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Speaker 1: we just need to talk. Griz always talks about us.

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Speaker 1: And it'll get better next podcast. So keep on listening.

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Speaker 1: The content is great. Here we go. Whenever you're on

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Speaker 1: then wherever the next one is. People always comment Bernie really, yes, wow,

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Speaker 1: I always see that. Thanks guys, that means a lot.

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Speaker 1: my friend and listen to y'all's questions. And the fact

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Speaker 1: live spit means a lot. So hopefully it's helpful. If

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Speaker 1: it's not, then common below. I don't read them, but

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Speaker 1: you can go ahead and tell christ stuff better. You're better.

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Speaker 1: I'm not. This question comes from Willie King does Hey.

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Speaker 1: My name is William from Nebraska. I love your music.

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Speaker 1: I always wanted to be a country singer, and I

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Speaker 1: want to know where I start and if you have

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Speaker 1: any advice for me. You got a good name, Willie King,

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Speaker 1: Willi King. That is that's a country name, right, ude, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Willie King, Willie King. Okay, does Willy say how old

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Speaker 1: he is? He's probably at seventeen? Probably, Yeah, you're probably teenager, Willie.

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Speaker 1: I'm guessing. Shout out to Nebraska. So would you do

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Speaker 1: at seventeen to start? Yeah, I was singing. I was

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Speaker 1: playing high school football and I was singing on the

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Speaker 1: weekends at these oprys, yep. And it was like two songs,

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Speaker 1: sing two songs with a house band. I was so

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Speaker 1: nervous too. I don't think I've ever been more nervous

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Speaker 1: in anything I've done in my career than I was

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Speaker 1: at seventeen singing at these oprys. Yeah, dude, I mean

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Speaker 1: you you're standing backstage house band, usually a packed house,

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Speaker 1: not that many people, but you know, like one hundred

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Speaker 1: and twenty people in their packed and were they old?

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Speaker 1: Yeah they're old? Yeah, folks. That are the opera that

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Speaker 1: I sing that man, it was old and so you

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Speaker 1: know you've done it. So there's like this little list

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Speaker 1: backstage or some some kind of list. Yeah, and it

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Speaker 1: has it has Mary and she's singing these two songs

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Speaker 1: and Fred he's singing these two songs. And you're like

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Speaker 1: number eight and you can't judge what time that is. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So you're like, do I have ten minutes or do

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Speaker 1: I have about forty? Yeah? Like what do I do? Like?

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Speaker 1: I probably should warm up my voice, Man, I don't

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Speaker 1: want to because that's really embarrassing. Like, that's embarrassing. No

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Speaker 1: one knows who you are. You're like, mom, get out

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Speaker 1: of here. That kind of cool. So they kind of

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Speaker 1: just shuffle out to the alleyway because there are always

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Speaker 1: these old buildings, like in a downtown saying, shuffle out

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Speaker 1: in the alleyway. It's kind of cold. You go back in,

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Speaker 1: there's some dude warming up his voice, strumming his guitar.

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Speaker 1: Out of tune it is, and you're like, look on

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Speaker 1: the list for the twentieth time, you're like two four,

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Speaker 1: four and a half songs away. Okay, that's got to

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Speaker 1: be what twelve minutes? Yeah, anyway, nervous, So, uh, that's

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Speaker 1: probably that's probably a really good starting point. I don't

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Speaker 1: think they have these kind of offerings in Nebraska. But man,

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Speaker 1: what they do have that I didn't have is they

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Speaker 1: have social media, right, they have TikTok. Yeah, man, Willie,

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Speaker 1: if I were you, i'd learn an instrument. I always

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Speaker 1: say that, learn an instrument, learn guitar, and set up

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Speaker 1: your phone and sing your heart out with your guitar

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Speaker 1: and put it on TikTok or Instagram. That is a

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Speaker 1: way for people to see you and start building a following.

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Speaker 1: If you can build following up some kind of following

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Speaker 1: on that, I'm start getting different views, then that's something. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I'll second that by saying, practice, practice, practice, Ye just

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Speaker 1: get really good at your craft. And I'm gonna probably

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Speaker 1: say that for a lot of these questions, like whatever

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Speaker 1: it is that you're doing yours is music. I wish

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Speaker 1: that somebody would have told me whenever I was younger, hey,

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Speaker 1: you're really not that good. I had this life, even

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Speaker 1: from being the third kid, my mom just telling me

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Speaker 1: I was great in my whole life. I was like, dude,

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Speaker 1: I'm awesome. Good point, But that wasn't that great. And

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Speaker 1: I wish somebody would say, hey, you need to go practice,

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Speaker 1: you need to do this, you need to like you know,

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Speaker 1: do this with your guitar. You need to like practice

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Speaker 1: your voice. And I'd be like, oh, okay, so I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you you're not as good as you think

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Speaker 1: you are, really king, that's really good advice, actually, And

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Speaker 1: no matter how good you are, you're not as good

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Speaker 1: as you probably think you are. So go back to

