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Speaker 1: Am I wrong for going on a date night with

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Speaker 1: my wife's friend. That's the question of today. Well, actually

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Speaker 1: the question of today I forgot uh something about relationships

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Speaker 1: you have, if you're in a relationship. Sorry wait, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna continue. So the Ahlfred date issue says, I

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Speaker 1: went out for dinner with one of my wife's friends

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Speaker 1: last week when my wife was out of town. I

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Speaker 1: wanted some honest opinions on if I did something wrong

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Speaker 1: here and how big of trouble I'm in. So to

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Speaker 1: give full context, my wife was away for a week

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Speaker 1: visiting her parents. She has a friend, Amanda, who she's

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Speaker 1: been friends with for many years. I think in that video, Amanda,

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Speaker 1: you know what you know the TikTok?

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Speaker 2: This is my friend.

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Speaker 1: Amen, I'm Amanda.

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Speaker 2: Oh, the creepy one. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Amanda has had a rough patch where she broke

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Speaker 2: Oh that's right. She needs a strong supportive man in

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Speaker 1: My wife has been supportive of her. Last week, Amanda

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Speaker 1: had an interview and asked my wife if she could

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Speaker 1: did not have any plans and agreed. Amanda and I

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Speaker 1: and we were driving home. We were just having small

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Speaker 1: talk about the new company she was interviewing at in

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Speaker 1: her work. In general. Amanda told me she doesn't have

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Speaker 1: I was also hungry, and I suggest we stopped by

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Speaker 1: She agreed and started searching for places on the way.

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Speaker 1: Punched in an address to the restaurant on the way,

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Speaker 1: but this place was pretty fancy or Italian restaurant. She said,

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Speaker 1: this looks too fancy, and I said, we're already here,

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Speaker 1: so let's eat. I messaged my wife we're getting dinner,

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Speaker 1: and she said okay. We had a pretty fun evening

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Speaker 1: and a nice dinner. She had a few drinks and

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Speaker 1: I did not, since I was driving. We generally never

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Speaker 1: had a very nice chat. I never knew Amanda and

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Speaker 1: I had so much in common. Oh, I never knew

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Speaker 1: Amanda and I had so much in common and like

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Speaker 1: the same music and movies. Oh, I didn't notice, but

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Speaker 1: we were at the restaurant for an hour one hour, sorry,

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Speaker 1: one and a half hours.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: Amanda was taking pictures during dinner and also asked the

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Speaker 1: Why why, okay, right now, right now, I don't think

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Speaker 1: anyone's done anything. Yeah, I think Celtic Kit says, sounds innocent.

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Speaker 2: I agree.

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Speaker 1: I don't think anyone's done anything yet.

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Speaker 2: However, if I glanced over at them while I was

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Speaker 1: You would say, I mean, but you know that happens

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Speaker 2: What this scenario, Well, like where you could.

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Speaker 1: Look over at someone and think that they're dating, but

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Speaker 1: you know, so like right now, I don't think anything's

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Speaker 1: I don't think anything's wrong.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was Okay, I think the picture.

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Speaker 1: Taking a picture might be a little weird unless she

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Speaker 1: was like directly sending it to her friend hot take.

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Speaker 2: I think it was wrong when she started ordering drinks

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Speaker 2: because the intention was something quick yeah, and it came

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Speaker 2: since something, you might as well get a few drinks. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and also love bubbles.

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Speaker 2: And it better be goofy, My dude, you better have

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Speaker 1: I don't want like this, No, none of that. I

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Speaker 1: you're allowed to take. None of that. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: and don mayflower. Amanda is Op's wife's best friend who's

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Speaker 2: But let's continue.

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Speaker 1: I dropped Amanda home. She gave me a quick hug

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Speaker 2: Amanda has posted the pictures.

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Speaker 1: No, no, why online.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like she would have done us Amanda

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because right now, if right now, she would have

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Speaker 1: nothing to be angry about. Yeah, they went to dinner.

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Speaker 2: That was weird. Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Amanda messaged me around eleven pm, saying thanks for the

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Speaker 2: Oh when did you drop her on? Well, if you

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Speaker 2: dropped her off at ten and it was eleven, okay.

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Speaker 1: Presumably I think they it was like pretty late.

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Speaker 2: But if you dropped her off at like eight pm,

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Speaker 2: she tests you at eleven weird? Weird.

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Speaker 1: I think she should have just said thank you for

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Speaker 1: picking that up, appreciate it. She sent me our picture together.

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Speaker 1: I saw the message and just liked it to acknowledge it.

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Speaker 1: Later that night, Amanda shared some of our photos from

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Speaker 1: our dinner on our Instagram.

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Speaker 2: Why I'm too good?

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Speaker 1: Why I'm too good? Why would she do this?

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Speaker 2: I knew that was gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly that.

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Speaker 1: Who does that? Also? Why is that interesting? It's not like,

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Speaker 2: I'll tell you why. Because she's been through this rough

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Speaker 2: someone heard me out. I need to appreciate this because

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Speaker 2: I had a really nice time. That's what I'm thinking.

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Speaker 1: I don't like it. I don't like it right now.

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Speaker 1: I still think op has done nothing wrong. Amanda is

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Speaker 2: It's Amanda that Sorry I knocked this out.

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Speaker 1: Miranda Lee brings up a good question. Uh, I thought

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Speaker 2: That's because we're doing a secret string. Yeah, doing a

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Speaker 2: not that she's fixing it. She she struggles with this

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Speaker 2: every day, every day she comes in here, she struggles

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're good, let's continue. I've lost my place, but aha.

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Speaker 1: our dinner on her Instagram, including our photo together, and

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Speaker 1: captioned it as dinner with a friend. I am not

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Speaker 1: friends with friends with Amanda on Instagram and did not

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Speaker 1: me again and told me that Amanda told her about

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Speaker 1: the night before. The issue was Amanda made the dinner

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Speaker 2: Wait, she did, she did, she did. Okay, who picked

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Speaker 1: So true, Amanda pick the restaurant?

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry if I got to like, let's say, I

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Speaker 2: But your friend, yeah, controlled where to go, controlled where

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Speaker 1: Amanda's starting. She's an instigator. She's instigating hardcore, a little instigator,

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Speaker 1: She kept on praising me for how I was a

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Speaker 1: O good listener paid for the whole thing. Amanda, shut

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Speaker 2: Stop flying to shut this mouth. Stop it got your mouth.

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Speaker 1: I feel. Amanda also added fuel to the fire by

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Speaker 2: All you gotta say is you got a keeper, Amanda.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Amanda, this is what Amanda should have done. That

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Speaker 2: He's a keeper. He's a keeper. Not I liked it when.

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Speaker 2: Then after that he ordered this wine which was my favorite.

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Speaker 2: And uh, he's just the best. He's the best. I

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Speaker 2: Love that for you? Unbelievable yikes, yikes.

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Speaker 1: My wife feels I should have asked her before inviting

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Speaker 1: Amanda to such a fancy place for romantic dinner. Dude, didn't,

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Speaker 1: he didn't write. She was also pissed that hundreds of

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Speaker 1: approving this yikes oof uh, and she felt disrespected that

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Speaker 2: Oh no.

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Speaker 1: That seemed to make her angrier. I have not even

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Speaker 1: told her about the late night message from Amanda and

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Speaker 1: me liking the picture with a heart emoji because I'm

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Speaker 2: WHOA, wait, yeah, you like I think you got confused

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Speaker 2: by the heart emoji thing because you just like the picture.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're good, dude.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's not Yeah, it's her. Amanda is the one

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Speaker 2: we're about to break it down.

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Speaker 1: Can we can we put a pull up?

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Speaker 2: And this is all Amanda's doing. Do you actually I

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Speaker 3: She she was like, oh it was so romantic.

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Speaker 2: He needs to stop her and attracts Ave's mama. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I get this. Ava's mama said, I don't get offended.

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Speaker 1: Also, I think someone I don't know who it was,

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Speaker 1: but let's get into these relevant Well, you guys decide

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Speaker 2: The a hole. I think she took advantage of the situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, bro's a little too nice.

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Speaker 2: Like I understand where he's going from. She's been through

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we need to go. Yeah he needed to maybe

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Speaker 1: aware of the plans. Yeah, it wasn't like he said

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Speaker 1: how could you not see this escalated into an awkward situation,

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Speaker 1: fancy romantic dinner setting, potentially intimate conversations, bit a PDA

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Speaker 1: My male friends. We're like a little side hug, like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I don't think that is PDA. I disagree. At no

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Speaker 1: you this feels like a date? Probably, Oh, your wife

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize that it seemed like that way. That's fine,

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Speaker 1: But Amanda needs to apologize. Oh, p says, I will

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Speaker 1: but you know how pictures on instat can look in

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Speaker 1: and I'm just scared at this point for the fallout. Help.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I think there are more issues in the relationship

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Speaker 2: after hearing this, Yeah, because he was like, I didn't

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to explain that, but he just

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Speaker 2: he's just very oblivious, and I don't know, I could

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm just curious if this is how

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Yeah, that's a good question Becausean just says,

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Speaker 1: I also, I don't I think that I think it

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man of sabotages, Okay, let's get through these comments.

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Speaker 1: My wife feels I should have asked her before inviting

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Speaker 1: Amanda to wait. Where am I do opie ah OPI

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Speaker 1: on what kind of restaurant it was. It was not

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Speaker 1: one of the unlimited breath Breadsticks places. It was more

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Speaker 1: My wife was completely fine with the dinner until she

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Speaker 2: I don't like that. I would never pick a fancy

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Speaker 1: I don't trust Amanda because you can tell what type

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Also they have the money thing on Google. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say, why would you pick like an

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Speaker 2: The Amanda only way I would pick an expensive place.

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Speaker 2: So I am craving steak right now. I need a steak.

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Speaker 2: I need sushi right now. No sushi, ah, okay, I wantshi.

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Speaker 2: I want to I just want to see what happened.

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Speaker 1: Update. Wait, No, why he paid for dinner? So I

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Speaker 1: friends too, gentlemen, gentlemen, But there is an update.

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Speaker 2: And eighty seven percent of people say, nah, he is not. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: What if there's changements at the end, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we switch up. Who's to say. Let's get into

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Speaker 1: A lot of the comments made me believe that I

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Speaker 1: that's great, step nice. She came home yesterday evening and

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Speaker 2: You better have some flower, you better take her.

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Speaker 1: To that fancy steake. I went on my charm offensive

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Speaker 2: Okay, I did not know that he had not seen

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Speaker 1: That, yeah, she was away.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she was away, and she's like my boyfriend's going

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Speaker 2: I decided to be direct. Well, okay.

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Speaker 1: I told her that I know she's not an insecure person,

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Speaker 1: doubt me. She was the one who trusted me to

441
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Speaker 1: pick up her friend in the evening from airport. From

442
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Speaker 1: the airport, as it was dinnertime and her friend said

443
00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 1: she was hungry, it would have been rude of me

444
00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 1: to not offer to get food for her. Also, my

445
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 1: wife knows that I always offer to pay for dinners,

446
00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 1: irrespective if it is my friend's or hers. It's just

447
00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 1: the way I brought up, and we have fights during

448
00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:05,040
Speaker 1: family gatherings on who get I asked her what was

449
00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 1: the thing that was exactly bothering her and why she

450
00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 1: was okay during the night when I kept her updated

451
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 1: about everything, but got but got upset in the morning.

452
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 1: My wife told me that the whole situation smelled funky

453
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Speaker 1: to her.

454
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

455
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Speaker 1: She told me that she did not doubt me one

456
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,880
Speaker 1: bit that I Oh. She told me that she does

457
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:29,480
Speaker 1: not doubt me one bit that I had any wrong intentions. However,

458
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 1: the optics of it all were really bad for her.

459
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Speaker 1: She said that she's not upset at me getting dinner

460
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,000
Speaker 1: for her friend. She would expect me to do that,

461
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:40,480
Speaker 1: and Amanda also appreciates it, she said the the She

462
00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,120
Speaker 1: said that the issue started early morning when her mom

463
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Speaker 1: barged into her room to show her Amanda's Oh.

464
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Speaker 2: I saw the mother.

465
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Speaker 1: The mother is getting involved in the pots. There are

466
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Speaker 1: a lot of posts in this town.

467
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Speaker 2: I want more context now. I want to know the beef.

468
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,639
Speaker 2: The mom and the husband yeah, yeah, I agree.

469
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 1: I need to know all of the inner workings, because

470
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Speaker 1: if the mom was concerned, she'd be like, hey, I

471
00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:08,920
Speaker 1: just saw this.

472
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 2: I want to talk, not like you won't believe what happens.

473
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Speaker 2: That's what it felt like.

474
00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:21,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, she said, where was that Her mom thought I

475
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Speaker 1: was going out with Amanda behind my wife's back.

476
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Speaker 2: I see.

477
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: My wife told her that she knew I took her

478
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Speaker 1: out for dinner and told her about what happened. She

479
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 1: then got a lecture from her mom about how naive

480
00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 1: I was. She was and this is how affairs start.

481
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,920
Speaker 1: My wife said that it annoyed her a lot. Her

482
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 1: mom also looked at the restaurant and told my wife

483
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: that it was a very prizy place and was voted

484
00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:51,160
Speaker 1: best place for romantic dates. Ooh by some magazine. Oh Amanda,

485
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: you freaking snake.

486
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Speaker 2: Not a girl's a girl.

487
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 1: She ain't a girl's girl. She said. Her mom completely

488
00:24:57,600 --> 00:25:00,639
Speaker 1: freaked out after seeing my picture with Amanda. So my

489
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 1: wife looked up our credit card statement and realized I

490
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 1: had spent a lot on the meal. She also said

491
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:09,160
Speaker 1: that Amanda is a huge social media following on Instagram

492
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 1: and posts a lot. I think she's like a fitness

493
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 1: influencer or something, but I don't really follow her. Even

494
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 1: though most of the pictures in her posts were of food,

495
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: the last photo of me and her looked like a

496
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 1: boyfriend reveal as we were sitting next to each other.

497
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:27,400
Speaker 1: This is literally all Amanda isn't doing. This is all

498
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 1: Amanda's fault. She told me, I won't understand, as I'm

499
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,320
Speaker 1: not on Instagram, but this is how people announce they're

500
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: dating someone nowadays. As the day went on, Amanda got

501
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 1: more than one k likes on the post. Oh a

502
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:43,879
Speaker 1: lot of people commenting and saying we looked nice.

503
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 2: Oh a thousand likes. Oh, I don't like Amanda, okay,

504
00:25:51,080 --> 00:26:00,280
Speaker 2: knowing that she has as much like clout online or

505
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:02,880
Speaker 2: even ikey.

506
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 1: Ikey Amanda, Amanda. Stop. The thing is that I understand

507
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 1: that Opie's wife might just think that, like she's more

508
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:12,359
Speaker 1: comfortable approaching the issue with her husband and you know,

509
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 1: throwing Amma under the bus. But it's Amanda. He didn't

510
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:19,359
Speaker 1: drop this friend because she sucks, or at least have

511
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:20,400
Speaker 1: a conversation with her.

512
00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:22,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, and be like this was inappropriate. He did say

513
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:23,680
Speaker 2: he was a bit annoyed by her.

514
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, No, have a conversation with her, and then

515
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 1: if she's not respecting your boundaries, drop her. She was

516
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 1: annoyed Amanda did not correct any of them.

517
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:38,640
Speaker 2: She likes attention.

518
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 1: Unbelievable, so she called Amanda in the evening to ask

519
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 1: her to take the last picture down. However, Amanda kept

520
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 1: on praising me and how I was charming and fun.

521
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 1: Amanda told her that for all these years she felt

522
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,440
Speaker 1: I was snobbish and pretentious. I am a huge introvert,

523
00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 1: so I come off that way, but she was wrong.

524
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:04,160
Speaker 1: She saw a whole new side of him. My wife

525
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 1: said this was annoying because she has never seen me

526
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 1: be charming with any of her friends before. When she

527
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 1: was around, Amanda was talking about all my favorite bands

528
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 1: and how we should all go to see a concert sometimes.

529
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,239
Speaker 1: Amanda told her she posted her photo because she has

530
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 1: never been treated to such a nice place before and

531
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: wanted to acknowledge me in the post. My wife never

532
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 1: asked her to take the down the picture because of that.

533
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,360
Speaker 1: She then had a lot of questions for me as

534
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 1: to when when I dropped her off, why I walked

535
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,440
Speaker 1: her to the apartment building door, and when I got home,

536
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,239
Speaker 1: I told her I can show you exact times and

537
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:38,679
Speaker 1: receipts for everything. But do we really want to be

538
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 1: that couple who questions each other about every little detail?

539
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,120
Speaker 1: I think, right, yeah, right now, yeah, right now, right now.

540
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: You need to just just you know, yeah, just show

541
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: her that she has nothing to be concerned about. She

542
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 1: can check when we got the credit card charge, the

543
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:59,719
Speaker 1: messages I sent her after dropping Amanda in our ring

544
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:02,719
Speaker 1: cam in a garage and come to her own conclusions.

545
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, yeah, please you actually do that.

546
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, do all that. She asked me if she thought

547
00:28:08,200 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: Amanda was flirting with me during the night, and I

548
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:13,360
Speaker 1: told her that was not the case. In fact, Amanda

549
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 1: messaged me our photo at night, and I just sent

550
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 1: an emoji instead of engaging in a conversation, mostly because

551
00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: I was busy with my video game. That chapter was

552
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: closed for us, and neither Amanda nor I messaged each

553
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 1: other after that. Amanda is my wife's friend, and I

554
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: do not intend to be close friends with her anyways,

555
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:34,240
Speaker 1: as I have my own friends. I also insisted to

556
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 1: her that Amanda was not inappropriate any way during the

557
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 1: night and maintain proper boundaries so this incident should not

558
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 1: affect her friendship with Amanda. In fact, if Amanda had

559
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 1: any bad intentions, she knew my wife was out for

560
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: the rest of the week and would have tried to

561
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 1: message me again, but she forgot about the evening, and

562
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: so should we. Overall, my wife seems to be back

563
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 1: to normal after the conversation. My wife is not an

564
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:00,959
Speaker 1: insecure person. I could see why she would be annoyed

565
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: by the situation. However, I know in my heart that

566
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 1: I will never disrespect her marriage, and I had no

567
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 1: reason to be sneaky or lie about the situation to

568
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: were I'm glad we talked it through and I was

569
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: able to answer all of her questions. Thanks again for

570
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 1: all of your suggestions.

571
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:19,960
Speaker 2: Why'd you comment relevant?

572
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 1: Oh? Sometimes I put like the relevant comments in a

573
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: comment so that the word count is not Oh I see, yeah.

574
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 2: Do you want to no? Oh wait wait wait, actually

575
00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 2: I think we should Okay, yeah, yeah.

576
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: I thinks the relevant comments are relevant.

577
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:36,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

578
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, okay, okay, let's do it.

579
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 2: My mom, mom sign No, that's not it.

580
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 1: Lynn Jim says. How much was the dinner? Opie says

581
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 1: it was around three hundred dollars overall, with tips and stuff.

582
00:29:55,720 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 2: Whoa a dinner coming back in the airport? Three hundred bucks?

583
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 1: Okay, Opie says, how many courses did you get?

584
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 2: Five? I think whoa? Oh man, oh okay.

585
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 3: Just slightly changed, just a little bit, just a little bit,

586
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:34,760
Speaker 3: little bit, just a little bit.

587
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 1: I think he's still maybe he's more oblivious.

588
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 2: Is yeah, I don't know. You can't okay, you can't

589
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 2: take a woman who a restaurant that night's not thinking

590
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 2: it's romance.

591
00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:50,239
Speaker 1: It spent one hundred and fifty dollars on her. I

592
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 1: need to know how what the breakdown is? How much

593
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 1: of that?

594
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 2: Because he had to buy it for himself too, he

595
00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 2: would to he wouldn't have spent one hundred and fifty

596
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 2: bucks on himself. He's spent because he's got three hundred dollars.

597
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 1: Wow, no, John slid. They did not split. He said that.

598
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: He was like, I pay for everyone's food.

599
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 2: Okay, it's a thing I do. That's it.

600
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, Diana says, who suggests a random three hundred dollars

601
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 1: meal with your friend's husband.

602
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 2: That's an immediate repl did She literally saw the most

603
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 2: expensive option on Google and said let's go there.

604
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 1: I think it's a little bit weird. If I were

605
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:34,400
Speaker 1: to go out with a friend and they and I

606
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:36,040
Speaker 1: don't know, and I knew they were the type to

607
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 1: play maybe she didn't know, but I'd probably get a

608
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 1: pretty cheap I probably get the cheese meal on the menu.

609
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 2: Someone said Applebee's. Yeah, that's a like Killy's.

610
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, don Mayflowers is wait a dang minute. He ordered

611
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 1: five courses, but said earlier, I didn't realize the time

612
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 1: I spent. What does he mean by like? Does he

613
00:31:57,840 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 1: mean like full on, like course, like salad comes out

614
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 1: than may?

615
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 2: He explains it, He explains it, he said, he said five.

616
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 2: I think we skipped dessert though, because it was too

617
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 2: much food. I remember the song because it was one

618
00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 2: of my favorite bands. Every every little thing.

619
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, sir, suspicious auspicious? Sure, come on, they're every suspicious.

620
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 2: How old is this guy?

621
00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:26,800
Speaker 1: Ah?

622
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:31,040
Speaker 2: He doesn't say, he doesn't say. Oh.

623
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: All this time, I was like, he is not the

624
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 1: A whole that is. I don't know if he's the

625
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 1: A hole, but he's stupid.

626
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, he is stupid. You are stupid, stupid. You deserve

627
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 2: how many knights of the doghouse, Like three three three

628
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 2: three three? I could say, I could say three how many?

629
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 2: How many everyone dropped in the comments? How many lights

630
00:32:57,120 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 2: does he deserve in? How many nights does he deserve

631
00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 2: the dog house?

632
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 1: But you know how many donations got it? I'm gonna

633
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 1: read a lot all of them. Sarah bat Off, thank

634
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 1: you for the three sixty six.

635
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 2: I have to work, but I missed the streams with

636
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Speaker 2: you and Riley, thank you.

637
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 1: Thank you for coming. Alyssa Sinibaldi, thank you for the

638
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: ten buck tip. You guys bring me joy and I'm

639
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 1: so thankful. I'm an old lady. My oldest just joined

640
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Speaker 1: the navy. Wow, and my fifteen year old is too

641
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 1: cool to hang out with mom lol.

