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Speaker 1: What's up everybody.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for coming back to this edition

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Speaker 2: of the David Rutherford Show. I'm here with my good

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Speaker 2: friend Jeordi. Jordy, how's the baby doing, man, I want

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Speaker 2: to know that baby's crushing it, honestly. So she has

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Speaker 2: a few tasks that she has to do every day,

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Speaker 2: which is just sleep. She has to eat, she has

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Speaker 2: to poop, and she just has to hang out. And

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Speaker 2: she is four for four right now and just going through.

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Speaker 2: You finish all four of you to start back at zero.

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Speaker 2: It's like the Golden gate Bridge when you paint it.

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Speaker 2: You know, you start at the beginning.

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Speaker 3: Once you finish painting it, you just have to start

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Speaker 3: over because it's been so long.

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Speaker 1: It's just that it's just a cycle. And she's doing great. Man. Well,

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Speaker 1: I love the metaphor of the Golden gate Bridge.

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Speaker 2: Right. It's this, It's the servitude, it's keeping. It's the

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Speaker 2: upkeep on some grand, grand vehicle to discovery on the

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Speaker 2: other side.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: And you have to make you have to make the.

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Speaker 2: Journey not only esthetically pleasing, but functionally pleasing as well too.

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Speaker 1: And and that is that is what.

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Speaker 2: You do with children, man, that is what you do

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Speaker 2: in terms of creating those bridges through until they get

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Speaker 2: done with this initial cycle and then the next cycle,

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Speaker 2: and then you add in a little bit of play

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Speaker 2: in there, then you add a little bit of learning,

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Speaker 2: and then you had a little bit of socialization, right,

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Speaker 2: And each one of those is a bridge to the

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Speaker 2: next evolution of who they become as a person.

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Speaker 3: Does that mean she's the bridge and I'm the painter.

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Speaker 3: I don't know who I am in this analogy, but.

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Speaker 2: Khondred percent right. No, No, she's the car on the bridge, right.

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Speaker 2: The love that that you and your wife give her

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Speaker 2: is the bridge to the her future self. Right.

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Speaker 1: But James is the paint. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm pretty sure we nailed that. I love it well,

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Speaker 2: it's at Team frog Logic. You know, one of the

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Speaker 2: things that we I wanted to just discuss and it's

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Speaker 2: kind of you know, relevant to the initial question of

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Speaker 2: of your your newborn child, is you know, what are

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Speaker 2: the critical aspects that we need in this very difficult

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Speaker 2: life because why sometimes on that bridge they might be

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Speaker 2: do we reference that? And so, you know, one of

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Speaker 2: the key concepts behind this motivational concept that I've been

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Speaker 2: in development for thirty plus years and all my background

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Speaker 2: what ignites the desire to want to drive over those

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Speaker 2: have you ever seen like the glass walkway bridge in China.

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Speaker 1: Dude, I'm not going on that way. I'm not doing that.

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Speaker 2: I mean, some people have some very substantial fears about

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Speaker 2: then obviously from a metaphorical concept, because uh, you know,

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Speaker 2: each chapter of your life, each each segment of your

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Speaker 2: that's what gives you the structure to move one from

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Speaker 2: it was the biggest, most palpable aspect of that. Beyond

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Speaker 2: because I really imagined myself as a pretty self confident kid.

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Speaker 2: before we hopped on, Jordan and I were discussing this.

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Speaker 3: That that reminds me of a Simpsons episode, h Homer.

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Speaker 3: You know, Bart goes to his dad and he's like,

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Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, that's about right.

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Speaker 2: That's about right, that's it right, And and if you

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Speaker 2: I mean, I've had so many people, in particular my

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Speaker 2: guess what, Rutherford, you had a good day today, but

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Speaker 2: And you're just like, what what did I do wrong?

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Speaker 2: And I realized in that moment, man, you know, that

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Speaker 1: And that's weird.

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Speaker 2: You know, here's this team guy, military contractor blackwater, mercenary,

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Speaker 2: So I went back and I evaluated in the context

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Speaker 3: Because one of the thay to do real quick is

435
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,880
Speaker 3: that one is that I think it's always always bring

436
00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 3: this up, but it's important to keep in mind all

437
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:32,000
Speaker 3: these concepts like self confidence. You know, if you're a

438
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 3: sixteen year old kid, sixteen year old dude, nothing's you

439
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 3: haven't really had real challenges in your life. You're just

440
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:40,119
Speaker 3: confident by default, or at least I was like I'm invincible,

441
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:42,600
Speaker 3: Like I can literally do anything. And then it's not

442
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,720
Speaker 3: until you get don't make the team, you get the

443
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:48,719
Speaker 3: bad grade, you get dumb, do you have family issues.

444
00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,679
Speaker 3: Then that's only then when you start getting it shaken.

445
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:54,960
Speaker 3: And that's the only time when having confidence matters. Is

446
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:58,640
Speaker 3: easy when nothing's going on, but it's hard when there's

447
00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 3: The only point is when you have everything going against you.

448
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:02,560
Speaker 1: At least it feels that way.

449
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 3: And I also wanted to say that it's interesting just

450
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,959
Speaker 3: from the start that you you called them missions and

451
00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:12,880
Speaker 3: you say it's forging your self confidence as opposed to oh,

452
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 3: let me just like give you this information and then

453
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 3: you'll be confident. You know, you have to frame it

454
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 3: as a mission that you have to forge and you

455
00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:23,040
Speaker 3: have to do something. Is that's part that's a key

456
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 3: part of it, right.

457
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 2: Well, prior to that, I you know, as I was

458
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 2: developing as an athlete, whether it was across or backball

459
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:34,159
Speaker 2: or football, whatever I was passionate about, you know, it

460
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:37,880
Speaker 2: was about the mission was the winning and the losing.

461
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 2: It was the competitiveness in the moment of the game,

462
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:43,479
Speaker 2: right And so that's how I used to frame it.

463
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 2: But when you go to buds Man, it's it's like, no,

464
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:51,199
Speaker 2: the mission is to make it through the next ten minutes.

465
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:54,360
Speaker 1: Right, the mission is.

466
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 2: The mission is not like I'm going to be a

467
00:25:57,080 --> 00:26:01,760
Speaker 2: world class expert as a frog man, you know tomorrow.

468
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,720
Speaker 2: It's more like, holy cow, I gotta go do log

469
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:08,400
Speaker 2: pet right now. After I've already run four miles, I've

470
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:12,160
Speaker 2: already swam two miles, I've already been gotten an additional

471
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 2: beatdown of an additional five hundred push ups, and I

472
00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:17,640
Speaker 2: had to get wet and sandy for inspection first thing

473
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 2: in the morning. I'm exhausted, I'm starving, my knees are

474
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,400
Speaker 2: killing me, my back hurts, my feet are rotten from

475
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:26,479
Speaker 2: being wet for the last four straight days, and now

476
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 2: I got to go do log pet. How am I

477
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 2: going to make it through log pet?

478
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 3: Well, if you were successful with it, even if you're

479
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,679
Speaker 3: good at something, wouldn't they just like crank it up

480
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 3: harder so you failed anyway?

481
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:40,359
Speaker 4: Well, Well that's the object with Yeah, Well that's the thing,

482
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 4: that's the underlying secret I believe of buds, Like, even

483
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:48,120
Speaker 4: when you're performing at your best, they're going to make

484
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 4: you feel like you fail because that's where it matters.

