1 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:16,480 Speaker 1: Hey, there are folks, and welcome to I Do Part two. 2 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 2: And if you got in love right the first time around, 3 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:21,279 Speaker 2: this podcast ain't for you. I am one of your 4 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:23,640 Speaker 2: whole state at home sitting next to Amy row Botan. 5 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:26,639 Speaker 1: Between the two of us, we have four divorces, so 6 00:00:26,800 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: no judgment here. 7 00:00:29,080 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 2: Welcome everybody to the podcast, and really, I think robes. 8 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 2: We have talked to a lot of people on I 9 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:36,120 Speaker 2: Do Part two, a lot of people who are going 10 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 2: to an second marriage or maybe even third, or trying 11 00:00:40,080 --> 00:00:41,839 Speaker 2: to get out there and date again. This is going 12 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:44,120 Speaker 2: to be the first time we've talked to somebody who's 13 00:00:44,159 --> 00:00:46,280 Speaker 2: actually going through it while we're talking to them. 14 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 3: And not just going through a divorce, which is hard 15 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 3: enough privately, but going through a divorce publicly is a 16 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 3: whole other thing. 17 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 4: And well we know a little bit about that as well. 18 00:00:57,840 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 3: So I was actually just telling our next guest that 19 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,679 Speaker 3: she is in a very safe space because. 20 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: What we're gonna see. 21 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 3: While everyone's experience is unique and specific to them, there 22 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:13,840 Speaker 3: are some shared experiences. When you go through something this 23 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:18,120 Speaker 3: traumatic with children, with the public watching there, that is 24 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 3: something that I would not wish on anyone. 25 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 4: And uh, it's. 26 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:24,399 Speaker 3: Certainly a rocky road to travel, but I will say 27 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 3: when you get to the other side, you learn so 28 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 3: much about yourself. You learn what you want, you learn 29 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 3: what you don't want, and that is that's winning. Actually, 30 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:37,480 Speaker 3: to know where you stand, not only internally, but just 31 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 3: what is next in life. 32 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 4: That's awesome. 33 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 2: And with that, folks, you are now listening to a 34 00:01:42,120 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 2: boy from Arkansas and a girl from Georgia introducing another 35 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:46,840 Speaker 2: girl from Kentucky. 36 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 1: And with that we want to welcome Star much talked 37 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 1: about sensation Britney. 38 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 2: Cart Right, you know her fro vandr pump Rules. You 39 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 2: know are now with the second season of The Valley 40 00:01:58,360 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 2: coming up. How are you doing? 41 00:01:59,720 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 3: So? 42 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 5: Hi, thanks for having me. I'm so excited to be here. 43 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: Look at that one. 44 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 3: I love and I love you, you said a girl 45 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:09,239 Speaker 3: from Kentucky because you can hear it right away and immediately. 46 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 4: We are also Southerners, so I love it. We love 47 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 4: hearing a Southern drawl. 48 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 5: And I love y'all's love. It's so cute, it's so obvious. 49 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, funny the way life takes you where it 50 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 2: takes you. That the Kentucky, Arkansas, Georgia are sitting in 51 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 2: a hotel in Los Angeles, in Hollywood. 52 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,640 Speaker 6: Right, don't y'all hate that Kentucky basketball is just so 53 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 6: much better. 54 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 4: I'd prefer to start talking about football. 55 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 5: Okay, football football, That seems. 56 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:45,639 Speaker 1: We didn't come to talk about. Can't we ask? 57 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 2: There's a lot to get to with you, but we 58 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 2: want to start with something that. Look, Robock and I 59 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 2: both have gone through recently divorces in a very public way. 60 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 2: The first thing we were concerned about was our kids. 61 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 2: The first thing we want to make sure they're okay. 62 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 2: People saying all kinds of shit about us in public. 63 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 2: Our priority was that. So can I start with that 64 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 2: with you as a mom? All that's going on the show, whatever, 65 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:09,639 Speaker 2: social media, this and that and the back and forth. 66 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 2: How is Cruise here? A three year old who's about 67 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 2: to be four, and just tell us how he's doing 68 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:16,560 Speaker 2: through what has been upheaval in his life. 69 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:20,880 Speaker 6: He is absolutely amazing. He is thriving. I feel like 70 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:24,079 Speaker 6: he wants to see his mom happy, and I think 71 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 6: that like actually affects him more to see a happy 72 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 6: mom and a happy household and everything than having you know, 73 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 6: negativity around twenty four to seven. 74 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 5: He's amazing. 75 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 6: He's only three, so you know, luckily he doesn't really 76 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 6: get everything that's going on at this moment, but I 77 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 6: just feel like he's so much happier. 