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Speaker 1: Dropping a gang.

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Speaker 2: Jake Lazier of Unbreakable with a mental health checkup for

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Speaker 2: Unbreakable Mental Health podcast.

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Speaker 1: And today is a little bit easier than the last

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Speaker 1: couple of days.

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Speaker 2: Last couple of days, I've really struggled because I did

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Speaker 2: have a close friend of mine take his life.

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Speaker 1: This past weekend, and it's just it's not okay.

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Speaker 2: And I love them, but I'm aguarry at him and

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Speaker 2: we have I think too many of us we loved

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Speaker 2: in our problems with our mental health issues, and we

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Speaker 2: think the suicide is an acceptable out to our pain. Again,

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Speaker 2: I got pain every day, but I'm not going to

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Speaker 2: do this to my son and my fiance and everybody else.

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Speaker 2: I'll keep working, working, working, And you know, I've kind

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Speaker 2: of gotten back.

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Speaker 1: And forth with people, and I know it's a disease.

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Speaker 2: I get it, but I also try and vialilize suicide,

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Speaker 2: so it's not an acceptable option for us a lot.

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Speaker 2: And I do try to get mad when I hear

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Speaker 2: about it because I'm trying to villainize it and trying

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Speaker 2: to make it where it's not.

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Speaker 1: An okay option.

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Speaker 2: And yes, the pain is real, but when you do it,

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Speaker 2: you just leave all of us with your pain and

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Speaker 2: your problems, and that's not fair to us.

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Speaker 1: So it's been a difficult a couple of days.

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Speaker 2: Going back and forth between loving them and being mad,

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Speaker 2: and loving them and being mad. And that's okay. I

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Speaker 2: could process it that way, but it gives me an

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Speaker 2: opportunity also to remind people that that's just not an

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Speaker 2: okay option for us. And look, I've had pain for

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Speaker 2: my entire life and I'm fifty three and I finally

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Speaker 2: have found love. It took me fifty three years to

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Speaker 2: find this kind of love. And for years I just

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Speaker 2: beat up on myself, like, man.

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Speaker 1: Why am I so one love? That must be a

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Speaker 1: horrible person. I must be awful. And that's what led

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Speaker 1: to a lot of my issues. But I never boiled,

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Speaker 1: and fifty three years later, years later, I finally got

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Speaker 1: that love. So you never know what lies around next Tuesday.

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Speaker 2: You never know when your issues are going to you

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Speaker 2: know you're going to be able to pass by some

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Speaker 2: of those issues. But also, like life is about overcoming adversity,

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Speaker 2: it is about overcoming problems.

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Speaker 1: It's not out of it.

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Speaker 2: It's not rosy all the time. So we've got to

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Speaker 2: overcome versus. We have to overcome our issues and taking our.

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Speaker 1: Lives cannot be an option for us. I just want

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Speaker 1: to implore everyone cannot be an option.

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Speaker 2: And then not only that, but another friend of mine

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Speaker 2: was supposed to be with him and he's being up

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Speaker 2: on himself because he wasn't there and that's not fair

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Speaker 2: to him.

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Speaker 1: So just being real with everybody today, told you all

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Speaker 1: I would always be real with this.

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Speaker 2: And you know, some people may say it's not fair

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Speaker 2: of me to say that I'm upsehut with him, or

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Speaker 2: I thought it was selfish. Other people may say, hey,

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Speaker 2: you're right, that's how we have to view it. But

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Speaker 2: that's what I want to put out there because I

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Speaker 2: do want to villainize it so we don't think it's

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Speaker 2: an acceptable option for us because of the pain that

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Speaker 2: we're going to leave behind to so many others.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for hearing me out. And look, if you are

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Speaker 1: thinking about this being an option, make sure you talk

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Speaker 1: to people, reshop to the hotline that's out there, reshop

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Speaker 1: to other people, just cheap exploring ways to help yourself.

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Speaker 1: And we need you around. We got to avy around.

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Speaker 1: We all got to stick together and be in this together.

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Speaker 2: And I know it's hard and I know the pain

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Speaker 2: is sometimes insufferable.

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Speaker 1: I totally, totally, totally get it.

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Speaker 2: But we've got to figure out a way to make

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Speaker 2: suicide not our option and hold on for anybody or

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Speaker 2: anybody else we love, or just have some faith that

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Speaker 2: things can get a little bit easier better in the future.

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Speaker 1: And even if you can't, just hold on. And if

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Speaker 1: you can't see it, just hold on, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: and just be.

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Speaker 2: Therefore, the future can could eventually bring you or put

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Speaker 2: more than anything.

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Speaker 1: Hold on for those around you so we don't pass

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Speaker 1: that pain to others. Let's keep walking this walk together.