1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,080 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for kicking out my pregnant 2 00:00:02,120 --> 00:00:05,920 Speaker 1: girlfriend after she stole from me? Maybe this comes from 3 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 1: throwaway five seven five eight four eight four they say, 4 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:10,840 Speaker 1: long story short, My girlfriend and I have been living 5 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: together for around ten months. When she first moved in, 6 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 1: she insisted on paying rent, and I was reluctant to 7 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: charge if it didn't work out, but she forced it 8 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,720 Speaker 1: and paid. A month, I found out she's struggling for money, 9 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 1: unable to pay for things, is in a lot of debt, 10 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: and lives month to month. She agreed with me that 11 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: she'd start when she clears the debt. Fast forward to Christmas, 12 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:33,160 Speaker 1: I find out she's been stealing my clothes to give 13 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,879 Speaker 1: to her family as gifts. Another post on here. She 14 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:38,919 Speaker 1: lied for two weeks blaming me until I showed her 15 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: footage of her taking the things from the camera in 16 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 1: the living room to watch the dog when I'm out, 17 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:46,880 Speaker 1: and I later discovered through letters and texts I've seen 18 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: that appear on her phone that she's been doing nothing 19 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:52,159 Speaker 1: to pay off any of it. So I confront her. 20 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 1: So basically, Opie's girlfriend has been stealing, not paying any rent, 21 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: and lying. 22 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:01,320 Speaker 2: Well, what's so crazy is that she was like initially 23 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:04,479 Speaker 2: paying rent. And I imagine if she had just not 24 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 2: paid him a rent initially, because I guess she was, 25 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:08,720 Speaker 2: you know, like her pride, she wanted to like contribute 26 00:01:08,760 --> 00:01:11,559 Speaker 2: to it. If she had not paid the rent, maybe 27 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 2: she wouldn't have had to steal his clothes. 28 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: This is crazy. What are you doing? Why are you 29 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:20,360 Speaker 1: stealing clothes? Chritis Sophia, what's going on here? Also? How 30 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: are you stealing his clothes? Oh? I guess she's giving 31 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:24,559 Speaker 1: it to her male family members as. 32 00:01:24,480 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 3: Present or she's selling it on eBay. 33 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 1: No, she's giving it to other people as presents, clothes 34 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: to give to her family as gifts go to good 35 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,120 Speaker 1: freaking Will. But he has a better selection. 36 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 3: He's got like some Burberry watches. 37 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 1: And you know I'm not I'm thrifting from your thrifted. 38 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 2: And we stand a thrifting queen, stand a thrifting Queen's like, 39 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 2: I know. 40 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 3: You wanted to go minimalist. This is kind of the. 41 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 1: Mur welcome for clearing out your closet condoms. Yeah, I'm 42 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:58,639 Speaker 1: faring joy anyway. Yeah, So I confront her. She tells 43 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 1: me and shows me messages that her her mother and 44 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: sisters constantly guilt trip her into giving them money and 45 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: have for years. The blind leading the blind, the poor, 46 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:11,639 Speaker 1: giving to the poor. Robinhood Robinhood. Yeah, yeah, PHE's girlfriend 47 00:02:11,680 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: is a regular Robinhood. 48 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 3: Except you're robbing from the ridge like Robinhood. 49 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 2: No, I was gonna say, robbing from the poor. Yeah, No, 50 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 2: he's rich, That's what I'm saying. That's what I got 51 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 2: the intern of warro. 52 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:23,760 Speaker 1: Anyway, Bill message her on payday asking for it, and 53 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: she'll feel bad saying no, despite none of them ever 54 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 1: paying it back. Her mom alone owes her six thousand quid. 55 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:34,440 Speaker 1: She's taking a ton of loans out for her family 56 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 1: and they leave her with the debt and they don't 57 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 1: pay it back. Luckily, her credit is now at the 58 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: point where nobody will loan to her, but she still 59 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,680 Speaker 1: tries and does it for them. I also found out 60 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,960 Speaker 1: and went through her finances. Yes I shouldn't have, but 61 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: something wasn't adding up and I was being allied to that. 62 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,919 Speaker 1: In the space of twenty minutes, he spent three hundred 63 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 1: quid on gambling sites. All during this time, she isn't 64 00:02:56,560 --> 00:03:01,280 Speaker 1: paying a penny whech rent bills anything, casionally by food shopping, 65 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 1: or trips out to Starbucks. I tell her enough is 66 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 1: enough and she needs to start paying her way. If 67 00:03:06,360 --> 00:03:09,080 Speaker 1: she can give handouts to her family and gamble, she 68 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 1: can pay for where she lives. And she's taken me 69 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:13,960 Speaker 1: for a ride when she should have been saving and 70 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:14,959 Speaker 1: clearing her debts. 71 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 2: I mean, although Opie was originally like, I don't want 72 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:19,839 Speaker 2: you to pay rent. 73 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 1: Like it feels like the relationship is kind of deteriorating, 74 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,119 Speaker 1: and now Opie's like, you are no longer my girlfriend. 