WEBVTT - Knowing the 'Point of it All' (w/ Anthony Hamilton)

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, or whatever you may be.

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<v Speaker 1>You are tuned in to the Vitamin Day podcast and

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<v Speaker 1>I am, of course to your host, Dawn Day. Here

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<v Speaker 1>to um the guys. You want a journey to knowing yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>to living your best life, to living life on purpose

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<v Speaker 1>and for a purpose. Now, today I've been thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>what it means to be in the world, Like what

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<v Speaker 1>do we bring when we walk exists live amongst others?

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<v Speaker 1>Do we bring joy? Do we bring peace? Do we

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<v Speaker 1>bring kindness? Do we bring mercy? Or do we bring doubt?

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<v Speaker 1>Do we bring confusion? Do we bring negativity? Or perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>maybe we bring something in between those two spectrums. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, but it is something that we must ask ourselves. See,

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<v Speaker 1>I asked these questions to help clarifying for myself what

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<v Speaker 1>I bring into the world each and every day. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>some of you may know that I have life tattooed

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<v Speaker 1>in my mouth and it serves as a reminder of

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<v Speaker 1>the very essence of my being, and that is that

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<v Speaker 1>my name is Dawn Day and I speak life. That's

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<v Speaker 1>what I do. But also every day I know that

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<v Speaker 1>I have to make a choice in how I choose

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<v Speaker 1>to show up in the world. I have to choose

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<v Speaker 1>to be positive. I have to choose to be optimistic.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to choose to be kind, I have to

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<v Speaker 1>choose to show mercy. I have to choose to live

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<v Speaker 1>my best life on purpose and for a purpose. And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't saying like it's going to be easy, but

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes down to it, we have to realize

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<v Speaker 1>that we have the power to create the lives that

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<v Speaker 1>we want. We have the power to create the environment

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<v Speaker 1>that we choose to exist in. We have the power

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<v Speaker 1>to show up, to exist, to be to floors, to ignite,

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<v Speaker 1>to edify in our best self. But we can only

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<v Speaker 1>do that when we choose to show up to live

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<v Speaker 1>our best life. Okay, I know that was a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>but I say all this to say because I'm so

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<v Speaker 1>excited about who's coming on this episode right now. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking none other than Grammy Award winning recording artist, singer, songwriter,

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<v Speaker 1>multi instrumentalist, author, actor Dad and I would even venture

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<v Speaker 1>to say poet Anthony houlds and legs and gentlemen, now listen.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a very nostalgic moment as we were going

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<v Speaker 1>through the process of booking Anthony, because it just took

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<v Speaker 1>me back to my days at Harvard University, and Anthony

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<v Speaker 1>was like that sound truck. The point of it all, Charlene,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just the big bones. Oh my gosh. So you

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<v Speaker 1>can imagine this moment. But I also say all this

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<v Speaker 1>because so I sat down to talk with Anthony about

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<v Speaker 1>his latest single, Mercy, what it means to be a man,

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<v Speaker 1>how to paint a picture with music, and of course

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<v Speaker 1>what it means to have and to show mercy and

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<v Speaker 1>all lives. So, without further ado, it's time for your

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<v Speaker 1>dose of vitamin D. Get right with me and get excited. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>Black King, how are you en? I'm doing well. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing well that I'm speaking to you. I appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 1>I like the love. I like that. Stop. No, it's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing but a reciprocal thing, because um, you were kind

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<v Speaker 1>of the soundtrack to my year in college. Okay, how university?

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<v Speaker 1>So this is a turn back and you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm so did I say I'm so. I'm so

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<v Speaker 1>excited to dive in to talk about this track, Mercy

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<v Speaker 1>that're releasing to give a glimpse over your catalog. But

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<v Speaker 1>more important, ess to Hamilson, We're going to dive into

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<v Speaker 1>the inspiration um behind this music, because I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>the soundtrack that I think carries your voice. You hearing me.

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate it. I appreciate it, and I have to

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<v Speaker 1>definitely thank Page for linking us up. And I'm so excited.

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<v Speaker 1>So um, you're doing all right? I am. I'm good.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in Atlanta in the studio with Jamain de Free

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<v Speaker 1>and uh every Bellinger came through today. Yeah, so we're

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<v Speaker 1>here going ham. I saw your I G. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>saw your I G. And I was sitting there. You

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<v Speaker 1>didn't tell me what you didn't tell me? You want

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<v Speaker 1>what tell me? Anthony? Let talk about No, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what you're talking about, but let's let's talk about

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<v Speaker 1>some things that we we can't talk about. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I was sitting here, I was talking to a friend

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<v Speaker 1>and listening to your music. Uh. It reminds me of

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<v Speaker 1>a dark liquor, a drink like maybe a Colne Yang

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<v Speaker 1>or whiskey. How you talk about something now you're talking

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<v Speaker 1>about it? Now? What's your drink? My drink? I like

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<v Speaker 1>a little bob makes you do thing that the drink down? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>all like a good bourbon, a good whiskey whether the

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<v Speaker 1>American whiskey or or you know, it's something something from Afar.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's just a good drinking. It's a man's drink,

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<v Speaker 1>a good old whiskey, bourbon or something. You know, talking

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<v Speaker 1>about a bob. Oh, you saw how deep it And

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I feel like, even when we talk about

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<v Speaker 1>the drink. That's what I feel like your music does.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like that that smoky, feel good, safe, sweet, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>with my people kind of thing. Yeah, that's what it

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<v Speaker 1>should feel like. Yeah, that's what a ship feels like.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. I think, uh, you know, when you can

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<v Speaker 1>resonate with things that remind you of your yourself. The dog,

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<v Speaker 1>that dog, brown, that gravy, that that come on piece

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<v Speaker 1>of golden corn bread, come on, that silky cat but'll

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<v Speaker 1>you know, all that stuff just kind of sounds like music.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't You're making me hungry? You know? That was another

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<v Speaker 1>thing I gotta thank you. I had to come in

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<v Speaker 1>here and adifying you because it was because of Sister

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<v Speaker 1>Big Bombs. You told me I was beautiful, thank you

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<v Speaker 1>and enjoying my curves. And I think that's what I

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<v Speaker 1>love about this. And I don't know if you had

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<v Speaker 1>a glimpse to know. But vitamin D is about that

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<v Speaker 1>vitamin D. This podcast is about shedding light. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>pun off of my name, Dawn Day, Okay. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going in there and I'm diving, and as I

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<v Speaker 1>go onto the music and the lyrics, I can't help

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<v Speaker 1>but wonder even as you're starting. Now, you grew up

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<v Speaker 1>in North Carolina, North Calkilaki, as they say, yeah, Charlotte,

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<v Speaker 1>North calass shot of North What made you take a

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<v Speaker 1>chance on your dreams? I had to. It was just

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<v Speaker 1>so deep, it was living, it was starting to live

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<v Speaker 1>its own life inside. So I had to go with it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, they had to tend to it. I had

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<v Speaker 1>to make sure that I took it to the city,

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<v Speaker 1>to the big cities in New York City and allowed

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<v Speaker 1>it to grow. And uh it birth the man and

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<v Speaker 1>the music, birth some stories. So it's just it was

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<v Speaker 1>just who else supposed to be from the beginning, from

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<v Speaker 1>the womb, even before the womb, and I was putting

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<v Speaker 1>the womb, I was put in there with music. Come on,

