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Speaker 1: Perry Styles Kiss FM, LA's number one hit music station.

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Speaker 1: Good morning. I've got a bunch of music stacked up,

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Speaker 1: fifty minutes of NonStop music coming up here in just

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Speaker 1: a second. I so Tony. I know every year you

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Speaker 1: remind me that you do this, you talk about this,

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Speaker 1: and uh, I think it's you know, in principle, it's

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Speaker 1: a good idea. Things that are not serving you, just

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Speaker 1: you don't edit to get them out of your life.

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Speaker 1: You don't need them. So would you do you write

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Speaker 1: down the notion or the object or the thing or

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Speaker 1: the whatever on a piece of paper, and then you, yes,

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Speaker 1: exactly safely in a tin can, burn the paper.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I put it in a tin can, and then

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Speaker 2: we just take like a little you know, stove lighter

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Speaker 2: and just light it and then that's it.

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Speaker 1: When do you make the list of things you're going

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Speaker 1: to get rid of?

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Speaker 2: So I try to think the day before. I really

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Speaker 2: like go think really hard, introspectively about kind of what

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Speaker 2: the last six months of this year has been. Like

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Speaker 2: things that I've been doing that I don't necessarily feel

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Speaker 2: are benefiting me, Some toxic things that I've been doing,

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Speaker 2: and I really am intentional about it, and I write

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Speaker 2: them down on and then.

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Speaker 1: I just and so Robbie got the tin can at

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Speaker 1: home depot? And where doers get more done? And what

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Speaker 1: does he do when you do the getting rid of

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Speaker 1: these things?

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Speaker 2: Well, usually we talk about it. I'll talk to him

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Speaker 2: about these things that I've been seeing in myself and

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Speaker 2: like talk to him about things in our relationship that

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Speaker 2: I've been doing that I don't want to do. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: this is after kind.

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Speaker 1: Of all the this is kind of the last the celebration.

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Speaker 2: This is the last thing that I do.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I can safely say that would not be my

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Speaker 1: ideal birthday. Yeah, Like is it celebratory or does it

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Speaker 1: feel good? Or is it more emotional?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's well, you know me, I'm a cancer so

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Speaker 2: I'm really emotional. So it does feel good. It feels

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Speaker 2: like I'm stepping into a new year of life with

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Speaker 2: intention and purpose and not carrying anything that's weighing me down.

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Speaker 1: So are you going to tell us the number of

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Speaker 1: things that you got rid of it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's there's a lot of things, Like I get

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Speaker 2: really granular on it, but one of them was caring

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Speaker 2: what other people think. I used to be really good

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Speaker 2: about this I used to not really care what anybody

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Speaker 2: thought and I just lived my life. And I feel

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Speaker 2: the past few months I've really really cared and taking

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Speaker 2: that burden on myself, and I don't want to do

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Speaker 2: that anymore. I just want to live my life.

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Speaker 1: And so I thought, will you not read comments on

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Speaker 1: Instagram or check for fire emojis or whatever everybody looks for?

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Speaker 2: No, because I I like responding and I like hearing, Like,

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Speaker 2: I like hearing what people say or if they want

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Speaker 2: to ask something.

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Speaker 1: But if something like when I look at mine, I

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Speaker 1: always only remember the one that makes fun of me

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Speaker 1: for posting that one picture.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's like less about focusing on that

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Speaker 2: and then more focusing on the good.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what else?

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Speaker 2: Stop saying yes when my heart says no?

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Speaker 1: Mark got a got a gottteral reaction from a producer

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Speaker 1: out of here. Yeah, is that one someone asks you

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Speaker 1: to hang out?

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's all those things. It's all those things. It's

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Speaker 2: it's yeah, saying yes to commitments.

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Speaker 1: That a how do you say no?

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Speaker 2: I don't know how to say no.

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Speaker 1: That's the problem. The exercise right yes, correct, and that's

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Speaker 1: how do you say no?

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Speaker 2: That's gonna be something that's going to be a challenge

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Speaker 2: for me easier when you have kids. Yeah, that.

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Speaker 1: Dog, that's true, that's true. A little different. Let's do

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Speaker 1: one more, one more. These are the things that Tanya

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Speaker 1: intentionally got rid of on our birthday party last night.

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Speaker 2: Yes, the last one was more geared towards my relationship,

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Speaker 2: less judgment, more understanding.

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Speaker 1: I mean we can all use these.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know that one's ryan.

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Speaker 1: Is that one hitting you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I don't know when to speak or not speak on

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Speaker 1: that because you know, it's very difficult to do that, right.

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Speaker 1: I always say, like, yes, you want to put your

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Speaker 1: you want to put their shoes on and put yourself

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Speaker 1: in their shoes. The key is before you react. That's

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Speaker 1: that's that thing, right, It's like you want to you

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Speaker 1: want to react, and when you're emotional in a situation,

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Speaker 1: you want to react immediately. Especially is like you love

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Speaker 1: to react immediately. Yeah, but taking the beat it's the

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Speaker 1: hard part, and perspective is the hard part.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Yes, And I can be very and it makes

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Speaker 2: me sad to think about because you know, Robbie's so

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Speaker 2: loving and kind and just like a beautiful soul, and

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Speaker 2: I can be very judgmental and harsh with him sometimes

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Speaker 2: you can Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Could you act out see that? You know, just like

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Speaker 1: like I'm trying to picture their fights, like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're not like fights, and we don't that's the thing.

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Speaker 2: We don't. We're not we don't yell We're not yellers.

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Speaker 2: We don't ever have like blowout fights. But you know,

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Speaker 2: just like mistakes from your past and just like learning

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Speaker 2: about things and just.

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Speaker 1: Being does anybody ever say, can we table this? Yes?

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Speaker 2: He does all the time.

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Speaker 1: Oh. I find that to be effective and also very

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Speaker 1: frustrating to other people.

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Speaker 2: And it is very effective. I think it's so effective

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Speaker 2: to just say, like, let's give me a little like,

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Speaker 2: let's talk about this tomorrow, and I'm the person that

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Speaker 2: wants to talk about it until we figured it out

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Speaker 2: and have a solution. Until if it's like one in

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Speaker 2: the morning and he's like, let's.

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Speaker 1: Sleep like that, Michael's like he wants to nip it

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Speaker 1: in the butt and get to the bottom of it,

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Speaker 1: get to the root. That's what. Let's get to the

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Speaker 1: root of its likes and just turn on a playlist. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but it's so much better when you do eventually get

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Speaker 1: to the root.

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Speaker 2: It is, but it's better to sleep on it and

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Speaker 2: not do it when you're tired and emotional.

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Speaker 1: But you can't sleep when you're thinking about it all

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Speaker 1: night in your head. I can sleep. Could next time.

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Speaker 1: It's really good.

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you, like I'm telling you it feels really

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Speaker 2: good to get all this out and like really want

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Speaker 2: to grow and be better in my next year of life.

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Speaker 1: She puts posted, I will nice. Would you like to

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Speaker 1: stay on until noon today if you want me to? No,

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Speaker 1: we're supposed to say no. No. You were like your

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Speaker 1: heart said no, but you said yes unless you really

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Speaker 1: wanted to. Guy did I can tell? I know?

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Speaker 2: But I have the times if you need to.

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Speaker 1: Take other people's shows, that's not hours. I was like

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Speaker 1: giving away my hour, Like what she's just like stealing

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Speaker 1: your hours? She said, yes, Oh my gosh, I have

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Speaker 1: to send you this.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna send you this video I forgot to send

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Speaker 2: you from yesterday.

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Speaker 1: My Pune's dead. Fifty minutes of nonsense