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Speaker 1: Let's talk to Chris.

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Speaker 2: Hello is this mister?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? What's going on? Chris?

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Speaker 3: Not much this uff.

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Speaker 4: I called in because I recently reported my local vape

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Speaker 4: shop for selling weed products and I'm not allowed to

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Speaker 4: do that in Florida, and uh I feel guilty about it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So why did you report this shop for selling weed?

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Speaker 4: I just so there's this thing called crime stoppers and

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Speaker 4: they like offer a cash reward, you know, for that

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Speaker 4: kind of thing. And yeah, and it was just it

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Speaker 4: was like a really like like of the whim moment

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Speaker 4: kind of decision, okay, and was just hasn't left my consciousness.

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Speaker 4: It didn't say like that there is a range.

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Speaker 3: I don't remember.

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Speaker 4: It was like fifty tore like like a few grands.

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Speaker 4: It just depends on like the arrestmate and all that

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Speaker 4: and like the charges.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So all right, so you reported the vape shop

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Speaker 1: for song weed and you say that it is weighing

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Speaker 1: on your conscious. Yes, okay, tell me tell me about

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Speaker 1: the way in which it is weighing on your conscious

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Speaker 1: Would have been your thoughts about this?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 4: It I just you know, because like eventually I want

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Speaker 4: to own a vape shop, and I would just feel

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Speaker 4: bad if someone did that to me, Okay, And so

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Speaker 4: it's weighing on me like that, Like I feel bad

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Speaker 4: if they were you know, down the line Krmer got

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Speaker 4: me and I don't know. And these people they team

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Speaker 4: like nice people. Every time I go in there, they're

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Speaker 4: nice and everything and and and like I still go

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Speaker 4: in there because they have like the cheapest prices in town.

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Speaker 4: So like every time I go in there, I'm just

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Speaker 4: like damn, Like you know, I'd never reported you guys.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. I mean, like like, let's go deeper into

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Speaker 1: why you feel like you did it. Okay. So so

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Speaker 1: you said it was a spur of the moment decision. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: walk walk walk me through it here. What what were

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Speaker 4: My family is kind of like financially tight, and I

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Speaker 4: just I as a person, I mentally go through these

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Speaker 4: periods of like, oh, I need to start a business

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Speaker 4: to go do this, and you know, I need to

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Speaker 4: get money this way, and and I don't I know,

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Speaker 4: I knew that they sell these these products there. I

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Speaker 4: see him in the shelf. I mean, they don't try

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Speaker 4: on the glass counter. And I was like, well, you know,

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Speaker 4: this is an actual crime and this, this wouldn't be

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Speaker 4: illegal for me to do. This isn't like I'm stealing

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Speaker 4: anyone's property. You know, I'm reporting a crime. And I

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Speaker 4: think just in the moment, it was like, yeah, you know,

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Speaker 4: I'm I'll you know, i'll be greedy, you know, report

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Speaker 4: them for the money. And but since then, I just

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Speaker 4: I just I just been thinking about it, like daily.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, so I know you've been thinking about it,

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Speaker 1: but I really want to focus on the on the

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Speaker 1: on the why. So you're telling me that it was

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Speaker 1: uh are you saying that there was a motive, It

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Speaker 1: was a decision motivated purely by the cash reward.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, okay, not.

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Speaker 1: Out of any sense of justice or maybe you were

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Speaker 1: bored or anything like that. No, No, okay, did you

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Speaker 1: get the cash reward?

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Speaker 4: Uh no, No, I haven't got a cash reward. I

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Speaker 4: haven't got I haven't received any update. It's been probably

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Speaker 4: about two weeks since I reported them.

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Speaker 1: Let me ask you this. It says here that you

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Speaker 1: tipped them off anonymously. Yes, how would you get a

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: That that that's kind of my question. And I read

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Speaker 4: on the website and from from from from what I received,

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Speaker 4: they'll like they'll get back to me because I have

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Speaker 4: Stoppers website, and they'll message me through there and then

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Speaker 4: they'll like have a check to pilot at a bank

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Speaker 4: to get the check or whatever like that.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, So what were you planning on doing with

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Speaker 1: the money? Would you have gotten the reward?

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Speaker 4: Uh, well, we don't have a car for our family. Actually,

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Speaker 4: the only car that we had left broke down after

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Speaker 4: would have put that. I would have put that towards

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Speaker 4: paying off the rest of the car that just broke down.

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Speaker 4: But now that they broke down, I'm just going to

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Speaker 4: put it towards getting into a different vehicle. I mean,

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Speaker 4: if I even get it. But I mean I could

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Speaker 4: just get fifty dollars, So I mean damn, you know

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Speaker 4: if I get fifty dollars, it's like, well, I mean,

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Speaker 4: you know, I don't.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: It's just I just feel bad either way.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So do you feel like there is anything that

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Speaker 1: clear your conscious?

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Speaker 4: Not not that I can think of, really, you know,

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Speaker 4: because I've already made the tip. You know, it's already,

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Speaker 4: it's ready in their database.

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Speaker 3: I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I can't go in and just say

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Speaker 4: oopsie daisies.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, so yes, I mean that is true. You

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Speaker 1: did make the tip, it is in their database, and

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Speaker 1: you know you cannot undo that. But cosmically, moving forward,

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Speaker 1: as you navigate through the universe, what do you think

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Speaker 4: I could definitely not make decisions like that without fully

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Speaker 4: taking them through, especially not make decisions based off of greed,

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Speaker 4: because I feel like that's what I feel most guilty

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Speaker 4: about is it was a very self is decision, like

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Speaker 4: based off of I mean, the decision solely off of

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Speaker 4: the cash reward, you know, but like you know, you

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Speaker 4: asked if I did it based off of justice, I

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Speaker 4: feel I wouldn't. Fee is bad. But I guess because

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Speaker 4: why I feel mm hmm. That's why I wait for

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Speaker 4: heavy on me.

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Speaker 1: Is this a pattern? Have you done things that you

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Speaker 1: believe our greedy in the past? Uh?

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Speaker 4: No, No, not not really. I'm generally, you know, very giving.

