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He was taking a walk through the 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:16.680 woods with his friend when they suddenly encountered a huge 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:20.079 grizzly bear about twenty yards in front of them. They 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:24.079 both froze in their tracks as the bear intently stirred 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:27.360 them down. They contemplated what they should do. Finally, the 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:29.800 man said to his friend, I think we should run. 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:33.320 His friends said, are you crazy? Can't outrun a grizzly bear. 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:36.519 Man said, I know that. I don't have to outrun him. 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:40.400 I just have to outrun. You say it like you 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:43.320 mean it. This is my Bible. I am what it 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:45.720 says I am. I have what it says I have. 0:02:46.240 --> 0:02:48.720 I can do what it says I can do. Today 0:02:48.880 --> 0:02:52.280 I will be taught the word of God. I boldly confess. 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:56.160 My mind is alert, my heart is recepted. I will 0:02:56.200 --> 0:03:00.080 never be the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:03.800 I want to talk to you today about keeping your joy. 0:03:04.280 --> 0:03:08.519 We all have opportunities to get upset and go around frustrated. 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:12.480 Somebody was rude to us, Traffic was backed up, we 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:17.600 can't find our car keys. Life is full of inconveniences, delays, 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:20.640 and people that don't do right. We're never going to 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:24.080 stop these things from happening. The key is how we 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:29.280 handle them. The scripture says no man can take your joy. 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:33.400 That means you control your joy. Nothing can take it 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:37.040 from you. You have to give it away. Next time 0:03:37.120 --> 0:03:40.320 someone cuts you off in traffic, ask yourself, is this 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:44.160 worth giving them my joy? That person that's rude to 0:03:44.200 --> 0:03:46.840 you on the phone that you've never met, are you 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:50.680 going to give them your joy? That delay, that plan 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:54.080 that didn't work out, that negative comment, You're going to 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:57.920 let that sour your day. The reason some people are 0:03:57.960 --> 0:04:01.720 not happy is there constant lead giving away their joy. 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:05.360 I was in a crowded parking lot one time waiting 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:08.760 for a parking spot. The man was putting his groceries 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:11.240 in his car and took him a couple of minutes. 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:15.360 I had my blinker on patiently waiting. When he finally 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:19.240 backed out, a car came from the wrong direction and 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:22.120 pulled in right in front of me. They could clearly 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:25.200 see that I was waiting. My first response was to 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:27.880 haunt my horn and tell them what I thought. Then 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:31.800 I noticed he was bigger than me. I thought to myself. 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:34.800 I'll give you my parking spot, but I'm not going 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:38.160 to give you my joy. I didn't like it. It 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:41.280 wasn't fair. But I've learned to not let things I 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:45.400 can't control sour my day. I've made up my mind. 0:04:45.480 --> 0:04:48.080 I'm going to be happy today. I'm going to enjoy 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:52.280 my life. You can't control what people do, you can't 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:56.599 control what they say, but you can control how you respond. 0:04:57.400 --> 0:05:01.120 My message is very simple. Quit giving away your joy. 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:05.800 Quit letting the same people upset you. Quit letting the traffic, 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:10.360 the delays, the things that don't work out frustrate you. 0:05:10.360 --> 0:05:13.719 You can't pray these things away. Have person at the 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:16.320 office that gets on your nerves. I don't mean to 0:05:16.320 --> 0:05:19.600 be negative, but they may not change. They may be 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:23.200 that way for the next twenty years. My challenge is, 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:26.680 don't go twenty years giving them your joy. They may 0:05:26.720 --> 0:05:30.880 not change, but you can change. Life is too short 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:35.040 to live frustrated upset over things we have no control. 