WEBVTT - #32 Love Club 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:07.440 Mike, Check, Vanessa, Jared One, Dean President. Here we go. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:12.200 I Suck Good Dating with Dean Angler and I Heart 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:18.759 Radio Podcast. Hey everyone, we all pointed out Dean. You 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:21.160 listen who wanted to open it? I don't know last week. 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:23.279 Last week was me, So we figured we'll give you 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:26.000 the owners again. We'll rotate. Let's start this over hell 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:29.640 by suck a Dating? Do it at I Heart Radio Podcast? Yes, 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:33.080 so Venica. This time I Suck Good Dating with Dean 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:37.520 Angler and I Heart Radio Podcast and Jared. Hey, guys, 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:42.760 welcome to another episode. Thank you for tuning in. Yeah, 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:49.280 we all love Dean. Welcome back. Hey, happy to be 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:52.240 Where have you been? Just got back from Kentucky. We 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:54.639 already talked about this last two weeks ago. I did 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.520 a nice little eight day rock climbing trip in Red River, Gorge. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:00.520 Um there was a lot of fun. Can't out in 0:01:00.520 --> 0:01:02.720 a tent for eight days, didn't shower once? It was 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:06.960 f Oh yeah it was great. Um yeah, rock climbing, 0:01:07.000 --> 0:01:09.120 the bunch, scared myself a lot, hung out with some 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:12.679 good people, and uh, happy to be home. Nice. How 0:01:12.760 --> 0:01:15.039 was that last week's podcast? I listened to it. It 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:18.440 was amazing. Thank you for asking how it was then 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:21.640 it was fun. I listened to it. I did, I did. 0:01:21.680 --> 0:01:23.119 I was just making sure that you know, you guys 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:26.200 are um you were doing our job? Yeah, absolutely and 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:29.959 very I am, um, well, what are you talking about today, Vanessa? 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:33.000 Since this is your podcast today? Is it? Well? We 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:36.520 have Klin Rosenberg on the phone with us, Calin, are 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:40.280 you there? I am hi, I'm doing well. How are you? 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:43.360 We're doing well? This is Dean, Vanessa and Jared. I'm 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:46.280 sure obviously you you are familiar with kind of the 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:49.520 podcast today, so um so for the listeners out there, 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:53.560 Klin is a celebrity love architect, right, Klin, I am so, 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:54.880 can you tell us a little a little bit more 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:58.040 about you and um kind of the things that you 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:01.320 do that make you successful in that field? Well, I 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:03.000 you know, I sort of come in like a builder, 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:06.680 architect and designer all in one, into people's love lives 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:09.880 and look at the reality of why it is constantly 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.920 so broken and difficult and painful to live in, and 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:14.480 why it doesn't have the love and the joy and 0:02:14.480 --> 0:02:17.360 the happiness that everyone really deserves. So I get to 0:02:17.360 --> 0:02:22.040 the nitty gritty, spiritually soulfully an ego psychologically into every 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:25.680 person's being, tear it all apart, tear it all down, 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:28.560 tear up the foundation, and then literally start to as 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:31.919 I learned different things about my clients, just rebuild and 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:35.239 build something really beautiful for them. Um. And it's something 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:37.200 I've been doing for almost twenty four years. And I'm 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:39.440 madly in love with my work and with people and 0:02:39.440 --> 0:02:42.080 and just want this world to have really what it 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:44.880 deserves when it comes to love and peace, and so 0:02:45.040 --> 0:02:46.720 I can't Can you tell a little bit of our 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:48.640 listeners about the Large Social Club as well and going 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:51.480 to a little specifics about that. Yeah, So the Last 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.840 Social Club is a dating app that I've been working 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:56.200 on for about the last four years that we just 0:02:56.480 --> 0:03:00.000 finally launched its invata right now. It's just figuring itself out. 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.560 That's doing quite well. Um, it's been out there for 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:05.720 a little over two months now, and it is really 0:03:05.840 --> 0:03:09.919 the world's first and only fully vetted dating app. Four 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:13.200 singles that really have a space now to go to 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:15.720 that honors themselves in their journey when they're looking for 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:18.400 a really amazing partner, so they can have fun in 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:20.919 life and so it doesn't have to be so exhausting 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:24.520 and treacherous, and so it has a um A test 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:28.080 called the Real Reveal that is part of the onboarding process. 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:30.760 It's it's a similar process sort of to e harmony. 