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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, what's up? Brother?

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Speaker 2: Oh? You know, just waking up? How are you doing?

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Speaker 1: I am living my life, chasing the dream? What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Call?

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Speaker 1: Or how how can I get you today? What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Man? I guess I don't really have anything particular,

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Speaker 2: but I just love your act and saw that you

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Speaker 2: were looking for callers and thought i'd chime in. I've

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Speaker 2: been going through a lot of life changes recently, and

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I guess I thought i'd be happy

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Speaker 2: to share them, both to kind of reflect on them

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Speaker 2: and also to just share my story.

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Speaker 1: Sure, hit me, what's uh? What's been changing? What have

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Speaker 1: been the strange changes? This David Bowie reference was continue,

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Speaker 1: go ahead all you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, I've had kind of an eclectic life for sure,

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Speaker 2: but most recently I've been getting out of a marriage

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Speaker 2: of eleven years and ultimately definitely for the best. But

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Speaker 2: you know, just learning how to reintegrate into a life,

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Speaker 2: and you know, come to realize how easy it is

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Speaker 2: to lose yourself in a relationship, and sometimes it seems

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Speaker 2: like maybe it's easiest to do so when the relationships

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Speaker 2: are not healthy.

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Speaker 1: Tell me more.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, you know, I very much love my wife,

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Speaker 2: and probably didn't love myself enough. You know, I was

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Speaker 2: of wanted to rescue me for myself, and I was

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Speaker 2: very deeply appreciative of that. And the relationship was marked

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Speaker 2: by there's just so many times of her getting so

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Speaker 2: much energy to try and yeah, helped me and support me.

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Speaker 2: And you know, there's certainly windows that I was able

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Speaker 2: to reciprocate that. But you know, depression and is a

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Speaker 2: hell of a drug, and I, yeah, certainly was unable

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Speaker 2: to give her what she needed. So slowly over the years,

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Speaker 2: I drained her bucket of love until there was nothing left.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, ultimately she got to a place where it

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Speaker 2: didn't work for her, and I tried everything I could

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Speaker 2: already too far gone. So no matter what I did there,

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Speaker 2: there was really no saying that.

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Speaker 1: So it was a matter of like you were to

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Speaker 1: you were feeling depressed, and she was always kind of

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Speaker 1: like giving you her energy, and after like eleven years,

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Speaker 1: she couldn't do it anymore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, but yeah, you know, I certainly respect her decision.

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Speaker 2: It was a very difficult thing to come to accept.

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Speaker 2: And the first couple of months after that, uh you know,

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Speaker 2: who was, you know, incredibly helpful to give me a

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Speaker 2: place to go, and ended up doing a bit of therapy.

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Speaker 2: And you know, I've done therapy in my entire life.

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Speaker 2: I've certainly never been afraid of it, but I never

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Speaker 2: found talk therapy to be you know, the answer for me.

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Speaker 2: So I ended up doing t MS, which you know,

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Speaker 2: for those that know, is transcreaning a magnetic stimulation, and

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Speaker 2: it was a game changer. It's completely yeah, opened doors

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Speaker 2: a completely different person after those two months.

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Speaker 3: M hm.

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Speaker 1: In what way do you think like you're a completely

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Speaker 2: Oh? You know, I just finally feel like what I

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Speaker 2: imagine the people around me.

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Speaker 3: Have felt.

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Speaker 2: The ability to USh your teeth or get up and

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Speaker 2: about or yeah, so yeah, I find it to be

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how it feels when you first find some

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Speaker 1: the way that you think most people feel, you know,

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, definitely. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Do you know there was like some relapsing for sure,

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Speaker 2: Like after the first week I was on Clad nine

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Speaker 2: lifestyle changes and but ultimately, you know, it was definitely

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Speaker 2: a catalyst that I had never experienced before, and then

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Speaker 2: it made all the rest so much more effective, Right,

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Speaker 2: Like I had these twenty years of therapy under my belt,

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Speaker 2: I have passive self talk, my body listens and it's amazing.

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Speaker 1: Nice man, hm hmmm. So what did you do you

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Speaker 1: and yours have kids together?

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Speaker 2: No? No, no, thankfully, we always were disinterested in children.

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Speaker 2: And you know, we have a little dog together who

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Speaker 2: is amazing and we have continued to you know, be

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Speaker 2: Right now, he's cut up up next to me at

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Speaker 2: a friend's house. But yeah, no children. We did have

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Speaker 1: What is your plan for life moving forward?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So a part of the dynamic of the marriage

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Speaker 2: had an eclectical life. Like I grew up with this

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Speaker 2: once I met my wife, that all became very domestic.

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Speaker 1: So how long were you the entirety of the relationship,

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Speaker 1: the whole eleven years were you? Were you living this

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Speaker 2: Yeah, essentially. I mean we didn't get our house until

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Speaker 2: the last four years, But you know, it was not dissimilar.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, so I have now very much pursued that

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Speaker 2: a longer term residence. And it's just lovely. Like every

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Speaker 1: That's awesome.

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Speaker 1: are you just like full are you full on nomadic?

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Speaker 2: learning what makes me tick and what I want from life.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, it's been really fun. And now the looksperience and.

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Speaker 1: Would you say you're happier now since the divorce.

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Speaker 2: Oh so much, so much happier. Yeah, I mean, you know,

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Speaker 2: it was very rockier getting here, right But I mean,

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Speaker 2: I think that it's always the case that right like,

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Speaker 2: it's not meant to be, it won't. And the harder

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Speaker 2: the more miserable both parties are. And I think that

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Speaker 2: that was ultimately our biggest strength in a relationship is

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Speaker 2: that we were both people that dearly wanted to maintain

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Speaker 2: but then there were a lot of things we weren't.

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Speaker 1: Interesting. Okay, so the days that sound like they've been

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Speaker 2: Yes, And I'm always very inclined to be an open

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Speaker 2: But yeah, so definitely seen coming. But yeah they all

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Speaker 4: My name Zach, Zach, Zach.

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Speaker 1: You actually see Zach you. I have to say, among

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Speaker 1: I think that guy seems like he's really enjoying his life.

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Speaker 2: I mean that, Yeah, thank you. Yeah, and yeah, as

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Speaker 1: Thanks for sharing your story, Zach, I appreciate it. Is

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Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, I mean absolutely, you know. The core reason

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Speaker 2: but continue to look, continue to yeah, try and find

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Speaker 1: Hey, thanks for calling, Zach. I appreciate you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, thanks, Las, take care man.

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Speaker 1: Truly a guy, a guy who getting divorced and moving

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Speaker 1: glad to hear his living the nomadic dream that is

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Speaker 3: I don't to accept Press one to send a voicemail.

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Speaker 1: Pressed hello, Hello, Hey, what's up man? What's your name?

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Speaker 5: My name is Sebastian.

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Speaker 1: How are you doing today, Sebastian. I'm doing good today.

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Speaker 5: Man.

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Speaker 1: It's a lovely morning. The sun is shining.

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Speaker 3: I have quite early Actually, yeah, I had.

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Speaker 1: A This is like, I know, there's a lot of

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Speaker 3: Not really, I'll for and people make fun of.