642
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 2: Thank you for being sweet and wonderful. We'll hang out

643
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 2: with you. We'll hang out with you. Uh.

644
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:33,320
Speaker 1: And constant Elisa, thank you for Constance all right. Thank

645
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 1: you for the five bucks omg alive on a Friday.

646
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Speaker 1: We don't deserve you guys, Yes you do. Feeling all

647
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Speaker 1: the love after the long stream yesterday.

648
00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that was long. I have not gone to

649
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Speaker 2: the post office. Belton, I'm sorry, Oh sorry.

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Speaker 1: Olivia Claire, thank you for the five buck tip. My

651
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Speaker 1: favorite duo is Live Oh Live is a great way

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Speaker 1: to spend my ship stop. I love salmon John, but

653
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Speaker 1: you guys just give me big silly goose energy and

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Speaker 1: the best way. I love y'all so sweet. Laurence Scarlett says,

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Speaker 1: they give you the five buck tip. Please stream for

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Speaker 1: a few hours. My husband has friends coming over last minute,

657
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 1: and I need to make dinner and clean. Can't do

658
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Speaker 1: it without y'all, especially you. Sophia, Long Live the Queen.

659
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Speaker 2: Keep on chugging big protein. I will, I will chugging. Yeah. Yeah,

660
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 2: that was a good story.

661
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 1: That was a good story.

662
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:31,840
Speaker 2: Yeah that was wild.

663
00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, I feel like it was like we

664
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 1: were I think everyone was kind of like, yeah, what

665
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:41,239
Speaker 1: hasn't done anything wrong? And then yeah you added on

666
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 1: that three hundred dollars bill.

667
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 2: But when it comes to opposite sex friends my role.

668
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,680
Speaker 2: I could hang out with Sophia on one on one, yeah,

669
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:53,919
Speaker 2: But other than that, I do have like friends back

670
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:55,880
Speaker 2: home that are females that I'm pretty close with, and

671
00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 2: I could probably hang out with one on one. But

672
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: if you're like brand new, yeah I don't really know

673
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,320
Speaker 2: you and you're not my girlfriend.

674
00:35:04,120 --> 00:35:06,680
Speaker 1: No I don't, I don't well, I probably wouldn't hang

675
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: out with like anyone outside of I don't know, it depends. Yeah,

676
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 1: not any of my new male friends.

677
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, unless they're trying to pursue you.

678
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if they're not, get out, get out of line.

679
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:28,239
Speaker 2: But let's get into this next story. No, I didn't

680
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 2: get to play basketball last night, Like.

681
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 1: No, he did not, he did not, but they canceled

682
00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:36,960
Speaker 1: the people I was gonna go with. Okay, it's fine,

683
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:38,280
Speaker 1: it's fine, everything's okay.

684
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,799
Speaker 2: Let's get into it to.

685
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:47,400
Speaker 1: Readjust all right? Am I the a hole for ignoring

686
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:50,360
Speaker 1: my husband after he came home wearing a shirt his

687
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 1: work wife bought him.

688
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 2: The shirt was like it was like a joke though.

689
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:02,240
Speaker 2: He was like it was like, uh, like like, let's say,

690
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 2: let's say my work husband got me a shirt that

691
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 2: said you know Jonathan Sam. Yeah, let me shure that

692
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 2: said that big protein.

693
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 1: Okay, well that's different. Like it better be that cairt

694
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, yeah yeah. If it can't be a button

695
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:21,319
Speaker 1: down shirt, it better be just like you suck, you know,

696
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: or like Boss's number one baby boy.

697
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:29,800
Speaker 2: Yeah yeahh okay, that's what That's the only way.

698
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 1: This is the only two options. Baby No, no, Boss's

699
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 1: number one baby boy. Someone make Riley a shirt that

700
00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: says boss's number one.

701
00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 2: Baby boy.

702
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: Lease new merch Okay, So separate kick.

703
00:36:46,960 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 2: Birthday O yeah, and there was someone else's birthday. I

704
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 2: forgot who it was, but happy birthday you you guys.

705
00:36:56,360 --> 00:37:00,840
Speaker 1: So separate Kick thirty one eighty six says I email thirties.

706
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 1: Have been with my husband male thirties for five years. Recently,

707
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:07,279
Speaker 1: in the last year, he has started a new job

708
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 1: position where his role is shared with his coworker, Chelsea

709
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:16,320
Speaker 1: email twenties. I've noticed that his coworker, Chelsea, has increasingly

710
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:19,839
Speaker 1: pushed my limits of comfortability, and I frankly just don't

711
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:24,720
Speaker 1: trust her. I've known Chelsea and her family for years

712
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 1: prior to my marriage, and I wasn't keen on her then.

713
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 2: Either.

714
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:30,760
Speaker 1: She does and says strange things that I don't believe

715
00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 1: are malicious, but it's almost like she wants to be

716
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 1: a second wife.

717
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 2: Tim.

718
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 1: I don't feel insecure about her, but I feel creeped

719
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 1: out she shared with my She's shared with me that

720
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 1: she sees my husband as her brother, which irks me

721
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 1: because she has an awesome brother and I'm friends with

722
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: her brother. She often calls, texts and facetimes about work

723
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: related and unrelated topics. And I've heard someone referred to

724
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 1: her as his work wife. Yike, that's a big no no,

725
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 1: that's a big no no. You gotta be respectful.

726
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:08,480
Speaker 2: Mm hmm. I think sounds like a conversation you have a.

727
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, just be like, hey, I don't feel super

728
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 1: comfortable about using that kind of type of language.

729
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,759
Speaker 2: Mark your territory, dude. You could literally say the like

730
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 2: wildest thing to her with no one around, and they

731
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,640
Speaker 2: can't do anything. They just have to. You can't be like,

732
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, this person said that, You'd be like, no,

733
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 2: I would never say that. I never say that she's

734
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 2: a liar. Exactly, Honestly, I would do that if some

735
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 2: dude was my girl, Like this, sir, little little effort. Okay,

736
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:38,399
Speaker 2: here's what it is. And then you take her into

737
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 2: the bathroom.

738
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 1: You're like, your little effort, this is what we're gonna do.

739
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:51,560
Speaker 2: You're gonna stay I spent exactly, or I'll watch exactly.

740
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:54,359
Speaker 1: Yeah.

741
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 2: Wow, all right, what else has happened?

742
00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:00,839
Speaker 1: Unfortunately, my mother in law passed last month. Oh my god,

743
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, and it has been utter hell. In

744
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:08,400
Speaker 1: the midst of grief, Chelsea texted asking how my husband

745
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 1: was doing, and how she cries every day thinking about him.

746
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 2: How about thinking of the mother in law? Why could

747
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:18,000
Speaker 2: you cry about that?

748
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 1: A weird thing to say? She cries every day thinking

749
00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 1: about the husband. And he had told me that she

750
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: knows exactly what I'm going through. No she doesn't, and

751
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,720
Speaker 1: that she can't wait to give my husband a huge hug.

752
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,719
Speaker 1: Fast forward a little bit and she was drunk at

753
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 1: a party and saw my husband leaving, where she confronted

754
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 1: him on why he was leaving. He told her I

755
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 1: didn't think I had to tell you what I'm doing,

756
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:51,399
Speaker 1: resulting in her panic texting him after to make sure

757
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 1: they were okay and trying to get him to talk

758
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 1: to her by saying, you can open up to me

759
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 1: and talk to me, or vent or just tell me

760
00:39:59,000 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 1: to shut.

761
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:03,240
Speaker 2: The f up. She's a little clingy.

762
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 1: She a little clingy, strange to me. There's been more instances,

763
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,280
Speaker 1: but I know I have a limit. Anyways, his birthday

764
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 1: was last week and she called him asking his shirt sighs,

765
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: and she made it a point to let him know

766
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: she'll never forget.

767
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 2: His The next.

768
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:29,080
Speaker 1: Like, why are you so creepy? Sometimes a girlfriend I

769
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: like that, like why are you so creepy sometimes?

770
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 2: Girlfriend?

771
00:40:32,880 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 1: Yesterday, I'm cleaning the kitchen when he walks in and

772
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:40,360
Speaker 1: I notice it's an unfamiliar shirt. I asked if it

773
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 1: was new, and he said, Chelsea got it for me,

774
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 1: and my blood boiled instant rage, and I went quiet.

775
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:50,919
Speaker 2: Oh those are the worst. When they go quiet, she's

776
00:40:50,960 --> 00:40:52,840
Speaker 2: just like. He's like, oh, tells you got it for me,

777
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:53,359
Speaker 2: and she's like.

778
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:02,320
Speaker 1: And then she walks out. Well yeah, uh. He asked

779
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 1: if I cared, and I remained silent and walked away.

780
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 1: I'm usually a huge communicator, but his mom just passed

781
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: and he asked for no drama, and I'm trying my

782
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 1: hard hardest to respect that. But I know I have

783
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:19,240
Speaker 1: zero patients and want to tell him it's effing weird.

784
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 1: How involved a co worker is trying to become in

785
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:25,040
Speaker 1: his own life and she needs to back down and

786
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 1: focus on her own engagement. Oh yeah, she's engaged. Oh

787
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 1: that's that's a little suspicious girl. That's a little suspicious.

788
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: Hold on, I'm requesting water.

789
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,799
Speaker 2: Uncle Daddy Jesse says, husband is so wrong for them.

790
00:41:44,840 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, wearing the shirt. No, no, no, no,

791
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:52,839
Speaker 1: I like it.

792
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 2: I like it. Yeah. And plus like, let's say, like, yeah,

793
00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:00,319
Speaker 2: my girl didn't like a certain person, then I would

794
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:01,680
Speaker 2: probably like low key kind.

795
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:05,840
Speaker 1: Of dis yeah, yeah, i'd be like, I'm.

796
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 2: Not gonna really talk to you. Yeah.

797
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 1: I don't like that she's in Yeah, Lydia Whitaker says,

798
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:15,480
Speaker 1: she's engaged, she's engaged, She's engaged, and she's non stop

799
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:19,120
Speaker 1: texting Opie's boyfriend. Oh, Pie's husband, Opie's husband.

800
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 2: Not good.

801
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:26,920
Speaker 1: Well, let's get into the rest of this thing. Everyone

802
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 1: I talks to says I'm not in the wrong and

803
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:31,800
Speaker 1: she's being creepy. But I feel bad for ignoring my

804
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 1: husband and walking away from him. I saw he looked

805
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 1: upset and confused, but I know he's already overwhelmed with

806
00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: grief and don't want to make things worse. So am

807
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 1: I the ahle? And there are some comments.

808
00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 2: I don't think.

809
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:52,040
Speaker 1: I don't think Ope is the ale at all. I

810
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 1: feel like this this coworker is pushing a lot of

811
00:42:56,120 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 1: boundaries and she's being really weird here. However, I do

812
00:43:01,360 --> 00:43:03,320
Speaker 1: think that op he needs to talk to her husband,

813
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 1: like right now, right away. I don't think the solution

814
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 1: is to like, even though she's like I don't want

815
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 1: to start drama because he's going like he's grieving. I

816
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 1: think it's gonna be worse for him if he's just like,

817
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 1: I don't know what's going on, because it seems like

818
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: he's yet another clueless man.

819
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 2: In the theme, another one in.

820
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:28,760
Speaker 1: The theme of this story story, Yet another one. Clue

821
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:32,439
Speaker 1: men in, Clue them in, Clue them in because they're

822
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 1: clued out.

823
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 2: And I do think that they're in this world. There

824
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:41,320
Speaker 2: are a difference between men and gentlemen. So true, Ain't

825
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:42,680
Speaker 2: that fact? Riley?

826
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:47,799
Speaker 1: Ain't that a fact? But let's get into these comments

827
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:54,319
Speaker 1: Canyon Moon set or can any can any I don't know, Uh,

828
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 1: talk to your husband immediately and say, this isn't drama.

829
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 1: This is threatening our relationship. You need to set boundaries

830
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: with this coworker, and you need to do it now.

831
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:07,800
Speaker 1: No more calling her your work, calling her your work wife.

832
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 1: No more of this weird clinging friendship. You become coworkers

833
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: and you draw lines. This is too much, and that

834
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: shirt is the last straw. Stop it now. You might

835
00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 1: not see it, but she's either inappropriate by nature or

836
00:44:21,040 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 1: she's trying to start an affair. Acts Winter Object sixty

837
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 1: four ninety six says, I don't know your communication, but

838
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 1: I would just sit him down and ask bluntly if

839
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 1: he's interested in having an affair with Chelsea, because she's

840
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 1: trying hard to get with them. If he's trying to

841
00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:40,800
Speaker 1: downplay the situation, ask him if he would be okay

842
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 1: with you flirting and texting with one of your male acquaintances.

843
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 1: In the long run, he has to cut his woman out,

844
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: this woman out of his life. She seems to not

845
00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:54,000
Speaker 1: know how to have a platonic relationship with him. And

846
00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 1: there is an update. What are you what's your thoughts here?

847
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:03,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, she needs it. Husband's got to be clued in. Yeah,

848
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:07,400
Speaker 2: it's weird. I know he's grieving, but this is a

849
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 2: lot of attention from a very young woman, A very

850
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 2: young woman. She's in her twenties. In her twenties. It

851
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:13,360
Speaker 2: would make me uncomfortable.

852
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, Titanius has conspiracy theory. They're not clueless. It's the

853
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:20,359
Speaker 1: same as weaponized incompetence. If you do the same with

854
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 1: someone else, they immediately know it's a problem, so they

855
00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 1: are willfully ignoring it.

856
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:25,760
Speaker 2: Yeah.

857
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: I think in a lot of cases this is true.

858
00:45:29,960 --> 00:45:32,279
Speaker 1: I still think in this case, whether or not. That

859
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 1: is true. You should communicate regardless if you are uncomfortable

860
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 1: with something. I think that's just like mark of a

861
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: good relationship, like immediate communication being like this is I'm

862
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 1: not okay with this. You need to set some boundaries.

863
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, set the boundaries. Husbands stop talking to her time

864
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:54,480
Speaker 2: and why. You might need to let Chelsea know.

865
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:59,879
Speaker 1: Let Chelsea know that your husband is Boss's number one

866
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:00,600
Speaker 1: baby girl.

867
00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:01,359
Speaker 2: Yep.

868
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 1: Oh wait, sorry, boss's number one baby boy. No that

869
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:05,479
Speaker 1: baby girl.

870
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 2: You're the husband is your number one baby boy?

871
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's what I'm saying. Ohp, he is the boss.

872
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:16,879
Speaker 1: Oh oh p he is Boss boss number one baby boy.

873
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:18,839
Speaker 2: I see.

874
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:25,760
Speaker 1: Update update. Okay, we have news. So just to clarify

875
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: some things first, for additional background. Number one, I have

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Speaker 1: known Chelsea and her family prior to my marriage through

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Speaker 1: some mutual connections and her family being very very close

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Speaker 1: with my ex and his family, hence some hesitancy. I

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Speaker 1: became close friends with their brother and he became a

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Speaker 1: part of my group of friends, et cetera. She did

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Speaker 1: not meet my husband until they both started working for

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Speaker 1: the same company, so I was not very close with Chelsea,

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Speaker 1: but we always saw it and interacted cordially.

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Speaker 2: This is beautiful. Make it a family matter, Make it

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Speaker 2: a family matter, have a big family, and then be like, hey,

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Speaker 2: why are you act just so weird?

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Speaker 1: And then yeah, why are you acting so weird? With

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Speaker 1: my husband?

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Speaker 2: Strange? I love that.

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Speaker 1: Do that, Yeah, just stare into a soul. Number two.

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Speaker 1: I did not tell Chelsea his short size.

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Speaker 2: How did she know?

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Speaker 1: Did she guess? She called my husband ah and asked

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Speaker 1: him if his asked him his short size, which he

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Speaker 1: told her. I would have never told her his sighs

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Speaker 1: and would have made some jokes saying that he has

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Speaker 1: enough shirts and not to bother buying him anymore. Number

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Speaker 1: three I wish I had added this earlier. But my

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Speaker 1: husband and I have had conversations about my feelings regarding

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Speaker 1: Chelsea and her behaviors. I've tried everything from being sweet,

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Speaker 1: aloof concerned and outright angry. Thank you, oh, perfect, thank

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Speaker 1: you very much. Each time I.

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Speaker 2: Hold on.

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Speaker 1: Perfect, all right, I'm better now. Each time I've been

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Speaker 1: met with some variation of he understands, but Chelsea's neurotic.

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Speaker 1: If he knows that Chelsea acts like this, then he

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Speaker 1: needs to set up some boundaries.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 1: He never dismisses my feelings outright, but he attempts to

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Speaker 1: be sensitive to her mental state and says that he

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Speaker 1: has no issue stepping in if slash when necessary. However,

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Speaker 1: I found it necessary and it's clear he isn't even

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Speaker 1: trying to have the confrontation up until, oh, up until

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Speaker 1: the shirt event number four. My husband requesting no drama

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Speaker 1: stems from a series of events that occurred within his

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Speaker 1: family and work life that drained his emotional battery, leading

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Speaker 1: him to just ask for smooth sailing and finding his

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Speaker 1: new normal, which I don't think is necessarily like that

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Speaker 1: in of itself is bad because he's going through a

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Speaker 1: law with the law of his mom, but in this

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Speaker 1: situation it doesn't apply. I do have a history of

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Speaker 1: struggling to manage my anger during arguments, but I have

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Speaker 1: taken the steps and done what is necessary to address

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Speaker 1: my anger to make sure my marriage does not suffer,

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Speaker 1: and we've been amazing. I did want to be mindful

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Speaker 1: that what he has endured with his family and other

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Speaker 1: aspects of his life has impacted his mood, which led

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Speaker 1: him to openly ask the universe for some peace and

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Speaker 1: no drama, which made me internalize his message. Also, we

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Speaker 1: are scheduled to have our first marriage counseling session this

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Speaker 1: upcoming week, just to really make sure we iron out

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Speaker 1: any issues, and wanted to make sure when I had

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Speaker 1: my update that I had some juice and evidence of

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Speaker 1: change to give y'all. As for the talk, it went amazing.

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Speaker 2: Oh good.

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Speaker 1: Hi. I sat down with my husband and just told

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Speaker 1: him that there were some things that I wanted to

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Speaker 1: bring to his atte and included a variation of what

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Speaker 1: was in the comments along with my own words to

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Speaker 1: really drive home the fact that I'm beyond over my

941
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Speaker 1: limit and wanted him to have it on his radar.

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Speaker 1: My husband was very attentive and validating, Okay, this.

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Speaker 2: Is good, this is good.

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Speaker 1: We talked for a while, and although there were moments

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Speaker 1: where we both didn't seem to understand one another, we

946
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Speaker 1: tried hard to use some fair fighting rules I've gotten

947
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Speaker 1: from my therapist and that really seemed to help. He

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Speaker 1: gave me his point of view and we talked about

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Speaker 1: how my walking away made him feel awful and how

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Speaker 1: I was upset that he knew I would be mad

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Speaker 1: seeing him wear the shirts. Yeah, I just think that's like,

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Speaker 1: why would you not realize that your wife would be

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Speaker 1: upset seeing you wear the woman that she's talked to.

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Speaker 2: You about before. Yeah, like the shirt from her pretty

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Speaker 2: suss my dude, Yeah, I don't like.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad that they're having open conversation. Yeahs like this

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Speaker 1: is helping and.

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Speaker 2: They're going to marriage marriage counsel counseling. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think they're taking all of the right steps. He

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Speaker 1: definitely was an a hole in the beginning. I think

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Speaker 1: they're taking the steps to fix itself. I don't think

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Speaker 1: he's like a irrevocable a hole.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, like.

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Speaker 1: He can get out of his a hol Arry, He's.

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Speaker 2: Getting out of the hole.

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Speaker 1: He's getting out of the hole. I made sure to

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Speaker 1: accept my role in this situation, and he was able

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Speaker 1: to do the same. Turns out that my husband has

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Speaker 1: already had a chat with Chelsea and put her in

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Speaker 1: her place post my reaction, leading Chelsea to then have

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Speaker 1: a three day temper tantrum and constantly seeking reassurance and

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Speaker 1: validation from my husband in the form of texts and

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Speaker 1: in person harassment. Thanks my husband finally had enough and

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Speaker 1: told her that if she didn't knock it off, that

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Speaker 1: he would pursue this through his chain of command and

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Speaker 1: hr ooh. That seemed to stop her in attracts sort

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Speaker 1: of where she then started to tell him that she

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Speaker 1: was having trouble at home, and my husband responded with

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Speaker 1: sorry to hear that, good luck with everything.

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Speaker 2: Oof.

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Speaker 1: She did not like this. He has since then put

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Speaker 1: some serious boundaries up up and we both came up

983
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Speaker 1: with some ideas that we were both comfortable with and

984
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Speaker 1: won't stress out his work environment more. I can't thank

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Speaker 1: this community enough for helping me get my button gear.

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Speaker 1: For all comments, the loving, the supportive, ugly and blunt,

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Speaker 1: and the indifferent, I thank you all for taking your

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Speaker 1: time to share your input. This could have possibly saved nice.

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Speaker 2: Wow. You know what.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love bubbles and snaps for hobby snabs for

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Speaker 1: him for taking the steps and putting up those boundaries.

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Speaker 2: I liked it. I liked it. Yeah, some people still

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Speaker 2: say he's ichy. I think I think he was oblivious,

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Speaker 2: He learned, he listened, and then he took that input

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Speaker 2: and write something better out of it.

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Speaker 1: No, I think the fact that he like what going

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Speaker 1: forward made changes actionable changes. Obviously, you could be like, well,

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Speaker 1: why did he have to why did he only make

999
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Speaker 1: the changes after his wife had.

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Speaker 2: To bring it up because he didn't know. He didn't know.

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Speaker 1: I still think he's an a hole for not, you know,

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Speaker 1: recognizing that, But I think that he's getting out of it.

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Speaker 1: I think he's recovering. He's a recovering a hole.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think this is a happy, happy ending. It seems

1006
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Speaker 1: like they're on a path to redemption.

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Speaker 2: This woman crossed the line and he has made a.

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Speaker 1: New Yeah, you're you're you're finding that line. You're finding

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Speaker 1: where that line needs to be drawn.

