WEBVTT - Conversations About Affairs 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:04.360 Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.480 Sillers podcast with your host. Not funk that with your 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:17.279 low blasses, Malone. You don't know who may have you 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:23.560 ever heard that name? Oh? That's um the Long's husband, right, 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:30.400 the coach of the boy, not not not near Longs fiance. 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:33.800 He's the coach. That's how I know who he is. 0:00:33.840 --> 0:00:37.000 But go ahead, what about him? I don't ever reduce 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:40.199 some man to be in somebody. Why not right now? 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:42.000 He just embarrassed her right now, so we can reduce 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:45.720 him to however we need to embarrass sir, he had 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:49.600 a freaking relationship with somebody and she's that's his What 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:52.959 are you talking about? That's public communication? You have children. 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:57.160 What does it have to do? That's a that's embarrassing. 0:00:57.400 --> 0:01:00.240 Why did you say it wasn't have to do with who? 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:04.880 I'm asking you? Why is it embarrassing? Yea, man, it's caught. 0:01:05.080 --> 0:01:08.240 Not only does she know he's Shet, the whole world 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:12.640 know he's She did that's embarrassing. Why because it just 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:17.160 is like, damn, I thought about that. I don't know 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:19.959 if it's embarrassing, but it's hurtful, of course, hurtful. Yeah, 0:01:20.000 --> 0:01:22.440 but that's just still embarrassing money, Like you don't I 0:01:22.520 --> 0:01:27.800 know when I'm sorry someone cheats. Of course it's hurtful 0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:29.520 and everything like that. I'm just saying, like, just for 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:32.320 it to be in the public eye, that ship just embarrassing, 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:37.160 like this is but shot up to me along, But 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:40.680 my bad if I that made him a young man, 0:01:41.520 --> 0:01:45.400 a little man. No, I mean that's how you know 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:47.119 about him. I mean that's how I knew about him. 0:01:47.400 --> 0:01:49.240 I mean, he's the coach of the Boston Celtics, like 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:52.320 he would safe suspending them for the whole season. Yeah, 0:01:52.400 --> 0:01:57.680 but he just took them to the finals last year. No, 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:05.680 I was thinking, I was just thinking, um about cheating 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:13.120 versus affairs like, um, but let me ask you a question. 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:17.320 Why is it? Why do you feel like it's your father, 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:21.640 for god cheats? How do I feel like it's my fault? Yeah? 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:24.600 Like why do you like? Why do y'all internalize that? 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.440 M hmm. Sometimes you may look at yourself in the 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.440 mirror and be like, Okay, I could have did certain things, 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:35.760 you know, or I could have handled certain things differently 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:38.840 or whatever. But I think that a man, man or 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:40.960 a woman would feel that way afterwards, especially if they 0:02:41.520 --> 0:02:45.200 Men don't. Men don't feel like it's my fault. Men 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:48.560 don't internalize cheating. It's you know, so you don't think that. 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:53.720 Why would I think it's my fault? Exactly? And if 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:55.800 you that's what I'm saying, If you cheat, it's your fault, 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:59.960 ain't I don't think that way? Not you word? Obviously whatever, 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:03.600 internalize it? Right. They immediately start to say, what did 0:03:03.639 --> 0:03:12.120 I do? No, okay, I had a situation world, No, 0:03:12.520 --> 0:03:14.399 that's not true. You could do whatever. If a man's 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:17.680 gonna cheat, het gonna cheat. So why do you internalize it? 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:20.400 Why do you feel like it's some greate? Why was 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:22.760 you over there? Like? Why did he cheat on me? 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:26.280 I was young, I didn't understand. That was my first 0:03:26.280 --> 0:03:28.079 first I was in love with I don't understand none 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:29.760 of that. I was like, how could he take my 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:32.720 heart and just crush it in a million pieces like that? Like? 