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Speaker 1: I'm Erica and I'm Mela. Happy Wednesday, Happy Wednesday.

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Speaker 3: Be it's really Wednesday.

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Speaker 2: Oh today is really Wednesday. It is It's someday. How

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Speaker 2: are you feeling?

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Speaker 3: I feel good? I'm smoking.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 1: We had a little last minute guest cancelation. So in

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Speaker 1: good Mom's style and mela Erica style, we scrappy as fuck.

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Speaker 1: We just figured some shit out and actually, I think

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Speaker 1: anything like this before.

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Speaker 5: I know.

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Speaker 2: Shout out to whoever gave us a suggestion, who was it?

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Speaker 2: Because this is this is a good idea.

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Speaker 1: So right now we're on live and people are going

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Speaker 1: to join the live or type in advice questions so we.

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Speaker 2: Can answer them and then you could be a guest

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Speaker 2: on the show. Hey, but first Tarot time time, Like

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Speaker 3: We pulled this yesterday we did the lovers. Wow, isn't

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Speaker 3: that crazy?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it is crazy.

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Speaker 3: I've pulled this so many times in the last week.

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Speaker 2: You told me that. And also, I uh the deck

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Speaker 2: which is the ace cups. Shout out to Mahogany Tarot deck.

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Speaker 2: It's the original tarot deck, traditional style, but all the

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Speaker 2: images of black people. So yeah, the lovers, what do they?

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Speaker 2: What does this mean?

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Speaker 1: It's usually about success, It's about I think it's partnership,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, travel and travel and before that Ace of Cups

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Speaker 2: How about this and cups? Oh, your phone is working

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Speaker 2: and cups are for emotions. So it's the beginning of

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Speaker 2: something new and bountiful, abundant. There's travel, and there's love.

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Speaker 2: There's partnership, strength and partnership.

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Speaker 1: Okay, love, new relationships, compassion, creativity. So with the Ace

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Speaker 1: of Cups, divine love and compassion are pouring through you.

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Speaker 1: You are love. Your heart overflows. Now is the perfect

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Speaker 3: And will you run with it?

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Speaker 2: That was beautiful. Wow, look at that. Look at God?

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Speaker 2: So oh. Also, we have an affirmation? Right?

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Speaker 1: My daughter is so good. She literally knows you're every word.

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Speaker 2: Nursed those all the Hucci songs. Shit, yeah, I'm a savage,

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Speaker 2: Those kids are singing it too, for sure. Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: The sun is pissed. So me and Luna are walking

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Speaker 2: oh my gosh, like he's fifteen. He does this every

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Speaker 2: shit halfway pointing through, I looked over and I, you know,

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Speaker 2: what I have told Lynna was like what I was like,

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Speaker 2: those parents are fucking haters.

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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, do I sound with some haters? I was like,

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Speaker 1: but low key, Irin. She makes me turn on my

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Speaker 1: her dad does this abrasively when he pulls in, like

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Speaker 1: So when we pull in, she's like, Mommy, can you can.

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Speaker 3: You lower the fuck? Can you lower it?

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Speaker 1: I'm like, we're listening to Run the World. What the

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Speaker 1: fuck it's Beyonce. We were just like going crazy and

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Speaker 3: So I do because I don't want to be that.

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Speaker 1: I also noticed how she kisses me before we get

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Speaker 1: to the mitigation. She looked around the other day. Wow, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: What the fuck?

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Speaker 2: The disrespect? Damn, Like, you bring people into the world.

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Speaker 2: You feed them every day, you close them, you put

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Speaker 2: you don't kiss me in front of people. Came out

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Speaker 3: We love our kids.

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Speaker 2: I too. I just want her to love me.

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Speaker 6: Pa.

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Speaker 1: I know today I gave me a foot massage in

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Speaker 1: I'm like, irie, she comes in and then she cuddles me,

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Speaker 3: Massaged my toes. Oh so nice. I'm gonna cracked each

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Speaker 2: That's so kind. I'm not going to teach you know

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Speaker 2: how to do that. Wake up early, set it along,

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Speaker 3: So we have some questions here.

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Speaker 2: Okay, are we gonna let people dial in or are

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Speaker 3: I mean we can we can start with the dial in.

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Speaker 1: Someone asked, like, what's the best way to break up

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Speaker 1: with someone text And I'm just.

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Speaker 2: Kidding, joking, ghost, don't say shit, break up with them

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Speaker 3: They'll get it. They'll get it eventually.

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Speaker 2: That's a total joke. I would just say, yeah, to

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Speaker 2: know it will help. Longer you wait, the harder it's

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Speaker 2: I hate that advice, but just be honest. I'm bored.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I broke up with someone.

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Speaker 3: I went to his house. I said we should go

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Speaker 3: for a walk. He walked down the stairs. He was

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Speaker 3: like trying his best. I knew it was coming.

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Speaker 2: He was trying his best.

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Speaker 3: One my favorite opening.

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Speaker 1: Every door, maslaging my neck and ship, yeah, your favorite,

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Speaker 1: your fellow cancer. Yeah, and yeah, we just you know,

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Speaker 1: not it's not working. That's all you can say it's

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Speaker 1: Right, No, go flee and don't talk for at least

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm said it was really sad. I

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Speaker 2: I'm kind of sad about it. Anyway. I went to

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Speaker 2: I think it was like even an old video. I

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Speaker 3: It's crazy for sure.

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Speaker 2: So those are two different ways to break up, but

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Speaker 2: I hope you can use one of them, probably ericas

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Speaker 2: that was a good one. Any other questions you might.

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Speaker 3: Have some questions? Oh, we do we have questions in there.

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Speaker 2: Hi.

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Speaker 1: Hi, You guys have a beautiful ah way, thank you?

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Speaker 2: So are you?

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Speaker 4: Thank you?

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Speaker 2: What's your advice question? What's your name?

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Speaker 2: Janay right, what's your advice question? Jennay?

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Speaker 7: So I am really like going through it as far

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Speaker 4: Decision, and I need your.

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Speaker 7: So my background has always been in like the business

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Speaker 7: And so even though our mayor sucks, they launched this

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Speaker 3: Well you know what we're gonna tell you. Girl, that's

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, okay, do you feel like you're in

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Speaker 3: Is this a risk? It risk at all? Decision?

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Speaker 2: Okay, I think you may want to take maybe a

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Speaker 2: I mean I feel like when you have to like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, can you like take a healthcare job that gives

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Speaker 4: That's the thing I've like explored that.

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Speaker 4: And I'm sorry about the keys because I know you.

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Speaker 7: All are recording, but most of the things that offered

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Speaker 3: Well, I think it will work out.

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Speaker 2: Bye, good luck, and thank you for joining our show

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Speaker 2: today and we're sending you all the good energy for

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Speaker 2: all of the things that you want.

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Speaker 3: Make a list, write it, write it, write it down,

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Speaker 3: write it down.

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Speaker 4: I will thank you, Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Bye bye. You have to hang out because we don't

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Speaker 2: know how that was fun. Okay, let's see if there's

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Speaker 2: any other Do you stay married because it's comfortable, or

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Speaker 2: divorce and find someone to connect with? Girl don't do

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Speaker 2: anything because it's comfortable. If you're not happy, it's time

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Speaker 2: to get the fuck on. We haven't. Oh, Willie Jones,

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Speaker 2: he's so cute.

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Speaker 1: Hi.

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Speaker 2: You so fine, fine, fine looking, all cute. You're orange beanie.

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Speaker 2: Good morning?

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Speaker 3: Where are you?

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Speaker 1: Are you back in Nashville yesterday?

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Speaker 2: Oh shit?

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Speaker 3: Come on, what are you doing tonight?

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Speaker 2: Meet us in Hollywood. We're gonna dmu our locations.

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Speaker 4: Okay, no more cool.

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Speaker 1: So you guys. I met Willie one night, like a

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Speaker 3: The sofa tel? They have the.

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Speaker 2: Actually, WILLI? I met Willy the night before. I met

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Speaker 2: Oh at Delilah. I was wearing a jacket with fringes

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Speaker 3: A Oh my god, I was drunk. Bro, I don't

444
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Speaker 3: remember that you weren't with me?

445
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Speaker 2: Oh?

446
00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:41,760
Speaker 3: I was like, what, you weren't with me?

447
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 2: I met him separately the night before, and I just

448
00:21:43,840 --> 00:21:45,840
Speaker 2: came up to him and went like this, I guess

449
00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:47,960
Speaker 2: that was the That was the symbol of we are

450
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:51,200
Speaker 2: from the same tribe. And then we ran into him

451
00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:54,480
Speaker 2: the night after a soft and said and he said

452
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Speaker 2: merchant one with the jacket and I said yeah.

453
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Speaker 6: And then yeah, we had a deep cup. We did

454
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 6: we did, which I'm still on the case. One of

455
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Speaker 6: the reasons I am out here, but we can talk

456
00:22:08,040 --> 00:22:08,359
Speaker 6: about that.

457
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Speaker 3: I'm glad. I'm glad to hear that, Willie. I'm really

458
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Speaker 3: am How do you break up with someone?

459
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Speaker 1: I want to ask a man, how do how How

460
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Speaker 1: have you broken up with women in the past?

