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Speaker 1: My wife might be cheating on me. I want a divorce,

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Speaker 1: but it will destroy our lives. Part five, Guys is

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Speaker 1: the fifth and final part of our series. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: get a TELDR to catch you up on parts one

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Speaker 1: through four. So Opie told the husband of his wife's

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Speaker 1: friend as she knew about and encouraged her affair against Opi.

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Speaker 1: The friend's husband confronted his wife and discovered no evidence

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Speaker 1: of her own infidelity, but Opie started seeing another woman sung.

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Speaker 1: Opie's wife is remorseful but lost most of her social circle.

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Speaker 1: Opie confirms that marriage is over, but they are still

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Speaker 2: There's some missing stuff in that TLDR, mostly that we've

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Speaker 2: learned that this guy's a demon that loves to torture.

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Speaker 1: He sucks he as.

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Speaker 3: Revenge for a slighting him.

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Speaker 1: Yes, he is.

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Speaker 3: He will not stop twisting the knife.

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Speaker 1: He is the literal worst, and he's creating a terrible

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Speaker 3: True think of the children.

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Speaker 1: Will he's seeing another woman and he's seeing another woman?

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Speaker 1: Will he actually divorced? Will he actually change and become

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Speaker 4: I'll find out.

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Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, I think I might take a break from Reddit.

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Speaker 1: I saw some YouTube videos of the story, so you

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Speaker 1: told me about the TikTok. I really didn't expect us

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Speaker 1: Most of all, I'm not doing well mentally, so I

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Speaker 1: need a break for some time. I'll update if something

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Speaker 1: big happens, but this will be a very long update

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Speaker 1: with some answers to your most ask questions and at

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Speaker 1: the end, since I didn't know when, I'll post again.

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Speaker 1: By the way, again, this comes from outrighty just spread

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Speaker 4: It time out, time out, time out, time out. He

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Speaker 4: is just like his wife. He loves attention.

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Speaker 1: Yes, oh, maybe.

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Speaker 3: That's why they were together for eleven years.

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Speaker 1: It makes sense. It makes sense. So my wife's parents

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Speaker 1: But this call was focused on the kids. When my

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Speaker 1: The kids are doing better and better each day. They

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Speaker 1: with her progress. My older son still doesn't talk to

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Speaker 3: That's nice.

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Speaker 1: After dinner, I had a work call. My wife was

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Speaker 3: You know the rules? When I point at you, you

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Speaker 1: You have to do whatever my bidding. It's on the

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Speaker 2: And he's probably too stupid to even like own up

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Speaker 1: Bingo Bingo Bengo. Yesterday, I came home from work and

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Speaker 3: This is just you're so so stupid for doing this. Bro.

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Speaker 2: Now you're pitting him against his mom, no matter what

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Speaker 2: Ask I mean, I have no remorse for you anymore?

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Speaker 1: Right? He confirmed she did. I told him to sleep,

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Speaker 2: The woman that's still in love with you and wants

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Speaker 1: It, and the one you've been intentionally torturing this whole time.

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Speaker 1: She destroyed my life, ruined our family, and here she

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Speaker 4: I wonder where she gets this from.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's kind of weird, right.

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Speaker 5: Maybe kn't you just like shut your brain off and

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Speaker 5: be like, I like that my kid likes me. You

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Speaker 1: I hate you. It all could be so simple.

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Speaker 2: Don't ever let me see you walking down the street. Dude,

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Speaker 2: I don't know what I'll.

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Speaker 1: Do or else. You're gonna be introduced to two friends

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, I'm I'm gonna just yeat you into the

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Speaker 3: With my Tom hands.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get Tom hands involved, and he's gonna launch

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Speaker 1: you out of the atmosphere. Fifth episode callback. Maybe that's

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Speaker 1: a whole hand. So she ruined our fai Opie says,

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Speaker 1: she ruined our family and our marriage. I said, after

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Speaker 1: Opie says it, feelings so she can understand why she

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Speaker 1: You literally you literally set this up to happen.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, And I understand you're having. This is a war,

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Speaker 4: But he's like, oh, we go after everything I did.