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Speaker 4: This is this is a very an out of character thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I don't know, it is. It's a very very strange mhm.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm I'm still thinking about the future. I'm

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Speaker 1: You're telling me, Okay, I've learned a lesson. I'm going

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Speaker 1: to do, and then those are good things to do. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So I mean, overall, would you say that you learned

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Speaker 4: I think so. I don't think I I learned something,

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Speaker 4: just don't don't make decisions based off of personal gain,

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Speaker 4: you know, because I've always known that, I wouldn't say

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Speaker 4: I've necessarily learned it. But now I feel like every

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 4: And my kind of my kind of deal mm hmmmm.

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Speaker 1: So you want to open up your own.

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Speaker 4: Vabe shop, right, yeah, eventually?

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna sell weed out of it?

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Speaker 4: If it's legal? I'm I'm not. I'm not gonna I'm

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Speaker 4: like that, Like you know, you can sell like the

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Speaker 4: Delta eight products and the the A J C or

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Speaker 4: whatever here, but but yeah, but I'm not gonna plan

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Speaker 1: Are you sure that that weed that that vape shop

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm positive there was a sticker. There is an

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Speaker 4: California symbol for like actual weed. And then like they're

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Speaker 4: like the eighty three percent Delton nine or whatever, and

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Speaker 4: they can't have over point zero three.

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Speaker 1: Well, well, listen, Chris, you know, look, you cannot undo

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Speaker 1: your tip. Well, you cannot change the past. But it

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Speaker 1: sounds as though, uh, after reflecting on this, you you

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Speaker 1: So I hope that you attempt to clear your conscious

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that sounds good. You mean, like as far

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Speaker 4: as like like like whye, like like how it all happened?

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Speaker 1: Well, no, as far as you're saying that you want

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Speaker 4: Oh right, I think.

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Speaker 4: Chris, My my wife's listening in the next room. So

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Speaker 4: I just want to take shout out to you. I

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Speaker 4: love you and and thank you very much for your time.

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Speaker 1: Have a good rest of the day, Chris, you as well.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Damn.

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Speaker 1: I wish you would have named the vape shop so

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Speaker 1: I could go there and buy some weed. That was

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Speaker 1: and five seconds after doing that, he realized that his gut,

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Speaker 1: And his arc is learning to slow down and look

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Speaker 1: Jet? Jet Jet Jet? What's what's up? Jet? Tell me?

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Speaker 1: What's going on with you?

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Speaker 2: It's really odd lyle. I'm not gonna lie to you.

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Speaker 2: So I'm I'm I'm a senior in high school, right,

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Speaker 2: one of them was erected for we're doing certain illicit

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Speaker 2: and I don't know what to do about it.

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Speaker 1: So why why is your name being brought into the conversation?

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Speaker 1: What I mean, what reason or suspicion. Do people have

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Speaker 2: Because I used I'm I'm very horrible at math lyle.

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Speaker 2: So I used to go with one of the teachers

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Speaker 2: I've always sucked at it, and it was nothing like

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Speaker 2: since I was close to that piece, yes, sir, I

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Speaker 1: Well but so jet okay, so let me ask you this. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So who is is there somebody there that is conducting

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Speaker 2: I'm not very sure of yet. I really have no idea.

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Speaker 2: I just know my college is now getting into it,

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Speaker 2: and it's like, okay, we don't know if we can

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Speaker 1: So but when you two, I mean, how is your

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Speaker 1: you didn't do this, and you are trying to let

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Speaker 1: and at what agency? What part is it? Are people

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Speaker 1: writing press stories like how is your college even finding

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Speaker 2: I don't think it was a press story, but I

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Speaker 2: think whenever my college started looking I don't think it's

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Speaker 2: whenever my college started looking into me as like a recipient,

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Speaker 2: they found out, because I mean, I'm gonna get I

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Speaker 2: guess that they asked the school or something. I really

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Speaker 2: don't know how I found out, That's just what I'm guessing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, so who at the school that is in

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Speaker 2: This' I've went to the I've went to the like

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Speaker 2: so I went to the headmaster and I've told them that,

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Speaker 2: That is a completely different rumor. And I'm like, okay, well,

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Speaker 2: I don't I don't want this to mess up my college.

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Speaker 2: And they're like, well, we don't know about that? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: yeah I did. And they were like, we don't know

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Speaker 2: So and they basically didn't give me a shit.

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Speaker 1: What is the college that you're trying to get into,

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Speaker 1: Georgia State, Georgia State? Did you did Georgia State contact

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Speaker 2: I am supposed to go to college at Georgia State

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Speaker 2: for a scholarship, a football scholarship, So they contacted my coach.

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Speaker 2: My coach talked to me about it, and then whenever

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Speaker 2: They did, but they haven't. They've they've said that it

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Speaker 2: might impact me getting accepted there because they don't like

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Speaker 2: I guess they don't want it to look back.

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Speaker 1: But did you tell what did what did they tell

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Speaker 1: you when you told them that you had nothing to

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Speaker 2: They were like, well, we don't know if that's necessarily

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Speaker 2: being a part of it. But now it's like, okay,

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Speaker 1: Man jet, I'm sorry to hear that. Man, You're you're

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Speaker 1: getting involved in this mess that that you know you

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Speaker 1: really have, you know, don't deserve to get involved in

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Speaker 1: it all. Is there any I mean, dude, are there

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Speaker 1: any adults, Not that you're not in adults, but uh,

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Speaker 1: you know, people at the school, representatives, guidance, counselors, other

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Speaker 1: sound like you're doing this on your own, and you

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Speaker 1: shouldn't be doing this on your own. You should be

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm too broke to afford a lawyer. Law,

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Speaker 2: but I've asked. I've asked, like my we have we

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Speaker 2: have like a social worker that comes to our school

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Speaker 2: every so often, and I've asked her and she's like, okay,

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Speaker 2: we'll get this. Well, well we'll get an immediate investigation

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Speaker 2: on that. That was like three weeks ago, and I

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Speaker 2: haven't heard.

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Speaker 1: Did you follow up with her?

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Speaker 2: I tried to and I never got a call back.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, this is so bizarre to me because

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Speaker 1: official investigation being taken place like there has been.

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Speaker 7: No.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: That's that's the whole thing. Le I don't know if

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Speaker 2: there's an investigation or not. They might that I don't

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Speaker 2: know about, but as far as I know, they're.

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Speaker 1: Not fucking bizarre, man, fucking bizarre?

