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Speaker 2: When everyone's firing you, letting go of you, telling you

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Speaker 2: Has Talking about your emotion has always been something that

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Speaker 1: And I feel like I've matured a lot thanks to

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Speaker 1: Thank you for having me. Jay. I want you to

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Speaker 1: I feel like almost killing my aunt Chippy got more

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Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know. People seem to think like,

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00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 1: first of all, people approach you cautiously in a way

437
00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:37,360
Speaker 1: about it, like, oh, so you're having like like I'm

438
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,159
Speaker 1: gonna be upset about this? What kind of an asshole

439
00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 1: would be upset about having her grandchild? But I guess

440
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,880
Speaker 1: people don't want to be thought of as old, and

441
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:48,800
Speaker 1: I don't really care that much about that. I'm just

442
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 1: excited to have a little and also being a grandparent.

443
00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:55,680
Speaker 1: I think it's gonna be, first of all, an incredible

444
00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:57,920
Speaker 1: way to get revenge on my children.

445
00:22:59,440 --> 00:23:02,160
Speaker 2: Tell me, how, uh, what are the pranks that are bringing.

446
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:05,159
Speaker 1: Not even pranks, just all the things they did to

447
00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:07,520
Speaker 1: me that they're gonna say. I know they're gonna go,

448
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 1: don't give please put them to bed before eleven o'clock,

449
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,360
Speaker 1: you know, don't give them a bunch of Reese's pieces.

450
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna nod, just like my parents do. And

451
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 1: then I'm gonna do all the shit they don't want

452
00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 1: me to do. And I think that's one of the

453
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:26,400
Speaker 1: grands where the circle of life, you know. But it's

454
00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:29,919
Speaker 1: fun and it's exciting, and it's strange to see my

455
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,840
Speaker 1: daughter as a mom. I think that for me is

456
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:35,680
Speaker 1: is that it's not really about how I feel, because

457
00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 1: I've always felt like the same person. I feel like

458
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,160
Speaker 1: I'm the same person I was when I was nine

459
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 1: years old. But to see like your daughter holding a

460
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:47,440
Speaker 1: baby and smiling is it's, yeah, people know, it's great.

461
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely give it up. It's it's beautiful to hear

462
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 2: about that, because yeah, it's uh, I've I have no experience.

463
00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:58,160
Speaker 1: You have no grandchildren.

464
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:02,360
Speaker 2: I have kids, no grandkids, And it's really fascinating watching

465
00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:06,120
Speaker 2: someone you love grow into becoming someone else. Like you said,

466
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:08,439
Speaker 2: it was strange watching her do it what are you

467
00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:11,679
Speaker 2: noticing in her that's that feels that way.

468
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: Well, she's breastfeeding, which she'd never done before. You know,

469
00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 1: she's just seeing My daughter is very funny. All my

470
00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:26,520
Speaker 1: kids are really funny. My daughter, Katie is very funny.

471
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 1: She's got a very strange sense of humor. She's an artist.

472
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 1: She makes these funny ceramics. Her name is Katie Kimmel.

473
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:35,840
Speaker 1: You could see her on Instagram and she you will

474
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,360
Speaker 1: get you will understand what I'm talking about. She does

475
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 1: like today she sent me like I sent her a

476
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 1: text this morning and I said, you're not posting enough

477
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:47,119
Speaker 1: pictures of the baby on the stream, And so she

478
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 1: just posted a bunch of pictures of the baby screaming

479
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:53,640
Speaker 1: and crying, and the baby's wearing a onesie that says

480
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 1: I'm eleven years old. So I know she's gotta you know,

481
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 1: she's not going to be a traditional mom, but just

482
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 1: seeing or be a mom is is Uh, it's just funny.

483
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 1: It's it's I think it's like anything like when I

484
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,200
Speaker 1: try to remember how old I am, I don't know

485
00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:14,679
Speaker 1: if you ever forget how old you are? Yeah, I

486
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:16,960
Speaker 1: have to remember how old My sister is an ad

487
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: three years. That's how I get to it. And just

488
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 1: seeing my kids become adults and my both of my

489
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:30,000
Speaker 1: older kids are married, and like having to pay rent

490
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 1: and to and be a husband and a wife is weird.

491
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:38,200
Speaker 1: It's just weird. You know, it's great, but it's weird.

492
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, they obviously inherited your comedic gene. It sounds like, yeah,

493
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 2: I know, I don't.

