampling, okay,

1059
00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:36,200
Speaker 5: such a broad scope understanding and sampling, I can.

1060
00:57:36,120 --> 00:57:39,080
Speaker 1: Test the data and the data as the men of.

1061
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:43,200
Speaker 5: All of those variable points appreciate the same thing, the

1062
00:57:43,280 --> 00:57:46,040
Speaker 5: youth and the beauty, so as the co cuity deteriorate,

1063
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 5: I black women in America am left with no choice

1064
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:54,920
Speaker 5: but to simultaneously invest in my appreciable assets, not the

1065
00:57:54,960 --> 00:57:59,200
Speaker 5: depreciable ones. And there lies the anger Tesla's when women

1066
00:57:59,320 --> 00:58:03,439
Speaker 5: realize that we have an alternative pathway to everything we've

1067
00:58:03,440 --> 00:58:06,240
Speaker 5: ever wanted in life, to the lifestyle we want to live,

1068
00:58:06,600 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 5: to the children we want to have. They real mad

1069
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:12,320
Speaker 5: about that now that third party reproductive assistance is available

1070
00:58:12,320 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 5: to women with the assets, means, and resources. A lot

1071
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:19,520
Speaker 5: of men are very angry because prior to that, women

1072
00:58:19,720 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 5: of all races and incomes would be dependent on male

1073
00:58:23,520 --> 00:58:26,600
Speaker 5: mediocrity if they need to be mothers. But now that

1074
00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:28,760
Speaker 5: if you want to be a mother, there are a

1075
00:58:28,920 --> 00:58:33,760
Speaker 5: litany of ways to do that, that has approached another hostility.

1076
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:37,280
Speaker 5: So really what we're talking about is, no, I won't

1077
00:58:37,360 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 5: date a bus driver. No I will not have children,

1078
00:58:40,320 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 5: or marry or be partner with someone that I find

1079
00:58:42,680 --> 00:58:46,160
Speaker 5: mediocre in any way. And that doesn't mean anything bad

1080
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:48,280
Speaker 5: about those positions. I'm gonna leave you test them with

1081
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 5: a good little alcohol analogy. I told you I was

1082
00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:52,840
Speaker 5: gonna hit you with this, and I was going to

1083
00:58:52,880 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 5: do food. But I realized that we all have to

1084
00:58:55,320 --> 00:58:58,560
Speaker 5: have food to live, and contrary to popular belief, we

1085
00:58:58,560 --> 00:58:59,919
Speaker 5: don't even have to have dick to lived.

1086
00:59:00,240 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 3: Did you know that? Yeah, it's amazing.

1087
00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:06,240
Speaker 1: It's amazing because what you think and you need it

1088
00:59:06,320 --> 00:59:08,600
Speaker 1: to live, but it's not like oxygen, you don't even

1089
00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:12,960
Speaker 1: need it. But anyway, anyway, I'm gonna go with alcohol.

1090
00:59:13,760 --> 00:59:16,280
Speaker 1: So there was a time in my life, Tesla, in

1091
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 1: which I used to enjoy a beverage call. You might

1092
00:59:18,960 --> 00:59:21,600
Speaker 1: not even know this beverage, but you might Mad Dog

1093
00:59:21,640 --> 00:59:25,840
Speaker 1: twenty twenty. Do you remember, girl? It was for two

1094
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:30,200
Speaker 1: hours of nineteen cent Why do you play? They had

1095
00:59:30,560 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 1: They had strawberry banana, regular strawberry, they had mango.

1096
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:37,440
Speaker 3: And we'll be here all day, right, Okay, so Mad

1097
00:59:37,440 --> 00:59:38,120
Speaker 3: Dog twenty twenty.

1098
00:59:38,160 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 5: There was a time in my life, Tesla, where you

1099
00:59:39,760 --> 00:59:41,800
Speaker 5: couldn't give me nothing but Mad Dog twenty twenty.

1100
00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:42,880
Speaker 3: And I enjoyed it. I loved it.

1101
00:59:42,880 --> 00:59:46,800
Speaker 5: I drank every every little ouce, every drop. And then

1102
00:59:46,880 --> 00:59:50,760
Speaker 5: my palette evolved. And then there was a time where

1103
00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:52,360
Speaker 5: you couldn't have told me the best thing in the

1104
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 5: world wasn't Kindle Jackson Shardonnay, you're called this Kendoll Jackson burnet.

1105
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:02,919
Speaker 1: I just thought that was the cats me out.

1106
01:00:04,400 --> 01:00:07,360
Speaker 5: But today, at thirty nine, and as you know, a

1107
01:00:07,400 --> 01:00:09,920
Speaker 5: woman who've had the privilege of traveling all across the world,

1108
01:00:11,200 --> 01:00:13,600
Speaker 5: if I'm going to drink a white wine. The only

1109
01:00:13,680 --> 01:00:17,440
Speaker 5: thing you can offer me is a very nice, stry

1110
01:00:18,160 --> 01:00:22,880
Speaker 5: quality Savion blanc, preferably from South Africa or New Zealand.

1111
01:00:23,600 --> 01:00:26,840
Speaker 5: Now you might be asking why is she talking about this, Well,

1112
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:30,480
Speaker 5: because alcohol is like a man, it's it's an amazing

1113
01:00:30,520 --> 01:00:31,920
Speaker 5: and I like and I like to drink.

1114
01:00:32,000 --> 01:00:38,320
Speaker 3: Let me be clear, a drink. That's how that's how

1115
01:00:38,320 --> 01:00:39,040
Speaker 3: a lot we be.

1116
01:00:39,640 --> 01:00:42,920
Speaker 1: I do it. That's how you need. I'll bring this

1117
01:00:43,600 --> 01:00:46,920
Speaker 1: up to say that much like a man, it's a preference,

1118
01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:50,120
Speaker 1: but not a requirement unless you're alcoholic, which we're not,

1119
01:00:50,200 --> 01:00:53,040
Speaker 1: thank god. But if I'm going to drink, that's what

1120
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:56,080
Speaker 1: I want to drink, a nice, high quality Sabyon Blanc

1121
01:00:56,120 --> 01:00:58,160
Speaker 1: if I'm gonna drink that type of type of spirit.

1122
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:01,040
Speaker 1: So if I'm at the bar, Tesla and I'm gonna

1123
01:01:01,040 --> 01:01:03,439
Speaker 1: ask you you at the bar and you say I'd

1124
01:01:03,480 --> 01:01:06,080
Speaker 1: like a save Yon Blanc, and they say, oh, Dan.

1125
01:01:06,320 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 3: You know what, we we had some.

1126
01:01:08,240 --> 01:01:11,320
Speaker 5: We no longer have any save Yon blanc for you, mispairual,

1127
01:01:11,400 --> 01:01:16,320
Speaker 5: but we do have that strawberry Kiwi mad Dog. Would

1128
01:01:16,360 --> 01:01:20,880
Speaker 5: you like some of that? What are you gonna say?

1129
01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:25,600
Speaker 1: Just probably because it's not and it's not That's what

1130
01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:26,280
Speaker 1: it's not saying.

1131
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 5: It's not saying there's not somebody right, motherfucking now and

1132
01:01:29,640 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 5: join the delicious cold glass of mad dog, because they

1133
01:01:32,400 --> 01:01:35,360
Speaker 5: are and they always will. It's not saying that mad

1134
01:01:35,400 --> 01:01:39,240
Speaker 5: dog is beneath you because we've all consumed it. What

1135
01:01:39,680 --> 01:01:43,440
Speaker 5: saying is, at this point in your life, my dear sister,

1136
01:01:44,320 --> 01:01:48,240
Speaker 5: you would rather pass than consume something.

1137
01:01:47,920 --> 01:01:49,880
Speaker 1: That is not what you desire in this moment.

1138
01:01:50,480 --> 01:01:54,000
Speaker 5: And that is the perfect analogy, tesla, of all that

1139
01:01:54,120 --> 01:01:55,720
Speaker 5: was said in that conversation with the young.

1140
01:01:56,560 --> 01:01:58,240
Speaker 3: It's not anything against.

1141
01:01:57,960 --> 01:01:58,600
Speaker 1: A bus driver.

1142
01:01:58,920 --> 01:02:00,000
Speaker 3: My mother is driven above.

1143
01:02:00,440 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 5: I live it, I love it. I love public transportation.

1144
01:02:03,360 --> 01:02:06,120
Speaker 5: It's fantastic and they are very good livings to be

1145
01:02:06,240 --> 01:02:09,840
Speaker 5: ear doing that work. It is simply not designed for

1146
01:02:10,040 --> 01:02:13,280
Speaker 5: the life I am living today. And if you internalize

1147
01:02:13,320 --> 01:02:15,760
Speaker 5: that it is something other than that, that says more.

1148
01:02:15,600 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 3: About you, my love that it says about me.

1149
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:22,680
Speaker 1: Well, I do want to say this before you go,

1150
01:02:22,680 --> 01:02:24,480
Speaker 1: because this is important. I want to lead us out

1151
01:02:24,480 --> 01:02:28,520
Speaker 1: here for those that do date may make more money

1152
01:02:28,560 --> 01:02:31,320
Speaker 1: than men than the men that are, because it's a

1153
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:33,920
Speaker 1: lot of that in the comments, and I keep trying

1154
01:02:33,960 --> 01:02:36,360
Speaker 1: to make sure that position is out there as well,

1155
01:02:36,400 --> 01:02:38,840
Speaker 1: because we have different preferences on men. Sure, even though

1156
01:02:38,880 --> 01:02:41,880
Speaker 1: the same industry do the same thing, align on a

1157
01:02:41,920 --> 01:02:44,760
Speaker 1: lot of things. And I got to get this out

1158
01:02:44,800 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 1: there because you know, going back to the you know,

1159
01:02:47,720 --> 01:02:50,960
Speaker 1: millionaire men they date, you know, women that don't have

1160
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:55,000
Speaker 1: when they're in those environments, those women are usually if

1161
01:02:55,040 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 1: I they go play golf and they bring their wife,

1162
01:02:57,320 --> 01:03:00,000
Speaker 1: they're usually there with other women that are similar to them.

