1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: Ye what you all been waiting for over What's up? 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 2: Welcome to way Up with Angela. Yee, and y'all know 3 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:09,440 Speaker 2: is September. That's always like the reset time of the year, 4 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:13,039 Speaker 2: you know, after Labor Day. That's when things change, Schedules change, 5 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 2: traffic changes, and even if you don't have kids, there 6 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 2: is also a cultural shift. 7 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:17,880 Speaker 1: Summer is over. 8 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 2: We all feel like it's time to get back to business. 9 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 2: Not like I ever stopped, and not like Coach Jesse's 10 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:26,480 Speaker 2: ever stopped, but Coach Jesse Thompson's joining us today and 11 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 2: you guys definitely know her voice by now. She's a 12 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:32,199 Speaker 2: Fibruary survivor in case you don't know, a health activist 13 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:35,559 Speaker 2: and also the founder of the Detox Now and she's. 14 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:36,880 Speaker 1: Helping women reclaim their health. 15 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 3: Yes, ma'am, so listen. 16 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 4: First of all, I just wanted to love on you 17 00:00:41,479 --> 00:00:44,440 Speaker 4: a little bit first because you know, you know, I 18 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:46,520 Speaker 4: was stalking you. This is the first time I'm seeing 19 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 4: you since you went to the doctor, and I was 20 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,839 Speaker 4: stalking you in text like come on when you go 21 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 4: cause I was just feeling like, you know, you take 22 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:58,240 Speaker 4: time caring about everybody else, but Angela, it's important to 23 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:01,280 Speaker 4: take time to take care of yourself, and your schedule 24 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 4: is always so busy, I said, and I kept feeling like, 25 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 4: I asked. 26 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:05,559 Speaker 3: You, what's your D three level? 27 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 5: Oh, you know, I don't know. 28 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:07,960 Speaker 3: I was like, oh my goodness, what's going on? 29 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 4: As I'm sitting here, I'm like, I don't want something 30 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:12,560 Speaker 4: to sneak up on you and then you end up 31 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:16,240 Speaker 4: in an emergency, right, So kudos to you. 32 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 3: Yes. 33 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 2: Yes, finally finally went and made my appointment, and I 34 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 2: kept knowing I had to do it. I still have 35 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:25,559 Speaker 2: to schedule my mammogram because I haven't done that yet, 36 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 2: but I do have where I'm going, so I'm figuring 37 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:31,840 Speaker 2: that out asap. But yes, and when I went, you know, 38 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 2: Coach Jesse, you gave me a whole list of yes 39 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 2: to ask for to check on a whole checklist. I 40 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:41,400 Speaker 2: actually also, since we always talk about fibraids, I was like, 41 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:44,840 Speaker 2: let me check and see if I have any fibraids. 42 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 2: So I went and had an ultra sound for them. 43 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: To check that out. 44 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 2: And you know, it's crazy because a long time ago 45 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 2: I went to the doctor and she like pressed on 46 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 2: my stomach and was like, okay, it doesn't feel like 47 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 2: if you do have something, it's not too bad. 48 00:01:57,400 --> 00:01:58,440 Speaker 1: That's the whole way. 49 00:01:58,280 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 5: I was it. 50 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, get yeah, she said, if you do. 51 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 2: Even if you do have some, she was like, you know, 52 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 2: they're really smallble. So then I got my results back 53 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 2: like a couple of days later. I told you my 54 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 2: glucose level is high, so we have to work on that. 55 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 2: But I did find out that I have two fib 56 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 2: worids and they are small. You know, one of them 57 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 2: is less than centimeter. Yeah, it's tiny, but it also 58 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 2: is something I'm monitoring. So I go back in November 59 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 2: to check and see what's happening. 60 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 3: Right in the meantime. 61 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 4: So before we go down, well, how did you feel 62 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:31,840 Speaker 4: learning that with all the work that we do in 63 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 4: the education you've received around that, what did that feel 64 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 4: like for you? 65 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 2: Well, I will say that because so many black women 66 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 2: end up having fibroids, I felt like I would be 67 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:42,280 Speaker 2: dodging a bullet if I never you. 68 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:43,639 Speaker 1: Know, because I never checked. 69 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 2: Like I told you, the doctor before was like, well, 70 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 2: if you have some, they're really small. And I know 71 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:51,239 Speaker 2: that there's periods of time when I'm menstruating where I 72 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:53,640 Speaker 2: might have like the second day is always the worst 73 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 2: day for me, and you know, sometimes I have like 74 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 2: blood clots and everything, so I figure it's something because 75 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 2: I know we always talk about how that it's not normal. 76 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: And so it's good to know and it's good to 77 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:04,839 Speaker 1: monitor that, right. 78 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:07,960 Speaker 4: So you know, the thing about it is we know 79 00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 4: that that's an indicator that also can be what also 80 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,000 Speaker 4: drives hormonal and balance can drive your glucose going up 81 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 4: as well, right, So one of the things that we 82 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 4: try to do is be proactive so that we catch 83 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 4: it when it's a process and not a crisis. And 84 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 4: that's why I felt like I was talking you because 85 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:24,799 Speaker 4: I was like, I don't want to end up in 86 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 4: a crisis, right, right, So I'm so proud of you. 87 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 4: And now, of course, the thing is we know that 88 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 4: the balancer kit in our program, our balancer Kit specifically 89 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 4: targets the root causes like chronic inflammation, helps reduce the 90 00:03:36,760 --> 00:03:41,160 Speaker 4: inflammation which is a key driver balance the hormones with balancer, right. 91 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 4: And then the D three plus K two helps to 92 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 4: of course help you achieve high healthy levels of D three. 93 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 4: We want them around eighty to ninety. And then of 94 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 4: course the eliminator, which is strong as hell and my 95 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 4: D three was lot. 96 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 3: To see exactly we need. 97 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 4: But if the D three is, the science has shown 98 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 4: if your D three is, loh fibers is usually present, right, 99 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:04,760 Speaker 4: and the lower it is usually the more symptomatic. So 100 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 4: the good thing is we have a plan. We're going 101 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 4: to be starting your plan. Yea right, I know, and 102 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 4: we're gonna be telling your story. 