WEBVTT - Still With My Ex 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Fully Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:17.160 and the Black Effects, And just like that we back 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:20.000 on the air. Welcome back to yet another carefully reckless 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:22.640 episode with your girl. Just hilarious. What I be doing, 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:24.880 I'll be fixed a mess, That's what I do. Up 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:27.160 and down, back and forth, whatever however you see it. 0:00:27.840 --> 0:00:31.000 So we do have a voice note today, however, it's 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:33.839 an update. I love when I get updates because sometimes 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:37.680 I be thinking people don't come back and like update 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:41.000 me because I'd be too hard on them, or they 0:00:41.000 --> 0:00:44.519 didn't get the advice that they wanted, or they're offended 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:48.080 by the advice or what have you. But I am 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:54.120 absolutely thankful and grateful for you guys updating me all 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:56.800 the time. I sound a little tired because I am 0:00:56.880 --> 0:01:00.840 tired child. I am sluggish as hell today, So let's 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:01.880 jump straight into it. 0:01:02.920 --> 0:01:05.040 Hey, Jess, thank you so much for giving me your 0:01:05.080 --> 0:01:08.840 advice and listening to my story. So I did exactly 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:12.000 what you said. I took my well me and my 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:14.360 best friend. We went out to dinner and I told 0:01:14.360 --> 0:01:16.320 her how I felt about the whole situation and told 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:18.320 her you just gotta leave me out of it, and 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:21.080 She was respectful of that, and then she asked me, 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:24.840 is that why I have been pulling away from her? 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:26.600 And I had to say yes. 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:29.800 She was a little hurt by that, and I understood. 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:33.440 I ended up feeling bad after we left, and I 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:35.080 text her and I just, you know, let her know 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:37.600 that I love you at the end of the day 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:39.000 and I only want the best for you, and it 0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:41.200 just hurts me to see you have to go through this, 0:01:41.800 --> 0:01:45.880 So I appreciate your advice. Next question would be, I 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:47.720 heard you say I have to elevate. 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:47.960 My friend group. 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:51.559 So how do I elevate my friend group? Right? These 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:54.240 girls have been rocking with for ten plus years since 0:01:54.320 --> 0:01:58.080 high school, some even longer, so I don't want to 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:02.920 just abandon them because they make shitty choices and men, 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.720 because let's be real, they all do. I have another 0:02:06.760 --> 0:02:09.720 friend in North or South Carolina and she's been dealing 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:12.320 with the same dude and his BS for about the 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:16.000 same time that my other friend, and I understand if 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:18.720 I have to, but I'm thirty years old, so making 0:02:18.760 --> 0:02:20.840 new friends is kind of hard for me. I'm a 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:23.880 thirty year old Aquarius introvert, so you know how that 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:29.040 goes ma'am. So just I guess I'm asking you give me, 0:02:29.720 --> 0:02:32.359 give me advice on how I can help them elevate 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:33.960 without it feeling like a job. 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:35.480 Though without it feeling like a job. 0:02:35.560 --> 0:02:39.959 Yeah, yeah, because you're not responsible or obligated to help 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:42.520 somebody elevate, you know, because at the end of. 0:02:42.520 --> 0:02:44.320 The day, I just want these girls to be happy 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:45.840 and know their full potential. 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:50.400 But I'm not going to keep repeating myself. 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:55.359 And like I said and then first and the first message, 0:02:57.200 --> 0:02:59.920 I don't want to keep talking to a brick wall either. 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:04.520 But also I will feel bad just you know, abandoning 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:08.160 abandoning them. Yeah, so if you give me your advice, Jess, 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:11.680 that'll be helpful. Again. I love you, I respect everything 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:13.520 you're doing, and keep on doing a girl. 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:16.760 Well, thank you so much, boo. I appreciate that update. 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:20.600 Okay, So basically, guys, this was a story a couple 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:23.720 episodes ago where this girl had wrote me telling me 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:26.520 that basically she had to pull away from her friend 0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:30.800 a little bit because you know, she was just constantly, 0:03:30.880 --> 0:03:35.320 constantly talking shit about her relationship to her well venting. 