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:32.560 It's you know, it's it's something that takes a bit 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:34.960 of time. It's about twenty plus minutes, but it's worth it. 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:36.920 You know, with all things that are important and valuable, 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:39.520 you should put some time and energy into it. UM. 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:41.040 But it's the test that's kind of like an m 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:43.160 M p I for love. It tells you what kind 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:45.600 of partner and may you are when it comes to love, 0:03:45.640 --> 0:03:47.640 what you attract and why, what you stay in too 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:50.080 long and why, and most importantly, who you deserve. And 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:53.440 it has a really cool algorithm attached to it that 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:56.080 matches you behind the scenes on the app with your 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:59.400 perfect partner UM. While you also have a chance to 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:01.440 kind of let your you know, your ego do the 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:05.200 walking and choose based on you know, everything we typically do, 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:08.040 looks and what's in common and interest and things like that, 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:11.080 and you sort of can choose for yourself. And it's 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:13.440 something that has had and has the blessing of lots 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:17.680 of celebrity endorsers, especially in the spiritual and world of 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:22.200 psychology and relationships. Literally the world's best are in, you know, 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:24.760 endorsing and supporting it. So I'm quite honored and humbled 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:28.160 by that. And it's just here to really create not 0:04:28.240 --> 0:04:30.080 only a movement of love and healing, but to clean 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:31.960 up the dating industry. It needs a lot of help, 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:36.960 um and to bring people something better. Just kind of finally, 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:38.640 I was just really sick and tired of what's been 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:42.560 out there, and I wanted to create something more for people. Well, 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:45.120 and so this is the first app that I've ever 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:48.320 seen that actually has a brick and mortar large type area. 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:51.160 It does as well. Yeah, so one of the things 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:54.200 that I really paid attention to, you know, meeting clients 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:57.480 all over the world, and regardless of what aids or 0:04:57.680 --> 0:05:01.479 economic background, they always said, well, literally don't know where 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:04.880 to go and meet somebody who's truly single and incredible 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.479 and doesn't have major issues and doesn't create and bring 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:10.800 more pain into my life. Everything is sort of exhausting 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:13.960 and tiring, and whether it's online and or even out 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:15.880 as the bars, it's just a very different world today 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:18.400 than it was even even five or ten years ago. 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:22.800 Things have really dramatically changed. So the large social club 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:24.719 has yes a brick and mortar. We have a few 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:30.000 flagship locations and opportunities. The main one is in Minneapolis, 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:33.280 where I live and have my headquarters, and it is 0:05:33.440 --> 0:05:37.200 it is truly like walking into a cool sort of 0:05:37.320 --> 0:05:40.760 organic lodge in Jackson Hole or Aspen where people can 0:05:40.800 --> 0:05:45.080 connect in its members only and everyone's been vetted against spiritually, psychologically, socially, 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:49.040 and criminally um. And then we also have our pop 0:05:49.120 --> 0:05:51.640 ups that we've been doing with huge success. That we 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.840 had a really amazing pop up a New York City 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:57.840 Fashion Week and it was I mean literally jumpacked. We 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:00.200 had to turn people away, which was hard to turn 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:02.080 people away, but really cool that they loved it so 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:04.200 much and told their friends about it. And then we 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:07.480 did another pop up experience during Sundance that was amazing, 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:09.960 and then we just had one here with our grand 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:12.680 opening in Minneapolis, and that again was a huge success. 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:16.440 So we are just literally trying to put the whole 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:22.479 dating industry, dating services, matchmaking services, dating sites really at 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:25.720 notice to say or unnoticed to say, listen, get your 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:29.320 crap together, offer something better to the singles. The hundred 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:31.240 plus million singles that are out there, just even in 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.200 our own country, that are trying to find one another. 