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<v Speaker 1>and they never left. Come on, and now you're singing

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<v Speaker 1>your song, I'm saying, So I'm not lone. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted you to add that to the breaking zone, the

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<v Speaker 1>break of do yeah, uh, thank you. And so I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I talked about that a lot because people don't realize,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, what the push came through. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>this push that I'm gonna discuss is gonna lead up

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<v Speaker 1>to the single that brought you where you are right now,

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<v Speaker 1>entitled Mercy. But coming up to to New York, a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people, um don't necessary take heed to that

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<v Speaker 1>of the plight I guess of a black man and

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<v Speaker 1>and understanding that, you know, coming from a family down

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<v Speaker 1>in North Karaca Lackey, you know, a farm, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>when you really had to go out there and strive.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if people oftentimes see the adjustment and

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<v Speaker 1>the shift and understanding why some things may have seemed

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<v Speaker 1>like a ditch or a rock or a stem in

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<v Speaker 1>the way was actually a stepping stool or something to

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<v Speaker 1>propel them forward. And I guess I just wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>get some more insight as an encouragement as to why

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<v Speaker 1>that is so in your life. You know, I've been

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<v Speaker 1>I've encountered a lot, seen a lot of experienced a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>and uh, you know, I learned to take those moments

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<v Speaker 1>that seemed like ditches and branches and things that seemed

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<v Speaker 1>like it was obstruction to my view. And uh, look

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<v Speaker 1>through them there was a different color that was a

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<v Speaker 1>different shade and huge. Um, if you use those things

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll learned how to paint with it with my

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<v Speaker 1>pen and uh, you know, I use it as leverage.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't. I didn't allow it to create fear in

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<v Speaker 1>a barrier between me and where I was going, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I learned. I learned to use the things that

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<v Speaker 1>that that that were tangible and sometimes would be pain,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes it be happiness. Uh, those things started to create

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<v Speaker 1>a new fabric and uh that fabrary became music. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>and the way it's knitted up and down and all

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<v Speaker 1>the round and splashed with different colors. And like you said,

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<v Speaker 1>that painted your life. And realize in those moments that

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<v Speaker 1>can comfort, the camp for tactic can shield. It also

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<v Speaker 1>is a way there to express your personality. And so um,

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<v Speaker 1>when we're thinking about that painting the music, right, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>wondering when you got to this point and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and pawing off one of your head singles, what's the

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<v Speaker 1>point of it all? The point of it all is

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<v Speaker 1>I love you love. It's the point of it all.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the reason. That's the ingredient, that's the thing that

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<v Speaker 1>sustains you. That's that's that thing that motivates you and

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<v Speaker 1>encourage you. Um. It's the reason. It's the reason why

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<v Speaker 1>we call and make sure you got Did you get

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<v Speaker 1>home okay? Um? How was work? How you feel? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you cramping bad? Baby? Is there anything I can get you? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>You know That's what That's what it's about. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>a man does. You know, people, he tried to do that,

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<v Speaker 1>be that for that. And you know what I think

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<v Speaker 1>is so amazing is that you speak so much about

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<v Speaker 1>what it means to be a man, stepping up to

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<v Speaker 1>be a man, being a father of six sons and

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<v Speaker 1>even taking a glimpse. I was watching, um, your series

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<v Speaker 1>you did with Mr Harvey from Mentoring Mondays, and you

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<v Speaker 1>admitted to yourself that you said, wait a minute, I

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<v Speaker 1>grew up without a father, But yet you can still

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<v Speaker 1>stand boldly in your manhood and expressial emotions the way

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<v Speaker 1>you do. How is that you know you can't harbor

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<v Speaker 1>bitterness and you can't expect for someone even your father,

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<v Speaker 1>your mother, you can't expect for them to be perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't expect for them to be what your idea

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<v Speaker 1>of them should be. UM. People can only be who

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<v Speaker 1>they are UM until they change. But people are always

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much honest in their moment, you know, whether they're

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<v Speaker 1>messed up or disconnected or just not interested, that's who

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<v Speaker 1>they are at that moment. And uh, you know, me

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<v Speaker 1>and my father there now really cool. We've been cool

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<v Speaker 1>for maybe wow, maybe sixteen years. Uh soul like we

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<v Speaker 1>talked a lot. You know, I don't hold no. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't ask him why he wasn't what happened those moments.

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<v Speaker 1>I could care less as long as you he said.

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<v Speaker 1>I love him and he loves me. And you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you go from where you go from. I like to

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<v Speaker 1>go from where it's comfortable with, it's pure and it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have to go back to that place, not

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<v Speaker 1>for that, not to not to have a relationship with

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate your birth and help to birth me, and

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<v Speaker 1>uh yeah, you're gonna be my father. Just not holding grudgers,

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<v Speaker 1>learning to let love uh flower your life and uh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of people want to just hang

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<v Speaker 1>on the stuff so they could have something to do

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<v Speaker 1>or hang on have an excuse to to being a

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<v Speaker 1>mood or funk or to hold something against something it

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<v Speaker 1>find a way to love that person in spite of

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<v Speaker 1>their flaws, um, you know. And sometimes it's not easy

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<v Speaker 1>because each situation is differently, each everybody has a different story.

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<v Speaker 1>Things happen to people. People are hurt, people are physically armed,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, so they have a different attitude and

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<v Speaker 1>that's a different uh depth of a pain that sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>we don't understand. So I get it. But but to

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<v Speaker 1>the minute I can, I can choose peace. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I want a man, which is perfect to which we're

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<v Speaker 1>about to segue too, because even what you said, despite

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<v Speaker 1>that your father not being there, it sounds like you

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<v Speaker 1>granted him a bit of mercy, right, a little mercy,

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<v Speaker 1>just a little bit. Oh, And I love that because

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<v Speaker 1>it's one thing to talk about something m but it's

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<v Speaker 1>another thing to walk, to live, to truly reside in it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And to know when we understand about a backbone of

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<v Speaker 1>what a father is and to say I'm not looking

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<v Speaker 1>at what yesterday because it is the accepting and now,

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<v Speaker 1>because now is what we have the gift in which

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<v Speaker 1>we are to present it to one another. H you've

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<v Speaker 1>allowed yourself to free up to receive exactly. So let's

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<v Speaker 1>talk about this track mercy. You mentioned with your father

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<v Speaker 1>that it was about an understanding of who he is

0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:37.080
<v Speaker 1>right now. We are valuing now, but yet understanding perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>what he's gone through. Talk to me about this track

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<v Speaker 1>mercy you have mercy. Uh, it's a man who stands

0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:51.400
<v Speaker 1>vulnerable and and open, not weak by no means, but

0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:57.400
<v Speaker 1>it's vulnerable man who's got afraid to expose. Um at

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<v Speaker 1>that place where he cries, where he he yearns, and

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<v Speaker 1>he you know, and and he you know, he has

0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:11.960
<v Speaker 1>fears and certain things, um, allowing people to to see

0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:15.360
<v Speaker 1>that place. I think sometimes people look at a man

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<v Speaker 1>as as just this cement shelled. Um. But we we

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<v Speaker 1>have feelings. We we worry about things like providing for

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<v Speaker 1>our family, um, you know, protecting our kids, um, being

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<v Speaker 1>a husband, being a wife and father. These are the

0:15:33.680 --> 0:15:36.800
<v Speaker 1>things that we we we uh, we have on our mind, alge.