75 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: You're a roommate that's freelow. I'm your landlord. Yeah. 76 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 3: Well, I feel like there's. 77 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 4: A difference between like, yeah, I don't want you to 78 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 4: pay rent and the girlfriend's like no, no, no, I'm going 79 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 4: to pay rent, like all right, and then she just 80 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 4: starts stealing from him. I feel like there's a. 81 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, the stealing is stealing Loki. It's like, just repay 82 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 2: me back for all the stuff you stole. 83 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: Almost right, Yeah, I make roughly five times what she does, 84 00:03:49,600 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 1: really Robin Hood stealing her from the rich over here. 85 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: Opie's rich, she does, but I've been fair and the 86 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 1: bills are split proportional to income. She'll earn fourteen hundred 87 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: per month and six hundred quid, which includes rent and 88 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 1: her share of bills. Damn op, he's making five times 89 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: at Ope, he's making seven grand a month, don't quid 90 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 1: seven thousand, probably eight or nine thousand. Yeah, I take 91 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: on the rest, which is substantially more, but I believe 92 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,479 Speaker 1: it's not fair to take more. On the first of 93 00:04:17,520 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 1: this month, she tells me she can't pay rent. She 94 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 1: says she's paid too much on our trips to Starbucks. 95 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:26,760 Speaker 1: At least she's maybe honest. You know those lattes they 96 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: stack up bang inflation food shopping, and I'll get it 97 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:33,359 Speaker 1: when I get it, which means nothing. Really, i'll do 98 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 1: it when I do it, literally means nothing. You'll just 99 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: say if I do it, I've done it. 100 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 4: She's kindergarten teaching him. She's like, you get what he gets. 101 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 4: Don't get upset. 102 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 1: That's yeah, but hope he's getting nothing. It's like, be 103 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:47,719 Speaker 1: happy with nothing, and now he's getting upset. So I 104 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:50,279 Speaker 1: get it, but she doesn't understand why I need it 105 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: this month when she's lived for free for the past 106 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 1: nine months. Anyway, I asked her to explain where her 107 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 1: money was and has exactly gone but she tells me 108 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 1: I'm ConTroll and it's none of my business and fairness. 109 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:04,599 Speaker 1: She will pay when we go food shopping, but rarely 110 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 1: in comparison to me. I've kicked her out as of 111 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 1: yesterday and told her she needs to find somewhere to live. 112 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 1: Oh no, read it, say I read it. Read it. 113 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:16,840 Speaker 1: She is, however, pregnant burying the Lido pee and she's 114 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: using that as a card as a way to count 115 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: trip me and make out that I've thrown her out 116 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: and my child onto the streets. I mean, I'm yes, 117 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:28,920 Speaker 1: you didn't say that she was pregnant. 118 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 4: Dude. He's like, she won't work, and she keeps telling 119 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 4: me she's got my baby. 120 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:36,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she's nine months pregnant. 121 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 2: She allegedly has this child growing inside of her. 122 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: When I see the kid in my arm, yeah exactly. Anyway, Wow, 123 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:46,480 Speaker 1: in my opinion, she's taking me for a ride and 124 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 1: prioritizing her family. That is using her over her own family. 125 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: She started. What's the solution here to getting her to 126 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: see she's not treating me fairmly tld. Our girlfriend hasn't 127 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:59,720 Speaker 1: paid rent for nine months, whilst she was supposed to 128 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: be clearing debts. Instead, she was giving money to her 129 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 1: family gambling, and I've thrown her out because she's refusing 130 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:07,160 Speaker 1: to pay. Again, she is pregnant. Okay, so we have 131 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:11,160 Speaker 1: some very important information that Opie's girlfriend is pregnant. What 132 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:14,000 Speaker 1: do you think about Opie throwing out his pregnant girlfriend 133 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:16,279 Speaker 1: because of everything that's happened. That is too much? Also, 134 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 1: but she's stealing. Okay, yes she's stealing. 135 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:21,159 Speaker 2: But but but they have the whole dynamic of what 136 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 2: happens when this child comes onto this earth and what 137 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 2: does their relationship look like and how will they are 138 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:29,800 Speaker 2: they co parenting because they're breaking up, Like, I feel 139 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 2: like there's a mountain of things that need to be 140 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:36,039 Speaker 2: communicated that aren't. So we need to like sit down 141 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:39,919 Speaker 2: and talk about like what that all is going to 142 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:42,640 Speaker 2: look like. Maybe there is a scenario where he's like, hey, 143 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:44,600 Speaker 2: I can't have you living here, but like we need 144 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 2: to talk about what's going to happen to the baby. 145 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: I mean, if someone is gambling away their money, not 146 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: paying any rent and stealing my stuff but they're pregnant 147 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 1: with my kid, yeah, you don't. You definitely don't want 148 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 1: to enable them. Rick, That's hard. What if it's this 149 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:00,080 Speaker 1: here we go turn. 150 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 2: Leave, stay, meaning you I will let you stay at 151 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 2: my place from you know now, until a few months 152 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 2: after the baby is born, like like like a standard 153 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:15,120 Speaker 2: maternity leave, so that way the baby is safe through 154 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 2: all those times, and then I will house and care 155 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 2: for the baby at my house. 