1163
01:03:00,800 --> 01:03:03,919
Speaker 1: Talk about the kids, that talk about their husbands, how

1164
01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:06,360
Speaker 1: often their husbands are a way, you know, they have

1165
01:03:06,440 --> 01:03:10,280
Speaker 1: those conversations, they relate in those social circles. So the

1166
01:03:10,440 --> 01:03:13,520
Speaker 1: one thing about income, but also income puts you into

1167
01:03:13,560 --> 01:03:17,080
Speaker 1: a different social circle. On this class you call it

1168
01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:18,680
Speaker 1: whatever you want to say, classes and whatever it is,

1169
01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:19,800
Speaker 1: it is what it is and puts you in a

1170
01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:23,360
Speaker 1: different circle. And what I know to be true for

1171
01:03:23,480 --> 01:03:27,600
Speaker 1: women that do date men that maybe make substantially less.

1172
01:03:28,000 --> 01:03:31,120
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about you make eighteen dollars in that right,

1173
01:03:31,400 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 1: you make eighteen an hour. She makes twenty four an hour,

1174
01:03:34,400 --> 01:03:36,080
Speaker 1: And oh I don't have a problem. She make more

1175
01:03:36,120 --> 01:03:38,960
Speaker 1: than me. People are not understanding we're talking about a

1176
01:03:39,120 --> 01:03:42,640
Speaker 1: very a large gap, a big gap, not not a

1177
01:03:42,720 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 1: ten thousand dollars gap of twenty thousand dollars gap, but

1178
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:49,800
Speaker 1: an almost six figure gap between one person and the other.

1179
01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:52,600
Speaker 1: It does put you into a different class. But for

1180
01:03:52,760 --> 01:03:56,440
Speaker 1: my sisters that do that, will date men that not

1181
01:03:56,560 --> 01:03:59,640
Speaker 1: make it as much, because I'm one that will. But

1182
01:03:59,760 --> 01:04:02,880
Speaker 1: I will tell you he is though that even if

1183
01:04:02,920 --> 01:04:07,840
Speaker 1: he makes less, a lot of men are insecure about

1184
01:04:08,080 --> 01:04:11,720
Speaker 1: dating women that make substantially more because when you bring

1185
01:04:11,800 --> 01:04:16,120
Speaker 1: that man to the cocktail party, he's not sitting around

1186
01:04:16,200 --> 01:04:18,880
Speaker 1: talking about taking care of the kids or doing whatever.

1187
01:04:19,160 --> 01:04:22,320
Speaker 1: Those men that he is having a conversation with are

1188
01:04:22,400 --> 01:04:30,440
Speaker 1: usually the businessman, the business as because right, so I

1189
01:04:30,480 --> 01:04:34,840
Speaker 1: need people to understand that even though if you date,

1190
01:04:35,320 --> 01:04:37,600
Speaker 1: let's day and nothing wrong with that, but if you're

1191
01:04:37,600 --> 01:04:40,920
Speaker 1: in a different social circle, some men, not all, some

1192
01:04:41,120 --> 01:04:44,439
Speaker 1: men are very intimidated by that because they feel less

1193
01:04:44,440 --> 01:04:46,880
Speaker 1: than We're just giving us that for those your O housewife,

1194
01:04:47,080 --> 01:04:50,320
Speaker 1: so let's just use a real housewives and Atlanta as

1195
01:04:50,360 --> 01:04:50,920
Speaker 1: an example.

1196
01:04:51,480 --> 01:04:52,919
Speaker 3: By being among a.

1197
01:04:52,840 --> 01:04:58,840
Speaker 1: Millionaires constantly, that's it. Todd is constantly told, even though

1198
01:04:58,840 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 1: he has several businesses, you live off your wife. Candy

1199
01:05:01,960 --> 01:05:05,480
Speaker 1: is a sugar Mama. She takes care of you. She does.

1200
01:05:05,640 --> 01:05:09,200
Speaker 1: Ever constantly is the constant thing in their relationship that

1201
01:05:09,280 --> 01:05:11,840
Speaker 1: he has to manage with his ego and how he

1202
01:05:11,960 --> 01:05:14,760
Speaker 1: presents and how whatever. And he has to manage it

1203
01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:17,280
Speaker 1: with her mother, He has to manage it with peers.

1204
01:05:17,480 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 1: He got to manage it online. This man is constantly

1205
01:05:20,440 --> 01:05:22,880
Speaker 1: told that he's living off his wife. So you don't

1206
01:05:22,920 --> 01:05:26,760
Speaker 1: see that when women who make less than a marry millionaire,

1207
01:05:26,840 --> 01:05:29,640
Speaker 1: why you're here, Oh, she's a trophy wife, and that's

1208
01:05:29,720 --> 01:05:31,680
Speaker 1: known to be a good thing. So I do want

1209
01:05:31,720 --> 01:05:35,080
Speaker 1: people to understand that when successful Black women that make

1210
01:05:35,120 --> 01:05:37,680
Speaker 1: a certain amount, when they do say you know what, hey,

1211
01:05:37,760 --> 01:05:40,040
Speaker 1: I don't care about what the brother makes a lot

1212
01:05:40,080 --> 01:05:43,200
Speaker 1: of times with that to maintain that relationship even with him,

1213
01:05:43,240 --> 01:05:45,400
Speaker 1: because a lot of times he may not feel value.

1214
01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:47,480
Speaker 1: Just as much as you guys are triggered about a

1215
01:05:47,480 --> 01:05:50,640
Speaker 1: woman you don't even know are triggered, Imagine if you

1216
01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:53,440
Speaker 1: are with that woman and you're constantly feeling like you

1217
01:05:53,520 --> 01:05:56,040
Speaker 1: have to compete and constantly feeling like, well, maybe she

1218
01:05:56,120 --> 01:05:58,160
Speaker 1: doesn't think I have enough forgot even if I be,

1219
01:05:58,400 --> 01:06:01,160
Speaker 1: I beg let me pay for the meal at a meal. No, no, no,

1220
01:06:01,160 --> 01:06:02,480
Speaker 1: I don't want you doing that. I don't want you

1221
01:06:02,480 --> 01:06:04,000
Speaker 1: to feel like you're taking care of me. I don't

1222
01:06:04,000 --> 01:06:05,800
Speaker 1: want to be no kept nigga. I can get it

1223
01:06:05,840 --> 01:06:09,200
Speaker 1: on my own. So there's a lot of healing, you

1224
01:06:09,240 --> 01:06:11,440
Speaker 1: know that also has to go on on the men's

1225
01:06:11,480 --> 01:06:14,400
Speaker 1: part to say that if a boss say I want

1226
01:06:14,480 --> 01:06:16,400
Speaker 1: I want you to come roll with me and ride

1227
01:06:16,440 --> 01:06:18,760
Speaker 1: with me, do you know how to support that woman

1228
01:06:18,880 --> 01:06:22,400
Speaker 1: other than financial Because a lot of men their idea,

1229
01:06:22,520 --> 01:06:26,320
Speaker 1: like you said, protect and provide, protect, I'm a beat up.

1230
01:06:26,360 --> 01:06:29,000
Speaker 1: Anybody in the room is need be and then provide.

1231
01:06:29,200 --> 01:06:31,520
Speaker 1: And so when you take that away from men to

1232
01:06:31,600 --> 01:06:34,440
Speaker 1: be able to provide, and you're with a woman that

1233
01:06:34,520 --> 01:06:37,240
Speaker 1: does really, really well. I'm talking about really well, not

1234
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:40,800
Speaker 1: just a few bucks, with really well, and you say, oh, no,

1235
01:06:40,880 --> 01:06:43,919
Speaker 1: I can handle it, I'm here to tell you that

1236
01:06:44,200 --> 01:06:47,120
Speaker 1: a lot of men, not all really have take issue

1237
01:06:47,160 --> 01:06:49,880
Speaker 1: with that because it's like you've taken away something that

1238
01:06:49,920 --> 01:06:51,880
Speaker 1: they want to give you and they don't know how

1239
01:06:51,920 --> 01:06:57,160
Speaker 1: to support a woman through prayer or support or make

1240
01:06:57,200 --> 01:06:58,360
Speaker 1: me take me care of I.

1241
01:06:58,360 --> 01:07:00,800
Speaker 5: Think we gotta address because it is that you know

1242
01:07:00,800 --> 01:07:02,320
Speaker 5: a lot of people in the comics talking about this

1243
01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:04,720
Speaker 5: notion of building. We went there early, but I want

1244
01:07:04,760 --> 01:07:09,040
Speaker 5: to say it really plainly. Building presumes the quality from

1245
01:07:09,640 --> 01:07:10,960
Speaker 5: foundational points.

1246
01:07:11,360 --> 01:07:13,280
Speaker 3: So the challenge in this.

1247
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:16,160
Speaker 5: Conversation that we're having, Tesla, and you've already said it,

1248
01:07:16,320 --> 01:07:18,360
Speaker 5: but we're gonna have to get bears repeated for this

1249
01:07:18,400 --> 01:07:23,960
Speaker 5: particular conversation, how do we build when you've got women?

1250
01:07:24,000 --> 01:07:26,000
Speaker 1: And now I'm going to go back into the data points.

1251
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:30,600
Speaker 5: Black women are pacing black men in higher learning by

1252
01:07:30,640 --> 01:07:33,720
Speaker 5: some estimates five six and seven to one.

1253
01:07:34,240 --> 01:07:35,720
Speaker 3: We need to be honest about that.

1254
01:07:36,600 --> 01:07:40,600
Speaker 5: I sent you a graphic sheet from LinkedIn teslim before

1255
01:07:40,600 --> 01:07:43,720
Speaker 5: our call, posted by the Good Brother, the CEO of

1256
01:07:43,760 --> 01:07:48,520
Speaker 5: Revolt TV. We both had wonderful relationships with Natavio Samuels.

1257
01:07:48,960 --> 01:07:51,760
Speaker 5: Then it talks about black women above all other races

1258
01:07:51,760 --> 01:07:55,200
Speaker 5: and categories of women are the bread winners of their household.