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<v Speaker 1>So sometimes we need a little mercy, Sometimes we need

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<v Speaker 1>a little forgiveness. Sometimes we need a little love, a

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<v Speaker 1>little more love. UM. So it speaks, it speaks from

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<v Speaker 1>that from that perspective, and just say, you know, untie,

0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:57.600
<v Speaker 1>until you walk through my shoes. You can never him

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<v Speaker 1>sing my blue Who never sang my blues? Untie? You

0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:14.320
<v Speaker 1>felt the pain of them broken. Man, Then and only

0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:21.800
<v Speaker 1>then can you understand Anthony? You know what you sound

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<v Speaker 1>like you're saying. You're asking for somebody to see you

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<v Speaker 1>have a little meercy, have a little see. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful record and it and it features Tamika Mallory, who's uh,

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<v Speaker 1>who's been an amazing um just amazing soldier out here

0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:47.120
<v Speaker 1>fighting for justice and being being a voice for for

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<v Speaker 1>so many people and standing up for men and women

0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.680
<v Speaker 1>of color. And I felt her spirit was in the

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<v Speaker 1>place where where she could speak to me and encourage me.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's what she doesn't begin another song, and and

0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:04.760
<v Speaker 1>then it goes in children, such a beautiful testimony of

0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:09.359
<v Speaker 1>a man. She says, I'm not your enemy, I'm your energy.

0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:13.159
<v Speaker 1>What you know, I was in this house and I

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<v Speaker 1>started screaming, right because I said what? And it goes

0:17:19.400 --> 0:17:22.119
<v Speaker 1>back to me even falling in love with your music

0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:25.360
<v Speaker 1>for all of these years, because it's just about edifying.

0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:28.679
<v Speaker 1>And we talk about edifying, it's just being a reflection

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<v Speaker 1>of the light. Yeah, and you said, we just need

0:17:33.040 --> 0:17:36.960
<v Speaker 1>a little love. And I'm thinking to myself, well and

0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:40.399
<v Speaker 1>listening to this track of talking about all the things

0:17:40.400 --> 0:17:43.720
<v Speaker 1>that have been carried, and it's saying, hey, no, one's

0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:46.840
<v Speaker 1>not saying that, oh I shouldn't be caring it. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just saying, see me as I carry it exactly. And

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<v Speaker 1>if I stumble, and if I'm late with the where

0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:58.040
<v Speaker 1>you think I should be or or till your time.

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<v Speaker 1>But you have been appointed to just know that I

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<v Speaker 1>was carrying something and man stummered along the way. But

0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:11.440
<v Speaker 1>don't count me out. And uh, you know understand that that,

0:18:12.400 --> 0:18:15.399
<v Speaker 1>you know, being a man is sometimes he has to

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<v Speaker 1>deviate and has to you know, to pick himself up

0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:24.080
<v Speaker 1>when people don't think he should fall. Um because like

0:18:24.160 --> 0:18:27.439
<v Speaker 1>I said, people picture a man. The truth meaning of

0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:32.720
<v Speaker 1>a man is someone who's always strong, who's always uh brazilient,

0:18:33.000 --> 0:18:37.680
<v Speaker 1>and who doesn't cry. But real man cry, real man.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh Yeah, I crown stage. I don't. I don't hold

0:18:42.400 --> 0:18:45.080
<v Speaker 1>it back. My fans know if I feel it, if

0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:52.320
<v Speaker 1>it hits me, I do it right there. That's it's awful. Yeah,

0:18:52.320 --> 0:18:56.520
<v Speaker 1>it's powerful, it's um. It's I guess essentially it's kind

0:18:56.520 --> 0:19:00.720
<v Speaker 1>of like being a light anyhow, of just saying essentially, Um,

0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:07.080
<v Speaker 1>a light isn't bothered about being blocked. It doesn't matter

0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:12.440
<v Speaker 1>who sees it shine. The only purpose is to be seen.

0:19:12.560 --> 0:19:16.080
<v Speaker 1>And like you said, it's so easy to carry, to

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<v Speaker 1>cover and to block, But to sit there and to

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<v Speaker 1>expose and to stand there, that's another story, that's another dimension.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm just wondering, how how is it that one

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't have a representation of a black man,

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<v Speaker 1>how does one carry being strong and vulnerable at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time. I think being honest in those moments, those

0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:44.800
<v Speaker 1>true moments, um, you know, and being okay and being

0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:49.159
<v Speaker 1>secured in those moments will help you develop, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the true meaning of being a man. You start to

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, Okay, I'm vulnerable, I feel this, I'm okay,

0:19:57.000 --> 0:19:59.920
<v Speaker 1>and I'm surviving through it. So that strength and surviving

0:20:00.040 --> 0:20:03.000
<v Speaker 1>and making it through and you know, and you start

0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:08.600
<v Speaker 1>to develop these characters and characteristics and and textures to

0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:13.080
<v Speaker 1>to who you are UM. And you see yourself growing

0:20:13.119 --> 0:20:16.119
<v Speaker 1>in certain ways, and when you identify your growth, that

0:20:16.200 --> 0:20:20.159
<v Speaker 1>takes you to another level of becoming a man UM

0:20:20.240 --> 0:20:22.520
<v Speaker 1>and then you start to be responsible and start to

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<v Speaker 1>take care of that growth. And then as you grow

0:20:25.000 --> 0:20:28.920
<v Speaker 1>more and you be more responsible. There you are, you're

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<v Speaker 1>starting to create your own image of a man um

0:20:34.280 --> 0:20:37.920
<v Speaker 1>that's true to you. Um. And then sometimes you see

0:20:38.000 --> 0:20:43.199
<v Speaker 1>uncle Uncle Jr. Granddad, big big Daddy Rob like you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, I think, I'm starting to look like him

0:20:45.359 --> 0:20:48.080
<v Speaker 1>and act like him. I must be a man now,

0:20:50.359 --> 0:20:53.760
<v Speaker 1>you know. It's always nice when you can see that

0:20:53.840 --> 0:20:58.560
<v Speaker 1>reflection and to know that you've grown more. But it's

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<v Speaker 1>so interesting, and I think and UM, sometimes people kind

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<v Speaker 1>of disregarded to walk in your authority and to have

0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:11.600
<v Speaker 1>dominion over your life because it's a promise that's guaranteed.

0:21:11.640 --> 0:21:14.040
<v Speaker 1>But it's something that I've heard you saying countless times

0:21:14.040 --> 0:21:19.760
<v Speaker 1>and interviews about knowing who you are going further and

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<v Speaker 1>where you're going. Just like you said multiple times here,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not looking back, so I can't keep counting what

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<v Speaker 1>happened yesterday, the day before that, and why that propelled

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<v Speaker 1>or sometow handered me from going where I am going

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<v Speaker 1>right now. But it's interesting that what I see when

0:21:38.119 --> 0:21:41.879
<v Speaker 1>I see a black man oftentimes is that there's no

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<v Speaker 1>room to be when I as a woman who I

0:21:47.000 --> 0:21:49.400
<v Speaker 1>have never been in any type of trouble with the law,

0:21:49.640 --> 0:21:52.960
<v Speaker 1>having gotten held back. When I can stand out on

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<v Speaker 1>the street and I hear the police and I'm getting

0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:57.280
<v Speaker 1>nervous because I'm standing next to black man. That's only

0:21:57.359 --> 0:22:00.760
<v Speaker 1>one plight that one has to to carry. H And

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<v Speaker 1>here I am because I gotta be strong to look

0:22:02.480 --> 0:22:04.879
<v Speaker 1>after your back. Who do I lean on? And I

0:22:04.920 --> 0:22:08.280
<v Speaker 1>think just looking at society or today, that's what I see.