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Speaker 1: Jordan Peterson for the whole thing where he's like, clean

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Speaker 1: you have to do is clean your I mean it's

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Speaker 1: not it's totally super all you have to do, but

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Speaker 1: I just just having come immediately from feeling like, yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: you know the whole it's so over to we're so

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Speaker 1: back pipeline. Yeah no, I train never felt that harder

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Speaker 1: I wanted to give you an actual answer when you

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Pretty good. I'm currently in Dallas, Texas. How to go

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Speaker 5: to work at a volleyball tournament?

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Speaker 1: What do you do for the volleyball tournament?

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Speaker 5: Traveling photography? We take pictures of the teams and try

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Speaker 1: Oh, Okay, that's pretty cool.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, kind of like relax, what real last day, we

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Speaker 1: I'm ready to go to work I could do. Do

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00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: you sell the parents like keychain options, We'll give it.

438
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 1: Give me the most expensive package.

439
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 5: Like forty bucks for a poster.

440
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 3: Pretty much. It's a eight by twenty four.

441
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 1: You're not doing like Big Carpets or Nike.

442
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 5: Just a eight twenty four poster.

443
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:25,840
Speaker 1: No keychains, flash drives.

444
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:27,600
Speaker 3: No, nothing like that.

445
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 2: Yeah.

446
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 5: I was hoping actually to talk about how my ex

447
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,480
Speaker 5: stole my cat actually or something along those lines.

448
00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 1: Yeah. Sure, yeah, we could talk about that. What happened? Man?

449
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:49,560
Speaker 5: Okay, so uh so roughly my job as a traveling photographer.

450
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 5: I went to California recently, maybe about three weeks ago,

451
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 5: and I was on a trip with like a newer guy.

452
00:29:56,720 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 5: I didn't kind of like them at first, because like,

453
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:03,160
Speaker 5: I don't know if he's annoying, trying to pick fights

454
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 5: with people, saying dumb shit. So I kind of didn't

455
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 5: like him at first, but me and him got sitting

456
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 5: on a site together because no one else wanted to

457
00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 5: work with him. I was working with him and had

458
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 5: a girlfriend thinking for me pretty much, and no phone

459
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,080
Speaker 5: call da da da da da. I call her off

460
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 5: of his phone and he has her saved in his phone.

461
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 5: I'm like, what this kind of go through your phone?

462
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 5: He says, I would go fuck bro. And I see

463
00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 5: like apparently they matched it on Tinder and all the

464
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 5: stuff like that. So I call her and confront her

465
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:35,480
Speaker 5: about this, and she says, I don't know anything.

466
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 3: I don't know what you're talking about.

467
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:39,080
Speaker 5: Can't we just be adults and like talk about this

468
00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 5: when you get back to Louisiana. It's like a point

469
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:44,320
Speaker 5: four hour drive at that point, Like all my shit

470
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 5: is at my mom's house, all.

471
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 3: My stuff is backed in my vehicle. Uh yeah, you

472
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 3: can only imagine, yeah, and.

473
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 1: Wait for the reason the fact that what your girlfriend

474
00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: was cheating on you with, like one of boys at.

475
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:05,800
Speaker 5: Work, she did she matched with him on Tinder. I

476
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 5: don't think it went anything past like text conversations, you

477
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 5: know what I mean?

478
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:12,240
Speaker 1: Did you was just like, is this guy like your boy?

479
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 1: Is it just someone you work with?

480
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 3: It was some random guy I met maybe twice three times?

481
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 1: Okay, so you didn't even know that, you know.

482
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 5: What I mean? Yeah, exactly, exactly. I wasn't really any

483
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 5: fault on his but he but he was being like

484
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 5: the cool bro being like, dude, go through my phone,

485
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 5: don't give two.

486
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 3: Like you know what I mean?

487
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 1: Whoa damn? Did she still your.

488
00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 3: Well?

489
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 5: So we got the cat kind of together. We both

490
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 5: were working at Low's. I was the receivings clerk at

491
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 5: Low's and she was mst which is kind of like

492
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 5: the people will build shelves. Mmm okay, yeah, and they

493
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 5: found a random cat at Low's. The cat's name is

494
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,200
Speaker 5: their foliage supervides her outside lawn and garden because we

495
00:31:59,240 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 5: found him outside on a garden.

496
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: Where's he now?

497
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 3: At her house?

498
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 5: Like she has them? She says, if I went once

499
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:13,880
Speaker 5: I get my own place, she might give it back.

500
00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 1: Oh no, wait, so what's so where where? Okay, So

501
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 1: you're in Dallas, she's in Houston. No, I we live.

502
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 5: I live in Louisiana, yes, third uh, but I travel

503
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 5: around for work a lot. She lived in, like I

504
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 5: just stated, in part of the town and live with

505
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 5: my mother at the moment because like you know, kicked

506
00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 5: out life.

507
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 1: Damn man, I'm sorry to hear that. Ship.

508
00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, but I'm traveling every week, so it's a

509
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 5: different place every like traveling wizard style.

510
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

511
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 5: I'm going to like w w the Rave and I

512
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:57,360
Speaker 5: have like a bunch of decorated clothes and with my

513
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 5: Instagram on the back, and I'm gonna go hand them

514
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:03,400
Speaker 5: out and like go act like a wizard and we

515
00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 5: have a great time in a couple of weeks.

516
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not okay, just I'm not worried about you

517
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:13,720
Speaker 1: at all. You sound like you sound like life will

518
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 1: continue to find you each time you are you're braved

519
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: of some element of it.

520
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:25,920
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, is this going like on the thing?

521
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 1: Yeah? Probably, yeah, yes, yes, it is going on the thing.

522
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 3: Can I give them a shout out to my Instagram?

523
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 1: Yeah?

524
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 3: Sure?

525
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 1: Wait, hold on real before you do. What is the Instagram? Like,

526
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 1: what is it? Is it like a wizard Instagram?

527
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:42,120
Speaker 3: I'm transferring it to that?

528
00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 5: Actually, I like, like yes, like that is my plan

529
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 5: to when I go. But when I go to the

530
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 5: Rave in a couple a month weeks, it's like on

531
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 5: the twenty fourth or the twenty fifth, I want to

532
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 5: transfer it to like being entirely ward theemed.

533
00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 1: Okay, like listen, listen, I listen just real quick. This

534
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 1: episode comes. I'm recording this like an hour before it

535
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:09,399
Speaker 1: goes and then, so I just want to know if

536
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,720
Speaker 1: people listen to this, what are they going to find?

537
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:12,720
Speaker 1: Right now?

538
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,719
Speaker 3: Right now? You're gonna be funboxing? Oh, I know, I

539
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 3: have a video already.

540
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 5: I have an unboxing video of like a compass that

541
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 5: like helps you find your rave homies. And I'm like

542
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 5: completely like wizard themed and stuff like that, and all

543
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 5: dressed up as my Beatbox Wizard. I'm an ambassador for

544
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:33,680
Speaker 5: Beatbox Beverages as well as Forever Flow, which is like

545
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 5: a flow star, like a flow toys.

546
00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 3: I sin on like a finger dude.

547
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:39,319
Speaker 1: Who are you?

548
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 3: Yeah?