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:35.520 Why is your heart crushing too? A million peoples? I 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:37.800 don't know? I was, I was in love. Well, yeah, 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:41.280 your heart hurt? What do you hurt? What was hurtful 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:44.480 about it? Why? Why are you hurting? I'm asking why 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:46.920 why am I hurting? Like when somebody cheats? On you 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:50.800 what hurts? Like, why you're heart hurting because I'm because 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:53.640 I'm gonna leave them because we probably might not be together. 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:56.040 That's what I would you know what I'm saying, Like 0:03:56.040 --> 0:03:58.920 I'm in a different place in my life right now, 0:03:59.160 --> 0:04:04.240 but yeah, I'm like, oh my gosh, like I can't. 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:06.840 I don't. I don't want to not be with him. 0:04:06.920 --> 0:04:09.320 I can't I start thinking about him with other women, 0:04:09.680 --> 0:04:13.720 just like oh my gosh, Like that's what's hurting. It's like, what, 0:04:13.720 --> 0:04:18.760 why does that bother you? Because that's my man? Well 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:21.080 he ain't my man no more. But but I'm saying 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:26.240 he's not your man anymore? No? Why not? Because he was? 0:04:26.279 --> 0:04:29.760 Like why what? Like I'm trying to get into a 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:32.640 place to actually get into reason where it's not just 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:35.560 like oh I just bla blah blah blah blah blah, 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:38.600 reason like why is it not your man? Like let's say, 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:42.120 if your man goes and sleep with somebody, you find 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:45.280 out two years later, why is he not your man? 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:48.600 If he was your man for those two years, Well, 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:51.240 she didn't know what I'm saying. He was hurt. He 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:54.719 was still hurt man anyway, but she didn't know that 0:04:54.800 --> 0:04:58.280 he I mean they probably still stay together. I mean 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:00.800 I had a situation where he the baby on me. 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:03.640 Oh that's different. You get reminded every day to nake 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:07.480 a cheats different. But I was there. I stayed No, 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:10.000 I'm getting I'm saying. What I'm trying to figure out 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:14.480 is why is it about you? Specifically? Like if I 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:16.960 if I explain why a woman cheated on me, I 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:19.760 can explain it. I'd be like, oh, this is why. 0:05:19.800 --> 0:05:22.839 I would explain why I would feel a certain way 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:24.760 or what it is. But I know this when sometimes 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:27.560 when y'all like women, and I hate to group you 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.159 all together, but y'all all do have vaginas, right, so 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:34.760 there's somewhat pretty much some likeness and the thought. Right. 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:38.280 I noticed when y'all talk about it, like I've been 0:05:38.320 --> 0:05:43.160 seeing people comment about that situation specifically, it's like, oh, 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.359 he cheated on me along, And I'm like, who the 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:49.719 funk is me along? What's me alone? Alone? What do 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:53.960 you mean? Who is alone? Does that mean? What do 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:56.839 you mean? What does that mean? Like? Is she not 0:05:57.200 --> 0:05:59.839 a woman? She's a woman, but you know it's like 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:04.279 she is the woman that you don't cheat on the 0:06:04.320 --> 0:06:07.800 woman that is the fantasy of like, oh my gosh, 0:06:07.839 --> 0:06:14.760 like one a woman like that. That's what apparently men 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:18.240 or you know what many comments I saw a man 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:21.039 saying like how you fumble the bag and all you're stripping? 0:06:21.080 --> 0:06:25.280 How you how you cheat on the I mean these 0:06:25.360 --> 0:06:29.080 niggas as holes. If niggas put that on social media, 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:31.360 they ain't never had no bad bitch or they ain't 0:06:31.360 --> 0:06:35.320 never had a bit that was pretty much. Um, they 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:38.280 never had a woman that was desirable, So they think 0:06:38.320 --> 0:06:40.560 having a woman that's desirable, they got you do anything 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:42.960 to keep her. She's gonna do the same thing the 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:49.040 ugly ain't gonna do. Maybe war, maybe more. She might 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:52.520 be entitled, had that pretty girl entitlement where like I'm pretty. 