WEBVTT - How Long Is Too Long To Be Engaged? (Asking For A Friend)

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<v Speaker 1>Hey there, folks, it is Saturday, March twenty eighth, and

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<v Speaker 1>how long is too long to be engaged? That question,

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<v Speaker 1>plus a drunken night out with robox Mom, has now

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<v Speaker 1>triggered our wedding planning. And with that, welcome to this

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<v Speaker 1>episode of Amy and DJ. And all of that is true.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how we end up where we are

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<v Speaker 1>right now, but we have just been would you not say,

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<v Speaker 1>Robes in the past twenty four to forty eight hours

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<v Speaker 1>have had more serious talks about wedding planning than we

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<v Speaker 1>have since we got engaged.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that is true. And we just came back from

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<v Speaker 2>a trip to Atlanta and we.

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<v Speaker 3>Saw my mom.

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<v Speaker 1>No girl, it's a good night out and it was

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<v Speaker 1>so fun.

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<v Speaker 2>We had a blast, too much fun actually, But yes, look,

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<v Speaker 2>it comes up inevitably, just kind of questions about if

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<v Speaker 2>we had considered when we were getting married. We get

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<v Speaker 2>asked every time we go out with friends. Some people

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<v Speaker 2>will it's always just a kind curiosity.

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<v Speaker 1>Even randoms. Sometimes. We were at the next game the

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<v Speaker 1>other day, the first person we saw was Tracy Morgan.

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<v Speaker 1>He's pressing us, when are you getting married?

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<v Speaker 3>Pressing us, why are you waiting?

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<v Speaker 1>Pressing us? To get all right. So, yes, everybody does it, so.

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<v Speaker 3>We had to be totally honest.

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<v Speaker 2>I really do think we aren't deliberately avoiding the conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>I do think we are actually so busy and we

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<v Speaker 2>have you know what, that's not fair because we have

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<v Speaker 2>prioritize vacation planning. There are other things that we be

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<v Speaker 2>put that ahead, and so without talking about it, we

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<v Speaker 2>have put it on the back burner, even discussing the plants.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not like we wanted to wait a year because

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<v Speaker 2>of X, or we need to wait until we get

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<v Speaker 2>to this. There is none of that. We just aren't

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<v Speaker 2>discussing it. We did say that we are enjoying saying fiance.

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<v Speaker 2>That's fun, like that's a fun stage of a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>So we kind of don't want that to end. And

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<v Speaker 2>there maybe is this fear in the back of both

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<v Speaker 2>of our minds that we're not discussing about what marriage

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<v Speaker 2>might do to our relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, that's not the bad has not been in the

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<v Speaker 1>back of my mind. I didn't realize it was in

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<v Speaker 1>the back of you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just wondering if subconsciously all playing a role based

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<v Speaker 2>on our other relationships. I don't know I'm just wondering

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<v Speaker 2>if that is maybe something in our subconscious or is

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<v Speaker 2>it that I'm afraid that what I want isn't what

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<v Speaker 2>you want, or what you want isn't.

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<v Speaker 3>What I want. I don't know because we haven't talked about.

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<v Speaker 1>It, we folks, Despite what anything you've read, we have

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<v Speaker 1>not had a serious conversation about time, place, attendees.

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<v Speaker 2>Nothing, No, And you actually said to me today, all right,

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<v Speaker 2>should we start talking about like what do we need

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<v Speaker 2>to figure out everything? We need to figure out who

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<v Speaker 2>we want there, where we want it to take place,

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<v Speaker 2>and when we want it to happen. And we have

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<v Speaker 2>not not actually come to a discussion about any of

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<v Speaker 2>those things.

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<v Speaker 1>We have nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>We've thrown ideas out about who, and that's it. We

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<v Speaker 2>haven't well, maybe we've thrown some ideas out about where,

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<v Speaker 2>but we certainly have not discussed when.

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<v Speaker 1>We have not had a substance of conversation about our

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<v Speaker 1>wedding at all since we got engaged. And that's pushed

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<v Speaker 1>me to ask you what's the right amount of time?

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<v Speaker 1>How long is too long? I think I put it

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<v Speaker 1>that way. How long is too long? Now? Just top

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<v Speaker 1>of your head before we start, we actually google this,

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<v Speaker 1>But off the top of your head, how long is

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<v Speaker 1>too long? What would your answer have been.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I would have said anything over three years.