549
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:42,920
Speaker 5: I know, like I've been trying to get on this

550
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:44,360
Speaker 5: thing NonStop. You have no idea.

551
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:49,800
Speaker 1: No, you're the exact kind of person. No, you're exactly.

552
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 1: Uh you're you're strongly in a demographic of who I

553
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,439
Speaker 1: imagine watches a Talking Lizard podcast for sure.

554
00:34:58,239 --> 00:34:59,400
Speaker 3: Oh, most definitely.

555
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 5: My Instagram is.

556
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 3: At sign b A S S capital F capital f.

557
00:35:07,040 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 1: L O W go I do it one more time?

558
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 3: Uh based b A S S F F below s

559
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 3: l O w b A s F F f l

560
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 3: O W base love.

561
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,239
Speaker 1: Are you gonna be all right, man, what's up with

562
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:24,840
Speaker 1: your girlfriend?

563
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 3: Is she? Like?

564
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 1: Do you It sounds like you've you've already moved on.

565
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,000
Speaker 1: You're already you're a wizard now.

566
00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 5: You're I get what you mean, Like I just hope,

567
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:37,680
Speaker 5: like I don't know. We both had our problems in

568
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 5: their relationship, and I completely understand, like if you get

569
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 5: what I mean, we will had our faults. We can't

570
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 5: like fault each other for it. We both had our

571
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 5: anger issues or disattachment or lies or whatever. I kind

572
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,600
Speaker 5: of understand it, and I get it. But I think

573
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:55,959
Speaker 5: she could have did in a better way of kicking

574
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 5: me out, because I like, you know what I mean,

575
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 5: I know what you mean, been more communicative and not like, oh,

576
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 5: I got to deal with the twenty four hour drive

577
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 5: home of not knowing what's going on and realizing all

578
00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 5: my shit's actually like every like everywhere, and having to

579
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:12,920
Speaker 5: deal with like two hours of trying to figure out

580
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 5: what's going on with my life and moving into storage units.

581
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:20,799
Speaker 1: So so okay, so you guys were living together. Okay,

582
00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 1: So you're in Dallas for work right now?

583
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 3: Correct?

584
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:23,919
Speaker 4: Yeah?

585
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:24,959
Speaker 5: Jet Dallas for work?

586
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:25,600
Speaker 2: Uh?

587
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 3: And Louisiana is where I say, okay.

588
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 1: And So in Louisiana, whose house is it?

589
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:33,359
Speaker 3: It was her house.

590
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:37,040
Speaker 5: Her mother committed suicide like two or three years ago,

591
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 5: and uh yeah, and she blames it on her grandparents because,

592
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 5: uh her mother was like had tried to commit a.

593
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 3: Suicide attempt before.

594
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 5: And before when she tried to commit the uh, it

595
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 5: was like that, and she took a bunch of veryous

596
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 5: like medication and she kind of like odied and she

597
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,879
Speaker 5: blames it her grandparents on it because she gave it to.

598
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 3: What.

599
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 1: Okay, so is that how you got the house?

600
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 5: Oh?

601
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 3: That was how she got her house. That's where And

602
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:11,799
Speaker 3: I live with my mom on the other side of town.

603
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, if that makes sense, Yeah, that makes sense.

604
00:37:18,280 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 3: Like she got that, she got.

605
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 5: Her house from like her mother who passed away recently,

606
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 5: and I went moved in with her like maybe two

607
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 5: years ago, and it was like the relationship.

608
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:37,000
Speaker 1: Like so where you get Where are you going to go?

609
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:37,319
Speaker 3: Now?

610
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 5: I'm trying to get my own place. U trying to

611
00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:44,760
Speaker 5: save up money with while working this crazy job.

612
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:55,919
Speaker 1: Little ship man. I hope I hope you. I hope

613
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:58,040
Speaker 1: you get I hope I hope you have a good

614
00:37:58,040 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 1: time as a wizard.

615
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 5: I really do too. I gotta go do photography stuff.

616
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 5: I hope you have an amazing day as a wizard,

617
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 5: as a lizard, and I will be in the live

618
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 5: stream listening.

619
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:11,800
Speaker 1: All right, man, you take care.

620
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 5: You came out.

621
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:18,799
Speaker 1: I think that guy was on acid. There's no live

622
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:25,719
Speaker 1: stream right now, that's happening. This is offline. That was

623
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:34,360
Speaker 1: an interesting guy. Yeah, that was an interesting guy. He's

624
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:38,480
Speaker 1: got he's got, he's got, he's got an interesting life.

625
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 1: But he that's the kind of guy that will always

626
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 1: figure something out to keep moving forward. That's not a

627
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 1: guy who lives in the past. That's a guy who

628
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:52,840
Speaker 1: puts on his wizard suit and goes out into the

629
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:59,479
Speaker 1: great beyond when things get dark. Hello, how's it going.

630
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 3: It's pretty late, it's.

631
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 1: Going pretty chill with me. I'm in I am in

632
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 1: a different country right now, so it is yeah, it's

633
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,320
Speaker 1: I'm in I'm in Japan. I'm in Japan.

634
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 2: Uh.

635
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:22,399
Speaker 1: It's currently six pm. And where are you? Where are you?

636
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 3: I'm in North Las Vegas. So it's kind at three am.

637
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 1: Interesting. So if you look outside, it's night, and if

638
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:35,800
Speaker 1: I look outside, it's it's evening. It's evening.

639
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 3: The Golden all.

640
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:45,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, something like that. It's been pretty rainy here and

641
00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 1: cold and the this is kind of the first day

642
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:56,319
Speaker 1: in a while that there's been a lot of sunshine

643
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 1: and sun and it's been and you can walk around

644
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:07,719
Speaker 1: with j a T shirt and not sweatshirt or a coat. Yeah. Yeah,

645
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 1: it feels really nice.

646
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 3: It.

647
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 1: Like, dude, there's just this thing. It's like a cyclical.

648
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:14,719
Speaker 3: Thing.

649
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 1: I think everyone everyone gets a little bit of seasonal

650
00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 1: depression and whatnot. But dude, when you feel like a

651
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 1: phoenix rising from the ashes that first day of beautiful sunshine,

652
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 1: You're like, Wow, it's all it's all gonna be okay.

653
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:35,759
Speaker 3: You know, I totally kill the dinging. You see the

654
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:38,240
Speaker 3: trees in the and the leads and you're like, damn,

655
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:40,359
Speaker 3: life is not as bad as a dot.

656
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 1: Totally totally. You're like, oh, you can do it. You

657
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 1: can be a part of the universe. You can do it.

658
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you try, especially if you see a rainbow.

659
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 3: Did you see one?

660
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 2: No?

661
00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:55,960
Speaker 1: I didn't see a rainbow. I've said that I've been seeing.

662
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 1: They have the sakura flowers here, These like the cherry blossoms.

663
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:07,280
Speaker 1: What are they called, They're called the cherry the cherry

664
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 1: blossoms they call them here and a Fortnite skin? Is

665
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 1: it really Sakura?

666
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 3: Yeah? There's one there.

667
00:41:21,040 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 1: Is it was it? Look what color is it? What

668
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 1: to look like?

669
00:41:24,440 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 3: I think it's a girl and she's wearing a skirt.