0:06:33.400 --> 0:06:36.640 So we're really proud, um Caitlan. This actually sounds like 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:39.599 the Soho House for single people, which I love. I 0:06:39.640 --> 0:06:43.040 actually wanted to touch upon background and identity checks because 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:45.000 last week when we're talking about it, I kind of 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.640 looked at like, oh, you sound crazy, but I do, 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:50.680 I mean a little bit. But when you do the 0:06:50.680 --> 0:06:55.159 background and identity check, what are you looking for exactly? Well, 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:58.480 So it's it's a full I mean, it's heavy duty. 0:06:58.520 --> 0:06:59.920 It's the real deal. There are a lot of come 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:01.640 the needs out there that will say that they do 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:04.200 a background check and they don't at all, or they'll 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.880 say that they do and they literally do it just 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:10.440 in your county, not across the all the counties in 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:13.400 the country and even you know, across the pond. So 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:16.120 this is a full blown background check that that has 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:18.640 everything pop up from the mildest misdemeanor all the way 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:21.440 up to felonies and and things that can be really frightening. 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:23.360 What it does is it it's you know, if it's 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:26.800 a felony, period, you you are not accepted. If there's anything, 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:29.360 if there's a misdemeanor, growth misdemeanor. If there's something that 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:31.920 popped up, you will be red flagged. We have a 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:34.320 team of people that are constantly watching the site from 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:36.760 behind the scenes every day, and we reach out to 0:07:36.760 --> 0:07:38.920 these people and we say, hey, everybody deserves a second 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:42.200 chance in life. We all can make mistakes and screw up, um, 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:44.760 but you know we this is what came up on 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:46.880 your report and we need to know to protect you 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:49.760 and to protect our other members, we need to know, Hey, 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:52.280 what is this about? It? Is it fixed, is it healed? 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:53.840 Have you learned from it? Have you grown? Have you 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:56.040 grown up? What is this about? And where are you 0:07:56.080 --> 0:07:58.080 at in life? I mean, this sounds exactly like a 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:01.280 members only for dating pretty much. Question is if that's so, 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:03.960 can we bring back the members only jacket for this 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:10.840 specific social lode because I would join if that's the case. Oh, perfect, perfect. 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:13.560 I know this is a pretty interesting concept because I mean, 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:16.480 according to everything I've read about it, So everybody that 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:19.280 gets accepted into this club is they can go on 0:08:19.280 --> 0:08:21.480 the app, they can do these meetups, go to the 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:24.120 different pop ups, so it's like a small community for 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:27.920 all single people it is. And finally, finally, finally, it's 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:32.680 very interesting, very interesting. Time. It was just time, Yeah, 0:08:32.720 --> 0:08:35.760 because what's out there is just it's really broken. It's 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:39.480 working only for people almost based on luck. And you know, 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:41.640 even though we know Zuckerberg is now saying he's getting 0:08:41.679 --> 0:08:44.520 into it, there's nothing very special sadly that that he's doing. 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:47.840 Zuckerberg is getting into what he's getting into the whole Facebook. 0:08:47.880 --> 0:08:51.240 You know, Facebook is going into dating. Oh Facebook, Well 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:53.520 that was my yeah, that was my next question. So so, 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:56.120 so I feel like social media nowadays is becoming like 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:59.280 one the number one way to meet people. Um, you 0:08:59.320 --> 0:09:03.400 know yeah, Um so I'm thirty, someone my age are 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:08.200 much dared still going on with the compliments. I love it. 0:09:08.240 --> 0:09:10.280 So someone my age a little bit older, would they 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:14.400 be signing up for this type of social club. Actually, 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:16.760 the majority of the people right now are so they're 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:19.320 really in their late twenties, thirties and then sort of 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:21.160 into their sporties and then kind of sprinkling some of 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:24.079 the baby boomers, which the baby boomers are also I 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:27.120 would say probably the biggest generation right now out there 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:30.560 in in online dating. But you know, the problem isn't 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:33.440 that we don't have access to each other. Clearly we 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:35.680 do with Facebook, like you said, through social media that 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:38.160 that's sort of already and directly become its own dating site. 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:41.680 And but the problem is the lack of authenticity. And 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:44.000 then the lack of authenticity comes from a brokenness within 0:09:44.040 --> 0:09:46.719 ourselves that that's all it is. If we can't if 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:49.360 we weren't confident, healthy enough within ourselves and our being 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:52.440 and really honoring and loving ourselves our value, and we 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:54.679 don't come with healthy egos, we're showing up as a 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:57.320 bunch of bolth, and then we're bringing that into someone's 0:09:57.320 --> 0:09:59.280 life that really is genuinely looking for love, and so 0:09:59.360 --> 0:10:02.240 it continues to create pain and that's not okay. And 0:10:02.240 --> 0:10:04.840 and that's the mild part of the side that doesn't work. 