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Speaker 1: whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember

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Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering

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Speaker 2: Hey Cheeky's.

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Speaker 3: So, I need some advice on how to stop talking

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Speaker 3: myself out of doing things, because I could talk myself

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Speaker 3: and that stops me from creating opportunities for myself. And

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Speaker 3: I understand that now, but I just don't know how

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Speaker 3: to get over that anxiety or that nervousness that you

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Speaker 3: get when you know you want to speak up or

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Speaker 3: you want to talk to someone, just because like, I

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Speaker 3: ask you, so any advice will be hopeful. Thank you, I.

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Speaker 1: So, lex I first of all want you to know

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Speaker 1: that you feeling nervous or any type of like butterflies

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Speaker 1: or all that is is fine. I think I like

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Speaker 1: because I care. So just know that it's because of that.

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Speaker 1: And I think maybe what stops you is you think

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Speaker 1: Or am I capable to do this one thing? Those

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Speaker 1: the first year two years of my career as a singer,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to conquer this. And the more you do it,

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Speaker 1: and the first time that you do it, whatever it

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Speaker 1: may be, either like you said, talking to someone, approaching someone,

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Speaker 1: because it's not going to conquer I can do this.

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Speaker 1: It will not defeat me. So I know it sounds

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Speaker 1: But yeah, Alex, thank you for your question. I appreciate

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Speaker 2: I Cheekyes, So my question for you is, when you

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Speaker 2: asking because I'm just so obsessed with the early two thousands.

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Speaker 1: You are a vibe. You are a vibe. I love

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Speaker 1: your question. You guys. See, this is what dear Chee

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Speaker 1: Esthetician school as well. During that time, I would go

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Speaker 1: But that's a really good question, Mari. I appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: It's all in your mind, it's all in your heart.

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Speaker 1: Melissa, I like it, okay, Well, it's an everyday thing. Okay.

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Speaker 1: Some days it's easier, some days it's harder. I do

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Speaker 1: It is so important and essential for me to have

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Speaker 1: That's one thing that kind of like helps me a lot.

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Speaker 1: I think it's more than anything being intentional, intentional in

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Speaker 1: It's what like pays the bills, but also Janee, my heart,

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Speaker 1: Cheeky's you know, so definitely, it's really being intentional. I

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm still working at it. I'm still working

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Speaker 1: so much, going to change and I'm going to change,

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Speaker 1: so so yeah, Okay, guys, that's the end of this episode.

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