1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:02,400 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here. 2 00:00:02,440 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. And as I mentioned, I 3 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:08,559 Speaker 1: really don't appreciate this subject. But here goes my wife's 4 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 1: cooking is going to kill us. Or he didn't write it. 5 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: That was not funny. He did not. I know he didn't, it, 6 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 1: says dear Stephen Shirley. Please help me handle an issue 7 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: with my wife. We are in our thirties and have 8 00:00:26,800 --> 00:00:29,479 Speaker 1: been married twelve years, and we have two children. See 9 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:32,960 Speaker 1: right there. We have a great relationship. But there's just 10 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:38,880 Speaker 1: one issue. She cannot cook, not even a little bit. 11 00:00:39,560 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's her job. As a woman. I 12 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: love to throw down in the kitchen when I have time, 13 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 1: but I'm currently the only one working. She has insisted 14 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 1: on taking care of the family meals until she gets 15 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:55,040 Speaker 1: a new job, and that's very nice of her. But 16 00:00:55,160 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: her food is terrible. She tried to make eggs for 17 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: us and they were runny and milky. When she tried 18 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: to grill some chicken, it turned out burnt on the 19 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 1: outside and raw on the inside. We are spending twice 20 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: as much on groceries because she experiments in the kitchen, 21 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: and we have to replace most of her meal creations. 22 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: She's really trying, and I don't want to hurt her feelings. 23 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: But one time she made oatmeal and our eight year 24 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:27,080 Speaker 1: old son yelled, dang, Mama, what's in this stuff? Of 25 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 1: course I had to reprimand him, reprimand him for being rude, 26 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:34,680 Speaker 1: but I definitely understood what he meant. I have suggested 27 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,839 Speaker 1: that we buy pre made meals or we go out 28 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:40,839 Speaker 1: to eat until she takes a cooking class of some kind. 29 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:44,040 Speaker 1: That hurt her feelings. So now I'm scared to bring 30 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: up the subject again. Eating together should be a good time, 31 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: not scary or stressful. Now the kids are begging to 32 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: sneak and eat out before we get home whenever I 33 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: picked them up from school or soccer practice. How can 34 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: I get my wife to stop wasting food and money 35 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 1: without killing her confidence? The kids and I need help? 36 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 1: Please advise, See there, this wasn't for me first though. 37 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:13,080 Speaker 1: I have to give you love, the man, the husband 38 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: who wrote this letter, because I think you're very kind. 39 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:18,440 Speaker 1: I think you're very patient. Husband. Twelve years is a 40 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 1: very long time to put up with this bad cooking. 41 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 1: But you didn't know this before you guys got married 42 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:26,840 Speaker 1: that she didn't cook. You didn't know. It seems like 43 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: you had to know some of this. And since you 44 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: say you can throw down in the kitchen, you did 45 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 1: say that. You said, I can throw down in the 46 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 1: kitchen when I have time. Why haven't you like taught 47 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: her or tried to teach her a few things, at 48 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 1: least to cook some eggs in her case, since you 49 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: say you don't want to hurt her feelings, you suggested 50 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: a cooking class at one time, and she was hurt 51 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:53,200 Speaker 1: by that. I don't know. I think in this case 52 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: it'll be how you tell her and not so much 53 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: you know what you do. In this case, it's how 54 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: I can tell you love her very much. But you're 55 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 1: you're really gonna have to sit her down and try 56 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:07,959 Speaker 1: and help her out. In this situation. You can make, 57 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: you know, a fun a day of it trying to 58 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:12,920 Speaker 1: teach her how to just cook a few things. You 59 00:03:13,040 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 1: said that she likes to experiment, so why don't you 60 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:18,600 Speaker 1: guys experiment together? But you know how, and you'll be 61 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,800 Speaker 1: helping her in a nice way. Steve. Yeah, well, yo, 62 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:25,160 Speaker 1: let's gonna cut this out. Let's gone quep playing with this, y'all. 63 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 1: We know who this letter about. Let's just gonna hey, 64 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:31,960 