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:40.440 I'm sorry about how wrong she's being done in her relationship, 0:03:40.560 --> 0:03:42.400 but she keeps going back, she's not gonna leave, and 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:46.320 the friend will give her advice, advice, advice, advice, and 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:48.839 she just wouldn't take it, you know what I mean. 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:51.600 And she she's still staying and still going back, and 0:03:52.040 --> 0:03:55.720 so basically she just wants her friends to know their worth. Now, 0:03:56.880 --> 0:04:00.400 I did tell you to elevate your group of friends, 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:04.520 not to abandon them as such. I know it kind 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:06.080 of sounds like that's what I told you to do 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:09.440 for sure, so I would have taken it that way 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:14.360 as well. But the only reason that I had told 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:16.360 you to you know, maybe it's not for you to 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:18.400 get some new friends or you know, to elevate, because 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:22.200 it started to bother you and your everyday mental and 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:25.000 how and because you are so loyal and so connected 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:26.760 to your girls, you know what I'm saying. 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:27.760 What hurts them hurts you. 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:33.920 And if you are going through this unnecessarily and it 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:37.480 really has no direct ties to you and how you're 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:40.000 living and how and your worth, because you know you're worth, 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:43.839 you know what I mean, then that's kind of a 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:46.039 setback for you that that's kind of draining for you. 0:04:46.080 --> 0:04:48.240 And I can see where it even leads to like 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:51.359 stress that's like secondhand stress that you're getting, you know, 0:04:51.640 --> 0:04:55.000 from a situation you ain't even in. So that's why 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:57.039 I told you that, you know, as it pertains to 0:04:57.160 --> 0:05:00.360 your mental you know. But I don't I want you 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:03.480 to abandon your friends, like you said, if we had 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:07.320 to abandon our friends for making poor choices and men, 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:09.720 then none of us would have friends. Almost none of 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:12.520 us would have friends, because that happens. That happens until 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:14.800 you actually find the one you want. I had poor 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:16.640 tastes and men didn't even know, you know what I mean. 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:19.560 But that's all a part of dating and figuring out 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:21.880 yourself and what you will take and what you won't take, 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:26.200 and what your standards are and all that type of stuff, 0:05:26.240 --> 0:05:28.680 you know. So that's pretty much why you sound like 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:30.839 you were very fed up and tired of being sucked 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:34.080 into somebody else's bullshit where it was starting to bother you. 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:36.760 But if that is not the case, and you're willing 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:40.400 to still be around like I said, I'm pretty sure 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:44.560 I did say something like also, you can pull back 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:48.919 just from that part of the relationship of friendship, you know. 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:50.240 I don't want to hear anything about your man. I 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:51.600 don't want to hear anything about this, because you're not 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:53.679 going to do anything but go back so we can 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:58.160 we can actually we can still have this friendship and 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:01.440 be sisters, and we can still have our sisterhood and everything. 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:04.680 I just don't want to be involved with that that 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:07.480 part of it because I want you to see it 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:09.640 worth But you're just not getting it, you know, and 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:11.920 you'll get it on your own time. When a woman 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.400 gets fed up, she gets fed up. Maybe she's not 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:16.480 tired yet. And your other friend that you just spoke 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:19.960 of as well, they're not tired yet. You can't make 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:22.360 them be tired of what they're going through, you know. 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:24.359 All you got to do is just be that listening 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:27.240 ear until you don't want to hear it no more. 0:06:27.320 --> 0:06:28.400 Then you are. 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:31.560 Absolutely at liberty to say, y'all, I'm sick of this shit. 