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Speaker 2: Oliver is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Sarah and has

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Speaker 2: no idea why. So we're going to call her in

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Speaker 2: a few minutes and see if she'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: she's ghosting him. But first, Oliver, how long has it

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Speaker 2: been since you heard from Sarah?

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week.

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Speaker 4: How many times you try to get ahold of her

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Speaker 4: in that week?

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Speaker 3: Well, I was texting her for the first couple days,

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Speaker 3: three days, and I sent like a text message and

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Speaker 3: she like replied like really short, and then like the

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Speaker 3: next day I didn't hear anything, And then the next

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Speaker 3: day I didn't hear anything either. So then I tried

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Speaker 3: to call her, and then after that I just I

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Speaker 3: was like, you know, I don't want to seem too

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Speaker 3: much like a stalker, so let me just just back

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Speaker 3: off a little bit. So I haven't personally reached out

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Speaker 3: to her in like two days now.

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Speaker 5: All right, so we give her a little break for

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Speaker 5: a couple of days. Let's right, let's go back at

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Speaker 5: your date. Can you tell us about that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we met up at a bar and we

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Speaker 3: were going to get a drink or two because I

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Speaker 3: had made reservations, so we were just kind of waiting

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Speaker 3: for those to get to get like.

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Speaker 4: Get the tailor ready.

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Speaker 3: And but there was this really dope band that was

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Speaker 3: playing in the bar area and me and who were

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Speaker 3: just really enjoying the music, and we kind of talked

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Speaker 3: about it, like, you know what, we can order food

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Speaker 3: So I went and canceled the reservation and we just

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Speaker 3: had some food there at the bar, had some drinks

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Speaker 3: and really enjoyed this cool band and that. Yeah, and

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Speaker 3: that was the date. And then after that I drove

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Speaker 3: her home and left her there, said good night and yeah,

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Speaker 3: so it's really weird. I feel like we had an

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Speaker 3: awesome time.

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Speaker 2: So you just said good night, No kiss, handshake, a hug.

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Speaker 2: Was there any kind of interaction other than just buy

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Speaker 2: I guess I'm saying yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I didn't feel like I should go in

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Speaker 3: for the kids, but I definitely hug her and I said, hey,

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Speaker 3: I would love to hand again, see you again. I

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Speaker 3: don't want I'm not too forwardive a guy like that,

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Speaker 3: but I you know, I definitely wanted to, Okay.

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Speaker 6: Of course, did you feel like she wanted to?

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Speaker 3: I don't know. That's that's the thing, Like she she

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Speaker 3: seemed excited in her response about going on another date,

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Speaker 3: and it wasn't like a quick little hog like it was.

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Speaker 3: It was a nice little embrace, like just you know,

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Speaker 3: you know when someone really enjoys hugging and it kind

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Speaker 3: of there's a little squeeze and yeah.

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Speaker 5: So then what about like on the date, was there

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Speaker 5: anything that was awkward that would make or not want

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Speaker 5: to call you back? Or is there anything really great

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Speaker 2: Could she have also wanted to go to the dinner

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Speaker 4: Like do you think she could have met about that?

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Speaker 3: No? I mean she she's actually the one that kind

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Speaker 3: of first suggested it. But you know, there was one

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Speaker 3: not too sure, but like when I asked her about it,

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Speaker 3: that interaction. Okay, maybe it was an X. Maybe it

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Speaker 6: Was she sitting next to you and she was getting

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Speaker 3: I saw it. I wasn't like physically there, but I

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Speaker 4: Gone, but it looked like it was heated.

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Speaker 3: She didn't seem amused by it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we'll try and figure it out. We'll play song

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Speaker 2: come back and then call her, get her on the

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Speaker 2: get you another date.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, that'd be perfect, all right, play.

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Speaker 4: Song I about to get your first DA follow up.

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Speaker 1: Next first Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your First Date follow Up

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Speaker 2: and Oliver is on the phone today. He's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by Sarah. He doesn't know why. So we're about to

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Speaker 2: call her in just a second and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting.

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Speaker 4: Him and maybe get him another date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Oliver, why don't you catch everybody up on

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Speaker 2: your date with Sarah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we went to a bar and we're going to

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Speaker 3: have dinner at a restaurant. And we had a great

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Speaker 3: time at the bar because it was live music, so

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Speaker 3: we decided to stay there and we had it at

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Speaker 3: a great time and it seemed like a pleasant evening.

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Speaker 3: You want to drop her off, but now I can't

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Speaker 4: All right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it out.