78 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 5: I honestly do, I really do. 79 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 3: That's real and I think that is real because kids, 80 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 3: no matter how young they are, Yeah, they sense energy, 81 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:54,520 Speaker 3: They know what the energy is in the house. They 82 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 3: know and yes, having parents who are happy, even if 83 00:03:57,200 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 3: that means they're apart, is better than having that negativity 84 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:01,440 Speaker 3: in the house. 85 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 4: Actually, I really believe that. 86 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 3: You know, my therapist, when I was struggling with what 87 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:08,480 Speaker 3: to do, said to me, with my daughters, is this 88 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:10,600 Speaker 3: the marriage you would want for them? If it's not, 89 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 3: then what are you showing them? So I just wanted 90 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:15,240 Speaker 3: to give that to you as well. I know we 91 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:18,239 Speaker 3: all have mom guilt, dad guilt. You know you're putting 92 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:20,360 Speaker 3: your kids first, and yet you're also trying to navigate 93 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,760 Speaker 3: your own life. So I think that's brave and admirable. 94 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:24,640 Speaker 5: Thank you doing. 95 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean it was definitely hard, but also cruises 96 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 6: my driving force to like be happier and to be 97 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:34,719 Speaker 6: a better person and to be like in this space 98 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 6: where I feel comfortable and I can like be the 99 00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 6: better mom for him. Because I feel like I just 100 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 6: had so much stress and pressure every day in my life, 101 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:46,840 Speaker 6: Like the energy was just so bad and so off 102 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:48,680 Speaker 6: in our house. So I just felt like I had 103 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 6: to get out and I had to do it for 104 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 6: my son. If I didn't have him, I would probably 105 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:56,359 Speaker 6: stay with Jacks for the rest of my life. 106 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:58,919 Speaker 2: Really really, I mean we're used to hearing the opposite 107 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:01,359 Speaker 2: people want to stay together or the kid no. 108 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:05,359 Speaker 6: Wow, Like I feel like I loved Jack so much 109 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:09,440 Speaker 6: and I really was into this life, into this marriage 110 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:11,599 Speaker 6: with him. I thought he was gonna be my forever person. 111 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 6: And having crews and seeing how I was treated in 112 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 6: front of my son really opened my eyes. And I 113 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:22,360 Speaker 6: think for a lot of women like you just are 114 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 6: so blinded by love that you don't really like realize. 115 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 5: Everything that you're going through. 116 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 6: Like I held everything in for so long, so long, 117 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 6: and I just think that he just like really like 118 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:38,080 Speaker 6: opened me up and was just like, Okay, this is 119 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 6: not okay. I need to do this for my son. 120 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:42,600 Speaker 6: I need to be happy for my son. 121 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 3: I'm curious, because cameras were rolling, was there something what 122 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 3: was the epiphany for you? Was it off camera? Was 123 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:55,520 Speaker 3: it on camera where you said, I have to get out. 124 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:57,799 Speaker 3: This is not healthy for me or for my child. 125 00:05:57,920 --> 00:05:59,920 Speaker 6: There was a lot of things off camera that I 126 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:02,799 Speaker 6: can speak on because now we've had all these podcasts 127 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,600 Speaker 6: come about Alice back and like everything like it's been 128 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,279 Speaker 6: all over the place. But there was a lot of 129 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 6: things that were happening before I ever moved out, Like 130 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 6: he admitted that he had a cocaine. 131 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,799 Speaker 3: Addiction, and you knew about that the whole time. 132 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:22,280 Speaker 6: I knew about it, but it was like he would 133 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 6: never admit that it was a problem. He always acted 134 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:27,159 Speaker 6: like this was normal, this was this, this was that, 135 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:30,279 Speaker 6: but I knew it was So after I had my child, 136 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 6: obviously things changed and I started noticing more. 137 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:35,599 Speaker 5: And more and more and more and more. 138 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 6: And once we separated because I had to leave him 139 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:42,279 Speaker 6: after a bad night that was like a come down 140 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 6: after like a party night. 141 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:45,000 Speaker 4: What was a bad night? 142 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 3: What did that look like? 143 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 5: Just the next. 144 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 6: Morning was so bad, just like coming into the room 145 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 6: yelling and doing this and doing that and just just 146 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:56,480 Speaker 6: made me feel like a like I lost all my confidence, 147 00:06:56,600 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 6: I lost almost sparkle in that relationship. And after ten 148 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 6: years I finally started to notice that, you know, it 149 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:08,200 Speaker 6: took me a while, but I just felt like I 150 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 6: couldn't do it anymore. I couldn't do it anymore. So 151 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 6: I was like, either you leave or ally, and he 152 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 6: wouldn't leave, so I had to leave. 153 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 2: As we sit here, you're a full year plus from 154 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,360 Speaker 2: when you filed four to four or no separate. You 155 00:07:23,400 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 2: can separated at least a year in the past year. 156 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 2: How close have you been, if at all, to getting 157 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 2: back together. 