1
00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:04,800
Speaker 1: What's up, everybody, and welcome to another episode of bats

2
00:00:04,880 --> 00:00:07,080
Speaker 1: or Happy Hour. I'm your girl, Rachel, and joining me

3
00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:10,680
Speaker 1: in the studio today is not other than Crystal Nielsen.

4
00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:14,040
Speaker 1: What's up, girl? Thank you so much for having me. Well,

5
00:00:14,040 --> 00:00:16,000
Speaker 1: I'm happy to have you back because when you were

6
00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:18,120
Speaker 1: here last time, I wasn't here with you. You were

7
00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:21,480
Speaker 1: on your honeymoon. I was on in Grease. It was it.

8
00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:23,639
Speaker 1: It was amazing, It was amazing. But I listened to

9
00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:26,119
Speaker 1: you from Afar. You killed it. So I'm happy to

10
00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,000
Speaker 1: be sitting here with you today and co hosting. Thank

11
00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:30,440
Speaker 1: you so much. I'm happy to be back. I was

12
00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:32,320
Speaker 1: telling you in the bathroom. You didn't know this, but

13
00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:34,839
Speaker 1: I actually lost my voice when I came last time

14
00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:38,920
Speaker 1: into the and I hosted with Holly, I had no voice.

15
00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:41,879
Speaker 1: I almost wish that you still didn't, because that's like

16
00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:43,680
Speaker 1: one of the things that people tried to get onto

17
00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:46,160
Speaker 1: you from your season, and I would be like, she's bad.

18
00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:50,839
Speaker 1: I'm so viking this right now. Well, congratulations to you.

19
00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:52,720
Speaker 1: I have not seen you since you've been married. You're

20
00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:56,640
Speaker 1: wedding beautiful. You were stunning. I literally have to say

21
00:00:56,840 --> 00:01:00,680
Speaker 1: everything right back at you. Well, this is what's hitch up? Girls? Now?

22
00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:04,920
Speaker 1: I know it's exciting. We have that glow going. One

23
00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,960
Speaker 1: of the things people don't know is that I saw

24
00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,480
Speaker 1: Crystal while she was trying on her wedding dress, and

25
00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:12,680
Speaker 1: do you remember my words to you? I said, oh

26
00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:14,720
Speaker 1: my god, I just came up here to make sure

27
00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:19,200
Speaker 1: you're dress didn't look like look like And then I said,

28
00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:21,720
Speaker 1: you look absolutely studding. I know, I don't know if

29
00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:24,160
Speaker 1: i'd actually chosen the dress when you ran down that

30
00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:26,600
Speaker 1: I was in my one of twenty six dresses that

31
00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:31,920
Speaker 1: I had been trying on. Twenty say, a totally different

32
00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,600
Speaker 1: podcast with just talking about all. I got a video

33
00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:37,520
Speaker 1: montage of all those dresses girls I tried on four

34
00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:41,679
Speaker 1: later four and one was like black pants. It's it's

35
00:01:42,480 --> 00:01:44,720
Speaker 1: but anyways, as much as Crystal and I could keep going,

36
00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:47,360
Speaker 1: this podcast is not just about us, because we have

37
00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:50,640
Speaker 1: some very special guests joining us on the podcast today,

38
00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:54,240
Speaker 1: none other giving us all the advice about weddings and

39
00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:57,560
Speaker 1: kids and being a mom and finding that work life balance.

40
00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:01,680
Speaker 1: We've got Carly and Jay joining us. What's up ladies.

41
00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:06,760
Speaker 1: He Hi, thank you guys so much for joining us.

42
00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:08,600
Speaker 1: You know, Riche and I were just chatting about how

43
00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,640
Speaker 1: excited it is being at newlyweds and how we you know,

44
00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:16,000
Speaker 1: are looking forward to being moms in the somewhat near future.

45
00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:18,560
Speaker 1: So we were hoping that we could have you on

46
00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:21,760
Speaker 1: this podcast and share with us some tips and tricks

47
00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:25,680
Speaker 1: and um, some advice on preparing for that next chapter

48
00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:27,440
Speaker 1: of our lives. Yeah, we want to. We want to

49
00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:32,519
Speaker 1: dive in and just get all up in your business. Okay, yeah, absolutely. Also,

50
00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:35,360
Speaker 1: you guys, Harley and I didn't change our last names either,

51
00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:40,720
Speaker 1: So are we feminists because we don't change our last

52
00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:43,360
Speaker 1: names because I'm kind of forward. It's too much work,

53
00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:46,799
Speaker 1: it's too much worse, and like, I don't know, it

54
00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:50,160
Speaker 1: just gets like a way part of my identity I feel,

55
00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:52,400
Speaker 1: you know, actually I feel the same way. And it

56
00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,160
Speaker 1: was something when, um, when I was getting married, everyone

57
00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:56,480
Speaker 1: was asking me and I was getting a lot of

58
00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:58,840
Speaker 1: shame on Instagram about it, and people were like, why

59
00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:00,800
Speaker 1: aren't you going to change your name? Like do not

60
00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:03,280
Speaker 1: see the relationship working out? And for me, I think

61
00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:05,600
Speaker 1: I wasn't really sure why I was feeling so defensive

62
00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:07,400
Speaker 1: and what I kind of had uncovered and doing that

63
00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,800
Speaker 1: work was that for a long time it took me

64
00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:13,160
Speaker 1: to really love and appreciate who I am today and

65
00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:16,280
Speaker 1: that Krystal Nelson my last name, like and taking ownership

66
00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:19,480
Speaker 1: of that and everything that came with it. I'm really

67
00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:22,320
Speaker 1: proud to be her, and I didn't want to be

68
00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:25,760
Speaker 1: somebody else. I wanted to be me. I like that. Yes, girl,

69
00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:29,680
Speaker 1: I feel like the happy medium is just changing it

70
00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:31,880
Speaker 1: on Instagram right, like people think I should write like, oh,

71
00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:37,880
Speaker 1: I'm Rachel, let me out the solo now just Instagram official.

72
00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:40,560
Speaker 1: Where I went? I went with Wayne and Chucky Nielsen,

73
00:03:40,640 --> 00:03:45,680
Speaker 1: Hype and Randown. I went with the dogs too. Copper

74
00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:48,320
Speaker 1: my dog's here right now so he might join in

75
00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:52,920
Speaker 1: as the third co host of the showut Okay, So

76
00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:55,600
Speaker 1: we wanted to chat with you guys about a lot

77
00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:57,920
Speaker 1: of people on the show say that, you know, we're

78
00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:00,240
Speaker 1: just putting it on for real, that these relationships are

79
00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:03,760
Speaker 1: just for show. But we're all married women, and so

80
00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:06,960
Speaker 1: I wanted to get some advice and just ask you girls. Um,

81
00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:10,920
Speaker 1: when people ask is it real or does it really work?

82
00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:13,640
Speaker 1: Do you have like what how do you respond to that?

83
00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:16,080
Speaker 1: Because I know how I respond, So I'm curious with

84
00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:19,599
Speaker 1: you a little more deeper into these relationships. How do

85
00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:23,440
Speaker 1: you respond? I think if it bothers me because it's like,

86
00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:26,800
Speaker 1: does your relationship like work? You know what I mean,

87
00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,320
Speaker 1: like to throw it back on them and be like

88
00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:32,839
Speaker 1: do yours? Like? How was that fair for you to

89
00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:35,240
Speaker 1: ask me that just because mine was on TV and

90
00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:41,440
Speaker 1: yours wasn't? Like I mean, relationships are Every relationship is

91
00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:45,000
Speaker 1: so different and every relationships take work, you know what

92
00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:47,800
Speaker 1: I mean. But like that, I just think that's so silly,

93
00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:50,160
Speaker 1: Like why would I be faking it for three years?

