1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: advice on dating, sex, work, parenting, relationships and more. Please 3 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:11,239 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click 4 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:16,120 Speaker 1: submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter live 5 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:20,360 Speaker 1: on the air, just like we're gonna read this one 6 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: right here, right now. Okay, bugg, hold on tight, We 7 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter, 8 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: all right. Subject his wife is willing to share him 9 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:34,480 Speaker 1: with me. Dear Stephen Shirley. I was in a relationship 10 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,120 Speaker 1: with a man for six months, but we fell in 11 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:40,440 Speaker 1: love quickly and we were living together. He is thirty 12 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: six and I'm thirty one. He's going through a divorce 13 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 1: when he met me, so I made him wait until 14 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: the papers were signed before we had sex. He told 15 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:53,280 Speaker 1: me that his wife divorced him because he cheated on 16 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:57,240 Speaker 1: her multiple times. He told me that he cheated simply 17 00:00:57,280 --> 00:01:00,120 Speaker 1: because his wife had stopped having sex with him. He 18 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:02,279 Speaker 1: often went to his old house to get more of 19 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: his things so he could fully move in with me. 20 00:01:05,319 --> 00:01:08,559 Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, he went over and when he came back, 21 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: he was quiet and wouldn't look me in the eye. 22 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 1: After I kept asking him what was wrong and accusing 23 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: him of messing with his ex wife. He admitted that 24 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: he did. We cried and tried to work through it, 25 00:01:21,080 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: but the next day he told me that he had 26 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:25,840 Speaker 1: talked to his ex wife and told her he would 27 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: move back in because he's ashamed of how he left her. 28 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: A couple of days later, he left me and moved 29 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 1: back into his home with her. I was an emotional wreck. 30 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:37,760 Speaker 1: He came over to see me a few times to 31 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: see if I was all right, and we made love 32 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:44,319 Speaker 1: each time. I told him I want him to come back. 33 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: He said that it was a possibility if I were to, 34 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: if I were open to having a relationship with him, 35 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: despite him being with his wife. He said he told 36 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 1: his ex about me and how he had fallen in love. 37 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 1: He said his ex wife was willing to let him 38 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: continue to see me if I was okay with the arrangement. 39 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: I'm so love sick. I entertained this crazy notion for 40 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: a day or two he came over, but he came 41 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: over to my house last night and he smelled like 42 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:19,640 Speaker 1: her perfume, and I lost it. I love him so 43 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: much and I don't want him to go, but I 44 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 1: don't think I can be a third wheel. It's having 45 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: part of a man better than no man nowadays. Wow, 46 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:31,160 Speaker 1: you really drank the kool ai, didn't you. I mean, 47 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 1: all the time he was going over to his house 48 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: supposedly to get things to bring over to your house. Yes, 49 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 1: he was sleeping with his wife, just like he sleeps 50 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:42,640 Speaker 1: with you when he comes over your house. And the 51 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,799 Speaker 1: question is a having part of a man better than 52 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: no man nowadays. That's unacceptable any day, you know, and 53 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: it should be unacceptable to you unless you're, like I mean, 54 00:02:55,639 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 1: just unbelievably desperate, which it sounds like you are. You 55 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: just want to settle for anything. Come on, now, why 56 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: would you want to do that. Let this man go 57 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 1: back to his wife and stay there so they can 58 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:12,519 Speaker 1: keep their little, you know, threesome, more open marriage arrangement 59 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 1: they got going on to themselves. And his wife is 60 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: stupid too if she thinks the only way she can 61 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: keep him is to invite you into their marriage. But 62 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 1: I think they do this. It almost sounds like it's 63 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: some sort of game. I think you should stand your 64 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: ground and not become the third wheel, as you say, 65 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 1: in all of this craziness. I think you won't know better, 66 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 1: though I think you do in your heart. You just 67 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 1: think that you're in love with this guy. You're not 68 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: in love with him, and what do you really have 69 00:03:45,080 --> 00:03:48,119 Speaker 1: with him anyway? Didn't Don't you remember that he told 70 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:52,760 Speaker 1: you he cheated on his wife multiple multiple times, multiple times. 