Speaker 1: This is Let's Be Clear with Shannon Doherty. Hey, welcome
Speaker 1: to Let's Be Clear with Shannon Doherty. I hope you
Speaker 1: guys have all enjoyed listening to this podcast as much
Speaker 1: as I have enjoyed hosting it, and I'm really excited
Speaker 1: for the new year. I'm excited for all of the
Speaker 1: new guests that I have coming on. Uh We're talking
Speaker 1: about expert doctors that are going to talk to us
Speaker 1: about cancer, what's coming up in the future for the
Speaker 1: cancer world, sort of health in general, and some super
Speaker 1: surprise guest from you know, just friends or people that
Speaker 1: I've worked with, and really going to just keep digging
Speaker 1: into my life, the past, the present, in the future.
Speaker 1: So I'm really excited to keep sharing with you all
Speaker 1: and connecting really, because that's what this podcast is about.
Speaker 1: It's about connecting and learning from each other. I learn
Speaker 1: every single time I I host an episode. I learned
Speaker 1: from my guests, I learned from my doctors, I learned
Speaker 1: from the experience, I learned from you know, your guys comments.
Speaker 2: So thank you.
Speaker 1: Let's just keep learning together and being joyful and and
Speaker 1: being clear, because I think that being clear at this
Speaker 1: point in my life is incredibly important. But right now
Speaker 1: we're doing a Christmas episode. In case you didn't notice,
Speaker 1: there is a Christmas tree behind me that started out
Speaker 1: really ugly. And then we have my very.
Speaker 2: Special guests, my mom. I'm so happy to like be
Speaker 2: doing it with her, but I'm not happy because I
Speaker 2: have anxiety over I'm very private basically.
Speaker 1: So this is Mama Rosa Rosa to me, she's just mom.
Speaker 1: And you know, we coordinated today and matching green and green, and.
Speaker 2: The tree back there.
Speaker 1: Started as green because the Christmas tree lot said that
Speaker 1: they were done with flocking for the air. They were
Speaker 1: just done with flocking, which was bizarre to me. And
Speaker 1: my idea was that I was going to do this
Speaker 1: like minimalist tree. So it was just going to be
Speaker 1: a white flocked tree with white lights and that's it,
Speaker 1: like super minimalist. I thought it might be pretty, and
Speaker 1: so I bought all this fake snow stuff great when
Speaker 1: you have cancer, like the chemicals and that stuff, and
Speaker 1: I decided to flock my own tree. Yes you did, Yes.
Speaker 1: I meanwhile flocked my couch. I flocked Holly, who was
Speaker 1: here for all of this, yourself. I flocked myself, my
Speaker 1: friend Mike. Then came over and he got flocked.
Speaker 2: We were all flocked, and the tree was looking really.
Speaker 1: Really really rough, a little pathetic, a little, just a little.
Speaker 2: You kept asking me like, are you going to fix it?
Speaker 2: Are we going to put ornaments on it? What are
Speaker 2: we gonna do?
Speaker 1: So we did not put ornaments on. We just did
Speaker 1: baby's breath and ribbons. So it's still a little bit minimalist.
Speaker 1: I'm going to have to put on my thinking cap
Speaker 1: next tour. I was supposed to go to Tennessee this
Speaker 1: year with you and my brother and his wife and
Speaker 1: the kids, but due to weather and my dog's health,
Speaker 1: we all adjusted and everybody's coming to California now.
Speaker 2: So the tree was last minute. Yeah, but you did
Speaker 2: a really good job, and you always do something special
Speaker 2: with the tree. Our trees are always special every year
Speaker 2: because you do it and you're up on the ladder
Speaker 2: and the best part it makes me cry. The best
Speaker 2: part is seeing you up on the ladder putting the
Speaker 2: star or the angel or ribbon, big bow whatever on
Speaker 2: the tree. And then I usually go to your place
Speaker 2: and do your tree. Yes you do. Yeah, so we're
Speaker 2: not doing yours this year.
Speaker 1: No, we don't see the family's here, You're just going
Speaker 1: to stay with me for Christmas.
Speaker 2: And normally there's.