461
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Speaker 6: Is it like, well, my first breakup was like it

462
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 6: was high school. She was like my high school sweetheart

463
00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:26,840
Speaker 6: and she moved away, and it was just it was

464
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:29,280
Speaker 6: in high school and yeah, and I just caught her

465
00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:32,280
Speaker 6: on the phone and I was like, you know, I

466
00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:35,119
Speaker 6: love you and we've been together for these years and

467
00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:38,800
Speaker 6: I'll always be here for you, but this ain't working out.

468
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 6: And then she was like but she she was real

469
00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 6: quiet at the time. She had just moved and she

470
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:46,879
Speaker 6: was like, well, who's gonna be my friend? And I

471
00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 6: was like, I'll still be your friend. And then another

472
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 6: another time it was bad. I just I just got

473
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Speaker 6: really I was just in my head like towards the

474
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Speaker 6: end of the relationship, and I just started to shrink

475
00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 6: myself man, and like for like an hour. And she

476
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 6: was like, you want to break over me?

477
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, not just do you want

478
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:12,680
Speaker 1: to break over here?

479
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, yeah I did.

480
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:15,600
Speaker 2: Actually I do.

481
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 7: Never again.

482
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 6: Now. I like to communicate and talk, and I don't

483
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 6: like to leave fuckers with like questions, especially when it's

484
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 6: like disturbing the peace, and I'm like, I can offer

485
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Speaker 6: you some kind of piece. I like to communicate now

486
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Speaker 6: because that's just the easiest thing for me because if

487
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Speaker 6: my whole stuff here, I start to forget how to dress,

488
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Speaker 6: I forget.

489
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Speaker 3: How to dress.

490
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Speaker 2: It's true, fuck up your whole swag and fox all

491
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Speaker 2: your shit up.

492
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Speaker 3: All right, Well, we'll see you tonight.

493
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Speaker 1: We're gonna hit you up tonight, okay, bibo.

494
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Speaker 2: Well I love what a nice guy.

495
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Speaker 1: When I met him, I just was like immediately like

496
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497
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498
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499
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500
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Speaker 2: I think we have some more advice questions. Let's see.

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Speaker 2: Let's see, how do you keep it together if you're

559
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 2: constantly ridiculed for something you didn't choose but just happens,

560
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 2: like a pregnancy in a DNA test?

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Speaker 3: Wait?

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Speaker 6: What?

563
00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 3: Wait? Does that's what it says?

564
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Speaker 5: The end?

565
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 6: Yeah?

566
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Speaker 3: Wait, okay, you say it again.

567
00:27:25,280 --> 00:27:28,400
Speaker 2: How do you keep it together when you're constantly ridiculed

568
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:30,840
Speaker 2: for something you didn't choose but just happens like a

569
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 2: pregnancy in a DNA test. Oh, like someone's constantly ridiculing

570
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 2: you by having about having to about getting pregnant and

571
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:40,879
Speaker 2: having to get a DNA test. I mean, shit happens. Boom,

572
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 2: that's fuck them. I mean literally, Lesha got the DNA test.

573
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:49,800
Speaker 2: Some pitches just be like, is you well? You know,

574
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,239
Speaker 2: like you're welcome. I was. I kept it real, and

575
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:54,680
Speaker 2: now you should shut the fuck up about the being ridiculed.

576
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 3: Science said it was you boot.

577
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:57,479
Speaker 2: I mean, what do you want for me? It's just

578
00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 2: this is what happened, and this is the result of

579
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 2: what happened, and beat it. If you can't get with

580
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 2: it because it's already happened, right, how can I build

581
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 2: my confidence? I think I'm doing it right, then I

582
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:08,439
Speaker 2: feel like I'm not.

583
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 1: Well, That's that's the confidence journey. That's the confidence journey.

584
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 1: It's you feel like you're getting ahead, and then you

585
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:17,960
Speaker 1: take a few steps back, and then you have to

586
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Speaker 1: get there because you still haven't healed from there. And

587
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 1: then you heal that part and then you move forward

588
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:24,719
Speaker 1: and go back and it's just like until one day

589
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 1: you wake up and finally that part is healed.

590
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Speaker 2: Okay, so there's how to help my child to the

591
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 2: soura sorrow of her forming of her father, forming a

592
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 2: new family with a wife and a kid. She is devastated. Hmm.

593
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: I wonder how old she is. She might be a

594
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 1: little bit older or who knows. But that's a really

595
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 1: tough one, especially if you are also going through it too.

596
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 1: Could you imagine like trying to.

597
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,320
Speaker 2: Be there for your kid. And also, I mean you haven't,

598
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 2: you haven't really experienced the whole thing, but like I

599
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Speaker 2: mean a sibling.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I've definitely I've in my situation, my

601
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 1: ex now has two kids with two different women, which

602
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 1: was the first one was a complete shock and the

603
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 1: second one was pretty much a shock as well.

604
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 3: We weren't together anymore. But it doesn't.

605
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Speaker 1: I would it'd be a lie, I said, It didn't

606
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,560
Speaker 1: terribly affect me, you know, and devastate me in a way,

607
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 1: especially when you are like the first baby mama and

608
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: you kind of I don't know, there's like this hierarchy,

609
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 1: there's this like I'm the first. We've shared this thing together,

610
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 1: this first together, we shared like we intentionally made this

611
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 1: child together. Like that when it's when you're no longer

612
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:45,760
Speaker 1: alone on that island. It feels triggering, It feels egotistical.

613
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:49,120
Speaker 1: It feels like someone has stabbed you in the fucking

614
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Speaker 1: heart and ripped it out pretty.

615
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Speaker 2: Much, natch your crown.

616
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Speaker 1: I'm totally fine, guys, No, I know, I am, but

617
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 1: it took me a long time to say that and

618
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Speaker 1: be and say I am. You know, But for my daughter,

619
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Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't really experience that. She was actually

620
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Speaker 1: excited about it. She didn't really have a concept of

621
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Speaker 1: what it meant because honestly, she doesn't remember us together,

622
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 1: so it was just like daddy was having, you know,

623
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Speaker 1: another baby. I think she always wants us, wanted, like

624
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 1: she feels the love that we've shared, because I think

625
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 1: it's just anate lee part of her. But she was excited,

626
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Speaker 1: so I don't I think, like I think the way

627
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 1: if it wasn't that way, it would have to really

628
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Speaker 1: be a lot of reassuring of like that we're still

629
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Speaker 1: a family. It would have to be a lot of

630
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Speaker 1: conversations with him about like making her feel supported. It

631
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Speaker 1: would really I don't know, like I would take it

632
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Speaker 1: as an opportunity to talk to him and his new woman.

633
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Speaker 2: Or even if I mean even therapists, Like therapists offer

634
00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:59,720
Speaker 2: a support for family therapy in ways that are not

635
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Speaker 2: just like we're a happy family, but there are ways

636
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 2: to like you know, include you know, for.

637
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Speaker 1: Sure therapy is crucial, but I think also like the

638
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:12,080
Speaker 1: family has to be kind to support her, Yeah, support her.

639
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 2: And if they don't, I mean I would say, don't

640
00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 2: try and overly overly compensate with like material things. I

641
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 2: think sometimes parents do that if like one parent is

642
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 2: missing or something is they're in order to fill that void,

643
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 2: they like give a lot of shit. And I think

644
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 2: sometimes it's just like offering the conversation, how are you feeling,

645
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 2: checking in with them, giving them the opportunity to talk

646
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:35,120
Speaker 2: about it and let them know that their feelings are

647
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 2: justified and.

648
00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 3: Okay, and also.

649
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 1: Honestly, like I know, we want to protect our kids

650
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 1: from everything, but this is real life shit, and she's

651
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 1: going to have to like sometimes real life shit hits early.

652
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 1: Sometimes it happens sooner than we want. That's life, you know,

653
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 1: And I mean obviously support her and do all those things,

654
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Speaker 1: but also she has to understand too, like this is

655
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 1: life and things will, things change, and maybe there's beauty

656
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: in it too, like I don't know. I don't know

657
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:09,800
Speaker 1: what the situation is on the other side, but I

658
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: think it's.

659
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 3: Just it's life essentially.

660
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that reminds that there's another question about someone. How

661
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Speaker 2: how long should you wait to introduce your kid to

662
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Speaker 2: someone you're dating. She said she her daughter loves her

663
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 2: dad so much and she thinks she'll be shady, And

664
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 2: I mean, like that's another thing, Like, it's life. It's

665
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 2: not super calculated. Unfortunately, there's no like universal age that

666
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 2: makes it like or time. Six weeks, six months, you know,

667
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 2: that is a perfect time to introduce someone. I think.

668
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 2: I think sometimes people wait too long and then you

669
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 2: fuck around they don't like each other at all, and

670
00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 2: you're like, damn, it's not gonna work.

