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Speaker 3: Karen is forcing me to take in a homeless man.

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Speaker 3: Karen is forcing me to take in a homeless man.

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Speaker 3: Unless those cats are like serious ninjas. Just like she

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Speaker 2: Well, that's what happens when you come in with a

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Speaker 3: totally take them in. But I have daughters to protect. Well,

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Speaker 2: Yeah? She has no one except the cats except the cats,

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Speaker 3: And I told her as well, my husband is deployed.

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Speaker 3: Karen's reply to that is that I've done something great

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Speaker 3: while he was away. Oh hi, honey, I took in

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Speaker 2: What a great welcome home present.

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Speaker 3: Exactly not a good enough reason. My flimsy door lock

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Speaker 2: it's probably very good reason for that, all the rules.

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Speaker 3: I'd get banned if I took him home. She told

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Speaker 3: How it's such a shame that I spare bedrooms of

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Speaker 3: I again state, I don't feel safe. He could do

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know why she's forcing it so much.

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Speaker 3: She badgered me the entire ride home, too, just going

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Speaker 3: She tells me it's not too to go for.

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Speaker 3: She knows where a lot of homeless like to sleep. Okay,

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Speaker 3: She tells me, while she just hopes nothing happens to him,

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Speaker 3: if me locking myself in my bedroom is good enough

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Speaker 2: Daughters lock themselves in exactly.

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Speaker 3: At least if something happens, they can scream for help

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Speaker 3: Exactly, I'm home alone and I couldn't do anything. And

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Speaker 3: Your daughter's safety shouldn't be any more important than mine. Snap,

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