94
00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:57,760
Speaker 1: Come on and two babies exactly and each other we

95
00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:02,040
Speaker 1: do it and create babies. You can't fake that, No,

96
00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:03,960
Speaker 1: you can't. And I think I want to say it's

97
00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:06,720
Speaker 1: so awesome and admirable to look up to both of you,

98
00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:08,440
Speaker 1: And I know I said this like at reunion, but

99
00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:10,240
Speaker 1: it's been it's been really special for Chris and I

100
00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:12,120
Speaker 1: to be able to connect with both of you guys

101
00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:15,559
Speaker 1: and see your marriage and see your family's growing, because

102
00:05:15,560 --> 00:05:18,800
Speaker 1: it's something that Chris and I aspire to and navigating

103
00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:21,760
Speaker 1: in these waters I mean outside in the real world,

104
00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:25,760
Speaker 1: but especially in this bachelor bubble of having your relationships

105
00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:29,719
Speaker 1: so highly profiled and having so much constant criticism and

106
00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,800
Speaker 1: feedback and opinions about who you are, what you should do.

107
00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:35,480
Speaker 1: It can be really difficult. It can be really difficult.

108
00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:38,720
Speaker 1: So how do you have you guys received any do

109
00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:42,760
Speaker 1: people like chime in I'm sure about your parenting styles

110
00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:46,760
Speaker 1: or your relationships? And if so, how do you respond

111
00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:49,000
Speaker 1: back at that? And do you not do you take

112
00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,039
Speaker 1: it personally or have you learned to shut it out?

113
00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,839
Speaker 1: I used to take it personally because they do. Everyone

114
00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:58,000
Speaker 1: will comment on every little thing, especially once you become

115
00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:01,880
Speaker 1: a parent, because everybody feels like they know better than

116
00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:06,440
Speaker 1: you do. Yeah, but now I've learned to kind of

117
00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:09,200
Speaker 1: like take a step back and see it from like

118
00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:12,520
Speaker 1: more of an outside perspective what this person's trying to say,

119
00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,640
Speaker 1: and they're probably thing maybe meaning well then maybe not.

120
00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:18,400
Speaker 1: But in the end, it's my family. I know it's

121
00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:20,760
Speaker 1: best for my family. I know it's best for my child,

122
00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:24,559
Speaker 1: and I'm going to listen to my mother intuition and

123
00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,320
Speaker 1: there may be something that's good advice is somebody's trying

124
00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:28,719
Speaker 1: to tell me, and I will look that up and

125
00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:31,839
Speaker 1: I will like take that for what it is. But

126
00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,560
Speaker 1: ultimately I have just had to learn to like not

127
00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:37,880
Speaker 1: get defensive because the mommy bear will come out, especially

128
00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:40,560
Speaker 1: when it's your kids, like you want to attack people,

129
00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:46,200
Speaker 1: like the sparses comes out. And I'm a nice person,

130
00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:48,599
Speaker 1: but I will go to that, like I will go

131
00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:51,440
Speaker 1: to battle for my kids. But I've learned that, like this,

132
00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,520
Speaker 1: the media is just a place where people think that

133
00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:56,039
Speaker 1: they can just do whatever they want and not have

134
00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:59,000
Speaker 1: any consequences. So I've learned to just kind of just

135
00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:02,560
Speaker 1: like not even there with those people. Yeah, how do

136
00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:04,600
Speaker 1: you deal with that? Because it's a whole other level.

137
00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:06,440
Speaker 1: Like you say, you're talking about mama bear. You know,

138
00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:09,000
Speaker 1: I know, before you had kids, you you feel like

139
00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,000
Speaker 1: you have to defend your relationship because everybody's questioning it,

140
00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:15,280
Speaker 1: questioning it, and everyone's skeptical. And now you have children

141
00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:17,880
Speaker 1: and you have people questioning that. And I know that

142
00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:20,880
Speaker 1: one thing Crystal and I were talking about was this

143
00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:25,240
Speaker 1: concept of mommy shaming. That's a whole another level to

144
00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:27,880
Speaker 1: it because now you're bringing children, which children should always

145
00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:30,240
Speaker 1: be off limits. But talk to us a bit about that,

146
00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:33,360
Speaker 1: like how have you handled the mommy shaming that you've

147
00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:36,080
Speaker 1: received from social media? And can you also just please

148
00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:39,280
Speaker 1: clarify what is mommy shaming because I had no idea

149
00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:42,000
Speaker 1: that this was the thing and apparently it is. So

150
00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:44,119
Speaker 1: can you please clarify to the listeners what is mommy

151
00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:47,800
Speaker 1: shaming and how do you deal with it? Well, mommy

152
00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:53,000
Speaker 1: shaming is next level when you're somebody in the pub orrible. Yeah,

153
00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:58,200
Speaker 1: it's really just judging apparent choices and making them feel

154
00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:01,200
Speaker 1: guilty for it. And we're already moms already have enough

155
00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:05,360
Speaker 1: dealt like, we're already trying to be a perfect parent

156
00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:09,080
Speaker 1: for our kids, and so it's just the judgment that

157
00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:12,640
Speaker 1: other people. Because people parent differently all over the world,

158
00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:16,400
Speaker 1: you know, culturally, people parent differently. Just even my neighbor

159
00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:18,760
Speaker 1: next door parents differently than I do. It's just what's

160
00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:21,280
Speaker 1: best for our family. But people like to bring that

161
00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:23,000
Speaker 1: in and try to put it on top of you,

162
00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,800
Speaker 1: and so that's kind of when people get shamed. Um,

163
00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:28,880
Speaker 1: I guess that's what you would consider mommy shaming is

164
00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:31,240
Speaker 1: those comments that people are saying, did you have any

165
00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:33,840
Speaker 1: idea what it would be like being in the public

166
00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:35,800
Speaker 1: eye and then having a family like that you would

167
00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:38,720
Speaker 1: receive this kind of feedback as much as you do,

168
00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:41,640
Speaker 1: and feedback I use it is a very positive term.

169
00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:48,040
Speaker 1: I feel like one thing I really love about you, Jade, though,

170
00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:51,880
Speaker 1: is like if somebody says something to you on social media,

171
00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:56,880
Speaker 1: you always like you don't always, but like you sometimes

172
00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:59,920
Speaker 1: when you feel really strongly about something, you will post

173
00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:04,800
Speaker 1: to comment back that is like so well worded and like,

174
00:09:05,320 --> 00:09:09,080
Speaker 1: I don't know it just it's like what every mom

175
00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:11,559
Speaker 1: wants to say, but no one knows how to say

176
00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:14,000
Speaker 1: it properly, and you like shut those people down in

177
00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:19,520
Speaker 1: like the nicest, kindest way. What what do people mom

178
00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:26,600
Speaker 1: shame you guys for everything? Oh? Everything, Bradings, you know,

179
00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:32,319
Speaker 1: I mean it's really anything. It's it's like intense things

180
00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:37,439
Speaker 1: from like gosh, you know, and most intense things are

181
00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:40,840
Speaker 1: like do vaccinate your kids or do not vaccinate your kids,

182
00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:43,959
Speaker 1: which we don't even usually talk about, but there's things

183
00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,800
Speaker 1: like sleep training, like do you let your kid cry

184
00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:48,520
Speaker 1: it out? Do you not let your kid crydit out?