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:33.480 I don't want to hear this anymore. Until you are 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:35.680 able to stand on your own two feet, put your 0:06:35.680 --> 0:06:37.880 foot down, and get out of that relationship because it's 0:06:37.880 --> 0:06:41.320 not doing you any good as a friend on the 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:43.800 outside looking in, it's not doing you any good. You're 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:46.760 more stressed than happy. Then you just have to proceed 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:50.480 with other factors of the friendship. You know. Now we 0:06:50.560 --> 0:06:52.800 got a commercial and if you click off of this podcast, 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:56.880 I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen now, you 0:06:57.000 --> 0:06:59.599 being a thirty year old introvert Aquarius baby, I know 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:00.600 exactly what that is. 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:00.719 Like. 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:04.800 I have a brother who is in his late thirties. 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:07.320 He's an introvert and he's also in Aquarius. I do 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:09.920 know making new friends is not something that you guys 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:12.520 are seeking to do, especially not at you know, your age, 0:07:12.960 --> 0:07:16.440 which is not old, but it's just a bit more 0:07:16.480 --> 0:07:19.600 seasoned than a spring chicken. If you get what I'm saying. 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.120 You know what I mean, because everybody gets offended when 0:07:22.120 --> 0:07:24.160 you see when you use the word old or older, 0:07:24.480 --> 0:07:27.280 like you know, it's just you're growing up and you're 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:29.680 growing out of those things. But I am going to 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:31.679 also say it's never too late to make new friends, 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:33.560 and you don't have to do that. You know what 0:07:33.600 --> 0:07:36.000 I'm saying, You don't have to do that. There are 0:07:36.040 --> 0:07:38.360 ways you can help. You can try to help elevate 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:41.640 your friends going in different settings. If they're in relationships 0:07:41.680 --> 0:07:46.320 where they are not being appreciated and just being looked 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:49.440 down on or whatever they're going through, put them around 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:53.480 some shit that shows them what their worth is in 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:57.480 environments where they can thrive, Like put them in different settings, 0:07:57.520 --> 0:08:00.840 you know, challenge your friends, get them out of their zones. 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:02.000 I'm pretty sure that they. 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:06.000 Have like routines that they do make them step outside 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:09.120 of that and whatever that looks like, you know, because 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:11.120 I'm not saying you got it all together, but you 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:13.640 got some type of damn sense, you know, to be 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:16.320 calling out the realness and calling out the bullshit that 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:19.560 you see that they going through or seeing that they're 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:22.880 putting themselves through, and they don't have to go through it, you. 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:25.160 Know what I'm saying. So I do thank you for. 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:27.120 That update that was that was wonderful that you were 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:31.960 able to share that with me. And I do apologize 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:35.079 if I made you feel like you had to abandon 0:08:35.080 --> 0:08:37.000 your friends, because no good friends are hard to find. 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:38.840 And I'm not saying that they're not good friends. 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.839 Just because they're bad at choosing men does not make 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:43.920 them bad friends, you know what I'm saying. 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:45.880 Just show them who they are. 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:48.559 Try your best every time you can, whenever you can, 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:51.200 to show them who they are, you know, because sometimes 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:53.880 a lot of people need a mirror to actually bust 0:08:53.920 --> 0:08:55.880 through the bullshit that they've been taking, you know what 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:59.280 I'm saying. So just keep pouring into your friends and 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:02.400 you know, getting them outside of their box, you know, 0:09:02.559 --> 0:09:05.360 daring them to do other things. And I as an introvert, 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:07.280 that seems hard. It seems like a task, or it 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:10.480 seems like a job. But you'll find in yourself that 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:13.240 that's actually for the betterment of you too, that that 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:15.400 can make you a better friend, that can actually spark 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:17.640 something in yourself that you didn't see before, you know. 0:09:18.360 --> 0:09:22.280 So keep me posted, baby, So we have a written passage. 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:25.360 Moving on to the next. Good morning, Jess. I've been 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:28.079 keeping something on my conscience that I'm not really proud 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:30.600 of and really have no one to talk to about it. 0:09:30.960 --> 0:09:32.760 So I would love if you could help me out 0:09:32.920 --> 0:09:35.920 with some advice. I just got out of a five 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:38.959 year relationship about two years ago, and it was because 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:41.160 of evolving in life and wanting different things. 