1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,200 Speaker 1: It's stay or go. 2 00:00:02,480 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 2: Okay, Jenny is here calling a local radio show to 3 00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:08,920 Speaker 2: solve life's problem. 4 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:13,320 Speaker 1: Jenny, Hey, guys, Hey. 5 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 2: Jenny, what's going on? Tell us your situation? 6 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:19,920 Speaker 3: Okay, So I do need some advice. 7 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 4: My husband and I got married last year, and I 8 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 4: know that this is called stay or go, but I'm 9 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:26,560 Speaker 4: not actually considering divorce. 10 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, thanks for calling by. Yes you did, Yes, 11 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 1: you signed the waiver. 12 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:34,240 Speaker 2: The waiver says at the end, you have to do 13 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 2: whatever we tell you have to. You have to divorce 14 00:00:36,440 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 2: the man if we tell you to divorce the man. 15 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:40,440 Speaker 2: That's that's part of the people don't realize this. It's 16 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:42,720 Speaker 2: a waiver. People have to sign it and they have 17 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 2: to do what we decide at the end. 18 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 4: Go ahead, Jenny, Well, I want your opinion on something 19 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:52,879 Speaker 4: that has actually been affecting our marriage though, so I 20 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 4: haven't changed my last name to his like I originally planned. 21 00:00:57,760 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 3: Prior to the marriage. 22 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:01,040 Speaker 5: We discussed it. 23 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 4: And I said I would do it, but I'm kind 24 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:04,680 Speaker 4: of changing my tune now. 25 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:05,759 Speaker 1: And I don't want to. 26 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 4: But it's because I'm really proud of being a lawyer, 27 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:11,959 Speaker 4: and I'm proud of my name in my line of work. 28 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:14,039 Speaker 5: And I'm the one that. 29 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 4: Went to law school and busted my butt, not my husband. 30 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:18,320 Speaker 5: It's my name. 31 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 4: And also, you know, my dad is my hero and 32 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 4: it's his name, so I want to honor him also, 33 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 4: and basically I. 34 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 5: Don't want to change it anymore. 35 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:32,960 Speaker 1: Meanwhile, well give me well, yeah, I'm sorry. 36 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 4: No, he's devastated. He's not happy about it. He said, 37 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:41,559 Speaker 4: I've always dreamed of having the woman I love take 38 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 4: my last name, and it's something that heightened when he 39 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 4: met me, and he's really been looking forward to it 40 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 4: that he barely asks me for anything. This is the 41 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 4: one thing and it's gotten his hopes up. I mean, 42 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 4: it's been. 43 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 3: Causing some issues at home. 44 00:01:57,200 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 4: And while I do feel bad that I changed my mind, 45 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 4: I think it's okay that we change your mind about things, 46 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:07,240 Speaker 4: you know, once they marrinate. And I want to know, 47 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 4: I want your advice. 48 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 2: Why did you tell him that you would if you 49 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,919 Speaker 2: if you don't want to. I mean, like these aren't 50 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 2: new things, right, Like you probably were a lawyer, your 51 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 2: dad was, you're here. All these reasons existed before. So 52 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 2: why was it okay before and it's not okay now? 53 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 4: Maybe because I had time to think about it. 54 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 3: It wasn't right away, and. 55 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 4: Now I'm thinking, maybe it's important to have my name 56 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 4: because of my dad and because of my you know, 57 00:02:38,919 --> 00:02:39,840 Speaker 4: pride to myself. 58 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 2: I guess I just wonder what changed, because you could 59 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 2: have said no before, you know, you could have said, hey, 60 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 2: look the all these things, all these reasons are why 61 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 2: I want to keep my name. But I still want 62 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 2: to be married to you now. Granted, I don't think 63 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 2: you have a right to change your mind. It's your name. 64 00:02:55,520 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 2: You've changed your mind, You've created an identity for yourself, 65 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:03,119 Speaker 2: a brand. Again, there's this familial pride, all these different things. 66 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:05,959 Speaker 2: I guess I don't know why you can't. I don't 67 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 2: have an issue with this. You change your mind, How 68 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 2: does that? How does that change the fundamentals of your 69 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 2: marriage at all? It doesn't. You still love the guy. 70 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 2: Everything is exactly the same. You just decided that you're 71 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:18,640 Speaker 2: not okay with this. You are right to it. 72 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 1: It's your name. 73 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 6: It's the one thing, though, that he's asking her for. 74 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 6: The one thing he's asking I think. 75 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:25,520 Speaker 1: That's not true. 76 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 2: That's the one thing he's asking for, But how many 77 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 2: other things are implied in a relationship? Or in marriage 78 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:32,440 Speaker 2: that he's saying that's the one thing he's asking. He's 79 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 2: also asking for love and affection and loyalty and all 80 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 2: these things that she's giving back to him. 81 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: This is this is vanity. Wow, Okay, what do you mean? 82 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 5: I mean, it's your partner. 83 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 3: Is your husband? 84 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 6: If you you took on this Marrior, you guys married, 85 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 6: you are one now, So can't you just maybe hyphenate 86 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 6: his name at least at the very least he wants 87 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 6: you to be missus Jones or whatever, Like, can you 88 00:03:57,120 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 6: even consider that at all? 89 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: Like that's this one. I'm a little I'm a. 90 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 2: Little surprised by you, Kiki, because you are a strong, 91 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 2: independent type a woman period. And I know, and I'm 92 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 2: not I'm not trying to pin you on this, but 93 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 2: I know that you believe that a woman or a 94 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 2: man has the right to change their mind about things. 95 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 1: I absolutely believe that. 96 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 6: But as I'm mature, Okay, I'm a little bit more 97 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 6: mature since firm. 98 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:21,160 Speaker 7: When did that happen? I was going to say it 99 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:25,160 Speaker 7: was the weekend. Interesting, I can kind of see it. 100 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 7: I can sort of see it, except for your viewpoint 101 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 7: on this. 102 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,280 Speaker 5: Seriously, Like it's not a lie. 103 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,080 Speaker 6: He's not asking for the world like in there, there's 104 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 6: a way that you can hyphenate your name and still 105 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 6: honor your father, still keep your name. You don't have 106 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 6: to go change your business cards. But if he wants 107 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:43,479 Speaker 6: to say this is missus so and so, like, why 108 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:44,720 Speaker 6: not do that for your partner? 109 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: Is that an option? Would you hyphenate? 110 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 3: I would consider hyphenating. 111 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 4: It's just I want to carry my dad's name, like 112 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 4: he basically came to the US with nothing and gave 113 00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 4: me everything that I feel like that's how I can 114 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:02,039 Speaker 4: honor my dad. So there's a way for me to 115 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 4: hyphenate but still use my dad's name my name. 116 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:08,680 Speaker 1: Then I would consider that. 117 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:11,599 Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, you were asking her kind of like what's changed, 118 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 8: right Fred? You were saying, you know, you agree to it. 119 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 2: I was just curious, Yeah, why was it a good 120 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 2: idea before and not a good idea? 121 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 8: I think it could be a form of I don't 122 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 8: want to call it cold feet because I don't think 123 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:22,320 Speaker 8: it's the same thing. But I think when you're about 124 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 8: to make that change, I can see how you do. 125 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:26,040 Speaker 5: You do switch up and you change your mind. I 126 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 5: did that. 127 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,280 Speaker 8: I was standing in the Las Vegas Courthouse, and I said, 128 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:31,800 Speaker 8: I don't want to change it, and my husband said, 129 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 8: I wish we talked about this prior because we're standing 130 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:35,920 Speaker 8: in front of this person. We got to sign this paperwork, 131 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:37,800 Speaker 8: and now we're over here debating about a last name. 132 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:40,040 Speaker 8: He had every right to feel that way, and I 133 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 8: did sign the paperwork as his last name. 134 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:45,160 Speaker 5: The thing is, I never went to go change it, 135 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:46,599 Speaker 5: and I chose not to. 136 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 8: Yeah, I chose not to because I was like, I 137 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 8: just don't want to go through the hassle of it. 138 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 5: I really don't. It's not a hassle. He's not a hassle. 