671
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: I mean, do you have male friends, because essentially that's

672
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:53,240
Speaker 1: what this person is. It's coming around to you know,

673
00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,680
Speaker 1: and not immediately just hey, this is mommy's boyfriend all

674
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:58,360
Speaker 1: of a sudden, like you ease into that, you build

675
00:32:58,360 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 1: the trust that she needs to know. Oh, this is

676
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: someone that my mom can rely on. Oh this is

677
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: my mom's friend. Okay, cool, and hopefully that you know,

678
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 1: you get to that point. So I think that's another thing,

679
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 1: is like not, And I mean me and me and

680
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:13,720
Speaker 1: Mila have talked about this a lot, like not having

681
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 1: like this Prince Charming come in out of no fucking

682
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 1: weear and it being like a Disney movie like this

683
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 1: is my mommy's man now, and like yeah, like mommy's

684
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:23,959
Speaker 1: allowed to have male friends. Mommy is allowed to have

685
00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 1: male friends around my daughter, you know what I mean,

686
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 1: Like we often separate and villainize men as like these

687
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 1: things predators.

688
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:32,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's like.

689
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:33,360
Speaker 2: Automatically every man.

690
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 3: And that is not to say that we never have

691
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 3: some That's not to say.

692
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: That everyone needs to meet my child. Okay, no, it's

693
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 1: not to say that. But I think that we need

694
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: to normalize our kids and our kids seeing us a

695
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: just in different spaces with different people, and sometimes that

696
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 1: includes to like male friends. And I'm sure that you

697
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 1: have your kid around male friends, but you just don't

698
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 1: associate it that way because you're not fucking them.

699
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 2: And like I introduced my kid to like two guys

700
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 2: I dated in the last two years, and she liked

701
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,799
Speaker 2: them both a lot. And you know I hadn't. I

702
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 2: had a weird like epiphany the other day when I

703
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:14,919
Speaker 2: was like in the car and I was like, I'm

704
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 2: really grateful. I'm really grateful for those two guys, for

705
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 2: like the role they played in her life. And like

706
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 2: even though it didn't work out on both like occasions

707
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 2: and we don't talk and whatever, but like they were

708
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:28,240
Speaker 2: really kind to her. They each taught her different things,

709
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 2: you know, like one was like like very interactive and

710
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 2: took us like camping and shit, and like that was

711
00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 2: really a good like experience for her. That's where I

712
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:38,320
Speaker 2: like spoiled her a lot, and like I think she

713
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,959
Speaker 2: understood like how it felt to be spoiled by a man,

714
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 2: and I appreciate that, like I thought I was at

715
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 2: the end of the day, despite like how those things ended,

716
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 2: which I wish, I wish, I don't wish that we

717
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 2: could still be friends so that they could maintain really

718
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:54,319
Speaker 2: a friendship. That's the only thing. It's like I've also

719
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 2: had to teach her. I love them and they were cool,

720
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:59,839
Speaker 2: but sometimes friendships end and it's okay, and I still

721
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 2: of them. We just don't talk because like that is

722
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:04,840
Speaker 2: it just doesn't work out that way, you know, sometimes

723
00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:06,919
Speaker 2: you grow out of friendships. And that's been a cool,

724
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,439
Speaker 2: like not a cool lesson to teach, but it's also

725
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 2: a necessary one, and had someone maybe taken more time

726
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:15,320
Speaker 2: to teach me that, I would probably have less psycho

727
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 2: attachment issues and want to keep people forever and have

728
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 2: a like please stay, don't you love me? So I

729
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 2: think it could be an opportunity and it's you're the mom,

730
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:25,760
Speaker 2: and you know how close you are with that person

731
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 2: and you know when it's time and you need to

732
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 2: trust that. Amen o, Kai, anyone want a video request?

733
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 2: I don't see any more video requests. There's some more

734
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 2: advice questions though, Girl, how do you sort your mind

735
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,839
Speaker 2: and not get overwhelmed when you have a lot you

736
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:51,320
Speaker 2: need to do? Torri? How do you what sort your mind?

737
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:53,799
Speaker 3: You're overwhelmed to have a lot you got to do

738
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:54,440
Speaker 3: and you.

739
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 2: Have and you have. When you have a lot you

740
00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 2: need to do, go for.

741
00:35:57,200 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 1: A walk, post it, post its and then like what

742
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 1: is priority? Go for a walk, put your feet in

743
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 1: the grass immediately and yeah ground also sometimes just call

744
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,399
Speaker 1: it call it a on the fucking day.

745
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 3: You can't win them all.

746
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:19,439
Speaker 2: Okay, pur ly, b I'll give you a moment. Let's

747
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:20,400
Speaker 2: read another one.

748
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:29,319
Speaker 1: And I got peep someone seid a planner. I've never

749
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 1: been able to use a plan, I lose them. I

750
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 1: have like twelve I can't.

751
00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:34,760
Speaker 2: I have twelve notebooks and twelve planners, all with separate

752
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:38,840
Speaker 2: notes that make no sense. I'm in therapy, but my

753
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 2: parents also need it. How do I encourage them to

754
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:47,840
Speaker 2: get help and tell them in therapy without offending them?

755
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 2: M oh girl?

756
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:51,279
Speaker 1: And not everybody's gonna go on the therapy journey with you, Boom,

757
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 1: Like you can, like, obviously you can. What you could

758
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 1: do is if you can try invite them to your

759
00:36:57,000 --> 00:37:01,040
Speaker 1: therapy session first, maybe say like make them feel like

760
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 1: you're bringing them in to like, you know, talk to

761
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:06,399
Speaker 1: them about something, and then you know, take it from there.

762
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 1: But honestly, like, not everyone's gonna be on with therapy,

763
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:15,880
Speaker 1: especially I feel like honest unfortunately, like the older, older

764
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:18,800
Speaker 1: people don't want to talk about their business.

765
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 2: Yeah. Sonny also asked that kind of goes with this question,

766
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 2: is Hi, Sonny, how to start repairing a relationship with

767
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:28,600
Speaker 2: your mother who plays the victim all the time. My

768
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 2: mom plays a lot of victims. But you know, it's

769
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 2: really about being patient, being patient and like dabbing in

770
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 2: seeing if she how righty she is? If you ain't,

771
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 2: I'm I'm kind of ducking out. You just kind of

772
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 2: like where are you right now? And you know, me

773
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 2: and my mom are in a good place and I'm happy,

774
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 2: but like I understand the irritation with that. In fact,

775
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 2: something so crazy. She does play the victim all the time,

776
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 2: and she did something a couple of weeks ago that

777
00:37:56,160 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 2: was like some shit, and she was like defensive and

778
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 2: she was like, you don't need to yell at me.

779
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 2: And I had this epic opportunity to shift the like

780
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 2: generally how she like the thing, And I was like,

781
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 2: it's okay. I was like, it's okay, we all fuck up.

782
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 2: I fuck up. This was an epic fuck up. So

783
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:18,439
Speaker 2: she couldn't not not be responsible. Was like the only

784
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:21,399
Speaker 2: she was the only person responsible. There's no one else

785
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 2: to deflect on but her. So she was like she

786
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 2: got quiet, and I was like, it's okay, we all

787
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 2: fuck up. I'm like, I fuck up. It's all good.

788
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:30,800
Speaker 2: I'm not getting on you. I'm like, but it happened,

789
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,920
Speaker 2: Like let's figure it out. What do you think is next?

790
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 2: You know, like what do you think? Like I don't know,

791
00:38:35,040 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 2: this is this is what could possibly happen, you know,

792
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 2: like weigh out the options, but like I was making

793
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 2: sure for her to know, like it's okay because I

794
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:44,320
Speaker 2: don't feel like I've gotten that grace from her a lot.

795
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:45,759
Speaker 2: And I felt like it was like.

796
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 1: An opportunity to lead by example almost and an interesting

797
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:52,240
Speaker 1: show her like this is how I want to be treated. Yeah,

798
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: And remember that time I did that? Mom, Why can

799
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 1: like do.

800
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 3: That for me?

801
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:57,920
Speaker 2: Can you show? Yeah? So I was just like calm

802
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 2: and it is difficult, like just the patience is a constant,

803
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 2: like exercise at exercising how much you can grow your patients.

804
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 2: That was big of you.

805
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 3: Wow, I don't know. I don't know if I had

806
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:14,600
Speaker 3: that in me, any of it to get that, I

807
00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 3: need to get that.

808
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I think a part of being like

809
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 2: a child as an adult is that you begin to,

810
00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 2: especially in this generation, you begin to parent your parents

811
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 2: and you kind of realize that they're unhealed and that

812
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:30,880
Speaker 2: they've made mistakes because they don't know shit really, you know,

813
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:33,520
Speaker 2: just like we don't know shit, like there there are

814
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 2: our vessels are aging, but like sometimes your mind doesn't

815
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,440
Speaker 2: necessarily evolve, and like a lot of times, you know,

816
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:43,719
Speaker 2: if you're not pushing for that and that and you

817
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 2: become kind of the parent and they're the child, and

818
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 2: it's kind of like understanding, like taking away that super

819
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:53,759
Speaker 2: mom super dad perspective, and that you can be more

820
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:55,800
Speaker 2: forgiving and have more patience for them like you would

821
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:58,560
Speaker 2: for your kid because you realize they're just in those bodies.

822
00:39:58,600 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 3: It's true. Wow, that was really deep.

