Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your go Cheeky's and you've reached the
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Speaker 2: Hey Cheeky's.
Speaker 3: So, I need some advice on how to stop talking
Speaker 3: myself out of doing things, because I could talk myself
Speaker 3: out of doing almost anything I don't want to do,
Speaker 3: and that stops me from creating opportunities for myself. And
Speaker 3: I understand that now, but I just don't know how
Speaker 3: to get over that anxiety or that nervousness that you
Speaker 3: get when you know you want to speak up or
Speaker 3: you want to talk to someone, just because like, I
Speaker 3: just don't know where to start, and I figured i'd
Speaker 3: ask you, so any advice will be hopeful. Thank you, I.
Speaker 1: So, lex I first of all want you to know
Speaker 1: that you feeling nervous or any type of like butterflies
Speaker 1: or all that is is fine. I think I like
Speaker 1: feeling those feelings because I like to feel. I like
Speaker 1: to feel things, and it makes me when I feel
Speaker 1: those butterflies or I feel nervous to even still go
Speaker 1: on stage. I feel like, Oh, it's because I'm passionate,
Speaker 1: because I care. So just know that it's because of that.
Speaker 1: And I think maybe what stops you is you think
Speaker 1: of what is the other person going to think of me?
Speaker 1: Or am I capable to do this one thing? Those
Speaker 1: are all human ex experiences. That is all normal. We
Speaker 1: all go through it. But it is absolutely normal. So
Speaker 1: just know that. And I think the first step is
Speaker 1: literally just doing it. The more you do it, the
Speaker 1: better you'll feel. Of course, the first I want to say,
Speaker 1: the first year two years of my career as a singer,
Speaker 1: every time I got on stage, I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't want to do this, I'm not going to
Speaker 1: get on and I would just like, okay, fine, I'm
Speaker 1: going to do it. Fit even if people don't like
Speaker 1: the way I sound. I have to tune those people
Speaker 1: out and just do it. And the more I did it,
Speaker 1: and the more I did it, the better I felt
Speaker 1: and I got better at it. And it's just literally
Speaker 1: taking that leap of faith and doing it, facing fear
Speaker 1: in the face and saying I'm going to do this.
Speaker 1: I'm going to conquer this. And the more you do it,
Speaker 1: and the first time that you do it, whatever it
Speaker 1: may be, either like you said, talking to someone, approaching someone,
Speaker 1: or saying hello to a stranger, or starting a new job,
Speaker 1: whatever it may be, it's just literally just telling yourself
Speaker 1: I could do this. I'm going to take this leep
Speaker 1: of I'm going to look at fear in the eyes
Speaker 1: because it's not going to conquer I can do this.
Speaker 1: It will not defeat me. So I know it sounds
Speaker 1: maybe a little silly, but the more you practice it,
Speaker 1: the better it'll get. And just take deep breaths three
Speaker 1: DP breaths. It really relaxes you and you just do it.
Speaker 1: And again, the more you do it, the better it
Speaker 1: will be. Practice makes perfect. That is my advice and
Speaker 1: I hope it helps and I hope that made sense.
Speaker 1: But yeah, Alex, thank you for your question. I appreciate
Speaker 1: you Okay, So our next question comes from Ari.
Speaker 2: I Cheekyes, So my question for you is, when you
Speaker 2: were my age, which is twenty two, what did you
Speaker 2: do for fun? Like I did the math and you
Speaker 2: were twenty two and like two thousand and seven and eight,
Speaker 2: So like, what did you do for fun? What where
Speaker 2: did you go? Like what music did you listen to?
Speaker 2: Like what was like a day in your life? I'm
Speaker 2: asking because I'm just so obsessed with the early two thousands.
Speaker 2: It just seemed like such a fun time to be
Speaker 2: twenty two. That's my question. Like, I hope you have
Speaker 2: a good day though, and stay blessed. Ari.
Speaker 1: You are a vibe. You are a vibe. I love
Speaker 1: your question. You guys. See, this is what dear Chee
Speaker 1: is all about. Like, I get so many different questions.
Speaker 1: I love this, not Ari putting my age on blast.
Speaker 1: But it's all good. We love you, just kidding. I'm
Speaker 1: I feel very comfortable with my age now. But okay, Ari,
Speaker 1: twenty two, Okay, it's been a little bit, a little
Speaker 1: bit okay, So yes, twenty two thousand and six, two
Speaker 1: thousand and seven, amazing, it was I feel like very different. Obviously,
Speaker 1: my mom was here, so many like amazing things. I
Speaker 1: listened to like so much. R and B so much.