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:42.199 Okay, that's fair. 0:09:42.880 --> 0:09:45.120 Even though me and my ex are not together, we 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:47.920 still see each other from time to time and would 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:51.160 always talk. But the thing that I'm not so proud of, Jess, 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:53.360 is that he is engaged and also has a two 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:55.800 year old with the woman. 0:09:55.559 --> 0:09:56.360 He is engaged to. 0:09:56.600 --> 0:10:01.760 Okay the fuck lord, Lord, Okay, okay, you already said 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:02.400 you ain't proud of it. 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:03.800 Ain't gonna beat you down, all right. 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:07.960 Yes, I know this is fucked up, absolutely, and once 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:10.920 he moved on, I should have too. But it's like, 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:13.560 I just can't see him happy with somebody else. And 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.760 I'm thinking, maybe he isn't really happy if he's still 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:18.880 messing around with me after two years of breaking up. 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:19.960 Hmm. 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:23.520 But I see that he posts her on social media 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:26.120 all the time, which he's never done with me, and 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:28.760 they just look happier than ever. He was the love 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:31.320 of my life and it sucks to see him be 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:32.880 the love of someone else's life. 0:10:33.000 --> 0:10:34.840 Oh and what is more. 0:10:34.679 --> 0:10:37.560 Fucked up is that when she calls and I'm laying 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:40.400 next to him, she still thinks that's the same man 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.760 that comes home to her every night. Mean, well, it is. 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:45.680 It ain't a different man. It just ain't chill man. 0:10:46.360 --> 0:10:48.120 I haven't saw him in about two weeks, and I'm 0:10:48.120 --> 0:10:50.400 really trying to stay away from him, Jess, but this 0:10:50.440 --> 0:10:52.280 is just too hard. How do I let him go? 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:54.680 How do I move on? What do I need to do? 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:55.840 Hold up? 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:56.240 Hold up. 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:58.200 I know the shit getting good, but listen to just 0:10:58.280 --> 0:11:03.040 a couple seconds of a commercial with your you'll listen, girl, 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:07.960 Oh my god, I know it's probably easier for me 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:12.400 to say it. You know, Easier said than done, is 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:16.959 what they say. Girl, Get the fuck up and leave. 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:19.920 If you already haven't talked to him in about two weeks, 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:22.400 you're already got a head start on what you should do. 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:25.600 You're doing good. I mean from where I'm sitting, how 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:29.120 it looks. That's great. You haven't talked to him in 0:11:29.160 --> 0:11:30.520 two weeks. That's a hiatus. 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:32.320 That's great. Extend that shit. 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:34.719 Don't talk to him for two more weeks, and then 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:37.120 try a month, and then try another month, until it's 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:37.600 been a year. 0:11:37.679 --> 0:11:39.880 Then you look up and you passed it. You know 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:40.520 what I'm saying. 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:48.400 We have to stop minimizing ourselves, degrading ourselves, sharing willingly, 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:51.640 sharing men, because that's the thing you know about her, 0:11:51.880 --> 0:11:53.040 but she don't know about you. 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:54.080 Okay. 0:11:54.720 --> 0:11:58.160 Now, I'm not gonna say she's winning, but she thinks 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:01.480 she is because he ain't about to tell her about you. 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:06.079 But better believe you know about her, and he gonna 0:12:06.160 --> 0:12:09.400 keep on fucking with you as long as you let 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:12.240 him keep his family and fuck with you when it's. 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:12.840 Convenient for him. 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:16.600 So you're giving him a bunch of power, a lot 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:17.480 of power over you. 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:21.559 Of course he's gonna have his cake and eat it too, girl. Duh. 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:24.680 He ain't gotta be with you to fuck you. Yeah, 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:27.120 he ain't got to post you to fuck you. He 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:30.160 ain't gotta like girl, what Yeah? I want you to 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:32.120 hear it, and I want it. It's horrible and as 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:35.680 like vulgar as it sounds, as bad as it sounds, 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.719 that's exactly how bad it is. You're sitting there being 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:41.840 stupid for this, nigga. That's what it is. That's what 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:44.640 it is. I ain't here to cad on, no fucking adults. 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:47.079 You know what's up? You said you ain't proud of it. 