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Speaker 4: She's gonna fight for this, dude. She's been trying to

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Speaker 1: This is World War two. And then it's like, okay, guys,

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, okay. If this isn't World War two,

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Speaker 1: That's a good point. That's a good point, my wars.

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Speaker 3: I can't believe I'm defending this woman. But it's like no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: They both need to stop they're at.

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Speaker 2: But it's at this point, it's like she's going to

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Speaker 1: Like, she's talking about your feelings about what she put

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Speaker 2: It's like, dude, you're such a that is such a

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Speaker 2: little boy. You're a little boy. Yes, you're a little boy,

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Speaker 1: But now she wants to be a wife again and

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Speaker 1: a mother to our kids. I am really the biggest

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Speaker 1: I took a chair and sat near her. I don't

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Speaker 1: this happened. She didn't say crap because she knew what

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Speaker 1: She tried to act stupid at first, but after ten

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Speaker 1: beg me to stay home, and boom tears again. It's

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Speaker 1: unbelievable how fast she can start crying. It's a pure talent.

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Speaker 3: Homie doesn't know what emotions are and that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Literally, unless they're his own. Don't know what.

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Speaker 3: Feelings are except for anger, rage, and vengeance.

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Speaker 1: Dude, I asked her, what is stopping me from sending

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Speaker 1: you out on the streets after this? She said she

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Speaker 4: Literally, And I hope on this good green Earth that

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Speaker 3: Because you could have given it to her, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Weeks ago, Prince Ex says I would cheat on this man. Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Just imagine all the times he's been like this about

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Speaker 3: It's like, clearly this is a big reaction over a

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Speaker 1: Yep. And now he's gonna go off.

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Speaker 2: On a little micro tie ratee about how you want

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Speaker 2: and it's probably because you're like a woman and don't

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Speaker 3: I mean, just little thing.

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Speaker 1: That's and after eleven years, after a death by a

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. And she's influenced by her parents. Oh,

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Speaker 1: She wouldn't just stop. He's still an a hole for

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Speaker 1: everything he just said. Though. Yeah again, like like both

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Speaker 1: she did it for attention. Undoubtedly it was for attention

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Speaker 1: that wasn't his control. And Kim Roberts says, I really

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Speaker 1: he is. Such a piece of crap. Kimberly find says

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Speaker 4: So basically, before this cheating, she was perfect and that

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Speaker 4: You were only allowed to be perfect, and everything she

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Speaker 1: So getting back to it, Opie says, I just left

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Speaker 3: That doesn't happen to provide for your family to go

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Speaker 1: I don't even know what he's talking about anymore.

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Speaker 2: No, that's what he's like. This is the reason I

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Speaker 1: Congratulations. Well, hey, he has a job. Did you know

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Speaker 2: It's these all these little things about him trying to

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Speaker 1: misses one. Every molecule. I turned on the lights and

437
00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:27,960
Speaker 1: told her the kids were asleep. She said she knew

438
00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:29,919
Speaker 1: and didn't want to wake them. She had prepared the

439
00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:32,399
Speaker 1: table and served me dinner. This is just god. I

440
00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:34,600
Speaker 1: sat down to eat and she barely touched her food.

441
00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:36,359
Speaker 1: I don't know what the f is wrong with me,

442
00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:44,199
Speaker 1: but I felt sorry for her. Yes, he's like, he's like,

443
00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:46,359
Speaker 1: I don't know what came over me, but suddenly I

444
00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:50,159
Speaker 1: felt empathy. Dude, I don't know what's wrong with me.

445
00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:52,640
Speaker 1: I had a moment of empathy.

446
00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:54,560
Speaker 3: Jesus.

447
00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,399
Speaker 1: I told her the dinner was very good. She thanks me,

448
00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,480
Speaker 1: and that's all we said to each other. I think

449
00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:01,600
Speaker 1: she knows I feel sorry for her, not in the

450
00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:04,240
Speaker 1: way she wants, but because she's ruined her life.

