1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'mheart Radio Podcast Special 2 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:12,240 Speaker 1: Edition Q and A episode. I love this and also 3 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 1: am equally parts terrified, terrified, terrified, So this these are fun, 4 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:19,439 Speaker 1: they're fan Q and as. 5 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 2: It's all fun until it's all funny game censor myself. 6 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:25,959 Speaker 1: It's all fun and games until it's documented on a 7 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: recording that goes out to every iHeart dang it when 8 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:33,800 Speaker 1: Catherine's not here. Sometimes I just you need Kat for 9 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: the managerial component. Yeah, we'll just start it. Light Okay, 10 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: most challenging part of motherhood? Okay, light topics? M are 11 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 1: we both answering? I would say my most challenging just 12 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: about me. 13 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 2: Well, we're going to go like every other. I would 14 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:06,840 Speaker 2: say my most challenging part of motherhood is there's this like. 15 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 1: Push pull of needing time to be your own person 16 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: and being so desperately obsessed with people that you don't 17 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: want to leave them right. I just think that's the 18 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:21,199 Speaker 1: most challenging thing for me. It's like I need time. 19 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: I know I need to go do things for myself. 20 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: I also know it's good for them to be with 21 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: other people, but then I'm so psychotic that I just 22 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 1: don't want them to be with anyone else because I 23 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,639 Speaker 1: don't want to miss anything for sure, and it's being 24 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: I mean, I think about those moments when you know, 25 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: last night Julie is like, Mommy, will you cuddle and 26 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:44,760 Speaker 1: I'm just like yes, but I'm like, I'm tired. In 27 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: some nights, I was talking to actually my Michigan girlfriends 28 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:51,200 Speaker 1: about this because we were just, you know, kind of 29 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,720 Speaker 1: talking about highs and lows of parenting, and I said, you, guys, 30 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 1: sometimes I just I'm too. 31 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 2: I don't want to. I'm tired. I want to. 32 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,680 Speaker 1: I want to go down and take a nice long 33 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: shower or bath. But then I realize how and then 34 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:07,760 Speaker 1: I and sometimes I might say no and then I 35 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 1: go downstairs and it's like, oh, go back upstairs, And 36 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: then I go back upstairs because then I feel bad. 37 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:14,959 Speaker 2: I know, it's like that guilt and shame. 38 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: Because I know in a couple of years she's not 39 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:18,920 Speaker 1: gonna want to cuddle with me anymore. We also know 40 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: what we talk to our therapist about, so I think 41 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:23,639 Speaker 1: that's part of the problem. Right, I'm going every time 42 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: I say get cozy and I'll be in in a minute, 43 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 1: and I ugh, this is honest, But sometimes I'm like, 44 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:33,799 Speaker 1: I secretly hope she kind of fades before I get 45 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: in it because she's such a talker, loves to download 46 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 1: at the end of every day. 47 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:40,200 Speaker 2: So then I feel guilty. Right. 48 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: The cutest thing actually happened last night, so, you know, 49 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:46,639 Speaker 1: because both the kiddos, because if I cuddle Jolie, I 50 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: also got a cuddle, and they're like, can we do 51 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: a ten minute twenty minute cuddle? So then it's if 52 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 1: I'm doing twenty for Jolie, I got to twenty for 53 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:56,079 Speaker 1: j so it's forty minutes, and I don't want it 54 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:57,600 Speaker 1: to be like, we don't need to look. 55 00:02:57,480 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 2: At the clock. 56 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: Let's just cuddle. Yeah, have you know, yeah to time 57 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 1: stamp this, you know. But uh, last night I said, 58 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 1: all right, you get Mom's going this way that way, 59 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: and then Jolie, so Jolie picked well they I felt 60 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 1: bad because they did pick me first. But but then 61 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 1: she's like, no, no, I want I want Alan, I 62 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:20,919 Speaker 1: want Alan, saying she felt bad because they both said 63 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: MoMA read the room. 64 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 2: Jolie. 