485
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:56,440
Speaker 2: Can you rebuild in the moment, the moment that matters,

486
00:26:56,480 --> 00:27:00,199
Speaker 2: and you take a hit. How quickly can you you

487
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 2: fire and forget and move back into a ready position again.

488
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 2: And that's the brilliance of the program because you don't

489
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 2: have a reference for that before that. And that what

490
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 2: I came out to believe was really this, that's the

491
00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 2: piece where you learn about yourself is when you're cause,

492
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 2: like you said, I mean, day in and day out,

493
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,640
Speaker 2: when there's no pressure on you, Yeah, I'm ultra confident

494
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 2: I can handle anything.

495
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 1: And then okay, well show me, all right, I'll show you.

496
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 2: And then you start doing it and you start getting flustered,

497
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 2: and then you start getting angry or frustrated or pain

498
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 2: and then you start feeling sorry for yourself, and that

499
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 2: cascade can happen like.

500
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 3: That, and you can't just tell that person to be confident.

501
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 3: It takes you're saying, it takes practice. There's like skills,

502
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:51,200
Speaker 3: you have to practice. This is just like a thing

503
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:52,880
Speaker 3: you learn and you're like, oh, I'm good.

504
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 2: Now, No, there's no I mean, That's why I tried

505
00:27:56,400 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 2: to say this is you have to develop this system,

506
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 2: a system not only to rehabilitate the collapse of your

507
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 2: self confidence, to get it back up to where you

508
00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 2: can just engage, but where you can then engage, engage,

509
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 2: engage through failure, failure, failure, oh, success or a little

510
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:20,200
Speaker 2: piece of success, Oh that keeps me going, That keeps

511
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 2: me going, that keeps and you build and you build

512
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 2: and you build. And that's what I'm sure you know

513
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 2: if you're listening, that you kind of worry about some days.

514
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 2: I know I worry about it even now at fifty

515
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:37,399
Speaker 2: three years and all I've ever done. Man, I'm constantly

516
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:43,360
Speaker 2: resetting myself in these mission templates right and checking myself,

517
00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 2: and my wife is checking me, and Geordie checks me,

518
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 2: and you know, and that's what I'm trying to do,

519
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 2: is I'm just trying to give you this thing that

520
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 2: this system, this idea, this process, this concept of forging

521
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 2: self confidence that I've really been thinking about and trying

522
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 2: to put into practice, and as many different environments as

523
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 2: you can imagine, most of them extreme environments. And what

524
00:29:10,080 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 2: I've discovered as is what works and how it works.

525
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 2: And so let me just go through with these. Mission

526
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 2: number one is have a positive attitude. Mission number two

527
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 2: is to pet and live healthy. Mission number three is

528
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 2: to motivate your yourself and others. Mission number four is

529
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 2: to earn respect. Mission number five is to set goals.

530
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 2: Mission number six is to live with integrity. Mission number

531
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 2: seven is mentoring, to mentor or be mentor, to ment

532
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 2: to be mentee or mentor. And then finally, mission number

533
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 2: eight is to have fun in the process. All right,

534
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:51,719
Speaker 2: So let's just do a brief overview of these. Go

535
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 2: through these pretty quick, all right, So you know, mission

536
00:29:54,400 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 2: number one, have a positive attitude. I started the self

537
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 2: confidence piece because real the thing I saw every day was,

538
00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 2: you know, you can be riding the top of the

539
00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 2: world one day at buds and then the next you're

540
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 2: on the precipice of thinking you're the worst human being

541
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 2: and you're ready to go ring that bell. And you know,

542
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 2: I talked a little bit before in an episode before

543
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:19,480
Speaker 2: this about the importance of that bell, the metaphor of

544
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 2: it in our laws, and so you it's your choice.

545
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 2: This is the greatest aspect about the human condition that

546
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 2: I found, the most flexible, the greatest, the easiest thing

547
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 2: to really do every day, and that is to just

548
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 2: make the decision, you know, am I going to be positive?

549
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 2: Negative or neutral? And we do that every day and

550
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 2: then throughout each part of the day, am I going

551
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 2: to be positive about what I eat for breakfast?

552
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: Am I going to be.

553
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 2: Positive about the you know, the crap I have to

554
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:52,360
Speaker 2: take out work or on my team?

555
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: Or you know, am I going to.

556
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 2: Be positive in my relationship when it doesn't go my

557
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 2: way or I don't get what I want? Or am

558
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 2: I going to be positive when I let myself down

559
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 2: or I don't achieve a particular goal? Or am I

560
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 2: going to let the negativity of that overwhelm me and

561
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:11,640
Speaker 2: be the controlling mechanism for what stalls my momentum or

562
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:16,320
Speaker 2: what what dismantles my motivation to be self confident? And

563
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 2: it's a real simple question, you know, and and and

564
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 2: within every mission again just the reference if you haven't

565
00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 2: heard me describe this before. There are always four sub

566
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 2: steps to all of these things, right, and and the

567
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 2: way it's designed is you take one month or four

568
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 2: weeks to do these, you know, the overall Archie mission

569
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 2: is the concept you focus on, and then I attach

570
00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:42,239
Speaker 2: these subsets that you spend one week on, or you

571
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 2: can do it in one week and main in introduce

572
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 2: it on a Monday. Then each step is Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.

573
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 2: And then you fitness the thing, so you know, and

574
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 2: for instance, you know, one of the most powerful uh

575
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 2: uh steps and and and have a positive attitude is

576
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 2: really to figure out how to anchor your heart to

577
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 2: your mind right. And and what I mean about that

578
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 2: is there were so many days in buds. And I

579
00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 2: always use this picture when I give this lecture of

580
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 2: an individual kid uh in surf torture. And that's where

581
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 2: you know, you're forced to lay down arm in arm

582
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 2: with your teammates, you know, in the Pacific Ocean just

583
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 2: washing over top of you for extended periods of time,

584
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 2: and that that ocean gonna get as cold as you know,

585
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 2: sixty degrees fifty eighth nine degrees, you know, at least

586
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 2: in San Diego where we were, certainly up in Norton,

587
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 2: Cow's a lot colder. But so you're sitting there and

588
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 2: you're you're you're being whatever you're being punished for. You're

589
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 2: in this this predicament, being serf tortured. What happens you

590
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 2: You your mind starts telling you this ain't worth it,

591
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 2: this sucks. I don't want to do this, I don't

592
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 2: need to do this because your body is in pain.

593
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 2: And so your body starts over your Olympic system, overrides

594
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 2: that meta cognition of that image of you being a

595
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: seal jumping out airplanes in two or three years down

596
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 2: the road and training, and it negates all that gets

597
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 2: rid of it, and it says, well, right now, I'm

598
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 2: miserable and this sucks and I want it to end,

599
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 2: and I can't do this. And so that piece of you,

600
00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 2: that that heartfelt desire, the ambition, the dream, if you

601
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 2: will and and listen, I one hundred percent believe dreams

602
00:33:23,440 --> 00:33:27,720
Speaker 2: come true. I am a recipient of that on multiple

603
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 2: ways and multiple formats. I have participated with people to

604
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 2: help them achieve their dreams in many different avenues and industry,

605
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 2: and I've seen it just happen over and over and

606
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 2: over and over again.

607
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 1: It's real.

