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Speaker 1: What you got it? Man? You could email us podcast

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Speaker 1: at grangersmith dot com. We will answer anything and you

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Speaker 1: have a couple lined up.

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Speaker 2: That's right. Questions you're ready for you Number one says

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Speaker 2: Hey Granger, I saw on one of your reels on

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Speaker 2: Facebook or Maverick does five pushups for saying yeah instead

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Speaker 2: of yes, sir. I'm wondering why you do this. I

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Speaker 2: don't know if you're still reading emails on the podcast,

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Speaker 2: but if you are, I would really appreciate it if

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Speaker 2: you explain this one to me. Thank you for your time. Well,

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Speaker 2: just so happens, Granger does answer emails, not on the

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Speaker 2: regular podcast, but now here on Friday.

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Speaker 1: They're not aware of Friday.

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Speaker 2: They are now they're going to learn today. That's right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Actually I actually liked this question. So the yes

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Speaker 1: sir thing came from my dad, and you know that

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Speaker 1: was I don't know, a generation where it was important.

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Speaker 1: His brother was a marine. My dad was a little

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Speaker 1: too young to be in Vietnam, but he was in

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Speaker 1: the Core at Texas A and M I don't know

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Speaker 1: Dad was, so was my brother Parker in the core.

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Speaker 1: It's instilled. I mean, as a freshman, you you use sir, sandwiches.

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Speaker 2: Sir sandwiches.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, call it. So it's like sir, and then

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Speaker 1: you answer and then you okay, got it. So it

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Speaker 1: starts sir. It has to start an end with sir,

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Speaker 1: Sir sandwiches. Yeah. So so I don't know exactly if

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Speaker 1: that's where it all came from, but I think And

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Speaker 1: then there were there were several dads in my friend

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Speaker 1: group growing up in Dallas, especially through football, because in

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Speaker 1: football we called our coaches sir also, and it was

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Speaker 1: just uh instilled early that we need to speak to

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Speaker 1: the elders with sir. Not the elders of the church,

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Speaker 1: but the elder people with sir or maam or ma'am.

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Speaker 1: And and so I started doing that with my kids.

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Speaker 1: It's it was such a habit with me that I

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Speaker 1: still say it to people, you know, sometimes even people

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Speaker 1: I go to Canada, sometimes they are they're offended by it,

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Speaker 1: are they? Oh yeah, Canada or people up north even

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Speaker 1: in the US will be like, please don't that is

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Speaker 2: I didn't think Canadians ever got offended.

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Speaker 1: Maybe offensive it is too too strong a word. So

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Speaker 1: I started to start doing with my kids and and

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Speaker 1: I I will make them do push ups or London

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Speaker 1: burpies if they mess up. And that seems to be

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Speaker 1: the thing, like Maverick will say it all that he's

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Speaker 1: And I posted that on Facebook. There were actually a

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Speaker 1: lot of people that really hated that too.

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Speaker 2: Oh did they you get some There.

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Speaker 1: Were people that were like, I understand the respect thing,

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Speaker 1: but when a little boy's out with his daddy walking

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Speaker 1: let his guard down for a minute and not say

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Speaker 1: yes sir? Why does it have to be so structured

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Speaker 1: just in a nice little country walk with his daddy,

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Speaker 1: you know? So I get that sentiment. I understand that,

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Speaker 1: but she doesn't understand the dynamic of our house because

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Speaker 1: it's just communicating a level of respect that is that

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Speaker 1: now that is just so casual with our speech. We've

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Speaker 1: so we've gotten so casual. Yeah yeah, no, sure, yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: nah you go.

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Speaker 2: Have you gotten BRO from your kids yet?

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Speaker 1: Bro? Oh yeah. I did get BRO from Lincoln the

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Speaker 1: other day and he owed me twenty push ups immediately. Bro.

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Speaker 1: So it's not a matter of me needing it from them.

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Speaker 1: I don't need it. This is similar to similar to

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Speaker 1: the Lord. If you think about God, God doesn't need glory, right,

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Speaker 1: He is glory, He is glory. He doesn't need any

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Speaker 1: in that. So that's one way to say it. And

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Speaker 1: so my kids, when I invite them into this level

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Speaker 1: know I told Lincoln this. I said, you don't know this,

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Speaker 1: but by you developing a habit of respect, of looking

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Speaker 1: in the eye of shaking hands, yes, sir, no, sir,

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Speaker 1: speaking clearly, you're setting yourself up for deep, respected relationships

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Speaker 1: with coaches, teachers, and future bosses at a level you

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Speaker 1: can't possibly begin. You can't understand this right now, but

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Speaker 1: could set you up to be respected among among people.