0:22:08.800 --> 0:22:19.360
<v Speaker 1>A misunderstanding. Yeah, yeah, being misunderstood. The black man has

0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:26.840
<v Speaker 1>been misunderstood so many times. Um. And when you misunderstand something,

0:22:27.560 --> 0:22:31.240
<v Speaker 1>you fear it. And uh, I think that's what the

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<v Speaker 1>outside racist and people who don't, who don't understand who

0:22:37.200 --> 0:22:42.639
<v Speaker 1>we are, um, start to fears and you know, I

0:22:42.720 --> 0:22:45.560
<v Speaker 1>want to destroy, take us out, get rid of us.

0:22:45.840 --> 0:22:49.760
<v Speaker 1>And then then you have been envy how amazing we are,

0:22:49.840 --> 0:22:54.240
<v Speaker 1>how powerful and creative and just beautiful who we are

0:22:54.240 --> 0:23:01.280
<v Speaker 1>full lips? Why those strong back? Uh. Yeah, So that's

0:23:01.280 --> 0:23:05.040
<v Speaker 1>a lot. We have to That's a lot we we Uh,

0:23:06.440 --> 0:23:10.320
<v Speaker 1>we have to face a lot. So what would you say,

0:23:10.840 --> 0:23:12.680
<v Speaker 1>what do you see right now? We've had so much.

0:23:12.680 --> 0:23:16.320
<v Speaker 1>You see the movements that Tamika Mallory is doing. We've

0:23:16.320 --> 0:23:19.560
<v Speaker 1>seen the widespread of what the life of George Floyd

0:23:19.640 --> 0:23:22.000
<v Speaker 1>has done. When we see the likes and the hopes

0:23:22.040 --> 0:23:24.200
<v Speaker 1>of what Kamala Harris is doing in the White House,

0:23:24.680 --> 0:23:26.280
<v Speaker 1>what do you see the state of America now? And

0:23:26.320 --> 0:23:29.320
<v Speaker 1>what do you hope mercy brings? We have so much

0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:34.080
<v Speaker 1>work to do, Kamala Harris and and uh so many

0:23:34.119 --> 0:23:36.520
<v Speaker 1>others me you, we all have a lot of work

0:23:36.520 --> 0:23:40.760
<v Speaker 1>to do. We have to start to create value amongst

0:23:40.760 --> 0:23:45.120
<v Speaker 1>ourselves and to know that that value is just as

0:23:46.480 --> 0:23:50.359
<v Speaker 1>special as any other race. I think, Uh, we start

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<v Speaker 1>to govern ourselves and according and treat ourselves, treat ourselves

0:23:57.200 --> 0:24:02.160
<v Speaker 1>with dignity and uh and not responsibility on old white

0:24:02.160 --> 0:24:07.159
<v Speaker 1>men's to uh to save us. Um, to be our

0:24:07.200 --> 0:24:12.879
<v Speaker 1>own savings. Um. But but this song will be the

0:24:12.880 --> 0:24:15.040
<v Speaker 1>soundtrack to somebody getting to that place and where they

0:24:15.040 --> 0:24:19.600
<v Speaker 1>can feel located to go there and to treat yourself

0:24:19.640 --> 0:24:23.040
<v Speaker 1>with mercy. Yeah, treat yourself with mercy and and and

0:24:23.720 --> 0:24:28.480
<v Speaker 1>see the value. And you camelists, it'll be nice to

0:24:28.480 --> 0:24:31.560
<v Speaker 1>have someone there close too close to the home base,

0:24:32.320 --> 0:24:36.639
<v Speaker 1>and somebody who can speak to talk. Hopefully she stays

0:24:37.280 --> 0:24:43.800
<v Speaker 1>uh connected. Um. You know, people ridicule about her past, um,

0:24:43.840 --> 0:24:46.760
<v Speaker 1>but we all you know, we've all done something that

0:24:46.840 --> 0:24:50.520
<v Speaker 1>we wasn't so proud of exactly. Then we grow and

0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:53.960
<v Speaker 1>so now this allows how to be in our new

0:24:54.080 --> 0:24:58.040
<v Speaker 1>and our new this um maybe the song or brain

0:24:58.119 --> 0:25:01.320
<v Speaker 1>peace to someone of wake something up in someone, Oh,

0:25:02.359 --> 0:25:09.080
<v Speaker 1>remind somebody that you know, although I didn't see where

0:25:09.200 --> 0:25:12.119
<v Speaker 1>you coming from, what you're going through, I think I

0:25:12.200 --> 0:25:17.919
<v Speaker 1>understand that the song connected me to it and uh yeah,

0:25:18.160 --> 0:25:20.439
<v Speaker 1>maybe didn't play it in the White House. Why not?

0:25:21.560 --> 0:25:24.879
<v Speaker 1>Why not? And that's when I look at you and

0:25:24.920 --> 0:25:26.800
<v Speaker 1>I look just look at your career, I look at

0:25:26.800 --> 0:25:30.080
<v Speaker 1>your messaging, and it's a career that I say, why not?

0:25:30.720 --> 0:25:33.760
<v Speaker 1>Because when you talk about just being authentically you speaking

0:25:33.760 --> 0:25:36.280
<v Speaker 1>to Edify, speaking to him Lift, speaking in the sense

0:25:36.320 --> 0:25:38.399
<v Speaker 1>of a black man speaking as a black man without

0:25:38.400 --> 0:25:42.359
<v Speaker 1>a father, you know, just more so of being a

0:25:42.400 --> 0:25:47.879
<v Speaker 1>black man who understands and in many cases overstands to

0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:53.600
<v Speaker 1>know where we're going, Yeah, to know how we're doing it.

0:25:53.800 --> 0:25:56.600
<v Speaker 1>And so I just think it's so powerful because in

0:25:56.760 --> 0:25:59.920
<v Speaker 1>this day and age, we need to understand. And when

0:26:00.080 --> 0:26:02.200
<v Speaker 1>Tamika was in the beginning of this track and she's

0:26:02.200 --> 0:26:04.919
<v Speaker 1>sang see me, and all that you're saying is until

0:26:05.040 --> 0:26:07.600
<v Speaker 1>you see me, see me where I'm coming from, see

0:26:07.640 --> 0:26:09.800
<v Speaker 1>me where I'm going, And I hope that this track

0:26:09.880 --> 0:26:13.439
<v Speaker 1>becomes kind of like the the the the soundtrack to

0:26:13.520 --> 0:26:17.399
<v Speaker 1>the Beating of America's heart, Because whether it's mercy for

0:26:17.440 --> 0:26:20.600
<v Speaker 1>that child, whether it's mercy for that black man, that

0:26:20.640 --> 0:26:24.840
<v Speaker 1>black queen you know, UM, for for the struggling cousin,

0:26:25.000 --> 0:26:29.399
<v Speaker 1>uncle friend, just hold on and have a little mercy

0:26:29.440 --> 0:26:31.160
<v Speaker 1>for us so that what we can see what we're doing.