608
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 2: But what happens when we're consumed with that pain and

609
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 2: our confidence takes a blast, that that peace in your

610
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 2: heart that allows you to dream, it gets you know

611
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 2: that you override it with some kind of rational thought

612
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 2: where you're trying to argue, argue your way out of

613
00:33:57,360 --> 00:34:00,480
Speaker 2: out of pain, right and so you know if you

614
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 2: anchor your heart to your mind and keep that dream

615
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 2: alive in those moments man, that's the first step. And

616
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:08,319
Speaker 2: then you know there's a start. Every day, cold, wet

617
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:10,520
Speaker 2: and sandy, find a swim budy. And then my favorite

618
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 2: within this is no whining, right, you know if and

619
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:17,359
Speaker 2: this is the thing that is absolutely beyond measure in

620
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:21,280
Speaker 2: my world, is you know, if you whine your negative

621
00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 2: you know. Now a lot of people think they can

622
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 2: get away with it, right Jordy by being sarcastic. But

623
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 2: in any sarcastic comment, there's an underlying tone of negativity.

624
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 2: It's just is what it is, right.

625
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:35,280
Speaker 1: What doesn't help anything?

626
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 2: It I used to believe that a bitch and sailor

627
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:42,920
Speaker 2: was a happy sailor, right, And if I was complaining,

628
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 2: I was going to be able to get through it. Man,

629
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 2: I'll never forget you asked my platoon mates and my

630
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,360
Speaker 2: second platoon when we were in Kuwait getting ready to

631
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:54,239
Speaker 2: go to combat. You know, we're driving, you know, to

632
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 2: do these dpvs, and you know, I was a guy

633
00:34:57,080 --> 00:34:59,160
Speaker 2: that didn't even know how to change oil, right, And

634
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 2: to give you an idea of the work that required

635
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 2: for every hour you drove in the in the in

636
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 2: the desert, was eight hours of wrenching on these vehicles.

637
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,400
Speaker 2: And they were an old V dub souped up V

638
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 2: dub engine was you know, racing components that and so

639
00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:17,200
Speaker 2: I remember, you know, my my l PO, Larry, who

640
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:21,360
Speaker 2: I love love love you so much, Larry deeply, you know,

641
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 2: would be like rot, go go disassemble and rebuild this carburetor.

642
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:29,280
Speaker 2: And you'd hear me in the back, you know, plane,

643
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,439
Speaker 2: you know, rage against the machine. You know, blank, you

644
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 2: you can't do make me do it. I won't do

645
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 2: what you tell me that. I forget what song that is.

646
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:41,440
Speaker 2: But I would just blast that and I'd bitch and

647
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 2: i'd moan, you know. And I didn't realize the impact that.

648
00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:45,919
Speaker 1: That whining has.

649
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 2: I don't know my own psychology, but then on the

650
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Speaker 2: people around me. So that became a big one. So

651
00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:54,240
Speaker 2: these these stories are not only based on my evaluation

652
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:58,319
Speaker 2: of training, but also my own personal responses in there too.

653
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 2: So have a positive attitude Mission number one. So mission

654
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 2: I think about that, like just the whining thing. I

655
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 2: had to check myself all the time because now with

656
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 2: a with a wife and a kid, you know, what's

657
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 2: if we're in a stressful situation or or dealing with something,

658
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 2: I mean, our our you know, when our kid was born.

659
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:17,839
Speaker 2: It was I'll just say it was a little bit

660
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 2: of a stressful experience, right. It was kind of a long,

661
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 2: complicated situation. And man, you know what it would have

662
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 2: made a hard situation one hundred worse is if she

663
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,920
Speaker 2: looked at me and I'm like, man, I'm really.

664
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Speaker 1: Tired, I'm really stressed out. I don't really know what

665
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 1: to do. This is hard, like you did.

666
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 3: Now, can you imagine how much worse I could make

667
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Speaker 3: it with my own words?

668
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Speaker 1: I can't imagine. I've seen people do it on a

669
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 1: regular basis.

670
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,000
Speaker 3: And I am stressed, I am tired, I am freaking

671
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,359
Speaker 3: out of some degree. And she looks at me and

672
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:52,399
Speaker 3: you know, going through this, and what do I say?

673
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:55,240
Speaker 1: Oh, you're good, I'm good. No, it's all good, We're fine,

674
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 1: You're gonna be right. That's right, that's right.

675
00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:01,840
Speaker 2: And so that positively it made situation completely differently.

676
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 1: I go to complain to write later on my own response.

677
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:11,800
Speaker 2: That's awesome. So you know, mission number two is pet

678
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 2: and live healthy. Right, And the question, and this one

679
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:17,840
Speaker 2: is are you happy with your body and your mind?

680
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 2: And overwhelmingly, you know, most people, unless you're you know

681
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,959
Speaker 2: a triathlete, and usually they're even more mental about their

682
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:27,400
Speaker 2: their performance.

683
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:27,959
Speaker 1: Ability than anybody else.

684
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 2: But I mean, I'd say ninety nine percent of people

685
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:32,759
Speaker 2: on a planet are just not happy with that. And

686
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 2: that's a normal place to be. And so you know,

687
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 2: what do we do?

688
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 1: Right?

689
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 2: I think one of the most fundamental aspects.

690
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Speaker 5: Of of of of self confidence is when you are physically,

691
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 5: uh and mentally strong, and so that is the next step, right,

692
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:53,760
Speaker 5: have a positive attitude of what you're going to face,

693
00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 5: but then you need to physically and mentally be strong.

694
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Speaker 1: Strength is a must.

695
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 2: Strength. I can't overemphasize it. And I think I've told

696
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Speaker 2: this story before. I know I've chatted with you about it, Geordan.

697
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,880
Speaker 2: But you know when my children, with my daughters, it

698
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:13,879
Speaker 2: used to be I want my daughters to be intelligent, empathetic,

699
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 2: beautiful human beings. And then as the world, as they

700
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 2: grew older in the world, I came to understand the

701
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 2: world and is as nasty as it is. And I

702
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:26,760
Speaker 2: used to believe a lot of that was just maintained

703
00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 2: or contained overseas. But now we know the extent of

704
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 2: what it is in our own shores, you know, we

705
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 2: John and I added in strong. We want our children

706
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Speaker 2: to be strong, and so we we we have a

707
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Speaker 2: premium on making sure they take care of their bodies,

708
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:45,879
Speaker 2: they eat right, they sleep right, and then also their

709
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:49,280
Speaker 2: mind right. Really to enhance the strength of their mind

710
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 2: and make it real.

711
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:55,880
Speaker 3: Because you can think about these missions which are good,

712
00:38:56,520 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 3: having confidence, taking on challenges, have a positive ad Dude,

713
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:02,759
Speaker 3: all great things, but there's something real about like I

714
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 3: don't know if I can do this last push up,

715
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 3: and you see yourself do the last push up. It's real,

716
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,319
Speaker 3: It's in reality and you saw it with your eyes,

717
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:11,879
Speaker 3: or something about that that you need.

718
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 2: Well, if you think about it, like if you think

719
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 2: about human beings and the scope of our existence on

720
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Speaker 2: the planet, the fundamental reason why we were able to

721
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:24,839
Speaker 2: survive or thrive is because we could move long distances

722
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 2: as tribes with a herd of animals. We could endure

723
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 2: the elements, right, we could figure out food intake and

724
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 2: storing food or all of these things, and then we

725
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 2: were able to build strong structures that could withstand things.

726
00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:44,880
Speaker 2: And so that that capacity, that physicality is fundamental and

727
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:48,280
Speaker 2: human experience of strength and our ability to survive and thrive.