Speaker 1: Like a theme, yes for the tree, and then the
Speaker 1: theme carries out like throughout the house. So the Christmas
Speaker 1: packages are all wrapped pretty much the same, Like I'll
Speaker 1: do all parchment paper one year, and then the ribbon
Speaker 1: will be variation on the same color. So it was
Speaker 1: like brown parchment paper with like black and white striped
Speaker 1: ribbon or black and white polka dot ribbon.
Speaker 2: And we all have to adhere to what the color
Speaker 2: scheme is. We can't go off the color scheme. One year,
Speaker 2: you actually did for breast cancer a huge We did
Speaker 2: one inside and it had some pink on it, and
Speaker 2: then outside you did a huge tree out. Yeah that
Speaker 2: was all pink. Yes, yeah, I remember that. It was
Speaker 2: like really that was about a wee seen or twenty seventeen,
Speaker 2: I think. I think was the first year.
Speaker 1: I do want toy like I do supply the wrapping
Speaker 1: paper for everyone, so I don't make people go out
Speaker 1: and get like their own wrapping paper.
Speaker 2: But that's so it'll be what you want it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it looks so pretty when all the presents are
Speaker 1: underneath and everything's like a little coordinated.
Speaker 2: Maybe I'm a little OCD. No, I think it's great.
Speaker 2: Everybody loves it. Everybody comes and they whoever it is,
Speaker 2: they always come in and they're like, this is beautiful
Speaker 2: and it all just goes to the world together. How
Speaker 2: did you do all of this?
Speaker 1: See right from Mama Rosa's mouth, she approves it's all good.
Speaker 1: And we usually bake. Yes, we still have to make cookies.
Speaker 1: We haven't made our Christmas cookies yet. We have a
Speaker 1: lot to do. We my grandmother sends fudge, which is
Speaker 1: like very good. I love Southern fudge. Yeah, it's really delicious.
Speaker 2: So we bake. We figure out, like we don't just
Speaker 2: do cookies.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we do like, you know, Christmas cakes, and we
Speaker 1: used to do a I guess it's like vanilla cake
Speaker 1: with a cream cheese frosting and then cut it into
Speaker 1: the shape of a Christmas tree and decorate it with
Speaker 1: you know, some green glitter and like bulbs and do
Speaker 1: the whole thing with like candy and everything on it.
Speaker 1: We haven't done that in a little bit.
Speaker 2: No, we haven't. But we haven't had like children really
Speaker 2: around as much as we used to. A lot of
Speaker 2: friends got married, they had kids, they've moved to different places. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and Christopher took you know, my two what I call
Speaker 2: my kids, my two kids to Hawaii this year or
Speaker 2: so there. Why you just didn't seem like Christmas. No,
Speaker 2: we were going to go to Tennessee and have a
Speaker 2: Christmas hay ride and have the hometown Christmas parade. And
Speaker 2: then the tornadoes came, so that kind of changed things.
Speaker 2: And the dog and my dog got and the dog
Speaker 2: got sick. My dog got sick. Yeah, it's happened.
Speaker 1: Anyway, We're in California for Christmas, which is wonderful and
Speaker 1: amazing sing and I think this year.
Speaker 2: It's about like.
Speaker 1: Spending time with my brother and his wife, and he
Speaker 1: has seven children, and you guys, but only three can
Speaker 1: make it this year. Two are in England and two
Speaker 1: more are spending it with their respective girlfriends and their families.
Speaker 1: But I do get three of the kids, and so
Speaker 1: it's about I think for me personally, I'm just so
Speaker 1: thankful to be here for another Christmas.
Speaker 2: Well, we're thankful every day every day, and we know
Speaker 2: there's years to come because we have faith that science
Speaker 2: is going to bring us up there.
Speaker 1: Yes, but I mean, you know, it's been like the
Speaker 1: past couple of Christmases have been a little odd and
Speaker 1: haven't really felt like Christmas. I won't get into the
Speaker 1: reasons why, but just hasn't. It's it's been weird. So,
Speaker 1: and Christmas has always been a big day. It's my
Speaker 1: favorite holiday, not only because of the Christmas decorations and
Speaker 1: people being in a joyful sort of mindset hopefully the
Speaker 1: Christmas lights and the stockings and the tree decorating and
Speaker 1: the food and family, but also because of the meaning
Speaker 1: of Christmas at Christmas, Yeah, and like what it represents
Speaker 1: and you know, Jesus, and so it's definitely always been
Speaker 1: one of my favorite holidays.