451
00:20:04,400 --> 00:20:07,280
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. He's only doing this because

452
00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:09,520
Speaker 4: she is now over it and she's coming to that.

453
00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 1: So now he is, he's gonna reller in.

454
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:13,560
Speaker 4: He's doing this to himself, so he's buying into it

455
00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:15,560
Speaker 4: so we can rill her back in and then arder again.

456
00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:18,320
Speaker 1: Yep, yeah, bing go bingo, bingo bingo.

457
00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:22,480
Speaker 3: This dude is like he's getting shredded in the Orc Cloud. Dude,

458
00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:23,000
Speaker 3: I don't know.

459
00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:24,600
Speaker 1: This is like a new level.

460
00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:26,199
Speaker 2: Sorry new.

461
00:20:26,359 --> 00:20:28,360
Speaker 3: There needs to be a new a new thing for him.

462
00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:30,919
Speaker 1: Orc Cloud two point zero.

463
00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:33,040
Speaker 2: You can't get thrown into the black hole because I

464
00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:33,920
Speaker 2: want him to still exist.

465
00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:34,720
Speaker 3: He needs to suffer.

466
00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:36,479
Speaker 1: He has the state what if what if the Orc

467
00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,720
Speaker 1: Cloud too? But no is he stays alive and feels

468
00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:40,040
Speaker 1: the pain. Now, oh you know what this is.

469
00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:42,240
Speaker 3: This is circling back. This is Tartarus.

470
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:46,879
Speaker 2: This is throw him in the pit of Tartarus and

471
00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:50,560
Speaker 2: let him stay there, which is then the disc under

472
00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:53,280
Speaker 2: the world, disc under under the disc of the world.

473
00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:57,120
Speaker 1: It's like a it's like an under under earth jail. Hell.

474
00:20:57,359 --> 00:20:59,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, Tartarus is like the the prison.

475
00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:01,720
Speaker 1: Prison.

476
00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:04,199
Speaker 3: So he doesn't get shredded, he doesn't turn into pa.

477
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:08,960
Speaker 2: He gets to suffer in the worst like mythologically terrible,

478
00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:11,000
Speaker 2: awful prison of all time.

479
00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,359
Speaker 1: I like it. I like it. I hope she moves

480
00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:16,080
Speaker 1: on and finds happiness with someone else, but she clearly

481
00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:19,119
Speaker 1: doesn't want that. Melody told me that I while I

482
00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:21,200
Speaker 1: was at work, my wife didn't need anything all day.

483
00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,720
Speaker 1: When Melody offered her some food, my wife cried and

484
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,560
Speaker 1: told her to leave. Later, Melody heard loud noises from

485
00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:29,640
Speaker 1: my room like she was breaking something. I'll be observing

486
00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:32,960
Speaker 1: her because she's you're driving her insane. I'll be observing

487
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,719
Speaker 1: her more closely these days because she's giving off weird vibes.

488
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,200
Speaker 1: Part of me wants to serve her divorce papers immediately,

489
00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,639
Speaker 1: while another part feels sorry for her and tells me

490
00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:42,360
Speaker 1: to wait to see how things develop over the next

491
00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,080
Speaker 1: few months. There's no right decision here. Whatever I do,

492
00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:47,199
Speaker 1: I won't feel one hundred percent correct at the end

493
00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 1: of the day. This is my reality and I have

494
00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:51,800
Speaker 1: to live with it. To all the keyboard Warriors, I'd

495
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,159
Speaker 1: happily switch lives with you so you can show me

496
00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:55,000
Speaker 1: how you deal with this.

497
00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 3: No, you wouldn't.

498
00:21:57,520 --> 00:21:58,679
Speaker 1: You can't be happy about it.

499
00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:01,720
Speaker 2: You'd be angry about it, grief because the mad and

500
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:04,000
Speaker 2: vengeful because you'd realize that your life.

501
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 3: You're like, oh like.