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:38.880 People have a right to have their opinion. You have 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:42.000 the right to ignore it. People have the right to 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:45.760 be rude. You have the right to stay happy. Quit 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:49.920 letting their negative comments upset you. They wouldn't be talking 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:54.080 about you if you weren't making a difference. Nobody talks 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:57.960 about people that are not doing anything. They're talking about 0:05:58.000 --> 0:06:01.880 you because you're going places. They can see. There's something 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:05.640 special about you. You have the favor of God. You're blessed, 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:10.680 you're talented, you're anointed. Sometimes small minded people will try 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:14.039 to push you down and discredit you. Don't pay any 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:18.120 attention to it. That doesn't carry anyway. What they say 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:22.640 cannot keep you from your destiny. That is simply a distraction. 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:29.280 Every person has negative chatter. All your family members, unfortunately, 0:06:29.600 --> 0:06:32.880 are not going to be for you. George Burns said, 0:06:33.160 --> 0:06:38.279 happiness is having a loving, carrying, close knit family living 0:06:38.400 --> 0:06:42.839 in another city. Some of your relatives you have to 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:46.560 love them from a distance. If they're sitting by you today, 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:51.880 don't say amen. Now. All of your coworkers are not 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:55.520 going to celebrate you. All of your friends are not 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:59.479 going to be loyal. Some people can't handle your success. 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:03.479 They'll make remarks trying to bait you into conflict, trying 0:07:03.480 --> 0:07:06.919 to get you upset. Here's the key. Don't get involved 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:10.520 in battles that are not between you and your destiny. 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:15.240 Most of the conflict we engage in is a distraction. 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:19.640 The enemy would love to get you off course, offended, 0:07:20.120 --> 0:07:23.000 trying to straighten people out, trying to convince them that 0:07:23.040 --> 0:07:27.280 you're okay. Your job is not to change people's mind 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:30.320 about you. Your job is not to try to make 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:34.080 people like you. Your job is to run your race 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:37.040 to be who God called you to be, and not 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:41.640 worry about the critics and the naysayers. God will cause 0:07:41.680 --> 0:07:44.560 the right people to like you. Well. One of the 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:47.920 best things I've learned is everybody is not supposed to 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:52.200 like you. Everybody is not supposed to approve you. Some 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:56.800 people are ordained by God, not by the enemy, but 0:07:56.880 --> 0:08:00.840 by God to not be For you. To accept that 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:04.320 everyone is not going to accept you. We see it 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:09.080 in the scripture. Joseph's brothers weren't supposed to be for Joseph. 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:14.000 They were ordained to betray him. Without their betrayal, Joseph 0:08:14.040 --> 0:08:16.720 would have never made it to the palace to help 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:21.240 the Israelites during the famine. Quit being sour because somebody 0:08:21.320 --> 0:08:24.440 betrayed you. How do you know that's not leading you 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:28.120 to your palace? How do you know that disappointment is 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:30.960 not a part of God's plan to take you to 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:36.199 the next level of your destiny. King Saul was ordained 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:39.680 to not like David. If he would have celebrated David 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:42.559 been happy for his success, David would have never taken 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:46.640 the throne. Are you upset because someone is not for you? 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:49.880 When the truth is God has ordained them to not 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:54.959 be for you. When Nehemiah was rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem, 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:58.600 there were two men san Ballot and Tobias that didn't 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:01.440 like what he was doing. They stood at the bottom 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:06.480 of the mountain and constantly shouted insults at Nemiyah. They 0:09:06.480 --> 0:09:10.800 were trying to bait him into conflict, get him upset. Frustrated, 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:15.320 Neamiyah understood this principle. He said, no thanks, I'm not 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:18.600 giving you my joy. You may not like me, but 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.760 you not liking me has nothing to do with me 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:25.680 fulfilling my destiny. I'm gonna stay focused on what God's 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:29.120 called me to do. If Namiyah would have come off 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:32.320 the mountain, God upset went down there to straighten them out. 