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Speaker 1: I could set you up right now. Now go back

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Speaker 1: to the little walk, the casual walk in the woods,

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Speaker 1: now which one is loving me to just let Maverick

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Speaker 1: be have slaying and casual language with his dad, or

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Speaker 1: to make it we're even in the most intimate moments,

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Speaker 1: he still remembers respect and what will be lasting for him,

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Speaker 1: and so is it? Would it be loving for me

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Speaker 1: to just let it slide, or to say I love

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Speaker 1: you so much that even in the quiet moments, let's

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Speaker 1: remain faithful.

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Speaker 2: That's so good. That's so good, and it makes that

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Speaker 2: it brings that intimate relationship that he has with you

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Speaker 2: to reflect it in the other relationships that he has

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Speaker 2: outside people he's just met, and he calls them yes, sir.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And ultimately all of it pointing to our relationship

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Speaker 1: with the Lord for sure, that if we could be

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Speaker 1: faithful in the small things, then then we could be

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Speaker 2: That's great I hope that I answered your question. There

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Speaker 2: number two, here we've got Hey Granger. My name is Andrew.

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Speaker 2: I'm a college student. I'm a big fan of the

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Speaker 2: podcast and really appreciate the way that you give advice

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Speaker 2: from a Christian perspective. I was recently broken up with

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Speaker 2: by my girlfriend of almost two years. She says she

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Speaker 2: needed time to figure out what she wants in life.

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Speaker 2: Part of me understands that, but it still hurts. I

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Speaker 2: feel like two years should be enough to know if

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Speaker 2: I'm the guy that she wants to be with. She

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Speaker 2: said she's not sure if this is temporary or iful,

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Speaker 2: if we'll ever get back together, And honestly, I was

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Speaker 2: caught off guard. Now deep down I thought she might

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Speaker 2: be the one. What advice would you give someone in

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Speaker 2: my position? Should I hold onto the hope that she'll

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Speaker 2: come back? And what about all the little things Snapchat

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Speaker 2: sharing locations, pictures of us and so on. Thanks for

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Speaker 2: everything that you do, Andrew. We're going like old school

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Speaker 2: on some of the ostry.

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Speaker 1: This feels like grad Smith podcast one on one right here,

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Speaker 1: twenty nineteen.

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Speaker 3: There you go, she gone yep, and you should let

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Speaker 3: her stay that way, Let her stay that way, delete

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Speaker 3: the pictures of her, stop sharing your location.

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Speaker 2: Oh that should have been the first thing we did.

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Speaker 2: It should have been the first. Oh you gone okay

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Speaker 2: on a second?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, not only should you unfollow her on Snapchat, but

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Speaker 1: then you should delete Snapchat because you don't need Snapchat.

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Speaker 2: That's what we're going to meet. The next one's gonna

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Speaker 1: Let me let me have a little charity for you, Andrew.

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Speaker 1: I understand, brother, I know we've all been there at

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Speaker 1: some level. You got broken up with by a girl,

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Speaker 1: you had been dating her for two years. You feel

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Speaker 1: like two years should be enough time to know who

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Speaker 2: Yea, it should have been long enough.

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Speaker 1: It should have been long enough. It is long enough.

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Speaker 1: She didn't love you, she didn't want you.

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Speaker 2: Six months, six months, it's kind of like, yes, this

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Speaker 1: So here's the here's the key. She said she's not

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Speaker 1: sure if this is temporar or if we'll ever get

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Speaker 1: back together. And I was caught off guard by that. Well,

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Speaker 1: she's just saying it to be because she's letting you

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Speaker 1: sure a shred of truth to maybe we'll get back

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Speaker 1: together again. But the reality is she doesn't want you.

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Speaker 1: She's probably found somebody new, or she's bored with you.

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Speaker 1: But those are all the things that she's not going

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Speaker 1: to tell you because it sounds too harsh. But it's

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Speaker 1: okay just to realize time to block her, time to

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Speaker 1: delete the numbers so that you could start to heal,

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Speaker 1: and enough time goes by with you out of contact

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Speaker 1: with her and you will heal.

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Speaker 2: Yep, I agree with that. Hope that helps. Andrew here Gil,

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Speaker 2: that's our right emails for today.

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Speaker 1: Those are good emails. Yeah, good stuff. Yeah, you got

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Speaker 1: to email us podcast at grangersmith dot com. Ask anything

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Speaker 1: you want, bring them on