103 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: So exciting. 104 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:16,320 Speaker 2: But I am relieved, you know, going to the doctor 105 00:04:16,360 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 2: and finding out if there's any issues, and finding out 106 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 2: early is really important instead of waiting till it's a problem. 107 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 4: Yeah. Absolutely, So I'm excited. So but you know, everything 108 00:04:26,839 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 4: that we do. You talked about the new year, the 109 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 4: being the shifts right, and everything we do is it's 110 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:36,159 Speaker 4: not just the supplements, nutrition planning. We have to deal 111 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:39,280 Speaker 4: with mental health issues. And when I stumbled across the 112 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 4: work of our guest today, I was like, First of all, 113 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:44,679 Speaker 4: my husband shout out to Mark Thompson. 114 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 3: He was crushing off. I said, dude, is this your 115 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 3: pall past? 116 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: What's going on? 117 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 3: He was like, she this woman's amazing, And I started 118 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 3: to listen to herself. 119 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 4: I said, wow, so here we are today, joined by powerful, 120 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 4: the powerful requam say powerful, Yes, Roquel Davis, known as 121 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:04,160 Speaker 4: the capacity Expert. 122 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 3: Right, yeah, I'm sorry, Roquell Davis Hopkins. 123 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:11,479 Speaker 4: Don't let me drop off the marriage Hopkins don't play 124 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 4: because or don't say Davis. 125 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 5: How do you say it, Hopkins? 126 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 3: You don't say Davis Hopkins. 127 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 4: Okay, So Roquel Hopkins, I m ain't gonna get her 128 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:24,479 Speaker 4: in trouble, right, give me in trouble. So she's the 129 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 4: founder of success is Complicated, and she helps people build 130 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 4: their emotional capacity, teaching us how to set boundaries, protect 131 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 4: our energy, and actually sustain the resets that we're working 132 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 4: to do. 133 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:38,039 Speaker 3: So I'm excited to have her join us. 134 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:39,479 Speaker 5: Thank you for having me. I think I need to 135 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 5: go to the doctor. 136 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: That's what I think. 137 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 2: Listen check ups because when I tell you, because I 138 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:50,039 Speaker 2: you know, when nothing's wrong, You're like, I'll do it 139 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 2: when I get to it. But I was like, let 140 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:54,279 Speaker 2: me go ahead and find out now, because the last 141 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 2: time that I had a bad issue was when I 142 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 2: found out my cholesterol was high and there was nothing wrong. 143 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 2: It was just a check And so I'm glad that 144 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:03,720 Speaker 2: I cut it when I did, because you know, it's 145 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 2: it's really important to know what's going on inside because 146 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:10,559 Speaker 2: sometimes things don't have any symptoms until it's too bad, truly. 147 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:11,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so. 148 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 5: We'll be talking. I was just thinking. I was like, 149 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 5: I got you, So. 150 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 2: You got now talk to me about what is a 151 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:20,279 Speaker 2: capacity expert? 152 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: Because you are the capacity expert? So for people listening, 153 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:24,159 Speaker 1: what does that even mean? 154 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 6: So I read it up, she coined, I coined it, 155 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 6: and capacity is most of us when we think about capacity, right, 156 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:37,679 Speaker 6: we're thinking about bandwidth volume, how much we can actually 157 00:06:37,839 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 6: hold and carry. But it's not capacity is it's rooted 158 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 6: in adult development. But it's more so about what can 159 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 6: you produce consistently? And when I say produced, I'm not 160 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 6: talking about activity or your success. I'm talking about if 161 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:56,640 Speaker 6: you're carrying fear, do you produce courage? If you're carrying 162 00:06:56,720 --> 00:06:59,719 Speaker 6: the way of responsibility like we all do, can you 163 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:04,960 Speaker 6: predus growth? If you're carrying conflict, can you produce connection? 164 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 6: So capacity is like filling that gap or expanding that 165 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 6: gap when you when life is pressing on us and 166 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 6: we have all of these demands. And I coined that, well, 167 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 6: I didn't coin it because we all know the word capacity. 168 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 6: Just educating us around what it meant, and it came 169 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 6: from just how we've overcorrected in terms of how we 170 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 6: talk about mental health. So one of the things that 171 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 6: I've observed is many people are defaulting to avoidance behavior. 172 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 1: Right like I have anxiety, and so I can't come out. 173 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 5: Yes, yes I have this, I have that, and I 174 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:38,600 Speaker 5: can't do this. 175 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 6: And that's actually what has gotten your attention because a 176 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 6: few of those videos they ended up going viral because 177 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 6: I said three toxic mental health trends that I'm now seeing, 178 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 6: and I talked about exactly what you're saying, how we're 179 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 6: using labels as excuses and here. 180 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 2: We are, right, give us those examples like oh, I 181 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 2: have ADHD, So I like, just give me some examples 182 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 2: of what that means when you're saying like, okay, we're 183 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:09,119 Speaker 2: kind of leaning on because you know, I think people 184 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 2: are very quick to be we do mental health. I 185 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 2: feel like it's something that is a lot more accessible 186 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 2: and talked about, which is great, Which is great. 187 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:17,680 Speaker 1: But then on the flip side of that. 188 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 5: So let's talk about mental health really quickly. Yeah, I 189 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 5: was gonna says. 190 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 6: Important to understand what it is and what it is not. 191 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:29,840 Speaker 6: I think we have destigmatized the wrong thing. Mental health 192 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 6: is something that we all have, so you shouldn't have shame. 