65 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:23,959 Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, Jolie, it's okay. I was 66 00:03:23,960 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: like mom in the corner. But when I so when 67 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:29,720 Speaker 1: I finished cuddling with Jase. I came back in and 68 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 1: both of them were passed out like they both like 69 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,119 Speaker 1: he like fell asleep with like her like in his arms. 70 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 2: It was so it was precious but sweet. 71 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:39,240 Speaker 1: But no, I I so I agree with you on that, 72 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: but I'll also say it's the we are in that stage. 73 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: I'm in that stage where I still have to to 74 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 1: grind and maybe take things that I necessarily don't maybe 75 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: want to take. And then I missed certain things, but 76 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 1: I also know that, I mean, I have to, but 77 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: I think it's important for them to see that too. 78 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: So I agree what I and the mom shame, I'm 79 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 1: really trying to take that title off of us because 80 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: it's not fair. It's not fair to wear that or 81 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: or have that guilt. It's so that's where I love 82 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 1: the reframing of it. It's like, you know, mommy gets 83 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: to do what she loves too, and that's great and 84 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 1: here and have them be a part of it as well. 85 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 2: That's right, oh mom life. 86 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:29,600 Speaker 1: We'll do kids though, what is the big gift? And 87 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:31,799 Speaker 1: this is what they're saying, you're getting the kids for Christmas? 88 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:35,480 Speaker 1: This yere okay, I don't know. We have really got 89 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:39,520 Speaker 1: a narrow down the list. I will say for us 90 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:43,000 Speaker 1: it's less. I felt like the last couple of years 91 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: it's the Amazon and just the random stuff that they 92 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:49,240 Speaker 1: don't then play with a few weeks later. So I 93 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: feel like the kids are getting to an age where 94 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: we're going to do an experience. So I just need 95 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 1: to figure out what that is, whether it's OHII next 96 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 1: year or just something where it's a trip. Yeah, I agree, 97 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:00,680 Speaker 1: I still have to open something. This is what I'm 98 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:04,359 Speaker 1: going to do. I'm going to get Jace the TikTok 99 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:08,279 Speaker 1: smart watch. Is this like a Gab? It's like a gab. Okay, 100 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 1: I haven't heard of this one. I'm excited. 101 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:10,480 Speaker 2: It's really good. 102 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,160 Speaker 1: I need to get one for Leggie something like it, 103 00:05:13,240 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 1: and Gab has been sold out. Okay, yeah, this could 104 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:17,360 Speaker 1: be good for me. So yeah, that's what I'm giving 105 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 1: for them. And then Jolie, I am going to do 106 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 1: an Apple Watch for Okay. 107 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 2: Are we nervous about Apple? 108 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:25,839 Speaker 1: No, just because I'm going to take everything off and 109 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:28,160 Speaker 1: it's just going to be she's able to communicate with, 110 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: you know, her parents, a grandparent, and then I will 111 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:33,920 Speaker 1: know where her location is so she can't play games. 112 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:35,280 Speaker 1: She can't do any of that stuff on it. That's 113 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 1: why I like gab. So yeah, that's that's where. And 114 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 1: then as she gets older, I can loosen up on 115 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 1: some of the like things. But yeah, they want an 116 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 1: in ground tramplinge oh, my kids, they'll scare me. 117 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 2: They are same human and I've also can't you just jump? 118 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:55,280 Speaker 2: And then like but if we have so. 119 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:57,280 Speaker 1: Many in our neighborhood and they love it, and I 120 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:00,119 Speaker 1: also do agree. It's such a great exercise and I 121 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: love that it's something that's like physically active. I just 122 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:06,839 Speaker 1: struggle because every er or you know, nurse or doctor 123 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:10,120 Speaker 1: friend that I have is like, no e bikes, no trampolines. 