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.760 Even if he won, even if he shut them up, 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:39.800 he wouldn't have finished the wall when he did. All 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:43.400 the chatter that comes against you is a distraction. It's 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:47.319 to get you upset, so you get involved in battles 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:50.360 that don't matter. Then you look up and you're not 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:54.720 accomplishing what you should do yourself a favor, don't pay 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:58.520 any attention to it. Quit being upset by people who 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:02.199 are not for you. People that make negative comments, trying 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:06.480 to marginalize you, push you down. What they say doesn't 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:11.240 determine your destiny. They are simply a distraction. That's just noise. 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:14.720 Don't give it the time of day. See some people, 0:10:15.080 --> 0:10:17.360 no matter what you do, they are not going to 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:21.120 like you. Even if you changed and did everything they wanted, 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:24.600 they would still find some reason why you don't measure up. 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:28.960 You have to be at peace with people not being 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:32.960 at peace with you. You don't need their approval to 0:10:33.080 --> 0:10:36.640 fulfill your purpose. You don't have to have them before 0:10:36.679 --> 0:10:40.560 you to become who God's created you to be. But 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:44.520 if you get distracted trying to wind them over, spending 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.800 your valuable time trying to convince them to be for you, 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:51.600 then you will miss the fullness of your destiny. Don't 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:54.400 take the bank. Don't let them get you riled up. 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:58.960 Jesus said, blessed are the meek. They will inherit the 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:05.719 Earth doesn't mean weak. Meekness means strength under control. When 0:11:05.760 --> 0:11:09.679 you ignore negative comments, you don't pay attention to the sand, 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:12.960 ballots and tobias is of life. You're not being weak, 0:11:13.080 --> 0:11:16.679 you're being meek. You have the power to fight. You 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:19.160 have the strength to straighten them out, to tell them 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:23.160 what you feel. But your strength is under control. You're 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:27.280 not wasting time engaged in battles that are not between 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:31.320 you and your God given destiny. I've learned when you 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:34.400 stay on the high road, God will take care of 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:37.959 your enemies. God can defend you better than you can 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:42.840 defend yourself. In the scripture, Elisha was traveling from Jericho 0:11:43.000 --> 0:11:46.400 to Bethel. Along the way, a group of young men 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:49.679 came out and started making fun of him because he 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:55.239 was bald. The scripture says they were mocking him, saying, gold, baldygo. 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:58.440 You didn't know that was in the Bible, did you? 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:02.920 You know? Elisha was annoyed. He could have gotten upset, 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:05.679 thought I'm gonna go straighten them out. I'll show you 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:10.880 what I thought. Instead, he remained calm. He understood this principle. 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:14.720 They couldn't take his joy. They were baiting him, trying 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:18.679 to get him distracted. He just stayed focused and continued 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:22.120 doing what God called him to do. While those young 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:25.360 men were making fun of him, two bears came out 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:29.000 of the woods and tore them to pieces. That tells 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:32.000 me two things. Number one, don't make fun of all people. 