185
00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:50,959
Speaker 1: How long do you breath speeds? Oh my gosh, it's

186
00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:53,199
Speaker 1: a little chilly outside. Why doesn't your kid have a

187
00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:55,559
Speaker 1: code on? Why did you do that? Why does your

188
00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:58,960
Speaker 1: kid men have shoes on? It's outside, they could step

189
00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:03,400
Speaker 1: on something like it just goes from so drastic the

190
00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:06,120
Speaker 1: big step to the small stuff. It's like it doesn't end.

191
00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:10,040
Speaker 1: So if I could play like Devil's advocate for a second.

192
00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:12,520
Speaker 1: You know, when we were talking earlier, we were talking

193
00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:15,520
Speaker 1: about how people have an opinion about our relationships because

194
00:10:15,559 --> 00:10:18,480
Speaker 1: we fell in love in such a public way. And

195
00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:21,440
Speaker 1: then people feel like they can have an opinion about

196
00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:25,400
Speaker 1: children because we have our children on social media and

197
00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:30,640
Speaker 1: we do stories and Instagram videos and we post pictures

198
00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:32,320
Speaker 1: and so they feel like and not saying that they

199
00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:34,200
Speaker 1: do by any means, but they feel like they have

200
00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:37,040
Speaker 1: the right to speak on it because you have put

201
00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:41,760
Speaker 1: your child out there. So yeah, I'm interested in what

202
00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:45,480
Speaker 1: you guys think about posting your children on social media.

203
00:10:45,520 --> 00:10:47,880
Speaker 1: And I know, Jade, you have a social media account

204
00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:52,880
Speaker 1: for Emmy and for Brooks. Is it Brooks? Yes? Yeah,

205
00:10:52,920 --> 00:10:56,320
Speaker 1: and Brooks too, Carli, I'm not I don't think you do.

206
00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:59,640
Speaker 1: But what do you think the balance is in regards

207
00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:03,840
Speaker 1: to posting your children on social media? Like you said,

208
00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:07,280
Speaker 1: I do feel like people are entitled to their opinions

209
00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:09,800
Speaker 1: or their comments as long as they're I mean, like

210
00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:11,800
Speaker 1: the malicious ones are the ones that I just do

211
00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:14,679
Speaker 1: not bother with, Like those people are crossing a boundary.

212
00:11:14,679 --> 00:11:17,280
Speaker 1: There are boundaries, there should be etiquette. It's social media,

213
00:11:17,360 --> 00:11:20,679
Speaker 1: you know better, so you can post, you can post comments.

214
00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:25,200
Speaker 1: I don't mind that. Regarding my children on social media,

215
00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:27,720
Speaker 1: I do think it is a different era. My child

216
00:11:27,840 --> 00:11:31,280
Speaker 1: already knows how to use an iPad, but are kind

217
00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:35,280
Speaker 1: of we're kind of navigating parenting and a tech world

218
00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:37,719
Speaker 1: which has never really been done before. And so it's

219
00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:39,560
Speaker 1: kind of a new space and I don't know if

220
00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:42,120
Speaker 1: people really know how to handle it yet, but I

221
00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:44,160
Speaker 1: feel like it's gonna be more and more common for

222
00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:48,240
Speaker 1: young children to be on their parents social media. As

223
00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:51,920
Speaker 1: I run my kids accounts, my number one priority is

224
00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:56,439
Speaker 1: always my child's safety. We never post anything appropriate or inappropriate.

225
00:11:56,559 --> 00:12:01,720
Speaker 1: We never post anything that would anyway like impose a

226
00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:06,319
Speaker 1: threat to their safety. So for me, I feel like

227
00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:10,000
Speaker 1: our family is kind of like like you said, Crystal,

228
00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:14,000
Speaker 1: like I try to use my family as something that

229
00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:16,960
Speaker 1: people can look up to to be love and see

230
00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:21,360
Speaker 1: how a family can come together and what our family

231
00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:24,040
Speaker 1: life is like. It's just like a glimpse inside of

232
00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:28,320
Speaker 1: our family. But I always try to use it for good.

233
00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:32,199
Speaker 1: But I'm always always thinking of my children safety first. Awesome.

234
00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:33,880
Speaker 1: I think it's really great that the two of you

235
00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:38,760
Speaker 1: are being advocates about mommy shaming and having these conversations

236
00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:41,679
Speaker 1: because I have had no idea what it was and

237
00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:44,000
Speaker 1: I'm just hearing the tonality in your voices and just

238
00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:46,920
Speaker 1: seeing how much it how much it impacts you. And

239
00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:51,360
Speaker 1: I can understand in the aspect of you know, whether

240
00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:53,800
Speaker 1: you grew up with great parents or not. But there's

241
00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:56,719
Speaker 1: definitely going to be a place, a painful spot where

242
00:12:56,760 --> 00:12:58,920
Speaker 1: it kind of jabbed, where people are constantly jabbing at

243
00:12:58,960 --> 00:13:01,560
Speaker 1: like are you the best parent that you can be?

244
00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:05,400
Speaker 1: And it would be really hard to not take that personally. Yeah,

245
00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:08,560
Speaker 1: I just think it's like you're it's you both have dogs.

246
00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:11,720
Speaker 1: Like think about people saying something like, oh, your dogs

247
00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:16,440
Speaker 1: shouldn't be wearing that collar, You're pulling it wrong, are fighting,

248
00:13:17,520 --> 00:13:23,160
Speaker 1: are fighting, And then you go, you take that and

249
00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:26,360
Speaker 1: you put it on like another level, which you guys

250
00:13:26,360 --> 00:13:28,520
Speaker 1: will know when you have kids, because Jade and I

251
00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:31,839
Speaker 1: had dogs first as well. And then it's like you

252
00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:34,880
Speaker 1: want to you want to go through and like murder

253
00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:37,920
Speaker 1: all of those you wins on the other side, because

254
00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:41,360
Speaker 1: like you have no idea I am the best parent

255
00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:44,080
Speaker 1: for my child. I'm the best parent for my dog.

256
00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:47,319
Speaker 1: I know what I'm doing and you're doing and you're

257
00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:50,160
Speaker 1: doing the best job possible. Carl. I want to ask you, um,

258
00:13:51,920 --> 00:13:55,360
Speaker 1: do you receive this being a stepmom? Do you receive

259
00:13:55,440 --> 00:13:59,120
Speaker 1: this feedback? And this mommy shaming has a stepmom as well.

260
00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:03,160
Speaker 1: It's so funny. I was gonna say, so life has

261
00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:06,280
Speaker 1: been so different in the past like six months, because

262
00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:09,959
Speaker 1: now the boys are really funny about social media as

263
00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:12,880
Speaker 1: they've gotten older. They'll be like, so I've like, I

264
00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:15,440
Speaker 1: haven't posted them because they are like, I don't like

265
00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:18,800
Speaker 1: that picture of me, so I don't want it out there,

266
00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:23,480
Speaker 1: Like they're so funny. So um, people will be like,

267
00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:27,120
Speaker 1: you know, where are the boys? And I'm like, what,

268
00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:30,200
Speaker 1: they're not in my photos because they're telling me I

269
00:14:30,240 --> 00:14:34,000
Speaker 1: can't do it, Like you know, it's like so silly,

270
00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:36,800
Speaker 1: And I'm like and I'm we have the boys halftime.