0:26:32.000 --> 0:26:35.480
<v Speaker 1>M h. And although we haven't necessarily got to it yet,

0:26:35.520 --> 0:26:37.560
<v Speaker 1>by the time this interview was gonna be aired, you're

0:26:37.560 --> 0:26:41.159
<v Speaker 1>gonna have performed at the Bounce Awards. Tell us a

0:26:41.160 --> 0:26:44.439
<v Speaker 1>little bit about why your involvement is so important. You know,

0:26:45.800 --> 0:26:52.080
<v Speaker 1>it's just being a representation of what I feel. Um.

0:26:52.200 --> 0:26:57.960
<v Speaker 1>We are UM through my music, through the way I

0:26:58.040 --> 0:27:04.040
<v Speaker 1>walk and father and cared myself. UM. It's always important

0:27:04.680 --> 0:27:08.760
<v Speaker 1>to show to plan a seed for someone, for someone's child,

0:27:09.840 --> 0:27:12.160
<v Speaker 1>you know, to be that father figure, to be that man,

0:27:12.560 --> 0:27:17.919
<v Speaker 1>that that voice, that writer, that author. UM, it's so

0:27:18.000 --> 0:27:21.359
<v Speaker 1>important to have a stage like that to share it

0:27:21.440 --> 0:27:27.960
<v Speaker 1>on UM especial. You know, music connect you to people

0:27:28.160 --> 0:27:34.199
<v Speaker 1>and things and and and moments and create memories and uh,

0:27:34.480 --> 0:27:39.960
<v Speaker 1>maybe I can help make somebody's memory special. Well, you

0:27:40.040 --> 0:27:44.800
<v Speaker 1>so dear mine many times over. And it makes me wonder,

0:27:44.840 --> 0:27:50.600
<v Speaker 1>like who inspires you? Everybody? I'm I'm connected to all

0:27:50.680 --> 0:27:54.480
<v Speaker 1>that's beautiful and pure. Uh and even some stuff that's

0:27:54.520 --> 0:27:57.119
<v Speaker 1>not so beautiful, that's that's still something in it that

0:27:57.200 --> 0:28:02.240
<v Speaker 1>I could I could appreciate. Um. Yeah, I just just

0:28:02.359 --> 0:28:08.320
<v Speaker 1>waking up for gratitude. Come on, it's inspiring. Um. My

0:28:08.480 --> 0:28:11.359
<v Speaker 1>kids they love on me. My friends they see me

0:28:11.560 --> 0:28:15.400
<v Speaker 1>and appreciate me. But who kept you through those low moments?

0:28:16.119 --> 0:28:21.280
<v Speaker 1>My lord, my Lord and my pres and you know

0:28:21.359 --> 0:28:25.439
<v Speaker 1>my savior does um happen? Yeah? And I have solid,

0:28:25.640 --> 0:28:31.280
<v Speaker 1>solid friends and people that I go to really understand like, Okay,

0:28:31.720 --> 0:28:35.160
<v Speaker 1>even though he's just a so called entertainment, he's still

0:28:35.160 --> 0:28:38.240
<v Speaker 1>a man. He still needs a place to uh, the

0:28:38.280 --> 0:28:41.760
<v Speaker 1>same place to be in Land and you know they

0:28:41.800 --> 0:28:44.320
<v Speaker 1>allowed me to do that, and I go in there,

0:28:44.400 --> 0:28:48.440
<v Speaker 1>lay down. But you know we're here that when we

0:28:48.480 --> 0:28:51.400
<v Speaker 1>talk about comfort and we talk about being. So you know,

0:28:51.480 --> 0:28:53.960
<v Speaker 1>I listened to the Clark's Sisters a lot, and they

0:28:54.000 --> 0:28:56.080
<v Speaker 1>have this song like no matter the winds may come

0:28:56.160 --> 0:28:58.680
<v Speaker 1>your way, but I'm just resting in my father's hands.

0:28:59.240 --> 0:29:02.440
<v Speaker 1>It's the same testament of your saying if sometimes you

0:29:02.560 --> 0:29:05.400
<v Speaker 1>just gotta let go, black man, you ain't got to

0:29:05.520 --> 0:29:11.560
<v Speaker 1>hold everything. I see you. Yeah. And and for for

0:29:11.600 --> 0:29:15.640
<v Speaker 1>men to really hear that and believe it, it'll take

0:29:15.640 --> 0:29:18.160
<v Speaker 1>a lot of pressure, blood pressure and everything else to

0:29:18.240 --> 0:29:21.200
<v Speaker 1>go down, you know, because we feel like we have

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:25.200
<v Speaker 1>to hold it all and do it all. Why and

0:29:25.280 --> 0:29:28.400
<v Speaker 1>women need to not put that pressure on a man.

0:29:28.680 --> 0:29:33.959
<v Speaker 1>I think when we all hold hold up, I end

0:29:34.000 --> 0:29:36.400
<v Speaker 1>the bargain and and and and and take care of

0:29:36.400 --> 0:29:39.040
<v Speaker 1>what we're supposed to take care of, it balanced the

0:29:39.040 --> 0:29:42.400
<v Speaker 1>weight on the other. Now what you mean that woman

0:29:42.680 --> 0:29:48.640
<v Speaker 1>puts the pressure? Is there an expectation? Yeah, it's okay

0:29:48.640 --> 0:29:52.000
<v Speaker 1>to have expectations. That's that's good as long as they're

0:29:52.000 --> 0:29:56.360
<v Speaker 1>balanced and as long as you're not expecting something from

0:29:56.400 --> 0:30:01.800
<v Speaker 1>some from from your spouse or partner that that you're

0:30:01.840 --> 0:30:03.840
<v Speaker 1>supposed to do as well. I think a lot of

0:30:03.840 --> 0:30:12.680
<v Speaker 1>times unbalanced expectations, uh, unhealthy and uh, you know, we

0:30:12.760 --> 0:30:19.280
<v Speaker 1>put our stuff on other people, many women and uh yeah.

0:30:19.800 --> 0:30:23.840
<v Speaker 1>One example is you know, I don't I'm not supposed

0:30:23.840 --> 0:30:27.240
<v Speaker 1>to be your happiness. I'm supposed to answer your happiness.

0:30:28.200 --> 0:30:30.240
<v Speaker 1>You need to have your own happy, and you need

0:30:30.280 --> 0:30:34.960
<v Speaker 1>to have your own joy, and uh, don't expect for

0:30:35.000 --> 0:30:38.840
<v Speaker 1>me to be that because you know I will never

0:30:38.880 --> 0:30:42.200
<v Speaker 1>be consistent with what you feel it should be and

0:30:42.240 --> 0:30:45.280
<v Speaker 1>how it should be delivered. When you have your own,

0:30:45.640 --> 0:30:48.880
<v Speaker 1>you can dictate and habit and have control of it.

0:30:49.240 --> 0:30:52.560
<v Speaker 1>It's yours and you share yours, and we connect ours together,

0:30:53.640 --> 0:30:59.280
<v Speaker 1>small piece because we're not wasting energy on expectations. We

0:30:59.560 --> 0:31:03.440
<v Speaker 1>we we have we have about to create our own

0:31:04.280 --> 0:31:09.200
<v Speaker 1>um happiness. It belongs to us, so we're not looking

0:31:09.200 --> 0:31:13.120
<v Speaker 1>out for it. Oh my gosh. And when you're looking

0:31:13.120 --> 0:31:15.920
<v Speaker 1>through your happiness and somebody else, you become I think

0:31:15.920 --> 0:31:18.680
<v Speaker 1>you've become more judgment Come on, what you're looking for?