823
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:02,239
Speaker 1: But also what's stuck with me when you said that

824
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:05,399
Speaker 1: was the pushing for it, because I feel like even

825
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:08,880
Speaker 1: the most evolved people have to continue like pushing to

826
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 1: grasp more, to understand more, you know what I mean.

827
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:15,399
Speaker 1: So many people just stop or they don't even they're

828
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 1: like this is good enough, Like there's a lot going on.

829
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 1: I'd rather not let's just like stay here.

830
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:23,759
Speaker 2: It's uncomfortable, like it's I don't want to be different growth.

831
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:27,360
Speaker 3: It's so uncomfortable. It's so annoying.

832
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:29,799
Speaker 2: Because you get you get comfortable and being angry, you

833
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 2: get comfortable and being mad, you get comfortable and being

834
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 2: at being defensive, you get comfortable taking things personally, just

835
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 2: like you get comfortable and being in a miserable marriage

836
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,919
Speaker 2: and not and blaming the other person instead of taking

837
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 2: responsibility for your life and for your shit and from

838
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 2: saying like I'm cool, like you get comfortable and all

839
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 2: of that sadness and the not evolving, and it's like

840
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 2: both are hard though.

841
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 1: Mm hm, but once you but I mean, it's so

842
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:56,360
Speaker 1: worth it. But it's just it's not easy. It's not

843
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: easy to get over there.

844
00:40:57,640 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 2: No, it's not. Oh someone said they love what these queens.

845
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 2: I love what y'all queens do? I think we need

846
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:11,800
Speaker 2: more of it? Keep on going? Thank you were going,

847
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 2: baby going? Should I tell my friend how to tell?

848
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 2: Should I tell my friend how to tell her? I've

849
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 2: just been ignoring it, but he keeps progressing. They just

850
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 2: got married last year after bringing together eleven years. Wait,

851
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 2: I think I saw some of this story. This is

852
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 2: not a full question. Oh wait here it is. But

853
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,640
Speaker 2: this last year he started sending dick pics videos of

854
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:38,399
Speaker 2: him jerking off on Snapchat. I tell my husband every time,

855
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:40,520
Speaker 2: but he acts dumb as if he doesn't know what

856
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 2: he did. Wait, wait, wait, what your friend's husband is

857
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 2: sending you jerk off pictures?

858
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 3: Your friend's husband and you're and you're you're married, she's married.

859
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 2: She's married, and she tells her husband what I think

860
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 2: you need to join? I can't I can't decode this, Frederick,

861
00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:57,799
Speaker 2: but I do need to know.

862
00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 1: How do you deal with anxiety without putting the energy

863
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 1: off on your kid?

864
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:05,920
Speaker 2: Who girl, take away And.

865
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 1: You're not gonna win the mall. You're not gonna win

866
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 1: it all every time. You're gonna fail. But the fact

867
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:15,520
Speaker 1: that you're even aware of it is step one. Because

868
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 1: some people just have no self awareness and are just

869
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: constantly just being.

870
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 3: Mean to their kids because they have anxiety and are

871
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 3: stressed out.

872
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:28,360
Speaker 2: I mean to be honest, like kids are super loud

873
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:31,319
Speaker 2: and annoying, and so the noise level doesn't really help

874
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:34,319
Speaker 2: with the anxiety. But this is very healthy that you

875
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,720
Speaker 2: notice like this is my this is a personal problem,

876
00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 2: and actually all this shit really doesn't need to get

877
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 2: done right now, and actually I need to just tend

878
00:42:40,680 --> 00:42:44,080
Speaker 2: to my child and be kind and patient and sit

879
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 2: like put my phone away and you know, at least

880
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 2: you's realizing that you're doing it, and apologize.

881
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 1: I think also what helps me in those moments is

882
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 1: really just being present and knowing that this moment, that

883
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 1: where we are right now, this age that she's in,

884
00:42:57,239 --> 00:43:00,640
Speaker 1: this this innocence that she possesses. I'm not, but one

885
00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 1: day I'm gonna wish I could be back here in

886
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 1: this moment and wish I could have like done it

887
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: better for her, I know.

888
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:07,879
Speaker 2: And then that gives me.

889
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 1: Because now she's off in the world, not giving a fuck,

890
00:43:10,680 --> 00:43:12,360
Speaker 1: doing whatever the fuck she wants, not calling me, and

891
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 1: she's in Europe, fucking abroad in college and I don't

892
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,719
Speaker 1: know where she's at, And all I could wish was

893
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:19,640
Speaker 1: that I just would have paid attention to her when

894
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:22,439
Speaker 1: she was eight and wanted to fucking you know, build

895
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 1: a ginger breadhouse.

896
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 6: I know.

897
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:25,359
Speaker 2: I think about that all the time. I'm like, one

898
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 2: day she's gonna be like a teenager and I'm gonna

899
00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 2: look up and I'm gonna be like, oh my god,

900
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 2: whatever I was working on Instagram was not important, and

901
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:36,720
Speaker 2: it's not. And it's just like, yeah, that shit haunts

902
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:38,439
Speaker 2: me and that she's never gonna be And even looking

903
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,799
Speaker 2: at her now, I'm like, you're so tall, you're gonna

904
00:43:40,800 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 2: be bigger than me. You're so beautiful, like who and

905
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 2: how she talks, and I'm like so that I always

906
00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 2: I always think of this is the last time she's

907
00:43:48,960 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 2: gonna be this age, at this time, at this moment,

908
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 2: and like take every second of it. I never try

909
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 2: and take any of it for granted.

910
00:43:55,680 --> 00:44:00,840
Speaker 1: Also weed we also weed, weed is kind of crucial

911
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 1: if you don't smoke.

912
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:02,640
Speaker 3: It, consider it.

913
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 1: Or maybe eat it, eat it, smoke it, rub it on.

914
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,319
Speaker 1: I don't know, do do something supplements?

915
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 2: Oh my god, we finally got a video request not

916
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:13,840
Speaker 2: thank you, Eric. I don't want to repeat the cycle

917
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 2: of me and my mom's rinaldo. Who's Ronaldo.

918
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:18,120
Speaker 6: Hip?

919
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:22,920
Speaker 5: Okay, so I'm obviously like naturally co signing everything you

920
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 5: girls are staying. But like I really want to talk about,

921
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 5: even like with self awareness and just like awareness of

922
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:34,760
Speaker 5: like human beings and yourself and life, why do friendship

923
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 5: breakups still fucking hit even.

924
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:38,160
Speaker 4: As you get older.

925
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:41,880
Speaker 5: I'm like in my thirties, and anytime it happens, even

926
00:44:41,960 --> 00:44:44,080
Speaker 5: though deep down I'm like I knew it about this bitch,

927
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 5: I just know it, it's still like I don't know,

928
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:50,719
Speaker 5: it hurts. That shit hurts harder than like, you know,

929
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:53,719
Speaker 5: intimate breakups with like people you're romantic with.

930
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 2: I think, because first of all, it doesn't matter how

931
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 2: fucking self aware evolved any of that shit. Like you

932
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:02,960
Speaker 2: still have feelings. You know, everybody has feelings, and you

933
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 2: have to feel them. That's why they're called feelings. There's

934
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 2: nothing like that means you someone told me like that

935
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:10,399
Speaker 2: means you're human. You know, if you stop feeling shit,

936
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:13,400
Speaker 2: then what the fuck like, then you're some fucking sociopath.

937
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 2: So I just I think you put especially when you're

938
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 2: a loyal ass friend like these two water bitches sitting

939
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 2: up here, Like when you really love people, I think

940
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 2: it does sting. You're like, damn, I really fucked with

941
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 2: that person. I really gave them my loyalty. I really

942
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 2: did these things. And so it's like the fucking audacity. Eric.

943
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 2: I just had a falling out with a friend recently,

944
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 2: as in the thirty something year all had to okay, yeah, when.

945
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 1: Recently, like oh, I'm like wait, hold on, you know

946
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: what that shit did really hurt and pissed me off.

947
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 3: You know why I think it is It was.

948
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 1: Just as you're asking this question, I was like, oh

949
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:49,600
Speaker 1: my god, this is is only okay.

950
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 3: I don't want to say this is true for me,

951
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:52,080
Speaker 3: but it is a little bit true.

952
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 1: Is it because we expect men to leave, whereas like

953
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 1: like romantic partners will expect to expire, but friendships we

954
00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:01,439
Speaker 1: like hold in this other regard where like when it does,

955
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: we're like, what the fuck, Like you're you're not supposed

956
00:46:04,160 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 1: to leave, Like I'm not even fucking me.

957
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 2: I don't know.

958
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 4: I feel it's weird too. I feel it's weird too,

959
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 4: depending on the friendship, right.

960
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 5: Not weird, but like in my my friendships, I like

961
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 5: to like pursue it and treat it the same way

962
00:46:19,160 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 5: I would like an intimate relationship, you know what I mean,

963
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 5: Like the same importance, the same love on different levels obviously,

964
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 5: so it just like hurts extra.

965
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:28,840
Speaker 4: It just hurts extra.

966
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:32,719
Speaker 5: And I find too, when you're older, people can be shistier.

