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Speaker 1: The Fred Show is on. It's stay or go all right,

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Speaker 1: Trey is here. Talk to Trey. Hi, Good morning Trey, Hey,

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Speaker 1: good morning Trey. Welcome to the program. What's going on?

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Speaker 1: This is a little segment here where we try and

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Speaker 1: we hear you out whatever your relationship drama is. Every

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Speaker 1: Tuesday we do it and then we talk about you.

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Speaker 1: We hang up on you, and we talk about you

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Speaker 1: behind your back, and people call and talk about you too. So,

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Speaker 1: but we're trying to help you, believe it or not. So,

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Speaker 1: what is your what's your situation? You hit us up

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Speaker 1: at Fresher Radio dot com. What's going on? Trey?

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Speaker 2: So, I've been in a relationship for a couple of

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Speaker 2: years my girlfriend. I think we're both still in luck.

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Speaker 2: I have a lot of luck for her. I should

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Speaker 2: keep her name anamous.

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Speaker 1: No, we don't need to say your name. We don't

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Speaker 1: need to know her name. We just need to know

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Speaker 1: what's wrong with her? What's wrong with you? Trey? I

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Speaker 1: haven't decided yet, but I don't know what's going on.

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Speaker 2: You know, I don't know either. Maybe you guys can

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Speaker 2: tell me because I feel crazy. I feel like I've

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Speaker 2: been blaming her, but now it's been a couple of

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Speaker 2: years a bit, so basically she look, look, travel traveling

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Speaker 2: is like a big part of my life. I've always

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Speaker 2: loved traveling since college. It's been a big part of

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Speaker 2: what I do, what I do with buddies, and sharing

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Speaker 2: it with people is really meaningful for me.

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Speaker 1: Uh.

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Speaker 2: Now, my girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: She's got a major fear line, so she won't get

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Speaker 3: on the plane like for anything. So the trips we're

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Speaker 3: able to take are kind of limited because we can

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Speaker 3: only drive and tired of driving to Wisconsin. And obviously

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Speaker 3: it's like a pretty big issue in our relationship and

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Speaker 3: it causes a lot of fights.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so do well hold on. So you like to

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Speaker 1: travel internationally, I assume, or whatever whatever it requires, you

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Speaker 1: want to go further than you're going to go in

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Speaker 1: a car in a reasonable period of time, and especially

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Speaker 1: if you want to go to like Europe or whatever else.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're getting on a plane, and you're getting

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Speaker 1: on a plane for a long time, and this woman

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Speaker 1: who you're dating is afraid to fly, So it basically

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Speaker 1: means either she's going to have to somehow combat that

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Speaker 1: fear or if you guys are together forever for an

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Speaker 1: extended period of time. Then you're not going anywhere that's

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Speaker 1: really too far away because she's not getting on the plane,

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Speaker 1: is what you're saying.

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Speaker 2: Yes, exactly exactly.

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Speaker 1: Now have you discussed with her that, hey, this is important,

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Speaker 1: this is something that I want to do, This is

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Speaker 1: something that would enrich you. To you, I think you'd

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Speaker 1: really enjoy it, you know, to sort of expand our horizons.

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Speaker 1: But you're gonna have to get on the plane. So like,

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Speaker 1: have you have you in a caring way, suggested methods

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Speaker 1: are ways to help her overcome this fear or you

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Speaker 1: just like you're dumb, I'm I'm upset, I'm mad, I

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Speaker 1: want to go.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, I have done a lot, Like we

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Speaker 2: we've talked about a hypnotis and she freaks out about that.

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Speaker 2: I know, there's like this light therapy thing where they

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Speaker 2: like you stare at something and she she's uncomfortable with that.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I don't want to change my subconscious Like

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Speaker 2: we even one time, like I got her to commit

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Speaker 2: to a trip and everything was good until we were on.

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Speaker 3: Our way and then she starts freaking out, like literally

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Speaker 2: And that was that was so annoying. Because it's like,

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Speaker 2: kind of unfair to me because it happened. I was

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Speaker 2: looking forward to the trip. I'm going that did all

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Speaker 2: the planning. That kind of kind of sucks, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they could do like exposure therapy. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: of methods. I mean, the fear is the fear of

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Speaker 1: flying is is a legitimate fear for a lot of people.