494
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 1: I wouldn't necessarily classified as genius. But they are very

495
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 1: funny and they're just very good people. I think more important. No,

496
00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: funny's more important there, let me rank it. Hold on

497
00:25:55,600 --> 00:26:00,040
Speaker 1: a second. Yeah, funny definitely more important than good, but

498
00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:01,720
Speaker 1: both important, super important.

499
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, but what's a part of you that you didn't

500
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 2: want them to inherit?

501
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 1: My nose? I didn't want my daughter to have my beard,

502
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 1: for sure. My anxiety maybe, of course, you know, kids

503
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:20,399
Speaker 1: they inherit that, whether you want them to or not.

504
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: But I think anxiety, yeah, And I think like growing

505
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:28,439
Speaker 1: up without any money adds a measure of anxiety. But

506
00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,520
Speaker 1: then you realize, like, you know, my older kids, I

507
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 1: didn't have any money when they were growing up, and

508
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 1: now my younger kids I do. It's interesting because they

509
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: somehow managed to get to the anxiety like they find

510
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:43,440
Speaker 1: different paths to it. It has nothing. It turns out

511
00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 1: it doesn't like for me. Like when I was a

512
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: kid and I love to draw. I told you I

513
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: would get like a set of pens for Christmas, and

514
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 1: I would never want to use them because if I

515
00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 1: use them, they'd run out. And so I'd have these

516
00:26:56,440 --> 00:27:01,160
Speaker 1: pens that I never used and eventually they just dry out.

517
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: Because we lived in Las Vegas, and what it's terrible thing.

518
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 1: So now you know what I do. I buy a

519
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:13,760
Speaker 1: million art supplies and the house is like a dick blick.

520
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 1: You know that my house is just full of these

521
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,639
Speaker 1: art supplies. And I know that I will never I

522
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 1: will not live long enough to use all this stuff,

523
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 1: but knowing it's there makes me feel like I've conquered

524
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:30,360
Speaker 1: that anxiety in some way by hoarding. By hoarding, So.

525
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 2: The reason why anyone else can't get art supplies is

526
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:37,119
Speaker 2: Jimmy Kimmel, that's right, Yes, walk me through what anxiety

527
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 2: really feels like at this point now in your life.

528
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 2: How are your relationship with it's changed over that time,

529
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:45,199
Speaker 2: from going from being anxious about not having money, no

530
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 2: having resources, not having a job, what does that look

531
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 2: like As the externals change, what happens on the inside.

532
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 1: Well, it's a lot simpler when you don't have any money,

533
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,880
Speaker 1: because the things you're thinking about are, you know, do

534
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:02,359
Speaker 1: I have enough cash in mycking account to have lunch

535
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:05,159
Speaker 1: today to get a twenty dollars bill out? And like

536
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, I have twenty one dollars and eighteen cents. Great,

537
00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 1: you know, and that's significant certainly. But then you get

538
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 1: in a wind have been a position where a lot

539
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: of people rely on you for a lot of things,

540
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:23,880
Speaker 1: and people will come to you with very serious needs,

541
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:29,399
Speaker 1: serious requests. Your relationship with people changes. It's hard to

542
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:33,240
Speaker 1: navigate that. It's hard to even find people to talk

543
00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 1: about it with. There are, as far as I know,

544
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: no books on how to handle it. And you wind

545
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: up having these kind of like intimate conversations with famous

546
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 1: people you don't even really know that well. I mean, like,

547
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: I know a guy who is a real like family guy,

548
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 1: who's a very wealthy guy. He's a very famous actor.

549
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 1: And I said, how many houses have you bought for

550
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 1: your your family? And he thought about for a second

551
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 1: and he goes, seventeen. That was my reaction too, and

552
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 1: you can't be the nephew anymore. At that point. You're

553
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 1: the person that people go to when they need something,

554
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,520
Speaker 1: and it can be a lot, you know, it really can.

555
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I certainly I shouldn't complain. Now it sounds

556
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 1: like I'm complaining. Oh Jesus. We all have problems, right,

557
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: I mean some of them are just different than others.

558
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you do about that anxiety? What do

559
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 2: you do with it? Just buy more houses.

560
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 1: For the most part. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it depends, you know,

561
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 1: But I'm hopefully getting better about it, you know, because

562
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 1: it's hard to explain to people when they want money,

563
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:46,280
Speaker 1: but your relationship with them is more important than that money.

