1 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:08,480 Speaker 1: Find Out and podcast. So something happened to me the 2 00:00:08,520 --> 00:00:09,840 Speaker 1: other day in the parking lot that I want to 3 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: bring up. Oh, it's parking lot etiquette. Parking lot etiquette. Oh, 4 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:21,760 Speaker 1: I know one of them the um what's those things called? Oh, 5 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 1: the shopping carts. If you don't return your cart the 6 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: buggy as some people would say parts of the country, 7 00:00:30,360 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: that's like a southern southern Oh I've never heard that before. Okay, 8 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:36,279 Speaker 1: so what's your thing. Well, first of all, we can 9 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:42,480 Speaker 1: touch on that. I'm good because you're that one. Well, 10 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: now it's so annoying put them away. Now, it's so frustrated. 11 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:49,880 Speaker 1: I hate when people don't put away the shopping carts 12 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 1: in the designated spots, when they just leave them in 13 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: an empty parking space. That drives me insane. Well, and 14 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: so I've conditioned Janna to start walking back the shopping 15 00:00:59,760 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: cart because before it's hard with kids though, that's why 16 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: either put them in the car and then do it. Great, 17 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 1: So then you leave the kids in the car. Well, 18 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: here's the thing. I always bought. Park close to one 19 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 1: of those, like next the spot next to it, or 20 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 1: two spots or cross from it. Um, I I don't 21 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 1: know what it is. It's just I will tell you. 22 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,120 Speaker 1: The other day though, when I was at Whole Foods, 23 00:01:24,360 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 1: I was putting my card away and I took the 24 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: cart from the older lady who was also bringing it 25 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 1: that way, look at you, good Samaritan. I just kind 26 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:35,760 Speaker 1: of shook my head. I was like, oh, this just 27 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:39,480 Speaker 1: feels weird. This is not who I am, um. But no. 28 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: So I was leaving home Depot, which I feel like 29 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 1: Home Depot parking lots are way too tight for the yeah, 30 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: the trucks that are there and the reasoning that people 31 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 1: are going there. And it's funny because I was I 32 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: parked to the far end to where like the lumber 33 00:01:58,080 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: x It is because I'm going to get lumber for 34 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: the playhouse thing them building, and so it's a lot 35 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 1: of trucks. Like in this section that I'm parked, I have, 36 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: you know, a bunch of wood in the back. So 37 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: I don't have my backup camera, which we've all gotten 38 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: a little dependent on, right Like who even looks in 39 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 1: their mirrors anymore? I still try to, but still, so 40 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: I'm backing up and my cameras like beeping at me 41 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:28,080 Speaker 1: because it's facing the ground. Because my tailgates down so 42 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 1: I can't really see completely and give a little love 43 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: tap to the truck behind me in another spot whoops, whoops. 44 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: And I was like, ship, did I just hit a car? 45 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 1: So I pulled up a little bit, got out and looked. 46 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: I mean nothing. It was literally a love tap, no scratching, nothing, 47 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 1: but really though, like that's something like it could be 48 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: buffed out. Let me lick my finger and grab it 49 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: out a little bit, grab a grab a sharpie from 50 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 1: the car was on. It was one of those two 51 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: where like in case someone saw me, I was like 52 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: almost like acting out that it was okay, like I 53 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:09,799 Speaker 1: wish people could see me. I was like, oh, okay, yeah, 54 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 1: it's good, like okay, everything's okay, like just pretending that 55 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:17,919 Speaker 1: someone was looking at me. Um. And I drove away 56 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: and but then I was like leaving. I was like, man, 57 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:26,680 Speaker 1: should I still left the note? Should have still said hey, 58 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 1: I love tapped your car? But it was all good 59 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: x o x ou, I'll let your board board. Um, 60 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: No part of me like felt still a little guilty, 61 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 1: like maybe I still still of left it out. But 62 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 1: what would you have said, like to whom it may concern, 63 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 1: to the to the black I don't know mc GMC 64 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 1: or four GMC, those are two different cars. Um, Like, yeah, 65 00:03:52,120 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 1: what would you have said? I don't know. I don't 66 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:55,880 Speaker 1: even know. I just felt a little bit of that guilt. 67 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 1: And I'm like, man, what was but guilt for what? 68 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 1: Because it didn't it did nothing. You didn't hurt anything, 69 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 1: I know, but still I like you felt like you 70 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:10,040 Speaker 1: violated their car a little bit, A little bit, I 71 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, I know I didn't do anything wrong, 72 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,800 Speaker 1: but still it's one of those things, like to what extent. Obviously, 73 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: if there's any damage, even a scratch, I would have 74 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:21,320 Speaker 1: been straight up and been like written on something and 75 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: left form, Hey I did this. Here's my name and number. 76 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:28,799 Speaker 1: Give me a call in order giving a fake phone number. 77 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: Have I'm just kidding, UM, But you feel guilty because 78 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: because I wasn't able to tell a person, and like 79 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 1: I wish I could have told them, but they came 80 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: in or woman, I love to have your truck. Uh, 81 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: my bad, It's all good. I don't know what are 82 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 1: you struggling with. I'm struggling with the fact that if 83 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: you left your name and number, they would find another 84 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 1: scratch on their car. And be like, no, man, he 85 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: sides with my car. Your head would go there, my 86 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 1: car is totaled. Actually yeah, and you owe us five 87 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:24,680 Speaker 1: million dollars. Well, if someone did that, there's no way 88 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 1: they could prove it. So I'd be like, I don't 89 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:30,719 Speaker 1: know what you're talking about. Yeah, yeah, I don't know. 90 00:05:30,839 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: That's interesting. I mean obviously if you had some kind 91 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:40,280 Speaker 1: of scratch or some something that happened to the car 92 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:42,679 Speaker 1: and then you left, like, I'm like, yeah, you should 93 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: for sure feel guilty. That's that was the wrong thing 94 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: to do. But because you didn't do anything to the car, 95 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 1: in my mind's like you went out and looked, that's 96 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:53,920 Speaker 1: beyond any like not many people would probably get out 97 00:05:53,920 --> 00:06:00,279 Speaker 1: of the car and look maybe peace. And that's what 98 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: I did to my grandparents car. I was in high school. 