124 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: That's like where we see most injuries. Oh, we love 125 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 1: our trampoline, but it is above ground. 126 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 2: I know, I don't. 127 00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 1: It's a spring free one. It was a little bit 128 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 1: more expensive, but we liked it. Okay, what's your go 129 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 1: to self care ritual when you need to reset? I 130 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:27,840 Speaker 1: love a good sauna and then a shower. 131 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:30,560 Speaker 2: Got a girl. I love. 132 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:32,920 Speaker 1: If I had a sauna, I would pick that or 133 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: hopefully getting one this winter. Actually, I love a bath. 134 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 1: A bath, Yeah, that's that's Allan. It is like put 135 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:42,919 Speaker 1: me in every put me in water. It's like the 136 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 1: big fat Greek wedding windecks. Everything's a bath in our house. 137 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: Everything you got a stomach ache, put you in a bath. 138 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:51,359 Speaker 2: Have some baths forever. It's our windecks. 139 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:55,039 Speaker 1: Do you really believe there's a honeymoon phase in relationships? 140 00:06:56,440 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 2: Yes? Yeah, I was a smitten kitten for a long time. 141 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 2: I mean a long time. 142 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:07,800 Speaker 1: I just think you, of course, the first few months 143 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 1: you're gonna get someone's best foot forward. Yeah, I think 144 00:07:12,200 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: it's truly who they are, but you're not. But I 145 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: do think there's a I mean, I remember this very 146 00:07:19,280 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 1: It's like what would what will we ever fight about? 147 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 2: Oh? Famous last road? 148 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 1: That's cute, but you know what I mean, it's it's 149 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: just one of those things where it's yes. But I 150 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:34,440 Speaker 1: think you can have that phase come in and a 151 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: thread in and out through the relationship. 152 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 2: I agree. 153 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: I feel like our tenure really feels a little honeymoony again, 154 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:43,320 Speaker 1: as much as it can for knowing every single thing 155 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: about somebody and still hating that they don't clean the bathroom, 156 00:07:45,680 --> 00:07:48,920 Speaker 1: you know, right. I also thank God designed us a 157 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 1: little bit to have this honeymoon phase. It's like the 158 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: mating season, right, Like, I really think we're designed to 159 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 1: be so smitten that we want to mate with each 160 00:07:57,720 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 1: other because I think if you instantly saw that he 161 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: doesn't clean them aroom, you might not sign up for 162 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:01,680 Speaker 1: it for life. 163 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 2: Small Theories by Kaby Small Theories be honest? 164 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: Do you stalk your exes or just let karma handle it? 165 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 2: I actually want you to go first. 166 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: Why well, I don't want to throw you under the bus. 167 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 2: You might have more xes. No, how rude or honest? 168 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:42,840 Speaker 2: Is honest? Do you stalk your ex's creamer? Listen? Okay, 169 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:43,680 Speaker 2: that's not a no. 170 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:45,880 Speaker 1: I like it when we know it's not a no, no, 171 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 1: no no, I I used to okay, okay, okay, So 172 00:08:53,600 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 1: it's one of those okay, okay. I don't think there's 173 00:08:56,200 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 1: a woman that hasn't looked up there at on social media? Yeah, 174 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:08,680 Speaker 1: I would agree, right, I actually don't look up mine. Yeah, 175 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 1: but I will go so I don't either. I will 176 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:14,560 Speaker 1: get people sent people send me things yeah all the time. 177 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:18,480 Speaker 2: Oh for you, for sure? 178 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: Mine is more just like, look, he got married and 179 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 1: I actually enjoyed knowing that because your ex. 180 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:27,400 Speaker 2: Sasma got married. M hmm, oh when. 181 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 1: Was that. 182 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 2: Time? Is a big joke, but I for recent we 183 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:34,760 Speaker 2: never talked about that. Yeah, of course not why. 184 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: I mean it was just sent to me, and I 185 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:39,080 Speaker 1: was like, oh, I just felt I felt happy that 186 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 1: he's happy. 