564
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 1: And then sometimes you realize like, oh wait, their relationship

565
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 1: with me is not more important than the money, and

566
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 1: that's when you have to reevaluate the relationship.

567
00:29:56,360 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 2: That's tough. Yeah, it's hard, that's really really t uh.

568
00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:04,120
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, is there someone particular or someone specific

569
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 2: that you think about when you when you share that.

570
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 1: My wife, ha ha, she sucking me dry? Jaye? How

571
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: much do I get for this? Do I get paid?

572
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 2: No?

573
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:15,479
Speaker 1: No?

574
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 2: No, sh no, she made you do this for free?

575
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 1: No, there's no one in particularly, just it comes up,

576
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 1: you know, it happens.

577
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:26,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, in my small journey with it, I've definitely experienced

578
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 2: as well, losing people that you thought you were close to. Yeah,

579
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 2: realizing what standard or frequency of relationship you had with

580
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 2: someone and you put them up here and you thought

581
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 2: you had this bond and actually realized it was just

582
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 2: based on finances or access or whatever it may be.

583
00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, you get an email from somebody you went to

584
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 1: the sixth grade with asking for a huge amount of

585
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:51,480
Speaker 1: money for something nonsensical.

586
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:56,719
Speaker 2: It's not even for a charity, it's never it's crazy.

587
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 2: Any crazy requests you can share.

588
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:01,479
Speaker 1: Uh, you know, Yeah, we've had a lot of raising requests.

589
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,239
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, people think you can wave a

590
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 1: magic wand and make all their problems go away, and

591
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: it's not true. You know, even if a lot of

592
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 1: times you give them what they want, they still have

593
00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 1: to deal with whatever got them there in the first place. So,

594
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: you know, trying to keep that in mind I think

595
00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 1: is important. But these are not the kinds of things

596
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 1: that occur to people when they were in a pinch.

597
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely, You've been talking about your wife allow tonight

598
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:26,480
Speaker 2: and how long have you been.

599
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: Together now we are celebrating our twelfth anniversary in July.

600
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: We've been together I don't know, like sixteen years or

601
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:37,960
Speaker 1: something like that.

602
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:40,800
Speaker 2: That's beautiful. And I believe you met on the show.

603
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 1: I did, Yes, we met on the show. My wife

604
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 1: is the executive producer, one of the executive producers of

605
00:31:46,160 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 1: the show. And we made love. And I asked her.

606
00:31:52,480 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 2: Say, it wasn't you and your guest it was.

607
00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 1: I got right to it. Yeah, no, she was not

608
00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: a guest. Now, it wasn't like us.

609
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:05,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, it wasn't like us, a bit different. This is terrible.

610
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 1: This is uh, it's terrible that I'm very gentles.

611
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 2: This is all my this is this is what my

612
00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 2: British friends worry about LA being like this is this

613
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 2: is what they all worry about.

614
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,240
Speaker 1: You mean, all the friends who got buggered in boarding

615
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 1: school are worried about now.

616
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 2: They're all like, what's what all the parties in LA like?

617
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:28,480
Speaker 2: And you know, I'd be like, what's Jimmy Kimmel actually like?

618
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna have to show them this.

619
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, let them know, invite them over.

620
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 2: Above from the Franks. What have been the There's a

621
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 2: lot of people out here either looking for love who've

622
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 2: we're still searching And everyone always says it's always hard

623
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 2: to date in La. Yeah is that true?

624
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 1: I think it is. I mean I've never really been

625
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 1: in that position. I've gone from one long term relationship

626
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 1: to another. But certainly people close to me and my

627
00:32:57,280 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: life of I've seen them have a really hard time

628
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 1: and even like think like, well maybe I should move

629
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 1: back to Chicago and that kind of thing, and I go, well,

630
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 1: wait a minute, but there's there's just the people here

631
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 1: and there whatever. And obviously the apps have changed that

632
00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 1: a lot, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse,

633
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 1: I guess, depending on what your intentions are. But yeah,

634
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 1: sometimes I feel bad for people because it does seem

635
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: to be hard.

636
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:25,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's been the secret for your connection? What's been

637
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 2: the secret source? That's sixteen years and the twelve years

638
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 2: of marriage.