99 00:06:06,120 --> 00:06:11,719 Speaker 1: It was snowing, and my grandparents had just come to 100 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 1: visit us, and I wasn't used to having a car 101 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: behind me. So I'm running late. I think it was 102 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:23,359 Speaker 1: my senior year and it was still you know, it 103 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: was six like, and I again I was running late, 104 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 1: running late, and so I get in the car and 105 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 1: I just straight up reverse and floor it. Stop the 106 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:44,160 Speaker 1: crunch that I heard, and I just was like shut 107 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:46,279 Speaker 1: and I didn't know what to do. I just like 108 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:49,560 Speaker 1: froze because like, you know, my Grandpa's so sweet, but 109 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: at the same time, you don't want to mess with 110 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:55,280 Speaker 1: them either at that time of his age. And so 111 00:06:55,400 --> 00:07:00,800 Speaker 1: I just went forward and turn my car and went 112 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 1: straight to school. What happened when they when they found 113 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:07,599 Speaker 1: out when they came out and saw their car, It's like, 114 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 1: wait a second, how did someone hit the front of 115 00:07:09,279 --> 00:07:11,600 Speaker 1: our car when we're punked in the triveway? So I 116 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:13,960 Speaker 1: called my mom from school and I was crying and 117 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: I was like, I hate grandma Grandpa's car. And they're like, oh, 118 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 1: they know, they heard it, they saw you peel away. 119 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: I was like, are they mad? Oh my god, I'm 120 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: so sorry. I just couldn't confront them. I was running 121 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 1: late for school. I can't even imagine. So that's there 122 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:36,679 Speaker 1: was some damage done and it wasn't like crazy damage, 123 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 1: but there was a good amount of damage to both cars. 124 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: That's really, really, really funny to me. So, I mean, 125 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: I eventually told, but I feel like there's a lot 126 00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: of people that would if they hit they would just go. 127 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:54,360 Speaker 1: You're like Grandma and Grandpa, I don't know what happened. 128 00:07:55,680 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 1: I mean, it was bad. Are you sure? You're like 129 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: you sure when you guys pulled in you didn't hit 130 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: the rear end of my car. They're a little senile 131 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: and or they would be like, whoa guys, easy, easy 132 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: on the you know init or whatever, not inhale. But 133 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 1: you've never been funny. If I if I were backed 134 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 1: in and hit that truck and there's a scratch on 135 00:08:17,480 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: my car but not on theirs, and I left the 136 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 1: note and be like, hey man, I backed India and 137 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 1: I gotta scratch my car. Let's exchange information. Oh please, 138 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:29,480 Speaker 1: you still have a scratch on your car from the 139 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:33,559 Speaker 1: time that you went to McDonald's in Los Angeles. I 140 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 1: will forever haunt me. McDonald's will forever haunt me. You 141 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: shouldn't have gone. Shouldn't have gone, Garma, just the big 142 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 1: man upstairs saying stop eating McDonald's. No. But I think 143 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: to circle around, I think it's really sweet that you 144 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:53,319 Speaker 1: did that. You have the conscious conscience, conscience, conscience to 145 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 1: feel bad about that even though you did nothing wrong. 146 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 1: Easton talked to me, help me, I need any more 147 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: details about that, about that McDonald's scratch. Did you misjudge 148 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:11,559 Speaker 1: the drive through? What happened? No, it's the one that's 149 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 1: on Sunset and Laurel Canyon. Yeah, and you have to 150 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 1: it's like the tunnel drive through. Yes, yes, we're going 151 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:26,440 Speaker 1: to fight that day. Probably. That's like I eat my 152 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: feelings just like you think I remember something happening near 153 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,679 Speaker 1: Like I'm gone McDonald's. No, I was. I was already 154 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 1: out and about because I wouldn't have gone over the 155 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:39,560 Speaker 1: hill to go go to that McDonald's. I was on 156 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: my way home McDonald's. Yeah. So I went through that 157 00:09:43,880 --> 00:09:47,360 Speaker 1: tunnel of death drive through that a motorcycle can barely 158 00:09:47,360 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 1: fit through with my big old truck. And I'm like, 159 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:53,439 Speaker 1: you just and you just see the remnants of scrapes 160 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 1: all down that tunnel. I'm like every car in here, 161 00:09:57,760 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 1: it's like, what you do? You just scraped the side 162 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: or scraped the pole or I'm like, who built this? 163 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 1: This is terrible Eastern What would you do if you 164 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 1: love tap somebody and either made a mark or made 165 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:16,080 Speaker 1: a no mark? I mean, this is a safe space 166 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 1: right where, this is a cone of honesty. I gotta 167 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:23,160 Speaker 1: be honest if there's no mark and nobody saw it. 168 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: I'm jetting. I'm not I'm not doing anything. I'm gonna 169 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:29,040 Speaker 1: get out. What if what if there was a mark 170 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:33,080 Speaker 1: and nobody saw it. That's the thing, and nobody saw it, 171 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,120 Speaker 1: you know what you would do? You would leave. I 172 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 1: can see it in your face. It depends on how 173 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: big the mark was. Uh yeah. I like to think 174 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 1: that I that I would leave a note, but in reality, 175 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 1: I probably would justify it by going like, well, you 176 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: know your car has been hit a bunch of no 177 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 1: one left to know. This is just you put in 178 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,839 Speaker 1: the karma back into the world. That's messed up. Though 179 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:02,800 Speaker 1: I should, I should be more honest. But if it 180 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: was a small it was like shorter than a pencil scratch, 181 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:10,360 Speaker 1: I probably would just leave if no one saw it. Yeah, 182 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:16,439 Speaker 1: that's really funny. Don't park. No, don't remember that. One 183 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 1: time my ex friend came back and wrecked my car 184 00:11:19,880 --> 00:11:24,319 Speaker 1: and said that He's like, you could clearly tell that 185 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: he hit a pole, Like you could for sure tell 186 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: he hit a pole. And he's like, I don't know 187 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:31,840 Speaker 1: what happened the car. Somebody must have hit me. I'm like, 188 00:11:31,880 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: that is a white pole. And I was like on 189 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,000 Speaker 1: the on the we're on our way to them. Yeah, 190 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 1: And I was kind of defending him because I still 191 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 1: didn't know him that well and Jane was lightening him up, 192 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 1: lighting him, but I could tell he was lying. I 193 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 1: knew him right, Jane has been was friends with him 194 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:52,240 Speaker 1: for like ten years. So I was like, hey, easy, 195 00:11:52,360 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: like you don't know, like, let him make some easily. 196 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: She's like, no, I know him. He's lying, and come 197 00:11:57,679 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: to find out, he definitely did. Yeah. It's like the 198 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:06,439 Speaker 1: pole did not just come attack my car. Whoever was 199 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:10,560 Speaker 1: driving pulls have minds of their own. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, 200 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: no driving. It's so funny that how you do rely 201 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:18,959 Speaker 1: on that backup camera. So yeah, but I want to 202 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:23,480 Speaker 1: get like a Ford Escort when the kids get older 203 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:26,439 Speaker 1: and are driving, because that's like the card. That's the 204 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: card my sister drove, and that's the car I learned 205 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:30,760 Speaker 1: how to drive stick on. I want the kids to 206 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 1: be able to drive stick and use their mirrors. Here's 207 00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:37,439 Speaker 1: a question for you. Are you the parent that gives 208 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:39,679 Speaker 1: your kids a car or makes them work for it? 209 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 1: You're asking me you gotta work for it. That's not 210 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: what you said, You're that's not what you said. What 211 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:56,080 Speaker 1: do you mean you totally changed your answer. Here's you 212 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 1: totally change. Here's the thing. Here's the thing. You're like, Well, 213 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:02,679 Speaker 1: if they're playing sports and they're you know, if they 214 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:05,520 Speaker 1: look I will. I don't want to help them out 215 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:07,120 Speaker 1: with a car. If they're just sitting on there but 216 00:13:07,880 --> 00:13:11,080 Speaker 1: going to school coming home, and that's it. If they're working, 217 00:13:12,080 --> 00:13:15,199 Speaker 1: or they have a lot of extracurricular activities including sports, 218 