187 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 2: Good. Yeah, it's great. 188 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: Oh, I've always just wanted him to be happy. Right, 189 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 1: he's a he's a good person. Yeah. Yeah, it just 190 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: it just is weird because it's also like it's cute. 191 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: The way it gets sent to me is, hey, I 192 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 1: just want to update you. 193 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:54,720 Speaker 2: You know. 194 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 1: Also if you don't want to know, I don't have 195 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: to send. I'm like, no, that's fine, that's exciting, right, 196 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 1: But I don't Yeah. I just always hope he's happy. 197 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: I hope they all are. 198 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:06,080 Speaker 2: Right. 199 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:10,560 Speaker 1: One actually another extras also got married. He's been with 200 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:12,320 Speaker 1: someone I think a long time and I think they 201 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 1: just got married. 202 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:15,560 Speaker 2: Oh that's sweet. Yeah. They have like a kid together. 203 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 2: And he's amazing. See that's the thing. I think he's amazing. 204 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:22,440 Speaker 1: I don't know, I've talked like twenty three years, but 205 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 1: I just I loved him. He was my high school guy, right, 206 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:29,840 Speaker 1: so special to me, and I love that he's happy. 207 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:32,280 Speaker 1: And she's gorgeous. And they have a family, and I 208 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 1: like that he got married. Yeah, So I mean it's 209 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 1: been a long time since I've looked at an ex's page, 210 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 1: because again it's people will sometimes send me something and 211 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:49,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, great, you know what I mean. But yes, 212 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: in past, of course I've looked at but not too 213 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 1: it's not more of a stalking. Yeah, Stocking's making me 214 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: feel apprehensive about this question. I think, yeah, but a 215 00:11:03,520 --> 00:11:07,280 Speaker 1: longing way. And this is also we'll say before his BA, 216 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:14,120 Speaker 1: before Alan right in the single days, you know. But yeah, 217 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:16,439 Speaker 1: I don't think there I really truly do not think 218 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: there is a girl out there that hasn't it's curiosity's page. Yeah, 219 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:23,839 Speaker 1: we all want to know, but if you're going. 220 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 2: To it on a. 221 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 1: Regular occurrence, that's you know that that's something that or 222 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 1: in you're when you're I think to your heart posture, 223 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 1: when you look right, if you're going in like a 224 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:39,560 Speaker 1: we'll see you know, or. 225 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:41,480 Speaker 2: If you're just like I hope he's happy. Well. 226 00:11:41,520 --> 00:11:44,719 Speaker 1: The thing is is when someone says, you know, do 227 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:46,760 Speaker 1: stock your exes or just like carm a handle And 228 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:48,600 Speaker 1: that's the piece that I kind of want to address 229 00:11:48,720 --> 00:11:57,600 Speaker 1: because I thank you that clearing the throat. But there's 230 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:00,439 Speaker 1: a specific X that I intentionally. 231 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 2: That I follow. 232 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:06,640 Speaker 1: This is so good, and and I see all of 233 00:12:06,679 --> 00:12:10,080 Speaker 1: the little reddits getting their laptops VI ed up. No, well, 234 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:12,120 Speaker 1: I mean obviously we know who I follow. That's an 235 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 1: ex but you know it's it's more just I will 236 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 1: sometimes go look to see what the kids might be 237 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 1: up to, but I have to just distance myself from 238 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:23,240 Speaker 1: any sort of resentment level. 239 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 2: No, I agree. We can tell a lot about the 240 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 2: tone of it by the karma. 241 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: Well, when speaking to the karma piece of it, though, 242 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:33,840 Speaker 1: I would just say, I think. 