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Speaker 2: But my question is, do you write a Reddit post

1011
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:47,760
Speaker 2: before you talk to your significant other to get input,

1012
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 2: or you talk your significant other and if it doesn't

1013
00:53:49,680 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 2: work out, you go write a Reddit post.

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Speaker 1: M I think you maybe talk to your significant.

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00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 2: Yeah what I feel. I mean, I'm so happy for

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Speaker 2: the drama.

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Speaker 1: But I'm yeah, no, like I love it, But like

1018
00:54:06,440 --> 00:54:08,879
Speaker 1: if I were to offer like actionable advice.

1019
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 2: Maybe talk to your significant out there?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, only because in this scenario, I think that Reddit

1021
00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:16,799
Speaker 3: can sometimes be a void of like.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, he's cheating on you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and that would be really wash out. Some people

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Speaker 2: just go to Reddit control. Yeah, and there's a lot

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Speaker 2: of lurkers on Red.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I know that's why. I think that if

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Speaker 1: you were dealing with kind of like some bumps in

1028
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Speaker 1: your relationship, it would be really disheartening to go on

1029
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:33,320
Speaker 1: Reddit and have everyone tell you that your husband's cheating

1030
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Speaker 1: on you. Yeah, but you know what is disheartening? What

1031
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:39,279
Speaker 1: the fact that we only have one hundred and ninety

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Speaker 1: two likes. Oh guys, actually one hundred and ninety three.

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Speaker 1: Thank you to that one person that immediately got in there.

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Speaker 1: We have three hundred and eighty six people watching this

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Speaker 1: stream actually maybe more adding up other people like in Facebook,

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Speaker 1: and yeah, we have like four hundred people watching this

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Speaker 1: dream and one ninety six likes. Come on, crazy crazy,

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Speaker 1: But thank you online third party Bindu for the five

1039
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Speaker 1: buck tip. I hope everyone here and everyone listening is well,

1040
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Speaker 1: have a lovely weekend whatever you're doing.

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Speaker 2: That's very sweet.

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Speaker 1: Have so many parties, Riley and I have so many parties,

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Speaker 1: it's it's kind of crazy. And I also start my

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Speaker 1: improv classes. I'm doing my intermediate classes.

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Speaker 2: Wow, Saturday and Sunday.

1046
00:55:26,440 --> 00:55:29,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm never I'm not gonna have free time moving

1047
00:55:29,160 --> 00:55:32,840
Speaker 1: forward anymore. My weekends are filled. My weekdays are filled.

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Speaker 2: It's a rest after the video tonight.

1049
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Speaker 1: Anyway, great head, thank you for the five buck tip.

1050
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:42,120
Speaker 1: I need to win the lottery as I ran into

1051
00:55:42,160 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 1: some financial issues lately. Everyone in the stream, please wish

1052
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Speaker 1: me luck.

1053
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Speaker 2: Yeah, good luck. Hopefully that work. Someone recently worked got

1054
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Speaker 2: like a fifty to fifty lottery they won. You can

1055
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Speaker 2: do that? Yeah, do that?

1056
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Speaker 1: You just do that. I don't know how that works.

1057
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Speaker 2: It waits for them.

1058
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that was the end of that story.

1059
00:56:01,920 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 2: Yep, but we got another one. But we got another one.

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00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:07,040
Speaker 2: You worry, don't you worry. Don't say that. Don't say

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Speaker 2: that loud rightly, don't say that out what what did

1062
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Speaker 2: he say it loud? He?

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Speaker 1: Well?

1064
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Speaker 2: Hell? Anyways, Jabelle, I gotta keep an eye on you.

1065
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 2: You tell told me what dogging it? I'm disturbed, dude.

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00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:29,359
Speaker 2: I hated that.

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Speaker 1: So funny, so funny, Shanon Valley Mama, thank you for

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00:56:33,120 --> 00:56:38,279
Speaker 1: celebrating two months of membership. Tomorrow is my birthday.

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Speaker 3: Yes, let's wait, happy birthday.

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Speaker 1: Like I didn't register that.

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Speaker 2: I'm there tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Which one are we doing next? How do you spot

1073
00:56:55,520 --> 00:56:58,759
Speaker 1: red flag? Yeah? That's the one I picked.

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Speaker 2: I sink amazing Oh, I see what you're saying now,

1075
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Speaker 2: all right?

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Speaker 1: Would I be the a hole if I break up

1077
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Speaker 1: with my boyfriend after he told me his secret?

1078
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Speaker 2: What's his secret? Maybe he should have kept it a secret.

1079
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Speaker 1: Is it like the furry one yesterday?

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Speaker 2: Or is it I what I thought was the beetle one?

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Speaker 2: The beatle? Oh dude, my girlfriend every time she thinks

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Speaker 2: of a cockroach that comes to her mind, she almost

1083
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Speaker 2: missed it to her boss.

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Speaker 1: That's so funny, that's so funny. What was it?

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Speaker 2: What was the name? Agatha? Augtha?

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Speaker 1: Augtha? Terrifying? Oh, terrifying? So throw ray pe wise group

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Speaker 1: says I, twenty four female, have been dating my boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: twenty three male for one year now.

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Speaker 2: Okay, maybe a little too soon to tell that secret,

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Speaker 2: the Aga secret. No, No, just like any secret.

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Speaker 1: Any secret. Don't tell any of your secrets until two

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Speaker 1: years in a relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:58:04,320 --> 00:58:05,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to know. I don't want to know

1095
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:06,840
Speaker 1: anything about you.

1096
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1097
00:58:07,800 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 1: I don't want to know your favorite color, I don't

1098
00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 1: want to know your blood type.

1099
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:13,040
Speaker 2: Nothing.

1100
00:58:16,360 --> 00:58:18,520
Speaker 1: We met on Tinder two years ago, but I had

1101
00:58:18,520 --> 00:58:21,040
Speaker 1: trust issues, so it took time for me to be official.

1102
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:24,720
Speaker 1: We have a good relationship. He's caring, sweet and funny.

1103
00:58:25,480 --> 00:58:27,880
Speaker 1: We have a few fights here and there, but nothing major.

1104
00:58:28,480 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 1: I moved in with him last month. So last night

1105
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 1: he was working on his Mac while I was uploading

1106
00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:36,240
Speaker 1: a backup file to one of his drives. I found

1107
00:58:36,280 --> 00:58:39,440
Speaker 1: a spreadsheet and asked him if I should delete it

1108
00:58:39,480 --> 00:58:43,080
Speaker 1: since the drive was empty. He came over and opened

1109
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 1: it as he didn't remember what it was. It contained

1110
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:52,000
Speaker 1: roughly twenty five to thirty names, email addresses, and phone numbers,

1111
00:58:52,040 --> 00:58:57,640
Speaker 1: including my details. I laughed and asked what it was.

1112
00:58:59,360 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 1: Scarre scared, scared, I also lost my place.

1113
00:59:06,160 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 2: It's probably like a pyramid scheme he was a part of.

1114
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, hopefully he is face turned red. He told me

1115
00:59:12,760 --> 00:59:15,000
Speaker 1: that this was from what he was learning hacking about

1116
00:59:15,000 --> 00:59:19,920
Speaker 1: two years ago. Oh, two years ago and testing his

1117
00:59:20,080 --> 00:59:21,080
Speaker 1: skills on people.

1118
00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 2: Oh, hold the phone.

1119
00:59:24,360 --> 00:59:29,600
Speaker 1: They've been dating for one year and he has her

1120
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:30,560
Speaker 1: information on there.

1121
00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:35,120
Speaker 2: Well, he met her two years ago on tender and

1122
00:59:35,160 --> 00:59:36,800
Speaker 2: he got to learn more about her and was like,

1123
00:59:36,920 --> 00:59:37,680
Speaker 2: I really like this.

1124
00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:40,920
Speaker 1: Girl, and so we stalked her and hacked her information.

1125
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:46,880
Speaker 2: Can you blame them? Okay? Can you blame them? Nowadays, girls,

1126
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 2: all you need is a first name, and you can

1127
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:52,920
Speaker 2: find their mom's number, their their whole family. Probably you'll

1128
00:59:52,920 --> 00:59:55,520
Speaker 2: probably get if you guys wanted, you guys could probably

1129
00:59:55,560 --> 00:59:59,320
Speaker 2: find my security numbers just from my Facebook account phone number.

1130
00:59:59,400 --> 01:00:04,600
Speaker 2: Is weird, though, you know he's learning, he's learning to

1131
01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:06,120
Speaker 2: use his skill for good or bad.

1132
01:00:06,680 --> 01:00:09,000
Speaker 1: He's just a new It's like a hobby. It's fine.

1133
01:00:10,120 --> 01:00:10,680
Speaker 2: I like it.

1134
01:00:10,760 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 1: I like it.

1135
01:00:11,320 --> 01:00:13,320
Speaker 2: One of these I hack into like a government thing

1136
01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 2: when yeah, maybe he's a CIA agent and he's like,

1137
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 2: I saved one hundred million people because of you, because

1138
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:19,320
Speaker 2: I hacked on you first.

1139
01:00:19,400 --> 01:00:21,840
Speaker 1: Yes, this is weird. He told me that this was

1140
01:00:21,840 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 1: from when he was Okay. Every few months he developed

1141
01:00:24,320 --> 01:00:26,320
Speaker 1: a new hobby that doesn't stick for more than two

1142
01:00:26,320 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 1: to three months. I think it's because he is ADHD

1143
01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:33,400
Speaker 1: in OCD. Nowadays he's learning guitar. He used to be acker.

1144
01:00:33,640 --> 01:00:36,200
Speaker 2: It's fine, it's totally fine. It's just a hobby.

1145
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 1: It's just a hobby. Then I asked him if he

1146
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:42,880
Speaker 1: got my email and phone number before he knew me,

1147
01:00:44,120 --> 01:00:50,120
Speaker 1: and he said yes. He told me he got lucky

1148
01:00:50,200 --> 01:00:52,280
Speaker 1: because two of my accounts were compromised.

1149
01:00:55,680 --> 01:00:59,680
Speaker 2: Oh h did you uncompromise them?

1150
01:00:59,760 --> 01:01:02,120
Speaker 1: And that's how we found my details. I asked him

1151
01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:04,120
Speaker 1: why he didn't tell me this before, and he said

1152
01:01:04,160 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 1: he was going to, but he forgot and he was

1153
01:01:06,400 --> 01:01:08,640
Speaker 1: sorry for doing this. Then he asked me not to

1154
01:01:08,680 --> 01:01:11,120
Speaker 1: tell anyone because people would be creeped out by it,

1155
01:01:11,840 --> 01:01:15,720
Speaker 1: and no one knows about this. Ohp, he is creeped

1156
01:01:15,720 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 1: out by this. I am creeped out by this. Presumably

1157
01:01:19,840 --> 01:01:22,920
Speaker 1: all I've read it is creeped out by this. I

1158
01:01:22,960 --> 01:01:26,080
Speaker 1: love him, but after learning about that, I can't look

1159
01:01:26,120 --> 01:01:28,520
Speaker 1: at him the same way. He now seems like a

1160
01:01:28,600 --> 01:01:32,280
Speaker 1: crazy stalker. He used my social media to get with me.

1161
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 1: I am in this dilemma where I don't know if

1162
01:01:34,640 --> 01:01:37,480
Speaker 1: I should break up over this issue or not. Everything

1163
01:01:37,520 --> 01:01:41,520
Speaker 1: else in the relationship is almost perfect, except for the

1164
01:01:41,560 --> 01:01:49,360
Speaker 1: bit where he stalked me. Yikes, Yoike's big ice Opian

1165
01:01:49,440 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 1: if her boyfriend had a list of the past relationships,

1166
01:01:52,680 --> 01:01:55,360
Speaker 1: Opie says, but there were men on the list too,

1167
01:01:55,440 --> 01:01:59,240
Speaker 1: and he's straight. Also, he showed me sites form from

1168
01:01:59,320 --> 01:02:01,520
Speaker 1: where my data got leaked, so he was just.

1169
01:02:01,480 --> 01:02:06,680
Speaker 2: Like hacking random people. I guess, so he's on the list. Weird.

1170
01:02:07,680 --> 01:02:10,080
Speaker 1: Opie responds on if those entries on the list were

1171
01:02:10,160 --> 01:02:13,600
Speaker 1: trophies quote unquote, Opie says, I don't think it was

1172
01:02:13,640 --> 01:02:15,880
Speaker 1: trophies because there were men in the list two and

1173
01:02:15,920 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 1: he's straight, and the spreadsheet has hasn't been updated since

1174
01:02:20,320 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 1: two years. At least he was telling the truth. But

1175
01:02:22,920 --> 01:02:26,000
Speaker 1: the whole situation is weird for me. And also he

1176
01:02:26,080 --> 01:02:28,200
Speaker 1: opened it up in front of me like he didn't

1177
01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:32,200
Speaker 1: even know what was inside, as the boyfriend made changes

1178
01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:34,760
Speaker 1: after he and Opie got together, and if he was

1179
01:02:34,880 --> 01:02:38,280
Speaker 1: telling her the truth, Opie says, the sheet was updated

1180
01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:40,400
Speaker 1: roughly two years ago. At least he was telling the

1181
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:45,680
Speaker 1: truth about that, but the whole situation is weird for me. Yeah,

1182
01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:49,080
Speaker 1: he hasn't hidden any details and he even showed me

1183
01:02:49,160 --> 01:02:51,600
Speaker 1: how he did it with my account. I think I

1184
01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:54,200
Speaker 1: should talk about this issue rather than posting it. Thanks

1185
01:02:56,520 --> 01:02:58,320
Speaker 1: there is an updates.

1186
01:02:59,600 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 2: Dang, yikes, let's do.

1187
01:03:02,080 --> 01:03:09,800
Speaker 1: A poll, get break run run away or yeah, run

1188
01:03:09,800 --> 01:03:16,480
Speaker 1: away or just break up? No, you can run away

1189
01:03:16,760 --> 01:03:29,440
Speaker 1: or it's harmless any way, A little.

1190
01:03:29,280 --> 01:03:35,560
Speaker 2: Scary you use it for bad I don't know.

1191
01:03:35,920 --> 01:03:39,000
Speaker 1: I don't know he did it before they got together,

1192
01:03:39,080 --> 01:03:43,800
Speaker 1: which is really weird, Like he's he hacked her.

1193
01:03:44,280 --> 01:03:47,960
Speaker 2: That's weird. Yeah, I don't like it. I'm just thinking

1194
01:03:48,000 --> 01:03:51,920
Speaker 2: it's like cute hack like on like I.

1195
01:03:51,840 --> 01:03:53,240
Speaker 1: Think it would be like I mean, it would have

1196
01:03:53,240 --> 01:03:54,840
Speaker 1: still been weird, but he could have been like, hey,

1197
01:03:55,560 --> 01:03:58,400
Speaker 1: I'm doing this amateur hacking thing. Uh, and I just

1198
01:03:58,400 --> 01:04:01,080
Speaker 1: wanted to let you know that you're your account has

1199
01:04:01,080 --> 01:04:07,840
Speaker 1: been compromised. That would have been worse. Actually, okay, let's

1200
01:04:07,920 --> 01:04:08,400
Speaker 1: keep going.

1201
01:04:10,240 --> 01:04:15,280
Speaker 2: No one's answering. Oh thank you. Yes, it's armless.

1202
01:04:15,960 --> 01:04:16,800
Speaker 1: I don't think it's working.

1203
01:04:16,920 --> 01:04:23,800
Speaker 2: It's okay, it's not working. Yeah, it didn't it's working.

1204
01:04:23,880 --> 01:04:25,040
Speaker 2: It's working. It's not working.

1205
01:04:25,560 --> 01:04:28,000
Speaker 1: Up day after my post, I.

1206
01:04:29,240 --> 01:04:30,040
Speaker 2: Didn't start it.

1207
01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:33,360
Speaker 1: Okay, you guys, everyone do it again, the type your

1208
01:04:33,360 --> 01:04:33,880
Speaker 1: things that are.

1209
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:37,000
Speaker 2: Yikes.

1210
01:04:37,480 --> 01:04:39,920
Speaker 1: After my post, I got some good advice, but didn't

1211
01:04:39,960 --> 01:04:43,120
Speaker 1: know how to confront him. I was hurt and felt betrayed,

1212
01:04:43,160 --> 01:04:45,920
Speaker 1: but tried to act normally. After a day, he asked

1213
01:04:45,920 --> 01:04:48,600
Speaker 1: if I wanted to talk about what happened. I told

1214
01:04:48,680 --> 01:04:51,560
Speaker 1: him that he had hurt me and betrayed my trust

1215
01:04:51,600 --> 01:04:54,720
Speaker 1: by invading my privacy before even knowing me. He said

1216
01:04:54,720 --> 01:04:57,160
Speaker 1: it was a long time ago and he was stupid.

1217
01:04:57,480 --> 01:05:00,320
Speaker 1: He never meant to hurt anyone. When I asked why

1218
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:03,720
Speaker 1: he didn't know how, why he didn't know how?

1219
01:05:04,240 --> 01:05:04,640
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1220
01:05:05,080 --> 01:05:08,480
Speaker 1: Oh sorry. When I asked why he didn't tell me before,

1221
01:05:08,640 --> 01:05:10,400
Speaker 1: he said at first he didn't know how to and

1222
01:05:10,560 --> 01:05:13,600
Speaker 1: was afraid I would leave him. Over time, he just

1223
01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:16,520
Speaker 1: forgot about it. I told him I needed time and

1224
01:05:16,560 --> 01:05:18,760
Speaker 1: stayed the night at my best friend's house. He told

1225
01:05:18,760 --> 01:05:20,800
Speaker 1: me to take my time and not judge based on

1226
01:05:20,880 --> 01:05:24,280
Speaker 1: my past relationship. I was in an abusive relationship. My

1227
01:05:24,320 --> 01:05:25,760
Speaker 1: ex cheated on me twice.

1228
01:05:25,960 --> 01:05:28,400
Speaker 2: Okay, there's some contacts, there's.

1229
01:05:28,200 --> 01:05:30,560
Speaker 1: Some there's some baggage going in there, but this is

1230
01:05:30,600 --> 01:05:35,200
Speaker 1: still Regardless of the baggage, this is still creepy, Like

1231
01:05:35,280 --> 01:05:36,880
Speaker 1: you were still completely valid in.

1232
01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:39,000
Speaker 2: Thinking that this is creepy and not wanting to stay. Okay,

1233
01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:41,920
Speaker 2: I hate me. Everyone can hate me. I'm gonna hate you.

1234
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 2: I'm with the I'm with the thirteen percent.

1235
01:05:45,320 --> 01:05:46,840
Speaker 1: You were with the thirteen It's harmless.

1236
01:05:47,160 --> 01:05:51,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just thinking if I got into hacking, I'm

1237
01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:53,680
Speaker 2: definitely using your email and Sam's email, but I'm not

1238
01:05:53,680 --> 01:05:54,959
Speaker 2: gonna like do anything.

1239
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:58,040
Speaker 3: With Okay, Okay, but okay, right my intentions, I'm gonna

1240
01:05:58,080 --> 01:05:59,960
Speaker 3: I'm gonna okay, but what is the story.

1241
01:06:00,040 --> 01:06:01,959
Speaker 1: Okay, I'll let me finish it, and then I'm gonna

1242
01:06:01,960 --> 01:06:07,320
Speaker 1: give you a hypothetical. When I thought about it, our

1243
01:06:07,320 --> 01:06:10,520
Speaker 1: relationship seemed almost perfect. He's the best person I know,

1244
01:06:10,760 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 1: just with some weird hobbies. The next day, he told

1245
01:06:13,520 --> 01:06:16,440
Speaker 1: me he would do anything to regain my trust, including

1246
01:06:16,520 --> 01:06:19,680
Speaker 1: going to therapy and starting his meds for ADHD and OCD,

1247
01:06:19,960 --> 01:06:22,000
Speaker 1: which he usually avoids because he says they make it

1248
01:06:22,040 --> 01:06:24,760
Speaker 1: hard for him to think straight. So this is the update.

1249
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:27,080
Speaker 1: I would have posted sooner, but caught cut up in

1250
01:06:27,160 --> 01:06:29,960
Speaker 1: work and forgot. Over the past weeks, he showed me

1251
01:06:30,000 --> 01:06:32,800
Speaker 1: how he got my info, and to my surprise, four

1252
01:06:32,840 --> 01:06:35,600
Speaker 1: of my accounts were leaked. It made me realize that

1253
01:06:35,640 --> 01:06:38,560
Speaker 1: anyone who knows very little, book little about me can

1254
01:06:38,600 --> 01:06:42,200
Speaker 1: see it. And Opie responds on if she believes her

1255
01:06:42,200 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 1: boyfriend was manipulating her from the beginning, Opie says, I mean,

1256
01:06:46,760 --> 01:06:48,200
Speaker 1: he could have lied from the first day.

1257
01:06:48,280 --> 01:06:49,080
Speaker 2: Right now.

1258
01:06:49,120 --> 01:06:51,240
Speaker 1: He knows my email and phone number, but he told

1259
01:06:51,240 --> 01:06:53,160
Speaker 1: me the truth that he got them before. I think

1260
01:06:53,200 --> 01:06:56,200
Speaker 1: that's a good sign. He's far from abusive, and I

1261
01:06:56,200 --> 01:06:58,680
Speaker 1: don't think he's a stoker either. I've known him for

1262
01:06:58,720 --> 01:07:02,640
Speaker 1: two years, and I've seen how sometimes he sometimes concentrates

1263
01:07:02,640 --> 01:07:03,560
Speaker 1: on random stuff and.

1264
01:07:03,560 --> 01:07:04,720
Speaker 2: Later just forgets about it.