639
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 1: Left to my own devices, I'm not great, okay, but

640
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 1: my wife is very good. She will say she wants

641
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: to I'm just checking in with you, and I'm like,

642
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: what is this checking in? She probably learned it from.

643
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 2: You, just checking all right? Yeah, that sounds about right.

644
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 2: There's four check ins. There's one every week, one every month.

645
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 2: When every quarter and one every.

646
00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 1: Year, and I get nervous. I'm like, well, what are

647
00:33:57,400 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: you checking in about? What am I a motel? It's like, no,

648
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: just how are you? How you doing? I'm like, Oh,

649
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:11,520
Speaker 1: I'm fine? What did you hear? I don't know? I

650
00:34:11,560 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 1: have a very I have tunnel vision, you know, Like,

651
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 1: I got stuff I need to get done, and I

652
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:19,239
Speaker 1: want to get it done, and sometimes I forget it.

653
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 1: There are other human beings around me that, you know,

654
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 1: would like to check in from time to time. So

655
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 1: I've learned a lot, and I'm still not great at it,

656
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 1: but I am better at it than I was. And

657
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 1: I feel like I've matured a lot thanks to my wife.

658
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 1: And in what way have I matured? Oh Jesus Christ.

659
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 2: You don't get away with saying I knew you would.

660
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:49,120
Speaker 1: Do this, Shay, I knew it. I knew coming in here.

661
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:57,800
Speaker 1: What ways have I matured? Now? When we hold hands,

662
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 1: I don't take hers and put it behind me and

663
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:07,400
Speaker 1: fart on it anymore. And that's a big step for me.

664
00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 1: All right, Let me get serious here. It's hard. I

665
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: make jokes when I'm confronted with a serious situation. No,

666
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 1: don't ask her, I don't know if she wants to

667
00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 1: be asked. Oh, she's standing, she wants to be asked. Huh,

668
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 1: all right, I need a mite, all right before she

669
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 1: gets up here, Jay, I should just say I haven't matured.

670
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: I was lying. I just wanted to sound I wanted

671
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 1: to fit in with the podcast. Oh this is what

672
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 1: it was. Yeah, right, I sit on my lap.

673
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not gonna sit on you. I'm not gonna

674
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:58,440
Speaker 3: sit on your lap. He gets uncomfortable when we talk

675
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 3: about serious things. He's definitely maturing in that area.

676
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:03,239
Speaker 1: Well, I don't see any evidence of that.

677
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:05,360
Speaker 3: I'd like to say, first of all, I'm very proud

678
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 3: of you coming here and being here, because I think

679
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:16,359
Speaker 3: that's mature of you. Jimmy is incredibly self deprecating if

680
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:20,280
Speaker 3: you can't tell, and that's his defense, which is beautiful

681
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 3: and wonderful, and we all get to enjoy it.

682
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 2: But I get.

683
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:26,919
Speaker 3: To tell people how wonderful you are, and I love

684
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 3: to do that. And I think one of the things,

685
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 3: the most beautiful things you've done and evolving as a

686
00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:39,520
Speaker 3: human is sharing your story regularly on the show, fighting

687
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 3: for health care, for children, fighting for people.

688
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: I think I.

689
00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 3: Think maybe you went from being a little more inward

690
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 3: to outward over the last decade of your life. I

691
00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 3: think it's been beautiful to witness.

692
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:57,400
Speaker 1: Well, thank you for bringing it out of me.

693
00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:58,240
Speaker 2: You're welcome.

694
00:36:59,239 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 1: Thank you.

695
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 2: All right.

696
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:02,919
Speaker 3: You have a lot of more work to do though,

697
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,359
Speaker 3: So Jimmy, Jimmy, now it's your time.

698
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 2: We need uh, you know, turn this into a session. Yeah, okay,

699
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:10,720
Speaker 2: now it's your time. Please.

700
00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: Well, first of all, is it just me or does

701
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 1: it suddenly smell like toast?

702
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 2: It does? You're having a stroke?

703
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: He's having a stroke. Oh, wouldn't you love that? Well? Yeah,

704
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:33,280
Speaker 1: you know, I'm always amazed at how easily these kind

705
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:35,239
Speaker 1: words come out of my wife, and not just for me,

706
00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:38,120
Speaker 1: but for others like you. There's nobody you'd rather have

707
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:42,400
Speaker 1: give a toast at your birthday dinner, because she really

708
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:46,800
Speaker 1: speaks from the heart and speaks very beautifully and makes

709
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: people feel really good. And I don't think there's any

710
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:50,839
Speaker 1: better quality than that.