502
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 1: My old life better, and now I'm mad, So then

503
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,480
Speaker 1: you're gonna go get revenge on yourself. Yep, you'll never

504
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:13,119
Speaker 1: stop this guy. So ops some FAQs apparently, So I

505
00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:15,200
Speaker 1: will answer some of your questions. You asked me daily

506
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,440
Speaker 1: about the same things a DMS and comments. So here's

507
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,560
Speaker 1: the answers. Why doesn't my wife have a residency slash

508
00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:23,400
Speaker 1: the legal status where we live. She is an expadox patriot.

509
00:22:23,480 --> 00:22:25,399
Speaker 1: She doesn't work and needs to work for a few

510
00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:28,600
Speaker 1: years to obtain permanent residency. That's the law here, said.

511
00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 1: She and I agreed that she would be a stay

512
00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:33,399
Speaker 1: at home mom. Espousal visa is her only option. She

513
00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,959
Speaker 1: renews it at the immigration office every year, which, by

514
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:40,840
Speaker 1: the way, means that her getting the spousal visa, he

515
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:44,720
Speaker 1: can end their marriage, another thing to control over her.

516
00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 1: You had another thing, You had another thing. This guy,

517
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:53,919
Speaker 1: we'll know just what he's done anybody. She renews it

518
00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,639
Speaker 1: at the immigration office every year, which takes about ten minutes,

519
00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,879
Speaker 1: pays a small fee, and has never had any problems.

520
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:01,399
Speaker 1: Why doesn't she have the bank account, assets or anything

521
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 1: in her name? Why did she give me all the

522
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,080
Speaker 1: financial control? Opie says, believe it or not, that was

523
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 1: partly her idea. She comes for a very religious orthodox family,

524
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 1: where the father is the head of the household and

525
00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:14,199
Speaker 1: handles finances. I took care of all the financial matters

526
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,119
Speaker 1: Bill's payments, investments, while she focused on the kids and

527
00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:19,440
Speaker 1: on the house. This agreement worked for both of us.

528
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:21,359
Speaker 1: When we moved to Asia, we lived in a different

529
00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 1: country where she had a bank account because she was

530
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,800
Speaker 1: working online and earning an income. After our oldest son

531
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 1: was born, we moved to this country and she stopped

532
00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:33,359
Speaker 1: working because I was earning significantly more. It's also not

533
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:35,119
Speaker 1: easy for her to open a bank account on a

534
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 1: spousal visa. Here, It's possible, but not straightforward in every

535
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,760
Speaker 1: bake branch. She didn't care about this because she had

536
00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 1: access to my account and bank cards. She also can't

537
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,400
Speaker 1: own a home on a spousal visa either. I bought

538
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:48,440
Speaker 1: her a car as a gift for her thirty third birthday.

539
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 1: She had owned a car in her name before that,

540
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,919
Speaker 1: but she wanted a specific used SUV. I gave her

541
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 1: the money and she bought it herself this time. I

542
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 1: wanted the car to be a surprise, so I didn't

543
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,640
Speaker 1: put it in her name. Sure after that, we didn't

544
00:24:01,680 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 1: really care about whose name was on it as she

545
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:06,240
Speaker 1: was the only one driving it anyways, honestly, but I

546
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 1: think OPI mentioned all the other cars were in his name,

547
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:12,639
Speaker 1: so honestly, she has never been interested in money or assets.

548
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,639
Speaker 1: Why do I share this on reddits? Initially I needed

549
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 1: advice because no one besides my best friend knew what

550
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,120
Speaker 1: I was going through. I didn't expect this to turn

551
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,639
Speaker 1: into such a big thread. Like any story on Reddit.

552
00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 1: Some of you probably think it's fake. I wish it was.

553
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 1: When I post my final update, I might provide evidence,

554
00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 1: for example, text between me and my wife, my wife

555
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 1: and the affair partner, or her letters if my lawyer

556
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:37,520
Speaker 1: gives me the green light. Venting here has also been

557
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,880
Speaker 1: therapeutic for me, and it only takes thirty minutes to write,

558
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:42,439
Speaker 1: so it's no big deal. Why do I think my

559
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 1: wife did all of this? It's hard to say. I

560
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: don't think it was for attention. She claims she has

561
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:49,320
Speaker 1: no idea why she did it, and I believe her.