Speaker 1: No doubt, No, No doubt was on my playlist. Destiny's
Speaker 1: Child was on my playlist. Oh my gosh, justin Timberlake
Speaker 1: probably was in sync at that time. But music, I
Speaker 1: feel like, Oh my gosh. Yes, the thousands were amazing.
Speaker 1: Whe early two thousands, guys. So what I was doing
Speaker 1: for fun during that time was I was very involved
Speaker 1: with my siblings, very involved with taking care of them
Speaker 1: and taking care of my mother's businesses. I was doing
Speaker 1: Esthetician school as well. During that time, I would go
Speaker 1: to boxing. That's when I fell in love with boxing.
Speaker 1: Like it was ugh, it was, it was awesome. I
Speaker 1: just felt like I could let out a lot of
Speaker 1: tension and I would take Johnny and my little brother
Speaker 1: with me to go boxing. We lived in Corona during
Speaker 1: that time, so it was just it was cute. I
Speaker 1: had a little buggy. It was convertible. It was convertible.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh she just made me reminisce. I
Speaker 1: love it down. I was twenty two, geez, Yeah, what
Speaker 1: else was I doing? I think that's also when I
Speaker 1: kind of started tapping into my spirituality as well. In
Speaker 1: two thousand and six, two thousand and seven, where I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, I kind of like, you know, like
Speaker 1: this like yoga stuff and what is this? You know,
Speaker 1: it's very new, and I was kind of shy because
Speaker 1: it was like I was like, Okay, I don't know
Speaker 1: if it's a cool thing because it wasn't cool yet.
Speaker 1: So that's kind of like when I started like looking
Speaker 1: into like spirituality and things like that and stepping out
Speaker 1: of like my religion a little bit. And yeah, I
Speaker 1: just grew from there. But yeah, I mean that's all
Speaker 1: I can really think about right now, to be honest.
Speaker 1: But that's a really good question, Mari. I appreciate that.
Speaker 1: That's really really cute. Live your life, girl. You can
Speaker 1: live in the two thousand, early thousands if you want.
Speaker 1: It's all in your mind, it's all in your heart.
Speaker 1: You do it.
Speaker 4: I love that for you.
Speaker 1: Okay, guys, last question comes from Melissa Hi.
Speaker 4: They are beautiful. I'm not even sure how to work
Speaker 4: this question, but from Northeast Ohio. I guess my question
Speaker 4: is how do you separate your professional life from your
Speaker 4: personal life? Because I imagine with as busy as you are
Speaker 4: an entrepreneur, singer, and all the things that you do.
Speaker 4: But I just wonder, how do you separate it so
Speaker 4: that you can still remain simply Jnay.
Speaker 1: Melissa, I like it, okay, Well, it's an everyday thing. Okay.
Speaker 1: Some days it's easier, some days it's harder. I do
Speaker 1: my best to at least have one day off during
Speaker 1: the week, like one at least where I could just
Speaker 1: do whatever it is that I want. Sometimes I just
Speaker 1: choose to lay in bed. Sometimes I choose to just
Speaker 1: hang out with my husband and go down to Santa
Speaker 1: Monica and do all the things, visit his family, the
Speaker 1: things that make me happy, or hang out with my siblings.
Speaker 1: It is so important and essential for me to have
Speaker 1: one day of rest, to be connected to my home.
Speaker 1: That's one thing that kind of like helps me a lot.
Speaker 1: I think it's more than anything being intentional, intentional in
Speaker 1: making that space and making the time to obviously make
Speaker 1: time for my career, because my career is my livelihood.
Speaker 1: It's what like pays the bills, but also Janee, my heart,
Speaker 1: my spirituality, all of that plays a huge part in it,
Speaker 1: because if Jane's not okay, then I can't tend to
Speaker 1: Cheeky's you know, so definitely, it's really being intentional. I
Speaker 1: do a lot I do, and I think that in
Speaker 1: some ways I have spread myself too thin. But now
Speaker 1: I know that, and now I'm going to pick and
Speaker 1: choose and be better with that because I still love
Speaker 1: doing everything that I do. I just really have to
Speaker 1: get my priorities straight and yeah, and make more time
Speaker 1: for my personal life the things that make me happy.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm still working at it. I'm still working
Speaker 1: at it. So it's something I think because life changes
Speaker 1: so much, going to change and I'm going to change,
Speaker 1: so so yeah, Okay, guys, that's the end of this episode.
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