728
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:52,279
Speaker 2: And so you know step one and this is your

729
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 2: body is your church. And so you know, I always

730
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 2: give the reference. You know, would you go into church

731
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,879
Speaker 2: with a you know, your McDonald's bag and pull out

732
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Speaker 2: your cheeseburger and drinking your coke while you're sitting there

733
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 2: in church, right, And the metaphor is that, then why

734
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 2: do you do it every each and every day? And

735
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Speaker 2: so you know, just be aware and I and figure

736
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 2: out that if you if you active in the pursuit

737
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:20,399
Speaker 2: of strength physically and mentally, and the things that make

738
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Speaker 2: you strong, right, great sleep routines. You know, staying is

739
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:28,799
Speaker 2: far away from from the toxicity of booze and drugs. Right.

740
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:31,399
Speaker 2: A glass of wine, hanging out with your friends all

741
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:33,879
Speaker 2: good every now and then, but if it overwhelms you.

742
00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 2: And I've had a lot of friends be destroyed by this.

743
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:39,280
Speaker 2: A lot of my friends are dead as a result

744
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Speaker 2: of alcoholism or addiction. And and you know, and I

745
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 2: flirted with some of that myself as well, you know,

746
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 2: but these are the ideas that you really fixate and

747
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:51,719
Speaker 2: make you strengthen yourself, right, and the idea within that

748
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,959
Speaker 2: in the last one step forwardin this is training never ends.

749
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Speaker 2: There's never a time where you're done staying strong and

750
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 2: so that's that's that's the second part of this all right,

751
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 2: So mission iree motivate yourself and others, right, and the

752
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 2: other the question there is how many motivational triggers do

753
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 2: you have? Like what are the specific elements of relationships,

754
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 2: of activity, of pt of dining, of hanging out, what

755
00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 2: are the specific moments where you feel motivated?

756
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:24,840
Speaker 5: Right?

757
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:26,960
Speaker 2: And then once you're in there and you've got a

758
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 2: good sense of yourself, right, how do you motivate others?

759
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,080
Speaker 2: Because that's I'll tell you what this was a massive

760
00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 2: component of why I actually even made it through. But

761
00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:40,760
Speaker 2: literally I was at the moment after my second injury

762
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:44,480
Speaker 2: where the base training officer basically said, listen, dude, what's

763
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 2: up with you? You know, the doc had told me

764
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 2: to drop me because of injuries, and the base training

765
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 2: over officer went over to the you know, the warrant

766
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:56,799
Speaker 2: officer who ran pTRR and was like, hey, what about

767
00:41:56,800 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 2: this kid Rutherford? And the only reason I ultimately, you know,

768
00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 2: one of the main reasons, was because of this guy.

769
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:07,800
Speaker 2: One of us are reworks basically told the base train officer,

770
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Speaker 2: you know, he's a motivator. He really looks out for

771
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,839
Speaker 2: his teammates, and if he can make it through, he'll

772
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:17,839
Speaker 2: be a good frogman someday. And and you know, that

773
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,360
Speaker 2: little thing that I had done, because I had realized

774
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 2: when I was in my greatest misery, when I was

775
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 2: the most negative in my own head about my poor

776
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 2: performance or what I was incapable of doing, what I

777
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 2: had learned early on playing football and all the other sports,

778
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 2: especially as a quarterback. I'd learned that it was my

779
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:40,759
Speaker 2: job to help the people around me, to lift them

780
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 2: up to get a better performance. So I just employed

781
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 2: that tactic in buds and it made me as I

782
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:50,440
Speaker 2: started motivating others, made me forget about my own misery.

783
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 2: And so that component of being able to motivate yourself

784
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 2: and others, they're they're correlated there. It's a critical thing.

785
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:00,839
Speaker 2: And and and you know, here's one of the things

786
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 2: that you know so many people do, is people get

787
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:08,359
Speaker 2: annoyed by motivated people. Right, You're like, dude, shut up, right,

788
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 2: don't don't come over here with that false motivation. Well, well,

789
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:16,320
Speaker 2: guess what, go ahead and be that guy or that girl,

790
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:19,319
Speaker 2: because it matters. It matters more than you think, and

791
00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:22,760
Speaker 2: even matters to the sour pusses, to the hard asses,

792
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:26,640
Speaker 2: to the negative nancies over there. You know, it matters,

793
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 2: It has an impact, and hell Step four is false

794
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 2: motivation is better note of motivation at all.

795
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:32,239
Speaker 1: You know.

796
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:36,359
Speaker 2: One of the great aspects of special operations is when

797
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 2: you know, in the most miserable moment, someone you know

798
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,879
Speaker 2: makes a joke about it. That dark humor, if you will,

799
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 2: like true misery, when someone makes a statement that's just

800
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 2: hilarious when everybody's miserable, So you know, surround yourself by

801
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:53,919
Speaker 2: those people, it really makes a huge thing. What's up, Team,

802
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Speaker 1: Thank you very much in godspeed.

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Speaker 2: Mission for you got to earn respect, right and to

826
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:27,040
Speaker 2: recognize that you're accountable for that mission every day. So

827
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 2: many young people, I think believe they just deserve respect

828
00:45:30,560 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 2: because there upright have opposable thumbs and a TikTok account right,

829
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:39,800
Speaker 2: And so you literally are are like, man, I deserve

830
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 2: respect because I'm breathing. Well, I'm here to tell you

831
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 2: that's complete. Bs.

832
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: There's no way you deserve anyone. You don't nobody deserve.

833
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 2: You don't know what he owes you anything, period, end

834
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 2: of sense anyway, shape for no matter what you've gone

835
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 2: through with, nobody owes you squat and we learn that,

836
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 2: right and so every day, But what am I trying

837
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 2: to do. I'm trying to get it to the point where,

838
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 2: just like I'm doing with you right now listening to

839
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:10,280
Speaker 2: me on this microphone, I'm trying to earn your respect.

840
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 2: I'm trying to tell you and share with you and

841
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 2: be you know, be honest with you and be open

842
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:20,200
Speaker 2: to you and to share with you so that you

843
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:24,800
Speaker 2: know that rapport initiates that trust, because that's what respect emerges,

844
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 2: is built on this trust that we feel in connection

845
00:46:28,239 --> 00:46:32,839
Speaker 2: with each other. That's fundamental to self confidence. Because when

846
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 2: trust doesn't exist in your relationships, what happens? You don't

847
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 2: feel self confidence about anything. You just don't. It's just

848
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 2: part of it. But when you are actively engaging like

849
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:46,799
Speaker 2: we were every single day, I remember it. It was

850
00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 2: just every day. I just wanted those instructors to look

851
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 2: at me and be like, not even like.

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00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:55,480
Speaker 1: Way to go, Ruther Ferd, you know, way to go

853
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 1: to way to take that on the.

854
00:46:57,840 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 2: Chin and come back, you know, I didn't even want that,

855
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:02,879
Speaker 2: just wanted them to look at me and not have

856
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:08,080
Speaker 2: that underlying layer of disgust under on their face that

857
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 2: like you worthless piece. You know, my favorite aspect in

858
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 2: training was you know, you'd ask an instructor like a

859
00:47:15,640 --> 00:47:21,439
Speaker 2: pretty poignant question about moving forward or something, and they'd say, well, Ron,

860
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 2: in the unlikely event that you do pass that ele

861
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Speaker 2: of you know, evolution, uh, you you might get onto

862
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:32,840
Speaker 2: this right and not even like giving you that. And

863
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:33,719
Speaker 2: if they told you.