967
00:46:32,840 --> 00:46:34,400
Speaker 4: So like you would think it's.

968
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 5: Like a breakup and it's done whatever, but then like

969
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 5: you know, they're going out of their way to be

970
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 5: friends with your friends now, and like they're.

971
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 4: Popping up where you popping up, and it's like I've been.

972
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:46,200
Speaker 5: Crying over you for days, girl, like and you're just

973
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:48,800
Speaker 5: trying so hard to like be close to the people

974
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 5: that I'm close with, so.

975
00:46:49,719 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 4: Like you know what I mean.

976
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 5: So anyways, that's like my thing lately is like my

977
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 5: my younger cousin was telling me about this like bad

978
00:46:58,320 --> 00:47:00,480
Speaker 5: friendship breakup. She had and I was like, girl, I

979
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 5: wish I could tell you it gets better, but it actually.

980
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,880
Speaker 1: Gets Wait, I didn't realize this is a real Is

981
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:08,239
Speaker 1: this like an epidemic that's happening, Like, I don't know.

982
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 3: I think, I don't know.

983
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 1: I haven't had that many friendship breakups. I think, like,

984
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:15,520
Speaker 1: I don't, really, I don't. Maybe you are more of

985
00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:17,759
Speaker 1: a friendly bitch than I am. And I have lots

986
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:21,320
Speaker 1: of friends, but I don't I generally have like my

987
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 1: my friends. Of course, I've made friends throughout even throughout

988
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 1: this our journey and podcasting, but I don't know.

989
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 3: I haven't had that many friendship breakups.

990
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 1: I had one recently, which was but I kind of

991
00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:33,480
Speaker 1: knew that was coming. And I know the type of

992
00:47:33,480 --> 00:47:36,279
Speaker 1: bit she was, you know you ah, yeah, I know

993
00:47:36,280 --> 00:47:37,920
Speaker 1: the type of bit she was. It didn't make me.

994
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 2: I was pissed, but usually, you know what usually the

995
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:43,360
Speaker 2: thing is being self aware and being older, is that

996
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 2: when it happens, you're just like, yeah, that bit, like

997
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:50,560
Speaker 2: you do know. Like like prior to the beginning of

998
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:53,359
Speaker 2: me and Erica starting this podcast, I had a pretty

999
00:47:53,360 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 2: close friend who we had a broke. I had two

1000
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 2: close friends that I broke up with that, I broke

1001
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 2: up with our podcast period, and with both of them,

1002
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:05,239
Speaker 2: I knew they're both kind of fucking crazy, So it's

1003
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:07,919
Speaker 2: like I think about them, I'm like, ah, like those

1004
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,960
Speaker 2: pitches are crazy like that, it wasn't I knew that

1005
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 2: it probably didn't have longevity because I was As you

1006
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:18,320
Speaker 2: progress in a friendship, you inevitably see people more clearly.

1007
00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 2: They start to show their true colors, you know, and

1008
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:23,920
Speaker 2: as a grown woman, you're like, that is not a

1009
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:26,520
Speaker 2: grow how a grown woman should act, and so you

1010
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:29,839
Speaker 2: kind of know who's not gonna last. And like even

1011
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 2: the ones that you didn't see it coming, it's like

1012
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 2: when they do show their ass. I think, if you're

1013
00:48:34,239 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 2: a woman and you decide to cut off a friend,

1014
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 2: it's generally for a very good reason, and you got

1015
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 2: to honor yourself and be like, all right, bitch a

1016
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:44,560
Speaker 2: little tier tier, but keep it pushing because I have

1017
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 2: real friends. I actually have friends that I fuck with

1018
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:48,360
Speaker 2: that I've kept for a long time, So I know

1019
00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 2: it's not like it's just not it's not for me.

1020
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:54,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I don't want it to be a problem

1021
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 4: for me.

1022
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 5: I feel that it's just like something that came up

1023
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,000
Speaker 5: for me recently, and I'm like, seriously, like I don't

1024
00:48:58,040 --> 00:48:59,600
Speaker 5: even have time to grieve with this right now. I'm

1025
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:02,560
Speaker 5: just so busy, like I'm a mom, like what And

1026
00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 5: then it's worse when your friends are kids too.

1027
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:05,359
Speaker 4: It's just a whole thing.

1028
00:49:05,440 --> 00:49:08,319
Speaker 5: And I'm like really like but like you said, like

1029
00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 5: people show their ass, see the signs.

1030
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 2: And I used to be like that too, Like I

1031
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:16,839
Speaker 2: had the one of the friends. It was a little bitch.

1032
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:19,880
Speaker 2: Our kids were friends and like all these fun things together.

1033
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 2: But thankfully my baby daddy maintained that friendship and I

1034
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 2: don't have to, but like I had, I just had

1035
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:27,279
Speaker 2: to release that too, like I'm sorry, I can't. I

1036
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 2: can't fucking help your friendship because we're not friends anymore.

1037
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 2: My bad Like can't do it. Sorry, my piece is

1038
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 2: more important than yours. I make the rules. You don't

1039
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:35,279
Speaker 2: have a.

1040
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 5: Car, yeah, yeah, true, true, No. I appreciate you all feedback,

1041
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 5: like obviously, like I'm good and stuff, but it's always

1042
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:43,840
Speaker 5: just some shit that is at the back of my

1043
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:45,759
Speaker 5: mind and like this person pops up and it's just

1044
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,719
Speaker 5: like why are friendship break up the fucking worst.

1045
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 2: Because they heart just like regular breakups. It's just loving

1046
00:49:51,920 --> 00:49:56,160
Speaker 2: people and then uncoupling from them. Is is hard because

1047
00:49:56,200 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 2: you're in routine and you're used to calling them every

1048
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 2: day or every other day, texting them. There's things you

1049
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:04,400
Speaker 2: start to do together. It's more about breaking the routine, honestly,

1050
00:50:05,000 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 2: because the time away eventually the time separates you any

1051
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 2: fucking way.

1052
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:11,120
Speaker 4: This is also like advice.

1053
00:50:12,200 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 5: Like I would take for a relationship even though I'm married,

1054
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:17,800
Speaker 5: you know, like just apply that same ship to everybody,

1055
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 5: just the same way. I love my friends the same

1056
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:22,880
Speaker 5: way with like a romantic partner, you know, like you

1057
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 5: show up for your friends like that, just it happens.

1058
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:26,879
Speaker 5: You cook for them, you clean for them, you wipe

1059
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:28,440
Speaker 5: their ass if they get a BBO, Like.

1060
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:35,400
Speaker 3: You're a good friend, are you?

1061
00:50:35,719 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 1: If I ever get that, I'm calling you, Okabbage, I

1062
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:39,200
Speaker 1: mean I'm gonna.

1063
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:39,720
Speaker 2: Heal an Autowa.

1064
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:41,719
Speaker 3: I'm coming to Ottawa to get my BBL.

1065
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:44,959
Speaker 2: I found a great BBL doctor.

1066
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:46,920
Speaker 5: You know what, I might as well just do the

1067
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 5: BBL myself too.

1068
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 2: I'll give you guys, oh a surgeon.

1069
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 1: No no, no, She's like literally, I have a whole

1070
00:50:58,640 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 1: group chat happening today about like happening in my phone

1071
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 1: currently real time while.

1072
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 2: We've been on here dollar it's only ten thousand.

1073
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 3: My friend is like, this is the ass I want?

1074
00:51:09,080 --> 00:51:12,880
Speaker 1: Well, I'm already researching Texas in Houston and Mexico.

1075
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 2: No wait, first it first it started out as a

1076
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:18,359
Speaker 2: workout like motivation, like I want this ass. Yeah, let's

1077
00:51:18,400 --> 00:51:20,440
Speaker 2: go to the stairs. And then I don't wear the doctors.

1078
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:22,200
Speaker 1: It went from like meet me on this hike to

1079
00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 1: let's just get asses.

1080
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:24,840
Speaker 3: Let's just buy asses.

1081
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 4: It's so funny, you know what.

1082
00:51:27,640 --> 00:51:31,080
Speaker 5: It was an intense incline from working out to BBL,

1083
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:34,279
Speaker 5: but you're scared to get that for the most part.

1084
00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 4: So they do like the cupping, you know, like the section.

1085
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 3: How long does that last? That's only last like a

1086
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 3: one hour.

1087
00:51:41,080 --> 00:51:42,480
Speaker 4: I don't know, but I've seen.

1088
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 5: Like the results right after, and it takes a few

1089
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,000
Speaker 5: weeks to heal, and honestly, it looks terrible.

1090
00:51:47,600 --> 00:51:50,000
Speaker 2: I feel like it's not good for your blood vessels.

1091
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 2: That can't be healthy. That can't be I mean, I

1092
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:53,240
Speaker 2: don't think either are.

1093
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 3: Neither are great.

1094
00:51:54,960 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, we need to be proud of our little butts,

1095
00:51:57,520 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 5: medium butts, like all the booties just get a little

1096
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:02,560
Speaker 5: jiggle in it if you can, even if it's flat

1097
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 5: and like call it a day.

1098
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 3: Shake some do some squats whatever.