1259
01:07:55,680 --> 01:07:58,960
Speaker 5: When you started talking about households that are either egalitarian,

1260
01:07:59,040 --> 01:08:01,880
Speaker 5: which means men and women providing equally, and or the

1261
01:08:01,960 --> 01:08:05,840
Speaker 5: women providing more in the household, black women win that

1262
01:08:05,960 --> 01:08:09,600
Speaker 5: competition every time. So we know that black women are

1263
01:08:09,600 --> 01:08:13,400
Speaker 5: out earning black men in terms of the pure data.

1264
01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:17,360
Speaker 5: We know that black women are more educated than Black men.

1265
01:08:17,840 --> 01:08:20,439
Speaker 5: We know that Black women are starting businesses at a

1266
01:08:20,479 --> 01:08:22,840
Speaker 5: higher rate. They're not just Black men than own men,

1267
01:08:23,120 --> 01:08:27,080
Speaker 5: let's be clear, followed very closely by Latino women. We

1268
01:08:27,120 --> 01:08:29,559
Speaker 5: know that Black women are owning homes when you start

1269
01:08:29,680 --> 01:08:32,759
Speaker 5: talking about home ownership in the Black community, and actually

1270
01:08:32,760 --> 01:08:36,320
Speaker 5: a period, single women are bouy by twenty percent of

1271
01:08:36,320 --> 01:08:39,759
Speaker 5: the houses on the market. Single men are buying ten y'all.

1272
01:08:39,760 --> 01:08:40,639
Speaker 5: These are the numbers.

1273
01:08:40,840 --> 01:08:42,400
Speaker 3: So instead of just getting.

1274
01:08:42,040 --> 01:08:45,160
Speaker 1: Mad at anybody me or any other woman you think

1275
01:08:45,280 --> 01:08:49,439
Speaker 1: is not getting it, or emasculating men, or talking shit

1276
01:08:49,479 --> 01:08:52,160
Speaker 1: about blue collar men, y'all, let's look at what's really

1277
01:08:52,200 --> 01:08:57,679
Speaker 1: going on to cause an inequity and inequality of being

1278
01:08:57,800 --> 01:09:02,639
Speaker 1: a of being able to meet each other right here

1279
01:09:02,680 --> 01:09:05,639
Speaker 1: and build together. It is because by the time black

1280
01:09:05,680 --> 01:09:09,120
Speaker 1: girls and women are graduating from school and starting their career.

1281
01:09:08,840 --> 01:09:12,599
Speaker 5: Paths, they are already at a fiscal advantage. So that's

1282
01:09:12,600 --> 01:09:13,880
Speaker 5: the thing that I think. I think I want to

1283
01:09:13,920 --> 01:09:15,919
Speaker 5: leave the conversation with a question, in not a statement,

1284
01:09:16,520 --> 01:09:19,360
Speaker 5: what are we doing as a Black culture and community

1285
01:09:19,760 --> 01:09:25,599
Speaker 5: taught that addresses the persistent and ever growing gap of

1286
01:09:25,760 --> 01:09:30,800
Speaker 5: wealth between single Black men and single Black women, because

1287
01:09:30,880 --> 01:09:33,160
Speaker 5: I don't know a black woman says them that wouldn't.

1288
01:09:32,840 --> 01:09:35,920
Speaker 3: Love to build on top of what she's already built

1289
01:09:36,640 --> 01:09:37,480
Speaker 3: with a partner.

1290
01:09:38,360 --> 01:09:41,920
Speaker 1: But when we look to our left and right, unfortunately

1291
01:09:42,080 --> 01:09:43,680
Speaker 1: the numbers say this, and a lot of black men

1292
01:09:43,720 --> 01:09:46,360
Speaker 1: in the comments that were feeling the way admitted this number.

1293
01:09:46,800 --> 01:09:51,439
Speaker 1: There's only a very small percentage of black men that

1294
01:09:51,600 --> 01:09:55,519
Speaker 1: have the educational and financial bandwidth to show up equally

1295
01:09:55,600 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 1: partnered and ready to build alongside many of the women

1296
01:09:59,320 --> 01:10:03,400
Speaker 1: were talking about conversation, So how do we how do

1297
01:10:03,400 --> 01:10:06,000
Speaker 1: we increase that number? I think that's instead of trying

1298
01:10:06,080 --> 01:10:11,200
Speaker 1: to argue black women, it's an average quote situations and mediocrity.

1299
01:10:11,560 --> 01:10:16,120
Speaker 1: How do we expand the pool the scope of black

1300
01:10:16,160 --> 01:10:18,680
Speaker 1: men that are able to show up and build alongside

1301
01:10:18,840 --> 01:10:25,040
Speaker 1: really accomplished, highly educated, wealthy black women. Now let me

1302
01:10:25,479 --> 01:10:27,599
Speaker 1: say this is my closing statement, because this is another

1303
01:10:27,600 --> 01:10:31,240
Speaker 1: one that's aligned I brothers, y'all need to stop this

1304
01:10:31,320 --> 01:10:33,680
Speaker 1: bullshit about we don't care what you mean. Let's just

1305
01:10:33,720 --> 01:10:36,960
Speaker 1: stop that line. I know you've heard that on YouTube.

1306
01:10:37,600 --> 01:10:39,760
Speaker 1: I know that it's your talking point that you were

1307
01:10:39,800 --> 01:10:42,559
Speaker 1: given and you can continue to run with it. But

1308
01:10:42,720 --> 01:10:45,679
Speaker 1: as Tesla Ferrol aka the Hood Whisperer, who has definitely

1309
01:10:45,880 --> 01:10:48,960
Speaker 1: I know exactly that y'all give a damn about what

1310
01:10:49,000 --> 01:10:52,000
Speaker 1: I bring to the table. So let's stop this bullshit.

1311
01:10:52,160 --> 01:10:54,840
Speaker 1: I'm so typed old men don't care about that bullshit

1312
01:10:55,400 --> 01:10:59,200
Speaker 1: because if the average person, according to the dam again

1313
01:10:59,240 --> 01:11:01,680
Speaker 1: we're just talking to the that you continue you just

1314
01:11:01,720 --> 01:11:04,280
Speaker 1: to that y'all keep saying only ten percent makes six figures,

1315
01:11:04,320 --> 01:11:06,360
Speaker 1: only one percent, it's only two percent of that, So

1316
01:11:06,439 --> 01:11:09,240
Speaker 1: that means that you don't make that which means that

1317
01:11:09,320 --> 01:11:14,400
Speaker 1: we have a huge come gap well ratio with what folks.

1318
01:11:14,600 --> 01:11:17,400
Speaker 1: So if you are sitting here thinking that you're impressing

1319
01:11:17,479 --> 01:11:20,800
Speaker 1: somebody saying, oh, I'm about to go there, If you

1320
01:11:21,040 --> 01:11:23,799
Speaker 1: say I don't care what no woman brings to the table,

1321
01:11:24,120 --> 01:11:27,160
Speaker 1: then brother, something is wrong with you. Because one thing

1322
01:11:27,200 --> 01:11:29,599
Speaker 1: that Todd pointed out that I appreciated, and he pointed

1323
01:11:29,640 --> 01:11:32,360
Speaker 1: out about Candy, he said, man should want to reach

1324
01:11:32,439 --> 01:11:35,040
Speaker 1: for the top, you should want a boss woman. What

1325
01:11:35,200 --> 01:11:37,719
Speaker 1: is wrong with y'all in the comments that keep talking

1326
01:11:37,720 --> 01:11:39,599
Speaker 1: about you don't care what a woman brings to the table,

1327
01:11:39,840 --> 01:11:41,760
Speaker 1: because the reality of it is, I know it's a

1328
01:11:41,840 --> 01:11:44,280
Speaker 1: damn line because if you went to college. I know

1329
01:11:44,479 --> 01:11:47,479
Speaker 1: you have college death. If you got a baby mama,

1330
01:11:47,560 --> 01:11:50,479
Speaker 1: I know you got child support. If you want a house,

1331
01:11:50,560 --> 01:11:53,559
Speaker 1: I know you need a down payment, I know, damn well,

1332
01:11:54,000 --> 01:11:56,360
Speaker 1: you need a woman's coins. And I'm not even talking

1333
01:11:56,400 --> 01:11:58,519
Speaker 1: about a seven figure woman, our six min one. I'm

1334
01:11:58,520 --> 01:12:02,680
Speaker 1: talking about even the teacher that may fifty thousand justly

1335
01:12:02,800 --> 01:12:04,840
Speaker 1: for you to be able to go on a damn vacation,

1336
01:12:05,240 --> 01:12:10,160
Speaker 1: you need your white's income. So stop this bullshit about

1337
01:12:10,240 --> 01:12:12,479
Speaker 1: we don't care what women bring to the table. No,

1338
01:12:12,840 --> 01:12:15,120
Speaker 1: what you're doing is trying to psychological begin in the

1339
01:12:15,160 --> 01:12:18,160
Speaker 1: mind of maybe a woman. You're pursuing to believe that, oh,

1340
01:12:18,200 --> 01:12:19,800
Speaker 1: it's all right, he don't care what I bring to

1341
01:12:19,840 --> 01:12:22,200
Speaker 1: the table. And guess what, brother, if you don't care

1342
01:12:22,200 --> 01:12:24,240
Speaker 1: what she brings to the table, you better step your

1343
01:12:24,320 --> 01:12:27,479
Speaker 1: damn game up, because according to the numbers, Ebany just said,

1344
01:12:27,720 --> 01:12:30,320
Speaker 1: it's plenty women out here making the bag. It's plenty

1345
01:12:30,320 --> 01:12:32,519
Speaker 1: of women out here getting it. So, brother, let me

1346
01:12:32,600 --> 01:12:34,840
Speaker 1: ask you, since you keep on asking everyony who her

1347
01:12:34,840 --> 01:12:36,680
Speaker 1: man is and why she can't get one, let me

1348
01:12:36,720 --> 01:12:38,720
Speaker 1: ask you why you can't get a woman that's making

1349
01:12:38,760 --> 01:12:41,639
Speaker 1: six figures because they're plentiful. It's way more black women

1350
01:12:41,640 --> 01:12:44,200
Speaker 1: making six figures than it is black men. So, brothers,

1351
01:12:44,560 --> 01:12:46,599
Speaker 1: why is it that you can't get a woman that's

1352
01:12:46,640 --> 01:12:50,120
Speaker 1: making six figures? Why is it that you're struggling? Why

1353
01:12:50,240 --> 01:12:52,040
Speaker 1: is it that you can't do the things you want

1354
01:12:52,080 --> 01:12:54,120
Speaker 1: to do? Do you not know how to bag a

1355
01:12:54,160 --> 01:12:57,599
Speaker 1: woman that makes six figures? Okay, so the question can

1356
01:12:57,680 --> 01:13:01,439
Speaker 1: also be flipped and we can ask you the same question.