864
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:35,680
Speaker 3: You were not terrible at something, that's like about the

865
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:38,240
Speaker 3: highest compliment you could ever receive in your life.

866
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 2: Well you could even distill it down before that. If

867
00:47:40,520 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 2: you do something and you don't get barked at, you

868
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 2: don't get shouted at or pointed out comment, just no

869
00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 2: comment as a win. I mean, that's that's how that's

870
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 2: how intense it is. And so you know you are

871
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 2: accountable for that. You no one else. You're accountable to

872
00:47:57,239 --> 00:48:01,960
Speaker 2: seek out the respect of the organization, the team, the

873
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 2: relationships you're in, your children, your friends, that's on you,

874
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 2: and you need to be able to do that every day.

875
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 2: And so, you know, a couple ideas within earned respect.

876
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:14,920
Speaker 2: Number one is the most important. Just don't lie.

877
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:15,480
Speaker 1: Now.

878
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:18,320
Speaker 2: I know that's hard, because we live in a society

879
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 2: where talent lies. We tell them pretty regularly, pretty easily,

880
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 2: in order to protect the people we care most about.

881
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:26,879
Speaker 2: That's what most people. Most people lie and listen. Every

882
00:48:26,920 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 2: human being lies, period. Every single person lies. It doesn't

883
00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 2: matter a brilliant guy that you pen studied lie in

884
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:33,800
Speaker 2: a long time.

885
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:34,800
Speaker 1: Everybody lies.

886
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 2: And the place we lie the most is where we

887
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 2: lie to ourselves most. And what that idea ideation of

888
00:48:42,239 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 2: respect actually is, like, Oh, everybody in my class thinks

889
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 2: I'm squared away. Meanwhile you get peer reviewed and like

890
00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 2: everybody thinks you suck, and so this illusion is destroyed.

891
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 1: But then you're like you double down, like, no, they're

892
00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 1: just idiots. No they're not.

893
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 2: They're telling you something. You got to listen. You're not

894
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 2: doing what you need to do. You're not seek you're

895
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:06,400
Speaker 2: not doing the actions to get people's respect, you know.

896
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 2: And the other one is the willingness for you to

897
00:49:09,160 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 2: do the work. I don't think you get to jump

898
00:49:12,000 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 2: in line for one type of uh because you have

899
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 2: some plaque on the wall. Right, just because I'm a

900
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 2: Navy seal doesn't mean you should clart Blanc listen to

901
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 2: what I have to say at all, you know, not

902
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 2: even close. In fact, you should question what I'm telling

903
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:34,640
Speaker 2: you in a deep level and then listen to what

904
00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 2: I have to say and does it make sense? Do

905
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 2: I have information to support it? Am I genuine and

906
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 2: how I'm talking to you? And and and so that's

907
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:46,480
Speaker 2: a big thing to do the work and show the

908
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 2: people to earn that respect, you know. So now that's it,

909
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:51,759
Speaker 2: all right, Mission number five. You've got to be able

910
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 2: to set realistic goals for yourself, right, and this real

911
00:49:56,320 --> 00:49:58,320
Speaker 2: question is what's your purpose in life?

912
00:49:58,880 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: Now?

913
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:01,800
Speaker 2: I know like that. That's the massive question. I've talked

914
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 2: about that extensively in the past and the last show

915
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:07,120
Speaker 2: I did about frog Logic is you know what is

916
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:10,520
Speaker 2: your purpose? And it's a very difficult thing to answer

917
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:13,319
Speaker 2: that question. Well, if you don't know what your purpose is,

918
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:17,600
Speaker 2: then then set a goal on something, take aim at something,

919
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 2: and then try and achieve that goal. And that even

920
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:22,799
Speaker 2: if it's as small as you know, what I want

921
00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:26,279
Speaker 2: to be on time in every appointment I have for

922
00:50:26,320 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 2: the next thirty days, no matter what. In fact, you

923
00:50:29,560 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 2: know in buds, you know the old saying is if

924
00:50:32,239 --> 00:50:34,400
Speaker 2: you're not five minutes early, you're late. Well, we in

925
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 2: my class, we reduced that all the way down. If

926
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:39,600
Speaker 2: you're fifteen minutes you're early, you're late. And so that

927
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 2: has been ingrained in me my entire existence. And think

928
00:50:43,200 --> 00:50:46,240
Speaker 2: about that, you're meeting somebody important for the first time,

929
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:49,560
Speaker 2: and you show up seven minutes late, twenty minutes late,

930
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:53,760
Speaker 2: automatically you've lost their respect, right, And so the goal

931
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:58,000
Speaker 2: of that self confidence showing up on time with steadfast,

932
00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 2: that gives you that good platform to begin on first impression, right.

933
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:05,879
Speaker 2: And so within that setting goals, you know, really make

934
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 2: sure you understand how to set a good goal, proper

935
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:13,080
Speaker 2: mission planning, and then stop being fixated on the goal.

936
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:16,839
Speaker 2: I'll never forget like. It took me six months, I

937
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:20,719
Speaker 2: think for me to let go of the fact of

938
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:24,720
Speaker 2: all I thought about was graduating, like and the best

939
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 2: advice I've ever been given. There are a lot of

940
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:30,319
Speaker 2: people the typical advice is just think about the next

941
00:51:30,360 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 2: time you eat chow right, think about that, or just

942
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:37,120
Speaker 2: think about finishing the evolution. It got so intense for

943
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 2: me that I reduced that all the way down, as

944
00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:42,719
Speaker 2: you know, just just think about the order I was

945
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,959
Speaker 2: just giving and trying to perform that order as best

946
00:51:46,040 --> 00:51:48,839
Speaker 2: as I can right now in the moment. And as

947
00:51:48,840 --> 00:51:51,239
Speaker 2: long as I slowed it down to that capacity, man,

948
00:51:51,280 --> 00:51:54,000
Speaker 2: I was able to not fixate on a space that

949
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:56,880
Speaker 2: I had no idea, you know, all the steps that

950
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:58,880
Speaker 2: were included in that. I was able to distill the

951
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 2: goal down and do an attainable goal right in front

952
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:03,200
Speaker 2: of me, and that that that's critical.

953
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:05,799
Speaker 3: Had a good analogy one time that was like, if

954
00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:07,399
Speaker 3: you're driving in the middle of the night, you got

955
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:10,240
Speaker 3: to drive to the next state over. You can't see

956
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:12,720
Speaker 3: to the next stay, but with your headlights you can see.

957
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 3: You know, however many feet in front of you. As

958
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:19,040
Speaker 3: you just see that and follow the road where your

959
00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 3: headlights are, you actually do end up getting all the

960
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 3: way there one hundred percent.

961
00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:27,719
Speaker 2: But you got to know where you're going, right, right,

962
00:52:27,719 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 2: That's that's gay. You have to have a plan of

963
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:31,920
Speaker 2: where you want to go. Don't just go drive. Although

964
00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:35,000
Speaker 2: there is some aspect of wandering the water loss and

965
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:37,440
Speaker 2: you go back to Jack Kerouac's on the road, that's

966
00:52:37,520 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 2: different though. Yeah, that's a different construct, right, That's when

967
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 2: you're really trying to find yourself and it can be

968
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:46,319
Speaker 2: this free, free roaming, and then you know, and then

969
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:48,320
Speaker 2: you can find some things. But and then at the

970
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:50,920
Speaker 2: end of your goals, make sure you debrief what you

971
00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:53,240
Speaker 2: did wrong, what you did right, learn, and then repeat

972
00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:56,920
Speaker 2: all right number five, So number six, live with integrity.