193 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 6: It's like saying you should have shame because you have. 194 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 5: An arm or we have legs. We all have mental health. 195 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,360 Speaker 6: We don't all live with a mental illness, right okay, 196 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 6: And there may be shame around mental illness, but the 197 00:08:41,800 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 6: shame is around struggle. 198 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 5: Shame is usually around uh seeking. 199 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 6: Support, getting help, which is why it's great that we'll 200 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:52,400 Speaker 6: have conversations about the things that will impact our mental health. 201 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 6: So to your point, Angela, Ye, when we talk about 202 00:08:56,080 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 6: anxiety or ADHD, you do hear people using it as 203 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 6: excuses today. It's like the caveat so Angela, when I 204 00:09:03,559 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 6: walk in here, let me let you know that I 205 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 6: have anxiety, and that means that maybe you should adjust 206 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 6: or tiptoe around me in terms of how you run 207 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 6: your show. Traits that's a real big one. You have triggers, 208 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:20,680 Speaker 6: that's another one. But the label is for understanding. It 209 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:23,319 Speaker 6: is an explanation, and most people are starting to use 210 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:24,839 Speaker 6: it as an excuse. 211 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:28,079 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I've definitely had to deal with people who 212 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:30,400 Speaker 2: are like, well, I just didn't show up because I 213 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 2: have anxiety. 214 00:09:31,080 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 1: I'm not doing anything where I'm gonna. 215 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 2: Get triggered, and it's like, but on the flip side 216 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 2: of that, how how are you supposed to handle that 217 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 2: the person that's actually living the person who is saying 218 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:42,119 Speaker 2: I have anxiety. 219 00:09:42,200 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 1: What is the better? 220 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:45,520 Speaker 5: The first thing I would say is it's not that 221 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:48,559 Speaker 5: you have it right. You don't want to identify with it. 222 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 6: I live with it, which means that it separates you 223 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:53,719 Speaker 6: as the individual from the label that we. 224 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 3: Now have, not identifying you as defining your right right. 225 00:09:57,200 --> 00:10:00,280 Speaker 6: And then the second thing would be, is it's being 226 00:10:00,320 --> 00:10:03,360 Speaker 6: intentional about when and how you share it. If I'm 227 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 6: sharing it with you because I truly need a reasonable 228 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 6: accommodation or something is beyond my scope, I would share 229 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 6: it in that sense. But again, it's still for me 230 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 6: to learn how to navigate. And that doesn't mean that 231 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 6: you have to go at it alone. But maybe if 232 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 6: I do have if I live with ADHD, maybe I'm 233 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 6: more organized. I create systems, I take notes when I 234 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:29,439 Speaker 6: go into meetings because I have a difficult time focus 235 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:32,080 Speaker 6: and whatever your symptoms may be, and that is the 236 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 6: reason for knowing or getting a diagnosis to say, Okay, 237 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 6: I live with this, and because I live with this, 238 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:39,880 Speaker 6: that means that I'm going to have to navigate the 239 00:10:39,920 --> 00:10:42,680 Speaker 6: world and life in this manner. It doesn't mean that 240 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:44,800 Speaker 6: the world is supposed to tiptoe around you because you 241 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 6: have it. And that can sound unkind, And I think 242 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:52,560 Speaker 6: that as people we should be kind like compassion, all 243 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 6: of those things matter, but it still doesn't matter that 244 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 6: you have to deal with the weight of your own life. 245 00:10:58,280 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 6: And part of living with the weight of your life 246 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:03,480 Speaker 6: is understanding what your circumstances are. 247 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 4: So part of it is okay, you are missing an 248 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:11,600 Speaker 4: opportunity to grow through that, to be present, Like what 249 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 4: does it look like for you to be present even 250 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:17,440 Speaker 4: though you're living with anxiety and you need to navigate 251 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 4: it And you're saying that from what I'm hearing you say, 252 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:24,079 Speaker 4: is that what the mental health world right now has 253 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 4: really kind of the messaging has been, well, you just. 254 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:30,719 Speaker 3: Stay away, like just avoidance insteads. 255 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,440 Speaker 6: You can't grow like that, all right, people, when you 256 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 6: think about it the very basics, what is mental health. 257 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:38,880 Speaker 6: Mental health is how you think, feel, and behave. And 258 00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:42,040 Speaker 6: if you start to protect how you think, feel and behave, 259 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:46,040 Speaker 6: you can't evolve like that, Like life is about evolution. 260 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:48,400 Speaker 5: So I always tell people that it's. 261 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:50,560 Speaker 6: Even being mindful of the language that you use when 262 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:53,800 Speaker 6: we say I'm protecting my mental health, right, just know 263 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:56,360 Speaker 6: that what you're seeing is in this current state, which 264 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:59,120 Speaker 6: is okay, depending on the season. I'm protecting how I 265 00:11:59,160 --> 00:12:01,000 Speaker 6: currently think, feel, and behave today. 266 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 1: Okay. 267 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 2: I like that you know that shift, and you know 268 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,560 Speaker 2: the other thing is and I saw you discussing this 269 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:12,680 Speaker 2: as well. Right, we can talk about like, Okay, we're 270 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 2: supposed to get eight or nine hours of sleep a night, 271 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:19,840 Speaker 2: but people circumstances sometimes don't allow for that depending on 272 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 2: what you have going on, you know, and that we 273 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:25,679 Speaker 2: also have to understand everybody is different, right, And so 274 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 2: while we can say, well, this is how I'm going 275 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:31,200 Speaker 2: to be at my optimum, sometimes my circumstances aren't going 276 00:12:31,240 --> 00:12:33,080 Speaker 2: to allow for me to be able to do that. 277 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 6: I always say that there are no perfect solutions in life, 278 00:12:36,679 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 6: only trade offs. And part of understanding that life is 279 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:43,679 Speaker 6: going to offer you these trade offs is understanding what 280 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 6: it's radical responsibility. What am I choosing in this moment? 281 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 6: Because I'm sleepy right now. I'm sleepy right now, but 282 00:12:52,559 --> 00:12:54,840 Speaker 6: was I had to miss the opportunity to come. 283 00:12:56,280 --> 00:12:56,679 Speaker 5: Now? 284 00:12:57,559 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 6: But I'm sleepy right she might have low D three. 