1099
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. I mean, this is the body you got,

1100
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:13,720
Speaker 2: you know, take care of it, love it, you know. Yeah,

1101
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 2: I agree. I think I across all like spectrums, I

1102
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 2: think that's generally what it should be. If this is

1103
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:23,360
Speaker 2: how you got here, should probably keep it exactly.

1104
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:23,880
Speaker 3: I agree.

1105
00:52:23,920 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 1: But also I have fake boobs, so I was like,

1106
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:29,239
Speaker 1: I agree, but also, my tits are fake boobs.

1107
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:31,640
Speaker 2: Everything he has you should keep, unless.

1108
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:33,360
Speaker 1: It's just boobs, because my tits are not real, but

1109
00:52:33,440 --> 00:52:36,839
Speaker 1: everyone else be natural.

1110
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:41,319
Speaker 4: They look so real. I'm like talking like I know

1111
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 4: you in person.

1112
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:44,839
Speaker 3: No, but I I think do it. I think.

1113
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 1: I agree that we need to normalize just being comfortable

1114
00:52:48,160 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: with who the fuck we are.

1115
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 3: But I also agree with do whatever the fuck you want.

1116
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, but also don't be mad when I make fun

1117
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:57,800
Speaker 1: of you because you look fucking ridiculous.

1118
00:52:57,960 --> 00:52:58,240
Speaker 2: Damn.

1119
00:52:58,440 --> 00:53:00,839
Speaker 3: Just you know, go with your your own risk. That's

1120
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 3: all I'm gonna say.

1121
00:53:02,000 --> 00:53:05,240
Speaker 2: All in always, I don't agree with those little ass

1122
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:08,160
Speaker 2: thighs and those big dumb diaper booties. We at least

1123
00:53:08,320 --> 00:53:11,240
Speaker 2: proportion them, bitches. Come on, tell the doctor to proportion

1124
00:53:11,360 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 2: the hips to the ass or else you're gonna look dumb.

1125
00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:16,920
Speaker 2: It's you look like a Christmas turkey.

1126
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:17,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's like.

1127
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 5: And also I see a lot of like younger girls get.

1128
00:53:20,400 --> 00:53:21,919
Speaker 4: It, which is fine, Like you know, do you?

1129
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 5: But you don't realize how much your hormones change as

1130
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:27,760
Speaker 5: you like leave your twenties and get into your thirties,

1131
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 5: and like I swear to.

1132
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:31,160
Speaker 4: God, like your hips get bigger, your your teaeties get bigger,

1133
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:32,320
Speaker 4: like sometimes it happens.

1134
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 3: So just wait, just wait a second.

1135
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 5: But I'll let somebody else join. I love this so much,

1136
00:53:37,040 --> 00:53:39,280
Speaker 5: Thank you, ladies, and I'll keep.

1137
00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:42,120
Speaker 1: Listening in I have a fourteen year old boy who

1138
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,320
Speaker 1: is growing through this pandemic.

1139
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:46,399
Speaker 3: It's so different to try to relate to him.

1140
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 1: Ideas, God, I don't even know how I'm supposed to

1141
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:51,760
Speaker 1: relate to a boy, a fourteen year old boy.

1142
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:55,560
Speaker 2: In a pandemic. That's tough. I think for sure, get

1143
00:53:55,600 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 2: him into like other like social activities together, like maybe

1144
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 2: try something new to get for the first.

1145
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:03,800
Speaker 3: Time, something that he wants to do that he's into.

1146
00:54:03,840 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 2: Like fencing. I don't know why I thought of that.

1147
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:09,239
Speaker 1: Ben is that the most delicate masculine sport you could

1148
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:11,400
Speaker 1: take up, like fencing.

1149
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:16,800
Speaker 3: It's violence, but it's classy. Yeah, cla classy violence.

1150
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:20,400
Speaker 2: You know we both can get.

1151
00:54:21,480 --> 00:54:22,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be fun.

1152
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:24,320
Speaker 2: I mean what boy wouldn't do that? Okay, well maybe

1153
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 2: like the break room breakroom, like breaking ship. There's those

1154
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 2: rooms where you can break shit all over. I think

1155
00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 2: boys would like that.

1156
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:35,240
Speaker 3: Race car driving, risk your life, basically risk your life.

1157
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 2: Oh, I know, skydiving. I mean, like what boy would

1158
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:42,920
Speaker 2: be like? Yeah, I want skydiving with my mom. Get

1159
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:45,640
Speaker 2: a tat too, Oh yeah, I get hit that too.

1160
00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:50,440
Speaker 2: These are terrible. Why would you ask for a parenting

1161
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:53,040
Speaker 2: get but you know we're not there, We're not four two.

1162
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1163
00:54:54,000 --> 00:54:55,399
Speaker 3: We'll check back in seven years.

1164
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:57,480
Speaker 2: I thought those were good ideas. Maybe we were rafting.

1165
00:54:57,920 --> 00:54:58,880
Speaker 2: Maybe just go on a trip.

1166
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 3: We were raffed, okay, I think.

1167
00:55:02,040 --> 00:55:03,319
Speaker 2: We don't know what kind of mommy you are? You

1168
00:55:03,400 --> 00:55:05,000
Speaker 2: are your adventure enough for that.

1169
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:06,759
Speaker 1: Maybe teach him how to drive? Go take him and

1170
00:55:06,760 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 1: take him, teach him how to drive. Go like that

1171
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:09,359
Speaker 1: be your thing.

1172
00:55:09,480 --> 00:55:10,200
Speaker 2: Like a road trip.

1173
00:55:10,239 --> 00:55:12,840
Speaker 1: Once a week, you guys go and like drive in

1174
00:55:12,880 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 1: the parking lot somewhere where he can feel like you're

1175
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:17,839
Speaker 1: giving your trust, You're you're giving him his trust, you're

1176
00:55:17,880 --> 00:55:19,800
Speaker 1: spending time, he's feeling in control.

1177
00:55:21,280 --> 00:55:23,520
Speaker 3: I don't know. I think I don't know. I think

1178
00:55:23,560 --> 00:55:24,279
Speaker 3: that would be a good one.

1179
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:26,360
Speaker 2: I was gonna say something because I remember, you know

1180
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 2: what it is.

1181
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:28,200
Speaker 3: I was thinking, Okay, I don't know what you're gonna say.

1182
00:55:28,239 --> 00:55:29,480
Speaker 2: I shouldn't say. Okay.

1183
00:55:29,600 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 1: Well, I was thinking about like my dad, like me

1184
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:33,759
Speaker 1: and my dad, like how we One of the ways

1185
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:35,880
Speaker 1: that we bonded was that like he would let me.

1186
00:55:36,120 --> 00:55:37,680
Speaker 1: He would go to Texas and he would let me

1187
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:40,719
Speaker 1: go out into the field like back country and shit.

1188
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:41,800
Speaker 3: And drive his truck.

1189
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:44,840
Speaker 1: And I was probably like eight seven or eight maybe,

1190
00:55:45,239 --> 00:55:46,880
Speaker 1: but like it was fun for me.

1191
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:50,800
Speaker 3: I felt like I was bonding. I felt like he trusted.

1192
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 1: Me and I trusted him, and we were in this

1193
00:55:52,480 --> 00:55:55,400
Speaker 1: together and it was like obviously I was younger, but

1194
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:57,839
Speaker 1: I still think even a fourteen year old, like they're

1195
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: starting to feel like not starting the probably been feeling

1196
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 1: like they want to be independent. They want to feel

1197
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:06,960
Speaker 1: like they are in control of their life in a way,

1198
00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:08,399
Speaker 1: And I think that could be cool.

1199
00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:12,280
Speaker 2: That's true. You feel like there's some independence in that. Yeah, Hi, ladies,

1200
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:15,680
Speaker 2: what are your thoughts on single motherhood by choice? This

1201
00:56:15,760 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 2: is miss Missy Kamala. I'm thirty four, financially stable, good

1202
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:23,560
Speaker 2: support system from my family, but trash dating life. I

1203
00:56:23,600 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 2: have success, I have access to IVF, and I'm debating

1204
00:56:27,680 --> 00:56:32,440
Speaker 2: whether or not to go ahead with it. I think

1205
00:56:32,520 --> 00:56:37,080
Speaker 2: it's hard right, Like to me, thirty four is not

1206
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:41,920
Speaker 2: like you're not at the You're not at the last

1207
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:46,680
Speaker 2: point of conception, you know. I know everybody's bodies work different,

1208
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:50,279
Speaker 2: and like some people get pregnant at forty three, some

1209
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 2: people stop getting like have trouble at thirty five. I

1210
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,400
Speaker 2: think if you if everything's like working well and you

1211
00:56:56,440 --> 00:56:58,160
Speaker 2: don't have any reason, like you've gone to the doctor,

1212
00:56:58,160 --> 00:57:00,359
Speaker 2: you have every reason to like worry, if you want

1213
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 2: a relationship with someone and for to have like a

1214
00:57:03,239 --> 00:57:07,319
Speaker 2: family together. At some point I think that I think

1215
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:10,480
Speaker 2: you have some time to, like, you know, hope that

1216
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:14,440
Speaker 2: this trash dating life gets less trash. This is just

1217
00:57:14,520 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 2: my advice because it's the advice I give my friends

1218
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:19,600
Speaker 2: that are thirty four, the ones who are fucking freaking

1219
00:57:19,600 --> 00:57:23,600
Speaker 2: out that don't have any kids. But everybody knows their

1220
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:25,640
Speaker 2: themselves and where they're at and what they want for

1221
00:57:25,680 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 2: their life. So I only I always ask is like, Okay,

1222
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:33,720
Speaker 2: so say you have a baby and the baby's for

1223
00:57:34,080 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 2: and then you meet a guy that you like, really

1224
00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:39,000
Speaker 2: like and love, Like, I don't know, I guess he'll

1225
00:57:39,040 --> 00:57:41,680
Speaker 2: just come come in and take you know, take you both,

1226
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 2: just like with how it works with me. But like

1227
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:48,280
Speaker 2: maybe he'll be like, why didn't you wait? Why didn't

1228
00:57:48,280 --> 00:57:49,800
Speaker 2: you wait so I could be here from the beginning.