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Speaker 1: the lab and just practice more and get really really good,

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Speaker 1: and then you're gonna go. You know, a lot of

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Speaker 1: different places come down to Texas play an opry following

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Speaker 1: To this day, I'm never the best on a festival

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00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:57,319
Speaker 1: That's saying I was like the third best. It's the

637
00:39:57,360 --> 00:40:00,399
Speaker 1: same with comedy, like with Earl Dibbles, people always dude,

638
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 1: you're so funny, man, those videos are so funny, and

639
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,919
Speaker 1: I always say, man, I'm like the fourth funniest guy

640
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 1: on my tour bus, right, like if you count Dusty

641
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:14,239
Speaker 1: and Chris. Yeah, and like some of these personalities are

642
00:40:14,280 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: so funny. Yeah. Once again, that just helps me. Yeah,

643
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 1: just claw and try to So there you go, Willie,

644
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:23,359
Speaker 1: that's a great thing. If you hadn't said that, Verdie,

645
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't have thought of it. But yeah, you're

646
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 1: not as good as you think you are, Willing. Yeah,

647
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:31,279
Speaker 1: So one follow up question, for Granger Smith about this.

648
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:36,720
Speaker 1: So we grew up when like nineties country was like dude,

649
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 1: that was it? Yeah, yeah, Okay, So these younger kids

650
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 1: that are that some of them that may be listening

651
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:47,359
Speaker 1: to this, that are, you know, sixteen seventeen, and they

652
00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 1: look at you like what nineties country singer would you

653
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: be that? Like would you see yourself as your life?

654
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 1: The you know, the Diamond rio and the Travis tript

655
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 1: of like nowadays country who about that a lot? And

656
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 1: it's hard to do that because then you see the

657
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 1: end of their career. So because I can say Mark Chestnutt,

658
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: who's a much better singer than me, but then I

659
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 1: see like the end of his career was just like

660
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 1: catastrophic alcoholism rehab. He's better now. So hopefully, and I

661
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: can't think of an example off the top of my head,

662
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: but hopefully it's somebody that transitioned from music into some

663
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:33,640
Speaker 1: kind of like positive public speaking and founded in Christianity,

664
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 1: you know, like if I find that guy, that's who

665
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 1: I would want to be. Okay, And and thinking about

666
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 1: this too, like this should probably be the title of

667
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 1: this podcast, like news flash, You're not as good as

668
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 1: you think you are yet reality check. You're not as

669
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 1: good as you think you are. That's probably going to

670
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 1: even punch the title of this podcast, Willie, You're not

671
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 1: as good as you think you are. We have Yeah,

672
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 1: we got time writing, we're rocking. Okay, we can go

673
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:08,360
Speaker 1: fast when you don't throw these questions at me, like

674
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 1: to find God's sovereignty, right, It's like, okay, okay, do

675
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: you want to go you want to go to You're

676
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 1: gonna call this, I'm gonna go to recent military separation?

677
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 1: Dad at forty boyfriend wanting to be in the music industry.

678
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:27,359
Speaker 1: That sounds bad. Work verse friends, Where do you wanna

679
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: go next? What's the first one in recent military separation? Yeah,

680
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 1: let's hear that one. That's intriguing. Hey, Grangeer, I'm Kyle

681
00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 1: from southern California. I had the privilege to meet you

682
00:42:39,239 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 1: when you played shows in Alaska. I was stationed at

683
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 1: Jaybear and got to meet you and Cody Allen. Ever

684
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:51,200
Speaker 1: since I started following you and your story, I love

685
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 1: it and I love you you. My question is I

686
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 1: recently separated from the Air Force and me and my

687
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:57,800
Speaker 1: wife moved back home and were staying with her parents

688
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:00,720
Speaker 1: till this crazy market goes down. I got my career

689
00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 1: started as an electrical apprentice, and my wife got her

690
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:08,600
Speaker 1: career started as a veterinary in the veterinary medical field.

691
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:11,439
Speaker 1: We don't want to shoot shoot ourselves on the feet,

692
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 1: but we want to get out of her parents' house

693
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:17,399
Speaker 1: badly to save the relationship with them, but also with

694
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:19,640
Speaker 1: each other. We had our own place for the last

695
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:22,360
Speaker 1: four years and now sharing, especially with the in laws,

696
00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:27,040
Speaker 1: is not working. Any advice would be awesome. And he

697
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 1: has a picture attached. Yep, yeah, that's the dud up there.

698
00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:40,239
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, So okay, let's dive right into this. First

699
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 1: of all, thank you for service and good to hear

700
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 1: from me again. Kyle. It's time to get out of

701
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 1: the house. Let's just dive right into it. It's time

702
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 1: to get out. The reason I say that is because

703
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: you say, not only to save the relationship with them,

704
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 1: but also with each other that's at stake at all.

705
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 1: Then nothing else matters. The income doesn't matter because you

706
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:09,919
Speaker 1: can get you can find something cheap. You just get

707
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 1: something cheap. Doesn't sound like there's kids involved, which is

708
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 1: great right now because you could you're free to not

709
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 1: look at school districts and just jump into an apartment lease.