285 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:05,080 Speaker 5: I need to go get checked out. I'll be able 286 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 5: to rest tomorrow. Yeah, I mean I'll rest because it 287 00:13:08,520 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 5: still doesn't change. 288 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:12,680 Speaker 6: That's why I say people confuse the truth with complexity, right, 289 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:16,000 Speaker 6: Like life is growing at a very rapid pace for 290 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 6: me right now, new demands that I haven't been approaching. 291 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,959 Speaker 6: That means that there's going to be some restless nights sometimes. 292 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 6: Now does that mean that I can sustain. 293 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 5: Like that over time? 294 00:13:24,880 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 6: No, you can't, because rest is important. And that's the truth, 295 00:13:27,400 --> 00:13:30,560 Speaker 6: Like rest is important. The complexity is your life is 296 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 6: changing yea a very rapid pace, and that means that 297 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:35,840 Speaker 6: you're gonna have to find your balance. 298 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:39,480 Speaker 2: Right, And that's how I think, you know, becoming successful 299 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:42,439 Speaker 2: is knowing that there are times that there are trade 300 00:13:42,480 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 2: offs that you'll have to do. But then sometimes you 301 00:13:44,720 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 2: have to prioritize other things and know when you're like okay, 302 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:50,880 Speaker 2: because I've been better at communicating, I always try to 303 00:13:50,920 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 2: make it to everything and do everything that I can, 304 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:55,400 Speaker 2: but sometimes I just have to What works for me 305 00:13:55,679 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 2: is the earlier I can let somebody know this is impossible, 306 00:13:58,280 --> 00:14:00,600 Speaker 2: the better. Yeah, you know, So if I can early 307 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 2: on let somebody know. I know I said I could 308 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:06,520 Speaker 2: do this, but honestly, here's what's really going on with 309 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 2: me right now. I apologize, you know, and I know that. 310 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:14,800 Speaker 4: That's being far between her because she really works. If 311 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:16,199 Speaker 4: she tells you she's going to do something, yeah, I 312 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:19,040 Speaker 4: try to be like very reliables, to be reliable. So 313 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 4: if she comes, and that's the thing, when you've established 314 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:23,960 Speaker 4: that groundwork, then people like, oh, you know, if she did, 315 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:26,320 Speaker 4: then that means that I know she really couldn't do it, right. 316 00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:26,800 Speaker 1: You know. 317 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:30,680 Speaker 2: It's interesting because I have a business, right and it's 318 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 2: interesting to see how people nowadays, like the younger generation, 319 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 2: will be like, I need a mental health day, but 320 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:40,640 Speaker 2: they may not tell you in advance. I'm all for 321 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 2: a mental health day, but not right now. But not 322 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:48,280 Speaker 2: like when you're already supposed to be there. Come on, 323 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 2: requelt all the people. 324 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:51,880 Speaker 6: This is the one time that I might be on 325 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:56,560 Speaker 6: the people's side, only because some days you do wake 326 00:14:56,640 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 6: up where you really feel like you can't do it. 327 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 3: How often though, how often? 328 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 5: Well that's another situation, right. 329 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 6: So when you talk about like when you use Angela's example, 330 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:08,720 Speaker 6: she's her character is there. 331 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 5: People know what to expect from her, and I think. 332 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 6: That people don't we We we misrepresent, misrepresent what reputation 333 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 6: is and. 334 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 5: How it matters. 335 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 6: So if you tell someone that you can't make it, 336 00:15:21,680 --> 00:15:24,040 Speaker 6: the trust is there, right, And the trust is there 337 00:15:24,080 --> 00:15:26,480 Speaker 6: because you trust yourself and then other people trust you. 338 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:29,920 Speaker 5: So with other people, I don't know, because it's contingent, right, 339 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:31,920 Speaker 5: It's contingent. 340 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 3: But then the thing where they're just like, I just 341 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 3: need a mental health there. It's like a regular. 342 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 6: Younger generation either though it's not because I'm still in 343 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 6: the HR space, and it's anybody like if I can 344 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 6: use an excuse to get out of doing something hard, 345 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:48,840 Speaker 6: then mental health and. 346 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:53,360 Speaker 4: It becomes I love that you brought that up, because 347 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 4: you know, you have been transparent about the fact that 348 00:15:56,640 --> 00:16:00,240 Speaker 4: this since January, it's been this, this train you've on 349 00:16:00,280 --> 00:16:03,200 Speaker 4: has just been speedy, right in terms of the viral growth, right, 350 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 4: and how that has taken a lot of navigating for you, 351 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:10,040 Speaker 4: you know. So I wanted you to talk about like 352 00:16:10,200 --> 00:16:12,280 Speaker 4: three practices like how that stretched you? 353 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 3: Like how did that stretch you? 354 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:16,080 Speaker 4: And share three practices and new habits that we can 355 00:16:16,120 --> 00:16:18,600 Speaker 4: focus on implementing in our lives that help us to 356 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:20,160 Speaker 4: expand our capacity. 357 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 6: Let me, I'll use my personals because you're right, most 358 00:16:23,960 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 6: people think you're not born with like capacity. It's something 359 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 6: that you have to develop over time. And as I 360 00:16:30,120 --> 00:16:32,720 Speaker 6: continue to navigate this new space, what you're gonna find 361 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 6: is you're gonna have people that agree with you, that 362 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:37,600 Speaker 6: don't just disagree with you, people that don't like what 363 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:42,960 Speaker 6: you're what you're saying. This past weekend, I was actually 364 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:48,400 Speaker 6: a part of an event, and I was really excited 365 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:56,800 Speaker 6: to be there, but people misunderstood what I was communicating, 366 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:03,200 Speaker 6: and in the misunderstanding of what I was communicating, what 367 00:17:03,240 --> 00:17:05,840 Speaker 6: they were how they were responding back almost came across 368 00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:06,520 Speaker 6: as an attack. 369 00:17:07,880 --> 00:17:10,360 Speaker 5: So I sat there because I didn't want to run 370 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 5: from it. 371 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:12,719 Speaker 6: Right, if you're going to continue to be in this space, 372 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 6: you need to be able to hear the hard things 373 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:17,160 Speaker 6: that are going to be said about what you're seeing. 374 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:19,520 Speaker 6: That's part of me owning the stuff that I'm saying. 375 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 6: But I did go back to my hotel room and 376 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:24,720 Speaker 6: I burst into tears. And when you talk about what 377 00:17:24,760 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 6: are some practices, so much of developing your capacity is 378 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 6: about being able to experience a wide range of emotions. 