562
00:24:49,760 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 1: The second time she cheated was definitely for attention, and

563
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 1: again Clarity, same person she cheated for it. She slept

564
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:02,440
Speaker 1: with him four times, Clarity the other two times after that.

565
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: In my opinion, she was too stubborn and scared to

566
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:07,920
Speaker 1: admit that she had done something horrible. She tried to

567
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 1: make herself the victim in my ex friend's eyes. Will

568
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:14,160
Speaker 1: Song meet the kids, Oh no, she kind of knows

569
00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 1: them already. She's seen them a few times over the

570
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 1: year since we met. However, I have no plans to

571
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:22,360
Speaker 1: introduce her futurely officially to them anytime soon. What did

572
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 1: wife and I fight about during our marriage over eleven years.

573
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 1: We had very few arguments, and only one resulted in

574
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 1: us not speaking together for a few days. Most fights

575
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:35,400
Speaker 1: were about her being jealous. Her rule was that we

576
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: never went to sleep without solving a problem, and things

577
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 1: were usually okay after a few hours. Our fights were

578
00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:44,880
Speaker 1: about me working on weekends, spending more time with our

579
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 1: sons and our daughters, our disagreements about our friends. Otherwise,

580
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 1: I'd say we were happy ninety nine percent of the time.

581
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 1: The biggest fight we had was in the summer of

582
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 1: twenty twenty two, I invested a large sum of money

583
00:25:56,440 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 1: into a business with my brother in my home country

584
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 1: without telling her. She did not like the business idea

585
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 1: because she thought it was unnecessary since we were already

586
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 1: doing well financially. But mostly she was angry. I didn't

587
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 1: inform her beforehand.

588
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 4: So lack of communication.

589
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 1: I wonder where that comes from. That was my fault.

590
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: She didn't talk to me for these three days to

591
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 1: shut down, even though we still slept in the same bet. Eventually,

592
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 1: she sincerely apologized for ghosting me and explained that she

593
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: just wanted to prove her point. After that, things are

594
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 1: pretty great. What would my wife's wife's reaction be if

595
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 1: she found out I'm still seeing Sung?

596
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 2: Not I'm still that's just I'm that's just I'm.

597
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:37,639
Speaker 1: I'm She already knows, dude, She already knows. What do

598
00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:41,880
Speaker 1: you mean? Brother? Brother? Brother brother?

599
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 2: You know why I'm so mad right now because I

600
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:46,239
Speaker 2: feel like we're not going to get an actual end

601
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:48,360
Speaker 2: of this story right now. We're gonna go through these

602
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:52,160
Speaker 2: FAQ's and he's gonna be like, anyways, wish me luck bye,

603
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,560
Speaker 2: and I'm gonna be real mad.

604
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:59,160
Speaker 1: I think that's where we're headed. Uh. She would absolutely

605
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,760
Speaker 1: hate me for knowing that he's still seeing Sung. She

606
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 1: already isn't the biggest fan of my friend's fiance. She

607
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 1: knows Sung, but not very well. Why would people last?

608
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 2: Oh wait, no, she doesn't know that he's seeing Sung.

609
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:14,800
Speaker 2: I forgot, he liedt.

610
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 1: Oh, he lies, he lied.

611
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 3: He knows. She just knows good.

612
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 1: Yeah. But but but to the spirit of what you

613
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 1: were saying, she definitely knows that he's still seeing someone, right, Yeah,

614
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:27,400
Speaker 1: Which who do I find more attractive? Sung or my wife?

615
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 1: Opie says, My wife was stunning when she was younger.

616
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 1: Of course I had to do a dig. You literally

617
00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 1: said she looked good during the whole debacle. My god,

618
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:38,440
Speaker 1: I was obsessed with her because she wasn't a gold

619
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 1: digger or a party girl, and she helped me pay

620
00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,120
Speaker 1: off my debts early in our relationship. She's thirty five now,

621
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 1: and after three kids, she obviously doesn't look the same.