243 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:34,760 Speaker 2: Karma is just really real. 244 00:12:34,840 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 1: I do. I just people are going it's going to 245 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 1: be what it will be, exactly Like I know certain 246 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 1: information that it's not my business to share about certain 247 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 1: exes that I know about that have people have dm'd 248 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 1: me about, and it is not mine to share or 249 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:57,000 Speaker 1: to expose, whether they why they don't have said girlfriend 250 00:12:57,000 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 1: anymore or this or whatever it is. It is not 251 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 1: that is that is all handled like, it's not it's 252 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 1: not mine to deal with or to And I think 253 00:13:08,760 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 1: karma just if you don't clean your street in your insides, 254 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:18,680 Speaker 1: it's going to keep happening. And that's not karma, that's 255 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 1: just repeated behavior behavior. Yep. 256 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 2: Agreed. 257 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:26,960 Speaker 1: And I'm not the kind of person that wants any 258 00:13:27,120 --> 00:13:29,319 Speaker 1: thing to catch up to anyone. I just want everyone 259 00:13:29,360 --> 00:13:32,720 Speaker 1: to be happy, agreed. So and I will say this too. 260 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: I even reached out to someone and said that is 261 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:39,400 Speaker 1: with an X that was like, I am so happy 262 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:41,000 Speaker 1: for you guys, and I just because I just want 263 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: you guys to know how happy I am for you guys, 264 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 1: and I wish nothing but love for everybody, because there 265 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 1: was always kind of a weird energy. And person wrote 266 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:54,360 Speaker 1: back like, oh my gosh, same. Your family's so beautiful too. 267 00:13:54,400 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: And it's so interesting because people when they're with other sides, 268 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:02,480 Speaker 1: you might start to create this own narrative like oh, 269 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:06,200 Speaker 1: this person's a bitch or this person must think this, 270 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:09,199 Speaker 1: when really everyone's just rooting for each other. And I 271 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 1: think that's what's so beautiful is because I'm like, I 272 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:15,200 Speaker 1: don't like any negative energy, so I'm just gonna share 273 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:17,440 Speaker 1: where my heart is with it. And then when they 274 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:20,560 Speaker 1: shared their heart, you know that the woman too, I 275 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:20,880 Speaker 1: was like. 276 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 2: This is great. 277 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:23,960 Speaker 1: And the next time we saw each other, big old smiles, 278 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 1: lead with vulnerability. Look where you got everyone just everyone wants. 279 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:29,960 Speaker 1: Everyone wants, you know, be happy everyone. 280 00:14:30,240 --> 00:14:30,960 Speaker 2: That's right. I love that. 281 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 1: Okay, next question, what's something used to be shy about 282 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:41,560 Speaker 1: that you completely own? Now? What if I really, Oh, 283 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:43,680 Speaker 1: you don't have anything used to be shy about. I 284 00:14:43,760 --> 00:14:47,480 Speaker 1: mean I have a deep insecurity. Oh really, I think 285 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:51,160 Speaker 1: it roots from childhood. I won't get emotional, but there's 286 00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:53,680 Speaker 1: this totally can no. Well, I do know that's a 287 00:14:53,720 --> 00:14:55,240 Speaker 1: safe place here, but I'm going to try to make 288 00:14:55,280 --> 00:14:56,600 Speaker 1: it through one whole episode of the Grind. 289 00:14:56,640 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 2: I've got new goals. I used to have this. There 290 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:00,760 Speaker 2: was this narrative. 291 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 1: There was this narrative about me talking maybe too much, 292 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:11,720 Speaker 1: having too many opinions. That was like growing up there 293 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 1: was it was always that. And so then I married 294 00:15:16,120 --> 00:15:21,360 Speaker 1: into a duo, and I think at the beginning who 295 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 1: I am is. 296 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:25,960 Speaker 2: Not the norm. 297 00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 1: For a lot of women in my position, Like I 298 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:34,760 Speaker 1: still want to do broadcasting, and I grew up in radio, 299 00:15:34,800 --> 00:15:36,960 Speaker 1: and you know, like I've been so unafraid in career. 