1357
01:13:01,880 --> 01:13:03,439
Speaker 1: And I want to just say this problem let every

1358
01:13:03,640 --> 01:13:05,519
Speaker 1: go again. Every woman is in a different stage in

1359
01:13:05,520 --> 01:13:09,200
Speaker 1: her life. I've had my children, I've been married, I've

1360
01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:11,560
Speaker 1: done that. I'm not looking. I'm under like, just like

1361
01:13:11,640 --> 01:13:14,920
Speaker 1: you understand your value, I understand my value, and I

1362
01:13:15,000 --> 01:13:18,639
Speaker 1: understand that once I've already did the wedding, the child,

1363
01:13:18,800 --> 01:13:21,679
Speaker 1: the house, the this, the that it's about being outside

1364
01:13:21,680 --> 01:13:26,120
Speaker 1: for me. So so I am not I won't you

1365
01:13:26,160 --> 01:13:29,040
Speaker 1: to understand. Every don't have classes. We're very well lif

1366
01:13:29,120 --> 01:13:30,479
Speaker 1: in a lot of ways, we're different in a lot

1367
01:13:30,479 --> 01:13:34,960
Speaker 1: of ways, have different mighty it. Okay, I'm just bothered

1368
01:13:34,960 --> 01:13:36,720
Speaker 1: by like you. I don't know if it was Hu

1369
01:13:36,800 --> 01:13:38,400
Speaker 1: Jazz or somebody else I was saying. They were like

1370
01:13:38,800 --> 01:13:41,120
Speaker 1: people understand when you say I don't want to date

1371
01:13:41,160 --> 01:13:43,080
Speaker 1: the bus drop That means this more bus droppers for

1372
01:13:43,200 --> 01:13:46,800
Speaker 1: other bitches today it's a black thing. It's you call

1373
01:13:46,840 --> 01:13:51,559
Speaker 1: a way and I'm look that was also true.

1374
01:13:51,920 --> 01:13:55,280
Speaker 5: I really really need y'all to stop ending that anything

1375
01:13:55,360 --> 01:13:57,720
Speaker 5: that I said or that we've said, even in this conversation,

1376
01:13:57,840 --> 01:14:02,960
Speaker 5: tesla is about eliminating other qualifications. Nobody said, well, if

1377
01:14:02,960 --> 01:14:06,160
Speaker 5: he owns the bus or if he's an entrepreneur, he

1378
01:14:06,200 --> 01:14:08,040
Speaker 5: could be a piece of ship. Y'all made that up.

1379
01:14:09,120 --> 01:14:12,600
Speaker 5: What look at oil in the comments. Y'all may of

1380
01:14:12,720 --> 01:14:16,240
Speaker 5: course that goes with I would say it goes without saying.

1381
01:14:16,240 --> 01:14:18,840
Speaker 5: But we got some some people that need some articulation Tesla.

1382
01:14:19,360 --> 01:14:27,200
Speaker 1: Integrity, character, consistency. That's I'm not even that's I don't

1383
01:14:27,960 --> 01:14:31,200
Speaker 1: understood though, because if you're if you're a dad, be dead,

1384
01:14:31,360 --> 01:14:33,679
Speaker 1: then you don't have character. If you're out about body,

1385
01:14:33,720 --> 01:14:36,519
Speaker 1: you don't have I thought that was understood, because but

1386
01:14:36,640 --> 01:14:40,040
Speaker 1: y'all do know based off of everything you've seen of myself,

1387
01:14:40,120 --> 01:14:42,000
Speaker 1: just I'm gonna just center on me since i've known

1388
01:14:42,160 --> 01:14:44,920
Speaker 1: y'all was tending from the comments, everything y'all have seen

1389
01:14:44,960 --> 01:14:47,280
Speaker 1: of me, watch any of my work read any of

1390
01:14:47,280 --> 01:14:52,160
Speaker 1: my books. I'm not entertaining any body of any social, economic,

1391
01:14:52,240 --> 01:14:56,360
Speaker 1: or educational status that doesn't have basic God values. I

1392
01:14:56,400 --> 01:14:59,280
Speaker 1: call him God values. Okay, so that's number one.

1393
01:14:59,600 --> 01:15:02,400
Speaker 5: So I up this framing test that all these bus

1394
01:15:02,439 --> 01:15:03,400
Speaker 5: drivers are saints.

1395
01:15:03,479 --> 01:15:06,240
Speaker 1: Y'all been watching too many Tyler Perr movies. That's what

1396
01:15:05,479 --> 01:15:10,320
Speaker 1: it is. All the drivers are saints and faithful and

1397
01:15:10,479 --> 01:15:15,000
Speaker 1: God fearing, good, loveing surgery, and all the all the

1398
01:15:15,120 --> 01:15:18,639
Speaker 1: surgeons and all the entrepreneurs got aids. That's the That's

1399
01:15:18,640 --> 01:15:20,760
Speaker 1: then rative that y'all thevery too, the talent that told

1400
01:15:20,800 --> 01:15:25,080
Speaker 1: you y'all need to stop, that's right. And that's a

1401
01:15:25,200 --> 01:15:28,240
Speaker 1: damn line too, and again shut out to shut out,

1402
01:15:28,280 --> 01:15:30,320
Speaker 1: to rail of the bill. I'm getting tired of that too.

1403
01:15:30,439 --> 01:15:35,400
Speaker 1: You know this idea that men who are successful at

1404
01:15:35,920 --> 01:15:41,480
Speaker 1: being on aids testling And.

1405
01:15:39,600 --> 01:15:41,920
Speaker 5: It's almost like when you go to the bank and

1406
01:15:42,040 --> 01:15:44,360
Speaker 5: your ship clear five hundred K, that she just says

1407
01:15:44,360 --> 01:15:46,719
Speaker 5: that now you got full blow aids, your your TCL

1408
01:15:46,840 --> 01:15:49,040
Speaker 5: count is too bitch like y'all need to stop that,

1409
01:15:49,400 --> 01:15:51,600
Speaker 5: y'all really, like.

1410
01:15:54,320 --> 01:15:56,720
Speaker 1: Eve been talking about Challa May too much, all of

1411
01:15:57,600 --> 01:16:03,840
Speaker 1: chief all town, please, I'm dated man a fifitentiary, and

1412
01:16:03,680 --> 01:16:05,519
Speaker 1: it's put a five in the chat ladies, and you're

1413
01:16:05,520 --> 01:16:08,440
Speaker 1: gonna keep it real. You don't day make pettention problems.

1414
01:16:08,600 --> 01:16:10,760
Speaker 1: So let's maybe women that maybe I don't have so

1415
01:16:11,080 --> 01:16:14,640
Speaker 1: took that part. That's right, even when they don't have

1416
01:16:14,800 --> 01:16:18,160
Speaker 1: women around me. So let's start this bullshit assists, and

1417
01:16:18,280 --> 01:16:22,240
Speaker 1: let's just keep it real so that men on men

1418
01:16:22,320 --> 01:16:25,240
Speaker 1: regardless of the income status. The bottom line is, it

1419
01:16:25,360 --> 01:16:30,320
Speaker 1: is a different dynamic when the woman is able to bring,

1420
01:16:30,600 --> 01:16:32,240
Speaker 1: you know a little bit more to the table, because

1421
01:16:32,280 --> 01:16:33,840
Speaker 1: that means she may not necessarily I put up with

1422
01:16:33,880 --> 01:16:36,360
Speaker 1: your shies. You can get her own house. You get

1423
01:16:36,400 --> 01:16:40,040
Speaker 1: on that. I sleep on that. Ten powers. People coming

1424
01:16:40,040 --> 01:16:42,200
Speaker 1: about salaries and one thirty and five hundred and seven

1425
01:16:42,280 --> 01:16:43,120
Speaker 1: fifty fuck all of that.

1426
01:16:43,280 --> 01:16:46,160
Speaker 5: We're talking about power. We're talking about the fact that

1427
01:16:46,320 --> 01:16:48,640
Speaker 5: again I dated all incomes. I have literally dated men

1428
01:16:48,680 --> 01:16:50,720
Speaker 5: Tesla who have made twenty eight thousand dollars a year.

1429
01:16:50,760 --> 01:16:53,720
Speaker 5: I've dated men that made one hundred million plus and

1430
01:16:53,960 --> 01:16:56,640
Speaker 5: one billion. Let's be very clear, that's what I mean

1431
01:16:56,680 --> 01:17:00,439
Speaker 5: by I got a ball. Oh yeah, you know, you know,

1432
01:17:00,640 --> 01:17:02,160
Speaker 5: knowing that was the minority owner of the Falcons.

1433
01:17:02,200 --> 01:17:05,719
Speaker 1: We won't talk. We'll talk about later anyway. Anyway, Anyway,

1434
01:17:06,200 --> 01:17:06,680
Speaker 1: here's the thing.

1435
01:17:07,360 --> 01:17:09,439
Speaker 5: Once you date a man of any race with that

1436
01:17:09,680 --> 01:17:13,920
Speaker 5: level of income, he is typically not as attracted. News flash,

1437
01:17:14,160 --> 01:17:16,479
Speaker 5: I'm gonna have my tom broke a moment. He is

1438
01:17:16,720 --> 01:17:21,120
Speaker 5: not as incentivated and attracted to hire any women. Why

1439
01:17:22,040 --> 01:17:25,400
Speaker 5: why test it? Because you nailed it? Because his ability

1440
01:17:25,920 --> 01:17:28,200
Speaker 5: to move any kind of way. It could be cheating,

1441
01:17:28,240 --> 01:17:30,639
Speaker 5: It could not be. It could just be I want

1442
01:17:30,680 --> 01:17:33,400
Speaker 5: to you need to just be happy to be here posta.