71 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: He's a cheater and that's why he was in trouble 72 00:03:55,600 --> 00:04:00,520 Speaker 1: with his wife. All right, So do you think he 73 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 1: wouldn't cheat on you? Okay, that's what I'm saying if 74 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: he came to stay with you. Let me just say 75 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: this to you. Every man who wants to cheat and 76 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: get with someone one else, they always say that their 77 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: wife doesn't have sex with them and they're unhappy. That's 78 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:17,000 Speaker 1: like the standard line. So don't get sucked into that. 79 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:19,400 Speaker 1: I mean, please just let them stay over there. Do 80 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: not consider being in a three summer with them. This 81 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: is craziness right here. This is you don't want to 82 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: do this. Let that man go back to his wife 83 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: and stay Steve. This whole damn letter don't make no 84 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: damn sense. As a matter of fact, as I was 85 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:42,360 Speaker 1: listening to surely read the letter, I kept saying, through 86 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: the whole letter, what so what I'm calling this letter 87 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: is the subject is his wife is willing to share 88 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 1: me with him. But I'm gonna call this the letter 89 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 1: call what because it is so many what moments in 90 00:04:57,240 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: this damn letter that I can't read it without said? What? 91 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: Here we go? I'm in a relationship with a man 92 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: for six months. We fell in love quickly, living together. 93 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: He thirty six and I'm thirty one. He was going 94 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 1: through a divorce when we met, so I made him 95 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 1: wait until the papers were signed before we had sex. 96 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 1: What What didn't you just say? I was in a 97 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: relationship with a man for six months, but we fell 98 00:05:25,720 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 1: in love quickly, and we were living together. Y'all live together? 99 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 1: They had sex? He thirty six. He was going through 100 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:36,359 Speaker 1: divorce when we met, so I made him wait until 101 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 1: the papers were signed before we had sex. What here 102 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 1: we go again? He told me that his wife divorced 103 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 1: him because he cheated on her multiple times. Wait a minute, 104 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: he told you that? What? See? That was a setup? 105 00:05:52,839 --> 00:05:55,360 Speaker 1: He told you the reason him and his wife because 106 00:05:55,400 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 1: he cheated on her several times. He told me that 107 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:01,640 Speaker 1: he cheated simply because his wife had stopped having sex 108 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 1: with him. What He often went to his old house 109 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 1: to get more of his things so he could fully 110 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:10,120 Speaker 1: move in with me. Now you just said y'all was 111 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:13,840 Speaker 1: living together, But now you're saying so he could fully 112 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:17,559 Speaker 1: move in with you. And two weeks ago he came 113 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 1: back and he was quiet and wouldn't look me in 114 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 1: the eye. After I kept asking what was wrong in 115 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:25,800 Speaker 1: accusing room messing with his ex wife, he admitted that 116 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: he did. What Why did you do that? Because he 117 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 1: couldn't look you in the eye. What? All right, Steve? 118 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: Hang on, whey more? What will we come back? We'll 119 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,239 Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty 120 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:47,040 Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour today strawberry letter, subject his 121 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 1: ex wife is willing to share him with me. We'll 122 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show. 123 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's strawberry letter. 124 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: His ex wife is willing to share him with me. 125 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: You renamed it the letter of what, the Letter of what, 126 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 1: and there's so many whats in this letter. Let's quickly 127 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: go over what we found out. Um been with this 128 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:15,120 Speaker 1: relationship with a man for six months, fell in love quickly. 129 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: He thirty six thirty one. He was going through a 130 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:19,720 Speaker 1: divorce when we met, so I made him wait till 131 00:07:19,720 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 1: the papers were signed before we had sex. What y'all, 132 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:27,120 Speaker 1: he moved in with you, y'all living together? Y'all ain't 133 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: having sex till the papers get signed? Okay, lady right? 134 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:33,760 Speaker 1: He told me his wife divorced him because he cheated 135 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: on her multiple times. He told you that. Come on? 136 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:44,240 Speaker 1: What he told me that he cheated simply because his 137 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:50,120 Speaker 1: wife had stopped having sex with him. What you mean 138 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 1: after she found out you were screwing everybody else, she 139 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:54,720 Speaker 1: quit having sex with you so you wouldn't screwed a 140 00:07:54,720 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 1: few more people. That's what you did, okay, brock. He 141 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:02,600 Speaker 1: often went to his old house to get more of 142 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: his things so he could fully move in with me. 143 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 1: So you he was living with you, but he kept 144 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 1: going back over there and get some more things, and 145 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:15,800 Speaker 1: you kept unlocking the door. What two weeks ago he 146 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 1: went over there and when he came back, he was quiet, 147 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:19,760 Speaker 1: and he wouldn't look me in the eye. After I 148 00:08:19,840 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 1: kept asking what was wrong in accusing me of a 149 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: messing with his ex wife, he admitted that he did. What. 150 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 1: Why did he tell you that this dude couldn't look 151 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: you in your eye? He been screwing up, he'd been 152 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:38,560 Speaker 1: looking you in your eye, just this one night he 153 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 1: couldn't do it. He admitted that he did. He go 154 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:45,839 Speaker 1: the next line. We cried and tried to work through it. 155 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: Whatever the hell is he crying fault? He's screwing everybody? 