973
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 2: Out of all the virtues out there, this is one

974
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 2: of the most important ones that I believe, and and

975
00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 2: and the question I ask people is does honor guide

976
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:09,279
Speaker 2: your behavior? Right? Are you when you do something, are

977
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:12,359
Speaker 2: you hope that there's a modicum of honor in what

978
00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 2: you're doing and why you're doing it? Or is it nefarious?

979
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 2: Is it machiavellian? Are you trying to your what's your

980
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 2: what's your mo o? What's your modus operandi? Right? What's

981
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:24,640
Speaker 2: your intention? Are you trying to manipulate? Or are you

982
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 2: genuinely trying to achieve something that's beneficial not only for

983
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 2: yourself but for your team? And so, you know, mission

984
00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:34,480
Speaker 2: six is an interesting one that you know, know the

985
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 2: difference between right and wrong never rest on the success

986
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:40,480
Speaker 2: of your last mission, and so and there's a couple

987
00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:43,719
Speaker 2: other in there too, But living with integrity is one

988
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:46,680
Speaker 2: of the primary things we really learn because if you

989
00:53:46,719 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 2: don't have integrity, your teammate's not going to trust you.

990
00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:52,680
Speaker 2: If your teammate doesn't trust you, he's not gonna want

991
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:55,440
Speaker 2: to go to war with you. And so think about that.

992
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:58,320
Speaker 2: How you have to live up to that, and integrity

993
00:53:58,360 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 2: is a big one. It's like in the photo I

994
00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 2: use is from log PT. If if your boat crew

995
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:07,280
Speaker 2: stinks and you get called out, it's usually because there's

996
00:54:07,480 --> 00:54:09,799
Speaker 2: because when you do the log PT, you've got this

997
00:54:10,040 --> 00:54:12,480
Speaker 2: giant pole over your head. You got your seven man

998
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 2: boat crew, and you're doing push ups with it, you're

999
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:18,320
Speaker 2: doing sit ups. Well, if two or three guys aren't

1000
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:20,799
Speaker 2: really touching that pole and the rest of the weight

1001
00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 2: disperses on the other four guys, you feel that, and

1002
00:54:25,080 --> 00:54:27,319
Speaker 2: so it's like, hey, man, get your damn hands under

1003
00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:31,280
Speaker 2: the pole. And what's happening Like you're faking.

1004
00:54:30,920 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 1: It, You're you don't.

1005
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:35,880
Speaker 2: You're losing the integrity of the pain everybody else is feeling.

1006
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 2: And that's not cool. And what ultimately happens is, oh,

1007
00:54:40,239 --> 00:54:42,400
Speaker 2: your boat crew doesn't want to work together. We'll go

1008
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 2: get on that one over there that's double the size.

1009
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:48,359
Speaker 2: It's called old misery. So you go from a three

1010
00:54:48,480 --> 00:54:52,400
Speaker 2: hundred pound thing to like a four something four hundred

1011
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 2: pound pole, and you want to talk about misery, you

1012
00:54:55,560 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 2: want to talk about integrity. In that one, nobody escapes

1013
00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:01,839
Speaker 2: the pain of old misery. And that's what happens if

1014
00:55:01,840 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 2: you live without integrity. It's an inevitability you will have

1015
00:55:05,719 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 2: to confront and face the pain of your lack of

1016
00:55:09,520 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 2: effort and integrity. All right, go back and listen to

1017
00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:16,160
Speaker 2: Coach Swider's episode. It's episode early thirties in our in

1018
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:20,840
Speaker 2: our podcast, he outlines integrity in such a passionate and

1019
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 2: clear and inspirational way, more than I think I've ever

1020
00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:25,479
Speaker 2: heard anybody just just what.

1021
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:27,479
Speaker 3: Do you believe and what do you do? Talking about

1022
00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:30,520
Speaker 3: auditing yourself, I think that was a explanation. If you

1023
00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 3: want to listen to Coach Swider.

1024
00:55:32,120 --> 00:55:34,760
Speaker 2: I think his encapsulation of it was the best almost

1025
00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:38,200
Speaker 2: I've ever heard. Yeah, absolutely, do yourself favorite re listen

1026
00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:41,160
Speaker 2: to that episode. It is phenomenal and I've seen it

1027
00:55:41,200 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 2: in action. I know men that that that played for him.

1028
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:46,120
Speaker 2: I know a lot of men, and these men are

1029
00:55:46,160 --> 00:55:50,400
Speaker 2: men of integrity. They really are right the justin of

1030
00:55:50,480 --> 00:55:54,800
Speaker 2: the world, the JD's, the the all these guys, the

1031
00:55:54,920 --> 00:56:00,319
Speaker 2: Jonathan's the the Dan, I mean, the Chris, all these

1032
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:02,319
Speaker 2: men that played for that man. I mean they are

1033
00:56:02,320 --> 00:56:05,520
Speaker 2: men of integrity and I really really admire these guys

1034
00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:07,160
Speaker 2: and what and coach Square too?

1035
00:56:07,200 --> 00:56:07,520
Speaker 1: All right?

1036
00:56:07,920 --> 00:56:11,319
Speaker 2: Mission seven? Mentoring? All right, when was the last time

1037
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,960
Speaker 2: you asked for help? Or when was the last time

1038
00:56:14,000 --> 00:56:15,879
Speaker 2: someone asked for you to help and you were able

1039
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 2: to give it? Mentoring is an essential component of self confidence.

1040
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:22,320
Speaker 2: Why because when we fail or we're in a jam,

1041
00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:25,200
Speaker 2: we need help. We need to understand what we're doing wrong.

1042
00:56:25,560 --> 00:56:27,399
Speaker 2: But if you don't have the courage to go ask

1043
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 2: for somebody who knows, then you're going to wander in

1044
00:56:31,160 --> 00:56:34,520
Speaker 2: the desert, right And that's not what we want. And

1045
00:56:34,960 --> 00:56:37,240
Speaker 2: you want to be able to have somebody that can

1046
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:40,879
Speaker 2: you trust, that you respect, that has integrity, that can

1047
00:56:40,920 --> 00:56:43,920
Speaker 2: look at you and be like, hey, you're messing this

1048
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:47,440
Speaker 2: up right now, and it ain't cool. You're not what

1049
00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:50,319
Speaker 2: you think you are because you're doing this wrong. And

1050
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:52,239
Speaker 2: then you're like, wow, thank you for that. We you

1051
00:56:52,320 --> 00:56:54,399
Speaker 2: tell me what I should do. And then the other

1052
00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:57,280
Speaker 2: beautiful aspect of this if you go out and have mentors,

1053
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:59,399
Speaker 2: and everybody should have three or four mentors, in their

1054
00:56:59,400 --> 00:57:02,360
Speaker 2: life every and these are real people dedicated to helping

1055
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:05,759
Speaker 2: you get through life. If you once you get through

1056
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:07,279
Speaker 2: that place where you think you're like, all right, I

1057
00:57:07,320 --> 00:57:08,839
Speaker 2: think I got this. And I do this with all

1058
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:11,399
Speaker 2: the young men that I mentor and I've went forward

1059
00:57:11,440 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 2: a bunch, is I say to them the one thing

1060
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:16,760
Speaker 2: that you're gonna owe me at some point in your life,

1061
00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:18,960
Speaker 2: an opportunity is gonna come where you're gonna have to

1062
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 2: mentor someone else. You're gonna have to lean in and

1063
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:24,160
Speaker 2: teach them. And it can't be your own children. It

1064
00:57:24,280 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 2: has to be God's gonna put somebody in front of

1065
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 2: your face and you need to mentor them. And they

1066
00:57:28,960 --> 00:57:31,600
Speaker 2: all respond amazing with that, because the biggest thing in

1067
00:57:31,640 --> 00:57:33,800
Speaker 2: mentoring step four is you got to share your life

1068
00:57:33,840 --> 00:57:37,600
Speaker 2: with people, right or what else is it for? Like

1069
00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 2: you're learning all these incredible things, you got to share that.