1443
01:17:33,800 --> 01:17:33,840
Speaker 4: So.

1444
01:17:34,120 --> 01:17:36,639
Speaker 5: So when I tell you where we're living, where we're

1445
01:17:36,640 --> 01:17:39,040
Speaker 5: going on vacation, what the fuck you about to put

1446
01:17:39,080 --> 01:17:40,839
Speaker 5: on to my gala and my company.

1447
01:17:41,160 --> 01:17:42,240
Speaker 3: That's what the fuck you're doing.

1448
01:17:42,560 --> 01:17:44,720
Speaker 1: Because you cannot live this lifestyle.

1449
01:17:45,400 --> 01:17:48,160
Speaker 5: You cannot be in the sky lounge, you cannot be

1450
01:17:48,280 --> 01:17:51,519
Speaker 5: on the private jet, you be at the four Seasons,

1451
01:17:51,840 --> 01:17:55,080
Speaker 5: you feeling the same regions with you can be at

1452
01:17:55,160 --> 01:17:58,120
Speaker 5: soho Ammond filling the blak private.

1453
01:17:57,840 --> 01:18:00,960
Speaker 1: Club without me. So and so y'all on what I'm

1454
01:18:01,000 --> 01:18:01,840
Speaker 1: talking about right now?

1455
01:18:03,840 --> 01:18:04,040
Speaker 2: I know?

1456
01:18:04,560 --> 01:18:06,519
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, how on policy? They know because

1457
01:18:06,560 --> 01:18:08,360
Speaker 1: they putting up winning just to get the bills, say

1458
01:18:08,800 --> 01:18:09,360
Speaker 1: the weekly.

1459
01:18:09,680 --> 01:18:15,320
Speaker 5: Out, okay, so no problem, nomber look and that, and

1460
01:18:15,439 --> 01:18:19,360
Speaker 5: that goes back to our original concept. Everybody is living

1461
01:18:19,400 --> 01:18:22,920
Speaker 5: a different life on their terms. So again, I really

1462
01:18:23,040 --> 01:18:25,280
Speaker 5: just want this to be about and not debating and

1463
01:18:25,400 --> 01:18:27,800
Speaker 5: not trying to get nobody up. Fuck nobody up.

1464
01:18:28,080 --> 01:18:28,320
Speaker 3: Y'all.

1465
01:18:28,400 --> 01:18:31,759
Speaker 1: We are all black loving people. Let's hold the space

1466
01:18:32,360 --> 01:18:35,000
Speaker 1: for wherever we are in our journey, wherever we are

1467
01:18:35,080 --> 01:18:38,400
Speaker 1: in our pursuits, making people feel like they have a

1468
01:18:39,240 --> 01:18:42,560
Speaker 1: opportunity of choice, and not shaming them about it.

1469
01:18:42,640 --> 01:18:44,439
Speaker 5: And this is the last part. Your people need to

1470
01:18:44,520 --> 01:18:46,280
Speaker 5: know tests, and your good black people to know you

1471
01:18:46,360 --> 01:18:48,160
Speaker 5: cannot shame me. First of all, I was raised by

1472
01:18:48,200 --> 01:18:48,600
Speaker 5: Gloria J.

1473
01:18:48,680 --> 01:18:49,040
Speaker 2: Williams.

1474
01:18:49,120 --> 01:18:51,920
Speaker 5: She's crazy as motherfucker, so you cannot shame me. So

1475
01:18:52,040 --> 01:18:55,320
Speaker 5: this is not about embarrassing or shaming. What would it

1476
01:18:55,439 --> 01:18:57,439
Speaker 5: look like if we flipped that framing test as a

1477
01:18:57,520 --> 01:19:02,120
Speaker 5: culture and nade it about community education again, Let's stop

1478
01:19:02,160 --> 01:19:04,240
Speaker 5: talking about a race to the bottom. Let's have come

1479
01:19:04,320 --> 01:19:06,880
Speaker 5: about a race to mediocrity. Let's come about a race

1480
01:19:06,960 --> 01:19:09,880
Speaker 5: to average, and let's bring everybody down to average. What

1481
01:19:09,960 --> 01:19:11,840
Speaker 5: would it look like to bring many many, many, many,

1482
01:19:11,920 --> 01:19:15,439
Speaker 5: many many up to uh superior many many many up

1483
01:19:15,479 --> 01:19:19,320
Speaker 5: to abundance many many many, many, many up to elite

1484
01:19:19,600 --> 01:19:22,519
Speaker 5: first class citizenship in the United States of America, a

1485
01:19:22,640 --> 01:19:24,680
Speaker 5: land of which we are responsible for.

1486
01:19:28,200 --> 01:19:30,800
Speaker 1: Yeah. I know we keep saying we're gonna leave on

1487
01:19:30,880 --> 01:19:33,240
Speaker 1: this note. But just for the citizens that don't care

1488
01:19:33,280 --> 01:19:36,840
Speaker 1: about the income, brothers, I want you to know if

1489
01:19:36,920 --> 01:19:38,880
Speaker 1: you do, if you don't make a certain amount, you

1490
01:19:38,960 --> 01:19:40,880
Speaker 1: better be putting it down in the bedroom. That's not

1491
01:19:41,200 --> 01:19:43,600
Speaker 1: that ain't This is me talking. You know, nerve you,

1492
01:19:44,439 --> 01:19:46,640
Speaker 1: nerve you to sit around and run around that you

1493
01:19:46,720 --> 01:19:48,320
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to make that somewhere, pick up the

1494
01:19:48,960 --> 01:19:57,759
Speaker 1: pick your current struggle. Phil. I think that's a real arity. Besides,

1495
01:19:58,080 --> 01:20:03,280
Speaker 1: we should leave with with with God. We should leave

1496
01:20:04,040 --> 01:20:04,559
Speaker 1: you know. That's my.

1497
01:20:06,520 --> 01:20:08,920
Speaker 3: That's it. I love you. I love you by way

1498
01:20:09,280 --> 01:20:14,360
Speaker 3: all right back I said bye bye so so much.

1499
01:20:18,320 --> 01:20:21,120
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, So that's that. I'm going to close

1500
01:20:21,200 --> 01:20:25,240
Speaker 1: out my YouTube, family YouTube. Come on over uh to

1501
01:20:25,760 --> 01:20:27,840
Speaker 1: uh Instagram. I want to close this. How you were

1502
01:20:27,840 --> 01:20:29,840
Speaker 1: listening to straight shot, no chasing with testing? Figure on

1503
01:20:29,960 --> 01:20:31,439
Speaker 1: closing out because I want to make sure that my

1504
01:20:31,560 --> 01:20:38,080
Speaker 1: producer has all the information a good conversation. Tell me

1505
01:20:38,160 --> 01:20:40,560
Speaker 1: what y'all thought about it? What did y'all think about it.

1506
01:20:40,640 --> 01:20:43,439
Speaker 1: What were your fat Let me know if you can

1507
01:20:43,520 --> 01:20:55,280
Speaker 1: hear me, still hold on? Did you learn anything? Did

1508
01:20:55,320 --> 01:20:59,360
Speaker 1: you get anything? Did it make sense? Are you still

1509
01:20:59,400 --> 01:21:03,600
Speaker 1: saying and all? I'm still internalizing what she said? What's what?

1510
01:21:10,600 --> 01:21:13,000
Speaker 1: Loved it all? You got good feedback? Great? Well you

1511
01:21:13,040 --> 01:21:17,360
Speaker 1: know again guys. Ever, he reached out and said, hey,

1512
01:21:17,439 --> 01:21:19,639
Speaker 1: y'all want to have this conversation with you, go live great,

1513
01:21:19,800 --> 01:21:24,000
Speaker 1: no problem. I will just say this again, y'all, don't

1514
01:21:24,000 --> 01:21:27,760
Speaker 1: heart my feelings. Like again, I married a mechanic. They're

1515
01:21:27,760 --> 01:21:31,639
Speaker 1: the same person twenty some years. So ain't nobody's feelings hurt.

1516
01:21:32,280 --> 01:21:35,559
Speaker 1: But I do want to say this that for those

1517
01:21:35,600 --> 01:21:38,679
Speaker 1: of y'all to keep talking about date somebody that doesn't

1518
01:21:38,720 --> 01:21:40,559
Speaker 1: make as much or I have as much, I really

1519
01:21:40,640 --> 01:21:41,880
Speaker 1: do want to tell you that a lot of my

1520
01:21:41,960 --> 01:21:45,800
Speaker 1: girlfriends in this space would love to do that and

1521
01:21:46,160 --> 01:21:48,880
Speaker 1: they can't can't because a lot of men just can't

1522
01:21:48,920 --> 01:21:52,599
Speaker 1: handle the level of success. Seriously, it's a lot. It's more.

1523
01:21:52,640 --> 01:21:55,600
Speaker 1: It's not just an income thing. It is a you know,

1524
01:21:55,800 --> 01:21:59,720
Speaker 1: feeling value and feeling like a man and you know

1525
01:22:00,040 --> 01:22:04,360
Speaker 1: all of those things. Oooh, fair Grace said, black women

1526
01:22:04,400 --> 01:22:07,280
Speaker 1: are not. The rehabilitation centers were broken broken men. I

1527
01:22:07,360 --> 01:22:09,160
Speaker 1: guess he told y'all. And that's coming from a man

1528
01:22:09,880 --> 01:22:14,000
Speaker 1: by sisful man, by the way. So in closing, I

1529
01:22:14,000 --> 01:22:15,760
Speaker 1: hope you got a couple of things. One, she was

1530
01:22:15,800 --> 01:22:19,559
Speaker 1: talking about herself, not talking about everybody else. Two, don't

1531
01:22:19,600 --> 01:22:23,080
Speaker 1: internalize have somebody else what statement they say and put

1532
01:22:23,120 --> 01:22:24,960
Speaker 1: that on all black women. Remember the things that your

1533
01:22:25,000 --> 01:22:27,040
Speaker 1: mom told you, your grandmother told you. Hopefully they poured

1534
01:22:27,120 --> 01:22:30,760
Speaker 1: something into you. If you didn't, that's the problem there. Three.