158 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 6: I've had I'm not gonna lie, I've had like a 159 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 6: couple of times where I was like lonely and was like, WHOA, 160 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 6: what might happen? But we never got back together and 161 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:43,200 Speaker 6: we will never ever get back together. I just few, 162 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:46,160 Speaker 6: like after a year with somebody for ten years, sometimes 163 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 6: there's gonna be times where you feel weak, you know, 164 00:07:48,440 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 6: and you miss them and you feel lonely. 165 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 5: And that's happened to me a lot. 166 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 6: But I know I'm worth so much more and I 167 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 6: know that, like, I can do so much better than 168 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 6: what he put me through. And that's a confidence that 169 00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 6: I never had before. 170 00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:08,160 Speaker 4: So yeah, that's amazing. Yeah, has he tried to get you. 171 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 6: Back sometimes but not always, Like I feel like he's 172 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 6: done the bare minimum. So like it's like, uh, what 173 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:16,560 Speaker 6: am I supposed to do? 174 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 4: You know, you left, right, so is he? He's still 175 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 4: in the house. 176 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 6: So I moved into rental homes for about seven months, 177 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 6: and then he finally got a condo after a long time. 178 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 6: And this was after his rehab, say and everything. So 179 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 6: it was just kind of like, you know, I begged him, 180 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:40,560 Speaker 6: and like I even said, I will pay for the 181 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 6: rental house and you can live there and I can 182 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 6: stay at the house with our son. He still won't 183 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 6: do that. So but now I can probably say, yes, 184 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 6: I have my house. It's one hundred percent of mine. 185 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 6: He's moved out. I am taken over everything, and like 186 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 6: I feel like that's like so empowering for me. Like 187 00:08:58,840 --> 00:09:00,840 Speaker 6: I'm so proud of myself else that I have that, 188 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 6: and me and Cruise are back in our house where 189 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:05,360 Speaker 6: we started, where he was born, where he grew up. 190 00:09:05,880 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 6: You know, I was gone for seven months, but I'm 191 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 6: back on my own. 192 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 4: I love it. 193 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:21,840 Speaker 7: Yeah. 194 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 2: Does he need I don't know Jack's at all, nothing 195 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:27,400 Speaker 2: from other than what I've seen on the show. Yeah, right, 196 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 2: Does do you feel like he needs? What if he 197 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 2: got right? Because we always say there's no way I 198 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 2: can be good for somebody else if I'm not good 199 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 2: myself first, but talk about his mental health? Is you 200 00:09:38,240 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 2: talk about his substance abuse issues? If he got right? 201 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 2: I mean, does he need to get right before you 202 00:09:44,360 --> 00:09:48,520 Speaker 2: could possibly consider taking him back or a reconciliation or 203 00:09:48,800 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 2: a reconciliation off the table. I won't ask another follow 204 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:51,559 Speaker 2: up about it. 205 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 5: That's hard because I don't think that. 206 00:09:55,800 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 6: I think he's hurt me so much between this, especially 207 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:01,000 Speaker 6: after our separ it has been. 208 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:04,559 Speaker 3: Bad, and you were finding like women's thongs. 209 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 6: Yes, and dms, like I'm getting sent dms from women 210 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:13,560 Speaker 6: where I have to read their text threads and like, 211 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 6: could you imagine Let's like I don't want to read that. 212 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:19,439 Speaker 6: So now, like there's no way that we could ever 213 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 6: be back together, Not that I even wanted that, but like, 214 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:25,559 Speaker 6: how could I ever be back with that after reading 215 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 6: all these things and knowing everything he said and done, 216 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 6: And I just would feel so dumb if I ever 217 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:36,839 Speaker 6: went back with him, honestly, And I feel like I've 218 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 6: gained so much more strength and I'm getting into such 219 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:42,280 Speaker 6: a better headspace and so much like happier and so 220 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:45,959 Speaker 6: much more confidence since I've left him, Like so if 221 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 6: I went back into that. 222 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 5: I just feel like my. 223 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:52,840 Speaker 6: Piece would be all messed up again, you know, like 224 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:55,080 Speaker 6: it just doesn't it doesn't. 225 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 4: Fit you have you do have a sparkle. Thank you 226 00:10:58,040 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 4: about you and you are like. 227 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 3: I can tell the shine and the sparkle are coming 228 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 3: from you, not because someone not from an external source. 229 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 3: Isn't that what it's all about too, of finding yourself 230 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 3: and then building back. 231 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,199 Speaker 4: So from that perspective, I. 232 00:11:11,120 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 3: Don't know, are you how do you get to a 233 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 3: place where you can trust who you choose? 234 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 8: Again? 235 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 3: Because I had mentioned you, hey, find your best friend, 236 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:22,880 Speaker 3: just saying that we've been through a few issues ourselves 237 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:24,720 Speaker 3: and when I finally found my best friend. 