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Speaker 1: Subject I wish his wife would leave us alone. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I'm a forty something single female and my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend is sixty nine years old. When we first started dating,

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Speaker 1: he was my sugar daddy and he paid my mortgage,

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Speaker 1: my car note, and sent me on vacation several times

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Speaker 1: a year. But it wasn't all of the money or

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Speaker 1: the gifts that got me so hooked on him dot

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Speaker 1: dot dot. It was the sex. This man is the

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Speaker 1: best I've ever had, and he does not need any

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Speaker 1: enhancements to get aroused. We've been together for five years,

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Speaker 1: so I was shocked when he carelessly left his phone

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Speaker 1: at home. Recently, he was at my house and we

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Speaker 1: were watching a movie when his wife called me to

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Speaker 1: let me know he had left his phone at home.

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Speaker 1: She told me that she hopes I was enjoying him

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Speaker 1: because it would be the last time I was going

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Speaker 1: to see him. I put him on the phone and

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Speaker 1: he sat quietly while she cursed him out, and then

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Speaker 1: he left. The next day, his wife called to see

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Speaker 1: if he was at my house because he told her

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Speaker 1: he was going to the car wash. I told her

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Speaker 1: he was at the car wash getting my lexus washed

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Speaker 1: that he pays for. She hung up. That really got

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Speaker 1: him in hot water with her, and he told me

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Speaker 1: he couldn't see me anymore. Why did I have to

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Speaker 1: go there with his wife? Because now she's my relationship.

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Speaker 1: Messed up my relationship with him. They have been married

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Speaker 1: for thirty eight years, so he's tired of her. He

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Speaker 1: told me that she let herself go over the years

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Speaker 1: and won't have sex with him, so why block his happiness.

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Speaker 1: She's called a few more times to ask how long

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Speaker 1: we've been together? And if he ever said he loves me,

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Speaker 1: I told her to leave us alone and let us be.

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Speaker 1: It's been three weeks since I've seen him, but he

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Speaker 1: still calls her Texas daily. Should I move on or

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Speaker 1: wait for him to come back to me? What do

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Speaker 1: you want from us? Really? You've been dating and having

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Speaker 1: an affair with a married man for five years, and

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Speaker 1: in your mind, regardless if he had a wife or

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Speaker 1: kids or whatever, you've been having a great life with you,

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Speaker 1: sugar daddy. You know, he pays your bills, your mortgage,

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Speaker 1: your wrench or carnot, sends you on trips, all of that.

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Speaker 1: And then here she comes wifey with her worrisome behind, calling,

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Speaker 1: bothering you guys and stuff. I mean, the nerve of

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Speaker 1: her right, they've only been married for thirty eight years.

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Speaker 1: Who does she think she is? Oh? Does she think

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Speaker 1: she is? She's just the wife? I mean really, I

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Speaker 1: think that's your stank, disrespectful and entitled attitude. Do I

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Speaker 1: have that right? You ask us? Yeah, you ask us?

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Speaker 1: You ask us should you move on or wait for

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Speaker 1: him to come back to you? Well, it's been three weeks.

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Speaker 1: He calls in Texas, but it doesn't sound like he's

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Speaker 1: coming back, not anytime soon anyway, And whether he does

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Speaker 1: or not, I don't really care, because I just don't

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Speaker 1: like how cold and unsympathetic you were to his wife

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Speaker 1: when she called. I just think that was wrong of you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know how the game goes. You are

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Speaker 1: the side piece. I don't care. You've been the side

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Speaker 1: piece for five years. So because she didn't, you know,

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Speaker 1: stay in her lane and called you and everything, you

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Speaker 1: got mad and went in on her, and then you

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Speaker 1: got him in trouble, so you lost him. I mean

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Speaker 1: I think you lost your man. You lost him in

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Speaker 1: the great sex and all that. So that's it. I

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Speaker 1: don't care, you know whatever, whatever, Steve, Okay, sure, really

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Speaker 1: I'm kinda with surely on this. Huh, what do you

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Speaker 1: want us to say? Everything in this letter wrong? Ain't

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Speaker 1: no right that? They ain't no right in the letter?

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Speaker 1: But the beginning, I'm forty single female, My boyfriend sixty

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Speaker 1: nine right there, right there at thirty years at thirty

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Speaker 1: years thirty thirty eight thirty years difference. I almost promise

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Speaker 1: you he ain't got thirty years. Now. If I'm a

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Speaker 1: gambling man, I just don't say he gonna get there right,

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Speaker 1: he was your sugar. Daddy paid for everything. Then you

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Speaker 1: trying to tell us what you got him so hooked on?

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Speaker 1: You was to set y'all been dating for five years,

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Speaker 1: according to this letter. So he started at sixty four.

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Speaker 1: He's sixty nine, all right, he don't use no mail

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Speaker 1: enhancers whatever. Five years. Then he left his phone at

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Speaker 1: home recently. You know why, because he's sixty nine. His

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Speaker 1: old ass forgot it. He drove out that damn mouse.

