1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,120 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for calling out my kid's 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:05,279 Speaker 1: future step mom for treating me like a surrogate? 3 00:00:05,640 --> 00:00:09,840 Speaker 2: Okop, this is Okayop. I'm Samuel Donner and I'm John Fry, 4 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 2: and John please tell me your tales that you do 5 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:14,560 Speaker 2: so well? 6 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:16,720 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for calling out my kid's 7 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: future step mom for treating me like a surrogate? 8 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 3: Oh? 9 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 2: God, When you got surrogates and husbands and wives mixed together, 10 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 2: it's a recipe for disaster. 11 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: I twenty nine female, dated a guy, Joe thirty mail 12 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,560 Speaker 1: for three months before he left me to go back 13 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 1: to his ex Kim Yikes. 14 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:37,320 Speaker 2: Turn off with the bangs. 15 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: Start off with the bank today, ladies and gentlemen. Right 16 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 1: before we broke up, I found out I was pregnant 17 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: and now I am twenty four weeks in with his babe, 18 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: with his baby, with freakin Joe's baby. 19 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 3: I let him know and he was ecstatic. 20 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 2: How how are you ecstatic? 21 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:57,960 Speaker 1: Turns out his girlfriend had fertility issues and would likely 22 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: never be able to get pregnant naturally, and he had 23 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: always wanted to be a father. 24 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 2: Bro, this is weird, h B. 25 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 1: Getting back together was out of the question for both 26 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: of us. So he is currently still with that girlfriend. 27 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: Joe was not allowed at the initial appointment because of 28 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: COVID nineteen and we found out that I was having twins. 29 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:23,759 Speaker 1: Oh God, the trouble According to Joe when he told Tim, 30 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 1: she had a mental breakdown about her own infertility and 31 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: she wanted to talk to me. I met them at 32 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:32,000 Speaker 1: their house and Kim started to say that she wanted 33 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:35,400 Speaker 1: to be involved in my pregnancy because she would eventually 34 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:37,039 Speaker 1: be the child's stepmother. 35 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:39,399 Speaker 2: Thing is, I don't know what's normal in this situation, 36 00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 2: because it's weird. 37 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's very strange. 38 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:43,679 Speaker 1: She started telling me that I needed to do an 39 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:47,280 Speaker 1: at home birth, that I needed to formula feed so 40 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: they could have the baby half of the week, and 41 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: that she wanted. 42 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 3: One boy and one girl. 43 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 2: That's not even in her biologically possible. But how do 44 00:01:57,560 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 2: you think you have ownership over this woman that you 45 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 2: don't even really know me. 46 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 3: I'd be like, uh, you're telling me how I'm giving birth? 47 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is my baby. 48 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 1: Kim wanted the kids to call her mama since they 49 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: would be calling me mommy. 50 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 2: The audacity for the audacity. 51 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 3: OP wasn't having it. 52 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: I shut her down and I said I would make 53 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:22,720 Speaker 1: the best choices for my children and my body and left. 54 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: I think the craziest thing is at home birds, because 55 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:30,959 Speaker 1: it's like I am pushing twins out of this thing. 56 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 1: I am getting the medical attention that I want for that, 57 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:39,640 Speaker 1: not one that you want. Progressive Kim continued to be 58 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: overbearing and texting me every single day about my eating habits, 59 00:02:44,639 --> 00:02:48,359 Speaker 1: exercise habits, and going on about her job. Wouldn't let 60 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: her take a maternity leave you because you're not freaking pregnant. 61 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:55,000 Speaker 2: You you fool. 62 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:58,920 Speaker 1: At the virtual genetics counseling appointment, she attended instead of 63 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 1: Joe and took over the whole meeting, trying to talk 64 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: about her family history, which wasn't relevant. 65 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 3: You're not related, You're not related. This is all irrelevant information, 66 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:10,440 Speaker 3: you freaking idiots. 