156 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:59,200 Speaker 1: What is he crying fault? We cried and tried to 157 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:01,839 Speaker 1: work through it. But the next day, right after that, 158 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 1: he told me he had talked to his ex wife 159 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:07,199 Speaker 1: and told her he would move back in because he 160 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:12,679 Speaker 1: was ashamed of how he left her. What right? So 161 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: what was it crying for? Because he knew what he 162 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:21,120 Speaker 1: was gonna tell your stupid ass tomorrow. So he goed, 163 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:22,959 Speaker 1: he ain't gonna leave. What I would tell you? The 164 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:28,800 Speaker 1: mom we try, I don't want to have sex with him. 165 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:35,319 Speaker 1: She keeps putting it in my face. Yeah. A couple 166 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:39,839 Speaker 1: of days later, he left me and moved back into 167 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 1: his home with her. I was an emotional wreck. Yeah. 168 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:48,959 Speaker 1: Oh wait a minute, Oh wait, this is the woman 169 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: that he was cheating on because she wouldn't have sex 170 00:09:51,240 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 1: with him. When did she started having sex with him 171 00:09:56,480 --> 00:10:01,559 Speaker 1: after he left her? For you? This the story you're 172 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:04,920 Speaker 1: going with? Okay, lady? He left me and moved back 173 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: into his home with her. I was an emotional wreck. 174 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 1: He came over to see me a few times to 175 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: see if I was all right. We may love each time. 176 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:20,360 Speaker 1: What of course you did? What then? When he was 177 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:24,240 Speaker 1: just an emotional wreck, he just left you? He told 178 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 1: you why he was leaving you. He told you why 179 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:28,719 Speaker 1: he left his wife the first time. He because he 180 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:31,719 Speaker 1: kept screwing around. He'd been going over that, picking up 181 00:10:31,720 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 1: socks and stuff, bringing him slowly packing the drawer. He 182 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 1: probably ain't got a whole drawing at chill house. I 183 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 1: told him I wanted him to come back. He said 184 00:10:43,280 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 1: it was a possibility if I was open to having 185 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:50,360 Speaker 1: a relationship with him despite him being with his wife. 186 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:55,680 Speaker 1: What Steve, Wait a minute, that's what you're doing now? 187 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:58,439 Speaker 1: He back with his wife. He keep coming over that 188 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 1: screwing you. You already in that. He just checking with 189 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:05,959 Speaker 1: you to make sure you still cool with it. How 190 00:11:06,240 --> 00:11:11,760 Speaker 1: stupid are you? That hood? He said he told his 191 00:11:11,800 --> 00:11:15,000 Speaker 1: ex wife about me and how we had fallen in love. 192 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:17,959 Speaker 1: She said his ex wife was willing to let him 193 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 1: continue to see me if I was okay with the arrangement. 194 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 1: So you really think that this man then told his 195 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 1: ex wife, who he to move back in with, that 196 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:35,000 Speaker 1: he in love with you. And he asked her because 197 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:38,080 Speaker 1: he still see you, and she said, as long as 198 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:43,280 Speaker 1: it's okay with you, you should call and ask her 199 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:46,960 Speaker 1: if that was because I can promise you. I promise 200 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:50,839 Speaker 1: you this conversation name been ahead. She said, I'm so 201 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: love sick. I entertained this crazy notion for a day 202 00:11:54,360 --> 00:12:02,680 Speaker 1: or two. What entertain But he came over to my 203 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 1: house last night and he smelled like her perfume, and 204 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: I lost it? What's you're bad? Phone? He's sleeping back 205 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 1: with her. He didn't move back in with her. That's 206 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:16,199 Speaker 1: who gonna be on him when he come over your house? 207 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: Is huh? You better be lucky. It was perfume? Youre smelling? Hello? What? 208 00:12:24,679 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 1: Why didn't he shower? I love him so much and 209 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 1: I don't want him to go, but I don't think 210 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 1: I could be a third whill No, No, you are 211 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:35,959 Speaker 1: the third wheel. You've been the third wheel. What is 212 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: hell you're thinking? You can't be that phone? No more? 213 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:41,760 Speaker 1: You are the third wheel. It's having part of man 214 00:12:41,840 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: better than no man nowadays? You love sick? He moved 215 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:48,640 Speaker 1: back in with her, which He never really left anyway, 216 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 1: because he was just packing the draws at your house. 217 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:55,240 Speaker 1: He never did have a close pants over that one 218 00:12:55,240 --> 00:13:01,440 Speaker 1: pair of Nikes. 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