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:17,800 Speaker 1: and so they don't have as much time to earn 219 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:21,800 Speaker 1: money for a car, whatever it may be, they can 220 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 1: influence online through a couple of swipe ups. Um, I'm 221 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 1: willing to help them out. And if they are working 222 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:38,960 Speaker 1: in other ways, they just have to be a productive person. See, 223 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 1: that's just gonna be really hard for me because I 224 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:43,320 Speaker 1: had to buy my own car. Like, I think there's 225 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:48,720 Speaker 1: something so some work, like the work ethic behind paying 226 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:50,800 Speaker 1: for your own car. I'm like, Okay, my parents don't 227 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:52,679 Speaker 1: have the money to get me a car. I have 228 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:56,320 Speaker 1: to work for my car. You know. I don't know. 229 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: I just think there's something that was that. I think 230 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:03,240 Speaker 1: that was the moment that for me in my mind 231 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:05,959 Speaker 1: created the oh crap, if I'm if I'm gonna want 232 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:07,600 Speaker 1: something in my life. I have to work for it, 233 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 1: you know, And I think that's where like the beginning 234 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:14,560 Speaker 1: of where my work ethic came from. That makes sense, Yeah, 235 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 1: I know it does. You Know what I'm curious about 236 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:19,880 Speaker 1: with Jolie and Jason's I wonder if they're going to 237 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: want a driver's license when they turned sixteen, you know, 238 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 1: because I've met so many kids like my parents that say, 239 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 1: like my kid's eighteen and he has no intention of 240 00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:34,320 Speaker 1: getting his license, Like they just feel like that sense 241 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 1: of freedom that came with it, Like like when we 242 00:14:36,360 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 1: were sixteen, that was everything, you know, like that's all 243 00:14:39,440 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: I wanted. But now it's like, hey, man, let me 244 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:43,680 Speaker 1: sit in my room. I got this, you know, like 245 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:45,720 Speaker 1: I can hang out with my friends here. I don't 246 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 1: need to do that. And like, like my wife didn't 247 00:14:48,080 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 1: get her driver's license until she was six. I taught 248 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,560 Speaker 1: her how to drive, which is a weird thing to do. 249 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 1: Why didn't want she she just didn't see a need 250 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 1: for it. And then at a certain point she was like, 251 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 1: I'm kind of afraid of it, Like I don't I 252 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:07,800 Speaker 1: don't want to be behind this not you know, two 253 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:11,160 Speaker 1: thousand pound torpedo. Uh. And then we moved to l A. 254 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 1: And she's like, oh, I gotta get a license now, 255 00:15:12,840 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 1: but um, yeah, and you know, and she's she's the 256 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 1: same age as me or in our thirties. But I 257 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:20,600 Speaker 1: just feel like there's gonna be a whole generation of 258 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:22,320 Speaker 1: kids that are like they have to be like pushed 259 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:25,080 Speaker 1: by their parents to get their license because it's like 260 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: it's a pain in the ask, you guys, know, like, 261 00:15:28,280 --> 00:15:32,440 Speaker 1: but but also it opens up the whole world. Oh absolutely, 262 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:35,920 Speaker 1: And I mean, like you said, Eastern when are generation. 263 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:38,280 Speaker 1: It was like I got my permit the first day 264 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 1: I was eligible, I got my license, Yeah, exactly, whatever 265 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:44,120 Speaker 1: it was fifteen and three months sixteen, Like I was 266 00:15:44,360 --> 00:15:46,880 Speaker 1: that day. I was making sure I got everything I 267 00:15:46,920 --> 00:15:49,680 Speaker 1: needed to. So the day I turned sixteen and whatever 268 00:15:49,760 --> 00:15:53,800 Speaker 1: it was, I was out peace see you. So that 269 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 1: that is interesting though, especially with ride sharing and and 270 00:15:57,640 --> 00:16:00,320 Speaker 1: being able to hang out with your friends, you know, 271 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 1: with your phone and all of that. When we drove 272 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 1: to our friend's house, what do you guys remember the 273 00:16:06,400 --> 00:16:12,960 Speaker 1: first time you drove? Yes, tell me. I got my 274 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:15,880 Speaker 1: driver's license and then I borrowed I didn't have a 275 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:17,720 Speaker 1: car at the time, so I borrowed my mom's car, 276 00:16:18,080 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 1: and I remember her saying, the gaslights on, but you 277 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:22,520 Speaker 1: still got like thirty miles out of it before you 278 00:16:22,560 --> 00:16:25,480 Speaker 1: have to go get gas. But so uh. And I 279 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:29,120 Speaker 1: remember like being able to pick whatever music I wanted 280 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 1: was a really big deal. And I went and picked 281 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:34,320 Speaker 1: up my girlfriend from school and we went to I 282 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 1: think we went to McDonald's. Then I brought her back 283 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 1: to her house and I drove home and I was like, 284 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:44,720 Speaker 1: I was I was five, I was sixteen, and so 285 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:48,640 Speaker 1: was she. It was all above board. I was I 286 00:16:48,720 --> 00:16:50,840 Speaker 1: was the first of my friends to get the driver's license, 287 00:16:51,040 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 1: and it was, you know, I gotta I bought myself 288 00:16:55,200 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 1: a red Ailero um and I I told my mom. 289 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:02,280 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm just going to pick up Lisa, 290 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:06,480 Speaker 1: like just me and Lisa. I had eight girls packed 291 00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:08,720 Speaker 1: in my red Alero. We're going to seven eleven to 292 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:12,399 Speaker 1: get slurpees. And then I didn't. I probably told my 293 00:17:12,440 --> 00:17:14,960 Speaker 1: mom like the truth about a few years ago. I 294 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 1: was like, you no, no, there was there was about 295 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 1: eight girls in that car, like we were just bumped 296 00:17:18,400 --> 00:17:22,840 Speaker 1: into like in sing getting slurpees. It was I drove 297 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:26,560 Speaker 1: to work. I was a lifeguard because it was the 298 00:17:26,600 --> 00:17:31,840 Speaker 1: summertime that I was able to get my license, and yeah, 299 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:33,760 Speaker 1: I had to go to work to go to the pool. 300 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:38,680 Speaker 1: I go tore my whistle memory lane here whistles. You 301 00:17:38,680 --> 00:17:40,760 Speaker 1: guys get your license? Did you get the first time? 302 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,679 Speaker 1: Did you have to retake the test first time? Or 303 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I think I cheated in Um however, 304 00:17:51,080 --> 00:17:55,200 Speaker 1: well because like driver's at okay, driver's a yeah, yeah, yeah, um, 305 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:58,600 Speaker 1: but now I failed a few times. Probably it's so 306 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:02,879 Speaker 1: tricky you know there, it's like they make it they 307 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:06,919 Speaker 1: really second guess. Yeah, it's like you know, they make 308 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:10,120 Speaker 1: you second guess. I don't. I've never been a good 309 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:12,479 Speaker 1: test taker. That's the thing. My teachers would always say, 310 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:16,280 Speaker 1: she's really smart, she's um, well, I would know what 311 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:18,400 Speaker 1: they say, really smart. But I was never a good 312 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:22,120 Speaker 1: test taker. I think the questions or the other options, 313 00:18:22,119 --> 00:18:26,200 Speaker 1: and like, well that could potentially maybe be the next, 314 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:28,280 Speaker 1: the other the other. Maybe you should have been a 315 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:33,560 Speaker 1: lawyer or a politician. Okay, super excited because today's guests 316 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:37,320 Speaker 1: we have Clint Black and his wife Lisa hartman Um 317 00:18:37,359 --> 00:18:39,960 Speaker 1: coming on the show. Clint Black is like, oh my god, 318 00:18:40,640 --> 00:18:42,920 Speaker 1: I mean talk about high school and live in the 319 00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:49,159 Speaker 1: good old days. He's one of the biggest country stars ever. Um, 320 00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:52,720 Speaker 1: so excited to have him on the show. And before that, 321 00:18:52,920 --> 00:19:08,240 Speaker 1: let's take a break. All right. We have two huge 322 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 1: legends on our show today that we're very excited to 323 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:13,960 Speaker 1: talk to you about a lot of different things. We 324 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 1: have the one and only country superstar Clint Black and 325 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:22,119 Speaker 1: then successful music artists and actress Miss Lisa Hartman. Welcome 326 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 1: to wind down. Oh my goodness, it's so nice to 327 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:31,199 Speaker 1: talk to you guys. Um Hey, a little fun fact. 328 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:35,159 Speaker 1: She was supposed to play my Mom, which he was 329 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 1: to be the general Welcome Home Christmas. That didn't happen 330 00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:44,600 Speaker 1: because you said you didn't want to act. Clint, you 331 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:48,560 Speaker 1: told me you didn't want to act. Well, that was 332 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:51,520 Speaker 1: one part of it was I wasn't ready to jump down. 333 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 1: I had a lot of other things going on, including 334 00:19:56,160 --> 00:20:03,840 Speaker 1: might ask oh, So that's why we couldn't say yeah. 335 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:06,880 Speaker 1: We couldn't say it was so hard. I love the role, 336 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:08,679 Speaker 1: I love the whole thing. It was so sweet, and 337 00:20:08,680 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 1: I love the general. I want this this guy anyway 338 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:15,399 Speaker 1: was this guy because they weren't going to be together. 