271
00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:39,560
Speaker 1: I'm with Bella all the time. Like it's it's a

272
00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:44,520
Speaker 1: different dynamic. But mostly it's because teenagers want to scrutinize

273
00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:47,040
Speaker 1: their faces on every photo and I don't have time

274
00:14:47,080 --> 00:14:50,480
Speaker 1: to sit around there and be like is this some okay?

275
00:14:50,800 --> 00:14:57,000
Speaker 1: They're like, at your defense, I have witnessed your stepson

276
00:14:57,160 --> 00:14:59,200
Speaker 1: not want to take a picture with Evan when we

277
00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:01,560
Speaker 1: were on straight handed Sarah, he was like, absolutely not.

278
00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:06,440
Speaker 1: So that was so funny because Evan posed to that

279
00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:07,840
Speaker 1: photo and then he was like, yeah, you have to

280
00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:10,880
Speaker 1: pick that photo down. Like that's when it started. That

281
00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,880
Speaker 1: was literally when it started, Rachel. So I know, I so,

282
00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:15,560
Speaker 1: I know it's a real thing, and I know it's

283
00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:18,240
Speaker 1: out there real quickly because I know you guys, you

284
00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:20,880
Speaker 1: know you're good friends and you work together. But how

285
00:15:20,880 --> 00:15:23,760
Speaker 1: do you different in your differ in your parents styles

286
00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:31,120
Speaker 1: parenting styles? Um, I think it's just like what life

287
00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:33,880
Speaker 1: has kind of thrown us right Carly, because I feel yeah,

288
00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:39,360
Speaker 1: because I mean, you can breastfeed like forever and I've

289
00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:48,200
Speaker 1: quit like before I begin, which which is like okay,

290
00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:50,920
Speaker 1: like this time around too, I'm having a harder time

291
00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:54,320
Speaker 1: with my breastfeeding journey. And so it's just I feel

292
00:15:54,360 --> 00:15:56,920
Speaker 1: like I don't feel like we do that much differently,

293
00:15:57,000 --> 00:16:00,160
Speaker 1: yet you can't. Discipline is just starting to fall all

294
00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:02,480
Speaker 1: into our lives with our children because they're getting to

295
00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:06,960
Speaker 1: that age where they're testeen the boundaries and so we're

296
00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:10,000
Speaker 1: so I don't know if we even discipline differently, but

297
00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:12,640
Speaker 1: there's just things in our lives, like our breastfeeding journeys

298
00:16:12,640 --> 00:16:15,000
Speaker 1: have been different. And obviously you're a step mom, so

299
00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:17,960
Speaker 1: you have things that you have to deal with it

300
00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:22,320
Speaker 1: I've never had to deal with and I guess, I guess,

301
00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:24,960
Speaker 1: I think, go ahead. I don't know. I was just

302
00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:28,600
Speaker 1: gonna say. I feel like even the things that we

303
00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:32,600
Speaker 1: do aren't that different, but like we talk to each

304
00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:34,720
Speaker 1: other about I mean, like we talked to each other

305
00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:38,160
Speaker 1: every single day, and if they there's something wildly different

306
00:16:38,200 --> 00:16:42,720
Speaker 1: than me, like I'm so interested in like, oh my gosh,

307
00:16:42,720 --> 00:16:44,320
Speaker 1: how does that work? Or why do you do it?

308
00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:46,960
Speaker 1: Like that? Oh that's so cool, Like that's so different

309
00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:51,280
Speaker 1: for me. It's almost like the differences are really interesting,

310
00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:56,200
Speaker 1: and we support that, and yeah, there's like, no, there's

311
00:16:56,240 --> 00:17:01,720
Speaker 1: never been any judgment in any of those areas. Support. Yeah,

312
00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:06,639
Speaker 1: motherhood is a very lonely experience sometimes, and so I

313
00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:09,600
Speaker 1: feel like Carly and I understand that, and we've experienced that.

314
00:17:09,720 --> 00:17:12,240
Speaker 1: So we try to uplift each other and support each other.

315
00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:16,520
Speaker 1: It's but solidarity that I think motherhood should have more of.

316
00:17:16,720 --> 00:17:19,320
Speaker 1: And so even when she makes the decision that may

317
00:17:19,400 --> 00:17:22,560
Speaker 1: I may not necessarily agree with. I just let it

318
00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:25,879
Speaker 1: slide off me because it's none of my business. Yeah,

319
00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:27,720
Speaker 1: I think it's really special that you guys have each

320
00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:30,800
Speaker 1: other because it was It's one thing when you I know,

321
00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:34,359
Speaker 1: when we all I'm sure met our husbands, especially for

322
00:17:34,440 --> 00:17:36,520
Speaker 1: me in Paradise, and I'm sure Carly and Jade you

323
00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:38,840
Speaker 1: can attest to this. But after the Bachelor, it was

324
00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:41,600
Speaker 1: kind of hard for me to date regular guys yea

325
00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:44,919
Speaker 1: and yeah, because you just there's just so much trust

326
00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:46,640
Speaker 1: that you really got to work through. And then when

327
00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:48,200
Speaker 1: I met Chris and was able to come out of

328
00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:50,560
Speaker 1: Paradise and have this relationship where we got to do

329
00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:55,560
Speaker 1: this this you know, scrutiny, this magnifying glass of life

330
00:17:55,600 --> 00:17:58,960
Speaker 1: now together. I mean, wow, how we were able to

331
00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:01,239
Speaker 1: bond and really come together as a team, and just

332
00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:06,040
Speaker 1: that level of support um is priceless that you can

333
00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:08,880
Speaker 1: pay so totally. I can't imagine being able to have

334
00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:12,320
Speaker 1: a mommy friend who can also like at the same

335
00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:16,119
Speaker 1: time being are you guys, did you guys plan the

336
00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:19,760
Speaker 1: second baby together? You know what, it's so funny to

337
00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:22,760
Speaker 1: both my babies have been oops. But I mean they're

338
00:18:22,800 --> 00:18:25,800
Speaker 1: the greatest, They're my greatest joice. But they were both

339
00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:30,040
Speaker 1: not planned and so I mean I called Jade and

340
00:18:30,560 --> 00:18:33,359
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, Jade, I'm pregnant. She's like,

341
00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:36,439
Speaker 1: oh my god, no way. And we have like hoped

342
00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:39,119
Speaker 1: in dreams to have another baby closer together because we

343
00:18:39,200 --> 00:18:42,400
Speaker 1: wanted bumps at the same time, but like I was not.

344
00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:44,920
Speaker 1: I mean, I was doing it, but I wasn't. We

345
00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:50,240
Speaker 1: were pulling out great. That's the method Brian and I

346
00:18:50,359 --> 00:18:55,679
Speaker 1: are using too. Evan has like super semen or something.

347
00:18:55,760 --> 00:19:01,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, how many kids five this time?

348
00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:06,080
Speaker 1: This will be his fifth, by wow. More he's a

349
00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:12,520
Speaker 1: crazy man. More so you you mentioned, and I think

350
00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:15,240
Speaker 1: Jada was you who mentioned that motherhood can be lonely.