139 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 8: It's just I didn't want to Reveeels laughing, because I 140 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 8: know that's what he wants his wife to do. 141 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:58,080 Speaker 3: I know women have to be the ones to do it. 142 00:05:58,200 --> 00:05:59,239 Speaker 5: That's another question. 143 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 7: Why so I never I never said I never. I 144 00:06:03,279 --> 00:06:05,160 Speaker 7: was never like, all right, you're taking my last name. 145 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:08,159 Speaker 7: It's just the fact that Jess says it's it's too hard. 146 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:09,359 Speaker 7: There's so much things to do. 147 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: I'm like there is. I'm like, it's is it that hard? 148 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,360 Speaker 7: Like, yeah, you get new numbers, you get new credit cards, 149 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:18,160 Speaker 7: you get but it's like it's so it's not worth 150 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:20,800 Speaker 7: it though, like like it's been. We've been married for 151 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:23,159 Speaker 7: seven years. She still has her last name. I could 152 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:26,479 Speaker 7: see if I had kids some uniformity. And I also 153 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:28,360 Speaker 7: and by the way, Jenny, I'm gonna take some phone 154 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:29,520 Speaker 7: calls on this, so have your radio one. 155 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:29,880 Speaker 1: But thank you. 156 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:31,280 Speaker 2: Well, now we're gonna talk about you behind your back. 157 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 2: It's our favorite part. So thank you. Have a good day. Okay, 158 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:37,280 Speaker 2: thanks eight five five, five nine one one three five. 159 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:38,599 Speaker 1: You can call it text the same number. 160 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 2: I think I would not have any issue if if 161 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 2: I married somebody who didn't want to take my name 162 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:44,480 Speaker 2: for whatever reason, especially if it was reasons like this. 163 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 2: She was proud of her own name for some reason. 164 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 2: But I have to say that because the Frederick name 165 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 2: only lives on with me at this point, because my 166 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 2: sister is she took her husband's name, and her kids 167 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 2: have there's no Frederick involved, and they're also girls, and 168 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 2: so I don't really know what happens with that. But 169 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 2: if I ever were to have a kid, it would 170 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:08,479 Speaker 2: be important to me for the child to have my name, simply, 171 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 2: especially if it were a boy, simply because that's the 172 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 2: only the Frederick name at least as it pertains to me, 173 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 2: dies with me, and it has meaning because it was 174 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 2: not my birth last name. It was the name that 175 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 2: my mom got from my sister and me when she 176 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 2: got divorced. We all took her maiden name, which is 177 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 2: pretty rare. That's not often granted, and it was in 178 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 2: this case. So my last name actually changed in fourth grade, 179 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 2: which is where the Fred nickname came from, because I 180 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 2: come to school and I have a new last name, 181 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:40,440 Speaker 2: and everyone called me Fred. They were making fun of me. 182 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 2: And then you've heard the story before, then you can 183 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,080 Speaker 2: be telling you haven't. It's one of my ten stories. 184 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 2: And my grandfather picked me it from school because it 185 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 2: was his last name and he didn't have sons, so 186 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 2: I was his son. He had three daughters. And I 187 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:54,840 Speaker 2: was upset and I said, they were making fun of me. 188 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 2: They call me Fred. And to this Dad do not 189 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 2: know if it's true, but he said, well, that was 190 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 2: my nickname. His nickname was Fritz. I never heard Fred. 191 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 2: I think he lied. I think he's a liar. But 192 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:08,440 Speaker 2: my grandfather lied to me. But nonetheless, that immediately became 193 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 2: I embraced it and immediately became my nickname. And there 194 00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 2: you have it, so it would be important for me. 195 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 2: I think if ever someone were unlucky enough to be 196 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:19,600 Speaker 2: impregnated by me to then have to you know that 197 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 2: that would be important. 198 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: But otherwise I don't care. 199 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 7: Yeah, I'll also say that when it's very when we 200 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 7: go places, like, we get certain looks. You know what 201 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,680 Speaker 7: I'm saying, like what is your relate? Like I'll say 202 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:33,480 Speaker 7: my last name, and they'll be like, what's your name? 203 00:08:33,520 --> 00:08:35,320 Speaker 7: And then she'll say her last name. So like and 204 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:40,880 Speaker 7: we got two kids. I'm like, it does but even 205 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 7: at school. Even at school, like she's listed as one 206 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:45,719 Speaker 7: parent under her last name. I was like, are we 207 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:47,520 Speaker 7: And then I'm the one that comes to pick the 208 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 7: kids up and takes them off, like are we together? 209 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 7: Are we not together? It's a very weird look, but 210 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 7: like to me, that's how it looks. We go to 211 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:57,520 Speaker 7: the doctor, we got two different names. Our kids have 212 00:08:57,640 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 7: my last name, so it's like a weird I get 213 00:08:59,840 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 7: this weird vibe every time he goes somewhere. We got 214 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 7: to give our names. I'm like, uh yeah, but like 215 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 7: we're wearing rings. I'm like, it's so it's so confusing. 216 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 7: I feel like it's so confusing to people sometimes if 217 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:11,680 Speaker 7: he could be disappointed and his feelings can be heard. 218 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 7: But if this is the biggest problem that they have, 219 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 7: that she changed her mind about her own identity, I 220 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:20,480 Speaker 7: don't know how far I would push that again. If 221 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 7: everything else is functioning and great, we're talking about something 222 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,320 Speaker 7: that she has to do. She has to change her name, 223 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 7: she has to go to the court and get her 224 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:32,320 Speaker 7: you know whatever, all of her paperwork changed and credit 225 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 7: credited for a credit cards and bank account. She has 226 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 7: to do all that, not to mention the fact that 227 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:40,959 Speaker 7: it's I would imagine it's it's somewhat of a psychological 228 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:43,440 Speaker 7: shift too, especially if you believe that you're honoring a 229 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 7: parent or a family member that you love. 230 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: I don't like that. 231 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 7: I don't like that idea of her like, oh, it's 232 00:09:48,800 --> 00:09:51,920 Speaker 7: my dad's last name, I'm honoring my dad. I'm like, 233 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:55,000 Speaker 7: but you are. This is your family now, this is 234 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:57,439 Speaker 7: who you married. If you have kids, like you are, 235 00:09:57,520 --> 00:10:00,600 Speaker 7: this is your unit now, Like this is your fan. Yes, 236 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 7: your deb's your dad, but he's not going to be 237 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 7: around forever, you know what I'm saying. 238 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:07,000 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna say WHOA. 239 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 2: I guess I'm somebody I pick, and she's the trends 240 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 2: or not the trends, the traditions I think that I honor. 