Speaker 1: ain't your turn no more? Come on? You know my 65 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: wife's cooking is gonna kill us. We know exactly who 66 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 1: this damn letter is about. That Poe has little Nesto 67 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 1: and had to describe and talk about the gang kids 68 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: and just a damn lie. I know the writings of 69 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 1: a man that's in pain, and this is Shirley's husband 70 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: that the road in. I promise you I have proof 71 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 1: all through the letter. Dear Steve and Shirley. Why is 72 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: he talking to her like he don't know? That's a 73 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 1: good part right there, because don't you see through that? 74 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: I see that he tries help me handl an issue 75 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: with my wife. We are in our thirties with an 76 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 1: ass on it, and have been married twelve years and 77 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:28,479 Speaker 1: we have two children. Y'all don't see the glading glaring 78 00:04:28,720 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: hints in this. I see what is thirty plus twelve 79 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:51,599 Speaker 1: man h plus two? Okay, always carry it. But there's 80 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: just one issue. She cannot cook, not even a little 81 00:04:57,600 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: Who else could this be out? I'm not saying that's 82 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:09,360 Speaker 1: her job as a woman, exactly. I love to throw 83 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: down in the kitchen when I had the time. Ain't 84 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: y'all HEARDing us time? Yes he do, I heard him say. 85 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: But I'm currently the only one working that's cold for 86 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:29,000 Speaker 1: I'm the only one working in the kitchen. She has 87 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:33,200 Speaker 1: insisted on taking care of the family meals until she 88 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: gets a new job. And that's very nice of her. Now, 89 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: see this is where he tries to throw us all 90 00:05:40,839 --> 00:05:43,480 Speaker 1: so we don't think we're talking about them, but he 91 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:47,480 Speaker 1: gets right back to it. But her food is terrible. 92 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 1: Older y'all know this could be she tried to make 93 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: egg for us. Now, I think we've all been here 94 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: then when Shirley May they were running and milky, just 95 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:08,359 Speaker 1: how she made them. It was a mistake. When she 96 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: tried to grill some chicken it turned out burnt on 97 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: the outside. And roll the damn it all us hand 98 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 1: simon them sick as hell. We're spending twice as much 99 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: on groceries because she experiments in the kitchen. Remember the 100 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: time Shirley over refrigerating discovered it was cardboarding. Now because 101 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: she just moved in, but it was like she had 102 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: been living there for six months and she found out 103 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: it was cardboard in refrigerator. Because it's I mean cardboard 104 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:42,160 Speaker 1: in the oven because it was a new apartment. Remember that. 105 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: You know that's true, that she's really trying. But I 106 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: don't want to hurt her feel its because you know 107 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: how Sherley is now, she's sensed. But one time she 108 00:06:55,040 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 1: made oatmeal and our eight year old son substitute for him. 109 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: Nesto said, one time she made oatmeal and our yeah, 110 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 1: damn mamma was sitting the stump, because you know sometimes, 111 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: you know, Nesto call her mama. Damn mamma was sitting 112 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 1: this stock. Of course I had to reprimand him subject, 113 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 1: my wife's cooking is going to kill us well, because 114 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: you know, I just think we all we tired a 115 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 1: playing with this. My wife's cooking gonna kill her. I'm sorry, Nesto, 116 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: I'm sorry she tried to kill you. Dog. I walked 117 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: her non cooking ass down the aisle and handed her 118 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: to That's why I'm taking so much time to get 119 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:51,119 Speaker 1: damn letter. The whole time I was walking down the aisle, 120 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: I heard a whole Difference song. You know, dude, Dune, 121 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: that ain't what I heard. What do you mean? The 122 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 1: whole time we're walking down the aisle, Yeah, everybody was 123 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:27,200 Speaker 1: hearing his head dune due. Everybody's just happening. You know 124 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 1: what I heard? What p P P p P Who 125 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 1: he gives this woman to his man? Did it? Man? 126 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: He man? I'm sorry. That is terrible. This is the 127 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 1: mistake to Nesto made. He suggested that we buy pre 128 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:19,080 Speaker 1: maden heels or go out to eat until she takes 129 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: a cooking class or some kind. Yeah, that hurt her feeling? Well, damn, Nesto, 130 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:36,439 Speaker 1: ain't you hurt? Then? Now we all hurt. Stick to 131 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 1: your girls, brother, Make her take to cook your class? 