351
00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:17,280
Speaker 1: And I feel like at this point, Christal and I

352
00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:20,600
Speaker 1: also want to selfishly use this as a therapy session,

353
00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:24,080
Speaker 1: but also for our listeners who who also are entering

354
00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:25,800
Speaker 1: that new phase of life. You know, Crystal and I

355
00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:29,080
Speaker 1: are newly weds, but we're looking forward into the next step.

356
00:19:29,119 --> 00:19:31,879
Speaker 1: And you know, I've been very vocal that we're not trying,

357
00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:35,200
Speaker 1: but we're not preventing at the same time. So when

358
00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:38,480
Speaker 1: it comes to maintaining that relationship with your partner after

359
00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:43,240
Speaker 1: having children. How do you do that? Yeah, talk to

360
00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:51,560
Speaker 1: us about the intimacy. Just laughter. Okay, so wait, let's go.

361
00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:57,720
Speaker 1: Let's start here. Let's start um. During pregnancy intimacy. Um,

362
00:19:58,040 --> 00:20:03,240
Speaker 1: is it true your morning or why you're pregnant. It's

363
00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:06,440
Speaker 1: varies person to person. Okay, it definitely varies. It's my

364
00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:11,920
Speaker 1: first pregnancy with Emerson, my daughter. Tanner was totally weirded out.

365
00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:15,160
Speaker 1: He didn't really want to get intimate at all. He

366
00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:18,040
Speaker 1: was kind of freaked out. But my pregnancy was brooked.

367
00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,920
Speaker 1: He was so attracted to me. He would not leave

368
00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:26,919
Speaker 1: me alone. I think it just appended. I was totally strange.

369
00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:29,520
Speaker 1: It caught me completely off guard. And but you do

370
00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:32,440
Speaker 1: kind of have to. He needs to respect you when

371
00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:34,399
Speaker 1: you don't feel in the mood and you it's an

372
00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:38,239
Speaker 1: absolute no. But also like you have to respect your

373
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:42,280
Speaker 1: husbands and your marriage as well, you know, So it's

374
00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:48,880
Speaker 1: it's a balance. But with newborns and young kids, it's

375
00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:51,520
Speaker 1: kind of that's where Carly and I are. It's such

376
00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:56,159
Speaker 1: a survival phase. So you do have to kind of

377
00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,800
Speaker 1: communicate that to your partner, Like if you're not in

378
00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:01,879
Speaker 1: the mood because you literally have a baby on your

379
00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:04,399
Speaker 1: twenty four seven They kind of have to understand that

380
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:07,080
Speaker 1: and that if you can learn to be intimate in

381
00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:10,200
Speaker 1: other ways. I mean, we're still intimate where you still

382
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:13,320
Speaker 1: have to sex, but there are other ways that maybe

383
00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 1: you have to like strengthen your relationship in other areas

384
00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,359
Speaker 1: until you can have like that time. Like I know

385
00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:22,680
Speaker 1: people who have kids that are like six, seven, eight

386
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:25,119
Speaker 1: and they finally on this new phase and their marriage

387
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 1: has been never never been better sexually, but this stage

388
00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:33,879
Speaker 1: is because this stage is hard. Hard, Yeah, So like, what, like,

389
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:36,399
Speaker 1: what are some things that you know? I say it

390
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:37,960
Speaker 1: as if I'm pregnant right now. I'm not, but I

391
00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:44,560
Speaker 1: keep joking you guys that I am. But you know, seriously, though,

392
00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:46,879
Speaker 1: what are some things what advice could you get to

393
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 1: listeners maybe who are struggling with finding that level of

394
00:21:50,119 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 1: intimacy with their partners since they have had children and

395
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be sexual. You mentioned that, what

396
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:58,520
Speaker 1: are some things that work for you guys? Oh gosh,

397
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:00,879
Speaker 1: I mean Evan and I go to therapy like every

398
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:04,879
Speaker 1: two weeks and it's we've never been closer, like I

399
00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:07,000
Speaker 1: feel I feel like there's a lot of things in

400
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:11,680
Speaker 1: relationships that sometimes you just you don't talk about and

401
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:16,600
Speaker 1: and that distance you in certain ways. And we started

402
00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 1: doing therapy like I don't know, six months ago or something,

403
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my gosh, I know so much

404
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:22,959
Speaker 1: about you know, but I never would have known if

405
00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,000
Speaker 1: we hadn't been sitting in this room. So I'm a

406
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:29,960
Speaker 1: very I'm pro therapy. I think it like, I think

407
00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 1: it works wonders, And I think date nights are so

408
00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 1: important and they're so hard to especially where Jade is

409
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 1: right now, when she has a newborn and a toddler,

410
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,199
Speaker 1: Like it's so hard to be like, let's go for

411
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:48,120
Speaker 1: a date night, because who's going to stay with the newborn?

412
00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:50,280
Speaker 1: You know, Like right now I can be like, hey, mom,

413
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 1: take care of the toddler and I can still go

414
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 1: travel with my baby in my stomach. But date nights

415
00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 1: are really important too, just having that one on one

416
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 1: time and I don't know, just having conversation away from

417
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:08,080
Speaker 1: social media and TV and all that. It's just so

418
00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 1: important to reconnect. That's really good advice. Thank you. You know,

419
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: Chris and I have done We've both been on focusing

420
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 1: this period of our lives really since we got back,

421
00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:20,680
Speaker 1: like the day we got back from our wedding where

422
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,120
Speaker 1: we just decided, hey, we wanted to become parents. But

423
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 1: you know what brought us together was growing up without,

424
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:29,119
Speaker 1: without our dads and coming from these broken families. And

425
00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 1: while we realize that did bring us together, it actually

426
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 1: instilled within us a lot of triggers and patterns that

427
00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:39,320
Speaker 1: were identified that hey, before we become parents, we need

428
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,000
Speaker 1: to really hash this stuff out personally as well as

429
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,760
Speaker 1: in our relationship before you know, we move on any

430
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,120
Speaker 1: further in this progression, because we don't want to be

431
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:53,680
Speaker 1: passing down these unconscious, unconscious ways of how we react

432
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:57,800
Speaker 1: and respond to people. And you know I'm doing I'm

433
00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:00,199
Speaker 1: reading this book right now called It Didn't Begin with You,

434
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 1: and it's all about talking about family trauma and how

435
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 1: it's literally passed down through the egg and the sperm

436
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 1: before conception like that goes into three generations, and it

437
00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 1: is the most fascinating book. But it's saying that you

438
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:18,680
Speaker 1: can actually carry on these um genetically, these patterns from

439
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:23,399
Speaker 1: deceased family members who didn't who lived with secrets and

440
00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:26,359
Speaker 1: shame and didn't resolve what they needed to resolve in

441
00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 1: that lifetime and you literally pass it on. They call

442
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: it fate and this is all scientifically documented. It's really

443
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 1: fascinating and highly recommend it um and we'll post a

444
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:42,680
Speaker 1: link on the podcast words I'm already there. I got you, girl,

445
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,479
Speaker 1: I got you. And it's saying and I'm realizing, like,

446
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, like how I've been like short and reactive.

447
00:24:48,240 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: It's it's because it didn't feel safe as a child,

448
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:53,399
Speaker 1: and because you know, my mom didn't feel safe as

449
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 1: a child, and her mom didn't feel safe as a child.