670
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh, I know, okay, I was wondering if it

671
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 1: was like a cherry blossom color. Do you play a

672
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 1: lot of Fortnite?

673
00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:38,319
Speaker 3: I do? Fortnite is in my game.

674
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 1: How many hours of Fortnite are you clocking a week?

675
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:49,879
Speaker 3: A week? Probably recently maybe seven seven hours a week?

676
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:57,839
Speaker 3: You know? I play with my friend Serena sometimes cool,

677
00:41:57,880 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 3: but usually I just played all those.

678
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: Interesting But playing video games online is actually is a

679
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:11,920
Speaker 1: way to make like real friends, which I find interested.

680
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 3: That it's true. But it's really hard for me to

681
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 3: make friends online as much as it is in real life.

682
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:23,839
Speaker 3: I just voice chat kind of scares me sometimes, but

683
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 3: as I'm getting more used to just talking to many people,

684
00:42:26,719 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 3: you know, mm, but.

685
00:42:29,960 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 1: How how old are you?

686
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 3: I'm nineteen, okay. I turned twenty in a month on

687
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 3: May fourth, So that's pretty cool.

688
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:44,440
Speaker 1: And you're in North Las Vegas.

689
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:49,400
Speaker 3: Yes, of Nevada. So I used to live in California,

690
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 3: but I moved back in twenty twenty one, which was interesting.

691
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 3: But you know, I've gotten used to being here in

692
00:42:57,560 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 3: the desert.

693
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:04,120
Speaker 1: Why are you awake at two am? I think it's

694
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 1: two am?

695
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, two or seven am. That's a good question. I

696
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 3: just watched the movie The Drama with my brother, so

697
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,280
Speaker 3: we just got back from that and now I'm playing

698
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:17,799
Speaker 3: Last of Us. Know it's dream. What movie it's called

699
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 3: The Drama with Zenda and Robert Pattinson.

700
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 1: Oh? Any good?

701
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 3: It was very good. It was a romance type of movie.

702
00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:28,719
Speaker 5: But.

703
00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 3: It talked about very tough top like topics like mass shootings,

704
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 3: in a way that is very It explores the human

705
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 3: nature of almost doing something really bad but backing out

706
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 3: of it.

707
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 1: It's so it's a romantic movie about mass shootings.

708
00:43:52,440 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 3: Yes, so to speak. Basically, Venda's character she was gonna

709
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 3: commit a mass shooting in her school when she was fifteen,

710
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:06,640
Speaker 3: but she backed out of it last second because something

711
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 3: happened and she just decided not to. And she's in

712
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:16,359
Speaker 3: a relationship with this guy later in her life Pattinson. Yes,

713
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:20,320
Speaker 3: his name is Charlie the character and through just a

714
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,719
Speaker 3: random interaction he finds out that that happened to her

715
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 3: and she never told him about it, so it kind

716
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 3: of explores people's reactions to that type of thing, and

717
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:34,319
Speaker 3: like analyzing whether unconditional love is still president even through

718
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 3: those things.

719
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 1: Dude, I love I could have actually just sat here

720
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:43,840
Speaker 1: and listened to explain the movie. I love watching movies

721
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:49,200
Speaker 1: by reading the plot synopsis on Wikipedia and then not seeing.

722
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:50,160
Speaker 3: The movie, never watching.

723
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:55,720
Speaker 1: I've seen so many movies by just reading the plot

724
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 1: synopsis on Wikipedia. I might go and read the plot

725
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 1: synopsis of like Game of Thrones on Wikipedia, and I

726
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 1: probably like a good time, you know, like you get

727
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:09,040
Speaker 1: the hang of the story, which I guess you came

728
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:11,440
Speaker 1: home from the drama you got.

729
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 3: No, I've never read Wikipedia block to the movies. I

730
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 3: like watching the movies instead of that.

731
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 1: And you're you're in a good camp. That's a good

732
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 1: camp to be in. Actually the camp of actually watching

733
00:45:26,680 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 1: the movie. I think that's the better camp to be in.

734
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,440
Speaker 3: But anyway, well, it differ interests me that you do that,

735
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 3: because I mean, I feel like experiencing movie is a

736
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 3: lot different than reading a plot about it. And I

737
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 3: think you know that, but it seems like, I mean,

738
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:45,360
Speaker 3: it's a lot easier to just read something about a movie,

739
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:46,319
Speaker 3: so I get it.

740
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:50,399
Speaker 1: You know, you got home from the drama I did,

741
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 1: and what did it? Were you feeling emotional from it?

742
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,319
Speaker 3: I definitely felt touch by it because the acting was

743
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 3: really really good and convincing. Okay, but I don't know

744
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:05,680
Speaker 3: how to feel about it. I like to let movies

745
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:08,839
Speaker 3: kind of digest in my head mentally for the next

746
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,239
Speaker 3: few days. After I watched one.

747
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:12,879
Speaker 1: What did your brother think?

748
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 3: He thought a lot about it. He's really good with words,

749
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:22,480
Speaker 3: make playing stuff. He's like reading essays about it right

750
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:28,799
Speaker 3: after or articles about it. M hmm, how are you?

751
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:35,200
Speaker 1: M M. I'm okay, I'm living my life, but I

752
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:39,399
Speaker 1: have more questions for you. Uh, give me your name

753
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 1: one more time.

754
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 3: My name is Nick. I never said it, but Nick.

755
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 1: Nick hmm, okay, let me ask you this. Was there

756
00:46:54,560 --> 00:47:00,200
Speaker 1: a reason that you called in to this show? Is

757
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 1: I'll tell you something. I sometimes I feel like I

758
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 1: as sometimes I feel like I'm like I get to uh,

759
00:47:10,360 --> 00:47:13,080
Speaker 1: I get too I get too strict with how I

760
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:15,840
Speaker 1: want to run the show, and today I'm film then

761
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:18,919
Speaker 1: feelm I could we just talk about fucking what are

762
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 1: But I would love that. I mean, in the event

763
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:27,759
Speaker 1: that you do have something in particular that you called

764
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 1: in to want to talk about. I am all ears.

765
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:34,120
Speaker 3: Thank you. I appreciate that. And there's a reason I called.

766
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:39,800
Speaker 3: I saw your Instagram story like three minutes ago before calling,

767
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:44,640
Speaker 3: so I just suck it and I was gonna I

768
00:47:44,680 --> 00:47:46,760
Speaker 3: was gonna listen to the latest episode of your podcast

769
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:48,799
Speaker 3: just now, and then I saw that. So it's a

770
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 3: bit of a late co incidence. You say you have

771
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:57,319
Speaker 3: a hard time with deciding how you want to run

772
00:47:57,360 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 3: the show sometimes. Do you feel like that fluctuates a lot?

773
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 2: Well?

774
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:03,880
Speaker 1: Wait, you said wall wait you you you said you

775
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:06,400
Speaker 1: had something you wanted to talk about. Was it was

776
00:48:06,440 --> 00:48:08,839
Speaker 1: the thing you wanted to talk about, just that you

777
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:12,759
Speaker 1: saw me post about me? You saw me post the

778
00:48:12,840 --> 00:48:14,959
Speaker 1: number on Instagram like nick. Not like I'm talking about

779
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 1: like I'm sorry. I'm not talking about like the logistics

780
00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: of how you got here. I'm talking about if there

781
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:22,520
Speaker 1: was a thing that you wanted to have a a

782
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 1: conversation about. It's okay if there's If it's not, I

783
00:48:26,040 --> 00:48:28,399
Speaker 1: just thought I thought there. I thought you thought there

784
00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 1: was no.