379 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 6: Now I could have walked away. 380 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:37,479 Speaker 3: And been like, they don't know me, defensive. 381 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:41,120 Speaker 5: Defensive right, right. 382 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:43,639 Speaker 1: Or whatever? 383 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 5: Right, but the question of who am I? Who do 384 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:49,840 Speaker 5: I want to be? 385 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:54,120 Speaker 6: And I honored the sadness, like I felt the sense 386 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:54,720 Speaker 6: of sadness. 387 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 5: I was so happy to be in that space. 388 00:17:56,880 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 6: I was so passionate about who I was talking to 389 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:03,520 Speaker 6: and what I was communicating that it made sense that 390 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 6: I would experience sadness with that being part of the outcome, 391 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:10,200 Speaker 6: because it wasn't the whole outcome, but part of the outcome. 392 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 5: And once I allowed myself to move through that, I 393 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 5: was okay. 394 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 6: And I always tell people that you have to be 395 00:18:17,680 --> 00:18:22,199 Speaker 6: able to hold pain and joy, like those things can coexist. 396 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:24,840 Speaker 6: And when we talk about mental health today, I always 397 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:26,919 Speaker 6: say it that all of so many people want to 398 00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:30,960 Speaker 6: feel good, and part of this whole experience in life 399 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 6: is more so about becoming like becoming better, not necessarily 400 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 6: feeling good. 401 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,400 Speaker 5: You're not going to feel good all the time. And 402 00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 5: so that's the first thing, right it feel the emotion, Yeah, 403 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:44,159 Speaker 5: allow yourself. Yeah, you have to acknowledge it so that 404 00:18:44,200 --> 00:18:44,960 Speaker 5: you can grow through it. 405 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:47,640 Speaker 6: And part of growing through it is you're doubling down 406 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:50,159 Speaker 6: on self trust. So I know that when I have 407 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:52,440 Speaker 6: the next encounter, because I don't think I'm not gonna 408 00:18:52,480 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 6: have those moments again, Right, I can experience that sense 409 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:56,400 Speaker 6: of sadness. 410 00:18:56,440 --> 00:18:58,480 Speaker 5: Maybe I can sit in the room and listen to critique. 411 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 6: Maybe the next time I can go up to the 412 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:02,840 Speaker 6: person and say, hey, I think that you misunderstood what 413 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:05,600 Speaker 6: I was saying. So it changes it when you learn 414 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 6: that you can actually navigate what we referred to as 415 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:09,320 Speaker 6: these negative emotions. 416 00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:11,960 Speaker 2: You said, integrate grief, don't deny it. I saw that 417 00:19:12,240 --> 00:19:13,119 Speaker 2: was one of the quotes. 418 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:17,440 Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, you have to integrate all of these experiences. 419 00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 6: What most of us end up doing is I say, 420 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:24,000 Speaker 6: we cope or we're managing something, and when we're managing something, 421 00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:26,160 Speaker 6: we're trying to be in control. So if I use 422 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:29,439 Speaker 6: myself as an example, right, I could have decided to 423 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:31,879 Speaker 6: be in control of the moment and want to be 424 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:34,359 Speaker 6: in control of the moment. But I also knew that 425 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 6: if I allowed that, I wasn't going to collapse either. 426 00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:38,479 Speaker 1: I want to know what happened. 427 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:41,119 Speaker 5: I'm gonna tell you when we get over. 428 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:44,560 Speaker 1: I'm dying or not what was misunderstood? 429 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:50,280 Speaker 6: But okay, yes, yeah, I mean, and I understand why 430 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:55,040 Speaker 6: it was misunderstood because I am challenging things that people 431 00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 6: have protected. 432 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:58,879 Speaker 3: People protected comforted, right, comfort. 433 00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:02,760 Speaker 6: Yeah, we find comfort in our pain, we find pride 434 00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:05,800 Speaker 6: in our pain. And what I'm doing is calling those 435 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:11,440 Speaker 6: things out. And what people hear is that you're erasing parts. 436 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 5: Of them that they. 437 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:15,160 Speaker 1: Are comfort. 438 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:16,600 Speaker 5: Yes. 439 00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:20,000 Speaker 6: Yes, so I'm not upset. I'm not upset because I 440 00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:24,240 Speaker 6: do believe that that moment was forty It was exactly 441 00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:25,040 Speaker 6: what I needed. 442 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,399 Speaker 2: So what does that mean now? Moving forward? And I 443 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:30,879 Speaker 2: understand what you're saying. That you were able to go 444 00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:32,440 Speaker 2: to your room, you can receive. 445 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,119 Speaker 6: That because anger is an emotion either he is an 446 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:37,440 Speaker 6: emotion to it to be is next time I might curse. 447 00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:37,639 Speaker 1: You out. 448 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:42,440 Speaker 6: Because when I say, like you have to be able 449 00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 6: to experience a wide range of emotions, I don't want 450 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 6: to protect those things. 451 00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:48,199 Speaker 5: I am human. 452 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:56,280 Speaker 4: That means that hopefully you. 453 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,680 Speaker 5: Right, hopefully you get the version of me that I'm. 454 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:57,240 Speaker 1: Proud of all the time. 455 00:20:57,600 --> 00:20:58,919 Speaker 5: But I can't guarantee you that. 456 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:02,919 Speaker 6: Okay, I can't okay with it. 457 00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:05,679 Speaker 4: So okay, so feel allow yourself to feel the emotions 458 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:06,520 Speaker 4: the number one you got. 459 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 6: So with the feeling right, make sure when you're when 460 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:11,760 Speaker 6: you're allowing yourself to feel it, ask yourself, is this 461 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:14,080 Speaker 6: something that I need to acknowledge the emotion? 462 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,159 Speaker 5: So this step is to acknowledge. 463 00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:18,920 Speaker 6: It, But is it something that I need to feel 464 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:22,880 Speaker 6: learned or is it something that I need to learn from? 465 00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:25,360 Speaker 3: So act on explain that. 466 00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:29,120 Speaker 6: So you take sadness for example, it's a black woman, 467 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:33,680 Speaker 6: right mm hmm. Oftentimes like hang Onna walk away and 468 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,240 Speaker 6: you to made me feel weak? 469 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:36,760 Speaker 5: Right? 470 00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:42,119 Speaker 6: Do you you need to learn from that? Because that 471 00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:45,080 Speaker 6: means that you're pushing sadness away. It's not something that 472 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 6: you want to experience because you've associated sadness with weakness. 