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:37.439 Number Two, you don't have to straighten people out. God 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:42.280 will be your vindicator. God knows how to take care 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:46.280 of the opposition. He sees what they're doing, He hears 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:50.360 the disrespect. If you'll stay in peace, God will fight 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:53.520 your battles. When God does it, I can assure you 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:56.240 it will be better than anything you could have done. 0:12:57.200 --> 0:13:00.600 But your feelings will want to pay people back. Feelings 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:03.320 will tell us go in there, get even, stand up 0:13:03.320 --> 0:13:07.120 for yourself. If you let feelings rule, you'll get upset. 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:10.400 You'll end up giving away your joy. Don't get on 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:14.360 board with your feelings. The Psalmist said God has given 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:19.480 us the power to remain calm in times of adversity. 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:22.480 It doesn't say God will keep us from all the adversity, 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:27.000 from the opposition, the sand balance, the negative chatter. It 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:31.040 says they will come. We'll have opportunities to get upset, 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:34.800 but God has given us power to stay calm. Now, 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:37.760 quit telling yourself I can't help it. This person at 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:40.320 the office, they just get on my nerves. You have 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:43.360 the power to stay calm. That doesn't have to keep 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:48.440 upsetting you. That is a learned behavior. They say something negative, 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:52.240 I get offended. Traffic is bad, I get upset. The 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:54.800 clerk is rude. I can't help it, Joel, I just 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:57.680 go off. I just let them have it. The problem 0:13:57.840 --> 0:14:01.680 is you have strength, but it's not a control. You 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:05.199 need to relearn how to respond. You need to develop 0:14:05.280 --> 0:14:09.080 some new habits. Next time something happens that you don't like, 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:13.160 pause for a moment and say, Father, thank you that 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:16.120 you've given me the power to remain calm. Think you 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:19.000 that I have a spirit of discipline and self control. 0:14:20.040 --> 0:14:23.160 You don't have to let the same things keep upsetting 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:27.000 you year after year. Change your approach. I met a 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:31.840 gentleman in another state at a restaurant. Was very windy outside, 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:34.840 and when he walked in the door, the person in 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:38.160 front of him let the door slam right in his face. 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:42.720 This man had been hot tempered his whole life. Normally, 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.560 he would have confronted them and told them what he thought, 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:49.680 but he'd been listening to our programs, and just when 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:52.320 he was about to lose his cool, he heard my 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:56.560 voice saying stay calm and let God fight your battles. 0:14:57.320 --> 0:15:00.640 He paused for a moment and decided to let it go. 0:15:01.280 --> 0:15:04.160 He walked away like nothing happened. We came in the 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:07.360 restaurant and sat down. I was sitting a few tables away. 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:09.880 He came over and said, Joel, if you had not 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:11.960 been in my head, I would have let them have 0:15:12.080 --> 0:15:16.040 it like this. Man. You may have been trained to 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:19.600 respond a certain way. You grew up seeing people lose 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:23.360 their cool, get upset, offended. Why don't you try a 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:27.440 different approach. When you let people upset you, you are 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:31.200 giving away your power. You are letting them control you. 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:34.960 If they push this button, you get offended. That button 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:38.200 you get upset. This other button they bait you into conflict. 0:15:38.680 --> 0:15:41.800 Why don't you turn those buttons off? Life is so 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:45.920 much more freeing when you're not controlled by what people say. 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:50.440 You're not offended when someone's upset, You're not soured because 0:15:50.520 --> 0:15:53.880 traffic was bad. You have tapped in to the power 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:57.720 to remain calm. A friend of mine named David Polly 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:00.800 wrote a book called the Law of the gold garbage truck. 