156 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 1: Afterwards, and you can visit and you can visit. 157 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 2: But if you do not, like, here's my requirements of like, 158 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 2: you know, you're not stealing, you're not gambling all the 159 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 2: all of these things. And I'm not going to give 160 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 2: you like any extra money or anything like cover extra 161 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:33,560 Speaker 2: stuff like it did in the past, maybe groceries, Like 162 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 2: I buy the groceries and then you eat it. 163 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 1: But what do you think about that? 164 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 2: I mean that, and you have that time to improve 165 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 2: to prove to me that you are good. I mean, 166 00:07:40,400 --> 00:07:41,920 Speaker 2: can maybe continue this relationship? 167 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:45,239 Speaker 1: Maybe? Yeah, I mean I think he should definitely stop 168 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: the stealing. I don't know, it's hard, it's so complicated 169 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 1: because it's his kid. If it was my kid, I 170 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:54,160 Speaker 1: would probably have them live with me rather than have 171 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 1: them out on the street. Yeah, ideally they live somewhere else. Also, 172 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: are they like still in a relationship. 173 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 2: That's the thing is that, like it sounds like they 174 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:04,240 Speaker 2: haven't even talked about that at all. He's just like, Oh, 175 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 2: you're not gonna live here anymore. But it's like, are 176 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 2: we like taking a break? Are you breaking up with 177 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:10,280 Speaker 2: me first? To find the relationship? Are you still boyfriend? 178 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 1: And girls are on and off again? They're on and 179 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: off again? Not again? All right? Define the relationship? Yes, 180 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: Priority one two. No tolerance for stealing. If she steals again, if. 181 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 2: You steal from me, if you do any of these 182 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 2: things once, as soon as your maternity leave period is over, 183 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 2: you're gone. And I'm telling you now, so you have 184 00:08:27,280 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 2: you know. 185 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: Why doesn't she uh why could she live with her 186 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: mom or sister? 187 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 2: I mean if they need to steal from OP, like, 188 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 2: that doesn't sound like a great environment to be Maybe 189 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 2: you could be right, but maybe OP is like, Hey, 190 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 2: I don't want my baby, you know, pre and post 191 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 2: birth to be living in that unstable sounding environment. At 192 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:47,120 Speaker 2: least I can like make sure that the baby is 193 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 2: cared for, and then you know, a few months after 194 00:08:49,559 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 2: the baby's born, then you know, you got it. You 195 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 2: got to figure it out on your own. Now you 196 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 2: can you can go live with them and in a 197 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 2: stable environment. But my child is here and safe and 198 00:08:57,040 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 2: well cared for. I feel like that's a pretty what 199 00:08:58,559 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 2: do you think, Sofia, I feel. 200 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 3: Like it's a and I think that makes sense to me. 201 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, And that gives her like enough time to like, 202 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:07,319 Speaker 1: you're still on the maternity leave residency. 203 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, and basically if you mess up once you're out 204 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 2: after the four months, Yeah. 205 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,199 Speaker 4: I think he could also sue for child, like full 206 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 4: custody custody. 207 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, because he like, look at all this evidence he has, 208 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 2: it's like she's stealing, like she admitted to it. 209 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:24,440 Speaker 4: Well, yeah, he can say she doesn't have the proper funds, 210 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 4: nor does she have a home, keep. 211 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:29,079 Speaker 1: The receipts, so you can get full custody of the kid. 212 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: That's what you should do. Oh, here we go, here 213 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 1: we go, Here we go, here we go. You and 214 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,840 Speaker 1: this is basically piggybacking off John with extra justification, so 215 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 1: maternity leave residency and during that time, basically use everything 216 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:43,959 Speaker 1: crappy that she does, which she's going to do, as 217 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 1: evidence to build your case. At four months, I think 218 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: you already know this person isn't going to be good 219 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: for your kid. Use that to get full custody. So 220 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:52,880 Speaker 1: then you're taking care of your kid, you're taking care 221 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:54,960 Speaker 1: of her while she's pregnant, and you're building a case 222 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: for your future to get full custody of your kid. 223 00:09:56,960 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: I'm so down with maternity residency. I think it's a 224 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:01,040 Speaker 1: great idea. Yeah, what would you guys do? Put your 225 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:03,200 Speaker 1: answers in the comments below. But there is an update. 