473 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:50,040 Speaker 1: Right. 474 00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,160 Speaker 6: So for me that in this season that I mean, 475 00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 6: it's important that I allow myself to experience sadness because 476 00:21:58,600 --> 00:21:59,959 Speaker 6: I'm learning from this sadness. 477 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 3: That's a very important thing. Sadness doesn't make. 478 00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 1: You weak, and you can actually have a lot of 479 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:04,680 Speaker 1: strength and sadness. 480 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, a lot of times we won't allow ourselves to 481 00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:10,439 Speaker 4: feel the sadness because of that, and then we flip 482 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:14,400 Speaker 4: it as anger, right, and then its danger. We usually 483 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,159 Speaker 4: act right, it's more damage is the word I was 484 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:18,359 Speaker 4: looking right, right? 485 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:20,080 Speaker 5: Right? So that would be the first one. 486 00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 6: It's the emotions, and then the other one is I 487 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:29,240 Speaker 6: always talk about mental capacity, and mental capacity is I 488 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:32,879 Speaker 6: try to help people make the distinction between your identity 489 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,600 Speaker 6: versus the label. So even when we and this is 490 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:40,679 Speaker 6: part of what I shared that day, being black is 491 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,679 Speaker 6: a label, it gives context, it's understanding. 492 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:47,160 Speaker 5: It's no different from you live with ADHD. 493 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,800 Speaker 6: I am well, I say I am black, but I 494 00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,840 Speaker 6: navigate the world as a black person. However, that still 495 00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:57,240 Speaker 6: doesn't mean that people the world is gonna tiptoe around me, right, 496 00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 6: But you still need to be able. 497 00:22:58,400 --> 00:22:59,159 Speaker 5: To hold space. 498 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:04,280 Speaker 6: They're not right. We see that you can still have 499 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,240 Speaker 6: pride in that. Right, it's no different from a person. 500 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 5: That lives with ADHD. 501 00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:11,680 Speaker 6: They refer to some of the things that they can 502 00:23:11,720 --> 00:23:14,560 Speaker 6: do as a superpower. Right, So you can hold that 503 00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:17,439 Speaker 6: as a sense of pride. But when it becomes the 504 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:21,080 Speaker 6: thing that you're always leading with, that's what you're filtering 505 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:24,280 Speaker 6: life through. And that's what I tell people in versus 506 00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:26,919 Speaker 6: what do you Because when I talk about capacity, what 507 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 6: do you produce consistently? 508 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 5: Is it integrity? Is it humility? Is it compassion? Is 509 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:31,879 Speaker 5: it kindness? 510 00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:36,200 Speaker 6: I'm talking about the impact that you end up having 511 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:42,280 Speaker 6: as exactly exactly, and when we have mental capacity, we 512 00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:44,720 Speaker 6: make decisions that are rooted in clarity. 513 00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:48,400 Speaker 5: It's grounded. Your resilience shows up. 514 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 1: This is interesting. And you also have a capacity workbook. 515 00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:53,639 Speaker 1: Can we talk about that? 516 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:59,639 Speaker 5: Yeah, so my Capacity Workbook is great, but I create 517 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,200 Speaker 5: it is but I hated it because so much has 518 00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:06,159 Speaker 5: evolved since February. It was people were like, what is 519 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,480 Speaker 5: this girl talking about when she say capacity? 520 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:10,959 Speaker 6: So I was like, I have to create something, right, 521 00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:14,480 Speaker 6: But it's continuing to evolve. So I'm working on a 522 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:18,960 Speaker 6: full framework to support people in developing their capacity. But 523 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:23,080 Speaker 6: the Capacity Workbook addresses it takes you through the steps 524 00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:27,720 Speaker 6: of identifying emotions, those six basic emotions. Life is complicated enough. 525 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,480 Speaker 6: We don't need all these different words and language. We 526 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 6: have enough language, so we're not even mastering the sixth. 527 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:38,080 Speaker 5: I can't even get sad, that's right. So it walks 528 00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 5: you through that. 529 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:42,119 Speaker 6: And then there's also a framework for mental capacity and 530 00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,840 Speaker 6: I refer to it as the survival loop versus the 531 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:47,400 Speaker 6: capacity loop. And you have that both for the emotional 532 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 6: and the mental component. And it's a digital product. You 533 00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:52,719 Speaker 6: can take it wherever you are and always have it 534 00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:54,000 Speaker 6: at your leisure and I use it. 535 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,440 Speaker 5: I used it this past weekend. Like mental. 536 00:24:57,720 --> 00:24:58,200 Speaker 3: Yourself. 537 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:03,040 Speaker 2: I like this different approach. Then what where I think conditioned. 538 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,520 Speaker 4: As it's so important because I so much of what 539 00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:10,160 Speaker 4: we're being taught is that if it's hard, it's. 540 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,159 Speaker 1: That I have boundaries. 541 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:13,199 Speaker 3: I'm not dealing with it. 542 00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:15,359 Speaker 4: But the truth is, wait a minute, is it hard 543 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,120 Speaker 4: because I need to be stronger? 544 00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:18,440 Speaker 1: It never will not be hard. 545 00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, And so the truth is there's going to be 546 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 2: so many things that we have to experience and go 547 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:27,800 Speaker 2: through that there's no way that you cannot figure out 548 00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 2: the way that you can the capacity of letting your 549 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,919 Speaker 2: capacity grow and learning how to or. 550 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,200 Speaker 3: Your skirt in life like this all the time. 551 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:39,920 Speaker 6: Yeah, it's And I think the thing that we miss 552 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 6: when we're having these mental health conversations is like, as 553 00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:48,320 Speaker 6: a licensed professional counselor, I know that people are going 554 00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:49,680 Speaker 6: to struggle with their mental health. 555 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:50,639 Speaker 5: I expect you to. 556 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:54,080 Speaker 6: And if I expect you to, that means that you're 557 00:25:54,119 --> 00:25:56,840 Speaker 6: going to have these transitory or you're going to be 558 00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:59,840 Speaker 6: navigating these micro or these macro similar to what you 559 00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,600 Speaker 6: saying when you started to show you were like, Okay, 560 00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:04,560 Speaker 6: I need to live closer as I figure out how 561 00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:05,400 Speaker 6: this is gonna work. 562 00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:06,680 Speaker 1: Right, that's capacity. 