1265
01:07:05,240 --> 01:07:08,160
Speaker 1: This was just too different from other hobbies. I think

1266
01:07:08,200 --> 01:07:10,920
Speaker 1: we have a good relationship. For example, with this topic,

1267
01:07:11,000 --> 01:07:13,080
Speaker 1: I couldn't bring it up to talk down. He noticed

1268
01:07:13,080 --> 01:07:17,160
Speaker 1: I was acting differently and brought it up himself, and

1269
01:07:17,200 --> 01:07:21,640
Speaker 1: that is the end of the story. And now I'm

1270
01:07:21,760 --> 01:07:28,680
Speaker 1: going to pose my hypothetical to you hypothetically right now. Hypothetically, Okay,

1271
01:07:30,120 --> 01:07:33,480
Speaker 1: you're not in your current relationship right now. In this

1272
01:07:33,600 --> 01:07:41,880
Speaker 1: hypothetical world, you go on to pinge and you're like, hey,

1273
01:07:42,080 --> 01:07:46,000
Speaker 1: texting someone you know, uh, and then you're talking to them,

1274
01:07:46,560 --> 01:07:51,680
Speaker 1: and then you go on like some dates, and then

1275
01:07:51,720 --> 01:07:54,240
Speaker 1: you find out that they hacked all of your information

1276
01:07:57,080 --> 01:08:01,640
Speaker 1: and they got your phone number before like maybe before

1277
01:08:01,680 --> 01:08:07,240
Speaker 1: the date, and they got your email and all this stuff.

1278
01:08:07,520 --> 01:08:08,240
Speaker 2: Wouldn't that not.

1279
01:08:09,880 --> 01:08:11,240
Speaker 1: Be somewhat concerning to you?

1280
01:08:11,960 --> 01:08:16,800
Speaker 2: That's okay, that's already out there, like literally anyone right

1281
01:08:16,840 --> 01:08:18,800
Speaker 2: now could find my phone number if.

1282
01:08:18,720 --> 01:08:21,960
Speaker 1: They But don't get's weird if a person act like

1283
01:08:22,080 --> 01:08:25,840
Speaker 1: who you are pursuing a romantic relationship with, just like

1284
01:08:26,479 --> 01:08:29,000
Speaker 1: actively tries to find that before you give it to them.

1285
01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:34,719
Speaker 2: Okay, one did he find more than just the phone

1286
01:08:34,800 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 2: nil and email? Or was it just those two things?

1287
01:08:37,479 --> 01:08:38,120
Speaker 1: Phone number?

1288
01:08:38,160 --> 01:08:38,559
Speaker 2: Email?

1289
01:08:39,920 --> 01:08:43,120
Speaker 1: We don't look, that's just see it is weird. It

1290
01:08:43,160 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 1: is weird. Like it is weird.

1291
01:08:46,960 --> 01:08:49,479
Speaker 2: This guy has ADHD and OCD though, and he was

1292
01:08:49,520 --> 01:08:51,000
Speaker 2: like trying out a new thing, and he was interested

1293
01:08:51,040 --> 01:08:52,639
Speaker 2: in this girl, and he's like, oh, I wonder she's

1294
01:08:52,680 --> 01:08:54,360
Speaker 2: on my list. He is off the top of my

1295
01:08:54,360 --> 01:08:56,599
Speaker 2: mind and people I'm looking out for, you know, and

1296
01:08:56,920 --> 01:09:01,519
Speaker 2: informed her about these things. I'm just saying everyone's a

1297
01:09:01,560 --> 01:09:02,439
Speaker 2: stalker in a way.

1298
01:09:03,040 --> 01:09:08,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, stccerness. Like there's a there's like going on someone's

1299
01:09:08,240 --> 01:09:11,160
Speaker 1: Instagram and like looking at their photos and stuff, and

1300
01:09:11,200 --> 01:09:14,840
Speaker 1: then there's finding someone's phone number and email address.

1301
01:09:15,400 --> 01:09:17,040
Speaker 2: What if you're like trained to do that and that

1302
01:09:17,160 --> 01:09:19,760
Speaker 2: you just can't help it. You're just like, oh, I

1303
01:09:20,200 --> 01:09:24,160
Speaker 2: might get the if there things are compromised. But this dude,

1304
01:09:24,320 --> 01:09:28,280
Speaker 2: like his intentions, his intentions with us, he has ADHD

1305
01:09:28,400 --> 01:09:31,040
Speaker 2: O c D. I don't think his intentions are bad.

1306
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:34,280
Speaker 1: I don't think after reading the story that his intentions

1307
01:09:34,280 --> 01:09:36,400
Speaker 1: are bad. But I still think that it is a

1308
01:09:37,840 --> 01:09:42,240
Speaker 1: like break, you know, like I think he's overstepping Maundaries

1309
01:09:42,560 --> 01:09:42,960
Speaker 1: for sure.

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01:09:43,320 --> 01:09:47,320
Speaker 2: Ada Rivera thinks with my books, maybe he's perfect because

1311
01:09:47,360 --> 01:09:50,920
Speaker 2: he's stalker and learned everything about her, and now he

1312
01:09:50,960 --> 01:09:52,040
Speaker 2: seems perfect to her.

1313
01:09:52,240 --> 01:09:55,639
Speaker 1: The plot of you, that is you, that that is you,

1314
01:09:55,880 --> 01:09:56,439
Speaker 1: that's you.

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01:09:57,000 --> 01:10:01,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I guess there is a different sween Facebook stock.

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01:10:01,760 --> 01:10:04,720
Speaker 1: There's so bad, Like it's so bad like.

1317
01:10:04,200 --> 01:10:07,599
Speaker 2: Girls like that though actual talk.

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01:10:08,200 --> 01:10:09,760
Speaker 1: Don't they love getting stalkers?

1319
01:10:10,880 --> 01:10:13,160
Speaker 2: Had another if they're going to get murdered or not?

1320
01:10:13,400 --> 01:10:16,559
Speaker 1: Yikes, yikes, I don't know.

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01:10:16,560 --> 01:10:16,760
Speaker 2: Oh.

1322
01:10:17,240 --> 01:10:19,800
Speaker 1: Also, I think that like even just let's say he

1323
01:10:19,960 --> 01:10:23,080
Speaker 1: just did the stalking thing. I think the other problem

1324
01:10:23,240 --> 01:10:27,600
Speaker 1: is that you didn't tell her about her, you know,

1325
01:10:27,720 --> 01:10:33,559
Speaker 1: her her accounts being acted like like her accounts being

1326
01:10:33,560 --> 01:10:38,840
Speaker 1: what's the word like when compromised compromised?

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01:10:38,920 --> 01:10:39,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you.

1328
01:10:40,040 --> 01:10:41,719
Speaker 1: I feel like he should have let her know that

1329
01:10:41,360 --> 01:10:45,000
Speaker 1: that's important information to know. I think he could have.

1330
01:10:45,120 --> 01:10:47,400
Speaker 1: I think he could have got it back and been like, hey,

1331
01:10:47,479 --> 01:10:49,040
Speaker 1: I do this thing where I like make sure that

1332
01:10:49,080 --> 01:10:50,559
Speaker 1: people's accounts aren't compromised.

1333
01:10:50,600 --> 01:10:52,800
Speaker 2: But he would have never she would have she would

1334
01:10:52,840 --> 01:10:56,200
Speaker 2: have never talked to him after that. Hey, Sophia, I

1335
01:10:56,320 --> 01:10:59,920
Speaker 2: hacked your account. Bye exactly.

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01:11:00,280 --> 01:11:03,479
Speaker 1: But that's the thing. If you think that someone would

1337
01:11:03,479 --> 01:11:05,759
Speaker 1: never talk to you after learning that information, you shouldn't

1338
01:11:05,760 --> 01:11:06,960
Speaker 1: be doing that in the first place.

1339
01:11:07,080 --> 01:11:09,080
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, so many people were like, shut up rally

1340
01:11:09,160 --> 01:11:10,800
Speaker 2: and other people were like, I am with you, right,

1341
01:11:11,200 --> 01:11:12,600
Speaker 2: this is crazy.

1342
01:11:13,600 --> 01:11:16,479
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, we're presenting both of us. We're presenting both sides.

1343
01:11:16,520 --> 01:11:18,559
Speaker 2: There you go, yeahs both sides.

1344
01:11:18,680 --> 01:11:21,400
Speaker 1: Little Zini says I once found a teacher's boyfriend on

1345
01:11:21,439 --> 01:11:24,760
Speaker 1: Facebook after she gave the class minimal information on him

1346
01:11:24,800 --> 01:11:27,360
Speaker 1: to show her she needed to be careful what info

1347
01:11:27,520 --> 01:11:30,439
Speaker 1: she gave out. Yes, exactly, this actually happened. I had

1348
01:11:30,479 --> 01:11:34,880
Speaker 1: I knew someone who found my high school teachers like

1349
01:11:34,920 --> 01:11:41,120
Speaker 1: science teachers boyfriend on like Facebook, Like he didn't even

1350
01:11:41,120 --> 01:11:45,479
Speaker 1: give information. She just like found it, Like I don't

1351
01:11:45,479 --> 01:11:47,479
Speaker 1: even I think I think she just like somehow like

1352
01:11:47,680 --> 01:11:49,760
Speaker 1: she like went through It was crazy. I was like,

1353
01:11:49,760 --> 01:11:50,400
Speaker 1: how did you do that?

1354
01:11:50,800 --> 01:11:56,839
Speaker 2: Yeah? So you know you can fine anything. Reba loo Riley.

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01:11:57,120 --> 01:12:00,360
Speaker 2: I I did not enjoy my ex talk to me

1356
01:12:00,479 --> 01:12:03,479
Speaker 2: after I broke up with him. May more Ick.

1357
01:12:04,080 --> 01:12:08,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fair, that's fair, that's yeah. I don't think

1358
01:12:08,400 --> 01:12:09,639
Speaker 1: most people enjoy stalking.

1359
01:12:11,479 --> 01:12:13,519
Speaker 2: People stalk all the time. Though, yeah, but.

1360
01:12:13,439 --> 01:12:17,360
Speaker 1: Like it, they shouldn't. I think there are levels to stalking.

1361
01:12:17,400 --> 01:12:23,400
Speaker 1: There's like there's stalking information that is public like Instagram

1362
01:12:23,520 --> 01:12:26,919
Speaker 1: or Facebook that is meant to be public, and there's

1363
01:12:26,960 --> 01:12:30,320
Speaker 1: like finding someone's email address and phone number that is

1364
01:12:30,360 --> 01:12:31,240
Speaker 1: not public information.

1365
01:12:32,520 --> 01:12:36,400
Speaker 2: Whereas olt Riley tell us you not your cope with that?

1366
01:12:36,600 --> 01:12:39,920
Speaker 2: Tell us do you know how to.

1367
01:12:39,880 --> 01:12:44,080
Speaker 1: Hunklessandra Rivers is maybe he's perfect? Oway said that one

1368
01:12:44,520 --> 01:12:49,360
Speaker 1: uh her Armano Morelli, thank you for the seventy four. Hey,

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01:12:49,680 --> 01:12:51,479
Speaker 1: I love the show. Everyone is wonderful.

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01:12:51,600 --> 01:12:51,920
Speaker 2: Thank you.

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01:12:51,960 --> 01:12:52,479
Speaker 1: This is weir.

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01:12:53,840 --> 01:12:56,680
Speaker 2: Okay, I do agree that some people can take it

1373
01:12:56,720 --> 01:13:00,759
Speaker 2: too far. Okay, yeah, do the stalking there are love stalking.

1374
01:13:00,960 --> 01:13:03,360
Speaker 2: I think it's a chart. Okay, hear me out everyone,

1375
01:13:03,640 --> 01:13:05,640
Speaker 2: you know what this is. I'm just gonna explain to

1376
01:13:05,640 --> 01:13:07,839
Speaker 2: you what my mind is like, and you can explain

1377
01:13:07,920 --> 01:13:10,680
Speaker 2: your mind all is there a one second? Let me

1378
01:13:10,760 --> 01:13:15,200
Speaker 2: find a freaking if there's like a whiteboard or like

1379
01:13:16,560 --> 01:13:20,680
Speaker 2: raw paint, Here we go, here we go, here we go.

1380
01:13:20,800 --> 01:13:24,360
Speaker 2: One second, everyone, I will make everything I'm trying to say,

1381
01:13:25,720 --> 01:13:29,679
Speaker 2: hang it one second. Oh wait, you know this is fun.

1382
01:13:29,960 --> 01:13:31,760
Speaker 2: This is fun. I have to like but like I

1383
01:13:31,800 --> 01:13:32,120
Speaker 2: have to.

1384
01:13:32,200 --> 01:13:36,360
Speaker 1: Go whiteboard whiteboard hacker, white hat Riley is a white

1385
01:13:36,400 --> 01:13:36,960
Speaker 1: hat hacker.

1386
01:13:38,680 --> 01:13:41,559
Speaker 2: That's what they're called, right. Uh.

1387
01:13:41,600 --> 01:13:44,000
Speaker 1: Seanna Lawson says, I stalk all the people I've known

1388
01:13:44,080 --> 01:13:44,639
Speaker 1: in the past.

1389
01:13:44,680 --> 01:13:46,479
Speaker 2: It's my version of checking up on them.

1390
01:13:47,000 --> 01:13:49,520
Speaker 1: Okay, But but again, I think we have to differentiate

1391
01:13:49,560 --> 01:13:53,360
Speaker 1: stalking because there's there's stalking Instagram and stalking public stuff,

1392
01:13:53,360 --> 01:13:59,519
Speaker 1: and then like stalking ah, you know. Slily Toe says,

1393
01:13:59,560 --> 01:14:02,120
Speaker 1: do you get a charts? I don't know what I'm

1394
01:14:02,120 --> 01:14:05,960
Speaker 1: getting one ready, so are Bennett says, okay, but there

1395
01:14:06,000 --> 01:14:09,679
Speaker 1: is decide a difference between actively stalking someone and learning

1396
01:14:10,320 --> 01:14:14,200
Speaker 1: how to hack. This is true. That's that's such a

1397
01:14:14,200 --> 01:14:17,800
Speaker 1: good point. There is, like, you know, just wanting to

1398
01:14:17,840 --> 01:14:19,719
Speaker 1: know how to hack and like doing all that fun,

1399
01:14:19,880 --> 01:14:22,479
Speaker 1: like doing the fun side of it, and then like

1400
01:14:23,760 --> 01:14:26,400
Speaker 1: actively stalking someone you're going on dates with.

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01:14:28,000 --> 01:14:30,639
Speaker 2: Not great. Okay, I got I got it, I got it.

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01:14:31,160 --> 01:14:37,920
Speaker 1: Okay, it's gonna look a little weird. All right, I'm ready, you'll.

1403
01:14:37,720 --> 01:14:39,840
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna I'm just gonna explain to you what's

1404
01:14:39,880 --> 01:14:42,840
Speaker 2: happening through my brain. You can disagree with me right now,

1405
01:14:42,960 --> 01:14:46,760
Speaker 2: totally fine. I am assuming that I am hacking, not

1406
01:14:46,840 --> 01:14:48,800
Speaker 2: anyone else. If anyone else was hacking, i'd say that

1407
01:14:48,840 --> 01:14:51,720
Speaker 2: this is ichy and weird. But if I'm hacking, how

1408
01:14:51,760 --> 01:14:53,120
Speaker 2: i'm this is how my thoughts.

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01:14:53,160 --> 01:14:55,040
Speaker 1: All Right, this is Riley scenario where.

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01:14:54,880 --> 01:14:57,080
Speaker 2: There are creepy guys out there and we do not

1411
01:14:57,240 --> 01:14:59,360
Speaker 2: like them. But if this was me, this is just

1412
01:14:59,479 --> 01:15:02,200
Speaker 2: me stalking you. This is Riley.

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01:15:02,240 --> 01:15:06,080
Speaker 1: You know Riley, you know me, you know him, He's

1414
01:15:06,160 --> 01:15:11,280
Speaker 1: just stalking you. Was fine, here we go, I got it.

1415
01:15:11,400 --> 01:15:15,200
Speaker 1: Nerdy glasses is Riley said? Actually I can imagine you

1416
01:15:15,240 --> 01:15:15,639
Speaker 1: saying that.

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01:15:16,080 --> 01:15:20,480
Speaker 2: So, like, you got this here like level one? Yeah,

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01:15:20,560 --> 01:15:22,880
Speaker 2: this is like Facebook.

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01:15:22,240 --> 01:15:24,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, Jel says, and creepy girls. Have you guys seen

1420
01:15:24,960 --> 01:15:27,360
Speaker 1: baby Rander because I haven't, but I heard it's good.

1421
01:15:28,400 --> 01:15:30,680
Speaker 1: Tell me if I should watch it Facebook?

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01:15:32,240 --> 01:15:36,160
Speaker 2: Okay, And then you got like, wait stalk, you got

1423
01:15:36,200 --> 01:15:36,960
Speaker 2: you got stalk?

1424
01:15:44,640 --> 01:15:46,519
Speaker 1: Sorry, guys, this is a segment that we just have

1425
01:15:46,600 --> 01:15:46,840
Speaker 1: to do.

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01:15:47,160 --> 01:15:49,639
Speaker 2: And then what is this intentions?

1427
01:15:52,320 --> 01:15:53,040
Speaker 1: Intentions?

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01:15:53,160 --> 01:15:56,800
Speaker 2: Okay, I t intentions? So you got Facebook one is

1429
01:15:56,880 --> 01:16:00,360
Speaker 2: level one? You're like just learning? Yeah, and then let's say, like.

1430
01:16:00,560 --> 01:16:03,000
Speaker 1: Honestly, I think Instagram is level one. I think Facebook

1431
01:16:03,040 --> 01:16:05,280
Speaker 1: is level two. Because you can find out like birthday.

1432
01:16:04,920 --> 01:16:07,439
Speaker 2: And Instagram, Facebook, same thing, I'm by the same company,

1433
01:16:07,640 --> 01:16:10,799
Speaker 2: and then you got you got like I'm a big

1434
01:16:10,880 --> 01:16:22,360
Speaker 2: stalker here, but I'm just checking. I don't fully understand this, Okay,

1435
01:16:22,520 --> 01:16:24,640
Speaker 2: So like this right here is a level one, like

1436
01:16:24,760 --> 01:16:29,120
Speaker 2: the intentions are all good. Anything above this, anything in

1437
01:16:29,120 --> 01:16:34,639
Speaker 2: this area yeah crazy. The closer you get to this

1438
01:16:34,800 --> 01:16:37,640
Speaker 2: area is crazy. I think this too. If you're on

1439
01:16:37,720 --> 01:16:43,760
Speaker 2: Facebook stoking, stalking, but your intentions are mean you let

1440
01:16:43,760 --> 01:16:47,839
Speaker 2: the world on your Facebook and that this is okay.

1441
01:16:47,880 --> 01:16:51,040
Speaker 2: Anything on this anything on the level one of stock

1442
01:16:51,840 --> 01:16:57,240
Speaker 2: bad intentions or like this is like okay to me

1443
01:16:57,360 --> 01:16:59,760
Speaker 2: because this side is like you let the world know

1444
01:16:59,840 --> 01:17:01,920
Speaker 2: this about you. But this side is like this is

1445
01:17:01,920 --> 01:17:04,679
Speaker 2: a trained professional, but their intentions are good. But anything

1446
01:17:04,800 --> 01:17:09,920
Speaker 2: outside of this area is bad. And I think it's creepy.

1447
01:17:10,840 --> 01:17:14,120
Speaker 2: That's what went through my head, as if I was stalking.

1448
01:17:13,720 --> 01:17:17,320
Speaker 1: You, not no one else drew it out.

1449
01:17:17,560 --> 01:17:21,120
Speaker 2: I think people hate me more. But fars is only

1450
01:17:21,240 --> 01:17:22,000
Speaker 2: he interested.

1451
01:17:23,200 --> 01:17:25,080
Speaker 1: This is that meme of like the guy who's like

1452
01:17:26,240 --> 01:17:27,479
Speaker 1: and all the math is coming out.

1453
01:17:28,240 --> 01:17:30,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, please put like a muscle in the comment. If

1454
01:17:30,960 --> 01:17:32,760
Speaker 2: you understood it, you don't have to agree with it.

1455
01:17:32,800 --> 01:17:36,240
Speaker 2: Just understood it, if you just understood it, because I

1456
01:17:36,280 --> 01:17:37,439
Speaker 2: noticed so many people.

1457
01:17:38,360 --> 01:17:40,479
Speaker 1: Did anyone understand what Riley just explained?

1458
01:17:40,560 --> 01:17:42,719
Speaker 2: This is just me stalking, not like your crazy excess.

1459
01:17:42,720 --> 01:17:45,120
Speaker 1: If I understand what you're saying. I just don't think

1460
01:17:45,120 --> 01:17:46,479
Speaker 1: that your chart made sense.

1461
01:17:47,040 --> 01:17:49,920
Speaker 2: Dang it. Let me explain it again.

1462
01:17:50,840 --> 01:17:54,960
Speaker 1: Now we're moving on. We're moving on to the next story.

1463
01:17:56,200 --> 01:17:57,920
Speaker 1: Which next story?

1464
01:17:58,200 --> 01:17:58,599
Speaker 2: Lurking?

1465
01:17:59,360 --> 01:18:05,719
Speaker 1: Oh oh, okay, lurking. Okay, that's key. That was the

1466
01:18:05,760 --> 01:18:07,080
Speaker 1: word I was looking for.

1467
01:18:07,200 --> 01:18:07,479
Speaker 2: Lurky.

1468
01:18:07,800 --> 01:18:10,559
Speaker 1: Yeah that okay, let's get into that story.

1469
01:18:10,680 --> 01:18:15,080
Speaker 2: Okay, cool, yeah, right right? Uh?

1470
01:18:15,280 --> 01:18:17,800
Speaker 1: Should I let my ex just come back into my

1471
01:18:17,880 --> 01:18:18,479
Speaker 1: son's life?

1472
01:18:20,040 --> 01:18:20,400
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1473
01:18:20,439 --> 01:18:23,400
Speaker 1: It depends on how serious he is. So dark lith

1474
01:18:23,600 --> 01:18:26,040
Speaker 1: eighty six says, I posted about my ex so you

1475
01:18:26,040 --> 01:18:28,400
Speaker 1: can read it to get some context on him. I

1476
01:18:28,439 --> 01:18:30,920
Speaker 1: want to make it clear I am over the cheating

1477
01:18:30,960 --> 01:18:33,040
Speaker 1: he did to me. I'm not okay with the actions

1478
01:18:33,040 --> 01:18:35,960
Speaker 1: he did in which to cheat two different things that

1479
01:18:36,000 --> 01:18:38,519
Speaker 1: his family doesn't seem to understand. So maybe this is

1480
01:18:38,560 --> 01:18:42,519
Speaker 1: on me and I can get advice. My ex cheated

1481
01:18:42,560 --> 01:18:46,160
Speaker 1: on me multiple times with different women. I have hardcore

1482
01:18:46,280 --> 01:18:49,360
Speaker 1: proof on two of them, three and four I've been

1483
01:18:49,360 --> 01:18:51,280
Speaker 1: told about. Oh, three and four, I've been told about

1484
01:18:51,360 --> 01:18:54,639
Speaker 1: but can't say much. When he cheated with M, We're

1485
01:18:54,640 --> 01:18:58,200
Speaker 1: gonna name her Mary. She was his coworker with a fiance.