711
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:56,799
Speaker 2: Thank you. I love you, and I love you. I

712
00:37:56,840 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 2: love you too much. Thank you so much. We'll see

713
00:38:04,080 --> 00:38:09,359
Speaker 2: other night goes life to all right? Thank you, give

714
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 2: it up for everyone.

715
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:17,960
Speaker 1: Thank you. Oh you really put me on the spot there, Jay.

716
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 2: Oh, she saved you. She saved me, He saved you.

717
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, putty on the spot.

718
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 1: But you're right.

719
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:26,800
Speaker 2: Okay, So now we're going from couples therapy to individual therapy.

720
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: Okay, great?

721
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,319
Speaker 2: Has talking about your emotion has always been something that

722
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 2: you found challenging not useful, Like we're on that spectrum.

723
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 2: Talk talk to me about that. What what spectrum is like?

724
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 2: What does that look like?

725
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 1: Like? Well, I think my dad's the same way because

726
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:47,160
Speaker 1: I hear my mother yelling at him about it. But yeah,

727
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: it's very you know, I can write a nice letter,

728
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 1: I'm good with that, but there's something about expressing myself

729
00:38:55,200 --> 00:39:00,400
Speaker 1: in a very honest way that it's difficult for me.

730
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: Why is it.

731
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 2: The answers within the answers with this only you kids?

732
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 1: A lot of stuff in there. I'm not sure I

733
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 1: want to go rummaging around you. There's a whole pizza

734
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:17,439
Speaker 1: in there.

735
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 2: But first, here's a quick word from the brands that

736
00:39:23,040 --> 00:39:26,799
Speaker 2: support the show. All right, thank you to our sponsors.

737
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:29,359
Speaker 2: Now let's dive back in. When was the last time

738
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 2: you felt like you accessed that part without a letter

739
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:34,480
Speaker 2: and you were able to share that part of you?

740
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:38,880
Speaker 1: About eighty six seconds ago, there were your emotions.

741
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,920
Speaker 2: Your emotions not about someone else, but how you feel about.

742
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:44,319
Speaker 1: Something about someone else. Well, no, no, not.

743
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 2: How you feel about someone else, how you feel about

744
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 2: your own emotions or feeling an emotion that may be

745
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 2: uncomfortable or difficult or challenging. When was the last time

746
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 2: you feel? You did?

747
00:39:54,960 --> 00:40:03,920
Speaker 1: Do that with our therapist last Friday? A. It's easier

748
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 1: with the therapist, you know. I was listening to you

749
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 1: with Bert Kreischer. Yeah, you had him on your podcast. Yeah,

750
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: and he said something. He said that after after he

751
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: and his wife go to therapy, he declares a winner.

752
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 2: Do you do this anything?

753
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 1: No? But I like that a lot who wins, you know,

754
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:32,799
Speaker 1: I don't think anybody wins. Really No, I think it's

755
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 1: just helpful. I think it's really a good thing. I

756
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 1: find it very uncomfortable, but I'm never I'm never not

757
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:42,880
Speaker 1: glad that I did it afterwards. I think it's just

758
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: a good thing to talk. I mean, maybe it's the

759
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: reason why we can talk as humans, because we're supposed to.

760
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 1: And I think it's good. And I think a lot

761
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:57,600
Speaker 1: of guys don't like to go to therapy, and then

762
00:40:57,640 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 1: they're looking for somebody who's going to be on there,

763
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:03,759
Speaker 1: and they're looking for a referee more than a therapist,

764
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 1: and that's probably not the way to go in it.

765
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:09,440
Speaker 1: I will say from my own personal experience that I

766
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 1: recommend it both individually and together. And I think that

767
00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 1: it's helped me a lot in my life to sort

768
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: things out, you know, And I think what you do

769
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,680
Speaker 1: is is, you know, is very helpful for people because

770
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:28,840
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously, you know, there are a lot of

771
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,399
Speaker 1: people here just trying to figure out who they are

772
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 1: and how to go about their lives and how to

773
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 1: be happy. And it's hard. It's hard to figure out

774
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 1: to be happy. I mean, there's no logical reason why

775
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,799
Speaker 1: we should should be happy. It doesn't make sense. There

776
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:46,840
Speaker 1: are so many people suffering, and there's so many sad