238 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:28,079 Speaker 1: That when through a few issues. 239 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 7: Being a stroke. 240 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 3: But but you said to me, and this was interesting, 241 00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 3: you said, I thought I had yes, So how do 242 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 3: you trust? How do you trust the next relationship? How 243 00:11:41,040 --> 00:11:45,199 Speaker 3: do you trust the next friendship that builds into something more? 244 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 3: Where how do you reconcile that? I think it's gonna 245 00:11:48,440 --> 00:11:51,959 Speaker 3: be hard because I definitely have my guard up. I 246 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:55,079 Speaker 3: definitely thought Jackson was my best friend. I said that 247 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:58,520 Speaker 3: for years, ten years, he's my best friend. 248 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:02,320 Speaker 6: Anytime people were me or say like what are you 249 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:04,080 Speaker 6: doing or why would you go do this? 250 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:04,960 Speaker 5: Or forgive him for this? 251 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 6: And I'm like, he's my best friend. He makes me happy, 252 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 6: he is my everyday person. So it is very hard 253 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:15,440 Speaker 6: to lose that. But I feel like the red flags, 254 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:18,920 Speaker 6: I like will notice them all, you know, like there 255 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:22,680 Speaker 6: is a new you know, a new a new thing 256 00:12:22,760 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 6: that I'm looking for in a man, you know, And 257 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 6: I'm not like ready to date again yet. 258 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 5: It's gonna take me a little bit. I'm wanna have. 259 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 6: Fun right now, and I am I want to have 260 00:12:34,200 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 6: fun and I am, but I think. 261 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 2: Uh, you mean, what do you mean? 262 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:40,840 Speaker 1: I want to have fun? And I am, what does 263 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 1: that mean? 264 00:12:42,040 --> 00:12:44,960 Speaker 5: Just like hanging out with hot guys? 265 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:50,679 Speaker 1: You know, you have not struggled the whole time. This 266 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:54,720 Speaker 1: is the first time you paused, just you know, hanging out. 267 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 1: This is the first time she tripped over a word, bro. 268 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, just just hanging out. 269 00:13:00,320 --> 00:13:04,400 Speaker 9: But but yeah, I think the red flags are up, 270 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:06,439 Speaker 9: Like you notice so much more after you've been in 271 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:09,200 Speaker 9: a relationship like that, like especially with a narcissist, Like 272 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:12,199 Speaker 9: I will never be able to be with a narcissist ever. 273 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:15,920 Speaker 6: Again, I don't think any woman ever should. But you know, 274 00:13:15,960 --> 00:13:18,360 Speaker 6: there's just different things that have happened along the way, 275 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,719 Speaker 6: and I've learned so much, I've gotten so much stronger. 276 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 6: So I just see so many different things. 277 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:27,559 Speaker 2: I don't know what you were like before. You know, 278 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 2: we didn't get a chance to meet you. Yeah, while 279 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:32,199 Speaker 2: you were married, while you were going through whatever you're 280 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:34,640 Speaker 2: going through. Didn't know, but you have walked it. You 281 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:36,160 Speaker 2: just have a light to you. I don't know what 282 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:39,160 Speaker 2: it was before. And it's an interesting thing with Bro 283 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:41,600 Speaker 2: that you're the only example I have. But folks in 284 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:44,679 Speaker 2: your life, once you start getting divorced, so you get 285 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 2: out of a relationship, all of a sudden, they come 286 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 2: out and say, wow, it's good to have you back. Yeah, 287 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 2: what have you or maybe your friends are family noticing 288 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 2: anything about you any different? Are they relieved even that 289 00:13:55,360 --> 00:13:57,360 Speaker 2: you are now out of that relationship. 290 00:13:57,480 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 5: Yeah. I think a lot of my friends, my family especially, 291 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:01,960 Speaker 5: they're happy for me. You know. 292 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:05,160 Speaker 6: They want me to succeed, They want me to be happy. 293 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 6: They want me to be the best mom I could 294 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:10,080 Speaker 6: be and live in the you know, like just a 295 00:14:10,200 --> 00:14:14,360 Speaker 6: happier space because it's been hard. Not gonna lie, it's 296 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:17,920 Speaker 6: been a lot. But I think I've you know, I'm 297 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 6: gradually getting better day by. 298 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:23,480 Speaker 5: Day because it's still hard. I'm not gonna lie. 299 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 6: I got my sparkle back, for sure, but this is 300 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:27,760 Speaker 6: not even as sparkly as I could be. 301 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 5: I feel like I got a little blace. 302 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 4: To go, you know, but that you're on the right path. Yes, 303 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 4: you know you were on the right path. 304 00:14:36,920 --> 00:14:37,360 Speaker 1: Now you are. 305 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:39,920 Speaker 3: DJ was referring to my mom, saying, I feel like 306 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 3: I have my Amy back. 307 00:14:41,520 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 4: Oh, I feel like I. 308 00:14:42,440 --> 00:14:47,680 Speaker 3: Have my daughter back from high school, that exuberance, happy, 309 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 3: anything's possible, Amy. And it was weird to hear that 310 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 3: from a I don't know if your mom can ever 311 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 3: be objective, but from somebody who always has your best 312 00:14:57,520 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 3: interest at heart. 313 00:14:58,520 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 4: Seeing something like that was really pactful. 