226 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:06,680 Speaker 1: Oh so update March twentieth, twenty twenty four. It sat 227 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 1: her down and gave her an ultimatum early last week. 228 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: Love an ultimatum. I explained to her that we are 229 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 1: a family and became a family when she decided to 230 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 1: have a baby with me. I told her, if we're 231 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: going to stay together, okay, I guess, oh, he's staying 232 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 1: together with this person, She's going to have to be 233 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: a lot more open, which I guess means don't lie 234 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:26,200 Speaker 1: to me and steal from me, contribute which I guess 235 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: means don't steal, and no more taking on debt she 236 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: can't afford, which brings it to my door when she 237 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:33,520 Speaker 1: can't pay. I also told her I want to see 238 00:10:33,520 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 1: her bank statements because I suspect that she has a 239 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 1: gambling problem and is in some serious debt. 240 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 3: I just suspect it. 241 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 4: Respect No, we know she's she's lost three hundred dollars 242 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 4: in debt to gambling. 243 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 3: But I just just. 244 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 2: Got to hit in twenty minutes, in twenty three hundred 245 00:10:49,920 --> 00:10:50,920 Speaker 2: bucks in twenty minutes. 246 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:52,360 Speaker 3: That's crazy. 247 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:55,320 Speaker 1: She's gonna be on a winning stay. Yeah, she's gonna 248 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: bounce back on the next day. It's a rough period. 249 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 2: We got loose to win sometimes exactly, it's called investing. 250 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:05,560 Speaker 1: You know ninety percent of gamblers quit right before a 251 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 1: big win. Is that true? You said it so confident. 252 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: I mean, if you keep gambling, you're probably gonna win 253 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: at some point, but win more than you lost. 254 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 2: Well, no, of course not, but win a one single win. 255 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 2: And you know what they say, never give up, dude, 256 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 2: that is so true. Ever give up anyway. 257 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 1: I suspect she was a gambling problem in some serious 258 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 1: dead She agreed to all of this and is committed 259 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 1: to showing me the bank statements when I ask, and 260 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 1: says going forward, she'll pay towards bills. I believe she's 261 00:11:29,960 --> 00:11:32,680 Speaker 1: turned a corner and starts and I've started getting along 262 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:35,120 Speaker 1: with her better, and she has moved back in so 263 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:38,680 Speaker 1: one happy family. Nothing can go wrong. There's no way this. 264 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 3: Doesn't everything's gonna be perfect. 265 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is gonna suck. Yeah, this is gonna suck. 266 00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: As I was sitting next to her phone last night, 267 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: she went to grab a drink and her phone lit 268 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 1: up with a text message. It read loan accepted by 269 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:56,520 Speaker 1: ex lender click here to accept. I immediately called her out, 270 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: and she starts crying, telling me she has no money 271 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: left again for the month and she's had to resort 272 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:04,840 Speaker 1: to payday loans for some money. I tell her she 273 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: should have come to me, and I told her I 274 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 1: expectitly said no more loans. 275 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 2: This is immediately unraveling, immediately, like. 276 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 4: These are the rules. Here you go, we can work 277 00:12:16,320 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 4: this out. She's like for sure two seconds later. 278 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 3: So I may be a littlone, but. 279 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:25,520 Speaker 1: So Fie, I feel you're forgetting that. No one could 280 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:28,040 Speaker 1: have signed this coming, no one can take coming impossible. 281 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:29,679 Speaker 1: We had no indicator. 282 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:30,559 Speaker 3: I am shocked. 283 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:33,800 Speaker 1: We have no predictive tools, no predictive tools, we have no. 284 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 3: Help at all. 285 00:12:35,920 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 1: No, no tension was perfect it perc So she also 286 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:41,880 Speaker 1: tells me that she won't be able to afford to 287 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:46,040 Speaker 1: pay towards bills. Again. This was the following month after diversation. 288 00:12:46,160 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 1: She works full time and brings home around fourteen hundred 289 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:51,880 Speaker 1: dollars to twelvehund dollars a month, depending on hours, but 290 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 1: a lot of the time she phones sick so gets 291 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:56,000 Speaker 1: sick pay, which is a lot less. I asked to 292 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 1: see her bank statements and she refuses, telling me, I'm 293 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:03,440 Speaker 1: being controlling. You literally agreed to this. You can't control anything. 