710
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: It says you got your careers started as an electric

711
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: bood princess, So careers are in place pretty much. Yeah,

712
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 1: it's time to get out. I know that the market

713
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 1: is scary. It's at the end of it. In fact,

714
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 1: you sent this email at the end of last year,

715
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:40,520
Speaker 1: so dude, it is time. It is time. If you're

716
00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 1: hearing this podcast and you're still in it's time. The

717
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 1: reason I say it's time is because you included the

718
00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 1: sentence to save the relationship with your wife. Yeah, email,

719
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:55,000
Speaker 1: grange your back and let them know by the time

720
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:57,759
Speaker 1: that you heard this if you were already out, and

721
00:44:57,880 --> 00:44:59,640
Speaker 1: we'd love to hear like the follow up, like why

722
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:02,279
Speaker 1: you just to leave and like how it all went,

723
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 1: because we'll see if like what we're saying align aligns

724
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 1: with like what he actually intuitive decided to do. It's like,

725
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: oh no, what you guys said was actually terrible. I

726
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 1: did this and it worked out, so then we would

727
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:19,279
Speaker 1: that's a great point. Or like, hey, yeah, because I

728
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 1: agree with Grandeur, you have to preserve your relationship. That's

729
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:26,160
Speaker 1: going to be our whole marriage is right, We're gonna

730
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 1: make decisions to fight for our marriage. It sounds like

731
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 1: you can use some space from the parents, so you

732
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 1: don't have to just move like around the corner to

733
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 1: an apartment, like come to Texas. There's a lot of Uh,

734
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 1: there's a lot of opportunity here right now, and a

735
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 1: lot of people are moving from some southern California to Texas.

736
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 1: But I think he's right. I think you got to

737
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 1: you got to get out. And marriage is about these

738
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 1: adventures together and like building a story together. So don't

739
00:45:55,640 --> 00:46:00,080
Speaker 1: be afraid. As long as you guys are communicating and

740
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:04,439
Speaker 1: you have a good foundation for your marriage, you can

741
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:08,359
Speaker 1: go without a lot more stuff than you think you can.

742
00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:11,360
Speaker 1: And uh, and part of the fun is just figuring

743
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 1: it out together. Like, man, this challenge is coming, Like

744
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:17,839
Speaker 1: how do we figure that out together? Yeah? Whatever it is,

745
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 1: just do it together. Yeah, no kids involved yet? Yeah great? Yeah,

746
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 1: so Bernie, It wouldn't it be be awesome if this was

747
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 1: live and we could actively have people vote on what

748
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,040
Speaker 1: they want to hear next? Hes what we have right now?

749
00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 1: Work first friends, boyfriend wanted to be in the music

750
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 1: industry or dad it for you? Yeah, we could have

751
00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 1: them vote right now. Yeah, where do you want to go?

752
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 1: Let's go get let's go dat it for it? So

753
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,480
Speaker 1: much pressure? Yeah, yeah, I could relate to this one.

754
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 1: So it says you're hopefully you see this last year

755
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 1: was rough, to say the least. To my wife and

756
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:54,720
Speaker 1: I had two mess carriages. We decided to stop trying

757
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:57,480
Speaker 1: and decided that that was God's plan. Well, I guess

758
00:46:57,520 --> 00:46:59,439
Speaker 1: he has another plan as we just found out she's

759
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 1: pregnant in So here's my question. One would you be

760
00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 1: willing to throw some prayers our way? And two I'm

761
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: pushing forty in February and I'm scared to death. I

762
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 1: wonder constantly am I gonna be too old to throw

763
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:15,160
Speaker 1: the ball around and such? And do you have any

764
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,319
Speaker 1: advice to new dads that feel like he's getting way

765
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 1: too old? And that would be so appreciated. Thanks Chad

766
00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 1: and Boys, so ps. I became a fan when I

767
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:26,880
Speaker 1: first saw you open for Garth Brooks and Boys that

768
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: you killed it. Brother. I still can't believe you have

769
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 1: to own for Garth, Dude, it's not even fair. Garth

770
00:47:33,760 --> 00:47:36,400
Speaker 1: was a really cool dude too. We've we've opened for

771
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 1: him twice now and both times he brought the whole

772
00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 1: band backstage, dedicated a certain amount of time just to

773
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:48,319
Speaker 1: talk with us and most opening acts, our most deadliners

774
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:50,719
Speaker 1: to have not done that. Yeah, that's awesome. Do you

775
00:47:50,719 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 1: think you can get him on a podcast or what? Yeah,

776
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,759
Speaker 1: he's not doing much. You'd be pretty good at it

777
00:47:56,880 --> 00:47:59,839
Speaker 1: and going through this quest, dude, Yeah, he would be

778
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:01,640
Speaker 1: just have to like every one, so all would have

779
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 1: to be like Garth, be serious. Yeah, yeah, Garth, if

780
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 1: you're watching this and you want to come, just I

781
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:13,759
Speaker 1: think we can make room. Yeah. But okay, dad at

782
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:19,320
Speaker 1: forty four, forty what's his name? It is Chad? Chad Chad.