241 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 2: For example, I don't care about this. Sure it would 242 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:18,560 Speaker 2: be nice, but I don't care my mom hyphenated her 243 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 2: last name. 244 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:19,959 Speaker 1: It it's fine. 245 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 3: I mean, if we want to talk about the history 246 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 3: of like why. 247 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, but like another but yes. 248 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 2: What I was going to say is I still believe 249 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 2: that someday I will ask a woman's father for quote unquote, 250 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 2: not permission, but blessing. And there are people, I mean, 251 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 2: we've done this topic over the years and people who 252 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 2: have been on this show have been like, that is insane, 253 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 2: that's ridiculous, it's antiquated as property, all this bs And 254 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:48,760 Speaker 2: I'm like, no, it's respect, it's respect. Like this, this 255 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:53,000 Speaker 2: woman is one of the most you created it. Hopefully 256 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 2: you guys have a great relationship. It's one of the 257 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:56,400 Speaker 2: most important things, if not the most important thing in 258 00:10:56,440 --> 00:10:58,760 Speaker 2: your life. The least I can do is take the 259 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 2: time to look you in the eye and tell you 260 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 2: what I know the promises that. 261 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 1: I intend to uphold. That's the least I can do. 262 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:07,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, because I like that one. 263 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:09,199 Speaker 1: It has nothing to do with property nothing. 264 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 2: It's simply like I would be upset if I found 265 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 2: out that Polly or May my nieces got it. I 266 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:17,720 Speaker 2: would have been upset if Amanda had gotten engaged and 267 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:19,559 Speaker 2: Colin didn't take the time to ask any of us. 268 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:21,800 Speaker 2: And by the way, we can say no and he 269 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 2: can still do it because it's up to her. But 270 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 2: he not only asked my dad, but he asked me, 271 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:28,960 Speaker 2: and my sister told him that he had to, that 272 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:31,400 Speaker 2: we both had to, you know, and my dad actually 273 00:11:31,520 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 2: kind of told him no the first time. My Dad's like, 274 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:35,199 Speaker 2: I don't know about this. 275 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:37,400 Speaker 9: He knew. 276 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 1: My dad is so savage for that. 277 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 6: Colin knew that it was important to Amanda to get 278 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:45,000 Speaker 6: your approval, right, He did it because he loved her, 279 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:47,600 Speaker 6: so kind of in this case, like it's okay to 280 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 6: have your independence and feel how you feel, but you 281 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:53,200 Speaker 6: can't take your partner's feelings into consideration, like it's bothering him, 282 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 6: you know. 283 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it makes sense. I remember what I 284 00:11:57,200 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 2: said to him. I think I said because he asked 285 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:03,079 Speaker 2: as my dad and then he asked me. We were all 286 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 2: in New York on for I think it was her 287 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 2: birthday for a trip, and so he asked us on 288 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,199 Speaker 2: the same day, and I knew that he had asked 289 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:11,880 Speaker 2: dad and that Dad was shook. And then he came 290 00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 2: to me and he was like, your dad kind of 291 00:12:13,559 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 2: said no, what do you think? And I go no, no, no, no. 292 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:17,480 Speaker 2: He said what do you think? And I said what 293 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:21,200 Speaker 2: did my dad say? He was kind of no, And 294 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:23,800 Speaker 2: I was like, well, you might want to work on 295 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:24,440 Speaker 2: that answer the. 296 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:26,760 Speaker 7: Time. 297 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 2: But obviously we, you know, have come a long long way. 298 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 2: But Brittany, Hi, how are you Hi? 299 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 10: Good warning her? 300 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:35,880 Speaker 1: Are you very well? Thanks for calling? So stare go. 301 00:12:36,040 --> 00:12:38,440 Speaker 2: This woman is having an issue in her relationship because 302 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:40,959 Speaker 2: her husband, they're married, and they have a great relationship 303 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 2: by her own admission, but she had agreed to take 304 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 2: his last name, and then now that they're married and whatever, 305 00:12:46,440 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 2: does not want to for I think pretty good reasons. 306 00:12:48,880 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 1: What do you think? 307 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 11: Yeah? So, I mean, I see both sides that you're 308 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:55,960 Speaker 11: really so mad at me. I agree with Rufio. 309 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:58,000 Speaker 1: Have a good day. 310 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 9: I talk. 311 00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:07,320 Speaker 11: So like I said, I see both sides, I totally do. 312 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:10,000 Speaker 11: But like he said, this is her family now, she 313 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 11: needs to take her husband's kneelings into considerations. Obviously, it's 314 00:13:13,520 --> 00:13:15,839 Speaker 11: really important to him. I mean, I get that it's 315 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:18,000 Speaker 11: important to her too, for like her law firm and stuff, 316 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:18,800 Speaker 11: But I mean she. 317 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 12: Could just hypenate it and then she really. 318 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 11: Doesn't have to change much like her name within her 319 00:13:22,720 --> 00:13:24,440 Speaker 11: law firm, you know, like I get that or like 320 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 11: for whatever reasons, but like, I mean, she could at 321 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 11: least like compromise with him and like hypenate it. Like 322 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 11: I don't understand what's so bad about that. 323 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:34,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think you're right, Thank you, Brittany. I 324 00:13:34,280 --> 00:13:36,320 Speaker 2: think it's a good compromise, and she seemed maybe open 325 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 2: to that. 326 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: Have a good day, Thank you too. 327 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:41,959 Speaker 2: I think this actually happened in my life too, because 328 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:45,360 Speaker 2: you know, if you don't, we've talked about it a 329 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:47,560 Speaker 2: million times. But when I turned eighteen, I was adopted 330 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:49,120 Speaker 2: by the man who raised me, who is not my 331 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:53,120 Speaker 2: birth father, and I think he probably would have liked 332 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:56,000 Speaker 2: it had I taken his last name as my last name, 333 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:58,680 Speaker 2: which I was not opposed to. His last name is 334 00:13:58,720 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 2: my middle name because I didn't have a middle name. 335 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:04,080 Speaker 2: But I was not going to give up Frederick for 336 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 2: the reasons I've already said. It was too important to 337 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 2: my mom to have Because again I don't know if you. 338 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:11,319 Speaker 2: Hopefully a lot of people listening have not been divorced, 339 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 2: but it's not real common when when the male and 340 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:18,040 Speaker 2: the female figure are fighting for, you know, whatever they 341 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 2: can get in a divorce, it's not super common for 342 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 2: the female to win that one. And we did, plus 343 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 2: my grandfather and everything else. So I don't think my 344 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:27,920 Speaker 2: dad's upset with me because his name is part of 345 00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:29,680 Speaker 2: my name, but I'm sure he would have liked it 346 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:32,480 Speaker 2: because I'm his son. And then my sister went and 347 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 2: threw both of them boys. Someone, Hey, Rachel, that went 348 00:14:35,680 --> 00:14:41,840 Speaker 2: overwhelm Rachel. Hi, how you doing O great? 349 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:44,960 Speaker 1: My poor sister takes the brunt of no one. 350 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 2: No one in the world can complain about not having 351 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:51,000 Speaker 2: a say except for my sister. That woman. And by 352 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:52,360 Speaker 2: the way, she has the phone omber she can call 353 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:54,160 Speaker 2: up here anytimes. She just doesn't listen, which is probably 354 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:58,000 Speaker 2: good for her mental health. What did you want to say? 355 00:14:58,000 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 13: I'm gonna fix everything right here. 356 00:14:59,560 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 14: Good. 357 00:15:00,360 --> 00:15:02,840 Speaker 13: I'm going to tell you what, thank you. I'm going 358 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:05,080 Speaker 13: to tell you what my mom does, I think is genius. 