294 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:08,160 Speaker 1: You have no self control. Someone needs to help control Op. Honestly, 295 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:11,439 Speaker 1: this person just needs to have no control over their finances, 296 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:14,319 Speaker 1: Like this person should give Op control over their finances, 297 00:13:14,480 --> 00:13:17,760 Speaker 1: like no control over Op's own finance. No, no, no, Op's 298 00:13:17,800 --> 00:13:20,120 Speaker 1: girlfriend needs to not control her finance. 299 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:23,040 Speaker 2: Oh yes, a thousand percent. But honestly, is this a 300 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:25,480 Speaker 2: situation where she she just has to go to rock 301 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:28,440 Speaker 2: bottom in order to finally, she's clearly not getting the message. 302 00:13:28,440 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 3: Feel like she's at rock bottom though she's not. 303 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:35,320 Speaker 1: She's living in a house. Yeah wait, post maternity leaves, you're. 304 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:38,080 Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, she'll be out on the streets. That's so sad, 305 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:38,760 Speaker 3: that's so. 306 00:13:38,679 --> 00:13:41,960 Speaker 1: Sad, but true. Anyway, I asked to your bank statements, 307 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 1: and she told me I'll be controlling. I don't need 308 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:45,679 Speaker 1: to see them. That's the last straw for me. I'm 309 00:13:45,720 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 1: almost certain she's been giving it away at this point, 310 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 1: or gambling. I give her a scenario, your baby is 311 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:53,880 Speaker 1: starving and needs food and there's none in the house. 312 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 1: Where are you going to go? 313 00:13:55,080 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 4: Giving her hypotheticals, He's like, Okay, imagine your baby starving 314 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:01,440 Speaker 4: on the state island. 315 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:05,079 Speaker 1: Three books? Which books do you bring? She replies, you'll 316 00:14:05,080 --> 00:14:08,200 Speaker 1: have to pay. That's fine, I'll happily support my son. 317 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 1: I tell her, because the mother is clearly a deadbeat, 318 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:13,840 Speaker 1: so I asked to see her Facebook messenger to see 319 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:15,840 Speaker 1: if her family has been hitting her up for free 320 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:18,839 Speaker 1: money again. And conveniently, all of the family members that 321 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 1: borrow from her have the chats cleared. She says, she 322 00:14:21,640 --> 00:14:24,880 Speaker 1: deletes them to be tidy, yet mine's still there. Yeah, yeah, 323 00:14:24,920 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 1: the classic I deleted to be diidy. I told her 324 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: this isn't going to work, and she tells me I'm 325 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 1: a controlling freak, and she agrees. 326 00:14:31,840 --> 00:14:34,880 Speaker 3: No longer at control freak. You are a controlling. 327 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:38,160 Speaker 1: Freak, controlling free freak of controlling. And I have not 328 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:40,640 Speaker 1: heard from her since. More of the story is she's 329 00:14:40,680 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 1: too damaged from her upbringing. I'm guessing that some people 330 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 1: you just can't change. She still messages me asking how 331 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:48,360 Speaker 1: I am, but I'm just ignoring her except for anything 332 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:50,480 Speaker 1: baby related. I need to move on. I know a 333 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:53,000 Speaker 1: lot of people question whether she's pregnant, how stupid I 334 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:55,400 Speaker 1: was to get her pregnant. I agree, And if it's mine, 335 00:14:55,440 --> 00:14:58,080 Speaker 1: I've been to every scan so I know she's pregnant. 336 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 1: As for if it's mine, I've ever suspected cheating, but 337 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 1: she's a serial liar, so I will be forcing a 338 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:07,360 Speaker 1: DNA test through the courts. I posted on a couple 339 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:10,680 Speaker 1: of different subs and make sure I wasn't getting biased opinions. 340 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:13,720 Speaker 1: The above story is one hundred percent true. I wish 341 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:16,560 Speaker 1: it wasn't believe me, but my focus is now getting 342 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:20,960 Speaker 1: as far away as possible from her for my own sake. 343 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 1: And there is an update. But you can't get that 344 00:15:23,440 --> 00:15:25,400 Speaker 1: far away because you have a baby with her. 345 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:28,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I guess it's like it all leads 346 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:31,080 Speaker 2: up to the point of the baby actually being delivered, 347 00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:33,800 Speaker 2: and then it's like, okay, now you can sue for 348 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:37,200 Speaker 2: custody rights and all of that stuff and then have 349 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 2: a clearer separation right. 350 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 1: Even then, like you can't do anything until the baby's out. Yeah, 351 00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:44,520 Speaker 1: you can't really do anything until the baby. You can't 352 00:15:44,560 --> 00:15:46,000 Speaker 1: keep you I don't know if you can keep her 353 00:15:46,040 --> 00:15:47,520 Speaker 1: that that much as at a distance. 354 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 2: I think I would be like, you're staying here, but 355 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 2: we're not in a relationship, and I'm doing this to 356 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:55,360 Speaker 2: care for the baby, and like you can self destruct 357 00:15:55,400 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 2: your financial life and whatever, and like I'm not gonna 358 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 2: involve myself anymore. If you're not going to help yourself 359 00:16:01,480 --> 00:16:04,160 Speaker 2: and you can just torpedo your own life, go ahead, 360 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:06,400 Speaker 2: but I'm gonna make sure the baby's okay here and now, 361 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 2: and then going to take care of the baby once. 362 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, which is kind of what he's done. And he's 363 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: put his foot down, and it seems like she's not 364 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 1: gonna be on the streets. I don't think. Yeah, yeah, 365 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:17,640 Speaker 1: that's what it seems like. I know, what would y'all do? 366 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 1: Appearances in the comments? It's really hard because I feel 367 00:16:20,360 --> 00:16:22,120 Speaker 1: like this person should be out of his life as 368 00:16:22,160 --> 00:16:25,080 Speaker 1: much as possible. Yeah, but it is the mother of 369 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 1: his child, I think. 