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Speaker 3: What I mean?

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Speaker 1: I mean every I mean, dude, Well, here's the thing, okay,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you've told me, right, You've told me over

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Speaker 1: the over this call of like what three or four

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Speaker 1: separate people in the school. You've told me about, a

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Speaker 1: social worker, you're told me about a coach, a headmaster,

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Speaker 1: with this.

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Speaker 3: My coach has.

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Speaker 2: Been trying to. He's been like batching for me or

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Speaker 2: vouching for me every chance he gets, but there's only

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Speaker 2: so much he can do.

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Speaker 1: Muh. Have you talked to your parents about this?

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Speaker 3: No? I have not, not yet.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that's something I should probably do.

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Speaker 1: I think you should try to get their help. I

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Speaker 1: mean listen, I have absolutely no idea what you should

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's annoying because this is something that

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Speaker 1: it warnts an official investigation of some kind for you

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Speaker 1: to explain, and not for a college to fucking hear

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Speaker 1: A that's so, that's so fucking dumb.

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Speaker 2: I agree with you.

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Speaker 1: So a college. So the college heard the rumor from

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Speaker 1: your coach, and now the admissions. How does that even

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Speaker 1: fucking work? When does a college even do that? Does

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Speaker 1: none of that even make any sense to me? Maybe

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Speaker 1: I'm dumb and I'm out of touch with like the

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Speaker 1: fucking sense to me that they would have heard about this.

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Speaker 2: I really, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I just know they found out about it somehow, And

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Speaker 5: they've had meetings with my coach about me before, and

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Speaker 5: they've had meetings with me about like with my coach

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Speaker 5: there about it before. So I'm guessing that they asked

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Speaker 5: what the situation of the school was, how like I

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Speaker 2: College or something like that. And I guess that came up.

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Speaker 2: I really don't know, Jak. I'm I'm I'm in the

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Speaker 1: Jet. I think you should talk to your parents about this.

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Speaker 1: I think you should follow up with that fucking social

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Speaker 1: worker who hasn't done anything. I think you should, at

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Speaker 1: the very least get a consult I don't know how

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Speaker 1: much it costs, and I don't know if you can

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Speaker 1: find somebody who's willing to at least give you a

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Speaker 1: free consultation. But I would talk to a lawyer, and

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Speaker 1: that that is really all I've got for you. I'm

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Speaker 1: sorry that you're in this situation. This is totally stupid.

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Speaker 2: Damn. I do appreciate it though, while a lot thank you.

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Speaker 2: This is like my fourth trying time trying to get

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Speaker 2: in here on this too.

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Speaker 1: Is there any other aspect of this situation or are

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Speaker 1: just anything in general that you want to talk about

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Speaker 1: before we go or say to the people of the computer.

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Speaker 2: Mean, uh, I don't know, No, I'm scared just gonna

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Speaker 1: What with your fiance?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, because I mean my fiance, I love her

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Speaker 2: at death. Shout out to my fiance if she watching

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Speaker 2: the stream. But she she's got a lot, she's got

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Speaker 2: a bunch of anxiety problems, and like if she hears

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Speaker 2: a rumor like that or some shit like that, then

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Speaker 2: she'll immediately think it's true just because of like past trauma.

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Speaker 1: Okay, is there any foundation of trust between you two?

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Speaker 2: I trust her, she doesn't trust me.

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Speaker 1: Do you see a problem with that?

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Speaker 8: I do?

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Speaker 2: But now now, fuck, I can't believe I'm saying it's

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Speaker 2: on your stream first, but now now it's like, I

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Speaker 2: feel like I'm in too deep.

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Speaker 1: You're not in too deep at all. You're eighteen years old,

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Speaker 1: You're you're very much in the shadow.

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Speaker 2: But but I'm I'm.

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Speaker 1: In Okay, Jet, how are you feeling in life in general?

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Speaker 1: Let's let's talk about this for a second.

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Speaker 3: I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't really know how I I I everything's been

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Speaker 1: Bro, what are you trying to go to college for?

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Speaker 2: I want to. I want to go there and get

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Speaker 2: into computer engineering and then maybe try and get like

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Speaker 4: Mm hmmm mm hmm.

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Speaker 1: Is Georgia State. That's the place that you were going

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Speaker 1: to try to go to. Yeah, is that your only

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Speaker 2: That was the only one And that was the one

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Speaker 2: I wanted to go to too, so it worked out.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmmmm, why are you getting engaged? And and I'm

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Speaker 1: not here at a tell me what you should have

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Speaker 1: shouldn't do, but I'm curious as to just just why

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Speaker 1: you're doing what you're doing.

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Speaker 2: This girl came into my life at a really really

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Speaker 2: fucked up time, Like where I was, I was going

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Speaker 2: through the ships, and we she she had went through

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Speaker 2: for a long as time, and we just kind of

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00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 2: connected like it was like some Hotel Transylvania shit like

442
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,199
Speaker 2: like it was like some zing type ship and we

443
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:02,360
Speaker 2: had the same interest and I was a positive impact

444
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 2: on her for a while. She was a positive impact

445
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:08,760
Speaker 2: on me for a while. We've been dating like three

446
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:12,200
Speaker 2: years now. I really should have waited for the engagement,

447
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 2: but we were at a City More concert and it

448
00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 2: was just a perfect time and she wanted it and

449
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 2: so did I at the time.

450
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:26,400
Speaker 3: I don't know, it's.

451
00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:31,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, What are you feeling right now When you say damn?

452
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,160
Speaker 2: I mean now that I say it out loud, it's

453
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:38,919
Speaker 2: like I've rushed into so much shit without being like

454
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 2: I don't, like, without even being one hundred percent sure

455
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 2: of it whatsoever. Like I completely acted on impulse, but

456
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 2: now I feel like I'm in too deep, so I

457
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 2: can't like fix it.

458
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: Why do you feel like you're in too deep?

459
00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:02,119
Speaker 2: This girl has like developed her entire life around me,

460
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 2: like like it's if she doesn't talk to me. It's

461
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:11,679
Speaker 2: very very unhealthy obsession. And she makes me super fucking happy,

462
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 2: and I'm the happiest man in the world when I'm

463
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 2: around her, Like I feel like I'm walking on air.