785
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 3: I do not have didn't have anything in mind when

786
00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:34,520
Speaker 3: I called. But the reason was.

787
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:43,440
Speaker 1: So you you said sorry, I guess. I guess I'm

788
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 1: reaching for a therapy e thing here, but I am curious.

789
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:50,799
Speaker 1: I want to know. You said you have trouble making

790
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:52,960
Speaker 1: friends online and in real life.

791
00:48:54,000 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 3: Right, Uh, well, are you how like friends in their life?

792
00:49:01,120 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 1: How long has this been? How long has this been

793
00:49:04,400 --> 00:49:05,800
Speaker 1: in elements of your life?

794
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:11,040
Speaker 3: For a while, I did mention how I moved in

795
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:12,799
Speaker 3: Nevada from California a while ago.

796
00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

797
00:49:13,840 --> 00:49:17,000
Speaker 3: I feel like that move and transferring to high school

798
00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 3: made it really hard for me to feel like I

799
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:23,440
Speaker 3: set in and when I was in high school, I

800
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:26,200
Speaker 3: didn't know anyone like I did before, Like I had

801
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:28,319
Speaker 3: a whole starting dude before, but now I didn't, and

802
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:31,359
Speaker 3: it was like a whole new thing for me. And

803
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 3: throughout high school, it always just felt like everything was

804
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:36,399
Speaker 3: so hard to do and like I was in such

805
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:41,840
Speaker 3: a bubble, you know, and I just had I just

806
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 3: so much more opportunity and I didn't realize that. But

807
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 3: I feel like, looking back on it, it's been a

808
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:51,800
Speaker 3: great lesson for you know, showing me that I couldn't

809
00:49:51,800 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 3: literally do whatever I want, and like, you know, I'm

810
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:58,480
Speaker 3: gonna use those opportunities better in the future to like

811
00:49:58,560 --> 00:50:07,480
Speaker 3: actually talk to people and participate in things, and I

812
00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 3: feel like I could definitely make friends if I wanted to,

813
00:50:09,719 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 3: because I'm a cool heart thing now and I feel

814
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 3: like I'm good at talking to people. But I just

815
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:15,880
Speaker 3: haven't been put in the right type of environment for

816
00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 3: that to happen to me. Agains. No, I'm not too

817
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 3: worried about that aspect as I used to be of

818
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 3: my life. Having friends with me.

819
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 1: Thought also good news. You actually don't even have to

820
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: be that cool of a person to make friends.

821
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:33,840
Speaker 3: That's true.

822
00:50:33,960 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 1: A lot of there are plenty of and very uncool

823
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:40,239
Speaker 1: people who have lots of friends.

824
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 3: A good point. I bet Hitler had a lot of friends.

825
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 1: Hitler had so many. I wonder if he I wonder

826
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:52,920
Speaker 1: if he had it. I wonder if he had any friends.

827
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:58,120
Speaker 1: I guess I don't know. Can you really like who

828
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:01,279
Speaker 1: gets who gets? How do you get close to a

829
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:03,759
Speaker 1: guy like that? You know, who was who was close

830
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 1: to him? Because he he probably had so many people

831
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:13,400
Speaker 1: under his command, people who feared him and people who

832
00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 1: were part of his whatever, like, but like who got

833
00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:19,960
Speaker 1: close to his heart? Like did he ever open up

834
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:22,360
Speaker 1: to anyone? I don't think he ever. I don't know

835
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 1: if he ever opened up to anyone, and if he,

836
00:51:24,520 --> 00:51:28,360
Speaker 1: if he did, like you, did he open up to

837
00:51:29,040 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 1: a broun you.

838
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:32,520
Speaker 3: Think, Yeah, Like I wonder what that would look like,

839
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 3: him speaking from his heart to like a therapist or

840
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:38,960
Speaker 3: something whatever, a therapist would be back back then, Not

841
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 3: to not to glorify Hitler or anything, but it's like,

842
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:44,360
Speaker 3: I feel like you could sit down with Hitley and

843
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:45,760
Speaker 3: have a cold beer. Young just killed.

844
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 1: I don't think, you know, I don't think. I don't

845
00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:54,320
Speaker 1: think he like a guy like that. I don't think

846
00:51:55,560 --> 00:52:01,840
Speaker 1: has I think anyone who achieves that level of power

847
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 1: of any kind, I don't think it is like that

848
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 1: introspective enough of a person that they could open up about.

849
00:52:12,719 --> 00:52:14,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good point.

850
00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:18,319
Speaker 1: I don't know, though, I don't know. Though I've thought

851
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:22,839
Speaker 1: about dude. I've had I've had fantasies before where like

852
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 1: I sit I sit down with Donald Trump and I'm

853
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 1: like What's And I'm trying to like what's what is

854
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:32,440
Speaker 1: all this? What's going on? And like why why? I

855
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 1: get the answer, but I don't. I just have this

856
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:38,480
Speaker 1: feeling like if that if like someone tried to do that,

857
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 1: he wouldn't he would, like I wouldn't have the introspection

858
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 1: to give the answer. So I don't know if if

859
00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:52,920
Speaker 1: Hitler could open up like that, I don't know.

860
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 3: I get what you're saying. Because he did so much

861
00:52:58,040 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 3: bad stuff, he feel like it wouldn't be capable for

862
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 3: him to, like, you know, look at himself and really

863
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:05,399
Speaker 3: question what are you doing?

864
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:10,200
Speaker 1: I think too, I think to carry out I think

865
00:53:10,280 --> 00:53:16,080
Speaker 1: to be the Chancellor of Germany in the nineteen forties

866
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 1: requires you to be living externally like one hundred percent

867
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:27,520
Speaker 1: of your waking existence. So I don't like Hitler. Like

868
00:53:27,640 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 1: Hitler is not in a room being like thinking about

869
00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:39,200
Speaker 1: his behavior or thinking about the world or thinking about right.

870
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:43,440
Speaker 1: He's like in he's kind He's like in the zone

871
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:49,799
Speaker 1: one hundred percent of the time doing this crazy strategy thing,

872
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:53,840
Speaker 1: not thinking about anything else. He's just like doing, and

873
00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:56,000
Speaker 1: he's I don't even I think so like being like

874
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:57,600
Speaker 1: a world leader or some shit. I feel like it's

875
00:53:57,600 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 1: so much doing that you don't even have time to

876
00:53:59,800 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 1: like think about what you're even fucking doing. Yeah, So

877
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:07,880
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't I don't think. I mean,

878
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 1: he wrote a book. I've never read the book, but

879
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:12,760
Speaker 1: I don't know if he was that introspective of a person.