339 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:20,679 Speaker 1: I'm at home now, I'm this guy at home that 340 00:20:20,760 --> 00:20:25,480 Speaker 1: created when he read that scrip that's his client. Well 341 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 1: it would have been fun. But maybe the next one 342 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: will we can do that. Um, how is filming the 343 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:37,879 Speaker 1: Mass Singer? It was? It was grueling. It was it 344 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:42,360 Speaker 1: was TV. You know, it was you know what I'm 345 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 1: used to, you know, being out on tour. You you 346 00:20:45,640 --> 00:20:48,240 Speaker 1: go on your routine and when it's time to go on, 347 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:51,159 Speaker 1: you go on. But in TV, of course you uh, 348 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 1: in this case, you put on an owl costume and 349 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:59,000 Speaker 1: you start sweating immediately, go and get in an egg 350 00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:01,440 Speaker 1: that you can't walk round in and you have to 351 00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:03,639 Speaker 1: move across the stage in it, and you know, break 352 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:06,320 Speaker 1: your leg, almost fall off the stage, and then you don't. 353 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:08,080 Speaker 1: Your heart rate goes way up and then you sing 354 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 1: just little stuff like that crazy and uh, and so 355 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:17,240 Speaker 1: you're just and of course, you know, once the taping starts, 356 00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 1: they have to turn off the AC units in the 357 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 1: sound stage because they make a noise and you feel 358 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:27,520 Speaker 1: it instantly, and now you're really sweating. And then the 359 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 1: judge panel starts talking and everybody says what they and 360 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:35,360 Speaker 1: then Ken goes into his long diet tribe and and 361 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,399 Speaker 1: you know, I lost five pounds just every time Ken talked, 362 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:45,159 Speaker 1: so you know, it was it was strange and and 363 00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:49,280 Speaker 1: different and you know, unbelievable. I've always wondered, did you 364 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:52,120 Speaker 1: guys do do the contestants? You guys get to pick 365 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:56,600 Speaker 1: your costume at all. So yeah, we we well, they 366 00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 1: showed the first one and we didn't love it. We said, 367 00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:01,960 Speaker 1: you know, we really like to go more in this direction. 368 00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:05,280 Speaker 1: And they came back with the second one and it's amazing. Yeah, 369 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:07,680 Speaker 1: they sent a sketch in the Faberge egg and the 370 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,359 Speaker 1: whole thing, and we were just we fell in love instantly. 371 00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:13,720 Speaker 1: And then when we got to the set, they brought 372 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:15,520 Speaker 1: us in early to see if we could, you know, 373 00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:17,959 Speaker 1: so we could get used to the egg, see if 374 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:21,520 Speaker 1: we could fit. And we're thinking, you know, and it 375 00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:24,040 Speaker 1: was really tricky. The thing opens up right, and you 376 00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:26,240 Speaker 1: go in and they zip tie you in, and you've 377 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,879 Speaker 1: got handbrakes and these bars, and the thing has a 378 00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,359 Speaker 1: mind of its own. I mean, you want to go 379 00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 1: this way, and it's like you also have stage hands 380 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 1: who have minds there and a stage manager who wants 381 00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:40,199 Speaker 1: to have control of their minds and our minds, and 382 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:43,240 Speaker 1: he's moving over here. Here we go. You feel like 383 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,680 Speaker 1: Fred Flintstone with his little toes in the car. It's 384 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:48,960 Speaker 1: true in the little egg, it's going to be a 385 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: broken ankle here you just your human puppet that at 386 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: that moment, Yeah, it was that. It was you know, 387 00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:57,480 Speaker 1: so you you you suit up, get the thing in. 388 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:00,360 Speaker 1: You know, youve got to sing live. You get any 389 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 1: egg you get, you go down the layer. Now you're 390 00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:04,440 Speaker 1: on your mark. You think, no, we're not on the mark. 391 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:06,240 Speaker 1: We had to get on the market is all this 392 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:09,439 Speaker 1: stuff you can't see and go, you know, and you're like, 393 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:12,600 Speaker 1: oh my gosh. And then you finish and you're relieved 394 00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:14,280 Speaker 1: and you hope you've done a great job or a 395 00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,840 Speaker 1: good job. And then Ken goes off and then there's 396 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 1: Kenny Well. I remember when dirt was first invented? Do 397 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 1: you guys? So the Mass Singer has been a huge show. 398 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,600 Speaker 1: I think too much surprise to a lot of the masses. 399 00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:33,679 Speaker 1: And now that you guys have been on it, what 400 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,600 Speaker 1: do you think from an internal perspective? Has been the 401 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,320 Speaker 1: major draw to to this show because you look at 402 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,200 Speaker 1: it on paper and it's kind of like and this 403 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:45,240 Speaker 1: isn't gonna be anything, and it's been huge. It's positivity 404 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:49,400 Speaker 1: it's it's all positive, uplifting everybody coming to the whole family. 405 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 1: And uh and and now with this new season where 406 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:55,359 Speaker 1: they had to adapt, you know, you've got all this 407 00:23:55,480 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 1: animation involved and uh, I think you know, any generation 408 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:04,119 Speaker 1: can enjoy it. But there's also you know, it's a 409 00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:07,960 Speaker 1: competition and that's what we like, right. Yeah. But did 410 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:11,520 Speaker 1: you ever think you'd be dressing up and like the 411 00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:14,200 Speaker 1: costumes like this, like thirty years ago. Did would you 412 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:16,199 Speaker 1: really be like, oh, wow, I'm gonna be dressed up 413 00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 1: in this One day? You get the email and you 414 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 1: look at it and you go listen to this email. Uh, 415 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 1: you know, because we're lucky, we get you know, lots 416 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:35,520 Speaker 1: of offers to do things and uh, and then this 417 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 1: one comes in. Okay, oh man, can you believe that? 418 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 1: And then we looked at each other like maybe we 419 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:49,360 Speaker 1: should do that. And then it was meanwhile, I'm pressuring 420 00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:51,239 Speaker 1: you to be in my movie and you're like, I'm 421 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 1: about to go be an owl, but I can't tell 422 00:24:53,040 --> 00:25:00,080 Speaker 1: you to everyone. You guys were the first duo are 423 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:04,240 Speaker 1: going the mass singer? Did you think that was uh, 424 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,040 Speaker 1: you know, beneficial like in your in your wearhouse to 425 00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:08,960 Speaker 1: be like, hey, this is an advantage or do you 426 00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,520 Speaker 1: think it was a disadvantage. Well, we love the idea 427 00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:15,200 Speaker 1: of working together doing something together. We all we've done 428 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:18,680 Speaker 1: a lot of things together, um, but this was definitely 429 00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 1: completely new to both of us, which was kind of 430 00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 1: fun because we were both on the same level of 431 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 1: you know, not knowing anything and and facing the same challenges. 