563 00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,119 Speaker 2: I was pactive and making sure that I wasn't going 564 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:10,879 Speaker 2: to put too much on myself exactly. 565 00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,760 Speaker 6: That is capacity because you were going through a transition, 566 00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:16,200 Speaker 6: you were going through a change. Had you not had 567 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 6: the capacity, you probably would have made the weight much 568 00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:22,400 Speaker 6: heavier than what it already was. Because what you were 569 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 6: carrying by producing your own show, going out here on 570 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:28,960 Speaker 6: your own that's wait. How you end up carrying it 571 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:29,920 Speaker 6: determines what you. 572 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,919 Speaker 1: Produce, right, and the correla I knew that. 573 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:34,760 Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, I'm gonna have a lot more 574 00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:36,520 Speaker 2: to do because it's me care rating all of this. 575 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,639 Speaker 2: There'll be a lot of changes, There'll be a lot 576 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:40,720 Speaker 2: of going back and forth to work. I was like, 577 00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,600 Speaker 2: instead of giving myself the added burden of the traffic 578 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:46,000 Speaker 2: and coming back and forth, and I was like, I 579 00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:48,240 Speaker 2: need to be in walking distance from my job so 580 00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,440 Speaker 2: I can just at least not have that. 581 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,359 Speaker 3: That was supporting your capacity. Growth. 582 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:55,560 Speaker 6: Capacity is a part of wisdom, though I agree, that's 583 00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:56,200 Speaker 6: what I'm saying. 584 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:59,639 Speaker 4: What do you say about people who may feel like, well, 585 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:03,280 Speaker 4: you're not. Like the difference between saying, well, I'm I 586 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:06,119 Speaker 4: have trauma, I'm I'm dealing with trauma. So because of that, 587 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,400 Speaker 4: I'm using that as a covering versus using trauma as 588 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 4: something I. 589 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:10,520 Speaker 3: Have to grow through. 590 00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 5: Ask me that one more time. 591 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,640 Speaker 4: Okay, So some people may see they use trauma as 592 00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:21,359 Speaker 4: a crutch. Yes, that's the word I'm looking for, and 593 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 4: I've heard you talk about. 594 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:28,439 Speaker 6: That, so I what goes missed in these conversations around 595 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:34,000 Speaker 6: trauma to me is trauma is subjective. That's why we 596 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:35,600 Speaker 6: always say that you and I can grow up in 597 00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:37,919 Speaker 6: the same household, and the way we end up experiencing 598 00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 6: the world may be completely different. And I think that 599 00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:46,040 Speaker 6: if we don't, we don't want to create shame around it. 600 00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:52,040 Speaker 6: But helping people understand that trauma is subjective, which means 601 00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:55,480 Speaker 6: that before you label it, you get to decide how 602 00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,320 Speaker 6: it has impacted you. So if I'm working with you 603 00:27:58,400 --> 00:27:59,560 Speaker 6: and you come in and you. 604 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:04,159 Speaker 5: Say I lost my mom yesterday. 605 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:07,119 Speaker 6: Right before I decide that, oh my gosh, that is 606 00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,680 Speaker 6: a terrible thing that has happened, I need to give 607 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,960 Speaker 6: you the opportunity to let me know how you are 608 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,680 Speaker 6: responding to that. Situation because you could say, well, I've 609 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:20,160 Speaker 6: been a really great daughter while I am grieving, because 610 00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:23,080 Speaker 6: that's part of being a human. I don't feel like 611 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 6: I'm going to collapse. I know that this is going 612 00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,080 Speaker 6: to be hard to navigate this, but. 613 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:32,359 Speaker 5: Life well lived. Mom and I had a great relationship. 614 00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:33,360 Speaker 5: I feel good about it. 615 00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:37,000 Speaker 6: If I put that label on you, you've already I've 616 00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:38,680 Speaker 6: turned it into something that's. 617 00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:39,960 Speaker 3: Really my issue, not yours. 618 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:44,520 Speaker 6: Yes, And I think that when we hear bad situations, 619 00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,880 Speaker 6: we default to or that must have been traumatic for 620 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:49,840 Speaker 6: a person before giving them the chance to see like 621 00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:51,760 Speaker 6: how they're actually responding to it. 622 00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:54,520 Speaker 3: So it's like we actually create. 623 00:28:57,480 --> 00:29:00,840 Speaker 4: More trauma on them because when not giving them an opportunity, were. 624 00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:02,840 Speaker 1: Not I just to say, like my condolences, is there 625 00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 1: anything you need? 626 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:05,920 Speaker 3: Yes, that's checking in with the person. 627 00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,840 Speaker 6: You know, because I've learned this is assuming, it's making it. 628 00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:11,400 Speaker 6: You know what they say when you make assumptions. 629 00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:14,160 Speaker 3: Yes, oh my god, your life must be destroyed. 630 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:16,440 Speaker 2: Right, you know what I have learned because also some 631 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:20,040 Speaker 2: people are really not like it's hard to figure out 632 00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:21,400 Speaker 2: how to respond. 633 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:22,320 Speaker 1: To somebody when they say that. 634 00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:25,440 Speaker 2: And so I've learned the best thing to do is 635 00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:27,880 Speaker 2: say do you need anything or if you need anything, 636 00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:29,800 Speaker 2: I'm here, Like, let me know what I can how 637 00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 2: I can help or how can I support you? 638 00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,440 Speaker 6: Instead of that that must be really bad, that must 639 00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:35,520 Speaker 6: be really hard on you. 640 00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:37,280 Speaker 1: But I understand that people may not. 641 00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's why this is a conversation because people 642 00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:41,600 Speaker 2: may have the best intentions. 643 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,200 Speaker 4: But so it's equipping people to have a capacity on 644 00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:46,160 Speaker 4: how to help with people. 645 00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 6: This is a high level capacity. 