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<v Speaker 1>Why three?

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<v Speaker 2>Just because it's like, at that point, what are you

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<v Speaker 2>waiting for. It's not like there's a venue you've waited for,

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<v Speaker 2>or I guess if you had some short term financial goal,

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<v Speaker 2>if you haven't reached it at that point, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It would just be like, maybe there's another issue, there's

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<v Speaker 2>another thing going on that you're not addressing, and there's

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<v Speaker 2>a reason why you're deliberately dragging your feet that is

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<v Speaker 2>dragging your feet.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me ask you this, Should there be a minimum

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<v Speaker 1>time of engagement? Yes, I do think so why do

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<v Speaker 1>you think that should be?

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<v Speaker 2>I think that you should. I think you should give

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<v Speaker 2>it a year. I think you should spend a year

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<v Speaker 2>with the idea that everyone you know and love, and

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<v Speaker 2>everyone you meet, and every person you might encounter who

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<v Speaker 2>could be a potential suitor, even that you have publicly

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<v Speaker 2>stated with the ring on your finger or with the

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<v Speaker 2>intention that you are going to spend the rest of

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<v Speaker 2>your life with someone else, and really sit with that

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<v Speaker 2>decision because it is actually I think, having now gone

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<v Speaker 2>through two divorces a hundred percent, and I did not

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<v Speaker 2>take it seriously.

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<v Speaker 1>How long were you engagement?

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<v Speaker 2>So? My first one was a year okay, and my

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<v Speaker 2>second one was four month stably.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, how about you?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh first one was non existent, kind of an eloping thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and the second was the year okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So I do think you a year will help.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously it didn't matter necessarily with either of us, but

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<v Speaker 2>I think that that gives you the opportunity to really

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<v Speaker 2>let it sink in. I just was so young, I

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<v Speaker 2>was still so focused on my career. I wasn't actually

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<v Speaker 2>letting anything sink in. I was just like, next, next, next,

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<v Speaker 2>I was just checking boxes.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. Sorry, you weren't talking about suitors with next.

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<v Speaker 4>No, But what I needed to know I was just

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<v Speaker 4>joking a second. We were talking about marriage, and that's okay.

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<v Speaker 4>So is there any reason then to wait? You said

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<v Speaker 4>three years is too long, you should give it at

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<v Speaker 4>least a year then, but what, well, I'll go ahead.

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<v Speaker 1>You like you were about to jump in there. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>is there any reason to wait? I guess it depends

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<v Speaker 1>on Okay, I won't incorporate us into this yet, what

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<v Speaker 1>reason can and you give to wait, you said, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to marry me, I want to marry you

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<v Speaker 1>might as well go get married tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>I would think the only time, or the only instance

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<v Speaker 2>where it would make sense is if you were long

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<v Speaker 2>distance and you knew, once I get this degree or

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<v Speaker 2>once I get this job, I can move and we

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<v Speaker 2>can live in the same city, and I can understand

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<v Speaker 2>not wanting to get married, and so you can actually

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<v Speaker 2>live together.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that makes sense. Okay, that's practical. Yes, okay, but

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<v Speaker 1>you live on that side of town. I'm over here.

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<v Speaker 1>What is? What is?

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<v Speaker 2>Then?

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<v Speaker 3>I think you'd have to ask yourself why are you waiting?

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<v Speaker 1>Like what?

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<v Speaker 3>Why wouldn't you just go ahead and get married?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's the question. A lot of people wait because

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<v Speaker 1>they're planning a wedding, right, you need to That's true.

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<v Speaker 3>You have to get you have to wait for a

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<v Speaker 3>venue sometimes go time.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, all that aside. If someone says, will you marry

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<v Speaker 1>me and the response is yes, throw out the practical

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<v Speaker 1>things you talked about with the planning of the wedding

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<v Speaker 1>and someone graduate from college, da da is there any

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<v Speaker 1>reason you need to sit with an engagement no matter

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<v Speaker 1>what for a little while.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you say yes, I think if you how long

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<v Speaker 2>have you known each other before the engagement?

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's really important.