1486
01:18:58,720 --> 01:19:02,680
Speaker 1: Would be baby babysit my son? No, who would babysit

1487
01:19:02,760 --> 01:19:05,280
Speaker 1: my son when I was having late night classes. I

1488
01:19:05,320 --> 01:19:09,920
Speaker 1: was in nursing school. No, you were cheating with the babysitter.

1489
01:19:11,920 --> 01:19:14,240
Speaker 1: Little did I know? My mom would be watching the

1490
01:19:14,280 --> 01:19:17,000
Speaker 1: baby most of the time. My ex and M would

1491
01:19:17,000 --> 01:19:20,360
Speaker 1: be sleeping with each other at her place. The mom

1492
01:19:20,520 --> 01:19:23,320
Speaker 1: was in on it, or did she was? She just

1493
01:19:23,400 --> 01:19:27,000
Speaker 1: lied to and like the husband was like, oh, I'm

1494
01:19:27,040 --> 01:19:30,479
Speaker 1: working tonight. But I feel like they would have I

1495
01:19:30,479 --> 01:19:33,840
Speaker 1: feel like the mom would have had to let Opino

1496
01:19:34,520 --> 01:19:35,560
Speaker 1: that she was babysitting.

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01:19:35,880 --> 01:19:38,160
Speaker 2: They must have figured out a way to like, I

1498
01:19:38,160 --> 01:19:42,439
Speaker 2: don't know, not so suspicious, like oh, how was I

1499
01:19:42,560 --> 01:19:45,120
Speaker 2: was saying the mom is Miranda, sorry, Miranda's? Or the

1500
01:19:45,160 --> 01:19:49,240
Speaker 2: baby sitys Miranda, Miranda sorry, Miranda's How was Miranda? And

1501
01:19:49,240 --> 01:19:52,519
Speaker 2: they were like Grham Graham was fun. Maybe the kid's

1502
01:19:52,560 --> 01:20:00,200
Speaker 2: too young to talk. O, this is suspicious. He's really suspicious.

1503
01:20:00,600 --> 01:20:03,200
Speaker 1: Her fiance my X and M would be sleeping with

1504
01:20:03,240 --> 01:20:06,000
Speaker 1: each other at her place. Her fiance works a couple

1505
01:20:06,000 --> 01:20:09,680
Speaker 1: hours drive from our city and late hours. Whoa when

1506
01:20:09,720 --> 01:20:12,160
Speaker 1: he was cheating with E. Let's call her Emma, So

1507
01:20:12,200 --> 01:20:14,840
Speaker 1: we've got Mary and Emma. He would lie to my

1508
01:20:14,920 --> 01:20:17,799
Speaker 1: parents saying he was going to work overtime. This company

1509
01:20:17,880 --> 01:20:21,360
Speaker 1: doesn't do overtime. Ever, I found this out later and

1510
01:20:21,439 --> 01:20:24,880
Speaker 1: wouldn't come home back. Wouldn't come back home until about

1511
01:20:24,920 --> 01:20:27,920
Speaker 1: an hour before I would come back from my overnight job.

1512
01:20:28,960 --> 01:20:31,320
Speaker 1: At the same time, when he was home, he was

1513
01:20:31,360 --> 01:20:34,559
Speaker 1: barely watching our son. My parents we live with them,

1514
01:20:34,640 --> 01:20:37,479
Speaker 1: would have him while my ex played on his Xbox

1515
01:20:37,920 --> 01:20:41,680
Speaker 1: until two to three am. This happened a lot. My

1516
01:20:41,760 --> 01:20:43,720
Speaker 1: mom would complain to me and I would talk to

1517
01:20:43,800 --> 01:20:46,120
Speaker 1: him about it. It would change for a week, then

1518
01:20:46,160 --> 01:20:51,200
Speaker 1: the cycle would repeat. Okay, I'm so confused on how

1519
01:20:52,040 --> 01:20:55,519
Speaker 1: they like, Oh, he didn't know this earlier if they

1520
01:20:55,720 --> 01:21:01,120
Speaker 1: lived with the parents, Like, what was the miscommunication? Yeah,

1521
01:21:01,160 --> 01:21:04,200
Speaker 1: because this isn't adding up, like unless the parents were

1522
01:21:04,280 --> 01:21:07,240
Speaker 1: in on it. I don't understand how they wouldn't have noticed.

1523
01:21:07,840 --> 01:21:10,120
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1524
01:21:10,439 --> 01:21:13,920
Speaker 1: After he walked out on us in November twenty twenty two,

1525
01:21:14,120 --> 01:21:17,120
Speaker 1: he didn't contact me or see our son for six weeks.

1526
01:21:17,360 --> 01:21:18,360
Speaker 2: Oh.

1527
01:21:18,600 --> 01:21:21,320
Speaker 1: When we finally had to sit down talk, he said

1528
01:21:21,520 --> 01:21:24,439
Speaker 1: he only wanted to see our son every other weekend.

1529
01:21:25,080 --> 01:21:25,439
Speaker 2: Pause.

1530
01:21:25,520 --> 01:21:27,400
Speaker 1: I really should have mentioned this in my first post,

1531
01:21:27,439 --> 01:21:30,120
Speaker 1: but it matters more here. Our son is autism. He

1532
01:21:30,200 --> 01:21:34,760
Speaker 1: is high functioning, but extremely sensitive, like extremely okay. So

1533
01:21:34,840 --> 01:21:38,040
Speaker 1: that went until August twenty twenty two. During this time,

1534
01:21:38,120 --> 01:21:40,960
Speaker 1: my ex canceled on my son a lot to be

1535
01:21:41,040 --> 01:21:44,320
Speaker 1: with Emma. Even on Father's Day, my nephew was having

1536
01:21:44,320 --> 01:21:47,519
Speaker 1: a graduation party. It was my ex's weekend. I asked

1537
01:21:47,520 --> 01:21:49,920
Speaker 1: if baby could come to the party for two hours tops,

1538
01:21:50,040 --> 01:21:51,799
Speaker 1: then they could spend the rest of the day together.

1539
01:21:52,439 --> 01:21:52,919
Speaker 2: Nope.

1540
01:21:53,040 --> 01:21:55,519
Speaker 1: He dropped off my son and left for a week

1541
01:21:55,760 --> 01:21:58,160
Speaker 1: camping with Emma and didn't tell me.

1542
01:22:00,200 --> 01:22:01,440
Speaker 2: This sky sucks.

1543
01:22:01,920 --> 01:22:06,160
Speaker 1: This guy stakes. There was an emergency and I couldn't

1544
01:22:06,160 --> 01:22:08,960
Speaker 1: get a hold of him for three days. Finally he

1545
01:22:09,040 --> 01:22:09,719
Speaker 1: called me back.

1546
01:22:10,240 --> 01:22:12,960
Speaker 2: It was a fight. I would just get full.

1547
01:22:13,880 --> 01:22:16,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he's not helping. He's not a consistent father,

1548
01:22:16,800 --> 01:22:19,640
Speaker 1: and if you can't rely on him, get him out

1549
01:22:19,640 --> 01:22:19,800
Speaker 1: of there.

1550
01:22:19,840 --> 01:22:22,880
Speaker 2: It should be a crime to raise children's expectations and

1551
01:22:22,920 --> 01:22:26,920
Speaker 2: then crush them again. And again like this, that's so sad.

1552
01:22:27,320 --> 01:22:32,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, this canceling goes on and on until August. Then

1553
01:22:32,200 --> 01:22:35,800
Speaker 1: we have our parental agreement in place. The child therapist said,

1554
01:22:35,800 --> 01:22:38,639
Speaker 1: my ex needs to be all in or all out

1555
01:22:38,640 --> 01:22:41,960
Speaker 1: with our son as his actions are causing great emotional

1556
01:22:42,080 --> 01:22:46,080
Speaker 1: damage to him. Our son was constantly crying and getting depressed.

1557
01:22:46,320 --> 01:22:49,360
Speaker 1: It was happening during camp and even during school. Just

1558
01:22:49,400 --> 01:22:53,080
Speaker 1: started kindergarten, so constant changes were a lot on him.

1559
01:22:53,520 --> 01:22:57,080
Speaker 1: He needed consistency, which my ex wasn't giving. He wanted

1560
01:22:57,120 --> 01:22:59,559
Speaker 1: to spend all his free time with Emma, putting our

1561
01:22:59,560 --> 01:23:01,720
Speaker 1: son on the back burner, which I was not okay with.

1562
01:23:03,240 --> 01:23:06,120
Speaker 1: Fast forward to December twenty twenty two. Our son has

1563
01:23:06,320 --> 01:23:10,320
Speaker 1: his official autism diagnosis appointment. I asked if he wanted

1564
01:23:10,360 --> 01:23:13,120
Speaker 1: to attend, as it's important to our son. He said

1565
01:23:13,160 --> 01:23:16,400
Speaker 1: he couldn't. He didn't have any more sick days, personal days,

1566
01:23:16,479 --> 01:23:19,840
Speaker 1: or vacation time. I asked, could he not just book

1567
01:23:19,920 --> 01:23:23,080
Speaker 1: off work just for the morning the appointment was nine am,

1568
01:23:23,640 --> 01:23:26,599
Speaker 1: then go to work in the afternoon. He said flat

1569
01:23:26,600 --> 01:23:29,960
Speaker 1: out no, he can't afford it. Well, guess what happened.

1570
01:23:30,200 --> 01:23:33,880
Speaker 1: If you guessed he lied, you get a cookie. No,

1571
01:23:34,560 --> 01:23:36,080
Speaker 1: you're telling me he was with Emma.

1572
01:23:38,840 --> 01:23:44,960
Speaker 2: I want a cookie? Is this probably the worst? Wait? Noum.

1573
01:23:48,400 --> 01:23:51,479
Speaker 1: I called him after the appointment because, as expected, my

1574
01:23:51,640 --> 01:23:54,160
Speaker 1: son was upset and wanted to see him.

1575
01:23:54,560 --> 01:23:57,200
Speaker 2: No answer. This guy is the worst, the worst.

1576
01:23:57,960 --> 01:23:59,880
Speaker 1: So I texted him I wanted to stop by his

1577
01:24:00,040 --> 01:24:03,040
Speaker 1: work around lunch so son can see him. I drove

1578
01:24:03,120 --> 01:24:05,599
Speaker 1: to my friend's house, who was five minutes from his work,

1579
01:24:06,160 --> 01:24:08,360
Speaker 1: to pick up something. It was about a twenty minute

1580
01:24:08,400 --> 01:24:13,719
Speaker 1: drive and I still didn't get a response. So while

1581
01:24:13,760 --> 01:24:16,120
Speaker 1: my friend was playing with my son, I called him.

1582
01:24:16,800 --> 01:24:20,400
Speaker 1: After a few rings, he answered, out of breath, I'm

1583
01:24:20,439 --> 01:24:25,240
Speaker 1: like wh I asked him back and forth what he's doing.

1584
01:24:25,840 --> 01:24:28,160
Speaker 1: He lied and said he wasn't feeling well and went

1585
01:24:28,200 --> 01:24:32,479
Speaker 1: back to his dad's. Oh okay, no problem, I'll come there,

1586
01:24:33,800 --> 01:24:36,280
Speaker 1: he said, no, he wanted to be alone. He'll see

1587
01:24:36,280 --> 01:24:39,000
Speaker 1: her son later. To shorten this, he lied to me

1588
01:24:39,160 --> 01:24:41,920
Speaker 1: five times saying he was at his dad's when I

1589
01:24:42,000 --> 01:24:43,599
Speaker 1: kept hearing a weird noise.

1590
01:24:47,479 --> 01:24:50,320
Speaker 2: It was like, what was the weird What do you

1591
01:24:50,320 --> 01:24:54,920
Speaker 2: think the weird noise was moaning? That's when I heard this.

1592
01:24:56,280 --> 01:25:02,400
Speaker 1: Turns out the weird noise was easy, Oh hah, not mind.

1593
01:25:03,040 --> 01:25:05,439
Speaker 1: Turns out the noise was east dog trying to get

1594
01:25:05,439 --> 01:25:08,360
Speaker 1: into the room. It burst through his door. He lost

1595
01:25:08,400 --> 01:25:11,519
Speaker 1: his ever loving mind at the dog. I lost my

1596
01:25:11,680 --> 01:25:14,400
Speaker 1: crap on. My ex told him not to contact us

1597
01:25:14,479 --> 01:25:20,320
Speaker 1: until April twenty twenty four. Yes, this was legal, and

1598
01:25:20,840 --> 01:25:23,360
Speaker 1: as it was in our parental contract, it was supposed

1599
01:25:23,360 --> 01:25:26,000
Speaker 1: to happen earlier, but wanted to avoid it as much

1600
01:25:26,200 --> 01:25:30,240
Speaker 1: as possible. From August to December, we had increased visits

1601
01:25:30,280 --> 01:25:33,760
Speaker 1: with my ex to every Wednesday and Sunday weekly. He

1602
01:25:33,880 --> 01:25:37,400
Speaker 1: canceled a lot too during this time. Only after November

1603
01:25:37,479 --> 01:25:40,160
Speaker 1: was it to do? Was it due to an injury

1604
01:25:40,200 --> 01:25:44,200
Speaker 1: at work, which I understood. So April twenty twenty four

1605
01:25:44,280 --> 01:25:47,880
Speaker 1: comes along and he messaged me once to demand he

1606
01:25:48,040 --> 01:25:51,240
Speaker 1: see our son. I told him no, we have to

1607
01:25:51,240 --> 01:25:54,800
Speaker 1: follow the parental contract which states after April we would

1608
01:25:54,800 --> 01:25:58,360
Speaker 1: sit down and discuss with him what him re entering

1609
01:25:58,360 --> 01:26:01,360
Speaker 1: my son's life looks like, how to do it, as

1610
01:26:01,400 --> 01:26:05,519
Speaker 1: well as he must attend family therapy slash counseling. It's

1611
01:26:05,600 --> 01:26:09,120
Speaker 1: June and I haven't heard back from him. Get rid

1612
01:26:09,160 --> 01:26:13,639
Speaker 1: of him, get rid of him. He's out, he's out.

1613
01:26:13,840 --> 01:26:16,280
Speaker 1: I hate this guy. He doesn't need to be there.

1614
01:26:16,400 --> 01:26:22,280
Speaker 1: He's ruining this child's development. Turns out, he told his

1615
01:26:22,360 --> 01:26:24,800
Speaker 1: sister and dad that I am forcing him to go

1616
01:26:24,880 --> 01:26:29,080
Speaker 1: to therapy, which I'm not, and I'm being a manipulative bee.

1617
01:26:29,439 --> 01:26:31,719
Speaker 1: I don't think I am. I don't care.

1618
01:26:31,600 --> 01:26:33,040
Speaker 2: About his feelings. I'll admit it.

1619
01:26:33,080 --> 01:26:35,920
Speaker 1: My only concern is to protect my son's feelings and

1620
01:26:36,000 --> 01:26:39,000
Speaker 1: focus on his well being. His sister and dad say,

1621
01:26:39,040 --> 01:26:42,639
Speaker 1: I need to forget everything you did to me. What what?

1622
01:26:43,400 --> 01:26:45,920
Speaker 1: It's in the past. It doesn't matter anymore. What do

1623
01:26:46,000 --> 01:26:49,599
Speaker 1: you mean it's in the past. He's actively fing emma.

1624
01:26:51,280 --> 01:26:51,960
Speaker 2: This is crazy.

1625
01:26:52,439 --> 01:26:57,960
Speaker 1: It wasn't a big deal. This is why I feel

1626
01:26:58,000 --> 01:27:00,320
Speaker 1: like the family was in on it, because how are

1627
01:27:00,360 --> 01:27:02,680
Speaker 1: they all living together and they didn't realize that he

1628
01:27:02,720 --> 01:27:06,240
Speaker 1: was cheating. I feel like they were in on it.

1629
01:27:07,479 --> 01:27:08,559
Speaker 2: They were. I don't know.

1630
01:27:08,640 --> 01:27:14,920
Speaker 1: I'm suspicious. I think it is a big deal to

1631
01:27:14,920 --> 01:27:16,920
Speaker 1: put your son on the back burner to hook up

1632
01:27:16,960 --> 01:27:20,759
Speaker 1: with your spicy sleep buddy. My ex is, worse words,

1633
01:27:20,840 --> 01:27:25,479
Speaker 1: not mine. He refuses to acknowledge her as his girlfriend. YIX,

1634
01:27:26,520 --> 01:27:29,040
Speaker 1: Can someone please give me advice on what to do?

1635
01:27:29,400 --> 01:27:31,760
Speaker 1: My family, friends, and the school teachers are saying, I'm

1636
01:27:31,760 --> 01:27:34,479
Speaker 1: doing the right thing. His family is making me out

1637
01:27:34,520 --> 01:27:35,160
Speaker 1: to be the devil.

1638
01:27:35,560 --> 01:27:35,760
Speaker 2: Oh.

1639
01:27:35,840 --> 01:27:37,680
Speaker 1: Yes, since I kicked him out of our lives in

1640
01:27:37,680 --> 01:27:41,519
Speaker 1: December when Christmas break was over, both teachers noticed a

1641
01:27:41,680 --> 01:27:44,840
Speaker 1: huge difference in my son since he's been gone. He's

1642
01:27:44,840 --> 01:27:49,880
Speaker 1: more emotionally stable, happier, interactive plays with the other kids.

1643
01:27:49,920 --> 01:27:54,240
Speaker 1: Not having the daddy canceling rollercoaster has been positive for

1644
01:27:54,479 --> 01:27:59,559
Speaker 1: my son. Yeah. Yeah, no, this is he was a

1645
01:27:59,600 --> 01:28:02,519
Speaker 1: bad He was a bad influence in their life, and

1646
01:28:02,560 --> 01:28:05,200
Speaker 1: he just needed to get out of there. Yeah, because

1647
01:28:05,240 --> 01:28:07,960
Speaker 1: this bad bad by.

1648
01:28:07,680 --> 01:28:10,040
Speaker 2: Either you sin is what you do with their parents.

1649
01:28:10,120 --> 01:28:10,320
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1650
01:28:10,400 --> 01:28:12,920
Speaker 2: I think you that have a one in this post

1651
01:28:12,960 --> 01:28:15,240
Speaker 2: and if they don't understand it, then they're crazy. Just

1652
01:28:15,280 --> 01:28:19,559
Speaker 2: like your accent. You leave it alone. Yeah, you leave

1653
01:28:19,600 --> 01:28:22,600
Speaker 2: it alone. Get them out of there. Yeah, dude, not

1654
01:28:22,720 --> 01:28:25,120
Speaker 2: much to say. He's just a bad person, just a

1655
01:28:25,200 --> 01:28:28,960
Speaker 2: really bad person. I don't I don't. I don't like him.

1656
01:28:29,280 --> 01:28:32,880
Speaker 2: I don't like it. No, right, sir. The only way

1657
01:28:32,960 --> 01:28:35,640
Speaker 2: that you could have a right is if put a

1658
01:28:35,720 --> 01:28:39,240
Speaker 2: little bit more work, a little bit more effort. Yeah,

1659
01:28:40,040 --> 01:28:40,439
Speaker 2: that's it.

1660
01:28:40,520 --> 01:28:42,519
Speaker 1: But he doesn't have it right because he's just He's

1661
01:28:42,560 --> 01:28:47,000
Speaker 1: like he's just tossing his little kid left and right,

1662
01:28:47,320 --> 01:28:49,760
Speaker 1: trying to pull them all over the place. And the

1663
01:28:49,840 --> 01:28:52,519
Speaker 1: poor little boy is he is not doing well. And

1664
01:28:52,560 --> 01:28:54,799
Speaker 1: now the second that his dad leaves, he's like whoop.

1665
01:28:55,760 --> 01:28:58,000
Speaker 1: So it clearly was affecting him. It clearly was a

1666
01:28:58,000 --> 01:29:01,040
Speaker 1: big deal. And I hate this family. Yeah, but that

1667
01:29:01,200 --> 01:29:02,280
Speaker 1: is the end of that story.

1668
01:29:02,400 --> 01:29:04,640
Speaker 2: That's all rude, but not the end of the stream.

1669
01:29:04,760 --> 01:29:07,840
Speaker 2: We have another one. Yes we do, and let's get

1670
01:29:07,880 --> 01:29:14,200
Speaker 2: into it. I'm doing good night, Mirah and great Friday

1671
01:29:13,880 --> 01:29:17,479
Speaker 2: Friday and exciting things happening today. Al yep. We also

1672
01:29:17,720 --> 01:29:20,960
Speaker 2: have a little special something something for the members.

1673
01:29:20,800 --> 01:29:23,200
Speaker 1: Something, a little something something.

1674
01:29:24,280 --> 01:29:27,599
Speaker 2: Sofia doesn't even know about it. What thank you? I

1675
01:29:27,600 --> 01:29:30,720
Speaker 2: have no idea, Sophia, what so just Sam just told

1676
01:29:30,760 --> 01:29:33,040
Speaker 2: me a second what we're gonna do later for the

1677
01:29:33,080 --> 01:29:37,200
Speaker 2: members only special guest.

1678
01:29:37,760 --> 01:29:42,960
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Now I have won my husband back. I

1679
01:29:43,000 --> 01:29:49,680
Speaker 1: am leaving him. And that is the title of the story.

1680
01:29:49,760 --> 01:29:53,000
Speaker 1: So one and back Throwaway says, I feel like I

1681
01:29:53,000 --> 01:29:55,479
Speaker 1: should reread that because I feel like I okay, no.

1682
01:29:55,760 --> 01:29:56,840
Speaker 2: I think we all got it.

1683
01:29:56,960 --> 01:30:00,959
Speaker 3: Now that I've won my husband back, I'm leaving him.

1684
01:30:01,040 --> 01:30:03,160
Speaker 1: Is that Okay, there you go.

1685
01:30:03,160 --> 01:30:05,320
Speaker 2: Go asked a question. So won and.