450
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,560
Speaker 1: You and you give yourself so much love and compassion

451
00:24:57,600 --> 00:25:00,159
Speaker 1: and so doing that work on myself and Chris is

452
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,639
Speaker 1: doing it, and then having the communication, the dialogue to

453
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,879
Speaker 1: come together to communicate it has a lot of so

454
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:09,359
Speaker 1: much compassion for one another and to draw so much

455
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 1: more intimacy in our relationship just on like an energetic

456
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,640
Speaker 1: level where we're just like WHOA, totally have compassion for

457
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:21,000
Speaker 1: each other. Crystal. I think you and I are soul

458
00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 1: sisters are something. Yeah. I tell Stannard all the time

459
00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 1: that I know that my journey is to be the

460
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 1: chain breaker of my family. Yes, yeah, and the best.

461
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 1: I really commend you because I think the best thing

462
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:38,240
Speaker 1: that you can do for your children is to heal yourself. Yeah,

463
00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 1: so totally yeah, yes, Jade and Chrysla. I just want

464
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 1: to thank you guys for giving us another topic for

465
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: our next podcast. Okay, I okay, So I have a question.

466
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 1: What do you hope your children say about you as

467
00:25:57,520 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 1: a mother? You know, honestly? Like, so, my mom is

468
00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 1: like everybody who meets my mom says that she's like

469
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,919
Speaker 1: the world's greatest woman, and she is there. She's like

470
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 1: an angel since from heaven. And I fellow that way

471
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 1: about her. And I felt also that way about my grandmother,

472
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:20,399
Speaker 1: her mother. So I just I would love her Bella

473
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 1: to feel like that about me. That I mean, because

474
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 1: my mom is the person that, like, I mean, I

475
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 1: love Bella the most, but my mom is like, you know,

476
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 1: the person that I idolize. I think that she's just goh,

477
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 1: she's just the best. So I Jay's gonna say something

478
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:39,840
Speaker 1: like really deep, But I just want fella to be like,

479
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 1: there's no better human than my mom. That's the best party.

480
00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:51,160
Speaker 1: What about you, Jane, No, Carly, Mine's probably not deep

481
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 1: because I'm getting like too emotional. I won't even be

482
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 1: able to get words out. I just I just hope

483
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 1: it both my children and like my son Brooks as well,

484
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 1: that they just feel like, like you said, Crystal, you

485
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:08,800
Speaker 1: didn't feel safe as a child. I hope I am

486
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,359
Speaker 1: a safe space and I hope they feel like they

487
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:14,359
Speaker 1: can be one hundred percent who they are meant to

488
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 1: be without feeling judged. You guys are fantastic. There's so

489
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:23,920
Speaker 1: many questions that Cristal might want to ask you, but

490
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 1: we can't keep you here all day because you have

491
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 1: children to tinto. Yeah. Oh those people, yeah, oh them,

492
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 1: But both of you have some you know, Jade, you

493
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: recently just have a new addition to your family, and

494
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 1: Carly yours is right around the corner coming up. But Jake, there,

495
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 1: how is emmy handling the new addition to the family Brooks?

496
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:53,400
Speaker 1: Let me not act like she is killing the big

497
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: sister game. She loves him so much, She's so good

498
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 1: with him. I was definitely worried she was going to

499
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 1: be jealous, and she has transitioned so well. There are

500
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:04,960
Speaker 1: moments where she wants me to pick her up when

501
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: I'm holding him, and she'll freak out, but she smiles

502
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 1: at him, She kisses his head. She's very sweet with him.

503
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 1: She tries to console him if he's crying. She goes,

504
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 1: it's okay, baby, she calls him. She called them baby Brooks,

505
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: like she's she's doing so good. She's such a nurturer.

506
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 1: So it's just really it's like one of the best

507
00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 1: feelings to watch them together. It's amazing. Did she really

508
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 1: so so sweet? Did she really step up in evolves

509
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: like a big sister once Brooks arrived, She she like,

510
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: I swear to God, grew up overnight, Like she is

511
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 1: such a little girl now, and it's just it's so crazy,

512
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 1: but it's so beautiful and it's the coolest thing. Oh God,

513
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 1: so cute. Carly Isabella ready for a baby brother, Oh gosh.

514
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 1: I mean, Bella loves to box people around, so she's

515
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 1: definitely ready for somebody to boss around. But she's obsessed

516
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 1: with her baby dolls. Her favorite thing is like walking

517
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 1: her baby dolls and fixing their booboos and giving them milk,

518
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 1: and like it's her favorite thing, seriously. And we hung

519
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 1: out with my brother's kid the other day a couple

520
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: of weeks ago. That was he's like three months old,

521
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 1: and when he would cry, she'd go and bring him

522
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: a passi or bring a milk, and you can tell

523
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 1: that she she's like really compassionate and interested and like

524
00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: trying to help. And so I was like, I was

525
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 1: really worried, like what is Zella going to be like?

526
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 1: But I think she's gonna be like Emmy. I think

527
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: she's gonna like be the helper and the kisser of

528
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: the boo boos and like as much as I think

529
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 1: later in life, she's probably gonna be like, go do

530
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 1: this for me right now, like I think right now

531
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 1: she's gonna be. I think she's gonna be a great

532
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 1: big sister. I think I honestly think that's a baby

533
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: girl trait because I got two little nephews, and my

534
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: older nephew did not handle the addition of the bay

535
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:03,880
Speaker 1: one that well back to Googo Gaga, like he's not

536
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 1: five years old. So I feel like that's like her

537
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,239
Speaker 1: power though the women just handle it better even at

538
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 1: the age of two three you're compasionive. Well, best of luck,

539
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 1: Carly to you on your delivery. I mean you and

540
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 1: Jade's share so much. Hopefully you don't share the birth.

541
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:30,719
Speaker 1: Never Carle close all those doors. One week leading up

542
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 1: to looking up to the birth. But no, you guys, um,

543
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:37,080
Speaker 1: we truly do wish you the best of luck in

544
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 1: your delivery, and we do want to play a little

545
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 1: game with you, guys. Since Carly, your baby number two

546
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 1: is right around the corner on the way, we want

547
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: to find out, well, can you tell us what the

548
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: name of the baby is? We don't know yet, Okay, okay,

549
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 1: I thought I try, just I thought I try. Yeah,

550
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 1: I have a few names, and then when you when

551
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: you meet the baby, then you'll know. I know, last

552
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: friendly named Bella before she came out. And I think

553
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 1: this time we're just gonna wait because Evan just doesn't

554
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,479
Speaker 1: He's not like feeling a name, and I'm not feeling

555
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 1: a name, So we're kind of I don't know. I

556
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: don't know if that's bad or good. No, I think

557
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,280
Speaker 1: it's good. It's good too, because you're gonna have a

558
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 1: story to tell. You're gonna say, oh, and this is

559
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: how we came up with your name, you know, because

560
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: we were kind of stuck and we weren't filling it

561
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,160
Speaker 1: and we saw you or whatever whatever. Your story will

562
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 1: be a wait for you to come on the podcast

563
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 1: and tell it. But in the meantime, we thought that

564
00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 1: we play a fun game with you. Okay, we have

565
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:36,480
Speaker 1: this game. It's Celebrity Baby Name Game Bachelor Edition. That's

566
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:43,239
Speaker 1: so the way your cell phones away. Yes there, Roll

567
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 1: number one, Roll number two. This is how this game

568
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:46,920
Speaker 1: is going to work. We are going to give you

569
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:52,440
Speaker 1: the names of children, the children of the Bachelor couples

570
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 1: or Bachelor Leads contestants, and you have We're gonna name

571
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 1: the children, and then you have to name that Bachelor

572
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: Lead contestant. Okay, five, set five sex, so we will

573
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 1: know if you're googling, as Crystal pointed out for that.