432 00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:32,640 Speaker 1: And there were some advantages and some disadvantages. Uh, advantages 433 00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 1: as you know, we've got these these harmonies we can 434 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:38,960 Speaker 1: work in and we're two characters interacting with each other 435 00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:42,199 Speaker 1: up there, um, and uh, you know, some of the 436 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:45,560 Speaker 1: disadvantages were you know, the song selection was much harder 437 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:48,600 Speaker 1: when you're choosing a duet. Can you know, does it 438 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:51,919 Speaker 1: fit us? Does you know, will the key work, the 439 00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:55,480 Speaker 1: melodies work? You know, can we both hit these um 440 00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,200 Speaker 1: as it? You know? Can we try it down? Will 441 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 1: it still be competitive if we try up it down 442 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:06,160 Speaker 1: and lose you know, of the song? And then uh, 443 00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:08,720 Speaker 1: you know, we couldn't work the stage. We were pretty 444 00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:10,840 Speaker 1: much confined to that egg. We were going to break 445 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:13,960 Speaker 1: out of it um eventually, but I didn't get there. 446 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:19,280 Speaker 1: So I think all in all, the advantage disadvantage. It 447 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:22,520 Speaker 1: kind of wighs it weighs itself out and balances out. 448 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:25,680 Speaker 1: We both felt like, you know, we were so probably 449 00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 1: wouldn't have done it alone. I mean, I don't know, 450 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 1: it's hard to look back, but we were just so 451 00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:30,639 Speaker 1: it was so much fun to be able to do 452 00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 1: it together and share some kind of experience like that together. 453 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,000 Speaker 1: And that's what I was gonna say, you know, with 454 00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:37,160 Speaker 1: you know, obviously, my husband and I we worked together 455 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:40,080 Speaker 1: to just like you guys do, and there's so much 456 00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,280 Speaker 1: to be said, like, you know, and I would go 457 00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:45,800 Speaker 1: out and perform I missed, you know. I like performing 458 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:47,640 Speaker 1: with my husband now and having our kind of show 459 00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:50,680 Speaker 1: and doing our stuff. But there's challenges that come along 460 00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 1: with that as well, working with your spouse. So I'm 461 00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:55,480 Speaker 1: curious what is some of the biggest challenges that you 462 00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:58,840 Speaker 1: guys have had to face working as a couple. It's 463 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:02,959 Speaker 1: really hard for her. I'm always right, Clint, you and 464 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:07,879 Speaker 1: I suffer from the same thing. Then it's unbelievable. No, 465 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:12,600 Speaker 1: you know, I don't we have Maybe we're lucky. I 466 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,800 Speaker 1: don't know we were we yeah, we are lucky, of course, 467 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:19,480 Speaker 1: but I mean we tend to be very in tune 468 00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,520 Speaker 1: to the other ones like if I'm having a moment, 469 00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:25,159 Speaker 1: he'll just back off and vice versa. Right, and we 470 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:29,399 Speaker 1: have moments. You know, it's like in thirty years, I 471 00:27:29,400 --> 00:27:31,119 Speaker 1: go the cake because baked. We know each other so 472 00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,280 Speaker 1: well and we're very considerate of each other. That's one 473 00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:35,680 Speaker 1: thing we all people say, how do you do? One word? 474 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:39,400 Speaker 1: Consideration and communication? We talk about everything. We never leave 475 00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 1: anything unsaid. We deal with it right then. Trust me, 476 00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,080 Speaker 1: never leaves anything. Oh, Michael just told me they're not 477 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: You always have to have a feeling about something, and 478 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:52,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I just gotta express what I'm going through. 479 00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,159 Speaker 1: You just have to listen. I go, where you listening? 480 00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:58,960 Speaker 1: And now who go? No, I'll make a cup of 481 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 1: coffee in the morning and uh and she'll she'll she'll 482 00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:06,760 Speaker 1: saying something and three minutes later, I see all I said. 483 00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:11,520 Speaker 1: It was a good morning. It makes me think of 484 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:15,439 Speaker 1: the the old joke. You know. Uh, my wife just 485 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,359 Speaker 1: said to me, you know, you haven't been listening to 486 00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: a word I've said, And I thought to myself, what 487 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:28,919 Speaker 1: a strange way to start a conversation. So good, Oh, listen, 488 00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,920 Speaker 1: I just don't always like what comes out. Well, yeah, 489 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,760 Speaker 1: that's just the way it is, so you know, but 490 00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:36,920 Speaker 1: we love each other when it all satting down, we 491 00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,640 Speaker 1: love each other, and you love each other. And two people, 492 00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,880 Speaker 1: two people building their lives together, living together, you know 493 00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,520 Speaker 1: you're going to We figured it out. You you look 494 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:49,880 Speaker 1: out for the things that irritate and annoy and embarrass 495 00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: and frustrate, and then I just stopped doing them. And 496 00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,240 Speaker 1: that's how it works. Well. You know, it's funny because 497 00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,480 Speaker 1: we were just having this conversation trying queer, I'm trying, 498 00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:02,440 Speaker 1: and he's just like, there's He's like, I just feel 499 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 1: like there's always something you got to say that I'm 500 00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:07,160 Speaker 1: you know, not doing right or doing wrong, and you know, 501 00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:11,040 Speaker 1: and he's like, and I'm kind of like, we'll just 502 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:16,880 Speaker 1: don't do him how you say it, and I'm sure 503 00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:21,520 Speaker 1: you're kind, you know, I mean, nobody likes Husbands are 504 00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:24,520 Speaker 1: used to hearing things put a certain way that they 505 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:29,160 Speaker 1: can adapt to, Like your stupid idiot, no like that 506 00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:31,520 Speaker 1: you really want to hear it that way so that 507 00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:35,800 Speaker 1: you can know. I think you said early on, which 508 00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:38,400 Speaker 1: I think is really golden, and we've said it to Lily, 509 00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:41,480 Speaker 1: our daughters, and I can't remember exactly. Always I Butcher. 510 00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:44,400 Speaker 1: You say it so well, but it's basically, if if 511 00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 1: you if I've hurt your feelings, what is it? What's it? 512 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:52,560 Speaker 1: You can't blame a blind man for stepping on your toes. 513 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:54,600 Speaker 1: I mean, once he's there and you'll let him know, 514 00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:56,360 Speaker 1: and if he doesn't get off, you can start to 515 00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,360 Speaker 1: blame him. But you know, when you when I mean 516 00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:01,800 Speaker 1: all our years of marriage, I mean we could be 517 00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:05,480 Speaker 1: out with friends, or can be a look across the room, 518 00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,240 Speaker 1: you know, and if it makes you feel something, you know, 519 00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,760 Speaker 1: bring it up later and just you know, say, hey, 520 00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,240 Speaker 1: you know you looked at me that way. You know 521 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:15,320 Speaker 1: I felt like, you know, it was kind of I 522 00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:17,760 Speaker 1: was stepping in something and you know you gave me 523 00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:21,080 Speaker 1: that look and just like, oh no, I was just 524 00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,680 Speaker 1: trying to hold in a burb you know, or whatever. 525 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: It could be anything. It doesn't if you if you 526 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:30,200 Speaker 1: assume the best, then you give your maid a chance 527 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:33,240 Speaker 1: to explain what was really going on. If you assume 528 00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:36,719 Speaker 1: the worst, then you can live with that sort of resentment. 