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:49.920 I don't see why the fuck you. You ain't reread 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:52.480 what you sent to me and made your own advice 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:55.839 up to move the fuck on. And I'm sorry. I 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:59.760 am sorry. I don't feel sorry for you. I don't 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:02.360 and what I'm saying i'm sorry for. I apologize for 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:05.400 how brutal this sounds, and how straightforward and blunt this sounds. 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:06.319 I don't feel sorry. 0:13:06.360 --> 0:13:09.520 For you, because how about if you were that woman 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:12.760 put yourself in her shoes as bad as you already 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:15.360 want to be in them. Imagine if that were you 0:13:16.600 --> 0:13:18.360 and you had to find out that he was still 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.480 laying with a bit she broke up with two years ago, 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:23.720 and we got a kid together, and we're engaged. 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:26.840 You're posted on social media. 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:29.280 He ain't scared to let nobody know who he with, 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:32.960 who he's engaged to, the mother of his child. But 0:13:33.080 --> 0:13:35.600 he's sneaking you around and you laying in a fucking 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:37.280 bed when she called you shutting up? 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:41.520 What's wrong with you? What's wrong with you? You laying 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:42.240 there quiet? 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.520 And they gonna have the nerve to say that ain't 0:13:45.960 --> 0:13:48.920 the same man that goes home to her. That's exactly 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:52.760 who he is, the same man that you're sneaking around with, 0:13:53.160 --> 0:13:55.439 the nigga that you used to be with. Let that 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:59.240 shit go because that them piss me off. I'm happy 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:02.120 that you were able to tell me what you're going through, 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:04.280 but sometimes we need to wake the fuck up and 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:06.120 we need somebody to talk to us just like this. 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:09.040 I'm not here to coddle you. I'm not I'm not 0:14:09.120 --> 0:14:11.520 here to it's gonna be alright. No, it ain't all right. 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:14.040 It been ain't all right two years ago when you 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.559 broke up. Yeah, you said it. Maybe I should have 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:18.680 moved on when he did. So you ain't in denial. 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:21.480 You ain't in denial. You know he moved on. You 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:25.080 know it, you said it to me. But you're convenient 0:14:25.360 --> 0:14:29.240 for him. You're convenient. You let him do what he wants. 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:32.720 The fuck she don't let him do what he wants, 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:36.560 or she would know about you too. That's what I'm saying. 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:44.000 She's not winning either, because this motherfucker's cheating on her, 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:48.880 on his family with you. But you really in the dumps, 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:52.200 You really ain't winning because you know about it. In fact, 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:54.880 that makes you a fucked up ass individual because you 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:57.280 know about it. But he your ex, and you can't 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:00.320 let him go do a better job, do a better 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:04.720 job of trying. Could you sound crazy as hell? But 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:08.480 update me. I love you, real shit, real shit. 0:15:08.600 --> 0:15:10.480 I don't care. I still love you. I don't care. 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:11.520 I don't care. 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:14.680 This ain't nothing I ain't never heard before from my 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:17.120 own friends. You know what I'm saying from people I 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:19.920 do know. This ain't nothing I ain't never heard before. 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:22.240 That's what I'm here to do to help fix it 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:26.240 if you let me, because this is crazy, honey, this 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:28.960 is crazy. You don't have any obligation to this nigga. 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:31.240 You don't have kids with him, You ain't married on 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:34.640 the low, You ain't ever the girl. He can't walk 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:37.480 down the street with you. He gotta leave out first. 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:40.520 Is it like that? Or you gotta leave out first. 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:43.520 Y'all can't go out say that he's engaged. This ain't 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:47.200 no girlfriend. This is as soon to be wife who 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:51.040 probably about to get pregnant again. You don't know, girl. Please, 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:52.880 I bet you one thing. He ain't never tell you 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:55.600 he was gonna leave her for your ass. I bet 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:57.480 you he ain't never tell you that. Now, if you 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:59.640 can come back and do me a soiln and tell 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:02.320 me he's told you that, I let it go. 