300 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:41,440 Speaker 1: So my my shyness is that I always there is 301 00:15:41,480 --> 00:15:43,400 Speaker 1: this piece of me that is like, you talk too much. 302 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,320 Speaker 1: Even on here, you and I have had conversations offline 303 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 1: that I'm like, well, I don't want to. I don't 304 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 1: want to say too much like it's your podcast and 305 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 1: I don't want to talk too much like that is 306 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:56,200 Speaker 1: it's a real thing for me. And then I was like, girl, 307 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 1: I use your opinion. Yeah, you're like, no talk all 308 00:15:58,960 --> 00:16:01,520 Speaker 1: the time, but I don't. I have this like weird 309 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 1: if it's not mine, then I'm dominating the space. Did 310 00:16:04,080 --> 00:16:05,720 Speaker 1: I talk too much? Did I take up too much room? 311 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: It's like that it's interesting right at forty three. But 312 00:16:09,520 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: also I'm not afraid to like fill in gaps and 313 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 1: tie things together or you know, and that probably comes 314 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 1: from like the morning show piece of it. So but 315 00:16:19,840 --> 00:16:22,560 Speaker 1: I think I'm getting better at owning it. What would 316 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:28,440 Speaker 1: you say for mine that I own now your past, 317 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:32,040 Speaker 1: my past and which piece just all of it. I 318 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 1: I think your sweet spot has been you just owning 319 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 1: every choice and owning that you've loved maybe the wrong 320 00:16:40,560 --> 00:16:45,080 Speaker 1: people or that has been to me your superpower. Like 321 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: I hear it most from people, whether it's random followers 322 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:49,480 Speaker 1: or just friends of mine that like, listen to this, 323 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:54,880 Speaker 1: but just the fact that you're like they make you 324 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:57,840 Speaker 1: make it. You have made people feel like it's okay 325 00:16:57,880 --> 00:16:59,920 Speaker 1: to have loved the wrong person and learned from it. 326 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:00,800 Speaker 2: Right. 327 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:05,640 Speaker 1: That's really special though, because a lot of like even 328 00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:07,679 Speaker 1: I carried shame that I was married before and it 329 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:09,919 Speaker 1: didn't work out. I don't think anybody that gets divorced 330 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:12,679 Speaker 1: doesn't feel a little bit of that, Yeah, because it 331 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:15,439 Speaker 1: feels like the ultimate failure, you know, but you just 332 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 1: have made it be, so it's okay. Well, I think 333 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 1: there's something to be said about when anything does happen, 334 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:24,560 Speaker 1: and listen, I've not been perfect, and I think I 335 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:26,600 Speaker 1: speak a lot about that. 336 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:31,360 Speaker 2: I've been flawed. I am flawed, we all are. 337 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 1: I am imperfect on things, but that to me is 338 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:39,920 Speaker 1: a chance to flip it and find growth and learn 339 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:42,159 Speaker 1: from it. How can I be better? How can I? 340 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:46,120 Speaker 1: You know, even when in my last marriage, how could 341 00:17:46,119 --> 00:17:48,280 Speaker 1: I have been better? What can I? Who can I? 342 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:50,359 Speaker 1: How can I become a better person through this? 343 00:17:50,720 --> 00:17:50,879 Speaker 2: You know? 344 00:17:50,960 --> 00:17:53,240 Speaker 1: Even in my marriage now? How can I learn from this? 345 00:17:53,359 --> 00:17:57,000 Speaker 1: How can I? How can I take what's happening in 346 00:17:57,080 --> 00:18:01,239 Speaker 1: this moment and be better and do better? And I 347 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:04,680 Speaker 1: think it's I think that's important because if not, then 348 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:09,120 Speaker 1: you wear this shame badge. That's not fair. Because again, 349 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 1: we are all in perfect humans, and some imperfect humans 350 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 1: don't do well with other imperfect humans. Right, That's why 351 00:18:16,119 --> 00:18:18,160 Speaker 1: I hope ex'es are living their best life. It's why 352 00:18:18,200 --> 00:18:20,359 Speaker 1: you hope ex'es are living their best life because together 353 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 1: we just maybe didn't work well. But like that doesn't 354 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:24,000 Speaker 1: mean they're not going to go be amazing with someone else. 355 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:27,440 Speaker 2: Totally. Yeah, And they've done the work again too. 356 00:18:27,720 --> 00:18:32,399 Speaker 1: I know the work that I've done, and that's the 357 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:34,960 Speaker 1: biggest piece. I'm like, if I could give back those pieces, 358 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:37,080 Speaker 1: like this is where I was not a great person, 359 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:40,080 Speaker 1: and this is where I craved love and attention and 360 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:43,800 Speaker 1: you know, wanting because I wanted a perfect fricking family, 361 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:46,480 Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, So it's but now it's different 362 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:49,679 Speaker 1: boundaries and I've learned more about myself and healing, and 363 