783
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:24,319
Speaker 1: First of all, I could, I could. This is a

784
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:28,480
Speaker 1: great question for me because I am forty one and

785
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: we're pregnant doing August. So not only can I answer

786
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:36,759
Speaker 1: it that way, but I can also answer it the

787
00:48:36,800 --> 00:48:40,800
Speaker 1: fact that my dad was forty one when he had Parker,

788
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:44,960
Speaker 1: my youngest brother. So I have two instances, one that

789
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:48,880
Speaker 1: I'm currently living and one that I saw play out,

790
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 1: And I could tell you firsthand to ease your mind

791
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 1: that there is nothing scary or wrong with you being

792
00:48:59,719 --> 00:49:03,880
Speaker 1: a dad at forty The throwing the ball theory, so

793
00:49:05,239 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 1: you'll be throwing the ball in six or seven years.

794
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:13,120
Speaker 1: What you'll put your boys on. That's young. Yeah, and

795
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 1: then when they're in high school, graduating high school, you'll

796
00:49:17,280 --> 00:49:22,560
Speaker 1: be fifty eight. You'll be the older guy, you know.

797
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:24,799
Speaker 1: But I'm cool, I'm cool, and I'm accepting that that's

798
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:29,960
Speaker 1: gonna be fine. The only issue with all this is, like,

799
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 1: my dad died at sixty one, So the only issue

800
00:49:32,640 --> 00:49:37,800
Speaker 1: is if you take care of yourself, you'll be able

801
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 1: to see these grandkids. If not, then that just wasn't

802
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:47,720
Speaker 1: God's plan. But I assure you that you could ask Parker.

803
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 1: He didn't get he didn't get cheated in his young,

804
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:57,279
Speaker 1: growing up life because he had a dad that was

805
00:49:57,640 --> 00:50:03,319
Speaker 1: forty instead of twenty. So dude, I mean, yeah, I

806
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:08,280
Speaker 1: think you're You've got a three year old and you're forty,

807
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:11,280
Speaker 1: so it's not too different from me. Yeah, not too different.

808
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:17,399
Speaker 1: And yeah, they wear me out for sure. But here's

809
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 1: the thing. We are now in this age of media,

810
00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 1: which is a double edged sword, right. Yeah, But I

811
00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:31,760
Speaker 1: think that what you have to understand is the dad

812
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 1: throwing the ball with the kid is an image that

813
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:40,840
Speaker 1: media has projected to us to be commonplace. And this

814
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:46,200
Speaker 1: is normal. That's not how God works. There's no and

815
00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:49,359
Speaker 1: this is social media, this is TV, this is movie

816
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:52,880
Speaker 1: aggressive insurance, this is commercial. Yeah, this is this is

817
00:50:52,960 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: everything that makes us think that like, oh well I

818
00:50:57,040 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 1: gotta I gotta fit into this, I gotta look like this,

819
00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:01,719
Speaker 1: I have to do this with my son or I'm

820
00:51:01,719 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 1: gonna be the old guy and there's not going to

821
00:51:03,320 --> 00:51:07,759
Speaker 1: be any value to that. There is extreme value to

822
00:51:07,920 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 1: being a dead no matter the age, and being a

823
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:20,000
Speaker 1: consistent force of positive pushing them towards Jesus, towards helping others,

824
00:51:20,040 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: serving others, showing your son or daughter like how to

825
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:28,240
Speaker 1: how you love your wife, regardless of your age. That's

826
00:51:28,320 --> 00:51:33,840
Speaker 1: the legacy that you will give to them and that

827
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: you'll leave. And so take the things that you kind

828
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:39,640
Speaker 1: of have in your mind of like, oh, this is

829
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:42,319
Speaker 1: what it's supposed to be. No, what it's going to

830
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:45,880
Speaker 1: be is what it's supposed to be. There there is

831
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 1: no other normal for your life, and so just let

832
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:53,280
Speaker 1: it go and accept like, hey, this is my normal

833
00:51:53,360 --> 00:51:55,479
Speaker 1: and it's awesome, and you can look at it that way,

834
00:51:55,840 --> 00:51:58,480
Speaker 1: or we can always try to look at like, you know,

835
00:51:58,480 --> 00:51:59,799
Speaker 1: I can look at grange A's like and be like,

836
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 1: oh man, well I'm not doing this and that's normal.