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:55.360 The reality is if you sleep with somebody a few 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:58.680 times enough times, whatever they look like don't matter no more. 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:04.240 Whatever they look like don't matter. If you had her 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:08.560 straight up, like why wouldn't matter no more? You had her, 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:11.000 show me somebody everybody won't, and I'll show you a 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:17.440 nigger that's tired of sucking with her up. Yeah you 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:19.120 don't think jay Z be like, man, I could get 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.920 some way, And that's bullshit. And this's motherfucker. I don't know. 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.360 I mean, I'm sure they go through I'm sure everybody 0:07:25.360 --> 0:07:28.920 goes through things. You know, I'm saying, what makes you 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:31.880 think that she like what does that really mean? Like, 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:37.720 but that's Beyonce, mean that she would like to jay Z. 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.640 That's just that's just Beyonce. He just he'd been hit. 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:49.200 That that's how you look at it. I mean, you 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:51.320 think he's just like somebody that never had her. You 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:53.000 think he's looked at it with those are Is that 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:54.880 how you think? I don't think he looked at her 0:07:54.920 --> 0:07:57.800 like that. I think that you know, they should look 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:01.239 at me like yes, yeah, like he never had you. 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:06.000 I don't even make sense. Why know, you're saying, look 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:10.200 at me like I'm the the prize, the queen or 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:11.640 you know what I'm saying, like, just look at me like, 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:15.480 oh my gosh, you're not. I am You're not not 0:08:15.600 --> 0:08:19.120 if somebody had you, if Dady flowered you your fist 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:23.040 with whatever. Okay, get back to the damn manager now, 0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:38.760 the conversations, not the managers, gl rid Rid. This is 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:41.360 what I'm trying to get to. Like, when we have 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:43.960 these conversations on those sailings, we don't have a Curran 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:47.400 event show. They make us have conversations about things that 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:51.480 are rooted trust me, a hundred plus years ago, Like 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:56.480 slaves are cheating on slave wives. This is all old stuff. 0:08:56.520 --> 0:09:00.160 I'm just trying to get down to why of I 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:02.160 just I won't trying to get down to a few thoughts, 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:06.240 Like one is like, what makes me alone so great 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:11.160 to wear? Somebody shouldn't like what y'all taste their macarona cheese? 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:15.320 Not in know about it? Ship fired? No, she just 0:09:15.320 --> 0:09:17.040 supposed it looks so good because he's in Boys in 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:19.640 the Hood. I'm not. Okay, Look, you don't even have 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:21.600 to be about ne alone. It's the fact that she's 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:23.640 with this man for a very long time. They share 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:27.840 a child. You know, this is just very It's just 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:32.360 very Yeah, it's just it's just mess. It's this message. Agreed. 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:36.400 I totally agree. I understand her embarrassment, right. Her embarrassment 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:39.840 is she's knee a long and nobody's supposed to cheat 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:45.800 on her because she's knee alone. But okay, it's very 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:48.160 very peplate. So the question is, why did he cheat 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:52.199 on knee alone? What does that tell you? He's crazy? 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:55.120 He's fun with the bag. I'm just telling what the 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:59.560 comments said. I mean, niggas will lie on social media. See, 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:01.800 this is the one thing about me that I appreciate 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:04.200 more than most men, and I see today I'm meet 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:07.920 on and off. This is one. It's one year, ain't 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:10.040 no shift, ain't no third for it only get better. 