529 00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:39,680 Speaker 1: And Roy Rogers, when he found out we were getting married, 530 00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:42,360 Speaker 1: said I'll give you one piece of advice. Don't ever 531 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:46,760 Speaker 1: go to bed angry and I've read you know, psychology books, 532 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:50,760 Speaker 1: and and one of them they said the same thing 533 00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:53,720 Speaker 1: in a very complicated way, which was, if you have 534 00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:57,280 Speaker 1: marks of drop some mercury on a table, that this 535 00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:01,120 Speaker 1: is one emotion, one event, right, and then a day later, 536 00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,800 Speaker 1: there's another drop that comes along, and then another one 537 00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,360 Speaker 1: a day later, a week later, another one, and and 538 00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:10,120 Speaker 1: mercury joins together into a single blob. So you can't 539 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,920 Speaker 1: separate it out days later and identify that one thing. 540 00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,240 Speaker 1: So you have to keep clearing it off the table 541 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,040 Speaker 1: as you go. And if you do that, then you 542 00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:22,880 Speaker 1: will grow together and you'll you'll start to realize, you 543 00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:26,480 Speaker 1: know it really uh, you know irritates me when she 544 00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:30,160 Speaker 1: burns the chicken. She knows that now she won't do 545 00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 1: that anymore. Now there there there are things that we're 546 00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,400 Speaker 1: going to do that are going to irritate each other. You. 547 00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:39,000 Speaker 1: I don't care if your brother and sister, if you 548 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:43,800 Speaker 1: have a business partnership, or you're a married couple, um whatever, 549 00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 1: the two people can't live together without that. You can't 550 00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:53,320 Speaker 1: because we're humans. So um, you know it's you gotta 551 00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:56,280 Speaker 1: just kind of as you go say you know, hey, 552 00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:59,160 Speaker 1: when you did that, that kind of made me feel bad. Okay. 553 00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:02,920 Speaker 1: I like what you said about assuming assuming the best 554 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,560 Speaker 1: instead of assuming the worst. And I think both of 555 00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:10,080 Speaker 1: us are guilty at times, at more of the of 556 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,400 Speaker 1: the ladder of assuming the worst, of just making up 557 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 1: that the worst case scenario. They're thinking this or they're 558 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,720 Speaker 1: thinking that, or when probably more times than not, it's 559 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 1: not the case her heart and she knows your heart, right, 560 00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:25,000 Speaker 1: I will say to him, I know who you are. 561 00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:27,480 Speaker 1: I know you didn't mean that, but it sounded kind 562 00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 1: of I know you're not stupid, you just act that way. 563 00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 1: You're sure you do know each other's hearts. You know 564 00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,280 Speaker 1: what's in your heart, deep in your heart. You know 565 00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,680 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, and it's okay to say. Look, 566 00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:42,680 Speaker 1: I know who you are, I love you, and I 567 00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:44,920 Speaker 1: know what your heart. I know you and I know 568 00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:46,560 Speaker 1: you didn't mean it that way, but it sounded a 569 00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,560 Speaker 1: little funny when and it kind of hurt my feelings, 570 00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:50,960 Speaker 1: you know, And that's when you run out there and 571 00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,360 Speaker 1: I work really really hard at coming up with and 572 00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:58,880 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm sorry. You have a therapy session. I 573 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 1: know how do hum street you for this therapy? A 574 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:08,280 Speaker 1: lot A lot relationship or heart though, you know, and 575 00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:12,640 Speaker 1: after thirty years, you know, we you know, and we've 576 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:16,000 Speaker 1: had friends who you know, it didn't work out, and 577 00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:20,920 Speaker 1: you know, there's never really anything you can do. Um, 578 00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:23,320 Speaker 1: you know, it's it's just a it's just a really 579 00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:28,040 Speaker 1: you have to work really hard growing together and not 580 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,720 Speaker 1: a part. That's it. And what do you and you 581 00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,440 Speaker 1: think that to to not have that happen is to 582 00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:36,280 Speaker 1: just communicate and do all the things to to over 583 00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:40,520 Speaker 1: communicate and express your feelings. Yeah, here comes out over 584 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:44,400 Speaker 1: communication we're talking about Michael. Yeah, no, I mean I 585 00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 1: think again it really boils down to you know, each 586 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,440 Speaker 1: other's hearts. That's really it's really that simple. You have 587 00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:53,320 Speaker 1: to even you have to assume. You have to assume 588 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:57,040 Speaker 1: the best. We're both trying for the same thing and 589 00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:59,760 Speaker 1: we're both going to fail at times and fall short. 590 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:03,560 Speaker 1: Well where what what area, Clint? Could you could you do? 591 00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:07,760 Speaker 1: Be a better husband? There's nothing nothing I can do? 592 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:13,839 Speaker 1: Oh boy, when you can't, I think every one of us, 593 00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:18,200 Speaker 1: you know, Um, you know I zone out sometimes I 594 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:22,359 Speaker 1: don't ask enough questions. Um, you know it's a male 595 00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:27,799 Speaker 1: female that's yeah, mature where we're just really not that 596 00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:30,799 Speaker 1: interested in other people you want to get off the phone, 597 00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:34,960 Speaker 1: and she'll say, well, what's happening with with your you know, brother, 598 00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:39,480 Speaker 1: whoever you're talking to. I'll go, uh, did you ask? 599 00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:45,440 Speaker 1: Did you ask? It sounds like our conversation pretty much 600 00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:46,920 Speaker 1: to the t. And then he gets annoyed for me 601 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,360 Speaker 1: asking the question. And I'm like, well, what is so 602 00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:53,120 Speaker 1: what I do? I said, because I'm a I now 603 00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:56,640 Speaker 1: we do things in our our therapists like, so he 604 00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:58,799 Speaker 1: would get annoyed by my question. So now I'm just like, 605 00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:01,879 Speaker 1: I'm I'm just tweeting. Are asking questions because I'm not. 606 00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,120 Speaker 1: I'm just curious. I'm genuinely just curious. I'm not testing you. 607 00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,440 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to find I'm just curious. I'm a 608 00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:10,920 Speaker 1: very curious person. I like to ask questions. I'm the 609 00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:14,319 Speaker 1: same exact way, no bs, I hander a little piece 610 00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:17,759 Speaker 1: of paper with the person's phone, and I think. I 611 00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:21,040 Speaker 1: think it's the thing. Women want to talk about it, 612 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,959 Speaker 1: work through it, understand it, to analyze it sometime, lalla, 613 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:26,000 Speaker 1: and men just want to fix it and move on, 614 00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:29,719 Speaker 1: you know. And I think that I'm gonna cry. I 615 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,839 Speaker 1: think you once you both, I'm serious. I think once 616 00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,920 Speaker 1: you both accept that. You know, I'm crying for many reasons. 617 00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:38,279 Speaker 1: I'm not crying, Okay, I feel like i want to cry, 618 00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,040 Speaker 1: but it's no, No, it's true. I mean I think 619 00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:46,200 Speaker 1: once you accept that, it makes it so much easier. 620 00:35:46,239 --> 00:35:48,080 Speaker 1: I think that's the emotion that's coming over me now. 621 00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:50,920 Speaker 1: Once you accept that that's who, and that's a beautiful thing. 