837
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:05,319
Speaker 1: It's like, no, that's his, this is mine, and they're

838
00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 1: both great in a lot of different ways. And so

839
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 1: I say, just what's going to be is what's supposed

840
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:14,359
Speaker 1: to be. That's right. Take take ownership of it, and

841
00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 1: enjoy it the most that you can. Your kid is

842
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:22,080
Speaker 1: going to see that from you, that you learned how

843
00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:26,239
Speaker 1: to live fully in what was given to you with

844
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:32,759
Speaker 1: gratitude and thankfulness, not with regret that well, I'm sorry, son,

845
00:52:32,800 --> 00:52:34,560
Speaker 1: I can't go throw the ball with you because my

846
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 1: knee hurts, and you know that's going to happen. That

847
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 1: is all of us, and so just it. Yeah, accept

848
00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 1: it and just give it everything that you got, and

849
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:46,840
Speaker 1: I think you'll be great. That's why I bring you

850
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 1: on the podcast because I learned just as much as

851
00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 1: anyone else would. I wonder if anyone takes notes. I

852
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:55,560
Speaker 1: was thinking of you think anyone takes notes on this podcast.

853
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:58,319
Speaker 1: Sometimes I watch YouTube videos and take notes. Oh for sure.

854
00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:03,240
Speaker 1: I wonder if anyone does that. Yeah, because if anyone's

855
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:06,279
Speaker 1: taking notes, I want him to just underline what's going

856
00:53:06,320 --> 00:53:10,680
Speaker 1: to be is what it's supposed to be. Yeah, so good,

857
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:13,279
Speaker 1: and the other if somebody put that in like an

858
00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:16,640
Speaker 1: Instagram how you do put it on a thing and

859
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:20,400
Speaker 1: then share it and repost it and all that. What's crazy,

860
00:53:20,520 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 1: like the whole funny thing about this question, which is normal, Jet,

861
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 1: I think the same thing. But what's crazy about it

862
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:30,680
Speaker 1: is like maybe he's not even going to be a ballplayer, yeah,

863
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:34,359
Speaker 1: but you're planning on it. Like maybe maybe he's gonna

864
00:53:34,360 --> 00:53:36,879
Speaker 1: be a ping pong champion. Yeah, you know, I want

865
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:38,800
Speaker 1: to throw a ball with yet, but it's just not happening.

866
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:41,239
Speaker 1: I think he is right handed, but he thinks he's

867
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: left handed, so it just doesn't. So you never know

868
00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:47,400
Speaker 1: what you're gonna get. Man. Yeah, you're either gonna be

869
00:53:47,480 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 1: chess player, like a fantastic chess player. Yeah. Anyway, Yeah,

870
00:53:52,560 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 1: it's good to them, Thanks for asking. Chat. We got

871
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 1: two left for this one. We don't necessarily have to

872
00:53:57,120 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 1: get to both, but we'll get to one of them.

873
00:53:59,320 --> 00:54:02,800
Speaker 1: Work verse friends or boyfriend wanting to be in the

874
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 1: music industry. There's somebody out there screaming for one of them.

875
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:10,320
Speaker 1: R I know, please, Yeah, I'm giving it right. I

876
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:14,520
Speaker 1: read the audience meter. OK, I think you go. Let's

877
00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 1: start with the work versus friends. I feel like that's

878
00:54:21,560 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 1: a very broad Okay, it's just bringing up an interesting

879
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:28,600
Speaker 1: component to this podcast because it's now making the subject

880
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:31,719
Speaker 1: line important all of a sudden. So when you yeah

881
00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:34,640
Speaker 1: a grangishment podcast at GMO dot com, now you're gonna

882
00:54:34,640 --> 00:54:36,440
Speaker 1: be thinking about the subject climb that we're gonna be

883
00:54:36,520 --> 00:54:38,799
Speaker 1: me and verready are gonna be debating which one are

884
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:42,760
Speaker 1: you could gotta be clever this one says, I think gel.

885
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:45,680
Speaker 1: My name is Matt. I'm eighteen years old from Minnesota.

886
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 1: Shout out Minnesota. I'm a senior in high school. Been

887
00:54:48,560 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 1: a big fan of yours since I was in the

888
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 1: sixth grade. I work for my dad when he needs help.

889
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:56,600
Speaker 1: I also work on the family farm and I work

890
00:54:56,640 --> 00:55:02,200
Speaker 1: in HVAC. I need money to keep my crappy truck running,

891
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:04,840
Speaker 1: and I also want to hang out with friends. But

892
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:07,960
Speaker 1: it's hard. I work seven days a week, plus school

893
00:55:08,000 --> 00:55:10,719
Speaker 1: on top of that, and usually on weekends, I start

894
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 1: at seven am. Two start at seven am, I go

895
00:55:14,480 --> 00:55:17,719
Speaker 1: untill eight to nine pm. On the weekdays, I'll work

896
00:55:17,760 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 1: from two to eight or two to nine because I

897
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:23,759
Speaker 1: get out of school at one point forty. How do

898
00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:28,359
Speaker 1: I balance work with friends? It's winter right now and

899
00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:32,680
Speaker 1: I'll be working at a ski resort and plowing snow

900
00:55:33,120 --> 00:55:35,720
Speaker 1: for the same company I've been with since seventh grade.

901
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:37,440
Speaker 1: The only time I get see friends is when I

902
00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:39,520
Speaker 1: run into them at the gas station, or if I

903
00:55:39,560 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 1: get a day off, when I'll go hunting and fishing.