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:13.920 There's no worse meat. This is the worst me and 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:15.920 the best me. And then they get you start noticing 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.200 things that's really awesome about me. The more you interact 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:21.400 with me, they don't get worse. Most men that you're 0:10:21.400 --> 0:10:23.920 gonna see on social media, it was they would never 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:27.640 do that. You just ain't never had me alone. Think 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:34.000 about how many people left Jenner Jackson and Holly Berryerry, remember, Yeah, 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:37.120 that was a big thing. When um Eric Banat had 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:40.440 cheated on Holly. They're like, how could you cheat on her? 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:43.440 You know, everybody was just beating her up. Ye, that 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:46.839 is exactly what happened. And so my point is they're 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:51.360 just women. Men are just me, and like, just because 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:54.120 we look at them on television and we find over them, 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:56.199 they're still just regular people that're gonna come with the 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:59.600 sign bullshit than any other woman or more. And that's true. 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.319 But they're not looked at like that. You know, it's like, 0:11:02.400 --> 0:11:06.360 oh my gosh, it's me alone. So the regular you know, 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.360 man on the street, it's like, oh my god. If 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:13.360 I get I ain't about a woman in my life, 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:17.959 I wouldn't chat set. It's not a woman walking or 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:20.839 breathing ear that I wouldn't cheat on. She has nothing 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:28.079 to do with her. I believe that because you could 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:32.319 always find something about another woman that's better than your woman, 0:11:32.520 --> 0:11:35.080 or that's favorable for then your woman if that's what 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:38.160 you If it's about your woman, oh she if she 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:40.560 shucked pen is good, you can find one to do 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:44.319 it better. If your woman beautiful, you can find one 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:46.440 even more beautiful. She got to ask, you can find 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:49.240 one more At whatever you think it's so great about 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:52.600 one particular woman, it's another woman that exists that's greater 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:55.400 or counters it. Unless he just feels like, oh, I 0:11:55.480 --> 0:12:00.000 looked up like I can't mess this because ain't no, Nick, 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:02.240 you're not cheating because they worried about what y'all gonna do. 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:05.920 They just get better at cheating. Yeah, I definitely think 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:11.560 everybody they're trying to do little little things things I'm 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:13.760 not saying every man go cheat. I'm telling you it 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:16.600 don't got nothing to do with you. It ain't nothing. 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:18.880 I mean, you could do things to help your man 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:22.280 not cheat. I mean I think you'll do a poor job. 0:12:22.760 --> 0:12:24.600 One of the things that what are some things that 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:29.920 we could do, well, there's some physical interactions. I think 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:33.839 I told you all this, Jack and your nigga hand job. Now, 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.600 I'm not saying that's a guaranteed thing that's gonna work. 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:39.520 I'm just saying that second or third one is a 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:42.800 little tougher. What's the second? What's the second or third one? 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:46.360 Like if you second or you gotta really want to 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:49.840 bet you give her a second that like I always 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:51.800 used I used to have this thing, right. I used 0:12:51.840 --> 0:12:54.760 to have this thing right when I was trying to 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:57.160 kind of get myself off of using women to make 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:59.319 myself feel better about myself because that's what me And 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:02.000 do you sleep with women to feel better about yourself? 