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, when you said I thought you might

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<v Speaker 2>be trying to jump in, I was going to jump

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<v Speaker 2>in with us because I was actually gonna say, I

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<v Speaker 2>think you have to consider the fact that we have

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<v Speaker 2>been close friends for eight years before we even started dating,

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<v Speaker 2>and then we took and.

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<v Speaker 3>It was very tumultuous. I think it would have been

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<v Speaker 3>very well advised to wait.

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<v Speaker 2>We took from the time I think I guess what

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<v Speaker 2>was it almost almost three years right until from the

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<v Speaker 2>time we were in a romantic relationship until the time

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<v Speaker 2>you proposed it was almost three years. I've only wow, Wow,

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<v Speaker 2>we actually have a slow rollship. I think we would

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<v Speaker 2>be an exception that we could have gotten married probably the.

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<v Speaker 3>Next day, and it doesn't make a difference.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't need to test us or learn more about

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<v Speaker 2>you or your family, or how you act or react

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<v Speaker 2>to hard times. Been there, done that? Act to good times?

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<v Speaker 2>How do we live our days together? You know, just

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<v Speaker 2>doing nothing together. We've done all of that. We've traveled

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<v Speaker 2>the world together. So I don't need to find anything

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<v Speaker 2>else out about you at this point. I think we've

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<v Speaker 2>been managing our communication skills and that level of intimacy

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<v Speaker 2>and understanding I think has been it's been important. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>glad we've taken the time to do that because it

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<v Speaker 2>is a transition to go from a friendship to a

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<v Speaker 2>romance and tell folks, what.

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<v Speaker 1>Is the You did the some quick research. You can

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<v Speaker 1>cite the source, but I don't know it sounds about right.

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<v Speaker 1>The average length of time that engagements are these days.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the knot says that the average length of an

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<v Speaker 2>engagement is fifteen months, and it's been that exact same

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<v Speaker 2>length of time since twenty twenty two. So for the

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<v Speaker 2>last four years, fifteen months is the average. And they

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<v Speaker 2>said a couple of years it might go up to

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<v Speaker 2>sixteen months or down to thirteen months, but pretty much

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<v Speaker 2>it stays right around that area.

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<v Speaker 3>And that is that does make a lot of sense.

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<v Speaker 2>I think for the timing of people mostly want these

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<v Speaker 2>big weddings and so, yes, you've got a book a venue,

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<v Speaker 2>you've got a book of floorist. Sometimes you have to

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<v Speaker 2>you have to wait longer than you want to because

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<v Speaker 2>of that. So I would imagine that plays a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Does it take away there and we said this. So

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<v Speaker 1>we just are enjoying being engaged. It's fun that we

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<v Speaker 1>know we have something to look forward to. Even the

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<v Speaker 1>way people talk to you is is a little different.

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<v Speaker 1>I yeah, isn't that? Yes, that's a worthy time.

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<v Speaker 3>It's been fun and I have enjoyed it and I

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<v Speaker 3>really do like it. But we just did the math.

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<v Speaker 3>What is it seven months we've been engaged now, So

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<v Speaker 3>I'm at a.

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<v Speaker 2>Point now where and even talking to my mom, I

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<v Speaker 2>do want to start making plans.

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<v Speaker 3>It doesn't have to be tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't have to be six months for now, but

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<v Speaker 2>I would like to kind of you and I sit

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<v Speaker 2>down and actually say this. If I ranked the top

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<v Speaker 2>three ways we did it, who I'd want there?

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<v Speaker 3>And when we did it? I think we just we

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<v Speaker 3>need to start having those conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, why haven't we had those conversations yet, one might ask.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll have that answer for you when we come back. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>I will tell you about this wild drunken night out

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<v Speaker 1>with Rollbox Mama. All right, we continue here on Amy

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<v Speaker 1>and TJ. How long it's too long to be engaged?

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<v Speaker 1>We're within the right windows. Seven months isn't terrible? We okay,

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<v Speaker 1>still got some time. I can stretch this thing out

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<v Speaker 1>as long as we need to. Everything's all right, You're

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know you You did have a moment. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess with your mom, more so because people ask us

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<v Speaker 1>all the time when you when's wedding and when you

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<v Speaker 1>guys get get married, and a lot of people put

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<v Speaker 1>in their bids wherever you're gonna go, Well, we'll be

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<v Speaker 1>there and make sure you don't forget us, And that's

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<v Speaker 1>that kind of thing. That stuff's just fun. But I

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<v Speaker 1>guess it got a little more serious when your mom.