1535
01:22:33,280 --> 01:22:36,240
Speaker 1: Let's stop beating up on each other and talking about

1536
01:22:36,280 --> 01:22:38,240
Speaker 1: black men and and black women, and that's what's wrong

1537
01:22:38,280 --> 01:22:41,920
Speaker 1: with y'all. And this is and that. Four. If you're

1538
01:22:41,960 --> 01:22:45,280
Speaker 1: so happy and so married and so whatever, why be

1539
01:22:45,439 --> 01:22:49,160
Speaker 1: concerned about what sing single people are doing, because that's

1540
01:22:49,240 --> 01:22:55,439
Speaker 1: given misery love company. Five. Let's also know that we

1541
01:22:55,560 --> 01:22:58,320
Speaker 1: are well aware that marriage benefits men more than it

1542
01:22:58,400 --> 01:23:01,160
Speaker 1: does women, and that's why men are the ones pushing this.

1543
01:23:01,320 --> 01:23:02,600
Speaker 1: Got to be married, got to be married, got to

1544
01:23:02,600 --> 01:23:04,559
Speaker 1: be married, must be married, must be married, must be married.

1545
01:23:04,840 --> 01:23:06,400
Speaker 1: That ain't nothing wrong with it, because a good wife

1546
01:23:06,439 --> 01:23:09,120
Speaker 1: should be taking care of you and your children. If

1547
01:23:09,120 --> 01:23:11,920
Speaker 1: she's a good wife, according to the virtuous woman. Any

1548
01:23:12,520 --> 01:23:14,800
Speaker 1: woman that is married and has children, she puts her

1549
01:23:15,400 --> 01:23:18,200
Speaker 1: children and her husband first. She's constantly always doing something

1550
01:23:18,280 --> 01:23:20,479
Speaker 1: for them. She gets around herself when she makes hide.

1551
01:23:20,680 --> 01:23:22,439
Speaker 1: So a lot of times that's why men. That's why

1552
01:23:22,479 --> 01:23:24,800
Speaker 1: you see men so aggressive on this. You don't see

1553
01:23:24,840 --> 01:23:27,320
Speaker 1: women talking about this. It's only men. That's why you're

1554
01:23:27,360 --> 01:23:29,000
Speaker 1: gonna be alone. That's why you gonna diet long. That's

1555
01:23:29,040 --> 01:23:31,599
Speaker 1: why you did it. I mean, it's so obvious. It's

1556
01:23:31,640 --> 01:23:36,280
Speaker 1: so obvious. Also, let's understand that every woman is at

1557
01:23:36,280 --> 01:23:38,960
Speaker 1: a different place in her life. Says, So you may

1558
01:23:39,160 --> 01:23:41,800
Speaker 1: be okay well being build a bear and bringing you know,

1559
01:23:41,920 --> 01:23:44,240
Speaker 1: building a man, but I also understand there's some women

1560
01:23:44,320 --> 01:23:46,320
Speaker 1: that have already been there and done that. And when

1561
01:23:46,360 --> 01:23:50,479
Speaker 1: you start getting into your you know, forties and in

1562
01:23:50,640 --> 01:23:53,760
Speaker 1: the thirty five, you may want somebody that knows how

1563
01:23:53,800 --> 01:23:56,920
Speaker 1: to handle basic adulting. Nothing wrong with that. Now, if

1564
01:23:56,960 --> 01:23:59,080
Speaker 1: you want to put somebody on your couch and teach

1565
01:23:59,120 --> 01:24:01,519
Speaker 1: them about credit and teaching about having a business, and

1566
01:24:01,800 --> 01:24:04,400
Speaker 1: teach you about all of that at forty, hey cis

1567
01:24:04,560 --> 01:24:06,439
Speaker 1: by always do it. Please make sure you're putting it

1568
01:24:06,479 --> 01:24:08,280
Speaker 1: down on you know, that's the only way you put

1569
01:24:08,400 --> 01:24:10,559
Speaker 1: it down on you more likely probably is nine times

1570
01:24:10,560 --> 01:24:12,720
Speaker 1: out of team. He probably is. But if you want

1571
01:24:12,840 --> 01:24:15,439
Speaker 1: to do that, be okay, we're doing that, bill Sis.

1572
01:24:16,240 --> 01:24:19,840
Speaker 1: But also don't get upset with other people who said,

1573
01:24:19,880 --> 01:24:22,320
Speaker 1: you know what I've already built and I kind of

1574
01:24:22,360 --> 01:24:25,080
Speaker 1: want somebody to help me go further. That goes for

1575
01:24:25,240 --> 01:24:27,400
Speaker 1: men and women. And let me say this on my

1576
01:24:27,479 --> 01:24:30,840
Speaker 1: clothes and thought again, you men that keep talking about

1577
01:24:30,880 --> 01:24:32,479
Speaker 1: you don't care what a woman brings to the table.

1578
01:24:32,720 --> 01:24:35,600
Speaker 1: I pity you. I pity you. You don't want no

1579
01:24:35,680 --> 01:24:38,000
Speaker 1: woman that can lift you up. You don't want no

1580
01:24:38,080 --> 01:24:40,400
Speaker 1: woman that can take you to another level. You don't

1581
01:24:40,439 --> 01:24:42,720
Speaker 1: want a woman that can quote some spiritual gain to

1582
01:24:42,800 --> 01:24:45,840
Speaker 1: you besides what she read on a meme. I'm sorry,

1583
01:24:45,920 --> 01:24:48,360
Speaker 1: maybe it's just me, but see when they come to me,

1584
01:24:48,920 --> 01:24:52,080
Speaker 1: they gonna get advice based on receipts, not just what

1585
01:24:52,200 --> 01:24:53,720
Speaker 1: I heard. Well, you know, I was looking through a

1586
01:24:53,760 --> 01:24:55,360
Speaker 1: good meme and they said today that you need to

1587
01:24:55,360 --> 01:24:57,080
Speaker 1: do this or that. Me come to meeting and say,

1588
01:24:57,120 --> 01:24:59,040
Speaker 1: may hi, I having this with my business. Okay, I'm

1589
01:24:59,120 --> 01:25:00,880
Speaker 1: gonna do this, need to do it like this because

1590
01:25:00,880 --> 01:25:04,160
Speaker 1: I want to Orlando Business Journal twice. You need to

1591
01:25:04,240 --> 01:25:07,080
Speaker 1: do this because I've been recognized as this. You need

1592
01:25:07,160 --> 01:25:09,240
Speaker 1: to do this because I got to receise to show me.

1593
01:25:09,479 --> 01:25:11,519
Speaker 1: You need to do this because I can back it up.

1594
01:25:11,760 --> 01:25:13,559
Speaker 1: You need to do this because I can bring somebody

1595
01:25:13,640 --> 01:25:15,799
Speaker 1: else to the table. Oh baby, I'm looking for an investment.

1596
01:25:15,840 --> 01:25:17,439
Speaker 1: I'm probably got an investment. Needed to call them me

1597
01:25:17,479 --> 01:25:19,600
Speaker 1: to do what? See? So all of y'all talking about this.

1598
01:25:19,920 --> 01:25:21,439
Speaker 3: We need to build bill Bill.

1599
01:25:21,720 --> 01:25:23,679
Speaker 1: You don't even know what Bill looked like. I'm about

1600
01:25:23,680 --> 01:25:25,400
Speaker 1: to go there on a Sunday. Can I go ahead

1601
01:25:25,400 --> 01:25:27,360
Speaker 1: and tell you because I don't look at your income.

1602
01:25:27,640 --> 01:25:29,439
Speaker 1: Just to be clear, I don't look at your income.

1603
01:25:29,479 --> 01:25:31,080
Speaker 1: I do look at your size now, but I don't

1604
01:25:31,080 --> 01:25:32,720
Speaker 1: look at your income. And I want to tell you

1605
01:25:32,800 --> 01:25:35,320
Speaker 1: that some of you ain't ready for the upgrade package

1606
01:25:35,720 --> 01:25:37,880
Speaker 1: because you wouldn't know what to do with it. You

1607
01:25:37,920 --> 01:25:40,280
Speaker 1: wouldn't know what to do with it. So let's stop

1608
01:25:40,360 --> 01:25:42,400
Speaker 1: the live and myth that you don't care what I

1609
01:25:42,479 --> 01:25:45,280
Speaker 1: bring to the table. And if you don't care what

1610
01:25:45,439 --> 01:25:49,960
Speaker 1: I bring to the table, then your mammy and them

1611
01:25:50,000 --> 01:25:53,479
Speaker 1: done failed you. They failed you. I know the Utube

1612
01:25:53,560 --> 01:25:56,840
Speaker 1: Guru told you men don't care about your income. But brother,

1613
01:25:57,040 --> 01:25:59,960
Speaker 1: let me tell you something, Black people, the income gas

1614
01:26:00,439 --> 01:26:03,360
Speaker 1: ratio is too damn wise for you to care. Not

1615
01:26:03,560 --> 01:26:06,680
Speaker 1: care about what a woman don't bring to the table. Now,

1616
01:26:06,720 --> 01:26:08,640
Speaker 1: if you want to go get somebody that don't do

1617
01:26:08,800 --> 01:26:10,880
Speaker 1: shit but sit up and get her hair done and

1618
01:26:11,160 --> 01:26:14,840
Speaker 1: go to the club and be outside and drinking and

1619
01:26:14,920 --> 01:26:17,760
Speaker 1: smoking and smoking and drinking and laying up on the

1620
01:26:17,840 --> 01:26:20,560
Speaker 1: couch and can't do shit, then baby, that's on you.

1621
01:26:20,880 --> 01:26:22,599
Speaker 1: But to my brothers, put a five in the chat.