314 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 3: And I didn't even realize that that was the change 315 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 3: in me. Have people in your life noticed a change 316 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:11,400 Speaker 3: in you? And do you see WHOA was? I a 317 00:15:11,480 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 3: show of who I was. You don't even realize it's 318 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:15,720 Speaker 3: happening while it's happening. 319 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:17,760 Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, Jane is one of my best friends. 320 00:15:17,760 --> 00:15:18,960 Speaker 6: She's over there shaking her head. 321 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 5: Like, yes, yeah, I feel like yeah, I just God, 322 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 5: when I read that energy is in your house every 323 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 5: single day. 324 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 6: It like really brings you down. And I think that 325 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:34,880 Speaker 6: my friends and family have really noticed, like, Okay, she 326 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:38,040 Speaker 6: you know, she's feeling so much better, She's doing so 327 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:38,680 Speaker 6: much better. 328 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 5: No, jan Yeah, okay, Janet. Jane's in the room and 329 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 5: she can say the answer. But I'm gonna be honest. 330 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 5: It's not easy for me to. 331 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 9: Talk about myself like that. 332 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 1: Jenna, can you speak to what she's saying? What? 333 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:02,360 Speaker 2: What did you notice in your friend once? I guess 334 00:16:02,440 --> 00:16:05,240 Speaker 2: she decided the really was over, I guess. And from 335 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:07,320 Speaker 2: a year ago to now, what have you noticed? 336 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:07,880 Speaker 5: Definitely? 337 00:16:07,920 --> 00:16:10,240 Speaker 8: I will say the biggest difference is a lot of 338 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 8: our conversations went from consoling her and trying to cheer 339 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:16,320 Speaker 8: her up to laughing with her and making plans to 340 00:16:16,360 --> 00:16:19,280 Speaker 8: have fun. Mm hmm that's I mean. It really went 341 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 8: from like, hey, everything's going to be okay to like, 342 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 8: everything is okay. Yeah, And I see her being absolutely 343 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:29,160 Speaker 8: her best best self now and I'm so proud of you. 344 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:33,120 Speaker 3: Do you feel like you're I know this sounds maybe 345 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 3: a little cheesy, but when you're trying to please someone 346 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:40,160 Speaker 3: or you're trying to keep something working, that isn't you 347 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 3: end up not even feeling comfortable being yourself or saying 348 00:16:44,080 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 3: what you really think or what you really feel, but 349 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 3: just trying to keep the peace at all costs. Are 350 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:54,600 Speaker 3: you now able to be like yourself? Were you ever 351 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 3: feeling like you couldn't. 352 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:57,040 Speaker 5: Be oh, one hundred percent? 353 00:16:57,160 --> 00:16:59,440 Speaker 6: Like I felt like I was never allowed to vent 354 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:01,600 Speaker 6: to my friends or talk about what was going on 355 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 6: in my relationship, even though we're on a public platform, 356 00:17:04,600 --> 00:17:07,840 Speaker 6: even just like one on one like dinners with my girls, 357 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 6: Like it was always, you know, a negative thing. Once 358 00:17:10,840 --> 00:17:12,720 Speaker 6: I went out with my friends, it was like what 359 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 6: are you talking about? 360 00:17:13,320 --> 00:17:15,000 Speaker 5: What are you doing? Are you are you doing this? 361 00:17:15,080 --> 00:17:17,439 Speaker 5: Are you talking about this? It was, it was, it 362 00:17:17,520 --> 00:17:18,159 Speaker 5: was bad. 363 00:17:18,680 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 6: So I feel like I've had such a relief and 364 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:25,080 Speaker 6: a like a lift off my shoulders, like especially once 365 00:17:25,119 --> 00:17:28,840 Speaker 6: the divorce was filed and then like once he finally 366 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:31,720 Speaker 6: announced his addiction issues, because then I could finally be 367 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:35,480 Speaker 6: like like this, this is what I had to deal 368 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:38,879 Speaker 6: with every day. And I hid a lot because he 369 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:41,399 Speaker 6: was my husband and I did love him, but it 370 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 6: was it was a lot for me to go through. 371 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:46,880 Speaker 6: And you know, I tried, I tried my best, but 372 00:17:46,960 --> 00:17:50,359 Speaker 6: I feel like I'm proud of myself for for how 373 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:51,200 Speaker 6: far I've come. 374 00:17:51,680 --> 00:17:53,359 Speaker 5: Honestly, Yeah, you. 375 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:55,320 Speaker 4: Said you did love him. Do you still love him? 376 00:17:55,880 --> 00:18:00,920 Speaker 6: I love him in a weird way. Okay, can't stand him. 377 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:07,040 Speaker 6: I cannot stand him. I love him as the father 378 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:09,800 Speaker 6: of my child who co parenting is super hard with 379 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 6: somebody that you can't stand. 380 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 5: So, I mean, I don't know how better to explain 381 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 5: it than that, Like it's like, I think it's relatable. 382 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:20,240 Speaker 2: Yeahs in some of the articles I read, you really 383 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:21,199 Speaker 2: you can't stand him. 384 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 5: No, I did not love Like I'm not in love 385 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 5: with him anymore. 386 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:29,640 Speaker 6: I think that I'm like grieving the life I thought 387 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:32,159 Speaker 6: we were going to have together. And it's still hard 388 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 6: because we were together for ten years, so it's hard. 389 00:18:34,920 --> 00:18:37,400 Speaker 8: You know, you're no longer putting the fires out too. 390 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:39,960 Speaker 8: I think I think I see with Jack's he was 391 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:42,680 Speaker 8: kind of always burning bridges with her friends, with people 392 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:45,240 Speaker 8: in our friend group, and Brittany was always going behind 393 00:18:45,320 --> 00:18:48,320 Speaker 8: him and fixing everything and making it all right with everybody. 394 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:50,199 Speaker 8: And it's like one less job you have to do 395 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:52,800 Speaker 8: now and you can really concentrate on being yourself and 396 00:18:52,840 --> 00:18:55,359 Speaker 8: the best mom. And I'm seeing the full best version 397 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 8: of you, and it's like the most wonderful thing to see, truly. 