0:31:18.800 --> 0:31:21.760
<v Speaker 1>Something that point the finger that I want to be happy,

0:31:21.800 --> 0:31:24.760
<v Speaker 1>but that don't look like it. I don't like that

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:27.520
<v Speaker 1>that shirt ain't. I don't like that shirt. I don't.

0:31:28.360 --> 0:31:30.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't like the way you said that. I don't.

0:31:31.120 --> 0:31:32.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to watch this. I don't want to

0:31:32.840 --> 0:31:35.560
<v Speaker 1>do so. So you know, we saw nick nick picking

0:31:35.600 --> 0:31:41.000
<v Speaker 1>and creating moments of discomfort. But when you have you,

0:31:41.160 --> 0:31:44.920
<v Speaker 1>like I said, you have your own joy, you all

0:31:44.960 --> 0:31:47.960
<v Speaker 1>you wanna do is be around that person and just enjoy.

0:31:48.000 --> 0:31:51.280
<v Speaker 1>Come on, Wait a minute, wait, did you hear what

0:31:51.320 --> 0:31:54.560
<v Speaker 1>you're just said? Hold on and wait a minute. You

0:31:54.680 --> 0:31:57.400
<v Speaker 1>said you talked about the joy, right, because that's the

0:31:57.480 --> 0:32:00.640
<v Speaker 1>ever blasting stay happy. It's for ever fleeting joy. And

0:32:00.680 --> 0:32:03.280
<v Speaker 1>you said when you give with the other person, you

0:32:03.480 --> 0:32:06.400
<v Speaker 1>enjoy them. Right. But then as a double on tundra,

0:32:06.840 --> 0:32:12.000
<v Speaker 1>you're in joy. Stop playing with men? Is that what

0:32:12.080 --> 0:32:18.000
<v Speaker 1>you came to do? Go ahead now on purpose? He

0:32:18.240 --> 0:32:20.960
<v Speaker 1>I love that you said that because I think oftentimes

0:32:21.440 --> 0:32:23.800
<v Speaker 1>when we have those expectations that you talked about, and

0:32:23.800 --> 0:32:25.840
<v Speaker 1>I think it's just so on target with even just

0:32:25.880 --> 0:32:28.040
<v Speaker 1>your line of music, because it's about that love and

0:32:28.080 --> 0:32:31.200
<v Speaker 1>it's about that relationship right when we come in, Like

0:32:31.280 --> 0:32:35.280
<v Speaker 1>you said, the expectation I'm coming to take. But what

0:32:35.400 --> 0:32:37.560
<v Speaker 1>if I just came to give into Edif I imagine

0:32:37.560 --> 0:32:39.360
<v Speaker 1>that light just like you said, there's no such thing

0:32:39.360 --> 0:32:42.600
<v Speaker 1>as oh I have to because I'm lacking. I'm open

0:32:42.600 --> 0:32:46.120
<v Speaker 1>because I'm ready to receive. I'm open because I'm ready

0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:48.800
<v Speaker 1>to give. And like you even said in the song,

0:32:48.960 --> 0:32:51.880
<v Speaker 1>until love, if God is loved, just the imagery of

0:32:51.920 --> 0:32:55.880
<v Speaker 1>love is always open. The light doesn't try to stop

0:32:55.880 --> 0:32:58.960
<v Speaker 1>where it's going to be shining. Like you said, like

0:32:59.000 --> 0:33:00.920
<v Speaker 1>the synergy is like a flow, and it's like the

0:33:00.960 --> 0:33:03.920
<v Speaker 1>evolution of like the sun. It's just the circular motion

0:33:04.000 --> 0:33:05.600
<v Speaker 1>for me to you, you to me, and me to you.

0:33:07.680 --> 0:33:12.240
<v Speaker 1>Thank you for that. Thank you, and I hope you

0:33:12.280 --> 0:33:14.720
<v Speaker 1>continue and I pray that you continue. I'm lifting with

0:33:14.760 --> 0:33:17.200
<v Speaker 1>your music because we need to make sure we have

0:33:17.320 --> 0:33:19.959
<v Speaker 1>more artists like you on the playing field. That talks

0:33:19.960 --> 0:33:25.880
<v Speaker 1>about the wellness, that talks about the vulnerability, but more

0:33:25.960 --> 0:33:29.080
<v Speaker 1>important that that speaks to music that we can all feel.

0:33:29.640 --> 0:33:32.920
<v Speaker 1>Because when I'm getting in smokey roots, I can taste

0:33:32.920 --> 0:33:35.440
<v Speaker 1>my chicken, I can taste my corn breads, I can

0:33:35.440 --> 0:33:41.600
<v Speaker 1>taste my colar grains. Get that bread and some brown liquors.

0:33:46.520 --> 0:33:49.600
<v Speaker 1>But since we're talking about food, and I understand that

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:53.480
<v Speaker 1>you got a book. Yes, it's called corn Bread, Fish

0:33:53.680 --> 0:33:57.120
<v Speaker 1>and Colored Greens, and uh, it goes behind the music.

0:33:57.280 --> 0:33:59.840
<v Speaker 1>It tells the story of the songs and the relationships

0:34:00.560 --> 0:34:04.040
<v Speaker 1>and the journey um from a young child or young

0:34:04.120 --> 0:34:07.640
<v Speaker 1>boy to to a man and how these songs became,

0:34:08.280 --> 0:34:11.920
<v Speaker 1>uh what they are and what you're here today. And

0:34:12.000 --> 0:34:15.200
<v Speaker 1>there's some recipes, Yeah, that's recipes in the book. It's

0:34:15.239 --> 0:34:18.319
<v Speaker 1>about six or seven recipes. Are you trying to feed me?

0:34:18.880 --> 0:34:24.640
<v Speaker 1>Feed the hell out you? And you watch tight? You

0:34:24.800 --> 0:34:31.520
<v Speaker 1>watching me tight? You know there's some recipes, there's some scriptures.

0:34:31.600 --> 0:34:34.960
<v Speaker 1>There's some amazing photos, um that I took just for

0:34:35.040 --> 0:34:38.879
<v Speaker 1>the book. Um, it's a really great coffee table book.

0:34:38.920 --> 0:34:41.279
<v Speaker 1>It's a great read. It's a it's a short read,

0:34:41.360 --> 0:34:44.360
<v Speaker 1>but it's a powerful one. It's very raw and vulnerable

0:34:44.840 --> 0:34:49.800
<v Speaker 1>and as a matter of fact, it's it's it's something.

0:34:51.920 --> 0:34:56.399
<v Speaker 1>So what you mentioned pictures? Are you a photographer? No? Um,

0:34:56.400 --> 0:35:01.480
<v Speaker 1>you know I can't capture some stuff, but na, I

0:35:01.560 --> 0:35:07.279
<v Speaker 1>have good visions. Uh, come on, and uh I see something.

0:35:07.480 --> 0:35:11.279
<v Speaker 1>I know when it's beautiful. Um, I know where it

0:35:11.320 --> 0:35:16.879
<v Speaker 1>should be placed. And uh yeah, but now I ain't

0:35:16.880 --> 0:35:22.279
<v Speaker 1>a photographer yet becoming an entering I'm still growing. Yeah,

0:35:22.320 --> 0:35:26.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm still growing. And you mentioned scripture. I won that.