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:53,439 Speaker 1: you know, those pieces are so important to put that 364 00:18:53,600 --> 00:18:56,159 Speaker 1: together and to understand why, and then you can have 365 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:58,639 Speaker 1: grace for other people that are going through things you 366 00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 1: know that haven't tapped into that, or that don't understand 367 00:19:02,920 --> 00:19:05,159 Speaker 1: why their patterns led them to do X Y or 368 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:06,080 Speaker 1: Z yep. 369 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:08,560 Speaker 2: It can be frustrating when. 370 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:11,560 Speaker 1: You're on the other side of it, but it's also 371 00:19:12,160 --> 00:19:16,800 Speaker 1: an opportunity to to heal and grow and learn through 372 00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: all of it. Everything we own provides freedom for someone else, 373 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:36,359 Speaker 1: and I just ultimately want people to have freedom. Yeah, 374 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 1: who's been your most unexpectedly flirty podcast guest? 375 00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:44,520 Speaker 2: Oh? Juicy? Have we had one? 376 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:46,240 Speaker 1: I don't think anyone's been inappropriate. 377 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 2: We don't really have a lot of dudes, though, do we. No? 378 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:53,400 Speaker 1: No, I don't think anybody has been flirty. I wish 379 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 1: this Has anyone ever been flirty? Oh? 380 00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:03,800 Speaker 2: Was I here for that person? Jason Oppenheim? Was I here? What? 381 00:20:04,119 --> 00:20:07,000 Speaker 2: I don't think I was here? I don't know. I 382 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:07,480 Speaker 2: wasn't here. 383 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:12,280 Speaker 1: He flirts with everyone. I love you, Jason, but he flirts. Yeah, yeah, No, 384 00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 1: I wasn't here. He's a sweetheart. But he did ask 385 00:20:17,600 --> 00:20:19,960 Speaker 1: me out, that's true. I see I blinked that out. 386 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:20,520 Speaker 2: He did. 387 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:22,640 Speaker 1: It was on air the Hannah goes didn't he ask 388 00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:27,120 Speaker 1: you out? Oh that's funny. Okay, that's him. Then, yeah, 389 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,040 Speaker 1: everybody else, I feel like it is so respectful. 390 00:20:30,119 --> 00:20:32,320 Speaker 2: He's no. And here's the thing. He is so respectful. 391 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:32,760 Speaker 2: That's the thing. 392 00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:35,119 Speaker 1: Like we even had lunch with a friend. I was 393 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 1: introducing him to our realtor friend and he's such a 394 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:43,399 Speaker 1: sweet man. But isn't it wild though when people are 395 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:48,000 Speaker 1: really flirty like I used to be flirty, I want 396 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:48,399 Speaker 1: to own that. 397 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:51,359 Speaker 2: Can we talk to me too? Like I remember when 398 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,480 Speaker 2: I used to be flirty. I just remember one of 399 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:55,160 Speaker 2: my bosses. 400 00:20:55,200 --> 00:21:00,840 Speaker 1: This is so embarrassing my visions an, I'm gonna say 401 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 1: it because I feel like I just say it all here. 402 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: But I had a boss when I first started in 403 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:08,480 Speaker 1: the country music on the record label side of country music, 404 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:12,720 Speaker 1: you know, like it's just such an inappropriate industry as 405 00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:16,280 Speaker 1: a whole. And I remember taking a picture with one 406 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:19,320 Speaker 1: of my like program directors with my hand on his chest. 407 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:23,439 Speaker 2: And my if we or are we like going to prompt? 408 00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,240 Speaker 1: And I got a call for my boss the next 409 00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:27,439 Speaker 1: day and he was like, Hey, I just want to 410 00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:28,600 Speaker 1: like run, you know, I just want to talk to 411 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:30,840 Speaker 1: you about something really quick. He's like, this isn't dramatic, 412 00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:33,199 Speaker 1: and I'm not upset by any means, but I do 413 00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:35,639 Speaker 1: think it's important for you to know that like that 414 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:39,200 Speaker 1: would be perceived a certain way. And I was so 415 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:42,199 Speaker 1: thankful for he is, by the way, Jimmy Harnan, I 416 00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:43,920 Speaker 1: just want to say out loud because he's just such 417 00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:45,399 Speaker 1: a he was such a good boss to me and 418 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:49,160 Speaker 1: such a good like dad to me. Well, I want 419 00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:50,760 Speaker 1: to say it's the Michigan in us because I was 420 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 1: the same win my radio tour. I'm hugging every program 421 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 1: and I I mean, I'm