370 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 2: And this might even just be like a it's like 371 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 2: not necessary, but like more satisfying for me. 372 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: I feel like I. 373 00:16:31,280 --> 00:16:35,320 Speaker 2: Would like to literally see like my like have the 374 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 2: unborn baby like close like that would give me a 375 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 2: feeling of so I can kind of just like literally 376 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 2: see how she's doing. Really, I think that would give 377 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 2: me a mental sense of ease. In reality, she's probably 378 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:47,280 Speaker 2: okay at the parents agreed. 379 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 1: But do you want to get into this update, Let's 380 00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 1: do it. Let's happened a couple days ago, after a 381 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 1: couple of weeks of learning she was sleeping around on 382 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:58,040 Speaker 1: family members or friend sofas. I yeay, oh, okay, you 383 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:03,800 Speaker 1: saw I was sleeping on the cash. I allowed her 384 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: back into the house given that she is pregnants around 385 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,560 Speaker 1: a month ago, out of concern for the baby. Really, 386 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 1: given she's now eight months pregnant. Stupid on my part, 387 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:14,679 Speaker 1: and I'm going to explain why I regret it. I 388 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:17,080 Speaker 1: recently moved that houses a couple of months ago, and 389 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:20,159 Speaker 1: she was involved in the packing and unpacking whilst I 390 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:23,240 Speaker 1: was out mainly unpacking. I had a pretty large stack 391 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 1: of cash in the drawer of the cabinet in the 392 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: living room. 393 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 4: Honestly, honest, you're done, You're done, You're stupid. You invited 394 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:34,119 Speaker 4: a person who you know steals from you, and you 395 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 4: kept cash in the house. 396 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:38,120 Speaker 1: Put I see you in the comments. If you see 397 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 1: what's coming, type it in. Tell me Sam around four 398 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:43,119 Speaker 1: hundred to five hundred quid. This was a Christmas gift 399 00:17:43,119 --> 00:17:45,959 Speaker 1: from my parents. During this time, I was also sold 400 00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:48,679 Speaker 1: a lot of old furniture, including a sofa, which she 401 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:51,880 Speaker 1: begged and begged for me to sell to her mother. 402 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 1: I begrudgingly accepted this. She told me her mother had 403 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:57,920 Speaker 1: asked to borrow the money from her repeatedly to buy 404 00:17:57,960 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 1: it from me, and asked if she could pay a 405 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:02,359 Speaker 1: couple of weeks after she took it. No, biggie, that's fine. 406 00:18:02,520 --> 00:18:06,280 Speaker 1: I told her, he's a rich idiot. There's no way 407 00:18:06,560 --> 00:18:09,040 Speaker 1: that he just agreed to that. She's literally saying the 408 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 1: same thing that she's continually lied about. She could pay 409 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 1: a couple weeks after. There's no way she's paying for 410 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:16,440 Speaker 1: it because she was feeling for the mom before. And 411 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:19,640 Speaker 1: you're the idiot. You're an idiot. You should know this. 412 00:18:19,960 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 1: Her mother collects a sofa, giving me one hundred dollars 413 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:24,400 Speaker 1: cash initially and tells me the rest will be with 414 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 1: me in a week. No, it's not a week comes around. 415 00:18:26,560 --> 00:18:28,520 Speaker 1: She tells me it'll be next month, but she's not 416 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 1: happy as it's collapsed and I need to come to 417 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 1: a look. Not only does the money not come, he 418 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 1: has to go be a handyman. I tell her it 419 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 1: was fine, but she collected it and I'm not taking 420 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:39,919 Speaker 1: a look. Basically, if you don't want it, I'll collect 421 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 1: it and sell it to someone who wants to pay. 422 00:18:42,240 --> 00:18:45,119 Speaker 1: She tells me I'm not welcome in their house. My 423 00:18:45,160 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: girlfriend X told me there was nothing wrong with the 424 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:49,680 Speaker 1: sofa at all when it was collected, and her mother 425 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 1: tells her she's also not welcome. My ex then flips 426 00:18:52,840 --> 00:18:55,440 Speaker 1: it onto me, telling me I'm controlling and she didn't 427 00:18:55,480 --> 00:18:57,720 Speaker 1: need to get involved, which caused a falling out with 428 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: her family. I didn't make her, but I told her 429 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:03,000 Speaker 1: it showed where her priorities lie when she's defending them 430 00:19:03,280 --> 00:19:06,280 Speaker 1: and not wanting to get involved over them, screwing me. 431 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:08,200 Speaker 3: Over nowhere her priorities lie. 432 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:10,480 Speaker 1: Of course, she's been stealing your money, giving it to 433 00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:13,960 Speaker 1: them for like ages ages. It was left at that, 434 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 1: back to the money. I went to see where the 435 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:19,120 Speaker 1: money went and searched the entire house. It's not there, 436 00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:22,160 