646 00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,640 Speaker 4: Well, one of the things that we know is with stressors, 647 00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:57,200 Speaker 4: you know, it's there's also the responsibility to take care 648 00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,800 Speaker 4: of our bodies, right, So you we talked about like 649 00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:03,080 Speaker 4: D three there like things that we need to know 650 00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 4: to equip ourselves in our bodies, right, and like even 651 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:08,440 Speaker 4: like we're coming up on our October reset because we 652 00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:11,320 Speaker 4: do resets every quarter and one of the things we 653 00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:14,440 Speaker 4: tell people is don't make it just fasting, like do 654 00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,600 Speaker 4: it with emotional work. So I would love for people 655 00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:19,120 Speaker 4: who are going to do the reset with us in 656 00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 4: October to get Quel Hopkins's Capacity Workbook to take time 657 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:29,800 Speaker 4: to actually work on your emotional issues, right, capacity to 658 00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,360 Speaker 4: help you grow so that you get the full benefit 659 00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,600 Speaker 4: of the reset because your body resets, but your mind 660 00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:38,200 Speaker 4: and your heart need to reset too, in a way 661 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:41,400 Speaker 4: that you're in a better position to grow and better 662 00:30:41,440 --> 00:30:42,600 Speaker 4: position to handle life. 663 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 3: I think that that's that's at. 664 00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:46,000 Speaker 1: Because it's not getting any easier. 665 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:51,480 Speaker 6: Guys, one time that way, I don't I don't have 666 00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:54,480 Speaker 6: to say it this time you say I like this 667 00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:55,040 Speaker 6: type of. 668 00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 1: Work though you don't do. Yeah, I do like this. 669 00:30:57,760 --> 00:31:01,080 Speaker 2: I think this is you know, some that is very 670 00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:04,200 Speaker 2: useful in our day to day, like just to kind 671 00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:07,760 Speaker 2: of help us learn how to grow through adversity. 672 00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:11,680 Speaker 6: I tell people today that coping is not I mean, yeah, 673 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,000 Speaker 6: coping is not enough. 674 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,080 Speaker 5: You have to actually develop people. 675 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,840 Speaker 6: More. Developing people is really starting to tap into what 676 00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:22,080 Speaker 6: does capacity look like for you and what are you 677 00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:26,200 Speaker 6: wanting to produce? Like, coping worked a long time ago 678 00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:29,920 Speaker 6: when life wasn't as complex as it is, and it's not. 679 00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:33,520 Speaker 5: Going to change, it's just going to get I love 680 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:34,000 Speaker 5: what you said. 681 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:37,080 Speaker 4: When it's like, what does capacity look like? That capacity 682 00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:40,280 Speaker 4: means you know you've built capacity. When it's not, it's 683 00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:42,840 Speaker 4: not causing you to crumble going through the hard thing. 684 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,160 Speaker 4: You don't crumble from it, You actually grow through it. 685 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:47,920 Speaker 4: That's why I like to be solution oriented. I always 686 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,240 Speaker 4: say that there's always going to be problems. It's kind 687 00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:51,840 Speaker 4: of like how to use It's kind of like being 688 00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,280 Speaker 4: in a relationship. You know there's going to be arguments 689 00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,640 Speaker 4: and things you don't agree on, But then what are 690 00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:59,560 Speaker 4: the ways that you handle those arguments so that it 691 00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 4: can become more productive. 692 00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:07,840 Speaker 5: Meaning and growing together meaningful relationships. Yeah. No, we could 693 00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 5: all just be capacity experts. 694 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:16,600 Speaker 2: I'm staying conversation, but sometimes I do want to just 695 00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:18,120 Speaker 2: say I don't have the bandwidth for that right now. 696 00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:22,480 Speaker 7: And I think that I think that's that's okay because 697 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:25,360 Speaker 7: I think that that's part of you acknowledging that you're 698 00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:29,800 Speaker 7: like I say, sometimes I don't have the capacity like. 699 00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:31,720 Speaker 1: Talking to somebody in here. 700 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:33,960 Speaker 6: I don't think anything is wrong with that, And I 701 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:38,040 Speaker 6: think that is experiencing a stage of what it. 702 00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:39,560 Speaker 5: Means to be human. 703 00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:42,680 Speaker 4: Like, yeah, now, I think that's fully honest, because you 704 00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:44,880 Speaker 4: have to know when in the moment you may not 705 00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:46,840 Speaker 4: be able to show up as your best self right now, 706 00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:48,960 Speaker 4: I may not be you know, Like my sister was 707 00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:50,440 Speaker 4: sharing something, I was like, you know what, where I'm 708 00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:52,760 Speaker 4: feeling the way I'm feeling, I'm really not hearing anything 709 00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:54,880 Speaker 4: you're saying, because all I'm focusing on right now is 710 00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:57,480 Speaker 4: getting myself together emotionally and physically. 711 00:32:57,520 --> 00:32:58,760 Speaker 5: And I don't think anything. 712 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:00,520 Speaker 3: Is wrong with nothing but honesty. 713 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,760 Speaker 4: But but she knows I will show up and I'll 714 00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:05,160 Speaker 4: circle back with her on it, and that's part of 715 00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:05,600 Speaker 4: that too. 716 00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:10,320 Speaker 1: Got eleven. All right, So where can people find you? Raquail? 717 00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:14,719 Speaker 6: I am recoiled the Capacity Expert on Instagram. 718 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:16,800 Speaker 4: And it's dashes in between this da forget to tell 719 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:17,520 Speaker 4: about them dash. 720 00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:18,120 Speaker 5: I don't know where to. 721 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:23,520 Speaker 6: It's recoiled home onil Underscore, the discore. 722 00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:25,480 Speaker 5: It's long. 723 00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:28,640 Speaker 1: Listen, just look up the Capacity Expert. You're the only 724 00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:30,320 Speaker 1: one I know. That's the capacity Expert. 725 00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:36,240 Speaker 4: So it's Requel Underscore, the underscore Capacity Underscore Expert. Yep, 726 00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,720 Speaker 4: that's it, a lot of underscore. The Capacity workbook is 727 00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:40,480 Speaker 4: at the link in your bio. 728 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:42,120 Speaker 5: Yes, it is, it is. It is. 729 00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:45,480 Speaker 4: And y'all doing the reset with us October fifth through eleventh. 730 00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:46,840 Speaker 3: Get her work book please? 731 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:47,520 Speaker 1: All right? 732 00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:49,160 Speaker 2: I think that's a good time for me too, because 733 00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:50,480 Speaker 2: I think I'm here in town. 734 00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:51,520 Speaker 3: So there you go. 735 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,120 Speaker 1: Let's get it together. Yeah, I can do that. 736 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:55,440 Speaker 5: See you're gonna have to. 737 00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:57,440 Speaker 3: You're gonna join us. 738 00:33:58,080 --> 00:33:59,760 Speaker 4: We'll have you join us on a zoom so you 739 00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:02,480 Speaker 4: could talk to the people about all right, y'all, y'all 740 00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:06,480 Speaker 4: heard that. All right, it's way if your capacity is 741 00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:07,440 Speaker 4: there for it, all right,