904
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 1: It's really hard to balance work and social life because

905
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:46,840
Speaker 1: it feels like all I do is work, But every

906
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:48,799
Speaker 1: cent that I make goes into my truck to keep

907
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: it running because it seems like every day there's something

908
00:55:51,160 --> 00:55:54,440
Speaker 1: else that's wrong with it. As winter rolls around, I'm

909
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 1: going to go into ice fishing because I have a

910
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:02,320
Speaker 1: brand new man. I have a brand new one. Man.

911
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:06,000
Speaker 1: I sorry, I'm trying to keep up with Minnesota here.

912
00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:09,360
Speaker 1: I have a brand new one man I check that

913
00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:12,440
Speaker 1: I used only two times last winter. Do you have

914
00:56:12,480 --> 00:56:17,040
Speaker 1: any advice on how to help me? Once again, Sometimes

915
00:56:17,040 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 1: when I get when I grab these emails, I'm grabbing

916
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:21,719
Speaker 1: the oldest one to keep them fresh. So this one

917
00:56:21,719 --> 00:56:24,400
Speaker 1: came from in October. That's why he's talking about wintertime,

918
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 1: and it also proves that he hasn't heard any of

919
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 1: the recent ones about these kids working hard. He's just yea,

920
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:33,880
Speaker 1: he wrote it. Well, let me just first say ee

921
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 1: Nation is like restoring my faith in the next generation

922
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:40,960
Speaker 1: because every kid I see is just on their phone

923
00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:42,600
Speaker 1: and they don't want to work. But these kids are

924
00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:46,640
Speaker 1: like sun up sundown. I get work done in like

925
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:49,560
Speaker 1: three hours so that I can get my schoolwork done

926
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:55,239
Speaker 1: so I can go make some money. And that's pretty impressive.

927
00:56:55,840 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 1: What's his name? Name is Matt? Matt Minnesota to Minnesota,

928
00:57:00,000 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 1: A hard workers in Minnesota. Yeah, I'm gonna send my

929
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:05,880
Speaker 1: kids up there with you for a little while. They

930
00:57:05,920 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 1: could use some education and work ethic. So let's dive

931
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 1: into it. And the first thing that comes to mind

932
00:57:12,320 --> 00:57:17,560
Speaker 1: is this truck. Yep. And in your Senate says, gotta

933
00:57:17,640 --> 00:57:21,520
Speaker 1: keep that truck find me, yes, because every cent that

934
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:23,920
Speaker 1: I make goes into my truck to keep it running.

935
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 1: Because it seems like every day there's something else wrong

936
00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:31,160
Speaker 1: with it. So may need a new truck, or may

937
00:57:31,240 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: need a new truck. Yeah, I'll just say again what

938
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 1: Gris said earlier, and don't he's eighteen, right, don't escape

939
00:57:40,480 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 1: being eighteen. You're working way too much for an eighteen

940
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 1: year old. I understand that you want to have a

941
00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:49,920
Speaker 1: truck and you want to, you know, work and go

942
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 1: to school and all that. But don't don't miss out.

943
00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 1: You're going to have the rest of your life to

944
00:57:55,160 --> 00:57:58,640
Speaker 1: work and to be worried about trucks and you know,

945
00:57:58,720 --> 00:58:01,440
Speaker 1: houses and all that stuff. So don't forget to be

946
00:58:01,560 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 1: eighteen and be a little bit carefree. And hopefully you

947
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 1: have some parents that can kind of help you pick

948
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 1: up the slack a little bit. But work life balance

949
00:58:13,600 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 1: is a big deal, whether you're eighteen or forty or whatever. Like,

950
00:58:18,680 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 1: that's a you know, a topic I think that everybody

951
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:24,880
Speaker 1: can somewhat relate to. Here's something that you might not

952
00:58:24,920 --> 00:58:29,360
Speaker 1: have thought about, Matt, is you're you have like three

953
00:58:29,720 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 1: or four scattered jobs on here. What if you've tried

954
00:58:33,320 --> 00:58:35,240
Speaker 1: to work on like instead of going to the ski

955
00:58:35,320 --> 00:58:40,480
Speaker 1: resort to shovel snow, or instead of age fac or

956
00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:44,160
Speaker 1: instead of your dad or instead of the family farm.

957
00:58:44,280 --> 00:58:47,720
Speaker 1: Those are four different things you said you do. What

958
00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:50,200
Speaker 1: if you try to start consolidating some of those jobs

959
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:54,480
Speaker 1: and joining forces with some of your good buddies. Like

960
00:58:54,480 --> 00:58:56,560
Speaker 1: what if you just picked one of those and just

961
00:58:56,800 --> 00:58:59,440
Speaker 1: like went to your buddies and say, hey, guys, you

962
00:58:59,440 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 1: want to get an HVAC with me, we'll just crush it.