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Speaker 1: This is the beginning of where this relationship is ended. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it starts with leaving the phone. Then he gonna forget

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Speaker 1: where he left his car. Then he ain't gonna remember

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Speaker 1: where you stay. Did he gonna lose and forget? His

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Speaker 1: wife's name is called dementia, and he damned the head

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Speaker 1: of down. And it starts with the phone. I'm just

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Speaker 1: telling you now, all right, okay, you know watching the movie,

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Speaker 1: then you know he doesn't. We've been together five years,

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Speaker 1: so I was shocked when he carelessly left his phone

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Speaker 1: y'all watching the movie. His wife called me to let

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Speaker 1: me know he had left the phone at home. She

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Speaker 1: told me that she hoped I was enjoying him because

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be last time you see. Then you put

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Speaker 1: him on the phone. He said that quietly while she

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Speaker 1: cussed him out. He took him like a man, and

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Speaker 1: then he left. Next day, his wife called to see

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Speaker 1: was going to watch the car I was going to close.

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Speaker 1: us alone. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letters. Subject I wish his wife would leave us alone.

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Speaker 1: Sixty nine years old. She for the thirty years difference. Then,

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Speaker 1: all right, his sex is great. He buy stuff, call payment, rent, mortgage, everything,

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Speaker 1: everything going good. Now this seventy started to catch up

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Speaker 1: with his hands. He getting careless. Now, he leaving stuff.

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Speaker 1: He started with leaving stuff. Then next thing you know,

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Speaker 1: he's gonna be peeing on the stuff. It's all it's

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Speaker 1: all just coming together. I'm just letting her know that's

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Speaker 1: what it's coming now. He's sitting up here, and he

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Speaker 1: started with he leaving stuff. He'd left his phone at

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Speaker 1: the house, y'all sitting up watching the movie. His wife

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Speaker 1: called you and said, I hope you enjoyed him, because

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Speaker 1: it's the last time he was gonna see you. Put

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Speaker 1: him on the phone. He said that quietly while she

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Speaker 1: cussed him out. Then he got him left NA. The

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Speaker 1: he was going to the car wash. Now she needs

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Speaker 1: Joe help because she old too. Now she needs Joe

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Speaker 1: health tracking his old ass because both of them got

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Speaker 1: dementia and trying to work through it. Now calling you

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Speaker 1: at your house. I told her he was at the

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Speaker 1: car wash getting my Lexus watch that he pays for.

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Speaker 1: She hung up. What would you telling that? Yah? You

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Speaker 1: stupid lady, You stupid. You don't even know how to

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Speaker 1: play the game. That really got him in hot water,

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Speaker 1: And he told me he couldn't see you anymore. Why

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Speaker 1: did I had to go there with his wife? Because

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Speaker 1: now she's messing up my relationship with him. They've been

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Speaker 1: married thirty eight years, so he tied to her. He

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Speaker 1: told me she left her to go. She excuse me?

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Speaker 1: He told me that she left let herself go over

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Speaker 1: the years and won't have sex with it, so why

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Speaker 1: block his happiness now? She didn't called you a few

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Speaker 1: more times to ask cowle loone we to berother because

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Speaker 1: she need information because she don't know how to go

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Speaker 1: on Facebook or nothing, because she old. I'll tell you

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Speaker 1: these old people swinging on each other. Eventually this is

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Speaker 1: gonna lead to a fight, and y'all it's gonna be

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Speaker 1: the slowest fight I've ever seen. Film it for us. Please.

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Speaker 1: He never said he loves me, because he don't he

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Speaker 1: loved her. I told her to leave us alone and

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Speaker 1: let us be Wait a minute, can I can I

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Speaker 1: tell you something? Side pieces don't make the rules. You

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Speaker 1: call her and told her leave us alone. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: tell you why high is working. It's been three weeks

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Speaker 1: since you've seen it. You know why she told you.

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Speaker 1: She told you the time before. Join him now because

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Speaker 1: this the last time you're gonna see him. Guess what

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Speaker 1: your ladders say. It's been three weeks since I seen Oldest.

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Speaker 1: Can't take his ass over your house, Clara, because clad

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Speaker 1: Clara Claire. Oldest can't come over that normal because Claire

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Speaker 1: told him. You're not going over Shamika house. No damn more.

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Speaker 1: You got a young ass man because you thought it

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Speaker 1: so you should make a but claud and oldest see O'Neil.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god? Should I move on a way for

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Speaker 1: him to come back to me? Come back to me, lady?

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Speaker 1: Didn't you hear the ladies say he ain't coming over

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Speaker 1: that animal? Didn't you not say it's been three weeks

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Speaker 1: since you've seen him? Do you not understand the side

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Speaker 1: pieces don't make rules? Oh? Wow, side pieces don't make

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Speaker 1: go play poke on Wednesday night. That's your night. Hm.

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Speaker 1: But Steve, I got I gotta ask you about that.

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Speaker 1: Oh I can't wait to answer. Sixty nine? That's how

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Speaker 1: old is she? Didn't she she loved the sex with

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Speaker 1: no enhancement. You get aroused. Yeah that's probably that's okay. Oh,

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Speaker 1: it's some men don't need nothing. Okay, Yeah that's real,

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Speaker 1: that's very Oh she'd had some sorry ass sets. She

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Speaker 1: doesn't know what? Oh yeah, oh, she'd has some real

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Speaker 1: bad set before and think this is uh huh. That

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Speaker 1: could happen too, depend on who you've been with. But

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now, these old people right here.

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Speaker 1: He going through some things. He can't come back over there.

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Speaker 1: You guys are done. Yeah, so surrounded because this who

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Speaker 1: gonna go to the tape with him? Because he know

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Speaker 1: he see you. You just you were just sitting over here.

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Speaker 1: You just saw the phone. Missen. She know him. He

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Speaker 1: the top. He got three different kinds of eyeglasses, waf

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