777
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: and bad things happening, and it feels selfish sometimes to

778
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:54,879
Speaker 1: be happy. There's like, oh, yeah, great, things are going

779
00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 1: great for you. But look what's you know, kids don't

780
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,879
Speaker 1: have lunch, and I think that it takes a lot

781
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:04,359
Speaker 1: to remember that that's not good for you and it's

782
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,800
Speaker 1: not helping anybody. And if you really want to do something,

783
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:10,759
Speaker 1: do something, don't just worry about it. And so that's

784
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:14,800
Speaker 1: that's something that I think is important. And I also

785
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 1: found that, like you know, sometimes people want advice, and

786
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 1: sometimes I want advice, And sometimes people who are asking

787
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 1: you for advice don't really want to They don't want advice,

788
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:31,479
Speaker 1: they just want something. And I always think that when

789
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 1: you're really down, when you're when you're feeling low, and

790
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:42,120
Speaker 1: when you're looking for answers, helping other people is always

791
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 1: a help. It always makes you feel better. So if

792
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 1: there's a situation where you're feeling worthless, or you're you know,

793
00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 1: you're feeling unloved or whatever, the best thing you can

794
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 1: do is to help someone else, because and for yourself,

795
00:42:57,600 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 1: not even for them. It's it's almost a selfish thing

796
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 1: to do, and I think it always works.

797
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:10,359
Speaker 2: I agree. I love that. I love that, Jimmy, You've

798
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 2: been amazing. Tonight. We end every on Purpose interview with

799
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 2: a final five. These questions have to be answered in

800
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 2: one word to one sentence maximum, So, Jimmy Kimmel, these

801
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 2: are your final five. The first question is what is

802
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:26,440
Speaker 2: the best advice you've ever heard or received?

803
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 1: Well, it's not be yourself. We learned that earlier. Listen, Listen,

804
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:36,280
Speaker 1: that's the best advice.

805
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 2: Who did you hear that from?

806
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:42,320
Speaker 1: I heard it from a priest, Yeah, a friend of

807
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,239
Speaker 1: mine who's a priest. Yeah. I said, what do you

808
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 1: do when people come to you and they say, you know,

809
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: my son is dying and I don't believe in God?

810
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 1: He said, I just listened to them. Good advice speaking

811
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 1: about that.

812
00:43:55,880 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 2: You've been very open about your son's heart condition, and

813
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,720
Speaker 2: that's been some thing that I imagine is extremely difficult.

814
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 1: Well not anymore because he's he's doing great, but it was,

815
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: yeah for sure.

816
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well what helped you at that time? What helps

817
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:16,840
Speaker 2: you in such a difficult diet situation?

818
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:21,839
Speaker 1: And well, number one Children's hospital here in Los Angeles

819
00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:33,279
Speaker 1: help me. And the support, the support from family and strangers.

820
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:42,359
Speaker 1: And I'm a religious person. I grew up going to church,

821
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 1: Catholic and all those things. But and I think that

822
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 1: the thoughts and prayers that gets thrown around a lot

823
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 1: people when they say they pray for you, that's to

824
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:59,600
Speaker 1: take a moment of your day to stop and think

825
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 1: about out someone else and their child. It's a it's

826
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 1: a small sacrifice, but it's a meaningful one. Whether you

827
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 1: believe in prayer or not. It's I just think it's

828
00:45:21,320 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 1: powerful and meaningful. And I know that's more than one sentence,

829
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 1: but that's that's the answer.

830
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:34,440
Speaker 2: Thank you, June, thank you so much. That was actually

831
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 2: just question number one. I just I just snuck another

832
00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 2: one in there. No question on the two, what is

833
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 2: the worst advice you ever had or receive?

834
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: I you know, I don't really have an answer to that.

835
00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 1: I think that the worst thing you can do, and

836
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 1: I've done it, and it's something that I've learned is

837
00:45:55,360 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 1: to is to lash out. You got to take a

838
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:05,760
Speaker 1: beat and think about what you're saying, because you'll wish

839
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:06,280
Speaker 1: you had.

840
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:07,440
Speaker 2: Yeah.

841
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:10,359
Speaker 1: So sometimes there are people that you know, just want

842
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:15,520
Speaker 1: you to bring down the hammer of four and that's

843
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 1: not usually the way I go.