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Speaker 4: Here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hello, him, I speak to Sarah. Please since her. Hey Sarah,

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Speaker 2: how are you? My name is juwbul from radio show

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Speaker 2: called The Jubil Show.

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Speaker 6: Hi, Sarah, I'mnan also on the show.

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Speaker 4: Hi I'm Victoria. Oh hey, Hi, what's up? You listen

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Speaker 4: to the show?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 4: Okay, thank you, sweet?

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 7: Why are you guys calling me.

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Speaker 4: Because somebody else listens to the show too?

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Speaker 3: Well, I think a lot.

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Speaker 7: Of people listen to you guys.

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Speaker 4: This is a person that you know.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, and they wanted us to call you because

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Speaker 2: you went out on a date with them and now

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Speaker 7: Oh okay, Okay, I think I know who you're talking about.

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Speaker 4: This is a first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: And Oliver is a guy who emailed us and said

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Speaker 2: he went on a date with you and he doesn't

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Speaker 2: know why you're ghosting and he thought everything was cool.

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Speaker 6: Oh Oliver, Yeah, that guy, Oliver.

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Speaker 7: You know what, He's actually a really good person.

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Speaker 3: He's a good guy.

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Speaker 2: Well he told us about your date. If he's a

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Speaker 2: good guy, why don't you want to go out with

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Speaker 6: You know?

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Speaker 7: It is not I don't that's funny. It's not him,

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Speaker 7: it's me.

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Speaker 3: I just don't know what I want.

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Speaker 7: I'm getting out of a relationship, and I don't know

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Speaker 3: My ex keeps blowing up my phone. I was in

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Speaker 7: So it's just really hard because I just don't know

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Speaker 7: to move on and date other people or just be

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Speaker 3: So I'm just confused.

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Speaker 6: I get that. Why did you go on a date

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Speaker 7: I didn't know what I wanted, so I wanted to

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Speaker 7: go out. I still don't know what I want.

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Speaker 3: Well, who was on drive?

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Speaker 7: What?

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Speaker 6: Oh?

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Speaker 4: That was Oliver? Sarah? Or he's actually on the phone

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Speaker 7: Oh yeah, yeah, who was he?

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Speaker 3: That was my ex?

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Speaker 7: What that I I didn't want to say anything to

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Speaker 7: take the situation. I just went through a breakup, of

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Speaker 7: He didn't stay there. You date? So, yeah, he saw

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Speaker 7: he saw that I was on a date. He got

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Speaker 7: it on my friend's app, and he couldn't stand that

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Speaker 7: Like I know I'm not back with him? I just

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Speaker 7: I'm just confused because he's bringing back all the good

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Speaker 7: I just don't know what I want, Like, I don't

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Speaker 6: Sarah, you did tell us that you're talking to him.

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Speaker 7: Though I am talking to my acts. Yeah, of course

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Speaker 7: it was two years. I don't know exactly what I mean.

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Speaker 7: I can't just end it.

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Speaker 6: I feel like that's fair.

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Speaker 4: But then why go on a date with Oliver and

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Speaker 4: like ghost him?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, because I mean that's what dating.

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Speaker 3: You go out and you date.

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Speaker 7: Someone and you just get to note them, Like, I mean,

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Speaker 3: You don't usually go on a date with someone when

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Speaker 3: how does that make any sure? Like are you just

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Speaker 3: trying to am I? Like a am I a booty call,

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Speaker 3: like you're trying to hook up with me, and like, well, what's.

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Speaker 7: Wrong with a booty call? Maybe it takes another guy

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Speaker 7: to get over the other guy.

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Speaker 3: Well I'm not that guy, Like I'm trying to find

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Speaker 3: like a relationship, you know, Like I'm trying to be

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Speaker 3: that guy. I'm not trying to just be hooking up

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Speaker 3: with whoever. Especially yeah, that you don't don't until you.

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Speaker 7: Hook up with me.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I'm a little old friend means I don't think

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Speaker 3: that's I don't think that's true. But even still, like

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Speaker 3: like what if I was there, Like would your ex

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Speaker 7: He probably would just stare at your say somewhere I

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Speaker 7: don't know, but he left, So he left.

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Speaker 3: He didn't say.

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Speaker 5: Nobody asks for my advice. But whenever a third party,

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Speaker 5: like as in an X, shows up on a date,

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Speaker 5: it's never a good sign. Usually they continue to pop

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Speaker 4: Well, and break into the house and look at you

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Speaker 4: while you're specific.

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Speaker 5: That's why I said, nobody asked my advice, Well, I

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, that would have been good to.

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Speaker 4: Know, Oliver would ran

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