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:05.080 For some reason, sleeping with women make you feel accomplished 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:08.320 and you just think yourself, it's really gone because women 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:13.200 just suck anybody. They do. Everybody is like, trust me, 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:15.520 it's a nigga right now near alone knocked down that 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:19.160 you may probably looking like why are you fucking Yeah, 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:25.120 everybody but every where they're like what we know? They 0:13:25.200 --> 0:13:28.720 just the reason why I decided to have sex with 0:13:28.920 --> 0:13:33.320 him is something totally different than how he may look. 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:35.439 But somebody else is gonna look, or he might he 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:39.560 was dealing him for sure. So so my point is, yeah, 0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:42.600 I started doing was when I like women. You when 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.160 use women, like when you when you're young and you 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:47.440 don't know better, you use women to make yourself feel 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:50.719 better about yourself, like sleeping. When women make you feel accomplished, 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:52.599 like you special because she got you some pushes, she 0:13:52.640 --> 0:13:54.840 gave you her body. Women just I just realized women 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:57.480 just retort. Now the more I see it now, I 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:01.640 just realized women just don't really care about their body. 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.280 It's like, oh, it's no big deal. They care. It's 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:08.000 just that they haven't been taught. No. It's literally the 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:11.439 movement going on to say, oh, do whatever you want 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:15.280 to do. It's just no problem. That's the movement. It's 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:18.280 literally there's a there's a walk called a sluptwalk where 0:14:18.320 --> 0:14:21.960 they literally practiced like women being sexually. Women go to sluptwalk. 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:24.520 I've never been so a sluptwalk I've heard about it. 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:27.760 Of course. I always tell you the masses represent you. 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:31.520 That's not the masses. I'm saying. If it's something, If 0:14:32.040 --> 0:14:35.920 not the masses, any women not mine, Any women have 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:38.440 never dad, have never stepped foot. I don't know anyone 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:41.120 personally that has been to the SlutWalk. I don't either. 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:42.880 First off, the problem is it don't matter if you 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:45.600 know somebody personally. Your friends are sluts. I don't know 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:50.800 your friends, So we got hold up your friends. No, 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:56.080 first of all, your friends is not my cousins. All 0:14:56.120 --> 0:14:58.520 your friends having sex with me and their relationships with 0:14:58.600 --> 0:15:02.440 only we're you mean only like are they sleeping with me? 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:07.200 And they're not in committed relationships? Well, now that you're 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:10.840 getting older, so it's different, I'm saying. That's not the point. 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:12.840 I'm saying. These same girls that she was friends with 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:15.160 the whole time, they was like, we're only giving up 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:18.280 pussy if we're in a committed relationship. No, they were 0:15:18.320 --> 0:15:20.480 finding me in to sleep with. That's where a slot is. 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:31.520 They wasn't finding me. They wasn't. So that girl, I'm 0:15:31.520 --> 0:15:36.560 about to try to find about to find what. No, 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:39.240 I'm just said that I'm said in women language. We 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:41.000 went out to the clubs Now, girl, what're you're wearing? 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:44.040 You wearing that dress? Are you trying to get Oh? No, 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:46.560 none of my friends, we never nobody was going home 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:49.680 from the club and having sex with anybody X y Z. Yeah, 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:53.160 but you might meet somebody eventually, you know, you might 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:56.360 have Yeah, but it's not going down of these people 0:15:56.360 --> 0:15:59.320 getting pussy. No, not everybody. You're right. I did. I 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.840 got I had some I won't even say like my friends, 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:04.960 but I had some home girls that was like damn 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:10.120 you wow. And I respect as women. Y'all really hold 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:12.160 it down for women to lie and try to defend it. 