0:35:26.840 --> 0:35:29.880
<v Speaker 1>I love scriptures. I love quotes. What is the scripture

0:35:30.000 --> 0:35:32.920
<v Speaker 1>like my scripture that I love? I have a couple

0:35:33.040 --> 0:35:37.120
<v Speaker 1>but well too, Jeremy eleven four. I know the plans

0:35:37.120 --> 0:35:40.080
<v Speaker 1>I have for you as to possibly not to harm

0:35:40.160 --> 0:35:42.560
<v Speaker 1>your plans, to give your hope in the future. And

0:35:42.600 --> 0:35:44.759
<v Speaker 1>then I have because I actually have life tattered in

0:35:44.840 --> 0:35:48.000
<v Speaker 1>my mouth. I love havocat too, death and life on

0:35:48.120 --> 0:35:50.359
<v Speaker 1>the part of the time you want to say, I'm

0:35:50.400 --> 0:35:56.760
<v Speaker 1>loving this moment, I do this each time. Okay, oh wow,

0:36:00.120 --> 0:36:03.120
<v Speaker 1>uh so, But it's to do everything that your music

0:36:03.160 --> 0:36:07.080
<v Speaker 1>does is to speak life. Yeah, what's the scripture that

0:36:07.160 --> 0:36:11.840
<v Speaker 1>speaks life into you? You know? I like doing to others.

0:36:12.200 --> 0:36:16.680
<v Speaker 1>I think it keeps everything and it's you know, proper place.

0:36:17.560 --> 0:36:21.640
<v Speaker 1>Um and that can embody so much. You know I

0:36:21.760 --> 0:36:28.080
<v Speaker 1>love you, um so then in return, you know, I

0:36:28.120 --> 0:36:31.879
<v Speaker 1>have a better chance of your loving me. I feed you,

0:36:32.880 --> 0:36:36.839
<v Speaker 1>so return you you'll feed, you'll feed me, or you'll

0:36:36.840 --> 0:36:42.600
<v Speaker 1>feed someone else. Um. I just think. I think when

0:36:43.400 --> 0:36:47.200
<v Speaker 1>when we have that power, we have access to create

0:36:47.960 --> 0:36:51.799
<v Speaker 1>um an outcome and we acknowledge it. I think it's

0:36:51.840 --> 0:36:55.680
<v Speaker 1>something that's so powerful people don't really hear or you know,

0:36:56.120 --> 0:36:58.719
<v Speaker 1>really know how important that is? What you mean, like

0:36:58.760 --> 0:37:00.960
<v Speaker 1>the power to create the life that you want? What

0:37:01.000 --> 0:37:03.800
<v Speaker 1>do you ran create the life that you want, the

0:37:04.239 --> 0:37:09.520
<v Speaker 1>reaction that you want, the anything anything. I think when

0:37:09.560 --> 0:37:14.799
<v Speaker 1>you put good into something, it comes back. And that's

0:37:14.840 --> 0:37:18.799
<v Speaker 1>what I like. I like to plant those seeds watch

0:37:18.880 --> 0:37:22.760
<v Speaker 1>them grow and just keep giving and giving and giving

0:37:22.800 --> 0:37:27.920
<v Speaker 1>love and giving love and giving love. I think that, Yeah,

0:37:28.200 --> 0:37:32.440
<v Speaker 1>that keeps me, keeps me humble. Mm hmm, yeah, it

0:37:32.520 --> 0:37:35.640
<v Speaker 1>keeps me humble. It makes me feel beautiful to be

0:37:35.719 --> 0:37:39.880
<v Speaker 1>able to, uh, to treat someone special, to treat someone

0:37:40.360 --> 0:37:43.359
<v Speaker 1>how I treat myself, how I love me. I love

0:37:43.360 --> 0:37:45.799
<v Speaker 1>you the same way. And when you talk about that,

0:37:45.840 --> 0:37:48.759
<v Speaker 1>I talked about something called your life bank account, and

0:37:48.800 --> 0:37:52.160
<v Speaker 1>it's it's that understanding how you are your greatest asset.

0:37:53.080 --> 0:37:55.280
<v Speaker 1>And when you talk about treating, we have to define

0:37:55.360 --> 0:37:59.400
<v Speaker 1>that there are deposits versus liabilities. I'm making a deposit,

0:37:59.520 --> 0:38:02.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm making a withdraw. And I love what you said

0:38:02.080 --> 0:38:05.040
<v Speaker 1>because you said this earlier on. You said, hey, my

0:38:05.160 --> 0:38:08.720
<v Speaker 1>music depicts that of the joy, the light, but also

0:38:09.080 --> 0:38:12.080
<v Speaker 1>that of the dark. But in everything you're saying, in

0:38:12.120 --> 0:38:15.120
<v Speaker 1>the acceptance of now walking who you are now, because

0:38:15.120 --> 0:38:18.319
<v Speaker 1>you're able to love who you are, you see the

0:38:18.360 --> 0:38:20.480
<v Speaker 1>battle or not the battle, but the balance of the

0:38:20.520 --> 0:38:24.600
<v Speaker 1>again in the yank, I love that you have to

0:38:24.600 --> 0:38:33.200
<v Speaker 1>have it. You know, balance comes peace and uh, there's

0:38:33.239 --> 0:38:35.120
<v Speaker 1>a lot of healing that can go on this feast.

0:38:36.520 --> 0:38:39.880
<v Speaker 1>But it's scary, Anthony. We people say that all the time.

0:38:39.920 --> 0:38:43.200
<v Speaker 1>Here's the thing that people I don't think realize. People say, oh,

0:38:43.239 --> 0:38:45.759
<v Speaker 1>take a moment to heal. But just as oh, you

0:38:45.800 --> 0:38:48.520
<v Speaker 1>were to fall right now, you were to scratch your leg, right,

0:38:49.200 --> 0:38:51.600
<v Speaker 1>you're holding it. You remember as a little kid, whether

0:38:51.640 --> 0:38:55.520
<v Speaker 1>you were out there put your nails around. So guess what.

0:38:56.160 --> 0:38:58.239
<v Speaker 1>The only way that scab is gonna come because if

0:38:58.239 --> 0:39:00.560
<v Speaker 1>you leave that band aid on the whole time, it's

0:39:00.560 --> 0:39:03.359
<v Speaker 1>gonna stay wet. And when you take that band aid off,

0:39:03.400 --> 0:39:06.920
<v Speaker 1>guess what, there's a tingling. There's a hurting sensation when

0:39:06.960 --> 0:39:11.000
<v Speaker 1>it's healing right, and it hurts to move. People forget

0:39:11.120 --> 0:39:15.680
<v Speaker 1>that part when they talk about healing. Yeah, yeah, you

0:39:15.719 --> 0:39:19.879
<v Speaker 1>have to expose it wound like you said. And uh,

0:39:20.040 --> 0:39:24.759
<v Speaker 1>but it doesn't stay at wound too forever. It does

0:39:24.800 --> 0:39:29.000
<v Speaker 1>if you keep it keep it covered. Cool. Wait and

0:39:29.040 --> 0:39:31.000
<v Speaker 1>what you say, mercy, you said, can you see me?