Speaker 1: no shit, But everything that was unpacked was there, even 437 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:24,320 Speaker 1: pointlesshit like a brown light bulb. Of course, she's not 438 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 1: gonna steal a brown light bulb. 439 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:28,960 Speaker 3: Even worse than a brown white bulb. A blown light bulb. 440 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:31,080 Speaker 1: Oh, a blown light bulb. I asked her where the 441 00:19:31,080 --> 00:19:34,120 Speaker 1: money is, and she immediately gets defensive, tells me it's somewhere, 442 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 1: And immediately I think this is all the same answers 443 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,800 Speaker 1: as the last time. No shit. It then dawned on 444 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:41,920 Speaker 1: me that the money I was gifted was in ten 445 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 1: dollars notes. You have got to be kidding me. 446 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:49,440 Speaker 2: You have got to be kidding me, Sam, Sam finished, 447 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:53,200 Speaker 2: I'm to finish this god forsaken. 448 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:56,760 Speaker 4: No, realizing that maybe this woman who's really bad with money, 449 00:19:56,800 --> 00:20:00,400 Speaker 4: he's really good at finding stupid people to steal from. 450 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:01,080 Speaker 1: Which is the talent. 451 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 3: It is a talent. 452 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 1: It then dawned on me that the money I was 453 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:07,239 Speaker 1: gifted was in ten dollar notes, and the money I 454 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:11,359 Speaker 1: was partly paid with for the sofa was also in 455 00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 1: ten dollar notes. So my suspension just just a theory. 456 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:20,040 Speaker 1: And she stole my money for her to hand to 457 00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:24,280 Speaker 1: her mother to pay me. I've basically paid myself minus 458 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:25,280 Speaker 1: what had been taken. 459 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 3: He's so stupid. 460 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 1: See like, I don't even feel bad for Op anymore 461 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,800 Speaker 1: because he's so Say lookie, do you deserve to be 462 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:35,200 Speaker 1: robbed when you're this stupid? I think the answer is yes. 463 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:38,239 Speaker 1: I confronted her, and she replied, even if I did 464 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:40,520 Speaker 1: admit it to try to sort things out, I don't 465 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:43,400 Speaker 1: care about you anymore, so I don't need to. Probably 466 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:45,120 Speaker 1: makes sense why she was trying to take a loan 467 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:47,520 Speaker 1: out roughly the same time she would have taken the money, 468 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:49,200 Speaker 1: So there we have it. I let her stop for 469 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,800 Speaker 1: a while, and this is where it's landed me her 470 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:55,720 Speaker 1: stealing again. Whilst I have no solid proof whatsoever, it 471 00:20:55,760 --> 00:20:59,160 Speaker 1: could only be her, Yes, that took it, and if 472 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,960 Speaker 1: everything else got then she certainly took it. She's now 473 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:06,359 Speaker 1: threatening to out me to people for who I really am, 474 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:09,199 Speaker 1: a victim of theft? I guess no, an idiot, and 475 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:12,480 Speaker 1: she'll tell everyone how awful I am for not bothering 476 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,520 Speaker 1: to contact her. I throwed her back out again for 477 00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:18,520 Speaker 1: the very last time, and I'm just relieved, not sad 478 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:21,440 Speaker 1: at all. Whilst I still have no proof, her reaction 479 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:23,720 Speaker 1: is all the proof I need. Now I'm forcing a 480 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:26,320 Speaker 1: DNA test at birth smart and will fight to make 481 00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:28,679 Speaker 1: sure no child of mine is brought up in a 482 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:32,960 Speaker 1: family like hers. She is poisoned. People like her don't change, 483 00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:36,439 Speaker 1: They just take more. And that is a rap to 484 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:39,480 Speaker 1: this story. I have a conspiracy theory to end the 485 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:41,520 Speaker 1: story with. All right, I want to hear your conspiracy theory. 486 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 1: But to everyone in the comments, do you think OP 487 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:48,200 Speaker 1: is an idiot? One? And two? Do you think OP 488 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:51,160 Speaker 1: has made any improper moves? Like what would you do differently? 489 00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:54,399 Speaker 1: Would you throw the girlfriend out sooner? Or would you 490 00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:58,640 Speaker 1: do the maternity leave residency thing? What would you do? John? 491 00:21:58,640 --> 00:21:59,919 Speaker 1: What do you think? Very curious to hear. 492 00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:02,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, so one, without a doubt, he's a complete moron, 493 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 2: a rich moron, though, So I congrats you, and I. 494 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:06,679 Speaker 1: Feel like he gave her a lot of break, so 495 00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:08,639 Speaker 1: like maybe a rich thoughtful more on. 496 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,160 Speaker 2: He really tried, Yeah, he tried, He tried. Yeah, because 497 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:15,360 Speaker 2: in the second part, yeah, he tried. 