464
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 2: But I'm scared, Like like I went on vacation with

465
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 2: my family a couple months back, and I didn't talk

466
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 2: to her that much because I was hanging out with

467
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:28,200
Speaker 2: my family and she had like mental breakdown after mental breakdown,

468
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 2: and I didn't know how to deal with it. So

469
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:33,199
Speaker 2: I'm sitting here trying to say I'm sorry, but I

470
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:34,679
Speaker 2: have nothing to be sorry about.

471
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 1: Has it been like that for the whole three years

472
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 1: that you guys have been together.

473
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 2: No, it only started like this year.

474
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 1: Did it start when you guys got engaged?

475
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, damn.

476
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:02,880
Speaker 1: Tell me about her? What else does she have going

477
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 1: on in her life?

478
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,919
Speaker 2: She graduated high school, is trying to move out of

479
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 2: her parents' house.

480
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 3: We live.

481
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 2: We lived into different states, so she has to come

482
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 2: up here. Sometimes. She's trying to go to college for

483
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 2: cosmetology in Florida, and I'm trying to go to college

484
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:29,399
Speaker 2: in Georgia. So it's like, Okay, No, no student like

485
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 2: or no person likes having like a significant other at

486
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 2: a different college.

487
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 1: Of course, of course. Oh man, I huh, jentlemen. I

488
00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 1: don't like telling people what to do because I don't

489
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,680
Speaker 1: think that there is a one size fits all path

490
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 1: to happiness in life. But I think that you should

491
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: not be scared. I get why you're scared. I get

492
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 1: why you feel like you're in too deep. But a person,

493
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 1: even if they are quote obsessed with you, they cannot

494
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 1: possess you, and you, as a person of your own agency,

495
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: have the right at any given time, and right now

496
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 1: is a great time for you to do what I'm

497
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 1: about to say, because you're eighteen, and you're graduating from

498
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: high school, and you're entering a new era of your life.

499
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:42,479
Speaker 1: You have the agency at any given time. Nobody can

500
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 1: ever take this away from you. You have the agency

501
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 1: at any given time to reevaluate your life, to evaluate

502
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 1: what is important to you and to potentially change courses,

503
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 1: and to act intentionally towards what you believe is best

504
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 1: for you and guides you towards what you think is

505
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 1: important to you in your life. And nobody can possess

506
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 1: you or take your ability to do that away from you.

507
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 1: So you are not in too deep. You can make

508
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 1: your own decisions about what to do with your life.

509
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 2: I mean, I know, I know I want to do

510
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 2: it or not I want to do it. A part

511
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 2: of me wants to do it, and I know that

512
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 2: I probably need to do it for my own mental

513
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 2: health and for her mental health. But it's.

514
00:30:58,960 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 6: Now.

515
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 2: It's like if I regret it after it's done and

516
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 2: then I can't get it back.

517
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 1: Then you move your jet. You said your name was

518
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 1: yeah Jet. If you what if you you're afraid of

519
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 1: regretting it, yeah Jet? You just you just move forward, man,

520
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 1: you just gotta move forward. I mean, who you know what?

521
00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: Maybe you do this and maybe you regret it, but

522
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 1: then maybe a year later because you did this, you

523
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 1: end up in a different spot that leads to this

524
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 1: different opportunity, and then you go, holy shit, if I

525
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: didn't do that thing that I thought I regret it

526
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 1: at the one time, then I wouldn't be in this situation.

527
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:42,719
Speaker 1: Maybe you don't do it and then you do regret it.

528
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 1: So you just really have no fucking idea. You really

529
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: have no fucking idea.

530
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 8: You can only ever make You could only ever make

531
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 8: informed guesses with the information that you have access to

532
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 8: at the time, and that's the best you can do.

533
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 1: And if you do that, it's pretty great. And then

534
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:02,920
Speaker 1: other than that, you have no idea and you just

535
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: have to roll with whatever the outcome is of the

536
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 1: decision you made with the information you had at the time,

537
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:15,240
Speaker 1: and just keep rolling with that. Do with what I

538
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,600
Speaker 1: told do what you will with what I'm telling you

539
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 1: on this call. Man, it's not I'm not here to

540
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 1: tell you what to do with your life, but I

541
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 1: do want you to know that you are not tramped,

542
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 1: that no person has the right to make you feel

543
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 1: like you are, and that you should, you know, carefully

544
00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 1: evaluate your decisions and not the you know, a slave

545
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:49,959
Speaker 1: to them necessarily because you're over here, like, oh am

546
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 1: I going to regret it? You don't fucking know. You

547
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 1: could stay and regret it. You could leave and regret it.

548
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:57,280
Speaker 1: You could do some third thing and regret that. You

549
00:32:57,320 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 1: could stay. It could be great, You could leave, it

550
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: could be You just have no fucking idea. You're just

551
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 1: doing what you can with the information you have at

552
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 1: the time, and then whatever that outcome is, you just

553
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 1: move forward and you roll with that, and then you

554
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 1: move forward from that new outcome. You're riding your timeline.

555
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: Does any of that make sense?

556
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 2: That was a lot, but yeah, it does make sense.

557
00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: Okay. How do you feel, Jets.

558
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:35,560
Speaker 2: Discombobulated?

559
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:43,520
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm sorry to hear that all this shit is

560
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 1: going on with you, Jet. You seem like a nice guy,

561
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 1: and you know, I do hope the best for you.

562
00:33:52,160 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 2: I'm just here, Greg, I'm just I'm happy to finally

563
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 2: get in here. You've been trying to ship since August.

564
00:33:58,520 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the

565
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 1: people that can pewter before we go?

566
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 7: Uh?

567
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 2: Bit bitching about not getting in fast enough. You'll get here,

568
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 2: bro stout out to my homie GEK.

569
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 1: Good luck, Jet, I'll talk to you soon.

570
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 2: Thank you, gek. You have a great night.

571
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 3: Bro.

572
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,440
Speaker 1: I'm so conflicted with this podcast because I don't I

573
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 1: really it's really not my place to tell people what

574
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: to do with their lives, but goddamn do I want

575
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 1: to sometimes really badly. I really I try not to

576
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 1: because I don't think it's my place, but fuck god

577
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:46,440
Speaker 1: damn it, sometimes I really really want to tell people

578
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 1: what to do. I try not to. Jet Jet Jet

579
00:34:57,239 --> 00:35:03,359
Speaker 1: Jet Jet. Well, No, I met what I said. I said.