132 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: Now heard it so bad? Now she tripping all that house, 133 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:48,360 Speaker 1: trying to kick him anytime she said. Now he's scared 134 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 1: to bring up subject again. Then he says to us 135 00:09:53,040 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: eating should be a good time, not scary or stressful. Y'all. 136 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:06,440 Speaker 1: Remember when should have got that croc pot? Yeah, stuff 137 00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:09,319 Speaker 1: that been in that croc pod? That was classic. Remember 138 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:11,600 Speaker 1: the time nest open it up and saying wise all 139 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: the phone in him steaking there? Who puts steak in 140 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:22,319 Speaker 1: a damn croc pot? Who do that? You can grill 141 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:25,079 Speaker 1: a steak, You can put the steak in on the 142 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 1: brawler in the oven? Who put a steak a whole 143 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:34,240 Speaker 1: damn steak in a croc pott. Now the kids just 144 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,200 Speaker 1: begging to sneak out and eat before they get home. 145 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: That's cold. For now, I try to eat out before 146 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 1: I get home. Yeah, that's funny because I do ask 147 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:47,719 Speaker 1: him as he hungry when he gets in the already. Yeah, 148 00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 1: he always says, Now, how can I get my wife 149 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 1: to stop wasting food and money without killing her comfortence? 150 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:57,880 Speaker 1: I see this whole letter. You know what I see 151 00:10:57,920 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 1: this letter, ass Tommy. I see this as an altar call, 152 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 1: won't you come? I see it all of you that 153 00:11:09,120 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 1: are burden heavy, laid, yes, tired and weary of running 154 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 1: this race by yourself, not knowing where your last meal 155 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:27,760 Speaker 1: will come from. That's right. This is a letter about 156 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: a woman who didn't take the time as a little girl. 157 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 1: That's right to learn some basic basics of taking care 158 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:45,319 Speaker 1: or not only a man, but of even herself. He 159 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:50,199 Speaker 1: stayed in the house. I have eaten at sister Sherlotte 160 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:55,839 Speaker 1: house before. I must say I understand the reason for 161 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: this a letter. I know what the man going through. 162 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 1: I know what Sherley can't do. Cooking in one thing 163 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 1: she never been able to do. Shirley cooked so bad. 164 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: I remember one time a Sister Shirley was doing missionary work. 165 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:21,599 Speaker 1: She was down at the State Penitentiary. I was a 166 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:25,520 Speaker 1: little curious as to or what her role would be 167 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:31,400 Speaker 1: down at the prison. I thought maybe as a special punishment, 168 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:37,079 Speaker 1: maybe when a man got put in the hole, that 169 00:12:37,600 --> 00:12:43,320 Speaker 1: they would only offer her sister Shirley's dishes. I even 170 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 1: thought one time that if you got put on a 171 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 1: certain range, that they would wait till you were late 172 00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:58,080 Speaker 1: to coming down for a supper, that Sister Shirley would 173 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 1: be the only one. But then and I found out 174 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: why Sister Shirley was bought in that it was for 175 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:12,120 Speaker 1: money saveing reason, I'm not. Because they had Shirley working 176 00:13:12,200 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 1: on death row, and every time they would ask a man, 177 00:13:16,640 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 1: what is your last meal? They rolled out a picture 178 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 1: Sister Shirley as the chef on death row. Every land 179 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:28,560 Speaker 1: one of the mess I don't want them to eat. 180 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:34,679 Speaker 1: I'm a pass ye take me old see my maker. 181 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:38,000 Speaker 1: I'd rather go to Heaven hungry than to go to 182 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:44,600 Speaker 1: hell fool. And that's why Sister Sherley worked out at 183 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:53,280 Speaker 1: the State penitentiary. Old death my law lord, All right, listen, uh, 184 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 1: we're about out of time, Thank the Lord. You can 185 00:13:56,760 --> 00:14:00,480 Speaker 1: email or instagram us your thoughts on today's Berry letter 186 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 1: wasn't really about me. No, you can do it at 187 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:06,400 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey at them. Sure you want to leave people 188 00:14:06,440 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 1: writing You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.