1686
01:30:05,320 --> 01:30:09,320
Speaker 1: Back throwaway says, am I the a hole for leaving

1687
01:30:09,320 --> 01:30:14,920
Speaker 1: my husband after I won him back. Excellent, So one

1688
01:30:14,960 --> 01:30:17,920
Speaker 1: and back throwaway says I have secured an apartment for

1689
01:30:18,040 --> 01:30:20,280
Speaker 1: my baby and me, and I have put everything in

1690
01:30:20,400 --> 01:30:24,880
Speaker 1: order and prepared for custody, shared or otherwise. I have

1691
01:30:24,960 --> 01:30:27,519
Speaker 1: divided the money and transferred my share to a third

1692
01:30:27,560 --> 01:30:30,960
Speaker 1: account and it will stay there until the divorce proceedings

1693
01:30:30,960 --> 01:30:33,519
Speaker 1: and the dividings of the assets. I found out that

1694
01:30:33,560 --> 01:30:36,120
Speaker 1: my husband was having an affair while I was postpartum.

1695
01:30:36,680 --> 01:30:39,000
Speaker 1: I thought that I would die because I love him,

1696
01:30:39,080 --> 01:30:41,120
Speaker 1: and it felt like my heart was broken into a

1697
01:30:41,160 --> 01:30:44,360
Speaker 1: million pieces. I knew that it was over, but my

1698
01:30:44,600 --> 01:30:47,800
Speaker 1: curiosity got the best of me. I wanted to know why.

1699
01:30:48,439 --> 01:30:50,600
Speaker 1: What was it she had that I didn't Did he

1700
01:30:50,680 --> 01:30:54,160
Speaker 1: love her? I started reading his texts and everything was there.

1701
01:30:55,040 --> 01:30:57,559
Speaker 1: He felt like he was alive again. He was happy

1702
01:30:57,600 --> 01:31:00,920
Speaker 1: and excited. She's still She's single and childless, so she

1703
01:31:00,960 --> 01:31:02,840
Speaker 1: had all the time in the world to make him

1704
01:31:03,000 --> 01:31:06,960
Speaker 1: her priority. He felt seen and desired by her. I

1705
01:31:07,040 --> 01:31:10,040
Speaker 1: was confused because even with life coming between us, he

1706
01:31:10,160 --> 01:31:12,840
Speaker 1: was always my love and I made sure he knew

1707
01:31:12,880 --> 01:31:16,479
Speaker 1: that every day. Still it wasn't enough. That is not

1708
01:31:16,520 --> 01:31:20,200
Speaker 1: your fault. That is on him. You did nothing wrong.

1709
01:31:20,960 --> 01:31:22,840
Speaker 1: And if he had a problem with the relationship, he

1710
01:31:22,920 --> 01:31:26,320
Speaker 1: should have communicated that with you or left the relationship.

1711
01:31:28,040 --> 01:31:31,679
Speaker 2: Ah hi ja wow, saf doesn't want to read anymore.

1712
01:31:31,920 --> 01:31:41,040
Speaker 1: I'm done. I'm done, O face. I read thousands upon

1713
01:31:41,160 --> 01:31:44,960
Speaker 1: thousands of messages between them, and I started, uh, and

1714
01:31:45,040 --> 01:31:50,840
Speaker 1: I started thinking about everything he fantasized about in the beginning,

1715
01:31:50,920 --> 01:31:54,519
Speaker 1: and I started being everything he fantasized about in the beginning.

1716
01:31:54,560 --> 01:31:56,720
Speaker 1: It felt weird and he was confused, but I just

1717
01:31:56,760 --> 01:31:59,439
Speaker 1: went on. Every time he made plans with her, I

1718
01:31:59,479 --> 01:32:02,240
Speaker 1: found a way to make him stay, or I made

1719
01:32:02,280 --> 01:32:05,439
Speaker 1: sure to see or I made sure that I sent

1720
01:32:05,520 --> 01:32:07,240
Speaker 1: him exhausted to her will.

1721
01:32:07,720 --> 01:32:11,439
Speaker 2: We've read I remember a similar story of this. It

1722
01:32:11,520 --> 01:32:15,519
Speaker 2: was whenever the woman sorry, I thought, we read this again. Yeah,

1723
01:32:15,520 --> 01:32:20,120
Speaker 2: I was like, what it was whenever the woman got

1724
01:32:20,120 --> 01:32:26,000
Speaker 2: an arranged marriage with her husband and they decided to like.

1725
01:32:24,840 --> 01:32:27,000
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she was like she convinced. She was like,

1726
01:32:27,040 --> 01:32:29,360
Speaker 1: I give you the yeah, you know. Yeah, that's the

1727
01:32:29,360 --> 01:32:34,839
Speaker 1: same story. Though, the messages became less and less frequent,

1728
01:32:34,920 --> 01:32:40,120
Speaker 1: and the passion and excitement subsided. She won, She won,

1729
01:32:40,200 --> 01:32:42,840
Speaker 1: she she she got him, She got him back, We

1730
01:32:42,920 --> 01:32:47,280
Speaker 1: got him. Soon, answering her became more of a chore.

1731
01:32:47,520 --> 01:32:50,759
Speaker 1: The complaining started and him pulling away. He was happier

1732
01:32:50,800 --> 01:32:53,040
Speaker 1: at home, and he couldn't wait to come home. He

1733
01:32:53,160 --> 01:32:56,200
Speaker 1: started texting me again during the day, the sweetest text

1734
01:32:56,280 --> 01:32:59,040
Speaker 1: of how he missed me. He was his old self

1735
01:32:59,120 --> 01:33:04,760
Speaker 1: back to one at what cost? One day, what I

1736
01:33:04,840 --> 01:33:08,120
Speaker 1: hoped and waited patiently for happened. He ended things with her.

1737
01:33:08,439 --> 01:33:10,120
Speaker 1: He told her that he loved me and that now

1738
01:33:10,160 --> 01:33:14,960
Speaker 1: everything was great again, her services weren't needed. In other words, Nicky,

1739
01:33:15,600 --> 01:33:19,040
Speaker 1: I felt relief and finally I could move on. Now

1740
01:33:19,880 --> 01:33:23,960
Speaker 1: I'm preparing for a divorce. He will get the papers

1741
01:33:24,000 --> 01:33:25,479
Speaker 1: the day I leave for my new life in my

1742
01:33:25,520 --> 01:33:27,680
Speaker 1: new apartment. I know I will get a lot of

1743
01:33:27,680 --> 01:33:29,840
Speaker 1: hate for this, because I have neglected my husband and

1744
01:33:29,880 --> 01:33:32,760
Speaker 1: pushed him to seek solace in another woman's arms when

1745
01:33:32,800 --> 01:33:35,759
Speaker 1: I apparently could have given him what he sought all along.

1746
01:33:35,880 --> 01:33:37,760
Speaker 1: And believe me, I will bear the guilt for the

1747
01:33:37,760 --> 01:33:43,880
Speaker 1: rest of my life. Again, this is not your fault.

1748
01:33:44,160 --> 01:33:45,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, you have the right to be mad.

1749
01:33:45,520 --> 01:33:48,360
Speaker 1: You're the right to be mad. I'm sorry if oh again,

1750
01:33:48,439 --> 01:33:51,599
Speaker 1: if your husband had an issue with the way that

1751
01:33:51,640 --> 01:33:56,640
Speaker 1: the relationship was going. Communication, facts, communication, don't cheat on

1752
01:33:56,680 --> 01:33:59,600
Speaker 1: your wife. If you're upset, either leave the relationship or

1753
01:34:00,120 --> 01:34:00,679
Speaker 1: talk to her.

1754
01:34:01,680 --> 01:34:04,000
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, and I'll pee.

1755
01:34:04,080 --> 01:34:06,600
Speaker 1: You know, you know, you got him back and then

1756
01:34:06,640 --> 01:34:09,000
Speaker 1: you were like you realize you didn't deserve it. M hm.

1757
01:34:10,400 --> 01:34:14,040
Speaker 2: That's not a crime, not a crime. Is not a crime.

1758
01:34:14,840 --> 01:34:17,639
Speaker 1: Almost drop my phone again, not.

1759
01:34:17,560 --> 01:34:20,360
Speaker 2: A crime, not a crime. I don't blame you for

1760
01:34:20,400 --> 01:34:23,799
Speaker 2: being mad and doing this. So I mean, is it wrong, Yeah,

1761
01:34:23,800 --> 01:34:26,599
Speaker 2: but like justified. I don't.

1762
01:34:26,640 --> 01:34:29,760
Speaker 1: I don't even think it's like he cheated on her

1763
01:34:30,439 --> 01:34:33,200
Speaker 1: and and then she just like she was like I

1764
01:34:33,479 --> 01:34:35,880
Speaker 1: feel like I don't know if she necessarily went into

1765
01:34:35,960 --> 01:34:38,720
Speaker 1: it thinking that she was going to divorce him. I

1766
01:34:38,720 --> 01:34:42,240
Speaker 1: think it feels somewhat like she was like, I'm going

1767
01:34:42,240 --> 01:34:43,800
Speaker 1: to get him back, and then at the end of

1768
01:34:43,840 --> 01:34:44,680
Speaker 1: the day she was like.

1769
01:34:46,400 --> 01:34:49,439
Speaker 2: It is it was sneaky, like, hey, break up with her,

1770
01:34:49,439 --> 01:34:51,080
Speaker 2: I want to work on a relationship, and he should

1771
01:34:51,080 --> 01:34:53,200
Speaker 2: have been doing this in the first place. But it's

1772
01:34:53,400 --> 01:34:55,519
Speaker 2: justified pettiness. Yeah.

1773
01:34:56,200 --> 01:34:59,120
Speaker 1: I think maybe she didn't even like realize it until

1774
01:34:59,120 --> 01:35:00,760
Speaker 1: now though, that's my only th that's the only reason

1775
01:35:00,800 --> 01:35:06,320
Speaker 1: why I'm like, maybe it's not petty. I didn't do it.

1776
01:35:06,360 --> 01:35:10,080
Speaker 1: In my defense, I didn't do it intentionally. Our lives

1777
01:35:10,240 --> 01:35:13,040
Speaker 1: have just been altered drastically, and I was trying to

1778
01:35:13,160 --> 01:35:16,720
Speaker 1: navigate this new and exciting existence. I was immersed in

1779
01:35:16,760 --> 01:35:18,680
Speaker 1: this new kind of happiness that I thought I was

1780
01:35:18,720 --> 01:35:20,720
Speaker 1: sharing with him, and I was trying to get to

1781
01:35:20,760 --> 01:35:24,040
Speaker 1: know my new body that I couldn't recognize anymore, a

1782
01:35:24,080 --> 01:35:26,720
Speaker 1: real scary feeling. But he could have come to me

1783
01:35:26,840 --> 01:35:29,120
Speaker 1: with his hurt. He could have talked to me about

1784
01:35:29,120 --> 01:35:32,000
Speaker 1: his suffering. He could have tried to make me understand,

1785
01:35:32,160 --> 01:35:35,800
Speaker 1: but he chose not to. He decided to deceive me,

1786
01:35:36,200 --> 01:35:40,080
Speaker 1: deceive us. He ruined our love, our future, and even

1787
01:35:40,120 --> 01:35:45,360
Speaker 1: our history. Nothing was, is or will be the same again.

1788
01:35:46,640 --> 01:35:50,519
Speaker 1: Relevant comments though lost and dumbfound says, I would have

1789
01:35:50,560 --> 01:35:53,720
Speaker 1: immediately raged out and noped the f out for not

1790
01:35:53,760 --> 01:35:56,439
Speaker 1: only cheating for him, not only cheating, but cheating while

1791
01:35:56,439 --> 01:35:59,800
Speaker 1: I just had his baby. I totally forgot that she

1792
01:35:59,840 --> 01:36:06,559
Speaker 1: had baby, But I always applauded petty revenge and uh says,

1793
01:36:06,640 --> 01:36:09,600
Speaker 1: and then continues, you didn't neglect him he got you

1794
01:36:09,680 --> 01:36:12,719
Speaker 1: pregnant and then started banging someone else. You're not neglecting

1795
01:36:12,760 --> 01:36:14,720
Speaker 1: someone if you're unable to do the same things as

1796
01:36:14,720 --> 01:36:17,760
Speaker 1: you could before you had a baby. You were being

1797
01:36:17,840 --> 01:36:20,280
Speaker 1: a mother and instead of being a father, he was

1798
01:36:20,320 --> 01:36:23,080
Speaker 1: getting his his wiener wit wish you the best, and

1799
01:36:23,120 --> 01:36:25,200
Speaker 1: I hope you have screenshots of all the evidence of

1800
01:36:25,240 --> 01:36:27,320
Speaker 1: the affairs so he can't act like it came out

1801
01:36:27,360 --> 01:36:30,679
Speaker 1: of nowhere to others. And Opi responds, I just feel

1802
01:36:30,720 --> 01:36:32,680
Speaker 1: ashamed that I lost my love, and I guess it

1803
01:36:32,760 --> 01:36:34,680
Speaker 1: made sense that I wanted to win him back. I

1804
01:36:34,680 --> 01:36:40,479
Speaker 1: get what you mean, though, and then dis little who differ?

1805
01:36:40,680 --> 01:36:43,000
Speaker 2: Little you got it.

1806
01:36:42,600 --> 01:36:45,200
Speaker 1: Says In the end of all this, I hope you're

1807
01:36:45,200 --> 01:36:48,519
Speaker 1: truly happy, Opie responds, I am. I'm sad about the

1808
01:36:48,560 --> 01:36:50,160
Speaker 1: fact that he wasn't the one I would spend the

1809
01:36:50,160 --> 01:36:52,640
Speaker 1: rest of my life with like we dreamed, But on

1810
01:36:52,680 --> 01:36:55,680
Speaker 1: a general level, I'm happy. I am blessed with the

1811
01:36:55,720 --> 01:36:59,960
Speaker 1: most amazing little boy, and I am still young and beautiful. Bye.

1812
01:37:00,920 --> 01:37:02,960
Speaker 1: I have so much love in my life and great

1813
01:37:03,160 --> 01:37:07,840
Speaker 1: many supportive people. Romantic love will come, so sweet, Yes,

1814
01:37:07,920 --> 01:37:10,439
Speaker 1: it will, it will come. It will come because you

1815
01:37:10,479 --> 01:37:13,720
Speaker 1: deserve it. Blazer Man says, just a heads up. Moving

1816
01:37:13,760 --> 01:37:16,360
Speaker 1: money around prior to divorce makes it seem like you're

1817
01:37:16,360 --> 01:37:19,360
Speaker 1: attempting to hide it and may bite you in the

1818
01:37:19,360 --> 01:37:22,240
Speaker 1: butt during the asset division, especially if he does a

1819
01:37:22,280 --> 01:37:25,719
Speaker 1: discovery period. Opie says, I am not hiding the money.

1820
01:37:25,800 --> 01:37:27,920
Speaker 1: It's still in my name, which means it's still part

1821
01:37:28,000 --> 01:37:30,639
Speaker 1: of the estate. I don't want him making a withdrawal

1822
01:37:30,680 --> 01:37:34,559
Speaker 1: and making the money disappear. He can't access my account.

1823
01:37:36,000 --> 01:37:41,360
Speaker 1: And there is an update. Oh there's a big update.

1824
01:37:41,479 --> 01:37:42,920
Speaker 1: Oh boy, there's two updates.

1825
01:37:43,120 --> 01:37:44,320
Speaker 2: Boy boy, okay.

1826
01:37:45,120 --> 01:37:48,600
Speaker 1: Opie says he always loved April Fools. I feel a

1827
01:37:48,640 --> 01:37:50,920
Speaker 1: lot of guilt and guilt related pain. I know what

1828
01:37:50,920 --> 01:37:52,800
Speaker 1: I'm doing is so cruel, but I guess I will

1829
01:37:52,800 --> 01:37:56,000
Speaker 1: just keep going on with my planned There's no turning

1830
01:37:56,040 --> 01:37:58,920
Speaker 1: back now. Whenever I feel like crap, like I'm the

1831
01:37:58,920 --> 01:38:02,080
Speaker 1: bad guy, I just from other conversations. No, I am

1832
01:38:02,120 --> 01:38:05,240
Speaker 1: not the villain here. What what does the April Fools

1833
01:38:05,280 --> 01:38:06,720
Speaker 1: have to do with this? Is she planning to do

1834
01:38:06,760 --> 01:38:07,759
Speaker 1: this on April Fools?

1835
01:38:08,000 --> 01:38:08,360
Speaker 2: Uh huh.

1836
01:38:09,400 --> 01:38:11,599
Speaker 1: I will end the Ameria, I will end the marriage,

1837
01:38:11,600 --> 01:38:13,280
Speaker 1: and I will tell him that it is because we

1838
01:38:13,840 --> 01:38:18,240
Speaker 1: aren't compatible anymore. Let him think whatever I have decided.

1839
01:38:18,280 --> 01:38:20,080
Speaker 1: Maybe I shouldn't tell him that I know about her.

1840
01:38:20,200 --> 01:38:22,160
Speaker 1: Let him run back to her once he realizes that

1841
01:38:22,200 --> 01:38:24,840
Speaker 1: I am really gone. When my baby is older, we

1842
01:38:24,840 --> 01:38:27,559
Speaker 1: could tell him that we got an amblicable divorce. No

1843
01:38:27,680 --> 01:38:30,559
Speaker 1: hurt or heart feelings to people who fell out of love.

1844
01:38:31,120 --> 01:38:33,280
Speaker 1: My boy doesn't need to know as daddy broke up

1845
01:38:33,320 --> 01:38:33,799
Speaker 1: the family.

1846
01:38:34,000 --> 01:38:36,400
Speaker 2: It's okay. You can hate me. I don't hate you.

1847
01:38:37,920 --> 01:38:40,559
Speaker 1: And there are some relevant comments before this huge, thick,

1848
01:38:40,760 --> 01:38:45,080
Speaker 1: juicy update. An old it guy says, why are you

1849
01:38:45,200 --> 01:38:47,799
Speaker 1: feeling guilty? He's the one who cheated and is reaping

1850
01:38:47,840 --> 01:38:51,639
Speaker 1: what he sewed. Opie says, because I'm bitterly plodding behind

1851
01:38:51,640 --> 01:38:53,960
Speaker 1: the scenes and won't give him a chance to apologize

1852
01:38:54,040 --> 01:38:57,040
Speaker 1: or explain explain what he cheated on you. I don't

1853
01:38:57,040 --> 01:38:58,280
Speaker 1: think there is anything to explain.

1854
01:38:58,720 --> 01:39:01,320
Speaker 2: He already explained it through his hawk seans.

1855
01:39:00,920 --> 01:39:05,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, hock John's candy read one says, apologies for going

1856
01:39:05,880 --> 01:39:08,759
Speaker 1: off into another lane here, but what in the absolute

1857
01:39:08,840 --> 01:39:11,679
Speaker 1: hell are all these hundreds of thousands of women doing

1858
01:39:12,160 --> 01:39:15,360
Speaker 1: engaging in affairs with married men? What is there to

1859
01:39:15,400 --> 01:39:17,960
Speaker 1: gain at all? Who is raising these girls?

1860
01:39:18,080 --> 01:39:19,320
Speaker 2: Is this the Twilight Zone?

1861
01:39:19,760 --> 01:39:22,880
Speaker 1: I'm honestly needing some answers here, and Opie responds, while

1862
01:39:22,880 --> 01:39:24,920
Speaker 1: I can only speak from the messages I have read,

1863
01:39:25,439 --> 01:39:28,000
Speaker 1: he's in love. You just happen to be married. I

1864
01:39:28,040 --> 01:39:33,240
Speaker 1: am an obstacle, a nuisance, so I guess it is love. No, no,

1865
01:39:34,520 --> 01:39:38,120
Speaker 1: Mountain Monitor says he was flye fine, plodding behind the scenes,

1866
01:39:38,160 --> 01:39:40,960
Speaker 1: took up with another woman. No need to hear empty

1867
01:39:41,000 --> 01:39:45,200
Speaker 1: apologies for something he wanted and didn't regret doing. Opie says,

1868
01:39:45,439 --> 01:39:48,320
Speaker 1: that's it. I don't want to hear apologies and excuse

1869
01:39:49,240 --> 01:39:53,840
Speaker 1: and there is an update a lot. Okay, this is

1870
01:39:53,840 --> 01:39:54,559
Speaker 1: the last update.

1871
01:39:54,800 --> 01:39:59,880
Speaker 2: Okay yo, that boy justified petty?

1872
01:40:00,520 --> 01:40:03,479
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, absolutely, because this is just I mean,

1873
01:40:03,520 --> 01:40:06,479
Speaker 1: he's like cheating on her when she has a child.

1874
01:40:06,760 --> 01:40:11,240
Speaker 1: This is just not okay at all, very icky and yucky,

1875
01:40:11,280 --> 01:40:12,360
Speaker 1: and I don't like it at all.

1876
01:40:12,760 --> 01:40:14,360
Speaker 2: You just this is what you had to do.

1877
01:40:14,479 --> 01:40:16,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, she needs to get out of that

1878
01:40:19,600 --> 01:40:21,880
Speaker 1: where I was gonna read. Yeah, Pam Roff says, fool

1879
01:40:21,880 --> 01:40:23,880
Speaker 1: me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

1880
01:40:23,920 --> 01:40:26,519
Speaker 1: And there isn't gonna be a third time coming from

1881
01:40:26,600 --> 01:40:27,519
Speaker 1: personal experience.

1882
01:40:27,560 --> 01:40:28,559
Speaker 2: What is the third one? Though?

1883
01:40:29,600 --> 01:40:32,200
Speaker 1: For me? One shame on you fool me twice, shame

1884
01:40:32,240 --> 01:40:34,680
Speaker 1: on three times.

1885
01:40:34,640 --> 01:40:40,479
Speaker 2: The peace on rain on you as Jake Cole's one. Sure,

1886
01:40:40,960 --> 01:40:44,320
Speaker 2: when you fool me, you can't be fooled again, for sure. Yeah,

1887
01:40:44,520 --> 01:40:48,240
Speaker 2: just the Hey John was here, he get it.

1888
01:40:49,280 --> 01:40:52,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Deadly Gamer says slightly. It's hard to tell a

1889
01:40:52,760 --> 01:40:55,120
Speaker 1: young child your father betrayed your mother at a young age.