580
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: I think I did say what I needed to say

581
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 1: to Jet, and I don't regret it. I'm glad I

582
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:11,839
Speaker 1: did it that way. Instead of telling him he needs

583
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 1: to break off his engagements, I met. I met what

584
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 1: I said. I said, to fucking evaluate what's going on

585
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 1: with you, and don't be afraid of the outcome of

586
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 1: that evaluation. But but have the evaluation. Don't let anyone

587
00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:36,120
Speaker 1: feel like they're possessing you. Thanks for calling Jet. What's

588
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:36,440
Speaker 1: going on?

589
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 5: Man?

590
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 3: Yeah? So basically, I I've got a bit of an

591
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 3: issue that I was hoping I could speak to the

592
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:47,240
Speaker 3: getto about.

593
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, which, first of all, where are you are you

594
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:50,800
Speaker 1: in a car?

595
00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 3: No? No?

596
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 2: Hold on?

597
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 3: Is that better?

598
00:35:57,920 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 1: It's not a question of better or worse. I was

599
00:35:59,640 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 1: just asked skiing if you were in a car.

600
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 3: No, I was on the roof of a small chicken hut.

601
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 1: Okay, let's go into that real quick. You were on

602
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 1: the roof of a small chicken hut. Right, what are

603
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:17,279
Speaker 1: you doing on the roof of a small chicken hut?

604
00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 3: But it's dark out where I am, and I just

605
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:30,800
Speaker 3: enjoy gazing at the stars, and the chicken hut usually

606
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 3: provides the best the best of you.

607
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 1: You know what. That didn't answer sort of the underlying

608
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: curiosity behind the question, but it was a legitimate answer. Right,

609
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: it's just your Uh, what's your what's your thing? What's

610
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:50,879
Speaker 1: your thing?

611
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 3: Man?

612
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 1: What's going on? You have a thing?

613
00:36:55,440 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 3: Well, I uh, it's a bit embarrassing. I'm sexually attracted

614
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 3: to various food items.

615
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 1: You are sexually attracted to various food items. What is

616
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 1: it about a food item that would make it attractive

617
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:13,799
Speaker 1: to you?

618
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 3: Well, first of all, it's mainly spaghetti with the butter sauce.

619
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 3: I can't get enough of it. And I think for

620
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:30,399
Speaker 3: the spaghetti, it's more of the way, you know how

621
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:36,399
Speaker 3: spaghetti starts off hard and then get soft in the water. Yeah,

622
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 3: definitely has something to do with that.

623
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:43,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, so your attraction to this food, are you is

624
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,800
Speaker 1: the sexual attraction happening when you are cooking the food,

625
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,719
Speaker 1: when you're eating the food, when you are are you

626
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 1: having sex with the food? What exactly are you doing

627
00:37:53,080 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 1: when you are finding yourself aroused by the food? How

628
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:58,120
Speaker 1: are you interacting with the food?

629
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 3: Well? It definitely, it definitely you know gets me going

630
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:09,720
Speaker 3: when I when I prepare the food, but once it's prepared,

631
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,759
Speaker 3: I I do tend to have sexual intercourse with it.

632
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:17,920
Speaker 1: Okay, and tell me why this is a problem for you.

633
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 3: Well, you know, I guess it's not that much of

634
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:28,440
Speaker 3: a problem, but it's I don't know anybody else who

635
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 3: is sexually attracted to food, so it has to be

636
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 3: some sort of problem, I guess.

637
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 1: Well, so, so you're saying that it's a problem because

638
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,080
Speaker 1: not a lot of other people you know do it

639
00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 1: and it is not a conventional thing. Yeah, okay, Yeah, Well, look,

640
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you. I don't think that

641
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,759
Speaker 1: that is a good definition of a problem. I think

642
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: a problem for you would be sothing that is interfering

643
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:09,839
Speaker 1: with you being able to live life in a positive way.

644
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: In the way in which you want. And so I

645
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 1: ask you, is there anything sort of any negative consequences

646
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 1: that this sexual food addiction we could call it, is

647
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:30,400
Speaker 1: having on the rest of your life?

648
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 3: Well? I do get dirty looks at restaurants.

649
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 1: Okay, So you have sex with the food in public

650
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 1: at restaurants?

651
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 3: Well yeah, but not, you know, in front of people usually.

652
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 1: Okay, you have sex with food at restaurants, but not

653
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 1: in front of.

654
00:39:57,520 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 3: People, right, Like, I try to be discreet?

655
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 1: What do you do when you try to be describe?

656
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 1: How does one how does how does one? How does

657
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: one have sex with the plate of spaghetti discreetly?

658
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:18,600
Speaker 3: Well? Usually i'll, you know, go on over to the

659
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:23,840
Speaker 3: bathroom or various other places that might be out of

660
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:27,360
Speaker 3: line of line of sight to the patrons.

661
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 1: You know, Okay, so you will take a plateff spaghetti

662
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 1: into the bathroom out of the line of sight. But

663
00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 1: if you're out of the line of sight, then how

664
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:37,440
Speaker 1: do you get dirty looks?

665
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:39,479
Speaker 3: Wait?

666
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 1: Wait, what's your name? What's your name? What's your name?

667
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 3: Brian?

668
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 1: Brian, you're not making this whole thing up, are you.

669
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:48,399
Speaker 2: No?

670
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 1: Brian, you didn't call in, Brian, you didn't call in

671
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 1: with a with a completely fake thing that you're making

672
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:04,000
Speaker 1: up as you go. Are you no, because I'm gonna because, Brian, Brian, Brian,

673
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you something. If you are, that's okay,

674
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be upset with you. Yes, it's fake, Okay, Okay,

675
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:18,799
Speaker 1: it's fake.

676
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 3: Yeah.

677
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 1: So so tell me what did you want to get

678
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 1: out of out of coming up with this fake problem?

679
00:41:32,760 --> 00:41:38,840
Speaker 3: I don't know. I I guess maybe to be less lonely,

680
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 3: to be okay, you know, you know, as someone people

681
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 3: want to maybe listen to.

682
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 1: Okay, So you called in because and you called in

683
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 1: with a fake thing because you thought it would make

684
00:41:53,600 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 1: you more interesting. Yeah, okay, why do you Why do

685
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 1: you think that your real life is not interesting?