622
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 1: Before I found out about the affair partner, she still

623
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 1: looks great. She always took care of herself, hair, nail,

624
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 1: smelling good, et cetera. She mostly wore casual clothes and

625
00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: had a gorgeous smile. She was always the prettiest woman

626
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,680
Speaker 1: in my eyes. Now, after D Day, she looks terrible.

627
00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:03,080
Speaker 3: Not just call that D day, shut D day, Hell.

628
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:05,200
Speaker 1: Called a D day because he's got a tiny D.

629
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,359
Speaker 1: She lost a lot of weight as micro D micro

630
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 1: D day that's his day every day. She lost a

631
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:14,760
Speaker 1: lot of weight, has huge eyebags, and her hair is messy. Song,

632
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,920
Speaker 1: on the other hand, is different. Really, you don't say

633
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 1: she's tall for an Asian woman, my god, one hundred

634
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,000
Speaker 1: seventy two and one hundred and seventy three centimeters and

635
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:24,879
Speaker 1: usually wears high heels and full makeup. Her hair, nails,

636
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,919
Speaker 1: and body are always perfect. I compare if I compare

637
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,640
Speaker 1: my wife when we first met versus Song now, Song

638
00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 1: probably wins right now. The difference is enormous, My god.

639
00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 1: Do I plan to move to another country or go

640
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 1: back to Europe? No, there's no chance. My life is here.

641
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 1: The only way I leave is if my wife somehow

642
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:45,520
Speaker 1: got custody of the kids and moved back to Europe.

643
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 1: Do I love my wife? Unfortunately? Yes, you know, messed up,

644
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 1: fed up way. I'm surprised he admits it.

645
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 2: I don't even think he knows what that means, dude, Yeah, no,

646
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:58,440
Speaker 2: I don't think. I think the reason that he's saying

647
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 2: that is so that he can just defy him being

648
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 2: so tormented in his own head. Yeah yeah, And he's like, yeah,

649
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 2: I do love my wife, which is why it hurt me.

650
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 3: So much, and that's why I'm doing all that.

651
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 4: He constantly brings up everything he's done for her, and

652
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Speaker 4: he's like, oh, of course I love her. Of course

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Speaker 4: I got her car, I got her, get her this

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Speaker 4: new job, I gotta do this. I let her stay

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Speaker 4: in my house. But will I love her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, But it's like did you listen to her?

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Speaker 2: Mm?

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Speaker 4: And you know that your actions and what you do

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Speaker 4: for people isn't just love. You have to like there's

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Speaker 4: more than that. There's more than that.

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Speaker 1: Wait, you're you're you're telling me, can't just like like

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Speaker 1: for example, like like like give someone money but then

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Speaker 1: like use that to like like manipulate and control them,

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Speaker 1: and then like it's like bad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what it turns out that that that is bad?

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Speaker 1: It's it's bad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this guy's also it's for him to be like,

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Speaker 2: my wife looks ugly now after you've like literally put

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Speaker 2: her through the most intense, like emotional ringer of all

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Speaker 2: time and you continue to do so yes, and now

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Speaker 2: you're like, yeah, she's got eebags.

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Speaker 3: And she didn't look as good anymore, she's not eying

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Speaker 3: care or so.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you made you made her cry every day for

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Speaker 1: the last thirty days.

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Speaker 3: You make your sick, dude, literally, you are here, we go, here,

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Speaker 3: we go, talk to me.

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Speaker 1: Wife. Keiko ninety says, Kayoko says, Cahoko, Toko, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Cayoko ninety says a wife is a mirror of the

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Speaker 1: way her husband treats her. M Marca Weist says, you

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Speaker 1: can say that for any partner relationship. MARKA. Weist says,

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Speaker 1: saying he still loves her as an excuse to keep

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Speaker 1: feeling entitled to continue this crap. That part exactly part

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Speaker 1: that part, that part exactly so