1890
01:40:55,160 --> 01:40:57,080
Speaker 1: It might be hard for her to explain. It's better

1891
01:40:57,120 --> 01:41:00,000
Speaker 1: to explain when the child is younger. Also, kids can

1892
01:41:00,240 --> 01:41:04,439
Speaker 1: sense that. Yeah, I don't know. If I don't maybe

1893
01:41:04,479 --> 01:41:07,280
Speaker 1: you could do an like an age appropriate I don't

1894
01:41:07,320 --> 01:41:11,880
Speaker 1: know if you have to. I think if he as

1895
01:41:11,920 --> 01:41:14,400
Speaker 1: long as he is actively involved in the kid's life

1896
01:41:14,680 --> 01:41:16,680
Speaker 1: and being a good father. I don't know if you

1897
01:41:16,840 --> 01:41:21,479
Speaker 1: necessarily have to talk, like talk bad about him to

1898
01:41:21,600 --> 01:41:23,160
Speaker 1: the kid. I don't think you need to bring that

1899
01:41:23,200 --> 01:41:25,719
Speaker 1: into him unless he's talking bad about you, and then you.

1900
01:41:25,640 --> 01:41:29,040
Speaker 2: Have to have a conversation. Yeah, let's get into this update.

1901
01:41:31,080 --> 01:41:34,520
Speaker 1: Papa ba ba hapaapa, where is it?

1902
01:41:34,520 --> 01:41:35,000
Speaker 2: It's gone?

1903
01:41:35,200 --> 01:41:39,640
Speaker 1: Ah? Well, hello, and sorry for being so absent. I

1904
01:41:39,720 --> 01:41:42,240
Speaker 1: know that I promised an update once I got out,

1905
01:41:42,720 --> 01:41:45,240
Speaker 1: but I have been so busy adjusting to my new life.

1906
01:41:45,360 --> 01:41:48,400
Speaker 1: I have received hundreds of have you moved out? And

1907
01:41:48,560 --> 01:41:52,120
Speaker 1: is there an update? Dms and comments. I hope everyone

1908
01:41:52,160 --> 01:41:55,479
Speaker 1: who asked sees this because I have no possibility.

1909
01:41:54,840 --> 01:41:56,040
Speaker 2: To answer each and everyone.

1910
01:41:56,560 --> 01:41:58,560
Speaker 1: Also, I don't know how many times I'm allowed to

1911
01:41:58,640 --> 01:42:02,879
Speaker 1: update here. Hopefully this is okay. I did exactly as planned.

1912
01:42:03,400 --> 01:42:06,000
Speaker 1: I moved out after I left my husband divorce papers.

1913
01:42:06,200 --> 01:42:07,800
Speaker 1: I told him that I wasn't in love with him

1914
01:42:07,800 --> 01:42:09,720
Speaker 1: anymore and that I think we are better off as

1915
01:42:09,720 --> 01:42:11,240
Speaker 1: co parents than as a couple.

1916
01:42:11,479 --> 01:42:12,759
Speaker 2: Ooh, okay.

1917
01:42:13,080 --> 01:42:15,800
Speaker 1: I drop that that I have found a new place

1918
01:42:15,880 --> 01:42:17,599
Speaker 1: and he could buy me out of our current home

1919
01:42:17,760 --> 01:42:20,720
Speaker 1: or sell the property once the divorce is finalized. He

1920
01:42:20,880 --> 01:42:24,360
Speaker 1: was in total shock, but probably not the same shock

1921
01:42:24,400 --> 01:42:27,599
Speaker 1: I was when I found out that he was cheating

1922
01:42:27,600 --> 01:42:30,639
Speaker 1: on me. He literally asked if I hit my head

1923
01:42:31,000 --> 01:42:32,960
Speaker 1: and even was telling people that he was worried that

1924
01:42:33,000 --> 01:42:44,400
Speaker 1: I had a brain tumor. The audacity, the audacity, unbelievable, unbelievable.

1925
01:42:45,360 --> 01:42:48,439
Speaker 1: He was very angry in the beginning and wanted answers.

1926
01:42:48,880 --> 01:42:53,720
Speaker 1: No answer was good enough. Is there someone else? No,

1927
01:42:53,960 --> 01:42:57,360
Speaker 1: Dear husband. There isn't someone else, but there isn't you either.

1928
01:42:57,960 --> 01:43:02,080
Speaker 1: The audacity of that man, I agree. I reminded him

1929
01:43:02,080 --> 01:43:03,719
Speaker 1: that we still had our son and to think about

1930
01:43:03,800 --> 01:43:07,400
Speaker 1: him before acting vindictive. Sure enough, he kept it civil

1931
01:43:07,439 --> 01:43:11,240
Speaker 1: around our son. One thing he kept asking is why

1932
01:43:11,640 --> 01:43:14,320
Speaker 1: and how long ago I have stopped loving him. He

1933
01:43:14,439 --> 01:43:17,960
Speaker 1: didn't get any answers from me other than that everything

1934
01:43:17,960 --> 01:43:21,160
Speaker 1: has been fine with me. I am adjusting well. I

1935
01:43:21,200 --> 01:43:23,519
Speaker 1: still miss him, but at the same time, I felt

1936
01:43:23,560 --> 01:43:26,320
Speaker 1: like I could finally breathe. I feel like I've been

1937
01:43:26,360 --> 01:43:28,800
Speaker 1: living on shallow breathing for the past months, and now

1938
01:43:28,800 --> 01:43:32,160
Speaker 1: I could take full breaths. Our families are very sad

1939
01:43:32,200 --> 01:43:35,200
Speaker 1: and mostly shocked, but honestly they have been very understanding.

1940
01:43:35,800 --> 01:43:36,880
Speaker 2: There's no bad.

1941
01:43:36,640 --> 01:43:40,479
Speaker 1: Reason for divorce. Wanting divorce is good enough reason for

1942
01:43:40,560 --> 01:43:43,280
Speaker 1: them to want to separate, to not want to be.

1943
01:43:43,320 --> 01:43:43,960
Speaker 2: With your partner.

1944
01:43:44,840 --> 01:43:46,880
Speaker 1: My ex and laws are still very active in my

1945
01:43:46,920 --> 01:43:49,479
Speaker 1: son's life, and they have been very cordial, if yet

1946
01:43:49,520 --> 01:43:53,360
Speaker 1: a bit cold towards me. That represented itself when about

1947
01:43:53,360 --> 01:43:55,719
Speaker 1: two weeks ago, my mother in law, in a passive

1948
01:43:55,720 --> 01:43:59,040
Speaker 1: aggressive tone, told me that my husband has been started

1949
01:43:59,120 --> 01:44:02,720
Speaker 1: seeing someone. She apologized immediately and said that she just

1950
01:44:02,760 --> 01:44:05,640
Speaker 1: wanted me to know he and be prepared that he

1951
01:44:05,680 --> 01:44:08,599
Speaker 1: had someone new, And yet I couldn't help but hear

1952
01:44:08,680 --> 01:44:12,000
Speaker 1: some vindication in her voice. I just answered, oh, do

1953
01:44:12,040 --> 01:44:15,280
Speaker 1: you mean Karen? I gave the mistresses this name for

1954
01:44:15,320 --> 01:44:18,840
Speaker 1: obvious reasons. She looked shocked and asked me, did you know?

1955
01:44:19,280 --> 01:44:20,400
Speaker 1: Did he talk to you about it?

1956
01:44:20,439 --> 01:44:22,360
Speaker 2: And I said, oh, no, but she isn't new.

1957
01:44:22,920 --> 01:44:24,960
Speaker 1: I told her that she's been sleeping with her since

1958
01:44:24,960 --> 01:44:32,520
Speaker 1: I had just given birth, maybe even before that. Oh, drama, drama.

1959
01:44:32,760 --> 01:44:35,479
Speaker 1: She's like, oh, you mean the one I already knewbout,

1960
01:44:35,479 --> 01:44:37,000
Speaker 1: the one he was sleeping with all this time.

1961
01:44:37,600 --> 01:44:42,960
Speaker 2: Owen, Oh so good.

1962
01:44:43,520 --> 01:44:46,360
Speaker 1: I kept my voice very quiet and monotone, like we

1963
01:44:46,360 --> 01:44:49,519
Speaker 1: were discussing the weather. I was already regarding my slip,

1964
01:44:49,640 --> 01:44:52,240
Speaker 1: but the news that he started seeing Karen again, while

1965
01:44:52,320 --> 01:44:57,400
Speaker 1: very much anticipated, still made my head hurt. My mother

1966
01:44:57,479 --> 01:44:59,559
Speaker 1: and father in law just looked at each other. I

1967
01:44:59,600 --> 01:45:01,639
Speaker 1: didn't know if they believe me, But then how would

1968
01:45:01,640 --> 01:45:03,519
Speaker 1: I have known about Karen when I have refused to

1969
01:45:03,560 --> 01:45:06,679
Speaker 1: see him in person since our breakup? So now everyone

1970
01:45:06,720 --> 01:45:08,880
Speaker 1: knows anyway, and I have learned that you can't keep

1971
01:45:08,920 --> 01:45:12,760
Speaker 1: these things to yourself indefinitely. Since he found out, he's

1972
01:45:12,760 --> 01:45:16,120
Speaker 1: been called and apologizing every day. Why didn't you tell me?

1973
01:45:16,320 --> 01:45:20,559
Speaker 1: How much did I hurt you? I hate this man.

1974
01:45:20,840 --> 01:45:24,160
Speaker 1: I hate this man. So he finds out that OPI

1975
01:45:24,880 --> 01:45:28,280
Speaker 1: knew that I was cheating on her, and then goes

1976
01:45:29,080 --> 01:45:31,280
Speaker 1: And then, even though he's already back with the person

1977
01:45:31,320 --> 01:45:34,479
Speaker 1: that he was cheating on, he still goes back to

1978
01:45:34,600 --> 01:45:36,559
Speaker 1: He still tries to get OPI back.

1979
01:45:37,240 --> 01:45:42,439
Speaker 3: Come on's son, No, now you have everything you can't

1980
01:45:42,560 --> 01:45:43,840
Speaker 3: have you okay, can eat it too.

1981
01:45:44,320 --> 01:45:45,280
Speaker 2: That's what I was gonna say.

1982
01:45:46,240 --> 01:45:48,559
Speaker 1: Uh. He said that he loved me and never stopped

1983
01:45:48,600 --> 01:45:50,920
Speaker 1: loving me, and yet you got back with your mistress

1984
01:45:50,960 --> 01:45:54,200
Speaker 1: about two weeks after. It makes sense my mother in

1985
01:45:54,280 --> 01:45:56,880
Speaker 1: law apologized too, even though she has no control over

1986
01:45:56,880 --> 01:45:59,960
Speaker 1: what her grown upsun dot did or does, it's not

1987
01:46:00,200 --> 01:46:02,479
Speaker 1: her fault. He writes that he loves me every night

1988
01:46:02,520 --> 01:46:05,000
Speaker 1: before bed. I hope this doesn't mean that he would

1989
01:46:05,040 --> 01:46:07,360
Speaker 1: make the divorce drag out, because then I have failed

1990
01:46:07,360 --> 01:46:10,000
Speaker 1: my plan. But he seems to be less forgiving of

1991
01:46:10,040 --> 01:46:12,000
Speaker 1: the divorce when he knew that he was the reason

1992
01:46:12,040 --> 01:46:15,479
Speaker 1: for it than when he thought it was mine. Weird,

1993
01:46:16,560 --> 01:46:21,000
Speaker 1: He's such a hypocrite. He's such a hypocrite. The divorce

1994
01:46:21,040 --> 01:46:24,040
Speaker 1: is still processing, and if anything major happens, I will

1995
01:46:24,040 --> 01:46:27,000
Speaker 1: be here again. And I haven't overstayed my will, and

1996
01:46:27,200 --> 01:46:29,599
Speaker 1: if I haven't overstayed my welcome already.

1997
01:46:30,080 --> 01:46:30,280
Speaker 2: Chow.

1998
01:46:31,280 --> 01:46:35,719
Speaker 1: And there are some relevant comments to finish this story off.

1999
01:46:36,520 --> 01:46:39,800
Speaker 1: One commoner says I'd send those good night I love

2000
01:46:39,800 --> 01:46:42,519
Speaker 1: you text to his new mistress. He should lose both

2001
01:46:42,520 --> 01:46:46,840
Speaker 1: of y'all and really reap the effects of his rappiness. Yeah,

2002
01:46:47,160 --> 01:46:51,960
Speaker 1: just like, just show him that the husband still loves

2003
01:46:52,000 --> 01:46:54,599
Speaker 1: Opie and be like, this is the man that's that you're.

2004
01:46:54,439 --> 01:46:58,080
Speaker 2: Trying to get. Yeah, honestly, Opie.

2005
01:46:57,760 --> 01:46:59,760
Speaker 1: Says, I don't think they are together anymore after it

2006
01:46:59,800 --> 01:47:02,080
Speaker 1: came out. I have asked my folks to keep gossip

2007
01:47:02,080 --> 01:47:04,439
Speaker 1: about him and his life at the minimum, But I

2008
01:47:04,479 --> 01:47:06,599
Speaker 1: think it's over between them and he is starting a.

2009
01:47:06,560 --> 01:47:07,479
Speaker 2: New job in August.

2010
01:47:07,760 --> 01:47:10,799
Speaker 1: And Opie on how her ex his parents reacted the truth,

2011
01:47:11,360 --> 01:47:15,080
Speaker 1: especially his mother, Opie says, yeah, she was devastated, but

2012
01:47:15,200 --> 01:47:18,120
Speaker 1: nothing compared to his father. They are not on speaking

2013
01:47:18,720 --> 01:47:22,719
Speaker 1: terms still. Wow, the father and I presume the Opie's

2014
01:47:22,760 --> 01:47:26,040
Speaker 1: husband or ex. Yeah, And then another commoner says, I

2015
01:47:26,080 --> 01:47:28,519
Speaker 1: don't even think you should regret the slip. It's good

2016
01:47:28,600 --> 01:47:31,080
Speaker 1: that everyone knows what really happened. It's good he can't

2017
01:47:31,080 --> 01:47:34,519
Speaker 1: twist the story. And it's awesome that everyone now knows

2018
01:47:34,520 --> 01:47:36,720
Speaker 1: his new girlfriend is actually the woman who helps him

2019
01:47:36,760 --> 01:47:39,680
Speaker 1: ruin his marriage. He loves you so much, but he

2020
01:47:39,720 --> 01:47:41,800
Speaker 1: didn't even grieve the marriage before dating her.

2021
01:47:42,160 --> 01:47:42,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2022
01:47:42,520 --> 01:47:45,439
Speaker 1: No, and you're way too nice on your ex mother

2023
01:47:45,479 --> 01:47:48,080
Speaker 1: in law. She purposely tried to hurt you by even

2024
01:47:48,120 --> 01:47:48,720
Speaker 1: mentioning it.

2025
01:47:49,000 --> 01:47:50,160
Speaker 2: She can eat crap too.

2026
01:47:51,960 --> 01:47:56,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that is the end of that story. Wow

2027
01:47:56,640 --> 01:48:02,160
Speaker 1: wowie um. Yes, Richelieu says, I text her please come

2028
01:48:02,200 --> 01:48:06,160
Speaker 1: get your man, get him out of there. Oh and

2029
01:48:06,280 --> 01:48:09,000
Speaker 1: thirteen says this is the best petty revenge ever.

2030
01:48:09,439 --> 01:48:10,879
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2031
01:48:11,240 --> 01:48:12,320
Speaker 1: Can you scroll up a little bit?

2032
01:48:14,000 --> 01:48:15,160
Speaker 2: Uh that one?

2033
01:48:15,240 --> 01:48:19,639
Speaker 1: Jacy says, Wait, yeah, texting Op texting Ope. He loves

2034
01:48:19,680 --> 01:48:23,120
Speaker 1: her every night, all the love bombing, yet simultaneously putting

2035
01:48:23,160 --> 01:48:25,880
Speaker 1: the blame on Ope for not telling him she knew

2036
01:48:25,880 --> 01:48:31,080
Speaker 1: about her affair and he's with the affair partner. Gosh, yeah, no,

2037
01:48:31,200 --> 01:48:36,080
Speaker 1: It's just like the the audacity and the hypocrisy of

2038
01:48:36,560 --> 01:48:40,519
Speaker 1: Op's ex blaming her for first blaming her for the

2039
01:48:40,600 --> 01:48:42,960
Speaker 1: divorce and saying, why are you divorcing me? This is

2040
01:48:42,960 --> 01:48:46,160
Speaker 1: coming out of newr while he was when he was

2041
01:48:46,200 --> 01:48:49,040
Speaker 1: the you know one cheating and also asking her, oh

2042
01:48:49,080 --> 01:48:51,840
Speaker 1: are you seeing someone? And then when she finally does

2043
01:48:51,880 --> 01:48:55,000
Speaker 1: tell people why she's getting this this divorce, he blames

2044
01:48:55,080 --> 01:49:00,880
Speaker 1: He blames her again for not telling him, like, you

2045
01:49:00,920 --> 01:49:03,320
Speaker 1: didn't tell her that you were unhappy in the marriage.

2046
01:49:06,080 --> 01:49:06,880
Speaker 1: Make it makes sense?

2047
01:49:07,000 --> 01:49:08,080
Speaker 2: Make it makes sense.

2048
01:49:09,120 --> 01:49:16,880
Speaker 1: Ah, but do we have a final story? And then

2049
01:49:16,920 --> 01:49:18,519
Speaker 1: I need to eat some lunch.

2050
01:49:20,120 --> 01:49:20,960
Speaker 2: It's all about like.

2051
01:49:22,840 --> 01:49:27,640
Speaker 1: And you eat? Yeah, on the daily. I have I

2052
01:49:27,680 --> 01:49:29,000
Speaker 1: have needs on the daily.

2053
01:49:29,320 --> 01:49:32,000
Speaker 2: Please let me eat. Please let me have a lunch break. No,

2054
01:49:32,080 --> 01:49:37,479
Speaker 2: you gotta keep working. The less the more breaks you take,

2055
01:49:37,520 --> 01:49:41,599
Speaker 2: the less productive you want. So true.

2056
01:49:41,840 --> 01:49:46,519
Speaker 1: By forty four, Oh all right, let's do it.

2057
01:49:48,160 --> 01:49:48,320
Speaker 2: Right.

2058
01:49:49,600 --> 01:49:51,800
Speaker 1: Oh this is a good one. Am I the a

2059
01:49:51,880 --> 01:49:54,880
Speaker 1: hole for not spending Father's Day with my son?

2060
01:49:55,800 --> 01:49:57,680
Speaker 2: He didn't deserve it, He didn't deserve it.

2061
01:49:57,520 --> 01:50:02,680
Speaker 1: It's my five's day, it's my day. So Father's Day

2062
01:50:02,760 --> 01:50:07,160
Speaker 1: twenty twenty two says I, thirty three male lost my

2063
01:50:07,280 --> 01:50:10,400
Speaker 1: father at a young age. Ever since then, I spent

2064
01:50:10,479 --> 01:50:13,080
Speaker 1: Father's Day at his grave and visiting places that were

2065
01:50:13,120 --> 01:50:16,320
Speaker 1: important to him. My wife has always been supportive of this,

2066
01:50:16,520 --> 01:50:20,439
Speaker 1: but last year that changed. Our son six now five,

2067
01:50:20,520 --> 01:50:23,320
Speaker 1: then wants to attend this Father's Day festival with me.

2068
01:50:24,080 --> 01:50:26,080
Speaker 1: I told him that I already had plans, but he

2069
01:50:26,160 --> 01:50:28,680
Speaker 1: was welcome to join me and learn about his grandfather.

2070
01:50:28,920 --> 01:50:32,840
Speaker 2: Yeah that's great. Yeah that's great. Do that? Do that?

2071
01:50:33,560 --> 01:50:35,679
Speaker 1: I feel like that's fine.

2072
01:50:35,760 --> 01:50:38,200
Speaker 2: It's like double Father's Day. Yeah.

2073
01:50:38,560 --> 01:50:41,080
Speaker 1: Son didn't enjoy the day. He was very bored at

2074
01:50:41,080 --> 01:50:43,519
Speaker 1: the grave site and I repeatedly had to direct him

2075
01:50:43,560 --> 01:50:46,599
Speaker 1: away from other graves. The long car rides were also

2076
01:50:46,640 --> 01:50:49,200
Speaker 1: a lot for him. I decided that this type of

2077
01:50:49,240 --> 01:50:52,679
Speaker 1: experience shouldn't be repeated again for him until he is older.

2078
01:50:53,840 --> 01:50:56,240
Speaker 1: Tickets for this year's festival just went on sale, and

2079
01:50:56,280 --> 01:50:58,759
Speaker 1: this morning my wife gave me two tickets, an adult

2080
01:50:58,800 --> 01:51:01,599
Speaker 1: and a child for me and myself. I reminded her

2081
01:51:01,640 --> 01:51:04,120
Speaker 1: that I had plans. She got mad and told me

2082
01:51:04,200 --> 01:51:07,320
Speaker 1: my dad would be disappointed in me for neglecting his grandson.

2083
01:51:07,720 --> 01:51:11,519
Speaker 1: I don't neglect my son. I got really irritated with

2084
01:51:11,560 --> 01:51:13,559
Speaker 1: my wife. I told her this one day is all

2085
01:51:13,600 --> 01:51:15,360
Speaker 1: I ever asked for, and I'm not going to give

2086
01:51:15,400 --> 01:51:17,360
Speaker 1: it up. She called me an a hole and said

2087
01:51:17,360 --> 01:51:19,200
Speaker 1: if I don't take her son to the festival, she

2088
01:51:19,320 --> 01:51:22,479
Speaker 1: will and will tell everyone there she's present because her

2089
01:51:22,560 --> 01:51:25,439
Speaker 1: husband is a deadbeat dad. Whoa, I think she's out

2090
01:51:25,439 --> 01:51:25,880
Speaker 1: of line.

2091
01:51:26,680 --> 01:51:30,120
Speaker 2: Am I in the wrong? Oh?

2092
01:51:32,400 --> 01:51:38,040
Speaker 1: Oh okay, I know what the comments are, but I

2093
01:51:38,120 --> 01:51:41,559
Speaker 1: want and I want to pull before I say anything.

2094
01:51:42,120 --> 01:51:44,840
Speaker 1: This is the information you have. What do you think?

2095
01:51:44,920 --> 01:51:45,280
Speaker 1: A hole?