398 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 2: Thank you, is that the version with did your relationship 399 00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 2: have a better chance if cameras were not in your face? 400 00:19:05,320 --> 00:19:08,879 Speaker 6: So Jackson and I started off basically on camera, I 401 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:11,920 Speaker 6: mean not the day we met, but as soon as 402 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:14,600 Speaker 6: I moved to LA, I was on a TV show 403 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 6: and that was crazy. That was a whole experience within itself. 404 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:22,560 Speaker 6: But everybody kept saying, you are. You were making Check 405 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 6: so much better. You're the best thing that's ever happened 406 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:28,399 Speaker 6: to him. You're you know, and I really thought that 407 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:30,919 Speaker 6: too for a very long time. We were together for 408 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:37,160 Speaker 6: ten years. It wasn't all terrible, you know, obviously, but yeah, 409 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:40,840 Speaker 6: it's been I feel like our whole relationship was on camera, 410 00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 6: and then it wasn't after vander Pump Rules, and that 411 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:46,080 Speaker 6: was a really hard time in our life as well, 412 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:51,399 Speaker 6: and then we started the Valley and I thought everything 413 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:53,960 Speaker 6: was going to be better and he was going to 414 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:57,400 Speaker 6: get like more of his confidence, even back at that point. 415 00:19:58,080 --> 00:19:59,840 Speaker 5: But I feel like he turned it around and you 416 00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:00,680 Speaker 5: it against me? 417 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:02,800 Speaker 4: Wow? 418 00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 6: Yeah, do you right? 419 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:07,520 Speaker 4: Do you ever? 420 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,520 Speaker 3: Do you ever look back or even as you're thinking 421 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:15,680 Speaker 3: forward and think maybe the TV has hurt versus helped, 422 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:16,000 Speaker 3: or do. 423 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:17,120 Speaker 4: You think it's the opposite. 424 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:22,040 Speaker 6: I think for my growth as a woman, especially this 425 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:27,159 Speaker 6: last season, having the cameras there held me accountable in 426 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:29,280 Speaker 6: ways that I don't know if I would be strong 427 00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:30,840 Speaker 6: enough to do on my own. 428 00:20:31,600 --> 00:20:33,200 Speaker 5: And I yeah, I mean. 429 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:35,080 Speaker 6: It's like it holds a mirror up to yourself. So 430 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:39,919 Speaker 6: it's like, oh my gosh, everybody's saying how horrible I 431 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:43,160 Speaker 6: was treated, and they're gonna watch it all season two, 432 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:46,919 Speaker 6: how horrible I was treated? Like it like really holds 433 00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:50,679 Speaker 6: up like a mirror to yourself, and like, you know, 434 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:53,159 Speaker 6: I fell for divorce and I did that, you know, 435 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 6: And I feel so much better now and I'm never 436 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:57,920 Speaker 6: going back, never going back ever. 437 00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:00,040 Speaker 1: Say yeah, they say never say never. 438 00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:03,560 Speaker 7: Exception. 439 00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:05,879 Speaker 4: I was going to say, I think you and I 440 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:07,280 Speaker 4: can say no sometimes. 441 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:12,920 Speaker 3: Actually I think I've lived enough life to absolutely say never. 442 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:25,119 Speaker 2: Did you get from friends? I'm sitting next to one 443 00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:27,399 Speaker 2: of your thoughts, But how do you support a friend 444 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:28,920 Speaker 2: through that? 445 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:29,440 Speaker 7: Right? 446 00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:31,680 Speaker 2: You don't want to just say hey, you got to 447 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 2: get out. You want to support again. I didn't watch 448 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:35,880 Speaker 2: enough or seen enough to know if you were giving 449 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:38,440 Speaker 2: that advice. But what does a friend do. Were they 450 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:40,680 Speaker 2: telling you to get out or they were sitting there 451 00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:43,440 Speaker 2: holding your hand while you cry. 452 00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 6: No, a lot of my friends were like, you need 453 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:48,119 Speaker 6: to get a lawyer, you need to protect yourself. You 454 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:50,960 Speaker 6: need because he's not a normal person. Like that was like, 455 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:53,919 Speaker 6: you need to protect yourself normal. 456 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:56,960 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sorry. I mean I'm not telling a lot. 457 00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:00,960 Speaker 2: Like what is the data day with you all? Now, 458 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,240 Speaker 2: what's the relationship you have? Of course you got a 459 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:04,480 Speaker 2: co parent, so yeah. 460 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:07,359 Speaker 5: It's back and forth. It's back and forth. 461 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:09,320 Speaker 6: It's we don't talk for a while, we talked for 462 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:10,640 Speaker 6: a little bit, we don't talk for it. 463 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:11,160 Speaker 5: It's a lot. 464 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:12,680 Speaker 1: But how does that go with cruise your son? 465 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:17,760 Speaker 2: You have a great mom. Wait, he says he's a 466 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:19,600 Speaker 2: great dad, but it was a bad husband that was 467 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:20,160 Speaker 2: in the clip. 468 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:21,080 Speaker 1: Is that accurate? 469 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:24,640 Speaker 6: I think that if you're a great dad, you don't 470 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:29,200 Speaker 6: harass and talk horribly to the mother. 471 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:29,520 Speaker 5: Of a child. 