1622
01:26:22,640 --> 01:26:24,400
Speaker 1: I just want to know if you're still alive and well,

1623
01:26:24,720 --> 01:26:26,880
Speaker 1: put a five in the chat. If it matters to you,

1624
01:26:26,960 --> 01:26:28,920
Speaker 1: if she knows how to go get a contract or two,

1625
01:26:29,200 --> 01:26:31,240
Speaker 1: if it matters to you, if she got the discipline

1626
01:26:31,240 --> 01:26:33,080
Speaker 1: to get up and go to work. If it matters

1627
01:26:33,120 --> 01:26:35,479
Speaker 1: to you and she can do one job, or maybe

1628
01:26:35,600 --> 01:26:38,120
Speaker 1: even too, if it matters to you that she know

1629
01:26:38,240 --> 01:26:41,200
Speaker 1: how to manage her bank account, that she not running

1630
01:26:41,240 --> 01:26:43,240
Speaker 1: your shit in the ground, Let me know if it

1631
01:26:43,400 --> 01:26:45,680
Speaker 1: matters to you and she can add two plus two.

1632
01:26:45,920 --> 01:26:47,200
Speaker 1: Let me know if it matters to you, if she

1633
01:26:47,240 --> 01:26:49,800
Speaker 1: can get through a complete sentence without stumbling. I just

1634
01:26:49,880 --> 01:26:51,479
Speaker 1: want to know if it matters to you and she

1635
01:26:51,600 --> 01:26:53,640
Speaker 1: knows how to read the fine prints. I just need

1636
01:26:53,640 --> 01:26:55,200
Speaker 1: to know if it matter to you that if you

1637
01:26:55,400 --> 01:26:58,080
Speaker 1: out go and get handling your business and the contract

1638
01:26:58,200 --> 01:26:59,800
Speaker 1: is show up at the house, that she's not a

1639
01:27:00,360 --> 01:27:01,960
Speaker 1: in distress because she knows how to read the fine

1640
01:27:02,000 --> 01:27:03,679
Speaker 1: print and say, I'm sorry you said you was gonna

1641
01:27:03,680 --> 01:27:05,400
Speaker 1: do X y Z. I just want to know if

1642
01:27:05,439 --> 01:27:07,280
Speaker 1: it matters to you. I she gotta call you and

1643
01:27:07,320 --> 01:27:08,960
Speaker 1: say I'm sorry, I can't figure it out. I gotta

1644
01:27:09,000 --> 01:27:10,920
Speaker 1: call my husband, because see, one thing I know about

1645
01:27:10,920 --> 01:27:13,639
Speaker 1: a millionaire man. One thing I know about a millionaire man.

1646
01:27:13,880 --> 01:27:16,439
Speaker 1: He want to stay a millionaire. He wants to stay

1647
01:27:16,439 --> 01:27:19,559
Speaker 1: a millionaire. And you can't stay a millionaire with a ditz.

1648
01:27:20,160 --> 01:27:23,000
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you can't stay a millionaire with a ditz

1649
01:27:23,280 --> 01:27:25,800
Speaker 1: because everything that your wife could be doing you got

1650
01:27:25,840 --> 01:27:28,080
Speaker 1: to pay to get done. You gotta pay an accountant,

1651
01:27:28,160 --> 01:27:30,280
Speaker 1: you gotta pay somebody be your taxes. I'm sorry, let's

1652
01:27:30,280 --> 01:27:32,080
Speaker 1: go to what Nod said. He says, she's so fine,

1653
01:27:32,280 --> 01:27:35,040
Speaker 1: and then still do my taxes for the riris. I

1654
01:27:35,160 --> 01:27:36,880
Speaker 1: just want to go by what the good brother Nod says.

1655
01:27:37,040 --> 01:27:38,760
Speaker 1: He said, why I'm rubbing on her breast? She still

1656
01:27:38,760 --> 01:27:41,000
Speaker 1: could do my taxes for the irs. So I'm just

1657
01:27:41,080 --> 01:27:43,160
Speaker 1: saying that there are some men that kind of want

1658
01:27:43,200 --> 01:27:45,439
Speaker 1: you to do it all. And because I can do

1659
01:27:45,560 --> 01:27:47,720
Speaker 1: it all, that means I have the skill to get

1660
01:27:47,760 --> 01:27:50,000
Speaker 1: the bag. And I want to apologize for the bank.

1661
01:27:50,320 --> 01:27:52,800
Speaker 1: I want to apologize for the bag. We're gonna stop

1662
01:27:52,840 --> 01:27:55,200
Speaker 1: the bag shaming. Let us declare right now, on this

1663
01:27:55,320 --> 01:27:58,519
Speaker 1: Sunday morning or this Sunday evening, let us stop the

1664
01:27:58,600 --> 01:28:02,240
Speaker 1: bag shaming. Let's stop. Let's just stop it. Let's stop it.

1665
01:28:02,960 --> 01:28:05,600
Speaker 1: Let's stop it. Let's stop it. You may not like

1666
01:28:05,840 --> 01:28:08,479
Speaker 1: what Ebany said, I feel you, but what I want

1667
01:28:08,520 --> 01:28:10,320
Speaker 1: you to do. If you don't need nothing else from this,

1668
01:28:10,920 --> 01:28:14,639
Speaker 1: let's stop the bad shaming. Because if you are okay

1669
01:28:15,000 --> 01:28:18,160
Speaker 1: what having a woman that don't bring you shit, then

1670
01:28:18,200 --> 01:28:19,519
Speaker 1: you really don't need to be a part of this

1671
01:28:19,600 --> 01:28:23,160
Speaker 1: conversation period. Since you're so concerned about the black family

1672
01:28:23,439 --> 01:28:25,960
Speaker 1: and the black family moving ahead, brother, you can't move

1673
01:28:26,000 --> 01:28:28,639
Speaker 1: ahead by yourself. We dealing with white supremacy. It's gonna

1674
01:28:28,680 --> 01:28:31,000
Speaker 1: take both of us. It's gonna take both of us.

1675
01:28:31,520 --> 01:28:33,719
Speaker 1: And somebody got to be able to read that fine print.

1676
01:28:34,200 --> 01:28:36,559
Speaker 1: Somebody gotta be able to go out and get that bag.

1677
01:28:37,120 --> 01:28:39,599
Speaker 1: Somebody gotta be able to do it. Because one thing

1678
01:28:39,640 --> 01:28:41,519
Speaker 1: that you will understand what a power couple. Some of

1679
01:28:41,600 --> 01:28:44,479
Speaker 1: y'all understands you never had it that masklin energy and

1680
01:28:44,520 --> 01:28:47,840
Speaker 1: feminine energy both pays a part. Sometime it might be

1681
01:28:47,960 --> 01:28:49,559
Speaker 1: something I don't want to talk to a dude about

1682
01:28:49,600 --> 01:28:51,599
Speaker 1: because maybe he's trying to get my pants get a contract.

1683
01:28:51,760 --> 01:28:54,439
Speaker 1: Maybe go handle it, go talk to him, pamphlet, and

1684
01:28:54,600 --> 01:28:57,200
Speaker 1: sometime I may go handlet for him. Let me go

1685
01:28:57,280 --> 01:28:58,960
Speaker 1: talk to the play. You know he was looking to

1686
01:28:59,000 --> 01:29:00,960
Speaker 1: put together some and such. Just close the deal for

1687
01:29:01,080 --> 01:29:02,560
Speaker 1: my friend not too long ago. Let me send that.

1688
01:29:06,520 --> 01:29:08,360
Speaker 1: Can't send an email. Let him know that, no problem.

1689
01:29:09,960 --> 01:29:12,800
Speaker 1: You know it's my friend just closed the deal because

1690
01:29:12,800 --> 01:29:15,439
Speaker 1: of it. That's why Beyonce said, bring me along to

1691
01:29:15,520 --> 01:29:17,839
Speaker 1: the meeting and I close the deal. See there's the difference.

1692
01:29:18,479 --> 01:29:21,800
Speaker 1: So some of y'all, it's okay. I understand. I know

1693
01:29:21,840 --> 01:29:24,360
Speaker 1: where it's coming from. Some of you may be okay

1694
01:29:24,880 --> 01:29:27,640
Speaker 1: with having a woman that don't do nothing and you

1695
01:29:27,760 --> 01:29:30,040
Speaker 1: try to make her little projects bigger than what they sing.

1696
01:29:30,320 --> 01:29:33,880
Speaker 1: It's okay. And then there's some of you that I

1697
01:29:33,960 --> 01:29:38,400
Speaker 1: actually love a safe or sexual that actually loves my

1698
01:29:38,560 --> 01:29:40,599
Speaker 1: head game. And I'm not talking at this head game,

1699
01:29:40,760 --> 01:29:44,400
Speaker 1: talking about this head game that actually love us able.

1700
01:29:44,280 --> 01:29:47,920
Speaker 6: To dialogue, actually love that. I know what I'm talking

1701
01:29:47,960 --> 01:29:53,080
Speaker 6: about when I can make it happen. So brother, let

1702
01:29:53,120 --> 01:29:56,000
Speaker 6: just do me a favor and stop saying we don't

1703
01:29:56,000 --> 01:29:59,920
Speaker 6: care about your income. Because a woman's income is directly

1704
01:30:00,080 --> 01:30:03,760
Speaker 6: aligned with her ability. So when you say you don't

1705
01:30:03,800 --> 01:30:07,680
Speaker 6: care about my income because maybe she just makes ten

1706
01:30:07,720 --> 01:30:09,719
Speaker 6: dollars an hour, there's nothing wrong with that, no shade.

1707
01:30:10,400 --> 01:30:13,080
Speaker 6: But what you're saying is I'm.

1708
01:30:12,960 --> 01:30:16,799
Speaker 1: Not interested in excellence, because when you are interested in excellence,

1709
01:30:17,160 --> 01:30:21,040
Speaker 1: her income reflects excellence. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I

1710
01:30:21,080 --> 01:30:24,960
Speaker 1: know they say I'm a boss period. Yeah, okay, got it.

1711
01:30:25,400 --> 01:30:27,920
Speaker 1: Once the rap game is over, what else is it?

1712
01:30:28,080 --> 01:30:28,240
Speaker 4: Though?