1070
00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:43,720
Speaker 2: And I remember when I would have an instructor like

1071
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 2: lean into me specifically and be like, hey, rut, you

1072
00:57:47,680 --> 00:57:50,880
Speaker 2: need to learn this because I learned this, and you're like,

1073
00:57:51,080 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 2: good god Man, thank you. That's the feeling I love

1074
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:58,600
Speaker 2: to feel. Right, It was incredible, all right? Mission eight

1075
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 2: final mission is to have fun. And the question I

1076
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:04,520
Speaker 2: asked is, you know, when was the last time you

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00:58:04,560 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 2: peed your pants from laughing so hard? Jordy, when was

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00:58:07,720 --> 00:58:11,320
Speaker 2: the last time you let a little couple drops fall

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00:58:11,360 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 2: out because you're peeing?

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Speaker 1: You're laughing so hard, dude, laughing that hard? Oh man?

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00:58:16,160 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 2: All right, if it's not be your pants, what's the

1082
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:20,919
Speaker 2: last time you snorted or you cackled, or you bent

1083
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 2: over you had a stitch in your side?

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00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:24,320
Speaker 1: When was the last time?

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00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:27,520
Speaker 3: It was probably over a year ago, honestly, which is sad,

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00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 3: but I remember when it was. It was just being

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00:58:30,920 --> 00:58:33,760
Speaker 3: super silly and dumb with my wife. We just got

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00:58:34,160 --> 00:58:36,280
Speaker 3: laughing about something and that's what we do. But it

1089
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:39,760
Speaker 3: was uncontrollable laughter. And it's a rare thing, but it's

1090
00:58:39,920 --> 00:58:42,520
Speaker 3: it's one of the best things. I'm glad you just said.

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00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:45,600
Speaker 3: It's a rare thing. If you're listening right now, think

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00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:48,040
Speaker 3: to yourself, when was the last time that you had

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00:58:48,080 --> 00:58:52,120
Speaker 3: that moment where laughter consumed you because the joy of

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00:58:52,160 --> 00:58:55,160
Speaker 3: the moment that you were existing in. You want to

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00:58:55,200 --> 00:58:58,320
Speaker 3: talk about self confidence when you can be in that

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00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:02,960
Speaker 3: state and you can find humor or the interpretation of

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00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 3: your existence or the assessment of your life or the

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00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:10,160
Speaker 3: reactivity of a relationship or a statement or funny, man.

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Speaker 1: That's that's the place, like, that's the moment.

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00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:17,240
Speaker 2: Now, those moments are few and far between, obviously, and

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00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 2: so it's critical to put to think about it intentionally.

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00:59:21,360 --> 00:59:25,360
Speaker 2: I want to have fun in this, this pursuit of

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00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:28,480
Speaker 2: this ambition and and and and you know, granted you're like,

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00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:30,880
Speaker 2: oh what what if it's really painful? I mean there

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00:59:30,880 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 2: are moments and buds where you must have been miserable. Yeah,

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00:59:33,640 --> 00:59:36,439
Speaker 2: but those moments I'll never forget. I you know, had

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00:59:36,480 --> 00:59:40,400
Speaker 2: guy like guys like bing would say something hilarious, man,

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00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:42,760
Speaker 2: and how we can I just look over and I

1109
00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:45,800
Speaker 2: just start cracking up in the midst of my misery.

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00:59:45,800 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 1: And I'd be like.

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00:59:46,400 --> 00:59:51,000
Speaker 2: Whoa and woa, Joe and and Adam and and you know,

1112
00:59:51,160 --> 00:59:55,880
Speaker 2: Jeff and and all these amazing peep Mark and and

1113
00:59:55,880 --> 00:59:58,040
Speaker 2: and I'm you know, they would say things and they

1114
00:59:58,080 --> 01:00:02,360
Speaker 2: would just that laughter would is causing elation that would

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01:00:02,440 --> 01:00:06,120
Speaker 2: lift you above the misery and reset that self confidence

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01:00:06,160 --> 01:00:07,120
Speaker 2: to drive forward.

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01:00:07,360 --> 01:00:09,480
Speaker 1: Probably the things you can't stay on a podcast.

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01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:12,320
Speaker 2: Oh bro, That's why I'm gonna go on my friend

1119
01:00:12,400 --> 01:00:15,880
Speaker 2: Ryan's podcast. Liberty Risk here in the next few weeks,

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01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 2: and I'll say a bunch of those those stories there,

1121
01:00:18,280 --> 01:00:21,320
Speaker 2: So pay attention to the Liberty Risk podcast.

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01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:21,600
Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: So within the step one, obviously have fun laugh it

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01:00:25,600 --> 01:00:28,919
Speaker 2: off all right. If you are miserable something's going wrong,

1125
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 2: figure out how to laugh it off, all right.

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01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:31,280
Speaker 1: We do that.

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01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:34,600
Speaker 2: I think Special Operations guys do that better than almost

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01:00:34,600 --> 01:00:37,680
Speaker 2: anybody on a planet. Why Because it's gonna suck, right,

1129
01:00:37,840 --> 01:00:40,200
Speaker 2: no matter what. You got to embrace the suck. And

1130
01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:42,160
Speaker 2: the easiest way to do is just laugh it off.

1131
01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 2: Oh we just got in trouble. We got to go

1132
01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 2: put on a sixty five pound ruck and rock for

1133
01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:50,440
Speaker 2: twenty clicks in the middle of the desert.

1134
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Speaker 1: Well, hell, this is awesome, isn't it. You know? And

1135
01:00:54,160 --> 01:00:55,520
Speaker 1: you laugh it off, right.

1136
01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:58,960
Speaker 2: And the other one is really figure out how to

1137
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:02,919
Speaker 2: love yourself and to love your teammates. Right. That's there's

1138
01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:10,360
Speaker 2: no greater sensation of fun joy, just that that feeling

1139
01:01:10,400 --> 01:01:13,160
Speaker 2: you feel when you're when you really truly love yourself

1140
01:01:13,160 --> 01:01:15,520
Speaker 2: and you love your team. If you're struggling with that,

1141
01:01:15,720 --> 01:01:17,720
Speaker 2: find somebody who does love themselves.

1142
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Speaker 1: Right.

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01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:21,120
Speaker 2: For me, my core, I go to Christ. I know

1144
01:01:21,280 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 2: Christ loves me no matter where I am, what I'm

1145
01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:27,360
Speaker 2: going through. What is it That's the gift, That's the

1146
01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:30,120
Speaker 2: gift of his sacrifice, That's the gift of the word

1147
01:01:30,200 --> 01:01:33,280
Speaker 2: to me. I know my wife loves me. Sometimes she

1148
01:01:33,280 --> 01:01:35,920
Speaker 2: gets angry and a little pissed off at me, but

1149
01:01:36,000 --> 01:01:38,440
Speaker 2: I know she loves me. I know my children love me.