1229
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't thinking about the other person. Yeah,

1230
00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:52,520
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1231
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:53,640
Speaker 3: I would like him.

1232
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 1: Do what you want to do for yourself. I mean,

1233
00:57:55,800 --> 00:57:57,440
Speaker 1: if that's what you if you feel like you're ready

1234
00:57:57,520 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 1: right now, And I don't know, I feel like that's

1235
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:02,920
Speaker 1: a really personal choice that only you can really answer.

1236
00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 1: I think that me, I agree with Mila that like

1237
00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 1: you're I mean, obviously, go to the doctor, do the

1238
00:58:10,000 --> 00:58:12,400
Speaker 1: things you need to do. But I think if love

1239
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:14,920
Speaker 1: is what you would prefer, and that's kind of what

1240
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:19,320
Speaker 1: you're hoping hoping for, like, then go freeze your eggs

1241
00:58:19,400 --> 00:58:20,720
Speaker 1: and keep dating.

1242
00:58:24,680 --> 00:58:25,040
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1243
00:58:25,080 --> 00:58:28,880
Speaker 1: I just I feel like, God, there's so much pressure

1244
00:58:28,880 --> 00:58:31,680
Speaker 1: on women to like feel like they need to be

1245
00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:35,280
Speaker 1: parents too. I mean, not specifically this person who wrote

1246
00:58:35,320 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 1: in because I'm you know, I'm sure that you truly do.

1247
00:58:37,680 --> 00:58:43,080
Speaker 1: But I think often like it feels like you haven't.

1248
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 1: I feel like society makes you feel like you haven't

1249
00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:48,440
Speaker 1: completed your mission on Earth unless you's like been a

1250
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 1: mother of some sort.

1251
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's very true. I think a lot of women's,

1252
00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:59,720
Speaker 2: a lot of women's expectation of themselves to have families

1253
00:58:59,720 --> 00:59:03,720
Speaker 2: and children may have come from society and we don't

1254
00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:06,640
Speaker 2: even realize it because like that's the only way, like

1255
00:59:06,800 --> 00:59:09,840
Speaker 2: most of the way we see women in any media format,

1256
00:59:10,240 --> 00:59:13,800
Speaker 2: like grown Women minus like Sex in the City and

1257
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:16,000
Speaker 2: the whole show was about Carrie finding a fucking man

1258
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:19,280
Speaker 2: is about like, you know, like either you have a husband,

1259
00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:21,280
Speaker 2: you have a boyfriend, and you're gonna have kids. Like

1260
00:59:21,280 --> 00:59:24,640
Speaker 2: at a certain age, there's always this understanding that you're

1261
00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:26,440
Speaker 2: gonna get knocked up and have a family and lived

1262
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:29,040
Speaker 2: happily ever after. So I think there takes a lot

1263
00:59:29,040 --> 00:59:32,560
Speaker 2: of like exploring if like do you need it, do

1264
00:59:32,560 --> 00:59:33,320
Speaker 2: you need that.

1265
00:59:35,880 --> 00:59:36,320
Speaker 3: Adoption?

1266
00:59:37,400 --> 00:59:42,560
Speaker 1: Auntie traveling without traveling at the drop of a dime,

1267
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:44,480
Speaker 1: without ever having to check in with anyone, doing whatever

1268
00:59:44,480 --> 00:59:46,120
Speaker 1: the fuck you want every single moment of the day,

1269
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:48,400
Speaker 1: not paying for two people eating all your food, it

1270
00:59:48,520 --> 00:59:50,040
Speaker 1: being only your food and no one else can eat

1271
00:59:50,040 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 1: your food because it's your fucking food and no one des.

1272
00:59:51,680 --> 00:59:52,640
Speaker 3: There to take it.

1273
00:59:53,160 --> 00:59:56,040
Speaker 1: No no loud noises to make I mean not to say,

1274
00:59:56,200 --> 00:59:57,040
Speaker 1: if you're sick.

1275
00:59:56,920 --> 00:59:58,640
Speaker 2: And like not feeling well, you have a headache, and

1276
00:59:58,720 --> 01:00:00,560
Speaker 2: someone's like, you said you're an make me tea. You

1277
01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:01,960
Speaker 2: said you're gonna make me tee, said you're gonna make

1278
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:03,720
Speaker 2: me tea. I'm hungry, I'm hungry. I need a snack.

1279
01:00:04,200 --> 01:00:06,520
Speaker 1: I mean, just really, you think about it, think real

1280
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:09,600
Speaker 1: long and hard about it. It sounds cute until it's here.

1281
01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, my daughter is like the

1282
01:00:12,360 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 1: sole purpose of everything. It's She's really the inspiration behind

1283
01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:17,720
Speaker 1: even just sitting here right now.

1284
01:00:17,760 --> 01:00:26,919
Speaker 2: But shit, just make sure you are ready because yeah,

1285
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:32,080
Speaker 2: especially alone, that is, there's no one else there. I mean,

1286
01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:34,280
Speaker 2: hopefully someone else gets there. But you know what I'm saying,

1287
01:00:40,160 --> 01:00:44,520
Speaker 2: what is the mom and son sexual connection real? I

1288
01:00:44,560 --> 01:00:47,760
Speaker 2: know there is an unbeakable bond, but it is. But

1289
01:00:47,960 --> 01:00:51,360
Speaker 2: is it rooted in sexual connection? It's been studied. Is

1290
01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:53,919
Speaker 2: I'm just wondering your thoughts. Okay, the study that you're

1291
01:00:53,920 --> 01:00:58,480
Speaker 2: referring to it is I don't think it's a study

1292
01:00:58,520 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 2: of the the son and the mother having a sexual connection,

1293
01:01:03,480 --> 01:01:05,640
Speaker 2: because they also compare it the other way, the daughter

1294
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 2: and the father. And it's a theory and it says

1295
01:01:08,120 --> 01:01:14,080
Speaker 2: that at a certain age, the child, the female child

1296
01:01:14,320 --> 01:01:18,880
Speaker 2: at like four, wants to kill the mother and marry

1297
01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:21,720
Speaker 2: the dad. It's like, so there's there is a cond

1298
01:01:21,800 --> 01:01:24,600
Speaker 2: like this study, like an older study in psychology, like.

1299
01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:27,160
Speaker 3: That most girls feel this way.

1300
01:01:27,960 --> 01:01:31,240
Speaker 2: It's just I feel like it's a like a a

1301
01:01:31,320 --> 01:01:35,880
Speaker 2: standard that they put to exemplify the intimacy and like

1302
01:01:36,000 --> 01:01:39,600
Speaker 2: in how we develop as children into adults, just like

1303
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:41,600
Speaker 2: you know, you say you may date someone that's similar

1304
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:46,040
Speaker 2: to your father. It's just the psychology around the first

1305
01:01:46,080 --> 01:01:49,920
Speaker 2: female relationship as a boy is generally the mother. The

1306
01:01:49,960 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 2: first real intimate male relationship for a female child and

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01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:57,640
Speaker 2: vice versa is the father, and so these you know,

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Speaker 2: as a child, there's no there's really we don't understand

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01:02:01,080 --> 01:02:03,919
Speaker 2: fully the concept of like a romantic love, a sexual love,

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Speaker 2: or a platonic love. It's just love. So there's like

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01:02:06,240 --> 01:02:09,280
Speaker 2: an intimacy there. So I think that the Obviously the

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Speaker 2: psychology behind it has truth. I think it's like sigment Freud.

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Speaker 2: I forgot whose study it is, but it's a pretty like.

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Speaker 2: It's a pretty like referred often referred to psychology study,

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01:02:21,400 --> 01:02:22,680
Speaker 2: and obviously there's truth there.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to google it, and all coming up is

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Speaker 1: why kids kill parents?

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Speaker 2: Like, oh shit, I'm trying to sound smart, but I

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01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:36,160
Speaker 2: can't remember the fucking the fucking man who made this theory.

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Speaker 2: But no, there's definitely intimacy, Like there's a form of intimacy,

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01:02:41,560 --> 01:02:44,120
Speaker 2: but it's obviously not I don't think it's sexual and

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Speaker 2: I think as a child you don't understand the difference,

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01:02:46,920 --> 01:02:49,320
Speaker 2: so the lines are blurred. But there is no really

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Speaker 2: sexuality because you're just a kid.