686
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:11,600
Speaker 3: Well, it's definitely not as interesting as it could be.

687
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 1: Okay, it's not as interesting as it could be. Tell

688
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 1: me what would make it more interesting?

689
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:24,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's what I'm being honest. I mean, oh, probably

690
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 3: a pony.

691
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,080
Speaker 1: Probably a pony?

692
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 3: Right?

693
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:32,280
Speaker 1: Holy shit? Have you called before?

694
00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 3: Now?

695
00:42:36,680 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 1: Somebody else said the exact same thing when I asked

696
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 1: him that exact question.

697
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:50,280
Speaker 4: Really, yeah, yeah, I said that, Brian.

698
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 1: Why do you have a chicken hut?

699
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 3: Oh?

700
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 2: Sir?

701
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,680
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't. I don't. I don't have

702
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 3: any chickens. It's just kind of always been there with

703
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 3: the property.

704
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 1: Okay, so it's a chicken hut, but it doesn't have

705
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:17,359
Speaker 1: any chickens, right, Brian. What time is it where you are?

706
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:22,880
Speaker 3: The nine to fourteen pm?

707
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 7: Okay, you should go to sleep, Okay on the chicken hut. Yeah,

708
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 7: on the chicken hut or in the chicken.

709
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 1: Hut, Brandon. So I think that's want to say to

710
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 1: the people of the computer before we go.

711
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 3: I'm sorry I wasted your time.

712
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 1: And one day I will find the strength to forgive you.

713
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 1: But that day is not today, Brian. It could be tomorrow,

714
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:03,400
Speaker 1: all right, I forgive you. It was today. It's fine.

715
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 1: You know. I opened these lines with no expectations, and

716
00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 1: therefore how can I get upset If I have no expectations.

717
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:17,720
Speaker 1: That's the that's the key to life. To expect nothing,

718
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 1: and you will never get upset. But then you'll never

719
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 1: have anything to look forward to either. It's a catch

720
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:24,080
Speaker 1: twenty two.

721
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 6: Hello Hi, oh hi, wile, Wow, this is very surprising.

722
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 1: Why why is it you called a phone number and

723
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 1: somebody picked up. I feel like that's that happens to

724
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 1: most people all the time. Lots of people make phone

725
00:44:40,680 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 1: calls and have a person pick up on the other end.

726
00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:47,359
Speaker 6: That's true. You you got me there.

727
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: What's going on, Angie? How's how's it hanging?

728
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 6: Oh, it's hanging. I called over. I wanted to talk

729
00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 6: about one friend, but while I was waiting, I decided

730
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:06,399
Speaker 6: I'd rather talk about another friend and another problem I'm

731
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 6: having with them.

732
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:09,879
Speaker 1: Okay, who is this friend and what's the problem you're

733
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:11,759
Speaker 1: having with them?

734
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 6: So it's this guy I've been talking to for a

735
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 6: few months. Sorry, I'm like nervous.

736
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 1: No, don't worry. We're we're just hanging out here. We're

737
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:26,760
Speaker 1: vibing it up in the gecko and the gecko world.

738
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 6: Okay. Anyways, this guy and I we share a lot

739
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:38,160
Speaker 6: of stuff in commons. We like the same music and stuff.

740
00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 6: So we're hanging out for quite a while, and eventually

741
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 6: our relationship turned pretty sexual, pretty explicit, and we started

742
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:53,879
Speaker 6: like cooking up regularly. It was awesome, Like he knows

743
00:45:53,880 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 6: what he's doing. That's not my concerns. My concern is

744
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 6: that over the time I've known him, he's become like

745
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:05,320
Speaker 6: I feel like I might've hyped him up too much

746
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:11,280
Speaker 6: because now he's like really cocky and he talks about

747
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 6: how any girl that he meets he'll like be able

748
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 6: to get into their pants basically, And I would joke

749
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 6: around with him and say like, oh, okay, do you

750
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 6: have like this rotation going on? You have like a harem?

751
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 6: Now I call it a harem all the time, and

752
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 6: he hates it. But it's just I am getting Lately,

753
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:45,799
Speaker 6: I've been distancing myself from him just because he's just

754
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:51,760
Speaker 6: become like so involved in getting all these other girls

755
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:56,160
Speaker 6: and like hooking up with them and stuff. And the

756
00:46:56,200 --> 00:47:01,960
Speaker 6: worst thing is he'll brag about it. And I did

757
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 6: tell him I was starting to develop feelings for him,

758
00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:07,080
Speaker 6: and I knew from the get go he wasn't like

759
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 6: emotionally available. But I feel kind of shitty distancing myself

760
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 6: from him because I'm kind of up to something similar.

761
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:20,200
Speaker 6: Like I muss around with a bunch of dudes. I'm

762
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:21,480
Speaker 6: not a bunch. I shouldn't say that.

763
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 2: I have a few.

764
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:26,200
Speaker 1: Guys I'll see, sure, yeah, okay.

765
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 6: But but he's just it's gotten to the point where

766
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:34,880
Speaker 6: I just don't want to really be his friend. But

767
00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 6: we have a really good connection and I feel like

768
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 6: I'm being a shitty person.

769
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 1: Okay, So so you're talking to multiple people, he's talking

770
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 1: to multiple people. You both know that each other are

771
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 1: talking to multiple people, and you both are okay with it.

772
00:47:57,680 --> 00:48:01,319
Speaker 6: That's another thing whenever I talk about out, like oh,

773
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:04,919
Speaker 6: I went to go see so and so, and he'll

774
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 6: ask for details to He'll want to know if we

775
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 6: were like if we hooked up or anything, and I'll

776
00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:13,439
Speaker 6: tell him and he'll see him a little like put

777
00:48:13,480 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 6: off by it.

778
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:22,479
Speaker 1: But see, see that's the thing, like, look, if you're

779
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,799
Speaker 1: seeing a bunch of dudes and he's seeing a bunch

780
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 1: of girls, and you both are freely talking about it

781
00:48:27,520 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 1: like you know that. That's That's one thing I think

782
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 1: when if you're seeing a bunch of other people and

783
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: then one of the people you're seeing is seeing other

784
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 1: people and that makes you upset, that's got to be unfair.