359 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:06,480 Speaker 14: She continues to. 360 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:09,800 Speaker 13: Practice her real estate business under her maid's name, so 361 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:12,560 Speaker 13: that's what she used to advertise. That's what she uses 362 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 13: for all like bitiness and professional purposes. But legally she 363 00:15:16,320 --> 00:15:19,240 Speaker 13: has changed her last name to her husband's name. So 364 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:22,560 Speaker 13: for all personal reasons, personal mail, you know, to to 365 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:24,400 Speaker 13: close press and stuff. 366 00:15:24,080 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 9: She uses my dad's name. 367 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:29,920 Speaker 13: And I think that that is the perfect middle ground here, 368 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:32,360 Speaker 13: because then you're, you know, Jenny's still able to honor 369 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:35,400 Speaker 13: her dad with his last name, like carrying on the 370 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:36,280 Speaker 13: lawyer's profession. 371 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 9: But also she. 372 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 13: Can still take her husband's name and make him happy. 373 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:44,360 Speaker 2: I agree with you some form of compromise here, but 374 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 2: he's going to have to accept that otherwise I don't 375 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:47,400 Speaker 2: think he's getting anything. 376 00:15:47,440 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: I don't think she's going to do it. What what if? 377 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:51,520 Speaker 1: When do they have kids? 378 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:54,440 Speaker 2: Listening so many Erica had the point, Rachel, thank you 379 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:55,080 Speaker 2: have a good day. 380 00:15:55,680 --> 00:15:59,560 Speaker 8: Okay, they have kids going to take what would they pick? 381 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:01,520 Speaker 5: I picked my daughter to have her dad's last name. 382 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 1: Okay, but she wants to honor her dad. Well, if 383 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:04,760 Speaker 1: they have a boy that. 384 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 5: Doesn't like, that's that's their family. That's the baby. That's 385 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:08,560 Speaker 5: not dad's baby. 386 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:12,200 Speaker 8: You don't know that that's father's baby, that's her husband's baby. 387 00:16:12,280 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 7: Yeah, but she could have the same last name as 388 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:15,720 Speaker 7: her mom. The baby could have the same last name 389 00:16:15,720 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 7: as her mom. What they want, that's what I'm saying. 390 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:20,440 Speaker 7: But that's different. That's a child you're saying. You're saying 391 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 7: that the child defers to the father. 392 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 5: Like, yeah, I would believe. 393 00:16:23,960 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 8: So if I have a baby, I do she has 394 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:30,040 Speaker 8: her father's last name, I'll give baby. 395 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, is this kid right here. 396 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 5: I don't think you guys knew, but I have a baby. 397 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:38,360 Speaker 7: But a lot of times they differ because of insurance 398 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:40,200 Speaker 7: reasons or whatever. You know what I'm saying, that's whore 399 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:43,400 Speaker 7: the insurance is under Like, like, I have the insurance, 400 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:46,800 Speaker 7: so obviously the kids have my last name. But but 401 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 7: like if they if they can't decide on their last 402 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:51,400 Speaker 7: names as a couple when they have a kid, and 403 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:53,320 Speaker 7: if it happens to be a boy, and she's like, oh, 404 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:56,520 Speaker 7: let's honor my dad by giving them my last name. 405 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:58,280 Speaker 5: And now we're like talking different stories. 406 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 8: I'm just saying, I know, I think at the end 407 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 8: of the day, you got to give the kid the 408 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 8: dad's last name for insurance reasons. 409 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:06,960 Speaker 5: Also, that's half of the dad, Like, that's dad's baby. 410 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,560 Speaker 2: I would still argue, I mean, yes, I would like that, 411 00:17:09,680 --> 00:17:11,760 Speaker 2: but I would still argue this is all up to 412 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:14,440 Speaker 2: the comfort level of both parents. I would I would 413 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:17,879 Speaker 2: say that's there, but I agree that that would be nice, 414 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:20,239 Speaker 2: especially if I had a son. But I don't know that. 415 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:22,199 Speaker 2: I don't know anything should be considered automatic anymore. 416 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 5: Baby like, H Well. 417 00:17:24,160 --> 00:17:25,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I get you, Erica. 418 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:28,480 Speaker 2: Hi, So you're saying she should take his last name 419 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:29,359 Speaker 2: because of the kids. 420 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:34,399 Speaker 15: Yes, I kind of agree with what Rachel was saying. 421 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:36,040 Speaker 15: Oh wait, sorry, Hi, you can. 422 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:36,399 Speaker 14: Hear me right? 423 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:37,640 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, very much. 424 00:17:37,920 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 12: Hi. 425 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:39,720 Speaker 1: How you doing loud and clear? 426 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:40,040 Speaker 9: Hi? 427 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:45,919 Speaker 15: Sorry? I agree with what Rachel was saying about taking 428 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:49,000 Speaker 15: it or having things under her name for business purposes. 429 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 15: So a little bit of a backstory is that my 430 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:57,639 Speaker 15: husband was not really a fan of his family, so 431 00:17:57,720 --> 00:18:00,600 Speaker 15: we really considered taking my last name when we married 432 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:05,040 Speaker 15: for our family. However, he ended up keeping his name. 433 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:08,240 Speaker 15: I kept mine, and when I had my daughter, we 434 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 15: realized that it was very hard with her name being 435 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:15,120 Speaker 15: the same last name as his and mine being different. 436 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 15: So kind of like she said, for kind of like 437 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 15: you guys mentioned for insurance purposes, for pickup at school. 438 00:18:23,520 --> 00:18:24,119 Speaker 5: Things like that. 439 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:27,679 Speaker 15: So eventually I had to change my name, and it 440 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:30,520 Speaker 15: was my choice, and I was very connected to my 441 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:34,600 Speaker 15: family and my family's history. But that still is a 442 00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:37,919 Speaker 15: part of me. And if she wants to keep her 443 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:41,600 Speaker 15: name on things for business purposes or hyphenate, she she should. 444 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 15: But one of the one of the things I've discovered 445 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 15: after having my husband's last name with my daughter and 446 00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:55,360 Speaker 15: us having the same last name, is that it's not 447 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:59,200 Speaker 15: necessarily taking his last name, but it's having you all 448 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:01,080 Speaker 15: as a family as a unit. 449 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:02,560 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, and. 450 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:07,280 Speaker 15: So yeah, so now we're all our family with our 451 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 15: last name. 452 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,560 Speaker 1: If that are Erica, well, thank you, have a good day. 453 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:12,440 Speaker 5: Thank you. 454 00:19:12,600 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 2: Let's also address one for the thing that has not 455 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:18,159 Speaker 2: been addressing. What is this last name that she's that 456 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:21,479 Speaker 2: she's taking. What is this last name? 457 00:19:21,760 --> 00:19:23,640 Speaker 3: Is it a better last name? Is it a worse 458 00:19:23,760 --> 00:19:24,320 Speaker 3: last name? 459 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:25,520 Speaker 1: Right? 460 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:28,080 Speaker 3: You know? Is it longer harder to spell? 461 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:32,880 Speaker 1: I mean, I mean that changes what the initials turn 462 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:36,240 Speaker 1: off all the information. 463 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 3: I also would like. 464 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:40,439 Speaker 4: To point out that divorced parents do it all the 465 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 4: time with two different last names, and the kids are. 466 00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:45,840 Speaker 7: Okay, the name is one of the last name is 467 00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:46,399 Speaker 7: may As. 468 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:49,960 Speaker 6: Look at this point, I take you. 469 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:51,560 Speaker 9: The girl. 470 00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 6: Just just you know, what you're doing a reservation is 471 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:56,719 Speaker 6: just put missus you know, missus Jones. Just make her 472 00:19:56,760 --> 00:19:58,639 Speaker 6: feel good. You ain't got to change the paperwork. Just 473 00:19:58,760 --> 00:19:59,439 Speaker 6: put it down there. 474 00:19:59,480 --> 00:20:03,560 Speaker 2: Girls, just make it look nice, don't actually fundamentally change it. 475 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 4: Thing. 476 00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:05,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I need to hear all the information. 477 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:06,920 Speaker 14: A few things. 478 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:07,280 Speaker 1: I don't know. 479 00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:12,200 Speaker 2: Miss It's gonna be like, hey, it's easy. It's not 480 00:20:12,359 --> 00:20:18,720 Speaker 2: good Fred Show. I've ever been left waiting by the phone. 