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<v Speaker 1>There are questions your mom was asking that seemed to

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<v Speaker 1>hit a little harder than everybody else's random questions. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I think they don't want to be intrusive,

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<v Speaker 2>and they want it to be the way we want it,

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<v Speaker 2>and they'll be happy for us if we elope if

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<v Speaker 2>we bring no one, but obviously they want to be

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<v Speaker 2>there and they're really excited about meeting your parents.

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<v Speaker 3>That's something she also touched on, and so I think

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<v Speaker 3>the idea I actually hearing her in a very sweet.

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<v Speaker 2>Way, a non pushy way, just suggest or just definitely

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<v Speaker 2>let us know that they are ready, willing and able

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<v Speaker 2>to be wherever they need to be to see us

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<v Speaker 2>get married and to be in support of that. I

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<v Speaker 2>started thinking, you know, we had to run and hide

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<v Speaker 2>for so much of that year. It was just awful,

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<v Speaker 2>and there was this feeling of almost not feeling worthy of.

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<v Speaker 3>Or not being ready.

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<v Speaker 2>Of being accepted, even because we just felt so out

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<v Speaker 2>of sight and just so concerned about what would people think.

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<v Speaker 2>So the idea of now maybe eloping I don't love

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<v Speaker 2>as much as I thought initially, because I like the

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<v Speaker 2>idea of standing proudly, of letting our family love us

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<v Speaker 2>and support us and cheer us on and holding our

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<v Speaker 2>heads up high. That I like the idea of that

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<v Speaker 2>more and more after everything we've been through.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that all you just said makes perfect sense, and

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<v Speaker 1>I will. I am completely on board. I was open

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<v Speaker 1>to anything and everything if we did elpe, Yes, the

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<v Speaker 1>way you just explained, it is something you do not

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<v Speaker 1>want to happen, So that won't be the case.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Well, I don't think I knew that until like

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<v Speaker 3>just the second.

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<v Speaker 2>That Actually, just everything else, I think because of what

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<v Speaker 2>we had to go through, it seems like that's the

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<v Speaker 2>last thing we should do.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, it seemed you get to a point and you

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<v Speaker 1>get folks convincing you that your story, your relationship, your friendship,

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<v Speaker 1>your love is not something worth celebrating because they have

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<v Speaker 1>convinced you that it is some way tainted. And we

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<v Speaker 1>actually know that's not the case, but we didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to bring anybody into our mess to a certain degree

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<v Speaker 1>forcing it. I mean, I remember this was straighthand when

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<v Speaker 1>we had lunch with him, we were telling him, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do it here, want to do it

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<v Speaker 1>there to make sure you're not seen with us.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, you don't get our staying on you.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, what the hell are y'all talking about?

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<v Speaker 1>And that was one of the early ones to where

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<v Speaker 1>we said, oh my god, everybody loves us and supports us. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>because their friends and their family and they've seen us,

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<v Speaker 1>they know what's going on. So yes to that thing.

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<v Speaker 1>We will make sure robes I will not ever be

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<v Speaker 1>pushing to a lope or do anything that does not

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<v Speaker 1>include family. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I really think now that's a cool thing after everything

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<v Speaker 2>we've been through to see your parents, my parents are siblings,

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<v Speaker 2>our kids. I think that is something that I am

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<v Speaker 2>now a lot. I'm leaning way more in that category.

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<v Speaker 1>And I assure you Folks, as you're listening to us,

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<v Speaker 1>this is you are absolutely hearing the most detailed, extensive

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<v Speaker 1>conversation we have had about our wedding planning. This is it.