574
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: But the phone, I'm ready, I'm ready, and we cannot

575
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 1: help you. Listen, there's no live five. We cannot help

576
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,680
Speaker 1: you because we don't know the answers. I don't know

577
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 1: them either. Okay, all right, Question number one, we're gonna

578
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 1: name the baby and you're gonna have five seconds to

579
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 1: reply the mom and dad from Bachelor Nation. All right,

580
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:30,480
Speaker 1: oh my god, ready, all right, baby number one, Max

581
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 1: and Blakesley, Crystal Cutter and Ryan Cutter, Jade. Okay, here

582
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 1: we go. Question number two, Uh, Poppy, Holly Julian, Oh wow,

583
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 1: is the only one who's gonna be answering, all right,

584
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 1: I got it, tie In Riley, I thought a dusky

585
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 1: and whatever his name is? Mano? No, that is close.

586
00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 1: Would you like to try again, Carly? Oh? No, I

587
00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 1: have no idea. From now on, I want you to

588
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 1: answer these questions. I am Jade and the answer is this.

589
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 1: It's not gonna be me god. Okay um. The answer

590
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: to that was Molly and Jason Mesnick. Oh, but I

591
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 1: know why you gave the answer that you did. So

592
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 1: let's try again, Molly and Riley. That's a Ali sat Adosi.

593
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 1: What's her husband's name something? Mano? Kevin? Ye? Kevin? Yeah? Wow,

594
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 1: you're good? Are you really good? How about Lila? Oh? Oh,

595
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 1: I don't know, but that's a cute name. Melan. I

596
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 1: don't know. We don't either. That is the baby of

597
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: Peyton and Chris Lampton. Peyton was on Andy Baldwin season

598
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 1: and Chris was Allie's runner up. I don't I don't

599
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 1: know who they are, you know, I don't know either,

600
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:18,560
Speaker 1: saying it Okay Ford in Essex. Oh, that's actually Rosenbomb

601
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: and JP Rosenbomb. Yeah, nicely done. Side note, I just

602
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 1: happen to be walking my dog a couple of days

603
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 1: ago and ran into them at the park here in

604
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: LA and we both live we both live in Miami.

605
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:34,280
Speaker 1: I have to come off. I recognize the children first.

606
00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 1: See instagramp my dogs all the time. All right, how

607
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:45,439
Speaker 1: about this one? Bella and Harrison. I don't know, damn.

608
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 1: I guess I can't name my boy Harrison though, so yeah,

609
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's really weird. Come on, Carly, you

610
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 1: gotta get one. I have no idea. I need to

611
00:34:56,239 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 1: follow more people, obviously, I'm like slacking. It's cute. Yeah, yeah, name.

612
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 1: I thought there was another Bella. I'm like, oh, I

613
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 1: guess I can't name someone. Carl, you are terrible at

614
00:35:14,880 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: this game. This is true. Third trime nestor mom brain.

615
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna blame it on that. Okay, here's an

616
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:26,440
Speaker 1: easy one. Samuel, Isaiah and a bun in the oven.

617
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:30,279
Speaker 1: I'll let Carl, John and Cass. Wow, that's the one

618
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 1: I can get ding ding ding. All right, here's an

619
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:40,320
Speaker 1: easy one, Lessie. I don't want to answer this from Carley.

620
00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:48,160
Speaker 1: I mean Lorn and yeah, I know too, all right.

621
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: Last one Jennings Tyler Wait Jennings, Tyler Gibson Kyle and

622
00:35:55,239 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 1: Gatlin Avery that Emily Maynard, You guys are packaged. Thank

623
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: God for Jade because I know Dad, Jade is always

624
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 1: going to be the back there for me, giving me

625
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:16,959
Speaker 1: the answer to life. Let me tell you something. Sorry

626
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:20,879
Speaker 1: about this game, guys, I failed. Miserable. Carly and Jade,

627
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:23,719
Speaker 1: thank you guys so much for coming on. Um, we

628
00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 1: do have one quick question before you we wrap you

629
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 1: up though. What are the kids being for Halloween? Um?

630
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:35,280
Speaker 1: Do you have a costume yet? Carly? I ordered something.

631
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 1: I'm not quite sure it's gonna happen, but Bella is

632
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 1: like upset. This is so weird obsessive garden gnomes right now, Sonny,

633
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: So I think we're gonna I think you and I

634
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 1: and I'm trying to talk Evan into it, are gonna

635
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 1: be garden gnomes. That's so cute. And you can be

636
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 1: a little flower for the garden. Oh my gosh. And

637
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:08,360
Speaker 1: then baby Harrison, you know you, yeah, you gotta dress

638
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 1: the bump. Yeah you pilot dirt gnomes. My gosh, that's

639
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 1: so funny. You said that with all the seriousness in

640
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:22,320
Speaker 1: your voice, like you're so used to her being into gnomes. Okay,

641
00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 1: it's so bizarre, Jade, what about you? Are you going

642
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:28,359
Speaker 1: to dress up? I know I saw you dress up

643
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: Emmy as Princess Belle, and I have to say it

644
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:41,240
Speaker 1: was actually on Netflix or on Amazon Video. Currently searching

645
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 1: for a Disney movie title when that came up on Instagram,

646
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 1: So I was strictly relating on the Disney princess mode

647
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 1: with you. Well, she and resents dress at the age

648
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 1: where she'd love all the like Disney movies and she

649
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 1: loves getting dressed up, So it was so much fun

650
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:59,320
Speaker 1: for me to dress up like Bell with her. It

651
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: was like there was like mommy dreams come true. For Halloween.

652
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 1: We're all like, all four of us are dressing up

653
00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:15,280
Speaker 1: as Elvis. So yeah, that's really creative. Thank you ladies

654
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:17,239
Speaker 1: so much for joining us on the podcast. It was

655
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:20,359
Speaker 1: an absolute pleasure. You have to come back again. Yeah,

656
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 1: oh sore chatting with you, and best of luck on

657
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,040
Speaker 1: the delivery, Carly. We can't wait to see how you're

658
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 1: gonna outdo, Jade. Oh dear. All right, you guys, now,

659
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 1: we have a new segment that we want to introduce

660
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:40,399
Speaker 1: on Bachelor Happy Hour. It is called Rosenthorne. Of course,

661
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: it is appropriately named, so the way this is going

662
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:45,840
Speaker 1: to work, is each one of us, Crystal, you and me.

663
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:47,799
Speaker 1: We're gonna give our ros of the week, and then

664
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:49,879
Speaker 1: we're gonna give our thorn of the week, and would

665
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 1: you like the honors. We'll start on a high note.

666
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:54,879
Speaker 1: Let's let's up. Yeah, I'm gonna go with my first.

