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Speaker 1: All right, it is time to check Steve's voicemail. Call

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Speaker 1: eight seven seven twenty nine Steve to leave a message

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Speaker 1: for Steve. Now you might just hear your call on

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Speaker 1: the air, Steve, you recently said that if you have

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Speaker 1: a problem with your mother, you need to try and

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Speaker 1: fix it. Okay, I think that was yesterday or day

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Speaker 1: before on the air. Well, this caller has a question

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Speaker 1: about what to do with a complicated mother daughter relationship.

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Speaker 1: Take a listen.

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Speaker 2: Good morning. So this is a comment on what you

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Speaker 2: said about being upset with your mom or your dad

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Speaker 2: this morning, and you got to have a real problem.

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Speaker 2: But what if your parents are the problems. My mom

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Speaker 2: is a narcissist, narcissistic and she uses any and everything

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Speaker 2: against me given my son to make it seem like

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Speaker 2: she's done it thing wrong, like I'm the bad guy

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Speaker 2: because of the life that I lived, that I chose

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Speaker 2: to live, like she's applied with it. Everyone around is

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Speaker 2: always put before me, and I'm always doing something wrong.

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Speaker 2: So how am I to heal that? Tim? I not

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Speaker 2: to have a feeling against my mom if she does

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Speaker 2: those types of things, it says to me, So I'm

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Speaker 2: just want to sit there and take it. I don't

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Speaker 2: understand that I can't do that.

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Speaker 3: Here's a deal, sister. First of all, I don't know

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Speaker 3: the particulars. I don't know the route that you chose

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Speaker 3: to go that makes you be pointed out as the

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Speaker 3: bad guy. I don't know the particulars. I know that

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Speaker 3: little baby, as boss you got, I know you really

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Speaker 3: need to go back there and fix it with your

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Speaker 3: mom and daddy. Doesn't sound like you're nine, and don't

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Speaker 3: sound like you're on your own. But that aside from itself.

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Speaker 3: Let let's get serious about this for a moment. Here's

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Speaker 3: the deal. Listen to me, people, I've heard Bishop Jake

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Speaker 3: say this a million times. Forgiveness is not for the

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Speaker 3: other person. Forgiveness is actually for you. Because you said

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Speaker 3: in your statement, I can't do that. How am I

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Speaker 3: supposed to forget? I can't do that? Well, you not

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Speaker 3: forgiving a person, It's like you drinking the poison, waiting

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Speaker 3: on them to die. So now you got to have

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Speaker 3: a re action to your mother. Look, everybody don't get

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Speaker 3: great parents, you know, ma'am mytch I watched my father

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Speaker 3: make a few mistakes in his life, but I still

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Speaker 3: loved and honored him. He was my father, and it

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Speaker 3: kept us in a relationship that was a beautiful relationship

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Speaker 3: with this mad because, as Shirley just said, these people

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Speaker 3: are humans.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 3: You don't get to you don't get to stop being human.

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Speaker 3: You don't get to not make mistakes. So it's really

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Speaker 3: up to you. Now, if you feel that horrible about it,

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Speaker 3: you're gonna just another thing. My daddy said to me,

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Speaker 3: He said, son, two things can happen him, like, you

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Speaker 3: can get over it or you can die mad. Now

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Speaker 3: you can pick one in what you want. And he said, son,

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Speaker 3: just go get over it. And I know you say,

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Speaker 3: well I can't. Well, if you say you can't, then

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Speaker 3: you can't. Steve Harvey and nobody else can help you.

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Speaker 3: You can go to a therapist if you say and

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Speaker 3: you can't, forgive her and let it go. There's nothing

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Speaker 3: nobody can do for you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean she's not even trying. She's not going

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Speaker 1: to try.

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Speaker 3: I would just look write it off. Mom, She making

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Speaker 3: a mistake. That's her, you know, that's it. All right.

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