67 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 2: I don't know if you've ever seen that episode of 68 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 2: the Office where like Michael's taking care of Jan's baby 69 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:18,320 Speaker 2: it's not even his, Like this is that scenario. 70 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:25,519 Speaker 1: Oh God, now this baby will be related to Michael through. 71 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 3: Collusion. 72 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: When it came time for my twenty week Level two scan, 73 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: they allowed me one guest and Joe suggested that I 74 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: take Kim instead of him. 75 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 3: Which I refuse to do. 76 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 2: Also, why is Joe so absent from this process? Like 77 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 2: he was so excited at again initially, but now I 78 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 2: can't even show up. 79 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 3: This is actually his child. 80 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:49,840 Speaker 2: Kim that the family history is actually important, It's actually relevant. 81 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,880 Speaker 1: Joe did end up coming and he found out the gender. 82 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:55,120 Speaker 1: Because I wanted to keep it a surprise for me 83 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,880 Speaker 1: so we could throw a gender reveal party. I put 84 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 1: a pregnancy announcement on my social media and then we 85 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: put up an announcement saying that we are expecting twins 86 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: the non traditional way, and how blessed she was traditional? 87 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 2: Oh you mean birth from your boyfriend? 88 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, your boyfriend's like freaking traditional. 89 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 3: I was irritated, but I kept my mouth shut. 90 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,680 Speaker 1: Then she threw a gender reveal party and posted it 91 00:04:21,720 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 1: on social media, to which I wasn't even invited. And 92 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 1: Ope wanted that to be a surprise for her, for 93 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:32,719 Speaker 1: her child, who she's carrying in her stomach. 94 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 3: Get worked up? What is the world. 95 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 1: She also announced that she'd be having a baby shower. 96 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 2: Oh my god, dude, I commented on her your baby. 97 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 3: Dude, we're just getting worn down. 98 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 2: It's not your baby, but it's not your baby, that's 99 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:50,040 Speaker 2: your baby. 100 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: I commented on her posts and told her to stop 101 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:55,920 Speaker 1: treating me like a surrogate, and the kids weren't hers, 102 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:59,280 Speaker 1: and that Joe didn't have any claim or custody of 103 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 1: the kids in hill they are born. I then called 104 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 1: Joe and reiterated all of this and stated that I 105 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: would not be seeing either of them until we went 106 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: to family court, and that my mother would be my 107 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 1: birthing partner. He and Kim and some of her friends 108 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:14,400 Speaker 1: and family are saying that I'm the a hole, and 109 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 1: her mother even called that. I insisted and I give 110 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,960 Speaker 1: her one of my babies. Like, this isn't the parent trap. 111 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 2: Kim's mom wants ope to give away one of her 112 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 2: children to this freaking delusional person that I guess wants 113 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 2: a child so bad, making up this fantasy. 114 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:34,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, like, hey, we can bamboozle one of the kids 115 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: into thinking that she's from Kim. 116 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 3: So am I the ahole? 117 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 2: No? No, I did not. I think you're the ahle. 118 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 2: It's your kids, bro, it's your the the baby daddy's kids. 119 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 2: And this freaking girlfriend, this Kim over here, it's Kim 120 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 2: has Kim Karen. She has no claim over these children, 121 00:05:56,120 --> 00:05:59,480 Speaker 2: and like treating her like a surrogate. That's that's no bueno. 122 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 3: Even worse than a surrogate, because. 123 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 1: A surrogate is like I am intentionally choosing to have 124 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: your child. 125 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 3: Is you are getting paid, they're getting paid. 126 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 1: Like this is like worse than that, because it's like listen, 127 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:12,039 Speaker 1: this isn't a surrogate. 128 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 3: I'm me. 129 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: I'm having a baby that's not yours, So get the 130 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:16,880 Speaker 1: f out of my life. 131 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:21,039 Speaker 2: Yeah bro, this is uh freaking nuts, but like you 132 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 2: know what, you should never take out of your life 133 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:28,480 Speaker 2: and you should always have a bond with OKOP. 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