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:06.720 And then you have the people that are you know, 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:09.400 that are married posing as single because they've just gotten 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:11.439 a bad fight with their wife or their husband, or 0:10:11.520 --> 0:10:14.720 they're on the verge of divorce, but they haven't truly filed, 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:16.920 or they haven't moved out. And yet you have somebody 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:19.439 who's really amazing, who is choosing to show up authentically 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:22.080 single thing, Hey, I'm so ready for love and to 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:25.040 get this right. And yet they're running into a bunch 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:28.720 of scammers sadly that just scammed themselves to begin and 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:32.440 then you've got the criminals. So enough is enough is enough. 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:35.880 It's a scary world there, and this is why background 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:39.520 I'm just I'm paranoid just listening to that. I will say, 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:41.280 they're so to get onto the batchelor, you have to 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:43.880 go through a background even meet with like FBI agents. 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:48.440 It was pretty scared. But amen, I mean so did I. 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:49.920 You know, when I ended up getting you know here, 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:52.120 I was selected to work with Oprah and do Love Town, 0:10:52.520 --> 0:10:54.120 and I thought, have got the whole thing in the bag. 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:56.080 This is awesome, this is so exciting. And then it 0:10:56.160 --> 0:10:58.080 was like, oh, and by the way, we're stripping down 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:01.760 naked or so itself. Um, we're doing a triple background 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:03.680 check on you, an FBI level and this and that, 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:06.480 and even though I knew I had no skeletons. Yeah, 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:09.120 I agree with with the whole bachelor thing. You are vulnerable. 0:11:09.120 --> 0:11:10.840 But amen, you know they want to make sure that 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:13.400 what they're putting out there for their brand is authentic. 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:15.720 We need to do that. As one another. I have 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:17.880 my fair share of juvenile arrests and I was worried 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:20.640 about that coming up, which we can get we want 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:22.840 to it did, of course it came up, but it wasn't. 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:25.400 It was. They were just like minor misdemeanor and nothing significant, 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:28.640 you know, our gain or not paying. Yes, it's but 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.800 no have to be a scary world. So but you 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.040 you know, you are right. It is. It is, but 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:36.840 we're changing that UM And I will tell you and 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:40.199 because again everything, if I'm preaching authenticity, I have to 0:11:40.240 --> 0:11:42.760 be it myself. I have to walk my stuff. Um. 0:11:42.800 --> 0:11:45.880 You know, we are probably one of the only UM 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:50.239 dating apps that is launching authentically and we're populating authentically. 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:52.240 We don't have bots, we don't have paid people in 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:54.880 back rooms pretending to be single to lure people on 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:57.720 there and to keep them going and paying. We literally 0:11:57.760 --> 0:12:03.679 are just doing it's they all pays with people going amen, hallelujah, 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:06.440 thank you for designing and creating this. But at the 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:09.199 same time, where is everyone? And I'm going, hey, you're 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:11.319 the first to the party of amazing people coming to 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:14.520 just stay. And so I will tell you for you know, 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:16.839 even if any of your listeners that are that are 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.560 listening and are thinking of joining, we had our base 0:12:19.640 --> 0:12:21.840 level that was thirty five dollars a month, and we thought, oh, 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:24.319 this is cheap for everything that we're offering. The podcasts 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:26.160 are not the podcast. We do have a podcast as well, 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:29.440 but see pop ups and all of those need opportunities. Um, 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:31.440 but we've decided we're giving it to we're giving it 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:35.800 for free. So literally now it's free. Is it free 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:42.040 for hallelujah? Yeah? Oh yeah for the first year, for 0:12:42.080 --> 0:12:46.240 the first year. Literally, people that are wonderful, get on there, 0:12:46.679 --> 0:12:48.960 do it for free, fine love and do it under 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:51.640 a year. So what's your So what's your success rate? 0:12:51.800 --> 0:12:53.760 If you don't mind be asking? Well with the dating 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:57.199 app for me personally, I mean both of you want 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:58.679 to answer it. I mean, we know that you're you've 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:00.800 been married for seventeen years and I just wanted to 