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:14.160 Like when y'all know that that they were slucked. Some 0:16:14.240 --> 0:16:16.400 of your partners a sluts. That's true, and y'all have 0:16:16.440 --> 0:16:20.040 had slutty moments. I'm sure in your life that because 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.760 you exist. I don't mean that. I know girls said 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:27.240 if you only seen, if you only seen, if you 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:30.200 go to parties, like like we was going to parties 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:33.560 when we were coming up, a slut, you have slutty moments. 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:35.720 That's It's not a big deal. What I'm saying at 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:38.400 the party. I'm not saying you slept with somebody at 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:43.200 the party, you sleep moment, you know, or you had 0:16:43.200 --> 0:16:45.040 a slutty moment that now you might have met the 0:16:45.120 --> 0:16:47.080 right person. You just I'm just giving some pussy for 0:16:47.120 --> 0:16:50.360 this whatever reason. Well, okay, well I never had a 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:53.320 one night stand because you did it twice. Don't mean 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:57.240 it's not a one night stand. What one night stand 0:16:57.320 --> 0:17:01.240 is on the first night and never know? No, no, 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:05.919 you can't talk to him again. No, no, Listen. The 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:08.920 whole thing is you had sex on the first night. 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:15.160 I have had first moment. No, no, it's different cause 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:21.040 I slept with him twice. The point I'm saying is listen. 0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:24.359 So my point is I have stopped she used to 0:17:24.359 --> 0:17:28.200 be through meAll So the reason I stopped valuing those 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:31.639 moments is because I realized women just wasn't what I 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:35.919 thought they were. They weren't these precious jewels that was 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:38.320 you had to do things to get them in position. 0:17:38.520 --> 0:17:40.640 I mean I used to think that. I just think 0:17:40.640 --> 0:17:44.199 women were really special. I get women are special, but 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:47.960 they don't know how they're special. So if they don't 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:50.040 know how they're special, then they let me and use 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:53.320 them how they use them. Listen, see sexual relationship last 0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:57.159 only one night? A single performance of a play or 0:17:57.280 --> 0:18:02.320 show in particular. No, that's not one night stand. I 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:05.320 don't know that is the meaning if you got if 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:07.359 you gave away some coot on the first night, it 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:10.159 was a one night stand that you kept. Yes, it 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:12.680 just kept going. That's not sex on the first date 0:18:12.840 --> 0:18:16.240 or the first one. That's actually a slug. No, that's 0:18:16.280 --> 0:18:21.960 what a moment. I didn't say. I had a slutty moment. 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:24.320 I'm trying to tell you guys that that's what it is. Well, 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:26.240 we're saying that that makes you still listen, why is 0:18:26.280 --> 0:18:32.640 he saying we that I just said. I just said, 0:18:32.680 --> 0:18:35.560 you don't have to do it one time, but the 0:18:35.600 --> 0:18:38.360 first night is a one night stand. I wasn't even 0:18:38.400 --> 0:18:44.280 saying that sexual relationship or you are slut if you 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:54.000 slept with somebody on the first night, man, whatever that point. 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:56.520 I'm saying this. Once I realized that y'all didn't care 0:18:56.520 --> 0:18:59.840 about your bodies, I realized that I cannot put value 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:05.840 in your body. That's not true. Seein point you finished 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:18.320 throw me off. I don't got to read you from 0:19:18.440 --> 0:19:22.800 l A mean. We all used to go off the clubs. 