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:04.640 But you'll still be dumb. 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:07.760 I'm sorry, you'll still be out of your mind to 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:09.000 think that could ever happen. 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:11.840 He never posted me on social media. 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:14.960 He never don't ever compare what he got now to 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:18.520 what y'all had, because what y'all have right now ain't shit. 0:16:19.240 --> 0:16:21.040 He just fucking with you, and that's it. 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:25.840 Having his cake and eating it too, doing what a 0:16:25.880 --> 0:16:29.000 lot of men do for no reason. There's no reason 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:34.480 you're available, so okay, cool? And then why haven't you 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:36.760 talked to him for two weeks? Because he hasn't responded, right, 0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:42.640 he probably busy with his engagement. Yeah, his fiance somewhere. 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:45.440 You never made it to with him. You're worth more 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:48.040 than that shit. Get your ass up, get your ass together, 0:16:49.080 --> 0:16:49.960 keep me updated. 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:53.720 Like I said, I love you all right and moving on. 0:16:55.360 --> 0:16:57.360 Just girl, this ain't got shit to do with shit. 0:16:57.520 --> 0:16:58.600 I just wanted to let. 0:16:58.480 --> 0:16:58.840 You know. 0:17:00.520 --> 0:17:02.800 It won't let me give you five stars, bitch, I 0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:05.159 go give you five stars because you know you like 0:17:05.200 --> 0:17:08.480 to rape the podcasts and things. I want to go 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:10.400 give you five stars, and they won't let me. Girl, 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:12.720 you need to send an email to Spotify and tell 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:14.640 them you deserve their fifth star and. 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:17.520 See why the folk you can't get it. Oh yeah, anyways, 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:19.639 have a bless day. I hope you Christmas was good. 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:21.320 Thank you boo. 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:24.119 Hold up, she said, First of all, this ain't got 0:17:24.160 --> 0:17:28.000 shit to do with shit. Spotify, why the fuck y'all 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:29.960 playing with men? Don't make me have my people spam 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:32.800 y'all comments? Because what's going on? Look like we need 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:34.600 to talk to some higher ups because they ain't trying 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:36.360 to give me what's mine. They ain't trying to let 0:17:36.400 --> 0:17:40.160 nobody rape me and give me my five stars. 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:41.000 I don't know. 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:43.800 I need to see what's going on with that. But 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:45.159 before I get out of here, I just want to 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:51.359 say to everybody, man, woman, other, whatever, Listen, If you 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:54.960 are in a relationship or some type of situationship and 0:17:55.720 --> 0:17:59.480 you're feeling like it's a one sided thing, that's because 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:03.080 it is. Nobody's gonna have these feelings out of nowhere 0:18:03.119 --> 0:18:06.560 and for no reason. That's because it is, it feels 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:10.280 one sided. It is You should never have to ask yourself, 0:18:11.000 --> 0:18:13.800 does this person really love me? Am I just here 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:18.000 for convenience? Am I really being treated right? Is he 0:18:18.080 --> 0:18:20.679 gonna ever change? Is she going to ever open up 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:22.520 her eyes and see what I really mean to her? 0:18:23.560 --> 0:18:25.600 Is she gonna ever? You know what I'm saying. If 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:29.600 you got to ask yourself these questions, baby, no, No, 0:18:30.200 --> 0:18:33.120 you're not where you're supposed to be, and you got 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:35.760 a lot more growing to do to be to be 0:18:35.840 --> 0:18:39.359 sitting there to take that to ever think that's okay. 0:18:40.000 --> 0:18:41.760 Those type of people don't need to be in relationships. 0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:44.359 Y'all type of people don't need to be in relationships 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:47.120 right off the bat, because y'all give more than y'all get, 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:49.480 and people take advantage of that. People can see that 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:53.440 from a mile away. These men, these women who prey 0:18:53.520 --> 0:18:56.960 on people like y'all. Man, y'all are great people. Y'all 0:18:56.960 --> 0:19:00.919 give so so fucking much, and you keep giving and 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:02.560 giving and giving it to you and got nothing left. 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:05.800 Nobody is reciprocating what you're doing. You get what I'm saying. 0:19:06.320 --> 0:19:08.679 It is somebody out there for you. It's just that 0:19:08.760 --> 0:19:11.560 you rushing it because you Everybody want to be loved, 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:12.000 not giddy. 0:19:12.440 --> 0:19:14.280 Yeah, everybody want to be loved. 0:19:15.000 --> 0:19:19.000 That's all right. It will happen when it's time. I 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:19.880 was the same way. 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:22.200 I don't give a fuck. Listen, y'all saw me through 0:19:22.280 --> 0:19:24.240