1713
01:30:29,120 --> 01:30:35,160
Speaker 1: What else is it? I know it's cute, ladies, I

1714
01:30:35,280 --> 01:30:39,680
Speaker 1: know it's popular. You know, I get it. But at

1715
01:30:39,680 --> 01:30:42,120
Speaker 1: the end of the day, while y'all talking Matt Dine alone,

1716
01:30:42,760 --> 01:30:44,640
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you're gonna need a

1717
01:30:44,680 --> 01:30:46,360
Speaker 1: woman to know how to go talk to the nurses,

1718
01:30:46,760 --> 01:30:48,760
Speaker 1: know how to talk to the doctors, know how to

1719
01:30:48,800 --> 01:30:52,200
Speaker 1: read the paperwork, know how to get whatever policies are necessary.

1720
01:30:52,280 --> 01:30:55,400
Speaker 1: By the way, I was a license insurance agent, solicitor

1721
01:30:55,479 --> 01:30:58,880
Speaker 1: Group one, and adjuster. By the way, somebody gonna need

1722
01:30:58,960 --> 01:31:05,400
Speaker 1: to know how to read through the paperwork. That's important,

1723
01:31:07,560 --> 01:31:11,880
Speaker 1: especially for the brothers that don't make six figures. You're

1724
01:31:11,920 --> 01:31:14,120
Speaker 1: gonna need me far more than I'm gonna need you.

1725
01:31:14,880 --> 01:31:18,920
Speaker 1: So let's stop the shading. Let's stop the discs, because

1726
01:31:18,920 --> 01:31:20,880
Speaker 1: you don't need a one woman. I ain't talking the

1727
01:31:20,920 --> 01:31:23,679
Speaker 1: brothers that make twelve thirteen. I'm talking about NFL players

1728
01:31:23,720 --> 01:31:27,400
Speaker 1: that I got plenty of NFL friends former. Let's say, hey,

1729
01:31:27,720 --> 01:31:29,960
Speaker 1: school wasn't reading, wasn't my thing. I need a woman

1730
01:31:30,040 --> 01:31:31,840
Speaker 1: that got my back and make sure she's looking at

1731
01:31:31,880 --> 01:31:34,840
Speaker 1: for me. So let's stop this. I don't care what

1732
01:31:35,000 --> 01:31:38,920
Speaker 1: she brings to the table. That's some bullshshit. And if

1733
01:31:39,479 --> 01:31:42,639
Speaker 1: you don't care what a woman brings me to the table,

1734
01:31:43,560 --> 01:31:48,080
Speaker 1: call your mamma and I'm and I'm I mean this shit,

1735
01:31:48,600 --> 01:31:51,839
Speaker 1: because what you're saying is you don't have any interest.

1736
01:31:52,680 --> 01:31:57,479
Speaker 1: And what who's raising you're a girl child? You don't

1737
01:31:57,520 --> 01:32:03,720
Speaker 1: care there who's raising your boy child? I ain't talking

1738
01:32:03,760 --> 01:32:05,280
Speaker 1: about the one percent to the man, I'm talking about

1739
01:32:05,280 --> 01:32:07,320
Speaker 1: the men after penitentiary all the way up to twenty

1740
01:32:07,320 --> 01:32:09,559
Speaker 1: dollars an hour, and nobody talking about no one percent

1741
01:32:09,600 --> 01:32:11,320
Speaker 1: of man. I'm talking about you regular niggas. Remember my

1742
01:32:11,360 --> 01:32:13,559
Speaker 1: name is says a figure o aka the hood whisper.

1743
01:32:13,880 --> 01:32:16,080
Speaker 1: I ain't ver dated the end the one percent. My

1744
01:32:16,160 --> 01:32:18,280
Speaker 1: age husband want to one percent a nigga now the

1745
01:32:18,320 --> 01:32:23,000
Speaker 1: one percent. But you regular niggas, y'all care about what

1746
01:32:23,080 --> 01:32:25,120
Speaker 1: the woman brings to the table. And I know because

1747
01:32:25,120 --> 01:32:27,280
Speaker 1: I ain't been doing nothing but regular niggas. So let's

1748
01:32:27,400 --> 01:32:31,000
Speaker 1: let's stop this cap. And I know y'all saw that

1749
01:32:31,080 --> 01:32:33,639
Speaker 1: out there in the twitters world, in the youtwoe world,

1750
01:32:33,880 --> 01:32:36,400
Speaker 1: and you took that so you can say some bullshit. Lie,

1751
01:32:36,400 --> 01:32:38,160
Speaker 1: I see him on the day maps Oh, I don't

1752
01:32:38,160 --> 01:32:39,600
Speaker 1: care about what you bring to the table. I just

1753
01:32:39,680 --> 01:32:43,040
Speaker 1: want to high value woman. That's cooperative, it's submissing, it's cap.

1754
01:32:43,120 --> 01:32:44,960
Speaker 1: You're saying that because you want to be like Ooh,

1755
01:32:45,000 --> 01:32:46,960
Speaker 1: I don't he don't care about it. But then as

1756
01:32:46,960 --> 01:32:49,120
Speaker 1: soon as the taxes come in, baby, let me hold something.

1757
01:32:49,280 --> 01:32:49,519
Speaker 2: I know.

1758
01:32:49,800 --> 01:32:52,920
Speaker 1: It's a very obvious game. Ladies. If you're following for

1759
01:32:52,960 --> 01:32:54,920
Speaker 1: a girl, shame on you. They try to pretend like

1760
01:32:54,960 --> 01:32:56,760
Speaker 1: they don't care, but they're wait till tax season come.

1761
01:32:56,840 --> 01:32:58,920
Speaker 1: Can I hold something? I'm just strugglingttle bit. He thinks

1762
01:32:58,920 --> 01:33:00,400
Speaker 1: I got you to fifty and then you got to

1763
01:33:00,560 --> 01:33:02,519
Speaker 1: fifty five hundred. I ain't got a problem letting you

1764
01:33:02,600 --> 01:33:05,080
Speaker 1: borrow your baby because I got it. I got your baby.

1765
01:33:05,120 --> 01:33:07,240
Speaker 1: Mama don't have it. I got it. Your ex wife

1766
01:33:07,320 --> 01:33:10,439
Speaker 1: don't have it. I got it. I keeps it. And

1767
01:33:10,600 --> 01:33:12,720
Speaker 1: because I got it and I keeps it, I need

1768
01:33:12,800 --> 01:33:15,800
Speaker 1: you to recognize it and put some respect on my name.

1769
01:33:16,160 --> 01:33:19,040
Speaker 1: And let us not confuse to me with the other ones,

1770
01:33:19,920 --> 01:33:22,880
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, a doctor time

1771
01:33:23,040 --> 01:33:26,560
Speaker 1: is more than just what you look like. They really is.

1772
01:33:27,040 --> 01:33:30,599
Speaker 1: While y'all asking about dress sizes, what's your dress size?

1773
01:33:30,880 --> 01:33:34,160
Speaker 1: Let me ask you what's your credit score? Fine, state

1774
01:33:34,880 --> 01:33:37,960
Speaker 1: it's seven fifty. I better on a good day on

1775
01:33:38,080 --> 01:33:40,679
Speaker 1: a bad day, So check your credit score it. Stop

1776
01:33:40,720 --> 01:33:43,920
Speaker 1: worrying about dress sizes and check your credit score, because

1777
01:33:43,960 --> 01:33:47,519
Speaker 1: ain't nobody impressed with your dress size? Even though h

1778
01:33:47,560 --> 01:33:50,320
Speaker 1: I do carry that thing. That ain't the point. The

1779
01:33:50,439 --> 01:33:53,760
Speaker 1: point is that credit score is more on point, those

1780
01:33:53,840 --> 01:33:57,360
Speaker 1: received from more on point. The business is one point.

1781
01:33:57,760 --> 01:34:00,760
Speaker 1: Because I know dress size. It looks I used to

1782
01:34:00,800 --> 01:34:04,080
Speaker 1: be small all and find as hell I gained forty pounds,

1783
01:34:04,200 --> 01:34:07,600
Speaker 1: I lost forty pounds, Mike ganging, Mike gaining again, A

1784
01:34:07,760 --> 01:34:10,320
Speaker 1: lose it again. One thing I ain't gonna lose unless

1785
01:34:10,320 --> 01:34:12,680
Speaker 1: the Good Lord take my mind away with dementia is

1786
01:34:12,760 --> 01:34:16,160
Speaker 1: this thing right here, and it's gonna feed you in

1787
01:34:16,280 --> 01:34:18,840
Speaker 1: ways you ain't never been felt before. So let us

1788
01:34:18,840 --> 01:34:22,000
Speaker 1: stop playing this bullshit game, at least in my comments.

1789
01:34:22,080 --> 01:34:24,559
Speaker 1: Go to somebody else's comments with that shit about don't

1790
01:34:24,560 --> 01:34:26,479
Speaker 1: nobody care about what you read to the table, because

1791
01:34:26,479 --> 01:34:29,200
Speaker 1: I don't want no man, man or woman that follow

1792
01:34:29,320 --> 01:34:31,760
Speaker 1: this page that don't give a damn about who's in

1793
01:34:31,840 --> 01:34:35,960
Speaker 1: your life and what they're pouring into you spiritually, financially, emotionally,

1794
01:34:36,080 --> 01:34:38,559
Speaker 1: as emotionhit So to me, you're looking like a dummy.

1795
01:34:39,080 --> 01:34:41,439
Speaker 1: You looking like a dummy, and that is what it is.

1796
01:34:41,960 --> 01:34:45,479
Speaker 1: That is the closing of Straight Shot No Chaser. Your

1797
01:34:45,520 --> 01:34:47,560
Speaker 1: girl tells the figure out, I'll see you in the

1798
01:34:47,600 --> 01:34:52,559
Speaker 1: morning on the breakfast club during the front page news Peace.

1799
01:34:53,760 --> 01:34:56,320
Speaker 1: If you like what you heard on Straight Shot No Chaser,

1800
01:34:56,400 --> 01:34:58,960
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1801
01:34:59,000 --> 01:35:01,400
Speaker 1: a friend straight Shot Chaser is a production of the

1802
01:35:01,439 --> 01:35:04,840
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1803
01:35:04,880 --> 01:35:07,799
Speaker 1: and I'd like to thank our producer editor Mixer Dwyane

1804
01:35:07,880 --> 01:35:10,960
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