622 00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:53,120 Speaker 1: That's a great thing because you're gonna need her to 623 00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:56,720 Speaker 1: ask those questions about something many times in your life 624 00:35:56,760 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 1: and he's and you're gonna need him vice for for 625 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,319 Speaker 1: us to go. Okay, she'll say things, call me or 626 00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 1: call one of your girlfriends, right, and you're going, it's 627 00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:09,480 Speaker 1: that's gonna you're gonna get to that place. And then 628 00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:11,160 Speaker 1: you're going to do the other thing too. She'll save 629 00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,719 Speaker 1: your life by asking one day, is that do you 630 00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:15,719 Speaker 1: think you should have the gas can that close to 631 00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:21,400 Speaker 1: the fire pit? Well? No, maybe maybe not, you know, 632 00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,840 Speaker 1: but the the other thing, you know that that you know, 633 00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:28,680 Speaker 1: we know we know ourselves now, you know, and uh 634 00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:33,480 Speaker 1: uh And so you know, if she starts with a 635 00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,560 Speaker 1: bunch of questions, you know I can I can just 636 00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,080 Speaker 1: tell her I'm really tired, test me, and we can 637 00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,239 Speaker 1: laugh about it and I go away and we have to. 638 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,279 Speaker 1: You can't ask me now, you know, And so we 639 00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:45,360 Speaker 1: make light of it, and uh, you know our daughter 640 00:36:45,480 --> 00:36:48,839 Speaker 1: when you know, we'd be lecturing her and she'd just 641 00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,080 Speaker 1: be up. And I finally as said, you know, we 642 00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,920 Speaker 1: do this because we love you. You're welcome. So now 643 00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:56,400 Speaker 1: all I have to say is you're welcome. And it 644 00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:59,919 Speaker 1: turns her. She relates it back to the whole point 645 00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:03,359 Speaker 1: of it, you know. So it's uh, it's it's it's 646 00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:08,160 Speaker 1: something that we all deal with and and it's and 647 00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:12,319 Speaker 1: it's sort of accepting that it's going to happen and 648 00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:15,160 Speaker 1: that it uh and that you have to you have 649 00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:17,480 Speaker 1: to work it out. It's great to hear. You know. 650 00:37:17,560 --> 00:37:20,200 Speaker 1: You guys have a therapist. We have a an old 651 00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:22,600 Speaker 1: friend who's just a really wise guy when it comes 652 00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,719 Speaker 1: to parenting, and we can call him up and uh, 653 00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:28,480 Speaker 1: he's like a therapist and you just you know, say, hey, 654 00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,759 Speaker 1: what you go. When my kids were thirteen, they were 655 00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:34,319 Speaker 1: really selfish. Yours is too, That's it, you know, and 656 00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:38,560 Speaker 1: so you kind of get a different perspective. I love 657 00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:40,640 Speaker 1: it well, clintonly, So we know you have a full 658 00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:42,960 Speaker 1: day of stuff to do. We really appreciate it. We 659 00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:44,760 Speaker 1: can probably cancel it. There are a couple of therapy 660 00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:51,799 Speaker 1: session tomorrow. I'm just I'm just gonna keep thinking. When 661 00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 1: Clint was like, man, we just don't like other people 662 00:37:53,680 --> 00:38:02,080 Speaker 1: all that much. He enjoy yourselves. I always enjoyed myself 663 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:08,200 Speaker 1: the other people. That's right. Five years, five years, good 664 00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:12,360 Speaker 1: for you, five years to kids and just a happy 665 00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:21,799 Speaker 1: love story. That's right. Two kids, yeah, um, five and two. Come. 666 00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:25,440 Speaker 1: You know what the secret is right to staying married? 667 00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:32,320 Speaker 1: Don't get divorced. That's it, as simple as that, honey, 668 00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:36,480 Speaker 1: because you make it so easy. We got this, We 669 00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:40,480 Speaker 1: got this. We have this song for you, guys. Some 670 00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:42,879 Speaker 1: new duet I wrote for us. I don't I've done 671 00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,000 Speaker 1: so many interviews. I don't know if I mentioned it earlier. 672 00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:47,759 Speaker 1: So I wrote a new duet because we had so 673 00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:51,400 Speaker 1: much fun on the masks and uh, and it starts 674 00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:55,960 Speaker 1: off with I can tell you how the story never ends. 675 00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:01,240 Speaker 1: When is it coming out? It's a it's available for 676 00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:06,439 Speaker 1: saving uh now, but it starts streaming on December three, 677 00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:08,920 Speaker 1: and on the second we're doing a live concert at 678 00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:13,520 Speaker 1: the Rieman streaming and uh, we'll do our new duet there. 679 00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:17,080 Speaker 1: It's go to Clint Black dot com. You get the 680 00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:21,080 Speaker 1: against You Knives with it and uh and then so 681 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:24,960 Speaker 1: that'll that'll be our shows there on December two, but 682 00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:26,880 Speaker 1: you can go ahead and start getting there are some 683 00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:29,279 Speaker 1: in person tickets. But you know how that's working, right, 684 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:32,040 Speaker 1: I love it. Well, we'll see you there. Thank you everyone. 685 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,239 Speaker 1: Go to Clint Black dot com and get the new 686 00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:37,160 Speaker 1: song duet. Love you guys so much. Thank you, and 687 00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:57,200 Speaker 1: let's let's hang soon. Appreciate it alright, alright bye, Clint 688 00:39:57,239 --> 00:40:09,880 Speaker 1: Black a better man. Ah, it's just too good. I 689 00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,919 Speaker 1: would have told, like my high school self, I would 690 00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:16,680 Speaker 1: be interviewing Pin Black wife, like come on, just yucking 691 00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:25,920 Speaker 1: it up, like let's have let's have coffee. They're definitely 692 00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:28,719 Speaker 1: ones that I would hang out with. Yeah. Yeah, and 693 00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:30,440 Speaker 1: like you said, like I would love to just sit 694 00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:32,359 Speaker 1: and have a coffee with Clint and just have them 695 00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,640 Speaker 1: tell me stories. Yeah, and saying his wife me and 696 00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:42,719 Speaker 1: Lisa can just like ask each other questions. You two 697 00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,279 Speaker 1: can be in one room just chirping away. Clinton. I 698 00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:47,040 Speaker 1: will be in the other room just not saying a word, 699 00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:50,600 Speaker 1: talking about yourselves. Another I'm great, are you? I'm great? 700 00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:52,400 Speaker 1: All right? I don't like other people to me either. 701 00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:58,680 Speaker 1: That was hilarious to me. Hey, do we have any emails? 702 00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:01,600 Speaker 1: All right? This is from Sydney. My husband and I 703 00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:03,840 Speaker 1: got married in June. We've been together for a little 704 00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,520 Speaker 1: over three years. He has a best friend who's a woman, 705 00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,560 Speaker 1: and it's always been a little weird to me, but 706 00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:10,680 Speaker 1: I've just dealt with it. I don't usually go through 707 00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:12,480 Speaker 1: his phone, but I did the other day because it 708 00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:15,320 Speaker 1: just happened to be right there. Her grandma passed away 709 00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:17,880 Speaker 1: and he was saying his condolences. He said he's there 710 00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:20,719 Speaker 1: for that, he loves her, and he continued to check 711 00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:23,120 Speaker 1: up on her over the next few days. She's married, 712 00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,080 Speaker 1: and I don't think there's anything to be worried about. 713 00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:27,000 Speaker 1: But isn't that her husband's job to be there for 714 00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,520 Speaker 1: I talked with my husband about boundaries and asked if 715 00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:32,800 Speaker 1: he could just include me in the conversations going forward 716 00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,520 Speaker 1: and no private messaging. He didn't give me a direct answer, 717 00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:37,360 Speaker 1: but said he's going to need to tell her everything 718 00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:39,479 Speaker 1: that happened now so she doesn't think he's an a hole. 719 00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:42,879 Speaker 1: To me, that validates that he puts her feelings before mine. 720 00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:45,319 Speaker 1: Is that how you see it or am I being insensitive? 