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:03.640 He was in a taxi cab in New York City 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:07.480 headed to a meeting. A car pulled out right in 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:10.480 front of them. The taxi driver had to slam on 0:16:10.560 --> 0:16:14.600 his brakes swerve to the left, missing the car by inches. 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:17.880 The driver of the other car put his head out 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:22.280 the window, started screaming and yelling. He was so angry, 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:25.440 so upset, shaking his fist. The funny thing, it was 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:29.800 his fault. The taxi driver just smiled, waved real big 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:32.440 and drove on. Didn't give it the time of day. 0:16:33.400 --> 0:16:36.280 David was in the back seat, and he was so impressed. 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:40.040 He said, that man almost totaled your car, almost sent 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:42.640 us both to the hospital. I can't believe you didn't 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:45.040 yell back at him. How did you keep your cool? 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:49.600 The taxi driver gave an insightful answer. He said, I 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:54.200 found many people are like garbage trucks. They go around 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:58.520 full of anger, full of frustration, full of bitterness. As 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:02.160 their garbage piles up up, they need somewhere to dump it. 0:17:02.760 --> 0:17:05.960 Sometimes they'll dump it on you, but you can't take 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:10.080 it personally. It has nothing to do with you. Just smile, 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:15.400 wish them well and move on. Here's the key. Successful 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:21.600 people don't let garbage trucks overtake their day. If someone 0:17:21.720 --> 0:17:25.200 dumps a load on you, don't get upset. If you 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:29.600 make that mistake, you'll end up carrying around their garbage 0:17:29.920 --> 0:17:34.240 and eventually you'll dump it on someone else. You have 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:38.200 to keep your lid on. These days, many people are 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:44.239 dumping frustration, disrespect, criticism, bitterness. We can't stop them from 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:47.800 dumping it, but we can keep them from affecting us. 0:17:48.880 --> 0:17:51.879 Years ago, Victoria and I were at the airport. We 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:55.159 were going through the security checkpoint. We put our bags 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:58.120 on the X ray machine. The security officer sent them 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:01.280 both back and said, you have liquids in there that 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:04.320 you have to remove. Victoria said, oh yeah, I forgot 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:06.959 to take my water out. Well, I thought he was 0:18:07.040 --> 0:18:10.280 only talking to Victoria. So I just stood there and 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:13.600 didn't do anything. You would have thought I had committed 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:19.240 a major crime. He was like totally insulted. He practically screamed, sir, 0:18:20.000 --> 0:18:23.040 what are you doing standing there? I told you to 0:18:23.119 --> 0:18:26.080 open the bag and do it now. Thought man, he's 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:29.560 got a big garbage truck, and he was full of frustration, 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:33.119 full of stress, and full of a lot of other stuff. 0:18:33.119 --> 0:18:37.080 But I didn't say it. You just thought it. But 0:18:38.200 --> 0:18:40.560 I took care of it. As I passed by me, 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.600 I said sorry about that. I thought you were just 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:45.560 talking to her. Have a good dame. Didn't mean it, 0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:49.800 but at least I said it. But I thought to myself, 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:53.679 I'm keeping my lid on. I don't need his garbage. 0:18:53.960 --> 0:18:57.199 I don't need that poison. We have enough things of 0:18:57.280 --> 0:19:01.200 our own to deal with. You don't need somebody else's bitterness, 0:19:01.400 --> 0:19:07.200 their sour attitude, their pressure. Keep your lid on tight. 0:19:08.080 --> 0:19:11.679 Let those things bounce off of you. Your destiny is 0:19:11.720 --> 0:19:15.560 too great, Your time is too important to go around 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:19.239 way down with other people's garbage. You can't keep it 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:22.280 from coming, but you can keep it from getting in you. 0:19:23.040 --> 0:19:27.080 The longer I live, the more I realize how valuable 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:30.560 each day is. We're not always going to be here. 0:19:31.119 --> 0:19:35.760 It's easy to live upset, offended, frustrated. But most of 0:19:35.800 --> 0:19:38.880 the things that are upsetting us, in the big picture, 0:19:39.280 --> 0:19:43.080 they don't really matter. Traffic was backed up, took you 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:45.800 an hour to get home, should have taken you thirty minutes. 