472 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 6: So you know, I'm not saying that he is a 473 00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:37,080 Speaker 6: horrible dad, but I'm not saying that he is. I'm 474 00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 6: ninety five percent, he's five percent. Let's just say. 475 00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,160 Speaker 1: That that's an imbalance. 476 00:22:41,480 --> 00:22:46,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's the visitation or that's the custody situation. 477 00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 6: That's just our life, like it's it's every day. 478 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:51,679 Speaker 1: You know. 479 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:55,840 Speaker 6: We're still working on everything through the divorce, so custody 480 00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:57,080 Speaker 6: is not like in order. 481 00:22:56,960 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 5: Yet, so I'm still doing everything. 482 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:06,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, we know how that process can get drawn. 483 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:09,480 Speaker 3: Do you have a timeline about when your divorce will 484 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,359 Speaker 3: be finalized? It's a great day when that does happen, 485 00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:13,439 Speaker 3: when you're going through it. 486 00:23:14,359 --> 00:23:15,960 Speaker 6: I don't have a I don't have a time on 487 00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 6: just yet, but it is moving forward, for sure. It 488 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:22,280 Speaker 6: is moving forward, and I'm like, please come on, like 489 00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:23,080 Speaker 6: I'm ready. 490 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:25,320 Speaker 1: Sorry to say, but from our experience, this will not 491 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:29,199 Speaker 1: be quick. Sorry to have to tell you. 492 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:34,479 Speaker 3: And I know you're obviously getting through that first and 493 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:38,480 Speaker 3: foremost and not doing anything serious in terms of dating. 494 00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:40,840 Speaker 3: But I know at one point on the show you 495 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:44,679 Speaker 3: mentioned that you definitely wanted to have more kids. Is 496 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:47,760 Speaker 3: that factoring into your timeline about how you're living your 497 00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:51,200 Speaker 3: life and how intentional you're being in terms of maybe. 498 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:52,359 Speaker 4: Trying to find that next person. 499 00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:55,639 Speaker 6: I think that I thought that Jackson and I were 500 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 6: aligned on that, like we were. We had said both 501 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:00,639 Speaker 6: of us that we were going to have another child, 502 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,119 Speaker 6: and that was my husband, Like I thought that was 503 00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:06,159 Speaker 6: going to happen, and now we're going through divorce and 504 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:06,880 Speaker 6: everything else. 505 00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,359 Speaker 5: It's like, listen, I. 506 00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:10,919 Speaker 6: Love kids so much. Of course I would love for 507 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:14,480 Speaker 6: Cruise to have a brother or sister, But if that's 508 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:16,840 Speaker 6: not my future anymore, it's not my future anymore. I'm 509 00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:17,959 Speaker 6: not like pressuring that. 510 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:18,359 Speaker 1: I'm not. 511 00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:23,000 Speaker 5: I just want to be happy, you know, and Cruise 512 00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:23,760 Speaker 5: makes me happy. 513 00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,160 Speaker 6: And if I ever find somebody else that like makes 514 00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,440 Speaker 6: me happy, great, if we fall in love and want 515 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 6: to have kids, great, I've got time, a little bit 516 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,440 Speaker 6: of time. You have too much, but a little bit, 517 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:36,280 Speaker 6: so it's not out of the picture. But it's not 518 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:39,399 Speaker 6: something that I'm like, yes, I have to do that 519 00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:40,160 Speaker 6: for my future. 520 00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 4: You know. 521 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:44,639 Speaker 6: I'm very satisfied, and I love my son, so I 522 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 6: feel very lucky that I have him, you know, Yes, 523 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:47,480 Speaker 6: we do. 524 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, And am I the one that has to asked 525 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:52,760 Speaker 2: this question about this whole mess? How about you hooking 526 00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:56,600 Speaker 2: up with somebody in the friend group? Okay, because there's 527 00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:58,760 Speaker 2: a difference of opinion on you two side, whether or 528 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:02,480 Speaker 2: not you all said that was against the rules or not. 529 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,760 Speaker 2: So have you all settled this. So was it against 530 00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,760 Speaker 2: the rules for you to hook up with someone who 531 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:10,760 Speaker 2: was a friend of his, essentially in your friend group? 532 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,440 Speaker 6: Okay, So I will tell you that he still brings 533 00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 6: him up to me almost every single day, like he 534 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:17,600 Speaker 6: can knock it over it. 535 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:19,000 Speaker 5: I have not talked to that. 536 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:24,439 Speaker 6: Man for months and months and months, but no, like, no, 537 00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:27,480 Speaker 6: what our rules were, and I said this on the 538 00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:29,680 Speaker 6: show and on the podcast was. 539 00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:35,320 Speaker 5: Don't bring girls into our marital home and don't have 540 00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:36,399 Speaker 5: anybody around cruise. 541 00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:39,280 Speaker 4: Okay, And how has he done with those rules? 542 00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:42,440 Speaker 6: Uh? Well, as far as I know, nobody's been around 543 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,800 Speaker 6: my son. Okay, but I found many women in my house. 544 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 5: Before I took it over. 545 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:47,920 Speaker 4: I mentioned the thong. 