880
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:15,640
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm wrong, maybe he did have like like he

881
00:54:15,680 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 1: wrote a book, but I think the book is just

882
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 1: like I don't I don't know anything about the book,

883
00:54:22,239 --> 00:54:24,359
Speaker 1: but I'm like, is it I don't know if it's

884
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 1: like a I don't know if it's like a Woody

885
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:31,359
Speaker 1: Allen neurotic, you know, monologue about the self. You know,

886
00:54:31,440 --> 00:54:35,520
Speaker 1: it seems like again it's like very external stuff.

887
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like a guy like him, I mean

888
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:42,759
Speaker 3: to get to that point anywhere in the world. I

889
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:46,200
Speaker 3: feel like he was a smart guy for sure, you know,

890
00:54:45,880 --> 00:54:47,840
Speaker 3: and I feel like he was on a lot of

891
00:54:47,880 --> 00:54:51,640
Speaker 3: drugs for most of that time. So what you're saying

892
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:53,040
Speaker 3: makes sense is doing well.

893
00:54:53,080 --> 00:54:56,920
Speaker 1: It's not about well, it's not about smart. I mean smart.

894
00:54:57,360 --> 00:55:01,879
Speaker 1: The word smart is like does a lot of right.

895
00:55:01,960 --> 00:55:04,640
Speaker 1: I guess different ways to define like. I don't like.

896
00:55:05,320 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 1: I don't know if I don't know if being strategic

897
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:11,160
Speaker 1: is smart, I don't. I don't know, man, I don't know.

898
00:55:11,280 --> 00:55:12,680
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know if I don't know

899
00:55:12,680 --> 00:55:15,360
Speaker 1: what he's doing, I don't know what we're talking about anymore.

900
00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:17,160
Speaker 3: I enjoyed it.

901
00:55:19,239 --> 00:55:21,719
Speaker 1: I think I really have had that. Yeah. I really

902
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:23,359
Speaker 1: have had that moment though, where I'm like, I wish

903
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 1: I could. I wish I was that good of a

904
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:27,239
Speaker 1: I wish I wish I was that good of a

905
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 1: therapy gecko, that I could like sit down with one

906
00:55:30,680 --> 00:55:32,920
Speaker 1: of these guys like what's really are you? What's really

907
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:34,279
Speaker 1: going on? I don't think I could do it, though,

908
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 1: but I've had the fantasy.

909
00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, that sounds intimidating, Nick Lyle.

910
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:50,439
Speaker 1: Uh Okay, So you were in high school and you

911
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:56,320
Speaker 1: learned the lessons and now you're from what I remember

912
00:55:56,360 --> 00:55:58,840
Speaker 1: you saying earlier before we started talking about Hitler is

913
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:04,600
Speaker 1: that you learn certain lessons of how you want to

914
00:56:04,680 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 1: approach the future that you now aim to execute upon. Correct. Correct, Now,

915
00:56:20,960 --> 00:56:24,440
Speaker 1: what do those executions look like?

916
00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:31,360
Speaker 3: I'm going to see us later this year, which is

917
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 3: College of Southern Nevada, and I went there before but

918
00:56:35,520 --> 00:56:37,839
Speaker 3: I dropped out because I didn't like it. But I'm

919
00:56:37,840 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 3: going back and I feel like I just have a

920
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:45,279
Speaker 3: lot of potential to socialize and make friends and just

921
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:50,160
Speaker 3: participate in stuff. So dude, college is one way I'm

922
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:50,719
Speaker 3: going to do that.

923
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:56,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I'm a I feel like I love I

924
00:56:56,800 --> 00:57:00,360
Speaker 1: had Actually I had a really hard time making friends

925
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:03,759
Speaker 1: the first year of college. I remember, my first year

926
00:57:03,800 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 1: of college is really rough. It is really rough. And

927
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:12,399
Speaker 1: then well I just did I didn't really know where

928
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:18,720
Speaker 1: I fit in. Like I tried pledging a frat, and uh,

929
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 1: I didn't like that. I didn't like those. I just

930
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:23,520
Speaker 1: did seem feel right. It's felt like it's something you're

931
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 1: like supposed to do. Yeah, I pledged the frat.

932
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:32,960
Speaker 3: Yeah what does that mean? I mean, I know what

933
00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 3: a frat is, but to pledge one does that mean

934
00:57:35,320 --> 00:57:36,959
Speaker 3: just to join one? More? Yeah?

935
00:57:37,080 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 1: To like, how do I explain? Like you? Like you?

936
00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:43,480
Speaker 1: You you kind of like show up to like parties

937
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:45,840
Speaker 1: and stuff. I think, and then like the people in

938
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:51,240
Speaker 1: the frat, like deter, I don't know that much about

939
00:57:51,280 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 1: fucking frat culture. Yeah, they get to know you, they

940
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 1: pick you. Yeah, sometimes they make you. Sometimes they put

941
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 1: something in your ass. But they didn't do that to me.

942
00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 3: Oh I didn't, damn it.

943
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:06,840
Speaker 1: No, I got haze. There's this thing called bb y

944
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 1: O and yeah, it's kind of like a it's like

945
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 1: a Jewish frat. There's a lot of like Christian versions

946
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:19,840
Speaker 1: of it too, but yeah, it's like this like Jewish

947
00:58:19,880 --> 00:58:22,920
Speaker 1: youth organization. And it's kind of like a fraternity, but

948
00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:28,160
Speaker 1: it's high school. And I got hazed getting into that.

949
00:58:28,200 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 1: They poured like candle wax. Uh down my yeah, down

950
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:38,600
Speaker 1: my down my back. Was it hot? Yeah, I mean

951
00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:41,400
Speaker 1: it's pretty Yeah, it's pretty hot. They put you in

952
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 1: a room. They put you in a room. By the way,

953
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:49,720
Speaker 1: this is this is not reflect I'm about trying to listen. Listen,

954
00:58:49,760 --> 00:58:52,680
Speaker 1: i'mbout trying to ship on the bene breath youth organization.

955
00:58:52,960 --> 00:58:59,440
Speaker 1: I'm just telling you what happened. Okay, they're cool folks.

956
00:58:59,440 --> 00:59:01,040
Speaker 1: Out of those is a fun time whatever.

957
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:02,640
Speaker 3: I see you.

958
00:59:04,000 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 1: But yeah, they and they kicked. Did I consent to that? Yeah,

959
00:59:10,680 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: I mean I mean I pledged whatever that means.

960
00:59:15,880 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 3: So it's kind of like a contract. You can say,

961
00:59:17,960 --> 00:59:21,680
Speaker 3: you know, pledge your reasons to the group you're joining.

962
00:59:22,080 --> 00:59:27,160
Speaker 1: It's hard to explain. It's hard to explain pledge if

963
00:59:27,160 --> 00:59:29,560
Speaker 1: you don't. If you don't, I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm

964
00:59:29,560 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 1: Gonna'm actual. I'm getting I'm getting a little off track here,

965
00:59:31,920 --> 00:59:37,720
Speaker 1: but I'm sorry. Go ahead, No, it's try ful. Uh yeah,

966
00:59:37,760 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 1: I had our time making friends in college. I joined

967
00:59:40,720 --> 00:59:42,920
Speaker 1: I tried to pledge this fret. I was trying to

968
00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:47,840
Speaker 1: make friends with people on my floor and my roommate.