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<v Speaker 1>There's been nothing else. It's been wild Robes to read

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<v Speaker 1>some things about who we're inviting, who we're not inviting,

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<v Speaker 1>Where there was a location at one point what and

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<v Speaker 1>it was a location there was zero chance in hell

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<v Speaker 1>we ever have a wedding there. So this is it

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<v Speaker 1>has been fun to talk about this. But the night

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<v Speaker 1>out with your mom, we were in Atlanta, Robes at

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<v Speaker 1>the she was a keynote at the Dress Work Success

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<v Speaker 1>event down there. If you don't know who Dressed for

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<v Speaker 1>Success is down in Atlanta, Georgia, check them out, look

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<v Speaker 1>them up. But did the keynote down there. So, but

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<v Speaker 1>we got to go the day before going the night

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<v Speaker 1>before four Seasons place I've spent a lot of time

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<v Speaker 1>with on in Midtown in Atlanta. It's home essentially, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>But we had an unexpected night out with you. It

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<v Speaker 1>would have been both your parents. Your dad had something

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<v Speaker 1>else to do, but we got this gift Robes that

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't appreciate enough beforehand. But the three of us

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<v Speaker 1>got to sit down and not I guess robes. We

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<v Speaker 1>weren't anything other than friends and buddies and having a

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<v Speaker 1>good time. We're not ducking behind anything. We're not worried

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<v Speaker 1>about work, which just it was a wonderful night with

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<v Speaker 1>your mom.

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<v Speaker 3>It was fun. She got to tell stories about how

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<v Speaker 3>it was like for her growing up and just.

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<v Speaker 2>Having a blast reminiscing, going over old times. And it

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<v Speaker 2>was nice to see my mom just loose and holding

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<v Speaker 2>court in a way even right.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, And it was Margarita after skinny Margarita after skinny Margarita.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you to the folks at the four season there

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<v Speaker 1>and Atlanta. Always take good care to a man, Jayden Rose,

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<v Speaker 1>who round too in the lobby as well. I hadn't

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<v Speaker 1>seen him in a while and got to introduce him

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<v Speaker 1>to your mama.

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<v Speaker 2>And she had no idea who he was, no idea,

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<v Speaker 2>but she protected my dad, didn't you.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, she had to go home and say I met

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<v Speaker 1>Jalen Rose of Michigan fame, and your dad's a Michigan

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<v Speaker 1>State guy. So I'm not sure how that went over

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<v Speaker 1>at the house, but it was a wonderful, wonderful night,

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<v Speaker 1>and it did. It sparked more serious conversation about our

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<v Speaker 1>own wedding planning. I don't know where we go from here,

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<v Speaker 1>but we will continue this conversation as soon as we

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<v Speaker 1>stop recording. I'm sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, good, because I was going to ask you the

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<v Speaker 2>next question if you had in your mind the average okay,

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<v Speaker 2>the average engagements fifteen months, how long before you would

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<v Speaker 2>want to get married? Like, do you have a cutoff

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<v Speaker 2>or a timeline at all in your head?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. The thing is, I just wanted to I

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<v Speaker 1>just wanted to enjoy being engaged. I wanted to go

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<v Speaker 1>through a cycle of engagement. I wanted to go through.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to enjoy this. It's just fun. After that,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have a date, and I don't I have

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<v Speaker 1>here lately, I've said it to you, let's just get married,

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just let's just you know what. It has a

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<v Speaker 1>lot to do with stuff we cover. Stuff is happening

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<v Speaker 1>in people's lives that are in our lives, and like,

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<v Speaker 1>why are we waiting to delay?

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<v Speaker 2>Why?

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<v Speaker 1>That has a lot to do with it. So I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, So what's your timing.

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<v Speaker 2>I just had an idea, I just had I just

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<v Speaker 2>had an idea of when I would like to get made.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell me the whin you want me to say when?

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<v Speaker 1>If you don't want to, that's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>I was just thinking tell me the win.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you don't have to hear, because then we commit

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<v Speaker 1>to it publicly.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'll tell you. I'll tell you when we get off.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there aware I do?

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<v Speaker 3>I had something in mind?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, okay, but you're gonna hold that too, yes, okay.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how you'll feel about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there a number of attendees? I? Yes, Oh you

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<v Speaker 1>want to tell me that, or you're gonna hold that too.

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<v Speaker 1>I hold everything, you're holding all of it.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna hold it all.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. Then all right, folks, Well, we always appreciate you

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<v Speaker 1>sticking around with us, and especially since we give you

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<v Speaker 1>episodes with very little information apparently, and with that, we

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate you hanging with us on DJ Holmes And I

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<v Speaker 1>cannot wait to have this conversation with my fiance as

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<v Speaker 1>soon as we stop