Speaker 2: Yours two right, Yes, I love Christmas. I mean I
Speaker 2: can't think of another holiday. Dad loved Christmas.
Speaker 1: Dad loved Christmas. Yeah, I can't think of another holiday
Speaker 1: I like more than Christmas.
Speaker 2: Just your birthday. Sometimes sometimes I don't love my birthday.
Speaker 2: Well wait till you're my age, and then somebody keeps
Speaker 2: pushing birthdays at you.
Speaker 1: I think, But yeah, when I throw you some power
Speaker 1: and they're dj and dancing, you like, as long as
Speaker 1: they're dancing, I'm happy.
Speaker 2: So I think this year is about just.
Speaker 1: Being incredibly grateful that we're here and that we get
Speaker 1: to spend time with the people that are, you know,
Speaker 1: by our sides, through thick and thin, that don't walk away,
Speaker 1: that love us unconditionally and have the same sort of
Speaker 1: beliefs and morals and standards, and people that have character.
Speaker 1: And I'm just so thankful really to be here for it.
Speaker 1: And I even got to schedule my like cancer infusions
Speaker 1: where I would be recovered completely from it for Christmas,
Speaker 1: which is great.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, But our friends are now family. Your friends, my
Speaker 2: friends were That is family because they love us. They're
Speaker 2: there for us. Not they're always there for you, but
Speaker 2: they're there for me too, and it's so special. I agree,
Speaker 2: don't cry, you know me.
Speaker 1: I like here And so yeah, so we're gonna have
Speaker 1: like my brother and his family gets in on the
Speaker 1: twenty third, twenty fourth, big family dinner, twenty fifth, all
Speaker 1: the leftovers.
Speaker 2: All the leftovers that's really good. And games games which
Speaker 2: open packages which this year we've actually been told we
Speaker 2: can only buy one. But I think somebody's already cheated.
Speaker 2: I think you've already cheated. Not me. Oh yeah, you
Speaker 2: just came this morning, said here, this was in your
Speaker 2: stocking that was a stocking stuffer. Okay, well gift didn't count.
Speaker 2: It was a stocking stuffer.
Speaker 1: And I gave you your Christmas presents early, and I
Speaker 1: gave you my Christion exactly.
Speaker 2: So you and I are done. We cheated.
Speaker 1: Well, you know, oftentimes what happens during Christmas is we
Speaker 1: go shopping together and then I see something that I
Speaker 1: really like for her, but she's with me, and she
Speaker 1: sees something that she really likes for me, but obviously
Speaker 1: she's with me, and so we're like, all right, here's
Speaker 1: your Christmas present.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's still exciting because we get we have
Speaker 2: all that time to see where we want to put
Speaker 2: it and enjoy it. Hm, that's good exactly. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So that's our Christmas. Just you know, reflecting on the ear,
Speaker 1: reflecting for me, it's been.
Speaker 2: A turbulent ear.
Speaker 1: You know, some massive health struggles, some massive personal struggles,
Speaker 1: a lot of you know, heartbreak and fear. But with
Speaker 1: all of that, I have found that it's actually I
Speaker 1: was saying this to myself the other day the other night.
Speaker 1: Actually it's like, God, I think I'm actually starting to
Speaker 1: live like the happiest version of my life. Interestingly enough,
Speaker 1: like even though it's been such a contentious year for me.
Speaker 1: For some reason, it just feels it's gotten a lot
Speaker 1: lighter lately and a lot more positive and energy in
Speaker 1: my house is amazing, and the people that I'm hanging
Speaker 1: out with are amazing, and my heart is you know,
Speaker 1: opening back up, and it just feels like the year
Speaker 1: is ending well. And as long as my dog is
Speaker 1: okay and my loved ones are okay, next year is
Speaker 1: going to be beautiful.
Speaker 2: You're now surrounded with real love.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's what we're gonna do for Christmas, and
Speaker 1: that's a way for each other, and that's what it
Speaker 1: means to us. It's just reflection, great joy, deep appreciation,
Speaker 1: absolutely and opening presents and ah, wait a minute, eating
Speaker 1: like pigs and what else presents.