just like, huh, it's in its. 422 00:21:58,080 --> 00:21:58,879 Speaker 2: We do have this. 423 00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:02,399 Speaker 1: There's this midwife stern way of just like blowing people, 424 00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,440 Speaker 1: not understanding boundaries and just you know. 425 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:08,320 Speaker 2: I remember somebody on wind down onto or one. 426 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:11,520 Speaker 1: Time, this girl she knew she had to have listened 427 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 1: because she came up to me afterwards and she was like, Hi, 428 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:16,200 Speaker 1: I'm so and soon a big fan. And I mean 429 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:18,320 Speaker 1: it's as if they say that my arm's just open. 430 00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,920 Speaker 1: It's a reflag, like you know, like I'm gonna attack them. 431 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,800 Speaker 1: And she goes and I'm not comfortable with hugging, and 432 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:26,000 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, okay, like I didn't know. 433 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: It's almost like I had this like twitching. Yeah, like 434 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,960 Speaker 1: I was short circuit. I was like like what to 435 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:35,040 Speaker 1: do next? But yeah, that's embarrassing, but that's true. Yeah flirty, 436 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 1: but yes, I mean, but but now, I mean, I'm 437 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:44,920 Speaker 1: like the farthest thing from oh well, learn a lot 438 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:49,760 Speaker 1: about Yes, our intentions in the moment weren't that, no 439 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:55,199 Speaker 1: at all. No, And some intentions when I was flirty 440 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,679 Speaker 1: was because I wanted to fill that love me, choose 441 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 1: me sure terrible dialogue in my brain. Yeah, I just 442 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:03,760 Speaker 1: wanted to be like popular and good at my job 443 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,919 Speaker 1: and you know right, yes, But I was never like 444 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: making out with people. 445 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,159 Speaker 2: I want to be very clear sure for me, you know, 446 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:11,840 Speaker 2: because a lot of people in our industry do do that. 447 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:14,679 Speaker 1: But there was this piece that I always felt like 448 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:16,640 Speaker 1: if I wasn't that, then they would perceive me as 449 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 1: that I'm this. 450 00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 2: Right, you know, cold hearted. Yeah, yeah, the whole thing. 451 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:25,840 Speaker 1: Think you're better yeah yeah, yeah, so but then I'm 452 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:29,080 Speaker 1: just like, no, like this is different. I love I 453 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 1: love forty version. 454 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 2: Yeah. 455 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:34,040 Speaker 1: I also think I like appropriate marriage versions one hundred. 456 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 1: So like for me, Preston was the first one to 457 00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:38,439 Speaker 1: like call me to the table a little bit and say, like, 458 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:42,280 Speaker 1: guys and girls can't be friends and and that may 459 00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:44,160 Speaker 1: seem like a little rough, but it is just kind 460 00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:46,439 Speaker 1: of true, Like I don't need to have you know, 461 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:49,400 Speaker 1: like my one of my very best friends is a guy, 462 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:54,240 Speaker 1: and he's just magical but he's equally as friends with Preston. 463 00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,720 Speaker 1: He's also not interested in me right or my gender. 464 00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: I just think there's, like you said, it's totally different, 465 00:23:59,119 --> 00:24:01,720 Speaker 1: like how I am with Alan and the respect level 466 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 1: that I have for him, but it's not even for him, 467 00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:05,680 Speaker 1: it's for myself too. And that's right thing that we've 468 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:08,880 Speaker 1: also learned that he's you know, had you know walk 469 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,560 Speaker 1: through too of when it comes to respect, it's the 470 00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:16,120 Speaker 1: it's not actually just for me, it's for him too, 471 00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: that's right, and it's for me on the flip side 472 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:21,879 Speaker 1: of it. So yeah, exclusivity is really hot to me. 473 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:24,479 Speaker 1: So when someone has a wedding band and acts like it, 474 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:25,960 Speaker 1: I think that's the hottest thing they could do. 475 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:28,560 Speaker 2: Yes, amen to that. Well. 476 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,080 Speaker 1: I hope you guys enjoyed this Q and A. Stay 477 00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,760 Speaker 1: tuned for the next one. But I love you, girl, 478 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:35,639 Speaker 1: I love you.