1150
01:01:38,680 --> 01:01:41,880
Speaker 2: You know, my friends, my family members. You know, I

1151
01:01:41,920 --> 01:01:44,800
Speaker 2: know that love is real. And so when you have that,

1152
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:49,959
Speaker 2: when you're facing really profound, insurmountable challenges, man, that love

1153
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:53,160
Speaker 2: is what drives you. It's what keeps your self confidence intact,

1154
01:01:53,840 --> 01:01:56,840
Speaker 2: you know. And and I look at my teammates throughout

1155
01:01:56,880 --> 01:02:00,160
Speaker 2: my experience and friends of theirs and people we've lost. Yes,

1156
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:03,120
Speaker 2: you know, you know you ask them, you know, why

1157
01:02:03,200 --> 01:02:04,960
Speaker 2: why do you Why did they do that? Or why

1158
01:02:05,040 --> 01:02:08,040
Speaker 2: did they sacrifice for you? And the only answer people

1159
01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:11,000
Speaker 2: give is because they love me. And today, by the way,

1160
01:02:11,040 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 2: it's my brother's birthday. And just want to tell him,

1161
01:02:14,080 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 2: I love you so much, man, uh, And I just

1162
01:02:17,480 --> 01:02:20,200
Speaker 2: love that you're my brother, my actual brother, my blood brother.

1163
01:02:20,640 --> 01:02:22,840
Speaker 2: You can find him on Instagram at mister Rutherford. And

1164
01:02:23,360 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 2: you know, and I think about that, and yesterday was

1165
01:02:26,080 --> 01:02:31,480
Speaker 2: the anniversary of Mark Lee's death, and I watched all

1166
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:37,600
Speaker 2: his close teammates from you know, Task Force Bruiser post

1167
01:02:37,680 --> 01:02:40,600
Speaker 2: these beautiful tributes to him, and you could tell there

1168
01:02:40,720 --> 01:02:44,880
Speaker 2: was this profound love in them. They missed him, they

1169
01:02:45,120 --> 01:02:47,800
Speaker 2: they remembered, they were they were able to invoke those

1170
01:02:47,920 --> 01:02:51,920
Speaker 2: memories of this really amazing human being. And I've had

1171
01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:56,840
Speaker 2: the opportunity to meet, uh, Mama Lee Mark America's Mighty Warriors.

1172
01:02:56,920 --> 01:03:01,040
Speaker 2: She has a great foundation. Check that out, Mama Lee.

1173
01:03:01,560 --> 01:03:05,520
Speaker 2: Mighty Warriors. Donate to it. How they do amazing work.

1174
01:03:05,520 --> 01:03:08,280
Speaker 2: I've had a lot of friends utilize them. Wonderful. But

1175
01:03:08,320 --> 01:03:11,280
Speaker 2: you can see these people truly love him, and and

1176
01:03:11,320 --> 01:03:14,200
Speaker 2: that's something that comes out of that's that idea of

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01:03:14,240 --> 01:03:17,480
Speaker 2: having fun and having fun is incorporated in the idea

1178
01:03:17,480 --> 01:03:20,880
Speaker 2: of love. So, you know, these are these eight missions.

1179
01:03:21,200 --> 01:03:27,360
Speaker 2: You can find these on our website at David Rutherford

1180
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 2: dot com where there's a special gut going on right now.

1181
01:03:30,880 --> 01:03:31,920
Speaker 1: Go check that out.

1182
01:03:33,040 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 2: And I just you know, self confidence is this fragile thing,

1183
01:03:38,240 --> 01:03:41,360
Speaker 2: and we need to have a system in place that

1184
01:03:41,440 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 2: really can help us rebuild it. The system that you

1185
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:48,200
Speaker 2: know when you feel like you know the sky has

1186
01:03:48,280 --> 01:03:50,720
Speaker 2: fallen in the tsunami is going to hit you at

1187
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:53,960
Speaker 2: whatever metaphor it is, or nobody loves you. You know,

1188
01:03:54,120 --> 01:03:57,560
Speaker 2: you have to have a system that you can rehabilitate

1189
01:03:57,640 --> 01:04:01,760
Speaker 2: that self confidence because without that self confidence, just like

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01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:05,600
Speaker 2: I go back to that moment with those children and

1191
01:04:05,680 --> 01:04:08,280
Speaker 2: I see them, and you're in an Afghanistan and you've

1192
01:04:08,320 --> 01:04:11,920
Speaker 2: got to realize that, you know, Afghanistan is about as

1193
01:04:11,960 --> 01:04:15,440
Speaker 2: impoverished as you get. And you hear the stories about,

1194
01:04:15,520 --> 01:04:17,720
Speaker 2: you know, little girls trying to go to school and

1195
01:04:17,760 --> 01:04:21,520
Speaker 2: being burned or being raped, and little boys being you know,

1196
01:04:22,920 --> 01:04:26,120
Speaker 2: the pedophilia going on in the culture, the eye for

1197
01:04:26,160 --> 01:04:29,400
Speaker 2: an eye culture that exists, and you know, like, how

1198
01:04:29,440 --> 01:04:34,640
Speaker 2: are these young people gonna experience life at a higher degree?

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01:04:35,240 --> 01:04:35,960
Speaker 1: How are all the.

1200
01:04:35,920 --> 01:04:40,720
Speaker 2: Young people in America or older people that are experiencing

1201
01:04:40,840 --> 01:04:45,000
Speaker 2: profound mental health challenges? How are they going to experience

1202
01:04:45,120 --> 01:04:48,000
Speaker 2: life as we deserve it to be experienced, which is

1203
01:04:48,440 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 2: through a perception of a confident perspective where we can

1204
01:04:53,760 --> 01:04:56,160
Speaker 2: figure out what our purpose and meaning and life is.

1205
01:04:56,600 --> 01:04:59,240
Speaker 2: And that's by figuring out how to keep that self

1206
01:04:59,280 --> 01:05:06,320
Speaker 2: confidence intact on whatever battlefield that you face every single day. Again,

1207
01:05:07,280 --> 01:05:10,720
Speaker 2: where Jordan and I feel so blessed that you listen

1208
01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:13,280
Speaker 2: to us, that you pay attention to the show, that

1209
01:05:13,360 --> 01:05:16,160
Speaker 2: you're paying attention to what we're doing and how we're

1210
01:05:16,200 --> 01:05:19,680
Speaker 2: trying to help. And I just if if this message

1211
01:05:19,880 --> 01:05:23,720
Speaker 2: hits you and you feel good and it makes a difference,

1212
01:05:23,880 --> 01:05:26,920
Speaker 2: just give us a shot. Head over to David Rutherford

1213
01:05:26,960 --> 01:05:31,040
Speaker 2: dot dot com and check out the course of Forging

1214
01:05:31,080 --> 01:05:33,720
Speaker 2: Self Confidence. We also have embraced fear in living the

1215
01:05:33,760 --> 01:05:37,800
Speaker 2: team life. But I put all this together for you

1216
01:05:38,520 --> 01:05:40,880
Speaker 2: because that's what my mission in life is. That's what

1217
01:05:40,920 --> 01:05:44,680
Speaker 2: my purpose is is to try and take these experiences and.

1218
01:05:44,720 --> 01:05:47,880
Speaker 1: What I've learned and to help other people. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much, God bless you.