0:19:23.400 --> 0:19:26.000 We all used to we used to buy drinks, stuff, 0:19:26.080 --> 0:19:31.840 was popping. It's easy lower inhibition. Look, I'm not asking 0:19:31.840 --> 0:19:34.760 you to frame your your first nighters. What I'm saying, 0:19:35.040 --> 0:19:37.159 that's not what I'm doing. Because what I'm saying is 0:19:38.520 --> 0:19:42.160 I'm saying I used So men used women right as 0:19:42.160 --> 0:19:44.760 a sense of accomplishment. Right, If a woman give you 0:19:44.840 --> 0:19:48.080 some some vagina, you feel like you're special, like you 0:19:48.119 --> 0:19:53.320 accomplish something because you think women are special. The reality 0:19:53.520 --> 0:19:56.399 is women are special. They don't know they're special, so 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:59.879 they don't treat themselves like they're special. So you getting 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:04.080 vagina from them is not really an accomplishment. So but 0:20:04.200 --> 0:20:06.720 when you're young, you feel like that. So when I 0:20:06.720 --> 0:20:09.600 would misuse women, well I really wouldn't misuse them when 0:20:09.600 --> 0:20:11.359 I was use them for what they wanted to be 0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:19.000 used for, right, I thought that was special. So the 0:20:19.160 --> 0:20:21.280 more you didn't made me lose my damn training thought 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:24.480 of where I was going with this, I know what 0:20:24.520 --> 0:20:27.879 I'm saying is so the same thing. That's not what 0:20:27.880 --> 0:20:29.560 he's talking about. But I'm saying the same thing that 0:20:29.600 --> 0:20:32.119 we was talking about with cheating is that's the same 0:20:32.160 --> 0:20:37.240 reason the sense of accomplishment, right, So so men cheat, 0:20:37.440 --> 0:20:39.560 like you're saying, of course, I know it doesn't have 0:20:39.600 --> 0:20:42.960 anything to do with the woman, but okay, we're cheating 0:20:43.119 --> 0:20:46.720 or they're cheating because it's because it makes them feel 0:20:46.760 --> 0:20:48.840 better about who they are. But now when they ask 0:20:48.880 --> 0:20:52.600 it caught, No, no, I mean it's never caught. But 0:20:52.760 --> 0:20:56.200 what I'm saying is it's not about him, it's about 0:20:56.200 --> 0:20:59.240 the mentality. Like, so, once you have a woman, right, 0:20:59.280 --> 0:21:01.520 once you act sleep with the woman. Once you've have 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:04.880 had a woman in the biblical sense, it's not the same. 0:21:04.960 --> 0:21:07.480 You'll never see her the same. It either is going 0:21:07.520 --> 0:21:13.439 to increase or most likely go. Now what do you 0:21:13.440 --> 0:21:18.320 mean mostly why because if that, if that soul tide 0:21:18.359 --> 0:21:22.320 doesn't happen right then and there, feel me, then you 0:21:22.400 --> 0:21:24.520 look at him as less stand right off the rip 0:21:24.640 --> 0:21:28.840 like whatever you know. I mean that it's the reason 0:21:28.880 --> 0:21:31.000 why that was the ultimate gift when you got married 0:21:31.040 --> 0:21:34.840 at first. I mean like, oh, I'm gonna give you myself. Now, 0:21:34.840 --> 0:21:36.760 women can't get nobody. They sell when they give it. 0:21:36.760 --> 0:21:44.560 Didn't give it to everybody else, n't But yeah, you 0:21:44.600 --> 0:21:49.680 know what I'm saying. So she wished I would have waited. Yeah, 0:21:49.680 --> 0:21:51.600 me too, I do too. As a man, I wish 0:21:51.600 --> 0:21:56.200 I would have waited because it's just confusing. I mean, 0:21:56.240 --> 0:22:00.560 like me to start comparing people. You start comparing their performances, 0:22:00.600 --> 0:22:02.639 you start comparing how they like to have. You have 0:22:02.800 --> 0:22:05.320 this whole belief in your mind of how it should 0:22:05.320 --> 0:22:07.440 be going. Well, I'll be just laying here looking good 0:22:07.440 --> 0:22:09.760 and he don't want to do nothing, you know, And 0:22:09.800 --> 0:22:13.119 then that's because you comparing them to I mean, you 0:22:13.160 --> 0:22:15.280 compare it to some horn though that was wouldn't let 0:22:15.280 --> 0:22:21.639 you fucking walk four feet? And then or like true, 0:22:21.800 --> 0:22:26.200 it's true. You start making bad comparison and you don't 0:22:26.240 --> 0:22:30.560 know that somebody is probably treating you correctly or whatever, 0:22:30.640 --> 0:22:32.919 but you're comparing it to somebody that was probably in 0:22:32.920 --> 0:22:35.280 a failed relationship that didn't work. And you're like, well 0:22:35.280 --> 0:22:42.720 they don't do it like that time. Yeah, yeah, because 0:22:42.880 --> 0:22:45.680 um but back to the point. So what I did 0:22:45.720 --> 0:22:49.320 I remember? So the point I was getting to is 0:22:49.560 --> 0:22:51.840 when at that time, when I would miss use women 0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:53.840 right or use them for what they thought they was 0:22:53.880 --> 0:22:57.040 good for, I realized, like, do I really the way 0:22:57.080 --> 0:22:59.119 I would help myself as I would jack off before 0:22:59.160 --> 0:23:01.440 I would go just to ask them then if I 0:23:01.480 --> 0:23:03.760 want to sleep with like if they was trying to 0:23:03.800 --> 0:23:05.359 give me some pussy, and I was like, damn, do 0:23:05.440 --> 0:23:07.160 I really want to funk with this person? Or am 0:23:07.160 --> 0:23:09.640 I just trying to make myself feel better? I would 0:23:09.720 --> 0:23:14.000 jack off and once I nut it, yeah, right off 0:23:14.040 --> 0:23:19.399 the rip, it's left feel left it. Then I'm not 0:23:19.480 --> 0:23:22.840 hitting them back. But if I still wanted them, maybe 0:23:23.760 --> 0:23:26.400 three times total, maybe I'll have probably bought a couple 0:23:26.400 --> 0:23:30.280 of hundred times. What I'm saying that I realized I 0:23:30.320 --> 0:23:33.040 still want to interact with the person. Then if I 0:23:33.080 --> 0:23:35.080 really want to interact with you, I'm like funk with her. 0:23:35.480 --> 0:23:37.480 But if I jack off and I come and it's 0:23:37.520 --> 0:23:42.280