963
00:59:02,200 --> 00:59:04,360
Speaker 1: We'll crush this company. And every day we'll meet at

964
00:59:04,400 --> 00:59:07,400
Speaker 1: eight am and we'll get breakfast and then we'll go

965
00:59:07,440 --> 00:59:10,480
Speaker 1: and we'll start. And so you're kind of you're making

966
00:59:10,520 --> 00:59:13,800
Speaker 1: money with your friends. You still have this social life,

967
00:59:14,280 --> 00:59:18,480
Speaker 1: and you're working hopefully less hours, and you're with your friends,

968
00:59:18,840 --> 00:59:22,240
Speaker 1: because it sounds like your schedule is so crazy that

969
00:59:22,280 --> 00:59:24,720
Speaker 1: you you don't have time to kind of soak in

970
00:59:24,800 --> 00:59:28,560
Speaker 1: one location and one group of people because you're piecing

971
00:59:28,640 --> 00:59:31,520
Speaker 1: out to this group and heading to another group. And

972
00:59:31,800 --> 00:59:35,440
Speaker 1: so side note, everybody, it's funny. On this podcast, I

973
00:59:35,440 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 1: was talking about pro tools and computers, and you might

974
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 1: have wondered how this section has sounded a little bit

975
00:59:42,680 --> 00:59:47,600
Speaker 1: different because I was so smart that I didn't plug

976
00:59:47,640 --> 00:59:50,360
Speaker 1: my power for it into my computer, so that whole

977
00:59:50,400 --> 00:59:52,880
Speaker 1: first half of the podcast, it just slowly ran out

978
00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:55,440
Speaker 1: of battery and then it died. So I don't I

979
00:59:55,480 --> 01:00:01,440
Speaker 1: didn't record audio on this entire second half of the podcast,

980
01:00:02,120 --> 01:00:04,800
Speaker 1: so I'm using the camera audio, So sorry it sounds funky.

981
01:00:05,080 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 1: So as good as Apple products are, you still like

982
01:00:09,120 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 1: them in they're not that good yet. Bernie is so

983
01:00:14,360 --> 01:00:18,120
Speaker 1: interesting to me that he's just I get caught up

984
01:00:18,160 --> 01:00:19,840
Speaker 1: talking to him and I forget to blow the computer,

985
01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:22,320
Speaker 1: and so that's never happened. But let's go back to

986
01:00:22,520 --> 01:00:25,400
Speaker 1: uh to our friend Matt here. Yeah, and Paul is

987
01:00:25,520 --> 01:00:30,640
Speaker 1: half his splices together ye somehow. So yeah, So what

988
01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:32,680
Speaker 1: I was saying is let's split up. Maybe you should

989
01:00:33,400 --> 01:00:36,920
Speaker 1: consolidate your jobs and work with your friends. I think

990
01:00:36,960 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 1: that's a great idea. I thought whenever I heard the question.

991
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:43,200
Speaker 1: I thought about coming to ye farm and I feel

992
01:00:43,200 --> 01:00:45,360
Speaker 1: like it's just a bunch of friends and family hanging out,

993
01:00:47,920 --> 01:00:50,480
Speaker 1: but they're also working, and I like step into these

994
01:00:50,520 --> 01:00:54,040
Speaker 1: like conversations about these creative things that they're trying to do.

995
01:00:54,120 --> 01:00:57,520
Speaker 1: So they're kind of doing what he's talking about. Find

996
01:00:57,520 --> 01:01:00,200
Speaker 1: somebody's find some family and you know the people you

997
01:01:00,200 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 1: love spending time with and just get together with them.

998
01:01:03,560 --> 01:01:07,400
Speaker 1: Say hey, guys, what can we do of these opportunities

999
01:01:07,440 --> 01:01:09,400
Speaker 1: that we have and we get to hang out together.

1000
01:01:09,440 --> 01:01:13,200
Speaker 1: We need to make some money and then maybe you

1001
01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:16,120
Speaker 1: can get a new truck too. Yeah. That's so. That's

1002
01:01:16,120 --> 01:01:19,960
Speaker 1: the thing too, is that you know your title is

1003
01:01:20,360 --> 01:01:23,840
Speaker 1: work verse friends and life is a sacrifice. And what

1004
01:01:23,880 --> 01:01:29,400
Speaker 1: you're describing as a sacrifice, you have to sacrifice for

1005
01:01:29,560 --> 01:01:35,160
Speaker 1: any kind of achievement or fulfillment. Everything is a sacrifice.

1006
01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:40,680
Speaker 1: So one thing you can consider is sacrificing your truck.