481 00:20:19,119 --> 00:20:21,480 Speaker 2: It's the Fred Show. Hey Lee, good morning, Welcome to 482 00:20:21,560 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 2: the show. How are you big. 483 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:25,359 Speaker 1: Mine guys, how you doing doing? Okay? Man Colin? 484 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:27,960 Speaker 2: Uh, well, we're talking to you because we got to 485 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:30,919 Speaker 2: call this woman Arihana because you guys went out, I guess, 486 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,040 Speaker 2: and you can't get a hold of her. You feel 487 00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:35,879 Speaker 2: like you're being ghosted. So give us the backstory. How 488 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:37,640 Speaker 2: did you guys meet and tell us about any dates 489 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:39,040 Speaker 2: you've been on and all of that good stuff. 490 00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:39,879 Speaker 14: Okay, cool. 491 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:43,360 Speaker 12: So we're talking about Arianna. She's a girl I met 492 00:20:43,359 --> 00:20:46,199 Speaker 12: on Hinge and uh, you know, we matched up and 493 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 12: we chatted for a couple of days. She wanted to 494 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 12: make traveling crazy. Same with the same with me. And 495 00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 12: we met up. I took her out to dinner and 496 00:20:54,160 --> 00:20:58,119 Speaker 12: a really nice spot down town. It was great. We 497 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:01,320 Speaker 12: had a really good conversation, you know, I mean it 498 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 12: was really good back and forth. Honestly, it was better 499 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:04,919 Speaker 12: than it was on Hinge. And we both kept saying, now, 500 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:06,760 Speaker 12: this is better than we thought it would go. And 501 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:10,320 Speaker 12: drinks were good and going good, and you know, it 502 00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:13,000 Speaker 12: was just it just felt like, oh, this might be 503 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:14,680 Speaker 12: but this might be the other half. 504 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:16,919 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh you felt like that. 505 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:21,040 Speaker 12: Yeah, okay, I did, and she certainly didn't. I mean 506 00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:22,960 Speaker 12: I thought you did too. You know, it really felt 507 00:21:22,960 --> 00:21:26,200 Speaker 12: like it was that way, and I thought we would 508 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,080 Speaker 12: be going out again. But for some reason, she just 509 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:32,159 Speaker 12: completely cut off communication right after the date, and I 510 00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:34,439 Speaker 12: went over it with my friends. I went over it 511 00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 12: with like like, there's people I know, the girls I know, 512 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 12: and they were like, what did you say? Did you 513 00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:41,439 Speaker 12: say anything? And I was like, no, I don't think 514 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:44,639 Speaker 12: I said anything. I can't think of a single moment 515 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 12: where everything went wrong. 516 00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:46,719 Speaker 1: Okay. 517 00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 2: So yeah, well that's frustrating because you go on these 518 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 2: dates and we talked about it almost every day. It's 519 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:54,840 Speaker 2: like you meet somebody and it's a numbers game, and 520 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:56,800 Speaker 2: it could be hard to meet people. And then when 521 00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:59,080 Speaker 2: you finally meet someone and you connect and you feel 522 00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,560 Speaker 2: like they connected and as a vibe, you know the difference, 523 00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:05,639 Speaker 2: and that's what happened. And yet since the date, you 524 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:07,120 Speaker 2: can't get a hold of this woman and you want 525 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:07,600 Speaker 2: to know why. 526 00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:09,440 Speaker 12: Yeah, because I didn't feel like she was gonna be 527 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 12: playing games, but this kind of feels like one, So 528 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:12,440 Speaker 12: I don't know why. 529 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,800 Speaker 2: Okay, well, we're gonna call her just a second. We'll 530 00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:16,200 Speaker 2: see if we can figure out what's going on. You'll 531 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:18,040 Speaker 2: be on the phone too, and the hope, as always 532 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:19,919 Speaker 2: is that we can set you guys up on another 533 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 2: date after we figure out what's up in day four. 534 00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:23,000 Speaker 12: Okay, that'd be great. 535 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 2: All right, thanks, we're gonna get to the bottom of 536 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,680 Speaker 2: this after Sabrina Carpenter back, get two minutes on the 537 00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:30,800 Speaker 2: Fred Show. Don't boom, Sabrina Carpenter, It's the Fred Show. 538 00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:35,080 Speaker 2: Good morning, Lee. Hi, Hey guys, all right, let's call Arianna. 539 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:38,840 Speaker 2: You guys went on a nice dinner after matching on 540 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 2: the dating app Pinge, and you felt a connection. I 541 00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:44,239 Speaker 2: mean you said a minute ago that you felt like 542 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:46,679 Speaker 2: maybe she was it I think you referred to her 543 00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 2: as maybe the other half or something. I mean, like 544 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:50,200 Speaker 2: you really felt strongly about this. 545 00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 12: I mean, the conversation was so good. 546 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:53,800 Speaker 1: I felt like it could have been that way. 547 00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:56,960 Speaker 12: And she was to be recept it too, And I 548 00:22:57,240 --> 00:22:59,840 Speaker 12: don't know what happened, but it was great at the moment. 549 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,000 Speaker 2: Okay, right, Well, let's see when you get her on 550 00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:04,040 Speaker 2: the phone, because you can't. We'll see if we can, 551 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 2: and we're gonna ask some questions at some point. You're 552 00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:08,160 Speaker 2: welcome to jump in and I wish you the best, 553 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:08,800 Speaker 2: good luck. 554 00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:09,159 Speaker 1: Thank you. 555 00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:15,399 Speaker 16: Hello. 556 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 1: Hi is this Ariana? 557 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:19,919 Speaker 10: Yes, this is Arianna. 558 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:21,080 Speaker 1: Hey, Arianna, good morning. 559 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:22,880 Speaker 2: My name is Fredam calling in from the Fred Show, 560 00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:24,840 Speaker 2: the Morning radio show, and I do have to tell 561 00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:26,359 Speaker 2: you that we are on the radio right now and 562 00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,399 Speaker 2: I would need your permission to continue with the call. 563 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:29,920 Speaker 2: Is it okay if we chat for just a second 564 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 2: on the show. You can hang up anytime. 565 00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:35,760 Speaker 15: Oly Yeah, sure, Hey, Okay. 566 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:37,560 Speaker 2: Well, thank you very much for calling on behalf of 567 00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 2: a guy. I guess you recently matched with him on 568 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,159 Speaker 2: the dating app Hinge. His name is Lee. Do you 569 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:42,680 Speaker 2: remember Lee? 570 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:43,600 Speaker 4: Hi? 571 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:44,880 Speaker 10: Yeah, I remember Lee. 572 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:47,719 Speaker 2: Okay, So he called us and he just I mean 573 00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:50,480 Speaker 2: for like five minutes basically gushed about you and talked 574 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 2: about how great you were and how he let you 575 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 2: a lot and felt a connection. It was excited to 576 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:58,920 Speaker 2: see where things went. Had high aspirations, except he said, 577 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,360 Speaker 2: since that date, you haven't had a word to say 578 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 2: to him, You have a responded to him, you ever 579 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:03,360 Speaker 2: reached out. 580 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:04,920 Speaker 1: He feels like he's being ghosted. 