1 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:12,800 Speaker 1: Hi guys, and welcome to a new episode of Couch 2 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:16,600 Speaker 1: Talks on You Need Therapy. My name is Cat and 3 00:00:17,120 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: Couch Shocks is the special bonus episode of You Need 4 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:23,120 Speaker 1: Therapy that comes out every single Wednesday where I answer 5 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: questions that you guys send to Catherine at You Need 6 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:28,480 Speaker 1: Therapy podcast dot com. So if you have a question 7 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:30,639 Speaker 1: or comment, or I just want to say hi, you 8 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,919 Speaker 1: can email me directly there. Now, before we get going 9 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: into this week's question, little reminder that, yeah, I'm answering 10 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:41,479 Speaker 1: questions somewhat. At the same time, this is not therapy. 11 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 1: This is not served as a replacement for therapy, but 12 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:47,600 Speaker 1: it might lead you to talking about something different in 13 00:00:47,640 --> 00:00:50,559 Speaker 1: therapy or you to go find a therapist of your 14 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:53,239 Speaker 1: own one day. Also, I still get a lot of 15 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:57,280 Speaker 1: messages about help finding a therapist. And although I would 16 00:00:57,320 --> 00:00:59,560 Speaker 1: love to be able to dedicate my life to helping 17 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: people get connected with therapists that they would really drive with, 18 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 1: I cannot do that and I really don't know that 19 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:10,720 Speaker 1: many therapists and other areas outside of Nashville. So I 20 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:14,520 Speaker 1: do have a little slide a carousel on the NI 21 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: Therapy podcast page where it gives tips on how to 22 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: find a therapist. And also that's in the highlights on 23 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: the Union Therapy podcast page on Instagram, So look there again. 24 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: WOULD love to help you out more, but I don't 25 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 1: really have the capacity to do that, So I made 26 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: that side for you guys a while ago instead, And 27 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 1: I think we've probably done an episode on it at 28 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 1: some point over the last couple of years. So let's 29 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 1: get into this week's episode. This question actually is coming 30 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 1: from a conversation with a friend rather than an email, 31 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: because I think it was a really good question, and 32 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: I bet some of you guys are thinking it or 33 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 1: you don't even know that you need to ask it now. 34 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: I have talked before about the problem I have both 35 00:01:56,240 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 1: experienced personally and heard repeated over and over in my office, 36 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:04,560 Speaker 1: and that problem is the experience of trauma dumping on 37 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: first dates and calling it like intimacy. Now, my friend 38 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,799 Speaker 1: was asking when it is appropriate to share intimate and 39 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: vulnerable details about you or your life, um, when you're 40 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: dating somebody new, and when it's too early or when 41 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 1: it's like too late and almost like you're holding back information, 42 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:26,639 Speaker 1: like when it's the appropriate time to reveal super important 43 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 1: yet scary parts of your story, and I think what 44 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: has happened is the experience of how dating goes these days, 45 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:36,679 Speaker 1: um with dating apps and the way we're accustomed to 46 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: dating kind of messes with the initial answer that I 47 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: like want to really give here. It's very normal to 48 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 1: talk to someone for weeks before meeting up with them 49 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 1: for the first time and actually seeing them. So you 50 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: may start to do things that feel very relationship e 51 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:57,959 Speaker 1: before an actual first date, for example, good morning texts, 52 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: which is such beird experience to be getting these like 53 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: good morning and good night texts from somebody that you 54 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 1: have never met and you don't even know if you 55 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: really like, and it's like, oh, this is a whole 56 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 1: strange situation. You also may start to learn a lot 57 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 1: about each other before the actual first date, and then 58 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,639 Speaker 1: the first date isn't really like a first date, it's 59 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 1: like a seventh date, and so it can feel like 60 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: natural will want to dive into the depths of your 61 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: story right away, or because texting feels so much more safe, 62 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: you may even dive into those depths before the first date, 63 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: and so you know the intimate things before you really 64 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 1: meet them. And then you meet this person, you're like, well, 65 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: you know everything about me, and then you don't have 66 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: the experience of building intimacy. There just feels like it 67 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: should automatically be there, and then it just feels like awkward. 68 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 1: You get like the feeling of in quotes intimacy, where 69 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: you have learned a lot of information about someone and 70 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 1: you have been in quotes vulnerable or they have been 71 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 1: in quotes vulnerable, and it feels like you've known each 72 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 1: other for forever. And so it goes until then it's 73 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: like the third date and you're like, I don't even 74 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: really know if I like this person, and now they 75 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: know all this stuff about me, and like their personality 76 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: doesn't drive with mine. Or you're like I feel very 77 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 1: awkward because I don't know this person at all but 78 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: they know all these things about me, or you're like, 79 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, what is happening? That feels like this 80 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: is my boyfriend and my girlfriend and like it's only 81 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 1: been a week. This is because building a relationship doesn't 82 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 1: just include gaining information. It is a combination of time, 83 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: experiences and information. Information is just that it's just information. 