844
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Speaker 2: I like that, all right. Question on the three, what's

845
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:21,279
Speaker 2: the first thing you do in the morning and the

846
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 2: last thing you do at night?

847
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:29,840
Speaker 1: Oh? Brush my teeth? Well, you mean besides pe I guess, uh, yeah,

848
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 1: you know. We have you know, we have an eight

849
00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:34,360
Speaker 1: year old and a ten year old in the house.

850
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:37,680
Speaker 1: So he comes in, our eight year old and pounces

851
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: on us in the morning and I'd just like to

852
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 1: snuggle with him, and then he wants us to come

853
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 1: to bed with him at night and put him asleep

854
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:47,239
Speaker 1: every night. And we know that we shouldn't do it

855
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 1: every night, but we just want to. We want to

856
00:46:49,920 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 1: get in there with him, and most of the time

857
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:57,279
Speaker 1: we're very easy to convince. So those are the you know,

858
00:46:57,360 --> 00:46:59,399
Speaker 1: the best in the morning with the kids in the bed,

859
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:01,600
Speaker 1: and then again at night with the kids in the bed.

860
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:07,479
Speaker 2: That all right? Last two questions, Question umber four. What's

861
00:47:07,520 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 2: something that you used to value that you no longer value?

862
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 1: My parents? No, I love my parents, you know what.

863
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 1: I don't drink much anymore. I used to. You know,

864
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 1: I was never I never like had a problem or

865
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:31,919
Speaker 1: anything like that. But I've just it's less interesting to me. Now.

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Speaker 2: Why Why is that?

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Speaker 1: Because I'm so high all the time? We call that

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Speaker 1: California sober, I believe you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all right. Fifth, fifth and final question. We asked

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Speaker 2: this to every guest who's ever been on the show.

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Speaker 2: If you could create one law that everyone in the

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Speaker 2: world had to follow, what would it be.

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Speaker 1: It's the golden rule, do unto others. That's it. That's so,

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Speaker 1: that's the whole thing. Still, that's all you If we

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Speaker 1: all did that, we would we'd be doing great.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Jimmy, You've got one special segment to wrap it

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Speaker 2: up for you. Okay, I want to show you something

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Speaker 2: behind you. If you can get the first one up,

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Speaker 2: take a.

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Speaker 1: Look, that's me.

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Speaker 2: What what advice would you give to your youngest self,

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Speaker 2: to that self, that youngest self.

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Speaker 1: To young Jimmy Kimmel in the seventh grade? Play the

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Speaker 1: saxophone instead of the clarinet. You're never getting late?

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Speaker 2: I love it. Can we get a second up? Looking

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00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 2: very daffa? What does what does Jimmy Kimmel need to hear?

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Speaker 2: Right now?

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Speaker 1: Get away from that young boy? You mean me right,

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Speaker 1: both of you, and.

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Speaker 2: Then let's get the one courtesy of my You.

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Speaker 1: Know, honestly, I never even thought i'd own a suit,

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Speaker 1: so I'm ahead of the game right now. I think, Oh,

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Speaker 1: was that Ai Me in the future?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Uh? Why is my beard the same color as it

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Speaker 1: is now?

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Speaker 2: You're agent? Well, you're aging? Well, what do you hope

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Speaker 2: you'll feel about yourself at that age?

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Speaker 1: I hope I don't look like that number one. I

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Speaker 1: do hope I have that much hair. I have a

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Speaker 1: feeling I am going to be replaced by an Ai

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Speaker 1: me at some point in the future. I hope I

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Speaker 1: wind up like my grandfather. And by that I don't

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Speaker 1: mean dead. I mean it's just somebody that everybody thinks

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Speaker 1: of and loves.

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Speaker 2: Give it up for Jimmy, give everyone. Yes, Thank you

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Speaker 2: so much, Thanks Shay. If you love this episode, I

908
00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 2: need you to listen to one of my favorite conversations ever.

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00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,839
Speaker 2: It's with the one and only Tom Holland on how

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Speaker 2: to overcome your social anxiety, especially in situations where you're

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Speaker 2: not drinking and everyone else is. We talk about his

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Speaker 2: sobriety journey and so much more. He gets really personal.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait for you to hear it. It's gonna

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Speaker 2: blow your mind. The quote is, if you have a

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Speaker 2: problem with me, text me.

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Speaker 1: And if you don't have my number, you don't know

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Speaker 1: me well enough to have a problem with me.