581 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:09,000 Speaker 10: Yeah, so look, okay, it was really really good at first, 582 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:12,800 Speaker 10: Like we had a lot of like text chemistry, you 583 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 10: know what I mean. Like we were just like vibing 584 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:18,080 Speaker 10: really hard, right, like just going back and forth, back 585 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 10: and forth, and I was like, oh my god, I 586 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,560 Speaker 10: need to meet this guy, you know, And like that's 587 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,520 Speaker 10: always the hardest part, is like going from text to 588 00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 10: like real life dating, and because like people can be 589 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:32,440 Speaker 10: totally different in person, you know, like they can be 590 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,680 Speaker 10: amazing and wonderful on text, and then it's like you 591 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,919 Speaker 10: meet and just like I don't know, it like gets weird, 592 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 10: like if they're not the same, it's like. 593 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:41,120 Speaker 5: You know what I mean. 594 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,200 Speaker 10: And so at the beginning of our date, like things 595 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 10: were going really well, but then it like took a 596 00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:50,720 Speaker 10: weird turn because I told him how like I love 597 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:54,840 Speaker 10: to work out, okay, Like I'm a big fitness girl. 598 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:59,239 Speaker 10: And I mentioned that my trainer is a guy, like 599 00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:03,880 Speaker 10: totally triggered because he was like, oh. 600 00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:05,520 Speaker 5: Is your trainer a guy or a girl? 601 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,080 Speaker 10: And I was like it's a guy, and he like 602 00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:09,480 Speaker 10: totally lost it. 603 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:13,600 Speaker 2: Okay, what use it because like a guy's touching you 604 00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 2: or something, or I means, I mean like. 605 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:19,400 Speaker 10: You're supposed to help people out a little bit when 606 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,120 Speaker 10: you're working out together, like he spots me. But it's 607 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:25,920 Speaker 10: not like weird inappropriate touch. It's like anyway, he just 608 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 10: kept going on and on and on, like he would 609 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:30,000 Speaker 10: never date a girl as a male trainer, and like 610 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:33,280 Speaker 10: it always leads to cheating, like one hundred percent of 611 00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 10: the time. 612 00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,800 Speaker 2: Oh, I guess for a surprise. Then I guess my 613 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 2: male trainer is in for a surprise. 614 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:39,400 Speaker 1: Oh my god. 615 00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:42,160 Speaker 10: And so yeah, so he like wouldn't let it go, 616 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:44,880 Speaker 10: you know, and he just like doesn't understand why men 617 00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:46,960 Speaker 10: don't stick with the men and women to stick with 618 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:51,720 Speaker 10: the women, and it just seems like really like sexist. Honestly, 619 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:52,520 Speaker 10: one of. 620 00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:55,679 Speaker 2: The husbands on the Married The Secret Lives of Mormon 621 00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:57,399 Speaker 2: Wives or whatever, because he sounds like a. 622 00:25:57,640 --> 00:26:02,600 Speaker 10: Yeah, like like yeah, so you know he's like, oh, 623 00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:03,600 Speaker 10: their bodies are. 624 00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:08,440 Speaker 1: Different, you know, and like it just really professional. 625 00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:12,719 Speaker 2: Every single time, you, guys, it leads to infidelity. 626 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 1: This is crazy. I don't even know how this industry exists. 627 00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:16,879 Speaker 2: As soon as your husband are running for a boyfriend 628 00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 2: or girlfriend gets a trainer, forget about it. 629 00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:20,960 Speaker 3: But I have a question for the ladies's name? Would you, 630 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:24,360 Speaker 3: guys let your man have a hot female if? 631 00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,639 Speaker 5: Again, is my man right, he's starting to get that 632 00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:27,439 Speaker 5: little dad belly. 633 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:32,119 Speaker 8: Oh yeah, hey, I've been having a dad belly, but 634 00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:33,199 Speaker 8: now we're twining. 635 00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:37,159 Speaker 2: Wow, okay, would you would you love big Tim have 636 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:37,960 Speaker 2: a female trainer? 637 00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:38,520 Speaker 14: Now? 638 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 1: What what does he need that for? 639 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:41,399 Speaker 3: In her tiny little short All. 640 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,639 Speaker 6: These great male trainers out here, I just feel it. 641 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:45,159 Speaker 1: Wait a minute, so you're on the same page with 642 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: the guy. 643 00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 5: I'm not on his page. 644 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:48,639 Speaker 6: But you know, first of all, I don't have to 645 00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:55,400 Speaker 6: worry about my man going to anybody's gym red hot. Yeah, 646 00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:58,040 Speaker 6: it's a lot of male trainers out here, you know. 647 00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:00,720 Speaker 2: Wow, Well, let me bring Lee and because I guess 648 00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:02,480 Speaker 2: you and lincould probably hang out because it sounds like 649 00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:07,080 Speaker 2: you guys feel the same way, which is wild. Uh Lee, already, Lee, 650 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I forgot to mention that he's been here. 651 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,239 Speaker 2: What is this about? Why can't she have a male trainer? Like, 652 00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 2: what do do you care? 653 00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:17,320 Speaker 16: Look, No, okay, I got a friend, a really good friend, 654 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:19,720 Speaker 16: was really close to me, and he need this girl. 655 00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:24,119 Speaker 16: One story, I had a male trainer and all of 656 00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:26,480 Speaker 16: a sudden, it was just it was immediate. He walked 657 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,080 Speaker 16: a ring, they had a vibe together, and he knew 658 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,520 Speaker 16: and he was just like, this is it's a road 659 00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:33,000 Speaker 16: to cheating. It doesn't make me sense. 660 00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:36,840 Speaker 1: This this goes back to like you know, and even 661 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:37,480 Speaker 1: more of a reach. 662 00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:40,160 Speaker 2: But it's like, oh, every pilot cheats, and every pro 663 00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:42,960 Speaker 2: athlete cheats, and every this and that and then everybody 664 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:43,639 Speaker 2: every this. 665 00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 1: Is every man. 666 00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:50,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, these are stuff that nobody says it. You say that, 667 00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:56,000 Speaker 2: say it ever, I've heard it except the times I've 668 00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:56,639 Speaker 2: been cheated on. 669 00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:59,040 Speaker 1: It was for the woman who was doing the cheating. Correct, 670 00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,240 Speaker 1: I was that it was a woman. 671 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 3: Crazy, But we're saying they're wrong. 672 00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's ridiculously so no on that you can cheat. 673 00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:11,639 Speaker 12: It doesn't make sense. 674 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:14,680 Speaker 2: That's a very old school mentality that I don't think 675 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 2: has carries much weight, and it makes you look really insecure. 676 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,760 Speaker 2: So either you are lee or you're not, and you 677 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:22,560 Speaker 2: look that way, and that's unattractive. 678 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:24,720 Speaker 12: Okay, you know what. I'll be honest here. The person 679 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:27,680 Speaker 12: was me, the person was med. 680 00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:31,320 Speaker 2: So you were cheated on, Yes, I was. You're ex 681 00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:34,399 Speaker 2: cheated with her trainer. Yes, I'm very sorry that happened 682 00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,000 Speaker 2: to you. But I don't think you can project that 683 00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:40,000 Speaker 2: onto every new relationship because if you do, it's unlikely 684 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:41,719 Speaker 2: things are going to work out. And I'm sorry that 685 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:44,480 Speaker 2: happened to you, but you're gonna have to get over I. 686 00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:47,080 Speaker 12: Think it's all right to have to have something like that. 687 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 12: It's a prerequisite if I've been hurt like that before. 688 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:52,600 Speaker 12: I don't see why that's that's I mean, it's obviously 689 00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:56,120 Speaker 12: triggering me for for obvious reasons. I think it's valid. 690 00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 2: So you like this girl enough to call her maybe 691 00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,520 Speaker 2: the other half, but because she has a male trainer, 692 00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:02,880 Speaker 2: we're done. 693 00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:05,440 Speaker 1: We're not. I didn't see you were doing. 694 00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,440 Speaker 12: I said that it's a bit of an issue. 695 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,120 Speaker 2: It's kind of pay he said, wild world we live in. 696 00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:12,960 Speaker 2: He's twenty twenty four. It's an involved environment. Who's to 697 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 2: say if she got a female trainer that she wouldn't 698 00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:18,440 Speaker 2: find that she has feelings for that person too. I 699 00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 2: don't think you can keep it that. I don't think 700 00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:21,560 Speaker 2: it's not that. It's not that straightforward. 701 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:22,360 Speaker 12: Yeah, if you. 702 00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,280 Speaker 10: Try to trust your partner like who you know what 703 00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:28,480 Speaker 10: I mean, because there's so many people, there's so many options, 704 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:33,240 Speaker 10: you know, like you could hook up with every like barista. 705 00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,360 Speaker 2: I've heard about those barista. Yeah, I mean I've heard 706 00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:40,440 Speaker 2: about those. Yeah, a secret menu, Yeah, yep, I've heard 707 00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:45,120 Speaker 2: all about the barista industry. Yes, promiscuous. I'll tell you what, 708 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:49,320 Speaker 2: but don't take care of you later. You know what 709 00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:49,840 Speaker 2: I'm saying. 