84 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 1: You can know a lot about someone without really knowing them, 85 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:35,480 Speaker 1: But intimacy really includes a level of trust that takes 86 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:39,279 Speaker 1: time to build with somebody. Trust doesn't just given it 87 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: the step of a finger. I feel safe with you 88 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 1: because I've experienced feeling safe with you versus you just 89 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:47,479 Speaker 1: told me that you are safe or I just told 90 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 1: myself that you are safe. That's not building anything. So 91 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 1: I don't know that there's like a certain time frame 92 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:55,880 Speaker 1: of which you should or shouldn't reveal the vulnerable parts 93 00:04:55,880 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 1: of your story. But I do think there's a step 94 00:04:57,920 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: that comes before sharing your most intimate details somebody. You 95 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 1: need a foundation, and it may feel boring, but a 96 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:08,719 Speaker 1: foundation includes figuring out what someone like their favorite food is, 97 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: or learning about their family or what they do for 98 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:14,559 Speaker 1: a living, asking questions about funny stories from their past, 99 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 1: or getting curious about places that they want to travel 100 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:21,279 Speaker 1: or have traveled before. Like your building a foundation, getting 101 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: to know about who someone is before you're just getting 102 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 1: all of this like just like information that then forces 103 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:31,880 Speaker 1: us into this vortex of forced volderability. Also, may I add, 104 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: not every single person that you will date or you 105 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 1: will attempt to date, deserves to know everything about you, 106 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,159 Speaker 1: Like there are parts of you that you're allowed to say, 107 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:44,679 Speaker 1: like m this is for the people that I really 108 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:47,159 Speaker 1: really really really feel safe with, and I want to 109 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:49,520 Speaker 1: save that for those people. I think parts of us 110 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:51,480 Speaker 1: sometimes want to like throw that out in the beginning 111 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 1: in case like it's going to scare somebody away. But 112 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:57,000 Speaker 1: once you've built a foundation with somebody, yeah, there's always 113 00:05:57,080 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: going to be a ability for somebody to be like 114 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:03,640 Speaker 1: a piece now, and you're always risking this idea of 115 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:06,480 Speaker 1: rejection or or abandonment if that's what it feels like 116 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 1: when engaging in a relationship. But throwing it out on 117 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 1: the front end doesn't actually like avoid that scaring somebody away. 118 00:06:14,440 --> 00:06:17,840 Speaker 1: What it might actually do is push somebody away and 119 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: take away the opportunity for you to even connect with 120 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: them in the first place, which defense mechanism. We all 121 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 1: got them now. I actually played this game with the 122 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:31,160 Speaker 1: very lucky guy that I'm dating now. We've played this 123 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 1: game on our second date that I think helped build 124 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 1: some rapport between us. Then the game is called make 125 00:06:38,040 --> 00:06:40,039 Speaker 1: It or Break It. I'm sure a lot of you 126 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 1: have heard of it or played it, but basically what 127 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: it is is you like ask the other person. You'll say, 128 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: make it or break it? Perfect guy, perfect girl, perfect 129 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:52,039 Speaker 1: whatever it is that you would think was perfect. However, 130 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:55,279 Speaker 1: there is this one thing about them, like one weird 131 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:57,360 Speaker 1: quality make it or break it? Would that be a 132 00:06:57,440 --> 00:07:00,359 Speaker 1: deal breaker. And you can start out really still, and 133 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: then as you you go you need a little more serious. 134 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 1: And it's fun because it can just be funny and 135 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:07,400 Speaker 1: you can laugh about things and just have a good time. 136 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: But you also in it learn a lot about somebody 137 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:12,560 Speaker 1: by hearing their thought processes, and you learn a lot 138 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: about their like morals and their values and like what's 139 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 1: important to them and what they don't really care about. 140 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 1: And I think it was a great idea for me 141 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: to whip it out on our second day, and I 142 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 1: think he would agree. And we even still will throw 143 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:26,640 Speaker 1: things out every once in a while and be like, oh, 144 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 1: make it a break it if we see something or 145 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 1: think of something. And an example of one of the 146 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:36,160 Speaker 1: ones that I asked on that second date was so 147 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 1: you can start out weird was make it or break it? Perfect? Girl? 148 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:43,960 Speaker 1: Every everybody's obsessed with her. You're obsessed with her. Mom 149 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: loves her all the things, except every time she goes 150 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: to a new place, new building, she has to lick 151 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 1: the door frame from the bottom all the way to 152 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 1: the top to enter the building. Once she does it 153 00:07:55,880 --> 00:07:57,520 Speaker 1: the first time, she never has to do it again. 