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Speaker 1: I mean, have you considered the idea that if you

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Speaker 1: if you love every other part of her that and

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Speaker 1: I'm just sort of thinking out loud here, but that

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Speaker 1: there's just this is that's something you would have to

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Speaker 1: I'm you're your vision of a partner is somebody who's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, I don't like I see myself being with

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Speaker 1: So you have a nice wedding at the Wisconsin Dell's

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Speaker 1: and then whatever's driving distance and then you go the

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Speaker 1: other way, you get a nice Saint Louis visit. Maybe yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: honeymoon in Indianapolis. I mean it's beautiful this time of year.

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Speaker 1: You know, maybe we got some friends in the Carolinas.

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Speaker 1: You know, maybe if you're really looking to spend a

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Speaker 1: few days driving, you can do that. Wow, yeah, this

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Speaker 1: is real. I mean, look, if that's your passion and

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Speaker 1: she says, No, I know it sounds crazy, but my

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Speaker 1: in my opinion, I think it's fundamentally broken in some

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Speaker 2: Wait, are you telling me that we should break up?

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Speaker 1: Sort of?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but basically I mean kind of this happened with

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Speaker 1: Right, And someone just texted about the Travis overcame his

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Speaker 1: fear of flying for Courtney, Well, the man almost died

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Speaker 1: and that's like, yeah, she's got to be eight five

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Speaker 1: three five is the number you can call in texta

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Speaker 1: the same number. I love to know what people have

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Speaker 1: to say, because if it doesn't have to necessarily be this,

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Speaker 1: But is there something fundamental in a relationship that you're

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Speaker 1: can't be together. I wonder. I mean, it sounds crazy

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Speaker 1: that you wouldn't stay with someone that you think you're

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Speaker 1: gonna be with forever because they won't get on a plane.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, at the same time, that's extremely limiting

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Speaker 1: in a lot of ways. It is, especially for somebody

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Speaker 1: who's got that wander lust. Oh god, you know, Trey,

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Speaker 1: let me take some phone calls on this man have

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Speaker 1: the radio one and uh and good luck, thanks for calling.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, because you have a travel blog.

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Speaker 1: Well you know, I am a I am a travel blogger.

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Speaker 4: It's true, he should just travel travel by himself.

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Speaker 5: And if she don't want to go. That's that's not here.

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Speaker 5: But that's what I mean. Like, I'm gonna go this

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Speaker 5: cool stuff. I'm gonna go see the Bernie. I'm gonna

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Speaker 5: go see the Bernie statue in Egypt. And and and

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Speaker 5: she's not kind of with me.

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Speaker 4: But he's been doing it before they were together with

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Speaker 4: want to, I mean she can't go over get over

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Speaker 4: her fear of flying, then I wouldn't. I wouldn't stop

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Speaker 4: doing it because she can't fly. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: That's not that's not fair to him. But if he

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Speaker 4: to do what he does. And if she can't go,

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Speaker 4: she can't go, but go ahead.

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Speaker 1: No, I was just saying he should get him a

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Speaker 1: little flight, buddy. You know, I take her out of town.

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Speaker 1: not come back. I'm with you, Yeah, bring you back

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Speaker 1: a souvenirs. Yeah, just cheat on her, that is what

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Speaker 1: I think. That's all right. Anyway, let's Putamber reports next. Yeah, thanks,

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Speaker 1: that's great. I don't know this man, Trey, but like

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Speaker 1: for people that love to travel, like it's a lifestyle,

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Speaker 1: like it's a it's truly a passion. And I like

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Speaker 1: to travel and I've gone to ten countries by myself,

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Speaker 1: and I I every time i'm there, I think this

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Speaker 1: a certain point where you don't have that, and it's like, well,

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Speaker 1: I go somewhere by myself, I can go back with

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Speaker 1: this person. But the truth is I don't. Every time

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Speaker 1: I'm on these trips, I see something and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: do it, it would never work. It wouldn't work. It's fundamental.