Speaker 2: That's a whole nother thing. And that's another thing that's
Speaker 2: maybe good that you have limited the presence because even
Speaker 2: as a little girl, you thought you were pulling something
Speaker 2: really smart. You're the best rewrapper I've ever seen in
Speaker 2: my life because you would go sneak under the tree,
Speaker 2: get your presence out, unwrap them, meticulously, put them back,
Speaker 2: wrap them again. That's why you are one of the
Speaker 2: best rappers. I have ever seen today. You wrapped the
Speaker 2: most beautiful passages. You had years of practice. I thank you.
Speaker 2: I can't believe I did that, Oh you did. But
Speaker 2: it was it was fun. It was joy knowing that
Speaker 2: you thought you were really pulling this off and you
Speaker 2: were so proud of yourself, and we just went with that.
Speaker 1: What about our I mean, we also do like a
Speaker 1: that started when Dad was alive, and it was like
Speaker 1: a one upmanship thing with a present. So okay, it
Speaker 1: would be, you know, here's all the presents. We would
Speaker 1: get done opening and everybody was like, okay, we're done,
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, I would be like, oh, oh, oh,
Speaker 1: I think there's one more thing here, and I would
Speaker 1: present it to my parents and it was like their
Speaker 1: real gift, like they're really nice, nice, nice gift, and
Speaker 1: and they call on to that after the first time
Speaker 1: I did it, and the second year I did it,
Speaker 1: and you know, tears like blah blah blah. They were
Speaker 1: so you know, overjoyed or just it was a lovely experience.
Speaker 1: And I would be like, okay, all right, now, let's go,
Speaker 1: you know, make Christmas breakfast, and all of a sudden
Speaker 1: they would be like my dad would start doing his
Speaker 1: like laughing chuckle thing where he almost he would he
Speaker 1: would cry from laughing so hard, but it would give
Speaker 1: him so much joy to have a leg up on me.
Speaker 1: So all of a sudden it would be like, oh,
Speaker 1: oh wait, what is this?
Speaker 2: What is this?
Speaker 1: And they would hand me something that was like beautiful
Speaker 1: and meaningful. It could have been you know, my dad's
Speaker 1: my dad's football charm, remember, yes, And it's because my
Speaker 1: dad played football in college for a little bit, so
Speaker 1: there was there's always been that one up and ship thing.
Speaker 1: That's pretty funny that it's a tradition of ours that
Speaker 1: I said we're not doing this year. Yeah, that's what
Speaker 1: she said. That does not sound like you're adhering to it.
Speaker 1: If you do not adhere to it. I've good so
Speaker 1: far because it's the rain. It's like I haven't been
Speaker 1: able to really get out and do anything. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I'm doing my little part time work. Am
Speaker 2: I a happy place? So by the time I get off,
Speaker 2: it's yeah, it's good.
Speaker 1: We're just going to keep her in the rain so
Speaker 1: that she can't do any shopping and there's no one upmanship.
Speaker 1: So anyway, so that is our Christmas and we really,
Speaker 1: really really wish you all a very merry Christmas, a
Speaker 1: very happy holidays. Whatever you celebrate, I hope that it
Speaker 1: brings you deep joy and close to family loved ones,
Speaker 1: remembering that family is, you know, not always biological. Sometimes
Speaker 1: it's just your friends that become your family, like a
Speaker 1: lot of my friends are.
Speaker 2: And gratitude for what we've all been given.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and peace, like at the end of the
Speaker 1: day that we all have peace, and our peace is
Speaker 1: a beautiful thing.
Speaker 2: Acceptance of others.
Speaker 1: And you know, it's been a tumultuous year for the
Speaker 1: world in general, and my Christmas wish is that somehow
Speaker 1: it ends in a peaceful manner that where people learn
Speaker 1: to love and accept one another. And that's it right now, guys,
Speaker 1: that's like season three.
Speaker 2: So anyway, just.
Speaker 1: Lots and lots of love to all of you out there,
Speaker 1: and don't worry, my mom will be back for another
Speaker 1: episode that's not a Christmas episode talking about about all
Speaker 1: things Shannon, because she just told you a little story
Speaker 1: about me being a kid on wrapping presents and putting
Speaker 1: them all back together, so I'm sure she has a
Speaker 1: lot more like that. Oh maybe so good luck to
Speaker 1: all of you this year. May next year bring you
Speaker 1: an abundance of love and joy and peace, and thank
Speaker 1: you from me and Mama Rosa.
Speaker 2: Marry, Merry Christmas, everybody, Happy Holidays,