1007
01:01:40,840 --> 01:01:43,640
Speaker 1: And that's like taking the heart out of a country

1008
01:01:43,640 --> 01:01:46,680
Speaker 1: boy in a lot of ways. But you could go

1009
01:01:46,760 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 1: and get you a Ford Explorer. That's twenty two hundreds. Yeah,

1010
01:01:54,160 --> 01:01:57,880
Speaker 1: I mean you can. Yeah, And we've been thinking about

1011
01:01:57,920 --> 01:02:01,160
Speaker 1: getting a Prius for Earl was to like restore to

1012
01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:03,600
Speaker 1: like a country boy pri It's nice, but I'm looking

1013
01:02:03,600 --> 01:02:07,880
Speaker 1: in the two thousand dollars range. So you could sell

1014
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 1: this truck for if it's a really crappy like you said,

1015
01:02:11,920 --> 01:02:13,840
Speaker 1: let's say the best you can do is get eight

1016
01:02:13,960 --> 01:02:18,400
Speaker 1: hundred dollars for it. So then you need to get

1017
01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:21,200
Speaker 1: to like that two grand mark to get you like

1018
01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:24,840
Speaker 1: a good running Ford Explorer. I'm saying that, sure, right,

1019
01:02:25,600 --> 01:02:30,640
Speaker 1: jeep Cherokee. Yeah, to twenty two hundred dollars. That's reliable.

1020
01:02:30,640 --> 01:02:34,200
Speaker 1: It's not going to break down. Old Bronco too. Those

1021
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:36,240
Speaker 1: are awesome. You used to drive a Bronco too, Yeah,

1022
01:02:36,320 --> 01:02:42,200
Speaker 1: right now, So you might sacrifice your truck. So that's

1023
01:02:42,240 --> 01:02:44,919
Speaker 1: something to consider. You got it. You've mentioned it several

1024
01:02:44,960 --> 01:02:46,760
Speaker 1: times in your email it's a crappy truck, and it's

1025
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:50,280
Speaker 1: costing you a lot of money. If you dude, you

1026
01:02:50,280 --> 01:02:54,520
Speaker 1: you blow transmission, You need a new water pump. These

1027
01:02:54,520 --> 01:02:57,640
Speaker 1: are things that start getting close to one thousand dollars.

1028
01:02:57,680 --> 01:03:03,360
Speaker 1: That's halfway to a decent car itself, just in one repair. Yeah.

1029
01:03:03,400 --> 01:03:07,520
Speaker 1: So yeah, I would also say not just to Matt,

1030
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:10,560
Speaker 1: but to everybody out there who's trying to balance and

1031
01:03:10,680 --> 01:03:13,720
Speaker 1: kind of work with their you know, or figure out

1032
01:03:13,760 --> 01:03:19,360
Speaker 1: their work and friends situation. Is a lot of times

1033
01:03:19,360 --> 01:03:22,480
Speaker 1: there's some really good potential friends that you work with,

1034
01:03:23,320 --> 01:03:26,840
Speaker 1: but you're so ready to clock out and go hang

1035
01:03:26,880 --> 01:03:29,720
Speaker 1: out with your friends that you're really missing an opportunity.

1036
01:03:29,840 --> 01:03:32,120
Speaker 1: So I think the people that you work with you

1037
01:03:32,120 --> 01:03:36,120
Speaker 1: spend more time with than really anybody. So go into

1038
01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:38,440
Speaker 1: it with the perspective of, like, man, I'm going to

1039
01:03:38,520 --> 01:03:41,520
Speaker 1: really try to you know, talk to you know, Jesse

1040
01:03:41,720 --> 01:03:44,360
Speaker 1: today and like find a connection point. Maybe he likes

1041
01:03:44,360 --> 01:03:48,760
Speaker 1: to ice fish too, and you hopefully you work somewhere

1042
01:03:49,360 --> 01:03:51,640
Speaker 1: for a cause or a mission or something that you

1043
01:03:51,720 --> 01:03:55,600
Speaker 1: care about, so you both care about it and that

1044
01:03:55,680 --> 01:03:57,760
Speaker 1: you can start to form like a friendship with the

1045
01:03:57,800 --> 01:04:00,080
Speaker 1: people that you work with. And if you try that

1046
01:04:01,000 --> 01:04:03,400
Speaker 1: over an amount of time that it's like, Man, no,

1047
01:04:03,680 --> 01:04:06,120
Speaker 1: I'm not like minded with anybody here. I don't have

1048
01:04:06,160 --> 01:04:11,320
Speaker 1: any connection. Find another place to work, because you're probably

1049
01:04:11,400 --> 01:04:13,400
Speaker 1: just going to punch a clock and get out. And

1050
01:04:13,440 --> 01:04:16,920
Speaker 1: I understand, like jobs can't be, you know, always that

1051
01:04:17,000 --> 01:04:19,280
Speaker 1: easy to find. And I'm not advocating just you know,

1052
01:04:19,320 --> 01:04:21,959
Speaker 1: go quit your job, but there's something to be said

1053
01:04:22,000 --> 01:04:26,760
Speaker 1: for like enjoying what you do and enjoying the people

1054
01:04:27,480 --> 01:04:29,800
Speaker 1: that are involved in what you do. And I definitely

1055
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:32,240
Speaker 1: get that, you know, whenever I come here with you guys.

1056
01:04:32,760 --> 01:04:35,240
Speaker 1: So Matt, best of luck to your brother. Life is

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Speaker 1: music business. Yeah, I know the time yep, But if

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