0:39:31.040 --> 0:39:33.879
<v Speaker 1>Because you were uncovering. I had to bring that back.

0:39:36.360 --> 0:39:39.680
<v Speaker 1>Look at you. Come on now, And you know what

0:39:39.760 --> 0:39:42.040
<v Speaker 1>I also appreciate about what you said to It reminds

0:39:42.040 --> 0:39:44.640
<v Speaker 1>me of quote that I've always lived by, and it's

0:39:44.760 --> 0:39:47.879
<v Speaker 1>entitled what allows a diamond to shine? Are the multitudes

0:39:47.880 --> 0:39:50.560
<v Speaker 1>of cuts that have been placed within it. Because just

0:39:50.640 --> 0:39:52.560
<v Speaker 1>like you said, whatever wound, Like you said that there

0:39:52.640 --> 0:39:54.640
<v Speaker 1>was that ditch, that was that stick, that was that

0:39:54.719 --> 0:39:57.920
<v Speaker 1>muddy roll, that was that little, uh pothole in the road,

0:39:58.000 --> 0:40:01.080
<v Speaker 1>you realize that's nothing but a slash is a depression,

0:40:01.480 --> 0:40:04.160
<v Speaker 1>is a lack of my father? Is it obesity? Is

0:40:04.160 --> 0:40:07.000
<v Speaker 1>it working? Too harrible? When you decide to uncover Hello,

0:40:07.160 --> 0:40:11.160
<v Speaker 1>somebody and that diamond because all that pressures that came

0:40:11.680 --> 0:40:15.400
<v Speaker 1>decides to step into the light, you better shine better.

0:40:16.080 --> 0:40:19.880
<v Speaker 1>And Mr Hamilton's you're shining out here. I appreciate it.

0:40:20.560 --> 0:40:23.920
<v Speaker 1>I hopefully keep it polished and you are and I

0:40:23.960 --> 0:40:27.040
<v Speaker 1>want to thank you so much for um shutting some

0:40:27.120 --> 0:40:29.640
<v Speaker 1>of your light not only about who you are as

0:40:29.680 --> 0:40:32.520
<v Speaker 1>a man, but a man who is open and vulnerability

0:40:32.840 --> 0:40:35.799
<v Speaker 1>and taking accountability for so many black men out there.

0:40:36.400 --> 0:40:39.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm here to serve and uh hope, I hope it.

0:40:39.520 --> 0:40:43.080
<v Speaker 1>It makes it makes it better, uh for so many people.

0:40:43.320 --> 0:40:46.319
<v Speaker 1>So thank you for allowing me to having thank you

0:40:46.360 --> 0:40:49.480
<v Speaker 1>for the platform, and uh yeah, let's do it again.

0:40:49.840 --> 0:40:51.880
<v Speaker 1>Let's do it. And you know what you spoke that

0:40:52.120 --> 0:40:55.160
<v Speaker 1>but it maybe sooner than later that we will actually

0:40:55.239 --> 0:40:58.160
<v Speaker 1>be connecting again, I'm gonna speak that right now. We're

0:40:58.200 --> 0:41:00.520
<v Speaker 1>working on a few things, so it's would be it

0:41:00.520 --> 0:41:04.520
<v Speaker 1>should be amazing. So thank you so much, and uh,

0:41:06.040 --> 0:41:13.919
<v Speaker 1>mercy on me. Thank you. You got it, Dawn day

0:41:14.000 --> 0:41:17.800
<v Speaker 1>all day, every day. Thank you, Thank you, beautiful. I

0:41:17.880 --> 0:41:23.120
<v Speaker 1>appreciate it. That was good, right. I'm so grateful for

0:41:23.200 --> 0:41:27.040
<v Speaker 1>this conversation with Anthony because it's not every day, or

0:41:27.040 --> 0:41:30.560
<v Speaker 1>at least for me, that I think about the complexities

0:41:30.600 --> 0:41:34.279
<v Speaker 1>and the vulnerabilities of being a man, and I just

0:41:34.360 --> 0:41:36.719
<v Speaker 1>keep thinking it back to the Tamika Mallory poem that

0:41:36.760 --> 0:41:38.920
<v Speaker 1>opens up in the song Mercy, And you know what

0:41:39.040 --> 0:41:41.400
<v Speaker 1>I think about. I think about the choice that she

0:41:41.440 --> 0:41:44.560
<v Speaker 1>had to make to say that she would stand beside

0:41:44.760 --> 0:41:47.239
<v Speaker 1>black men as a black woman in the space of

0:41:47.280 --> 0:41:49.960
<v Speaker 1>trying to survive and thrive in this world. She even

0:41:49.960 --> 0:41:53.040
<v Speaker 1>had a moment where she said, I'm not your enemy,

0:41:53.120 --> 0:41:59.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm your energy. What come on? Come on? And you know,

0:41:59.600 --> 0:42:02.000
<v Speaker 1>I was thinking about the choices that we all make

0:42:02.120 --> 0:42:05.560
<v Speaker 1>to build and maintain our relationships and grow as people.

0:42:06.120 --> 0:42:08.040
<v Speaker 1>I think about how you need to make deposits in

0:42:08.080 --> 0:42:10.040
<v Speaker 1>your life bank account and then paying to others life

0:42:10.080 --> 0:42:12.279
<v Speaker 1>bank account so that you can pay it forward, and

0:42:12.320 --> 0:42:14.239
<v Speaker 1>so on and so on. You see how that energy go.

0:42:14.520 --> 0:42:17.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm not your enemy, I'm your energy. And energy doesn't stop,

0:42:17.880 --> 0:42:20.359
<v Speaker 1>it just keeps flowing. That's why you've got to let

0:42:20.360 --> 0:42:23.600
<v Speaker 1>the ego. You gotta let the energy go. You gotta

0:42:23.680 --> 0:42:26.000
<v Speaker 1>let the energy flow. You see what I'm saying with

0:42:26.120 --> 0:42:28.760
<v Speaker 1>vitamin D. How each and every time that I uncover

0:42:28.880 --> 0:42:32.640
<v Speaker 1>new things, Okay, back to it, we let that energy

0:42:32.640 --> 0:42:36.200
<v Speaker 1>flow because we are all interconnected. And I'll acknowledge that

0:42:36.280 --> 0:42:38.759
<v Speaker 1>there's more layers that sit on top of it, but

0:42:39.440 --> 0:42:42.560
<v Speaker 1>at its base is where the pyramid is the strongest

0:42:42.960 --> 0:42:48.280
<v Speaker 1>and the most sturdy. Hence the foundation. You understand the foundation,

0:42:48.480 --> 0:42:51.560
<v Speaker 1>and it's creating habits of choosing to show love to

0:42:51.600 --> 0:42:55.239
<v Speaker 1>ourselves and others that brings out the best and us

0:42:56.120 --> 0:43:00.840
<v Speaker 1>and you and we and all together. So if that

0:43:01.000 --> 0:43:03.759
<v Speaker 1>felt good, and you can even use someone Mercy in

0:43:03.800 --> 0:43:06.440
<v Speaker 1>your life, make sure you keep up with Anthony Hamilton's

0:43:06.440 --> 0:43:08.560
<v Speaker 1>and what he has going on, and you can do

0:43:08.640 --> 0:43:12.440
<v Speaker 1>so by following him on social media at Hamilton's Anthony

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