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Speaker 3: I want when I was like your kid.

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Speaker 1: Like wanting to like like touch your tits all the time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, it's just like a form of intimacy

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01:02:58,240 --> 01:03:01,680
Speaker 2: and sensuality. When I was five, I thought I should

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01:03:01,760 --> 01:03:04,360
Speaker 2: kiss my dad with tongue because I saw my mom

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Speaker 2: do it.

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01:03:06,000 --> 01:03:07,840
Speaker 3: Okay I did.

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Speaker 2: I didn't warn him. I was just like in my mind, Okay,

1333
01:03:10,320 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 2: so this is the only thing I could think of,

1334
01:03:11,880 --> 01:03:13,760
Speaker 2: because this is the true thoughts of my five year

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01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:16,440
Speaker 2: old self, and it was like, huh, maybe I should

1336
01:03:16,440 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 2: try that. I didn't say let me should talk to

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01:03:17,880 --> 01:03:19,160
Speaker 2: him about it first. I was like, let me just

1338
01:03:19,200 --> 01:03:21,640
Speaker 2: try it and see is that was that what's supposed

1339
01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:23,320
Speaker 2: to happen? Because I saw it happen. It was just

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01:03:23,360 --> 01:03:27,440
Speaker 2: like trial and error. So I just was like and

1341
01:03:27,440 --> 01:03:33,440
Speaker 2: he was like, what are you doing? No, no, all right,

1342
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Speaker 2: So that's what I learned. It's also like I was

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01:03:36,240 --> 01:03:37,919
Speaker 2: five and I was like, huh, I wonder if hell

1344
01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:40,520
Speaker 2: is a bad word, and I wasn't sure, and instead

1345
01:03:40,520 --> 01:03:42,160
Speaker 2: of asking, I just said what the hell are you doing?

1346
01:03:42,720 --> 01:03:44,480
Speaker 2: And they were like, what the fuck are you talking about?

1347
01:03:45,680 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 2: And then I learned. You know, it's just like the

1348
01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:52,880
Speaker 2: theory of like learning and understanding. Well, yeah, intimacy as

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01:03:53,400 --> 01:03:55,760
Speaker 2: a form of a new human You know, you're in

1350
01:03:55,760 --> 01:03:58,560
Speaker 2: this world and like there's these social constructs and these

1351
01:03:58,560 --> 01:04:02,040
Speaker 2: things of love and romance for obvious reasons, and you know,

1352
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:04,680
Speaker 2: you just don't really fully understand that concept as a child,

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01:04:04,760 --> 01:04:08,080
Speaker 2: and so you're just exploring love and intimacy in a

1354
01:04:09,000 --> 01:04:14,040
Speaker 2: rather innocent way. Not that I ever tried to kiss

1355
01:04:14,080 --> 01:04:16,480
Speaker 2: my dad like that ever. Again, I'm just I was

1356
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Speaker 2: just point of reference.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for thanks for sharing that, babe. I really appreciate that.

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Speaker 3: I'm so glad that you got that up.

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01:04:23,920 --> 01:04:26,800
Speaker 2: I'll never forget it. I just was like, oh no, okay.

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Speaker 2: I don't think he yelled at me. He was just like,

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Speaker 2: what are you doing? Oh my god?

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01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:33,120
Speaker 3: This must have been a fucking hilarious moment as a parent.

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Speaker 3: Can you imagine?

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Speaker 2: I wonder if he remembers. I wonder if I should

1365
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:37,880
Speaker 2: ask him. Maybe.

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Speaker 1: Some one said, can you speak about rebuilding relationships after

1367
01:04:42,560 --> 01:04:43,560
Speaker 1: narcissist abuse?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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01:04:43,920 --> 01:04:46,919
Speaker 2: Wait, hold on. It's based on let's ask toy because

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01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 2: she's young and smart. It's based on Odipus Rex, who

1371
01:04:51,160 --> 01:04:53,800
Speaker 2: was orphaned then fell in love with his mom, who

1372
01:04:53,840 --> 01:04:56,800
Speaker 2: didn't know who he didn't know was his mom. It's

1373
01:04:56,840 --> 01:04:59,320
Speaker 2: a Greek story. Okay, so I think there's also a

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Speaker 2: study to Okay, now, what are you saying? Sorry, I

1375
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:02,840
Speaker 2: don't know.

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01:05:03,040 --> 01:05:05,120
Speaker 1: Someone would just said, how do you build relationships after,

1377
01:05:05,360 --> 01:05:08,360
Speaker 1: you know, being in a narcissistic abusive relationship?

1378
01:05:09,680 --> 01:05:13,160
Speaker 2: I think it takes a lot of self work, loan work.

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01:05:13,280 --> 01:05:16,240
Speaker 2: It takes a lot of a loan work, A lot

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01:05:16,440 --> 01:05:20,280
Speaker 2: of a loan work. I mentioned last. I don't know

1381
01:05:20,320 --> 01:05:22,440
Speaker 2: in one of these episodes. Oh, I think today's episode.

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01:05:22,520 --> 01:05:24,680
Speaker 2: I mentioned on today's episode if you haven't listened, and

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01:05:24,760 --> 01:05:29,360
Speaker 2: now's the time that I was hanging out with an

1384
01:05:29,360 --> 01:05:32,080
Speaker 2: old relationship and I was like, what the fuck was

1385
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:35,000
Speaker 2: I thinking? This is crazy? This is abuse? Why was

1386
01:05:35,040 --> 01:05:37,640
Speaker 2: I taking this? And it was just like an epiphany.

1387
01:05:38,000 --> 01:05:40,720
Speaker 2: But I've done so much self work and come so

1388
01:05:40,880 --> 01:05:44,360
Speaker 2: far from that because I was so broken, and you know,

1389
01:05:44,440 --> 01:05:46,440
Speaker 2: it just takes like and I still got in a

1390
01:05:46,480 --> 01:05:50,160
Speaker 2: relationship with the narcissist. So it's just constant, constant work

1391
01:05:50,200 --> 01:05:52,440
Speaker 2: of recognizing it and recognizing it when you're not valuing

1392
01:05:52,440 --> 01:05:55,360
Speaker 2: yourself and putting yourself first, and then removing yourself and

1393
01:05:55,360 --> 01:05:58,000
Speaker 2: being okay, removing yourself faster and faster every time you

1394
01:05:58,040 --> 01:06:00,520
Speaker 2: recognize the red flags. Amen.

1395
01:06:02,480 --> 01:06:05,920
Speaker 1: Also check out our episode with Megan Doherty. She's a

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01:06:06,000 --> 01:06:12,080
Speaker 1: narcissist expert, loved bomb m D. He leaves her Instagram.

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01:06:12,480 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 1: Is there a foot person in here?

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01:06:13,560 --> 01:06:13,680
Speaker 4: Uh?

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01:06:13,720 --> 01:06:13,959
Speaker 2: Huh?

1400
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:14,640
Speaker 3: Oh?

1401
01:06:14,800 --> 01:06:18,880
Speaker 2: Should we Erica got my feet famous? Because Eric's feet

1402
01:06:18,920 --> 01:06:21,080
Speaker 2: or famous? This is not a good Check out my

1403
01:06:21,120 --> 01:06:30,200
Speaker 2: wiki page. If you're on Patreon, you will see see

1404
01:06:30,560 --> 01:06:34,160
Speaker 2: am my feet clean on the bottom. Oh oh mine, Okay,

1405
01:06:34,640 --> 01:06:38,960
Speaker 2: that was for you too, man or woman. I don't know, Okay,

1406
01:06:39,000 --> 01:06:42,960
Speaker 2: I think that's enough. Oh yeah, okay. Toy is so smart. Okay,

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01:06:43,000 --> 01:06:45,800
Speaker 2: shout out to Tory because she's my favorite, one of

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01:06:46,080 --> 01:06:49,880
Speaker 2: our favorite listeners for our og listeners. She said, the

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01:06:49,920 --> 01:06:52,840
Speaker 2: study is Freud. I knew it. But he's a weirdo. Okay,

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01:06:53,000 --> 01:06:55,400
Speaker 2: I didn't know that and had a bunch of outlandish

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01:06:55,480 --> 01:06:59,000
Speaker 2: claims about pedophilia. H okay, well, maybe we'll scratch that.

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01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:02,200
Speaker 2: He wasn't smart her mind. Tory said, he's not the one.

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01:07:02,200 --> 01:07:04,200
Speaker 2: He's not it. Okay, Well, you're right, Tory, fuck him.

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01:07:04,200 --> 01:07:10,640
Speaker 2: Fund that guy for one, do more research. I figured

1415
01:07:10,680 --> 01:07:13,840
Speaker 2: out why menche. It's scientifically believable. Me too. They're not

1416
01:07:14,120 --> 01:07:22,640
Speaker 2: as evolved, okay, but they're genetically the dish genetically disposition

1417
01:07:22,760 --> 01:07:26,320
Speaker 2: disposition to lie, that's why they cheat. Okay.

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Speaker 6: Well,