785
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:43,320
Speaker 6: That's yeah, that's very true.

786
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:49,120
Speaker 1: But also it kind of sounds to me like that's

787
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 1: happening on and again I'm just speculating, so you tell

788
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: me if I say anything that doesn't sound accurate. But

789
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 1: it sounds to me like that's happening on both sides.

790
00:48:56,880 --> 00:48:59,440
Speaker 1: Because he's talking about these girls that he's, you know, seeing,

791
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:02,080
Speaker 1: and it's making you a little upset. And you're talking

792
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: about the guys that you're seeing and it's making him

793
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:06,319
Speaker 1: a little upset. And so you both sound like you

794
00:49:06,360 --> 00:49:11,919
Speaker 1: are harboring these feelings for each other. Right.

795
00:49:12,880 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 6: Oh, I've talked to him about that. I've told him,

796
00:49:17,320 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 6: I told him that I had feelings for him. But

797
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 6: he's very he's a super hippie, like in every sense

798
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 6: of the word.

799
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 8: Like he is all.

800
00:49:26,280 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 6: About free love. But what'un too, I discovered as he's

801
00:49:30,560 --> 00:49:33,960
Speaker 6: not really I went call it free love. It's more

802
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:37,839
Speaker 6: just like free sex. Like, okay, anyone can have this, dick.

803
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:45,799
Speaker 1: So I mean, well, tell me why, why do you

804
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 1: feel like a shitty person? What is making you feel

805
00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:49,280
Speaker 1: like a shitty person?

806
00:49:51,200 --> 00:49:54,840
Speaker 6: Well, because I, like I mentioned, I'm kind of to

807
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 6: the same stuff. I'm really busy with school, I'm really

808
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:04,400
Speaker 6: busy with work, So I don't really pursue like these

809
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 6: monogamous relationships because I know I wouldn't have the time

810
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 6: or the energy to put into that. Sure, but like

811
00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:14,880
Speaker 6: I'll still I feel like to have fun every now

812
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:18,960
Speaker 6: and then. Okay, I feel like I'm being safe about that.

813
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 4: But I don't know.

814
00:50:20,239 --> 00:50:22,560
Speaker 6: I feel like, if anything, it's just how he's handling

815
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 6: having multiple partners, Like I just don't like hearing about it.

816
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:31,200
Speaker 1: Okay, well, I don't, you know, in terms of you

817
00:50:31,239 --> 00:50:35,239
Speaker 1: feel like a shitty person because you want to just

818
00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 1: kind of sleep around and have fun, you know, I don't.

819
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:40,319
Speaker 1: I don't think that makes you a shitty person. I mean,

820
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:43,359
Speaker 1: I mean it sounds as though you are doing that

821
00:50:43,520 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: with other people who also are not looking for monogamous

822
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:49,760
Speaker 1: relationships and are sleeping around having fun, and it sounds

823
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 1: like you, you and those people are are you know,

824
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:55,520
Speaker 1: being honest with each other about that, And so I don't.

825
00:50:55,560 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: I don't think that there is necessarily a shitty person

826
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:05,560
Speaker 1: or a bad person in this situation, you know, because

827
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 1: you both are you know, doing your thing.

828
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:11,680
Speaker 3: Right.

829
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 6: As long as it's laid out, you know, everyone understands

830
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:21,239
Speaker 6: like this is like our encounters, this is what that is.

831
00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:25,880
Speaker 6: We're not doing anything romantic, but he kind of I

832
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:28,799
Speaker 6: don't know, he's giving me all these weird signs that

833
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:32,319
Speaker 6: he might want to pursue something romantic with me, but

834
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 6: he's also aware that I'm very busy, so he needs

835
00:51:37,120 --> 00:51:39,240
Speaker 6: other people to entertain him while I'm gone.

836
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 1: Well, let me ask you this, are you do you

837
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 1: desire to pursue something more serious with this guy?

838
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:54,440
Speaker 6: I want to say yes, but since he's been acting

839
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:56,319
Speaker 6: this way, it's just such a turn off.

840
00:51:57,080 --> 00:52:03,759
Speaker 1: Mm hmmmm. You know, listen, I think here's the thing is.

841
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:09,839
Speaker 1: I think things like this can you know, you can

842
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 1: feel one way about it at one point in time,

843
00:52:13,719 --> 00:52:17,799
Speaker 1: feel a different way, change your mind this that and

844
00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 1: the other thing, and that changing of the mind, and

845
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:24,719
Speaker 1: that you know, desire to leave or desire to want

846
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:30,120
Speaker 1: more doesn't necessarily have to be like a product of

847
00:52:30,200 --> 00:52:32,680
Speaker 1: you or anyone being a shitty person. I think it's

848
00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 1: more just a product of desires changing and feelings changing

849
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:43,760
Speaker 1: as things evolve, and that can just be that without

850
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 1: any sort of malice attributed in any direction. Right, So,

851
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 1: you know, if you're engaged in something with this guy

852
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 1: and you just decide, you know, this worked for me

853
00:52:56,600 --> 00:52:59,440
Speaker 1: at one point and it no longer, does you know?

854
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:02,480
Speaker 1: I don't think you should feel shitty about making that decision.

855
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:11,080
Speaker 6: Okay, No, I okay, you're right.

856
00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:15,719
Speaker 1: I mean, you don't have to just tell me I'm right.

857
00:53:15,719 --> 00:53:17,000
Speaker 1: What do you what do you think about.

858
00:53:16,760 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 6: All that, So I agree. One there's like you mentioned,

859
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 6: I might have enjoyab what we're doing at the beginning,

860
00:53:27,440 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 6: but things have changed and I've just been a different

861
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 6: side of him than I might not be that I

862
00:53:32,600 --> 00:53:37,560
Speaker 6: am not very attracted to and that's okay. I don't

863
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:44,160
Speaker 6: wish any harm on him, obviously, well hopefully that's obvious.

864
00:53:45,280 --> 00:53:50,120
Speaker 6: But I feel better about this situation already.