667
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: I'm want to say I love it. Rosenhorne's is so

668
00:38:56,760 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: cute and so wildly appropriate. I'm gonna say that, you know,

669
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 1: my rose for the week. My highlight of the week

670
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:06,359
Speaker 1: would be my amazing husband taking me whisking me away

671
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: to beautiful Cavas on Lucas for my birthday and we

672
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:14,280
Speaker 1: just spent all day drinking margharita's, playing in the pool

673
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 1: like children. It was absolutely honoring my inner child and

674
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 1: exactly what I needed. Love that. Yeah, it was really

675
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 1: it was really great. And I will say that going

676
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 1: leaving there was my thorn of the week, and that

677
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 1: was when I was at the kiosk checking out and

678
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 1: this guy came up to me and then he was like,

679
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 1: are you done with your kiosk? And I was like, oh, yeah,

680
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 1: go ahead, I just finished, and he goes, thanks for

681
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: moving your stuff, asshole, And my stuff was right next

682
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:47,840
Speaker 1: to me, in no way near where he was, and

683
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 1: I heard what he said, but I'm going to give

684
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:51,800
Speaker 1: the guy the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he just

685
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 1: you know, had a bad was having a bad day. Well,

686
00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:59,720
Speaker 1: my husband unfortunately does not feel the same way compassionally happy.

687
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 1: And there was practically a fight at the Cabo airport

688
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 1: between this guy and my husband. And you know what,

689
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 1: I go. They we started literally arguing, sola, and it

690
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:15,000
Speaker 1: started getting really heated, and I just go, Babe, ignore him.

691
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: He's clearly having a bad day. And I'm gonna tell

692
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 1: you that guy immediately diffused, immediately diffused, had not a

693
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:27,439
Speaker 1: single word to say. His kiosk broke right in front

694
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 1: of it right then, right karma, And that's what it was.

695
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 1: And I wanted to say, it just gave me this

696
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 1: thing where how quickly are we so this is my

697
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 1: thorn turned into the transforming into the rows, the second

698
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:42,239
Speaker 1: rows of the week, how quickly are we to you know,

699
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 1: judge other people's and when we're having a bad day,

700
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 1: we just almost justify lashing out of just others because

701
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: we're having a bad day, right, But actually you realize

702
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 1: everyone you're around, you're impacting with that energy and whatever

703
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 1: you're bringing, and as soon as someone can just show

704
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:58,279
Speaker 1: up and give you compassion and understanding as to, hey,

705
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:00,799
Speaker 1: maybe you're going through some tough stuff and I can

706
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:04,360
Speaker 1: see that. I wish we could all have moments like that,

707
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 1: and I wish I could also be more compassionate at

708
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 1: all times that you guys, if you're listening right now,

709
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 1: everybody snapped their fingers for what Crystal just did, because

710
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 1: this is one This is why I see why you

711
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,360
Speaker 1: and Chris are such a good balance, because in that scenario,

712
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:22,920
Speaker 1: I am Chris and Brian is you okay? You gotta

713
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:25,479
Speaker 1: have one in b Yeah. No, but it's beautiful because

714
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 1: you can help him see certain things and then vice versa,

715
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:31,799
Speaker 1: and I love hearing that. Also, Welcome back to America. Yeah,

716
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:33,640
Speaker 1: I was like, there's no way we're getting in a

717
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 1: fight thrown in Mexico jail. I'm gonna take the ego

718
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 1: hit right here, jeeze, thrown in your face, okay, And

719
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:46,319
Speaker 1: we got upgraded at first class four free right after

720
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:49,359
Speaker 1: that situation. Yeah, Carl is a beautiful thing, all right.

721
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 1: My rose is not as beautiful as yours. Happy belated birthday,

722
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 1: by the way, My rose is I don't know if

723
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,320
Speaker 1: you guys have seen the movie The Joker, not that

724
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,080
Speaker 1: that's a we'll put a smile on your face, but

725
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 1: the acting is impeccable in that movie. No no, no, no,

726
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 1: no no, with um jokes. Did you say Joe Joke him,

727
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:14,320
Speaker 1: Joe Quinn, you know who I'm talking about. Phoenix, Phoenix,

728
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:19,560
Speaker 1: I mean Oscar Worthy. It was phenomenal. I loved every

729
00:42:19,640 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 1: minute of it. You empathize with it, you feel every

730
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,919
Speaker 1: single emotion in that movie. Just it was so so good.

731
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:26,920
Speaker 1: I had no idea what to expect, and coming out

732
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 1: of it, it's just a movie that I recommend it.

733
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 1: I'm not a big movie goer, so that's definitely my

734
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:33,040
Speaker 1: Rose of the Week. Let us know what you think

735
00:42:33,040 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 1: about the movie too. That's a new movie. Yeah yeah,

736
00:42:36,239 --> 00:42:38,839
Speaker 1: it just came out last week or two weeks ago.

737
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:43,279
Speaker 1: Thorn recommendation. Yeah, yeah, you should tell me my Thorn

738
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:45,399
Speaker 1: of the Week. I think it's a bit obvious. It's

739
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 1: obviously these issues surrounding Colton Underwood. I'm not going to

740
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:52,759
Speaker 1: get into them because, um guess what, in a couple

741
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:54,880
Speaker 1: of weeks, who will be on the podcast so we

742
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: can hash everything out there. But I think it's a

743
00:42:56,719 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 1: very obvious thorn um. Like I said, going to go

744
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: there right now, haven't gone there yet, but we're going

745
00:43:03,040 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 1: to hash it out like adults, and we're gonna do

746
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:07,800
Speaker 1: that on Bachelor Happy Hours. So stay tuned, you guys.

747
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 1: Good And we just want to thank you so much

748
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:12,680
Speaker 1: for Carly and Jade for joining us, coming on the show,

749
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 1: being so real and raw and just giving us all

750
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 1: the insight to the next step when it comes to

751
00:43:18,920 --> 00:43:22,840
Speaker 1: a marriage and having children, and they were so vulnerable

752
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 1: and sharing us what it's like. Yeah, I think it was.

753
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 1: I'm really grateful for having this, having them come on

754
00:43:28,239 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 1: the podcast, because I mean, we're taking embarking on these

755
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 1: new chapters in our life and it's so great to

756
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 1: have people that have gone through the journey to really

757
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 1: share the highs and the lows. And I gotta tell you,

758
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:41,400
Speaker 1: don't know if my kids are gonna have Instagram. I

759
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:44,359
Speaker 1: don't know. I'm preparing for mommy Shamy. Yeah no, yeah,

760
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 1: now you know what already. And thank you Crystal so

761
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:49,439
Speaker 1: much for being here. I mean, you've been a fantastic host,

762
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:52,400
Speaker 1: fresh off of plane in Cobbo, dealing with a hostile

763
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:55,360
Speaker 1: American just sitting in the seat and co hosting Bachelor

764
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:57,279
Speaker 1: Happy Hour with me. Thank you so much, and then

765
00:43:57,360 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 1: also Bachelination, Thank you guys so much for listening. Where

766
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,320
Speaker 1: we be. Without you, we wouldn't have this podcast. So

767
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:05,800
Speaker 1: we will see you next week. Hi guys. And speaking

768
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:08,840
Speaker 1: of next week, you guys, we have on the podcast

769
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 1: none other than my favorite x Nick Vile. He will

770
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 1: be here in the hot seat and we will ask

771
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:19,279
Speaker 1: him all the burning questions. All right, so tune in

772
00:44:19,360 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 1: next week, guys, for all the right reasons. In the meantime,

773
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:24,400
Speaker 1: you can get all the latest Bachelor news on Bachelor

774
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 1: nation dot com right now. If you got something you

775
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 1: want to share, shoot us an email at happy Hour

776
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:33,919
Speaker 1: at Bachelor nation dot com, or visit Bachelor nation dot

777
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:35,600
Speaker 1: com and click podcasts