498 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:17,960 Speaker 1: Too hard, too hard. Yeah. 499 00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:22,840 Speaker 2: For me personally, my desire to be close to the 500 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 2: child and just have that like what's the word, like 501 00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 2: sense of sense of ease of like being able to 502 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:30,600 Speaker 2: see the baby and like know that it's like, okay, 503 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:36,200 Speaker 2: might trump my insane frustration with the mother and make 504 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,359 Speaker 2: me want to still do the maternity leave for. 505 00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:40,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, because I would just want to take care 506 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:40,800 Speaker 1: of my kids. 507 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's temporary, you know, Like I think you 508 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,440 Speaker 2: could say, like I could be like, all right, there's 509 00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:45,920 Speaker 2: a light at the end of the tunnel of this. 510 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,919 Speaker 1: Like crazy situation, and guess she might steal more of 511 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 1: my clothes. She might, but I would just get locks 512 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:52,960 Speaker 1: and you know, yeah, just make sure all my bank 513 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 1: account information is tidy. Lock it down. 514 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,439 Speaker 2: Obviously very unideal, like, obviously not what you would want 515 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:01,200 Speaker 2: to do, but the best in a lit of crappy options. 516 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,639 Speaker 1: Would you give the maternity Yeah, well what do you 517 00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:05,480 Speaker 1: think I think? So, I mean it's my kid. Yeah, 518 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: Like I would want to make sure the kid's taken 519 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:09,560 Speaker 1: care of and she's not like on the street and 520 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:11,920 Speaker 1: like get addicted to some drug or whatever. 521 00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 2: And I think, like, I mean, the op is not 522 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 2: the highest grade in the dispensary, but I think we 523 00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:18,680 Speaker 2: would be able to figure out how to, like, you know, 524 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:19,720 Speaker 2: how like child proof it. 525 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, robber X proof. Yeah. Yeah, I think 526 00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:27,199 Speaker 1: you could make sure that she doesn't steal much like 527 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:29,879 Speaker 1: all of your valuables you give to like family or something. 528 00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 2: Lock it down real quick to my conspiracy theory, put 529 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,080 Speaker 2: an ic on the comics real quick, if you see 530 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,400 Speaker 2: what I'm about to say. I think she targeted op 531 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:39,040 Speaker 2: from the beginning because she instantly knew he was a 532 00:23:39,119 --> 00:23:41,679 Speaker 2: rich idiot, got pregnant by him, so that way, in 533 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 2: her mind, try to keep the gravy chain rolling forever, 534 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:47,159 Speaker 2: get child support, alimony, maybe all of the things. But 535 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 2: she got her hand forced too early before she was 536 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 2: able to have the kid and like get him like 537 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:55,080 Speaker 2: further and further. 538 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:58,560 Speaker 1: Entrapped with her. I raise you one further, not his kid, 539 00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:01,840 Speaker 1: raise me not his kid got pregnant beforehand found rich 540 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:02,880 Speaker 1: idiot to pay. 541 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 2: For all of her Do we know how long were 542 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 2: they in a relationship, because she's eight months pregnant right now. 543 00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 1: I remember eight months pregnant. I've been they've been living 544 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 1: together for ten months. Okay, if they've been living together 545 00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,359 Speaker 1: for ten months, she and it's a girlfriend, I mean 546 00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:17,760 Speaker 1: she could have I mean, it doesn't matter. She could 547 00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 1: have like cheated even if they were together. 548 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,720 Speaker 2: So probably yeah, if she cheated, it would have been 549 00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:25,600 Speaker 2: close to around the time she moved, but probably not, 550 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,960 Speaker 2: because if she moved in less than eight months ago, 551 00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:30,399 Speaker 2: it would be almost certainly she's like, oh, I'm pretty 552 00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:32,600 Speaker 2: confident I got pregnant by the other guy. But let 553 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:35,640 Speaker 2: me like move into like really like lock in. But yeah, 554 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:38,720 Speaker 2: I think she intentionally targeted this guy and tried to. 555 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 1: But ope, I feel bad for you in that you're 556 00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:45,679 Speaker 1: in this situation and that you don't seem to have 557 00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 1: the mental faculties to Yeah. I mean, like, I don't know, man, 558 00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:53,280 Speaker 1: like get a grip, Like, he's very lucky that he 559 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:55,240 Speaker 1: has the income he has because let's say he was 560 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,840 Speaker 1: a server, Like this is a USD maybe like six 561 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,000 Speaker 1: or seven hundred round like that real money. That is 562 00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:03,720 Speaker 1: real money. That could be the difference of paying rent. 563 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,640 Speaker 1: But luckily he's a rich idiot exactly. So yeah, luckily 564 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:11,159 Speaker 1: he skates out. Okay, probably, but yeah, wow, that one's 565 00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:13,200 Speaker 1: so frustrating. I know, it's so frustrating. It's like the 566 00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 1: watching the horror movies and it's like, don't go into 567 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,120 Speaker 1: the house, don't go back to the door. Stop you're 568 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,639 Speaker 1: what we're doing. Oh my god, it's frustrating. Kind of 569 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:23,399 Speaker 1: like honestly, did you ever see uncut gems? 570 00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:25,600 Speaker 3: No, I'm kind of seeing fifteen minutes of it? 571 00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:27,919 Speaker 1: Wait you mean with Adam Sandler? Yeah, yes, I think 572 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:29,480 Speaker 1: I have that, dude. I was just about to say, 573 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:31,439 Speaker 1: is this the first movie I have seen that? 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