969
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:51,800
Speaker 1: I was in a room with three other dudes, and

970
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:56,680
Speaker 1: they all kind of came in from a different high school,

971
00:59:57,040 --> 00:59:58,720
Speaker 1: and a bunch of their high school friends all went

972
00:59:58,760 --> 01:00:01,440
Speaker 1: to the same college. So I was kind of like

973
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:10,200
Speaker 1: this new background character in the lives of these like

974
01:00:10,320 --> 01:00:13,800
Speaker 1: high school guys. And I liked a lot of them,

975
01:00:13,880 --> 01:00:18,280
Speaker 1: but also a lot of them. I just wasn't. It

976
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:20,840
Speaker 1: just felt like it really felt like I was hanging

977
01:00:20,880 --> 01:00:25,400
Speaker 1: out with other people's friends, you know, like it wasn't.

978
01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:29,000
Speaker 1: I wanted to be part of something that was emerging

979
01:00:29,040 --> 01:00:32,040
Speaker 1: from the ground up, and then I was, But instead

980
01:00:32,040 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 1: I was thrust it into a culture that was that

981
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:39,880
Speaker 1: was not mine to create, but mine to learn, and

982
01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:44,480
Speaker 1: I wasn't interested in that, And then I was. I

983
01:00:44,520 --> 01:00:47,720
Speaker 1: started playing Super Smash Brothers, and I didn't want to

984
01:00:47,760 --> 01:00:50,800
Speaker 1: be friends with any of those guys, but I like

985
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:53,920
Speaker 1: it was nice being around them. You know. Actually I

986
01:00:54,480 --> 01:00:58,680
Speaker 1: made a couple of good friends doing that. I say back,

987
01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 1: I didn't want to be friends with those guys. I

988
01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:05,440
Speaker 1: it was a good culture to be around. It was

989
01:01:05,440 --> 01:01:06,520
Speaker 1: a good culture to be around.

990
01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:10,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I get that, but it can be just being

991
01:01:10,160 --> 01:01:12,560
Speaker 3: trusted into something like you said, you know, rather than

992
01:01:12,600 --> 01:01:14,880
Speaker 3: just being there from the beginning exactly.

993
01:01:19,360 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 1: And then it wasn't until I started, like I started

994
01:01:24,600 --> 01:01:28,000
Speaker 1: doing more. I was doing stand up comedy when I

995
01:01:28,040 --> 01:01:29,800
Speaker 1: was like in high school, and then I started just

996
01:01:29,800 --> 01:01:34,120
Speaker 1: doing it again just around Philadelphia, and then through that

997
01:01:35,040 --> 01:01:37,320
Speaker 1: I made a bunch of friends that were like, felt like, oh,

998
01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:39,560
Speaker 1: these are my homies. But that's it took two years

999
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:48,720
Speaker 1: to get there. So anyway, my kind of cautionary thing is,

1000
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:53,000
Speaker 1: don't jewish, don't join to do well I mean whatever,

1001
01:01:53,120 --> 01:02:00,560
Speaker 1: but no, no, I'm just kidding. Yeah, des joy a

1002
01:02:00,560 --> 01:02:03,480
Speaker 1: club man. Join join a thing that you like to do.

1003
01:02:03,560 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 1: What do you like to do?

1004
01:02:06,640 --> 01:02:13,600
Speaker 3: I like? I like, I like going on runs. I

1005
01:02:13,680 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 3: run a lot.

1006
01:02:15,480 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 1: Oh join a run club, do a run club? Clubs.

1007
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:24,280
Speaker 3: I hear that. I hear it also really horny. I

1008
01:02:24,320 --> 01:02:28,640
Speaker 3: don't know how true that is, but like runners when

1009
01:02:28,640 --> 01:02:29,600
Speaker 3: they join clubs.

1010
01:02:30,200 --> 01:02:32,800
Speaker 1: I have I have heard that, Yes, I have I

1011
01:02:33,120 --> 01:02:34,960
Speaker 1: that I have heard that. I have heard that.

1012
01:02:35,520 --> 01:02:39,800
Speaker 3: I can't comment on it. I like parkour, Like when

1013
01:02:39,800 --> 01:02:42,560
Speaker 3: I run, I jump off of poles, not poles that's crazy,

1014
01:02:42,600 --> 01:02:43,280
Speaker 3: but like, do.

1015
01:02:43,320 --> 01:02:55,320
Speaker 1: Your dude, Okay, what Nick your name is? Yes, Nicholas, dude,

1016
01:02:55,360 --> 01:02:59,320
Speaker 1: you gotta you gotta, you gotta join. You have to

1017
01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:07,480
Speaker 1: you have to join or create the the CSN Parkour Club.

1018
01:03:09,640 --> 01:03:12,520
Speaker 3: That's yeah, I do't. That's the thing. I mean, Oh,

1019
01:03:12,560 --> 01:03:17,880
Speaker 3: you creating a club? That sound created?

1020
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:22,800
Speaker 1: What you said, it sounds tough. Yeah, it's the It's

1021
01:03:23,280 --> 01:03:28,680
Speaker 1: it is the absolute best way to make friends. It

1022
01:03:28,800 --> 01:03:31,919
Speaker 1: is the apps. If you're listening, dude, if you're listening

1023
01:03:31,960 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 1: to this fucking podcast right now and you're in college

1024
01:03:33,800 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 1: and like, I don't have any friends, it is the

1025
01:03:37,120 --> 01:03:40,360
Speaker 1: best possible way to make friends. Like it is a

1026
01:03:40,440 --> 01:03:43,360
Speaker 1: cheat code. It will work one hundred of the time.

1027
01:03:44,000 --> 01:03:47,400
Speaker 1: I swear it just will work. Because if you like again,

1028
01:03:47,400 --> 01:03:52,760
Speaker 1: because if you like show up to like another club

1029
01:03:52,840 --> 01:03:54,800
Speaker 1: or whatever another thing, you kind of feel again. It

1030
01:03:54,840 --> 01:03:57,280
Speaker 1: feels like you're it's like there's like a culture that

1031
01:03:57,280 --> 01:03:59,520
Speaker 1: you're not like a part of. But if you join,

1032
01:03:59,680 --> 01:04:02,120
Speaker 1: if you like, create the club and then like other

1033
01:04:02,160 --> 01:04:07,720
Speaker 1: people like, it's it's just way easier to make people. Yeah,

1034
01:04:07,760 --> 01:04:09,520
Speaker 1: and you and you feel like you're in your own

1035
01:04:09,600 --> 01:04:12,200
Speaker 1: universe that you're creating, and so you're a little bit

1036
01:04:12,240 --> 01:04:14,600
Speaker 1: less alieny feeling.

1037
01:04:16,160 --> 01:04:19,840
Speaker 3: Yeah that sounds badass.

1038
01:04:20,480 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 1: Have everyone sign a waiver though, because you might have

1039
01:04:22,840 --> 01:04:24,880
Speaker 1: a couple of kids die running off the you know,

1040
01:04:25,040 --> 01:04:25,840
Speaker 1: roofs and stuff.

1041
01:04:26,400 --> 01:04:33,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's like a trial period though. Account. Yeah, I

1042
01:04:33,480 --> 01:04:35,560
Speaker 3: have a question for you, Okay.