154 00:07:58,080 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 1: But like if she's going to your house, the first 155 00:07:59,840 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 1: time she goes to your house, she has to look 156 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: the door frame. You take her to a new restaurant, 157 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: the first time she walks into the rest, she has 158 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 1: to look the door frame, saying with like your parents 159 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 1: house or whatever, it is a hotel room. And uh, 160 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure that he said make it. And he 161 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: was like, I mean, if that's the worst thing, it's 162 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 1: not like she would be a horrible person. It's just 163 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: like a weird quality that she has. And I was like, okay, 164 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: So this says a lot about like things that he 165 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:27,200 Speaker 1: finds embarrassing, or his willingness to sit in like some 166 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 1: kind of discomfort, how he judges people. Another one that 167 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 1: I asked was like, make it or break it? Perfect 168 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: person ever, except your mom hates her. And I'm not 169 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: going to reveal that answer. But then we moved into 170 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: like another one I asked was making or break it? 171 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:45,959 Speaker 1: They sleep? It was either they sleep underneath the bed 172 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: or they sleep in a different room in the house, 173 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:51,080 Speaker 1: And the underneath the bed one was it's funny but 174 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: Also you learn about like what their experience and what 175 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:57,440 Speaker 1: they want a need when it comes to physical touch, 176 00:08:57,480 --> 00:08:59,720 Speaker 1: but you're doing it in this like safe way where 177 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:01,959 Speaker 1: it does and feel like threatening. So you're learning a 178 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:04,959 Speaker 1: lot about these people in a non threatening, fun way. 179 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:08,680 Speaker 1: But it's also creating conversation to build upon because we 180 00:09:08,760 --> 00:09:10,679 Speaker 1: might talk about one of those things that might lead 181 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: us into something else, that leads us into something else, 182 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:15,480 Speaker 1: and then we're having this conversation that feels really really 183 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 1: deep and in fun at the same time. And it 184 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 1: started from this little game, not me sitting down and 185 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:22,199 Speaker 1: being like, let me tell you about everything I need 186 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 1: in relationships now. The reason I'm telling you this is because, 187 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:30,280 Speaker 1: like I said, you can start to build intimacy without 188 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 1: sharing your whole relationship history and the timeline of your 189 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: mental and emotional and physical health. Then as you build 190 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:37,719 Speaker 1: trust and you get to know someone, these things will 191 00:09:37,760 --> 00:09:40,280 Speaker 1: start to present themselves in a natural and safe way 192 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 1: where there's no rush. And we have to remember that 193 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: in healthy relationships there is and there never will be 194 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: a rush. There's plenty of time to continue to get 195 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 1: to know somebody throughout a relationship. And if there is 196 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:54,880 Speaker 1: a rush, if I start to feel a rush is 197 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 1: important for me to check in with what is this 198 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 1: rush telling me? Is the rush real? Is the US 199 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 1: coming from me? Or is there rush coming from pressure 200 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: I feel from this person and really get curious about that, 201 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 1: rather than I have to go and tell all these 202 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 1: things about myself to this person and we have to 203 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 1: build this relationship and we have to know everything about 204 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:14,080 Speaker 1: each other. There's so many things that I do not 205 00:10:14,160 --> 00:10:16,320 Speaker 1: know about the person I'm dating right now, and I 206 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 1: will figure them out as time goes by. Sam goes 207 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:21,240 Speaker 1: for him, and I think a question that we can 208 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:23,679 Speaker 1: ask ourselves over and over again, and you might need 209 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 1: help answering it if you just really don't know. What 210 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 1: would be appropriate is looking at the amount of time 211 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: you've been with somebody, asking does he know the appropriate 212 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:34,080 Speaker 1: or do they know the appropriate amount of information for 213 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:36,679 Speaker 1: how long they have known me? Because if they've only 214 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 1: known me for a couple of months, they don't have 215 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 1: to know my life story. If they've only known me 216 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 1: for two dates, they don't need to know my whole 217 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 1: life story. If we've been dating for five years and 218 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 1: they don't know my parents names, like I think that 219 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 1: would be inappropriate, But you see where I'm going there, 220 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:53,559 Speaker 1: So it's all relative. There's no one answer here, like 221 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:55,880 Speaker 1: there never is. But I think what I really want 222 00:10:55,920 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: to encourage you guys to sit away and get curious 223 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 1: about when you're wondering, when it's the right time. What 224 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:04,120 Speaker 1: should I say, what should I not say? Is start 225 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: with the idea. There's never a rush to figure it 226 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:08,679 Speaker 1: out right away. And what would it be like to 227 00:11:08,840 --> 00:11:13,160 Speaker 1: build a foundation rather than going straight in with the 228 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:15,559 Speaker 1: idea of on our first date, we have to build intimacy. 229 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,560 Speaker 1: We got to build a foundation so then we can 230 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 1: create intimacy. So I hope that was helpful. Shout out 231 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:24,360 Speaker 1: to my friend who I will keep anonymous, but she 232 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:27,200 Speaker 1: knows who she is for even bringing that topic up. 233 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 1: And I hope you guys are having the Wednesday or 234 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:31,760 Speaker 1: whatever day it is that you need to have. I 235 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:35,000 Speaker 1: will be back with you on Monday for the regular 236 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 1: episode of You Need Therapy.