710 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what you're. 711 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:56,240 Speaker 2: Onto something there. Okay, look, Arianna, so wait, I just 712 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:57,360 Speaker 2: want to be clear about something. 713 00:29:57,680 --> 00:29:57,880 Speaker 1: Lee. 714 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,160 Speaker 2: You'll go out with her again own if she gets 715 00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:02,480 Speaker 2: a female trainer. 716 00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:03,680 Speaker 12: Or at least considered it. 717 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:07,280 Speaker 2: Okay, let's say she considered it and decided no. Right now, 718 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:08,760 Speaker 2: she just said yep, no, we're not. 719 00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 1: So I don't know. 720 00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:14,560 Speaker 12: It's cheated one again. 721 00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,680 Speaker 2: Okay, so he doesn't Arianna, after hearing all of this, 722 00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:19,560 Speaker 2: I want to know what your interest level is. But 723 00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:21,680 Speaker 2: then beyond that the fact that you probably are going 724 00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:23,600 Speaker 2: to have to change trainers if you want to stay 725 00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:25,240 Speaker 2: with this man who you went out with one time. 726 00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 10: Controlling. Yeah, I don't leave the house like you know, 727 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:33,760 Speaker 10: like I would not come on. 728 00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:36,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean so. I hear people when they drive 729 00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:39,440 Speaker 2: by gym. Sometimes they're immediately copelled to cheat. I hear 730 00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:44,320 Speaker 2: the cary lot where they'll proceed to walk in and 731 00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:46,120 Speaker 2: find the hottest trainer and sleep with them. 732 00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:50,360 Speaker 1: Control right there. Yeah, Planet fitness man. 733 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:52,800 Speaker 2: It's like every time I see the purple, I'm like purple, 734 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:54,400 Speaker 2: I start, I get a tingle. 735 00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:57,000 Speaker 3: You want to talk about a judgment before. 736 00:30:56,800 --> 00:31:00,720 Speaker 1: Long, I'm cheating the girlfriend, I know. Then that lunk 737 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 1: alarm goes off. Oh I don't know what that is, 738 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:07,280 Speaker 1: but I watch, no clue what the hell has happened? 739 00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:07,960 Speaker 1: Then alarm. 740 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,520 Speaker 7: It's like you're not supposed to when you're like doing weights, 741 00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,040 Speaker 7: you're not supposed to like drop weights, or if you're 742 00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 7: acting like a like like screaming and making. 743 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:19,200 Speaker 3: All this it's a deep cut. Yeah, they'll they'll they'll 744 00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:19,960 Speaker 3: turn the alarm on. 745 00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:29,200 Speaker 7: And yeah, I go on Mondays for the free pizza. 746 00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:29,080 Speaker 5: And the cheating. 747 00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:32,120 Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. 748 00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:40,760 Speaker 2: I don't know if any traders are cheating with you. 749 00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:45,400 Speaker 2: I love you, I love you guys. It's not gonna 750 00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 2: work out. I don't know, man, I'm sorry that happened 751 00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:50,160 Speaker 2: to you. I think you got to get over and Horiana, 752 00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:51,760 Speaker 2: thank you for answering it, for your time, Best of 753 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:56,400 Speaker 2: luck to both of you. The entertainer of for trending 754 00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,080 Speaker 2: stories and fun fact all next, Fred show back in 755 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,680 Speaker 2: two minutes, and I want to welcome a special guest 756 00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:06,160 Speaker 2: this morning to the program, personal trainer to the stars. 757 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:07,600 Speaker 1: And then also met. 758 00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:14,760 Speaker 2: And multiple time marathon runner Giddy and the Torturer is here, 759 00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:15,720 Speaker 2: Gidea in the torch. 760 00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:20,680 Speaker 9: I gotta go. I'm so happy to be here. Thank 761 00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:24,560 Speaker 9: you for the celebratory clouds. I'm far from a torture, 762 00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:25,760 Speaker 9: but I appreciate the time. 763 00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:29,800 Speaker 2: Giddy in the torture Now. Kiki wants to leave the room, 764 00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:30,760 Speaker 2: but we locked the door. 765 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:31,600 Speaker 5: Let me out. 766 00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 2: She was telling me this morning she wants to run 767 00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:36,400 Speaker 2: the marathon with you next year. I told you that. 768 00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:41,000 Speaker 9: We start our training this afternoon. 769 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:42,920 Speaker 14: I can't wait to see your our first session. 770 00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:46,160 Speaker 3: Well, it's been nice knowing everybody you know. 771 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:53,040 Speaker 6: Get my graphic ready, aloud on my T shirt. 772 00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:55,120 Speaker 2: Let me tell you something the other day. So Gideon's 773 00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:57,400 Speaker 2: trying to make me into a runner. He's trying very hard, 774 00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:01,120 Speaker 2: and I appreciate the encouragement, but I was running at 775 00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:03,000 Speaker 2: a pace that I was going to die. 776 00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:04,560 Speaker 1: He took a zoom call. 777 00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:08,920 Speaker 2: He was like doing backflips and screwing around with people, 778 00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:10,520 Speaker 2: and I mean like you just was like you were 779 00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,880 Speaker 2: barely even exerting yourself. You literally took a zoom call 780 00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,840 Speaker 2: and I'm over here gasping for my final breath. 781 00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,120 Speaker 14: Well, well, let's be clear. It wasn't a zoom call. 782 00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:21,440 Speaker 14: It was the FaceTime and. 783 00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:25,880 Speaker 9: I got off the phone immediately because we were having 784 00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,440 Speaker 9: so much fun. And he set up PR. If you 785 00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:31,600 Speaker 9: don't remember, a PR, a personal record, a personal best 786 00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:33,480 Speaker 9: during that same exact run. 787 00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:34,280 Speaker 14: So he credit. 788 00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:36,640 Speaker 9: You're the type of person who doesn't give himself as 789 00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:37,760 Speaker 9: much credit as you should. 790 00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:38,960 Speaker 14: Want to get an auction job. 791 00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:40,800 Speaker 3: Thank you your PR. 792 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:42,920 Speaker 2: Yes, I was able to run one hundred feet with 793 00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:45,680 Speaker 2: that something, and today I'm going for one hundred and 794 00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:48,400 Speaker 2: twenty five. It's gonna be crazy. It's no, it's I'm 795 00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:51,640 Speaker 2: telling you. This running thing is so hard. I never 796 00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:54,760 Speaker 2: I never knew. At first, I didn't know. I didn't 797 00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:56,360 Speaker 2: know how to run. I don't know how to run. 798 00:33:56,640 --> 00:33:58,880 Speaker 2: I don't even physically know like my form and like 799 00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:00,960 Speaker 2: how my feet are just it. I didn't realize you 800 00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:03,160 Speaker 2: to think about that. But then, this man is such 801 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:06,440 Speaker 2: a physical specimen. You just ran the marathon. I always 802 00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:09,319 Speaker 2: talk about me anymore, tell me about the Chicago Marathon, man, 803 00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:10,000 Speaker 2: How did that go? 804 00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:11,359 Speaker 4: Well? 805 00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:15,000 Speaker 9: First off, this Chicago Marathon is one of the greatest 806 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:16,759 Speaker 9: times of the year in the city. If you have 807 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,680 Speaker 9: not run the Chicago Marathon or have not experienced it 808 00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:22,080 Speaker 9: as the spectator in this beautiful. 809 00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:23,640 Speaker 14: City that we have, I encourage you to do. 810 00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:23,879 Speaker 17: So. 811 00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:27,160 Speaker 9: There were fifty thousand people out there on the course 812 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:29,640 Speaker 9: and it was a beautiful day for a run and 813 00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:32,400 Speaker 9: a great fall day in general. And yeah, it's just 814 00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:35,680 Speaker 9: the excitement that comes through running through I want to say, 815 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:39,839 Speaker 9: twenty seven plus different neighborhoods throughout the city and being 816 00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:43,440 Speaker 9: able to test your physical ability after training for as 817 00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:48,080 Speaker 9: long as twelve to eighteen weeks to conquer twenty six 818 00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:51,440 Speaker 9: point two miles, it's really a sight to behold and 819 00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,879 Speaker 9: and for those who do it and complete it, it's 820 00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:55,000 Speaker 9: something that you'll never forget. 