721 00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:51,000 Speaker 1: This is an interesting question, but no, I don't think 722 00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:57,920 Speaker 1: what she's asking is insensitive. I think it's appropriate just 723 00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:02,839 Speaker 1: to be included in those messages. And I think if 724 00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:07,799 Speaker 1: he you know, ultimately what matters are her feelings over 725 00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:10,640 Speaker 1: his friends. But that doesn't mean he has to undermine 726 00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:16,040 Speaker 1: his friends feelings and just text her and be like, hey, 727 00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:22,560 Speaker 1: I mean, but that's hard too, because if he texts 728 00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:26,160 Speaker 1: his friend and says, hey, just you know, for my 729 00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:28,400 Speaker 1: wife for sending me to feel more comfortable, I'm just 730 00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:31,560 Speaker 1: gonna include the three of us in a group chat. 731 00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:35,920 Speaker 1: And then would would would Sydney feel weird that he 732 00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:39,120 Speaker 1: said that to her? Would the friend feel awkward? Because 733 00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:46,239 Speaker 1: because now it's like this thing, because it's mentioned. Now 734 00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:49,960 Speaker 1: it's a thing, you know what I mean, Like turning 735 00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:56,200 Speaker 1: something nothing into something that's a hard one. The best 736 00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:59,720 Speaker 1: friend things tough, especially with the opposite sex, just because 737 00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:05,480 Speaker 1: you have to protect your other spouse. But you have 738 00:43:05,520 --> 00:43:09,080 Speaker 1: to protect your spouse, but you still have that friendship. 739 00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:14,000 Speaker 1: But if it's of the opposite sex, you can definitely 740 00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:16,839 Speaker 1: get jealous about that. If you're now I think if 741 00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:21,120 Speaker 1: it's you know, his grandma passing away, and you've always 742 00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:25,600 Speaker 1: been fine with it before, then I think there isn't 743 00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:29,120 Speaker 1: anything fishy m So if it's if it's just kind 744 00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:30,960 Speaker 1: of out of the blue and he continues to text her, 745 00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:32,600 Speaker 1: then I you know, I think a few more check 746 00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:34,480 Speaker 1: ins like hey, you good, like I know Mike would 747 00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,399 Speaker 1: do the same if he if you know, if any 748 00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:41,000 Speaker 1: of our friends people passed away, like checking on you, 749 00:43:41,080 --> 00:43:44,560 Speaker 1: making sure you're good. But beyond that kind of communication, 750 00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:49,080 Speaker 1: I don't you know, if it becomes more intense, then 751 00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:51,600 Speaker 1: I would have stronger feelings about it. But because it 752 00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:55,120 Speaker 1: was the best friend before, you know, it is hit 753 00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:58,000 Speaker 1: her grandma. But I can totally see you being like, hey, 754 00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:00,000 Speaker 1: can I just see the messages so I feel more comfortable? 755 00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:04,520 Speaker 1: I think that'd be fine to ask. Yeah, I would, 756 00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:08,920 Speaker 1: and it is her husband's job to console. But I 757 00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:15,520 Speaker 1: think a lot of people find comfort and friends too. 758 00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:19,960 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but if it bothers you, I would just 759 00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:21,920 Speaker 1: be like, hey, for some reason, this is coming up 760 00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:23,920 Speaker 1: for me and I'm starting to get like jealous and 761 00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:27,080 Speaker 1: feels a little weird. So do you mind if I 762 00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:30,759 Speaker 1: just look at your phone or see the messages? And 763 00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:35,439 Speaker 1: I think that's a better compromise. Than being included. Yeah, 764 00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:38,000 Speaker 1: I don't like the included thing just feels that rubs 765 00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,400 Speaker 1: me weird, That's what I'm saying. That is uncomfortable. Then 766 00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:43,399 Speaker 1: you're taking nothing and turning it into something. I don't 767 00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,680 Speaker 1: like that because then the friend feel awkward around Sydney 768 00:44:46,719 --> 00:44:48,840 Speaker 1: and her husband, and then it's just like this, there's 769 00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:50,839 Speaker 1: this tension in the year that. But you would think 770 00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:53,640 Speaker 1: that they would be like friends though all of them, right, 771 00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:57,360 Speaker 1: that's what they probably are. Maybe not like super close. 772 00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:00,279 Speaker 1: Maybe they're geographically they live in different areas, but east 773 00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:02,960 Speaker 1: and what we're gonna say, what what about this? Though? Uh? 774 00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:07,760 Speaker 1: What if like the wife or Sydney starts the group 775 00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:12,319 Speaker 1: text between the three and says, like, you know, so 776 00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:14,960 Speaker 1: and so told me about your loss. I'm so sorry 777 00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:17,000 Speaker 1: to hear that, Like you know, we're here for you 778 00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:19,719 Speaker 1: if you need anything, and like starts that message that way, 779 00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:22,000 Speaker 1: not by like announcing like by the way, I'm gonna 780 00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:25,279 Speaker 1: be monitoring, you know, because I was thinking, like my 781 00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:27,520 Speaker 1: wife and I we have group text with almost all 782 00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:30,400 Speaker 1: of our friends just because so we're not doubling up 783 00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:32,520 Speaker 1: on sending the same like dumb picture to you know, 784 00:45:33,239 --> 00:45:36,480 Speaker 1: so the way, Yeah, and and you know, and it does. 785 00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:38,640 Speaker 1: It's not like neither of us have anything to hide 786 00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:40,799 Speaker 1: or anything, but it does make it just easy to 787 00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:44,840 Speaker 1: see the information that's being exchanged. Uh. And you know, 788 00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:46,719 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that like they need to be like 789 00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:49,120 Speaker 1: the three of them need to be the best their friends, 790 00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:52,160 Speaker 1: but I think that might open up that idea of 791 00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:55,200 Speaker 1: having like access to everything without it being this big 792 00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:58,799 Speaker 1: announcement like that there's trust being broken or something like that. 793 00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:02,120 Speaker 1: So I don't know's I love that and it kind 794 00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:04,960 Speaker 1: of makes her feel included in it too, while also 795 00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:08,759 Speaker 1: offering her condolences, I'm sure, And so yeah, I love that. 796 00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:12,160 Speaker 1: And if he's weird about that, then I would be like, 797 00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:17,880 Speaker 1: so that's a great idea. The only obstacle I foresee 798 00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:21,280 Speaker 1: is Okay, that's great. But then maybe the best friend, 799 00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:25,520 Speaker 1: just after this passes, goes back to texting just him 800 00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:28,720 Speaker 1: because they're they're best friends, And so is it then 801 00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:32,920 Speaker 1: is it Sydney's Husband's responsibility to be like, hey, text 802 00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:34,960 Speaker 1: me and the chat, because then you're dealt with the 803 00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:38,359 Speaker 1: same obstacle, you know what I mean? So, now if 804 00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:40,480 Speaker 1: the if the best friend continues to text in the 805 00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:43,520 Speaker 1: chain with with Sydney and the husband, then then that's great. 806 00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:47,279 Speaker 1: But there is that obstacle where if she doesn't, and 807 00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,200 Speaker 1: I will say if I was the best friend's husband, 808 00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:55,920 Speaker 1: like if you if you were going to a male friend, 809 00:46:56,000 --> 00:47:00,520 Speaker 1: like you have more male friends female friends, like any 810 00:47:00,560 --> 00:47:03,800 Speaker 1: of my female friends are your friends. So if you 811 00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:08,040 Speaker 1: went to a male friend of yours and you were 812 00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:12,160 Speaker 1: confiding in him about things that you haven't confided in me, 813 00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:16,520 Speaker 1: I'll be upset. Yeah, you know, and I would be 814 00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:19,319 Speaker 1: too if you do the same right now, it's it's 815 00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:25,480 Speaker 1: if you're doing it also, that's fine, But if you're 816 00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:31,520 Speaker 1: saying things that you haven't told me, then yeah, tricky one. 817 00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:36,000 Speaker 1: So I hope, I hope that helps Sydney. All right, 818 00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:38,560 Speaker 1: that was an awesome show and great email to end 819 00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:41,120 Speaker 1: it with. So, uh, why don't you give someone a 820 00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:44,680 Speaker 1: nice little love tapping a little note. That's our challenge 821 00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:47,040 Speaker 1: for the week. Love tap somebody on the butt and 822 00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:50,359 Speaker 1: leave him a note. All right, see you next week.