546 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 6: Yeah, the song, the song, and I get dms all 547 00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:54,239 Speaker 6: the time, so it's just like, oh, I have to 548 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,360 Speaker 6: read it. I had somebody sent me a screenshot of 549 00:25:57,440 --> 00:26:00,480 Speaker 6: them in my bed with my photo behind them. 550 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:05,760 Speaker 5: Yeah, yes, yes, because they don't they don't pay, They. 551 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:08,080 Speaker 6: Just want like I don't know what they wanted, but 552 00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 6: I don't know what they attention. Yeah or wow, but 553 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 6: senier to me and like how heartbreaking for me? 554 00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:14,479 Speaker 2: That was? 555 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:15,439 Speaker 5: Like it was awful. 556 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,280 Speaker 2: Wait to rub it in or say I'm sorry, I 557 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:20,520 Speaker 2: had no idea. I mean, it was or to It's. 558 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:21,720 Speaker 5: Been a lot of different things. 559 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,800 Speaker 6: It's been oh he he loved bombs and then throws 560 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,360 Speaker 6: them away, and then they come to me and I'm like. 561 00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 5: Am I supposed to be a therapist now? 562 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:30,359 Speaker 1: Like what the hell? 563 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 4: What the hell they I'm going to do? 564 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:35,480 Speaker 3: I hate to say his castaways, but that's kind of 565 00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 3: what you're saying, coming to you, like to seek solace 566 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,280 Speaker 3: or to like say I understand. 567 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 6: I mean yeah, yeah, I mean they're being like I 568 00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:44,920 Speaker 6: don't know what else to do. 569 00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:47,600 Speaker 5: He you know, it's just it's just crazy. 570 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 4: Well yeah, all right. 571 00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,440 Speaker 3: I want to ask you this, after everything you've been through, 572 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:55,720 Speaker 3: do you still believe in love and would you like 573 00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:57,000 Speaker 3: to get married again someday? 574 00:26:57,359 --> 00:26:58,520 Speaker 5: I always believe in love. 575 00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:02,160 Speaker 6: I think that, like, you know, I was the girl 576 00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:03,920 Speaker 6: that was like, oh I'm going to get married in 577 00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:05,239 Speaker 6: the castle and this and that. 578 00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:09,520 Speaker 5: You know that was like, how yes, I love all 579 00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 5: of that. Do I think I will ever get married again? 580 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:15,560 Speaker 5: I don't know. I would. 581 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:24,600 Speaker 6: I would have, you know, all the things set up before. Yes, yeah, 582 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:28,919 Speaker 6: I mean I just like after going through this divorce 583 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:30,520 Speaker 6: with Jackson, it's like, my goodness. 584 00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:34,200 Speaker 5: So you know, I hate that because I never wanted that. Before. 585 00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,639 Speaker 6: I was like, no, you don't need a prenup. You're 586 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:38,679 Speaker 6: in love, you don't need any of that. And now 587 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,159 Speaker 6: I'm like, hell, yeah, you need that, Like are you 588 00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:45,200 Speaker 6: kidding me? Like this is like crazy, Like you need 589 00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:48,120 Speaker 6: to protect yourself because if they get mad, they come 590 00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,480 Speaker 6: after everything, and it's ridiculous. 591 00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 5: But I never felt that way before. 592 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,440 Speaker 6: But I still believe in love and I still want 593 00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,639 Speaker 6: to be in love, and I'm a relationship person like 594 00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 6: I'm not. But yeah, you know, I would rather be 595 00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 6: in a relationship than be like single and lonely and 596 00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:06,640 Speaker 6: doing you know this and that. 597 00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:09,760 Speaker 1: So we're going to go party tonight. We're going to 598 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:11,040 Speaker 1: introduce you to some people tonight. 599 00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:13,480 Speaker 2: Please no, I don't want that. 600 00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 1: Of course. 601 00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:24,000 Speaker 2: You can see Brittany all the crew on the new 602 00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 2: season of The Valley April fifteenth on Bravo. We want 603 00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:28,720 Speaker 2: you to know if you're navigating the next chapter of 604 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 2: your life or divorce, need some guidance when it comes 605 00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,120 Speaker 2: to day think again. We are here to help as 606 00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,879 Speaker 2: much as we can. You can call email us, follow 607 00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:37,560 Speaker 2: us on our socials. All the information will be on 608 00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 2: the show notes. Make sure to rate and review the podcast. 609 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 2: It's I Do Part two. iHeart Radio podcast. We're falling 610 00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:44,960 Speaker 2: in love. It's the main objective. 611 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:48,160 Speaker 1: Let me say thank you. You didn't plan thank. 612 00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:52,000 Speaker 4: You, thanks, thank you. 613 00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:52,440 Speaker 3: Brittany. 614 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:56,000 Speaker 2: Do you look we need a lot of people and 615 00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:57,680 Speaker 2: when they walk out, we look at each other and go, 616 00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 2: what I expect? You are just a treat And you 617 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 2: know the energy from Kentucky, we feel it and we absolutely. 618 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:08,200 Speaker 4: We might even root for Kentucky. 619 00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,640 Speaker 5: Yes as cats cats yet. 620 00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:15,440 Speaker 3: Because Arkansas and Georgia, we're really on the low end 621 00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,280 Speaker 3: of things right now going into all of our teams. 622 00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:22,520 Speaker 1: Made into the Yeah. But Brenda, it is an absolute 623 00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 5: Thank you so much