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:03.439 congratulate you on that. Oh well, thank you. Well you know, 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:05.000 and I mean is that you know, as part of 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:06.800 a love architect, and you know, not only do I 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:09.240 heal lie, but I connect full me. So I had 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:12.840 a very very successful career connecting real souls and love 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:14.800 and have lots and lots of marriages and babies and 0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.520 all of that. Um. But with the app, it's brand new, 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:19.440 it's two months old in data, so we don't have 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.240 any success stories. I'm just being straight, but we will 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:24.520 because people are happy, they love it in the press 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.680 of starting to you know, to catch on. That's cool. 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:28.640 Can I ask you a question? So, as a matchmaker, 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:32.440 what what did you did? You like? Often turn away 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:37.640 clients potential clients, and so with this app that you released, 0:13:37.679 --> 0:13:41.120 obviously you're doing your due diligence with the background checks, etcetera. UM, 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:42.880 but it's a little bit more scalable and you want 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:46.079 to be more inclusive with everything, but it's obviously you're 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:47.800 you're less able to do that. But what I guess 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:49.760 you're My question for you is like, what would it 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:52.520 take for someone for you to turn them away as 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:54.400 a matchmaker, like one on one instead of the app thing? 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:57.120 Just just out of my own curiosity, yeah, and also 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.240 to answer both if you want me to, UM. But 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:01.720 for me, you know, one of the things that I 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:04.240 don't like about the matchmaking industry, and it's just you know, 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:07.800 it's my own deal, UM, is that I think it 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:12.400 lacks a ton of ethics and integrity. UM. And I 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:16.040 think there's way too much of allowing the what we 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:18.680 call um on our real rebuild test and part of 0:14:18.679 --> 0:14:21.520 the onboarding of the of the dating app Um. But 0:14:21.680 --> 0:14:24.360 putting too many ego mates together, I think that keeps 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:27.760 the corruption of real healthy love and families and relationships going. 0:14:27.880 --> 0:14:30.160 And I'm trying to get rid of that. So anytime 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:33.160 a meal or female comes to me and says, hey, um, 0:14:33.520 --> 0:14:35.360 she needs to look like this. Her books need to 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:37.440 be this big. She has to be twenty five years younger, 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:39.200 and she has to be stunning, leg gorgeous, and oh, 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:40.960 by the way, he has to have a minimum ten 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.720 million dollars cast in the bank. If they tell me 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:47.000 that's what they have to have to have love, I 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:49.000 want nothing to do with them. They can't save me 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:51.960 enough money, you know. If they come to me and 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:54.440 that's their reality and that's what they're attracted to. But 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:56.920 first and foremost they're saying, I want a really good soul, 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:58.440 I want a really good woman, I want a really 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:00.280 good man. I want a really healthy relation and ship. 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.720 I'll want to be happy. I want a relationship that 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:05.800 really does last the rest of our life. Then amen, 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:07.400 they can have the rest of the candy and the 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:10.240 cherries and the frost thing. Um. But it has to 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:13.120 be pure at heart first. So I'm just not into 0:15:13.160 --> 0:15:15.520 that ego crap. It's just to create too much pain 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:18.280 and keeps the self stuck. Um, have you ever seen 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:23.720 the movie Hitch Yeah, movie right, I have a question 0:15:23.760 --> 0:15:26.040 for you. So what you just said kind of makes 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:28.240 me think of that one time where Will Smith is 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:32.680 talking to that guy. I was thinking the exact same things. 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:35.400 He's like the guy that the date doctor as he's called, 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:37.120 is saying. He's talking to him, He's like, all I 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:38.560 want to do is get in there, like sleep with 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:39.880 her and get out and like, you know, move on 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:41.000 to the next thing. And he's like, I don't do that. 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:42.920 Like what I do is build relationships, build soul mates. 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:45.640 One question for you is in that same movie, even 0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:49.360 Mendez looks down at Will Smith for being a date doctor. 