1043
01:04:35,400 --> 01:04:35,680
Speaker 1: Hit me.

1044
01:04:36,760 --> 01:04:38,800
Speaker 3: Have you ever played the Last of Us video games?

1045
01:04:39,400 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 1: I started playing it for a little bit and then

1046
01:04:41,600 --> 01:04:43,640
Speaker 1: I got stuck on this one level and then I

1047
01:04:43,680 --> 01:04:46,720
Speaker 1: was like, I don't want to play this anymore. I

1048
01:04:47,200 --> 01:04:50,680
Speaker 1: don't know as soon as they started like introducing enemies

1049
01:04:52,080 --> 01:04:57,480
Speaker 1: really yeah. Yeah, because here's the thing, Fuck, I have

1050
01:04:58,240 --> 01:05:01,200
Speaker 1: fuck a lot of those video game games. Like if

1051
01:05:01,240 --> 01:05:04,000
Speaker 1: your video game has a part in it that's like

1052
01:05:05,440 --> 01:05:07,840
Speaker 1: hard to get past, not because it's challenging, but because

1053
01:05:07,840 --> 01:05:10,560
Speaker 1: it's like annoying and stupid and not fun. I don't

1054
01:05:10,640 --> 01:05:13,640
Speaker 1: I have no interest in continuing to play your video game.

1055
01:05:15,360 --> 01:05:18,640
Speaker 3: I feel you, But I think that's where strategy comes

1056
01:05:18,680 --> 01:05:21,120
Speaker 3: in to play, you know, and stuffing your way around

1057
01:05:21,160 --> 01:05:22,800
Speaker 3: enemy in the environment.

1058
01:05:24,360 --> 01:05:26,880
Speaker 1: I wasn't interested in it. I wasn't interested. Do you

1059
01:05:26,880 --> 01:05:27,960
Speaker 1: play a lot of Do you play a lot of

1060
01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:29,880
Speaker 1: other video games besides Fortnite?

1061
01:05:31,000 --> 01:05:34,200
Speaker 3: I play Fortnite. I play mostly story based games like Okay,

1062
01:05:34,400 --> 01:05:36,920
Speaker 3: I grew up with those kind of games, like The

1063
01:05:36,920 --> 01:05:40,320
Speaker 3: Walking Dead, Telltale, Life Is Strange, I love a lot.

1064
01:05:41,400 --> 01:05:44,680
Speaker 1: What are your three favorite video games of all time?

1065
01:05:46,720 --> 01:05:50,080
Speaker 3: Life Is Strange, The Walking Dead Season one, Telltale, and

1066
01:05:58,480 --> 01:06:01,560
Speaker 3: damn bro, what's the third? I can't just say, anyone,

1067
01:06:01,840 --> 01:06:06,280
Speaker 3: give me a second.

1068
01:06:08,520 --> 01:06:10,360
Speaker 1: Are you sifting through something right now?

1069
01:06:11,160 --> 01:06:13,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm looking through my my PlayStations.

1070
01:06:13,560 --> 01:06:16,720
Speaker 1: But because oh I heard that, I heard the little say,

1071
01:06:16,760 --> 01:06:18,120
Speaker 1: I heard the sound in the background.

1072
01:06:19,280 --> 01:06:21,680
Speaker 3: My third game, okay, the Life is Strange, The Walking

1073
01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:32,960
Speaker 3: Dead Season one, and The Last of Us too, The

1074
01:06:33,040 --> 01:06:34,680
Speaker 3: Last of Us two.

1075
01:06:34,720 --> 01:06:37,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't get I. I can't get through the

1076
01:06:37,320 --> 01:06:37,919
Speaker 1: Last of Us.

1077
01:06:39,680 --> 01:06:42,480
Speaker 3: It's a very linear type of game. Do you prefer

1078
01:06:42,600 --> 01:06:45,800
Speaker 3: more open world type of things like Elder No?

1079
01:06:45,840 --> 01:06:47,600
Speaker 1: I have no. I would hate to play Elden Ring.

1080
01:06:47,760 --> 01:06:50,800
Speaker 1: I don't like like no. I hate open worlds.

1081
01:06:51,080 --> 01:06:51,919
Speaker 3: That is one of those things.

1082
01:06:51,960 --> 01:06:57,040
Speaker 1: It's really hard because I don't I want see. I

1083
01:06:57,120 --> 01:06:59,880
Speaker 1: use video games as an escape from having to make

1084
01:07:00,040 --> 01:07:04,440
Speaker 1: decisions in real life, and so I want a video

1085
01:07:04,560 --> 01:07:09,439
Speaker 1: game to be like, the more linear, the better, right,

1086
01:07:09,960 --> 01:07:17,200
Speaker 1: And I love I love open world games. That give

1087
01:07:17,240 --> 01:07:21,840
Speaker 1: you the option to do all their random bullshit, but

1088
01:07:22,000 --> 01:07:24,280
Speaker 1: they also give you the option to not do all

1089
01:07:24,280 --> 01:07:27,480
Speaker 1: their random bullshit and just play through the main story.

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01:07:28,080 --> 01:07:29,960
Speaker 1: You're like a like you know, Grand Theft, Auto or

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Speaker 1: Red Dead. They have great philosophies for they run their games.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a lot of freedom in it. A game

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Speaker 3: that reminds me of the Horizons Forbidden Last, say, a

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Speaker 3: game about machines that kind of take over the world

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Speaker 3: and you can choose to do the main story or

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Speaker 3: a bunch of other things in the world, and it's

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Speaker 3: really cool.

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Speaker 1: Horizon Forbidden Forbidden West. Yeah, it woa the start thing.

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Speaker 3: Whoa, hey Loy, that's my bro.

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Speaker 1: Whoa this guy? I don't like games where like the

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Speaker 1: main character looks all serious.

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Speaker 3: She's very scarious.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know why I can't. I'm sure. Yeah,

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01:08:17,640 --> 01:08:20,280
Speaker 1: this game looks a little serious people.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I like it. Like, what the fuck have I been playing?

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Speaker 1: I tried playing middle Gear. I tried replaying middle Gear

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Speaker 1: solid for a second.

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Speaker 3: That was what I never played Meddle Gear, your son never.

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Speaker 3: I've seen the one of the deaths from one of

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Speaker 3: the old games in About the East, I love it,

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Speaker 3: but no I never played it. Is it linear? Nick? Hello?

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Speaker 3: Mm hmm, it's been thirty one unit.

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Speaker 1: I spent thirty one minutes, Nick. I'm gonna I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: let you go.

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Speaker 3: Okay, thank you for setting me free.

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Speaker 1: Of course, of course, go ahead to go ahead, but

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Speaker 1: before before it, before I do.

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Speaker 3: That, not that I wanted to be separate, set free.

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Speaker 3: I really enjoyed talking to you. But go ahead and

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Speaker 3: talk to you today.

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Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the

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Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go?

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Speaker 3: Life is strange, it is, it is, so enjoy it. Bye, Nick, Bye, Wow,

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Speaker 3: have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Oh fuck. I cut them off week and goes on

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Speaker 1: the line taking your phone calls every night every week,

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Speaker 1: and goes to just teaching you your lin