821 00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:55,560 Speaker 1: Now. 822 00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,359 Speaker 2: I know you almost won the whole race. I know 823 00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:00,960 Speaker 2: you didn't, but it was a close so it was 824 00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:01,719 Speaker 2: extremely full. 825 00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:04,160 Speaker 14: Far from it. 826 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:06,839 Speaker 9: A matter of fact, my race didn't go the way 827 00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:08,360 Speaker 9: I wanted it to go, and did not go the 828 00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:11,040 Speaker 9: way that I trained and prepared for it to. It 829 00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:14,040 Speaker 9: was actually in all honesty and disappointment for what I 830 00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:16,600 Speaker 9: expected the race to be. But at the same time too, 831 00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,919 Speaker 9: I like to think of the marathon as a victory lap. 832 00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:22,560 Speaker 9: It's a celebration of the time that you put in, 833 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:25,600 Speaker 9: the commitment that you that you had during all of 834 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:30,080 Speaker 9: the training efforts to eventually be able to complete that distance, 835 00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:31,239 Speaker 9: no matter what your time was. 836 00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:36,759 Speaker 1: So take this out. 837 00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:40,000 Speaker 2: You ain't selling me, But this is this is like 838 00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:41,439 Speaker 2: the most positive person. 839 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:41,840 Speaker 1: Look at this. 840 00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,759 Speaker 2: I mean, like, the marathon was the victory lap of 841 00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:45,600 Speaker 2: the training. 842 00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:46,239 Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? 843 00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:47,080 Speaker 3: Get in? 844 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:51,479 Speaker 4: What are you running from a seat on the couch lady? 845 00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:53,520 Speaker 2: And like, can I want to talk about your childhood 846 00:35:53,600 --> 00:35:55,040 Speaker 2: or something? What's wrong with you? 847 00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:57,600 Speaker 14: There ain't nothing wrong. 848 00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:58,840 Speaker 1: I mean, we only have one. 849 00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:00,960 Speaker 14: Life to learn. You have to find the positive in 850 00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:01,319 Speaker 14: it all. 851 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:04,080 Speaker 9: There are positive points in there despite the obstacles and 852 00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:07,640 Speaker 9: the setbacks. But once you find those those silver linings, 853 00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:11,480 Speaker 9: your mentality changes, your energy changes, and you just. 854 00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:13,920 Speaker 7: Go for more and you go for better. So why not, Well, 855 00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:16,239 Speaker 7: I want to challenge you. You can do it again next year. 856 00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:17,640 Speaker 7: I want you to put your kids in the stroller 857 00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:18,839 Speaker 7: and push the stroller the whole thing. 858 00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:19,920 Speaker 1: Can you do that? 859 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:21,879 Speaker 12: I absolutely will not do that. 860 00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:25,520 Speaker 14: However, I take them on a couple of training runs 861 00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,760 Speaker 14: with me. Twenty six point two is hard enough by myself. 862 00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:34,520 Speaker 1: Let's go look at this. Get harder for him, right. 863 00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:37,520 Speaker 1: I want to just run around the office for a second. 864 00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,320 Speaker 1: I want to do that. There's every breaks around the corner. 865 00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:47,240 Speaker 1: I ran. He didn't run back, though. I'll say this, yeah. 866 00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:47,680 Speaker 14: Thank you. 867 00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:51,160 Speaker 9: One of the one of the benefits of training is 868 00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:53,040 Speaker 9: first off, you have to have long runs in there, 869 00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:56,440 Speaker 9: and that requires time. And if you have the support 870 00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:59,080 Speaker 9: system of friends and family and you are a parent 871 00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:00,960 Speaker 9: out there, it's going to give you a little bit 872 00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:03,760 Speaker 9: of a much needed break from all of the hustle 873 00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:06,520 Speaker 9: and bustle that happened inside the household. So for those 874 00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:08,239 Speaker 9: of you who were like I don't want to do this, 875 00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:10,200 Speaker 9: but you also want a little bit of a break 876 00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:12,120 Speaker 9: from all the things that happened inside, you know. 877 00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:15,440 Speaker 14: Just general adulthood. Maybe taking up running might be a 878 00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:16,520 Speaker 14: good change of pace for it. 879 00:37:16,560 --> 00:37:18,680 Speaker 2: Well, Ruvio has been doing that. He's been telling Jess 880 00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:20,200 Speaker 2: that he's training for the marathon. Then when he comes 881 00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:21,720 Speaker 2: home it's like, why do you feel like culvert? 882 00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:25,960 Speaker 9: Right there? 883 00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,640 Speaker 1: Right? And then I hate everything. Well, I'm proud of you. 884 00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:34,520 Speaker 2: Congratulations one of the most encouraging positive people I know. 885 00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:36,360 Speaker 2: He's made a big difference in my life. And the 886 00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:39,160 Speaker 2: guy ran a freaking marathon with fifty thousand other people, 887 00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,960 Speaker 2: So congratulations to all of you. Please give me that 888 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:43,879 Speaker 2: medal today. I'm gonna wear the medal as I run 889 00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:47,080 Speaker 2: two hundred feet and then fall over, and at least 890 00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:48,880 Speaker 2: when i'm when they collect my body, I'll have a 891 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:49,680 Speaker 2: marathon medal on. 892 00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:52,960 Speaker 14: You know what, I'll let you wear it for the 893 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:53,480 Speaker 14: whole week. 894 00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:55,640 Speaker 9: Matter of fact, I do have to ask, am I 895 00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:58,839 Speaker 9: now officially one of the thirteen? Maybe? Maybe? 896 00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:01,200 Speaker 1: Oh well that's if you choose to be. 897 00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:03,080 Speaker 2: If you're a sick person and you want to be 898 00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:05,640 Speaker 2: part of the thirteen and follow this show. But yes, 899 00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:07,600 Speaker 2: you you are part of the crew. My friend you 900 00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:11,279 Speaker 2: are the official personal trainer of the Frend Show, which means, Kik, 901 00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:13,680 Speaker 2: you get a small disc show. 902 00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,960 Speaker 6: I need a discount. What did you do after the marathon? 903 00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:18,080 Speaker 6: What was the first thing you did? 904 00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:22,160 Speaker 9: I went to the shirting brand and they had a 905 00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,280 Speaker 9: finish line fest there, which was just a beautiful recovery 906 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:28,319 Speaker 9: experience for all of the runners. I got immediately on 907 00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:31,720 Speaker 9: the Dellos therapy table. If anybody doesn't know about Dello therapy, 908 00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:34,840 Speaker 9: whether you're an athlete or just somebody who is looking 909 00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:37,840 Speaker 9: to look better, feel better and had their muscles, the 910 00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:40,879 Speaker 9: line had better posture, et cetera, lease go find one 911 00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:41,680 Speaker 9: of their locations. 912 00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,160 Speaker 14: Yes, you do a great job with muscular therapy. 913 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:52,160 Speaker 17: Secure I got s Yeah, the bag is my body 914 00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:53,920 Speaker 17: and I want this thing to last for as long 915 00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,200 Speaker 17: as possible, so I made. 916 00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:59,120 Speaker 14: Sure I got that therapy. 917 00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:01,719 Speaker 1: I've been saying that. I've been saying that for a year. 918 00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:08,680 Speaker 1: The bag is my body. I've been saying that for years. 919 00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:10,200 Speaker 1: There's the other way around. 920 00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:15,640 Speaker 12: Actually, yeah ya, I'll. 921 00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:17,239 Speaker 2: See you later, Kik. He got a boots with the first. 922 00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,480 Speaker 2: She'll be out there later too. I'll see you a 923 00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,960 Speaker 2: little bit. Congratulations, Giddy, and we love you, Jock. I 924 00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:27,200 Speaker 2: appreciate that fit with giddy on the socials. You can 925 00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:28,920 Speaker 2: go follow him. Look at him, they said, and the 926 00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,279 Speaker 2: other that smooth though, you know it. Let me make 927 00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:33,279 Speaker 2: sure I want to get Let me get something in there, 928 00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:35,279 Speaker 2: Let me sneak that in there. You know we were 929 00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,080 Speaker 2: calling him either, so he got just off the fly. 930 00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:39,760 Speaker 1: I love it. The Entertainment report is next. Fred shows 931 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:40,239 Speaker 1: a kiss.