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:51.000 But I was thinking about it the other day and 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:54.120 it's like, all he's doing is helping these people find love. Right. Well, 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:56.320 she's only looking down upon him in the movie because 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:58.600 she thinks that he's helping guys hook up with girls. 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:00.360 She thinks that he's helping guys like that guy. It 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:02.280 was just a misunderstanding. It was a misunderstanding and then 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:06.600 she realizes that she's helping um Kevin uh Kevin James 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:07.920 at the end, and then she falls in love and 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:09.800 happily ever after. Anyway, moving on, Maybe it's just the 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:11.160 long thing as I've seen the movie and I didn't 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:12.640 was able to piece that. Sorry, I'm like a walking 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:15.920 pop culture reference. It's pretty time. No, no, no, but 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:18.840 that's correct. Um, But with the you know, with the 0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:21.000 dating app and the real reveal. So with the six 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:24.040 questions and at the end of the questionnaire, at the 0:16:24.120 --> 0:16:26.040 end of the test, it tells you if you are 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:28.600 a life mate, which is really what we all need 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:30.680 to aspire to be and we all want in the end, 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:33.240 or your soul mate, which is what the majority of 0:16:33.320 --> 0:16:38.360 us are. And that's okay, but it's not where Yeah, 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:40.400 well yeah, I'll tell you in a second and then 0:16:40.560 --> 0:16:42.760 you know, or you're an ego mate, so and then 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:45.160 we match you based on that. Okay, So how do 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:47.360 I answer that? The difference between a lifeman and the 0:16:47.440 --> 0:16:49.880 soul mate. So here's the deal. The reason we always 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:52.480 say we oh my god, I want my soulmate, I 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:55.440 need my soulmate. All I just met my soulmates. That's 0:16:55.480 --> 0:17:00.080 when all of Our energy are juices are excitement, and 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:05.800 our pain, our drama are trauma are triggers energy. Energy, 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:09.960 energy is all mess. It's just all in there. It's 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:12.760 all good and bad, right, So the person we meet 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:16.000 triggers all of our stuff inside of us in a 0:17:16.000 --> 0:17:18.680 way that's meant to be a teacher. But the problem 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:21.280 is is that because most of us, unfortunately did not 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:24.840 come from a really balanced, grounded, healthy mother father mother 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:28.359 father loving relationships. Um, a lot of us were raised 0:17:28.359 --> 0:17:31.560 with different levels of shame and criticism and just drunk 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:34.480 or you know, uh it could be you know, addictions. 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:36.840 Whatever it is, no one's fault, it's just different ways 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:40.240 of experiencing, masking and coping with pain and undealt stuff. 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:43.560 We end up kind of bringing that into life, and 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:48.440 we look for through our partner healing knowingly and unknowingly 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:51.200 healing and the feeling of being loved and being okay 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:54.840 and being accepted. And then when it's romantically connected in 0:17:55.040 --> 0:17:56.919 and everything is going and it's the best sext of 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:58.840 our life, for the worst sights of our life or 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:02.280 the toxicity is there, we haven't learned enough to be 0:18:02.320 --> 0:18:06.080 able to sit back, most of us and go Okay, cool, 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:09.120 this is actually a teacher. They're not cool. Excuse me. 0:18:11.040 --> 0:18:13.160 They're not screwed up and I'm not screwed up. We're 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:16.919 just both human acting out our stuff. And wow, we 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:19.280 could actually so down for a moment instead of constantly 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:21.760 fighting and reacting, we could actually look at each other 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:24.879 as a teacher, shake hands, grow through this and decide 0:18:24.920 --> 0:18:27.480 if we want to become life made and grow up 0:18:28.160 --> 0:18:30.119 or actually still say hands look at each other with 0:18:30.320 --> 0:18:32.000 U go wow. Thank you for the best sex I've 0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:34.080 ever had. Thank you for the best triggers I've ever 0:18:34.119 --> 0:18:36.760 had in their most intense sites I've ever had. But 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:39.000 you know what, I'm going to thank it, thank you, 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:42.440 leave it there, and now move on towards the person 0:18:42.520 --> 0:18:44.320 I'm meant to be with. Well, I think people would 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:45.880 just don't do that. I think a lot of people 0:18:45.920 --> 0:18:48.439 wouldn't describe that particular person as their soul mate, but 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:51.320 it is. Why would you say it's there so mate 0:18:51.320 --> 0:18:53.840 just for the simple fact that you've never been Because 0:18:53.840 --> 0:18:56.479 I wouldn't describe somebody soul mate just based out of passion, 0:18:56.560 --> 0:19:00.679 which sounds like what you were just describing most too. Yeah, 0:19:01.040 --> 0:19:03.520 because still is that again? The still is where we're 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:07.000 the most alive, right, but we're really it isn't that 0:19:07.119 --> 0:19:10.560 energetic feeling of what we're experiencing. And so even based 0:19:10.560 --> 0:19:13.320