865
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 1: Good. Yeah, I think. I guess I'm just and I

866
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:56,799
Speaker 1: kind of talked about it a little bit. I guess

867
00:53:56,800 --> 00:54:01,279
Speaker 1: I'm just very curious as to why you're feeling bad

868
00:54:01,280 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 1: about yourself. You know, it's okay for you to shift

869
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:09,760
Speaker 1: your feelings about a situation and decide to distance yourself

870
00:54:09,800 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 1: from it if that's how you feel as though you

871
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:14,440
Speaker 1: you want to act.

872
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:24,400
Speaker 6: Right, should I? Why do I feel shitty? I just

873
00:54:25,440 --> 00:54:30,320
Speaker 6: I don't. I grew up in a very religious household,

874
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:35,920
Speaker 6: so just the concept of being like so free and

875
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:40,680
Speaker 6: so open with my sexuality has been like, there's always

876
00:54:40,680 --> 00:54:43,920
Speaker 6: that shame attached to it. So part of me thinks, Okay,

877
00:54:44,640 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 6: why did you give all of this to this person

878
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:49,400
Speaker 6: when in the end you're just going to walk away?

879
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:53,640
Speaker 1: You know, I think there is a lot of like

880
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:57,560
Speaker 1: I mean, religiously and societal wise, I think there's a

881
00:54:57,560 --> 00:55:02,800
Speaker 1: lot of shame associated with like sleeping around and stuff.

882
00:55:02,840 --> 00:55:05,880
Speaker 1: But it's it's I mean, at least in my opinion,

883
00:55:05,960 --> 00:55:09,160
Speaker 1: like baseless. I mean, fuck, you know, as long as

884
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:11,560
Speaker 1: you're as long as everyone you're sleeping with is kind

885
00:55:11,600 --> 00:55:16,880
Speaker 1: of on the same page. Like why why does that matter?

886
00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:19,040
Speaker 5: Right?

887
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:22,319
Speaker 6: I think I just, like I said, it's just that

888
00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 6: shame like growing up with and thinking, Okay, what I'm

889
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 6: doing that's pretty wrong is my parents would not like this,

890
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:35,399
Speaker 6: and like when something goes south, thinking Okay, they were right,

891
00:55:36,239 --> 00:55:38,560
Speaker 6: Like I shouldn't have been doing this to begin with.

892
00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:43,360
Speaker 1: Let me ask you this. Let's if we threw away

893
00:55:43,440 --> 00:55:46,759
Speaker 1: your parents, we threw away society, and we looked into

894
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 1: your own brain and your own views on what is

895
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:57,359
Speaker 1: right and what is wrong. What do we think?

896
00:56:00,480 --> 00:56:06,640
Speaker 6: I think, Well, we're all humans, we all have these urges.

897
00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:11,399
Speaker 6: There's nothing wrong with expressing that in a healthy, responsible way,

898
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:15,600
Speaker 6: and I don't see anything wrong with it.

899
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 1: Okay, so I'll continue to let me interrupt you.

900
00:56:25,400 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 6: Oh well, yeah, that's basically I've always I don't see

901
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:35,919
Speaker 6: anything wrong with someone having multiple partners. Or going out

902
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:39,480
Speaker 6: and doing what they want to do as long as

903
00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:41,920
Speaker 6: it's responsible and it's safe.

904
00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:49,120
Speaker 1: Well, you know, Angie, I mean I hope you. I

905
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 1: know that there's sort of in the back of your

906
00:56:51,719 --> 00:56:54,840
Speaker 1: mind the puppet masters of society and your parents that

907
00:56:54,920 --> 00:56:59,680
Speaker 1: are imposing their own morality upon you. And I guess

908
00:56:59,760 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 1: if if I can leave you with anything in this call,

909
00:57:02,120 --> 00:57:06,880
Speaker 1: is that I hope that you have the confidence and

910
00:57:07,480 --> 00:57:12,360
Speaker 1: courage to, you know, make your own actions according to

911
00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:17,720
Speaker 1: your own beliefs about how you think you should be

912
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 1: living and not you know, your parents or anyone else's.

913
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 6: Yes, that's what I try and do. You know, sometimes

914
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 6: you get well, I get into my head and things

915
00:57:32,840 --> 00:57:35,480
Speaker 6: go south. I'm like, Okay, this was my fall. I

916
00:57:35,520 --> 00:57:38,600
Speaker 6: shouldn't have been doing this, that or the other.

917
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:42,320
Speaker 1: No, I mean, I think it's your I mean, you're

918
00:57:42,360 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 1: in a situation it's just not working for you anymore.

919
00:57:44,880 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 1: And it's okay to move on from something that's not

920
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:49,200
Speaker 1: working for you anymore. It doesn't have to you know,

921
00:57:49,480 --> 00:57:52,680
Speaker 1: end explosively or with a bad person. You know, it

922
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 1: can just be as simple as as this worked for

923
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:57,320
Speaker 1: me and no longer does.

924
00:57:57,440 --> 00:58:02,480
Speaker 6: So I'm moving on, right, I know you didn't mean this,

925
00:58:02,800 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 6: but I originally called over a problem I was having

926
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:09,800
Speaker 6: with another friend, and in a way you did answer,

927
00:58:10,160 --> 00:58:14,960
Speaker 6: or you did help me with that other friend relationship too.

928
00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 6: You're just very well spoken, good so I appreciate you.

929
00:58:20,240 --> 00:58:21,520
Speaker 1: Is there anything else want to say to the people

930
00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 1: of the computer before we go? Angie?

931
00:58:25,600 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 6: Oh, be yourself. Keep trying to call in because I

932
00:58:29,840 --> 00:58:32,960
Speaker 6: honestly thought I wasn't gonna get a chance to talk

933
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:35,560
Speaker 6: to Lyle. And here I am, and we did it.

934
00:58:36,120 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 6: Be happy.

935
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 1: Yes, we spoke to other human beings, made beautiful. Thank

936
00:58:42,560 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 1: you for calling Angel. I'll talk to you, maybe never again,

937
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 1: but possibly in another universe.

938
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:59,840
Speaker 6: I'll be looking for you. Thank you, Lyle, thank you, Angie, bye.

939
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:55,680
Speaker 1: And.

940
00:58:57,200 --> 00:58:57,480
Speaker 6: Thank you.

941
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:01,320
Speaker 7: Every Ken goes through on his eye.

942
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:04,560
Speaker 1: He's teaching you to about your life, but he's not

943
00:59:04,800 --> 00:59:06,920
Speaker 1: really an expert.