2096
01:51:45,320 --> 01:51:46,040
Speaker 2: Not the ale.

2097
01:51:47,360 --> 01:51:59,560
Speaker 1: Because right now my feelings are that, oh, he is

2098
01:51:59,720 --> 01:52:02,680
Speaker 1: visit his dad on it like on Father's Day and

2099
01:52:02,760 --> 01:52:05,080
Speaker 1: wanting to spend time with a person that he's.

2100
01:52:04,920 --> 01:52:12,080
Speaker 2: Lost and that's kind of his way of remembering his father.

2101
01:52:12,880 --> 01:52:16,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think there is a way that they can

2102
01:52:16,160 --> 01:52:18,240
Speaker 1: have both. I think there is a way that they

2103
01:52:18,280 --> 01:52:23,160
Speaker 1: can enjoy the day. Yeah, he can still go and

2104
01:52:23,240 --> 01:52:28,360
Speaker 1: you know, celebrate his father's life. Krona Kay says that

2105
01:52:28,479 --> 01:52:30,280
Speaker 1: was harsh, but I do believe he needs to take

2106
01:52:30,320 --> 01:52:34,960
Speaker 1: the kid to the festival, and Bubble says, yeah, oh

2107
01:52:35,040 --> 01:52:37,599
Speaker 1: he is the a hole. Hold on, he's a father

2108
01:52:37,680 --> 01:52:40,920
Speaker 1: now and he has to take responsibility. Yeah. Like I

2109
01:52:41,080 --> 01:52:43,240
Speaker 1: I think I'm kind of conflicted. I feel like he

2110
01:52:43,280 --> 01:52:45,840
Speaker 1: should just do both. Stars Pollip says, why not do both?

2111
01:52:45,920 --> 01:52:49,120
Speaker 1: I feel like he doesn't need to necessarily spend all

2112
01:52:49,439 --> 01:52:55,320
Speaker 1: day on the grave side. I think I agree, maybe

2113
01:52:55,400 --> 01:52:58,080
Speaker 1: everyone secks a little bit here. I think the wife

2114
01:52:58,160 --> 01:53:00,759
Speaker 1: is being a little I agree. My hutchins and says,

2115
01:53:01,120 --> 01:53:02,320
Speaker 1: not the a hope, but the wife is being a

2116
01:53:02,360 --> 01:53:06,680
Speaker 1: little dramatic. I think I'm a little split because on

2117
01:53:06,680 --> 01:53:09,160
Speaker 1: the one hand, I'm like, he's trying to, you know,

2118
01:53:09,200 --> 01:53:11,360
Speaker 1: spend time with a father that he's only thirty three

2119
01:53:11,680 --> 01:53:17,160
Speaker 1: though he lost his father, you know, pretty young. But

2120
01:53:19,000 --> 01:53:21,479
Speaker 1: is you know, is this not something that he could

2121
01:53:22,760 --> 01:53:24,360
Speaker 1: do half of the day and then go to this

2122
01:53:24,400 --> 01:53:27,479
Speaker 1: festival because it seems like his son just wants to

2123
01:53:27,479 --> 01:53:28,479
Speaker 1: spend time with him.

2124
01:53:28,760 --> 01:53:32,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, or and you can't bring like a little kid

2125
01:53:32,200 --> 01:53:33,200
Speaker 2: to a grave side.

2126
01:53:33,120 --> 01:53:35,559
Speaker 1: Like yeah, yeah, now that's not fun. That's not funn

2127
01:53:35,600 --> 01:53:39,519
Speaker 1: he's sixt years old. Lydia Whitaker says, how far is

2128
01:53:39,560 --> 01:53:41,920
Speaker 1: the festival from the grave? It might be a day's drive.

2129
01:53:42,200 --> 01:53:44,559
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. Why do they have to

2130
01:53:44,560 --> 01:53:48,519
Speaker 2: go to this festival specifically? Wells will happened last year

2131
01:53:48,520 --> 01:53:50,160
Speaker 2: and it just keeps happening every year.

2132
01:53:50,320 --> 01:53:52,719
Speaker 1: Well, my okay, I feel like this it's.

2133
01:53:52,600 --> 01:53:54,840
Speaker 2: A Renaissance festival and it happens one weekend out of

2134
01:53:54,840 --> 01:53:59,680
Speaker 2: the year. Damn, Yep, that's what it is.

2135
01:54:03,040 --> 01:54:05,040
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I really want my father to go yep,

2136
01:54:05,240 --> 01:54:06,479
Speaker 1: and he wants to see his dad dad.

2137
01:54:08,400 --> 01:54:08,880
Speaker 2: I don't know.

2138
01:54:08,960 --> 01:54:12,799
Speaker 1: I feel like if my dad was and your seven,

2139
01:54:13,040 --> 01:54:14,879
Speaker 1: yeah I'm seven, I would I mean, I wouldn't understand

2140
01:54:14,880 --> 01:54:19,400
Speaker 1: if I was seven, but yeah. Tina m Dot says

2141
01:54:19,439 --> 01:54:21,160
Speaker 1: Father's Day is not for the kids, It's to honor

2142
01:54:21,200 --> 01:54:25,920
Speaker 1: your father. That's why I'm like, ah, I'm I'm kind

2143
01:54:25,920 --> 01:54:29,680
Speaker 1: of split because I understand why the son wants to

2144
01:54:29,680 --> 01:54:31,800
Speaker 1: hang out with his dad, because he wants to he

2145
01:54:31,880 --> 01:54:33,920
Speaker 1: wants to honor his dad, and you know, in his

2146
01:54:33,960 --> 01:54:38,240
Speaker 1: seven year old way. Susie Richelieu says, he's his son

2147
01:54:38,280 --> 01:54:44,320
Speaker 1: is also losing his dad. Yes, but I'm really I'm

2148
01:54:44,320 --> 01:54:45,920
Speaker 1: really split on this, and I think that a lot

2149
01:54:45,960 --> 01:54:47,240
Speaker 1: of I mean a lot of people are saying not

2150
01:54:47,280 --> 01:54:48,160
Speaker 1: the ahle.

2151
01:54:49,880 --> 01:54:52,680
Speaker 2: And it's a day. It's one day go before, go

2152
01:54:52,760 --> 01:54:54,680
Speaker 2: the day before. Honestly, it's one day.

2153
01:54:54,760 --> 01:54:57,240
Speaker 1: I think that there is an easy solution. That's why

2154
01:54:57,280 --> 01:54:59,360
Speaker 1: I'm kind of leading towards. Yeah, I'm on the fence,

2155
01:54:59,440 --> 01:55:05,240
Speaker 1: leading Luca, I'm kind of leaning towards everyone sucks a

2156
01:55:05,280 --> 01:55:08,160
Speaker 1: little bit in this. I think the wife was overacting

2157
01:55:08,720 --> 01:55:11,160
Speaker 1: only because there are a lot of other solutions that

2158
01:55:11,160 --> 01:55:15,200
Speaker 1: they could do. Like one, they could he could go

2159
01:55:15,280 --> 01:55:18,080
Speaker 1: to the grave in the morning and then go to

2160
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Speaker 1: the festival. Two, they could go to the festival another

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Speaker 1: day and spend time together and like make an effort

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01:55:26,000 --> 01:55:28,160
Speaker 1: to actually you know, or just go to something another

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01:55:28,240 --> 01:55:31,680
Speaker 1: day and like actively spend time. Uh, they could try

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01:55:31,680 --> 01:55:34,440
Speaker 1: and do both. Or if it's too far away, maybe

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Speaker 1: he goes to the graveyard for a little bit and

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Speaker 1: then uh they do like a father Sunday in that area.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think that sweet cheek says, now he's define ale,

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01:55:46,440 --> 01:55:47,960
Speaker 1: but so is the wife.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I did not like the wife's comment.

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01:55:51,000 --> 01:55:53,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like the wife's comment. It depends on

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01:55:53,080 --> 01:55:55,480
Speaker 1: what he's doing outside of the day. Like, if he's

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Speaker 1: not actively being a father outside.

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Speaker 2: Of the day, then that's a problem.

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Speaker 1: If it's just he wants this one day, I'm like.

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Speaker 2: It out of the whole year.

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Speaker 1: Uh, Deanna or Dina Gail Courser says the dead dad

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01:56:10,000 --> 01:56:11,880
Speaker 1: would probably be pissed that his son was being a

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Speaker 1: selfish dad.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, Ope, if you actually want this to work

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Speaker 2: in your favor for the future, go the day before

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Speaker 2: and then at the festival, make your kid hate. I

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01:56:25,760 --> 01:56:28,480
Speaker 2: get the worst experience ever, and the kid will never

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Speaker 2: ask to go to the festival again on Father's Day

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Speaker 2: and you'll have the rest of your father days with

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Speaker 2: your dead dad. Yeah, there you go, easy soul.

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Speaker 1: Trying to think about it because I feel, on one hand,

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01:56:38,760 --> 01:56:40,400
Speaker 1: and we will get into the rest of the story.

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01:56:40,840 --> 01:56:44,600
Speaker 1: But on one hand, I understand why a lot of

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01:56:44,600 --> 01:56:46,440
Speaker 1: people are saying like this is a day where he

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Speaker 1: should be spending.

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Speaker 2: Time with his son.

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Speaker 1: On the other hand, I think if my dad wanted to,

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Speaker 1: you know, take some time and because you know, my

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01:57:00,720 --> 01:57:02,880
Speaker 1: dad's lost some people in your family.

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Speaker 2: Seven and it's a renaissance fair now, yes, appropriate decision,

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Speaker 2: But this is a young kid with the festival.

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Speaker 1: I think we're really split. I think we're split. I

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Speaker 1: know the call. I feel like the vote is not

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Speaker 1: as split as the chat. I think I am still

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Speaker 1: split because I can see both sides. I mean, because

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Speaker 1: I think if my father I think even well, the

2203
01:57:27,080 --> 01:57:29,960
Speaker 1: thing is that you know he's done this every year,

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01:57:30,080 --> 01:57:34,080
Speaker 1: so it's not like the son expects something which maybe

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01:57:34,160 --> 01:57:35,920
Speaker 1: is sad. Maybe he should expect, you know, to hang

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01:57:35,960 --> 01:57:38,320
Speaker 1: out with his dad on it. I feel like they

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01:57:38,320 --> 01:57:41,880
Speaker 1: could just plan. I think that either thing could be moved.

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01:57:42,520 --> 01:57:45,160
Speaker 1: I think either either event could be moved. He could

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Speaker 1: spend time with his son at like one on one

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01:57:47,480 --> 01:57:49,280
Speaker 1: time with his son and do something fun with him

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01:57:49,280 --> 01:57:51,240
Speaker 1: on another day, or he could go visit his dad

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01:57:51,280 --> 01:57:51,840
Speaker 1: on another day.

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Speaker 2: Graver festival. Everyone, which one do they do? Let's deep reading?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, let's go on, because I'm I'm complainted comments.

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01:58:01,880 --> 01:58:03,880
Speaker 1: The Shadow of Yours says, think of it this way.

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01:58:04,000 --> 01:58:06,120
Speaker 1: If your father was alive, would you want to spend

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01:58:06,120 --> 01:58:08,800
Speaker 1: Father's Day at a festival with him or at your

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01:58:08,800 --> 01:58:12,080
Speaker 1: grandfather's grave. Your father is gone, but your son's father

2219
01:58:12,240 --> 01:58:14,920
Speaker 1: is not appreciate what time you have with your son

2220
01:58:15,120 --> 01:58:17,960
Speaker 1: because you do not know how long you have with them.

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01:58:18,000 --> 01:58:22,920
Speaker 1: Not a whole Okay, So they disagree with them, but

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01:58:23,520 --> 01:58:26,680
Speaker 1: they're saying not the ahle interesting Okay, Okay, I like

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01:58:26,760 --> 01:58:31,960
Speaker 1: that comment because they are, you know, offering some constructive criticism,

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01:58:31,960 --> 01:58:34,440
Speaker 1: but still like not the al I think that might

2225
01:58:34,440 --> 01:58:37,720
Speaker 1: be where I'm at, Like, you know, you could there

2226
01:58:37,760 --> 01:58:43,880
Speaker 1: could be a solution here. Yeah, Opie says, this hit

2227
01:58:43,920 --> 01:58:46,400
Speaker 1: me more than any other comment. Yeah, I would really

2228
01:58:46,440 --> 01:58:48,400
Speaker 1: have liked to have gone to this festival with my dad.

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01:58:48,520 --> 01:58:50,880
Speaker 1: It hadn't started yet back then, but if it had,

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01:58:51,600 --> 01:58:54,320
Speaker 1: he would have taken me. Thank you for asking this question.

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01:58:54,400 --> 01:58:58,080
Speaker 1: It definitely shifted my perspective. The shadow of yours.

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01:58:57,720 --> 01:59:01,920
Speaker 2: Says, let's just good to the update. Okay, update, we

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01:59:02,080 --> 01:59:04,200
Speaker 2: have to do a recording after that. Oh, you're right, guys.

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01:59:04,200 --> 01:59:07,520
Speaker 1: Here. Initially my plan was to get an unbiased perspective.

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01:59:07,680 --> 01:59:09,840
Speaker 1: I figured since almost everyone agreed that I was the

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01:59:09,880 --> 01:59:13,080
Speaker 1: a hole, it really was important to go to this festival. However,

2237
01:59:13,120 --> 01:59:15,400
Speaker 1: the flood of vitriol that followed gave me pause.

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01:59:15,480 --> 01:59:18,800
Speaker 2: Wait everyone called him the a hole? Yeah that's crazy.

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01:59:19,360 --> 01:59:22,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, also, Teddy, we don't know how long ago Opie's

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01:59:22,240 --> 01:59:25,680
Speaker 1: dad passed, but op is thirty three, so his dad

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01:59:25,720 --> 01:59:29,640
Speaker 1: did pass away relatively young. Yeah, oh four years ago.

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01:59:29,680 --> 01:59:29,960
Speaker 2: Thank you.

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01:59:30,520 --> 01:59:34,320
Speaker 1: A polite person asked, vitriol, where was it that gave

2244
01:59:34,320 --> 01:59:37,200
Speaker 1: me pause? There's really no such thing as an unbiased perspective.

2245
01:59:37,280 --> 01:59:40,000
Speaker 1: Everyone has an agenda. The cost of comments prove that.

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01:59:40,720 --> 01:59:42,680
Speaker 1: A polite person asked if I would have wanted to

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01:59:42,680 --> 01:59:44,840
Speaker 1: go to such a festival with my dad. That hit

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01:59:44,920 --> 01:59:46,760
Speaker 1: me because of course I would. I would want to

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01:59:46,760 --> 01:59:49,720
Speaker 1: do almost anything with my dad, who I miss. Kids

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01:59:49,920 --> 01:59:52,120
Speaker 1: love festivals, so of course I would have enjoyed this

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01:59:52,160 --> 01:59:57,440
Speaker 1: as a kid. However, my dad never spoiled me. Uh.

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01:59:57,480 --> 01:59:59,280
Speaker 1: And I'm not going to teach my son that the

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01:59:59,280 --> 02:00:03,000
Speaker 1: world revolved around him either. Okay, okay, that's kind of

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02:00:03,040 --> 02:00:05,920
Speaker 1: an ahole response. He just wants to go to a

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02:00:05,920 --> 02:00:09,600
Speaker 1: festival with you. I think it was a little bit

2256
02:00:09,600 --> 02:00:13,160
Speaker 1: of an a whole response. That can't be every day.

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02:00:13,200 --> 02:00:14,160
Speaker 2: It's not every day.

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02:00:14,440 --> 02:00:16,920
Speaker 1: This is Dad's day, his only day, and I'm not

2259
02:00:16,960 --> 02:00:19,080
Speaker 1: going to take it from him. I've talked to my

2260
02:00:19,120 --> 02:00:21,000
Speaker 1: mom about what happened, and she told me that I

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02:00:21,040 --> 02:00:24,200
Speaker 1: wouldn't reward Sun for having a tantrum, but am rewarding

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02:00:24,240 --> 02:00:24,839
Speaker 1: a wife.

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02:00:24,880 --> 02:00:32,200
Speaker 2: And she's right, oh yeah, ooh wife. Hmmm, ooh, I

2264
02:00:32,400 --> 02:00:32,880
Speaker 2: just got yu.

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02:00:33,840 --> 02:00:36,360
Speaker 1: I was like really conflicted, but now he's kind of

2266
02:00:36,400 --> 02:00:40,880
Speaker 1: being an a hole. On June nineteenth, I'm going to

2267
02:00:40,920 --> 02:00:43,200
Speaker 1: take my son to my hometown. He'll spend the morning

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02:00:43,200 --> 02:00:45,080
Speaker 1: with my mom while I visit the grave. Then I'll

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02:00:45,120 --> 02:00:47,720
Speaker 1: take him to lunch at my dad's favorite restaurant, will

2270
02:00:47,760 --> 02:00:50,520
Speaker 1: go swimming nearby the place Dad used to take me fishing.

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02:00:50,600 --> 02:00:52,720
Speaker 1: I'll take him to get ice cream. It'll be a

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02:00:52,800 --> 02:00:54,800
Speaker 1: nice day, and it will be a day that honors

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02:00:54,840 --> 02:00:57,280
Speaker 1: my dad. My wife can go to the festival as

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02:00:57,360 --> 02:01:02,000
Speaker 1: she wants, but son will not be attending. Interesting, Okay,

2275
02:01:02,040 --> 02:01:04,920
Speaker 1: this is kind of what I was saying of like

2276
02:01:05,080 --> 02:01:09,040
Speaker 1: going to spending time with his dad in the morning

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02:01:09,080 --> 02:01:10,160
Speaker 1: and then spending.

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02:01:09,840 --> 02:01:10,520
Speaker 2: Time with his son.

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02:01:12,600 --> 02:01:15,640
Speaker 1: I h I think he's his response has a bit

2280
02:01:15,680 --> 02:01:18,640
Speaker 1: of an a hole, But I think this, I think

2281
02:01:18,680 --> 02:01:21,680
Speaker 1: that was kind of the solution that I was going for. Ooh,

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02:01:21,840 --> 02:01:26,840
Speaker 1: I think we are his foot though. Yeah, I know

2283
02:01:27,480 --> 02:01:30,720
Speaker 1: many of Oh, my wife can go to the festival

2284
02:01:30,720 --> 02:01:33,880
Speaker 1: if she wants, but son will not be attending. I

2285
02:01:33,960 --> 02:01:35,920
Speaker 1: know many of you were excited that I decided to

2286
02:01:35,920 --> 02:01:37,680
Speaker 1: take him, but I'm not going to teach my son

2287
02:01:37,720 --> 02:01:38,760
Speaker 1: it's okay to be selfish.

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02:01:38,800 --> 02:01:41,040
Speaker 2: I don't like that. I don't like that. I don't

2289
02:01:41,080 --> 02:01:41,280
Speaker 2: like that.

2290
02:01:41,920 --> 02:01:44,160
Speaker 1: I'm going to continue to teach him about my dad

2291
02:01:44,840 --> 02:01:47,120
Speaker 1: so Dad can live on in spirit. I make my

2292
02:01:47,160 --> 02:01:49,520
Speaker 1: son the focus of almost every holiday, but this is

2293
02:01:49,680 --> 02:01:52,600
Speaker 1: Dad's day. That's an important lesson for him to learn.

2294
02:01:52,720 --> 02:01:57,280
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's not about us, sometimes it's about others. And

2295
02:01:57,360 --> 02:02:00,520
Speaker 1: everyone seems to have agreed that he's an a hole thing.

2296
02:02:02,720 --> 02:02:06,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just yuckey all the way around.

2297
02:02:06,440 --> 02:02:08,280
Speaker 1: I think he's an a hole, But I don't think

2298
02:02:08,400 --> 02:02:11,680
Speaker 1: the decision to do the like go to the grave

2299
02:02:11,720 --> 02:02:13,480
Speaker 1: and then spend spend time with your son is an

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02:02:13,520 --> 02:02:14,080
Speaker 1: a whole move.

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02:02:14,160 --> 02:02:16,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, and everyone says festival rather than the grave.

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02:02:16,560 --> 02:02:23,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm so conflicted. I think he's an a hole.

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02:02:23,840 --> 02:02:26,400
Speaker 1: I'm not conflicted about that. I think he and the wife,

2304
02:02:26,520 --> 02:02:28,720
Speaker 1: I think everyone sucks in the story. I just think

2305
02:02:28,760 --> 02:02:31,000
Speaker 1: that the action of going to the grave and spending

2306
02:02:31,040 --> 02:02:34,200
Speaker 1: time with your son, I think that was my solution.

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02:02:34,560 --> 02:02:35,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think.

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02:02:35,400 --> 02:02:38,480
Speaker 1: Solution wise that's fine. But I think that OPI is

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02:02:38,480 --> 02:02:39,800
Speaker 1: an a hole because I don't like the way that

2310
02:02:39,800 --> 02:02:43,040
Speaker 1: he's talking about this. Yeah, because it's like he's like

2311
02:02:43,120 --> 02:02:45,320
Speaker 1: calling his son selfish for wanting to spend time with him.

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Speaker 2: Lucy Smith, I'm split, honestly.

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02:02:48,000 --> 02:02:52,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm I think I think I'm landing on the

2314
02:02:52,120 --> 02:02:58,640
Speaker 1: everyone sucks here. But that final decision of visiting his

2315
02:02:58,680 --> 02:03:00,680
Speaker 1: father grave in the morning and then hang out with

2316
02:03:00,680 --> 02:03:04,520
Speaker 1: the sun all day. I think that is an okay decision. Yeah,

2317
02:03:04,600 --> 02:03:09,200
Speaker 1: but everyone sucks. Yeah, and that's the end of that story.

2318
02:03:09,400 --> 02:03:11,600
Speaker 2: When it also the other thing is like, when are you,

2319
02:03:11,640 --> 02:03:13,400
Speaker 2: as a dad going to make Father's Day about you

2320
02:03:13,560 --> 02:03:16,040
Speaker 2: and not just your other dad? Yeah, you get to

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02:03:16,080 --> 02:03:18,160
Speaker 2: make it about you. Got to honor yourself. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's it everyone. Yeah, members only, stay tuned because I

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Speaker 2: think we may be having another live later with a

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Speaker 2: special guest.

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Speaker 1: Oh one day.

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Speaker 2: Wow, We'll see you later. Members only, but you can

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Speaker 1: a live.

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