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Speaker 6: Everyone has their thing, right, Like that's like telling someone

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Speaker 1: I get that it's a fear, and I get that

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Speaker 1: My god. Sorry, I was with Jelly rolling last night.

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Speaker 1: She wanted us to rate it. It was weird. How

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Speaker 1: does it smell gros before? That wasn't even a good one? Hey, Marles,

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Speaker 1: good morning? Hey, So what Despy? He's uh? He calls

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Speaker 7: I think he should leave.

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Speaker 1: Her at home and travel.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it doesn't have.

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Speaker 8: To be a deal breaker, Like.

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Speaker 1: He can go by himself, Sam, But like, what's the

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Speaker 1: point of doing cool? Can you imagine being in a

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Speaker 1: I do it sometimes at home myself.

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Speaker 7: Sometimes and I call my husband and I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's great to be alone. Sometimes I'll go with.

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Speaker 7: Somebody I want to spend more time with, like a

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Speaker 7: m I take my mom somewhere, or am I go

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Speaker 1: It's fine, you don't have to do.

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Speaker 7: Everything together as long as she's okay, as long as

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Speaker 7: she's not worried that he's cheating or whatever. Because she

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Speaker 7: wants to share the experience. She has to learn to go.

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Speaker 7: Travel is my main thing. That would be a deal

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Speaker 7: breaker for me if somebody wouldn't travel with me, but

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Speaker 7: then also wouldn't let me go.

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Speaker 1: But like there's other things. I know it sounds trivial.

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Speaker 3: But they've been in.

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Speaker 7: This relationship, if they love each other, if they want

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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, Marle, thank you, have a good day. You're welcome.

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Speaker 1: Glad you called. Hey, Jocelyn, good morning, welcome, Hi, good morning. Hey.

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Speaker 1: Well Sarah, what do you think?

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Speaker 9: I think he should go?

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Speaker 9: I think that they should break up, mainly because I

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Speaker 10: So I just don't think it's fair for either of

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Speaker 1: Because you're gonna get a fight and he's gonna be like,

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Speaker 10: In the long run, if there's relationships where neither of

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Jocelyn, you have a great day. Thank you, Thank

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Speaker 12: I'm doing fantastic.

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Speaker 1: It comes Adrian man coming in hot. What do you

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Speaker 12: He needs to lead because, like I said it, I

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Speaker 8: Let's go.

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Speaker 9: I did.

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Speaker 12: I got on that plane.

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Speaker 3: Anytime you want to fly, partner.

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Speaker 12: I'm fly with him.

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Speaker 1: There you go. So you you faced it and you

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Speaker 4: It's this man, It's beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Well, baby, I thought you had to do my goodness? Hey, Jeff, Jeff,

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Speaker 1: how you doing? Man's there? Go? Good morning?

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Speaker 2: I'm good, I'm good.

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Speaker 1: Hey? We're a little sleepy today, but that's all right

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Speaker 8: You know this one's tricky, This one's tricky. I I

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Speaker 8: I think he should have this caveat with her that

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Speaker 1: Have a great day you too, But yeah, just you know,

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Speaker 1: is this for me? But this is you're kind of

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Speaker 10: Yes, I am terrified of flying, but I love seeing

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, he should get one of those like

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Speaker 10: Jamie, Yes, absolutely.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're just we're whiteboarding here. You know, there's no

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Speaker 10: Please start me at the bar in the airport before

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there, you go go to the bar. You like. Well,

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Speaker 1: But while we're here, let's have some margaritas and get

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Speaker 1: have a good Let you call. Okay, So what are

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Speaker 1: we doing? What do we decide? Stare go Paulina? I say, stay,

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Speaker 4: What do you think, Nana? Oh, they just say, but

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Speaker 1: Jason. Yeah, say just two things separate and sounds terrible.

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Speaker 1: Kikes, get a travel buddy.

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Speaker 1: I love the woman who wants a ring. Encourages infidelity, cheating.

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