0:19:46.359 --> 0:19:50.520 Is that worth losing your joy over your alive? You're healthy, 0:19:50.760 --> 0:19:53.080 God's given your breath to breathe. He's given you a 0:19:53.160 --> 0:19:57.360 family to love. Somebody was rude to you. They made 0:19:57.400 --> 0:20:00.399 you look bad, they said something negative? Is that earth 0:20:00.600 --> 0:20:05.119 going around? Defended? Discouraged? What if we found out we 0:20:05.200 --> 0:20:08.600 only had a month to live? I wonder how many 0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:12.160 things we're allowing to upset us now? If we found 0:20:12.200 --> 0:20:15.480 out our time was limited, we wouldn't even pay attention 0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:18.680 to it. Can I tell you our time is limited? 0:20:19.320 --> 0:20:22.120 The scripture says our life is like a mist. We're 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:25.520 here for a moment, then we're gone. That little quirk 0:20:25.560 --> 0:20:28.960 your spouse does that gets on your nerves. If we 0:20:29.040 --> 0:20:31.360 knew we weren't going to be here in a month, 0:20:31.520 --> 0:20:34.399 we wouldn't let it bother us. We would focus on 0:20:34.480 --> 0:20:37.240 all the things right, not on the few things wrong. 0:20:37.960 --> 0:20:41.439 We wouldn't complain about driving in traffic. We'd be happy 0:20:41.480 --> 0:20:43.960 to be in the traffic. We're alive. We got another 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:48.000 day to enjoy life. Well, I've got to go to work. 0:20:48.280 --> 0:20:51.160 Not me. I get to go to work. Some people 0:20:51.200 --> 0:20:53.840 don't have a job. Some people are in the hospital, 0:20:54.080 --> 0:20:57.400 some people aren't able to work. I'm grateful to be employed. 0:20:58.520 --> 0:21:02.040 Well it's Sunday. I gotta go to church again. Not me. 0:21:02.720 --> 0:21:05.280 I get to go to church. God's been good to me. 0:21:05.480 --> 0:21:09.120 I'm gonna go back and say thank you. Not only 0:21:09.200 --> 0:21:13.760 that I get to go to Lakewood, I get to 0:21:13.800 --> 0:21:20.040 listen to that good looking minister. But Joe, my boss 0:21:20.160 --> 0:21:22.439 is not fair. He's hard to get along with. This 0:21:22.520 --> 0:21:25.320 is not the position that I want. The truth is, 0:21:25.560 --> 0:21:28.960 somebody would love to have your job. Somebody would gladly 0:21:29.080 --> 0:21:32.199 trade places with you. It may not be perfect, but 0:21:32.320 --> 0:21:35.840 keep the right perspective. God's blessed you with a job. 0:21:36.520 --> 0:21:39.679 Don't let it sour your life. If you will pass 0:21:39.760 --> 0:21:43.359 the test of being happy where you are, then God 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:46.160 can open some new doors. But if you don't get 0:21:46.160 --> 0:21:49.640 happy there, you probably won't get to where you want 0:21:49.640 --> 0:21:52.200 to be. And your boss may not be fair. I'm 0:21:52.240 --> 0:21:55.840 not making excuses for him. I'm asking you to quit 0:21:55.920 --> 0:22:00.239 giving him your joy. He doesn't control your happiness. You 0:22:00.320 --> 0:22:03.880 control your happiness. But if you let a grouchy boss, 0:22:04.359 --> 0:22:08.680 a grouchy neighbor, a bitter relative steal your joy keep 0:22:08.720 --> 0:22:11.960 you from being happy, it is not their fault. It 0:22:12.080 --> 0:22:14.960 is your fault. You are as happy as you want 0:22:14.960 --> 0:22:18.040 to be. You have to put your foot down and say, 0:22:18.119 --> 0:22:21.120 this is the day the Lord has made. I am 0:22:21.240 --> 0:22:25.360 not going to live sour, defeated, depressed. I am not 0:22:25.400 --> 0:22:28.120 going to let what people do or don't do, what 0:22:28.200 --> 0:22:31.440 they say or don't say, what I have or not have, 0:22:31.960 --> 0:22:35.080 keep me from being happy. I've made up my mind. 0:22:35.200 --> 0:22:39.320 I'm going to enjoy this day. It dishonors God to 0:22:39.400 --> 0:22:43.800 go through the day upset, frustrated, bitter. God gave you 0:22:43.920 --> 0:22:47.600 breath to be here. He could have chosen anyone, but 0:22:47.680 --> 0:22:51.080 he chose you, and he chose me. One way we 0:22:51.160 --> 0:22:55.280 honor God is by being happy, living grateful, having a 0:22:55.280 --> 0:22:58.760 good attitude, seeing the best in life. A couple of 0:22:58.760 --> 0:23:01.600 months ago, I was driving to the office during the 0:23:01.640 --> 0:23:04.479 week to meet some people, and I was in a hurry. 0:23:05.119 --> 0:23:07.399 I had left a little bit late, but I knew 0:23:07.440 --> 0:23:09.560 I could still make it on time if I didn't 0:23:09.600 --> 0:23:12.399 have any delays. And I had driven this route a 0:23:12.480 --> 0:23:16.280 thousand times. I was almost here a few blocks away, 0:23:16.359 --> 0:23:19.880 stopped at the intersection. I was in the left turn lane. 0:23:20.280 --> 0:23:23.520 This light is very short. You have to stay right 0:23:23.640 --> 0:23:26.159 behind the car in front of you to trigger it 0:23:26.200 --> 0:23:30.080 to stay green. Well, I was the third car back waiting. 0:23:30.520 --> 0:23:33.679 The problem was the car in front of me left 0:23:33.800 --> 0:23:37.560 about two car links between it and the first car. 0:23:37.760 --> 0:23:40.840 There was this huge gap. The light turned green, just 0:23:40.920 --> 0:23:43.920 like I thought. The first car went through turn red 0:23:44.240 --> 0:23:47.160 before the second car could make it. I could feel 0:23:47.240 --> 0:23:51.280 myself starting to get up tight. I heard that voice say, joy, 0:23:51.600 --> 0:23:54.359 keep your calm, keep your joy. I thought, I don't 0:23:54.359 --> 0:23:56.640 want to hear one of my messages right now. I'm 0:23:56.640 --> 0:23:59.960 in a hurry. We sat there waiting for a couple 0:23:59.920 --> 0:24:03.480 of minutes, seemed like an hour. About that time, the 0:24:03.600 --> 0:24:06.200